Dear LIB readers: Can I buy my own engagement ring?
From a LIB reader...
I'm engaged but I'm not wearing a ring. My boyfriend proposed to me during the Christmas holidays but didn't give me a ring because he couldn't afford to buy me one he knows I will appreciate. He told me he will get me the ring before our wedding in August but it's becoming embarrassing because whenever I tell people I'm engaged they look at my fingers to see the ring and there's nothing there. Ever since I saw Tiwa's engagement ring I've been feeling really sad. I make far more money than my fiance and can afford to buy the ring of my dreams. Should I go ahead and buy my own engagement ring? My man will be mad and disappointed but I'd rather that than the way I feel at the moment.
Was engaged without a ring but now married with triple rings from my hubby. The thing is I did nt even notice I was ringless when I was engaged cos I am nt the loud mouth type going arnd announcing I am engaged.When you are engaged, nt everyone needs to know afterall you won't be the first nor the last. The news is special for just fam nd close friends.The world can know when the day is like wks away, girl don't jinx ur wedding o
My dear girl...first of all,you are not engaged..word of mouth statement without a ring from your bobo is a fallacy of ambiguity. if this a guy u want to be married to, you are truely engaged wen he puts the ring on your finger, even if it is a 10k engagement ring. he can always buy you a substitute wen he has enough money.
Pls o, dont even try it. An engagement ring is a symbol of commitment from your guy. If u buy it urself the essence would be lost. Duh this is jst february 8th, he might give you one on the 14th. Chillax joor
A ring is not all dat matters. Its how he feels bout you. Allow him buy u a ring when he can even if its for d wedding. You'd be happier that way, trust me. Cheers
first of all it is bad enuf dat u feel u have to prove a point to people, who cares if u have a ring or not. even if u had a ring people would still make both positive and negative comments about it. secondly, i feel a guy that cannot afford to buy u a ring no matter how small does not have the facilities to support a wife just yet, him askin u might have been brought about by pressure from ur end. most of our folks started off deir married life wif no proposal ring at all or a barely dere ring but as time went on changed it up to something beta. in conclusion, if u feel u have to wear a ring tell ur fiancee and let him get you one he can afford and den later on u change it to ur 'dream ring'but in the end we do not need a ring to validate how we feel about someone
first of all it is bad enuf dat u feel u have to prove a point to people, who cares if u have a ring or not. even if u had a ring people would still make both positive and negative comments about it. secondly, i feel a guy that cannot afford to buy u a ring no matter how small does not have the facilities to support a wife just yet, him askin u might have been brought about by pressure from ur end. most of our folks started off deir married life wif no proposal ring at all or a barely dere ring but as time went on changed it up to something beta. in conclusion, if u feel u have to wear a ring tell ur fiancee and let him get you one he can afford and den later on u change it to ur 'dream ring'but in the end we do not need a ring to validate how we feel about someone
Let him buy u wateva ring he can afford... Since its obvious u need a ring on dat finger 4 ppl 2 c!! U can always change the ring afterwards wen he is ready!! Problem solved!! Billie jean
Enuf with some of d insults on dis lady, its a crisis for her. My dear the best thing is to wait, men have this deep need to be seen as providers, if you start meeting ur needs because you feel u have the money , it would create more trouble for you when you get married, his ability to say he can provide for you will be diminished. Just be patient, he will remember you for sticking by him in the hard times and not throwing your money in his face, just imagine the embarassment he would feel when he finds out. If you love him you go wait for him.wait for him , plan with him.
Anon 12:36pm why are u taking it personal? All u have to do is look for a ring u like, tell him about it, and let him pay a little of d money and u pay d rest, as long as he still has his money in d ring. Notin to be shy about. One person starts sometin. Its ur life, live it the way u want it. If he loves u, he wont get mad.
aBEGI DO WHAT WILL MAKE YOUR MAN LOVE YOU MORE IF its N5 ring he can afford collect it with all pleasure your dream should be to lead a happy life forever with him dont build on materials. Wetin be ring we den fit komot throw at your face.
DON'T TRY IT.... let him be a man and buy u the ring...if he didn't feel man enough to marry u he wouldn't propose. Be patient yes its annoying but he will get it and he might get u something much better than what u plan on buying..... Remember all fingers no dey equal so no dey look others.....
No! do not ..i repeat..do not buy ur own engagement ring...let ur fiancee buy what he can afford. its not even d wedding ring.at the end of the day what matters is if u r happy! marriage is not ring and marriage is not d wedding day. Tiwa that ur envying do u know what she n her fiancee may be facing inside closed doors? do not be jealous of anyone else.havent u heard teebillz or whatever has a wife n kids in yankee? what wld u rather choose? a gorgeous ring like tiwa with all d wahala rship or a happy marriage? 20 years down d line in a happy marriage u wont even rem ur fiancee cldnt buy d ring u wntd...it wld be a romantic story to ur kids how their dad cldnt afford it then but u guys pulled thru.To hell with what people think.
You are obviously not ready to be married!!!If ordinary ring is such an issue..What happens when important decisions need to be made?"U won't care how he feels to make people(not even so much as u) happy"? Y are u announcing to everyone you are engaged anyway?this is feb,by the time u start sharing aso ebi & wedding invite..they won't sha think you plan to marry yourself.I'm so pissed
If you buy the ring, before long he will say the house he feels you deserve is...then, you will pay the rent. Then your children's school fees will follow...you will pay. If he won't buy you what he can afford, don't buy anyone not even a cheap costume. You can however insist gently that he can buy you what he can afford, if not do without it and choose to be happy even without the ring. BTW, a man that wants to propose would have known for a while, he should spare some cash nah! I hope this is not the beginning of cashless daddy...Lolz!!!
Pls let him buy any 1 he can afford rit nw.wear it like dat wit pride cuz u make d ring luk gud nd nt d ring makin u luk gud.besides he will be very happy dat u appreciate d little he has.
By the way,I am very married&i only wear my ring to church,my kids school,weddings...places go once a while,I don't wear it to work/daily...No biggie.I&the husband know we are married&that's the most important....
it is way more than the ring. I was engaged and married without a ring for two years.. close friends knew I was.. but other ppl did not.. my fiance/hubby was not ready then. it was frustrating sometimes.. cos i personally love rings.. but I had to chill till her was ready. and When he was ready.. i knew exactly why he waited that long.. I have a big rock on my finger.
When ppl found out we were not only engaged but married they asked why there was no ring.. I just said that there were way more important things we had to worry about than focus on a ring.. which was simply the truth..
He was always there and that was all that mattered... ppl who look down at you cos you dnt have a ring are just a bunch of materialistic ppl.
There is more to life than gold and diamonds.
I know how you feel.. but in the end it is all about your perspective on the situation:)
Pls don't buy. So far u are engaged, that should be enough, ring or no ring. U can buy the ring of your ring after ur marriage. Don't be bothered by wat people think or feel.
some of these LIB readers are just so annoying. must you insult the girl and be rude? if you don't have any better ways of saying stuff, then STFU. My dear, your feelings are genuine and understandable but first discuss it with him but in a submissive way so you dont hurt he's feelings.
There's nothing embarrassing about it so far u are proud of him, y get urslf ur own ring seriously it doesnt make sense at all, so far u luv him make do with what he has to offer biko
I don't think you really want the joy of been engage which means you will get married soon if everything is still in order,rather you just want to show off,gist about it,maybe, this your I got money attitude made him not to by a cheap one he can afford cos you won't appreciate it( bcos its not Tiwa's type)....be humble be or its too late,.....Kleo says so
dnt buy your the ring, you would make him feel like he cant afford to meet your needs, you can urge him to buy you a ring he can afford for now till the big buxx starts rolling in. a ring is very important in an engagement. it does have to be expressive, i have seen really lovely rings that are not expensive. the most important thing is what you share.
There's neither good nor bad, thinking make it so. Use a wise woman's brain. You can make him buy it with your money, to pay back when he have, which you won't even take. Leave "what people say" out of your relationship.
There's neither good nor bad, thinking make it so. Use a wise woman's brain. You can make him buy it with your money, to pay back when he have, which you won't even take. Leave "what people say" out of your relationship.
my dear i was engaged but Never wore a ring Till i married. I was not really happy coz my sis was wearing a Gold ring and i was not but at the end i got married and hers never worked out. There is more to marriage than the ring my dear, so if u really love ur man He can always buy u a nice GL ring to wear doesn't cost much.
I beg u in God's name,don't be jealous of Tiwa's ring. If ur man cannot afford a ring,don't buy for urself if u do,his ego will be seriously bruised. U hv money more than him shd not make u to insult him indirectly. Am engaged but i don't wear the ring. For the pple that are talking,forget abt them,they are backbitters, rememba weda u do good or bad pple will talk. If i may ask,if u buy the ring for urself and the guy walks out of the relationship what will u do. Chill abeg,at least the guy don tell u say he want marry u. AVOID JEALOUSY,UR GUY HAS CUT HIS COAT ACCORDING TO HIS SIZE,DON'T MAKE HIM THINK OR DO OTHERWISE. BE WISE GURL
madam sice u kno he'll be disappointed dont do it. bcos u saw tiwas' doesnt mean shit.let anybody go to hell if they dont see you with a ring its ur life girl.
Are you not happy that at least you are engaged? many ladies are single looking for a man to even talkb to them and some people have been in relationships for 6 years and not even a single proposal and some av been engaged with ring for the past 4 years and no marriage in sight. So please accept his heart felt proposal and tell him t get you anything he can afford
Hmmmm! Not swearing for you sha but what if this dude ends up not marrying you after you have finished purchasing engagement ring for your self? That is like buying the wedding dress without having fulfilled the necessary requirements. I am not in the best position to give this advice I know cos I can be very eccentric and eratic but I would counsel that you hold on and allow your man to follow up on his proposal with a ring, informing your people etc. Na im start am so make him kukuma finish am. Men do not usually need much assistance in this area cos there is a thin line between being supportive and being desperate. The tradition is that the engagement ring should be worth about three months of his salary, if he does not have that amount to spend then maybe you should start rethinking the whole ting cos he may not be able to take care of the home's basic needs etc. A man ought to purchase the engagement ring cos it is suppose to signify a serious level of commitment and love. Both parties may contribute to purchase the wedding bands but as for that engagement ring, that is the dude's solo project. It is not about how much but rather how deep!!! Please learn from the mistakes of some of us, if a man wants you by his side for life, he will surely make it happen!!!
Gurl being married and staying married takes a lot than what you want for your self. you need to respect the opinion and feelings of your man if you must succeed. why exercise a little more patience until he his able to afford the ring of your dreams.
if u want to buy your own ring u can it is not bad.....he will understand you if he loves you...... i know how u feel as a woman...GET YOUR RING GIRL!!!!!
No babes,DON'T!!! It hurts me that you said you'll go ahead and buy it regardless of how it'll make him feel...If you L♥√ع this man,you should respect his feelings. Rather than buy an expensive engagement ring for yourself,tell him in his very good mood,and tell him in the most romantic way that you just need the men out there to stop bugging you,tell him to buy you any engagement ring he can afford and that you'll cherish it no matter how cheap it is as long as it comes from him.You sound like a really trendy and extravagant kinda girl,you should slow down a bit especially since your man is not very capable for now.. L♥√ع him,make him trust you to grow with him and with time,y'all will grow in wealth and be just fine.Happiness is paramount my dear,if this man makes you happy,stick to him and don't let a flimsy thing like a flashy engagement ring ruin it for you two...All the best
There is no big deal in buying your ring, although what u can do is to buy a cheap substitute until he can give you the real one...but its about how u feel, some ppl feel uncomfortable having to offer an explanation every time the conversation of the engagement comes up..and you know how nigerians can worry with their questions! its unfair to call the person names just because of how you might have handled your situation.
Ps...I still don't understand why some people come on here just to insult others..she asked for advice,not insults...if she knew better,am sure she wouldn't even send that article in the first place.some things seem a lot easier when your not the one wearing the shoes.Please we can actually give candid advice without abusing the person
How did something that started off just being symbolic now become the crux of the matter?
Baby girl, it's better you do whatever makes you happy. Your actions might eventually lead you to the type of guy that's just right for you and then you can both live a blingtastic life happily ever after!
Please DO NOT buy yourself an engagement ring. It is the man's responsibility to give you a ring plus you will be causing problems in your marriage that has not even started yet. I completely understand where you are coming from, as per telling people you are engaged with no ring to show for it. Even though that is trivial, but it is what it is in this society we live in & with the group of friends you have. He can get you something he can afford now, even if it is not real diamond/ gold. That's what my husband did when we first got engaged. He got me something that was inexpensive, but didn't look cheap since he knew it was important for me to have a ring as a symbol of our commitment to each other.
Congtrats on ur engagement but pls don't compromise ur happiness over a trivial issue. I am not saying that having an engagement is irrelevant but the main thing here is that this guys loves u enough to want to spend the rest of his life with you; moreso, he has even promised to get u one when he can afford it. Please dont be distracted. Rings are only symbolic and this is why u can remove them for eg at night but still hold unto ur man, it also does not guarrantee the success of any relationship. Someone i know was engaged with a finger rosery but today, she is happy with her husband and kids and they have most things money can buy. Again, don't compare urself with anyone else, remember the grass is always greener from a distance but not necessarily the case when u go closer. Also the fact that u earn more than ur man should never make u erode him of his place and position over u, this is the only way you will succeed in that union. I hope it works well for u too.
Why are you stressing yourself for nothing! One, must you necessarily let people know you are engaged? Two, must you necessarily wear a ring if you are engaged? Are you trying to prove a point to anybody? So if you insist on telling people that you are engaged, which I think is given yourself unnecessarily stress, then tell them you just don't wear the ring. Don't stress yourself about little matters, if you really love your man, do what makes him happy unless you can convince him of your intentions but I will still advise you not to stress the unnecessary.
Which one is your dream? The man or the ring? Choose your man because with him u'll eventually get the ring. You av waited this long so don't ruin everything.August is almost here my dear!
On a more serious note. If I am the guy and you buy ring just because I could not afford to buy you one, then I will conclude another guy bought it for you period. Who are you engaged to? the ring or the guy? If you try it, you will regret your action. Have you seing Ringed-engaged intending couples that end up not marrying themselves. I got married Nine years ago and I managed to wear my wedding ring for just two years and since then I dropped it and still love my wife than what you can imagine. I am working with a reasonable salary and a house plus a car of my own. Yet I never sleep with any woman in this world apart from my wife. What will RING add to my marriage? RING is just a borrowed materialistic approach to marriage. Period!
Engagement ring is secondary,the real deal is the marriage my dear,cos I have seen gals get engaged and d rel called off at the end,its not ur portion dou! But I think u should let it be and wear ur two rings after the wedding,then the unbelievers' don't have a choice than to believe that u are not only engaged,but married!
Omashe o! my goodness. I fail to understand the level of Muguism that exists among girls today bcos of I must marry. Well, I will leave LIBers to finish u.
My dear talk with your man and making him understand how dearly you would like a ring and you wont mind supporting to get one. he if minds and says know my dear make u ready o. because marriages where the lady has upper hand financially is usually stress sucked
I CANT BELIEVE THERE ARE PPL HERE SAYING THAT THEY ARE ENGAGED WITHOUT A RING AND EMBARRASSED! THERE A PEOLE CRYING EVERY NIGHT FOR EVEN 1 PERSON TO PROPOSE TO THEM! AND U ARE EMBARASSED. WHEN THE THING NO WORK NOW NA U GO CRY PASS. TUEH!
You are a silly materialistic girl. I am sure the reason why he cant afford to buy you a ring is because you are expecting a diamond studded ring like Tiwa's. How much is a simple gold or silver engagement ring. Even my driver can afford one. Young lady Check yourself before you Wreck yourself.
And evn told ђε̲̣̣̣̥я̩̥̊ tiwa's ring was bought by her fiance?
Abeg G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ siddon fφя̩̥̊ somewhere jooor! Ȋ̊§ Ȋ̝̊†̥ abt T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ ring D̶̲̥̅̊α† matters or T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ L♥√e, T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ care, faithfulness Ãήϑ truthworthiness, T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ Joy Ãήϑ peace ☀̤̣̈̇F mind U̶̲̥̅̊ get Ȋ̝̊̅Π T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ relationship? Which shuld βε̲̣̣̣̥ T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ major tinz U̶̲̥̅̊ shuld LƠ̴̴͡.̮Ơ̴̴̴͡K out for!
Ά̲̣̥ friend of mine Ώђo's Ȋ̝̊̅Π England told ♍ξ somthn ds aftrnoon wen W̶̲̥̅̊E̶̲̥̅̊ were chatting Ϟ bb D̶̲̥̅̊α† Ά̲̣̥ friend of his walked into his apartment ds ⌣♍☺ƦҋĭnǤ crying ℓi̶̲̥̅ke Ά̲̣̥ baby (Ά̲̣̥ full grown man) D̶̲̥̅̊α† Ħ̀ε̅ J̲̥̅̊u̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊t̲̥̅̊ got Ά̲̣̥ shocking news ☀̤̣̈̇F his life, D̶̲̥̅̊α† T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ woman Ħ̀ε̅ married Ŵi̶̲̅τ L♥√e, care and affection woke him up early hours ☀̤̣̈̇F T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ day D̶̲̥̅̊α† τ̅ђε̲̣ir four(4) yrs old son Ȋ̊§ not his!
That S̶̲̥̅̊ђε̲̣̣̣̥'s bn cheating on him evn b4 D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣ got wedding 4 yrs ago! And D̶̲̥̅̊α† T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ person whom she's bn sleeping Ŵi̶̲̅τ b4 Ãήϑ afta τ̅ђε̲̣ir wedding Ȋ̊§ T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ real father ☀̤̣̈̇F 'Supposed Son'!
This Ȋ̊§ woman Ħ̀ε̅ so loves Ãήϑ care for Ŵi̶̲̅τ τ̅ђε̲̣ir 'Supposed Son'.... showering all T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ luxuries Ħ̀ε̅ has Ȋ̝̊̅Π ds world oϞ..... but yet S̶̲̥̅̊ђε̲̣̣̣̥ failed him!
S̲̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴͡, M̶̲̥̅̊Y̶̲̥̅̊ ϑε̲ãr woman crying ova expensive ring; If U̶̲̥̅̊ feel expensive ring Ȋ̊§ ЧЯ priority den G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ ahead Ãήϑ G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ him T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ money to get one fφя̩̥̊ U̶̲̥̅̊!
Buh i Τ̅e̶̲̥̅̊ℓℓ U̶̲̥̅̊ Marriage Ȋ̊§ far more dan luxury, apriciate Ãήϑ accept ЧЯ man T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ way Ħ̀ε̅ Ȋ̊§! Pray D̶̲̥̅̊α† Ħ̀ε̅ shuld neva CHEAT on U̶̲̥̅̊!
TRUSTWORTHINESS, FAITHFULNESS, SINCERITY, TRUE L♥√E Ãήϑ CARE ETC Α̲̅Я̩̥̊Ε̲̣̣̣̥ W̶̲̥̅̊н̣̣̣̝̇̇̇@̤̥̣̈̊̇†̥̣̣̣̇̇̇ U̶̲̥̅̊ shuld care for! And also Gôd̶̲̥̅̊'s Grace to G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ on well Ȋ̝̊̅Π T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ marriage journey!
Ά̲̣̥ word Ȋ̊§ enof fφя̩̥̊ anyone Ώђo want to βε̲̣̣̣̥ WISE! I rest my finger!
From what you have written, I can predict that you are going to have problems if you go through with this marriage. It is apparent that you do not respect your fiance enough to be a proper African wife. You seem to place greater premium on the superficial than what really matters in a successful marriage.
Unfortunately, it seems that you are not ready for married life because if you were, you would not even be asking this question. Buy your own ring, what not go ahead and marry yourself. Mscheeeewwww! Remain in your father's house until you are ready to submit to and respect your man.
To be frank I feel you're being quite materialistic, why do you need what other's say to move forward with the one you love. As a man if that was done to me or I was told what you're considering telling him, I'ld be more worried about who I'm getting married to than the damn ring. Don't understand why a trivial thing such as a ring would cause you to hurt the feelings of someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with. And even worse, making that "Tiwa Savage" comment. If you like let him resent you over "follow follow"..... You'll see how long that marriage lasts.
is it the ring or that he gets married to u after all?.. so many girls have been wearing the best rings for years now and no wedding..some ladies don't even want ring again but let the man propose first and here you are letting peer pressure and some people's craziness get the best of your life..darn the people asking you about ring..truth is, we have put so much value on things that don't matter that we neglect the things that really do, like you not thinking of how upset your boo will be and how much insulting that will be for him..you already earn more than him, why rub it in his face and get yourself a ring.did you propose to yourself..he said August, please leave it at that!!! patience and perseverance is a virtue every one should have and this is the test for you. do you know what things might come his way before august?...and then he will wow you with a ring like no other? a ring far much better than that you want to purchase?.
kindly save or invest that money for the future and wait, cut off all those people in your life putting such value on ring, you don't need 'em, please. start thinking of how to make yourself better and make your marriage work..
what is wrong with the world??!! that's why there are cases of divorces everywhere, people plan weddings and not the years after those few hours.. a word is enough for the wise, if u have eyes, read well.. Chukwu gozie gi!
it depends on the rship u hv with your man...in my own case, he did traditional dowry and afterwards when i talked about ring, he told me to get one for myself which i did and he paid back the money...ladies should know that guys have so many things they are thinking about and just a little push and action on your part does the magic! meanwhile it is wise to get a cheaper engagement ring and keep d huge sum for your wedding bands that u will soon be doning! justsaying oooo!
I wish I could talk to your fiance and advice him to run. You are obviously not ready for married life and will not submit to or respect him as you should.
Instead of u to shutup of u dnt knw wat to say.let mature ppl speak. Talk to ur fiancee about it and see his reaction, atleast it is for his own gud. B4 anoda man wil buy u diamond ring
Instead of u to shutup of u dnt knw wat to say.let mature ppl speak. Talk to ur fiancee about it and see his reaction, atleast it is for his own gud. B4 anoda man wil buy u diamond ring
It's okay to feel the way you feel. No one should judge that. With regards the ring, communication is key and so is contentment. Talk about it; let him buy you the one he can afford at the moment. He can always change it.
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The ring you buy for yourself wont be as special as the ring he buys for you. Be patient it will all work out. True love is from the heart and soul not on a diamond.
Babe, it's not all about an engagement ring. Whether you have an engagement ring or not, people would still talk. Nne, pls be patient. With patience, you won't hurt his ego & would earn his respect.
look at you people shior ..it doesn't matter even after my intro i had no ring few months later i got married and now i am even tired of wearing my diamonds 'cos im not used to wearing rings...my friend has been wearing her engagement ring since 2010 so what's d point ?is your love based on ring?? duh ... Kolomental
Baby,it is not the value of the ring that matters but the spirit behind it.tell him you will appreciate even a cheap ring.please accept whatever he can afford .i wish you two happy married life. Andy
point of correction.she did not say the guy could not afford any ring at all but that the guy could not afford the one she would appreciate.its like she has a high taste.her engagement ring must not be like tiwa's own. andy.
I just wonder why ladies fill their heads with things that will only make them unhappy? If you go into this marriage with this kind of mind set, you will be very unhappy. It is the love you share that matters.
Tell him all the men in your office dey toast you becos them no beleive say you don marry....na speed e go use go buy the Ring, then if that one no work, then just chill there is more to matrimony than the bling..
First and foremost, he proposed to u without a ring cos he cnt afford the type of ring "u would appreciate" this calls for review cos its obvious u av put urself way above him and he already has the inferiority complex burning within though he's still man enuf to proceed. Secondly u have made it clear without remorse that ur income supersedes his "hmm, woman get down from that unicorn ur riding if u truly love that man and u truly mean him we'll". Thirdly since u saw tiwas ring is totally rash, u need to fix ur actions, inaction and reaction to the tag along way of life I u wana end up with that man. Shikena, woman there are a million ways to go about that not hurting him without the slightest knowledge from u.. U both can go shopping for what u both want to have u wear and not what u want. Life cnt always be about u alone now neither in marriage.........
Girlll... if u love him n respect him.. don't buy no ring.. wait for him to buy u the ring!!.. cos u buying a ring will hurt his ego, its the man's job to provide the ring... jst wait!!! it will be worth it when u finally get the ring then u can show it off..
Didn't Alamesiegha's daughter change her engagement ring while her father was governor.She changed it to a much more expensive one she bought...wonder how that marriage's doing these days??hmmmm
Hun, u may not be the one for him. If a man loves a woman he's coming correct. The ring symbolize he's ready to invest in u and a future together. If u are the one the guy would have worked 3 jobs or do whatever it takes for that special one. Don't play with ur life. Strongly reconsider his offer. If he'd embarrass u by half stepping to force excuses out of u. Ask what's next? Ur father and other men will tell u this is not appropriate. Yes men can act stupid but when they're in to u even a blind man can see it
I will advice you not to buy ur ring cos ur relationship shouldn't be built on material things but true love.i can't afford a ring for my girl nw its all abt love and trust so if ur man does not give u a ring nw and he told u he can't afford it then u should be thankful you have a honest dude. To all d ladies out there be true to ur man before some other girls get hold of him.if u dnt value your man jus remember they are 1million girls out der praying to find someone like him.please don't ruin ur relationship,be patient and be supportive.put God first before you do anything and don't listen to negative comments.
LINDA,I HAVE A FEELING THIS IS YOU.MY DEAR,DON'T START YOUR MARRIAGE LIKE THIS ,YOU WILL GET A LOT OF PAIN AND MISERY IF YOU DO.IF YOU ARE THE PRESIDENT OR A SUCCESSFUL CAREER WOMAN LIKE I AM,THEN YOU MUST REALISE THAT WHEN YOU MARRY A MAN,YOU ARE SIGNING UP TO BE HIS WOMAN ( SERIOUS EHN).IF HE FEEL AT ANY TIME THAT YOU ARE NOT HIS WOMAN,HE WILL AUTOMATICALLY FIGHT YOU. IT IS NOT ABOUT THE RING,BUT A TERRIBLE MINDSET ( AND WE WONDER WHY THE RATE OF DIVORCE IS HIGH).MY DEAR,RENEW YOUR MIND QUICK QUICK,OTHERWISE YOU WAN GET PLENTY ENGAGEMENT RINGS (GOLD,DIAMOND,SILVER,BRASS,WOOD AND MAYBE NONE AT ALL)IN YOUR LIFE TIME.
ur fiance already told u he will buy it b4 the wedding what else do u want na the same life u and Tiwa Savage come? pls girl be patient and don't try to fix what is not broken
you dont ve to displease your man because you want to please yourself and people around. Respect is more important than the ring. You know He d be embarrassed then forget it
What happened to maiden modesty. Pls dont lower the standard. Maybe he shouldn't have proposed in the first until he can afford the ring of his choice. In this matter the woman should allow the man to do his thing without undue pressure as she could end losing the relationship.
This the reason why a lot of ladies will NEVER find a man to marry them. They put their expectation in the ceiling.The lack modesty. All men cant be rich.
This is the reason why some men go out of their way to make money just to please the woman in their life. Women will always tell you they want a honest man but when they find one, what do they do with him? Your man is very honest and I don't think you deserve him. Go and look for a rich man that can afford to buy you the kind of ring you want and end up messing up your life, that is what you deserve.
@Anonymous 2:36 PM. 'fallacy of ambiguity'? Really? May be you are still waiting for a ring, and may you wait for eternity. Learn to spell correctly. It is 'truly' not 'truely'. No need for you to thank me.
Well if the man knows he wasnt ready he shouldnt hav prosposed..the way we ladies think is diffrent and we get excited over lil things..more so is ur fiance a bricklayer..cos even bricklayers can afford d cheapest ring in d world..he shouldnt try to impress u..no matter the cost of d ring..he should put a ring on ur finger..aint no gold or diamond can buy ur love.when he has money i pray..he can buy u the most expensiv ring..
@Anon 12:51 PM. Read, read, and read, then understand. She said the guy can not afford the kind of ring she will appreciate. Is that okay with you?. Make the man go thief to satisfy her, all because of engagement ring?
Mmmh not sure u love your man or you are just joking. I think what you are doing here is mere showmanship (or in this case showwomanship). Very soon you will soon ask libers when you need to sleep with your man cos you make more money than him....Watch it girl!
Mmmh not sure u love your man or you are just joking. I think what you are doing here is mere showmanship (or in this case showwomanship). Very soon you will soon ask libers when you need to sleep with your man cos you make more money than him....Watch it girl!
Please you've got no reason to call her a mumu. A lot of people on here need to learn to be civil. And to the lady with the question, I know how you feel but I don't think you should. He's aware that you earn more than he does and might be self conscious already even if he doesn't show it. Buying the ring to you isn't a big deal, its just what you want. But to him it'll be a huge blow, like you're saying he isn't good enough. Even if he acts like its ok, it isn't and you don't want those underlying issues affecting your marriage.
D ring thing na absolute rubbish I swear...I was happy wiv my partner for 4yrs and was engaged without a ring l8r we did traditional introduction...Afta d introduction I kept on begging him 2 buy me a ring until he gt me 1 customized ring written *I love u* on d ring...Afta I gt d ring we started avn issues and difficult tym 4 lyk a year b4 we decided 2 call it quit..Now I'm still single and he is 2 and we don't eva talk again...Had it been I didn't force him 2 buy a ring who knws whr our relationship wud av lead 2...God knws best but 2 me ring is not important in d Engagement thing..ur Heart & happiness matters a lot! Don't go 4 wat ppl say!
I'd rather you don't, if you actually love him why should you be embarased? Wait for Gods time and don’t rush into buying a ring you may not need eventually.
I love u so much for sayin this,,,,,if d relationship crashes,ppl won't ask d ring,dey wud ask u....so pls hold unto d main thing,d heart, d ring can come later
Are you marrying a ring or your fiancee? u see a Tiwa Savage ring and you want it. Next you'll see smthin else another girl has and want too at every cost.
Reading things lyk this annoys me.Some ppl are not just okay with not having problems.Ring or no ring is a small thing when talking of marriage.Don't even discuss it with him coz he would feel hurt,its natural.And pls,dnt ever show it in any way that u earn more than him.
My dear,i can't start telling you stories but what i'll let you know is, don't disturb anyone with d word you're engaged,until he finally pays the dowry. That is what you should be interested in,not a mere engagement ring. You can buy as many as you want as soon as dowry bridge is crossed.. My story hurts so don't want same for you... Good luck dear
It is only in ur heart that u love someone not the ring u wear. Older generation don' wear rings and they stay longer in relationships than us that believe so much in it. Bullos
Don't buy the ring if you do respect your husband to be. You can find a way to give him the money towards your wedding, he will buy it himself or even go to a shop with you to choose. You can buy an thing or everything for your wedding but NEVER TRY TO BUY YOUR RINGS. That is the symbol of authority of the man and his commitment to you. And after all you will still buy another ring for your engagement so for now ask your fine if you can wear a fashion ring on your middle finger. And please ignore the questions or make funny of it when asked because I was in the same position us you are but now I do have my rings on after our wedding and there are no questions asked just envy.
Don't buy the ring if you do respect your husband to be. You can find a way to give him the money towards your wedding, he will buy it himself or even go to a shop with you to choose. You can buy an thing or everything for your wedding but NEVER TRY TO BUY YOUR RINGS. That is the symbol of authority of the man and his commitment to you. And after all you will still buy another ring for your engagement so for now ask your fine if you can wear a fashion ring on your middle finger. And please ignore the questions or make funny of it when asked because I was in the same position us you are but now I do have my rings on after our wedding and there are no questions asked just envy.
There are no rules wriiten in stone. If this is the guy you want to be with for life, but he cant afford the ring now, I suggest you buy your ring but talk to him about it first! Perhaps set up a payment plan with him so that you can at least go half with you on the ring! I'm in a similar boat. I make more money than my fiance. He got me a ring a few years ago but it was too small for me to wear now as I am more successful at this point (and yes I have my pride). I am going to buy myself a new ring but still wear his ring -perhaps make it into a necklace! We talked about it and he is okay as he understands and he just wants to get married already! :) Every one has their own situation. People should not judge!
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 347 of 347Was engaged without a ring but now married with triple rings from my hubby. The thing is I did nt even notice I was ringless when I was engaged cos I am nt the loud mouth type going arnd announcing I am engaged.When you are engaged, nt everyone needs to know afterall you won't be the first nor the last. The news is special for just fam nd close friends.The world can know when the day is like wks away, girl don't jinx ur wedding o
My dear girl...first of all,you are not engaged..word of mouth statement without a ring from your bobo is a fallacy of ambiguity. if this a guy u want to be married to, you are truely engaged wen he puts the ring on your finger, even if it is a 10k engagement ring. he can always buy you a substitute wen he has enough money.
Pls o, dont even try it. An engagement ring is a symbol of commitment from your guy. If u buy it urself the essence would be lost. Duh this is jst february 8th, he might give you one on the 14th. Chillax joor
Pls dont
A ring is not all dat matters. Its how he feels bout you. Allow him buy u a ring when he can even if its for d wedding. You'd be happier that way, trust me. Cheers
first of all it is bad enuf dat u feel u have to prove a point to people, who cares if u have a ring or not. even if u had a ring people would still make both positive and negative comments about it.
secondly, i feel a guy that cannot afford to buy u a ring no matter how small does not have the facilities to support a wife just yet, him askin u might have been brought about by pressure from ur end. most of our folks started off deir married life wif no proposal ring at all or a barely dere ring but as time went on changed it up to something beta.
in conclusion, if u feel u have to wear a ring tell ur fiancee and let him get you one he can afford and den later on u change it to ur 'dream ring'but in the end we do not need a ring to validate how we feel about someone
first of all it is bad enuf dat u feel u have to prove a point to people, who cares if u have a ring or not. even if u had a ring people would still make both positive and negative comments about it.
secondly, i feel a guy that cannot afford to buy u a ring no matter how small does not have the facilities to support a wife just yet, him askin u might have been brought about by pressure from ur end. most of our folks started off deir married life wif no proposal ring at all or a barely dere ring but as time went on changed it up to something beta.
in conclusion, if u feel u have to wear a ring tell ur fiancee and let him get you one he can afford and den later on u change it to ur 'dream ring'but in the end we do not need a ring to validate how we feel about someone
Let him buy u wateva ring he can afford...
Since its obvious u need a ring on dat finger 4 ppl 2 c!!
U can always change the ring afterwards wen he is ready!!
Problem solved!!
Billie jean
Enuf with some of d insults on dis lady, its a crisis for her. My dear the best thing is to wait, men have this deep need to be seen as providers, if you start meeting ur needs because you feel u have the money , it would create more trouble for you when you get married, his ability to say he can provide for you will be diminished. Just be patient, he will remember you for sticking by him in the hard times and not throwing your money in his face, just imagine the embarassment he would feel when he finds out. If you love him you go wait for him.wait for him , plan with him.
Anon 12:36pm why are u taking it personal? All u have to do is look for a ring u like, tell him about it, and let him pay a little of d money and u pay d rest, as long as he still has his money in d ring. Notin to be shy about. One person starts sometin. Its ur life, live it the way u want it. If he loves u, he wont get mad.
aBEGI DO WHAT WILL MAKE YOUR MAN LOVE YOU MORE IF its N5 ring he can afford collect it with all pleasure your dream should be to lead a happy life forever with him dont build on materials. Wetin be ring we den fit komot throw at your face.
DON'T TRY IT....
let him be a man and buy u the ring...if he didn't feel man enough to marry u he wouldn't propose.
Be patient yes its annoying but he will get it and he might get u something much better than what u plan on buying.....
Remember all fingers no dey equal so no dey look others.....
Lol, madam use ur head.
No! do not ..i repeat..do not buy ur own engagement ring...let ur fiancee buy what he can afford. its not even d wedding ring.at the end of the day what matters is if u r happy! marriage is not ring and marriage is not d wedding day. Tiwa that ur envying do u know what she n her fiancee may be facing inside closed doors? do not be jealous of anyone else.havent u heard teebillz or whatever has a wife n kids in yankee? what wld u rather choose? a gorgeous ring like tiwa with all d wahala rship or a happy marriage? 20 years down d line in a happy marriage u wont even rem ur fiancee cldnt buy d ring u wntd...it wld be a romantic story to ur kids how their dad cldnt afford it then but u guys pulled thru.To hell with what people think.
You are obviously not ready to be married!!!If ordinary ring is such an issue..What happens when important decisions need to be made?"U won't care how he feels to make people(not even so much as u) happy"?
Y are u announcing to everyone you are engaged anyway?this is feb,by the time u start sharing aso ebi & wedding invite..they won't sha think you plan to marry yourself.I'm so pissed
You go girl!!!! buy yourself a ring, and get yourself kicked outta the door!
If you buy the ring, before long he will say the house he feels you deserve is...then, you will pay the rent. Then your children's school fees will follow...you will pay. If he won't buy you what he can afford, don't buy anyone not even a cheap costume. You can however insist gently that he can buy you what he can afford, if not do without it and choose to be happy even without the ring. BTW, a man that wants to propose would have known for a while, he should spare some cash nah! I hope this is not the beginning of cashless daddy...Lolz!!!
Pls let him buy any 1 he can afford rit nw.wear it like dat wit pride cuz u make d ring luk gud nd nt d ring makin u luk gud.besides he will be very happy dat u appreciate d little he has.
By the way,I am very married&i only wear my ring to church,my kids school,weddings...places go once a while,I don't wear it to work/daily...No biggie.I&the husband know we are married&that's the most important....
Zainab musa the ring is just a material thing.
You said my mind. Don't present ur self 2 b more buoyant dan him, if nt u ll b making him feel intimidated hmmm
You are stupid.........why can't you marry Tiwa hubby
it is way more than the ring. I was engaged and married without a ring for two years.. close friends knew I was.. but other ppl did not.. my fiance/hubby was not ready then. it was frustrating sometimes.. cos i personally love rings.. but I had to chill till her was ready. and When he was ready.. i knew exactly why he waited that long.. I have a big rock on my finger.
When ppl found out we were not only engaged but married they asked why there was no ring.. I just said that there were way more important things we had to worry about than focus on a ring.. which was simply the truth..
He was always there and that was all that mattered... ppl who look down at you cos you dnt have a ring are just a bunch of materialistic ppl.
There is more to life than gold and diamonds.
I know how you feel.. but in the end it is all about your perspective on the situation:)
Pls don't buy. So far u are engaged, that should be enough, ring or no ring. U can buy the ring of your ring after ur marriage. Don't be bothered by wat people think or feel.
some of these LIB readers are just so annoying. must you insult the girl and be rude? if you don't have any better ways of saying stuff, then STFU. My dear, your feelings are genuine and understandable but first discuss it with him but in a submissive way so you dont hurt he's feelings.
There's nothing embarrassing about it so far u are proud of him, y get urslf ur own ring seriously it doesnt make sense at all, so far u luv him make do with what he has to offer biko
smh, na wa for you sha.
I don't think you really want the joy of been engage which means you will get married soon if everything is still in order,rather you just want to show off,gist about it,maybe, this your I got money attitude made him not to by a cheap one he can afford cos you won't appreciate it( bcos its not Tiwa's type)....be humble be or its too late,.....Kleo says so
dnt buy your the ring, you would make him feel like he cant afford to meet your needs, you can urge him to buy you a ring he can afford for now till the big buxx starts rolling in. a ring is very important in an engagement. it does have to be expressive, i have seen really lovely rings that are not expensive. the most important thing is what you share.
There's neither good nor bad, thinking make it so. Use a wise woman's brain. You can make him buy it with your money, to pay back when he have, which you won't even take. Leave "what people say" out of your relationship.
There's neither good nor bad, thinking make it so. Use a wise woman's brain. You can make him buy it with your money, to pay back when he have, which you won't even take. Leave "what people say" out of your relationship.
Michael says...
This girl is not serious. Even if your man gets you a ring made of sellotape it should be worth millions in your eyes.
my dear i was engaged but Never wore a ring Till i married. I was not really happy coz my sis was wearing a Gold ring and i was not but at the end i got married and hers never worked out. There is more to marriage than the ring my dear, so if u really love ur man He can always buy u a nice GL ring to wear doesn't cost much.
I beg u in God's name,don't be jealous of Tiwa's ring. If ur man cannot afford a ring,don't buy for urself if u do,his ego will be seriously bruised. U hv money more than him shd not make u to insult him indirectly. Am engaged but i don't wear the ring. For the pple that are talking,forget abt them,they are backbitters, rememba weda u do good or bad pple will talk. If i may ask,if u buy the ring for urself and the guy walks out of the relationship what will u do. Chill abeg,at least the guy don tell u say he want marry u. AVOID JEALOUSY,UR GUY HAS CUT HIS COAT ACCORDING TO HIS SIZE,DON'T MAKE HIM THINK OR DO OTHERWISE. BE WISE GURL
Stay with ur man, don't do things bcuz of people. u need 2 be more humble knowing that u have money more than ur husband
My dear,don't even try it...cos u wuld end up not avn a ring and a fiance...den u wuld say had I knwn.by the way ur not tiwa nor ur fiance tee billz.
SMH, pls cherish wat u have and nt running after one stupid ring. If he cant buy it for u, accept dat. Love is wat matter most
madam sice u kno he'll be disappointed dont do it. bcos u saw tiwas' doesnt mean shit.let anybody go to hell if they dont see you with a ring its ur life girl.
Are you not happy that at least you are engaged? many ladies are single looking for a man to even talkb to them and some people have been in relationships for 6 years and not even a single proposal and some av been engaged with ring for the past 4 years and no marriage in sight. So please accept his heart felt proposal and tell him t get you anything he can afford
i dont get why he would propose to u if he cant afford a ring, he should have waited
Hmmmm! Not swearing for you sha but what if this dude ends up not marrying you after you have finished purchasing engagement ring for your self? That is like buying the wedding dress without having fulfilled the necessary requirements. I am not in the best position to give this advice I know cos I can be very eccentric and eratic but I would counsel that you hold on and allow your man to follow up on his proposal with a ring, informing your people etc. Na im start am so make him kukuma finish am. Men do not usually need much assistance in this area cos there is a thin line between being supportive and being desperate. The tradition is that the engagement ring should be worth about three months of his salary, if he does not have that amount to spend then maybe you should start rethinking the whole ting cos he may not be able to take care of the home's basic needs etc. A man ought to purchase the engagement ring cos it is suppose to signify a serious level of commitment and love. Both parties may contribute to purchase the wedding bands but as for that engagement ring, that is the dude's solo project. It is not about how much but rather how deep!!! Please learn from the mistakes of some of us, if a man wants you by his side for life, he will surely make it happen!!!
Gurl being married and staying married takes a lot than what you want for your self. you need to respect the opinion and feelings of your man if you must succeed.
why exercise a little more patience until he his able to afford the ring of your dreams.
if u want to buy your own ring u can it is not bad.....he will understand you if he loves you...... i know how u feel as a woman...GET YOUR RING GIRL!!!!!
No babes,DON'T!!! It hurts me that you said you'll go ahead and buy it regardless of how it'll make him feel...If you L♥√ع this man,you should respect his feelings. Rather than buy an expensive engagement ring for yourself,tell him in his very good mood,and tell him in the most romantic way that you just need the men out there to stop bugging you,tell him to buy you any engagement ring he can afford and that you'll cherish it no matter how cheap it is as long as it comes from him.You sound like a really trendy and extravagant kinda girl,you should slow down a bit especially since your man is not very capable for now.. L♥√ع him,make him trust you to grow with him and with time,y'all will grow in wealth and be just fine.Happiness is paramount my dear,if this man makes you happy,stick to him and don't let a flimsy thing like a flashy engagement ring ruin it for you two...All the best
Pretty Girl
There is no big deal in buying your ring, although what u can do is to buy a cheap substitute until he can give you the real one...but its about how u feel, some ppl feel uncomfortable having to offer an explanation every time the conversation of the engagement comes up..and you know how nigerians can worry with their questions! its unfair to call the person names just because of how you might have handled your situation.
On Point...#Ring doesn't guarantee happiness
ring or no ring, does it matter or take d place of love? stop gettin paranoid oooo...........
Ps...I still don't understand why some people come on here just to insult others..she asked for advice,not insults...if she knew better,am sure she wouldn't even send that article in the first place.some things seem a lot easier when your not the one wearing the shoes.Please we can actually give candid advice without abusing the person
Pretty Girl
How did something that started off just being symbolic now become the crux of the matter?
Baby girl, it's better you do whatever makes you happy. Your actions might eventually lead you to the type of guy that's just right for you and then you can both live a blingtastic life happily ever after!
Is this Toke Makinwa?
Please DO NOT buy yourself an engagement ring. It is the man's responsibility to give you a ring plus you will be causing problems in your marriage that has not even started yet. I completely understand where you are coming from, as per telling people you are engaged with no ring to show for it. Even though that is trivial, but it is what it is in this society we live in & with the group of friends you have. He can get you something he can afford now, even if it is not real diamond/ gold. That's what my husband did when we first got engaged. He got me something that was inexpensive, but didn't look cheap since he knew it was important for me to have a ring as a symbol of our commitment to each other.
Congtrats on ur engagement but pls don't compromise ur happiness over a trivial issue. I am not saying that having an engagement is irrelevant but the main thing here is that this guys loves u enough to want to spend the rest of his life with you; moreso, he has even promised to get u one when he can afford it. Please dont be distracted. Rings are only symbolic and this is why u can remove them for eg at night but still hold unto ur man, it also does not guarrantee the success of any relationship. Someone i know was engaged with a finger rosery but today, she is happy with her husband and kids and they have most things money can buy.
Again, don't compare urself with anyone else, remember the grass is always greener from a distance but not necessarily the case when u go closer. Also the fact that u earn more than ur man should never make u erode him of his place and position over u, this is the only way you will succeed in that union.
I hope it works well for u too.
Why are you stressing yourself for nothing! One, must you necessarily let people know you are engaged? Two, must you necessarily wear a ring if you are engaged? Are you trying to prove a point to anybody? So if you insist on telling people that you are engaged, which I think is given yourself unnecessarily stress, then tell them you just don't wear the ring. Don't stress yourself about little matters, if you really love your man, do what makes him happy unless you can convince him of your intentions but I will still advise you not to stress the unnecessary.
Which one is your dream? The man or the ring? Choose your man because with him u'll eventually get the ring. You av waited this long so don't ruin everything.August is almost here my dear!
On a more serious note. If I am the guy and you buy ring just because I could not afford to buy you one, then I will conclude another guy bought it for you period. Who are you engaged to? the ring or the guy? If you try it, you will regret your action. Have you seing Ringed-engaged intending couples that end up not marrying themselves. I got married Nine years ago and I managed to wear my wedding ring for just two years and since then I dropped it and still love my wife than what you can imagine. I am working with a reasonable salary and a house plus a car of my own. Yet I never sleep with any woman in this world apart from my wife. What will RING add to my marriage? RING is just a borrowed materialistic approach to marriage. Period!
Engagement ring is secondary,the real deal is the marriage my dear,cos I have seen gals get engaged and d rel called off at the end,its not ur portion dou!
But I think u should let it be and wear ur two rings after the wedding,then the unbelievers' don't have a choice than to believe that u are not only engaged,but married!
Omashe o! my goodness. I fail to understand the level of Muguism that exists among girls today bcos of I must marry. Well, I will leave LIBers to finish u.
Like seriously? Why would u tell ppl u are engaged? YOU ARE NOT ENGAGED BUHAHAHA
Materialism is making u expect a 'better' ring, poor boy isnt up to it and now u want to buy urself a ring, so this is what girls do these days?
My dear talk with your man and making him understand how dearly you would like a ring and you wont mind supporting to get one. he if minds and says know my dear make u ready o. because marriages where the lady has upper hand financially is usually stress sucked
let him buy it for you, no matter the quality.
I CANT BELIEVE THERE ARE PPL HERE SAYING THAT THEY ARE ENGAGED WITHOUT A RING AND EMBARRASSED! THERE A PEOLE CRYING EVERY NIGHT FOR EVEN 1 PERSON TO PROPOSE TO THEM! AND U ARE EMBARASSED. WHEN THE THING NO WORK NOW NA U GO CRY PASS. TUEH!
ur relationship is nobody's business, ring or no ring u are engaged and abt to be married dnt live for people. live 4 urself
You are a silly materialistic girl. I am sure the reason why he cant afford to buy you a ring is because you are expecting a diamond studded ring like Tiwa's. How much is a simple gold or silver engagement ring. Even my driver can afford one. Young lady Check yourself before you Wreck yourself.
GrimReaper
And evn told ђε̲̣̣̣̥я̩̥̊ tiwa's ring was bought by her fiance?
Abeg G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ siddon fφя̩̥̊ somewhere jooor! Ȋ̊§ Ȋ̝̊†̥ abt T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ ring D̶̲̥̅̊α† matters or T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ L♥√e, T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ care, faithfulness Ãήϑ truthworthiness, T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ Joy Ãήϑ peace ☀̤̣̈̇F mind U̶̲̥̅̊ get Ȋ̝̊̅Π T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ relationship? Which shuld βε̲̣̣̣̥ T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ major tinz U̶̲̥̅̊ shuld LƠ̴̴͡.̮Ơ̴̴̴͡K out for!
Ά̲̣̥ friend of mine Ώђo's Ȋ̝̊̅Π England told ♍ξ somthn ds aftrnoon wen W̶̲̥̅̊E̶̲̥̅̊ were chatting Ϟ bb D̶̲̥̅̊α† Ά̲̣̥ friend of his walked into his apartment ds ⌣♍☺ƦҋĭnǤ crying ℓi̶̲̥̅ke Ά̲̣̥ baby (Ά̲̣̥ full grown man) D̶̲̥̅̊α† Ħ̀ε̅ J̲̥̅̊u̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊t̲̥̅̊ got Ά̲̣̥ shocking news ☀̤̣̈̇F his life, D̶̲̥̅̊α† T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ woman Ħ̀ε̅ married Ŵi̶̲̅τ L♥√e, care and affection woke him up early hours ☀̤̣̈̇F T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ day D̶̲̥̅̊α† τ̅ђε̲̣ir four(4) yrs old son Ȋ̊§ not his!
That S̶̲̥̅̊ђε̲̣̣̣̥'s bn cheating on him evn b4 D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣ got wedding 4 yrs ago! And D̶̲̥̅̊α† T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ person whom she's bn sleeping Ŵi̶̲̅τ b4 Ãήϑ afta τ̅ђε̲̣ir wedding Ȋ̊§ T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ real father ☀̤̣̈̇F 'Supposed Son'!
This Ȋ̊§ woman Ħ̀ε̅ so loves Ãήϑ care for Ŵi̶̲̅τ τ̅ђε̲̣ir 'Supposed Son'.... showering all T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ luxuries Ħ̀ε̅ has Ȋ̝̊̅Π ds world oϞ..... but yet S̶̲̥̅̊ђε̲̣̣̣̥ failed him!
S̲̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴͡, M̶̲̥̅̊Y̶̲̥̅̊ ϑε̲ãr woman crying ova expensive ring; If U̶̲̥̅̊ feel expensive ring Ȋ̊§ ЧЯ priority den G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ ahead Ãήϑ G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ him T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ money to get one fφя̩̥̊ U̶̲̥̅̊!
Buh i Τ̅e̶̲̥̅̊ℓℓ U̶̲̥̅̊ Marriage Ȋ̊§ far more dan luxury, apriciate Ãήϑ accept ЧЯ man T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ way Ħ̀ε̅ Ȋ̊§! Pray D̶̲̥̅̊α† Ħ̀ε̅ shuld neva CHEAT on U̶̲̥̅̊!
TRUSTWORTHINESS, FAITHFULNESS, SINCERITY, TRUE L♥√E Ãήϑ CARE ETC Α̲̅Я̩̥̊Ε̲̣̣̣̥ W̶̲̥̅̊н̣̣̣̝̇̇̇@̤̥̣̈̊̇†̥̣̣̣̇̇̇ U̶̲̥̅̊ shuld care for! And also Gôd̶̲̥̅̊'s Grace to G̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ on well Ȋ̝̊̅Π T̶̲̥̅ђe̶̲̥̅̊ marriage journey!
Ά̲̣̥ word Ȋ̊§ enof fφя̩̥̊ anyone Ώђo want to βε̲̣̣̣̥ WISE! I rest my finger!
From what you have written, I can predict that you are going to have problems if you go through with this marriage. It is apparent that you do not respect your fiance enough to be a proper African wife. You seem to place greater premium on the superficial than what really matters in a successful marriage.
So wetin he take engage u?mouth?u are not engaged o.
Unfortunately, it seems that you are not ready for married life because if you were, you would not even be asking this question. Buy your own ring, what not go ahead and marry yourself. Mscheeeewwww! Remain in your father's house until you are ready to submit to and respect your man.
Lmao@sellotape.LIBERS wnt kill me
To be frank I feel you're being quite materialistic, why do you need what other's say to move forward with the one you love. As a man if that was done to me or I was told what you're considering telling him, I'ld be more worried about who I'm getting married to than the damn ring. Don't understand why a trivial thing such as a ring would cause you to hurt the feelings of someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with. And even worse, making that "Tiwa Savage" comment. If you like let him resent you over "follow follow"..... You'll see how long that marriage lasts.
is it the ring or that he gets married to u after all?.. so many girls have been wearing the best rings for years now and no wedding..some ladies don't even want ring again but let the man propose first and here you are letting peer pressure and some people's craziness get the best of your life..darn the people asking you about ring..truth is, we have put so much value on things that don't matter that we neglect the things that really do, like you not thinking of how upset your boo will be and how much insulting that will be for him..you already earn more than him, why rub it in his face and get yourself a ring.did you propose to yourself..he said August, please leave it at that!!! patience and perseverance is a virtue every one should have and this is the test for you. do you know what things might come his way before august?...and then he will wow you with a ring like no other? a ring far much better than that you want to purchase?.
kindly save or invest that money for the future and wait, cut off all those people in your life putting such value on ring, you don't need 'em, please.
start thinking of how to make yourself better and make your marriage work..
what is wrong with the world??!! that's why there are cases of divorces everywhere, people plan weddings and not the years after those few hours..
a word is enough for the wise, if u have eyes, read well..
Chukwu gozie gi!
~blogger in the making~
Loooool
it depends on the rship u hv with your man...in my own case, he did traditional dowry and afterwards when i talked about ring, he told me to get one for myself which i did and he paid back the money...ladies should know that guys have so many things they are thinking about and just a little push and action on your part does the magic! meanwhile it is wise to get a cheaper engagement ring and keep d huge sum for your wedding bands that u will soon be doning! justsaying oooo!
I wish I could talk to your fiance and advice him to run. You are obviously not ready for married life and will not submit to or respect him as you should.
Instead of u to shutup of u dnt knw wat to say.let mature ppl speak. Talk to ur fiancee about it and see his reaction, atleast it is for his own gud. B4 anoda man wil buy u diamond ring
Instead of u to shutup of u dnt knw wat to say.let mature ppl speak. Talk to ur fiancee about it and see his reaction, atleast it is for his own gud. B4 anoda man wil buy u diamond ring
It's okay to feel the way you feel. No one should judge that. With regards the ring, communication is key and so is contentment. Talk about it; let him buy you the one he can afford at the moment. He can always change it.
Dt guy is so funny,hw wil u propose witout a ring, is he dt broke. Dt guy is a chewin gum bf
Dt guy is so funny,hw wil u propose witout a ring, is he dt broke. Dt guy is a chewin gum bf
My dear u can use naira it's nt by force to use dollars ..it's a $20 ring not an $20 ring
i don't think that's right. pls read this writeup SWEET MOMMA and comment on my blog esamade.blogspot.com. am new but will appreciate ur taking a peek and commenting. cheers. pls post this lindy.
This girl self, chill for ur boyfriend ni. Why do u wanna show off ni? Hold on let the guy be d man in d rlnship
The ring you buy for yourself wont be as special as the ring he buys for you. Be patient it will all work out. True love is from the heart and soul not on a diamond.
Babe, it's not all about an engagement ring. Whether you have an engagement ring or not, people would still talk. Nne, pls be patient. With patience, you won't hurt his ego & would earn his respect.
~BONARIO'S WIFEY~ says so via BBZ10
look at you people shior ..it doesn't matter even after my intro i had no ring few months later i got married and now i am even tired of wearing my diamonds 'cos im not used to wearing rings...my friend has been wearing her engagement ring since 2010 so what's d point ?is your love based on ring?? duh ... Kolomental
Is like u engage urself and not the guy, or u force him at a gun point to engage u
If it's true love, you won't see yourself as more financially stable than your man and he would buy you what he can afford despite your own taste.
you want to show off abi ???marriage is much more than the wedding..i hope you won't find out the hard way..wait for the one he will buy for you
there is nothing wrong in it. it is her money. a confident guy should not be bothered. heck she can just inform him before she does it
how about men controlling their emotions?
Baby,it is not the value of the ring that matters but the spirit behind it.tell him you will appreciate even a cheap ring.please accept whatever he can afford .i wish you two happy married life.
Andy
point of correction.she did not say the guy could not afford any ring at all but that the guy could not afford the one she would appreciate.its like she has a high taste.her engagement ring must not be like tiwa's own.
andy.
u need to grow up..as if that is wat matters...it show u ve still not learnt the important things in life
u need to grow up..as if that is wat matters...it show u ve still not learnt the important things in life
Marriage is a dramatic dialogue initiated by God, in which he invites man, and he obeys. Got nothing to do with ring.
Why not go ring ring searching together, pick the ring u like and support him with whatever the balance is... My 2 cents
I THINK I KNOW YOU. NOT JOKING. HERE YOU HAVE TWO OPTIONS.
1. TELL YOUR BF TO BUY YOU ANY (yes even if its N1000 worth) RING HE CAN AFFORD NOW SO YOU CAN BE AT PEACE
OR
2. BUY YOURSELF ONE AND MARRY YOURSELF OF ANOTHER MAN.
WHICHEVER OPTION YOU TAKE IS YOURS.
I just wonder why ladies fill their heads with things that will only make them unhappy? If you go into this marriage with this kind of mind set, you will be very unhappy. It is the love you share that matters.
Tell him all the men in your office dey toast you becos them no beleive say you don marry....na speed e go use go buy the Ring, then if that one no work, then just chill there is more to matrimony than the bling..
Pele o English teasher
Even worse than getting the ring herself...na so una dey advise??
First and foremost, he proposed to u without a ring cos he cnt afford the type of ring "u would appreciate" this calls for review cos its obvious u av put urself way above him and he already has the inferiority complex burning within though he's still man enuf to proceed.
Secondly u have made it clear without remorse that ur income supersedes his "hmm, woman get down from that unicorn ur riding if u truly love that man and u truly mean him we'll".
Thirdly since u saw tiwas ring is totally rash, u need to fix ur actions, inaction and reaction to the tag along way of life I u wana end up with that man.
Shikena, woman there are a million ways to go about that not hurting him without the slightest knowledge from u..
U both can go shopping for what u both want to have u wear and not what u want.
Life cnt always be about u alone now neither in marriage.........
Sink it in..#*#
Girlll... if u love him n respect him.. don't buy no ring.. wait for him to buy u the ring!!.. cos u buying a ring will hurt his ego, its the man's job to provide the ring... jst wait!!! it will be worth it when u finally get the ring then u can show it off..
Didn't Alamesiegha's daughter change her engagement ring while her father was governor.She changed it to a much more expensive one she bought...wonder how that marriage's doing these days??hmmmm
@Joe i bet u're from calabar,uyo or eket lmvbao!!
Hun, u may not be the one for him. If a man loves a woman he's coming correct. The ring symbolize he's ready to invest in u and a future together. If u are the one the guy would have worked 3 jobs or do whatever it takes for that special one. Don't play with ur life. Strongly reconsider his offer. If he'd embarrass u by half stepping to force excuses out of u. Ask what's next? Ur father and other men will tell u this is not appropriate. Yes men can act stupid but when they're in to u even a blind man can see it
You know when it's a guy who comments... eg. the first 2 comments!
Babe, U accepted to b with him so please be patient. However, I kinda go with the comment at 2:41 PM
Best wishes..
I will advice you not to buy ur ring cos ur relationship shouldn't be built on material things but true love.i can't afford a ring for my girl nw its all abt love and trust so if ur man does not give u a ring nw and he told u he can't afford it then u should be thankful you have a honest dude. To all d ladies out there be true to ur man before some other girls get hold of him.if u dnt value your man jus remember they are 1million girls out der praying to find someone like him.please don't ruin ur relationship,be patient and be supportive.put God first before you do anything and don't listen to negative comments.
Hahahahahahahahhaha, I no wan die 4 laugh here! MY MAN IS HIGH ON SOMFIN, dats why his drawing inspiration!
Eya Linda, go get it dear!
Ring na oyinbo style jor.
Una neva see wey man enta bush hunt korrect bush meat take find wife?
LINDA,I HAVE A FEELING THIS IS YOU.MY DEAR,DON'T START YOUR MARRIAGE LIKE THIS ,YOU WILL GET A LOT OF PAIN AND MISERY IF YOU DO.IF YOU ARE THE PRESIDENT OR A SUCCESSFUL CAREER WOMAN LIKE I AM,THEN YOU MUST REALISE THAT WHEN YOU MARRY A MAN,YOU ARE SIGNING UP TO BE HIS WOMAN ( SERIOUS EHN).IF HE FEEL AT ANY TIME THAT YOU ARE NOT HIS WOMAN,HE WILL AUTOMATICALLY FIGHT YOU.
IT IS NOT ABOUT THE RING,BUT A TERRIBLE MINDSET ( AND WE WONDER WHY THE RATE OF DIVORCE IS HIGH).MY DEAR,RENEW YOUR MIND QUICK QUICK,OTHERWISE YOU WAN GET PLENTY ENGAGEMENT RINGS (GOLD,DIAMOND,SILVER,BRASS,WOOD AND MAYBE NONE AT ALL)IN YOUR LIFE TIME.
ur fiance already told u he will buy it b4 the wedding what else do u want na the same life u and Tiwa Savage come? pls girl be patient and don't try to fix what is not broken
you dont ve to displease your man because you want to please yourself and people around. Respect is more important than the ring. You know He d be embarrassed then forget it
What happened to maiden modesty. Pls dont lower the standard. Maybe he shouldn't have proposed in the first until he can afford the ring of his choice. In this matter the woman should allow the man to do his thing without undue pressure as she could end losing the relationship.
its better if he gets it for you, just exercise patience, check this out folks http://PayCope.com/?ref=29224
@cleanchic. You're a big fool!. Cleanchic indeed! Update your small mind, and learn how to read and understand siimple english.
This the reason why a lot of ladies will NEVER find a man to marry them. They put their expectation in the ceiling.The lack modesty. All men cant be rich.
This is the reason why some men go out of their way to make money just to please the woman in their life. Women will always tell you they want a honest man but when they find one, what do they do with him? Your man is very honest and I don't think you deserve him. Go and look for a rich man that can afford to buy you the kind of ring you want and end up messing up your life, that is what you deserve.
@Anon 1:43PM. Sense, you nor get!
@Anonymous 2:36 PM. 'fallacy of ambiguity'? Really? May be you are still waiting for a ring, and may you wait for eternity. Learn to spell correctly. It is 'truly' not 'truely'. No need for you to thank me.
Yes, it is better to be broke than to be a thief.
@Yomslaw. Are you okay?
So it's all about a ring? SMH!
Well if the man knows he wasnt ready he shouldnt hav prosposed..the way we ladies think is diffrent and we get excited over lil things..more so is ur fiance a bricklayer..cos even bricklayers can afford d cheapest ring in d world..he shouldnt try to impress u..no matter the cost of d ring..he should put a ring on ur finger..aint no gold or diamond can buy ur love.when he has money i pray..he can buy u the most expensiv ring..
@Anon 12:51 PM. Read, read, and read, then understand. She said the guy can not afford the kind of ring she will appreciate. Is that okay with you?. Make the man go thief to satisfy her, all because of engagement ring?
@Debbie. Good to know they are still women who think like you. Some ladies here are plain stupid!
Mmmh not sure u love your man or you are just joking. I think what you are doing here is mere showmanship (or in this case showwomanship). Very soon you will soon ask libers when you need to sleep with your man cos you make more money than him....Watch it girl!
Mmmh not sure u love your man or you are just joking. I think what you are doing here is mere showmanship (or in this case showwomanship). Very soon you will soon ask libers when you need to sleep with your man cos you make more money than him....Watch it girl!
Please you've got no reason to call her a mumu. A lot of people on here need to learn to be civil.
And to the lady with the question, I know how you feel but I don't think you should. He's aware that you earn more than he does and might be self conscious already even if he doesn't show it. Buying the ring to you isn't a big deal, its just what you want. But to him it'll be a huge blow, like you're saying he isn't good enough. Even if he acts like its ok, it isn't and you don't want those underlying issues affecting your marriage.
:s
Huh?
You're so rude
'Must you lack wisdom at all times'
Was that really necessary?
D ring thing na absolute rubbish I swear...I was happy wiv my partner for 4yrs and was engaged without a ring l8r we did traditional introduction...Afta d introduction I kept on begging him 2 buy me a ring until he gt me 1 customized ring written *I love u* on d ring...Afta I gt d ring we started avn issues and difficult tym 4 lyk a year b4 we decided 2 call it quit..Now I'm still single and he is 2 and we don't eva talk again...Had it been I didn't force him 2 buy a ring who knws whr our relationship wud av lead 2...God knws best but 2 me ring is not important in d Engagement thing..ur Heart & happiness matters a lot! Don't go 4 wat ppl say!
I think u r noisy and dumb...ur mind is made up already...
I'd rather you don't, if you actually love him why should you be embarased? Wait for Gods time and don’t rush into buying a ring you may not need eventually.
Pretend God takes you and your man to the garden of Eden where both of you can live alone happily ever after. Would you still need the ring?
I love u so much for sayin this,,,,,if d relationship crashes,ppl won't ask d ring,dey wud ask u....so pls hold unto d main thing,d heart, d ring can come later
Are you marrying a ring or your fiancee? u see a Tiwa Savage ring and you want it. Next you'll see smthin else another girl has and want too at every cost.
Reading things lyk this annoys me.Some ppl are not just okay with not having problems.Ring or no ring is a small thing when talking of marriage.Don't even discuss it with him coz he would feel hurt,its natural.And pls,dnt ever show it in any way that u earn more than him.
My dear,i can't start telling you stories but what i'll let you know is, don't disturb anyone with d word you're engaged,until he finally pays the dowry. That is what you should be interested in,not a mere engagement ring. You can buy as many as you want as soon as dowry bridge is crossed.. My story hurts so don't want same for you... Good luck dear
suit urself
It is only in ur heart that u love someone not the ring u wear. Older generation don' wear rings and they stay longer in relationships than us that believe so much in it.
Bullos
Don't buy the ring if you do respect your husband to be. You can find a way to give him the money towards your wedding, he will buy it himself or even go to a shop with you to choose. You can buy an thing or everything for your wedding but NEVER TRY TO BUY YOUR RINGS. That is the symbol of authority of the man and his commitment to you. And after all you will still buy another ring for your engagement so for now ask your fine if you can wear a fashion ring on your middle finger. And please ignore the questions or make funny of it when asked because I was in the same position us you are but now I do have my rings on after our wedding and there are no questions asked just envy.
Don't buy the ring if you do respect your husband to be. You can find a way to give him the money towards your wedding, he will buy it himself or even go to a shop with you to choose. You can buy an thing or everything for your wedding but NEVER TRY TO BUY YOUR RINGS. That is the symbol of authority of the man and his commitment to you. And after all you will still buy another ring for your engagement so for now ask your fine if you can wear a fashion ring on your middle finger. And please ignore the questions or make funny of it when asked because I was in the same position us you are but now I do have my rings on after our wedding and there are no questions asked just envy.
There are no rules wriiten in stone. If this is the guy you want to be with for life, but he cant afford the ring now, I suggest you buy your ring but talk to him about it first! Perhaps set up a payment plan with him so that you can at least go half with you on the ring! I'm in a similar boat. I make more money than my fiance. He got me a ring a few years ago but it was too small for me to wear now as I am more successful at this point (and yes I have my pride). I am going to buy myself a new ring but still wear his ring -perhaps make it into a necklace! We talked about it and he is okay as he understands and he just wants to get married already! :) Every one has their own situation. People should not judge!
Keep on writing, great job!
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