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Saturday, 21 June 2014

Dear LIB readers; please answer this question...

Question from a LIB reader. Find it below...
Please help me sort out this problem. In a family where the husband earns N150,000 every month, and the wife earns N750,000 every month and they both work in the same company, and their kids are lacking parental care, love and discipline, who between them should resign and stay home to take care of the kids?

210 Comments:

  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:39 , Blogger Olu Alvin said...

    its base on tribe

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:42 , Blogger Chidera Ngoka said...

    Simple the father


     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:42 , Blogger OgeAussie said...

    The partner with the lower income

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:43 , Blogger Chidera Ngoka said...

    Simple "the father"

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:43 , Anonymous luchi said...

    Lol d man shuld stay @ home nd tkia of d kds,

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:43 , Blogger Chidera Ngoka said...

    The father

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:47 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Hmmm... Well..they could both save up enough to start a business depending how well they understand each other.. Most men don't like it when their wives are in charge but its something that can be worked out between the couple at least for the sake of the children...

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:47 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Stale!Such does not exist,is just ur imagination. You can't even earn 150 anywhere in this country not to talk of 750k.Also what qualification does she has to earn that much and the husband does not have. SO ITS STALE!!!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:47 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    The man.....in the long run 150k won't be enuf for d household expenses and savings.....anyways b/w d two of dem sha.....mizlinda, heard one of the girls' hostel in uniben was on fire earlier on....biko check.....

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:47 , Anonymous Nwa Aba said...

    No one should resign, make out time for the kids

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:47 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    The man should be the house-husband, while he negotiates with the wife on how the chores will be handled amicably for love of a united and stable family.

    There are lots of men being house-husbands in London and it works well for the family.

    Ego and pride should be put aside whilst God's love and wisdom must reign if a stable family is to be attained..

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:49 , Anonymous Femi said...

    The real issue is not how much they earn or who should resign, rather, it is: Are they one team? If one, then as the man, I will resign to commence a service-delivery business, seeking the how-to first with our combined resources and effort as we build up our children's values.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:49 , Anonymous tianahdaps said...

    None of them!the husband would lose his self esteem stayin home wit d kids.d wife aint an option too hehe

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:49 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    The real issue is not how much they earn or who should resign, rather, it is: Are they one team? If one, then as the man, I will resign to commence a service-delivery business, seeking the how-to first with our combined resources and effort as we build up our children's values.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:50 , Blogger Pamela Ugochi Orji said...

    Oh boy, guy resign ooo. 600k no be beans. Linlin u stil dey answer dis kind question? Nawaa oo

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:52 , Blogger whitefalcon said...

    The one with the lesser pay should fuck off.

    Oya critics, start to hammer yourselves!! #tongueout#

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:53 , Blogger precious nwogu said...

    Shooo! Please let's leave that man superiority shit and face facts!! Obviously the man should leave his job and get a shop. Food first b4 ego oo

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:53 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    The man naw. Unless he can find another job that pays just as much or more than what his wife is earning, he should please swallow his pride and stay at home, or start a business, while the wife works.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:54 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Na papa joo!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:54 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Na papa joo!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:56 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Ah!!! This is complicated oh

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:58 , Anonymous Osas said...

    This is very tough and wisdom is needed here. Base on tradition, is the right of woman to take care of the home, while the man work so the man can't resign. but the woman is financially good. so I will suggest a nanny.

    Wisdom and understanding is most important at this point

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:58 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Stupid question get a good nanny to permanently stay in ur house n take care of d kids.do u xpect ur hub to sit at home n babysit? Fool

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 00:59 , Blogger akhere osezuah said...

    father


    #overthemoon

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:00 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Let the husband stay home nah. Plenty of time for him to take care of the kid and still have time for a side chick.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:01 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Dere are cooperate maids all over,be dere askin nonsense question even if d man earns 10k n u 1mil he is d head n shuld neva sit in d house,wat nonsense

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:02 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    This is very silly
    and a complecated question to ask.

    Infact am confused

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:03 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    D wife ofcourse..not even money can take d place of a wife..itz hard I knw,but that's Y ur a woman and ur meant to Mek painful sacrifices if not for anytin,for d sake of ur kids

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:04 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Simple d man

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:05 , Blogger glowy sofiscated said...

    Non...let d guy not bring any male ego joo...dey shuld try nd sought tins out...

    Pls visit my shoe blog

    www.glowysofiscated.blogspot.com

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:05 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    oh my God I can't answer this linda

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:06 , Anonymous chu said...

    Bia Linda u don start oo

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:08 , Blogger Paul Ekwere said...

    The mother should resign cos mother's part of the parental care is needed most by the kids. Gbam!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:10 , Blogger ONYX GODWIN said...

    Non!! Get a nanny,or close family member to come take kai of em,money is really important !! If its really necessary a parent shud resign,den d dad shud,750,000-150,00=?? Do d maths n tank me later

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:12 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    To be frank with u,if I were to be in d woman's shoes i wont quit my job,becos its that same money I would use in taking care of my children,150,naira is actually nothing,whn everyting is so expensive, abeg,it only depends on d type of parental care u talking about,cos sending ur kid to a gud schl, clothing dem with d best clothes,giving em everytin they want,dats still called parental care and love to me o.Non shuld quit their jobs,instead if u talking about love and discipline,they shuld be more devoted in dat aspect,rather than quit.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:16 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Papa, please stay at home. Gbam!!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:19 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    What is the parental care all about without the money. The fact remains that without enough money, even a perfect mother can't do more than she can.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:22 , Blogger Shina Shine said...

    see gobe
    father



    BORN TO SHINE!!!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:23 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Who says the father can't provide adequate parental care?. Is he handicap physically? Leprosy do am?

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:27 , Anonymous smiley face:-) said...

    The husband should resign and stay with the children. He should please do online courses to improve himself and later find a better paying job that he has academic qualifications for. The wife should please, please appreciate the husband and still respect him because it is hardworking raising and caring for children. This sounds like a long story but it is my sincere opinion.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:35 , Blogger ONYX GODWIN said...

    See dis one? If u knw how much most pple earn ur mouth go fall(media,telecommunications, oil etc)... Poverty mentality

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 01:35 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Of course the father. The income difference is too vast. Then again, there's a stigma against stay-at-home dads so I think it's best if both work.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 02:17 , Blogger Steve said...

    The last time I checked. God made made the man to be in charge.. So figure it out..

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 02:17 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    The woman should set up a good biz that will yield income for d family and the same time give her time for her family.after that she can resign the man should never become a house husband.men needs respect.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 02:22 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    The man. I'm not forfeiting my and my kids' comfortable life for his ego.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 02:38 , Anonymous Will said...

    SIMPLE! the father will stay home and at the end of each month the wife will transfer N600k directly into his account. Balanced.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 02:39 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    You are very wrong bruh!! People are earning much more than that. Wake up mehn. Don't get left behind

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 02:47 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    It needs wisdom 4 d 2 of them esp d wife 2 decide. They shd think of their kids

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 02:54 , Anonymous Lady kim kim said...

    The wife,it is nt d duty of the wife to take care of the family on any grounds.they sud use wot they have to start up a business.am sure it wud ve taken them sum yrs b4 figuring they ve a family problem n am also sure they had plans on their salaries all those yrs.they can live fine...

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 03:17 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Are u sure u live in Nigeria? U can't earn 150k in this country, let alone 750k? Lol..u need to get exposed so u don't end up living and dying in penury!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 03:19 , Blogger Ibrahim, I said...

    The wife should stay home.....Pls we should be objective in our comments

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 03:28 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Ignorance

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 04:27 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    guy stay home and take kia of your family.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 04:29 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Dodo, if she's a full staff in an oil company and her husband is a contract staff, dat's what they'll most likely earn mthly

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 04:44 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Wake up.....

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 04:47 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    @John Beach..pls don't b myopic in ur thinKing. Pple earn more than dt as salary in a month. Deputy manager in banks earn abt 800k a month. Entry level in oil producing coys earn abt 1.5m monthly so wake up. As per ur question Linda , d husband shd b happy to resign without being told.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 04:54 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Ignorant fool!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 04:55 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    @ John beach. U re suffering from a very great ignorance! Pls do not comment on a post you ve got no idea on. Mr. Primitive!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 05:39 , Anonymous patricia said...

    The father definitely

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 05:50 , Blogger ukwumaka theophilus said...

    Hahaha. I don't like question like this o. Ms Linda , you have a way of putting people in tight corners. Truth be told, the man shlould resign.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:05 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Everyone that says the mother should resign, even though you see the $600,000 difference in their salaries (which will negatively affect their standard of living) is a big idiot. It happens all the time in American homes. The man should quit & be a stay at home dad for the children. If he ends up finding a better paying job, then switch places with your wife.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:07 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    John hurt much? Awww. It should be the husband. no unecesary ego were there's love n respect but my take is u both keep ur jobs n spare some time ur kids. Both of u had them ----C21

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:17 , Blogger sheyi said...

    Sensible

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:18 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    A man is supposed to provide for his family. No doubt about it. The man can't stay at home doing all the house chores and the woman coming late at night from work and saying "darling, what did you prepare for this evening". It is demeaning! For salary structure. The difference isnt dat much. It depends on how you value money. But remember that the kids will act later in future on the training they get now.

    www.justhealthng.blogspot.com

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:21 , Blogger sheyi said...

    The fact that u can never work and get 150k is ur problem and it doesnt men someone else can't.there are jobs that pays over a millon naira.So shut up and get to d point here....

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:35 , Anonymous TayO said...

    Lol.and where did u get dt news?plz its false.Linda dnt waste ur tym on dis ooooo

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:38 , Anonymous Amarachukwu. said...

    Is depends on their understanding,is suppose to be the mother but looking @ their salary is the husband but in some cases the man will refuse becos they the type of insult they will get from they wife if they depend on their wife while some men will gladly do that...everytin depends on the understanding of the man n the type of woman the wife is.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:41 , Blogger Zenki Moye Brown said...

    the man of course......... he shud become a "house husband".

    hw can u let go of 600k becos u wanna proof u d head of d home, huh????????

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:45 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Poor u? U think nobody earns 750k? Cared to find out how much d oil coys, mid-level of telecoms n banks pay? Wake up darling...people r earning way more

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:50 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    No one needs to resign! The woman, if she loves her family, should cut down her hours and work part-time. Even 50-75% part-time will still bring her a good salary (still higher than her hubby's!). I am sure she is of immense value to the company for the salary discrepancy to be so huge.... They'll be happy to keep her in her part-time role rather than lose her completely!
    Silentknight

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:51 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Best tin izz if u av a granny bring her over to hlp u train d kids while u guys are away

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:53 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Correct yarn....I c na only u get sense here!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 06:54 , Anonymous yung-DM said...

    They could always find another alternatives..

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:04 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Children need parental love, not nanny love

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:05 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    D man ofcourse...forget sentiments Nigerians,be realistic fr once!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:09 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    The woman should resign,forgetting the fact that she ends big it is her duty as a mother to take good care of her children.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:10 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Both of them can resign.......if u ask me further question peren!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:11 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    You're so daft. Painful sacrifice? You mean on the woman's part or on the children's part? Because if she quits and that big chunk of income ceases for the family, everybody will suffer that loss; and when I say everybody, I mean the husband, the wife and the kids. So while you're there thinking of sacrificing the woman's pain, you're stupidly sacrificing the whole family's well being by being egocentric.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:12 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Mumu, which answer have you given now?

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:14 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Best answer so far! Very apt!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:16 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I suggest LIBers pray God for a better understanding of his word then read Proverbs 31...
    Thats the only mgbo I can suggest for this question.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:16 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Non they cud get a baby sitter becos if the man should stay at home them it means even with d little he earned b4 he felt less of a man then wat do u think will happen wen he seats home all day then, then second the woman can resign becos it mean a lot of funds will be lost that can be used to keep the home going so in my view get a baby sitter or get one or both ur mums to come stay over

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:19 , Anonymous Contoh Naskah said...

    The mom should be care to the kid than prefer to work.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:22 , Anonymous Cynhams Cakes, Abuja said...

    Who told you people don't earn 150k in this country? Na wah ooooooo.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:23 , Anonymous Cynhams Cakes, Abuja said...

    Supported! !!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:25 , Anonymous Cynhams Cakes, Abuja said...

    Lol @side chick.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:30 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    U ve posted dis shit bf! Abeg park well

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:30 , Blogger Shoutozone said...

    @Chi, I love ur contribution. Both of dem shuld reach a compromise, and start a business dat'd make both or one of dem closer to d kids and yet be a person of worth.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:31 , Blogger Francis Okoduwa said...

    First of all this story is obviously made up. If u choose to marry a woman that earns more than u do obviously u av become somewhat of a slave to ur marriage I know this cos av seen this happen to a couple of dudes I know.Going with the question its only reasonable the man resigns then go back to the drawing board n figure out a business u can start n grow on something that gives you the time to attend to your childrens needs at all costs. The kids start getting used to their father more than their mother buttom line it takes prayer and wisdom to overcome this sort situation.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:32 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Learner!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:33 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    None of them. It's not about the salary...They should both work out how to spend more time with their kids. And since they can afford it, a Nanny or help shouldn't be off the options.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:36 , Blogger Hiikay Nduka said...

    Lie... my uncle who's a bank manager in GTB earn 11m yearly so wat the fuck r u saying.... bt as for my tot over this issue... if I was the man here,i won't quite... bcos if u do dat ur wife start looking down on u... accepting dat really means selling of ur rite as a husband.... so I say a big no to dat.... it's better dey employ a nanny or a relates to stay with the kids... than for the man to quite n loss his rite.

    Via BlackBerry z10

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:41 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Honestly, if I'm in the man's shoes, me n my wife will discuss and open up a business then I will quit, business will allow me do school runs n stuff.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:43 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Rubbish,even d husband earn 30k it will be ok for d family so d wify should stay @ home nutin like d father be d head of family,they are people out dea earning 20k. Buh is ok for dea family.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:45 , Anonymous EDEE said...

    What r u saying? U shld keep ur ignorant thoughts to urself

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:46 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    You people sayin the man should resign. Just because u are chauvnists. Its wisdom needed.If the man resigns, I bet that marriage will not stand d test of time.After sumtime no mata how d woman loves the man she would end up disrespectiong the man, and u knw what happens next.the man shud start a biz on d size and hopefuly it matures to more than 150k per month or even more.To say the man to not contribute again to the marriage by resigning is sucidal.and also where are d grandmothers or they could use a nanny for a while.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:47 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    The husband


    XDON D DON

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:49 , Anonymous nwamere chibuike donald said...

    If the man work hard enuf hw will get there. But its preferrable his wife resign and take care of the house.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:49 , Blogger Theophilus Momoh said...

    The fucking father should stick his ass back@ home

    ##################GOD punish####################################devil

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:52 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    errrm why should one resign??dnt paremnts work together and still ahve time?
    they should find out time

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 07:59 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Let the woman resign and take care of her kids. What is the joy of a woman who is wealthy but have children that lacked motherly care? ...... For the love of money is the root of all evil.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:05 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    The main issue here is that the kids aren't getting enough parental care. Then who is in the best position to provide that care. Most commentators are focusing on money without critical evaluating the implication of asking a man to resign because he earns lesser than the wife in the long run. This is Nigeria and NOT UK or US. We all know that men usually get raw deals where the woman is the breadwinner. It is also too risky for the two of them to work in the same company. They should sit down and see things beyond the 750k and 150k. Evaluate all options but the man must stay on his job.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:07 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Who said so not cos u don't earn it does not mean others are not,so don't say wat u r not sure of.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:12 , Blogger williams robort said...

    Oga find something else to do. But do not turn baby setter

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:12 , Anonymous Bored Housewife! said...

    Boyyyyy!!! You are soooo... I dunno what word to qualify ur brain without insulting you!
    What do you mean by there's nowhere you can earn 150k per month? That's how Much most normal companies pay their staff for starters! 750k? That's a little under what some oil companies pay!
    If the wife is a PhD holder and the man is an ordinary degree holder, do you think they'd be paid same?
    Please, think before you write next time!

    It's all about their priorities... if they want to live big, man quits... if they don't mind the little things in life, lol, then the woman quits!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:15 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Ur too dumb. Ego will kill u if u don't watch it...

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:20 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    May God Heal ur thoughts n mind. Amen

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:27 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    the answer is simple they should employ a nanny

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:27 , Anonymous Mabel Osado said...

    Chauvinistic Pig!!!
    So it's a nanny that would raise your kids? I don't blame u! Thats why we have loads of insolent, nonsensical kids running around!
    I'm sure a nanny raised you!!!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:28 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Are u kidding me? @ u can't even earn 150 in this country not to talk of 750...like wat village in the country do u live in? Pls get informed my dear!!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:29 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    @paul so u want d mother 2 resign lie lie 600k na beans abi non of dem should resign dey should make time 4 dem no matter wat or go togo go luk 4 better ous maid

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:29 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I have been here and it is not funny. If the man stops with time the marriage will take a beating, they have to fight to make it work
    It is the womans call but it is hard to let go of so much money and go thru so much suffering. let the man endeavour to earn more

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:33 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Wisdom is needed. Men n dir ego. Instead d man shld look 4 anoda job dat isn't tym consumin. N d wife shld make out family tym. Just sayin...D Curious1

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:34 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    People earn millions in a mnth in dis country. I no a lot of peeps who dose earn mega bucks. Back to the gist d dad shuld resign.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:35 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    @john beach in this country u earn more than that so is possible a

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:36 , Anonymous bankole said...

    It is the woman that should resign of course. Man is not meant to stay @ home even without taking care of d kids nor doing house chores. Mine for an example.

    I am a civil engineer structures precisely and for almost 3 months now that av not goten a contract I know how my wife has been frustrating me @ home simply because she goes out in the morning and return in d evening.

    Women has this kind of believe that if they are richer than you, therefore they have the right to take any decision @ home without the man's consent.

    So my own take on the matter is for the woman to work for a while and quit the job.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:37 , Anonymous dance queen said...

    It's simple. Hire a good nanny!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:37 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Abeg jor, d father should resign and assist with anoda proper money earning venture dat cud spare him time for the kids while the woman makes dat stable income from d company. We shud be rational.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:39 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Hmm ds lyk a yoruba movie I watchd d tn ended up in divorce..my dear workn people stl take care of their kids both of shuld get a nanny nd make out tym to care for ur kids..if u ar her waitn for him to resign na divorce uar both headn too or him easily get anodr side stay at home mum who will teach him hw to train kids nd suck her p***y..also if d man resign in near future d woman wnt value or respect him again wen her frnds strt telin her hw great their husband is u no women nd their febble mind

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:40 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Ignorant is what you are so you need education. Thousands of people in Nigeria earn these figures and more. Is 150k too much? That's like the average professional salary my dear. Please believe in yourself, you can also earn this much.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:40 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I bu ewu....see ur mumu write up. People earn 5mil talk more of 150k. And for you to say anywhere in this country means you jas graduated from sec sch. You'll know things about salaries wif time.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:43 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    John,u are a village mumu.shut ur mouth if you don't know what to say

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:43 , Anonymous sparks said...

    John beach if you know nothing about qualifications,companies and how their salary scales are just be quiet. You must not comment saying its stale otherwise you make your own life stale

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:45 , Blogger taibat hassan said...

    Some folks here agrees that the husband should stay home and if he eventually does,he will get criticized,some would even use the term "he's not a man" he's been controlled by his wife" it best the man seeks employment elsewhere except he's not qualified enough and if he's not it best he apply's for a professional course so that he can boost his resume.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:47 , Anonymous sparks said...

    You are the fool,watch ur own children in d hands of a nanny suffer parental care and turn out spoiled

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:49 , Anonymous sparks said...

    Easier said than done,its 750 wifey,will your husband make that sacrifice for you? Rather from his 150 he will give to those girls he is sleeping with.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:51 , Anonymous sparks said...

    You are the fool,watch ur own children in d hands of a nanny suffer parental care and turn out spoiled

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:51 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    The question is so typically Nigeria. When a couple is working and it affects the welfare of the kids, whether they work in the same business place or not, the partner with the less take home gives up his/her job to stay at home and do the proper parenting. They dont need opinion pool to know what to do. It's only in Nigeria, you see people ask such stupid questions. Contrary to popular belief, it's not the place of the woman only to be a stay at home parent. Here, we see it as a taboo for a man to be a stay at home parent. We should note that it's not about the parents, it's about the kids and with the high standard of living, it's only natural for the partner with less take home to be the stay at home and shouldn't be something about losing pride.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:52 , Blogger Lushiesta said...

    Are u a learner or what? Shut up if ur not enlightened. In the bank you can earn the two incomes.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:53 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Where is the like button so I can click that ? This is one sane person on here for now . Linda. U need to upgrade . Put a like button on here

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:54 , Anonymous sparks said...

    Mothers part is need most paul so u can hv time for the other girls,hang out look fly and bring only 60k from d 150k home saying times r hard. That is rotten pride,allow your wife stay at work while u start up a business.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:56 , Blogger Uugoluv gracy said...

    Let them employ a nanny

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 08:59 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Most tyms pple work to get busy not even becoz of d earn. So both shld continue to work yl dey get a nanny for a kids. Coz omoh, if dat man stays @ home to take care of d kids, he will v time to cheat on d wife yld woman is busy forming breadwinner nd d marriage wnt last.
    Plz pple shld be real, der is no place a woman is happy to stay @ home yl d man provides for everything let alone d oda way round unles is a lazy woman.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:05 , Blogger Early Naija said...

    it surpose to be the wife nomatter her income...but mainly it depend on the number of boys or girls they have, if the number of girls is higher then it should be the lady but if its the population of boys that is higher......simple the father need to stay back, parental care is not something to joke with.....if you dnt train your child well it must surely give u a bad result

    I observed that mother can train a girl better and the same thing with father to his son

    ===== Naijadebit ==== Says so

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:07 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Stale...d father Ω̴̩̩̩̥α

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:07 , Blogger DOBY DOBY said...

    My dear it exists ooo.. kai pple evn earn 2m monthly. . Lyk seriously wer do u stay in naija dat pple dnt earn 150k in ur area

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:09 , Blogger DOBY DOBY said...

    None of dem shld resign. . Dey shld make out tym for deir kids.. or d husband shld open up a buz cos he can evn earn mor dan dat nd stil av tym for the family

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:12 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Maga, how dumb can u be. Pls leave that your cocoon village. How can u say nobody earns 150k in this country. Afo dikwa gi na imi there

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:21 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Linda and her stupid feminist pieces! Stupid people actually get their thinking influenced by pro-feminist stance Linda takes in all her article...and a mad man'll be wondering why she single. This is both unrealistic and BULLSHIT. Even without a disparity in income, isn't the consensus that women should work and not become house wives as per gender equality and the fact that every woman has a lot to contribute to society than to become a housewife so why should this article suggest that one partner leave their jobs, a cheeky jab at the fact that the man earns less. In times like this I pity females that get carried away with the feminist trend and not allow wisdom direct their wits. Being fulfilled in all facets of life would mean wisdom is operational in your life
    *you know who a word they say is good enough for?*

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:23 , Anonymous Aminu said...

    First of all "lol"....non of them need to resign, the wife needs to reschedule her programs which would enable her come back home early and take of her children, mom's care is very important.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:32 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    U obviously dont av a job dats why ur spitting rubbish.fool like u.idiat.moron.hu says u cant earn 750.wen ur mates dey earn 1M nd above,u dey here dey talk like a lost foolish non ambitious moron.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:34 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Infact u must b mad

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:34 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Wit dat ur baracuda nose . shattap dere

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:36 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Pls shut ur trap if u dnt knw wat u saying..i bet u uneducated..d r so many telecommunications n oil companies dat pay pple up to 750k or more..so close ur mouf

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:38 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Dey do not av 2 resign.Dey just av 2 create free tyms 2b home nd manage tym-offs btw demselves... For d woman 2 earn dt much,she's in a higher position,dt mins she should b able to leave work or create free times easily.... If dey can't do dis,get a Good Godly househelp/nanny
    *****its Yeancah****

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:38 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    1.) Do u know the meaning of stale? 2.) 750k na money? Your own don done o! So u don't know people are earning far much more! It's like the Okoye guy said Poverty na bastard!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:38 , Blogger katrina said...

    I agree with u,d man shud b in charge of putting food on d table while d woman shud b a supporting force to d husband and d kids

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:39 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    THE MOTHER......BUT THE MAN ALSO NEEDS TO HELP HER BY COMING HOME STRAIGHT AFTER WORK EVERYDAY

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:40 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    What part of the country are you in? Branch managers of banks earn about #1m a month o

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:42 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Another dumb lib person.stay there bitching ok?the least earning person in my house is my brother who just started work after his nysc.and he takes home about 220k after tax.dummy

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:42 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Speak for yourself o... its either you need to upgrade your cv or just change the organization in which you work. Hian!!! What an orientation. :(

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:43 , Blogger hilary obiorah said...

    Husband sharply.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:44 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    See dis ode, do u live under a rock?

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:45 , Blogger Neeqilata said...

    Ignoramus

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:50 , Anonymous Chikaka said...

    John beach get some exposure and come out of your village.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:58 , Blogger Yinka Adebiyi said...

    Why wud you say pple don't earn dt much, 750k per month is even small sef

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 09:59 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    @John Beach, you must be living inside Ifo in ogun state for you not know that people earn as much as that in this country. Some people earn as much as 1m, 2m even 3m monthly.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 10:00 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    The hubby should. Or they should get help and make time out for the kids

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 10:03 , Anonymous Bbg Eze said...

    If u ask me, na who I go ask? D matter wey u dey see so,..............

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 10:04 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Linda its nt adviseable for a man to be idle and it is d woman's responsibility to mane the home front. However in this case they shld both work bt create time for their children durin weekends n public holidays while dey get a corporate nanny to take kia of d children durin d week. D children shld also be taken to their grandparents so dey can feel d parental luv n affection. Wen they av gotten sufficient funds to carry out a business one person wit a gud business IQ shld resign n pursue d business which wil fetch him/her d time to parent their children. Wisdom is applicable to direct.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 10:15 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    I'm sure they can afford a nanny or a help.
    This can't happen bt if it does, the woman shld resign cos it's her duty to take care of the family while d man provides. The man can't take the woman's place and vice versa. Besides in this country,its a lot easier for woman to get job than men,so i'd suggest d woman resigns.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 10:18 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Do u knw hw much some ops head @ bank earns? FIRS or NIMASA? Jst bcz ur salary is 90k or below doesn't apply 2 ol Nigerians
    Bee gurl

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 10:26 , Blogger Vivian Chekwube said...

    In a single line, d man shld resign

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 10:26 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Fool, mother should resign indeed.... So both cannot work out a suitable arrangement? Typical male chauvinist bullshit.... Leave 750 for 150 is foolishness at its peak, even God go vex at the stupidity..... They just have to work as a team. Man should look for another job....

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 10:29 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    All these ladies saying the man should resign, u will still be the 1st to abuse and insult the man of being lazy, its not easy to tell a man to resign and stay at home to take care of d kids, even if its applicable in d western world, our norms n values re not d same with there's, as long as d couples re in nigeria its not gonna be easy 4 a man to stay at home and be doing houz choirs, its not pride nor ego,but its not always applicable in our society, for me,it will have psychological and emotional effect on the man later, if d man must resign, he must set up a good business, in order not to loose his value, bcos no matter hw much they luv themselves, once d woman bcoms d bread winner in d family, d music will change oo, bcos woman will always be woman, from Everistus Chikezirim

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 10:33 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Shut up objective to where? Is there any law that says only women provide parental care? Besides dnt even understand when they say lack parental care, it's very vague.... Don't they go to work and come back? It's foolishness for the woman to resign cos of stupid male ego....even if he resigns it's not permanent and he should get something doing on the side.... Of course the woman has to continue to give him respect as the head of the home.....

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 10:47 , Blogger DON DUMEX said...

    LOGICALLY AND SENSIBLY, THE WOMAN SHOUDL KEEP ON WORKING AND THE MAN SHOULD GET A BETTER JOB.
    DONDUMEX.COM

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 11:05 , Blogger agun tina said...

    All na story to me...to be realistic the man should resign cos if u look at d family d woman is technically taking care of it...when they live in lekki and dere children study in the best schools wit good cars do u actually think d man is taking care of the family cos she earns 5times more than he does so d moment she stopped say goodbye to ikoyi and fancy school and welcome to oshodi cos that what the husband can actually afford....but in the real sense they could be able to come to an understanding on aw to rise there kids....Babe PLS don't leave ur job employment is fucking hard in Nigeria and when u stop husband will remember u r not economically and can't manage wat he brings home....abeg wetin go happen at the end of the day to d marriage

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 11:13 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    You must have your head in the sand. Be jonesing where people are earning 2m as monthly salary.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 11:18 , Blogger chukukere chikaodi said...

    Funniest comment ever. Lol

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 11:24 , Anonymous halimsy said...

    When he get a better job that pays a gud amount of money like 500000 then the wife can quit

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 11:30 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Add up the CEO of Torch Media Group, publisher of Torch Magazine on BBM- 21ac1b31 nw, he is ready to chat with you! #yoruwood_edition

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 11:31 , Blogger Anyistic said...

    What kind of question is this? Is parenting inversely related to parenting? Can money be a substitute for good parenting? A horde of people would scream that it is the woman's duty to take of the children. Another horde would scream that he who earns less should resign.

    I would look at it differently. Let the couple work out something that would enable them bring up responsible children

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 11:39 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    All these ladies saying the man should resign, u will still be the 1st to abuse and insult the man of being lazy, its not easy to tell a man to resign and stay at home to take care of d kids, even if its applicable in d western world, our norms n values re not d same with there's, as long as d couples re in nigeria its not gonna be easy 4 a man to stay at home and be doing houz choirs, its not pride nor ego,but its not always applicable in our society, for me,it will have psychological and emotional effect on the man later, if d man must resign, he must set up a good business, in order not to loose his value, bcos no matter hw much they luv themselves, once d woman bcoms d bread winner in d family, d music will change oo, bcos woman will always be woman, from Everistus Chikezirim

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 11:39 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    @anonymous 9.24am, I stopped reading all other comments after yours. You nailed it, gbam! Any other comment is irrelevant after yours.
    LS

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 11:46 , Anonymous AFFLUENCE said...

    To me, this is not an issue.
    firstly, both the man and the woman should set their priority right. this will enable them know what is the most important thing. if money is the most important thing , the the man should resign and if the the joy of the family( father mother children) is the most important thing then the woman should resign for the betterment of the children, their is greatness greater than the one they have in the tomorrow of their children and the family at large. we all believe that women do best in talking care of children. In conclusion, Either of them can resign but it has to do with their understanding and priority. THANK YOU.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 11:48 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Pls im a female doctor post nysc earning 172k as take home,so what do u mean by u cant earn 150kin this country???Dont feel ur circumstance applies to others,thank u

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 11:53 , Blogger george akar said...

    Foolish pride. Resign outright & let your wife make the money while you look for a job that can allow you time for the kids.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 12:34 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Anno 10.4am u HV alot of brain,u'r a very intelligent person I admire your wisdom, u HV answerd d question if Linda will see that.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 13:35 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Get a maid

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 13:35 , Blogger Moyedele Oyeleke said...

    What nonsense ! What are the respecting young women in Africa thinking these days ? Yeah he earns lower but lets be realistic which man commenting here would do it ? That's why boko haram are doing what they are doing !

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 13:49 , Anonymous Paulo said...

    Since love is what binds dem, d father can humbly resign but the mother must not take her hands off the deck totally. She be very careful 2 avoid anytin datg wl cause the father 2 feel inferior.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 14:00 , Blogger Presh Avtadak said...

    How can one say there are no companies where people are not paid N150,000 not to talk of N750 000 in Nigeria. Hey wake up, my boss is paid N1.2m monthly okay. So saying it's not possible, it's not true.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 14:29 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Hian! Whc kind Q b dis na? Don't they knw ders smthn called a nanny?? Ok let's say der wasn't, then d husband should resign no two ways abt it

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 16:20 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Thank you o! There are a lot of daddies out there but not that many fathers. When a high percentage of the country think it's only a mother's duty to nurture the kids and all the father needs to do is provide material things. No wonder the country is the way it is. What happened to fathers loving their children the right way, being in every part of their lives, first word, first step, being able to care for them when they are sick etc. it's so sad the way Nigerian fathers relate with their young children from afar. I have seen a man go and beg his neighbour to allow his wife come and help take care of his kids for a week because his wife just gave birth, she was still in the hospital and he either didn't know how to take care of the other kids or he thought it wasn't a man's job to wake them, bath them etc. he had to call on another man's wife to take care of his flesh and blood...... Very very sad indeed

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 16:22 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    So if he takes care of the kids, he's no longer on charge? Your thinking is very backward my friend!

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 17:25 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    D husband should leave d job of course while I pay him N150,000 k as monthly salary

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 17:26 , Blogger Pamela Ify said...

    the man shud. d wife is earning 5x dan him. money isnt evrything, bt its a necessity.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 17:38 , Anonymous Funmi olawale said...

    The husband should leave the job with love so the that wife can bring more fortune to liberate the family. That's my opinion anyway.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 18:00 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Well, it happened to us! I had a job in financial services, earning roughly less Dan 400k, my wife was earning over a million a month. One us had to resign it was me without thinking. If u married, it's family income rather Dan individual incomes, some Pple say men r getting lazy, d truth it has nothing to do with dat @ all, in d office environment, Pple work wit brains nt muscles, so a woman cld be smarter Dan a man, n do way better. Well, for abt 1 year, I tried to get back on my feet after I resigned, didn't get a job, so I started a business supplying diesel (my wife funded it) I expanded it to roughly over 20 tankers. Money from d business is 10times more dat wot my wife earns. And this year she resigned to join me! Dats it, it was hard first (bruised pride) but God helped "us"

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 18:02 , Anonymous APPLE said...

    It goes without saying. The man should resign . But madam MUST continue to respect ova at the TOP.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 18:06 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Let's be realistic here, u mean d man should stay at home, in d morning he'll wake up prepare breakfast? Bath d kids? Take them to sch? Then come back n go to d mkt to pick foodstuff? Lol, In d afternoon he'll go n pick them frm sch? Come back n prepare dinner? Chineke, so this is una thoughts for us? some women are wicked ooo, thankGod women are not God.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 18:11 , Anonymous That girl from texas said...

    you dont have to resign to take care of your kids. like seriously?? all you gotta do is work less and and not stay in the office 24/7. apparently it's left to the couple to decide who works less

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 18:52 , Blogger Babajide Lawal said...

    the man shld quit since he earns low, lol

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 19:27 , Blogger Zizi said...

    The man of course, he should resign abeg

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 19:48 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    resign ke.

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 21:02 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Anonymous 9:21am why is it paining you? And how is it unrealistic for a woman to earn more than a man? And you just had to bring linda being single into it. It's idiots like you that expect a Woman to go through shit in the name of marriage

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 21:11 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    So the family should be poor because the woman wants to massage the ego of the head. All these traditions are the reason africa has watched the rest of the world leave us behind

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 21:15 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Foolish comment, when people have no points in an argument they turn to God and religion as an escape route

     
  • At 21 June 2014 at 21:16 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Mumu comment. na so Dem dey just set up business?

     

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