I met this guy Steve, when I was just 13. I was waiting for my visa cos I was meant to continue my education abroad. He was my 1st ever boyfriend. At 1st, he didn't know how old I was cos I looked older than my age. As the young girl I was,I was naïve. He later found out how old I was. He was 12yrs older than me. Surprisingly,he stayed on with me but never touched me(something most men would hardly do). I then traveled abroad to continue with my education. We would stay in contact through e-mails & phone calls. I would come back home to naija sometimes & on one of those occasions, he took me to meet his family. Sometimes, we wouldn't see each other for over a year.Please continue
When I got into Uni, I stayed faithful to him still. My friends would tell me I'm wasting my life 4someone who's probably cheating on me back in naija. I didn't care. I knew he said he would marry me so I believed him. I thought to myself "men always cheat". Doesn't mean I should do same. As hard as it was, I stayed faithful. Guys started calling me a lesbian. I took it knowing my man appreciated my being faithful to him. By then, we had stayed over 2yrs without setting eyes on each other.
Finally, I relocated back to Nigeria. Before then,I had been noticing Steve had started acting weird towards me. He wouldn't call me till I called him. Even when he called it would be just flashing. I was a student. He had a job.I was the one meant to "flash". Even though its expensive calling naija,I would call whenever he "flashed". For sometime,he stopped picking my calls too.I felt all this was happening cos he hadn't seen me in 2yrs. I knew probably he had met another girl but I felt it wouldn't b a serious relationship since he wanted to marry me & I had met his family & they would call me from time to time.
When I finally moved back home, few months later. He broke the news to me. He had gotten married & he had a kid. I was so shocked. I couldn't believe it. But he didn't stop there. He told me he didn't love his wife. Said his family pressured him into the marriage cos they felt I wasn't "serious". Said he just wanted to please his mom (his dad is dead). He cried & begged me on his knees not to leave him. Said he still wanted to marry me. Said the wife he married was for his mom, so he wants to marry for himself now. He cried, begged n begged. Asked y he never told me about the marriage. He said didn't want me to feel disappointed in him & then leave him. Stupidly, I fell for his lies.
I never for one day asked him to leave his wife for me. That would have been plain wrong. Even when I knew I was there b4 her. He told me he couldn't leave her too cos he didn't want to hurt her. According to him,it was his mistake so she shouldn't pay for it. He told his family members & friends he still planned to marry me. It made me have confidence in him not knowing he was a liar. I was getting prepared to meet his wife cos I wanted to get along with her. I knew it would be hard for her like it was for me,but I was willing to put in the effort needed. Let's just say, I was brainwashed by him. Through all this, I never let my family know he had gotten married cos I knew it would pose a problem.
Well, that was years ago. I've finally found out that he used me. I have a lovely daughter by him now. She's almost 3yrs old. The scales finally fell from my eyes after I had her. Steve changed towards me. Showed me he did not want me or my daughter. I found out much later that he lied about his marriage. Yes, family pressured him but it wasn't an arranged marriage like he claimed it was. Found out he never planned to marry me. My daughter hardly sees her dad. Everything he told me was all lies. He met a woman, fell in love, got her pregnant, & married her. Then I wonder, y did he beg me to remain with him when he knew he was lying to me?? Y couldn't he just let me go?? Y did he keep lying telling me he loved me?? Y??
Funnily enough, he still claims he loves & want to marry me still.he thinks I'm still the stupid naïve girl who he could control. I realize he just doesn't want to see me with another man. Something snapped in my head. I wanted revenge & wanted it badly. For all the yrs I had spent with him which ended up being a waste of my time. By then, I had spent a total of 13yrs with him. I hatched my plot. I slept with his best friend(before then, I had never slept with any other man). And told him about it. He cried, asked me y I did it. Told him it was to get him back. Surprisingly, he forgave me. Took a while, but he did. I laughed hard in my mind. I pretended to feel bad about what I did. Both men aren't friends anymore. Steve still hasn't told his friend that he knows we slept together.
I'm not done yet. This is just the beginning. I don't plan to sleep with any more of his friends but I would hurt him in a way that wldnt be so easy for him to forgive. I want him to feel the hurt I've felt. Feel the pain he made me feel & feel what's its like to love someone & have all your love thrown back into your face.
Funnily enough, he wants to come meet my family officially during this Easter break. I'll play along. He can't brainwash or mess with me again. Sometimes, cos of my attitude towards him now, he tells me he feels I'm not sorry for sleeping with his friend. I beg him & try to act like I'm sorry. Hahahaha!! Other times, I tell him, yes I'm not sorry!
Men, are evil. Steve lied to me, used me as a punch bag d little times we'd see, so its my turn now. I now know how to punch back. Where it hurts.
Gbemisola
265 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 265 of 265The story is simply a story told by a fool meaning nothing ..is it by sleeping around u can get back at ur husband... if u get HIV the daughter u love so much will be the one that will feel ur death not any other person. There is no sense in the story Gbemi only showed us hwo promiscuos she is
AND HOW WILL INSULTING HER MAKE A BETTER PERSON???
PLEASE GBEMISOLA MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE!!
THE ONLY WAY TO PAY HIM BACK IS TO BECOME A BETTER PERSON THAN HE IS.
gbemi dear, am a married woman ur age with a son, my dear i understand, but know say if u follow as body scratch you scratch am ya skin go tear! move on with your life, love and take care of your daughter, you are all she has. focus more on building your mind and integrity back, pray to God for forgiveness for messing up with another woman's marriage, live a life that you would be ur daughters role model so she doesn't act part two of your story
funnily enough? Is there even any word like that? Linda, all i could see were the grammatical and typos written all over this article. You for try edit am before publishing.
This does not make any sense.. You were 13!!! 13 years old and you were in love with someone 12 years older than you meaning he was 25 when you met him and wow.. How gullible could you be.
Afterall, you said you were not looking for the advice of readers of this blog but this is plain simple... You were too gullible, not smart and childish.. and even with his wife and child(ren), you still allowed him sleep with you at this stage.. Wow.. this is some awesome depth of crap I have ever seen.
Deuces
LOL.. linda why the hell did you post this??? its so stupid.. My goodness
My dear, u were just plain stupid. What sort of love would make you want to marry a married man. Do you know what DESTINY means, it means both of you weren't destined for each other. I am not going to judge you, but my advice to you, is to beg Linda, unpublish this story.
The STUPIDITY of women some times baffles me!
#long hiss#
absolute and total rubbish! the story was clearly fabricated but very poor story, no imagination whatsoever! if by any remotest chance this is a real story, then OMG girl, u r a total and complete idiot!
i just wonder if people ever put themselves in other peoples shoes when they comment. the heart of man is truly desperately wicked . and out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. nigeria, nigerians i weep. this might not be your situation today you have family members and you will have children or there is enough time for misfortune to befall......a naive child who probably grew up without the support she needed and guidance, a heart infatuated and in lust had no idea about love. believed she was in love was taken advantage of by a man older and wise, was manipulated and dis-virgned. why are the vast population of nigerians so hard hearted can you not be open minded. then tmrw somebody will come and say nigerians dont commit suicide nigerians dont bomb themselves....i weep. Gbemi if you read these comments i hope you see this. ask GOD for wisdom and growth, revenge is of GOD. if you embark on this journey your world revolves around him. live your life free of him forgive and seek GOD your life will turn around. do you know what the wrath of GOD is.......well seek GOD and let him do the discipline.
i just wonder if people ever put themselves in other peoples shoes when they comment. the heart of man is truly desperately wicked . and out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. nigeria, nigerians i weep. this might not be your situation today you have family members and you will have children or there is enough time for misfortune to befall......a naive child who probably grew up without the support she needed and guidance, a heart infatuated and in lust had no idea about love. believed she was in love was taken advantage of by a man older and wise, was manipulated and dis-virgned. why are the vast population of nigerians so hard hearted can you not be open minded. then tmrw somebody will come and say nigerians dont commit suicide nigerians dont bomb themselves....i weep. Gbemi if you read these comments i hope you see this. ask GOD for wisdom and growth, revenge is of GOD. if you embark on this journey your world revolves around him. live your life free of him forgive and seek GOD your life will turn around. do you know what the wrath of GOD is.......well seek GOD and let him do the discipline.
hey gbemi,i feel your pain,but the all thing about ur revenge does not make sense at all,just let him go and trust me his conscience will definately judge him.And dont mind what other people called u,just try and forget him,its not easy but u just have to pls if not for your sake but for your daughter's okay take kia
From my calculation, u r 26 now. Gbemi, u said u don't want an advice but u r seriously in need of one. Pls move on with ur life and stop wasting it on a selfish man. He doesn't deserve u. U shuld av realised that u are better off without him a long time ago, but it is never too late, you can still start over. Forget abt him, there is nothing u can do to him that will return those wasted years.
Ps: dnt mind the insults, that the way we do it on LIB
Linda,I hope u r not losing skills in blogging.
linda who ever this girl is she should come back and read my commet. girl u are still a mugu complete mugu steve is using u before u go no u done turn 2nd hand material stupid stupid girl. well i dont think this story is real sha has alot of flaws.
nmnmn
Best revenge is to have a 3some with both of them
excuse me - who dey yarn say this na movie script? 99% of the perverts I know won't stoop to low to even watch the porn version of this story even if it starred Sasha Grey and Mandingo! it irks me to think that such "dumbery" still exists in this country. how the man wan take marry you nah? so, next time you guys get in a fight - or if he lies to you again (like he most certainly would), you'd go have a threesome with the gateman and driver, abi?
silly girl. getting back at a man by sleeping with his best friends. there's no sense in that - read the Bro Code - first rule: bros before hos. and what you did just labeled you a big, fat, juiceless "ho".
i just pray that other sisters don't read this and catch your stupidity. imagine writing to Linda to share your story? what story?
get a life. or just use your talent to make money - join the pron industry - if you're pretty, I'll watch as long as you keep your mouth shut.
#confused.com
Hahahaha!!!! Pls this Gbemi girl is a RETARD! its ironic u schooled abroad! oh sorry! scratch that! STUPIDITY is not a 'respecter' of location. Abeg! get a life or more preferably get a brain...Btw, i'm ur "husband's" friend come and 'get back' to him with me! Hehehehehe :Dts
Mumu story!!! If she like, let her sleep wit d whole world in order to get revenge, no b u get ur vagina, if dis story is real, den dt lady nids to get her head checked biko.
this commenter will not even give a chance to post my own comment......smh..
She's to blame for falling for a man who is ALREADY married!
O.Y.O!
@ anonymous u ar also a big fool cuz nobody is above mistake so u believe dat u d most perfect person......let me tel u, u ar d best fool in da whole world, as 4 gbemisola i feel ur pain jst continue wif a new life don't go against revenge ok...... talk care of ur daughter God will giv ur own husband as 4 u anonymous mr/mrs perfect u ar such a clumsy galoot.....ass.....
jobless stupid girl! go and get a life and stop talking about revenge cos he didnt do anything wrong. he moved on and i suggest u do the same. Idiot!
Sola i like wat u did to him but if u look at it u are also hurting yourself and wasting your time pls let him go and carry on wit your life.if he can do dat to you than he doesnt deserve you so do wat he does not expect and carry on there are many good men out there.may God help you find the rite one this time.
I think the writer is still 13!!!
Lmao.. This is just 2 funny. Yow gbemi, I no how it feels but the way you are going about this, makes no sense.
Lmao.. This is just 2 funny. Yow gbemi, I no how it feels but the way you are going about this, makes no sense.
YOU ARE THE LOOSER I AM SEEING HERE FROM YOUR STORY... HE BEGGED YOU AND YOU WERE STUPID ENOUGH TO GIVE HIM YOUR VIRGINITY..... LOOSER
Gbemi, i know where is other friends are, come leme take u there...mtchewww! RUBBISH!! is dat d best?n u are only turning into a prostitude without knowing, u'll end up wasting d remaining part of ur life trying 2 revenge when dia is no fight. pls go get a life,,,like som! commented d best revenge is 2leave him nd move on in life if u dont want 2b passing wrong signals to ur innocent daughter...that is my advice even if u said u are not looking 4 advice. Live goes on baby!
nawa!!
nawa!!
abeg, all this are frabricated stories. Linda u lack stories jare.mscheww
linda na waoo how long does it take you to post comment
This gal de craze, does she have a job or something to do?please take care of ur daughter and stop wasting ur time. jeez.dis story is damn stupid.
i really no know why Yoruba gals dey stupid with impunity
gbemi or warreva u call ur self, u no get single sense at all o! this story of yours is not only boring, its also meaningless and stupid. instead of u to think of how 2 take care of ur daughter. ure busy sleeping with your baby daddy's best friend and plotting revenge all in the name of "im no longer naive". darling it appears from ur story ure not only naive but also very STUPID. i jst pray for ur sake u read carefully thru the thread and realise how really dumb ur plan of revenge is and move on with ur life.
Linda this kind of writer-up is too childish for your prestigious blog....
to me , young lady if that your own way of seeing things and wanting your revenge in that kinda way then , go ahead , as long as it seems right to you , no matter what anyone says , whatever you wan to do , do it
Boring stupid story. The girl is obviously living in lala land
Biko Linda, important matters dey. I came across this, and know its true cause I know the boy's brother. He is also on facebook. Please biko ejo post this, its been a few mths online, and no one is really doing anything, while this young man is dying and watching his body deteriorate, and in crazy pain daily. The pics are located at the bottom of the message. God bless you plenty.
My name's Toochukwu Edward Egungwu. I'm an indigene of Njikoka LGA, Aambra State. I was born with sickle cell anaemia. My father is alive but with a severe case of stage 4 prostate cancer. My mom's deceased. She passed away in 2008 after a long battle with stroke and diabetic wounds. In April 2004 I was admitted to the Federal University of Technology Owerri. While there, asleep at night, I was bitten by a venomous farm Ant on the inner ankle region that caused a minor sore. In a few days, there was rapid degeneration of the sore into an ulcer. I was going to the health center in the University at the time. Alternative wound care was ventured into. Herbal remedy that didn't last more than a year. Went to different hospitals around the country finally @ LUTH. The ulcer had been recurrent. My father currently has stage 4 prostate cancer and that has eaten into his funds for healthcare and left none for me. I was referred for surgery to India for my leg and my arms to be regrafted. It isn't easy for me. Daily I am in immense pain. Especially at night. Most nights I spend sleeping in a chair because the position is a bit bearable for the leg. When I am in bed for an hour, the pain starts again. I am trying to raise $21,000 (about N3.4 million naira) for my trip, surgeries and post surgical care. On my own, I'm unable to raise this money hence my honest appeal for help. Please help me and may God almighty with his infinite mercies keep u and your family in divine health.
Find attached below a link to my photos of ailment and also my account number for ur seed sowing in my life. please help to save my life.
God bless you,
Toochukwu Edward Egungwu.
GTB acc. 0112354234
Email: tegungwu@gmail.com
Phone: +2348035599591
http://s1055.photobucket.com/albums/s506/tegungwu/
why are u fooling urself gbemisola is it untill u sleep around the whole of lagos and be called a dog before u know what u have done to urself pls get a life and move on ok
Abeg dis one na waitin oyibo de cal outright bladadash
lmaooo!!!! these comments have even made me forget Gbemi's story buhahaha. But Gbemi please go for mfm power must change hands deliverance programme!
THIS GIRL IS DRUNK OR ON SOME REALLY CHEAP DRUGS SHA. THE GUY HAS A STRUCTURED LIFE AND YOU FEEL YOU WANNA PAY BACK USING YOUR ROLE AS AN ATTACHMENT.
LOL. Uv got time to waste sha.. smh. I wish i was dat his frnd sha. To get laid with ease.. Keep wasting ya time..
As u called it "LIAR"...just angry with myself I'd to continue reading after seeing that...my precious time back pls......? Lols anyway, the beautiful lies after all made me smile. Good try...
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL Y'all got tym replying and writing comments.. rly didn't wanna comment but these comments are just funny..LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Wow Naija people. No one even had an ounce of sympathy for this gurl. looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool. you guys are funny.
Dear Gbemi,
It is so sad what happened to you. Nonetheless, please please, it is time to forgive him, let go of the hurt and past and re-build your today and future with your child and in Christ. There is no one that is above mistakes and has fallen for the devil in one form or the other so don't feel you are the only one who is bad okay. People don't share their stories like you have. Please, let go and let GOD. It may take time and a few behavioural and attitude adjustment however with God, trusted family/friends and a good counsellor/coach/mentor, you will be on your way to a happier life. If you need to talk please email us on walkwithme@dvsoul.org.uk. May God's peace find you.
Hey Gbemi, I hope you get to read this.
(or Linda if you have her e-mail, pls pass it on, thank you)
Like you've said hun, you have a beautiful daughter now.
I get that you feel he stole 13 years of your life. But if you continue this agenda against him, you're only giving him more days, more months, more years of YOUR life. And while you think you are hurting him, honestly lovely, you're only tearing yourself apart.
I'm sure you've come across the saying holding a grudge/ harbouring malice is only letting someone live rent-free in your head.
The past is the past, and choosing to forgive him and let it all go, is not saying that what his lies, manipulation, emotional and physical abuse were okay. It's just choosing to LIVE.
You deserve to live, so give yourself that chance sweetheart.
I'm not saying the hurt, the pain, the scars, the disappointments, the bruises, the lies, broken promises & betrayal will just go away overnight. There will be many times it will be very difficult to get out from a wave of all those emotions but you have the strength you need to on the inside. You've got to believe that and perhaps even forgive yourself for what you may feel was part your-fault in believing and holding out all those years.
I'll be praying for you.
Give yourself a chance to heal and cleanse, and be whole again. Because there is so much HOPE for that. It is infinitely more possible and profitable than this other path of destruction.
Give your daughter the chance to grow up with a mom who is not jaded my the blows life has dealt her, but healthy, joyful and whole from the inside out, cause whether or not people realise, subconsciously kids sponge up everything, from words, to things unsaid, from anger boiling beneath the surface to witnessing someone being battered in the flesh.
So please cry all the tears you need to cry, let your ribs and heart ache, forgive and choose to stick to a journey of healing and recovery. Of your mind, body, soul and spirit.
If you are Christian (or even if you are not), I hope in your heart you will know that this is what Christ died for. So sin wouldn't get in the way of Him being able to comfort you, hold you, touch your wounded places and restore everything the years have bled you of. So believe in Him, be real and straight with Him, no matter what that looks like, just give it to Him. And trust Him to do all that you need and more. He did it for me, He can so do it for you. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
Love, peace, joy & strength to you!
Isaiah 61 - I will give them [Gbemi], "a crown of Beauty in exchange for ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, the garment of praise instead of a heavy burdened and failing spirit, that [she] may be called an oak of righteousness".
Psalm 34:18 - The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
Psalm 147:3 - He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Isa 43:18 - Remember not the former things, neither consider the things of old. For God is doing a new thing. Watch, even now, it is springing forth.
2 Corinthians 12:9 - My Grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in your weakness.
Be courageous hunny! xx
I know I've already made one comment, but honestly I couldn't leave without saying how appalled I am with the conditions of people's hearts on this comment roll.
Like my word, most have zero per cent empathy, sympathy or compassion. And most people don't realise, but that it what is actually wrong with Nigeria - just a blatant disregard for the next person. Just so unwilling to realise that people outside of yourself are real humans complete with feelings and worthy of value, respect and attention.
The callousness of most of these posts is just unbelievable. You might not totally understand where someone is coming from but to respond with abuse, disregard, venomous disdain and feeling like she or her experience is a waste is just so unbelievable. And really actually shows the depth or lack of rather, of people's character.
What can that possibly be from? Has life just simply been too good to most people? Or is it just wicked selfishness not being able or even WILLING to see past yourself? I don't know, but like I said, IT is the rampant cancer that runs through Nigeria, birthing its infants - corruption, quickness to anger, hatred & disgust in hearts, violence, stealing, double-crossing, haughtiness, impatience, malice, murder, taking another to witch doctor etc...
May no one ever make you guys ever feel the way your comments can no doubt make her feel. Don't think you can never be in a situation that will make you feel as broken as she does inside. When its your turn to seek mercy and grace and understanding, I really pray you find.
Ok! If Gbemi gets to read this...pls take to ur heels before its too late! Ure plotting to get back at him & ure hurting ursef in the process! I wouldn't call u a fool cuz some women can be so trusting of the lies men tell. But once u get back ur life run fast! Get him to take care of his child & get ur life back together again! Move on!!! He doesn't love & would never love u!!! Move on!!!
I like this girl, She did my work without her knowing it, I didn't send that dude, I sent her. ha ha ha ha, good luck in joining me over here.
The Morning star.
My dear... u are crazy o...Gbemi... but warris dis tho? how stupid can u get?? sleeping wid his frnd is meant to mk u feel like uv conquered world hunger abi? or that you'v found the cure for AIDS, olodo person... he was crying after u told him and so fck what na.. what if at the bck of his mind he knew all along that u slpt with his frnd but he just kpt hush abt it and hes laughing at u? gurl, think again o n stop mking a fool outa ur self... d nxt revenge ud mk would be even (more) stupider than the amount of years uv grown wid him and equally as dumb as ur previous stupid plot... sleeping wid his frnd? pssst! abeg, grow up already.. nxt time just tell us u wanna taste another dck to know how it feels, atleast that will mk d story more enjoyable... this is total crap... odesko!
why the mean comments tho?
wow, gbemi, pele o
not all men are like that, same way not all young girls are naive
to every rule there is an exception
move on, you have a beautiful daughter now, love her
if steve or anybody, comes to claim her, never give her up
ignore him, dont keep in touch but forgive him
love will find you when the time is right
everything else is in the past now
sorry your hurt but you should move on.
CONFUSE.COM, LIFE IS TO SHORT TO WASTE MORE ON A GUY. MOVE ON BABES
Honestly, i find the comments more interesting than the story itself. Honey you you are still young and a lot of life a head of you. Revenge is never the answer.
thank God am nt the only one thinking about how retarded this story is...*hissss* waste of time...
ladies its high time we understand that wen you realise that a man aint committed to u!!!!! on to the next one straight away... dont waste your time!!! simples!!!
Stop wasting your time on him. You will never move on from this guy if you are trying to revenge on him. Find yourself someone who will treat you right and move on, you are not helping yourself in anyway by doing all this. also I think you were very naive with this guy. from reading the story once the man told you he found another woman you should have left him. Sorry for your pain hun but its time to MOVE ON
You foolish foolish child, Gbemi
Scrolled all the way to the bottom to YAWN. You be mumu ni? Pick up the pieces and MOVE ON.
I no her story is boring but u guys should leave her alone.most of dis girls commenting i no u guys av done more dan wat she did by sleeping wiv her baby's father's fnd.so u people ahold sto insulting her
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