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Tuesday, 27 January 2015

Dear LIB readers: My husband cheated just two days after our wedding

From a female LIB reader
I got married on December 18th and I found out just yesterday that my husband had sex with another woman on December 20th. We didn't go for our honeymoon until the 22nd and I can't believe he was telling me he loved me and laying with me when he cheated just two days after our wedding. Just two days! He couldn't even give me two months, two days. How do I deal with this? I've moved out of our room and now staying at a spare room. I spoke to my mum about it and she said I should forgive him. Is this what I am going to face forever?

522 Comments:

  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:13 , Blogger MISS SPARXZ said...

    Jeez mehn! Really?

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:13 , Blogger John Alajemba said...

    My sister pack ur load and leave thspe cheating bastard he is a goat

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:15 , Blogger Don Meritson Mba said...

    omg! just 2 days!! some m,en though...please forgive him..


    #Godblessnigeria

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:15 , Blogger carlos iyke said...

    Forgive him. Tell him to stop such acts.
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    @Carlos via Nokia Lumia

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:16 , Anonymous AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

    Bia leave him and move on.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:16 , Blogger lucky chukz said...

    Did you guys really know each other before the marriage? Please think deep

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:16 , Anonymous AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

    Bia leave him and move on.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:16 , Blogger MISS SPARXZ said...

    Jeez mehn! Really? Smh. Sorry sista! He obviously wasn't ready to leave the single life behind yet. I dunno but 2 days after d wedding is damn too early to be cheating. Maybe this fish should be thrown back into the pond to keep swimming while you cast ur net and keep fishing.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:16 , Blogger MISS SPARXZ said...

    Jeez mehn! Really? Smh. Sorry sista! He obviously wasn't ready to leave the single life behind yet. I dunno but 2 days after d wedding is damn too early to be cheating. Maybe this fish should be thrown back into the pond to keep swimming while you cast ur net and keep fishing.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:17 , Blogger Ochendo Onochie said...

    U just have to forgive him, that's fact and try get close to him.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:17 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Sorry, you married a bad man!

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:17 , Blogger Amerie's blog said...

    Must men always cheat?. Smh..i think you should listen to your mum..
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  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:17 , Blogger Nnenne George said...

    Sorry...men are all cheaters. Give them gold, they'll still cheat with bronze..

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:17 , Anonymous holanray said...

    pele,you just have to forgive him.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:17 , Blogger Nanya muva said...

    Yes dear

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:18 , Blogger onj said...

    U ve to forgive if he's sorry for his act. But common 2days after ur weeding, it's heartbroken.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:18 , Anonymous Tbam said...

    Ehyah! This is so sad! Forgive him for this one

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:18 , Blogger Neks Neks said...

    Forgive him and give him another chance, is too early to sleep in separate rooms.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:18 , Anonymous xtr112 said...

    Orishirishi!..you've said it all.You are in for a bumpy ride

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:20 , Blogger glowy shoe said...

    I think uou shuld talk to him and give h another chance

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  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:20 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    he fucked that bitch

    he married you

    get a clue and stop acting like a baby, its what men do

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:20 , Blogger oghenejabor obi said...

    Whether its two days or two months, cheating is cheating. Moving out of d room won't help anything

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:21 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Kai!! Ds one hard oo, just pray to Ur God to tell u wah to do dazall!!


    Missvee

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:21 , Blogger white Berry said...

    My dear you shouldn't have tell your mum about it, that is while you now a married woman, face your problem and deal with it. Oh no did i forget to say almost all men are dogs #Eyesrolling#

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:22 , Blogger Roy Jaymorgan said...

    So sorry my dear your mom is right u just have to forgive him please never let go baby just let th sleeping dog lie low

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:22 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    forgive and learn the hard truth....all men cheats just pray they dont bring in diseases for you.... let go and face your career and mothering. God help you

    Omoodu inc

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:22 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Lol some men even sleep with another woman on their wedding day. 2 months or 1 year changes nothing, you would still feel the same way. I guess that's your husband, he is a dog and probably married you because you are just good enough as wife material and mother figure.pele

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:23 , Blogger Kayode Aboyewa said...

    Hmmmm, that is some really deep dysfunctional individual right there. However from your write up, it seems you actually expected him to cheat at some point in the marriage "He couldn't even give me two months".
    I want to believe you two underwent some form of counselling course before the wedding. That is where you need to go back to. You two need to go for a new set of counselling..

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:23 , Blogger @MEETDREALEVANS said...

    "Is DAT what am gonna face forever" ask kabi esi

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:23 , Blogger Nneji Kaycee said...

    speechless

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:23 , Blogger Olumide David said...

    Its too early to get your mom involved....not condoning ur hubby on his act but you shouldnt involve your parent in issue like that, at least not yet! On ur hubby, hes been cheating on u from day one...on his bach eve(if he had one)he could have slept with another as well. Deal with this issue as fast as possible.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:23 , Blogger Obinna Edih said...

    My dear, once a cheater is always gonna be 1. Until he finds enof reason 2 stop! I guess dt will be wen he's old and hav no libido! Lol! But u hav 2 4giv him but dnt 4get it jst yet. 2 tell u the truth he's gonna do it again and again! So u hav 2 brace ur self. Pray more, fast more and make sure u alwys look stunning and beautiful 4 him, giv him children and I bet u he'll hav a cause 2 change.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:23 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    dear linda,how does this affect the price of ponmo or fish in the market?...please dont move back your room o..move to the gate man's room instead....are you a learner?

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:23 , Blogger olivegrey said...

    Gal, u are in for a deep shit. He has been cheating on you from the very first day you started a relationship with him; either u are too blind to see it or he's a very smart guy. I pity u cos it takes the grace of God for a man to stop cheating. I won't advise u to leave him cos the probability that the next guy u met might be worse or same as him so u are back to square one. But if u really love him u might want to start fasting and praying for him. One question though: how did u know he cheated on u two days after ur wedding? Did he tell you or u found out? If it's the former than he might be a good man and that might be the last time he will ever cheat on u.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:24 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Yes I think you should forgive him. No one is above temptation, even Jesus was tempted.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:24 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    sweetheart the signs were there before you married him, dont come and play innocent here now. Biko move back to your matrimonial room, and start thinking of ways to keep him hooked on you alone. Above all pray without ceasing.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:25 , Blogger Chiegwe David said...

    Unfortunately, yes... The sort of people who give bad name to good men...

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:25 , Blogger Bibian Obunse said...

    Now that is really heart breaking..well, u still have to forgive him and keep praying for him to change

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:25 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    ALL MEN ARE NOT LIKE DIS O

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:25 , Anonymous Emporio said...

    I smell the begining of heavey wahala, good luck.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:26 , Blogger Wisdom Aku said...

    Oh my dear so sorry abt ir but u re not ganna face it forever cos dat is not ur potion. I will advice you to forgive him, maybe he was trying to settle his ex for d last time b4 u caught him so pls forgive him nd enjoy d benefits in ur marriage. Jst behav as if notin happened by 4getting abt it nd keep praying for him.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:26 , Blogger Nicholas Pius said...

    Some men dey F--- up sha, b4 u even talk of forgiveness, has he come to apologies ? Cos he might not even be sorry and might do it again and again

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:26 , Blogger SWILL MARTIN said...

    Ur mama is right shuga,4give and forget****in 2face's voice.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:26 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    STORY FOR THE GODS...

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:26 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    This is very heart breaking...it baffles me each time I think about the reason men cheat on their wives and yet claim they love them. my dear...that is marriage for you...some ppl have seen worse things. My advice will be just ask God to give you the grace to forgive him...you'll need a dose of God's grace. Remember that in as much as marriage is sweet, it comes with its challenges and you must be strong n willing to face them. Let ur husband give his life to Christ...and do the same if ur not in Christ. The Holy Spirit is a friend ul need in ur marriage...becos being born again is not a guarantee that a man would be faithful to you but the presence of the Holy spirit in the life of a man keeps him in check. I wish you the best dear.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:26 , Blogger success me said...

    My dear you move out of your matrimonial room To spare? Well that's worst you Dont suppose to do that,his wrong fine but dont move out from there cause that place belongs to you as a wife. call him and talk to him about it cause my dear he may get offended and said you we not return there again.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:26 , Blogger godgives said...

    Yes sweetheart. Unfortunately, ur hubby is a chronic skirt chaser. Imagine just two days after ur wedding!.Prepare ur mind for d worst while u commit ur marriage into d hands of God. Gud luck.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:26 , Blogger AQO said...

    Whhhhaaaaaaaaaaaattttt???!!! Your husband no try at all.









    Jesus is Lord.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:27 , Blogger Juliet Iwuno said...

    My sister, sorry abt d hurting dat you are feeling now. Its too early to end d marriage, just as your mom said, let dis one go. Men are d same (cheaters) you can't take it away from dem. Linda take note!

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:27 , Blogger SWILL MARTIN said...

    4give nd 4get***in 2face's voice ur mama iszz right shuga.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:27 , Blogger Juliet Iwuno said...

    My sister, sorry abt d hurting dat you are feeling now. Its too early to end d marriage, just as your mom said, let dis one go. Men are d same (cheaters) you can't take it away from dem. Linda take note!

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:27 , Blogger Juliet Iwuno said...

    My sister, sorry abt d hurting dat you are feeling now. Its too early to end d marriage, just as your mom said, let dis one go. Men are d same (cheaters) you can't take it away from dem. Linda take note!

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:27 , Blogger Juliet Iwuno said...

    My sister, sorry abt d hurting dat you are feeling now. Its too early to end d marriage, just as your mom said, let dis one go. Men are d same (cheaters) you can't take it away from dem. Linda take note!

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:27 , Anonymous jessy said...

    My dear its has happened already,what can you do? You can't back out now,jst forgive him and move on. But let him no you are aware of what he did.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:27 , Blogger Femi Adedayo said...

    Shame on him that he would do that to you.

    That said, you do not start your marriage by going to report your husband to your family. When it's said and done, you may forgive him and forget but you family may never will.

    Talk you issues over and commit it to God. I believe it's a matter that can be resolved.

    God bless.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:28 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Pray hard and believe God for a miracle concerning ur husband. It is well...men are naturally weak when ut comes to women.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:28 , Anonymous Emporio said...

    Take Ben Johnson, you just entered one chance.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:28 , Blogger Shirley Shalokpe said...

    Wow

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:29 , Blogger SWILL MARTIN said...

    Forgive and forgeeeeet*****in 2face's voice,ur mama is right shuga

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:29 , Blogger vickie Rome said...

    Is nt going 2 be forever, prayer changes everything

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:29 , Blogger adeoye adesola said...

    Nawa ooo,men can b so funny @ times. U just ave 2 4give him and let things go d normal way,if not u Continue hurting urself unnecessary.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:29 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Dats some men for u! I hv even had d experience of a man on his wedding day during d after party telling me dat he still loves me! Wat crap? Its ur home dnt let an undeserving intruder brk it. For all u know the other hoe is jst waiting patiently for u to leave so she can come in. He choose u to be his wife amongst others....so kill their hopes by loving him the more.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:30 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Linda please contact me I have important info for you. I have tried emailing several times nanashoes@yahoo.com

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:30 , Blogger russel udochukwu said...

    How did you know he cheated on you or you heard it from someone else nevertheless, its unfair your marriage is still fresh you have to move on and caution him

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:30 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    To err is human but to forgive is divine. Don't allow the devil to destroy the home u are just starting to build together. Call your husband and remind him about the marital vows, pray together and free ur mind from evil tots. Move back to ur home and listen to whatever ur mum tells u cos she wants d best for u. It is well #nickie

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:30 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Yep. He will keep cheating on you.

    And you probably knew he was cheating before you married him.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:30 , Blogger Jude Harrison said...

    Its a sign your husband does not love you. I told my ex who is pushing for me to marry her that I don't love her, because really I don't. I told her if I'm forced to marry her, I will cheat on her. Its either that or your husband is a dog and can't keep his willy down or he is childish like a friend I have who has been brainwashed to understand that being married doesn't stop him from having extramarital affairs and so he wants to start on the very first day.

    Well marriage is for life, you made your choice so stick with it, two wrongs cannot make a right, so don't even think about carrying out a revenge, it will just make you look silly.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:30 , Blogger Rosalyn Alepa said...

    my dear marriage comes with alot of issues and d worst is yet to come. you will be faced with many challenges that will test your faith but u have to be strong. No marriage is perfect cos those who smile, hug or kiss outside has d worst problems indoors. take your mum's advice and forgive him. you have every right to be angry but everyone deserve a second Chance. show him how hurt u are, accept his apology and reconcile.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:30 , Blogger Nkiruka Chime said...

    I've come to realise that cheating is a normal thing now. .God is ur strength!!

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:31 , Blogger jonathan jostico said...

    if dem leave you wati you go fit do?? Follow your mama word forgive am

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:31 , Blogger Ijay Ibeawuchi said...

    Lol.... Sorry oh and welcome to marriage...

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:31 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Ha! 2 days is too early nw! Men Na wa ooo

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:31 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Yes this is what u will go tru forever. Bliv it or not

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:31 , Blogger Redote Abah said...

    You have to be patient

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:32 , Blogger Mz_Fowoshere said...

    Ur man has ojukokoro, he be original ole, thief. #happytuesday

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:32 , Blogger celine nkechi said...

    My dear game on. Welcome to men's world,

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:33 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    He dat eats with the devil uses long spoon.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:33 , Blogger mark dickson said...

    It's difficult but u jus have to forgive him jus as your mum said

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:33 , Blogger williams robort said...

    Anuty him even try 48 hours, if Na ur wedding night nko? Go back to ur room jor

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:34 , Blogger Gbolahan Akinbode said...

    Just take heart and try to forgive him and forget d past but let him know isn't good to cheat

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:34 , Blogger beautiful said...

    Awww!poor girl!I wish I know wat to tell her

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:35 , Anonymous Nekky said...

    Wow!!! To say I'm speechless is putting it mildly!! Dear jut find a place in your heart and forgive him for your sanity. God is your strength.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:35 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    No be only you waka come my dear. I know a groom that slept with his wife's bridesmaid at the back of a car after the wedding reception.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:35 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Girl!! Men cheat even on their wedding day. Try and talk things over with him, if he loves and respects u, he'll tell u why he did it and he'll promise not to do it again (which of course is a lie) but you'll just have to forgive him and try to have a happy marriage.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:35 , Blogger ukbliss said...

    My dear, I'm so sorry about dis, it's heart breaking I can't even imagine such a thing happening to me but I also know a guy who slept with another woman on his wedding night, just do Wat ur mind tells you bc ur the one spending d rest of ur life with him not me.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:35 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    It is shameful and sad. I think the realisation is not that he cheated 2 days in but the fact that you know he'd been cheating even before you got married.

    You should forgive him, no doubt. But the important question is 'do you still want to continue in the relationship'? That's a toxic relationship that will always hurt. The memory of him cheating just 2 days in will haunt you. Moreso you'd always believe he's cheating even when he isn't.

    Can you live with all the hurt and pain of he comtinues? Can you truly forgive and forget it? Reflect deeply before making any decisions and pray earnestly.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:36 , Blogger salifu ebiojo said...

    All ye Wedding counselors, the floor is urs

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:36 , Blogger Benjamin Adeniyi said...

    You better move back into the room.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:36 , Blogger reuben john said...

    you jes need to calm down ok

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:37 , Blogger Ambition Sammyyong said...

    Nothing is forever,but marriage is forever,the wedding ring has no end that is why is round,so ur luv for him will not end, cheer up

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:37 , Anonymous didi said...

    My dear,i really dont know wat to tell u,just follow ur mum's advice and be prayerful.God is in control.pls 4give him i beg u

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:37 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    ...unfortunately...men who cheat, rarely ever stop. You've got some serious soul searching to do, young lady. If you forgive him, like your mum says, get ready to endure it again and again for the rest of both your lives.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:37 , Blogger reuben john said...

    you jes need to take tins with ease dear

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:37 , Blogger Ifeanyi Okereke said...

    Kinda surprised u found out after ur wedding. He must av bin doin it while u guys were stil courting. U shld heed to ur mum's advice anyway

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:37 , Blogger BONARIO NNAGS said...

    Phew! Its very difficult, but I pray you find a place in your heart to forgive him if he shows sincere remorse. He must earn it and show he won't try it again.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:37 , Blogger Nekis Iwejua said...

    So sorry dear, but u made a mistake getting married to him. Be honest to urself, I bet u noticed signs of him being a dog before the wedding day. Unfortunately, lots of men cheat on their wives. I think the only thing u can do now is to push him closer to God, cause only the fear of God can reduce his frequency of adultery or completely end it. Don't threaten or leave the marriage yet. Try not to have kids yet because once the children come, u have to endure and remain for their sake, but leave if he starts abusing u (physically in particular)

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:37 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Welcome to reality my dear..... your mum is very right my dear u have to please forgive him.... you have to bear in mind that men are natural cheat so don't be too surprised my dear. It only takes divine Grace of God for a man not to cheat on his wife let alone 2days after wedding it's just too early but also don't forget ur wedding vows "for better for worse, tru thick and thin" so this is one of the rough time am you need to show hime love and care so u don't end up making matters worse for urslf....... meanwhile be prayerful and God that answereth prayers will see you tru and make peace reign in the house *hug*

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:38 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    It is shameful and sad. I think the realisation is not that he cheated 2 days in but the fact that you know he'd been cheating even before you got married.

    You should forgive him, no doubt. But the important question is 'do you still want to continue in the relationship'? That's a toxic relationship that will always hurt. The memory of him cheating just 2 days in will haunt you. Moreso you'd always believe he's cheating even when he isn't.

    Can you live with all the hurt and pain of he comtinues? Can you truly forgive and forget it? Reflect deeply before making any decisions and pray earnestly.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:38 , Blogger Aleem Abolanle said...

    Haha. Yeye e gidigan oooo. God be with you dear

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:39 , Anonymous leendah said...

    All this marriage wahala dey fear me gan! Don't know why men are serial cheats,God pls choose d right man for me

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:39 , Blogger horlagythey said...

    I fink women shudnt b border any abt men cheatin it in d blood 98% of men cheat even if nt caught women shud jux mk sure they get wat eva they deserve from men once he's able to meet ur needs forget his act of adultery and mk sure he's protect while doing it e go tire wit time.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:39 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Really unfortunate, but trust me moving out of the room is not the best solution, that would only give room for more temptation and not before long, he would be receiving calls u could have checkmated if you were in the same room with him. You are both in this together. 2ndly deceit from telling everything that happens to ur parents. It wld only bring about hates. Trust me, it does not help matters, you guys need to seat down together and talk about it. That's the only way u can heal the wound. But seriously, you can't tell me you never saw all this traits while dating, can you?

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:39 , Blogger Benjamin Adeniyi said...

    He must have been doing this before you got married and the best thing is to move back i can understand that it is too early but moving out of the room wouldnt solve issue. so move back

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:39 , Blogger Shina Shine said...

    Yes, mum is right
    Forgive him & move on
    What past is past



    #Commenting thru Glo 4G LTE

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:41 , Anonymous A Jay said...

    Pele. It is well. Marriage isn't a bed of roses. Just keep praying :)

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:41 , Blogger tony praiz said...

    And d issues goes on and on

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:41 , Blogger BasicPulse said...

    From the tone of your writing, it seems you expected it to happen just not as soon it did. As with millions of marriages where women tolerate d vice of infidelity, you can join the wargon and expect men (true gentlemen who respect you) to be men (boys who have no self control over their desires). Or, you can accord yourself the self-respect you deserve.

    basicpulse.blogspot.com

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:41 , Blogger amarachi chukuw said...

    Oh dear!!!..... I guess Datz wot u gon face if he doesn't change. If u can pray u better start cos Datz d key. Go in2d spiritual n break every yoke, every bondage... I believe wit dat, u won't face dat forever.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:41 , Blogger Ella Ezomo said...

    Hmmm.... quite tough. our mothers are the major reasons women stay in painful marriages till their death. We'll, I think u should see a consellor. Linda Pls any update about the Malaysian based that supposedly killed his wife?

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:42 , Anonymous bolatito oiza said...

    Dear,u just have to forgive and forget for u to live healthy.not all men are like that though.mau God heal and strengthen u.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:42 , Blogger chocolate said...

    Forgive him and pray for him to change,kai but men ehn it is well oh my sis

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:43 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Really unfortunate, but trust me moving out of the room is not the best solution, that would only give room for more temptation and not before long, he would be receiving calls u could have checkmated if you were in the same room with him. You are both in this together. 2ndly deceit from telling everything that happens to ur parents. It wld only bring about hates. Trust me, it does not help matters, you guys need to seat down together and talk about it. That's the only way u can heal the wound. But seriously, you can't tell me you never saw all this traits while dating, can you?

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:43 , Blogger Timothy Onuorah said...

    That's one of the very needful reasons both parties have to close every door of the past relationships, but how do we achieve that when we dive into marriages cos of the bliss in the wedding. Forgiveness is the only positive option anyone will suggest, but I'll suggest you allow the woman in you to arrange a meeting with the man in him i.e if you guys really had a great connection before the marriage, and talk about this issue,
    1. Try to know who this woman is to him (ex,side chick,(ons)one night stand etc
    2. Majority of us are promiscuous in nature and need discipline to deal with it but try to ask if he has issues with sexual life...
    3. You have a matrimonial bed in your official room as a legitimate wife, get back to your room! You are not designed for the spare room girl! Those stuffs happen in the movies and your hubby is not and will not be Ramsey Noah or Emeka Ike!
    4. Make sure God hears first before anybody and that includes momsy! Get back to your marriage and rock it, it's fun, my marriage changed my life timpaul@kp-branding.com

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:43 , Blogger ary said...

    Have you talked to him about it?

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:43 , Anonymous dorliipyyy said...

    Imagine, that just too early in a relationship, if he has no good explanation why he did it, am sorry babe get ready for more heartbreaks. You don't cheat on the one you love

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:44 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Go and sleep jor, you must have seen the signs before you married him yet you went ahead with the wedding. Now u talking trash, next storry abeg.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:44 , Blogger reuben john said...

    Linda I offend you.....don't know y m always unable to comment @ older posts

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:44 , Blogger Uchechi Irokwe said...

    Please dear, get past that already! Men cheat on thier wife's on wedding night so your own is no biggie.. move back to the room u share with him, show him all the love there is to be shown & respect him.. enjoy ur marriage cos u are there for life..

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:44 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Yes!

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:45 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Take ur mum advice plsss, some pipo experiences r warst

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:45 , Blogger Chinny Nn. said...

    It's difficult but u need to talk with him, pray about it n God will give you the grace to forgive him.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:46 , Blogger Ezeh Ebere said...

    My dear forgive him,forgiveness is what roles marriage.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:46 , Anonymous badasschick said...

    It appears so dear...
    But you are lucky sef...I didn't still cheat on your wedding day... At least he left that for you. My dear that's what you are going to deal with so get prepared.
    I will advice you not to snoop regularly cos I can assure you that would make high blood pressure yours...but if you snoop rather than confrontation ask him blind ended questions about his infidelity to at list see the way he lies meanwhile you are gathering info and planning how to stay and battle STDs prevention or how to leave the union on the grounds of infidelity and start afresh.... So sorry
    This is why it's not good to rush marriages at least the man will eff up along the way and you can decide to stick with him and his cheating behind or run out of the situationship
    Wish you all the luck you need in this union dear

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:47 , Blogger poshrose said...

    OVOKO!!!!! Yes my dear, this is it. Trust mi it didn't just start 2days afta ur wedding. It's been going on. Just focus on been a good wife n look d other way before HBP sets in. U dn marry be say u dn marry!

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:47 , Blogger Eugenia Ekeji said...

    My dear that na men 4 u. U can never change what has been planted in them. 98% of married men cheat. Deal with it, forgive him and keeping praying 4 him. Learn to endure what ever u see in ur marriage. It is well.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:47 , Blogger poshrose said...

    OVOKO!!!!! Yes my dear, this is it. Trust mi it didn't just start 2days afta ur wedding. It's been going on. Just focus on been a good wife n look d other way before HBP sets in. U dn marry be say u dn marry!

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:47 , Blogger Chikaodili Ndife said...

    This is really disheartening but breaking up with him now might be a good option or it might not be. Go for proper counseling to hear a professional's advice. Take heart

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:47 , Blogger Chikaodili Ndife said...

    This is really disheartening but breaking up with him now might be a good option or it might not be. Go for proper counseling to hear a professional's advice. Take heart

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:47 , Blogger Chikaodili Ndife said...

    This is really disheartening but breaking up with him now might be a good option or it might not be. Go for proper counseling to hear a professional's advice. Take heart

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:48 , Anonymous Lekan.A said...

    You should disown your mom for the advise.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:48 , Blogger favour chinenye said...

    My dear the truth is that he did not start 2days after ur wedding he has always been like that even while u two were courting and its either u were to blind maybe by love or marriage plans to see it or u knew and have always found an way to forgive him so I advice u do d same now forgive him and find a way to live with it while u pray for him to change his ways

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:48 , Blogger KayMaths said...

    ...forgive him & always pray for him.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:48 , Blogger gidis said...

    Nah baby...u aint gonna face dat 4evr thou he shudnt v done dat bt I want yu 2 blv him wen he says he luvs coz I kne he does plus pls 4gv him n enjoi ur marriage....GBU

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:49 , Blogger Tonia Agbovu said...

    Ma dear FORGIVENESS is the ultimate in MARRIAGE... Yeah!! I knw it's not easy but u ve to try n forgive him...since u guys are 1... what if u re d one dat offend him and e refuse to forgive u how will u feel? So sweetheart NOT ONLY FORGIVE HIM BUT FORGET IT AND ENJOY UR YOUNG MARRIAGE TO THE FULLEST

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:49 , Blogger GALORE said...

    My dear....Hmmm..

    Marriage no easy.....most Men cheat.. ..what a pity....talk to him, let him know u are hurting

    Men Shaa



    @Galore

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:49 , Blogger Bonita Bislam said...

    Hmmm men! #speechless

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:50 , Blogger precious presh said...

    Now dats terrible

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:50 , Blogger nnaemeka okpaleke said...

    Deal with it or better still die with it*ur husband likes vegetable salad * maybe ur sex life is zero* so work on dat

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:51 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    swtie ,dats d reality of marriage...u gotta condone a lot of rubbish to make it work. take ur mum's advice cos she is experienced ***hugs & kisses***

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:51 , Blogger danizconcept said...

    The truth is, nothing anyone will tell you here would work for you.

    You need to understand the circumstance of the scenario and gently take your decision.

    If you gonna go back to him or leave him, do it carefully and prayerfully.

    Sorry darling, I know it hurts.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:51 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    So sorry to hear about this, I have been in your situation. My husband cheated 2 weeks after out wedding. I understand your pain. I now have been married to my husband for 7 years and the cheating has continued (on and off) .
    Have this at the back if your kind, that once a cheat, always a cheat.
    But my advice to you is if you can and you still live him, forgive him but remember that he will apologise now and swear never to do it again but keep your mind open if you find out he did it again and again. But stay with him a find find your happiness, marriage give your every other thing but happiness. As a woman, your happiness must come from you. If your happiness is dependent on your husband 's actions, hmmm, life go hard you o.
    The question is if you leave him, what is d guarantee that the next man won't cheat?
    I found my escape route to the pain I felt for years as a result of my husband 's cheating but that's my secret, find yours, find your Happiness.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:52 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Yes dear is what u ll face 4ever, bt dnt divorce keep praying 4 him Nt to get disease or Nt to choose oda whore ova u

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:52 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I am sorry to say this but the truth is that, your marriage 'ended' even before it started. Somethings never change. Why make a vow before God when you know you cant keep to it? Makes me wonder.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:52 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Yes dear is what u ll face 4ever, bt dnt divorce keep praying 4 him Nt to get disease or Nt to choose oda whore ova u

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:52 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Better leave that marriage! What if he flirts and gives you HIV/STDs??? Innocent you would have to suffer for your cheating husbands sins. DIVORCE!!!!!

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:53 , Blogger ehis omo said...

    Which eye u say mk ur mama tk de luk ur hubby now? U didn't do well by packing outta ur room all u need do is hv an effective communicatn wt ur man find out y it happened (mayb u aint doing it right..lol) and find a way 2 avoid futre occurance ! Solutn shuld b by both of u

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:53 , Blogger Ayeesha Adam said...

    just obey ur mum's words & 4giv him, i think it ll b better!

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:54 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Wow ur husband is extremely shameless. I know one guy who had started cheating just months after his marriage too. It's unfortunate that these men don't know the seriousness and sacredness of marriage before they jump into it.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:55 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Brace yourself! That's just the beginning. He obviously hasn't come to terms with what marriage is all about and only God knows if he ever will.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:55 , Blogger maryann ifeoma said...

    My dear thatz what u will face for life get used it! I might join the married train very soon n I v made up my mind not to xpect much!

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:55 , Blogger ROYAL PRIESTHOOD said...

    Lolzzzzzzz...
    U sound so funny.

    Urs is 2days, I knw of a case dat was a day b4 their wedding and stil continued thereafter.

    Shits happen in life... No wonder d vow "for better and worse" til death do u...

    Take heart for dat is wht u signed for.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:55 , Blogger Aya Williams said...

    Try to forgive him as ur mum adviced and pretend as if nothing happened,moreover how did u find out he cheated on u?

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:56 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Leave him now, u people self get wahala, men re dogs when will women accept that fact, beta go bk to ur matrimonial room and stop deceiving ur self, coz u and I know u won't leave d marriage,or how do u think our mothers stayed married uptil date? Patience and tolerance my dear that's what u need to survive in a marriage, men will always be dogs

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:56 , Blogger D J STELCH said...

    If You Can't Forgive And Save Your Marriage, You Can As Well Join INI EDO and Co..
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    .Disclaimer:: Raise Your Words, Not Your Voice. It Is Rain That Grows Flowers, Not Thunder..

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:56 , Blogger Oyinkansola Olusola said...

    Choi! Nawa o, wetin person no go see or hear dis days sef huh?

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:56 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    My dear,

    You have to forgive him, your mum is right. I had similar experience though quite different, My wife wife had a parting shot with her first love on the eve of our wedding, i found out just a week after our wedding, we are 9 years old in marriage with 3 kids ALL DNA CONFIRMED with her suggestion. The devil never like a union.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:57 , Blogger ROYAL PRIESTHOOD said...

    Lolzzzzzzz...
    U sound so funny.

    Urs is 2days, I knw of a case dat was a day b4 their wedding and stil continued thereafter.

    Shits happen in life... No wonder d vow "for better and worse" til death do u...

    Take heart for dat is wht u signed for.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:57 , Blogger Tiger H said...

    Men, that man must be a DOG

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:57 , Blogger sajuwa seyi said...

    You have to forgve him but make sure he wnt mk u go thru hell cos such a man can do worst things. 2dys is too short then if he has d opportunity he wud cheat on ur wedding day

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:57 , Blogger Nkemdilim Christabel said...

    why Did u tel ur mum? so u cant handle ur issues urself abi??in as much as i hate a cheatin man it didnt annoy me ur hubby cheated as much as u told ur mum,na wa o,hw old ar u?20yrs??,all dese children gettin married sef,please try and b private on ur marital issues,dats d only advice i have 4 u

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:57 , Blogger princess ikpeaba said...

    forgive him and move back to the room with him

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:57 , Blogger Tiger H said...

    Men, that nigga must be a DOG

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:57 , Blogger sajuwa seyi said...

    You have to forgve him but make sure he wnt mk u go thru hell cos such a man can do worst things. 2dys is too short then if he has d opportunity he wud cheat on ur wedding day

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:57 , Blogger Dim jennifer said...

    Cheating is no more a problem in a relationship just try and go for test after meeting wit him in case u contact make dem start quick medication on u,also pray for him.All dis men are dogs
    NO TANK U,I D RATHER B SELFMADE

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:59 , Blogger Generall said...

    Forgive him and enjoy your marriage cos moving out of your room can not solve the issue rather it'll worsen the situation.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:59 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Please dont give him chance return back to the room and try to forgive him as your mum has advised.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:59 , Blogger Omoye Zenki Moye Brown said...

    Some men sha........Jst two days.....Well whats done is done...Marriage is for better for worst......U will have to forgive him...





    Moye says so via BB Passport...Courtesy LIB....

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 07:59 , Blogger Kodjo's Mum said...

    wow....speechless.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:00 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    God have mercy. I hate men who can't keep their bajinotu especially the married once. if I was in ur shoe, I will make d home a living hell 4 him so next tym he won't even smell the apple let alone tasting it. e-hug dear

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:01 , Anonymous lolatoby said...

    Dear, yu just av to forgive him, he's yur husband, tho he rili fucked up sha
    Forgive him but let him no d consequence of doin it nxt tym

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:02 , Blogger ROYAL PRIESTHOOD said...

    Lolzzzzzzz...
    U sound so funny.

    Urs is 2days, I knw of a case dat was a day b4 their wedding and stil continued thereafter.

    Shits happen in life... No wonder d vow "for better and worse" til death do u...

    Take heart for dat is wht u signed for.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:02 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    guys can be bastards; the earlier we realise this the better. Just procreate and live your life. In essence, manage him

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:02 , Blogger ogeee said...

    U deal wit it, courtship is very necessary to knw d real person u wnt to live wit forever. Pray well my sister

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:02 , Blogger Ammiel ofordile said...

    Deal with it woman, shit happens.
    You've already married him and nothing can change that now perhaps it seems your punnani no sweet so he left you and went for a sweeter one. Lol.
    Just forgive him and forge ahead.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:02 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Welcome 2 my world, beating sef join my own cos I asked.... my advise 2 u is just 2 pray 2 God conceive and face ur children. Like my mum told me, it's a man's world. So sorry I kw hw u feel.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:02 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Welcome 2 my world, beating sef join my own cos I asked.... my advise 2 u is just 2 pray 2 God conceive and face ur children. Like my mum told me, it's a man's world. So sorry I kw hw u feel.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:03 , Blogger chinenye glory said...

    Such is life,u have check very well before u enter

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:03 , Blogger chuma'cent said...

    Here's a piece of advice for u lady: do not forgive him and leave the whole house if u can then watch the wholes babes in the neighbourhood flood into your matrimonial home. Think hard and see if u can handle this one compared to forgiveness.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:04 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Happy Married Life...lol

    *** Blacknfly@gmail.com ***

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:04 , Blogger Emmanuella Abigail Igbuan said...

    Ah!!!!its just too early nah,but u just have to forgive him and keep your home intact..

    #Abbytohxoft

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:04 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Lol my sister ur lucky its not dsame day sef....men are dogs trust me...buh it is well

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:05 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Honestly, and Honestly, I think the best thing is to have a Pre-nup, it would really make things better and reduce this nonsense from our MEN...what do u guys think? *Repping from afar*

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:05 , Blogger Maxwell Akalonu said...

    Nawa ooo..its horrible ooo..the man no even get fear for God oo

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:06 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Isaiah 43:2-3. Pls dont leave ur marriage.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:06 , Blogger Temitope Olayiwola Oluwadamilare said...

    Lives goes on,4give him

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:06 , Blogger ike ani said...

    This is serious. So Fast? He has no love for her at all www.ikeani.blogspot.com

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:06 , Anonymous Derek said...

    That's one of the real meanings of the word 'worst'... remember the one you made at the altar when you said 'for better for worst'? Ya, that's the one m talking about. Get up, dust yourself n move on. It's just too early to feel down. He is your baby, learn to forgive him before he wrongs you. Talk to him n pray often. It helps.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:06 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Hw did u know he cheated on you?

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:06 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Lol my sister ur lucky its not dsame day sef....men are dogs trust me...buh it is well

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:07 , Blogger KD Studio said...

    Ur mum told u d best thing. Let him knw abt it den forgive him and move back 2 ur room. Dont create space for another woman pls and tell God wot u wnt in ur marriage. Its well swty

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:07 , Anonymous smarty said...

    Hmmmmm,just two day after your marriage that's something to thing about forever,just find a space in your heart to forgive and let go.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:08 , Blogger Sena Job said...

    Na wa ooo just 2days.....hian

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:08 , Anonymous Veraij said...

    Na wa o, did u guys date before marriage? It means u would have known dat he sleeps around, dat is when u should have looked for solution not now. Take it to God in prayer for him to change, no amount of "gragra" can solve it, dat is why it is gud to know d person u want to marry before d marriage takes place.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:09 , Blogger eka said...

    my dear, the God that created men is different from the one that created women (according 2 my mum).So its not a new thing, we all have heard and seen worst. So wipe your tears and continue your marriage.....
    if he cheats;ignore him,
    if he doesn't again, then we thank God.

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:09 , Blogger pam eucharia said...

    My dear,wake up already..an african man Z polygamous in nature dt includes ur husband,report his case 2 God & its not late 4u2 join d on going fasting&prayers..Goodluck Babe

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:09 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Women are so foolish! You know weather hin just fuck finish before coming to say 'I DO' to you at the church? mtcheeew looool

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:10 , Anonymous Sunshine said...

    Well, yes that is what you'll face forever o! Unless he makes up his mind to change.

     
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  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:11 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    No comment. Kokz

     
  • At 27 January 2015 at 08:11 , Blogger marcee immanuels said...

    Mhen I can feel your pain but u can't sweep this under the carpet talk it with him ...that's all

     

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