Actress Regina Chukwu who lost her husband to the cold hands of death in June 2003, says she doesn't like being referred to as a single mother. Speaking in an interview with The Nation, Regina said
"I don’t like being referred to as a single parent. The fact that I lost my husband does not make me a single parent. I just want to take God, for the way they have turned out to be. I am my daughter’s best friend".
On why she hasn't remarried, Regina says it is because of her kids.
"Actually, it is because of them that I decided not to remarry then. Like I said earlier, I won’t call myself a single parent, because I am Igbo. The fact that you have lost your husband does not mean that you are still not married to that family. So as it is traditionally I am still married to my husband family. I am still their wife and if they want to do any family function, I am considered and called upon. I still belong to the community wives meeting. When my husband passed away, I was called and asked if I wanted to remarry. The condition was for me to leave their children and go ahead. But I looked at my kids and they were still very young and I decided to stay. My children have been asking if I won’t remarry; they want a baby sister or brother. But I don’t know what God has in plan for me. I am open to whatever God is says will happen to me. If I decide to remarry now, it means whoever I want to get married to will pay my bride price and my parents will then go back to my late husband’s family to return the bride price they paid on me. It is tradition telling them this lady is no longer your wife. But when it is not done, I still remain their wife. I still paid my mother-in-law a visit last year"she said
Regina says it hasn't being easy being a widow
"It hasn’t been easy. I started my career about 13 years ago and my kids were still very young at that time. But today, my daughter is 16 and my son is 14, I am grateful to God. But not that they are grown up, it gives me more time to be able to pursue my dream to the level I want to take it to. Not that I have attained that dream, because I am yet to receive some awards that I want my name on, but so far, it has been great. It is not that I don’t worry about their welfare, but I have my mom and my siblings to fall back on their wellbeing, wherever I am not around".
29 comments:
No be only leave the kids and go ahead...
... Merited happiness
The Lord is your strength girl
Rare specie you are dear....
And wot is wrong in being a single parent??? Local ibo trash! Wit their poor mentality
Strong mama
But you are a single mother, and there is nothing wrong with that. Don't read into all the negativity single mothers get, because single fathers never get the same thrown on them. No matter how tragically you became one or not, you are still that person till you remarry if you choose to.
Madam Regina, you are a single parent. As long as the father of your kids is not around, be it dead or otherwise. You are raising them without their father. Other single mothers have family members helping out and still married to their husbands family too.
Beautiful...
Abeg look well b4 U choose O.
U still Beautiful ans I never knew she had a grown up kids like this not to talk or Married..
God will bless them for U 4 all the sacrifices U render 2 tk care of them.
Eyaa! It is well wt u and ur chidren.
Seen... dee
I admire you alot. The lord is ur strenght.
You're what yuh say yuh are...good to know, Ma.
Yes ooo, you can tell she has good home training. Oyingbo, stick to your heart and don't be pressured.
Wow..i love your trust and courage in God my dear..God must see u through
It well I like ur life
I never heard of her till now. I like her. I will look for her movies and watch. She seems to be a good woman
wot kinda tradition is dat..all ds backward tinz..so if u remarry u shd leave d kids u spent 9mths to carry and all u have passed thru and leave for ur hubby family...hahahah very funny..
but does such things happen!!!!Returning bride price shuu!!! wen its not as if u asked to divorce or its ur fault u lost ur hubby.
take control of ur life jare all d money u have spent on ds kids to grow up to dat stage am sure not many contributed to dat from d family.
Kudos to you dear. The Lord will direct your path
chai
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds
May they Lord be with you dear.
I'm ibo,that thing she wrote there is a huge lie,who will tell u to leave ur kids and remarry,ain't u their mum anymore cos u remarried. Regina or whatver u call yourself,stop saying things u are not sure of pls. And NOTE,you are a single parent until u remarry its not stigma,u are not married to your mother in law.
See the low life frustrated imbecile calling some1 a local ibo trash.obviously know ur a wasted jobless illiterate from 1 stupid Yoruba state
You are a foil
She is a widow and not a single mother. A single mother is one who is not married to a man but has children for the man out of wedlock.
An anonymous 17.07, u are very stupid from a useless family,if u don't know she's right and everything is wrong about single mother.when u are not properly Married to a man and u cheaply make babies for him. So get it in to ur empty skull, she's right and shouldn't be addressed as a single mother or whatever. We igbos have culture and ways of doing things. Ewu yoruba
Stop embarrassing yourself. A single parent means a person who has a dependent child or dependent children and who is widowed, divorced, or unmarried.
Thinking of remarry, when you hav a girl of 16yrs and a boy of 14yrs..and in few yrs of 5 or 6 u become grandmother....That's crazing thinking for me!!!!!!!
Am sure she was referring to her hubby's kinsmen. They were the ones that asked her to leave her kids if she wanted to remarry, not like it's Igbo's tradition.
Whatever she says she is now a single parent till she marries again or her kids get adopted. Being a single parent is not a stigma, nor a crime. The Lord is her strength.
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