Thursday, May 2, 2013

Dear LIB readers: I have no desire for sex. Is there anything wrong with me?

From a male LIB reader
I am a successful IT engineer in my early 30s. Everything is going well for me except for one thing, my sex life or lack thereof. I had sex once in my 20's and have not repeated it since. I find that I have absolutely no desire for sex and it has nothing to do with any religious inclination. I don't even go to church. I've had several opportunities to sleep with several women but each time I turn it down and it's not because I am gay. The thought of touching another man is repulsive to me. The few friends I have think there's something wrong with me and asked me to see a doctor. I'm not impotent because I get turned on by sexual things and I do not masturbate either. I just don't have the desire to lay on top of a woman. Is there something wrong with me?
You bet! Lol *kidding*. What do you guys think?

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Anonymous said...

Well that's just weird

Anonymous said...

Mr OKOBO,

That church that you dont go, i think you shld consider becoming a regular attendant.

you need JESUS

ayomide adeware said...

Ur head dey crase! No b ur fault! Na ur head jst dey crase!

sisi said...

linda....someone would send you a depressing problem staring them in the face and instead of u to shut up or give a honest advice..... u'l go 'lol" like its funny, if it was it wont be sent to your blog... mind ur self.
errrrrrmmm by the way i think am the first to comment sha...lol

Anonymous said...

na becos of church wey u no dey go., u don posses be dat.

Christabel oguh said...

So weird....

Anonymous said...

does it means that, masturbation leads to impotency in man? Pls lib readers, give me an answer.......ma guy, try n be sexually carried away bcos it makes u know d real u...

Chiboy said...

I put it to u that u'r gay.just come to terms to with d fact..simple

Dr.WHO. said...

Yes. There is something wrong with you. Its probably psychological. Possibly something that happened after ur 1st sexual experience.I think your hormones are ok. See your doctor,he might refer you to a good medical psychologist. #thank me lerra.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmm, fine boy like u...abeg come let me help u to desire sex

Dr.WHO. said...

Yes. There is something wrong with you. Its probably psychological. Possibly something that happened after ur 1st sexual experience.I think your hormones are ok. See your doctor,he might refer you to a good medical psychologist. #thank me lerra.

Anonymous said...

you're Asexual.... its nothing wrong. A very low percentage of the worlds population has this....

its kinda like being homo or hetero... theres no cure!

Anonymous said...

Still check yourself...the mind controls the down below..

Oluchi said...

u haven't met the right woman yet.trust me,wen u do you'll have a hard time keeping ur hands to yourself.

Anonymous said...

U̶̲̥̅̊ need to see a doctor asap. Since its got nothing to do wit religion and beliefs. Lin lin post my comment ˚°ºH!‎​​

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Me bruh don't worry some days are like that,I guess u've been called to perpetual celibacy by oga at the top or by ur village people.
u can break the jinx or reignite this awesome feeling by training and doing u. u so in love with yourself,doing u is the best way to go before u think of doing others.

btw am only responsible for what I write,not what u understand.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

Anonymous said...

Excuse me, " Of course YES!! There's something wrong with you Tarzan!"

Anonymous said...

dont worry my dear...if u were gay u wlda sexed oda men, buh clearly u aint! u have a medical condition....looowww testosterone!!! Or if u watch House, ull realise that there's probably is an underlying ish suppressing ur libido thats all. u need to get it checked out and fast bro!

Anonymous said...

Dude dre is sumtin seriously wrng wit u. U r wired wrng. Dis means u can't v regular sex wit man or woman n dnt even masturbate! Means u v 2 work wit wat turns u on. Must be 1 of those pple wit weird fetish .see a sex counselor(n yes dy do exist). Just sayin...

vichy said...

just try being gay

Anonymous said...

nigga, u sick!!!! even rev fathers have the desire to sleep with women. i am freaking sure u r gay. u just avnt explored dat side of u

Anonymous said...

Dear sir!..
If u are handsome, wealth and very sure dt ur thing works well, then meet me,.. In pure truth,.. Ur life will neva remain de same again!..

Anonymous said...

WOW! That is Terrible.. You better Go to Church and let your Pastor Pray for you or you become a rev. father or rather if you are scared of meeting ladies.. Kindly go to BBPINDATE.COM and Meet Thousand of Girls Near you and f**K
Linda Tell her to go to www.bbpindate.com
LOL!

Anonymous said...

You need to act fast cos you have a serious problem. I advised you seek help abroad cos nigeria doctors will just use u as experiment. Secondly, you need to seek the face of your creator, God can change ur situation

BLOGLORD said...

maybe you are born to be a reverend father and this is the sign.
yimu!

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm... Pls if u are ever pressured to marry please make sure u tell the woman that will spend d rest of her life with u ur predicament.... I beg u pls...

Honey boo boo said...

Nothing is wrong with LIB reader. You could borrow some impotent folk out there your dick though ... See it as service to humanity.

Anonymous said...

Go and buy Maca!

Eya Ayambem said...

IT Engineer. OK, I See. That your job does not even give you time to have fun. You may have been living online too.

See what no rest and sometimes emotional stress can cause.
See a good Doctor, if it were Obodo Oyibo now, they'll quick quick diagnose one SHS (Sex Hater Syndrome)
See a Doctor ASAP, you'll be fine.

Chibuike said...

Then go and marry u will find pleasure.

★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★ said...

Taste it more, the longing will come naturally.

princessfummite said...

I comment ma reserve for now. Oya u go fear advice na.

Gaia said...

Hello, there is NOTHING wrong with you... there is such a thing as being asexual which basically not being interested in sex. Too much sex around jare, besides its all a phase am sure you will meet someone soon who will be 'the one' since you have admitted to not being gay. My advise is just focus on your career and making money, enough time for all that later ;)

Oziegbe Enahoro said...

The broda needs HELP, as a guy the only thing we think of aside money is SEX. Bro check urself, and discover ur passion, u just might b destined to b a priest.

Hottie of the day said...

Seriously he is gay but don't know yet! You know one thing about gays is that we have different types of them, bottom gay,top gay,vers gay. He will fit in as a bottom gay. Let me don't say more tho

Anonymous said...

motherfucker you are gay. simple and short

Oziegbe Enahoro said...

Lmao, dis guy should go and check himself, cuz as a guy d only tin we think of apart frm making money is SEX, or probably he is destined to b a priest, go check urself BROVA.

Anonymous said...

i dont think anything is wrong with u.You hav self control - it's a gift from God. My husband is like you and initially i thought he's a homosexual but now i know better. Just thank God for ur life and live it for Jesus. Sex outside marriage is immoral. Take ur time, fimd ur God-ordained-woman (wife), marry and be faithful to her.

Anonymous said...

Wait oh! U have no desire to lay on top of a woman? N the idea of touching another man is repulsive to you? You don't even masturbate? hian!!! My dear its either u re into animals! or your d**k been locked up n forgotten in the bermuda triangle! BeCos this your own problem na wa!

Anonymous said...

Yes you are a death man!

Anonymous said...

Since you say you just don't have the desire to lay on top of a woman. Then let a woman lay on top of you. Or go marry a frigid woman. Chikena

Anonymous said...

It has to do with your hormones. It could be a medical condition that shud be looked into. Another advise is start going to church cos u can get cured there too. IAI

titi lola said...

1st 2 comment.
Nd if i get ur ques coerrectly............ dd u jst ask if u av a prob???? lmao, u av d greatest prob. go c a psychologist.

Anonymous said...

Wait oh! U have no desire to lay on top of a woman? And the idea of touching another man is repulsive to you? You don't even masturbate? hian!!! My dear its either u re into animals! or your d**k been locked up n forgotten in the bermuda triangle! BeCos this your own problem na wa!

titi lola said...

i hop u posted my comment linda oooo

Anonymous said...

No

Anonymous said...

you r not gay, ur not impotent, u dnt masturbate yet u dnt v d desire for sex. pls see a babalawo for rescue since ur an unbeliver. first to comment

missy said...

Yes,something is definately wrong with u..who did u offend??myt be spiritual u knw..

Anonymous said...

U̶̲̥̅̊ are definately gay brah! NO ONE feels you way you D̶̲̥̅̊ø̲̣̣̥! Sex ȋ̝̊̅§ a beautiful, heavenly ah! Ohh! So wonderful experience! *running off to jump myy Bf at work*

Anonymous said...

Yepa. Hmmm, yea first of all u need to see doctor. And secondly for u to make up ur mind and speak out den dir is obviously a solution. If u av a female friend very close to u, like u see each other as good friends. U guys can just watch porn 2geda,touch her in place, av oral sex n within ur sef keep saying I can do it. Its a mind thing as far as am concerned. But once u've made up ur mind u will def do it. Wish u luck

amina said...

wowwwww! dis is like the 1st time i will hear a guy talk like dis... honestly i think you should see a psychologist.i feel someting is wrong somewere..except you don't wana get married.

Anonymous said...

Yepa. Hmmm, yea first of all u need to see doctor. And secondly for u to make up ur mind and speak out den dir is obviously a solution. If u av a female friend very close to u, like u see each other as good friends. U guys can just watch porn 2geda,touch her in place, av oral sex n within ur sef keep saying I can do it. Its a mind thing as far as am concerned. But once u've made up ur mind u will def do it. Wish u luck . Ciara

tunde said...

@yurVILLAGEisINVOLVED or not....either way copy this link man, may be helpful....... Lack of sex drive in men - NetDoctor.co.uk
www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/malelacksexdrive.htm

oju lasan ko


frm mai NOKIA ASHA


MR Tunde

Jbaby said...

So are u trying to say u don't wanna get married? Y don't u get laid since u don't wanna lay untop. She could be riding u, u know!

Btw, y don't u go to church sef? Maybe God took away ur sexual desires, seeing u don't wanna worship Him! (Just guessing doe) but try and get close to Him, and evrything will fall in place

Anonymous said...

U need 2 see a doctor bcos is not normal,dat is if u are saying the truth.

Anonymous said...

Ў☺ΰ are not alone bro, its a problem cos your wife to be will see hell if you dnt correct it...
You need to see a doctor its not a medical problem its just physchological,so talk to a professional Fø̲̣̣я̅ maybe a therapy that will hell....


Sommie

Anonymous said...

Awwwww, too bad! U should see a Dr ASAP!!!

Chidozie Mario said...

Have you ever been sexually abused? I think you are suffering from low libido which is secondary to an underlying medical and/or psychological problem. Seek help please.

arinze egbuna said...

You need Jesus

Chinemerem said...

Nna Ndo ,nothing is wrong with u ,is natural

Anonymous said...

U don't hv d desire 2 lay on top of a woman, I'm certain u will hv d desire wen a woman lay on top u, guy u neva see tallented girl wen fuck u, u go beg 4 more.

Anonymous said...

There's something seriously wrong with you both health wise and religiously. God says be fruitful and multiply unless your like Paul the eunuch of which your not even a religious person so guy, abeg go see a psychologist or a doctor.

Anonymous said...

Linda biko investigate,is gov chime really dead...I just saw some RIP on bbm

Anonymous said...

Kai ur buran tashi ya mutu kwata kwata pele

Olaleye Adisa said...

You don\'t have problem my dear friend, is only ur wife or gf am pity.

Anonymous said...

You are asexual..nothing wrong with that..You might need to tell your partners in the future for the sake of their mental health.

Anonymous said...

Asin ehhh too many things is wrong with you n the solution is be a rev. Father. Get close to God mayb is ur calling.

Anonymous said...

Lol go check urself o. There's definitely something wrong. I wish I cud be lyk u tho until marriage. But konji no go gree o

Anonymous said...

I feel your keeping yourself for your wife to be. Since you actually get turned-on, I don't see anything wrong with you.

blackgold said...

Lwkmd... See JAMB question. Bro there is everything wrong with u. But on the brighter side I think you shuld ditch IT for the monastry. Hmmmmmm, its not a small something.lol.

raypower said...

Come where you, you better go check urself o, its either you are guy or something is terribly wrong with you......Maybe you should try having sex with a dudde 2 identify your identity!!!!......

ExoticEyez MiMi said...

I find a contradiction in his write up, He says he has no desire to have sex but he also says sexual stuff turn him on. So if he gets turned on, what does he do to his Winky since he says he doesn't masturbate? Linda I don't think this guy is truly honest about what he is saying

Anonymous said...

Maybe you havent met the woman that would make you go gaga yet.

Anonymous said...

I tink its becos u hv only done it once so dat desire is no longer dere its cums 4rm staying away 4rm sex trust me, just try it again n u will get d desire back

chimka melvis said...

Characteristic of a Gay... you think you are not because the Nigerian society hasn't accepted it yet. One advice, start going to church and pray to God to help you overcome this spirit also talk to people you can trust, see a Dr. that's if they can help. One advice don't ever do a man, don't even try experimenting to see how it feels.

Anonymous said...

U have no desire to lay. Ona woman then I guess u. Are. Homo

Willy said...

i think he should see a doctor or a psychologist.

Anonymous said...

In my language they say 'aye se ee' (somebody/some people are doing you). True you have a problem. See a good doctor.

MY TURN said...

Linda its not a joke. There is nothing wrong with you man when you meet that special woman who makes your heart run JUNIOR WILL RISE TO THE OCCASION.See a psychologist maybe but don't dwell on it you are fine.

Dike Ejibe said...

IF YOU DONT HAVE ANY DESIRE TO LAY UNTOP A WOMAN, THEN LET THE WOMAN LAY UNTOP YOU. IF THAT DOESNT WORK, THEN MY GUY...NA FROM VILLAGE!

Tk said...

You are absolutely fine. Scientifically speaking, 1% of humans do not have any urge to have sex at all. You belong to that one percent. You can google it out to check for yourself. But you nedd to DO IT so that you can have a child of your own o.

hanny potts said...

Nothing wrong at all. He is just what is referred to as an asexual. He is fine. Just needs some counselling to guide him.

Anonymous said...

Well first of all there something really wrong and thanks to kama sutra and co we knw there a lot of different sexual positions you can use now so if laying on a woman is ur problem, turn tins up and go doggy......dumb dumb. Trust me

Sharon Obuns. said...

Perhaps your first time was so repulsive it cured you of sex. If that's not the case,you really should see a doctor,because(no offence)guy's are usually very much interested in sex.

Dike Ejibe said...

YOU MUST BE EXPERIENCING REGULAR IF NOT CONSTANT WAIST PAIN. YOU ARE IN TROUBLE MATE!

Anonymous said...

Anything ke? Plenty dey wrong with you o.

So when you are sexually moved, what do you do?

Please don't waste a poor girl's time by getting married. Stay single and immerse yourself in work or religion if you find it later

JustPorsh said...

First of all, you don't go to church at all?
You need Jesus brother.
Secondly, see a therapist.
Or better still, lookk ursef in a room wif d hottest girls u can find. I'm sure u wud be cureed in. A jiffy.
Lolz!

http://justporsh.blogspot.com

Anonymous said...

You no well

Anonymous said...

This is a psychological issue. It's amazing that u have had sex just once. Even me self wey I think mine is small at 13 it is very plenty in comparison.

Opeyemi Bellos said...

Yes there is. Cos its something that should happen to u naturally

Anonymous said...

Lmao I have no intentions of laying on a woman,may be u picked the wrong vocation,priesthood would fit u perfectly.

Anonymous said...

Maybe you're so in love with your job that it's taken over you completely. Or... maybe you're the type who doesn't chop for the sake of chopping. You may be one of the rare breed of men who need to fall genuinely in luv before engaging into intimacy. Very rare breed indeed...

Anonymous said...

U have undersecretion of gonadotrophin in ur endocrine system. DMAN

Anonymous said...

Have you seen a doctor now? I abosulutely think nothing is wrong with you. And another thing I think you hav nt seen your true love, Lyk someone you have deep Feeling for. On the bottom line this is d kinda of guy I usually lyk.

Anonymous said...

U dey craze make them leave you n kim k or nicky inside one room weda u no go do. With all that yanch n boobs,make we hear word. Na today yansh get centre pattern shuuu

Opeyemi Bellos said...

Yes there is. Cos its something that should happen to u naturally

Anonymous said...

You will make the perfect boyfriend for me ooo...gimme ur no

Anonymous said...

Same thing is happening 2 me too, am a female, 25 and a virgin. I dnt have urge 4 sex and I dnt masturbate, I have a boyfriend and I always turn him down whenever he ask 4 sex, is it bcos am still a virgin or something is wrong? Sis Lind, I heard dat d Gov of Enugu is dead, hw true is dis pls?

Anonymous said...

Ist to comment; Lil greenly

Anonymous said...

I am a female and asked the same question a few days ago... I get irritated each time my boyfriend tries to make love to me...although I let him do that sometimes to please him. Recently we had a serious fight after he tried to take me by force.. Oh, he didn't try, he actually raped me. I simply hate sex but I love babies. I need help asap!

SIMPLE BABY said...

you are gay. ok bye

Anonymous said...

hmmm thats not normal... may be u are lazy or gay stop deceiving ya self

Anonymous said...

your part of the few percentage in the world that are called..'ASEXUAL' your not the only one there are men like you out there....that prefer affections, hugs and so on to sex......see a doctor or a therapist if not find someone like you and settle down.....it is well your not the only one dear...

Anonymous said...

Did i hear 30s and single,Linda only you can help this brother.let him know what it missing let him dance azonto before he started singing oliver the twist.........lol...doubleomoba say so

Toto Riina said...

Bcos you are gay son......

Toto Riina said...

Bcos you are gay son......

somadina obi said...

Bloody Liar

Anonymous said...

You are not alone... I too feel sex is overrated. Though i have sex regularly but i must confess i do not really enjoy it, at least not as it is being talked about or portrayed in movies. I like women a lot but sex just feel like a chore and i am not in any Gay..lol.
I have been to see a sex therapist and he reckons that it's all in my mind.

Anonymous said...

My dear u nid help. Physically, spiritually and other wise. Try both medical n spiritual help cos at d rate ur going u wud end up alone.

Anonymous said...

Yea, there is a problem somwere, may be u have a spiritual wife.

Anonymous said...

Linda u don't lyk posting my comment nd others y? Argggghhhhhhh. I wrote somefin hre just now.. Nd I can't find it! Is nt fair........

Anonymous said...

I could help you develop that feeling if you don't mind.

Anonymous said...

I understand dat feeling am also like dat I hv sex with my bf not becoz I want to just coz I hv to I never cum

babes ....................

happinwa said...

PRIEST SHOULD BE ON HIS MIND OR BETA STILL A MONK

Anonymous said...

Well though its strange! I tink dats hw ur body is or ur mind is fixed on work and all! try lovn a lady and it ll all come naturally or get married, maybe ur body unconciously cannot fornicate! Which is a GOD thing one has to be conscious of GOD's righteousness!! #myopinion

Anonymous said...

THE GIRL YOU HAD SEX WITH IN YOUR 20'S HER P***Y SUCKS ...GET A GOOD SEX BROTHER .NOTHING SWEETER :)

That Fucking Girl said...

Try bestiality;sleeping with animals- I think you swing that way.

Anonymous said...

Nigguh you sick,see a shrink Asap.. plus did you say you don't even go to church? You need Jesus!

Pretty Girl

Anonymous said...

YES SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH YOU !!!! OGUN HAS PUNISHED YOU .

Scorpy® said...

Can't believe you broda, not dat u av not done it b4.

Anonymous said...

At your age you don't know the way to a hospital/sex therapist abi? Mumu bookman way no sabi shi shi! Men like you are a wife's nightmare as your mother will dominate/control the marriage. Linda are these stories real?
The good nigerian.

Anonymous said...

Sir Cliff Richard, behold a man after your heart. My guy abeg go and register in a monastery.

Anonymous said...

Liaaaaaaaaaaaaar!

Anonymous said...

This isn't strange. My guess is you took to studying hard and you felt back then women were distractions.

Lasisi Segun said...

I bet u've not seen my neighbour. U need to set eyes on her & let's see if ur stance will remain d same

Anonymous said...

Well, I also have no desire(well just little). Only you can tell the reason for yours though.

As for me, It's just that I'm tired. Any girl I get with always want me on top her all the time.

Had so much that now I cherish my celibacy. Any time i feel like and i remember what how much i had sex... the thought alone is enough sex.

princess sleeky said...

come make i pray for u.....mayb is something spiriual,i advice u to go see a powerful man of God.

Anonymous said...

U better go and see a doctor because I think is abnormal.

Anonymous said...

U definately av a spiritual WIFE.u betr start praying.

promise michealz said...

U haff a serious psychologcal problem

Anonymous said...

You are not alone. A good number of people in the world are ASEXUAL. Google it and find out more.

Anonymous said...

Linda he is jazzed up so bad. In a way its good but trust me he is gonna have serious problem when he is about to settle down.

Anonymous said...

Sth is seriously wrong with u. It might not be biological. It might psychological problem. U hav to try work on ur mentality ok and try havin a girlfriend. Dat wil help u also to loosen up wit time

Anonymous said...

Really!!!! Pls linda, gimme his contact!!! I wud luv 2 get 2 knw him.

Anonymous said...

I'm trying rili hard 2 understand wat d problem is here. U said u get turned on sexually,so u get erections, meaning u hav a very functional dick. If dats d case, wen u get an erection or u get turned on sexually, d next rational feeling is d urge 2 av sex. If u get turned on sexually n d next tin dat comes 2 ur mind is 2 put on ur tv n watch d 9 o'clock news den ders sumtin absolutely wrong. U should probably seek d advice of a sexologist or something......

ugo said...

Oh well. Maybe u shld try to lay on top of a man n if that works, then ur gay.

Anonymous said...

There's abolutely nothing wrong with u dear! U haven't just come across the right person! Sex b4 marriage is a sin anyway! Just hang in there you'll be ok! God be with u!

Anonymous said...

I don't think you have any problem. Thank God for this grace he gave you. You are of age, I will advise you to get married to someone you love and things will work out perfectly well for you. There is no gain living in fornication. Don't mind your friends

Obianwu Festus said...

My guy, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. It is purely the state of your mind and your work schedules. I am currently going through the same case as yours. But i am happy. I have lived a rough life in the past having three kids from three different women. At a time, i told myself it is not going to happen again. I can't remember the last time i touched a woman or slept with one yet i am sexually active according to my Dr.

Anonymous said...

Guy man , something is wrong...

James said...

Dude, you're probably asexual. Refers to people who have no desire for sexual relationships. The condition is also called nonsexuality.

Unusual, yes but I don't think anything is wrong with it per se.

BIG FISH * said...

Nothing is wrong wit u... Jst dat u don't hve the feeling cos u hvent meet the right lady... Wit time u will meet the right woman and gradually d feeling will come and sex urge will follow...Better for u.
"STILL WATCHING FROM MY OCEAN

odobo grace said...

Something is wrong dude. U need a sexual multi-vitamin. Or.....

Anonymous said...

Lack of sexual desire in men can be of either physical or psychological origin.

Physical causes
Alcoholism – quite common.
Abuse of drugs such as cocaine.
Obesity – quite common; slimming down will often help.
Anaemia - unusual, unless the man has been bleeding for any reason.
Hyperprolactinaemia – a rare disorder where the pituitary gland produces too much of the hormone prolactin.
Prescribed drugs
Low testosterone level - contrary to what many people think, this is rare, except in cases where some injury or illness has affected the testicles.
Any major disease such as diabetes.

Psychological causes
Depression – very common.
Stress and overwork.
Hang-ups from childhood.
Latent homosexuality. (are you sure...???) *clears throat*

By the way, you didn't say if you have ever ejaculated? This could give us more insight into your present condition.

However, I advise you to urgently see an expert/specialist as every man deserves the taste of a good pu**y, atleast once, in his lifetime!!!

Anonymous said...

i'm not thinking about nothing....its ur life....nowadays,,everyone is allowed to do what they like-right or wrong,,,u're damn sure you will get compliment..even from the president.

Anonymous said...

Check urself spiritually.

Anonymous said...

Go meet Aboki for strong medicine...you really need help.

Anonymous said...

Oga Ade u have a serious problem. A very serious one that should not be underestimate. Pls u need not to see ur doctor alone u also need a spiritual deliverance. Aye mi ooo. Sex na wan tin tin...

Anonymous said...

Don't think anything is wrong with u.

Anonymous said...

Its not normal. You must be tempted to have sex but its what you do with the temptation that matters. Always say NO till you get married

moi said...

You sir sound asexual. It's perfectly normal and natural. You should check out the AVEN network, http://www.asexuality.org/home/, for more information and other people's diverse experiences. Not everyone is wired to WANT/DESIRE to engage in sexual act, even if visuals might stimulate one. There's a difference between sexuality and sensuality. And no matter how the mainstream seems to propagate otherwise and asexuals have been around since the ages of time. We just don't talk about it because the church and society never felt threatened by it, unlike the other sexualities. I do hope you see this in all the craziness that might ensue in the comment section. You sir are NORMAL. DON'T let others tell you otherwise. Ciao!

ROCKSTAR said...

When problems like misunderstandings, blame, criticism, control issues, poor communication, or empathy failures have not been resolved, most women lose their sexual desire.

What is missing for YOU ( woman) is the dopamine rush ─the brain chemical that promotes ecstatic pleasure created by excitement, passion, spontaneity, eroticism ─ along with the oxytocin, vasopressin, endogenous opiods, and testosterone ─ that enhance attachment, loyalty, trust, romance, and lust. Serotonin and GABA the good mood neurotransmitters are also on hold. And it seems there's nothing you can do to bring that incredible erotic feeling of lust back.

No matter the rot you are in, no matter how dispirited you feel, no matter the short supply of good mood neurotransmitters and love inducing brain chemicals, you can change all of this. You can help bring back romance, passion, and sexual desire. You can help reconnect love and lust coming to terms with the relationship, understanding the symptoms of depression and seeking professional help.

Your husband/Boyfriend needs to understand that you still love and desire him.He should help by going back to basis to re-sensitive and recreate old memories. Go on a holiday,become a girl again, allow him to woo you and do all those things that made life with him so beautiful. Trust me, when you do all these, you will get your groove back and thank me later.

Happy loving, and may you heal the tears in your commitment so that you can return to your goal-reaching efforts with renewed vigor and enthusiasm!

Anonymous said...

Hi,from a medical standpoint,it sure sounds like u have a problem.u nid 2 c a doctor n take d issue seriously.dre are a myriad Of medical conditions whose symptoms include a reduced or loss of libido(wat u described as a lack of desire to have sex).I'm sure u'll want dis cleared/addressed if u dream of being married someday.

Anonymous said...

hehehehe...let me lock u in a room of 3 hot wild girls u will have d desire by force lol..guy go meet ur pastor for deliverance lol

JAY said...

YOU NEED THERAPY

Anonymous said...

Let just say u haven't find ur true love, bcos if u do..... u will be dying to feel her.

Anonymous said...

Hey guy there are One thousand and One things wrong wt u.....lol...

EDDIE~SYFAR said...

He should see a doctor

Anonymous said...

Nothing wrong w him.I hv read abt ppl tht r asexual.they just don't like to hv sex.

Anonymous said...

Nothing wrong with him he's just asexual. Quite a few people are.

Anonymous said...

Nna, there is sumtin very much WRONG with u. Go see not just a Doctor but a Pastor. leggoo!

Anonymous said...

Your condition is beyond normal. I suggest you visit MFM because your spirit wife don over tie you. You need help biko

Anonymous said...

yes there is something wrong with you

Anonymous said...

This is very common there are many asexual people in the world. Most people dont talk about it because Africans are quick to tell them that the are possessed by evil spirits. Biologically it is proven that some people are just asexual. The have very low to no libido at all. They can still live their lives and achieve in everyday things because not having sex does not kill. Its also a problem when its man thats asexual its easier for women to just get married and let the man mount them and pretend to enjoy it. Man have a harder time because they can even be accused of being gay when they are not.

domingo said...

Uh..uh.. Dear,there is something wrong with ur sex drive or libido which is actually psychological.U ve had sex just once! And ure in ur thirties.How was ur first experience like? Were u raped by ur older ugly house help?or is there something wrong with ur p...s. Physically? I mean re u ashamed to show off d hidden parts of ur body?My dear,I feel for u cos love and sex is so so sweet...ure missing a lot.

Anonymous said...

Its more of a psychological problem. So go see a psychologist. But i may want to ask: how was your only attempt at sex? wasn't it pleasurable? and how was ur growing up yrs? were you abused sexually? well, go see a professional. I hope you get over it.

Anonymous said...

U need to go to d doctor I saw somethiing like that on tv and I also watched a tv series (HOUSE) where the guy didn't want to have sex it has something to do with hormones. The other thing that can cause it is when u get kicked down there. Google it. And b4 u saay house is a tv show all the medical cases r real. U can try those online chat with a Doctor too u will be Surprised all u need is hormone injection to balance ur system. Good luck

Anonymous said...

Better consult a psychologist or sex expert.
You have a problem even though your claim seems strange in this era where the thing is overrated.
Learn to eat right. Between beef and Chicken, which is more fattening.

*****PRINCE PAUL***** said...

ur case iz more psychological dan enitin else. I propose u see a psychologist.

Anonymous said...

You are madt ni! You mean to tell me you are not kpoxing any sexy yaariyan in lagos? You my friend, is sleeping on a bicycle.

Anonymous said...

simply go the seminary or just let her be on top instead.

Anonymous said...

Practise at d right time with a Lady who understands ur situation. PRACTISE MAKES PERFECT!

bee said...

If dis story is actually true.then u re *lakiriboto*go check ur sef.

Anonymous said...

There's abolutely nothing wrong with u dear! U haven't just come across the right person! Sex b4 marriage is a sin anyway! Just hang in there you'll be ok! God be with u!

ada said...

nothing, it's just who u are embrace it...maybe u r the type who is only turned on by that one special lady, or probably born to be celibate..#wink

willam said...

Ur simply Asexual..it normal!! I wish I dnt have a mad desire for sex,sadly I do!!!then let look @the spiritual aspect of it maybe that u have a spirit wife and she can't allow u sleep with another woman.That wat I think,if u dnt have sex in ur dream ur Asexual if u do then u have a spirit wife.

Go to MFM they have regular cases like dat.fornication is a sin!and the fact that u dnt av the urge to sex casually it a good.

Ben Emmy said...

It's possible.... I have seen celibates.....Abeg no be new thing....

emi said...

i think you should get a wife.cos if u r married u will definately get use to her


























































sQo said...

Maybe the girls you've had ur chance with are either not exactly ur taste or not fine or they're dirty.

Yh some of us love perfection too much.

But nigga, get a beautiful girlfrnd first (if you're capable of getting one). if u still aren't able to sex ur beautiful & sexy partner, bros sign up at the Vatican. They need you there.

Anonymous said...

Joke of the year, 2013!

NEVAEH said...

I'll just wait right here in my office for the comments to roll in cas dude I have nothing to say

Nkassy said...

Yes.........sumtin is wrong wit u,u r nt ok beta go 4 prayers d early d beta 4 u

Emmyboy said...

Nothing might actually be wrong with you.

I think you might be asexual, that's all.

Anonymous said...

Hormonal inbalance bro...I think Medical Laboratory Scientist can help U. Go for hormonal assay.

cheesecake said...

Hmmm this one na jamb question o...ok seriously I think you are absolutely ok,maybe you haven't met "the one"who'd bring out the horse in you, hehehe am I making sense tho!?course it honestly sounds weird to me that you have no desire'to lay on top of a woman'and you aint gay,nor a born twice!!so,my dear,u need to totally have your head checked cuz I think you are sicko!for sure(no offense)

NahMeBiko said...

There is nothing wrong with you ojare - cept that your hard drive has either crashed or has been corrupted !!

mz lahra said...

Oga u av a very biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig problemmmmmmmmmmmms.....ur village pipo are at work I must tell u!

Anonymous said...

maybe its because your first experience was poor or bad and maybe you should try touching yourself and see what happens from there

Anonymous said...

Bro you ve a calling maybe you shud go join the monks or better still try me I bet you will do it once and continue till eternity.

Anonymous said...

I have a fwend like dat sha....bt hmmmmmmmm

Anonymous said...

U are gay,just try guys or maybe u like taking c*ck instead of giving..come out and be free!!.but beware of da 14yrs sentence in naija o..lol

rich said so said...

Linda I think I have found a husband for you two of you will make a great couple linaway what do you thin? Lol

kuku said...

Brother everything is wrong with you,you don't strafe and you don't masturbate either. Hmmm you need two things see a psychologist and a very good pastor. Ok. ℓ☺ℓ

Anonymous said...

you are a guy and you are asking if there is something wrong with you, really, REALLY!!! bros you need medical help asap, pls no forget to add serious prayer and fasting plus deliverance on top, sho dis na serious wahala. *reads the story again, CHAI!!!

Jane said...

Emmmm....i dnt think there's a real prob per say bt it could be a clinical issue, coz I knw of a gal who's allergic to sex (like she literally breaks out rashes n experiences untold pain if she has sex). It wudnt hurt to gt chckd out....or pray, it cud be d village pple ;-)

anochie coleman said...

Nothing is wrong with yu jawee
If there is no desire to lay on top woman
Then make the woman lay on top of you

Shikena

Anonymous said...

Ehn, ds is simple... Let a woman lay on top of U̶̲̥̅̊ if U̶̲̥̅̊ can't lay on top of a woman or let a man touch U̶̲̥̅̊ if touching a man is repulsive to U̶̲̥̅̊ or better stil bcum a Rev. Father. Or get a lady dt doesn't lyk sex as U̶̲̥̅̊ n mk love only 4 d purpose of procreation dts my sincere advice bro!

Anonymous said...

This is not just an issue for pple to discuss as I don't see ow any1 can give u a suitable advice. He needs to check his history to see if som1 else has had dis problem, if he suffered from any form of abuse especially from any female den investigate nd rule out d gay issue. He shld go for deliverance in a strong church like MFM den try again. He shldnt just jump into sex wen he meets a lady, he shld get to know her nd b friends so his feelings can grow den let sex com naturally. Mayb tins will work out well aftall. There r pple dat can't just do sex witout feelings for d person, mayb he's one of such pple.

Egyro.

Jess Ann said...

YES dear something is obviously wrong somewhere..u need to see a doctor. I once experienced such thing until I went for counseling.except if you choose to remain single or be a Rev. Fr. Cos no marriage/relationship survives without SEX. Plz look for this books and read..it will help u a lot. DIVINE SCIENCE by Samael Aun Weor. SEX IS NOT A FOUR LETTER WORDS by James Watkins..wish u Luck

Anonymous said...

Nothing wrong with you. Actually sex is over rated.

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