Dear LIB readers, can I ask my boyfriend when he will propose to me because its taking too long
From a female LIB reader
My boyfriend and I have been going out since we got into University, that is like 7 years ago. We are both done with school and he has gotten a good job and lives alone now while I am still in the process of getting a job. We get along well but he has just refused to pop the question so we can get married and move on with our lives. I know he loves and respects me but this his delay in getting married to me is beginning to bother me. I have been asking myself if he is thinking of dumping me but his care and affection says otherwise. Should I pick up courage in asking him why he hasn't or I shouldn't border?
LOL...ask him let's see what he says...it isbecause u seem comfortable with just dating him that is why he sees no reason to make it official. I bet if u two break up, he will get married in 6 months
U r talking of courage when dis is all abt ur destiny. U better summon all boldness, and not just courage to confront him to knw was up if not u get to menopause b4 ever he wil remember to pop up d question.
U r talking of courage when dis is all abt ur destiny, and future wit him. U better summon all d boldness in dis world, and not just courage to confront him to knw was up if not u wil get to ur menopause b4 ever he wil remember to pop up d question.
My dear, ask him what his plans are, for your own good. My friend was with a guy for 7yrs and it didn't end in marriage, she is getting married in June to a guy she met late last year.
My neighbour cohabitated with his GF for 5yrs, broke up with her in October and wedded another girl in January. Now don't ask me how that happened cos I was equally surprised.
Humans are unpredictable. Your boyfriend may not be viewing the relationship from your own angle. I advice you ask him indirectly, so you know where the relationship is heading to.
Yes o, ask him what his plans are for u 'cos 7yrs is not a joke. Forget about what he's doing for u. He might be doing it out of guilt of what he intends to do. If u notice that he's not interested in walking u down the aisle, my dear, pull the cord before u get fried! U will hurt of course, but time will heal ur pains.
My dear,stop being naive and ignorant.Ask him when he will do the necessary things.You cant spend all your youthful years fornicating with him. Communication is very important in every relationship.Let him tell u what is stoping him since he has a good job.Remember in marriage,time can wait for the man but not the woman.
Long time dating is not really ideal for dis is d reason y some ladies get heart broken after long years in r/ship. Males taste's for their ladies in long r/ship changes unlike d ladies which is constant.
Dear Linda, Don't tell a man you can take care of yourself, we all know you can, but a man must feel needed and wanted. I am writing this because you have said it time and again. If anyone knows a God-fearing, employed or in successful business-man, single with no child or children, strong and calm man above 35years; contact Linda especially if you are patient because Linda is a bit hot tempered. Linda in Jesus Name God will bless you for all your kindness. please do not dismiss Oyinbo men, they no they cheat oh! they just like breast.
Ask him. Don't make it too obvious. Say you're trying to plan your life and you've been doing a lot of thinking as you aren't getting any younger. Since he's a part of your life, you want to know whether his own plans for the future include you and if so, in what way? I really do not know why females do this thing, from the get go when you start dating someone, you really should discuss the age at which you plan on getting married. Don't wait too long. The really sad bit is that if both of you break up, he'll probably meet someone younger than you and marry them in a heart beat. Girl, be proactive...if he has no plans to marry you, you really should know now so you can make other arrangements. Good luck.
That means you have been jigging and shagging with this guy and also exercising your vibrant energy for full 7yrs? Well, don't be surprise the guy is done with you and his waiting for you to do a slight mistake then, you gonna back your load just as GEJ is gonna do 29th May, 2015..... Lip sealed!!!
Do you Think At all...They have been together f or 7years and you advice her not to be pushy..babe you better ask him where your relationship is heading to!! Be smart no time.
And this is why they continue to abuse and disrespect us as women. You are telling me your parents put you through university and you are coming here to insinuate that UNTIL HE POPS THE QUESTION YOUR LIFE IS AT A STANDSTILL? ohmygosh! What a life hindering problem. Just stay there you hear? Don't move or do anything oh! Jst be waiting. Sit there and wait it's coming. What FOOLISHNESS!
You sound like the type that has played house, done everything a wife would do and is now waiting for a proposal. I don't see you getting one. But what do I know, I'm not God. Best of luck mate. Maybe you should try carrying on with your life instead of acting like your life depended on it and maybe Jst maybe my nigga might get scared to lose you.
Ask him where ur relationship is leading to.its ur right.may be he was waiting for u to ask him such question.some men r lyk that.dont be scared ask him.u need to know cos we women are like flowers so says my dad # gd nyt
Babe u better propose to ur man, some men get slowmotion for body. Trust me if u no sharp up nah from em office figure 8 go snatch am frm u. Dis nah my advise to u.
Na wa o, shit really happens. Dis is jst my story, I don't think he is ready or better still he is just afraid of settling down. Pls ask him, if he is not forth coming find ur way d earlier d better 4 you. Dats wat I did o. U can't continue longing 4 d Big Question, ask n if he doesn't give a positive answer pls free him.
Some guys are so scared of marriage cos they'v heard of the difficulties and complications affiliated with it..si asking him won't he a bad idea..it's gonna b a reminder and a tap on the cheek saying do not be afraid
Make hay while the sun shine!... You better find out your position in his government and decamp to another party if necessary before you are fired llke Abba!!!
When I met my husband,in 2weeks I asked him what he wanted from me,and he told me marriage but that we should date for at least a year before getting married,in 2years we got married,I don't know why girls think ts a crime to ask a man what he wants from you but most will feel no qualms about sleeping with the man,better ask him what he wants from you but don't ask him if he will marry you.
Hell no! ill never advise a lady to propose to her man. He'll take her for granted in the long run. Dude is too comfortable and I doubt if he'll settle down with her. 7 years is more than enough to know each other.Habaaa! She needs to wear her big girl pant and have a serious conversation with him about settling down. If he's not ready and she's ready, then its time to reassess her relationship or keep it moving by ending it! Kapish!
Odikwa very risky. A friend of mine tried it and that was the end. Desperation is at play here. If you have to please do it subtly. No harm in trying sha.
7 years in a relationship, there's a very high possibility that he will never propose to u. If he has started working (a good job I mean) for 2years plus now, then note that he never will. Soon after u break up with him, he would get married to some other lady in less than 2 years. My dear, find another man. Ur years are wasting
Asking him won't make you look desperate Its good you know where you stand with him.. Just do it subtly,codedly,and politely. Goodluck,you may need it.
dont ask him. just make yourself innaccessible for a while, pretend you are dating someone else, travel for a while with very small contact. if he acts concerned, push ur absence a bit more, if he is not pushed to assert his authority over you for marriage, then you have ur answer, he really doesnt care. you can then take a walk.
Nigerian woman on marriage?even stella kor,dont post a men coments about the reasons while some men are afraid of marriage this days, is a pity for some ladies,,but for you,,please dont ask him,but stop picking up his calls and stop visiting him,just being ur self without cheating on him,,and praying to asking God holy to show u who is ur husband ,,,if a real man never miss his lady then he is never for u,,,not in nigeria now,
There are other ways to put it without mentioning 'engagement' specifically. Sit him down and ask him Politely about his plans for you/ and where the relationship is heading to, and let him know you ain't getting younger. Some guys are ready to remain there as long as they Can get sx until they find your replacement. Heart to heart talk will do
My advise. Don't ask him. If your parents are aware of your relationship. They should have asked him when he is going to marry you. Or simply ask your mom or dad to invite him over and ask. If he really has plans for you. He would make his intentions known. Don't ask him on your own.
U better ask him now so as to find white goat now there's sun.. Nothing desperate about it. That's why I love white chicks, they will even propose to the guy, no dulling. We're no longer in the 19th century. You need something, u go for it..
@Anon 12:18 AM, with cap'' Dear LINDA'. Really since them no dey cheat, abeg i want, if you get anyone, send am my way. I'm in my early 30's, 5:11 ft, dark complexion, double D cup (lol), body type average, educated. Pls am serious, no be joking mata (egejuruchioma@gmail.com). Back to the post, my dear ask him asap, as not to waste your time and honey pot for nothing, learn from my mistake, I had a relationship for over 10 years that didnt end in marriage. Dont let destinty killers waste your time.
@Anon 12:18 AM, with cap'' Dear LINDA'. Really since them no dey cheat, abeg i want, if you get anyone, send am my way. I'm in my early 30's, 5:11 ft, dark complexion, double D cup (lol), body type average, educated. Pls am serious, no be joking mata (egejuruchioma@gmail.com). Back to the post, my dear ask him asap, as not to waste your time and honey pot for nothing, learn from my mistake, I had a relationship for over 10 years that didnt end in marriage. Dont let destinty killers waste your time.
Do not ask, just assume the obvious. As in, he is your husband. You don't know jack. He is your husband. Keep taking him and inviting him to family members. Especially, family Aunty's. 7 years. He is your husband do not even begin to joke arround it. It's women that marry. So just take him totally into what you want where you guys will live. Start by picking date etc and just assume, you are on the same level. Before he knows it. Tan tan Tara. Tan tan Tara. .....if not, most men are just comfortable boyfriend girlfriend. Sex is taken care of Easy. And then he meets a sharp girl. Gbam, you will start screaming blue murder. No! It's you that want marriage served you. No be so? All the ladies flaunting there rings will not tell you the truth.just go for it. Good luck.
Just use whyayo ask say if we got married like how many children are we going to have simple with this you will knows his mind for you. Thank you Lol hmmm long time frndshp is nt d best oh
Get a job first or make something of yourself before you do that. Some people have dated more than 7 years and in your case you guys have dated 3 years in the real world; I am not counting the university days. So try talking to him about marriage instead of when he will pripose.
Ur on a long thing...7 years is too long for a rship. Drop subtle hints intelligently, tickle his psyche and watch him open up...Meanwhile, go out on dates,mingle with other successful intelligent guys...DO NOT OPEN YOUR LEGS...
A man who is ready to marry but gets the pussy for free will delay his plans...Make urself unavailable to him and see if he willl start talking marriage.....I wish u luck.
There is nothing wrong in asking your boyfriend, Where is this relationship leading us? and hear his responds. I did and he told me that he wasn't ready for marriage yet. I got married to someone else. Define your relationship, dont let anyone waste your time.
Yes dear. Pop the question like dis.."I think we've known each other too well to just be friends, aren't u willing to take dis further". Some guys are oloshi. U wee keep kwayet now meanwhile he's doing wedding preparations with one 'obiageli' girl like dat.
Of cos she's free 2 ask, but u hv 2 pply wisdom. Asking ur bfrnd straight 2 his face "when I u gonna propose 2e me?" Might either get him upset or make him think u are despirate. 1st find out if he is ready, 2ndly is he commited 2 u? 3rdly is it the ryt time? If its nt the ryt tym, no mata hw many yrs u stay wit him, he's nt gonna propose, bcos he still has pressing issues 2 sort out, lyk tryn 2 get financially comfortble. 4) Make sure that he can't see a future without you in it. If you want to get your long term boyfriend to propose, then you should make sure that he can't imagine his life without you. Sure, you've been together for three years, but does that mean he wants to be with you for thirty? If every time he talks about the future, he starts with "We..." and if he's mentioned moving to a new place with you, buying a home with you, or even starting a family with you, then sure, he's probably thinking of being with you forever. If he never talks about that then, I dnt fink his ready 2 be with you.
Get a job before you get married, marriage is a risk, guys nowadays will rather take calcualted risks by now marrying a jobless girl, if you get a job....you will sure get the ring
My dear,you better ask him so u can knw ur stand,guys smtimes are tricky,u think u knw dem bt definately some of them are different,ask him so u knw were u belong,cheers
Pls my dear, b free 2 ask him n do dat fast. Knw ur stand in his life, knw whr u belong n his plans 4 u b4 is too late. I don't buy d idea of a long time relationship cos only 30% wl work out @ d end of d day. If u guys break up 2day, in less dan a year he wl gt marry n move on wt his life yl u wl b der down wt heartbreak
I think you shoul channel your energy in getting a job. Secondly, tell him you have suitors, observe his reaction, it will enable you understand his plans towards you.
Plz be bothered oh or s he waiting untill you get a job before he propse, cuz men ds days dnt nd a liability, dy want an asset. So u voice it out bt dnt luk desperate. Pray n God will guide ur tongue.
Find a way to ask him, dont be direct with it, try to throw hints first, if he doesn't respond well, then you can just ask him wats next for him, wats his plan for u guys on the future and stuff. It won't make u look desperate, u've dated him for 7 years, so deperacy is out of it. Goodluck.
Don't ask him which ever way because asking him will put him off as it usually does put men off what you need to do is immediately find yourself a standby boyfriend or a reserved guy if you will, then gradually start showing him less and less of attention I guarantee you it will turn the table in your favor cos men like challenges. Is simply Prince Edwards law of attraction. It has worked time and time again. It never fails. But when you decide to have that standby boyfriend, I am available and my name is Prince Edward.
My Dear, d earlier d better, dey say ask n u shall receive, don't just sit there imaging tins, take d bold step, ask him but not in an annoying n disrespectful way, it will either be yes or no, I wish u luck tthere
My dear its too long nah...ASK am ooooooo use style like bby were do we go frm here...wat plan do u 4 us I have mine but I want you to voice out urs:take ur decision frm the response
hhhmmmm babe na wa you o, you need to sit him down and ask the question but you need to do it in style. seven years no be moi moi o, is better you knw where you belong before is too late o.
Dear, ask him jokingly, when are u carrying wine and Kola to my father? If u be yoruba girl, ask him when he's taking yams to yr father. Tell him They are anxious u know snd they are wondering what's up". If he throws d question back at u saying what do u think? Then u say" Don't u think it's about time we take this relationship to the next level or what are u afraid of"? No need for drama, no need to vex. Just bring it up casually as if it's just a minor topic.Good luck dear.
The problem is that we date as if we are already in marriage. Love is good but every couple must play according to rule. U don't eat your cake and have it back. Date a man sincerely without sex and avoid other forms sexual gratifications with him and he will beg you to marry him asap.
I usually never comment but.... Girl, you HAVE to ask him. Being a guy, he will most likely try to dodge giving you a straight answer. Keep @ it. If he says yall are moving forward then demand action + specifics. Females only have the luxury of such dilly dallying when in school. Once you are out. Of school, time flies like no tomorrow. Before you know it another 2-3 years will be gone. In fact, you should have gone past this 'when will you propose' stage a long time ago. Your question should be when are we doing this? What are you doing with a proposal? Does a proposal guarantee marriage? Focus your questions on wedding/marriage plans not proposal. Because next thing he'll give you a ring and keep you on hold for the next 3 years. Hmmm, please wake up. Depending on how old you are, you shouldn't give this guy anything more than 2 years grace (wedding planning period inclusive). You need to get really proactive about this. And if he is not ready for you or doesn't want you, please be courageous enough to move on. I know we women dread change most times (especially change of men) but if need be, you have to be brave. I promise you there are many more fish in the sea. Contrary to popular opinion, husband is not as scarce as they make them seem. Be proactive and courageous. God be with you.
my dear if u are so eager though is too long(relationship) just put it in prayer bcos time wait for no man,some men ate very corny and funny at the same time I was in a relationship with this guy for 4yrs and when I took yhe bold decision to ask him his plans about me I was shocked to my bone of cause he asked me to bring money for the wedding or else he is not ready even in 5yrs to come long story though but my dear the earlier the better JC
Ask him o, so dat u ll b sure of d future u think is certain.......anything cn apn.......D guy may luv n care for u n yet u are not a wife material to him......ao abt dat?
Please NOTE that there is no law barring you from asking her & sincerely I think and believe that it confirms for him if he has any doubt that u truly love him. There is no shame in love, you have been with him according to you since his student days, so ur love for him is certainly not material. Go ahead and ask him if that is what you truly want. Maybe he will say yes or say no and give you his reasons so you can make a reasonable decision. Don't assume with your life. Be sure. If he loves you, he will respect you more for indirectly through asking him this told him you live him so much or enough to want to spend the rest of your life with him & you want him to be the father of your baby/babies. Is the highest gift any woman can give a man. To make a man the father of your baby is a wonderful gift. SO I SAY, GO ON AND POP THE QUESTION. GO GIRL!!!
Madam, instead of waiting 4 him to pop the quiz, y not work on developing and adding value to yourself by way of securing a Job just like he has done? Marriage is important but dat shouldn't be your priority for now.
You must be a fool is it by force to get married , is it a must, if she is young pretty educated and successful she has no damn problem must a man satisfy her must a man be in her life, you want one man to frustrate her life, get jealous if she richer than him and famous pls leave linda alone thanks
You must be a fool is it by force to get married , is it a must, if she is young pretty educated and successful she has no damn problem must a man satisfy her must a man be in her life, you want one man to frustrate her life, get jealous if she richer than him and famous pls leave linda alone thanks
As a guy,i won't like it if u talk abt marriage with me directly. All of una dat are shouting "7 years is a long time",should ask d girl " have u not cheated on him since then?". Advice I will give to d girl is : try and get a job, u are too dependent of d guy dat is why u are not bothered abt a job,all u think of is holding dis guy down. Get a job 1st,then flirt a little. I didn't say f*ck arnd ooo,no misunderstand me. Guys like a little competition,u are all his Dats why he is not bothered to tie u down sharp sharp. Forget all dis people telling u to ask God or take it to God in prayer, don't waste God's time. God is too busy to be giving dating tips,afterall He is against premarital sex which,i'm sure, u guys have been doing for 7 years.
You have waited too long in my opinion..chances are that you are not included in his future plans, if not he would have mentioned it even absent mindedly. U need to ask him to avoid stories that touch. If not, you will still be with him and see wedding invitation of him and another girl. Act fast and move on, you are not getting younger.
Pls ask him o. I dated a guy for 5yrs, n after he has gotten a good job n all is set 4 him, he refused to propose. N wen I confronted him, he told me dat he wants to travel abroad for masters n all dat crap! I jst #Wakanow.com A few months later, I met a new dude, n he proposed in less than 3months. So, do urself a favour n ask d dude!
Don't asking him to propose to you. Rather, call him and have a serious discussion with him by asking him what are his plans for the relationship. Listen to him attentively. From his responses, ask further intelligent questions. Thereafter, think about his answers and make up your mind about the whole issue. Don't be sentimental about the whole matter, and don't allow him to just wave aside any of your unanswered questions!
Don't asking him to propose to you. Rather, call him and have a serious discussion with him by asking him what are his plans for the relationship. Listen to him attentively. From his responses, ask further intelligent questions. Thereafter, think about his answers and make up your mind about the whole issue. Don't be sentimental about the whole matter, and don't allow him to just wave aside any of your unanswered questions!
So you are not working but you want him to pop the question? It costs money to pay for a wedding and start a family...get a good job for yourself and then you can start thinking of him popping the question.
Don't mind them, ask him. Relationship is communication before Sex and love. Talking to your partner about how you feel is not desperation. It's call being grown and mature.
Don't ask him wen will he marry u cuz dat might go a wrong way. Just ask where u guys are headed since physically, financially & otherwise he seems ready.
don't you guys talk about your future? start a conversation about your future and ask him his plans. you don't have to ask him about proposing directly but you need to know what his plans for your future are.
Y notnn go ahead aand ask him. Stylishly, don't go straight tod poing, just ask him what. Re his plans for u. Ladies sef, hw can u date somebody for good 7 years? Just Dating, what if @d end of day, d guy decide to drop u? Who ll b d looser? Think Ladies, wise up, men can marry anytime but ladies has limited age. Wise up
Dat kind of relationship is like having a taste of food before it got served, if it taste gud u order for it to be served bt if it tasteless u won't even say it out... and onto d nxt 1
Ask him If he sees u guys getting married in the nearest future. If Yes, what is he waiting for. U can continue from there . uve dated for 7yrs so by now he should be ready for stuff Like this.
Pls ask him and at d same time,study his countenance and body language while he is responding,men may not tell u their mind outrightly,their body language and countenance will tell u,be smart.pls do no expect an outright negative response from a man,take a walk once u see wat u dnt like. Goodluck.
hmm some might say you're being forward,but babe 7 years is a long time,pls ask him,if he loves u as much as u say, he will understand and put your mind at rest if not babe find your way.
Honey, take style ask him what he's future plans are or where does he see him self in the next five years. From what he says you will know if he is ready for marriage or not.
I dated my bf for 3yrs and during dat period I didn't let him rest. I kept telling him if he doesn't want 2 propose n marry me, i'll leave him. Now we r married and I don't regret making my intentions known frm d onset. So my dear, d earlier u ask him d better for u. It doesn't make u desperate. It's simply aasking n receiving hehehe it's even in d bible!
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Kikikikiki... it's very necessary o, if em no shake body, u wakanow.com!
Eya ask God not him.
You are free na...
Take style ask am his plans 4 u.
LOL...ask him let's see what he says...it isbecause u seem comfortable with just dating him that is why he sees no reason to make it official. I bet if u two break up, he will get married in 6 months
Pick the courage, let the relationship be defined and his goal for you. A serious minded lady needs to know this to avoid stories that touches.
Y not,tym wait 4 no one dear
Y not
Pls ask him indirectly.time no dey,
Maybe his waiting to get more money to give you a good wedding.
Get an AK 45 and blow his brains off. Mumu
Get an AK 45 and blow his brains off. Mumu
Don't be a desperate chick.
That's all I've got to say.
U r talking of courage when dis is all abt ur destiny. U better summon all boldness, and not just courage to confront him to knw was up if not u get to menopause b4 ever he wil remember to pop up d question.
Ask him, no harm.
U r talking of courage when dis is all abt ur destiny, and future wit him. U better summon all d boldness in dis world, and not just courage to confront him to knw was up if not u wil get to ur menopause b4 ever he wil remember to pop up d question.
My dear, ask him what his plans are, for your own good.
My friend was with a guy for 7yrs and it didn't end in marriage, she is getting married in June to a guy she met late last year.
My neighbour cohabitated with his GF for 5yrs, broke up with her in October and wedded another girl in January. Now don't ask me how that happened cos I was equally surprised.
Humans are unpredictable. Your boyfriend may not be viewing the relationship from your own angle. I advice you ask him indirectly, so you know where the relationship is heading to.
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Yes o, ask him what his plans are for u 'cos 7yrs is not a joke. Forget about what he's doing for u. He might be doing it out of guilt of what he intends to do. If u notice that he's not interested in walking u down the aisle, my dear, pull the cord before u get fried! U will hurt of course, but time will heal ur pains.
#TeamBlessed#
I fink u shld get a job first and maybe giv him little tym.....dont be pushy abt it
I think u should ask cos 7yrs is good enof time! But do it in a maneuvering way!
Inform Madea about it, then invite Herr overr for dinner
l think u should go ahead
but ask in a subtle manner...
Nwanne'm, Jst tell him.. b diplomatic abt it
my dear if u are so eager though is too long(relationship) just put it in prayer bcos time wait for no man.
My dear bother. There is no harm in asking him what plans he has for your relationship.
I think you should not put it straight that when will you get married,just ask him where you stand with him. Good luck dear.
My dear,stop being naive and ignorant.Ask him when he will do the necessary things.You cant spend all your youthful years fornicating with him. Communication is very important in every relationship.Let him tell u what is stoping him since he has a good job.Remember in marriage,time can wait for the man but not the woman.
Pls voice out oooo 4d earlier d better so dat u tak option B b4 its too late.
Long time dating is not really ideal for dis is d reason y some ladies get heart broken after long years in r/ship. Males taste's for their ladies in long r/ship changes unlike d ladies which is constant.
Dear Linda,
Don't tell a man you can take care of yourself, we all know you can, but a man must feel needed and wanted. I am writing this because you have said it time and again.
If anyone knows a God-fearing, employed or in successful business-man, single with no child or children, strong and calm man above 35years; contact Linda especially if you are patient because Linda is a bit hot tempered.
Linda in Jesus Name God will bless you for all your kindness.
please do not dismiss Oyinbo men, they no they cheat oh! they just like breast.
Ask him, so you can be sure you are on the same page. 7 yrs is a long time
Lmao...
Tink dis is hapenin 2 linda and she wants u all 2 help her out
Ask him. Don't make it too obvious. Say you're trying to plan your life and you've been doing a lot of thinking as you aren't getting any younger. Since he's a part of your life, you want to know whether his own plans for the future include you and if so, in what way? I really do not know why females do this thing, from the get go when you start dating someone, you really should discuss the age at which you plan on getting married. Don't wait too long. The really sad bit is that if both of you break up, he'll probably meet someone younger than you and marry them in a heart beat. Girl, be proactive...if he has no plans to marry you, you really should know now so you can make other arrangements. Good luck.
Omo babes no tym to waste...ask him in a way he wont really undastnd
If I were you I will voice out ASAP. So you won't be wasting your precious time. 7years is no joke.
That means you have been jigging and shagging with this guy and also exercising your vibrant energy for full 7yrs? Well, don't be surprise the guy is done with you and his waiting for you to do a slight mistake then, you gonna back your load just as GEJ is gonna do 29th May, 2015..... Lip sealed!!!
Do you Think At all...They have been together f or 7years and you advice her not to be pushy..babe you better ask him where your relationship is heading to!! Be smart no time.
Why give out such bad advice
And this is why they continue to abuse and disrespect us as women. You are telling me your parents put you through university and you are coming here to insinuate that UNTIL HE POPS THE QUESTION YOUR LIFE IS AT A STANDSTILL? ohmygosh! What a life hindering problem. Just stay there you hear? Don't move or do anything oh! Jst be waiting. Sit there and wait it's coming.
What FOOLISHNESS!
Nooooo leave the babe. Let her keep waiting for thhe question biko. Don't use her life goals to distract her right now. This is more important
You sound like the type that has played house, done everything a wife would do and is now waiting for a proposal.
I don't see you getting one. But what do I know, I'm not God. Best of luck mate.
Maybe you should try carrying on with your life instead of acting like your life depended on it and maybe Jst maybe my nigga might get scared to lose you.
Ask him where ur relationship is leading to.its ur right.may be he was waiting for u to ask him such question.some men r lyk that.dont be scared ask him.u need to know cos we women are like flowers so says my dad # gd nyt
Babe u better propose to ur man, some men get slowmotion for body. Trust me if u no sharp up nah from em office figure 8 go snatch am frm u. Dis nah my advise to u.
Na wa o, shit really happens. Dis is jst my story, I don't think he is ready or better still he is just afraid of settling down. Pls ask him, if he is not forth coming find ur way d earlier d better 4 you. Dats wat I did o. U can't continue longing 4 d Big Question, ask n if he doesn't give a positive answer pls free him.
My dear u shud hv ask him earlier, b4 moving on, be wise some guys re looking for fault b4 breaking up, pls ask him, if he does want, pls quit.
Don't be pushy after 7yrs? You are sooooo funy
Some guys are so scared of marriage cos they'v heard of the difficulties and complications affiliated with it..si asking him won't he a bad idea..it's gonna b a reminder and a tap on the cheek saying do not be afraid
By now, your son could have been 7yrs old. Chai! Anyways! Don't allow it to get to 10yrs before you ask. Ask and better get a back up plan
Lolz
Ona ewuzi gi ewu?
Linda get job now! The girl in question doesn't!!!
Mumu reply. Beta go marry o
Make hay while the sun shine!... You better find out your position in his government and decamp to another party if necessary before you are fired llke Abba!!!
Ask him o, to know if he truely wants to marry you.
Ask him o, to know if he truely wants to marry you.
When I met my husband,in 2weeks I asked him what he wanted from me,and he told me marriage but that we should date for at least a year before getting married,in 2years we got married,I don't know why girls think ts a crime to ask a man what he wants from you but most will feel no qualms about sleeping with the man,better ask him what he wants from you but don't ask him if he will marry you.
Hell no! ill never advise a lady to propose to her man. He'll take her for granted in the long run. Dude is too comfortable and I doubt if he'll settle down with her. 7 years is more than enough to know each other.Habaaa! She needs to wear her big girl pant and have a serious conversation with him about settling down. If he's not ready and she's ready, then its time to reassess her relationship or keep it moving by ending it! Kapish!
Well said amaka!
Odikwa very risky. A friend of mine tried it and that was the end. Desperation is at play here. If you have to please do it subtly.
No harm in trying sha.
No harm in trial
Yerp I agree! But she needs to make it obvious though. Give him an ultimatum (6 months to a year, depending on her age).
I think I feel ur pain but Deres a better way of doing it. Dnt ask a direct question, apply wisdom
I think I feel ur pain but Deres a better way of doing it. Dnt ask a direct question, apply wisdom
7 years in a relationship, there's a very high possibility that he will never propose to u. If he has started working (a good job I mean) for 2years plus now, then note that he never will. Soon after u break up with him, he would get married to some other lady in less than 2 years. My dear, find another man. Ur years are wasting
Lady u are rushing because, he has a good job, ask him but take it easy with him pls,
Lmfao
Why not focus on getting your own job? If he has a job and house, why don't you? I'm assuming you got into school at the same time.
Asking him won't make you look desperate
Its good you know where you stand with him..
Just do it subtly,codedly,and politely.
Goodluck,you may need it.
dont ask him. just make yourself innaccessible for a while, pretend you are dating someone else, travel for a while with very small contact. if he acts concerned, push ur absence a bit more, if he is not pushed to assert his authority over you for marriage, then you have ur answer, he really doesnt care. you can then take a walk.
Nigerian woman on marriage?even stella kor,dont post a men coments about the reasons while some men are afraid of marriage this days,
is a pity for some ladies,,but for you,,please dont ask him,but stop picking up his calls and stop visiting him,just being ur self without cheating on him,,and praying to asking God holy to show u who is ur husband ,,,if a real man never miss his lady then he is never for u,,,not in nigeria now,
There are other ways to put it without mentioning 'engagement' specifically. Sit him down and ask him Politely about his plans for you/ and where the relationship is heading to, and let him know you ain't getting younger. Some guys are ready to remain there as long as they Can get sx until they find your replacement. Heart to heart talk will do
My advise. Don't ask him. If your parents are aware of your relationship. They should have asked him when he is going to marry you. Or simply ask your mom or dad to invite him over and ask. If he really has plans for you. He would make his intentions known. Don't ask him on your own.
U better ask him now so as to find white goat now there's sun.. Nothing desperate about it. That's why I love white chicks, they will even propose to the guy, no dulling. We're no longer in the 19th century. You need something, u go for it..
@Anon 12:18 AM, with cap'' Dear LINDA'.
Really since them no dey cheat, abeg i want, if you get anyone, send am my way. I'm in my early 30's, 5:11 ft, dark complexion, double D cup (lol), body type average, educated. Pls am serious, no be joking mata (egejuruchioma@gmail.com). Back to the post, my dear ask him asap, as not to waste your time and honey pot for nothing, learn from my mistake, I had a relationship for over 10 years that didnt end in marriage. Dont let destinty killers waste your time.
@Anon 12:18 AM, with cap'' Dear LINDA'.
Really since them no dey cheat, abeg i want, if you get anyone, send am my way. I'm in my early 30's, 5:11 ft, dark complexion, double D cup (lol), body type average, educated. Pls am serious, no be joking mata (egejuruchioma@gmail.com). Back to the post, my dear ask him asap, as not to waste your time and honey pot for nothing, learn from my mistake, I had a relationship for over 10 years that didnt end in marriage. Dont let destinty killers waste your time.
Do not ask, just assume the obvious. As in, he is your husband. You don't know jack. He is your husband. Keep taking him and inviting him to family members. Especially, family Aunty's. 7 years. He is your husband do not even begin to joke arround it.
It's women that marry. So just take him totally into what you want where you guys will live. Start by picking date etc and just assume, you are on the same level. Before he knows it. Tan tan Tara. Tan tan Tara. .....if not, most men are just comfortable boyfriend girlfriend. Sex is taken care of Easy. And then he meets a sharp girl. Gbam, you will start screaming blue murder. No! It's you that want marriage served you. No be so? All the ladies flaunting there rings will not tell you the truth.just go for it. Good luck.
Just use whyayo ask say if we got married like how many children are we going to have simple with this you will knows his mind for you. Thank you Lol hmmm long time frndshp is nt d best oh
Ask him ooooo,I have said my own
Why do I feel like I know the babe that wrote dis story! Lol are you dating Mr K. If yes! Best of luck dear. Better ask him.
Women are like flowers ask him where d relationship is leading to.i Hv Ds philosophy that a relationship must lead u to either d altar or d bank.lol
GO AND GET A JOB and give your life some meaning outside this relationship.
My dear ask him d earlier d beta...ask in a cool manner...lyk swthrt wht re ur plans 4 dis relationship.
Ask that question at your own peril
abeg ask him so that you don't keep waiting .delay is dangerous
7 what?he ll so dump ur sorry ass. Cho iwu oji mgbe ihe ka di.
My dear ask him in a gud manner so dat u can kw wer u stand. d earlier d better. 7yrs no b 7months oo
Get a job first or make something of yourself before you do that. Some people have dated more than 7 years and in your case you guys have dated 3 years in the real world; I am not counting the university days. So try talking to him about marriage instead of when he will pripose.
Ur on a long thing...7 years is too long for a rship.
Drop subtle hints intelligently, tickle his psyche and watch him open up...Meanwhile, go out on dates,mingle with other successful intelligent guys...DO NOT OPEN YOUR LEGS...
A man who is ready to marry but gets the pussy for free will delay his plans...Make urself unavailable to him and see if he willl start talking marriage.....I wish u luck.
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There is nothing wrong in asking your boyfriend, Where is this relationship leading us? and hear his responds. I did and he told me that he wasn't ready for marriage yet. I got married to someone else. Define your relationship, dont let anyone waste your time.
My view exactly
Lmao..
Oloshi nii enii yiii o.
Wetin bring this kind talk ehnnnn...
Ewu kambia.....
If in 7 years you have no clue where your relationship is gong, then it ain't going anywhere . Get a back up plan
U can just chip it in as a joke one day nd get his reaction
Please ask him cos nothing is wrong in doing that. Its not like you are proposing to him so you deserve to know the plans he has for you.
Probably he wants you to get a job first, no man wants to marry a liability.
Which one be Herr na Germany
Yes dear. Pop the question like dis.."I think we've known each other too well to just be friends, aren't u willing to take dis further".
Some guys are oloshi. U wee keep kwayet now meanwhile he's doing wedding preparations with one 'obiageli' girl like dat.
Of cos she's free 2 ask, but u hv 2 pply wisdom. Asking ur bfrnd straight 2 his face "when I u gonna propose 2e me?" Might either get him upset or make him think u are despirate. 1st find out if he is ready, 2ndly is he commited 2 u? 3rdly is it the ryt time? If its nt the ryt tym, no mata hw many yrs u stay wit him, he's nt gonna propose, bcos he still has pressing issues 2 sort out, lyk tryn 2 get financially comfortble. 4) Make sure that he can't see a future without you in it. If you want to get your long term boyfriend to propose, then you should make sure that he can't imagine his life without you. Sure, you've been together for three years, but does that mean he wants to be with you for thirty? If every time he talks about the future, he starts with "We..." and if he's mentioned moving to a new place with you, buying a home with you, or even starting a family with you, then sure, he's probably thinking of being with you forever. If he never talks about that then, I dnt fink his ready 2 be with you.
Get a job before you get married, marriage is a risk, guys nowadays will rather take calcualted risks by now marrying a jobless girl, if you get a job....you will sure get the ring
Hi, my girlfriend is also desperate she keep asking we just clocked 7month
My dear pls ask!knw ur stand plss.hmmm guys ar somfin else disdays
Sharrraaap dere... after 7years? Mtcheeeew
People like you don't reason with their brains.
My dear,you better ask him so u can knw ur stand,guys smtimes are tricky,u think u knw dem bt definately some of them are different,ask him so u knw were u belong,cheers
Pls my dear, b free 2 ask him n do dat fast. Knw ur stand in his life, knw whr u belong n his plans 4 u b4 is too late. I don't buy d idea of a long time relationship cos only 30% wl work out @ d end of d day. If u guys break up 2day, in less dan a year he wl gt marry n move on wt his life yl u wl b der down wt heartbreak
Just jega
you can propose to him and put a ring on his finger. i think a lady did it here before and it was on LIB
I think you shoul channel your energy in getting a job. Secondly, tell him you have suitors, observe his reaction, it will enable you understand his plans towards you.
Better ask him ooo, b4 its,too late
Wait dere, little time= sacking
Plz be bothered oh or s he waiting untill you get a job before he propse, cuz men ds days dnt nd a liability, dy want an asset. So u voice it out bt dnt luk desperate. Pray n God will guide ur tongue.
Ofcourse you can... Some guys even wait for the ladies to ask these days before they do the needful... Goodluck to you!
Ask him,7yrs is good enuf...lets know what he's plan is...
Find a way to ask him, dont be direct with it, try to throw hints first, if he doesn't respond well, then you can just ask him wats next for him, wats his plan for u guys on the future and stuff. It won't make u look desperate, u've dated him for 7 years, so deperacy is out of it. Goodluck.
What are you still waiting for? Ask him already biko. No time to waste, ask him where the relationship is headed. Linda take note!
But this person is not gay naaa.....
Don't ask him which ever way because asking him will put him off as it usually does put men off what you need to do is immediately find yourself a standby boyfriend or a reserved guy if you will, then gradually start showing him less and less of attention I guarantee you it will turn the table in your favor cos men like challenges. Is simply Prince Edwards law of attraction. It has worked time and time again. It never fails. But when you decide to have that standby boyfriend, I am available and my name is Prince Edward.
My Dear, d earlier d better, dey say ask n u shall receive, don't just sit there imaging tins, take d bold step, ask him but not in an annoying n disrespectful way, it will either be yes or no, I wish u luck tthere
My dear its too long nah...ASK am ooooooo use style like bby were do we go frm here...wat plan do u 4 us I have mine but I want you to voice out urs:take ur decision frm the response
hhhmmmm babe na wa you o, you need to sit him down and ask the question but you need to do it in style. seven years no be moi moi o, is better you knw where you belong before is too late o.
Dear, ask him jokingly, when are u carrying wine and Kola to my father? If u be yoruba girl, ask him when he's taking yams to yr father. Tell him They are anxious u know snd they are wondering what's up". If he throws d question back at u saying what do u think? Then u say" Don't u think it's about time we take this relationship to the next level or what are u afraid of"? No need for drama, no need to vex. Just bring it up casually as if it's just a minor topic.Good luck dear.
Don't ask him.. He's a man.. He knows what he's doing.... Maybe he hasn't made up his mind or you re not just d one..
Linda hope ur not they one asking this question, abeg if him no wan rush am, email me directly I will apply immediately trust me...!
7yrs??? Hmmm what have you guys been discussing for that long? I love u,i love u? Mtchewww
The problem is that we date as if we are already in marriage. Love is good but every couple must play according to rule. U don't eat your cake and have it back. Date a man sincerely without sex and avoid other forms sexual gratifications with him and he will beg you to marry him asap.
I usually never comment but.... Girl, you HAVE to ask him. Being a guy, he will most likely try to dodge giving you a straight answer. Keep @ it. If he says yall are moving forward then demand action + specifics. Females only have the luxury of such dilly dallying when in school. Once you are out. Of school, time flies like no tomorrow. Before you know it another 2-3 years will be gone. In fact, you should have gone past this 'when will you propose' stage a long time ago. Your question should be when are we doing this? What are you doing with a proposal? Does a proposal guarantee marriage? Focus your questions on wedding/marriage plans not proposal. Because next thing he'll give you a ring and keep you on hold for the next 3 years. Hmmm, please wake up. Depending on how old you are, you shouldn't give this guy anything more than 2 years grace (wedding planning period inclusive). You need to get really proactive about this. And if he is not ready for you or doesn't want you, please be courageous enough to move on. I know we women dread change most times (especially change of men) but if need be, you have to be brave. I promise you there are many more fish in the sea. Contrary to popular opinion, husband is not as scarce as they make them seem. Be proactive and courageous. God be with you.
nttin like desperate dear go ahead and ask him so dt u can kw ur stand nttn bad in asking him jst hear wat he will say
my dear if u are so eager though is too long(relationship) just put it in prayer bcos time wait for no man,some men ate very corny and funny at the same time I was in a relationship with this guy for 4yrs and when I took yhe bold decision to ask him his plans about me I was shocked to my bone of cause he asked me to bring money for the wedding or else he is not ready even in 5yrs to come long story though but my dear the earlier the better JC
Ask him o, so dat u ll b sure of d future u think is certain.......anything cn apn.......D guy may luv n care for u n yet u are not a wife material to him......ao abt dat?
Are u that desperate pls leave him alone let God do it if u force him he will dump u am damn serious
Don't You will spoil everything.
Take it from me.
Lwkmd
pray hard sis
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My dear brother kwa, am sure you must be gay or you must be blind to read well or jut not learned to know when a girl is writing na wa oo
My dear brother kwa, am sure you must be gay or you must be blind to read well or jut not learned to know when a girl is writing na wa oo
Ask God? Na God dey date her? Guy if u no get gist,go play candy crush.
Please NOTE that there is no law barring you from asking her & sincerely I think and believe that it confirms for him if he has any doubt that u truly love him. There is no shame in love, you have been with him according to you since his student days, so ur love for him is certainly not material. Go ahead and ask him if that is what you truly want. Maybe he will say yes or say no and give you his reasons so you can make a reasonable decision. Don't assume with your life. Be sure. If he loves you, he will respect you more for indirectly through asking him this told him you live him so much or enough to want to spend the rest of your life with him & you want him to be the father of your baby/babies. Is the highest gift any woman can give a man. To make a man the father of your baby is a wonderful gift. SO I SAY, GO ON AND POP THE QUESTION. GO GIRL!!!
Well get a job first maybe that's wot s discouraging him.
Madam, instead of waiting 4 him to pop the quiz, y not work on developing and adding value to yourself by way of securing a Job just like he has done? Marriage is important but dat shouldn't be your priority for now.
Now this cracked me up. I hope u have a frying pan too. Lol
You must be a fool is it by force to get married , is it a must, if she is young pretty educated and successful she has no damn problem must a man satisfy her must a man be in her life, you want one man to frustrate her life, get jealous if she richer than him and famous pls leave linda alone thanks
You must be a fool is it by force to get married , is it a must, if she is young pretty educated and successful she has no damn problem must a man satisfy her must a man be in her life, you want one man to frustrate her life, get jealous if she richer than him and famous pls leave linda alone thanks
Please do ask him it's very necessary. Besides long term relationships is not healthy
Abi oooo
As a guy,i won't like it if u talk abt marriage with me directly. All of una dat are shouting "7 years is a long time",should ask d girl " have u not cheated on him since then?". Advice I will give to d girl is : try and get a job, u are too dependent of d guy dat is why u are not bothered abt a job,all u think of is holding dis guy down. Get a job 1st,then flirt a little. I didn't say f*ck arnd ooo,no misunderstand me. Guys like a little competition,u are all his Dats why he is not bothered to tie u down sharp sharp. Forget all dis people telling u to ask God or take it to God in prayer, don't waste God's time. God is too busy to be giving dating tips,afterall He is against premarital sex which,i'm sure, u guys have been doing for 7 years.
I agree
Y nt
All i see is you been desperate Miss..if he is yours he will surely do
You have waited too long in my opinion..chances are that you are not included in his future plans, if not he would have mentioned it even absent mindedly. U need to ask him to avoid stories that touch. If not, you will still be with him and see wedding invitation of him and another girl. Act fast and move on, you are not getting younger.
Pls ask him o. I dated a guy for 5yrs, n after he has gotten a good job n all is set 4 him, he refused to propose. N wen I confronted him, he told me dat he wants to travel abroad for masters n all dat crap! I jst #Wakanow.com
A few months later, I met a new dude, n he proposed in less than 3months. So, do urself a favour n ask d dude!
7yrs is too long tho, pls ask him, don't be shy.
Pls ask him. Uhn
Don't asking him to propose to you. Rather, call him and have a serious discussion with him by asking him what are his plans for the relationship. Listen to him attentively. From his responses, ask further intelligent questions. Thereafter, think about his answers and make up your mind about the whole issue. Don't be sentimental about the whole matter, and don't allow him to just wave aside any of your unanswered questions!
Don't asking him to propose to you. Rather, call him and have a serious discussion with him by asking him what are his plans for the relationship. Listen to him attentively. From his responses, ask further intelligent questions. Thereafter, think about his answers and make up your mind about the whole issue. Don't be sentimental about the whole matter, and don't allow him to just wave aside any of your unanswered questions!
So you are not working but you want him to pop the question? It costs money to pay for a wedding and start a family...get a good job for yourself and then you can start thinking of him popping the question.
pls wait until u get grey hair.
naaaah not a good idea to ask him, 7 years is long though but then again when a man is not ready no amount of questions will change it
Hahahahahahaha... Very funny
Don't mind them, ask him. Relationship is communication before Sex and love. Talking to your partner about how you feel is not desperation. It's call being grown and mature.
Don't ask him wen will he marry u cuz dat might go a wrong way. Just ask where u guys are headed since physically, financially & otherwise he seems ready.
don't be direct ask him his plans in the next five years.
if you're not included, kindly take a walk.
The question should be " how will I dump him and move on with my life "
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don't you guys talk about your future? start a conversation about your future and ask him his plans. you don't have to ask him about proposing directly but you need to know what his plans for your future are.
Y notnn go ahead aand ask him. Stylishly, don't go straight tod poing, just ask him what. Re his plans for u. Ladies sef, hw can u date somebody for good 7 years? Just Dating, what if @d end of day, d guy decide to drop u? Who ll b d looser? Think Ladies, wise up, men can marry anytime but ladies has limited age. Wise up
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lol very funny.. just relax ok? im sure he would propose soon. he's probably waiting for you to get a job who knows.
Lmao... Linda Shey u don hear nah!!.. hahahahahaha
Ifeoma Ikeji,is ds ur story?
U ve to take d bull by d horn girl... some guys need a lil reminder!!! jst dnt b aggressive abt it
GET A JOB POSTER AND HE WILL PROPOSE..NO MAN WANTS A LIABILITY BIKO!
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pls ask him, u have dated him for a long time. its not being desprate.. pick up some courage girl.
pls ask him, u have dated him for a long time. its not being desprate.. pick up some courage girl.
Dat kind of relationship is like having a taste of food before it got served, if it taste gud u order for it to be served bt if it tasteless u won't even say it out... and onto d nxt 1
Ask him If he sees u guys getting married in the nearest future. If Yes, what is he waiting for. U can continue from there . uve dated for 7yrs so by now he should be ready for stuff Like this.
Nne ur desperate... Why will u ask him that q... Uwa nka sef.... BIBLE talk sha na d time
Dont be desperate, give him a little more time(lets say 3months) before he asks, who knows if he is trying to surprise you
Pls ask him and at d same time,study his countenance and body language while he is responding,men may not tell u their mind outrightly,their body language and countenance will tell u,be smart.pls do no expect an outright negative response from a man,take a walk once u see wat u dnt like. Goodluck.
Be free to ask him biko.
why will you even be in a relationship for that long without any serious commitment. just move on wo
That's a 'tough' question.
nne biko ask him,7yrs is not a joke.u ve finish school and he is working.the earlier the better.
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nne biko ask him,7yrs is not a joke.u ve finish school and he is working.the earlier the better.
I want the lady to take to the advice given by "Dee" and "Billionaire son". They are the best advice ever for this situation. I subscribe to them.
hmm some might say you're being forward,but babe 7 years is a long time,pls ask him,if he loves u as much as u say, he will understand and put your mind at rest if not babe find your way.
Its better u find a way of asking him. At least u'll know where u stand. Communication really matters in every r/ship
Honey, take style ask him what he's future plans are or where does he see him self in the next five years. From what he says you will know if he is ready for marriage or not.
Ask him my dear, you have earned it. 7 years is no joke!
I dated my bf for 3yrs and during dat period I didn't let him rest. I kept telling him if he doesn't want 2 propose n marry me, i'll leave him. Now we r married and I don't regret making my intentions known frm d onset. So my dear, d earlier u ask him d better for u. It doesn't make u desperate. It's simply aasking n receiving hehehe it's even in d bible!
You av got to talk to him abt it, cuz u bear the highest risk....
Heaven helps those who help themselves, #gbam
Really? 7 yrs is desperate? Lol. I guess 15yrs is ideal for u
my dear please don't try it okay.
#LIB OBI
Hahhahaha...my dear, u must b a learner for keepin all ur eggs in one basket
Hahahahha... na ha type dem dy marry on credit... una go dy bf/ gf level dy born kids... bloody hypocrite
My dear, 7 years is no a joke, u guys know each other too too well, I think is better for u to ask him so as to knw your stand.
Yes ask him
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