Dear LIB readers: I cheated on my husband and I plan to continue
From a LIB reader
I have been the angry, unsatisfied and bitter wife for the last nine years. I'm married to a man who has absolutely no respect for the marriage institution. He has had more girlfriends than I have changed my hair since we got married. He started cheating on me months after our wedding in 2004 when I was pregnant. And it hasn't stopped ever since. Every other day a different girl, a different situation, a lot of drama. Initially he would lie or try to cover up when I ask him questions or catch him but now he tells me to go to hell and leave the marriage if I was no longer satisfied.
Well, I have four kids and I don't plan to be a single mother in this kind of environment so I'm staying put in my marriage but I'm done being the victim. Yes, I have started cheating on my husband. I am proud to say I have a boyfriend who I have regular, satisfying sex with. And I have absolutely no plans of being the faithful wife ever again. Once this affair ends, I'm starting a new one. There's no going back now. As long as he's cheating on me, I will be cheating on me. I smile a lot these days and it's not just Jesus putting the smile on my face. This is the happiest I have been in at least 8 years. And I also discovered that quite a number of my female friends have been cheating on their husbands for years now. Why didn't anyone give me the memo sooner? Just thought to share my happy story. Xoxo Happy Lagos wife.
SQo u dnt av 2 cal her ashawo.. Am nt tryin 2 justify wot d lady is doin by sayin she's doin d rite tin-NOOP! We live in d world whereby if a man cheats its a normal tin bt if d woman does it: its an ABOMINATION! D woman is obviously confused dts Y she felt cheatin on her hubby 2 get bk @ him is d bst- dts a grave mistake most married women do & get 2 regret it everyday of dia lives. Nobodi is perfect, we r all workin 2wards perfectn. I pray God wil gv her wisdom 2 address d situatn on tym b4 she regrets!
She's just telling u guys her joy. She's not seeking advice. Madam I share ur joy also. @least all she's asking for is regular sex abi. Hubby should have tried satisfying dat end b4 satisfying odas. Krisz
Most of d commentators here are HYPOCRITES n PHARISEES of these days! Y have u chosen to hit her and remain blind to †ђξ loose man. Is it right for a man to cheat And it is abominable for d woman? Pls don't b myopic!
Madam,♍α̲̅ dear advise is for u to divorce 'cause it could be tragic once d cat get off d bag n especially your children won't b happy cos mothers are always seen to be like perfect heroines!
I share your pain n plight! Two wrongs can't make a right. May God restore your home.
I'm not commending her but this is what is wrong with the society of today. A man cheats on his wife regularly there's no problem there rather he is being patted on the back for being a good sex addict meanwhile when the chic steps out of line for just a second everyone calls her a wayward and an ashewo. it takes to two to make a marriage work. He neglected his wife's needs doesn't give a damn about her needs at all now that she has gone out to satisfy her urges she didn't keep her marriage. y'all are just hypocrites. My advice to her though is that God gives her way around this mess two wrongs don't make a right. Get down on your knees and try and get your husband for counselling.
Its her life and she should live it the way she wants to. All man for himself. She sure knows the consequences and she should not blame the devil wen she gets caught. My advice is, take it to the Lord in prayer
Humm,is this stroy really real? and she even mentions Jesus.na wa ohh.there is no excuse in the sight of God for what u are doing?What do some women see in sex anyway?After 4kids u still crave for it to the extent that u proudly sleep around.don't worry,wait until the day yr husband will find out,na den u go know say woman nodi compare with man in certain aspects.even the society will frown at u,yr excuse that he is a serial cheat will fall on deaf ears.there is something called divorce woman.u suck! Princess
Your story sounds like my story but where I defer is, I Wont cheat on Jesus..its cos of Him dat I, ll stay faithful not cos of d dog one is married to.and of cos I have mykids to think of...dearest sis, trust me, "ur dog" isnt worth u messsing around with God's temple!
My dear, after 4 kids sex is no big deal anymore if you are not the wayward type. You had 4 kids in the midst of your husband's cheating so what's your stress now? Please check yourself very well, anger cannot be an escuse for self destruction. Mind your kids and leave sex alone, you ve had enough.
So sad 2knw ds woman has a low orientation. Whr is her "virtue?".she has forgoten she's nt cheating on her husband but 2herself&God. Am not justifying her husband but 2wrongs wl neva make a right. Notwithstanding she's destroying the future of her children cos she dosnt knw they r watching her too. If she contracts STD/HIV,she's forgoten it wud b in her system not d husbands. The word is enough 4d wise.
Thou shall not commit adultery. If your husband kills will you follow him to kill? My sister i know it's not easy but with God all things are possible.
All women are dogs and have a high tendency to cheat. Those that are not cheating yet just don't know how to go about it.An ex girlfriend who is married with a kid called to check up on me and ended up asking for sex. I asked her if she was having problems in her marriage and sex life and she said no that the husband gives her all she needs but she wants to feel another dick inside of her and she remembered how good mine felt. I sharply blocked her calls.Damn!!! It is a norm in our society now,just that nobody talks about it. Only a few,even the born agains are not spared.Cheating on their husbands all in the name of church programs. Fucking whores all of them.
D earlier u abstain 4rm such immoral act nd seek d face of the. Lord jesus d quicker ur suituation can be solved,ur hubby is a human being an he has a heart so it can be bent 2 d will of God,stop destroying ur home nd the lives of ur innocent kids.pere
So sad 2knw ds woman has a low orientation. Whr is her "virtue?".she has forgoten she's nt cheating on her husband but 2herself&God. Am not justifying her husband but 2wrongs wl neva make a right. Notwithstanding she's destroying the future of her children cos she dosnt knw they r watching her too. If she contracts STD/HIV,she's forgoten it wud b in her system not d husbands. The word is enough 4d wise.
My dear, I can relate with your story perfectly. Same thing happening to me right now. My hubby started cheated few months into our marriage...when I was pregnant. I caught him so many times by going thru his phone and all. Well we are 3 years into marriage now. We have a son and were expecting another soon. And I can tell u that yes, I cheated on him back late last year with a guy that had been disturbing me for a while. It made me happy then as well. But really, when u think about it. It's all not worth it eventually. Just draw closer to God to get your sanity and comfort and keep. Praying to the lord to touch his heart for better. Because the risks are really high for both of u being out there. Trust me u don't wanna contact any STD. All the best Sis. May God help. Us all
The world has definitely gone gaga. Things happen and truth is u never know how exactly ul handle a particualr situation until u find urself in it, so for this I won't judge. I know dis post was an "FYI" thing, not that u seek advice.All the same, pls if u blv there is God, if u blv some day we shall face dis God and be judged for our actions here on earth, if u know deep down dat dere are some women who av gone tru same or worse but never gave in to evil pressures(cos these will be ur judges), think twice b4 u ruin ur entire life(d one afta death dat matas most) with ur actions. If I eva find myself in dis(God forbid), ild pray for someone to send me these words so I could think twice.
All of u sounding holier than thou, plz shut it! Am not gonna justify what shebis doing, but c'Mon cut her sum slack, she is obviously hurting. Why does she have to be d one who shod consider the kids alone, cos she is a woman? Africans shod stop ds woman slaying and second class citizenry of woman abeg. And y is she d one to contact aids and not d hubby? Did she tell u she is looking for love? Obviously she dsnt have feelings for the flings as she already said she is ready to move on to d next once this one is over.. So plz if u cannot say kind words to her and advise her with love, shut it! Dear Lagos lady, please forgive him and face God, I knw it's not easy, but as much as I knw it's HARD, plz try. Forgive him doesn't mean u cannot file for a divorce, forgiving him will help u readdress the situation better and make d best of this fowl situation. And when u are divorced, u can then be in a healthy relationship with a guy that makes u happy for as long as he can make u happy, after which u can move on. Pele my dear, GOd is ur strength
All I can see is u allow ur husband's behaviour determine ur life it may nt b so easy nt to hurt in situations like dis. Ur self values n worth shall nt b limited to a man why allow him determine ur hapiness I'm nt saying u shld sit put while he cheats on u,it should't mk u a cheat as well, learn to love n apr8 urself without necessarily allowing a man to determine dat plz calm dwn and apr8 d children too
Athink una see married women. All you women that hint being married is your greatest accomplishment, i feel sorry for all of you. Focus on your business, your children and put your trust in God. Never let any man define you or dictate how you live your life, otherwise you will end up being an unfulfilled, depressed and miserable woman, and who suffers for it...the children. It's a shame, married women are evn more promiscuous than single girls these days, the men is just another matter. God help us all
I feel so sorry for this woman! You think you are hurting the man by cheating?? Would have been better killing yourself than going through this. So easy to fall into this kind of trap but I can confidently tell you that it is a path that leads to total destruction. You can't do this to yourself, please.
Nobody has the right to judge another. It's only God that can judge us. If the man is cheating with all impunity, and the woman is at home crying & being sad all the time, she will soon get sick, run high blood pressure & die before her time. And when this happens the man will remarry & continue his life. So my advise is that you should be very careful, but go for anything that will make you happy & extend your life.
So sad 2knw ds woman has a low orientation. Whr is her "virtue?".she has forgoten she's nt cheating on her husband but 2herself&God. Am not justifying her husband but 2wrongs wl neva make a right. Notwithstanding she's destroying the future of her children cos she dosnt knw they r watching her too. If she contracts STD/HIV,she's forgoten it wud b in her system not d husbands. The word is enough 4d wise.
Ur jes a big goat anony 1.09am did u hear her husband is cheating and am sure she is still young who wld be doin her so its her husband dt shld be gettin screwed abi, she got married so she can enjoy it on a regular basis n naaw she's not getting it abegg sister ride on but use condom don't bring a bastard to ur huSband's house but enjoy urself. Linda if u like no post am u no dey kuku post my comment. Mscheew
Dear LIB reader, it is quite interesting that even you realise that by cheating on your husband, you are cheating on yourself (I noticed you said "As long as he's cheating on me, I will be cheating on me"). Biko, take it easy. I believe that sex without love can only leave a woman feeling empty. One day, you will finally look in the mirror and tell yourself the truth......till then, we will read between your lines and see that you are truly not as happy with this meaningless sex as you claim. I feel your pain though and I wont ever wish your situation on anyone. May God be with you and your family.
Why is ashawo? Its okay 4 a man 2 do it ba? But wen d lady does it, she is called a bitch ba? God punish u sQo...... I'm not saying wat she is doing its rite, but damn, give a gal a break men!!!! I think wat she needs is more communication with her hubby, and God wud help dem both IJN.
FIRST OF ALL, I WOULD SAY YOU NEED TO PRAY ABOUT YOUR CHEATING ATTITUDE.. A GOOD HOUSE WIFE WOULD NEVER HAVE THE TIME TO GO OUT AND LOOK AT OTHER MEN.. I AM A WOMAN AND I WILL NEVER DO THAT TO MY HUSBAND. JUST MAKE SURE YOUR HUSBAND DOES NOT FIND OUT AND STOP THIS ACT. GOD WILL FORGIVE YOU
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Why do Nigerians hold women to higher moral standards as men? To you genisuses asking her to focus on her children, you do realize that aside from being a mother, she is a woman, a human being with needs of companionship, attention, and intamacy that she obviously isn't getting from her husband.
This is a very common issue in marriages, especially Nigerian ones. Just use protection and don't get caught.
WHY ARE ALL THE MEN GETTING A HEADACHE OVER THIS? Cheating is not excusable no matter what gender you are. God's law condemns adultery and fornication for MALES AND FEMALES not just women....Anyways to the wife whatever rocks your boat but use a condom especially when you are sleeping with that your DOG of a husband.. The day Nigerian men begin to take responsibility in marriage is the day a lot of marriages will stop failing...
Hi, I know it really hurts that he is doing all these to you. But I dont think you should cheat on him. I dont think it will affect him the you are cheating on him, he is just going to continue and it will hurt you more.
I think you should just forgive him and move on with your life. You have kids to pay attention to. So just face them.
What you are doing will be regarded as a sin. Also what your husband is doing but you cannot pay back a sin with a sin (I know the only person allowed to judge is God but...)
Please for you own peace of mine. Just leave him and leave those other guys because you will only be hurting yourself....
like serzly...is dt payback or wat?. im horny and i need some fucking...dts whr u are, ur not bloody cheating cuz he's cheating. ur both sad people living in a bondage u call marriage, i dont knw y d man cant get a divorce if he's not happy with u anymore or y u cant get one if u aren't satisfied either. this is africa my friends...where people live in hypocrisy. where people dont get divorced in the name of religion or tradition but do other evil shit. u both can go to hell and get ur problems solved der...lets face the problem at hand...ehn ehn how do we find a president dt can make better decisions and get ds jonah out of d fuckign way...
What a sexist world we leave in, so the guy is allowed 2 satisfy his sexual urge but not the woman? Am not saying I support her but like most of you would say body no be firewood. I think both husband and wife need prayers and counselling
What a sexist world we leave in, so the guy is allowed 2 satisfy his sexual urge but not the woman? Am not saying I support her but like most of you would say body no be firewood. I think both husband and wife need prayers and counselling
Lol. Don't judge till you find ureself in her shoes. You never know what ure capable of till you're stretch beyong limit. No man is worth ure unhappiness I say do watever mkes you happy.
Ooooh woman/man please let us remember dat dis world is not our own oooooo.we re visitors here so,we will live dis world oneday,madaam please remember all we have on earth is vanity upon vanity,run to God bcos he is d only councilor"remember d wages of sin ok" so repent bfore is too late & bring ur husband back home bcos u re like a mother to hiim.sit down and think!! From lagos girl!!
All of you judging her am sure has never been. I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ her shoe before α̲̅πϑ you start talking as if you know ℓ̊τ̅ all...pls Madam, visit a psychologist, your pastor or priest α̲̅πϑ start prayers for yourself first....then your husband next....God will surely see your plight!
Dn't b so quick to judge her,u silly thing.She has being suffering for nine yrs.Cheating is terrible but she deserves some form of happiness and consolation. My dear,keep doin wat makes you happy. ELLA.A
My dear Happy Lagos wife, I quite understand how you feel not because I have been there but simply because I know how it feels to be cheated on. Worst still, by someone you have promised to spend the rest of your life with and all that. I am NOT going to judge you because I am not the one in this situation and I cannot determine how or what my response will be if i were to be in your shoes. But still, my dear, cheating on him is not the best way to handle this situation. Just take a moment to think if the trumpet sounds today, where will be your final desination? Will you stand in front of the judgement throne and tell your Creator that you sinned because of him? God help you if your husband has reconcilled with God before the end time.
You might not believe in God o, but please for the sake of those children, change from cheating on him and call on God to come into this situation and I am sure He will do so and work it out for you guys. Yoruba people have this sayinh that "okun o ki wo ruru ka fa ruru' (dunno if you understand that) Person no dey use hot cool hot, na calm dem dey use cool hot.
Another thing is this, have you ever thought of communcable diseases you could contact during this your escapades? My dear the risk is very much and I would not want you to be lost at all.
Once again, please desist from cheating on him and pray to God to come and intervene. I will join you in prayers.
He loves you and I am sure that is why he married but the distractions are so much and he's straying away from you. But would you rather have him totally strayed from you or be the helper you are supposed to be to him? My dear two wrongs cannot make a right. The success of your marriage is your making and otherwise.
Why not just divorce him as opposed to turning yourself into a public toilet? Don't forget a woman's dignity is all she has..and fucking multiple guys isn't going to do anything for yours. Leave his cheating ass and settle down with someone who appreciates your worth..the alternative is becoming a ho and risking all kinds of diseases. That would be cutting your nose to spite your face
ultimately, na every man for him self. All of u that r condemning and judging the woman eku ise o. Some of you steal, lie, render physical and mental abuse when given a chance and do all sorts really. for those that pretend you don't take all these actions, you think them at least, at that's the same thing if you don't know. all sin-big or small- attract the same punishment. so instead of judging its either you give advise or you mind you business. As for you young woman, all i have to say is this- 2 wrongs don't make a right and the sins of the parents eventually turn around to affect the kids. so if you aren't leaving that marriage to protect your kids, you are still harming them coz this thing you are doing will attract curses on their heads. the end
Nne, pls take my advice. Do not cheat on ur husband while u r still married to him. You are not happy and you are clearly not one to cheat on her spouse. Adultery is a very strong offence and a good enough reason for divorce. Ask him for a divorce, get a very good lawyer and ensure you get custody of your children (i hope you have a job). No woman deserves to be disrespected in her matrimonial home. You are a good woman, thats why you wrote linda in the first place, deep down, you know this is not who you are. So keep your dignity in tact and walk out of that marriage with your children and your head held up high. God's grace.
oh madam,there is still heaven and hell. God said come unto me all u that hv laboured and heavy laden and i will give u rest,y not look unto God 4 a change,y not bend down and check what ur husband really want in a woman,that ur not given him,and set them,believe me he will definitly come back 2 u,bc if he dnt love u,he wuldnt hv married u.
Y'all should kindly leave her alone! Why should it be just one partner keeping the marriage vows? Was she d only one who took those vows on their wedding day? Didnt they both stand before God n promise to love n cherish each other exclusively? If having a boyfriend makes her happy, then by all means, she shd go ahead! Why is nobody condemning the husband for cheating? Oh, cos its a man's world huh? Oh puleeeeeaaaazzzzeee!!!! If only we will stop accepting these double standards n just learn to live right, the world would be a better place. If u want a faithful wife, be faithful! Its as simple as dat.
I think what happen to you is from foundation of your marriage....reason been that you don't know this man before you marry him, and maybe you are the one that force him into marring you.from you mentioning Jesus that means you go to church (not too sure you know Jesus). Pls stop your adultrous moves thinking you are getting back at him. That won't solve your problem. Go on your kneels that's why your solution is....
honestly..having been in a similar situation recently with my new husband...I wanted to cheat too..but then I thought..this isn't what I want..it isn't what GOd wants for me,.n even if u can justify ur actions b4 man u cnt b4 God... pray n talk to ur hubby,.tell him ur unhappy n how can u both salvage ur marriage. he may say no in which case u need to consider separation cuz as it is now ur both decieving ur selves
she isnt happily married, but she is happily cheating.. but as much as i dnt support wat dis lady is doin, y r men so heartless nd wicked? y do they tink dey can d som nasty tinz to d opposite sex nd get away wit it?.. madam na u i follow get word if u r readin dis comment, na God i tak beg u focus on ur kids, watever u r doin mayb na sell abi na ofice wok focus on ur job also.. anoda man isnt wat u nid at dis stage its God intervention. yea i knw say bodi no b firewood then do it properly divorce ur husband then mak u shine ur eye well well bfor u remarry. even bible talk say na case of adultery person get right to divorce him spouse, ur husband started d cheatin game, u cant condole him anymor then go ur seperate ways abi wen did marriage bcom a do or die affair? na God i carry beg u o no spoil ur 4 pikin dem future abeg.
Sori madam, cheatin cos ur husband does same doesn't save d situation, ur duty Ȋ̝̊̅§ to strife to keep ur home intact... Anywia u take dis case to, u wil b soo condemned leavin d man out of it....God Ȋ̝̊̅§ nt deaf, talk to him.... Ǎ̜̣̍Ϟd save urself,ur kids,ur husband Ǎ̜̣̍Ϟd ur home!!!
People like you are the reason why you can never find a good woman anymore nowadays. So you actually rationalize a woman giving up her dignity cos her hubby is n idiot? You don't think the damage being done is to herself? I guess hookers have viable excuses as well then. My dear..a woman of no virtue is a woman of no virtue. Don't make any stupid excuse
I impressed that people could really stand up for the truth at least in this insane world. No two ways about it, nkan ti o da o l'oruko meji. Pray for him to come back to you. Word!!!
That is not the best option for u,if ur husband catch u for cheating on him he is gonna send u out of his house and by that time u will find out u av make a big mistake,instead of cheating back pray to God and also report him to his family if only u av good relationship with them,we only hear ur story we dont hear d side of ur husband maybe there is sometin u r doing wrong just try and make ur home happy.
Sori madam, cheatin cos ur husband does same doesn't save d situation, ur duty Ȋ̝̊̅§ to strife to keep ur home intact... Anywia u take dis case to, u wil b soo condemned leavin d man out of it....God Ȋ̝̊̅§ nt deaf, talk to him.... Ǎ̜̣̍Ϟd save urself,ur kids,ur husband Ǎ̜̣̍Ϟd ur home!!!
Two wrongs they say never make a right.Your home lacks the presence of God.If your husband is not playing his role well,You as a woman should strive to keep things together no matter what.At least for the sake of your children!
lili i beg u in the name of God, post my comment i wan tlk 2 dis woman. Madam listen! my sister is a lab scientist, she comes home wit a lot of shockin news about married women contacting HIV/AIDS, even pregnant maried women, somtimes she said they use to hv close to ten patient everday dat has dis deceases. pls my dear ur life is veri impotant 2 ur childern, wat r u enjoyin in it, smtin of 5 mins or les dan dat, pls value ur lif, i no its nt goin 2 be easy, bt try as much as u can 2 face ur childern okay!!! dey nid u alot, pls my dr Aids is real, dese pple acordin 2 my sister r veri veri healthy, e no dey show 4 face. pls jst tak dis advice 4rm me okay!! God bles u, n also c u tru.
People are so ignorant, What if the cheating husband still gives the loyal wife HIV from his sleeping around " " . Happy Lagos wife, Life is too short to live in a sad life of Bondage, Cheat smartly, use protection, don't get caught, and the pray for Forgiveness always. #Gbam
pls dont mind the hypocrist oooo. Ride on sister if not u will die of hypertension and the idiot man will re-marry. so pls make urself happy . dont let anyone hold d key to ur happiness.
Interesting... I guess you never had a mind of your own. You never had your own standards and principles. That's why you are coping your husband's standard of living. I pray that God helps you find a better way to handle your situation.
Loll..very interesting..but truthful situation. Its a situation society finds itself, but Madam would you allow society or your husband decide how you live your life? At the end of the day you'll be the loser ooo..seek Christ and be faithful to him.
I pray I find myself a better man, n leave my marriage. My husband is totally irresponsible. We ve 2 kids. He is the only sexual partner I ve had in my life. I ve thoughts of cheating, but I ve decided to pray to find a better man n just leave him. I ve literally worshipped him - I gave the marriage all emotionally, physically, financially, full commitment,I gave this marriage all but I think I ve reached my limit. Marriage is easier n happier with real men.
I don't tink she is 'cheatin on hasef' lyk she sed, I bliv its stil a tot n U̶̲̥̅̊ nid LIB readers advyc b4 U̶̲̥̅̊ indulge in d act. Anywayz, my own sincere advice for U̶̲̥̅̊ is to concentrate on ur kids, U̶̲̥̅̊ can stil protect d marriage from crashin jst bcos of ur kids. Presently, I'm sure ur kids wud av labelled ur husband as an 'unserious and bad father' dnt mk dem label U̶̲̥̅̊ also as a promiscuous mother. D future of ur kids is bryt n d gud syd of it is wen U̶̲̥̅̊ r in d scene. As for ur hubby, report his case to God. Der's always a period of storm in marriages, urs jst came too early, prayer changes al things n der's always a state of calmness, peace, quietude afta evry storm. Shalom! #bammy#
c d way dat seemeth right 2 a man is DESTRUCTION. let me tell u what u are doing is totally wrong and u know it. do u want God 2 punish u? do u want 2 go 2 HELL. U Are suppose 2 b praying 2 God for your husband SALVATION. my dear REPENT, AND ASK gOD 4 MERCY. Dont rejoice.
You need to stop this,ur joy is temporal.Work out a permanent solution by giving ur life to Jesus and then with God by ur side start to work out things with ur husband.
*do you really know what a powerful motivator sex is? *are you aware that a woman hits her sexual peak around 35 - 40? *I bet you know that we are hypocrites in this country, we go to church but are the top dog cheerleaders for the Devil *if a man cheats and flaunts it for anyone to see... why should his woman forego sexual pleasure with someone that cares for her? *a broken home is a sad thing for a child to come from... it's rare to find kids from such homes without deep personal issues
So, Lagos Wife, cheat if you must but be safe with it. You've 4 kids already and there's no point carrying a death sentence bcos you want to take banana till you go yo.
All i can say is it is never too late to turn back on this act, two wrongs dont make a right. Biblically, it is condemned by God, y use the lil pleasure of now destroy the future. As a woman, the joy of a woman is the kids, u said u r nt ready to be a single mother but the tread of line u r passing through leads top that. It's still not beyond repairs, sooo rather hurting yourself thinhking u r hurtiung ur husband, turn to God cos HE IS ABLE to do all things. he has never failed and never late. just a lil adv.
So its ok for a man to cheat and leave the woman feeling unloved and unwanted abi? I'm not advocating her cheating but it's high time men esp in this part of the world know that women have options jo. It will make them sit up. So it is only men who like excitement and sex abi? So the woman should deny herself sexual enjoyment while her hubby is gettin his outside? Madam abeg ride on jare. Just play safe and keep it on the DL. Your happiness(howevr shortlived) is what's important. If his children and the marriage is important to him he will stop sleeping around. Stupid clueless Nigerian Men. We women are ready for your sorry asses. You guys will get as you are giving!
Pls have a rethink. I advise u concentrate on your kids,sock yourself in church activities while praying fervently for God' s touch on your husband's life and you.first, you must give ur life to Christ and be born again. You can only be happy and have that peace and joy you desire for in Christ.
So d man is doing right by cheating Abi , u guys should free lagos wife jor , she is not looking for love from her bf .... If u hubby has not cheated on u , u don't hv d moral right to talk abt this topic
So it has become a man's right to cheat n it's not same for a woman ... Big no no for me , I ll not cheat on my hubby not bcos of am a woman n I should know better , I ll not cheat is of God's word in my life , n I don't want to hear that
I really do not understand the way we rationalize things- in these parts we like to shoot our wounded. Any one with half a brain can see that this woman is hurt and she obviously is acting out as a result. Madam, no one is judge and jury over you. If your husband once loved you, he can still do so if you are willing to respect and commit to whatever vows u took. If u think sleeping with other men wld provide relief (which I doubt) then go ahead, but please think about the effect such information would have on ur kids. I know you are tired but don't let anoda persons actions taint or corrupt you.
Am sure you like dick too much. After four children u still go out to lick en fuck some other men u r nothing but a professional slot. U r not mature for marriage yet, lemmy ask you do u have a job at all? get busy wit your job and stop fucking around. I know you even push your husband outside if actually you have four kids for him dat means he has love you in the past. Ashewo..
I have a feeling women enjoy it when men cheat on them. He goes out abd comes with STDs and even HIV to give to a faithful wife at home. It's so absurd but I support this lady. Cheating back gives u a break from all the bottled up feeling of betrayal and hate, it gives a kind if relief jare. It's bad before God and man but many men including mine have forced us to engage in it. I have no regrets at all.
My dear,i am sorry abt what ur husband put u thru but thats not enough to mess urself up before God and man.Adultery or cheating as you call it,is not an option.Think of your children, your future(will tis help ur relationship wit ur husband n family) and eternity(is it worth going to hell for). a word is enuff for the wise. Be wise @linda post my comment,first tym on d block. Makaveli says so...
latifa said... I blame your husband coz psychologically he destroyed you.....I still think you should file for a divorce.
Well said Latifa. All these holier than thou Libers should please shove their opinions up their asses and let be. Wait until you get yourself a man who is a serial womanizer before you understand the pains she might have passed through. I know of a pretty woman who fought girl after girl, until a very desperate one bathed her with acid and the husband dumped her in the village, immediately after the initial treatment. The day i set my eyes on her, i cried cos i know how pretty she was before that incident. It might just surprise you that it is the same woman who did it to her that is living with her husband in her matrimonial home. So all you praying mantis, who pray even when it is obvious your neck is at stake, issorait, keep praying. Life is a choice and if any man chooses to live his irresponsibly, and i try to correct, he isn't changing, i go waka far you hear, no be me born, its either him mama no train am well or them train am, him no accept the training, so wetin come concern me. Take a walk woman, work hard to take care of your kids, don't wait until he gives you STD or HIV. Useless men, always feeling justified in all their shit.
Hey mam i truely think two wrong dont make a right >>> so just pray and be the right one or leave cause both of you would remain very unhappy..... But my candid advise is to LOVE YOUR GOD AND YOURSELF and make him see he is the fool.
This is exactly the situation my best friend is going through, it's as though u are telling her husband's story. However ur chosen cause of action is wrong, selfish and unchristian . As much as it's painful to watch ur partner cheat and embarrass u, two wrongs can never make a right. It's a complex situation and u need God, he alone can console u. You say u re happy, but what shall it profit a man/woman if he gains the wholeworld and suffers the loss of his soul....your eternal happiness is being jeopardized. Then think of the children,ur self respect...
I don't know who you are but it is as if u r narrating my life story. Life is too short to stay unhappy, it feels self degrading to know that your husband knows that u know that the same d*ck he is about to put into you has been inserted into some other hole probably a couple of hours before that,tell me how anyone will enjoy such 'stupid sex', it can give u a nervous breakdown. On yesterday's lib video on cheating Nigerians, all except one man said they wud hv an instant divorce if the found out that their wife was cheating but not a single woman said they would divorce the man and annoyingly, they all said, "wat can u do?". Cheating isn't good but cheating on a cheater is not the Worst sin. Some of you commenting don't know that a man does not neccesarily need u to do something wrong for him to cheat on you. Don't develop hypertention and die bc he will remarry in 10months but if it is the woman that remarries 4yrs after the husband's demise, the society or even the man's people like stella damascus former sister inlaw will say it is you who killed the man. Babe, do watever u can to stay happy, God is the only Supreme judge In this case, so sort it out with only Him and leave these idiots who think they know so much when they don't know jack
The men on this blog cursing her are just mad because they don't want their women doing to them what they probably already do/did to them. Also the women here are just hating cause they don't have the courage to do it and are most likely punching bags for their spouses. Suffering & Smiling indeed.
Do we blame these nollywood actresses for wanting to stay single, especially in scandal-filled Lagos? Lol
I can never marry a Nigerian, especially with their archaic beliefs
Pls leave her alone. It's her life. So her hubby is allowed and she's not. Oda pple banging arnd don't have HIV , did she tell u she's not using condom. Hypocrites
All you fucking Christians are soooooo annoying! What if her husband brings her back AIDS? Should she still continue to sit down and wait for some miracle from Jesus that ain't gonna happen? Get a grip on reality please
Great story. So sad men are full of shit these days. I am a guy! What goes on these days is not encouraging. No one really knows the impact of cheating. |Even churches play it down christianising it with forgive and forget. Who hold the messed up guy accountable. I only want to remind you about your kids. I think you should give them out to someone who would take good care of them or raise them well. Or maybe you should just reconsider your actions and be responsible. I pray God helps you and you don't ruin everything you've been blessed with. And shame on your husband too. I'm very sure the ladies he cheats with are good for nothing compared to you. (Same goes for the guys u cheat with compared to him. Cos u know the good you saw in your husband before you got married).
Its ok to admit you're miserable. I Pitt you. Suffering & smiling. You lot, will be the sane people cursing Rita,Genevieve,Agbani and others to get married. Lol. I'll just assume its bitter housewives advocating for such
So wait ooh after how many years and hundreds of women u think the husband can't also give her HIV tired of this way of thinking that the woman should just take it even women we have that concept I've watched my mum suffer in that type of marriage and it was just sad the man won't stop but the woman should just sit and pray.... That's sad and sucidal pls go and have fun Abeg and enjoy as much of ur life as u have left as long as ur taking care of ur kids. All this hypocrites standing outside to comment u don't know what she's going through .....
Its easy to get married and another to stay married. In dz part of d world n culture nobody wants a divorce but stay and takr shits frm their hubby's cz of wot ppl wud say and especially stay of d kids. U all re quick to judge a fellow dt is wearing d shoe has anyonr condenned d man and his actions? A woman dt is treated well by her hubby wud neva cheat unless fr dogs. Am hapily married n i pray my marriage continues to grow stronger by d day. If u hear stories of wot married women go thru u wud pray to even remain single but at d end it takes d grace of God. I dnt support adultery either but if yall can talk to d man involved maybe he wud change and put hz family first. A man shud alws put hz family first even if he must do" respect ur spouse and dont becom"the ladies man" whn u know u av a wife nd kids at home. Advice yurself*
Look at all you judges..what right do you have to insult this woman...You dont have a clue how it feels, what she puts up with.....Now she chosed her path to live..and you call her a whore..how dare you..Instead of praying you do not fall into her ordeal..you are here judging...strangely, Ive barely seen any comment abt the MAN...
@anon 1:... At least u cheated @some point leave her to do hers regret it and find jesus I fink its better that way,cos her husband has placed her in a bad state.This thing called marriage is just highly overated..I Hate!!!
I like the comment from one of the readers, that ask u to put ur name if u r so proud of wat u r doing. The truth is, I don't even believe u have 4 kids, it could be just 2 kids and I don't even believe u stay in Lag. If u know wat u r doing is so good and u r enjoying it, be bold to tell ur husband, but I know u can't b/c u want people to see u as Mrs ... What u fail to understand, is u can not eat u cake and still have it. There is no sense in wat u r doing, u need Jesus in ur life Madam.
Well I don't judge this lady at all! What we women see in marriage is enough to make us go gaga mentally! Only the strongest of women can ignore the shit! In as much as what ure doing is wrong, I serz emphathise wiv u! Get a divorce
Honestly, I must say I understand you and I feel your pain but trust me You are not happy, you only feel fulfilled because you are paying back, because the only person that you want is your husband, thats why you got married to him and until he accepts you back the way he did before you cant be happy.
The husband is a fool, and she in turn is now a fool. It gladens my heart that she is doing to him what he's been doing to her BUT as a christian its not the way forward. Then again she doesnt want to divorce him so all of u calling her ashawo WHAT DO YOU EXPECT HER TO DO?? KEEP BEING UNHAPPY WHILE THAT BASTARD OF A HUSBAND KEEPS CHEATING?.....GOD, have mercy on all of us.
Pls shut up nd keep ur selfish advice to urself, do wht mks u happy nd leave d judgment to to God, so d husband is nt destroying his home ba? Its d woman bc she has decided to be happy, dts wht u men use to deciev woman neck my fat soft ass, rubish, madam enjoy
Do me, I do you, in this regard, shows that both your husband and especially yourself a woman have lost it. Both of you will reap the harvest of the seed sown.... Your children... are watching... I can't say much.
Sad but i don't blame her. I applaud the way you are playing yours out though, you are not being razz you have 1 boyfriend. i was telling someone the other day when a man cheats he does it with reckless abandon sleeping with 5-10 girls at once, but when a woman cheats, she gets 1 man makes him her boyfriend and he satisfies her. What ever makes you happy dear lol@happy Lagos wife.
D difference bw them is dat d ladies will mst times 4give d men bt d men well, very rare.@ d end of d day if she is caught by him she will face her biggest fear which is to be a single mum dats if he even lets her have d kids.I mean, hw much men will she v b4 it becomes enuf*nt worth it*madam let ur senses guide u.
i understand that some people dont even read as soon as they look at d topic they wil start trowing there stupid coments and insults that is so out of point making themselves look so stupid,as for u my dear do anyting that mks u happy but just mk sure u use protection,am almost in same situation wt u but mine is that my husband dont cheat but he always lie against me to his people each time we have issues and that mks me so unhappy cos i would have prefer he lied and say rubish about me to my people other than to his own people so i find it so offensive and always feel bad and insecure in my marriage that is just 5months old,i have ask for a divorce and he said over his dead body but am planing on getting a boyfriend that wil mk me happy cos my husband has turned me into a sadist and turn d good woman in me into a monster.
Thank u bitch. Men re allowed to flirt and d women depressed for over 9yrs? She neva try? Seeking Jesus is very good but wot of the Congi aspect of a young girl? U all shud stand up and judge men cz de are d irresponsible ones. U see a wife going to fellowships, gatherings for married women on how to takia of der hubby, if only men wud strt doing all these i bet u 70% of marriages wud be made in heaven. All women shud kip praying tht ur man neva abandons u.Men shud be ready bf saying I DO♥♥♥♥
u cald urself a bitch, too bad for u cos u ar a bad example to dignified women. do u no dat she can contract a diziz leavin her dead leta and d man who started it wil repent and remarry.mcheew.
u people are not serious at all,whats with the i hope u get HIV ,she's a whore talk,smh i know an eye for an eye leaves every1 blind but if anyone is the whore here its the hubby,if any will get HIV its d guy shes also at risk still,but gone are the days where women played dumb and stupid! bible said be submissive to one another not just the woman,when a woman cheats its ADULTERY but when the man cheats its ok coz his A MAN.....abeg u lot condemning her shud shut up ,Auntie please stop cheating and go to God in prayers he will eventually get tired and come bk to you, concentrate on ur kids
You are not hurting anyone but yourself. U can't let a man push u to giving up the one thing God blessed women with which is dignity. So after you become public toilet for multiple guys now the husband still will be called a hero and you..a ho..
Well even if she didn't cheat she still risks getting hiv from her husband, use protection with your husband, ask God to help you not cheat and stop, go on your knees for your marriage, ask God for the grace of Esther then speak to your husband to find out what went wrong and how you can fix things and then involve elderly counselling too.
Abeg enjoy urself, am in d same shoes wit u, I enjoy myself and even have fone sex befor my husb comes bak by 11pm. Take care of ur kids, have fun and b happy. Dis life is too short to b diein in silent or sufferin and smilin. Ur husb wil b sad wen he finds out u naow smile and wil want to come close to u. Leave all dis hypocrites and have fun
what ever makes u sleep better at night babe, i believe in equality. But i do hope this boyfriend of urs has much more moni than ur husband just in case ur husband finds out so u wouldn't be left with nothing
I love what you are doing but it is still a sin. I feel u badly but on judgement day, its going to b just u and God.Break up with your boyfriend and pray for your husband. I advice females to make wise decisions before getting married so dey don't end up with idiots like your husband. When women marry men for money, the chances are that d men will misbehave. Girls listen to other women's problems and make wise choices. Such men should not be married even if he is a billionaire.
The husband is a mean bastard. Why will u keep hurting ur partner. Why did u marry her if u are still a bachelor in every sense of d world. God will judge you for this woman's action.
Linda doesn't hold back comments deliberately. She is attending to other businesses and MOST ESPECIALLY-her MAN. Folks don't you want her to get married? Just show a little bit of understanding.
I tire 4dem o,Her so called husby dt has been cheating will not v HIV na she go cum carry HIV.And even if she doesn't cheat,wnt d man carry d HIV home nd infect her?
Madam don't let anybody decive u. All men are thesame even the one u r cheating ur husband with may not be faithful to u. Seek the love of Christ that give u everlasting joy which even ur husband infidelity cannot take away.
Dont mind her woman we are all claping 4 u ride on the day of judgement u will stand alone nt ur husband to give account of ur life remember life is a lone u must return it to d owner is it wt bLemish or without sain
I love what you are doing but it is still a sin. I feel u badly but on judgement day, its going to b just u and God.Break up with your boyfriend and pray for your husband. I advice females to make wise decisions before getting married so dey don't end up with idiots like your husband. When women marry men for money, the chances are that d men will misbehave. Girls listen to other women's problems and make wise choices. Such men should not be married even if he is a billionaire.
This long speech for what? You Nigerians never cease to amaze me. Clearly the marriage was over before it even began. Why flog a dead horse? All this pray pray pray bullshit. A lot of religious people are truly sad and empty on the inside, its a shame
Thank u sweerie,my tots exactly...what about d fucking asshole of a man dat married her? Why do I hav d feeling that he is being silently applauded in diz comments?Fucking shitheads!
well I really understand the feeling of wanting to payback in the persons coin... BUT this your present smile is momentary... are u thinking of your kids at all??? do you want them to grow up in such an environment.. Besides stooping to his level makes you exactly like him.. not better and you are supposed to be better.. being a single mom wouldn't be so bad you know.. if his cheating was so bad you could have called it quits not only for your self but for the sake of these kids.. you shouldn't want your kids to grow around such an example... 2 wrongs never make a right.. I understand your plight though and the pain but this so called happiness is going to be short lived and you are opening yourself to sexual risks.. for the sake of your kids pick yourself up and leave that house!! your children shouldn't grow up around such a man as an example.... your kids are very impressionable. also note IF JESUS AINT GVING YOU YOUR SMILE YOU WOULD DEFINITELY SOON CRY.. so please and please reconsider LIND PLEASE P:OST MY COMMENT
Jokers. In the West it is called SWINGING. Usually husband and wife participate together with other couples. No love in your marriage, so why not have consensual sex with other participating adults. Sorry, this is a Nigerian blog full of good, God fearing people who are ready to do or die for the glory of material wealth. People go and repent to your billonaire pastors and hail the rich and powerful politicians because one day you will be OGA at the top. Evil currently has superior power in Nigeria. The day is coming for all you hypocrites and chalatans to be wiped out and good shall rule.
D church allows dat (separation)only on d grounds of infidelity. But u are nt allowed to be in another relationship afterwards, as long as d other party is still alive. It is till death do u part.There4 cast all ur burden to him and u will av relief. The strategy advised is distraction with many other gainful engagements. Avoid repetitive ones so as nt to get bored. It is always a tough journey, but there is hope to be blessed after all.
Babe I seriously feel ur pain & I can tell u have bin dr b4. Dis is a part of d world where Men r free 2 engage in multiple sex partners & flaunts it arnd. Let me tell u d truth, 98% of Men do dis but in different proportion. Guessed ur hubby own is on d extreme. Let me give u a candy advise, pls protect ur self wit ur hubby & d guys ur having sex wit, take gud care of urself, package urself well(gorgeously) u'l c how ur hubby ll b jealous. Every Woman wants 2b loved, appreciated & dotted ova so since she's not getting it frm d hubby she need get it elsewhere. Above all babes, seek God & he'l surely make ur home a api 1, deligently pray 4 ur hubby & u'l c changes, show him love 100%, 1day he'l come arnd. All I ask u do is not easy. It is Well
you may be enjoying it now but you will be tired soon it is unfortunate that you married an irresponsible man,by the time you have slept with 10 irresponsible men like your husband,you will be more frustrated and be like the man you are taking revenge on.there is a better way to deal with unfaithful man.
Such a high level of moral decadence and a sheer display of senselessness by the fake woman. So she's living her life based on the dictates of the foolishness of the man!!! She's such a muppet!!!
Discover your purpose in life woman and live it rather than insulting God by telling him you don't have any meaningful thing to do with your life... Olodo!!!
The man you are sleeping with outside your marriage doesnt really love you any more than your husband does. You are just a means to an end for him also. Its a vicious sad cycle and unless you decide to love yourself and do positive things to give you self accomplishment and pride,all I can see is pain at the end of the game for you. Cheating by having sex doesnt give you self accomplishment. Youll soon discover that men are the same selfish sex beings- only to get what they can from you and give very little back in return.Then youll end up more bitter than you started out.I see it coming.
Evrytin U do in life, U shld do it 4 d sake of God. Rememba on d last day, it's evri man 2 himself. God wil nt say bcos ur hubby started d cheatin ist dere4 U ar pardoned. If he is goin astray, U shldnt go astray wit him, bring him bck instead. Dats y U ar d home maker. Rememba also dat U hv kids, U can nt possibli give ur best 2 ur kids wen U ar goin afta anoda man. Go on ur knees dear n pray 2 God, den go bck 2 d faithful wife U were cos God cn onli listen 2 a faithful heart. All d best if U wld listen.
Well u r both ashawos hope that makes all you women happy now?! I also hp if ur husband marries another wife, u wud be able to marry another man and put him in your matrimonial home with your husband and his Nu wife and 4 kids because left to me ur just being dumb. The first u shud understand is you are a mum do u knw the kind of stigma dat wud be on your children when they find out their mum is a whore? Do u think of your health after sleepn with these dead boys that sleep with people's wives? Ur husband is very dumb for what his doing but now ur dumber for tryn to compete with his dumbness. If the man is not treating you properly move out and then you can get another man the right way, a way ur children and the society can handle. If his not doing you right tell him u women have been complaining inside or on blogs and other social medias as anonymous for year and you will continue that way if you don't tell dis men how to make you come, abi bcos u knw wan make dem think you b ashawo u will now die unsatified wake and tell dis men how to get u der if he acts funny after you've told then what you shud do is get him hard let him go for some strokes after let's say 20 stroke or in situations where ur husband na 2 min noodles 10 stroke, fake an orgazim and climb out from under him leave him der with a hard on, u cud do dis till his ready to comply. You have nothing to loose, I mean! U didn't used to come b4 anyways rather u have something to gain which is sexual satisfaction. Try it out ladies and stop acting silly, u have to talk to be heard.
Please when you are done with the present boyfriend, no need to search for another one. There is a brothel in every nook and cranny of Nigeria where you can work part-time.SICK ASHAWO!
please.... stop with all the insults on the lady. You all making it sound like its all her fault her husband cant keep his pants zipped. ideally, she should 'wait and pray' blah..blah..blah..but she's human jare..let him come back to his senses first and then she can too..
people are generally quick to judge especially when they are on d other side,these are fundamental issues and she's acting from a place of hurt,no one will understand her except when u walk in her shoes. i'm of the school of thought where i"NEVER SAY NEVER" until i'm faced with same situation lest i be tested,so all we can do is pray and hope they both overcome whatever it is. Name calling isnt going to change anything. i dont know who you are but pls pls stop! take a look at yourself in the mirror and know ure beta than this and find happiness in yourself,your good friends and your children and in Jesus and everything will fall into place. there's absolutely nothing to high for your knees to solve.
It is not cheating jus sum pay back ish...the man has no heart @all ooh u all judging dis woman r holy ba? Na una go even do worse sef..Oya ma'am carry go..enjoy urself 2 d fullest u no be fire wood...Ms Posh
All of you who criticize and cricify the woman should shut the fuck up and chop your smelly shit.Wat nonsense double standards are we preaching in this fucked up world...Where its ok for a Husband to fuck around like a dog in heat all the time and not care how his wife feels about it where she finds out.The woman is advised to put her knees on the ground for a husband whose problem is beyond spiritual comprehension.My point is this; Since God judges all of us with the same parameters...Man or woman, I dont think we should be smarter than God.Babes, Live your life and do anything and everything to be remain happy.xoxo
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 400 of 485 Newer› Newest»SQo u dnt av 2 cal her ashawo.. Am nt tryin 2 justify wot d lady is doin by sayin she's doin d rite tin-NOOP! We live in d world whereby if a man cheats its a normal tin bt if d woman does it: its an ABOMINATION! D woman is obviously confused dts Y she felt cheatin on her hubby 2 get bk @ him is d bst- dts a grave mistake most married women do & get 2 regret it everyday of dia lives. Nobodi is perfect, we r all workin 2wards perfectn. I pray God wil gv her wisdom 2 address d situatn on tym b4 she regrets!
She's just telling u guys her joy. She's not seeking advice. Madam I share ur joy also. @least all she's asking for is regular sex abi. Hubby should have tried satisfying dat end b4 satisfying odas. Krisz
Tell them o! Really shameful...
Ass hole! Stupid male chauvinist. I wonder which planet u re from.idiot.may be ur mother ,sister and probably
Girl friends are pigs .
Divorce is nt evn d bst option cos of d children's future & cheating is d WORST! I pray she retrace her steps bk b4 she regrets!
Most of d commentators here are HYPOCRITES n PHARISEES of these days!
Y have u chosen to hit her and remain blind to †ђξ loose man.
Is it right for a man to cheat
And it is abominable for d woman?
Pls don't b myopic!
Madam,♍α̲̅ dear advise is for u to divorce 'cause it could be tragic once d cat get off d bag n especially your children won't b happy cos mothers are always seen to be like perfect heroines!
I share your pain n plight!
Two wrongs can't make a right.
May God restore your home.
All these good advice should be given to the man. He started it.
I'm not commending her but this is what is wrong with the society of today. A man cheats on his wife regularly there's no problem there rather he is being patted on the back for being a good sex addict meanwhile when the chic steps out of line for just a second everyone calls her a wayward and an ashewo. it takes to two to make a marriage work. He neglected his wife's needs doesn't give a damn about her needs at all now that she has gone out to satisfy her urges she didn't keep her marriage. y'all are just hypocrites. My advice to her though is that God gives her way around this mess two wrongs don't make a right. Get down on your knees and try and get your husband for counselling.
Too unfortunate. If U know Jesus well enough, then call on Him. And if u can't hold on. File for a divorce. For your good, pls stop it.
Its her life and she should live it the way she wants to. All man for himself. She sure knows the consequences and she should not blame the devil wen she gets caught. My advice is, take it to the Lord in prayer
Humm,is this stroy really real? and she even mentions Jesus.na wa ohh.there is no excuse in the sight of God for what u are doing?What do some women see in sex anyway?After 4kids u still crave for it to the extent that u proudly sleep around.don't worry,wait until the day yr husband will find out,na den u go know say woman nodi compare with man in certain aspects.even the society will frown at u,yr excuse that he is a serial cheat will fall on deaf ears.there is something called divorce woman.u suck!
Princess
Lol..... Hahahahaha...... I feel u jor
The husband nko? Mumu
You r a fool, judgemental idiot. Wetin d husband come be, man whore or he goat. Mschew!
Your story sounds like my story but where I defer is, I Wont cheat on Jesus..its cos of Him dat I, ll stay faithful not cos of d dog one is married to.and of cos I have mykids to think of...dearest sis, trust me, "ur dog" isnt worth u messsing around with God's temple!
My dear, after 4 kids sex is no big deal anymore if you are not the wayward type. You had 4 kids in the midst of your husband's cheating so what's your stress now?
Please check yourself very well, anger cannot be an escuse for self destruction. Mind your kids and leave sex alone, you ve had enough.
So sad 2knw ds woman has a low orientation. Whr is her "virtue?".she has forgoten she's nt cheating on her husband but 2herself&God. Am not justifying her husband but 2wrongs wl neva make a right. Notwithstanding she's destroying the future of her children cos she dosnt knw they r watching her too. If she contracts STD/HIV,she's forgoten it wud b in her system not d husbands. The word is enough 4d wise.
Thou shall not commit adultery. If your husband kills will you follow him to kill? My sister i know it's not easy but with God all things are possible.
All women are dogs and have a high tendency to cheat. Those that are not cheating yet just don't know how to go about it.An ex girlfriend who is married with a kid called to check up on me and ended up asking for sex. I asked her if she was having problems in her marriage and sex life and she said no that the husband gives her all she needs but she wants to feel another dick inside of her and she remembered how good mine felt. I sharply blocked her calls.Damn!!!
It is a norm in our society now,just that nobody talks about it.
Only a few,even the born agains are not spared.Cheating on their husbands all in the name of church programs.
Fucking whores all of them.
D earlier u abstain 4rm such immoral act nd seek d face of the. Lord jesus d quicker ur suituation can be solved,ur hubby is a human being an he has a heart so it can be bent 2 d will of God,stop destroying ur home nd the lives of ur innocent kids.pere
So sad 2knw ds woman has a low orientation. Whr is her "virtue?".she has forgoten she's nt cheating on her husband but 2herself&God. Am not justifying her husband but 2wrongs wl neva make a right. Notwithstanding she's destroying the future of her children cos she dosnt knw they r watching her too. If she contracts STD/HIV,she's forgoten it wud b in her system not d husbands. The word is enough 4d wise.
My dear, I can relate with your story perfectly. Same thing happening to me right now. My hubby started cheated few months into our marriage...when I was pregnant. I caught him so many times by going thru his phone and all. Well we are 3 years into marriage now. We have a son and were expecting another soon. And I can tell u that yes, I cheated on him back late last year with a guy that had been disturbing me for a while. It made me happy then as well. But really, when u think about it. It's all not worth it eventually. Just draw closer to God to get your sanity and comfort and keep. Praying to the lord to touch his heart for better. Because the risks are really high for both of u being out there. Trust me u don't wanna contact any STD. All the best Sis. May God help. Us all
The world has definitely gone gaga. Things happen and truth is u never know how exactly ul handle a particualr situation until u find urself in it, so for this I won't judge. I know dis post was an "FYI" thing, not that u seek advice.All the same, pls if u blv there is God, if u blv some day we shall face dis God and be judged for our actions here on earth, if u know deep down dat dere are some women who av gone tru same or worse but never gave in to evil pressures(cos these will be ur judges), think twice b4 u ruin ur entire life(d one afta death dat matas most) with ur actions. If I eva find myself in dis(God forbid), ild pray for someone to send me these words so I could think twice.
All of u sounding holier than thou, plz shut it! Am not gonna justify what shebis doing, but c'Mon cut her sum slack, she is obviously hurting. Why does she have to be d one who shod consider the kids alone, cos she is a woman? Africans shod stop ds woman slaying and second class citizenry of woman abeg. And y is she d one to contact aids and not d hubby? Did she tell u she is looking for love? Obviously she dsnt have feelings for the flings as she already said she is ready to move on to d next once this one is over.. So plz if u cannot say kind words to her and advise her with love, shut it! Dear Lagos lady, please forgive him and face God, I knw it's not easy, but as much as I knw it's HARD, plz try. Forgive him doesn't mean u cannot file for a divorce, forgiving him will help u readdress the situation better and make d best of this fowl situation. And when u are divorced, u can then be in a healthy relationship with a guy that makes u happy for as long as he can make u happy, after which u can move on. Pele my dear, GOd is ur strength
hehehe...wat can i say?
Babe enjoy d offer while it lasts
LMAOOOOOOOO
All I can see is u allow ur husband's behaviour determine ur life it may nt b so easy nt to hurt in situations like dis. Ur self values n worth shall nt b limited to a man why allow him determine ur hapiness I'm nt saying u shld sit put while he cheats on u,it should't mk u a cheat as well, learn to love n apr8 urself without necessarily allowing a man to determine dat plz calm dwn and apr8 d children too
Athink una see married women. All you women that hint being married is your greatest accomplishment, i feel sorry for all of you. Focus on your business, your children and put your trust in God. Never let any man define you or dictate how you live your life, otherwise you will end up being an unfulfilled, depressed and miserable woman, and who suffers for it...the children. It's a shame, married women are evn more promiscuous than single girls these days, the men is just another matter. God help us all
I feel so sorry for this woman! You think you are hurting the man by cheating?? Would have been better killing yourself than going through this.
So easy to fall into this kind of trap but I can confidently tell you that it is a path that leads to total destruction.
You can't do this to yourself, please.
Nobody has the right to judge another. It's only God that can judge us. If the man is cheating with all impunity, and the woman is at home crying & being sad all the time, she will soon get sick, run high blood pressure & die before her time. And when this happens the man will remarry & continue his life. So my advise is that you should be very careful, but go for anything that will make you happy & extend your life.
So sad 2knw ds woman has a low orientation. Whr is her "virtue?".she has forgoten she's nt cheating on her husband but 2herself&God. Am not justifying her husband but 2wrongs wl neva make a right. Notwithstanding she's destroying the future of her children cos she dosnt knw they r watching her too. If she contracts STD/HIV,she's forgoten it wud b in her system not d husbands. The word is enough 4d wise.
Ur jes a big goat anony 1.09am did u hear her husband is cheating and am sure she is still young who wld be doin her so its her husband dt shld be gettin screwed abi, she got married so she can enjoy it on a regular basis n naaw she's not getting it abegg sister ride on but use condom don't bring a bastard to ur huSband's house but enjoy urself. Linda if u like no post am u no dey kuku post my comment. Mscheew
Dear LIB reader, it is quite interesting that even you realise that by cheating on your husband, you are cheating on yourself (I noticed you said "As long as he's cheating on me, I will be cheating on me"). Biko, take it easy. I believe that sex without love can only leave a woman feeling empty. One day, you will finally look in the mirror and tell yourself the truth......till then, we will read between your lines and see that you are truly not as happy with this meaningless sex as you claim. I feel your pain though and I wont ever wish your situation on anyone. May God be with you and your family.
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Why is ashawo? Its okay 4 a man 2 do it ba? But wen d lady does it, she is called a bitch ba? God punish u sQo...... I'm not saying wat she is doing its rite, but damn, give a gal a break men!!!! I think wat she needs is more communication with her hubby, and God wud help dem both IJN.
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FIRST OF ALL, I WOULD SAY YOU NEED TO PRAY ABOUT YOUR CHEATING ATTITUDE.. A GOOD HOUSE WIFE WOULD NEVER HAVE THE TIME TO GO OUT AND LOOK AT OTHER MEN.. I AM A WOMAN AND I WILL NEVER DO THAT TO MY HUSBAND.
JUST MAKE SURE YOUR HUSBAND DOES NOT FIND OUT AND STOP THIS ACT. GOD WILL FORGIVE YOU
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Why do Nigerians hold women to higher moral standards as men? To you genisuses asking her to focus on her children, you do realize that aside from being a mother, she is a woman, a human being with needs of companionship, attention, and intamacy that she obviously isn't getting from her husband.
This is a very common issue in marriages, especially Nigerian ones. Just use protection and don't get caught.
WHY ARE ALL THE MEN GETTING A HEADACHE OVER THIS? Cheating is not excusable no matter what gender you are. God's law condemns adultery and fornication for MALES AND FEMALES not just women....Anyways to the wife whatever rocks your boat but use a condom especially when you are sleeping with that your DOG of a husband.. The day Nigerian men begin to take responsibility in marriage is the day a lot of marriages will stop failing...
Hi, I know it really hurts that he is doing all these to you. But I dont think you should cheat on him. I dont think it will affect him the you are cheating on him, he is just going to continue and it will hurt you more.
I think you should just forgive him and move on with your life. You have kids to pay attention to. So just face them.
What you are doing will be regarded as a sin. Also what your husband is doing but you cannot pay back a sin with a sin (I know the only person allowed to judge is God but...)
Please for you own peace of mine. Just leave him and leave those other guys because you will only be hurting yourself....
like serzly...is dt payback or wat?. im horny and i need some fucking...dts whr u are, ur not bloody cheating cuz he's cheating. ur both sad people living in a bondage u call marriage, i dont knw y d man cant get a divorce if he's not happy with u anymore or y u cant get one if u aren't satisfied either.
this is africa my friends...where people live in hypocrisy. where people dont get divorced in the name of religion or tradition but do other evil shit. u both can go to hell and get ur problems solved der...lets face the problem at hand...ehn ehn how do we find a president dt can make better decisions and get ds jonah out of d fuckign way...
my dear please go and watch the movie MR & MRS it teaches a lot on how to win your husband back ok instead of cheating two wrongs don't make a right
What a sexist world we leave in, so the guy is allowed 2 satisfy his sexual urge but not the woman? Am not saying I support her but like most of you would say body no be firewood. I think both husband and wife need prayers and counselling
Headed towards the rock! HELL is REAL!
you're lucky u did not marry from d same place as i did....na empty nyash u 4 dey carry walka 4 street den i'll knw how u will write ds kind story
But a man can do that abi?
Okpunu Ode!
What a sexist world we leave in, so the guy is allowed 2 satisfy his sexual urge but not the woman? Am not saying I support her but like most of you would say body no be firewood. I think both husband and wife need prayers and counselling
you're lucky u did not marry from d same place as i did....na empty nyash u 4 dey carry walka 4 street den i'll knw how u will write ds kind story
U're a fool!!! How she be ashawo? Na only men deserve to be Happy? E be like say u dey craze. Mtcheeewww
Lol. Don't judge till you find ureself in her shoes. You never know what ure capable of till you're stretch beyong limit. No man is worth ure unhappiness I say do watever mkes you happy.
Ooooh woman/man please let us remember dat dis world is not our own oooooo.we re visitors here so,we will live dis world oneday,madaam please remember all we have on earth is vanity upon vanity,run to God bcos he is d only councilor"remember d wages of sin ok" so repent bfore is too late & bring ur husband back home bcos u re like a mother to hiim.sit down and think!! From lagos girl!!
All of you judging her am sure has never been. I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ her shoe before α̲̅πϑ you start talking as if you know ℓ̊τ̅ all...pls Madam, visit a psychologist, your pastor or priest α̲̅πϑ start prayers for yourself first....then your husband next....God will surely see your plight!
Dn't b so quick to judge her,u silly thing.She has being suffering for nine yrs.Cheating is terrible but she deserves some form of happiness and consolation. My dear,keep doin wat makes you happy.
ELLA.A
My dear Happy Lagos wife, I quite understand how you feel not because I have been there but simply because I know how it feels to be cheated on. Worst still, by someone you have promised to spend the rest of your life with and all that. I am NOT going to judge you because I am not the one in this situation and I cannot determine how or what my response will be if i were to be in your shoes. But still, my dear, cheating on him is not the best way to handle this situation. Just take a moment to think if the trumpet sounds today, where will be your final desination? Will you stand in front of the judgement throne and tell your Creator that you sinned because of him? God help you if your husband has reconcilled with God before the end time.
You might not believe in God o, but please for the sake of those children, change from cheating on him and call on God to come into this situation and I am sure He will do so and work it out for you guys. Yoruba people have this sayinh that "okun o ki wo ruru ka fa ruru' (dunno if you understand that) Person no dey use hot cool hot, na calm dem dey use cool hot.
Another thing is this, have you ever thought of communcable diseases you could contact during this your escapades? My dear the risk is very much and I would not want you to be lost at all.
Once again, please desist from cheating on him and pray to God to come and intervene. I will join you in prayers.
He loves you and I am sure that is why he married but the distractions are so much and he's straying away from you. But would you rather have him totally strayed from you or be the helper you are supposed to be to him? My dear two wrongs cannot make a right. The success of your marriage is your making and otherwise.
Cheaters always find excuses!
Madam, a beg PM me make I come follow enjoy small. I got a big one
Why not just divorce him as opposed to turning yourself into a public toilet? Don't forget a woman's dignity is all she has..and fucking multiple guys isn't going to do anything for yours. Leave his cheating ass and settle down with someone who appreciates your worth..the alternative is becoming a ho and risking all kinds of diseases. That would be cutting your nose to spite your face
Enjoy dear. Life is short.
ultimately, na every man for him self. All of u that r condemning and judging the woman eku ise o. Some of you steal, lie, render physical and mental abuse when given a chance and do all sorts really. for those that pretend you don't take all these actions, you think them at least, at that's the same thing if you don't know. all sin-big or small- attract the same punishment. so instead of judging its either you give advise or you mind you business.
As for you young woman, all i have to say is this- 2 wrongs don't make a right and the sins of the parents eventually turn around to affect the kids. so if you aren't leaving that marriage to protect your kids, you are still harming them coz this thing you are doing will attract curses on their heads.
the end
Spoken like a true prostitute. :)
Nne, pls take my advice. Do not cheat on ur husband while u r still married to him. You are not happy and you are clearly not one to cheat on her spouse. Adultery is a very strong offence and a good enough reason for divorce. Ask him for a divorce, get a very good lawyer and ensure you get custody of your children (i hope you have a job).
No woman deserves to be disrespected in her matrimonial home. You are a good woman, thats why you wrote linda in the first place, deep down, you know this is not who you are. So keep your dignity in tact and walk out of that marriage with your children and your head held up high.
God's grace.
oh madam,there is still heaven and hell. God said come unto me all u that hv laboured and heavy laden and i will give u rest,y not look unto God 4 a change,y not bend down and check what ur husband really want in a woman,that ur not given him,and set them,believe me he will definitly come back 2 u,bc if he dnt love u,he wuldnt hv married u.
Y'all should kindly leave her alone! Why should it be just one partner keeping the marriage vows? Was she d only one who took those vows on their wedding day? Didnt they both stand before God n promise to love n cherish each other exclusively? If having a boyfriend makes her happy, then by all means, she shd go ahead! Why is nobody condemning the husband for cheating? Oh, cos its a man's world huh? Oh puleeeeeaaaazzzzeee!!!! If only we will stop accepting these double standards n just learn to live right, the world would be a better place. If u want a faithful wife, be faithful! Its as simple as dat.
EdgeRunner
I think what happen to you is from foundation of your marriage....reason been that you don't know this man before you marry him, and maybe you are the one that force him into marring you.from you mentioning Jesus that means you go to church (not too sure you know Jesus). Pls stop your adultrous moves thinking you are getting back at him. That won't solve your problem. Go on your kneels that's why your solution is....
Shut the fuck up jare,some men can make a woman go nuts,and some women hang on because of their children. I don't blame her.
honestly..having been in a similar situation recently with my new husband...I wanted to cheat too..but then I thought..this isn't what I want..it isn't what GOd wants for me,.n even if u can justify ur actions b4 man u cnt b4 God... pray n talk to ur hubby,.tell him ur unhappy n how can u both salvage ur marriage. he may say no in which case u need to consider separation cuz as it is now ur both decieving ur selves
she isnt happily married, but she is happily cheating.. but as much as i dnt support wat dis lady is doin, y r men so heartless nd wicked? y do they tink dey can d som nasty tinz to d opposite sex nd get away wit it?.. madam na u i follow get word if u r readin dis comment, na God i tak beg u focus on ur kids, watever u r doin mayb na sell abi na ofice wok focus on ur job also.. anoda man isnt wat u nid at dis stage its God intervention. yea i knw say bodi no b firewood then do it properly divorce ur husband then mak u shine ur eye well well bfor u remarry. even bible talk say na case of adultery person get right to divorce him spouse, ur husband started d cheatin game, u cant condole him anymor then go ur seperate ways abi wen did marriage bcom a do or die affair? na God i carry beg u o no spoil ur 4 pikin dem future abeg.
vera said so
Sori madam, cheatin cos ur husband does same doesn't save d situation, ur duty Ȋ̝̊̅§ to strife to keep ur home intact... Anywia u take dis case to, u wil b soo condemned leavin d man out of it....God Ȋ̝̊̅§ nt deaf, talk to him.... Ǎ̜̣̍Ϟd save urself,ur kids,ur husband Ǎ̜̣̍Ϟd ur home!!!
This is what I heard this woman say:
"There's no going back now. As long as he's cheating on me, I will be cheating on me"
This is what I say to her: keep cheating on yourself madam, life is all about sex.
People like you are the reason why you can never find a good woman anymore nowadays. So you actually rationalize a woman giving up her dignity cos her hubby is n idiot? You don't think the damage being done is to herself? I guess hookers have viable excuses as well then. My dear..a woman of no virtue is a woman of no virtue. Don't make any stupid excuse
I impressed that people could really stand up for the truth at least in this insane world. No two ways about it, nkan ti o da o l'oruko meji. Pray for him to come back to you.
Word!!!
That is not the best option for u,if ur husband catch u for cheating on him he is gonna send u out of his house and by that time u will find out u av make a big mistake,instead of cheating back pray to God and also report him to his family if only u av good relationship with them,we only hear ur story we dont hear d side of ur husband maybe there is sometin u r doing wrong just try and make ur home happy.
hehehe.. passing by
You can never trust these hoez.......
Sori madam, cheatin cos ur husband does same doesn't save d situation, ur duty Ȋ̝̊̅§ to strife to keep ur home intact... Anywia u take dis case to, u wil b soo condemned leavin d man out of it....God Ȋ̝̊̅§ nt deaf, talk to him.... Ǎ̜̣̍Ϟd save urself,ur kids,ur husband Ǎ̜̣̍Ϟd ur home!!!
Two wrongs they say never make a right.Your home lacks the presence of God.If your husband is not playing his role well,You as a woman should strive to keep things together no matter what.At least for the sake of your children!
lili i beg u in the name of God, post my comment i wan tlk 2 dis woman. Madam listen! my sister is a lab scientist, she comes home wit a lot of shockin news about married women contacting HIV/AIDS, even pregnant maried women, somtimes she said they use to hv close to ten patient everday dat has dis deceases. pls my dear ur life is veri impotant 2 ur childern, wat r u enjoyin in it, smtin of 5 mins or les dan dat, pls value ur lif, i no its nt goin 2 be easy, bt try as much as u can 2 face ur childern okay!!! dey nid u alot, pls my dr Aids is real, dese pple acordin 2 my sister r veri veri healthy, e no dey show 4 face. pls jst tak dis advice 4rm me okay!! God bles u, n also c u tru.
People are so ignorant, What if the cheating husband still gives the loyal wife HIV from his sleeping around " " . Happy Lagos wife, Life is too short to live in a sad life of Bondage, Cheat smartly, use protection, don't get caught, and the pray for Forgiveness always. #Gbam
pls dont mind the hypocrist oooo. Ride on sister if not u will die of hypertension and the idiot man will re-marry. so pls make urself happy . dont let anyone hold d key to ur happiness.
Abby
Interesting... I guess you never had a mind of your own. You never had your own standards and principles. That's why you are coping your husband's standard of living. I pray that God helps you find a better way to handle your situation.
Don't make d mistake of cheating with me o or ur marriage's over
And u av no remorse. Its better u divorce and find a better husband b4 ur children copy u and ur husband.
Loll..very interesting..but truthful situation. Its a situation society finds itself, but Madam would you allow society or your husband decide how you live your life? At the end of the day you'll be the loser ooo..seek Christ and be faithful to him.
I pray I find myself a better man, n leave my marriage. My husband is totally irresponsible. We ve 2 kids. He is the only sexual partner I ve had in my life. I ve thoughts of cheating, but I ve decided to pray to find a better man n just leave him. I ve literally worshipped him - I gave the marriage all emotionally, physically, financially, full commitment,I gave this marriage all but I think I ve reached my limit. Marriage is easier n happier with real men.
And you don't want to be a single mum!
I don't tink she is 'cheatin on hasef' lyk she sed, I bliv its stil a tot n U̶̲̥̅̊ nid LIB readers advyc b4 U̶̲̥̅̊ indulge in d act. Anywayz, my own sincere advice for U̶̲̥̅̊ is to concentrate on ur kids, U̶̲̥̅̊ can stil protect d marriage from crashin jst bcos of ur kids. Presently, I'm sure ur kids wud av labelled ur husband as an 'unserious and bad father' dnt mk dem label U̶̲̥̅̊ also as a promiscuous mother. D future of ur kids is bryt n d gud syd of it is wen U̶̲̥̅̊ r in d scene. As for ur hubby, report his case to God. Der's always a period of storm in marriages, urs jst came too early, prayer changes al things n der's always a state of calmness, peace, quietude afta evry storm. Shalom! #bammy#
c d way dat seemeth right 2 a man is DESTRUCTION. let me tell u what u are doing is totally wrong and u know it. do u want God 2 punish u? do u want 2 go 2 HELL. U Are suppose 2 b praying 2 God for your husband SALVATION. my dear REPENT, AND ASK gOD 4 MERCY. Dont rejoice.
You need to stop this,ur joy is temporal.Work out a permanent solution by giving ur life to Jesus and then with God by ur side start to work out things with ur husband.
Mayowa u are so on point. I couldn't have said it better! ..... Mr C
To all the peeps spewing bile at this woman -
*do you really know what a powerful motivator sex is?
*are you aware that a woman hits her sexual peak around 35 - 40?
*I bet you know that we are hypocrites in this country, we go to church but are the top dog cheerleaders for the Devil
*if a man cheats and flaunts it for anyone to see... why should his woman forego sexual pleasure with someone that cares for her?
*a broken home is a sad thing for a child to come from... it's rare to find kids from such homes without deep personal issues
So, Lagos Wife, cheat if you must but be safe with it. You've 4 kids already and there's no point carrying a death sentence bcos you want to take banana till you go yo.
U just said it all.
Another good, honest, committed, pure and sincere soul lost to the Devil in the name of marriage.
Damaged woman!
All i can say is it is never too late to turn back on this act, two wrongs dont make a right. Biblically, it is condemned by God, y use the lil pleasure of now destroy the future.
As a woman, the joy of a woman is the kids, u said u r nt ready to be a single mother but the tread of line u r passing through leads top that. It's still not beyond repairs, sooo rather hurting yourself thinhking u r hurtiung ur husband, turn to God cos HE IS ABLE to do all things. he has never failed and never late. just a lil adv.
ur are noty buh a randy she goat. stay put in ur marriage and raise ur kids. ANUOHIA. Lindy baby post
So its ok for a man to cheat and leave the woman feeling unloved and unwanted abi? I'm not advocating her cheating but it's high time men esp in this part of the world know that women have options jo. It will make them sit up. So it is only men who like excitement and sex abi? So the woman should deny herself sexual enjoyment while her hubby is gettin his outside? Madam abeg ride on jare. Just play safe and keep it on the DL. Your happiness(howevr shortlived) is what's important. If his children and the marriage is important to him he will stop sleeping around. Stupid clueless Nigerian Men. We women are ready for your sorry asses. You guys will get as you are giving!
Pls have a rethink. I advise u concentrate on your kids,sock yourself in church activities while praying fervently for God' s touch on your husband's life and you.first, you must give ur life to Christ and be born again. You can only be happy and have that peace and joy you desire for in Christ.
So d man is doing right by cheating Abi , u guys should free lagos wife jor , she is not looking for love from her bf .... If u hubby has not cheated on u , u don't hv d moral right to talk abt this topic
Supported, even though I know it's wrong.
Two wrongs don't make a right woman!
There is LIFE after DEATH.ONE day u shall give ACCOUNT not to your husband but to GOD.
So it has become a man's right to cheat n it's not same for a woman ... Big no no for me , I ll not cheat on my hubby not bcos of am a woman n I should know better , I ll not cheat is of God's word in my life , n I don't want to hear that
I really do not understand the way we rationalize things- in these parts we like to shoot our wounded. Any one with half a brain can see that this woman is hurt and she obviously is acting out as a result. Madam, no one is judge and jury over you. If your husband once loved you, he can still do so if you are willing to respect and commit to whatever vows u took. If u think sleeping with other men wld provide relief (which I doubt) then go ahead, but please think about the effect such information would have on ur kids. I know you are tired but don't let anoda persons actions taint or corrupt you.
Am sure you like dick too much. After four children u still go out to lick en fuck some other men u r nothing but a professional slot. U r not mature for marriage yet, lemmy ask you do u have a job at all? get busy wit your job and stop fucking around. I know you even push your husband outside if actually you have four kids for him dat means he has love you in the past. Ashewo..
You are just a sex tool.
AIDS is real u fool! Nd great morale compass u guys r settin 4 ur kids. Just sayin...
I have a feeling women enjoy it when men cheat on them. He goes out abd comes with STDs and even HIV to give to a faithful wife at home. It's so absurd but I support this lady. Cheating back gives u a break from all the bottled up feeling of betrayal and hate, it gives a kind if relief jare. It's bad before God and man but many men including mine have forced us to engage in it. I have no regrets at all.
My dear,i am sorry abt what ur husband put u thru but thats not enough to mess urself up before God and man.Adultery or cheating as you call it,is not an option.Think of your children, your future(will tis help ur relationship wit ur husband n family) and eternity(is it worth going to hell for).
a word is enuff for the wise.
Be wise
@linda post my comment,first tym on d block.
Makaveli says so...
latifa said...
I blame your husband coz psychologically he destroyed you.....I still think you should file for a divorce.
Well said Latifa. All these holier than thou Libers should please shove their opinions up their asses and let be. Wait until you get yourself a man who is a serial womanizer before you understand the pains she might have passed through. I know of a pretty woman who fought girl after girl, until a very desperate one bathed her with acid and the husband dumped her in the village, immediately after the initial treatment. The day i set my eyes on her, i cried cos i know how pretty she was before that incident. It might just surprise you that it is the same woman who did it to her that is living with her husband in her matrimonial home. So all you praying mantis, who pray even when it is obvious your neck is at stake, issorait, keep praying. Life is a choice and if any man chooses to live his irresponsibly, and i try to correct, he isn't changing, i go waka far you hear, no be me born, its either him mama no train am well or them train am, him no accept the training, so wetin come concern me. Take a walk woman, work hard to take care of your kids, don't wait until he gives you STD or HIV. Useless men, always feeling justified in all their shit.
Hey mam i truely think two wrong dont make a right >>> so just pray and be the right one or leave cause both of you would remain very unhappy..... But my candid advise is to LOVE YOUR GOD AND YOURSELF and make him see he is the fool.
This is exactly the situation my best friend is going through, it's as though u are telling her husband's story. However ur chosen cause of action is wrong, selfish and unchristian . As much as it's painful to watch ur partner cheat and embarrass u, two wrongs can never make a right. It's a complex situation and u need God, he alone can console u. You say u re happy, but what shall it profit a man/woman if he gains the wholeworld and suffers the loss of his soul....your eternal happiness is being jeopardized. Then think of the children,ur self respect...
I don't know who you are but it is as if u r narrating my life story. Life is too short to stay unhappy, it feels self degrading to know that your husband knows that u know that the same d*ck he is about to put into you has been inserted into some other hole probably a couple of hours before that,tell me how anyone will enjoy such 'stupid sex', it can give u a nervous breakdown. On yesterday's lib video on cheating Nigerians, all except one man said they wud hv an instant divorce if the found out that their wife was cheating but not a single woman said they would divorce the man and annoyingly, they all said, "wat can u do?". Cheating isn't good but cheating on a cheater is not the Worst sin. Some of you commenting don't know that a man does not neccesarily need u to do something wrong for him to cheat on you. Don't develop hypertention and die bc he will remarry in 10months but if it is the woman that remarries 4yrs after the husband's demise, the society or even the man's people like stella damascus former sister inlaw will say it is you who killed the man. Babe, do watever u can to stay happy, God is the only Supreme judge In this case, so sort it out with only Him and leave these idiots who think they know so much when they don't know jack
The men on this blog cursing her are just mad because they don't want their women doing to them what they probably already do/did to them.
Also the women here are just hating cause they don't have the courage to do it and are most likely punching bags for their spouses. Suffering & Smiling indeed.
Do we blame these nollywood actresses for wanting to stay single, especially in scandal-filled Lagos? Lol
I can never marry a Nigerian, especially with their archaic beliefs
Pls leave her alone. It's her life. So her hubby is allowed and she's not. Oda pple banging arnd don't have HIV , did she tell u she's not using condom. Hypocrites
Madam Lagos Wife!!!
Remember ur kids o!
All you fucking Christians are soooooo annoying! What if her husband brings her back AIDS? Should she still continue to sit down and wait for some miracle from Jesus that ain't gonna happen?
Get a grip on reality please
Great story. So sad men are full of shit these days. I am a guy! What goes on these days is not encouraging. No one really knows the impact of cheating. |Even churches play it down christianising it with forgive and forget. Who hold the messed up guy accountable. I only want to remind you about your kids. I think you should give them out to someone who would take good care of them or raise them well. Or maybe you should just reconsider your actions and be responsible. I pray God helps you and you don't ruin everything you've been blessed with. And shame on your husband too. I'm very sure the ladies he cheats with are good for nothing compared to you. (Same goes for the guys u cheat with compared to him. Cos u know the good you saw in your husband before you got married).
And it does not include adultery, ode. As far as i'm concerned, the husband broke the vows a long time ago so save your breath
Reading the bible & behaving in a godly way also applies to her cheating hubby. A good marriage is built by both parties & not the woman alone.
Its ok to admit you're miserable. I Pitt you. Suffering & smiling.
You lot, will be the sane people cursing Rita,Genevieve,Agbani and others to get married. Lol. I'll just assume its bitter housewives advocating for such
kukuma drop your contact for interested guy since your ve decided to be loose.Satan has taken over.So sad for d innocent kids!
So wait ooh after how many years and hundreds of women u think the husband can't also give her HIV tired of this way of thinking that the woman should just take it even women we have that concept I've watched my mum suffer in that type of marriage and it was just sad the man won't stop but the woman should just sit and pray.... That's sad and sucidal pls go and have fun Abeg and enjoy as much of ur life as u have left as long as ur taking care of ur kids. All this hypocrites standing outside to comment u don't know what she's going through .....
Its easy to get married and another to stay married. In dz part of d world n culture nobody wants a divorce but stay and takr shits frm their hubby's cz of wot ppl wud say and especially stay of d kids. U all re quick to judge a fellow dt is wearing d shoe has anyonr condenned d man and his actions? A woman dt is treated well by her hubby wud neva cheat unless fr dogs. Am hapily married n i pray my marriage continues to grow stronger by d day. If u hear stories of wot married women go thru u wud pray to even remain single but at d end it takes d grace of God. I dnt support adultery either but if yall can talk to d man involved maybe he wud change and put hz family first. A man shud alws put hz family first even if he must do" respect ur spouse and dont becom"the ladies man" whn u know u av a wife nd kids at home. Advice yurself*
You may not be a christain, but there are spiritual consequences on adultery and your children may most likely bear them!!! Please think of the kids.
Look at all you judges..what right do you have to insult this woman...You dont have a clue how it feels, what she puts up with.....Now she chosed her path to live..and you call her a whore..how dare you..Instead of praying you do not fall into her ordeal..you are here judging...strangely, Ive barely seen any comment abt the MAN...
@anon 1:... At least u cheated @some point leave her to do hers regret it and find jesus I fink its better that way,cos her husband has placed her in a bad state.This thing called marriage is just highly overated..I Hate!!!
I like the comment from one of the readers, that ask u to put ur name if u r so proud of wat u r doing. The truth is, I don't even believe u have 4 kids, it could be just 2 kids and I don't even believe u stay in Lag. If u know wat u r doing is so good and u r enjoying it, be bold to tell ur husband, but I know u can't b/c u want people to see u as Mrs ... What u fail to understand, is u can not eat u cake and still have it. There is no sense in wat u r doing, u need Jesus in ur life Madam.
Well I don't judge this lady at all! What we women see in marriage is enough to make us go gaga mentally! Only the strongest of women can ignore the shit! In as much as what ure doing is wrong, I serz emphathise wiv u! Get a divorce
Honestly, I must say I understand you and I feel your pain but trust me You are not happy, you only feel fulfilled because you are paying back, because the only person that you want is your husband, thats why you got married to him and until he accepts you back the way he did before you cant be happy.
Dis woman is the greatest fool of the yr. where is d virtuous woman in u. God is Watching u. sowi in advance
so i know its wrong and all, but the thought has crossed my mind.
The husband is a fool, and she in turn is now a fool. It gladens my heart that she is doing to him what he's been doing to her BUT as a christian its not the way forward. Then again she doesnt want to divorce him so all of u calling her ashawo WHAT DO YOU EXPECT HER TO DO?? KEEP BEING UNHAPPY WHILE THAT BASTARD OF A HUSBAND KEEPS CHEATING?.....GOD, have mercy on all of us.
Pls yall shld stop with d crazy comments,and let her be...Until she sets fire on her husband or stab him inda middle of d night abi??
Pls shut up nd keep ur selfish advice to urself, do wht mks u happy nd leave d judgment to to God, so d husband is nt destroying his home ba? Its d woman bc she has decided to be happy, dts wht u men use to deciev woman neck my fat soft ass, rubish, madam enjoy
Do me, I do you, in this regard, shows that both your husband and especially yourself a woman have lost it. Both of you will reap the harvest of the seed sown.... Your children... are watching... I can't say much.
Why do you drag yourself down to his level of a beast?
Sad but i don't blame her. I applaud the way you are playing yours out though, you are not being razz you have 1 boyfriend. i was telling someone the other day when a man cheats he does it with reckless abandon sleeping with 5-10 girls at once, but when a woman cheats, she gets 1 man makes him her boyfriend and he satisfies her. What ever makes you happy dear lol@happy Lagos wife.
D difference bw them is dat d ladies will mst times 4give d men bt d men well, very rare.@ d end of d day if she is caught by him she will face her biggest fear which is to be a single mum dats if he even lets her have d kids.I mean, hw much men will she v b4 it becomes enuf*nt worth it*madam let ur senses guide u.
i understand that some people dont even read as soon as they look at d topic they wil start trowing there stupid coments and insults that is so out of point making themselves look so stupid,as for u my dear do anyting that mks u happy but just mk sure u use protection,am almost in same situation wt u but mine is that my husband dont cheat but he always lie against me to his people each time we have issues and that mks me so unhappy cos i would have prefer he lied and say rubish about me to my people other than to his own people so i find it so offensive and always feel bad and insecure in my marriage that is just 5months old,i have ask for a divorce and he said over his dead body but am planing on getting a boyfriend that wil mk me happy cos my husband has turned me into a sadist and turn d good woman in me into a monster.
Thank u bitch. Men re allowed to flirt and d women depressed for over 9yrs? She neva try? Seeking Jesus is very good but wot of the Congi aspect of a young girl? U all shud stand up and judge men cz de are d irresponsible ones. U see a wife going to fellowships, gatherings for married women on how to takia of der hubby, if only men wud strt doing all these i bet u 70% of marriages wud be made in heaven. All women shud kip praying tht ur man neva abandons u.Men shud be ready bf saying I DO♥♥♥♥
Bu obinrin ba loko meji, o di ashewo, ileegal ni......na u sabi oo. Hell is waiting for u cos every man for himself, God for all
u cald urself a bitch, too bad for u cos u ar a bad example to dignified women. do u no dat she can contract a diziz leavin her dead leta and d man who started it wil repent and remarry.mcheew.
Is your name Banke? Married into a mega rich family. From what she said about her husband it sounds like him. He has told her to leave if she wants.
u people are not serious at all,whats with the i hope u get HIV ,she's a whore talk,smh i know an eye for an eye leaves every1 blind but if anyone is the whore here its the hubby,if any will get HIV its d guy shes also at risk still,but gone are the days where women played dumb and stupid! bible said be submissive to one another not just the woman,when a woman cheats its ADULTERY but when the man cheats its ok coz his A MAN.....abeg u lot condemning her shud shut up ,Auntie please stop cheating and go to God in prayers he will eventually get tired and come bk to you, concentrate on ur kids
You are not hurting anyone but yourself. U can't let a man push u to giving up the one thing God blessed women with which is dignity. So after you become public toilet for multiple guys now the husband still will be called a hero and you..a ho..
Well even if she didn't cheat she still risks getting hiv from her husband, use protection with your husband, ask God to help you not cheat and stop, go on your knees for your marriage, ask God for the grace of Esther then speak to your husband to find out what went wrong and how you can fix things and then involve elderly counselling too.
There's no excuse to let a man turn u into a slut.
Abeg enjoy urself, am in d same shoes wit u, I enjoy myself and even have fone sex befor my husb comes bak by 11pm. Take care of ur kids, have fun and b happy. Dis life is too short to b diein in silent or sufferin and smilin. Ur husb wil b sad wen he finds out u naow smile and wil want to come close to u. Leave all dis hypocrites and have fun
what ever makes u sleep better at night babe, i believe in equality. But i do hope this boyfriend of urs has much more moni than ur husband just in case ur husband finds out so u wouldn't be left with nothing
There's no excuse to let a man turn u into a slut.
I love what you are doing but it is still a sin. I feel u badly but on judgement day, its going to b just u and God.Break up with your boyfriend and pray for your husband. I advice females to make wise decisions before getting married so dey don't end up with idiots like your husband. When women marry men for money, the chances are that d men will misbehave. Girls listen to other women's problems and make wise choices. Such men should not be married even if he is a billionaire.
R U̶̲̥̅̊. Blind, didn't U̶̲̥̅̊. Read wer she said she doesn't plan 2 be a single mum in dis envinronment
Don't insult her. What would u do in her shoes?
The husband is a mean bastard. Why will u keep hurting ur partner. Why did u marry her if u are still a bachelor in every sense of d world. God will judge you for this woman's action.
"And I also discovered that quite a number of my female friends have been cheating on their husbands for years now..." CAPS LOCK
So e dey pain u say women fit cheat? Its what u men deserve
Linda doesn't hold back comments deliberately. She is attending to other businesses and MOST ESPECIALLY-her MAN. Folks don't you want her to get married? Just show a little bit of understanding.
I tire 4dem o,Her so called husby dt has been cheating will not v HIV na she go cum carry HIV.And even if she doesn't cheat,wnt d man carry d HIV home nd infect her?
Madam don't let anybody decive u. All men are thesame even the one u r cheating ur husband with may not be faithful to u. Seek the love of Christ that give u everlasting joy which even ur husband infidelity cannot take away.
LMAO U WILL GET CAUGHT UP...ITS FUN NOW BT WHEN SH*T HITS THE FAN U WILL B BACK TO SQUARE 1.
Y DONT U JUST START SOMETHING THAT CAN FUND U N UR KIDS N LEAVE THE UNHAPPY MARRIAGE?
Dont mind her woman we are all claping 4 u ride on the day of judgement u will stand alone nt ur husband to give account of ur life remember life is a lone u must return it to d owner is it wt bLemish or without sain
Yes oooo... Gbam#
Beef. Good for you men. U want to cheat alone. In d end, u get wayward kids. Lol
I approve it
I love what you are doing but it is still a sin. I feel u badly but on judgement day, its going to b just u and God.Break up with your boyfriend and pray for your husband. I advice females to make wise decisions before getting married so dey don't end up with idiots like your husband. When women marry men for money, the chances are that d men will misbehave. Girls listen to other women's problems and make wise choices. Such men should not be married even if he is a billionaire.
This long speech for what? You Nigerians never cease to amaze me. Clearly the marriage was over before it even began. Why flog a dead horse? All this pray pray pray bullshit.
A lot of religious people are truly sad and empty on the inside, its a shame
Linda post my comment
Notice how she's not really seeking anyone one's opinion,she just felt like sharing
That's your own headache. Why r u telling us? Mscheeeeew. Idiat!
Whatever floats ur boat?
Clearly you don't respect the marriage institution either, so get off your high horse. This reads like something from a nollywood script. Disgusting!
abeg make una free the woman jare. she wont due before her time bcos of husband issue. he is not worth a faithful woman
Man-made religion written by men and you women foolishly follow
Thank u sweerie,my tots exactly...what about d fucking asshole of a man dat married her? Why do I hav d feeling that he is being silently applauded in diz comments?Fucking shitheads!
The wages of sin is death.
Mortal cobalt bi ti bawo nau?U just come worldwide fall ur fada hand...combat ki ni mo wi?COMBAT
well I really understand the feeling of wanting to payback in the persons coin... BUT this your present smile is momentary... are u thinking of your kids at all??? do you want them to grow up in such an environment.. Besides stooping to his level makes you exactly like him.. not better and you are supposed to be better.. being a single mom wouldn't be so bad you know.. if his cheating was so bad you could have called it quits not only for your self but for the sake of these kids.. you shouldn't want your kids to grow around such an example... 2 wrongs never make a right.. I understand your plight though and the pain but this so called happiness is going to be short lived and you are opening yourself to sexual risks.. for the sake of your kids pick yourself up and leave that house!! your children shouldn't grow up around such a man as an example.... your kids are very impressionable. also note IF JESUS AINT GVING YOU YOUR SMILE YOU WOULD DEFINITELY SOON CRY.. so please and please reconsider
LIND PLEASE P:OST MY COMMENT
DO ME I DO YOU!!!... IT SERVES THE MEN RIGHT!! MEN SHOULD KNOW THAT THEY HAVE NO MONOPOLY OF CHEATING!..hehehehehehehe
I like u :)
Jokers. In the West it is called SWINGING. Usually husband and wife participate together with other couples. No love in your marriage, so why not have consensual sex with other participating adults. Sorry, this is a Nigerian blog full of good, God fearing people who are ready to do or die for the glory of material wealth. People go and repent to your billonaire pastors and hail the rich and powerful politicians because one day you will be OGA at the top. Evil currently has superior power in Nigeria. The day is coming for all you hypocrites and chalatans to be wiped out and good shall rule.
I think govt shd pass a law against comments longer than the main story
D church allows dat (separation)only on d grounds of infidelity. But u are nt allowed to be in another relationship afterwards, as long as d other party is still alive. It is till death do u part.There4 cast all ur burden to him and u will av relief.
The strategy advised is distraction with many other gainful engagements. Avoid repetitive ones so as nt to get bored. It is always a tough journey, but there is hope to be blessed after all.
lol, pathetic
Babe I seriously feel ur pain & I can tell u have bin dr b4. Dis is a part of d world where Men r free 2 engage in multiple sex partners & flaunts it arnd. Let me tell u d truth, 98% of Men do dis but in different proportion. Guessed ur hubby own is on d extreme. Let me give u a candy advise, pls protect ur self wit ur hubby & d guys ur having sex wit, take gud care of urself, package urself well(gorgeously) u'l c how ur hubby ll b jealous.
Every Woman wants 2b loved, appreciated & dotted ova so since she's not getting it frm d hubby she need get it elsewhere. Above all babes, seek God & he'l surely make ur home a api 1, deligently pray 4 ur hubby & u'l c changes, show him love 100%, 1day he'l come arnd. All I ask u do is not easy. It is Well
you may be enjoying it now but you will be tired soon it is unfortunate that you married an irresponsible man,by the time you have slept with 10 irresponsible men like your husband,you will be more frustrated and be like the man you are taking revenge on.there is a better way to deal with unfaithful man.
Such a high level of moral decadence and a sheer display of senselessness by the fake woman. So she's living her life based on the dictates of the foolishness of the man!!! She's such a muppet!!!
Discover your purpose in life woman and live it rather than insulting God by telling him you don't have any meaningful thing to do with your life... Olodo!!!
The man you are sleeping with outside your marriage doesnt really love you any more than your husband does. You are just a means to an end for him also. Its a vicious sad cycle and unless you decide to love yourself and do positive things to give you self accomplishment and pride,all I can see is pain at the end of the game for you. Cheating by having sex doesnt give you self accomplishment. Youll soon discover that men are the same selfish sex beings- only to get what they can from you and give very little back in return.Then youll end up more bitter than you started out.I see it coming.
Evrytin U do in life, U shld do it 4 d sake of God. Rememba on d last day, it's evri man 2 himself. God wil nt say bcos ur hubby started d cheatin ist dere4 U ar pardoned. If he is goin astray, U shldnt go astray wit him, bring him bck instead. Dats y U ar d home maker. Rememba also dat U hv kids, U can nt possibli give ur best 2 ur kids wen U ar goin afta anoda man. Go on ur knees dear n pray 2 God, den go bck 2 d faithful wife U were cos God cn onli listen 2 a faithful heart. All d best if U wld listen.
Well u r both ashawos hope that makes all you women happy now?! I also hp if ur husband marries another wife, u wud be able to marry another man and put him in your matrimonial home with your husband and his Nu wife and 4 kids because left to me ur just being dumb. The first u shud understand is you are a mum do u knw the kind of stigma dat wud be on your children when they find out their mum is a whore? Do u think of your health after sleepn with these dead boys that sleep with people's wives? Ur husband is very dumb for what his doing but now ur dumber for tryn to compete with his dumbness. If the man is not treating you properly move out and then you can get another man the right way, a way ur children and the society can handle. If his not doing you right tell him u women have been complaining inside or on blogs and other social medias as anonymous for year and you will continue that way if you don't tell dis men how to make you come, abi bcos u knw wan make dem think you b ashawo u will now die unsatified wake and tell dis men how to get u der if he acts funny after you've told then what you shud do is get him hard let him go for some strokes after let's say 20 stroke or in situations where ur husband na 2 min noodles 10 stroke, fake an orgazim and climb out from under him leave him der with a hard on, u cud do dis till his ready to comply. You have nothing to loose, I mean! U didn't used to come b4 anyways rather u have something to gain which is sexual satisfaction. Try it out ladies and stop acting silly, u have to talk to be heard.
@flawless, hope u will give her husband soon? Cos no evil deeds will go unpunished n we r in naija. Engel Tony
Please when you are done with the present boyfriend, no need to search for another one. There is a brothel in every nook and cranny of Nigeria where you can work part-time.SICK ASHAWO!
please.... stop with all the insults on the lady. You all making it sound like its all her fault her husband cant keep his pants zipped. ideally, she should 'wait and pray' blah..blah..blah..but she's human jare..let him come back to his senses first and then she can too..
This life is funny. the single ones cant wait to get in, the married ones cant wait to get out.. why bother with the so called marriage?
people are generally quick to judge especially when they are on d other side,these are fundamental issues and she's acting from a place of hurt,no one will understand her except when u walk in her shoes. i'm of the school of thought where i"NEVER SAY NEVER" until i'm faced with same situation lest i be tested,so all we can do is pray and hope they both overcome whatever it is. Name calling isnt going to change anything. i dont know who you are but pls pls stop! take a look at yourself in the mirror and know ure beta than this and find happiness in yourself,your good friends and your children and in Jesus and everything will fall into place. there's absolutely nothing to high for your knees to solve.
It is not cheating jus sum pay back ish...the man has no heart @all ooh u all judging dis woman r holy ba? Na una go even do worse sef..Oya ma'am carry go..enjoy urself 2 d fullest u no be fire wood...Ms Posh
All of you who criticize and cricify the woman should shut the fuck up and chop your smelly shit.Wat nonsense double standards are we preaching in this fucked up world...Where its ok for a Husband to fuck around like a dog in heat all the time and not care how his wife feels about it where she finds out.The woman is advised to put her knees on the ground for a husband whose problem is beyond spiritual comprehension.My point is this; Since God judges all of us with the same parameters...Man or woman, I dont think we should be smarter than God.Babes, Live your life and do anything and everything to be remain happy.xoxo
There's never a right way to do a wrong thing... datz all
tit for tat..chop make i chop,na so life be
Lol! If not 4 God, I woulda said congrats and tell u to carry on... Dz men r biting more dan dey can chew!
You have no Excuse oo!
No doubt You will do same. well I wont blame you cos you couldnt hold the pressure.
No doubt You will do same. well I wont blame you cos you couldnt hold the pressure.
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