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Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Man sets pregnant lover ablaze

Culled from Sunnewsonline.com
Until June 23, not many could have suspected that all was not well between Emeka Agu, 28, and his pregnant girlfriend, Miss Bidemi Akinsolufe. That night, disaster struck in their home in Ayobo area of Lagos, as Emeka allegedly set his lover ablaze.
The reason? To prevent the lady from charming other men with her beauty. Nearly a month after, Bidemi still writhes in pain at the Gbagada General Hospital, even as Emeka awaits his date with the law. The reporter met the badly burnt lady on her hospital bed and she narrated what led to the sad incident.
“I started dating him last year but my boyfriend is very jealous. Even whenever my sister called me, he would want to call back to be sure it wasn’t a man that called me. “He was working before and had his own place but he later lost his job and had no place to stay. I secured a mini-flat in Ayetoro and asked him to join me there.

We had been living together since then. “Recently, when I took in, he asked me to stop working and I did. But he drinks a lot. He spends his money on alcohol and I always told him that I was worried that his liver might be destroyed. He doesn’t trust me; he thinks I date other men.

“He used to work in the night as a bouncer in a hotel. The day before he set me on fire, his former boss had summoned him and I thought maybe the man wanted to offer him a job. So, on the morning of that day, Sunday, June 23, I called him to know if he had gone to the man’s place.

As we were speaking on the phone, he told me he was already high. And I asked him why he should spend his money on alcohol when I was hungry at home. “I was angry, so I went to report him to his friend. His friend then called him and talked some sense into him. But when he knew that I was with his friend, he became angry and accused his friend of sleeping with me. He said he would suck my blood for sleeping with his friend.

I was even explaining to him that I couldn’t be sleeping around with my pregnancy but he wasn’t convinced. He began to call me names, that I was a useless woman. He later said it was all right, that he wasn’t angry again.

So, I went back home. “When I got back home, one of my friends told me that Emeka had reported me to her, saying I locked him outside in the rain. So, when I got to our apartment, I begged him and my friend also begged him. He said he was no longer angry but I didn’t know he still had plans to deal with me.

“After a while, he pretended as if he wanted to go to the toilet and while walking past me, he suddenly gave me a terrible slap. Then he began to beat me. In fact, I had never been so thoroughly beaten since I was born.

He had only slapped me on two earlier occasions. That night, I was yelling for help but I guessed people weren’t hearing me outside. I was crying and threatening to pack out of the apartment. “Then he said he would destroy my beauty. But I didn’t believe he would do anything so devilish.
Then he went to the kitchen, brought out the stove and poured the kerosene on me. He lit a match and threw it at me and I was burning. I rushed to the kitchen to get water but he was pushing the buckets of water away. I was yelling and crying.

Then after some time, he began to say to me: ‘My babe, your face is burnt, I’m sorry.’ “I didn’t even know that my face was badly burnt. I initially thought my hands were the only parts affected until much later when I saw my face in the mirror.
“When he realised the damage he had done, he began to beg me, saying he would marry me. He said I should stay inside, that he would go and get raw pap to apply on the burnt parts of my body. But as he wanted to go out of the apartment, I followed him. He said he wasn’t running away, that he just wanted to get the pap and get back. And I said okay, but I was following him.

He kept pushing me back but I insisted on following him out. Later, one of our neighbours, a man, knocked on our door and asked what was wrong with me. He replied that there was no problem but I shouted that the man should come in to save my life.

I told the man that the door wasn’t locked, that he should push it. Eventually other neighbours came and pushed the door open and I immediately ran outside so that everyone could see me. I think that was when I passed out.” After she lost consciousness, some of her neighbours quickly rushed her to the nearest hospital from where she was transferred to the Gbagada General Hospital. Meanwhile, the neighbours also alerted the police in Ayobo, who came to arrest Emeka.

Bidemi also told the reporter: “He told me it was the devil’s handiwork but I know God would repay him. I leave everything to God. I have been hospitalised here now since then, and my people have been spending money on me.” “Initially, I thought no man would want me any longer since he had destroyed my face. But my people said no, that they wouldn’t allow me near him again.

They said he should write an undertaking that he wouldn’t come after me but I’ve been told that, even with an undertaking, he might still try to harm me. I will have the baby but he must never ask for my child. I want him to face the music. I want justice to be done.”

Bidemi’s mother, Mrs. Nike Adeyemi, also spoke with the reporter. Said she: “Some good neighbours took my daughter to a nearby hospital and asked her boyfriend to stay with her there. They then secretly invited policemen to arrest him. We are already in court.” “I have spent all I have to treat my daughter.

None of Emeka’s people has paid a dime out of the heavy hospital bills. We have spent over N200, 000 now and we are still spending. The doctor said we would need, at least, N500, 000 for comprehensive treatment for my daughter because her face and hands have been badly burnt.
You can see the wounds are still looking fresh even after over three weeks. I don’t even have any money for her treatment any more.

I’m so fed up. One of Emeka’s sisters came to me with policemen from Ikoyi. She offered to pay me N40, 000 so that the boy would be released. I refused to collect the money because I said it was even an insult for her to offer that little amount when we were being asked to bring N500, 000.
“I don’t even know where to turn to for help. Please, help me beg compassionate Nigerians to come to our aid. I don’t want my daughter to die. I think we will also have to do something about her pregnancy because I don’t ever want her to have anything to do with that boy any longer.”
The reporter spoke with Emeka’s sister, who allegedly offered N40, 000 to Bidemi’s family. Her words: “I don’t know what to do again. I didn’t know when Emeka and Bidemi started their friendship.

I didn’t send him to set the girl ablaze. I’m even tired of everything. I am a widow myself and I don’t have money. I have even used the N40, 000 that I offered her to take care of some other issues. I’m tired of the whole issue and I don’t know what to do.”

155 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wow....I'm saddened by this. Thing is divorce , domestic violence, infidelity etc just makes me scared of being with any man...period

Anonymous said...

Men!!!! Are wicked. They say its men's world! God will judge.this is too much.

Anonymous said...

Na wa o, Sad 1

Anonymous said...

Sad 1

tuffcookiey said...

That Emeka is evil and should pay with his life.. I cant even start to imagine the trauma, horror dat this girl had to pass through.. now she will hv to live with a burnt face and hand for d rest of her life.. Bidemi, if u will ever read this, if they happen to release him, wait for the right moment, lure him and cut off his manhood.. shove it into him mouth and make sure u push it down his throat!! Jealous my foot!!

ebi said...

Dt guy is a psychopatic manics y ll u do dt 2 a lady,wt if smb did dt 2 his sista he ll b d 1st 2 ask 4 d head of d person who did dt,ladies d signs were dere in d 1st d jealousy and screaming all of dat still yet u gals ll still stay in d relationship see d aftermath nw ds is soo pathetic biko wishing u speedy recovery.

ade baptista said...

God pls tak us away 4rm evil man/woman....human beings re wicked...ooo

Jules J said...

E no get anything wey person no go see for this country ooooo.... Some Nigerians r gradually turning into psychopaths... God have mercy...

Albright said...

This is no love at all. Women stay in this kind of relationships just not to be alone. It's better to remain lonely than get burnt by a lunatic. If love becomes someone to fear then get out. Don't wait to be wondered before you act or say "you leave God to judge" women, we all must be the judge and jury of our lives. It was given to us not to men for them to keep for us.

Anonymous said...

Desperate ibo guys! Tufiakwa. Igbostic nnas.may God b with U Bidemi


Anonymous said...

Rily sad....linda abeg post ma comment ds tym!

Adekunle Kazeem said...

This is a huge problem. A big problem for the guy who couldn't trust his girlfriend and he has taken everything over his head. Ladies hate this act of 'policing' them, monitoring their every move even with stupid questions. How will guys feel if your girlfriend is doing that. Wish her quick recovery and safe health.
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Anonymous said...

Imagine T̶̲̥̅̊h̶̲̥̅̊e̶̲̥̅̊ height of wickedness. That guy must be a devil's incarnate. Hmmm,may God help that young lady τ̅☺ sail through this

Anonymous said...

Sorry.

Ayo adeshina said...

You ladies can b rily funny. Yu ll Ơ̴̴͡.̮Ơ̴̴̴͡ a dude dah rily loves you but you ll neva give him a chance ,itz a guy dah will destroy yu u ll b going afta so sad.I wish her quick recovery

★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★ said...

SMH! An overly jealous man shouldn't be tolerated at all! Eccentricities from such a man just keeps increasing as time goes on.

toke said...

Bastard igbo's,as for d lady y do u av 2 leave with a man u r not married 2 and besides u dnt stay in an abusive relationship.

Anonymous said...

I knew its a 9ja story.....may God help us in dis country.

Anonymous said...

The man have to face d music wicked man poor girl endure it God will see u through

Anonymous said...

Some guys can be very mean!

B€£ said...

D guy dat did dis lady like dis is sick upstairs,and d aunty dat is offering money is not well,what kind of non sense is dat,na wa ooo.make dem lock d guy up well well and lady I wish u quick recovery.@linda it 19th dis friday

Anonymous said...

Dat is inhumanity to human,i wish her speed recovery.what a life.

oak said...

The evil that men do

Anonymous said...

Hmnnnnn, aw on earth will u̶̲̥̅̊ ✆ a guy to come nd start livingg wiv u̶̲̥̅̊ wen u̶̲̥̅̊ aren't married to him? Anyway, get well soon IJN

Anonymous said...

she still looks pretty

Sunday Otuns said...

Ladies,never live with a guy who has not paid your bride price.I dont know what is wrong with our ladies when they hear "i will marry you"they will pack their belongings to the guy's home.marriage is not an achievement o!

OgeAussie said...

So he slapped you twice and you stayed?
Ok.
Get well soon, and hopefully get wiser.
#nevertolerateaviolentman.

OGE said...

Na wa og sm girls could really be funny.he asked u to stop working nd u stopped...just a mere boyfrnd oh!!u must be high on bobo drink.get well soon sha.buh I wonder wen girls will learn.

Anonymous said...

Na wa dis love is really blind bt d Emaka guy is wicked n may still b under d influence of ackcohol

Anonymous said...

Ladies can be so cheap smtimes sha......How on earth wud u move in with a man dat has not paid ur bride price? I wont be surprise, if Bidemi even say she still love him after the battery............na nna sabi. Anywayh, GWS.

hilary obiorah said...

IDIOT, some people sef!

Anthony Egwuche said...

Chai Emeka deserve public flogging wiz strong whips

Genevieve Ureh said...

Dis kinda stories really creeps me out..... Men!!! Lord direct our paths in choosing a sane ♌ compatible future partner. Amen

BEN said...

So barbaric!

Adebayo Rodipe said...

O boy na wa oooooooO

Anonymous said...

How cn a man who is not ur hubby ask u to quit ur job and u foolishly do so? R u so desperate to answer Mrs? Gals nd their wahala, even all d beating u cnt kick his ass out of ur houz. Now, ur parents r suffering cos of ur mistakes. Quick recovery. OLAEDO

Anonymous said...

Imagine, if i catch d man eh!!! Madam get wel soon ijn.

Anonymous said...

Wrong decisions;may God heal u nd help us all.

Emy-pzzy said...

Tired of all dis shit,some gals ain't worth good loving this is no1 lesson to others,they always say no †̥ good dudes n accept d wrong ones....anyway wish ya quick recovery.

Anonymous said...

The lady is totally stupid! Waaaa! Does the Holy Spirit have to scream inn ur ears for u to know u are on a wrong path?? You quit ur job at d word of a man who isn't capable of fending for d family, the most annoying part is that he's a nuisance to d nation at a whole. Drinks away d little that comes into his hands?! May God bless His people with wisdom cos d foolishness of our girls these days baffles me. I'm sure u were feeling cute as his jealousy was advancing by d day. It is well.... What is the acct number na??

--Teeteelahyo--

BLOGLORD said...

All the signs were there....

She should have taken a walk before now..all this would have been avoided.

E go better, e go better main cause this one.

It only got worse. Thank God she is alive to tell the story.

God punish the idiot

didi said...

Dat boy is a bastard,imagine wat d sister is even saying,she better remove d pregnancy nw 4 her own good n stay away 4rm d guy.get well soon dear...linda make I see my comment o

Anonymous said...

Some stuff happen and den I know and also believe that evil people live among us.they open the gates of hell and just walk out and roam around d world.poor Bidemi!get well soon dear!

Daizyyyy said...

Jealousy is d worst thing that ever happened 2 man. How can a man do dis 2 smone he claims 2 luv

Anonymous said...

He went to kitchen to bring out stove and u didn't run away ?

Anonymous said...

Oh my God!!! Why all this monkey generation doing all this? This is the reason some ladies don't like dating some guys from east bcos their evil is worst than evil himself, anyway what am praying now for now is real judgment bcos the guy is a devil and they should judge him according to the law dying by hanging bcos am sure if yoruba guy do this to an igbo girl am sure what he will face never in his life he won't near igbo girl again.

Anonymous said...

i could see the "guity kinda altitude" in her tone... begging Nigeria for help o this ish? Mother teresa where were you when he was practicing slaps on your daughter's face.... You will see the gurl too has a part which is hidden somewhere...what was she doing with the boy all dis while if according to her "he used to drink and slap me", to the extend that she asked him to move into her apartment? dirty story asking for help...






















Anonymous said...

In as much as what the guy did is very wrong but ladies also push men to their limit...and also she knew this man as a jealous woman beater but she still opted to stay with him...a bouncer for that matter....na God go help u.....SAINT....

Anonymous said...

Ladies will never learn, once a guy starts hitting you,after the first time don't wait for a second or third,run for your life cos he will never stop after then.if he can hit u when dating what will happen after marriage.ladies learn from others misfortunes.anyways,recover soon dear the Lord is ur strenght

Anonymous said...

What a useless village man with village mentality

She should have seen he was useless before now

And BTW who still applies pap to burns?? Ignoramus

Anonymous said...

He slapped you on two occasions earlier and you still believed he loves you, mistakes women make... I pray God heals you completely and give you peace.

Anonymous said...

He slapped you on two occasions earlier and you still believed he loves you, mistakes women make... I pray God heals you completely and give you peace.

Martin Miller said...

oOPs!! that hurts..

Martin Miller said...

oOPs,,that hurts..

thanar said...

The word of God is true n will forever be true....... Sex b4 marriage is bad and even if we already find ourselves doing it we should try n live with caution.... If you are looking for who to accomodate why nt invite any of ur homeless relatives? Fucking a guy you under your roof is absurd let alone staying with hm n gtn pregnant outside wedlock .... Cnt even think of it.......Nt good for us as female...... Pls this should serve as a lesson..... Wish you quick recover darling

Anonymous said...

living wit him wen u nt yet married is a sin.d day he raised his hand to slap you,u wud av ended d relationship worst of all got pregnant for.too bad you placed dis on urself,d signs were dere but u didnt c bcos u were love blinded.may God see you thru.

Anonymous said...

So painful

Anonymous said...

Dat guy is possessed, wat wickedness!!!!! Ladies shud knw d kind of men dey date, dis story is bizarre

Anonymous said...

A man slapped Ɣ☺ΰ on two different occassions Α̲̅πϑ Ɣ☺ΰ think wen Ɣ☺ΰ marry him dats wen he will begin ̥†̥σ pamper Ɣ☺ΰ? M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥A̶̲̥̅я̩̥̊ Ɣ☺ΰ caused it Ƒσя urslf. Dat guy shld rot in jail or be put through exactly wat he put her through. I pray Ɣ☺ΰ quick recovery!

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmmm! You made a mistake girl.....calling a guy to live in your apartment, dating a guy without a job? knowing that frustration can make him to do anything, continued to date him even when he took up the club job....how irresponsible is that? obviously you were the one feeding him.....So sorry this happened and I really wish you get well soon. This is a lesson to other girls.......please be wise and stop putting your life God has given you at risk simply because all your mates are married and you are not!!! So what? Find something else that would keep you happy and fulfilled biko!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm, with a tatoo o her right arm, hope we have heard all the truth sha.
well Linda post he pics b4 the accident so we get to know what Emeka was trying to prevent other men from seeing. Dr P

Anonymous said...

that man should rot in kirikiri prisons were he belongs.

tess said...

Get well soon..buh wat u did was not jes ryt nw c d damage he has caused u!!sorry dear..

Anonymous said...

Sharrapp malu!! wia did u c dt she left sum1 dat luvs her 4 d guy?somebody obviously dumped u cus u stink of rejection and I'm sure its cus of ds type of senselessness dat u r exhibiting

Anonymous said...

Well I wish u quick recovery...to all ladies out there never you cohabitate nt for any reason, and d first time ur partner raise a hand on u, dats a signal never u ignore it.

Anonymous said...

Thank u 4 dat question how can u invite him 2 ur place if not 4 his dick dat shows him how lose nd desperate u are.and may b she want 2 b fuck all de tym y won't he suspect u wen he sees u wit any guy.Abeg respect urself as a lady nd smtin of dis type will not hapen 2 u

Anonymous said...

A lesson to ladies, over desperation for marriage kills,how can a guy who is not married to ask u to resign from work and u did, dat is the height of foolishness, no responsible man will sell his pride to live in a woman's house, u got exactly what u deserve, u saw the signs but u refused to end the relationship now u want nigerians to come to ur aid, when u were sleeping with him did u ask for our help, abeg pack jorrrrr.

Anonymous said...

A lesson to ladies, over desperation for marriage kills,how can a guy who is not married to u ask u to resign from work and u did, dat is the height of foolishness, no responsible man will sell his pride to live in a woman's house, u got exactly what u deserve, u saw the signs but u refused to end the relationship now u want nigerians to come to ur aid, when u were sleeping with him did u ask for our help, abeg pack jorrrrr.

Ada Nnewi said...

Anonymous 6.19am...your comment shows that education (if you are educated) was wasted on you, if your comment is all you were able to deduce from her story....

Anonymous said...

What a wicked man!!! Emeka deserves a DEATH sentence! Bidemi was such a foolish thinker to have asked an animal Emeka who is not legally married to her to move in with her.
1st mistake is staying put in d relationship after 2 previous SLAPS from "Emeka d Beast".
Bidemi's family should make sure Emeka is sentenced to LIFE IN PRISON or DEATH BY HANGING. Anyway, bidemi I wish u quick recovery. And learn from ur experience. LOVE nowawdays is NOT BLIND!!!

Anonymous said...

Sounds funny thoo...Quick recovery.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm, na wa ooo. God have mercy! So sad, I wish u rapid recovery.

tess said...

Can u imagine...naaaa dis love is a painful n violent 1..c wat u hv caused nw..dat guy shuld b circumsised he dos nt deserve 2 b a baby daddy..#farmer

Anonymous said...

Ds bidemi is very funny, a man dat beats up girls ll neva change, no matter how he apologizes, U saw dat wen u guys started dating but u overlukd it, if u make d mistake of goin bck to dat boy, its ur corpses dat u ll end up seein. Trust me he neva luved U frm d beginning, he used U like kleenex n destroyed U. My dear its better to b single dan to b slave in a rship! Ladies Beware!

Anonymous said...

WHAT A STORY!!!!Lord....May I not be so blinded by stupid love for a Man dat is not worth an inch of it.
For dat heartless fellow.....U will neva be left unpunished.
Ladies plz let us love wisely, run away 4rm Abusive relationships. STOP MANAGING A GUY WHO IS A BEAST IN HUMAN FORM. HE WONT CHANGE...
I pray u get well soon girl.
JOY

Anonymous said...

WE CANT BLAME HER FOR THIS,THE GUY IS THE STUPID ONE WHO NEED TO BE THOUGHT A LESSON IN JAIL FOR HIS WICKED ACT.I WISH HER QUICK RECOVERY.

Anonymous said...

You are living with a man wey never pay your bride price? Free goods are not respected.

MCHG Suga said...

What is happening to our world?

Anonymous said...

"bird of d same feather"according to how she narrates the story it's obvious that there is no different btw the two,,,,the people you walk with as a friend/gf/bf matters alot,in any relationship that involve beating/threaten/slapping always end up this way....feel free to walk out of it b4 it get too late

Anonymous said...

Mr Ayo Adeshina you think the guy was beating her before she started dating him? Its just God because you can know someone for ten years then one day the person turns to an animal.

mz sweetina said...

Ewoo!! Things people do 4 rove..get well soon

Anonymous said...

quick recovery my dr.... bt na wa o!!! living wif a man dat has nt evn paid ur bride prize.

Anonymous said...

Kai! Its a pity.I wonder what the stupid gained now in doing this. Sorry dear,God will provide.

Ariesbabe said...

hmmm, I cnt help bt tk pity on her as she's in such a terrible situation. Lyf n its many ugly incidents, its only God dat wil save us. Get wel soon dear, its wel wit u....

Anonymous said...

Smh

Anonymous said...

HE HAS SLAPPED YOU ON TWO DIFFERENT OCCASSIONS, AND YOU STILL STAYED IN THE RELATIONSHIP. HOW E TEY REACH TWO TIMES SEF. GWS ALL THE SAME.

Anonymous said...

some ppl r wicked hw can u destroye ur fellow humans cos of one nonse reason, anyway hope girls will learn dey leason, cos dis days love can see clearlly more dan we even expect may God send help for u so u will live to tell ur nonse love story

Anonymous said...

Nawa o, most times we ladies dnt knw our worth, we settle for d less n end up in a mess.. I wish her speedy recovery.. The guy is mean.

Anonymous said...

I should say I'm sorry for U,buh I'll simply put this girl u r so pathetic,u pay d rent,obama's daughter,u tatooed his name on ur arm,no brideprice paid on ur head,don't u ever stop appreciating ur mother I think i will send u to a nearby village out of shame,as I no breastfeed u well,it's high time ladies we'all learn that this is a man's world.after a jail term of 5yrs or less with good behaviour he'll marry some1 else,say No to a life of total dependency.pheew,I'm just Outraged..

amaka Anudu said...

Some Igbo guys and their anger, violence on women. A man that beats up a woman is indicating that his father was also a wife beater. Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.

Anonymous said...

OMG! So sorry Bidemi.
But Bidemi sef, A jobless drunkard asked u †o stop working & u agreed? The demon who slaps u even threatened †o suck your blood for sleeping wiv his friend & u didn't run?
Someone who caη do dis †o a pregnant woman is obviously a beast and tђe sad part is that your parents r now the ones paying... Eiya. Sorry dear
But wait a min, Bidemi's mummy, what did u do when u found out your daughter was living wiv a jobless man who hasn't paid u any bride price & even beats your daughter?... Na wa o
Sorry dear & get well soon :(

Anonymous said...

Sometimes when i read stories like this and calculate the total numbers of divorced people, then i feel like i don't need a man in my life plus marriage...why do people get married when they know they still going to part ways...all these make not to belive in love. Well accept my heart felt condolences and as for the FOOLISH boy God will punish you! Some guys are not even ready to be in relationship yet they go into one......men forever will remain dogs!

oshione linda said...

Aswear!!! This love thing is scary

Anonymous said...

The signs are always there when a man is insanely possessive,run for your life!period

Anonymous said...

Lets not be quick to judge the situation and Bidemi. I feel pity for her. I am certain that 90% of the female fans here who post comments have done one sily thing or the other as they were growing up. The outcome or experience learnt was bitter for some, while the rest where able to escape by God's grace.

We (ladies)at one point in time in our lives have taken sickening decisions due to our "emotional factor".

She did all this based on the emotions she had for him and the believe that he would change.(Women have been framed in this manner),I believe this is the reason why she went the extra mile to quit her job and rent an apartment.

My prayer is that she gets well quick and MOVE ON WITH HER LIFE!

Anonymous said...

D problem lies on d gurl's parent y on dis earth would U̶̲̥̅̊ allowed u̶̲̥̅̊Я̲̅ child to liv wit a MAN dat hav not paid ƒσя her head...so sad!!! Dat guy would hav no wat it takes to marred...and he would respect dat gurl...so so said!!!

Anonymous said...

Her only smart decision was in not tying herself to this bastard in matrimony. She walks away without the additional messiness of divorce. Ladies, domestic violence maims, disfigures and kills. Let the first time he puts his hands on you be the very last.

Anonymous said...

Ladies protect urselves stop falling for an adulterated version of love.A man dat loves u will never wanna hurt u.Real love is explained in 1cor 13.Anything short of dat is not love.May God be our strength.

kellie said...

He slapped u twice before nd u still stuck arnd. Now u see how much worse it can get whn u allow it happen in d first plc. U no dey fit slap am back or throw his behind awt? Cnt b easy buh us women have to learn cus lately, if its not acid bath, its fire or choppin to tiny bits for rituals all by men who r supposed to be our lovers. Not even husbands tho. God abeg oooo! I hope she heals alryt. Mk she no die. She needs to b alive to teach dah child of hers how to avoid dis kin thn.

LAWRENCE EBENEZER said...

What kind of Jealous is that?

Anonymous said...

I share ur exact sentiments anon@1008

LAWRENCE EBENEZER said...

Don't say men forever remain dog,the boy is a foolish young man.

Anonymous said...

When will u ladies stope offering ur selves cheap to guys? living with a man who is not ur husband, why will he not treat u like a n animal?

Anonymous said...

The man is a beast!!! JeeZzz

sylvia amamong said...

Abuse, battering and divorce rate these days are really giving me the creep. Honestly, had to quit a relationship recently for my dear life cause don't want to fall a victim of circumstance somewhere in the future. Staying single and making the most of it pays more than having a jealous and murderous partner.

esty neji said...

What a damage.take heart bidemi God WL judge him

Anonymous said...

ladies should learn to know wen to walk away, Love is not violent. Love trust. dt he is violently jealous does not mean he deeply loves you. so sad, wish u quick recovery. u ll def find a beta man out dere.tho difficult bt u ll.EVE

Anonymous said...

U a goat!!! Can't you read he his jux making example fool

Anonymous said...

Insecure BASTARD... He's lucky he lives in a country where there is no justice....this is a clear case of attempted murder and he should be looking at 20-25 years in jail...if only justice can be served. Am a man and am very secure...I don't care who calls my wife, I don't check emails or phones...its not Love it's pure insecurity and it can kill...Period.

Anonymous said...

Shionzy mama #truetalk#

MY TURN said...

who does this? only a psychotic bastard

Anonymous said...

I really don't know where some peoples brain has gone to. Both the boy and the girl are walking without brain.

Apple said...

Thank God you are alive, Person go dey befriend hungry man the man go come add abuse! Hmmmm..

Anonymous said...

@toke. U must be an imbecile 4 saying bastard igbos. How abt d guy dat stabbed his wife severally to death? How would u rate his tribe? Am sure he is ur tribesman. ur supposed to comment on d matter on hand Men's brutality on Women n nt tribal issues. Bloody Zombie!

d.L said...

y shuld a man control ur life when he is not even married to you yet? my dear.., u gave him d opportunity to do waterver he did to u.. get well soon huh...

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm...you can tell that she's a pretty lady even after being burnt. my dear sisters the signs are ALWAYS written on the wall o. I was in a similar position with my ex-fiance. He beat me once and later begged as they usually do. I "accepted" his plea but showed that women could also be demons before leaving the idiot. His parents begged taya b'cos it was 2months to our intro. Pls it's never too late to turn back. Our lives are precious! YOLO!!!

Anonymous said...

Why live with a man when he hasn't put a ring on your finger?Even if he was jobless and had no place to stay,is he an orphan?Am surprised to hear you mentioned "sister"in your story.Lesson to the ladies....

You're lucky your life was not taken.Anyway,quick recovery!

LadyF

Anonymous said...

did you guys see the tatoo on the lady's hand? "BECKY". This kind of behaviour and reprisal is not far from people on the streets. The guy is Jobless and the girl is Jobless. They are not legally married and both lack focus. They both plan to bring an innocent chils into their messed up life. This situation is a product of their unfortunate situation. Not happenstance!

Gynaecomastia: What Men Should Know said...

For whatever reason, that was a callous act.

Anonymous said...

Some are focusing on distractions in their comments. Wedding bands and weddings have never been a deterrent for men who like to beat women. Tatoos are not signs of poor character.

Nelly said...

It's quite a pity it turns out like dis, bt girl no matter anything, u shouldn't have resigned 4rm ur job because ur boyfriend ask u to do so. And am sure when u were still working u were spending all ur earnings on dis guy without caring 4 ur family members? And c now d reverse is d case, they are now d ones taking care of u, where is d guy/ his ppl? No where to b found. All d same get well soon. A lesson 4 all

Anne Ojumu said...

Mehnn...this is an unimaginable act of insanity!! I won't start by placing blames but ermmm seriously ladies should learn from this.. At times we ladies tend to see jealousy as love,which is wrong.....if he loves u,then he should trust u completely on some issues + he shouldn't love u coz he needs u,but he should need U coz he loves U!
Guys like Emeka or whatever his name is,,have pathetic conditions already..now they transfer their aggression on innocent 'so called girlfriends' and through consumption of alcohol and perhaps drugs...this is why it is important to know ur partner well enough before dating him/her and ask urself questions like 'can I cope with his/her weaknesses','do I trust her/him'e.t.c

So sorry for the poor lady,I wish her quick recovery

Blessing Omagbon Yovwe said...

a no 4 me!!! God hv mercy ooo

Anonymous said...

How do u idenify d good dudes? Its d same way of askn for a date! As time goes on,things wl change. Quarrels are bound to b encountered cos even wit d best guy, there wl stl b misunderstanding. If d good guy never hurts u or no quarrels, u guys are lieing to urselves!!!

Anonymous said...

He doesn't love her! Pure psychopath!

Anonymous said...

All you people criticizing this lady, who obviously needs help and support, are wicked and hypocritical and God will judge you. Who says what she did was right? Who says she has been a good model for young girls? We all know she has issues, but a life is a life! That's why you black people can never be as prosperous as the Whites because all you do is bring people down even when they are already down. Foolish people with their 'holier than thou' attitude.

Anonymous said...

Dis is a clear case of Domestic violence against women. Bt thr r so much holes in dis story. First d said Emeka is d type dat gets drunk and high on weeds on a regular basis wt no job 2 kp him focus. Bidemi hersef is a strt girl, henx d 'jealousy' of Emeka. She feeds, shelter him and even finance his habits frm d little money she makes frm her strt life. She knew of d hazards of d life dey were living in fact she is used 2 it. Dis un4tunate occurrence did nt jus happen. I hope Emeka is dealt wt appropriately d likes of him r a menace 2 women and he wud terrorise Bidemi if he is nt locked up. Poor girl. And 2 think she is carrying his offspring in her! I can neva understand y so many women choose 2 live wt men dat r abusive and evil. It boggles d mind. Its beta 2 b alone dan 2 b tied wt a psycho.

Anonymous said...

Let Nomoreloss and OJB donate the full 500,000 naira to help this woman from the excess money they took in from their fundraiser.

I hope her people do not take any money from the demon boy's family to release him. Let the law deal with him and he remain behind bars for decades. He not only tried to kill her, but the unborn child as well.

forensic brain said...

Love is Pain!Desist from it!

Anonymous said...

Na wa for the girl sef, she no see better person love except Emeka. Na your own cross be dat. mschwww

Anonymous said...

Na wa for the girl sef, she no see better person love except Emeka. Na your own cross be dat. mschwww

hilda D Diva said...

Women Wit our Tender hrt....God pls cm to our aid,Wish u quick Recovery dear

Oluphunmie said...

Na wa ooooooo

Anonymous said...

WHAT SOME LADIES GET FOR PREFERING THE THUGS TO SOME NICE DUDE...sorry tho

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm people and tribalism ....its everywhere in every tribe...the issue is not the tribe but the heart of man that is desperately wicked.

sophia zee said...

y wld u live with a man u aint married to

sophia zee said...

y wld u live with a man u aint married to

Anonymous said...

Anon12:54 u and ur entire family n generation r fools!!idiot animal lyk u,who ws talkin 2 u gbeborun!c u dats correcting sum1 common eng u can't speak,he is not he his fool!!isi ewu

Anonymous said...

@anonymous 10;36....ure so true

Oby Azike said...

The heart of man is desperately wicked

obyazike.blogspot.co.uk

Pinky-Swag said...

All u guys shuld beta learn nd stp rantin rubbish hia,dnt let a guy control ur lyf #fact#

Anonymous said...

It's horrible wat happened to becky. It is a clear reminder to ladies to respect themselves, value your life. Why, why should a man raise his hand to you, why?. You were in a relationship with a jobless, psychotic drunk and you felt it was a good idea to get pregnant. Anyway thank God for your life, please protect dat unborn child by doing a HIV test.

Anonymous said...

How come her tattoo say's "Becky"

Anonymous said...

am a guy.honestly if such thing hapen 2 me sista i wil nt be hapy in fact,i may even do undo.sm guy re wicked nd re heartlss.

Richie said...

Wat do u expect,.. tattoo club gal crossed the path of a bouncer.. hood luvin. but its unfortunate though

Anonymous said...

Am I the only one taken back by her statement that "he had only slapped me on 2 other occasions".... "only", "twice"? smh It shouldn't come as a surprise that he did this to you. Lesson to African women STOP STAYING IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS!!! MARRIED OR NOT! A MAN THAT ABUSES YOU IS NOT, AND I REPEAT NOT NORMAL!!!

Kelvin3028 said...

I see this whole story from another angle... I see a frustrated man who after losing his job believes the only consolition he has is alcohol..., He is angry at his life.... Trust me, if u want to see the animal in a man, take his job from him and make him idle for a few months...

Anonymous said...

You Just got served!

Diamond said...

This world will be good when women will have the equal right to proposse or address a man of their choice as men do.I think all this horrible incident over women will stop. Some men are seeing themselve as God. U must be hurt in any conditional Love.

geniea said...

wish Bidemi a safe quick recovery. pple lets learn to read the signs on the wall and stop hoping dat pple wud change in old age.....meanawhile all yu porous brains that are making it an issue of tribe...you all need to get ur brains examined. you obviously dnt reason normally...wonder hau u passed tru school I. e if any of u did. mstchewwww...daft will always be daft

Anonymous said...

Girls no go hear word! must you be in a relationship? Harsh but true! I'm tired of hearing all these sob stories, he hasn't even married her and she took all that till it got to this? Pity...Oya sorry you hear?...If NGO people talk una no go hear but maybe one or two people will learn from you.Get well soon

Anonymous said...

Lesson for our youths that are claiming civilization, by saying dat its alrite 2 leave with a man u are not marreid 2. its not AFRICAN thing.
over there in d western world, this is wat they face.
But my sister I feel ur pain. But remeber to GIVE UR LIFE TO JESUS.
HIS MERCIES ENDURES 4EVER.

Anonymous said...

Emeka(Igbo) has burnt Bidemi(Yoruba), no doubt. Now, she is hospitalised and needs abt N500k for restoration surgery....

Pls, sensible Nigerians, how does Emeka being Igbo or Bidemi, being Yoruba, affect d real issues on ground? Why wuld somebody, who is civilised enof to use d internet, b draggin such primodial issues such as tribe and geography into dis matter?
Perhaps, if it were Mustapha, some of dese unreasonable ones will also say, "dat is typical of muslims and northerners. Dey don't value life" or if it were Olanrewaju, dey wuld say, "he is an OPC member".

Dis is d basic problem wit our blovd Nigerians. Her children has some fundamental psychological misorientation. Dis being d case, everything dey do is clouded in misunderstandin, error, mistake and nothin jst seems ryt. Dis too, has a multiplier effect in leadership, as dis fundamental error is carried to d villa.
Candidly, I'm not here to join iSsues wit anybody nor call names and d like. U hav a ryt to air ur opinion but whyl u do, rememba dat anoda person has his ryt to dignity n respect. Hence, guard ur opinion so dat u don't encroach onto d dignity n honour of anoda pesn.

Lastly, b4 u contribute esp in public platforms, do well to ensure dat u aDdress d "real issues" and don't go abt chasin shadows.

....F.C. Nozua writes....

Anonymous said...

F.C Nozua" this comment summarizes it all" God bless Nigeria

Tokunbo

Ikebuoha Abanobi said...

HORRIBLE!! shear callousness