You guys cheat all the time and women forgive you. But when it's reversed, you don't forgive. Why? Is it your ego?
Tuesday, 30 April 2013
Question for the guys: Why is it harder for men to forgive infidelity?
You guys cheat all the time and women forgive you. But when it's reversed, you don't forgive. Why? Is it your ego?
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 299 of 299Well let's look on the bright side, if your wife cheats on you, see it as an opportunity to dump her and marry another young and beautiful wife, without having any guilty conscience
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Well let's look on the bright side, if your wife cheats on you, see it as an opportunity to dump her and marry another young and beautiful wife, without having any guilty conscience
Well let's look on the bright side, if your wife cheats on you, see it as an opportunity to dump her and marry another young and beautiful wife, without having any guilty conscience
Let me share the reason to my mind why men can't forgive a woman who cheats. I love my wife a lot. I flaunt it. She gave me two lovely sons. No kidding but the love I v for my kids is beyond this world. Now what do u think will be at the back of my head if I find my wife cheating? I begin to ask if my Jnr is actually mine. Fine we got dna n Ish today but think way back. Its why no one wants a cheating woman. Women r designed to receive, men to give...semen I mean for all ye sexist. So pls gurls don't screw around.
MY WIFE CHEATED ON ME WITH ONE GUY THAT LIVES DOWN OUR FLAT. I CAUGHT HER AT THE DOOR AND DUDE REFUSED TO COME OUT. OF COURSE HE'S NOW MOVED OUT AND HE'S ON THE RUN. IVE BEEN SHARPENING MY CUTLASS FOR ALMOST 2 YEARS NOW WAITING TILL WHEN I FIND HIM. AS FOR MY WIFE, I STILL LOVE HER BUT MY ESTIMATION OF HER HAS REDUCED TO 0.000001%.
We men can have sex without feelings but girls dont.They get emotionally attached to their sexual partner..
Your pussy is meant for your man only. Somethings CANNOT be shared. Enough said.
A guy can cheat without emotional attachment. sometimes its just about the adventure.
For a woman, 90% of the time, Emotions have to be involved. The guy will feel like he has lost the woman emotionally hence finding it hard to forgive.
Note: not being emotionally attached does not justify cheating for men and forgiveness by women but it certainly does explain it.
NATURE
I am a man and I know that we have earned the scorn of women for our sexual improprieties, yet few will admit it. My gender, arguably responsible for as much destruction as good in the world, has inherited a cultural contempt hard to defend. Honestly I don't know why we go berserk when our ladies cheat. Maybe it's about the ego or about the realization of the fact that all the excuses that we create or come up with for our actions, instead of taking responsibility are hitting us back and we couldn't deal with it. Am still trying to figure this out.
Having said that, I truly believe women are more relationally sophisticated, and manage their lives and emotions better than men do. Candidly, the average guy is clueless about what makes a good relationship/marriage and needs to grow up in order to succeed at love and intimacy.
I am guilty of this infidelity, having cheated on my ex - girlfriend a few times. Despite my devotion to her, facing my demons, working through pain, grief, anxiety and loss,there have been predictable twists and turns. Forgiveness came eventually, but forgetting never does. My indiscretion changed my relationship forever, innocence and dreams lost. And till today, am still trying to make everything right again.
As I struggled to come to terms with my own infidelity, I became aware that while I was fully responsible for making the choice to betray my girlfriend, that decision was made within a very complicated context in which I created the conditions for my own vulnerability to meet opportunity in the perfect storm - one that felt necessary for my survival but quite clearly was self-indulgence.
So, I say to my male brethren: Biko MAN Up! Do the warriors' journey of introspection and encounter with yourself in order to contribute to a new male legacy worthy of our potential. The reward is worth it and found in the very lessons I learned through betrayal - That 'LOVE is more powerful than any circumstance no matter how dire and the possibility to reinvent a marriage/relationship, regardless of how broken, is available to anyone who is willing to evolve and learn how to truly love.
My opinion, if you are dating/about to date or marry, seek the company of individuals who intend to follow through with wedding vows, every hour of every day. If you’re at the intersection between staying true to your vows or going down the road of infidelity, don’t let the person you share the road with steer you the wrong way.
And before you go into an intimate relationship, clearly agree upon the boundaries. Define what your expectations are. Don't assume. Letting a partner or prospective partner know what is not okay in your book and hearing the other person’s boundaries is an important part of the 'getting-to-know-you' process. If you don’t enjoy looking into a mirror and seeing “A Cheat”, don’t put yourself in the position of looking into a sweetheart’s eyes and seeing “A Cheat” reflected. Know yourself and know the other person’s definitions. Iron out your definition and agreements together before the eventual upset rather than later. If you fail to do so the person you might cheat is yourself.
I cheated on myself and I am still paying the price.
Stay beautiful and Classy.
no man like sharing his wife with another man
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The thought of another man fucking my girl/wife is enough to drive me crazy. It is the ultimate humiliation. I don't cheat and I will NEVER cheat. I speak for myself. I am fiercely LOYAL. And I expect TOTAL loyalty.
me sef i wonder. And even when they say they have forgiven, its not whole heartedly. useless goats
My girlfriend cheated on me shortly before I left for abroad, I wanted to marry her and bring her down. I loved her with all my heart and she was gorgeous and I was incredibly nice to her. I did not confront her, I pretended all was well. It was when I left I told her of my discovery, with evidence. She was stunned. That was the END!
Forgive me if this opinion has already been shared...
In my opinion, i believe men naturally differentiate between their flings and their real emotions. In other words, cheating is usually carnal (well in my case), and women know this. Women on the other hand don't make that distinction subconsciously and so cheating can and usually does have emotional strings. Men subconsciously know this and find it hard to forget...hence forgive.
Just my opinion.
Good topic I see'' Linda's men'' are out in full force and I am surprised the women are kind of quiet. My advice to women especially married ones is please please whatever happens do not and I repeat do not cheat on your husband. From personal experience it is a deal breaker and your hubby will never trust you again period.My wife cheated on me 5 years ago and for the first 3 years I don't think there is one day I did not think about her infidelity.we have lovely children I love to death and the stigma of them being from a broken home is the only thing that has kept me in the marriage. I owe that to them and I am willing to sacrifice my feelings and emotions to make sure they grow up in a proper family set up like I did.yes time heals wounds but it never goes away I promise you. I love my wife ,but this singular act of indiscretion has ruined what could have been a wonderful, loving marriage. I try but I know deep down things are not the same and will never be the same again. Men please take family background into conside ration before u marry chances are if she is from a broken or dysfunctional family she may have low morals and be prone to cheating. God bless you faithful women continue endureing and don't follow the current bad trend of cheating and infidelity.
@ Anonymous 13.14pm "il rather face my good job and get a boytoy dat can fuck me silly anytim i want and i can change 4rm time to time" i really like ur comment they like to cheat but they dont like to be cheated on
We should ask ourselves why Vaginal is seal and penis is not? ......Gbagaun!
@Anon 4:08 PM. You are free to go to other countries and marry there.
As far as I am concern, Nigerian men are VERY good. There are always there to help a sister, so many girls today went through universities with the help of men,some even go as far in helping their families. Many of these so called successful business women got their capital from generous men. Tell me how much do actresses make in a movie, yet you see them displaying cars worth millions on the internet. Na so e easy?.
true o, men feel when a girl sleeps with anoda guy feelings are involved
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There is really no reason for a woman to cheat on me because I WILL NEVER FORGIVE HER. NEVER. I am always the BEST I could. I have NEVER cheated on any girl I have had a relationship with, so why would I cheat on my WIFE, the mother of my kids? She has the option of telling me she wants out. A relationship is not a do or die matter. If she is fed up for one reason or the other, and wants to go and fulfill her fantasy with some other guy, she is free to walk away and not live a life of deceit with me. Marriage is scared.
I strongly believe when couples stay faithful to each other, it comes with blessings.
Linlin, have u asked urself why it is dat a key which can unlock many locks is called master key while a Lock dat is opened by many keys is called a useless lock? Dat answers ur question, baby. I'm not promoting promiscuity but d ladies are d locks while d guys are d keys.
Now, ladies answer dis: Why is it dat most ladies lie about their past relationships and d number of times they've been pregnant in d past?
It hurts a lot baby. We hardly ever take it.
Dat's it my boy!!! D Ego tingy. We ain't letting dat happen.
A woman, especially a married woman who can open her private part for another man to insert his penis is a DANGER. That is the lowest any woman can go. I guess that was the reason the Yoruba's invented 'magun'. I was told it means 'don't climb'. Wonderful invention! Try it and you will meet your untimely death! Hahahahaha!!!
Master key tinz.
I dont care whether its the norm or whether its a man's world, gosh! i hate that statement. Unfortunately, most girls will take back their cheating bfs, just the same way the same girls would be out there com4table with being "the other girl" or "the other woman". If every girl stood up to reclaim their dignity by first refusing to be the other woman, then we can take it from there...It all starts with the girl- accept only a guy who treats u like a queen but u have to behave lyk a queen, not go around screwing every frog that claims to be a potential prince...
My woman's pussy is for me and me only. That's something I can't share. Try sharing, that will be the end. Married or not.
So if d man imagines all dis n finds it so hard/imposible to 4get, wat dyu fink d woman imagines wen its her man cheating...and oh!I bet u fink it easy and possible 4 her 2 4get..smh! In God's eyes, cheating is cheating pls.Nothing like wen a girl cheats its more dan ordinary abeg
As a woman, the way i see it is that no man has the right to say he cant forgive a woman for cheating on me. its either of these two things:
your babe is a slut which is your fault cause why would you want to be with a slut. or
you caused her to cheat. women naturally dont cheat except they feel they arent getting what they need from you. so if shes not a slut and she cheats on you. the blame is on YOU
How many women here can boldly tell their parents that they cheated because of their husband's infidelity?
In the bible, the woman who committed adultery did it with a man but the man was no where to be 'found',rather she was the one the crowd wanted to stone to death. It was the graceful words of Master Jesus that saved her.
I do not condone infidelity, the point I am trying to make is this: Our society is very hard on woman who cheat.
...because it hurts to bad. I can't forgive, girlfriend or wife.
Don't be deceived love,just because a guy gets jealous when you show another person attention doesn't mean he loves you, it just means he hates sharing! I don't mean he doesn't love you o, I just mean dat
In my opinion there are two sides to this coin, if the guy never cheats and then the woman cheats its unbearable for the man. If the men cheats and does not get caught but she cheats and gets caught, i pity for the woman.Besides the guy is worried she will "catch" something
It is no prove
And I will never do it again. Though we both erred, we are stronger.
As Rick Ross wld say: How can I stay faithful in a world full of Hoes. Well, its in our nature (guys) to plough anything ploughable even if its wrong. I cnt just stand my girl cheating on me bcuz that imagination of a man untop of her & stuff wld always be running tru my mind. So women shld just deal with it.
*puffs out smoke*
Men get bored easily and are usually not emotionally attached when cheating. WOMEN are emotionally attached when cheating!
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Its coz if a guy sleeps around he's d real man buh if a girl does the same she's a whore. Shikena
AH, as a female I can answer that ONE TIME! There are good, rational HUMAN men who understand that they are humans capable of rational thought. For those ones the implication that you cannot control your baser desires is ridiculous. They may lapse into cheating and if they do they realise what a horrible thing they've done and are sorry. Although they are hurt if their partner cheats too they know she is not completely to blame. For the others, THE ANIMALS (less than animals actually because even some animals are selective....in fact I believe lobsters have only one mating mate...) they are simply lower animals that did not evolve with the rest of their menfolk. The most they can do is apply an artificial cover to look like they merit the label 'men'. With time, it fades and you see that alas, you have been fooled by something that is sub-human and quite incapable of rational thought. Obviously those are the creatures you refer to.
When men cheat,its just about the sex but for a girl to cheat,its more emotional....she has got to like this other guy so much and possibly even be falling in love.....guys know this and feel uncomfortable about it
like cwiosly?hw can u say its ur "nature". God made the human nature nd God did not say a man can cheat! i think its ego Problem. ur tellin ur gf nt to cheat while ur banging other girls? boy it doesnt work!
How will I put my dick in that place again? No trust anymore.
@Veeon. Yes, we are useless goats. A real goat does not forgive a cheating woman. You strike me like a lady who cheated and could not find forgiveness. Your man is a classy goat! Thumb up to him!
I meant to say....because it hurts SO bad. I cant forgive, girlfriend or wife.
If you fuck outside and you get caught, that is your LEAVE. Just go and DON'T come near me AGAIN.
It is a capital sin to be fucked by another man, and it is unforgivable. Where is your pride as a man knowing your girlfriend/wife has been desecrated?
really i dnt know, i go dey imagine how she go dey moan for d oda guy while he screws her.....like i do to oda gals while they moan too
frm mai NOKIQ ASHA
MR Tunde
@innocent and u claim to love her, jokes...this only proves that u don't and perhaps both of u were wasting your time.
i personally dnt think its ego, men frm my point are jst selfish beings. they dnt knw the psychological effects of their cheating on us and yet despite the pain and betrayal we still forgive them but they simply cant let go wen cheated on. IDIOTIC BEINGS
i hate hearing people say it's a man's world....grow up Africa!!!! these silly men are too idiotic to rule the world in the first place. They are controlled by their dicks....no sense at all...none. mtsheeeewwww!!!!!
I have read all the comments made here...and I have to say 99% of the men who commented have no sense at all. Garri is what has filled up their brains. silly idiots.
the truth is that as men we know that it is not easy for a woman to spread her legs out for a man. whoever she gives sex means she has emotional feelings for the person and as men we know this. whoever a woman gives her body is who she loves. it is hard for u to be with a woman knowing that her feelings belongs to another person
I'm really not writing this for public opinion, I'm simply answering your question: Most men do it without being emotionally attached - "Intimacy without intricacies"; while most women (excluding whores) first want to feel a connection and get emotionally attached with men before sleeping with them.
Men find it hard to forgive infidelity because they hate emotional competition.
Cheating is morally wrong either way. But our culture and society confer undue advantage on men over women.
Wat society do u live in! Cos ere in d UK and even in d USA any man who cheats and is caught is ready 2 ruin all hez worked for! Only God's grace and a prenup can save him
Dis doesn't answer d question.. Women have memories too.
Nacked indeed lol. The truth remains dt guys feel they av failed if their babes meet anoda nacker.they will say,"choi,dis guy fit don nack am pass me oooo. Etc
Lol! personally i think its not about ego or bible saying. i think its hard to forgive cos for a woman to cheat emotion must be involved, i dont think a woman will spread her legs to a man without emotions except she be ashawo. but for a man we can just do it just for the fun of it and walk away. So if your girl is cheating on you it simply means someday she will leave you cos her emotions is divided thats why we the guys ends the relationship before she does. i stand to be corrected if am wrong.
I MOAN when am bn phfucked,screwed tumbled,militanted,drilled etc.I don't MOURN.
both men n women re nt suppose to cheat. D bible made it clear to us that God hates adultery n fornicatn so much. I dont see y u cheat on d person u claim to love. Cus if u love som1. Dat person is like a pic in ur brain, u think of no other.although u might find so 1 hot but u easily get it off u mind wen u rember ur love is ryt at home waitinq for u.
Amongst y'all, bonario gave τ̲̅ђe correct answer †̥O̅ this ques?....hope it won't be six leg rather than four hahahahah
mourn ke?...rotfl.u LIB will nt kill me.
Women are meant to have more self control than men. But that still is no reason for lack of forgiveness, because it is also very easy for a woman to let her guard down when she is hurt or in emotional crisis, which most guys take advantage of.
Technically i think women should be more unforgiving as the guys mostly make the move meaning its intentional, while the women are mostly tricked, compelled or sweet-talked into it with words like "I Love U"
your ignorance and the universe have something in common-both know no bounds.you are a blatant and complacent fool.
In as much as I don't support infidelity but the reason why men don't easily forgive is because they feel they should be on top of the game, giving it and not the other way round, its also the imagination that goes on in their minds, their girl moaning under the pleasure of another mans pumping lol...
Cheating is a game nobody wins.
What's the point of sharing something that should not be shared.
Lol...cos she's d most defiled..the one more prone to shame...imagine bein in a room with 10guys and 6 of them've screwed u
Can't believe I'm doing this but here goes...
I've cheated on my bf & till date its still smthing I regret.Yes he forgave me & our relationship has been stronger but deep within me I keep thinking of what might be going thru his mind wen we make love. I feel guys can forgive & it truly takes a bigger heart to do but in d long run d relationship can either grow stronger or disintegrate from there.
So grateful I was given a second chance to love d same guy & I cherish him more each day. Would never think of cheating again & putting either of us in dt place again cos trust me cheating only degrades. Will never want to feel dt cheap or used ever again.
Isaiah 4:1 E.O.D
Women bear children and know exactly who their fathers are,I wouldn't want to train another man's kids in ignorance,only to be dispossessed of them in future.Secondly you may not know,what they will be bearing in your home.A cheating woman can easily do away with her partner to move on,with the other man. I cannot stand such a woman period.
Ur comment is very stupid..nobody is meant to cheat..
What nature. .r u mocking God that said one man one wife..the marriage bed undefiled...pls u plp should stop this nonsense
The only sense making comment I hv sin..pls God didn't create men to cheat and be polygamous..pls stop lying to ur selves it is selfish and wrong
Gbam..leave all these babies on this blog
But men are usually d 1s dat make d women cheat, d woman will be yearning 4 d tender luv wic dey are too busy 2 give,some men are so heartless dat dey leave d wife/Gf 4 as long as 3 months or more,or wen dey do it will only last a few seconds whereas d woman is always available wen + whereva needed. Men shld pay more attentio 2 dier women, 'cos dats d major reason a woman is tempted.
No man will be happy to find out that the little urchin calling him daddy is actually another man's baby.
For the simple reason that a man hopes to propagate his DNA, his immortality so to speak, it would be very difficult to forgive a partner who potentially may deny him of that chance. I am sure it would be easier to forgive a menopausal wife of infidelity than a young new wife. Neither would a man be happy to find out he procured D&C for his girlfriend when another man was responsible. A woman on the other hand would be more offended if her partner actually loved the other woman and didn't just have a fling.
Fucking moron , u idiots with this nature crap . It's all fucking bull , " in our nature " my back foot .
Home breaker , and u r proud to say it ode . You know Jonathan is watching u guys now , so we can find out who u r . Ashewo no be work , what comes around goes around .
U are such a big fool. U just make useless comments without understanding what d post is all about. Ode!
It's folk belief to state that women readily forgive adulterous men. Men, too, do forgive women's infidelity. The impression of men seldom forgiving arises from our social attitude: women's infidelity is kept hush hush. Period. I have examples of so many men around who either pretended not to accept that their wives, girlfriends, or concubines were adulterous, or simply deciding to turn a blind eye. A distant cousin to one of my parents simply told his family not to report his wife with whom he had 7 children since he knew she was wayward.
Its a psychological tin,men are known to be incharge, co-ordinate tins, make decisions and handle the affairs of the relationship. Men cheat and some have real reasons to defend their actions while some simply just desire to "conquer" every cute being on skirts but a lady dat cheats speaks volumes since it takes alot for women to cheat in dis part of the world and it is DEFINITELY connected with a deficiency in her man's character or ability! So a man see cheating on him as the end of the relationship simply bcus he feels his woman is not contented with him and the dude which she opened her legs for better than him which our egos wud certainly not accept. dated ma chic for six years and she didnt hav a reason to cheat bcus i was "man enough" in every area but wud neva forgive her if she did it ohhh
-paskaLACHI
my bf says d same thing too dt hel never forgive me if i cheat..i cheated on my bf once n even tho he forgave me at first n we tried to make it work eventually he said d wounds couldnt heal n broke up with me....of which he was cheating on me with various girls at d time n constantly abandons me...bt u know i get so much love from my bf now dt i dnt see how i could ever cheat on him..n even tho weve been togeda over two yrs nw im still madly inlove n cnt imagine having intercourse with sme1 else. so if ur woman is cheating on u u need to ask urself what ur doing wrong
i always lift my girl up to remind her on what i will do if her phone went off at 9PM
@lwkmd_naija
Our nature.
Walahi yur stupidity knows no bounds.. Was that the question she asked! Kilagbe kileju? Olodo jatijati. Wat does anti Christ have to do with this. Did she preach infidelity here? Ode. It's yur type that can never pass exam cus they would ask A you would go completely off point. Okponu. Mcheww.
Linda post my comment o
Well i have once forgive my ex who was infidel but she later took advantage of that and decided to remain that way. I decided to let go of her when i realised she can't change. What will you say about that? LESSON- When she freaks out let go of her if she is not ready to change
cuz it's a woman's role 2 be submissive....lol...onli jokin.... True fact is that its harder for a man to trust again period. be it a man or a woman
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