I have been married for 12 years with no kids. The doctors say I'm alright, the problem is with the wifey. I'll be turning 44 this Saturday and I want children of my own. I've endured for 12 years and I think I've had enough. Is it time to move on?
Please I want opinions from male readers only. ThanksMale readers only? Niggam say what? Please ladies, feel free to share your thoughts on this! You will tell me if you're the moderator of this blog. *hiss* :-)
BTW mister, giving up on your wife is almost like giving up on God. #justsaying
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 212 of 212The man that asked for this advice already knows wat he wants to do, we r just wasting time to comment. he should remember, what goes around comes around, if he gives up on his partner now, he may not know wat will befall him in future.... besides, what if he marries another woman who bears him children and then cannot make him happy in marriage? let him do wat he wants to, the result will be awaiting him
Surrogacy is a good option to consider, even if you don't find someone here in Nigeria willing to do it, there are many women abroad that will be happy to do it. Think about it. The sperm and egg will be from you and your wife so it will be your biological child. Only difference is that your wife is not the one that will carry the pregnancy. All the best.
meeenn! am sooo loving ur comment! infact can i be ur Mrs Wharreva?
Pls be patient and try and endure further. I know someone who is in the same situation as you. He's healthy and its his wife who has the problem. They have been married for 17years now and they have tried every possible medical solution with no successful result. The man's twin brother has 3 children and his first child is 17 so its been very painful for the man to watch his twin brother's children grow with him wondering when his would come. About 3years ago, he and his wife adopted a beautiful baby girl and now they are so happy to at least have a child in their home. So i encourage you to be patient and try and understand how your wife feels being that shes the one with the problem. Adoption isnt a bad idea today. In due time, i believe God will surprise your family.
if its according to the bible, nope. Matthew 19 says that the only reason you can leave ur wife is on the grounds of adultery.
You can adopt from the millions of kids without parents out there. But God does not support your leaing your wife.
okay guys, hear my story. We've been married 5years no children, seen so many doctors in naija, all they saw was my fibroid and my husband was clean. Fibroid (who doesn't have fibroids 80% of black women have fibroids but they still have babies. So we went to yankie recently for testing. KATAKATA COME BURST. My hubby had bigger problems than my fibroids, as a matter of fact the doc said my case is not a big deal at all, compared to what is troubling him. Meanwhile there is no name under the earth that my mother inlaw has not called me. I wish i could see her jaw drop when her son tells her "if he" tells her he has the problem. So am i suppose to leave him because of his condition? of course not i love him. Or am i suppose to sleep with another man to have a baby? Nope i won't do that either. I know he is depressed he keeps saying the docs are fools they don't know what they are saying and i just kinda agree with him to make him happy, but God will help sha. I asked him to let us go back to yankie for second opinion he said he will never go there again because they don't have a clue. What do u guys think?
i like the surrogacy comment, if you don't want your people to know she didn't carry the baby, just send your wife to Ghana and tell them she went to have her baby abroad, by the time she comes back she brings the baby with her after the delievery. :) All she has to do is get fat a little and color her neck small Just a thought you know how our people are.
try surrogacy... leaving ur wife does not necessarily guarantee happiness else where. But I suppose it depends on ur moral duties and ur foundation...
Mister, unfortunately i must say that if the situation is reversed and its you that has a problem, and ur wife is fine, will she cope for 12yrs? From my experience, there are only about 5% out of a 100 women that will. Dont mind all these stupid women on this thread. Ordinary say man no sabi make better love to im wife she don pack load leave am, not to talk of pikin issue. Women are the most selfish creatures on earth! However, if u feel ur wife wld have done the same, then keep praying with her. If not, score offside goal abeg!
The things that make you go hmmm. Well I am not trying to tell you what to do but IF you are a christian, a real born again spirit filled Christian o, not born wuru-wuru church-goer bench-warmer bawonkunjo christian o, then you prolly already know this errr sorry sir, divorce for that reason is not an option. Think of it this way, what would it profit a man to gain the whole world but lose his soul? You go out and commit adultery, get the child(ren) or maybe not sef and now what? You live in sin and leave the wife of your youth and answer to God on that last day. Just stuff for you to ponder sir. In the meantime, hold on just a little while longer please. It will happen for you in this lifetime I know because I will be praying for you. When it happens please come back to share the testimony ok. Promise me you will do that, let people see the power of God in action, there are some faithless people in the world out there, they NEED to know that the God we serve is still in the business of jaw dropping miracles ok. In the meantime listen to the guy who said you should take the pressure off you both so her womb sef go accept your sperm abi so your sperm sef no go dey too hostile. It is well. May we not go through that which is beyond us....
Meanwhile Janedoe83 I love you! Your comment made me fall off my chair...
ever heard of adoption? dts what you shd do
Hey man i know how you feel im 34 and got married when i was 28 and my wife cannot have kids naturally , we have had 2 failed IVF attempts with donor eggs . Im totally depressed , ive prayed to god thousands of times and tried to be a good christian
! it really is hard seeing your friends and family have kids with ease. I regret marrying my wife i just want to run away ! No one can judge you , do what you want !
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