Dear LIB readers: How do I return my engagement ring?
From a female LIB reader
Just four months after I started dating this guy (we began dating in November 2013) he proposed to me on valentine's day in front of his friends and his two sisters during a mutual friend's val birthday party. I couldn't believe he proposed so fast and I honestly wasn't expecting it. But because he proposed in front of all those people including his family I couldn't say no and embarrass him so I accepted his ring. But I have no intention of marrying this man. Not only am I seeing someone else, he's just not my type but please do not ask me why I'm dating him. I have my reasons. It's been two months since we got engaged and I've been looking for ways to return the ring. How do I go about it? Please if you have no reasonable thing to say, keep your opinion to yourself. Only mature responses please
See nobody should criticize her. For me i blame the guy,he is suppose to some how find out if the marriage feeling is mutual between them that is if the girl is ready to settle down, before popn such a question.so i will say they girl should sit down and talk to the guy and make him see reasons why it wont work. And yes he will be hurt but dis is marriage so if he is matured he will understand.
But I dont get this chic,he isn't your type, you are dating someone else, u r just confused dear, thank God u know u r not ready for marriage . Good luck to u
U may not want to marry this guy or probably he's not ur type as claimed by u, buh I think in one way than many u might have given him d confidence to propose to u bcos he feels u d right person 4 his future tru d whole pretense u've showed while going out wif him and dats unfair. am not gonna judge u thou cos d milk has been spilled already buh I credit u for not marrying him out of pity so I urge u to remorsefully return d ring and apologize, probably he may 4gve u #smh.....
ermmmm!! you will doing the boy a tremendous favor by giving him his ring. frankly he deserves better. you had no intention of marrying him but you chose to go ahead perhaps for your selfish interest. please i am begging give the man his ring quickly. So that another woman can find her husband Don't stand in the way of another woman's happiness
Sincerely i think your not a faithful person. even the person your presently involved with is in big trouble. because your not stable and you lack integrity. pray for forgiveness from God coz your so gonna hurt him.
Don't blame d guy for proposing buh blame u for pretending to b his type and leading him on to this point cos u must have given him such confidence to think u also mutually into him #unfair. Not gonna #judge u cos d deed has been done so I kindly advice u remorsefully return d ring to him @ least he ain't married to u yet dat wud hve been more disastrous and hopefully he 4gives u #smh.....
This is one of the reasons why some ladies will start saying "awon ko lori oko" (no man is coming their way).
So many ladies out there are looking for just a boyfriend and there you are with a potential husband and your claim is that you're dating him for fun.
I think we women always have a second thought/think of the aftermath of whatever we want to dabble into because of an outcome like this.
If you break that guy's heart, remember that the next girl he's going to date will suffer for your misdeed. And such lady will suffer/cry for a crime you committed.
No body will advise you, you're to make the decision yourself
BAbe, dont think how or when or where.............pls just return the ring. trust me he will get over it! Stop wasting time for both of you before u block road for yourselves. shogbo?
Anonymous said... Your actions are not REASONABLE or MATURED. Why and where in the heavens are you expecting reasonable and matured answers from? Abeg take several seats jare! April 16, 2014 at 9:07 PM
Thank you jare for your VERY matured response to this juvenile. you waited 2 months to ask for advice. Ole people like you give the rest of us single women a bad name. idiot
You are seeing som1 else n yet dating another person u proud to say he is not ur kind of man to the point of accepting an engagement ring. Well my advice is that u should return d ring to him one on one n apologize. Then nxt time dnt accept ring 4m som1 u wont want to marry all cos u dnt wanna embarrass or mak him feel disappointed.
i wouldnt judge u cause i know alot of guys who pride themselves in being what a woman wants like to trap a girl when they feel the girl is the one for them. they do not focus on building the relationship and making sure the girl sees them as the one for her instead they focus on how to make sure she doesnt leave them and then they pressure u to date them propose and then marry u. if the girl too isnt sharp she would fall. what i feel u did wrong was that u didnt return the ring immediately. see just sit him down and tell him u are not at that point in your life now. infact if i were u i would attack him for pulling that kind of stunt on me so soon. i mean how many months have we known each other. guys like to form sharp these days. they think they can play around and then trap one good girl like as if she be fool.
babe dont let anyone make u feel bad. sit him down and talk to him. do it in a public place so at least u know he cant kill u. cause dude may be a physco.... how can u propose to someone 4months after u guys started dating.... where r u rushing to
don't worry hunny its over he knows now - you do know this is an international blog website right ok Ladies WE SHOULDNT BE SENDING THE WRONG SIGNALS SMH People who propose in public wtf though!
Just call him and b sincere to him. its better u tell him, dan 4 him 2 catch u cheating on him or hears it frm outside. Jst tell him. Ur future happiness shud be very important to. isnt it?
If only Senate will pass a bill that real names must be signed off on any write up on social media, we will read less of this type of write ups. Goooossshh Linda pls I know sometimes you allow these write ups for reasons we understd but think of 'goodwill'. Ask Accountants what this means. You are perceived as International blogger, why entertain these or you can as well create student's blog.
ok, here is my own sincere advice to you, first of all, what has happened has happened no matter how stupid it was and how much anybody criticizes you. secondly, there is only one solution to this problem, "communication", sit down and talk, call him sit him down and talk to him about it no more lies or covering up the reason why, tell him the truth. true he will get heartbroken or even mad to an extreme point, but tell the truth, explain to him why you cannot marry him and why you had to accept the ring to avoid embarrassment am sure that beneath all that he'd appreciate you not embarrassing him in public because it could have been worse. ps if this guy has had any history of domestic violence even as small of uttering i will hit or slap you with his mouth, i suggest you do this on a phone call and post the ring to him dhl, fedex or nipost....... lol, just kidding though, but i hope this helps. pls do avoid leading a double kind of life in the future, a straight forward lifestyle is less stressful, less complicating and above all you have peace of mind and a clear conscience which will boost your confidence and make you different and special from most women.... dnt forget communication kills assumptions especially in a relationship. goodluck my dear
Public proposal is blackmail sometimes. A woman can be pressured to say yes even if she really wants to think about it. It is easy to blame you. But I am sure many women here might be bold to identufy with you. Sorry and be bold.
If she knows wat she wants then why bring it here. D guy is not to b blamed joor! Who knows, might just b a sugar Daddy dat wants her as a 4th wife. Maybe d real guy no get money. CONTENTMENT is a virtue...........
I Can't Categorically Tell You How To Return D Ring Now Without Receiving Thundering Slap••But I Will Inform U̶̲̥̅̊ Immediately I Consult Ifa••odoyo*for ya church mind u want matured advice••like say the sense wey i get,N̶̲̥̅̊å U̶̲̥̅̊ dash me*mcheeeeeew*#BluntIjebuGirl#@gbemmysexy1#
First u need to ask for God's forgiveness and mercy for u to sail thru this....then call him privately and tell him the whole truth. Tell him you cldnt reject the ring not to embarrass him infront of his family n friends....God help u out
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This girl is a very stupid idiot. See attitude. Don't marry him please cos u r an animal & he deserves more than that
See nobody should criticize her. For me i blame the guy,he is suppose to some how find out if the marriage feeling is mutual between them that is if the girl is ready to settle down, before popn such a question.so i will say they girl should sit down and talk to the guy and make him see reasons why it wont work. And yes he will be hurt but dis is marriage so if he is matured he will understand.
Your cup Don dey full small small
Your cup Don dey full small small
But I dont get this chic,he isn't your type, you are dating someone else, u r just confused dear, thank God u know u r not ready for marriage . Good luck to u
U may not want to marry this guy or probably he's not ur type as claimed by u, buh I think in one way than many u might have given him d confidence to propose to u bcos he feels u d right person 4 his future tru d whole pretense u've showed while going out wif him and dats unfair. am not gonna judge u thou cos d milk has been spilled already buh I credit u for not marrying him out of pity so I urge u to remorsefully return d ring and apologize, probably he may 4gve u #smh.....
ermmmm!! you will doing the boy a tremendous favor by giving him his ring. frankly he deserves better. you had no intention of marrying him but you chose to go ahead perhaps for your selfish interest. please i am begging give the man his ring quickly. So that another woman can find her husband Don't stand in the way of another woman's happiness
Sincerely i think your not a faithful person. even the person your presently involved with is in big trouble. because your not stable and you lack integrity.
pray for forgiveness from God coz your so gonna hurt him.
Harlot dats wat u are u hv ur reasons for dating him buh he us not ur type innit? Na Oju Kokoro go kee u ochicha
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Don't blame d guy for proposing buh blame u for pretending to b his type and leading him on to this point cos u must have given him such confidence to think u also mutually into him #unfair. Not gonna #judge u cos d deed has been done so I kindly advice u remorsefully return d ring to him @ least he ain't married to u yet dat wud hve been more disastrous and hopefully he 4gives u #smh.....
This is one of the reasons why some ladies will start saying "awon ko lori oko" (no man is coming their way).
So many ladies out there are looking for just a boyfriend and there you are with a potential husband and your claim is that you're dating him for fun.
I think we women always have a second thought/think of the aftermath of whatever we want to dabble into because of an outcome like this.
If you break that guy's heart, remember that the next girl he's going to date will suffer for your misdeed. And such lady will suffer/cry for a crime you committed.
No body will advise you, you're to make the decision yourself
she is a fool
JOYCHI you have complex issues i swear!!!!
BAbe, dont think how or when or where.............pls just return the ring. trust me he will get over it! Stop wasting time for both of you before u block road for yourselves. shogbo?
Jst d way u collect it abi......?
Anonymous said...
Your actions are not REASONABLE or MATURED. Why and where in the heavens are you expecting reasonable and matured answers from? Abeg take several seats jare!
April 16, 2014 at 9:07 PM
Thank you jare for your VERY matured response to this juvenile. you waited 2 months to ask for advice. Ole people like you give the rest of us single women a bad name. idiot
Were you on crack then?
Ship off the ring, "I have my reasons for dating him" I wonder what the reasons could be.. Ndi Mmadu sef..
CAPT J.D
You are seeing som1 else n yet dating another person u proud to say he is not ur kind of man to the point of accepting an engagement ring. Well my advice is that u should return d ring to him one on one n apologize. Then nxt time dnt accept ring 4m som1 u wont want to marry all cos u dnt wanna embarrass or mak him feel disappointed.
i wouldnt judge u cause i know alot of guys who pride themselves in being what a woman wants like to trap a girl when they feel the girl is the one for them. they do not focus on building the relationship and making sure the girl sees them as the one for her instead they focus on how to make sure she doesnt leave them and then they pressure u to date them propose and then marry u. if the girl too isnt sharp she would fall. what i feel u did wrong was that u didnt return the ring immediately. see just sit him down and tell him u are not at that point in your life now. infact if i were u i would attack him for pulling that kind of stunt on me so soon. i mean how many months have we known each other. guys like to form sharp these days. they think they can play around and then trap one good girl like as if she be fool.
babe dont let anyone make u feel bad. sit him down and talk to him. do it in a public place so at least u know he cant kill u. cause dude may be a physco.... how can u propose to someone 4months after u guys started dating.... where r u rushing to
Return d ring o
don't worry hunny its over he knows now - you do know this is an international blog website right ok
Ladies WE SHOULDNT BE SENDING THE WRONG SIGNALS SMH
People who propose in public wtf though!
Gbosa!
Just call him and b sincere to him. its better u tell him, dan 4 him 2 catch u cheating on him or hears it frm outside. Jst tell him. Ur future happiness shud be very important to. isnt it?
@Hilary plenty gals go Dan brk ur hrt ooooo..... C as u cram d method for head
If only Senate will pass a bill that real names must be signed off on any write up on social media, we will read less of this type of write ups. Goooossshh
Linda pls I know sometimes you allow these write ups for reasons we understd but think of 'goodwill'. Ask Accountants what this means.
You are perceived as International blogger, why entertain these or you can as well create student's blog.
ok, here is my own sincere advice to you, first of all, what has happened has happened no matter how stupid it was and how much anybody criticizes you. secondly, there is only one solution to this problem, "communication", sit down and talk, call him sit him down and talk to him about it no more lies or covering up the reason why, tell him the truth. true he will get heartbroken or even mad to an extreme point, but tell the truth, explain to him why you cannot marry him and why you had to accept the ring to avoid embarrassment am sure that beneath all that he'd appreciate you not embarrassing him in public because it could have been worse. ps if this guy has had any history of domestic violence even as small of uttering i will hit or slap you with his mouth, i suggest you do this on a phone call and post the ring to him dhl, fedex or nipost....... lol, just kidding though, but i hope this helps. pls do avoid leading a double kind of life in the future, a straight forward lifestyle is less stressful, less complicating and above all you have peace of mind and a clear conscience which will boost your confidence and make you different and special from most women.... dnt forget communication kills assumptions especially in a relationship. goodluck my dear
just man up, sit down with him and be plain. simply tell him, u need time. marriage is far from your mind at the moment and you cant accept his ring.
Public proposal is blackmail sometimes. A woman can be pressured to say yes even if she really wants to think about it. It is easy to blame you. But I am sure many women here might be bold to identufy with you. Sorry and be bold.
If she knows wat she wants then why bring it here. D guy is not to b blamed joor! Who knows, might just b a sugar Daddy dat wants her as a 4th wife. Maybe d real guy no get money. CONTENTMENT is a virtue...........
I Can't Categorically Tell You How To Return D Ring Now Without Receiving Thundering Slap••But I Will Inform U̶̲̥̅̊ Immediately I Consult Ifa••odoyo*for ya church mind u want matured advice••like say the sense wey i get,N̶̲̥̅̊å U̶̲̥̅̊ dash me*mcheeeeeew*#BluntIjebuGirl#@gbemmysexy1#
i don't no why most Nigerians are very stupid she ask for advise not insult (rubbish)
i don't no why some people are very stupid she only need advise not insult.(rubbish)hisssssss
First u need to ask for God's forgiveness and mercy for u to sail thru this....then call him privately and tell him the whole truth. Tell him you cldnt reject the ring not to embarrass him infront of his family n friends....God help u out
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