Popular LIB reader, Onyx Godwin writes heartfelt article about his feminine stature and mannerism and how he deals with people's negative reaction to him. Read below...
Growing up, I always hear people call me "woman wrapper", people told me I behaved like a girl. I was just a kid in primary school then, I didn't know how a guy or girl behaves, so I was confused, shy, angry and depressed for a long time. The constant mockery in school and even in the church I used to attend, I always got and still get three basic reactions - the baffled and astonished, the indifferent and the one's that are out-rightly disgusted by me. I will take my time to explain this three set of people, just patiently read on...
1. The baffled and astonished; this set of people are
shocked and surprised at my effeminacy, they feel amused seeing a guy
who behaves more like a girl than girls, they are not irritated or angry
at you,they try being your friend and having you around because of your
rare and unique nature.
2.The indifferent; this set of people don't care,they feel
less concerned and don't give any thought to your effeminacy,they simply
move on with their lives!
3.The irritated; this set of people are disgusted by your
sight,they mock you in public,bully you,call you " homo" or gay at any
given chance,they will gladly kill you and feel no remorse.
This three set of people shaped who i am today,i grew up
to be very strong and bold,i had series of depression,i was rejected
and laughed at.i remember finishing high school in 2012, admission was
taking my time and i decided to work,the guys in the interview room were
laughing and asked -u go sabi work so? See as u dey behave like woman
and thin join.lol,guess what?most of them didn't get the job,i did! I
ended up working there for over a year,even got promoted!
Many guys refuse hanging out with you,being friends with
you or even walking with you because they will be labelled gay,EVEN GAYS
THEMSELVES DISCRIMINATE ON EFFEMINATE GUYS TOO! PATHETIC
Yes we are effeminate, we behave like girls, we aren't
men enough,we sway our hips,swirl our eyes and hands,belly dance,twerk
and so much more, but does that make us less human than you lot? Does
that mean we should get mocked ? Laughed at? Embarrassed?
I have major problems with Jonathan signing the anti-gay
bill because it directly incriminate and endanger we effeminate guys,the
society has already labelled us gays, the law sinply back them up and
give them the liberty to brutalize us and get away with it!
Yes i am effeminate,i didn't choose to be like this,i did not create myself,i did not choose to sway my hips,bat my eyelashes,draw my words knowing damn well the world we live in.
Yes i am effeminate,i didn't choose to be like this,i did not create myself,i did not choose to sway my hips,bat my eyelashes,draw my words knowing damn well the world we live in.
You igbos know how it felt when kunle afolayan came for the yoruba
weeks back?you all know how it feels to look for a job and not getting
the employment because you are from a certain tribe, you all know how it
feels when you are mocked for being short, dark,ugly, big nose,big eyes
and all the naija usual yabbing,you all complain about racism even
though the people that complain more haven't even left their state.if
all this mentioned is not ok and degrading, why do you think it is ok to
mock and degrade a guy because nature made him a "woman wrapper"?
Written by - Onyx Godwin
504 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 401 – 504 of 504Cyber bullying indeed!!! Pls he's asking for it by sending in such ridiculous pix, mscheeeeeww
I'm so so shocked that someone can come up in public and boast of being effeminate! This goes to show that most of our youths do not read the Bible at all!!! Pls, can you read 1 Corinthians 6:9 "Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind..." Young man, the effeminate shall not inherit the kingdom of God. It is a sin to be effeminate! Pls repent quickly, there's no pride in it, there's no reward other than eternal gloom. You are classed among the fornicators, adulterers, homosexuals and all that...spare some time and read your Bible before you steep deeper into more and more immorality.
Shut ur trap!! Why do u think God destroyed sodom?? It's cause of stuff like dis, it's a big sin to be guy so just shut up.
Ashewo sell ur maket well....
Nobody will rightly understand him understand you have been labelled or called a gay that you are not. I understood his paid because I was once in that position, the good thing now is that, I don't care what you say about my sexuality, its my life.
U must be really stupid to say this...u have no freaking right ...I mean dis is someone s child and you are not God so don't you dare spill that fowl rubbish coming out of your mouth..you are criticizing him if they check you will find out you are no better than him..so think and worry abt your self becoming a at others..your opinion is yours and yours alone ..it's cz of people like you I thank God that man is not god
Oh shut up and be quiet...you are not half the person he is..it took a lot of courage and boldness for hiM to share this and you are here running mouth like a brainless idiot...u people have no chill...you are not better than him so check your miserable life n try to mk it better instead of trying to make everyone miserable just cz you are...u need brains cz u got none
Onyx I might not understand how it feels to be feminine but one thing I understand is how it feels to be discriminated against. Most people here don't know that words are very powerful they don't know that saying hateful and negative things to a person can distabilize that person pyschologically it can even make one committ suicide. Like I said before I don't understand a guy being feminine but I won't stand for discrimination or hate and of course I belong to number 2 set of people. I really don't care about other peoples lives as long as it doesn't affect my human rights. Live and let live!!!
You are even dumber than all the dumb idiots here...ur a Fool..because of your love for humanity ...oh really? Ur just a dumb fuck..go get a life
Not only effeminate, he will soon become emasculinate!
Gayish n its all over ........a man wit balls is against the antigay law then what.......? Onyx be a man ur a man..... anything less ur a gay... #stop faggots
Just stop taking retarted pictures
As I read this all I felt was sorry and pity for this young man cos I can only imagine what it's like being different in a discriminatory society like ours.
Someone just poured out his heart to u, told how he's been through series of depression and all you some of you could do was insult and laugh at him, as if he hasn't been through enough already. It really baffles me how heartless and stupid people can be, I dnt understand why we Nigerians make jokes out of everything.
Let's not forget we know nothing about our tomorrow. You don't know if u'll have a child like that or even worse and then have to watch him/her abused (verbally, emotionally and physically) discriminated, fall in and out of depression.
Things like this make people contemplate or even commit suicide, but of cos your shallow minds wouldn't let you know that.
People should learn to shut their foul smelly pits in the name of mouths if they have nothing good to say about people sorry situations.
Onyix, you are beautifully and wonderfully made, God makes no mistakes. Never allow ignorant fools make you feel less about yourself. Shine on.
@Foluke Moyinoluwa 10:25AM Haba, did you go to school at all? Poor poor English. Never seen it this bad.
Ur so stupid yo....did u think before you wrote this crap...buhari will send gays to Isis mehn nigga u dumb for this post...u shud be sent to Isis for this crap you wrote u dimwit
Dear Onyxx,
I know how anxious you must feel.
People should stop the hate,God is against such.
However, You didn't really say if you were gay or not. You seem to be hiding under the disguise of being effeminate. If you really want to be true to yourself and to others then spell it out or just keep it shut. Right now it seems you are looking for sympathy. I don't hate you, I can imagine how you must feel each day. but if you want to be real, be real 100 percent or jus leave it. Def people will make fun of you by your dressing and appearance, you make fun of others too, don't you? so don't put yourself in a position to be made a mockery of. The big question now is ; are you gay? if you are bold answer us all and if u rather keep it private then let everyone rest ehn. Above all, I wish you peace..and draw close to God. God answers all.
Omg..listen to your self ...leave d dude alone...what is all this u think u are better than him?i hope you die a slow painful death than u know what it's like to wish death by hiv in others..rubbish
I know...they have no chill and if u check well d guy dey are castigating is way better than a lot of them..they just want to follow talk cz they think from their behinds..#endcyberbullying
A right to 14 years in jail. Naija!
OMG, wat is dis, ooh ooh
Word! U musnt build up or do whatever to be a man dude if u wanna be a dude u'll be a Dude note dah 1....well neni u don talk am finish na 2nd category er'body get dia own for body.. #shikena
So Linda's blog is now promoting Gays. some idiots are trying to call him brave like he's bruce Jenner.. Every fag in the closet will be contacting Linda now to tell their story. Please stop it
Effeminate man should find masculine woman and that will still maintain God's order of man and woman designed for each other. Being effeminate man is no reason to be homosexua as being a masculine woman is no reason to be a lesbian. Depravity of homosexuality is demonic and has no place in our society. Thankfully we still have strong religious views in Nigeria be it Christian, Muslim, sango worshipper, even African traditional religions - all say homosexuality is an abomination.
Please visit Gambia, your good friend Jahmeh is waiting for you, Idiot!
This is the same way women in America thought its was cool to have a gay friend. 5 years ago a gay friend was an accessory. All Jobs they are suppose to give to other women they started giving it to gay guys. The retail business that was dominated by women now belong to gay guys. The also took over Hollywood, every show u watch must have a gay character. This is how it started . please stop it.
This is the same way women in America thought its was cool to have a gay friend. 5 years ago a gay friend was an accessory. All Jobs they are suppose to give to other women they started giving it to gay guys. The retail business that was dominated by women now belong to gay guys. The also took over Hollywood, every show u watch must have a gay character. This is how it started . please stop it.
People on this blog are so dumb. The guy just came out the closet and they are asking if she's Gay, so you are waiting for him to shout he's a faggot abi
Maxwell self just came out. Another fagular
We should all let Onyx be. After this, we should understand why he wears those clothes and strikes those poses.
Why ordinary igbo boy,,so u mean Igbos re ordinary? Watch ur language dis fellow
This is the same way women in America thought its was cool to have a gay friend. 5 years ago a gay friend was an accessory. All Jobs they are suppose to give to other women they started giving it to gay guys. The retail business that was dominated by women now belong to gay guys. The also took over Hollywood, every show u watch must have a gay character. This is how it started . please stop it.
With these pose? Has he fucked girl before? What is his sex preferrence? Is effemi-what not same wit gay?
Linda sud nt be carrying dis boy around dis blogoooo. Haba
I feel your point man. We blacks face same thing in white mans country. Do your thing man but be careful with who you move out with. God will protect you.
@Royal priesthood..we go run for u?,,hw many tyms do u want to post dis ur comment ehee nawa oo
Linda self ehn...why post this trash? Did he mention his sexual preference? The way you present yourself determines how people will take you. Why swing your hips? Why twerk? You can as well let Bruce jenner be ur mentor. This guy is a kid nah and should live right. Linda Ikeji, if you have a growing up boy, will you allow him move around with someone with questionable characters like onyx? We should be sincere for once. Our society doesn't accommodate homos, he should live as a boy that he his.....look at the pictures he posted, does it not indict himself. And to say he has a problem with GEJ signing the anti-gay bill said it all. He is a bloody faggot.
The anonymous supporting Onyxx is definitely Onyxx tryna support himself. Remember the days of Sodom and Gomorrah.....hmmmmm!!!
Attention seeker! Who cares if you are effeminate abi na effervescence??? Mtcheeeew
I always tell straight people to imagine only one thing/watching a video of Gay guys having sex..Trust me you would fall into the irritated group..
Touching 1 i must say....only God can judge u forget humans
Young man. ..aside from ur write up. What happened during your childhood cos you definitely weren't born this way. Where you sexually abused during ur youngers years?!
If you tell the truth...it could help people understand you better.
It's so easy to judge. So easy. All commenters have faults/secret sins/addictions but feel we have the moral right to judge. Being effeminate and being homosexual are DIFFERENT. Let's agree on that and move on, folks.
Onyx, I just have a question for you. Why do you always fantasize and imagine how men's eggplants look like? This makes you more or less gay.
Onyx, I understand ur plight. You didn't create urself, you just grow up being like that. Some people were born with deformed body, we have conjoined twins, we have d woman that was born with 2 vaginas, if they had their way they would have recreated themselves. Am not trying to support u or anything but my advice to u is to do what is right. You shouldn't become gay because people call u gay, u just have to know what is right and do what is right. Don't let the being effeminate make u forget that u are a man. Help ur self by trying out what other men do, if possible go to the gym build up muscle, try to control urself from all those feminine acts, I think that will help. To those trying to crucify him, u don't know how it feels being totally different from others.
Onyx u are very intelligent no doubt but these photos are very trashy,people will only see 2things,1)what is 2) what they want to see.i'll never judge anyone for being gay or not but people are saying that because that's what u feed them with .These photos are ratchet and I wouldn't employ u seeing them (STAY CLASSY SO YOUR INTELLIGENCE CAN PAY OFF)
Being effeminate makes one have the disposition of a lady, but that isn't a right to be a guy. You should learn to draw the line...becoming a guy simply because you behave like a woman is a huge disfavor to your self and to your God
Young man there is no justification for behaving the way you do. Just act like a man. All these your posing and stupid clothing does not justify what you write. So work on your self and stop all these Bullshit
Being effeminate makes one have the disposition of a lady, but that isn't a right to be a guy. You should learn to draw the line...becoming a guy simply because you behave like a woman is a huge disfavor to your self and to your God
Shuuuuu! Una nor want make d guy dey great?
U guys joke too much.
Linda what is it? like i know the only set of people you show love to on your blog is onyx, laura and dead lib readers.. whats with this dude.... mschewwww u are getting me pissed off with him....fuck ass gay
Hahahahahahah! U are gay and it ends there, nutin unique about u, acting like d opposite sex isn't ok, or hvin sex with ur same sex isn't isn't right, don't let anyone deceive u, it's a sin and all faggots shall go to hell!!!! U can correct ur ill ways and mk a choice, u weren't born effing woreva
I used to think you were wise....
dude seems to have a lot of fans tho!
When I was a kid, I always dressed in jeans, sneakers etc as in boy stuff, I was actually a tomboy. My father's friend called me mr(.............) my name. Likewise, some boys grow up playing dress up with their sister's clothes too, common, it didn't go beyond this stage, it was a thing of laughter. I'm a full grown woman now with everything feminine in me, never thought of being stuck in an otherwise body. If it were to be now, you know what would have happened. Please, my dear, I do not understand your style. Do not follow the western world, this lifestyle is really really ripping them off trust me.
Dude, are you short?
Why did you pick interest in that line?
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dude/babe I hope you know that was what destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah in the bible, and you're coming out publicly to say this.. it is so wrong!
dude/babe I hope you know that was what destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah in the bible, and you're coming out publicly to say this.. it is so wrong!
Effeminate is abnormal...I have one question for you, when a baby is born with 2 heads or imbecility, Is it normal? I know you didn't create yourself that way but you need to start acting like a man even if your gene didn't accept it. Dresss, work, talk, and do what masculine genders do, not the other way around. Sincerely, when I looked up at your pics in Google Plus because of your famousness... I didn't think twice to call u GAY. You need to change your psychology. If you can tell yourself the truth, I strongly believe you have libido for men which is also trait of effeminate . Am sorry bro that our country frown at such abnormality...seek for deliverance.
Can't u at least wear masculine cloths? Try and correct urself na...stop all dem girl poses please. It's freaking irritating. Yuck! Ewwwwww
U got a rude mouth.is it your business if he's guy abeg pack well,silly ass .its a free world abeg .get a life lizard
Rubbish, this guy is coming out of the closet but must he announce it. He knows how to meet up with people like him. Why come here?
yeye person go kill am .oloroburuku person.
@realevans I find him unique..is dat a problem? Pls concentrate on trying to make ur life better...idiot.
If you can afford it, talk to Bruce Jenner. Until then, stop attracting pity/attention. You are a guy, act and live like one. Being lanky does not mean you should sway your your hips and bat your eyelashes. If indeed you are not gay, then you need to grow up and get busy wid your academics/earn a living. If you are gay, snap a pix where u are kissing your bf so that we can look the other side. Those in civilised world have less things to worry about; that's why they talk about such things. Until you've achieved that, get a life and stop seeking for attention! Gosh!
You are indeed brave my friend ..
Don't u hve a job? All dis ur nonsense opinion na for 100k..e go clear u for eye. Otondo
Onyx. Your write up is nice. But nature ddnt make u raise up ur top in pix yea? Try behaving like d man/boy u are, consciously stop d hips swinging abi na wetin u call am. YOU ARE A BOY AND NOT GIRL. Unless u are gay.
My younger brother is 11. He is growing in d midst of four gurls and guess what, we don't let him be around us 24/7 so he won't emulate wat ladies do unconsciously n fink its cool.
Hang out often with straight guys. Determine to stop those shit u do u cuz a niccur don't fucking twist n twerk, Roll eyes etc. Be conscious of it all n u will see some changes.
WORK ON YOURSELF. Everybody needs that sometimes.
hii onyx,
1.what self view do u have of yourself?you are not what pple call u ,u are what u view ursef to be.......if you are not gay ,then u are not and dont give pple the reason to see u as such
2.the kind of pictures here are not really manly.....do u consciously pose like this.......if so there"s a concern you must address
3.u can unlearn any of your mannerism that is girly......the effeminate thing became part of u as a result of situautions e.g growing up as the only boy in the midst of sisters.......am sure if u consciously work on yourself....u will see a great change
if u really gay......i beg of u to have a change of heart.........i would like to see you in heaven
God help u
FLAMING HOMOGAGGOT!(may all your female supporters marry effeminate transgender..#BULLSHEV)
I have a classmate in secondary school that is naturally like that, he behaves so feminine and that is how he was born, although alotz of people dislikes his feminine attitudes, is better u @Onyx cleared the air that u are born that way.
Gays everywhere this days, that's how's room mate met a girl on dating site and brought her home very late in the night o.. He turned out to be a guy choiii ... Wonders shall never end gays don dey package gann.. Even stupid oyinbo hay dey find big black d**k
Onyx,i jst wanna ask u a Q,do u wanna b a man or a woman,try n bring out d manly part of u.u can do it if u really wanna b a man
Nice writeup Onyx. I like the message you're trying to pass. However I would advise you to tone down on your queer poses/semi-nudity which you keep trying to shove down our throats. Its not what we're used to.
LINDA!!!!!!!!!
You are killing this dude!!!!!!
You are killing this dude!!!!!!
You are killing this dude!!!!!!
You are killing this dude!!!!!!
By your publicity.
It worsens his confusion!
There is an extremely high probability that he has hidden details of troubled early childhood which my have influence his choices. Publicizing him will create a greater barrier against his ability to perceive reality.
Though u may think you are helping him, the truth is that you just contributed to his destruction.
He needs a TRUE friend who will love him and gain his trust to be able him him uproot the foundation of his problems.
No human has any right to discriminate against any other human. If you do not like how they look or what they do, there are better ways you can deal with it. When you discriminate against another human being you destroy them mentally. I do no see anything wrong in what this young man has written about himself. Onyx you will go very far in life mark it down.
Gbam... tell him abeg, he needs 1 know
Ermmm Maybe u should retake English 101....I got dizzy reading ur comment..
All of you insulting him are exactly what is wrong with the world and CHRISTIANITY today. Period!
U guys should just leave onyx alone. He's got his life to leave, so let him be
You and i know that you are among this group of people u just mentioned so why be an hypocrite?
Why are Nigerians so bloody myopic? Mscheeew, it's easy to open your trap and insult someone else.
Well done Onyx for this post, if you guys don't have anything reasonable to say, please shut up. All you homophobic assholes!
Story that touches the heart ..... Mmtsheww
Gay is Gay, drop dat effieminate crap mr man. society keeps feeding us lies but the word of God is d ultimate truth. Think of ur life after your time on earth and repent. You were nt born dat way, stop telling dumb lies from the pit of hell! I cant judge u but the sooner you stop lying to urself the better for you.
Being Gay is not the same as being black or white or from another tribe. dont be silly onyx godwin. Society keeps feeding us lies making us believe that ders nthing wrong with being a HOMOSEXUAL, A TRANNY, SEX CHANGE and all dat rubbish, but we choose not to believe such lies from d depths of hell. If we all decide to listen to d lies of society, where will children from??? dont't be stupid, very soon society will soon make incest look normal, Sick sick world!!!
I was a tom boy growing up and still at heart I still am. I am not more comfortable than when I'm in a t-shirt, jeans and sneakers and secretly wish I could just rock low cut and pour water on my head. Instead I have weave, wear pencil skirts and high heels; its not really me but this is what society requires of me hence here I am... am I happier? Not really *shrugs*
Onyx is effeminate, I have a number of male friends who are the same way; effeminate not gay and masculine not lesbian. If anything I admire his guts to speak up and address something he KNEW most would not understand. You have my eternal respect, just stay true to yourself and shut out all the noise. Peace!
i cant believe am commenting on this crappy thing linda decided to publish........linda,i come here to get news and info not to see this inappropriate write up by someone who is finding it hard to adjust in the society..linda,dont send the wrong message to the youths of this country....there is nothing like effemintae.u made urself so,u buy skinny jeans and lift ur shirt to show ur body..the point is this..its either u are a male or female.anything else,should be killed by having his throat slit for disobeying the lord that created it.
My problem is he does it on purpose, the distasteful poses...dirty surrounding, dirty look, ewwwww...onyx you need spiritual help, even the gays with class won't like you, you're a pig
ONYX, DO YOU HAVE A GIRL FRIEND. ( LOVER)
Onyx, Do You Have A Girl Friend. (Lover)
My ppl understand what he means. They r just born looking and acting that way. In my kids primary school there are a number of kids like that. Are they acting? No so we should just acvept them and look beyond all that. Onyx kudos for rising qbove all this. It is well
People, haba. Onyx is not gay but with feminine features. plenty Somalian and some South African men I noticed have feminine features. Nature twist semblance in a family gene. No choice of Onyx. Guys feel these particular set of people pain and show empathy please
Linda, this is one thing wey dey make me vex for you. Why are you disturbing us with these not-so-urgent matters? And Onyx, listen! All those telling you to 'carry go' are your sworn enemies of progress. Go and write that down somewhere.
"I didn't choose to be like this,i did not create myself,i did not choose to sway my hips,bat my eyelashes,draw my words knowing damn well the world we live in. "......
You did choose to do all these things, like any woman who does then chooses to. These are not intrinsic traits, they are acquired.
hmmmm dats serious
Lekwa ka o di afo ka mbara!
WHAT ARE U DOING ON THIS BLOG..U FINISHED HIGH SCHOOL IN 2012 THAT IS U ARE ABOUT 18 OR 19 YEARS OLD...LOOK AT UR POSES...WHY ACCENTUATING THE BEING EFFEMINATE WITH THOSE POSES PULLING UR SHIRT UP AND SWAYING UR HIPS..IF U ARE GAY IT IS AGAINST THE WILL OF GOD...IT IS NOT EXCUSABLE..SEEK THE LORD'S HELP TO DECALRE UR IDENTITY
Looks like klinfelters syndrome where the affected male individual has poorly developed testes, voice box doesn't break, acts feminine and have enlarged mammary gland
Some numbskull dont even have an effecient brain to comprehwmd this letter...Bishop Dammy, you b ode. Libe your life and b happi Onyx.
Am I dreaming! I know I've been off LIB for a while but is Wilhelmina defending and saying something good about snother human being?!!! Oh my days! Glory be to God!!
Can you people read at all? He didn't say he's gay! He said he's effeminate and was born that way (that's different from being gay, the same way a butch-looking girl with tomboyish attitude doesn't equate lesbianism.) he said he was against the anti-gay bill because people were already calling him gay, discriminating against and bullying him; once the bill is passed, it gives the already wrongfully-judgmental people the legal backing to use it as a weapon against people like him who are already being labelled 'gay' just because of the way they look, walk, speak etc. Did we all read the same post or are people just generally dim? People were already calling him gay because of his looks and when he voiced his opinion against the bill, people just jumped to the conclusion that he was gay, so this explains part of the reasons why he was against the passing of that bill. He didn't say he is hay in this post, if he says that later, then that'll be then but don't twist this message here. He's expressing how he feels regarding the discrimination he faces as an effeminate guy. People are just ignorant I swear. Remain that way if you like, it's your life!....... Just Saying
Wow! And you're a deaconess expressing yourself like that? Which church please?
Silly shallow minded nigerians, I remember meeting someone like D's in kd for d first tym some yes back. I blive I fall in d category of d indifferent cos i t ws obvious it ws not a deliberate behaviour BT some homonal issues. Nigerians need to educate demselves n stop talking trash.
It will end in praise my dear just keep God in your heart at all times he's all knowing and all seeing , he'll see you through.
Linda must b crazy fr publishing dis stupid article... This guy is a gay
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