Recently My sister's husband asked her to get an abortion and I'm really pissed cause I don't get why he'll even think about it knowing they have just 2 kids(girls) and he's doing great(rich). Would like to know if this is appropriate(right). Why will you ask your wife to get an abortion? And women would you go ahead with it if you are asked?
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1 – 200 of 204 Newer› Newest»And why did fuck will I get an abortion for my husband?! If I were I'm keeping the baby let him kill himself.
And why did fuck will I get an abortion for my husband?! If I were I'm keeping the baby let him kill himself.
This is none of your Business, if your sister is not conplaining why should you meadle in "Family affair"
Let her decide for herself, shikena!
Things partners should discuss before getting married includes knowing whether u guys are on the same page on every aspect. If you husband wants less or more kids , make sure u are okay with it. Some ppl just don't want more than 2 kids and no b by money , I have money but I really don't care about having kids. My fiancé is on the same page and I feel good knowing I can openly discuss stuff like dis with a nigerian who is open minded and not judgmental. Dis chic*s sister might want more kids but honestly if she doesn't do what dis guy wants, she's giving him a huge piece of cake and he's gon change towards. as long as the baby never form , its ok to abort and save ur marriage cause men can go gugu gaga over dis kine thing.
Its not appropriate in the first place. And coming from a husband,are you sure the man is in his senses.
He asked her to have an abortion! Well thank God he "asked". Do help me tell your sister that she has the Right to say No!
Religious people will come now and be talking nonsense.
Abeg leave this matter between your sister and her husband. Money is not everything, if he does not want another child then it is not by force. What's wrong with having only 2 girls. Is it by force to give birth to a boy? We have a funny backward way of thinking sha. Putting undue pressure on ourselves when we really shouldn't. Taking care of kids is not just about money. If the man starts acting funny towards the child now you're the first one who will open your mouth to talk.
Personally I don't want to have any kids and by Nigerian standards I'm not doing too badly. I'm 28, single and earn about N9m a year, but I really don't want kids and it has nothing to do with money.
He will change his mind later. Has she ever disobeyed him?
O hell no!!!
I don't get some men. I really don't. Why didn't he get a vasectomy knowing fully well he didn't want more kids? Or at least use a condom? Does he know the amout of risk he's asking his wife to put herself through? Does he not knw the meaning of the vows he took to 'love'? What is wrong with the world??
hmmmmmm waiting 4 libers comments on dis ooooo,cos me i dnt knw wat 2 say
The problem is that Abortion is illegal in Nigeria hence there aren't any good abortion clinics. However, if they're in a country where it's legal, I don't see why she can't do it if they agree as a couple.
It doesn't matter if one is rich or not. Not everyone wants so many children and the conception may have been a mistake. A lot of women get abortions out of their own volition not that they're forced to.
Let me add, an Abortion isn't as dangerous as giving birth when done under normal conditions.
Mortality rate at childbirth: 9 per 100,000
Mortality rate during abortion: 3 per 100,000
It isn't a matter of Abortion not being safe. If you can go to where it's legal, go for it. Please don't discourage her if she's willing. The world is too populated as it is.
Why on earth would a married man suggest this to his wife, even if he does not have the means? if he does not want children, he should get castrated.
Please do not! i had one early this year. Up till date i still hate myself. God is your sister's strength.
I tink d guy has his reasons, but d baby is already dr, he should just keep dis 1 and be careful next time with a good family planning, and if not 4 anyfin he should @ least not endanger d life of his wife.
No way,i will not
Hell NO.
so u get married happy dt u dont hv to worry abt getting pregnant nd gbam ur husband says u shld abort a pregnancy mshhheeeewwwww,i wld not do it oh if i were in her shoes nd if he insists d whole world wld hear our story,starting from my parents.
no is not appropriate,beside y will he ask her to abort the babe,
u sure the nigga aint into rituals or something?
He should get over himself and accept the pregnancy even if it wasnt planned for. Children are a GIFT from God. its not the sleeping with ur wife that gives you that yes, its a channel. There are families who have done all the sleeping they can and still dont have. So its not about him. She should fast and pray and ask God to change his mind. However, i know bloggers will insult the woman for getting pregnant. But what about the man, he should get a hysterectomy, its not just the responsibility of the woman alone. Again, ive seen women with all the protection and contraceptives they took they still get pregnant. So really its not about him...Please, keep the baby inspite of the fact that its not all formed, its a life. And if they go ahead with the abortion, mark it they will leave with the guilt until their dying day.
Hello young lady if ur sister carry out dat abortion she we will be seen as is a murderer.2 me committing abortion is nt d best.
Let's just say, maybe they aggreed to av just 2 kids. Let's ask d couple before we judge them.
First, how is dat ur business. Even though am strongly against abortion but allow them to settle their problem
Listen to yourself "my sister...her husband" so how does it concern you?. There are only 2 people in a marriage so keep your nose out! Financial bouyancy alone is not a criteria for having 100 children, emotionally the man may not be ready for an extra child. Make your sister choose either husband or more kids. N.B married women there is a word called CONTRACEPTIVE!
oh hell no!!!! i am both pro choice and life...mostly pro life but in support of pro choice if the mother's life is in danger and a doctor recommends a termination to save her life
Perhaps they'v gone for an ultrasound nd realizes d baby is a girl and the husband doesn't want a third girl....too bad tho, its only God tht gives children..God culd purnish ur sis and her husband severly,if they try such.
no i will not
I want you to understand this is dat is home and dey can do whatever dey like.its not reallly ur business.they are married and dey av every right to their decision and family planning!he probably dint plan for more than two kids.dat myt be a mistake.though,it isn't too good dey shld av done some family planning all.my point really is whether is good or bad...its der marriage and dey can plan it d way dey like...- shld ask u,what ur sisters opinion?
Too bad, y would a man in his right sense ask his wife 2go 4 abortion,wen he knows he's not ready 4anoda kid y not protect himslf..
Ok...abortion is wrong,anyway u choose to look @ it. Buh den wt r his reasons?y wud he ask ha to abort d baby? Is d child nt 4 him? Or is dere a possibility dt d child wud av SS geno if born?
She should try and find out the husbands reason for such decision.
Doesn't matta if he's doing great,I guess he doesn't want more than 2kids,stop drinking panadol for their headache biko!#Aho
it depends on how old d last baby is cos my elder sister too that stays in lagos wt her husband have 6kidds nw and hv done abotions 4times under d process of having those kidds cos she concieve every year even when stil breastfeeding, but abortion is very bad thou nobody goes into abortion wt his or her 2eyes clear d person must be under a very life tratening situation,pls if her last child is more than 6months and d money is there to take care of d kidds and d husband stil wnts her to abort it that means d man must be sick cos children are blessings frm God.
DEAR AMEBO SISTER,
ALL THAT GLITTERS ISN'T GOLD. EVEN IF BY YOUR STANDARDS HE S DOING WELL, THE FELLOW MAY WANT FEWER KIDS IN ORDER FOR HIM TO PROVIDE THE NECESSARY AND MORE FOR HIS FAMILY.
I DO NOT SUPPORT ABORTION, BUT IF YOUR SISTER IS RELLI MARRIED WHY ARENT THRY DOING FAMILY PLANNING? SHE COULD HAVE GOTTEN ON A CONTRACEPTIVE PLAN ,INSTEAD OF BEING A SILLY KID AND GETTING PREGNANT BY "accident". THEY HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO HAVE THE BABY, BUT YOUR SISTER SHOULD GO BACK TO WORK SEEMS SHE HAS TOO MUCH TIME ON HER HANDS, IN THIS ECONOMY? IN THIS DEPRAVED SAD WORLD? YOU WANT TO BE POOPING CHILDREN OUT? SMH.
The man is financially ok and is her husband. They have only 2kids, what harm could one more be. Babe, ask your sister to tell you the truth biko! This story get as e be.
-Chichi
it depends on how old d last baby is cos my elder sister too that stays in lagos wt her husband have 6kidds nw and hv done abotions 4times under d process of having those kidds cos she concieve every year even when stil breastfeeding, but abortion is very bad thou nobody goes into abortion wt his or her 2eyes clear d person must be under a very life tratening situation,pls if her last child is more than 6months and d money is there to take care of d kidds and d husband stil wnts her to abort it that means d man must be sick cos children are blessings frm God.
Dat guy needs 2 be checked I think he has other kids with some other woman...coz I see no reason why he would want an abortion 4rm his wife
If it were 2 boiz,,I may do it but wiv 2 grls knowin hw nija men luv male child??? Wat if smtin happen 2 d womb dats an excuse 2 marry anoda....
Dey kno dier reason,,let dem b
I don't no why he should ask her 2 have an abortion being that dey are married and he is finicially well to do. My opion is that she should not do it. And she should find a way to get her husband to do councelling with her because wether we like it or not, there is going 2 be a phscology damage to their marriage. So they should try and work on d problem be4 d birth of d child. And also she shold involve the elders too.
Mayb he went 4 a scan n it revealed d child is a girl again.no mata d case,no man has d ryt 2 take life,d child shld b givn d chance 2 liv.it hurts me so much 2 hear all dese.if its cos d baby is a girl,den d man is evn responsible 4 decidin d. Sex of d child being XY. Wyl women are XX,so d one sex cell he. Donates decides.pls she shldnt abort d pregnancy.
NEKS is gay. This is where 9jas re getting it wrong. I'll simply say "two is company, three is a multitude". Sha it has to be a mutual agreement~YKSMNBP~
Dat guy needs 2 b checked..I think he has kids with some other woman and dose not want ur sister 2 add 2 it.I see no reason why he would want his wife 2 have an abortion knowing fully well dat she has just 2 girl
No is not right tell ur sister not to comment an abortion is a sin
Ur Story is incomplete. Maybe if u tell us d entire story we can advise ur 6ta!
U are kinda economical wit d truth!
Well, how is their marriage? If its built on false, shaky grounds, then yes he would have the guts to tell her just that.
Is he stable in his head? Is he alryt? Is d goat ⌣̊┈̥-̶̯͡»̶̥okay«̶̥ -̶̯͡┈̥⌣̊! Mk e carri pikin 4 one day .̮ as e be
God forbid I won't men ar unpridictable he might av other plans or even av children outside
Tule tule, wats ur own inside? Drinking panadol 4 another mans headache........#smh.
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Its not about her hubby being rich,I think u should know if its 2 kids dey planned 2 have,I don't think its right thou,if d baby was a mistake then they should accept it and work it on well 4 no nxttime,God commandment states thou shall not kill,so abortion is a sin..and its indirect killing...
Ohkay,now this is absurd!!! I hope ur sister won't go ahead to do it? For crying out loud,they are married,if he doesn't want children then they practice safe methods but asking her to abort is totally out of it! What if something happens to her? Mehn,I won't do it at all o cos its not right in every sense
may b d man wants ur 6ta to b sexy 4 him...... Lolz
This is really sad, d things some men ask deir wives to do. I don't think its appropriate for any man to ask his wife to abort deir child, if he doesn't need more children, they should consider family planning methods so they don't risk getting her preggy. I would suggest she asks her husband his reasons for this decision nd she should try to make him see y an abortion is not appropriate especially when her life is not at risk.
Baffles me maybe the man is just a controlling ahole or has a mistress who has kids for him or maybe well can't give a reasonable excuse for him tho. But ur sister berra shine eye as that man no be am. If its not medical condition reasons then he is plain wrong even if there is no money faa.
He prolly has a disease n does nt want his wife to knw! Cox wen she gets pregnant, d ante natal result wuld prove it
Whatever works 4 dem .
Awwwwww!!aeya..d man must be a good citizen of dis country to want 2 try not 2 add 2 d population of dis country.....hehehehehehe
And na hin person go born 8 bcos he dey find boy come beg Govt to feed am...oga oooo
Coffee wey I dey drink hia comot my ear..hehehehe
I would not be too quick to condemn the man. It may be that he wanted to have only two children. Since your sister is pregnant, should your sister tell him that they would not have an abortion. As a rule, men change their minds when you tell them your feelings about the issue. when the child is born, they must necessarily look for birth control options so that such situations can no longer arise!
How is that ur problem? Get a man of ur own so u can get a life and stop intruding .
He thinks she's gonna have another girl....sigh*...they always 4get dey determine the sex of the baby tho.
I suspect they know the sex of the baby, and maybe its another girlm Just my thot cos it doesnt make sense
As pissed as your are, I'd advice you calm down and look the other way. Husband-wife issues is something very delicate and not to be meddled in.
No matter how sad/emotional/angry things are right now, you will not be there when the make up or the agreements they have made behind closed doors.
Pray for them, mind your bizness and don't hold any grudges.
Wa wa alright.
Smbdy shld get a cane n flog him thoroughly. If I were in her shoes I won't do it,though it myt mean d end of d marriage
Its not ur problem or business.its ur sister's headache and u are not suppose to take panadol for it. Morally, and as a Christian its wrong, but its there marriage and need to stay out of it. I advise that u tell your sister to go see a man of God(priest). He should give u the best advise , but your sister is the only person who could take the final decision. God help us
I'm sure ur inlaw isn't stupid as not to want more kids. There's sumthng ur sis isn't telling u. There's a story of a man n wife who had agreed before marriage to hv jus 2 kids, only for d wife to take in deliberately after d 2nd child hoping d husband wnt hv a choice bt to accept d pregnancy.Eventually, he moved out of d haus, nt cos he cldnt accept d child bt becos he felt he had been tricked n cldnt stand d deception. So plss allow d couple sort themselves out cos ds is sumthng only both of dem cn handle by demselves
as far as am concerned abortion is a big sin. Killin an innocent child who hasnt come to d world yet. Does he knw if dat child wil b d greatest among his kids?
Isnt ur sis supozd to b d one writing this if her husband's decisn put her in a dilemma? I mean,is ur sis worried abt dis as u are?though its a cruel decisn by d hubby, the wife shud knw wats best 4 her nd go wit it. Chk my blog@ alphamarketer.blogspot.com
Bt y wld a married man suggest dat? I tot childrn re gift 4rm God 4 married couples... Mayb he has a reason...
Let's be realistic o! Do u know how xpensiv it is to tkia of kids now? School fees &all. Many people are opting for 1 or 2 so they can giv them the best. Plus did they agree to have more kids? Or ur sister is just trying to get a boy? She has to be wise & plead wit him o. Cos he knows where the shoes pinches
This isn't funny.my dear Linda,Ʊ need †̥ pray,becos ryt nw am tempted †̥ think he has his hands in sm thing fishy.
She shud kip the pregnancy.
Are u sure this man is not into rituals? Cos want sane man wld want his wife to abort their child. Wats wrng wt having three kids? Infact my conclusion; this man must b into jazz of some sort
My dear strange and bizzare stuffs now happen in marriages. Some like dis one leaves u lost for words. I wish every girl d type of husband I wish my sisters.~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310.
what men makes women to do....! Mmhhh only God will judge...but i knw some women will do it to save their marriage..!!
Please keep your opinion to yourself. If your sister is cool with it then mid your business. Even if he's rich what do you really know? Sorry abt the typos
Honestly,I think he is just fine with d two girls! I am able to see it frm d perspective of a person who lives abroad.
On d other hand,a real nigerian man who has two girls will be hoping that this one could Be a boy,therefore d issue of having his wife abort his child would not even come tO his mind.
On a rather ominous note,maybe he is preparing to get a new wife whom he really hopes would bear him a son and a person he is very much intersted in much more than Ur sister. All I can say to u and Ur sister is Goodluck on this one!!
I'll say this again....children are a gift from God and God's gift maketh rich and adds no sorrow.Some people wld give an arm and a leg to be pregnant and your sister got hers on a platter.She shouldn't even think of it.If she doesn't have any health problems her pregnancy wld be a threat to then she shud pls have her baby.We are living in modern times, everything can now be planned.If he wanted just 2kids from d start he should have stated so and avoided a third pregnancy.Men tho...and they say women are complicated!...Kaiy
This is jst meaningless go marry nd stop involving urself in other couples matter aproko
Maybe he wants just two kids......besides whats ur business? It's btw ur sis n her hubby
Hmmmmm! Very strange for ur inlaw to say that! There definitely is somethin wrong somewhere.If ur sister no sabi pray before then she better wake up o! Wahgala yazo
what is the difference between the bastard who dumped a sweet baby at the canal and this man?
how can u ask ur wife to abort? not that u are lacking. mschew!
Your brother in law needs a boy and I think your sis is going to have another girl or some mystery woman has given him what he wants and he's done with having kids.There's no smoke without fire.Am not a lady,so I don't know what its like having an abortion, especially in this kinda scenario.
Hmmm, if your sister is fine with it, then it's cool. But honestly, if it was me, I would never abort. Tell you sister to pray hard n you should pray for her as well. It's a sad story. Your sister should seat her husband down and ask him why.Men can be really messed up. There is a limit to sacrifices we women should make. Abortion can cause her her fertility and how sure is she he'll stick wit her to the end? There is nothing sweeter than having a child. He obviously doesn't know what it feels like because he is a man. May God help you sister. Amen
Are you joking. This is a life. You should start by reducing our population. Go hug pole
Can u leave neks alone please? Bloody tramp!
♏v̶̲̥̅. Problem is wen D̶̲̥̅̊ guy was fucking her witout protection he didn't tink dat she would get pregnant or someting...den Ʊ sister fuk of dia family business...D̶̲̥̅̊ guy aint married 2 Ʊ Ūя̲̅ sister came 2 Ʊ 2 seek council ...not 4 Ʊ 2 tell D̶̲̥̅̊ whole world...as 4 D̶̲̥̅̊ guy he shud make up his mind
And if she has? Gini emezie? Disobey ko. Obey ni... Which kin backward 1950's chick u b sef? Mtcheww!
Thank u.
M'unique
After fertlisation a foetus (zygote) is just as alive as u r and has as much right to life as u do
Seriously beats me why men prefer to comit murder rather than have a simple slightly painfull procedure that lasts less than 30 mins. Ur egos will not defend u on judgement day
Same here, i feel i have lost a loved one i never knew
Ur post makes sense but its vasectomy not hysterectomy. TMIA
Has ur sister heard of contraception/family planning? I suggest a long acting 3-5yrs method for her like implanon, nexplanon, iucd, mirena but best of all salphingectomy (tubal ligation) asap. The americans can even do it vaginally so no abdominal scars.
I need to come open a family planning clinic in Naija. Maybe i can put those abortionists out of business
U make sense but pls limit ur text speak cos to me it belittles d writers intelligence.
Female Fetocide is alive and kicking. God help us
God!!! y cant people just mind there fcukn business....wats ur business wit ur sis family issue.....wat? am sure u aint married dats y u ave tym....u better go en marry en see d no of times ur own husband will tell u to abort....
♍γ̲̣̣̥ friend..shattap!.. U̶̲̥̅̊ dnt wana av kids??..or U̶̲̥̅̊ can't av kids??..well, U̶̲̥̅̊ still talk like 1 whoz single..perhaps,we can huk up & U̶̲̥̅̊ b ♍γ̲̣̣̥ 2nd wife..den,yl d 1st gimme kids.. U̶̲̥̅̊ watch as U̶̲̥̅̊ bcum a grand-step-mum...mtschew!!
Here's wt I mk out of ds story: they had agreed they'l hv jus 2 kids n an abortion if any1 came mistakenly after dat, d wife probably agreed just for hm to marry her knwin in her mind she won't and thinking 'when she gets to d bridge she'l cross it'. Hubby wants an abortion nw cos its sumthng they'd agreed on, bt wifey isn't on d same page cos she planned d pregnancy. Any man will feel betrayed, cheated n decieved and dts sumthng most men won't condone. Lesson# Discuss EVERYTHING before marriage n pls stick to d plan, dnt jus agree to get in, n thnk u cn change ur mind later on ur own. I wish dem luck sha n pray they settle ds amicanbly BTW I'm d 1st gal in a family of 2 gals, we r very happy n well provided for n my father won't even hear of a 3rd child.
All of u asking if its ha biznes,yes it is. If it wasn't, y did ha sista confide in ha? Abortion is wrong n will always b except in cases lyk ectopic pregnancy which u can't help. Wat if ha sista dies in d course of abortion? All of u will live hapily wit ur siblings n d lady will b in grief, n d children will suffer cos he'l definitely marry anoda wife 'cos of d kids'. Its so much d lady's biz o. Back to d question, no,i wudn't abort _inem_
marraige wont get u to heaven so yr sis shld say no or face the curse of molech the abominable god of the ammonites, and maybe the phoenicians and the canaananites.....i am a deliverance minister so i know these deep truths . after which these curses r passed down generations and only inner healing and deliverance will deliver u of these demonic spirits of opression.
BEWARE young ladies !!!!! a word is enough for the wise i have said my piece
I dont know why some keep saying" mind ur biz", "its ur sister and her husband". For God's sake dr ȋ̝̊ڪ a reason why we didn't just drop out of d sky with no family and ties watsoeva. If d sister loses her life, or becomes emotionally imbalanced by dat experience den it will be d sister's biz den!! while d man will move on quickly. We all need somebody to lean on as everybody has a role to play in our lives husband, wife, friends, parents, etc as long as d person doesn't meddle and handles the situation wit maturity.
Who yu dey ask na....*smh4u*
#Big boi says so#
This situation is very delicate. It might have bin accident on d part of d woman or she might have gone all out to disobey her husband when he clearly didn't want more kids but it is a life dt is being talked about her. Watever d case mayb pls let her handle it wit prayer, patience cos abortion is not good.
The man should man up and accept the baby. It might not be planned for but then so many issues happen to us in life that we were not prepared for and we didn't kill ourselves cos of dat, i mean pple die, lose dere jobs, become really sick and so many things that financially and emotinally drain us and we still find a way out of the situation. Accept ur fate and d woman should not make such mistake again.
The problem with us Nigerians is dat we r blinded by religion n morals that we fail to face reality...it beats me datt with all our morals we r still one of the most corrupt countries in d world! While in not supprting the husband, I would like to point out that Abortion is legal for married couples in Nigeria as It is a very safe procedure. The man has his reasons, most of u don't have kids so u don't knw the financial implications of raising kids. The woman should have taken precaution and the man should have used protection...be that as it may, I tink its left for the couple to sit down n reach a decision on wat to do, Its not new loads of couples do it. As for all u pple spitting fire, most of u gals have had several abortions n most guyz have given their babes money to do it...so stop with the judgemental shit!
Nigeria is a funny country, a lot of things could be the reason. Is he a ritualist? Have they told him not to have more than two kids? Let's not rule these options out.For cryn out loud they just have two kids. Saying my mind though
Yeye girl.linda dis post don vex me well well.plz help me ask dat bizzy body if its any of her bizness?this is between man and wife.do u know if they see reasons btwn eachoda?or do u kno d mans reason?don't u kno abortion in some parts of d world is legalised?why bring a child into this world if u aint ready to take care of d baby.nonsense!continue counting ur inlaws wealth.it is ur type dat will go to ur inlaws house and park formin madamn.see u,the skool u said u went to,we av not seen the result.afta u say dey r still computing result after haw many years.if u nid a baby go n tell ur boyfrnd to giv u 1.better don't cause wahala in dat family.ashirigbakaute.
Abortion is murder abeg.... There are no selfless reasons for an abortion, only selfish ones... He should kill one of the other two children na... Its the same thing after all.
How can you claim to be a good person but allow a doctor to stick a blade into your womb, cut a baby into tiny pieces and suck it out with a machine.....sad.
Please go look for someone who is barren to marry. Make them no say "hope still dey"
Maybe the child is not his own, your sister might not tell u dat,but she could have been involved with someone else outside of the marriage and the man might have forgiven her. But to still carry the child might be a problem
Contraceptive is not 100 percent guarantee guess if you were educated or married you would know this apoda
Maybe they agreed to just 2 kids before marriage and she took out her birth control to get pregnant with the 3rd. It's happened and it's not even about accepting the child. It's usually about the extent of the deception it takes to stop taking pills or take out your IUC without saying a word. It almost broke a home and the marriage isn't the same till date. Ironically, it was the same scenario. 2 girls and she tried for a boy and didn't say a word to her husband till it was advanced enough to know it was a boy. I'm a woman but that is just cold.
I don't want 2 analyse family issues bcos, obviously,we dnt v all d facts n neither shld we bcos we r not married 2 them but d annoying part is once there's an unwanted pregnancy why is it d woman's fault? It's rili a man's world! Why shld it be d woman's duty to take contraceptives esp wen it's d man who doesn't want more kids??? At least it shld be d duty of BOTH partners. I knw of a man who didnt want more kids after d 3 he already has but he will not allow his wife "rest"! He go pursue her inside hole sef just 2 "get some". On dis particular day he grabbed her n was about 2 plunge in wen she plead dat she wasn't safe n had run out of pills! Guess wot d hubby said? "Abegi! Nor bi only bele?" Bcos testosterone don dey swim 4 brain cells. 2months after d fact, bele burst out! If u saw how melodramatic dis guy got! AMAZING in a ridiculous way! It was crazy! D drama was as if anoda man was responsible! It ticks me off wen 1 person is "crucified" 4 "carelessness" in an act involving 2. Most likely d man even enjoyed d sex more than d women
As long as she doesn't have any health reasons to remove it,that baby is a gift,who knows could our lionel messi
James, i mean the 10th person that commented on this story... what if your mother aborted you in the right conditions and environment...? am sure u wont be here talking nonsense. Hope your brain cells are still in tact?? God forgive you!
Pple r looking for child out der praying to God for da fruit of da womb $ ma guy is busy asking the wife to abort..chei wat a wicked world..dat guy is an idiot infact goat.pls no offense
Anon 9:36 so your sister conceives every year and aborts. Do you people live in the village. Tell her there are contraceptives she can use. Haba
My thoughts exactly,and I find it quite appalling to see some people who were abusing d woman dat dumped her baby in d canal,coming here to support dis inhuman act. We so tend to forget dat if not for d opportunity ur parents gave u to surface,u won't be here deciding d fate of a helpless innocent child. And for those who care to listen,abortion is not yet legalized in our society.~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310.
If they r sickle cell carriers, he proli doesn't want to risk it
The woman should go to his mother and tell herwhhats happpening to see if she can talk to the man. And please she needs to go for a conntraceptive procedure that will keep her from getting pregnant. I know a guy who wanted to marry me and told me clearly he wants one child. If I did marry him, I would have to respect his wishes. If the husband had expressed his desire before now, it was wrong for her to go ahead and get pregnant. The world is too modern for mistakes like that. But I will never support abortion. It haunts you after the act.
This story is very dougy. Are you sure your sister is the mans only wife? Hmmmm, something is not right here. Besides young lady, what is your business biko? Well if he doesnt want it, he doesnt want it. Some women think they are smart. Your family are already eyeing his wealth abi? Awon ole.
Akamu! Wetin concern you?!Are you taking a poll from the LIB readers to decide whether your sister should have it or not?! You for all of us come una family house for meeting then...msheeew!
U r possessed for making such a statement.
whats your business in your sister's marital affair? do you know what agreement she had with her husband in this regard?most illegal abortions in Nigeria are commited by married women who wouldn't use contraceptives or whose husbands wouldn't wear a condom. Allow your sister to sort out her issues and you go find aa man.
Tell your sis nt 2 abort d pregnancy. She shld plead with him and mk him c reasons with her. I'm sure he wld undastnd. Ma dad wanted ma mum 2 abort me but she didn't listen 2 him nd nw he z so happy he neva did infact I'm his fav child. Let her keep the baby he won't hate her or d baby.once he sees d baby he wld forget eva bringing up dat idea. Nd she shld pray abt it.
You guys don't know what rili happened btw dem....i doubt if a married man will ask his wife to G̷̩̥̊Θ for abortion except in cases of women dat give birth through CS.......it could be dangerous for her health....don't judge until u know d whole story... i still don't support abortion though
Ur no better dan d person that dropped that baby in that canal if u support this abortion. He wants to kill an innocent child bcos it might be 'inconvenient' for him. Nonsense
U cannot see ur sister go down the wrong path and let her be! Husband or no husband, it is WRONG to abort a child. Dat baby already has a heartbeat. It is murder
Ur no better dan d person that dropped that baby in that canal if u support this abortion. He wants to kill an innocent child bcos it might be 'inconvenient' for him. Nonsense
U r possessed for making such a statement.
How many of you talking actually keep your noses out of your siblings relationships?!
My sister had an abortion a few years ago after 2 kids, boy and girl. God blessed her again with another boy 6 years ago. You really think God is vindictive?
it is easy for us to say mind ur business let them get the abortion but i wonder what the life forming in her thinks poor baby. i watched some documentaries about abortion on youtube so heartbreaking it will definitely change ur perspective on abortion i recommend it
I'm sorry..buh how do I feature in ds gist..abeg fellow LIBers help me c problem o..lol
Sweetie am pretty sure u meant the guy shld get a vasectomy...not a hysterectomy..hysterectomy is removal of the uterus n the lasttym I checked,men don't ve dt internal organ.lol.u welcome tho
If ur naturally stupid do u really hav 2 show d whole world? How wud she hav known if her sister hadn't shared. N even if her sister didn't share, do u realize d psychological trauma of knowing u killed ur child, d moral battle n d fact dat its her husband askin her 2 get rid of it?, d physical risks involved, why shudnt she care abt her sister. After all if sumtin goes wrong d man can remarry but she can't get anoda sister. she's not asking abt u or ur sister so shut up if u dnt hav anytin 2 say
Hian!nawaoo...neks is not gay...hw can u say sth like ds???u must be gay for u to know the 'gay' commenters..cos she uses nohomo a lot?na real WA!
I never knew 70% of libers are dis dump, ow can u say dey myt v obviously gone for a scan n found out it's a gal, do UNO u can't know d sex of a bby not until 5mths scan,which obviously cnt b oborted,d 3mth scan is just to check the bby is fit n dt v any form of disability or dsformality. Weda gal or boy all na pikin, very absurd for a so Cald husband telln hs wife to go fr abortion, I dnt tnk most of UNO d grievances.God save me frm such husband.
Porshe
I haven't had 1 b4 n I pray not 2 but I kno d trauma in dis gurl cos I hav a friend who did n kips telling me- if u get pregnant, I'll neva help u get rid of it, we'll kip d baby cos not 1 day passes dat I don't remeba i killed my kids. However, I told her n I'll tell u d same- God loves a broken n repentant heart n he never turns u away wen u come in sincere n honest repentance. He still luvs u.
I suspect ooooo...
Dis child must hav a special destiny o, no gree abeg even if ur forced 2 leave his house at least u will cry n hav peace in d long run. God has a way of vindicating u 4 doing ryt.
U dey craze, if they agree 2 hav 2 kids nko, does it take only one 2 get pregnant again? Dis matter no b breach of agreement on d part of one person. If she's pregnant d man has 2 take dat as a blessing, a painfull lesson, n take apropriate measures 2 ensure it doesn't hapen again not just throw about d death sentence lyk its chicken n not his very own child.
Exactly well spoken moruf .... I blame d sister 4 talking about her family matter outside she should talk about it with her husband its soley their decision to make n no one elses
Chick shut up wit dat emotionly ready horse crap, wat do u mean? Where u ready 4 evrytin dat hapend in dis lyf 2 u? Sumtyms wen ur confronted wit tins u prepare urself n brace up. Wat nonesense, if he's not emotionaly blah blah, does Dat mean he shud lump it on d poor wife as if she's sum dirty side-chick he picked off d street. Abeg I'll give u d right word 4 wat u call emotional unreadiness- irresponsible.
I know a married woman that once tried to abort cause her husband told her to and she died in the procee. So u see,its her business.. If she looses her sister,its ur fucked up self that will be asking y she aborted in d first place. Wiked human being!
I pray dat d fone u used 2 send dis comment will fall inside suckaway filled wit hot shit n mature maggots. u morally depraved n sexist idiot. Gbefnono.
U say she should leave the matter btw her sis and her sis's husband.. What if she dies in the process? Make una dey think before talking o.
Maybe d man is just scared she might hav another girl.
Your sister sef man! 6 kids and 4 abortions. She is a real baby making machine. She needs to tie her womb! That's a disgrace in this day and age. Please don't use her as an example abeg!
according to the majority of Linda Ikeji reader, the man kukuma has absolute right to the woman's body, so i guess he can tell her to abort abi?
And did they discuss not to have kids?If they were sure, why didnt he have a vasectomy and he a hysterectomy? Now he is making noise when he didnt take all the steps to make sure pregnancy does not occur.Foolish man!!
Correct!!!!!
Please why don't u want to have children?? I would love to know the reason behind your chain of thought...Nd no one brought religion into this.
Please help me ask my brother..
Gbam!!!!!! The husband should please read this comment..
My thoughts exactly..
Calm down na, its not yet time to start pointing fingers oga..Just say its not morally right.
QF
Y d hell will he ask her to get an abortion huh? one more child wont cos any harm and if was so sure he didnt want anoda child he shud av taken precaution. for crying otu loud ds is Nigeria u cant jst tell a woman to get an abortion.
That is very true, but if they planned it that way, they should have carried out birth control measures after the second child..
Hope u noticed the fact that she said her sister not her friend. What is the saying that goes "when you marry a woman, you also marry her family"...
@gb09.... 9million a year... Abeg introduce ur boi to the business... Even if its quarter of wat u make...
Thanx.
Eric.
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Nawa o. Personally, i dont see anyfin wrong in dis lady seekin advice on behalf of her sister. Blood is thicker dan water. Afterall, she wuldnt want her sister to take a decision that would either risk her life or ruin her marriage. D woman shd sit her husband down n try to know reasoins y he is not interested in havin babies. Abortion is not d best option o. Babies are too cute to be wasted.
our people & hypocrisy.we have just cursed out somebody for dumping a baby by the canal.now considering this one.single,u abort.married, u abort.has this abortion of a thing become less than murder? taking of a life you cant give? for those of u that feel the world is too populated,rat poison still works.start with yourselves.my dear,let her keep the baby.no be mistake.u don't know who might save/help you tomorrow.
I'm not going to be judgemental here buh i just want to say i lost a cousin a few months back becos her hubby asked her to get rid of her pregnancy. Gbam!
Exactly! Most Nigerian men don't want to get a vasectomy, they expect the woman to take care of things in that aspect after what she's been thru with child birth. Snip it if u are very sure u don't want more kids!
You are a failed fellow and wicked woman for not wanting kids. Selfish and self centered of the highest level. Don't worry that man you think doesn't want kids will break the news one day that he has a child somewhere before or after your marriage. Be there deceiving yourself,I pity you and your family who brought you into this world. If your parents were selfish and wicked would you have been born? NO. Who would have been ur spouse ,friend,co worker,neighbor etc if everybody was like you that doesn't like or want kids. You will experience the biggest heartbreak later mark my word,men can easily say or agree with you on no kids but hey no man deep inside means it or can escape it except he is impotent and mostly if he is an african (Nigerian), check ur man well bcos most men agree with women on no kids bcos they are upto something to benefit from the relationship. Rethink pls it's an advice not an insult.
Madam, you are always going on abt being a good christian here. The bible clearly puts the man as the head of the house. Therefore, let her obey him, he has a case to answer with God, not her. She obeyed her husband, as the bible dictates. Abi you no know bible again???
Gbam!!!
Good advice jare. Why u scared of having kids? Ur not fertile or what?
Cali love easy na
Don't mind that she goat deceiving her self not us. Park well jor wasted sperm like u
If u like no born na,haba how does that concern me? Dried fish like u,ur kinds jealous other women with kids,perhaps u are not able to have any kids and u already know but looking for a man to rest on no kids agreement. Waka commot here Biko
HahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhaahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhhHhHhhh don't mind that man o,I bet he already have kids somewhere or will have later secretly bcos no naija man can stay all his life without having kids except if he is impotent just as @california love said. Wake up Abeg I feel for ur sorry self
its not her business abi? If something goes rong/ if d lady dies in d process tell her its not her business to cry and mourn. Mtcheeew. Abortion is rong no mata d reason
You are a demon! She should abort so the man won't go gugu gaga? If she die in d process nko? If ur mama abort u sha, u no go dey here dey yarn dust. The man no want pikin na im he fuck wivout protection. Mumu pple.
Seriously did people miss the part where she said my SISTER not a stranger. As some one that volunteers to help abused women, I smell abuse in this marriage. I wonder what other stupid things the guy is telling her to do. I am pretty sure it was her sister that told her and she has every right to be concerned. What if her sister dies in the process or from trauma she will never forgive herself.
@ California Love you can't just come on here and call someone else a failed and wicked women because they don't want to have kids. The same way you have the freedom to have kids is the same way someone else should have the freedom not to have kids. My husband and I (both of us are surgeons here in the US) we've be married for 12yrs and we both decided right from when we're dating back in college that we didn't want to have kids. My husband and I are extremely busy surgeons, we barely have time to sleep and there was no way we were going to have kids and have a nanny raise the child. Because of our decision not to have kids, we've been sponsoring three kids that live in Kenya for the past twelve years. We have basically adopted them, the only things is they live in Kenya. I might not have biologically given birth to them but I treat them like any mother will treat their children. My husband and I get pictures of them every three months and we go to Kenya 3 times a year to visit them. Adopting orphaned kids is something my husband and I have been passionate about and I am glad we are about to do that. California love don't come here to judge people that don't want to have kids because they have detailed reasons why they don't want to have kids. If you want to have kids that's your life but don't come here cursing someone out.
Don't mind that girl saying they should abort all because she want people to remain childless since she had told her man they shouldn't have kids. What kind of woman would live her life happily and decide botto have kids? Jesus people are wicked in this world. So you could advise for abortion? Mehn fade out of here pls no one needs your selfish advice. Go meet your impotent man for you guys to have a rethink jor .
Stupid woman,they should abort it aiit? E no go beta for u and that ur man wey no want kids. @ Cali love thank u bo
Who was that woman that wanted ten to abort it?is it bcos u any have a child of ur own? Why such a wicked though?
Check yourself you will see you are a sadist and u are missing something,if your parents were selfish like u would u have been here along?who would have employed u?who would have been your gf/bf? Who would have paid you? Who would have invented the phone u use?who would have owned the service u use for ur phone?eho would have been ur mechanic?who would have been your friends?who would have been ur neighbor ?who would have cooked at the restaurant were u eat with ur smelly mouth? See ur mouth like I don't want kids. Beta go and wash ur head so that evil spirit will fade away,I pity ur parents bcos they will ever regrets but won't let u know.
Now most comments here shows that the illetracy suevy was WTong cause. Some if you are plain stupid. She didn't ask for advice for her sister just options and reasons why it should be done. Read properply
RAcheal, u and ur husband dont want kids yet u adopt some? i guess u both wanted kids after all, what u did not want was to give birth to them urself. Besides is it not the same time u find in ur soo busy schedule to go visit them? is it not someone who is raising them for u (same thing as having a nanny look after urs) oh please........
Its up to your sis to make up her mind. Its her marriage, she knows wat agreement she had with her husb. I have seen a situation where the man asked the wife to abort the child, she didn't and the baby turned out to be an imbecile and themarraige broke up, another case, the woman died. Its not up to you my dear, ur sis has to make her choice and be prepared for the consequences.
Cali love- here's sum kisses 4 u. 4rm d comments I see here I'm glad dat not evry body in dis country is flowing loosely wit dis foolish liberalism dat blurs d clear lyn btween wats ryt n wrong. Sum ppl just let wat seems cool or just ok pass cos u dnt want 2 do ryt by God, but by ppl or convenience
Helo,all.dis site is quite funny!...som ov u re makin a lot ov sense wile odas re destroyn a lot ov sense!..lol.1st ov ol,der is a differenc b/w interferin n som1's marriag & givin advice wen necessary.iv d sista hu was askd 4 her advice was sure ov wot 2 tel ha sista,she wudnt av com 2 dis site!...dat aside,my dear,u askd a single questn(directly or indirectly).i don't advise ur sista 2 commit any abortion!..on no ground! God hates & dosnt permit it.its olways God 1st,odas 2nd!..take care.
Chei!me sef go follow beg her not to 'comment' an abortion ehh!
@ james pls kill ur self to de populate the world. Idiot.
@California Love funny enough I am not a sadist. I have never been so happy in my life. My parents and my siblings actually support and respect my views. I don't need to wash my head from any nonsense evil spirit. I am actually against abortion with the exception of incest and rape. However if a couple decides they don't want to have kids and the woman gets her tube tied and the man gets a Vasectomy, I personally don't see any problem with that. We are not physically hurting or bruising anybody so I don't see why that is anybody's problem. We are not eliminating a life. I respect the fact that you want to have kids and I give kudos to every woman that is/has raised a child; but you can not force that on everybody. Your thinking that everyone not wanting to have children is committing a crime is just shallow. What is truth and right for you might not be the same for another person. The problem with Nigerians is that they like to force their beliefs on other people. You think your beliefs and values is the one and only way, sorry to bust your bubble but everyone can't be you. Why can't people have the freedom to live their life the way they want it as long as they are not physically harming someone else. You have the freedom to have as many kids as you want because it's your body, and I have the freedom to get my tubes tied and my husband get a vasectomy. We are not hurting you, or any life. I don't live my life so that I can get acceptance from you so your validation or any other person doesn't matter.
You are cursed and evil. If everybody didn't want kids how would you have seen a man to marry or kids to care for. Mark my word your husband will disappoint you someday especially when men can't be trusted as he may have a side babe as gf,ten the girl may be such that wants kids and will get pregnant for him then your eyes will clear. Are you the only surgeon in the world that won't have time fr family?are your co surgeons not having kids?my doctor here in US is a surgeon with his wife yet they have 3 kids. So ask God for ur own kids to be able to feel motherhood and stop justifying your wicked and selfish reasons.
Don't mind rAcheal long for that silly statement,she doesn't want kids yet she like someone's else's own,she doesn't want kids yet out of her suppose busy schedule they can fly to Kenya?they can take tem picture. Human beings like to decieve themselves a lot. Racheal long or short pls meet a man of God to counsel you and I promise you will be liberated.
@ California love you might also want to check what Sadist really means. I don't derive any form of pleasure in inflicting pain and sorrow on other people or enjoy pain inflicted on other people so I am definitely not a sadist. I am a complete opposite of who a sadist is.
Abortion is something that should be private between your sister and her husband and I think you should stay out of their private affairs. You may consider them rich, he may not see the same thing and should not be forced to saddle up with another child that they may not want. Whatever their decision, your job as a sister is to support and not make her decision for her. I think two kids is enough. She should consider other type of birth control in the future.
think we re quick to judge dis man after just hearing one side of d̶̲̥̅̊ Story..just an instance wat if d̶̲̥̅̊ man knows he is not d̶̲̥̅̊ fada of d̶̲̥̅̊ unborn child wat if he caught his wife fornicatn?its just an instance we all don't know wat is reali happening all dis insults to dis man won't solve anythn in my opinion wat he needs is someone he holds in high regard(his pastor or an elderly perSon) to talk to him coz even if his wife did somethn wrng he should still forgive coz abortion is a sin against God...@ cali love d fact dat u want to av kids when u get married doesn't mean everyone has to b on d same page wit u.tru Kids re blessings but not all couple see it has a necessity personally would love to av dem but if someone decides not to don't think u nid to insult d person its childish we should all learn to accomodate others opinion or try to convince dem wit superior argument not insulting..#myopinion
True talk..
Since they are doing well i wouldnt know why the husband woulld suggest an abortion but I don't want to be judgemental at the sametime becaause I think it's very delicate. Rather I would advice the family to seek the advice of a medical consultant if the man is not comfortable with the preganacy.
Please write like an adult!
Ur right if its becos of genotype.
Poor woman, but biko tell your sister to pray hard o. My mother has three of us but she aborted two pregnancies because my father insisted he didn't want more kids. Now he is in his 60's with three kids with one yeye girl. I fear men over matters like this because we women lose out.
@ California Love; it's ironic that you talk God and me going to seek Gods counsel from a pastor, yet you call me (someone you've never met) cursed and evil and saying negative statement like my husband will dissapoint me one day. It is sad that you mention God and call yourself a Christian yet you spew so much hatred on other people. Seriously is that really what your Christianity is about. It's because of people like you that some women will go have kids that they didn't want in the first place and then they abandon the kids. I am not just going to go have kids so that the likes of California love will stop talking bad or crap about me. If you want to talk please you are free to talk and I don't care about your validation. I don't live my life that way. Let me tell you something the decision of not wanting kids was my husband and I decision. It was something we both wanted and not an individual thing. It was a subject we we talked about while we were dating in college. My husband and I love each other to pieces and we do almost everything together. We don't live our lifes to please anyone or to get a pat on the back from the likes of you. You really don't expect everyone in the world to be like you and do everything you do. It will be a sad world if everyone that calls themselves CHRISTIAN acts the way you do and spews so much hatred on people. The people that matter in our lives love us for who we are and respect us. I am extremely close to my parents and i am glad to have parents that support and respect my views and so does my husband. I have absolutely nothing against people that want to have kids, I respect and give kudos to every woman especially my mum that has a job and raises children at the same time. I watched my mum a Lawyer go to work and contribute in raising my siblings and I, I appreciate her and every other woman out there that makes such great effort for children. I see women like that as superwoman. However that life is not for me and I appreciate everyone that respects my views. PEACE
If u compare between racheal longs english and california love,u will no madamn long go skol pass california love.madamn long seems calm and well learned.while califonia love behaves like a tout.am sure long even has money and more pretty more than california olofufu
well,with the economty of Nigeria,its advisable you watch d no of children u av,u can be rich today nd wake up poot 2mao,so she shld nt abort bt tell her husband dat dis will be der last kid nd he shld pardon her,bt make sure u dnt abort,cos it might end up wrong.just beg him 2 accept dis last baby.
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