Sunday, June 2, 2013

Dear LIB readers: Between my wife and my sister

From a male LIB reader
My younger sister has been living with me since I became independent and moved to Lagos to start a new life. That was eight years ago. I got married three years ago and my wife moved in with us and since then I have known no peace. They are constantly quarreling, making accusations, and have even exchanged blows a few times.
My wife packed out of the house in April with our two small children and said she would not return until my sister leaves the house. I can't send my sister packing because I am the only relative she has in Lagos and she just finished her university education and looking for a job. Asking her to leave means asking her to go back to Owerri where our parents stay and that's not what she wants at this time. I can't afford to get her her own place but I want my wife to return home. What do I do?

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hOTGIRL said...

ur an idiot!
a big fool!!
marry ur sister na.

otule!
why did u marry ur wife? just go dey fuck ur sister

Anonymous said...

One has 2 go

Anonymous said...

Your sister no go go marry?? She wants 2 destroy ur home. They say a man /woman marries and cling 2 one another leavin all family members 2 become one. Pls rent a 1 room apartment 4 ur sis

★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★ said...

The Bible says... "A man shall leave his father and mother(family) and cling to his wife" So its unequivocal that you need your wife back, first of all try and settle their differences and make them agree to stay together in peace, if they can't at all cost, bring back your wife and find away whatsoever and rent your sister an apartment.

adufe said...

well not difficult....she has to leave....families re important too buh ur wife nd kids? u rily dnt wanna go down dt road

★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★ said...

The Bible says... "A man shall leave his father and mother(family) and cling to his wife" So its unequivocal that you need your wife back, first of all try and settle their differences and make them agree to stay together in peace, if they can't at all cost, bring back your wife and find a way whatsoever and rent your sister an apartment.

Nneoyi Otu said...

Pls separate ur sister frm u n bring back ur wife,ur parents r still alive,let her join them or better still rent a room 4 her.if she does not respect ur wife,she s dis-respecting u indirectly.

khris said...

Your sister should understand her place in Ur home and give Ur wife the respect she deserves.And u should be able to control Ur sister common!!

↭PRINCE JOBLESS↭ said...

This is a joke right?

LOOOOOOOOOOL!!!!

I can't! OMGGGG!!!

There are really dumb people here, you know! LOOOOOL!!!

Queen Bee said...

U made a mistake from the beginning by letting ur sister stay after u got married,there will always be crisis when ur relations stay with u at early stage of marriage!
Well for now,if u think ur immediate family dats ur wife and kids are important to u,ur sister has to leave.who says she can't look for job from Owerri and I guess she has friends she can stay with too.in all she's an adult,she should go start her life.i think u have overpampered her too.
NB pls protect ur wife from ur relations,exchanging blows with her for that matter is going too far!

Anonymous said...

Then marry ur sister if u can't send her away! Arrant nonesense! All these sisters that will laying claims to one's husband! R u fucking ur sister? Tell her to go to onisha or owerri or whereever ur folks r.

Anonymous said...

Get uasf a new house brada!!!!

OLALEKAN ADEYEMI RAJI said...

HMmmmmm. Its hard man. Don't send ur sister out oooO, just try and talk to ur sis let her know ur wife is part of the family nw. God help us

Anonymous said...

Marry your sister then ode,you‎ can't get her own place but you‎ let her win over your wife shebi she is also a woman,her sister in-law would treat her the same way

Anonymous said...

It's simple, send her to owerri.....at least for awhile
Marriage is a commitment. Your family is your future not saying she aint, if she can't live peacefully with your wife then she gotta go

Anonymous said...

It's simple, send her to owerri.....at least for awhile
Marriage is a commitment. Your family is your future not saying she aint, if she can't live peacefully with your wife then she gotta go

Mama Baby said...

Dude ain't even serious. U clearly don't love or care for ur wife and kids. Can't believe u let it get to this stage. That u even have to ask sef. Pls marry ur sister let us know u r complete. Moving on.....

olumide samuel said...

Your wife of course or better option, you can ask your father...

Anonymous said...

U knw wot to do, so do it!

sQo said...

Lol you are unbelievable. U let your wife and kids (family) leave bcos of ur sister that will eventually go one day to start her own family

oby said...

My dear,caution ur sis,fighting ur wify is like fightin u,pls,go luk for ur wify nd kids nd stop dis sis tin!!

Anonymous said...

I feel u. Rent a small Apartment For your sis

bitchplis said...

Send d foolish sister back to d village n tell her she'l not return to ur house until she vows never to mess up wit ur wife again...abi iru aburo oshi wo niyen?

James said...

See dilemma. Na wa O!

I think your wife should be more accepting of your sister. She's not a threat for crying out loud.

Martins Aboy said...

Call the two of them together and let them settle their scores in front of u..cos u can't send ur sister packing neither can u send ur wife...soo the only solution to it is to stand up as the man of the house and tell ur sis that u can't bear ur wife packing out because of her and also tell the same to ur wife..u will be surprised at what the outcome will be...""U can also scold ur sister a little bit to freighten her cos man;marriage is ur life ooo!!! Don't joke with it at all and vice versa with ur family"""

Ruth E said...

Please Tell your sister to respect your wife bcos she is the woman of the house jst the way u ar d head of the house period.

Anonymous said...

If ur wife truely loves u she has to learn to deal with ur sister after all ur sister was there before she came and am sure she was nice to ur sister until u married her. Your sister will always be ur sister, ur wife packing out is blackmail after all she saw ur sister there before she moved in.

Adekunle Kazeem said...

This is a dilemma. Your home belong to your wife and you can't deny sister your home as well which is just temporal. But sincerely speaking, 8 years in damn okay to habour your sister and she knows that you're about to marry and she still feel she should still leaving them without having a plan to leave. She is not a kid from description. Her mate are independent. Just settle the feud amicable and let your sister knows that your wife has more right to the home than her. In some culture and faith, the wife own the home and she shouldn't have pack out in the first instance. You're a man, settle it without hurting your both parties.
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Anonymous said...

So you are putting what your sister wants over marrying a second wife abi???ewu owerri!

Anonymous said...

Some of you just like wasting our mb on stupid issues. Use ur common sense, you aint even man enof to handle ur wife & sister's relationship. U've ticked out all d options Ƨ̷o i suggest u stay glue to ur wife till u r able to secure a small apartment for her & please do all u can to bring ur woman & family together its important for d future of ur children.

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Thats women for you,they'll always have issues,trust 10men to live in that same house without any scuffle but two women,its already hell on earth.
The only way out is peace,and where there's peace someone is on fire enduring the heat. so I'll advice you caution your sister to avoid anything that will bring about confrotation with your wife,she should try endure till she gets her own house and prolly start her own family. coz am sure she won't tolerate such if it were her. Let her apologise to your wife not minding who's is at fault,your wife can't leave her home for her its not done.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

Anonymous said...

Get her out, your sister has no business in your house. Why did you even bother to marry? How do you expect to build a 'home' when from the very beginning you have this baggage. Too many people make this mistake.

Anonymous said...

Your sister should learn how to respect your wife like she would respect you and your wife should learn to tolerate your sister like she'll tolerate you!!! If they both truly n sincerely care about, then they'll live in peace

omotayo said...

Leave d house for them, by the time ur wife realises u have left and if her marriage is important to her, he will come back home except she sef wan go do nonsense and ur sis will behave if you can leave ur own house cos of their madness. Women n wahala sha.

Anonymous said...

My advice to you is that u suld go nd collect ur children from her den see if she won't come home. Her a conversation with ur wife explianing 2 her dat u can't chase ur sis away nd she suld jez be patient till wen she gets a job or get married. Moving out or giving u an ultimatum is nt d best option.

JJ said...

Your an idiot. How could you let your wife move out of the house? Your wife comes first, dummy. Send your sister back to your parents. If you weren't in Lagos, she would have figured something out.

Flavour said...

dont know what u will do...but ur wife has to move back in ASAP
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Anonymous said...

Try 2 seat d both of dem down and settle d issue amicably.... May God take control

Anonymous said...

Your sister should go back to owerri and look for jobs from there. Most applications are done online and she should come to lagos only when she hass tests and interview. She should better know that what she does to another will also happen to her when she gets married.

Anonymous said...

Your sister shoulda known all that before she started getting into conflict with your wife...learn the hard way she would. Send her a** back to her (your) parents

Anonymous said...

Are you for real????!Your statement 'going back to Owerri is not what she(your sister)wants at this time',makes me question your priorities!YOUR WIFE n KIDS have moved out because of YOUR SISTER..who are you married to???

Anonymous said...

in layman's term: YAWA! But I think u should have nipped the problem at the bud b4 it escalated. But I guess a good wife should not come between a man and his family. Then again a good family should learn 2 let a man n wife be. My suggestion try 2 make them both c reason, call them to order. U r d man of the house.

Anonymous said...

Ur sister shuld respect d woman of the house or leave,u hv to mk ur wife come back home.

big b said...

Your wife is d co-owner of ur house! If she says she cnt live in d same house with ur sister cos of d constant quarrels,den send ur sister bk to owerri b4 u die of hypertension! Besides its nt gud 4 ur kids to grow up under such environment. Ur sis is done with her uni education,she cn go bk&apply 4 jobs frm there! U r a marrid man&as such ur wife&kids come 1st in wateva decision(s) u make. Most women dnt like to live with relatives esp deir husbands relatives in d house. If ur wife isn't comfy with ur sista in d house&ur sista inturn cannot live peacefully in her(ur wife) own house without quarreln wit her den she shld go bk to her parents house or beta still find a man&marry! When uv done dt,mk sure non of ur relatvs or wifes relatives comes to live wf u again!

Anonymous said...

Hello my friend,

I am a man and I have only one sister.
If found myself your situation (God forbid though), I will ask my Sister to leave.

In this case, if you do not want your sister to go back to Owerri, then you must look for Money and get her an accommodation in Lagos.

Trying to broker peace between might work temporarily but they will surely start fighting after.

pwincess jummie said...

Talk to dem seperately, call ur wife first and explain to her dat no mata what she do u cnt send ur sister packing, dat she try to endure till ur sis secure a job, call ur sister too and threaten her dat if any fight sud occur btw her en ur wife den she is going bck to owerri instantly, make her understand aw its going to affect her and aw serious u re about it. As for ur wife, tell her to persevere and take ur sis as her own blood sis. Bliv in prayer too

Anonymous said...

find a way to rent an apartment 4 ur sis.cuz ur wife is mre important dan ur sis n she is ur oda half. Xo do nt let anitin nt even ur sis to cum btw u two.wen ur sis gets marid,she wil go to her husband house.xo b wise n do dryt tin.

Anonymous said...

B/w my wife n my sis:u have d ansa already,ur wife comes 1st helllooo..I'm sure ur sis has a couple of frnds she cud chill wit..bsyds ur kids nid 2 grow with both parents guiding dem!

Life | Poems | Inspiration said...

Common guy, use your brain!

Tell your sister to shape up or ship out.

Raylah said...

Mogbe o!!! Gabagun in d highest order :D

Anonymous said...

U̶̲̥̅̊ n Ūя̲̅ wifey α̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ 1,n nt U̶̲̥̅̊ n Ūя̲̅ sis.go get Ūя̲̅ wifey n tell Ūя̲̅ sis she has to tolerate n make do wit Ūя̲̅ wifey.Do nt tell Ūя̲̅ sis to LEAVE let her leave on her on choosing,if U̶̲̥̅̊ do,Ūя̲̅ siblings n folks wld use dat against U̶̲̥̅̊ n Ūя̲̅ wifey n U̶̲̥̅̊ wnt like dat.B wise!

Imade said...

Really?? Who gave u access to type this rubbish?!
His wife comes first, and the sister should learn to be respectful or move out. Its that simple.

Anonymous said...

Mscheew!! Send ur sis packing abeg! In d 1st place u shulda done dat b4 u got married,women r very territorial! Ur sis need to go!

Anonymous said...

What kind of daft question is this one biko nu. So you want your home to breakdown because of your sister? Then when she gets the so desired job or gets married and moves out, you will be left with the shambles of your marriage abi.
Idiot! Better find somewhere for her to stay asap or have self contained places finished in Lagos? And if she does not like it, she can sort herself out.
As for your wife, she is the one you should beg, only God knows what power show has been going on between them.

Anonymous said...

I think your sister should go and stay with her friends or something. Dosent she hope to get married one day? She should give you et your wife some privacy. I feel your wife has not been free since she married you and thats y shes angry. Let your sister move out, she is old enough. Dont keep yourwife out of her marital home for too long, the divorce process does not start in a day. Your sister is free to visit but please your wife et fam are your priority. Also pray.

Anonymous said...

Once he's married,his loyalty transfers 2his immediate family (wife n children), the home nw belongs 2d wife, let him talk 2dem privately n separately 2determine d actual cause of d antagonism, d root finally is jealousy onboth parts, d wife pprobably cos d guy gives some attention 2d sister; n d sister probably cos d attention focused on her 4d past 8yrs has bin diverted, if dey r irreconcilable he has no option dan 2send d sister home, afterall he wnt sleep with her in d nyt, simple

jennifer said...

Y won't yu know what to do?is she a baby?I mean ur sister.exactly n if yu weren't in lagos?are there not companies in owerri?or does she not know new couples need privacy to build the marriage?Dear Husband,pls get ur wife back n quitely take ur sis back to owerri.nobody will insult u if that's your worry.this is really simple!

Omorodion MLK Martin said...

That worked for a friend of mine. Nice one lol.

Uche said...

My brother, beg ur sister to understand, since she is a graduate she will soon get a job and probably get married and leave ur house

Anonymous said...

Wives can be bitches sometimes but some in laws r just unbearable whatever d case, ur wife should be ur priority cos u guys r one.

uchay said...

You be monkey!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Help me ask am o, Y wn't ur sis have d guts 2 xchange blows wif ur wife guy u too belittle ur wife o

IkwerreBoy said...

my guy sorry I feel your pain... you have to talk to both of them... beg your wife to develop a thick skin.. give a sound warning to your sista tell her no matter what and who did what she should not fight, hit or curse your wife if she does that it simply means she has know respect for you. you n your wife are one. I believe if you slap your sista she won't slap you back that should be the case between your wife and your sista if your wife slap her she shouldn't slap her back cos the moment she does that its a disrespect to you man and I don't think you should take that.

Oluyomi Odukoya said...

Your sister has no business living with you when you're married.. All these sisters in-law putting sand into someone else's tea, God is watching you and your cane is already soaked in kerosene. Dem plenty and the single ones are worse off. Abeg, send your sister to Owerri. In fact, you ought to have done that before getting married.. As it stands, get ready for a family tussle cos your sis will spew lies to your parents and that's where hatred for your wife would begin. Whatever you do, things will never be the same. You will also need to travel to owerri and explain to your folks to minimise the tension sending your sis to them will bring..

Anonymous said...

do unto others what you would want others do unto you

Anonymous said...

Lmao!!

Anonymous said...

Your sister must respect the fact that you are a married man now. Your wife should be your first priority. If your sister had even a little respect for you, she would not get into ultercations with your wife in the first place. Little things upset wives wen it comes to live-in-inlaws therefore those boundaries she has set in her home should be respected (e.g kitchen matters). Your sister should learn to tolerate as well. Going as far as exchanging blows is absurd. When she gets to her own husbands house, she would set her own rules. For now, your wife is in the right. Just try to appeal to your wife to be patient with your sis. I know family matters can be very dicy so thread carefully so as not to offend both parties. Be a man and make your sis understand that she must respect your wife's boundaries and even threaten to ask her to leave if she cannot respect that (but pls don't actually ask her to leave oooo). And ask you wife to overlook certain things. She should learn to tolerate as well and wen she can't bear anymore, correct and set her inlaw staight in love and in a calm voice.
.....MiZz Marcel speaks

Edoboy said...

Linda ds dude is a complete Joke, he is choosing is sister ahead of is wife n Kids, behind every successful man their is a woman(wife to b precise) not a sister... Post ma comment...

Anonymous said...

gosh u're an idiot.....infact a big fool..come on send d damn sister out..how will yhu choose ur sis over ur wife nd kids kai!!!dis tin dey pain mi

Anonymous said...

Abi o, beg ma brother 4 spoon hin go say ask ma wife, its only wen she doesn't need it that u can have it so we all knw how 2 respect n treat her well cos we knw dt anything we need 4rm bros we as well need it 4rm her. D way u treat ur spouse in d presence of ur family is d same way he or she will be treated its obvious man dt ur wife is nt ur second half bt just a wife, such a wuss

Anonymous said...

HIAN!.................ARE YOU NOT A MAN?........TELL your sister to apologize and respect your wife.......that home belongs to your wife as well more than it does your sister..............it is clear your sister does not respect your WIFE....and you have allowed it this far...........You need to MAN UP and talk to Your sis and then tell your wife to forgive her............just because she is your sister does not mean you should keep quiet and let her disrespect your wife...............wont you sis marry someone as well? how would she feel if her husband sis did the same?

Anonymous said...

As in ehn dis man na malu owerri

Apple said...

Hmmm...I no some women hate inlaws but i am on your wife's side this time. Their are kids involved here so i am sorry but your sister will have to leave the house for now, why? well, your children really need to grow under their father's roof. You have trained your sister so i think she can with the education you have given her move on . Hmmm..I hope you are not one of those sick men who sleep with their sisters? ( some men do ) because i see no reason why a sister will fight your wife to the extent that she will leave your house with the children and she is still in that house....Hmmmmm..

josyliciouxx said...

Ur wife owns d house.Ur sista shld go back2 owerri if she cnt tolerate ur wife..itz either she learns 2 endure or move out2 whr she'l b more comftable.dats allb

Anonymous said...

Let me even give you the benefit of doubt that you're not as dumb as you sound. Are you even kidding me? You even allow your sis to exchange blows with your wife? Are you even a man? Your sister clearly doesn't even respect you and your feelings for her to even engage your wife in a fight..Send her back home to your parents you've tried for her to house her for 8yrs,if you can't afford her an apartment..were you not thought in your marriage classes that relatives should only visit and not permanently stay? Were you planning on allowing your sister to stay with you forever or probably untill she gets married? Common call your wife back home and apologise and send your sister' Ass packing..Act civilised please,your wife got married to you not you and your sister...Act wisely and fast too or you risk the chance of loosing your home and don't forget,your decision would affect your children too..Goodluck

PRETTY GIRL

Anonymous said...

There arE S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ many of such silly men out there, ‎​U̶̲̥̅̊r sista is meant to swallow anytyn she sees, or leave. Bt ur wife dou, she shudnt hav moved out.

olaniyi olukotun said...

You dont even have to think about it, bring in your wife right away and go get an apartment for ur sis or she heads back to your parent. She got her 1st degree... that's nice. Your wife and kid are your family...
That's all

Honey Bee said...

Pls be man enough!! The reason y I left my ex was becoz he doesn't have a say anytime his sis challenges me,yet he wishes to marry me,sometimes he wud consult d sis when I ask him of something ...I left him sharpally becz he aint man enuf n I hate such men! Your sis should leave,let her b visiting...haaa!

Anonymous said...

So dese kinda pple still exsist in naaija,tut they ve gone outta extinct....Eeewwwww,smh for dis man he is reali a morrafucka,if u put ur sis in her place there is no way she wudnt behaave herslef cus she knws u are her last option,u gave her the free will to even have the guts to challange ur wife,u shldnt even ask us any question just go to the hospital and examine ur sell,cus ya head don fail u wella,it needs examintions.*deep sigh*

Anonymous said...

I have never commented on these LIB advice posts but I have to comment on this. What exactly are you thinking? How can you let your wife leave the house and you come here and talk about needing advice. You are married to your wife dude. Forget your sister, she should learn to suck it up or get the stepping. Abeg. This is such an annoying post. Mscheew. Like someone said, she should go back home and be applying online. She's been at yours for too long please.
Thanks and God bless

Anonymous said...

Personally, if i am married and my sis or mom acts slightly bitchy to Mon Cherie, i will kick them out ASAP....belee that


Sarcastic_dude

ebira babe said...

Didn't wanna post a comment wen I saw d write up earlier,tot Linda was trying to hype up her blog wit d stupid write up,but on a second tot I sd what da heck,it cud be tru... U know what asshole?Get a fucking life and be a man,ur such a fuckin wimp!A she-man,u let ur sis and wyf exchange blows and ur sis made ur wife and kids leave?Well I suspect ur fucking ur sister,datz why u can't make her face d reality of life...Retard!

oma khalifa said...

I know u re finding it hard 2 send ur sister out becos she's family,bt wot abt ur wife? Aint she ur other half? She ought to be d bone of ur bone N d flesh of ur flesh... Wt abt ur kids? Shud they stay outta d house cos of ur sister too? PLs I think its better fr ur wife to come bk with ur kids into ur house,as fr ur sister,she shud find her SQUARE ROOT,I mean she has over-stayed her welcome,don't let her destroy ur home... Tanxx

moi said...

Dude don't tell me you fucking your sis? Go get your wife back and fix your sis! Yeah she's your blood, but Nigga you gotta do something, talk to her or send her home

Anonymous said...

"It is only a woman that can make two blood brothers fight over her" My fellow guys fear women.

Anonymous said...

Follow me ask him abeg.

Anonymous said...

If your sis cannot respect herself n learn her place then u gotta give her an ultimatum. Eight yrs is a long time to be squatting with someone. shes a grown ass woman, therefore she should start considering getting her shit together. understand ur wife met her there but still. the poor woman hasnt even had her home to herself since she got married to u.yo settled now. ur sis needs to move on. get ur wife bk. discuss plans of relocating your sister n stick to it o! before ur kids jion the war o!

CC said...

If you have any wisdom and are actually a man, your wife is your priority. Your sister is your father's priority. If she wants to stay in your house, she should've abided by your wife's rules. Since she did not, she has to go.

Okusami Itunuoluwa said...

Well.. ur wife should be ur no1 priority not ur sister, try to explain this fact to ur sis and ur parents.. if she refuses to dance to ur wife's tune, C'est la Vie send her away ASAP!.


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Anonymous said...

i no wife is gud as a man, did u ask ur sister nd ur wife to get to down level of the problem?

Anonymous said...

i no wife is gud as a man, did u ask ur sister nd ur wife to get to down level of the problem?

Anonymous said...

So your younger sister does not want to go and find her own husband? She wants to stay in another woman's home and give herself (and not the wife) HBP. Your sister would know no peace in her marital home.

You as the man should act as the head and advise your sister to behave herself. This is a young family for goodness sake. Do not start your foundation shakily. Decisions taken now will set the tone of how the rest of your marriage would play out.

Anonymous said...

Prince charming (pc), your english dey everly give me headache, chei, I no fit undastnd wtchu saying nigga, pls just write normal english, or let ur comments come last, after we hve read normal comment! Dun fucking gve me migrane no mre, tans

Anonymous said...

You are so dumb I don't know what to say. Your sister who seems to have no respect or regards for you by disrespecting your wife is being considered as helpless. My dear by the time your sister has gotten a job THEN married your marriage will already be over. A word is enough for the wise.

Anonymous said...

Sisters in laws with their problem as if they won't marry too,my sis in law is like that too my hubby decided nd we moved outta d state just to avoid her and move to anoda place just to avoid wife n sister wahala buh d girl still makes our house an holiday hotel,if she come and never give me problem it wud av been better buh anytime she comes like this we will really quarrel,we fought one day and she deleted me on her bbm and we stopped talking to eachother In d house,if I cook she won't eat and will prepare her own food in my kitchen,I dint tell my hubby anyfin buh I discoverd he was studying her..he then told her one day to leave and that he'll call her some other day.tell ur sister ti behave hersef if she doesn't wanna go back to owerri and get ur wife back home asap..or do u wanna marry ur sister?u are a man and u ought to know what to do.God will help u

Anonymous said...

You are so dumb I don't know what to say. Your sister who seems to have no respect or regards for you by disrespecting your wife is being considered as helpless. My dear by the time your sister has gotten a job THEN married your marriage will already be over. A word is enough for the wise.

jing Ming ifeoma said...

My dear. Thank God you said ur sister not wife. Find an apartment for her. Is time for that sister of urs to go market herself for a husband and leave other woman to enjoy her home.ur wife is soft oooo.my word alone will make ThT sister of urs to leave not me. Biko she shld stop using brotherly love to destroy ur home.

Anonymous said...

Mate this is what my mother and aunty went through. but its kool now, advice is talk to them, and tell ur sister to avoid every kind of problem and ur wife. u can handle both of them trust me.

Anonymous said...

u r silly, you let ur wife go with ur kids cos of ur sister since April? u r not responsible. ur wife has more right than ur sister. u need to let ur sis knw u luv her but luv ur wife more,she needs to leave under what the 2 of u want till she can stand on her own and get her place,let her know she will marry one day and how will she feel if her husband's sibling pushes her out of her marriage.

Anonymous said...

Nigerians should stop talking nonsense...these cultural and religious bigots, are really trying to cripple the society...let the wife get out" and can possibly go to hell" she's an opportunist..all these while u were trying to survive/get a sustainable means of livelihood with ur sister, where was she "ur so called wife" ?...if u hadn't succeeded, ur so called wife wouldn't have agreed to marry u in the first place..she would have labeled u" a broke ass nigga". Is high time people learnt hw to appreciate the importance of family....pls for formality sake, try to make ur wife understand dat u can't send ur sister packing because of any breathing figure. She should cope...and as well advise ur sister to calm down and tolerate ur wife....

Anonymous said...

Some men are not fit to marry! Mthewww

Anonymous said...

I think u are sleeping wth ur Sister.

Anonymous said...

My hubby's brova stays with us n he is extremely annoying worse is he doesn't do anything all he does is eat watch tv from morning till even n he's over 30, av complained to my hubby he sees where am coming from but won't do anything, av prayed about it n av told my mum and she said u av to tolerate him dat he is just a stranger in ur home he won't be with u forever... For d case of peace... And I noticed is disturbing my hubby too much dat we don't get along well. For my hubby' sake I had to tolerate his brova by behaving he doesn't exist even if I know there's limit to human endurance... Ur wife is so stupid for leaving d house even if she's trying to make a point and ur sister is foolish for throwing blows with ur wife, she's a woman too so she shud learn to tolerate ur wife n ur wife shud too, d bottom line is they r both very immature n needs to grow...

Anonymous said...

4 your wife 2 move out means you didn't caution yhr sister. Presently I am living wv mi sister inlaw and we flow well, in as mch as she has excesses, I tend 2 overlook it cos I knw she won't be stayin with us 4eva. You obviously havnt made it clear 2 your sister dt your wife cms 1st!!! Thank God 4 d man I married, I and my son cm 1st in all his agenda. If I wl advice you, yhr sister shd go bck 2 owerri since she cn nt respect you enuf 2 d extent of excahngin blows with your wife! Punish her a little, let her go 2 owerri 1st, den wen your wife is bck, you both can talk thngs over.your sister obviously feels cos she has been stayin with you longer than your wife, she can nt respect her orders. Be a man pls!

Anonymous said...

Y must be a big fool asking for advice, if u want to marry ur sister dats fine by me, mumu how can u loose ur wife cos of ur sister who should be in her own hubby's house, let ur sister change or face d wrath when she marries cos her in laws will deal with her too I swear . Law of karma

Anonymous said...

such a big confused fellow...rent a place for ur sister or send her back to her parents,thats where she shd be until she gets married....ewu hausa...post my comment lili...

GLAM ME PRO said...

Exactly. your wife should come first and u are the man. if anyone disrrspects ur wife they equally disrespect you. that as a man is what u should have ironed out long ago with your sister cos shes ur younger sis and should respect her sis inlaw. Unless this case is a situation where u married your sisters friend and then she neva liked ur being married to her friend ,cos of one thing or the other and then they become enemies. But at d end ur wife is ur wife and should come first as long as she respects ur family as well. #RESPECT IS RECIPROCAL#

Anonymous said...

I cud swear dis was ma story except there r a few differences...first she came wen I was carrying ma first child....though ma husb younger bro was with us b4 her coming....she was a novice,I showed /taught her everything...then she was gud n ok but trust d village babes to wise up....it started with lil issues n ma husb taking sides of course with his sis...thereby giving her all d powerd cos she knws @ d end of the day its her bro that will judge n who wud always side her...all ma attempts to make him see her for d bitch she was proved negative...it got so bad dat I almost left ma marriage cos I was tired of it all...then ma husb knew I was dead serious and I asked God to help me with ma temper cos it was like she controls wen there's peace or war in ma home...and I asked God to giv me d grace to ignore her....and to stop reacting wen she provokes me intentionally as she does wen she wants to cause issues...bottomline...God answered me....its so bad that whatever she does its on "ignore" for me...I cudnt be bothered by her absence or presence....ma husb n even her mum saw her for who she is...karma is a bitch...and I knw one day karma will sort her out....so sir ...go sort ur issues with ur wife..u gave ur sis that power over her....ur wife too has to decide and lay down some rules...bw she doesn't have any biz with having a meeting with ur sis cos it will still make her feel she's in charge...she shd come home state her rules straight up and ignore her sis in law...cos though I ignore her...my rules I laid out earlier hasn't changed....ur sister has no rights to determine who stays or not...and for future husb n wives...leaving with your sister inlaws especially from husb side stresses d marriage.....

talk about ethics said...

hi,notice everyone here is saying the same thing. i'll advice that you sit your sister down and talk to her and make her understand that if theres anyone that should leave the house, itz definitely her. your wife is the rightful owner of the house and no one can contest that with her. your sister is a woman and would get married soon. she wont take half of what your wife is taking. "do to others what you want others to do to you"

Anonymous said...

you are just a BIG, MIGHTY & STUPID fool! how can ur cantankerous sister come before ur wife??? ur sister is a wicked girl and if she can't learn to respect you (disrespecting ur wife is also an insult to you, silly), she has no business living in that house! ur wife has lived with her for three years, so i don't believe she is the major issue. if you were a MAN, ur baby sis wld know that any day she crosses the line, she is back to owerri but since u are not, the case has degenerated to ur wife moving out! Man up dufus!

Anonymous said...

ARE YOU A WEAKLING!!!!!!!!!!!! a man should be able to control his home by setting up boundaries.the day your sister was rude to ur wife was d day she ought to have been booted out of d house 4 she has no respect 4 u!!

Anonymous said...

Dear Male LIB reader, is this a joke? The line my wife moved in with us? Really! There is something fundamentally wrong here , your sister is now a graduate, she can fend for herself, imagine tables were turn you moving in with your married sister and you and her husband are at logger heads at who seats at the head of the table? You or her husband...she will bounce you back to Owerri faster than you can say kekwanu! I mean your wife and kids have packed out and you are still co existing with your sister, I mean! I don't want to call you a wicked man so I won't! Mrs U


precie said...

Some women could just be troublesome. So immature of a married woman 2pack out cos of her siter inlaw. Al wich way try 2reconcile de 2of dem. Advice ur sister 2be mindful of her utterances or deed 4peace sake and ur wife 2bear n tak her as her own sister. We all need each oda @some point. She wouldn't be with yu 4eva.

Anonymous said...

I am married for abt 3years nw and presently experiencing sumtin similar just dat in my case its a Brother-inlaw.... Mehn, I totally feel ur wife's plight and I bet ur home is on d verge of a FINAL COLLAPSE if u dnt act fast... Men sumtimes dnt value wat dey have till dey lose it... Ur sista SHUD leave, wot effontry does she even av to fight ur wife in her own home, Ur sista is a TROUBLE MAKER, she shud grow up pls and get a life.... UR WIFE and KIDS first if u want to prosper in all dat u do (don't chase ur helpmeet away cos of ur sista)

Anonymous said...

Adekunle Hazeem has taken the words out of my mouth. You couldn't have said it better.

Anonymous said...

Am a lady and I suggest ur wife comes first in your home, no mata hw long u live. U can't marry ur sista, let her go bac home since ur parents r alive, bring bac ur wife nd be togeda as long as u live. Dats my piece of advice for. Its left for u to use ur common sense.

Anonymous said...

Man think twice how can u allow ur wife to leave d house because of ur sister please are u really a man or a boy, please go &bring back ur wife & ur children if u follow this situation with sentiment u will miss d track let ur sister know her stand 4 d fact that she has been liviing wt u 4 a long time she findIng it difficult to let go of all d previllages u hv been given her she sees ur wife as a threath

Anonymous said...

I'm sure ure fucking ur sister r u high???if u want ur wife back send ur sister packn 2 her parents y would u even allow ur wife 2 leave in d 1st place with ur 2 children??

Anonymous said...

my brother there is a reason they say a newly wedded couple should be left alone for awhile before any baggage is added to their life. i will blame you in part because your wife is a representation of you, if your sister disrespects your wife, she is disrespecting you. where thus your loyalty lie, mother of your children or your sister who will move out and have her own family one day.

Anonymous said...

This is shamefull
So when u need a woman to warm your bed, ur sister wl take over right?
U better go bring that woman back to her house, send ur sister back to her father and mother, if she cannot give respect to the owner of the house, as if she gets married she wl even allow ur own kids to come and stay in her house for 1 year all in the name of they are my nephew and niece
Pls be a man and grow some balls!

HYBunny

Anonymous said...

You cannot eat your cake nd have it, let her simmer down for your wife until sh gets a place to pack to, she is also a woman let her build her life, your wife has done hers. beg her to come back home and make sure your sister moves out quickly, if you dont want to tell tales about failed marriage, your wife is your life, your sister has her own life to live.

Anonymous said...

♏Ɣ dear Ʋ better call ur wife back 2d hous now b4 its too late, its not a matter of taking d kids back! Advice ur sis, she's old enuf 2cater 4herself since its clear dat she has no respect for ur wife she will suffer d same in her own husbands house nonsense!...African women have rili suffered! Its now sis inlaw no more moda inlaw imagine d nonsense! Mtcheww!!!

Anonymous said...

You are plain stupid. Send ur sister back home. After college education, she is a grown ass woman. If you are not there she will survive. Your wife and kids are you immediate family. When will Nigerian men learn. Your sister has no right to fight your wife. Am not saying your wife is a better person than your sister but if she has kids for you, learn to defend her always.-newyorker(yes am a dude)

Anonymous said...

If you want a good marriage,keep your siblings away from your family! Dey can only come visiting when d need arises,am speaking from my personal experience! Guy,go bring ur wife back and send ur sis packing unless u are running tins with her?

Emerald said...

If ur sister cannot respect ur wife and tolerate her den please send her back 2 d village abi na owerri or rent her own place 4 her and remind her dt wat she's sowing she'll reap in 100 folds! All d treatments 2 ur wife 4rm her will be metted out 2her in full dose O°˚˚˚°.read PC's msg above or go 2d bible,a man wil leave his family and bcom 1 wit d wife it didn't say a man wil live wit his family and wife or chuz d family above d wife. May God guide ur decision sha

Dr.WhO said...

Imagine. Dude is married to his sister. Na so. So if your mother comes and starts causing problems you can't be a man and speak up. #MummysBoy. That's why I can't marry only sons. They are inside their sisters and mums wrapper.

Anonymous said...

Wat nonsense did u type?

Ebby said...

My dare that house belongs to ur wife and she makes decisions around the home.....guess ur sister is used to being the "madam" of the house before u got married am sure that is why she finds it difficult to have some else take the decisions or play second fidle. It's high time she gets going cos she won't tolerate such when she eventually gets married. Talk some sense into her but if she doesn't change, package her back to ur parents. Kappish!!!

Loudmouthed said...

If your sister does not want to move back to Owerri then she should behave herself and learn to respect your wife. That said, if it still doesnt work, your sister needs to leave

Anonymous said...

From ur comment on "going bk to owerri is not wat my sister wants at this time" makes me question u. ur wife has moved out of d house with ur children nd all u can think of, is wat ur sister wants.let me remind u, dt ur said wife is bearing ur surname based on virtue of marriage nd very soon ur soo called sister wuld become anoda mans property. if u r soo concerned bout ur sister, rent her an apartment.On a hierachy of importance, ur wife comes b4 ur sister becos u nd ur wife r one abii wuld u move out of UR OWN HOUSE 4 ur sister? Abi no b bibletalk say: "its a good thing dt a man leaves his father nd mother nd clings to his wife" soo oga abeg do ALL dt u can to get ur wife nd kids bk.

Anonymous said...

My brother, its the problem with our women,very insecure from their husband family members. My advice to your sister is for her to make up with your wife for your sake, and for hers as well. You have been living with your sister without any problem until your wife surfaced. Your wife is your wife, you should be able to talk to her. I see no sense in a woman packing out of her matrimonial home because of her sister inlaw, that shows how unprepared she is towards her matrimonial home,even with your two kids. Assuming your parents are no more,and the only option for her is you,will you say because your wife doesn't like her,and you send her out? Blood is thicker than water as they always say,though that does not give room for your sister to disrespect your wife o, that will not be tolerated. If your wife is serious with you,call two of them,make them see reasons with you,for all of you to have peace. Women should always see reason with their sister/brother inlaw, they will not be with you forever,its for them to start from somewhere too. I am a victim of something like this too, and it take a lot of endurance from my brothers wife to live with them for so long.

Anonymous said...

This is insane. How can your sister be okay with the fact that ur wife has moved out of the house and she is still there? If I were ur sister and ur wife was that unbearable, no one wld have to tell me to pack my load and go back to owerri by myself. What is wrong with you? What is wrong with ur sister? Do ur parents know ur wife has moved out cuz of ur sister? What is wrong with all of you? Ask your sister to go back to owerri. It's not her wish to be in owerri at this time but it is not ur wife's wish to be out of her husbands house at this time either. Where did ur wife move to? Maybe ur sister shd move there. Orrrr maybe she shd just take her ass back to owerri. It is owerri. It is not hell fire. It is not a war front. It is not a wasteland. She will not die there. She cannot always get what she wishes at this time. Ridiculous. I hope to hell that this story is fake. Smh.

Anonymous said...

Your marriage is the most important here so bring back ur wife and settle ur sister, she can go back to ur parent and stay if u want peace.

Anonymous said...

Foolish n senseless question! R u in kindagatin.Smh

Anonymous said...

Ur wife n kids r priority, b4 ur sis. Don't b ur surprised she will kick u out if u were in her shoes, but do it Amicably ......funkky

Anonymous said...

@Anon 1:31pm thank U very much....Oga whu u de marry na? 8yrs is too much...Ur sister is nat even suppose to be in your house except for visits...abeg tell am make she find her way..Linda U berra post my comment ohh b4 ur nose fall off

Anonymous said...

Dude, come back when u have a real problem. Ur sister shld go get married or return to her parents and stop constituting a nuisance in another woman's home...so what if ure her brother, na she go first get brother ni??

Anonymous said...

Ur wife n kids r priority, b4 ur sis. Don't b ur surprised she will kick u out if u were in her shoes, but do it Amicably ......funkky

Sunday Otuns said...

Rent a self-contain for your sister to live.she may be visiting you occassionally.women dont like their husband inlaws to live in their matrimonial home but they will accept their own family to stay as long as they want.

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Anonymous said...

Some people are fools, somebody put up a problem and you went on and start typing you don't know what to say.. why did you bother to type...DUMB FUCKED

TOLUWALASHE'S BOO said...

Its very difficult for 2 ladies to live together.
Just find a way to bring them back together.

Anonymous said...

JJ has said it all. This guy is a dummy. I wish a bitch would try and run me out of my husband's house.....

Mama Ifu

Anonymous said...

Are you okay?

Anonymous said...

This is a simple issue,ur wife should have not moved out in the first place,why would she just pack out of her matrimonial home like that,is the marriage not important to her?is it not for better or worst?why would she be at logger heads with your sister when she knows that she is the wife and should be tolerant of her inlaws?she is the wife and its her duty to make peace with ur sister bcus that shows respect and a willingness to accept ur family as hers and your sister should learn to respect and accept your wife as well becus she too is a woman and will also get married someday and belive me,her own portion is waiting for her if she continues to maltreat and disrespect ur wife.you are the man of the house and u have the authourity,handle ur house like a man and stop whining,tell ur wife to come house or else u are taking ur kids from her or leave the house for the both of them like omotayo said and also caution your sister to behave herself or she is leaving the house back to owerri,don't send her packing bcus of ur wife as that will turn the mind of ur people against her and make her look bad and ur wife did not behave well by leaving the house,she is suppose to be accomodating to her inlaws no matter their character,just takia and be good.Lovi says so.

Anonymous said...

Thank you Bonario. You hit the nail on the head.

HAIL mamba said...

Hmmmmmmmmmm I know am free to air my opinion. Well u shud start by knowing whio is at fault cos some wives no dey like take eye see inlaws... As for me, judging from where am coming from, I no fit choose any wife and send my sis away from the house ooooo. I can only caution whoever is wrong.. Both my sis and wife hav different important roles to.play in my life..

Anonymous said...

Am sorry 4u,Allow ur sister 2. Finish ur marriage.settle dem or ur sister packs our.let no man put assunder

Anonymous said...

U no well at all. Find her a place to stay Johor and let my sister come back home. Says Ray.

Anonymous said...

So ppl r so dumb sha even duh dey r married who comes 1st ur wife and kids or ur sister if ur thinking ur sis I don't think marriage is meant 4 u u shouldn't even come out of public and air view I don't wouldn't blame ur sis cos women r like dat is u I blame cos ur a coward u not man enof can't control ur home smh

Anonymous said...

My point exactly. This guy must be a joke if he hasn't realized that from the day he got married he and his wife became one. Now he's allowing his foolish sister to tear his home apart. And the sister is shamelessly fighting the wife! Nawa. What is happening to our men biko?

Anonymous said...

Wonders will never end! For you to even be asking what you should do signifies that your sister is a wicked witch!

Anonymous said...

Quite honestly, your sister is not paying you back in your own coin, that's unfair of her. You've been a caring brother to her, she should therefore, for your sake and for peace to reign in your home bear up with your wife, however her excesses. It's only temporal! To get into fisticuffs with her is a blatant disregard for your feelings. I guess the boldness of your sister stems from this wrong mindset of, "it's my brother's house, therefore, who's she?". She'll someday be in your wife's shoes, God willing, then she'll understand better. Mind you, not all women can put up with relations living with them for "like forever". Brother, act fast to bring your wife back & lecture your sister on how to relate with your wife properly. Remember, you can't rob Peter to pay Paul.

Anonymous said...

Just imagine that nonsense!

Anonymous said...

I strongly believe that you got married after understanding with marriage is all about. Please in the name of God, kindly do exactly what your wife is asking for.... you do not need to ask our opinion, but since you do, take the advice of the majority. Send your sister out of your wife house immediately.

Anonymous said...

Please ask him well. This one reminds me of the kind of men that are called "men without balls". Haba! You can imagine how bad the situation got for the wife to move out and the yeye man is still there scratching his head. I pity the poor wife married to this kind of man that doesn't understand that his wife and kids should be his priorities. And the foolish sister that is sitting tight knowing fully well that dhe's wrecking her brother's marriage! Nawa for people. Mr man better run and beg your wife to come back before she stays away for good.

Fearless! said...

First of all,I think your sister is very rude and no matter what ur wife did to her,she ought to accord the respect she has for u to her.

It is obvious you didn't make it crystal clear to ur sister that insulting or fighting ur wife physically is unacceptable.

That said,I'm not saying your wife does not have any blame but I'm a woman and I'll let u know how this will work if I were ur wife or ur sister.

Ur wife is thinking "how dare she make me uncomfortable in my husband's house,and he's not man enough to protect me" - I think she's right 100%

Then ur sister is thinking "how can she be controlling me in my brother's house" - and I think she's wrong cos ure not her father and if she cares about u at all,she should want peace for u.

So if I were u I will do the following;
1. Grow some balls and be a man (sorry,I had to say that cos I don't think u are)

2. Go bring ur wife and kids home.let ur wife know that she needs to respect herself and make sure she does not have or avoids issues with ur sister.

3. Tell ur monster sister that the next time she's found being rude or is found fighting with your wife,she'll be on a one way ticket via ekene dili chukwu to owerri.

Make your threat seem real & I think this should work.

Anonymous said...

Man be a man ,your wife and kids are your first family right now.so all you need to do is your sister shld get an apartment she is an adult so tell her to raise some money ,your parents too and you make it up.Get your wife and kids as soon as possible.goodluck on dat

Anonymous said...

Madman!

Anonymous said...

Exactly, some men are just dumb ass. Wld the sister chase her hubby out cos of her elder bro? And some women forget they wld get married someday. You better go and get ur wife and kids rubbish

Anonymous said...

You are a madman for even asking that question. Are u sleeping with ur sister???Pls be a man and send her out and get ur wife and children to move back. U men always have misplaced priorities sha!

Jbaby said...

I wonder why he didn't marry his sister since he values her priority over his wife

Anonymous said...

For someone who has no relative in Lagos, ur sister dey kojo aiye e.. Yep she is one benbella and she needs to be kicked out of the house. Abi she has bewitched you ni? Omo ti o ni iya Ki da Egbo eyin

Fearless! said...

Thank you for this good question?

The guy is weak joor.

One yeye sister or brother cannot be rude to my husband oh, they will know that I can't and would never tolerate them.

Debby La Figure8 said...

Some shit ass brothers and sisters inlaw βε̲̣ acting like, its my brtothers house, ℓ̊ can do as ℓ̊ pls 4geting that the WIFE has more right in that house. Oga Ade, send γφυr sister back 2 γφυr parents jare and stop asking us Tom and Jerry questions.

Lorretta Lawrence said...

A woman that has two kids for u.... U letin ur sis be a hindrance to a successful marriage.. u hav to stand up to ur sis... Let her understand u married now..and knw Matter wht she has to give ur wife her respect ,if not for anything,for d reason she is ur wife and she(ur sis) has a respect for u... Then if she cnt understand and accept tht u hav knw choice but to send her hone.... (In most case u hav already done enough)

Anonymous said...

Where is the confusion here? I have brother who is married, if I wish to stay with them then I have to bear In mind that it is their home not my brothers home, I am the third party, they are one, I need to respect her the way I will respect my brother even if i am older, my sister in law cannot move out of the house for me whilst I stay their n relax,it is not done. So make peace between both parties for now and start planning alternative accommodation for your sister, we are women, we are touchy, we are sensitive so if it is not working then your sister leaves maybe not now but later, your sister is the intruder except you want to marry her n start sleeping with her.

Nekky Jay said...

Which kind yeye dis? How can u be asking such. Will u marry ur sister? Ur wife owns dat home with u, its either ur sister respects dat and respects her as well or she gets out. Common, be a man.abeg dis talk no mk sense joo

Anonymous said...

My thuts exactly!!
Maybe he shud marry his sister then,since his wife n kids av moved out
Mscheew

Anonymous said...

I have never insulted anyone I didn't know, but there is a first time for everything. Your stupidity is outstanding. Are u kidding me right now ?, u wife moved out with the kids and you're still here asking stupid questions. My friend go and bring your wife back home and send your sister packing. I suspect your sister is very rude, probably flexing muscles with your wife since she feels she was there first.
When your wife ask for a divorce remember to tell your kids that it was because your sister didn't want to move back to owerri oh!! Tufiakwa!!

Anonymous said...

Try to bring your wife back first and warn/threaten your sister with a condition of sending her home if she ever does anything with your wife without reporting to you. Also make your wife to understand that she can not change the fact that your sister is your blood. Simple.

Anonymous said...

Walahi you will live long!!!!

GBAM!!!!

somadina obi said...

Kanu and wife are looking gorgeous! HML Mr. Nd Mrs Utaka.

young sauce said...

Need to get ur wife back to d houz...
N I fink u shd get an accomodation for ur sis somewhere else###

Anonymous said...

U shld hv married ur sis nah..nd 4 dat stupid sis of urs, let her knw dat wat goes arund comes arund..rubbish!!!

Otobong Ekpe said...

Too bad ure wife left cos She owns dat home!And I fink u need to tlk to each of dem separately and find out wot the problem is?if it can't still be settled amicably u ve to make ure sister understand dat!Dat house is for ure wife and ure kids#even d bible says dat!So she rily has to tolerate it and just avoid her(ure wife)until she can stand on her own!which she shld be workin towards!

Anonymous said...

What kind of question is this. Mr u have to tell your sis to either respect ur wife or leave your house,period. Talk to your wife very well about it.
Look into the reasons why they are always fighting, and without being partial judge wisely, and if its ur sis fault, talk to her, and if she doesn't obey u within the next couple of days, send her home immediately
*chynell*

Anonymous said...

First time I'm commenting.

This guy na olodo o. You're wondering if you should ask your sister to leave? "You also said your wife moved in with us".

Your wife is the BOSS. She deserves to get what she wants. KICK YOUR DAMN SISTER OUT!

Anonymous said...

your sister should show some respect to your wife and mind her business..otherwise it will look like both of you (u n sis) r ganging up against her...She is a woman n sooner or later she will get married n leave your house...set the rules n get your wife back!

Anonymous said...

Your wife should be considered first because eventually your sister will leave to make her own home, then what happens to you?

WSS™ said...

You've only got 2 options sir:

Option 1.) Grow some balls, sit lil sis down & educate her assertively, on how to tolerate wifey. Ensure that she acknowledges the fact that no matter what, wifey is now more important to u than she is! Then temporarily send her home. Tell her she'd only come back if her attitude towards wifey changes absolutely.
Then passionately talk to/beg wifey (after she comes back) to accept lil sis back (after a few months), on d condition that she'd ve been a changed person. Ensure wifey works on her attitude towards lil sis too.
Trust me, if lil sis stays in owerri for 6months or more, she'd become more reasonable/matured.

Option B.) Marry your lil' sis.

If neither options work, then I'm afraid lil sis will have to make Owerri her permanent home.

INTOLERANCE IS THE BANE OF HUMAN EXISTENCE.

Anonymous said...

be wise pls look for a small apartment for ure sister and get you wife back ASAP. dont be a dumb ass

Anonymous said...

You are a very stupid man, I can't even express how angry I am to read this crap from someone who claims to be a man

jadaga said...

I really don't get some men sha- I keep saying that feud between relatives and wives can only go as far as the man in question allows. If your relatives know you to be a firm, fair and no nonsense person, they won't try rubbish with your wife. And if your wife knows how much you value your family, she won't mess with your family either. But if you are a weakling who cannot decipher when to put your foot down on issues then I am sorry you are doomed.your sister still feels ownership of your home and you have apparently done nothing to erase that illusion that the house belongs to your wife and she is under your wife's authority.women are very territorial when it comes to the home issue but your sister however your blood is seconded to the background once you are married. She should leave -go to another relative's home to stay and let's see if she can try all the nonesense there. No matter the fault your wife has, it is her home whether 8 years or 8 seconds. It is a non issue unless both you and your wife are sick of each other and are using her as an excuse.

mzdeei said...

If u know wat is good for u, u had better go and look for ur wife and bring her back home! Your wife should ALWAYS come first in matters like this. U should call ur sister to order and make her apologise to ur wife! She's ur wife nd its her home too! If the tables should turn around, ur sister will not like it wen she's in her own husband's house! *im done here*!!!!

Anonymous said...

I'm sure all of u commenting rubbish are women!!the wife is stupid for leaving the house in the first place!! My wife can't make me choose between family and her!! Cos ild choose family!! She has to be matured enof to knw its temporal!! There's nothing like a wife being like a sister to ur sister!! Shez just immatured and selfish!! U want ur husby to yaself!! Very selfish!! The wife is not a good woman!! Good women try to chill and think and wld never pack out!!

Anonymous said...

U must be drunk. Collect the children from her indeed!!! Is he supposed to put his sister above his wife? Is marriage man and woman plus sister? Pls use ur senses when talking. His sister should have started thinking of moving when he made plans to marry. I hope when she too marries all her husband's siblings will move in with her. This is the problem with Nigeria esp. The woman owns the house and if the sis can't deal with it, she should pack out.

Yoruba gal said...

Marry your sister then. You foolish man. Ala,ori, alagbada, alainironi, olopolo dudu. You let ur wife leave her home for ur probably rude sister. I won't be surprised if you're sleeping with her. After all d world is ending, you better send your sister back to override or abakaliki or where d hell u're from. Very long hiss for an ignoramus that u are. Only eye stole okunrin.

playmaker 10 said...

Your sister just have to leave bt u should provide her with accommodation and necessary assistance

Anonymous said...

Did u say exchangin of blows?not once but a few tym?and ua here askin 4 advice?nna idi stupid!ahnahn!how cn ur sista be d lord n master ova U̶̲̥̅̊ n ur wife?abeg send d silly,disrespectful brat bk home jor,afterall as a graduate sef she's supposed 2 av a serious relationship,she shuld go n stay wit her boyfrnd if she doesn't wnt to go bk home

ammy said...

I think u need 2 talk sense into ur sis,make her ondastand dat ur wife deserve some respect even if she seniors her wc mit not even b d case.Also beg ur wife 2 come back home nd advise her 2 act more matured.she shld stop reacting wn ur sis provokes her.let her know dat u ave spoken 2 ur sis nd she has promise 2 chg.Ds is afta u ave found d bone of contention.

playmaker 10 said...

Your sister just have to leave bt u should provide her with accommodation and necessary assistance

Anonymous said...

I feel this guy's pain very well. He's in a big dilemma. For me, nothing can come in btw my family and I. I'll let my wife see reasons cos sending my sister out will make me an outcast of a sort back home and it will surely affect my parent's health which I can risk cos if anything usual happens to them during the crisis, I'll forever be blamed so as I said earlier, if she can't see reasons and insist she must leave, then she will leave but not with my children.

Anonymous said...

I feel this guy's pain very well. He's in a big dilemma. For me, nothing can come in btw my family and I. I'll let my wife see reasons cos sending my sister out will make me an outcast of a sort back home and it will surely affect my parent's health which I can risk cos if anything usual happens to them during the crisis, I'll forever be blamed so as I said earlier, if she can't see reasons and insist she must leave, then she will leave but not with my children.

Anonymous said...

Your wife should be your 1st priority,cos u guys are one already nd ur u shuld try nd get an apartment for ur sister or send her back to owerri.m in d same shoes with your wife so I know wat it feels like. Sister inlaws can be very dramatic

Anonymous said...

Your sister , will soon get married ooo, will she like if any woman is doing like that to her in her husband house , pls ur wife is impt oooo

I am,the NoSender. said...

@Prince Charming and Adekunle Kazzzim's actually captured it all. Everyman hates to find themselves between the Devil and the deep blue sea as this fellow has found himself when it comes to family.

So guy, I advice you seek the mid road here and see if you can cut a fine balance. I understand the reasons sendinf your sis packing can be difficult. For crying out loud that's your kid sister we are talking about here. In anycase read the riot act to her. She's got to submit to your wife and there is no compromise to that. Your wife is the ceo of your home and your sister better realize that.

At the same time your wife should also have understanding. Knowing how unpractical it will be to rent a place for your sister. Am sure she knows your financial challenge. Sometimes wives are too much in a hurry to prove they are in charge. I do hope she can be more accomodating and forgiving. Perhaps she doesnt even realize how powerful she is in your home else she wouldnt have packed out. Its a shame on her part but also maybe because you haven't been as assertive as you should be. Do this and more from other commentators carefully avoiding the insults and you may have your answers. God help you.

El Maximilliano said...

Not that easy to take a decision in such a case.. Your wife comes first then every other thing follows. Dont send your sister back to Owerri cos tables could turn in the future. Just foster peace between them and save up to arrange a crib for your sister....BTW When will women learn to love themselves?

Anonymous said...

Bia dis owerri man. U re jst a goatoo.u choose ur sister in place of ur wife?Pls ur wife owns d hauze and nt ur sisoo.she shud go bak to owerri and be applying 4 jobs online biko.All these men dt gets 2 emotional wen it comes to family without taking decisionson dier own. Vrysoon ur mama will come join and live dier 2. Anuofia

somadina obi said...

I guess ur sister acts superlicious, she feels ure his brother...Sir, Your wife is ur present nd Future go get her nd τ̣̣ђё children back to τ̣̣ђё house...Nd resolve τ̣̣ђё Face off btw ur Wife nd sis, if it doesn't work...Sorry ur sis have to leave. You wouldn't even pick ur Mum over ur wife let alone ur sis....send her away jare'

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