"I got married this year April and since then my mother in law has set on causing me pains. She would always want her son to do as she says...She even threatens to pack me out of my husband's house because I confronted her on her ways. My husband is always behaving like a small boy, listens to his mother and quarrels with me at home. Is my marriage not too young for all this?....How do I deal with this?
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Prayers o....notin else can help in dis situation Dan prayers.pray dat she becomes less of a pin in d but, pray dat ur husband is giving d understanding to relate u two witout offending u two n pray for patience for urself. Lord is ur strength
Why do we have SNIPER biko?? You think is for killing mosquitoes?? Siddon there make she kill you first!
My dear, just sit back and watch them in action if u want to stay married. Some MIL are like that. U shld have seen d handwriting on d wall b4 nah.
Poison ur mother in law. Gbam!
Get close to your mother-in-law and become her friend. Maybe you have been avoiding her.
Sounds like my mother in law just that she doesn't say all that this foolish old woman can't keep a man to herself daughters aren't married controls her sons with juju and pretends to be a be born again
Sounds like my mother in law just that she doesn't say all that this foolish old woman can't keep a man to herself daughters aren't married controls her sons with juju and pretends to be a be born again
Give her sniper, oh sure she'll love it
Never back down as once u do, it is all over . Keep showing in law you now belong to her son and u r the madam in your house. She should go to her own husband's house . A good technique is to have a good relationship with dad in law as well so he can drag his wife out of your business. Also talk to mama's boy of a husband preferably with a nice lingerie to remind him that there are things u can do that mama can't do.
You have said it yoursef, it is too young for all this, find anoda means to speak to ur husband, dnt fight wit him..cos the mother will always win as long as you dnt trade wit caution..
You have said it yoursef, it is too young for all this, find anoda means to speak to ur husband, dnt fight wit him..cos the mother will always win as long as you dnt trade wit caution..
u ae married 2 a boy & not a man pray dat he grow & become a man quick
Sit your husband down, express your pains to him and let him understand how you feel about the whole situation.
Why will you confront the mother? Don't you have respect? I see you are ready to lave your matrimonial home. lindaobserve
I'ld like to believe you noticed all this before you agreed to the marriage,so carry ur cross!mama's boys are not hard to spot so why the complaints?
KILL HER OR CALL BUHARI TO ORTHER HIS BOKO HARAM BOYS TO FINISH HER.
KILL HER OR CALL BUHARI TO ORTHER HIS BOKO HARAM BOYS TO FINISH HER.
Pray for her, don't forget dat d hrt of d king is in God's hands..
Pray for her, don't forget dat d hrt of d king is in God's hands..
Cut your mother-in-law's breast and give it to her to eat.
It's so sad u neva observed it b4 u got married to him. Well, here is the solution. For you to keep n enjoy ur marriage, pray for the spirit of patience. It's well with you
Nawa ooo...if she's gonna stay for a short period of time then just endure her problems but if it's de opposite then go and visit a marriage counselor asap.
Why didn't you look before you leap that boy is still a mama's boy.call your husband to order
First of all, why are u n ur husband staying under thesame roof wit ur mother-inlaw? Its high time u guys pack to separate apartment n limit her time of visit
Send her to d village nah abi her husband no build house b4 im die. Mtchewww some old witch modas in law sha
Be careful not to separate ur husband and his mother cos u will regret it later and just try to be understanding. U made a big mistake by confronting ur mother in law and u shld apologise to her and talk to ur husband next time calmly instead.it's not a gud sign that u got married in April and already confronted ur mother in law.
Same happened to me mine has even left the house ....i wonder why they can't jst grow up to be a man😩😣😒😈
Have patients, keep praying nd learn to understand nd avoid her
Set that small boy straight for him to start behaving like a man, the woman shd go mind her business, u were not there when she got married. Pray to God
I ain't wishing u bad luck or advising u wrongly but if this continues and u can't deal with it n she threatens to throw u out, leave the house. U can still marry someone else. Just saying
Your marriage is in its infancy 4all dis...I guess u n ur partner didn't discuss all dis b4 marriage..or was it a rush affair ?
Well ..I advice u try 2put up wid dem both n delve into prayer lyf.
Table this matter before God, if you're a Christian. HE HAS THE SOLUTIONS TO EVERY PROBLEMS.
As much as I agree some mother in laws tend to overreach themselves,It is equally foolhardy for any wife, no matter how much she loves her husband to attempt to pitch her husband against his mum.That bond formed over decades can't be broken ever! Even if you win the initial battle,trust me, your husband would detest you eventually.Learn to live with you mother inlaw, Tolerate her even if it kills you.Just imagine one young girl someday telling your own son to see you as a problem in their home? Tufiakwa!
Oooooooooh my...!
May b d man is not God's wish 4 u
Cos God can not choose him for u and leave u passing though dis mother- in- law saga.
U married a toy boy gal,jez mk sure u are on d ryt side n dnt let her intimidate u!
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Madam, be a good wife. Stop being overzealous. Is she against you and your husband's progress? Your problem is that you want to dominate and become the head of the family instead of your husband.
So, you want him to send his MOTHER away to please you. I don't blame you. Your husband be a very lazy man. Nonsense.
Oooooooooh my...!
May b d man is not God's wish 4 u
Cos God can not choose him for u and leave u passing through all dis mother- in- law saga without coming to ur aid.
Madam, be a good wife. Stop being overzealous. Is she against you and your husband's progress? Your problem is that you want to dominate and become the head of the family instead of your husband.
So, you want him to send his MOTHER away to please you. I don't blame you. Your husband be a very lazy man. Nonsense.
What were you taught at pre-marital class?...assuming you attended one.
This girl called Linda will just form a very foolish story and expect intellects 2 be commenting
It's a Shame your sweetie is a real mummy's boys and your mother in law has complex issue. Unless you put your foot down.......,,,,.
Wisdom is profitable... dee
What ever happens remember you will be a mother in law one day.
Wich kind wicked mother in law be dat.mama change ur ways ooooo
Poster, what exactly is your mom in law's wahala? Why don't you say it? She may just be an innocent women.
Why can't you show her respect? Didn't your parents teach you to respect your senior when you were young?
You just wish she will disappear so you can have your way to control your mumu husband.
Do you think a good son will send her mom away to please a nagging wife? Think again and mend your selfish ways.
If you want to be the head of the house, why don't you become a independent woman and live your life with marrying a man? Or you can marry a fellow woman.
Do not relent in drumming it into your husband's ears that he should man up & stick up for you .he ought to rise to your defence & stick up for you, yes, even against his own mother.
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Rat poison don finish for market#joking oo. Seriously I think u need to make ur husband grow up. Confronting her will not solve anytin. You need to let him knw who he's married to
Why did u marry in such a family? I'm sure the mother showed traces of her character before the wedding so why r u complaining now? Just because you wanted so badly to be married n called Mrs u jumped in this marriage without using ur common sense. Now u r here on LIB with ur tales...abeg comot from here..na u sabi
It is well
It is well
It is well
He must have been a mums boy before u both got married, so stop complaining.
Good morning. You and your husband are the best solution to this matter. First, re-assess yourself and be sure that your behavior to your mother in-law is not the cause of this ( start from your behavior to her even before you get married to your husband). Second your husband should assess the situation and be blunt enough to confront the either of you (you & your mother in-law) and make sure thing are normalise. If not, his marriage is in danger. Because if he fails to do this he might not have a happy home again. May be it is a test to know if he is a man or not, but the ideal thing is for him to act fast before things get out of hand. I am married for over Eleven years now my own mother, on several occasions, buy jewelries etc. for my wife. Though immediately after I got married, my wife was behaving somehow to my mum and I guessed it was because of Mother in-law stories women/ladies tell themselves. But gradually my wife got to know that, she can not generalize things. At times, my mum fight me in her defense. Your husband should find out as a man and put an end to unnecessary brouhaha.
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U confronted her? Is't it too early to confront her in whatever she's doing?u really HV some gods and u'r here acting innocent when u know u are also as bad as her, only a bad daughter Inlaw will start making trouble dis early in her marriage,u HV to swallow a litle atleast for your marriage to grow b4 u start confronting anyone,don't u HV a mother?
My dear, you have to be very patient and prayerful.
1. You cannot accuse your MIL no matter how wrong she is or how right you her, that's her son's job
2. You have to be always supportive, defend your MIL in her presence and your husband's presence, if you pretend to do this for a while, you will get used to it.
3. You have to stop complaining about whatever it is, if you can't stand it, walk away.
4. Please, keep busy (I hope you are working) so you at least not always around
5. Do not read any meaning into reaction shown or attitude given, it's not worth it, you will lose your mind.
6. Never report or nag your husband about his mum.
I have been married for 5 years, I used to have same problem with my MIL (even her children, siblings can't stand her) but with God's grace, I am the best daughter in law ever, I have learnt when to share my opinion, when to nod in agreement, when to lol, when to shut up and when to intentionally be absent.
PS: we live like 4 houses away from each other.
All the best.
U confronted her? Is't it too early to confront her in whatever she's doing?u really HV some gods and u'r here acting innocent when u know u are also as bad as her, only a bad daughter Inlaw will start making trouble dis early in her marriage,u HV to swallow a litle atleast for your marriage to grow b4 u start confronting anyone,don't u HV a mother?
Know how best to manage her. Especially when you have noticed your husband's reaction on the issue. Also let your mom come for a short stay. Maybe she can guide you and also talk to your mother inlaw. If you want a successful marriage, you must get along with your husband's family though you don't necessarily have to be friends
Ur husband shld better grow up & b a man n stop letting his mum control him bcos hes d cause of everythin. Talk to him abt it. I hate wen married stil act lik mamas boy. Dey dont ve mind of their own, always consultin mummy for evrytin. Big babys. Mscheeeeew!
Ignore her and pray about it cos mothers-in-law like dat don't come off easily....trust me,urs is better.
Babe! Uguys dnt date?n even if uguys dnt d signs wil stil b dia! de dnt dis of recent na...na ur 4ukup ooo so u gats liv wif dat
Pray n pray dat God shld keep her busy,d Bible says;For dis cause shall a man leave his Father &Mother,to cleave unto his wife&the two shall no longer be called two but one.every woman shld know dis,mothers shld be enlightened where dey need to draw d curtain.A mother dat truelly loves d son,will leave him alone to enjoy his marriage.let d wife take over from where d mother stoped biko.my dear there is nothing GOD can not do..start reporting her to GOD now&see wonders.And while u@it be kind to her.its not a physical fite but spritual.all d best.
What you should do is love her like you love your mother. Some of you are too wicked, you marry a man and expect him to throw his mum away. Remember she was there before you, tomorrow you will become a MIL and expect your DIL to respect you abi? Wives love your MILs.
Surulere.
Be patient with her. Everything will be settled with time at your hand
be prayerful nd drw close to God cos he is d beginin nd d end no man or woman can advix u ryt.Only God fast nd pray he will spk to you.
Madam go on your knees and pray
Just be prayerful my dear. Try not to confront her. Instead talk to your husband. This is what would have happened to me if I married my ex. Sometimes we have to look at in-laws if we can cope with them before getting married. Marriage is not only about love. They are other things we have to look at.
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Make mama go her husband house go take care of her own husband and leave una to enjoy una marriage. But be careful the way you talk back at her because she might end up saying what you did not even say to her son.
My dear, pray for peace in your marriage and ask God for the gift of patience and understanding
Make mama go her husband house go take care of her own husband and leave una to enjoy una marriage. But be careful the way you talk back at her because she might end up saying what you did not even say to her son.
My dear, pray for peace in your marriage and ask God for the gift of patience and understanding
Ur husband is a mummys boy, they dnt change. Once a mummy's boy always a mummy's boys........ Jst keep praying she leaves
patience!!!!! my dear.
Ur husband is d problem....Atthis stage of his.life...he shud be able to know wat to accept from his mum and wat not to..
You married a mummys boy.........
Talk to your husband if you can or find someone aside his mum who can...
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Keep praying thats all
it is well
You confronted her? Why? That's foolish. I will advise you to pray. Try to befriend her, control your husband from the bed, ah ah babe Na you dey f..k am not his mom.
Be nice to her. Treat her like u treat ur mom.
Hey ur issue is not a unique but these cld help.
Never confront ur mother inlaw Never!
Pray abt it reminding God of his command concerning Marriage.
Never speak bad of ur inlaws to ur husband.
Just make ur issues known dnt stress it.
Learn to ignor and overlook things.
Know that mothers re like queens to sons,it ll ur attitude towards them to help them realize they re married.
For the wicked ones,oneday she will act in presence of their her son n his eyes ll b open then u ll take ur place.
Patience is the key,just focus on other important issues God ll takia of u.
Be patient with her. if u love your husband , show that love to her. Talk less and use wisdom to follow her. Even if u want to do it your way, don't let her know what u have in mind, tell her ok. Let her feel she is in charge.
Pray for her to change.
Hmmmmmmmmm. Another LIB sSuper Story dat is true life story. Interesting story, and d answer is simple MAKE PEACE wit ur mother in law and tell her u LOVE HER. Case close!
Hmmmmmmmmm. Another LIB sSuper Story dat is true life story. Interesting story, and d answer is simple MAKE PEACE wit ur mother in law and tell her u LOVE HER. Case close!
Hmmmmmmmmm. Another LIB Super Story dat is true life story. Interesting story, and d answer is simple MAKE PEACE wit ur mother in law and tell her u LOVE HER. Case close!
Do juju for her
..u dont av confront her..just try to overlook her....mils r dangerous..becareful.may God helep u
Please be patient and deal with her with wisdom.From my own experience,being a wife of 14 years and have stayed abroad for most of those years,learn to ignore your MIL. Don't challenge her authority or take her up on any issue.Just be loving your husband and praying to God to fight your battles.In laws are horrible especially to women,they treat you as 2nd class citizens and expect RED CARPET treatment from you.Ignore her and don't moan about her to your husband.Find a trusted friend (not compulsory)to always talk to,and just behave as if they don't affect you BUT be respectful.Very soon,your husband will see the ways of her mum,then she would not have any say in your affairs anymore.GBU
4months in2 ur marriage & ur threatened already,hmmm ll advise u play along wt ur mother inlaw while @it see dt u workout ways 2send her back 2d village..but wait o,u shouldn't ve confronted ur mother inlaw,a wise woman ll play nice then strike her later..
Have u heard of the silent treatment....sweety it works..if u ain't troublesome den dis d best thing...do all u suppose to do and smile big when she wants to hurt u. don't let her see u angry,but u can rant on Ur own behind close door...by d way never confront an elderly woman..just ignore her. when I mean ignore....ignore big time ooo.. stop thinking Ur hubby Wil support u..better let peace reign by ignoring...it won't last forever..either she gets too old to keep worying or she kick buc.... stay calm...from madam ignore
OYO wen u jump in u jump out
What did u do?
does she live with you,did she behave like this before yo got married? if your answer is yes then just wait it out, if no then ask your husband to talk to her.
Lol...in time all things shall pass away...for now my dear assume 2nd wife role..bwahahhahaa
That is the challenge when children in the mind are getting married. He is not independent yet. You people needs counselling from a good Pastor.
Will advice her to be careful, this happen to my friend ooo, that was how her mother inlaw start wit her walaha,she tell dem wat to eat,wear,church to attain,wat her husband is to tell her and not to, in her present oooo..wen she was pushed to d wall and confronted her mother inlaw her hubby stop having sex wit her. To cut d long story short, she n her husband as no choice dan to go they separate ways after jst 5month of marriage and they court for more dan 3years oooo. Some mother inlaw are jst wicked
Ignore her antics, don't pick fight with tour husband. That started working for me. Took a friend to remind me of that trick.
Didn't realise my husband was a mummy's boy before marriage because he didn't show the traits. Only came out about a few months into marriage. But they don't know what I am up to and they don't know what I can do anymore because I have stopped flinching. ....I see less of her interference.
Pray my sister
God help you. You have to pray really hard and use wisdom. Linda take note!
God z d only solution##
you lots of patience, believe me, i feel ur pains cos am in it also but patience is a very good virtue plus lots of prayer and keep an open mind always. Be swift to listen and very slow to talk. commit her and ur husband to God's and and always do good towards them, i mean ALWAYS.. you will smile at last
Your mother in law is your mother in law, so you should never talk back at her, talk to your husband, make him see reason for why he should make his mother act otherwise, if you pick a war against his mom, I am sorry sister you will lose 9 times out of 10.
My dear since he quarrels u bcos of his mom, den do watever d mom wants, it won't last foreva, u have to act calm and get closer to her for u to get ur "prey", then u have to pray ceaselessly cos prayer is d key.
Go to God in prayer. I tell u dts d only solution
Pray
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take it to God in prayers. Do the battling on your knees. Love your mum inlaw despite all her wahala. Ask God to separate your husband from his mum and cleave to you.
Ma dear,do u know how 2 pray?cos u need all the prayer u can get!wat ever happens dont ever ever do d confornation again no matter wat nd stick it out 2 the end,be patient,be polite nd be honest!!!NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS!!!(speakin 4experiance)
dont quarrel with your mother in law. if your husband refuses to listen and understand how you feel, go to God in prayers. as a wife, you have more power in the presence of God over your husband than his wife. if your prayers are not on selfish purposes, God will grant your request.
Nwannem the only way you can deal with it is to siddon look. Do not interfer in anything he's doing with his mom. Let them be. Take your case to God. I know this sounds cliché but it's your solution. Pray about what's bothering you. And why did you confront her? Many new wives forget that this son has been with his mom all his life. You don't know how they suffered and whether she sold her clothes for him to go to school. You'll just come and think you can put asunder so easily? Nwannem it takes patience. You have to be patient and understanding. He's still her child whether he's your husband or not. Just be ignoring her. When she comes visiting, greet her, give her food, no matter how much she tries to frustrate you, keep telling yourself she will soon leave. DO NOT confront her. No one will side with you and you'll just be adding more enemies to your side. Ignore her, face your work and pray. Young wife, be prayerful! Commit your home into God's hands. A wise woman builds her home but a foolish woman tears her home down. Be wise nwannem. *bites kolanut*
Its a very serious issue my dear.... The same happened to me and at the end of the day, problems upon problems till the guy and the mother drove me out one hot afternoon... Pray well and be careful.
My dear it's too young ooo....April? Do u work?if you don't get a job and Abeg just ignore her
Pray my dear. Pray for love to abound in your home.
Babe u have to suck it up be that, Cuz sadly u married a mummy's boy. And Wateva his mum says will be law. That's d way they all are, just try ur best to avoid ur mother inlaw hope she doesn't live with u guys???
Babe u have to suck it up be that, Cuz sadly u married a mummy's boy. And Wateva his mum says will be law. That's d way they all are, just try ur best to avoid ur mother inlaw hope she doesn't live with u guys???
Sweetheart u marrit a mummy's boy and trust me its very bad for u and ur marriage..........ur so called husband beef to get his shit together,not as if his mum don't have a say but she has no right over him now................If the bible said a man would live his mother and father to...........?try to make him change leave the marriage........Try to get this book....""""think like a man and act like q woman"''''' by Steven Harvey
Get a grip and respect your mother-in-law. I am sick and tired of girls complaining of their mother-in-laws. That woman raised your husband ( so stop insulting your husband indirectly , by calling him a small boy ).
You will have children and bear children of your own, and will become a mother-in-law someday.
Things you struggle with your mother-in-law today , may NOT matter tomorrow.
Tolerate the woman
Just pray...'
You remain humble now
It's simple..poison your mother inlaw lol..that's a joke.on a serious note talk to your man or rather u guys should go for a serious marriage counseling.
He needs to no he is no more a mama's boy..nd he needs prYers too
~make I go take one bottle of beer~
There ppl we shouldn't get married to,dad and mum's pet,they lack maturity and wisdom,if you saw Ds act and went ahead ,then you need to be blamed,anyway get back to God for help and I pray for sound mind and wisdom for him and God scare of DAT pesticide mother-in-law,sorry for d pains. You will overcome if you want.
Married pple probs
Pray to God
Just take it easy girl. She will soon die
pretend they don't exist
Pls your marriage is to early for this and with what you said I think you are not handling the situation with maturity. You married a mummy's boy so u have to be patient with him, talk to him tell him how you feel about it, communication is key in every relationship. Confronting your mother inlaw wasn't right
When you also have a son, you will realise it's not easy to hijack a son from his mother. Try to see your mother in law as your mother as long as she isn't giving your husband advices that can ruin his life why bother your pretty head. Sons are always attached to their mum you just have to learn to love your mum in law aand stop seeing her as your rival. God bless your home
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Prayers patIence and stop confrontin her,she will give up soon
When you also have a son, you will realise it's not easy to hijack a son from his mother. Try to see your mother in law as your mother as long as she isn't giving your husband advices that can ruin his life why bother your pretty head. Sons are always attached to their mum you just have to learn to love your mum in law aand stop seeing her as your rival. God bless your home
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Eeya. Sorry you married mama's boy so deal with it, didn't you know he was a mummy's boy b4 you agreed to marry him, and its too late you can't change him now, you should just find a way not to quarrel with your husband all the time, your marriage is too young for all that drama haba!!!
Pls all you need is prayer,ur complaints cannot change anything. Don't confront her again just pray and love your husband more. Once you are submissive, caring and your don't try to take the place of his mother you will find peace. Your marriage is too young my dear so be as wise as serpent and as gentle as a dove. The peace of the Lord be with you.
IT IS WELL WITH YOU DEAR, i cannot imagine what you are going through. Was he a mummy's boy before you got married? well it does not matter now, your marriage is just too young for what you are experiencing.How about your father in law? i guess he is not alive, if you are a christian you would not believe that as simple as prayer sounds that is the key.....pray for your husband, for boldness and courage and pray that the lord defends you, and cause you to find favor in the sight of his mother and for her to be a loving mother in law. As for actions while praying, do not confront your mother in law, it never solves anything because when you do you give her more power over you and it can break your marriage in the long run because you do not know how much provocation can cost you or your marriage and then she wins at the end of the day, to avoid all of this please her very well while you cry to God, wake up in the middle of the night and cry out to your maker. But please do not confront her, it never helps.......Bless you
Mother in law palava plus mummys boy . Chai .
Mother in law palava plus mummys boy . Chai .
Stand your ground, talk some sense into your hubby and kick her out or leave the marriage yourself.
Stand your ground, talk some sense into your hubby and kick her out or leave the marriage yourself.
Its entirely your fault because you saw these things before you got married but oh well you thought you could change him or it would stop after marriage. You are married to a mamas boy and u have to talk to him about it and try to figure things out but dear the truth is, he will not change and so will his mum and the only way out is divorce or God's intervention. This is from experience. The earlier you decide the better or be prepared for a lifetime of pain. (The hard truth is never sweet darling)
my name is Skippo from lagos .please i beg u in d name of God just make heart ok. because what i need to face is ur kids. just been looking ur huh ok because everything that his mum give him to eat will still come down for his face ok. please dont try to pack out in ur huh house ooooo. just be pray ok God will make u happy
Young lady please shut up...did his mom just show up after ur marriage? Wasn't she der when u were dating? Hasn't ur hubby nw always been behaving like a small boy to his mum while u were dating and u decided to go ahead and marry him like that? All the while u were pretending as good for u to start showing ursef immediately after marriage...u are high, u better mend ur ways or else u will be thrown out as ur mother in law has threatened..u have signed it so live with it..I know u weren't forced into the marriage so please shut up ur smelling trap
If you dated him for a while before marriage, you would have known the hold his mum has on him and if he is mummy's boy. You have made the mistake of not checking already, so just be praying for your marriage. Goodluck
Ask him If he married you or his mother. Make him understand that you won't take nonsense from him or his mother. But don't disrespect her since he holds her in such high regards.
Nawa o.
This April here.
Its your husband's fault, he let her act that way.
you don`t have any problem with your mother inlaw. the person you have problem with is your husband and your self. just gboju from your mother inlaw as if she is not in the movie you are shooting. hammer on your husband. keep talking senses into him. i mean good talk let him know and see why somethings cannot remain the same before he was married.dont keep quiet pls. your keeping silence means all is well. so speak out and speak up. mind you dear. i did not tell you to shout or speak at your mother inlaw. but your husband. you know him better right? if you think he is the type that talking will not click until you shout like my husband. then shout pls. BUT PLS CARRY YOUR CROSS, AND YOUR CROSS IS YOUR HUSBAND NOT YOUR MOTHER INLAW. if your husband does not give her a say and encourage her in your affairs she will not have acess to your affairs .PERIOD. MRS FUNKE ARE.
Prayer answereth to all life's problems
You should av known dat he z a mummy's boy while u were dating
Woman, Just pack your mother in-law's stuffs out of your house.
Better still pack your things and leave. tell your hubby when his done marrying his mother he knows where to locate you.
Note that what ever you tolerate now, is what will continue. I asked my hubby to send his younger brother away O! because the guy was becoming sumtin else. My hubby thought I was joking until I stopped being in gud terms with him and he saw how serious I was.
Babes, as I speak to you now, my brother inlaw is in the village and my hubby and I are alone and very happy now. Family people are one hell of annoying people.
I wish you all the best in your strategy to pushing that old woman out.
Follow it up with prayers. Instead of confronting her, you can try and avoid her. Limit complaining to your husband, trust me he sees all and probably won't do much till the appropriate time. You just have to bear it and be tolerant for now.
BLOCK THE ACCESS CODE I.E YOUR HUSBAND AND THEN PRAY TOO PLS MAKE SURE YOU ARE FERVERENT IN PRAYERS. SO THAT IF THERE IS ANY JAZZ COMING WITH IT, IT WILL BE BACK TO SENDER. HOW DO YOU BLOCK THE ACCESS CODE? BY SPEAKING UP, DIALOGUE, COMMUNICATIONS,DON`T JUST KEEP SILENCE, JUST KEEP TALKING SENSIBLE THINGS. POINTS AND FACTS THAT WILL BRING A TURNING BRAIN BACK TO NORMAL.GIVE HIM MANY INSTANCES WHERE HE HAS DONE ACOORDING TO HIS MUM DIRECTIVES AND IT HAS BACKFIRE ON THE FAMILY. THAT IS, IF THERE IS ANY.BUT IF THERE IS NONE THEN MY DEAR SHE MUST BE A GOOD MOTHER INLAW THAT ONLY WANTS GOOD THINGS AND PROGRESS YOU TWO.MRS FUNKE ARE.
Hmmm my dear it's jst prayer and nahfin more
Lib freak
Sorry to say,ur hubby is a mummy's boy,just pray and try and sort out ur differences with ur mother-in-law.ur marriage is too young for all these drama.it is well
Pray for her...she will change... And u sin no more.God bless u ma.
Oya poison the mother nau..... Jor oh
Its not good ooh. Its too early. But you have to check yourself too. Are you a good wife? Did you see all these before you decided to marry him? The problem with us ( girls) is that we are too in a haste to marry and we pay little attention to things that matter. That attitude your husband is displaying didn't just start today if you are truthful to yourself you ignored it now see. Pray that God helps you and your marriage. Your mother in law meeds prayers just put her in it.
Put your knees down and pray whole heartedly to God. He will stand by you and answer your prayers.
Some mother in laws are something else, but it's she living with you guys? If no exercise a little patient she would leave soon but if yes the war has just begun
i need to say that you are not a wise person,u would have seen these signs during courtship but choose to ignore and change it after the wedding,sorry to disappoint you dear.....DIS IS JUST THE BEGINING coz nofin would change. he is a mama's boi he is a mama's boi so deal wit it.
No it's not too young for this because you knew you were dating a mama's boy and his mom didn't like you but you married him, you saw it coming but you won't run for her anyway. Don't go about confronting your mother-in-law though her behaviour could be very upsetting. Go to her and apologise for any way you offended her( even if you think you haven't) then talk to her and let her know you love her as a second mother and you love her son and you are like her daughter. She should be involved in making your marriage work.
Are you leaving with her in the same house? If yes, I advise you guys stay away from her to avoid future occurrence.
Just be diplomatic about it. Avoid exchanging words as much as possible.
DID YOU NOT KNOW THAT HE WAS A MUMMYS BOY BEFORE MARRIAGE?
It just shows you dint marry your bestfriend,you both dint go for counselling in church cos in church they make it clear that its now you both and not ur parents so decisions should be made by u both. Nd dis also shows you dont know him well enough b4 you sed yes you were probably desperate to get married. D best tng to do now is to pray ,tell your parents and let both parents av a meeting . No b fait they shld tell d woman to step down and let dis kids dictate in deir marriages. Never confront ur mother inlaw again even if u would eventually its too early.
Just be patient and prayerful.. But you should have seen the signs that he is a mama's boy b4 marrying him.. Just endure and continue to pray..
Hmmm
D best person to handle d situation is ur husband. He needs to let his mother know her boundaries. If ur husband places u on a high esteem in front of his mother then she will either do d same or stay away. A man is suppose to have his wife's back not his mother's. Am saying dis cuz am married and my hubby doesn't allow any of his family members to give me SHIT. Dey don't even come 2 my house without asking for my permission. And keep praying dear. Dere is nofin God can nt change. Take care.
NNE,come and see my own mother in law,your own na bread and butter,just this morning she wanted to give my two months son pap,come and see war,has,just be diplomatic and pray, don't forget,silence is golden
my dear, your mother in law is not ur problem, ur problem is that small boy u call ur horseband!! haba, na one chance u enter so o
My wife is gonna respect my mom more than me, ones you say poo you are out Blv me I don't play with my mom. Mind your business and let him handle his mom best advice
your husband is a mama's boy, so you have to be careful and also pray very hard.
My advice to you Young lady, as you knew she has some little attitude towards you, firstly report her to God... after then, try and add more being loyal to your attitude and apology to her , that does not mean you not sensitive or intelligent, but you want you future to bright, i believe if she keep coming with another attitude God will judge her trust me.
Love her more. Let her see you as her bestfriend. Obey her. When she loves you back and you become her bestfriend, you have won them both over. Dont listen to these people. This is what they'd do also or they have done. Maybe you haven't even tolorated her enough. Please have sense and don't break your home.
Maxwell was a handsome 6'4 hunk with 6 packs. He used to feel like he was a gift to the world but on this day he was crying like a baby, he couldn't let people know he was crying so he hid his eyes behind some wayfarers Rayban sunglasses.
He had devoted the last 6 years to building a career in body fitness, he had given the company the best years of his life, he had no friends and no hobbies; all his life revolved around the gym.
Yet on this day, he was fired without ceremony. He felt so used; he felt like a tissue paper that had achieved it's purpose. No farewell messages or gifts, just a curt "you are fired!" He knew he could get a job anywhere, it was the sheer cruelty of the act that broke him.
He was accused of flirting with one of the married women at the gym and nobody bothered to hear his explanation.
He made up his mind to never work for anybody again. Maxwell started his body fitness centre in his living room and in the space of 6 months, he became the most sought after personal trainer in the country. All the celebrities wanted him to work with them. He looked at his life over 6 months ago and he began to thank God that he was fired.
Sometimes in life, we go through challenges we don't understand, we are lied against and punished for what we don't know anything about. It is a painful experience.
If you are going through that kind of situation right now, I want you to take solace in Romans 8:28 (NIV) And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.
You may not understand what you are going through but God does! Trust Him to sort you out. This scripture says God #causes #everything to work for the good of those who #love God. It's in your times of challenges that you should love God more, don't spend time plotting revenge or having a pity party. Move closer to God and He will bring a message out of that mess and turn that test into a testimony.
This is not the end of your life, this is your beginning, your best days are ahead of you. Raise your head up high and walk with your shoulders tall, you have made it this far, don't quit, you are last man standing, you will win!
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If your brother decided to listen to his wife and go against your mother, will u be ok with it??? If by chance u give birth to a boy, if he decided to listen to his wife and not you, will be happy with it?? Do u have any idea what some mothers went through for their Son to be successful??? Take a chill n learn to be tolerant.. See your mother in law as ur mom n ur husband as ur brother... Be patient and u will prevail...
If your brother decided to listen to his wife and go against your mother, will u be ok with it??? If by chance u give birth to a boy, if he decided to listen to his wife and not you, will be happy with it?? Do u have any idea what some mothers went through for their Son to be successful??? Take a chill n learn to be tolerant.. See your mother in law as ur mom n ur husband as ur brother... Be patient and u will prevail...
Did you not see the "childishness" in your husband before you married him? most time you girls will visibly see the hand-writing on the wall during courtship yet you go ahead with the marriage only to come on the internet in just a few months time to be asking us "rhetorical questions". Your cup, please deal with it.
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god has a way of doin his pray to him nd pls try n attend abible blving church call ur husband along both of go into fasting n prayers it shall b well in jesus name
The first commandment of marriage is beware of ur Mother-in-Laws (ladies) becos they are selfish and very terrible human-beings. Why is she living with u guys in d first place? As long as u a not her daughter she will always be resentful towards u.
It is only real men dat can stand up to the occasion, unfortunately ur hubby is not a real man.
Talk to some of her relatives who u think can talk senses into her head.Please tell ur hubby to get an apartment for his mother. U are too young for dis please.
April?...and this is July?
Hmmmm
You are sitting on a long thing
Jesus, fix it for your daughter
@Galore
No wonder you called yourself Angel eyes, very childish. Mama's boy. I pity who ever unfortunately marries you.
This Cutie thought after marriage the mother will show her more respect, now YOU know you were wrong you married a problem deal with it, because this "whalala" didn't start suddenly has always been there. Stop boring US. Know the background of your partner my father used to tell US and he was damn right
Iyawo oshi' my husb is behaving like a small boy' haba! Ur mother in law should be ur friend.... give distance wen necessary, y wud u confront her,o fe gbija ara e????? Ode! Ur hubby is not blind b wise
go to mfm and rain spiritual fire on her head...then slowly but surely use ur woman power to make sure that your husband gets a house for his mother and move his mother out of the house...when shes out of the house make sure you never see her when she comes to your house, you don't let her visit you...when you are pregnant avoid her completely, dont let her see your child when you give birth and dont let her come to your house to take care of your baby...dont allow it. tell your husband to man up, you can runaway from home for a while, but make sure you are pregnant at that time...i hate wicked mother-in-laws ans spineless sons mtcheeewwwww
You better stop to be a moral apostle here, if he is acting like a child this need to be said clearly. Nice day
Wtf with these PRAYERS COMMENTS TODAY. the girl needs solutions,did you all solve your problems just for doing PRAYERS? Action actively is need, you can't stand in the mud praying waiting someone to pull you out, your PRAYERS will be God to give you the needed strength to get out of the mud. PRAYERS need to be wisely. So don't comment PRAYERS. Send me a PRAYERS all you Christians
My advice to you is for you to know that the ball is in your cut. Have respect for your mother in-law and above all try to study her way of life, humbly yourself and avoid hot temper. You should see your mother in-law as your mother. Please be patient enough because marriage is not an easy affair. God will see you true in Jesus Name. I wish you best of luck. Chief Samuel Okereke JP.
i believe prayer is the way out, you also need to talk to your husband and make him understand that his not married to his mother but to you, i mean talk some sense into him. your marriage is too early for this rubbish.
Pray for her, buy her things, she we Change,, trust me,
Please jo. What are you saying? My mum has two sons and they are close, but my mom was also a wife so she tries to respect her son by respecting his wife.
With that said you must learn how to be diplomatic and focus the fire on your husband so he will regulate his mothers visits to keep the peace.
All the best.
You sound like a satanic wife. The kind we all pray for our children and brothers never to marry. Tufiakwa. This is why Oshomole's wife was happy he didn't marry a Nigerian woman. You sound like a family destroyer and a terrible woman. God forbid bad thing.
My dear, pray.......... May be you really did not pray before getting married, perhaps God would have taken care of the situation before now........ But I must tell you, that is a signal telling you it is high time you started praying concerning your marriage and God will change the situation for better, for there is nothing He cannot do
Would you blame Her?
Once you are a 24 year old lady in Nigeria people won't let you rest. So once ypu find a guy that is decent and proposes, you take it and continue from there.
You people asking her why she married the mamas boy are the same people that will not allow her drink water and drop cup.
Mumu, see grammer with your silly advice,pls who ask u to comment?
Hmmm! I weep for u and d writer who seek advice from a mentally challenged person lk u.
U are d witch in that family,I pity that family.
If she is the type I had, run without looking back, because their evil have no boundary. This is my honest adviser.
Must u always act like d fool that u are
If she doesn't come and kill her
What am trying to avoid also . Presently dating a mama's boy , he asked me to marry him but I can't cope with the dramas
@,princess zee, remember that you will be a mother one day and your kind will want more respect cos you know what you went thru raising him 12 am midnight one time while growing up, I saw my mother praying for me, when I was sick she is always there. And so on. , my wife must respect my mother... Is not about being mamas boy is about what she went thru.... While raising me how would you feel when you brothers wife do the same to your brother
Tah there
What manner of worthless advice is this?
Pray
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