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Good Morning Shirley & Steve!Steve's advice:
I’m a 23-year-old working woman who is madly in love with her 27-year-old working man with whom I’ve been with for over three years.
One day, I went out with my friends and I drunk more alcohol than I was suppose to. Once I came home, I started to get sick and passed out. In the middle of the night, my boyfriend woke me up and told me to clean myself up. Confused, I asked him why. He says because we just had sex. Of course, I had no knowledge of it because I passed out because of the late night drinking.
The next morning, I asked what happened the night before. He says that he came home, saw me in bed and wanted to have sex. He said I didn’t move or talk but just thought I was really tired. (Even though there was a tall trashcan right beside the bed and apparently my head was halfway in it). Would you consider this a sexual assault? How can I tell him without hurting him, or scaring him to think that I’m labeling him as a “rapist."
"This is kinda a tough one for a man to answer because we've all done this. Tried it anyway. All of us. I done actually tried to Army climb from up from under the bed trying to get to it...We've all tried it. It's called the sneak-attack...
Y'all live together. He told you what he did. He woke you up to make sure you got cleaned up. He told you what he did. A person who did something that they think is really wrong is usually in denial about it. Did he rape you in my estimation - NO. Because you all have had [sex]."
65 comments:
Their cup of brukutu.
Hian!
... Merited happiness
Is see notin wrong in his advice wat was his fanz expectin
I didn't c anytin wrong wit d comment
Ok
Make una allow this Steve rest abeg
He spoke the truth to me. N do far as d dude is her bf y is she complaining?
Speechless! Linda take note!
Now this answer is dope. How on earth is dat supposed to be tagged as rape. This is your partner for crying out loud and u weren't duressed to do it. Madam pls chill
I'm out ***CATCH ME IF U CAN***
Mr adviser well done, miss sex reporter u try, mr fornicator u be idiot
#LibBadbBoy
I don't think there's anything wrong with what he said,
To me he didn't say anything bad, let any guy that comes forth to say he hasn't slept with a drunk girl before will recieve hot slap from me.
And for the ladies too, pls try to control what you drink coz you girls become horny after a heavy load of alcohol and try to initiate sex btw you & the nearest guy to you, without even minding. What I'm saying in essence is girls pls don't get drunk around someone you don't trust coz it takes a lot of descipline to resist you guys.
Don Martins said it ! *GBAM***
Ok o
There is nothing wrong with what dd guy did to his girl friend and Stave Harvey,s answer there is nothing wrong either
There is nothing wrong in his advise jere
Nothin wrong wit wah he said, dats just d truth, u wuldnt call dat rape, it's beta he did it wit u dan doin it with another girl
* it's well*
Had that experience once...I woke up asking "what happened last night"...Harvey is right
Not ma.bizzz
Don't really know what to say sha..
But its true now. Why the outrage? He made love to you while u slept not that he forced you or drugged you, or u wouldn't have consented if u were awake so you now want label it as rape?
There's nothing wrong with what he said joor. People just starts their drama when they want too
Okay...
#FINEST
And if he had gone out 2 do it with another lady, then u'll sue 4 cheating wit a teenager. Biko go and rest #AdaNwa#
Gals and their wahala sha... It's a normal thing in relationships to slide into ur boo while she's asleep Naa. The normal thing is for her to wake up and enjoy the grand event..
That's not rape
That's rape, point blank.
Steve is just being Steve fuckin' Harvey but he's so wrong on this..its a sexual assault and it's left for the girl to move on or do something about it.....
Very funny
Sorry girl u have a rapist as a boyfriend. Love making with no consent is a pure rape
Hmmmm. ..ProudlyDeltan
Mixed reaction: if she doesn't like what happened, and feels repulsed, used and angry, then it's assault and she has the right to complain. It's her body.
But if she (from her tone) feels jus a lil disturbed but not angry, even understanding; then it's ok.
Just that the dude shouldn't make it a habit of sleeping with comatose women, unless; Bill Cosby loading...
To black people nothing is wrong with this, but the white folks the story will always be different something is wrong with this according to white man bible. I love my black culture soo damn much
Of course its normal,my Bf does DAT,nt wen am drunk,buh maybe tiredly asleep DAT I can't even move,buh I mite wakeup wen its Juicy or mite nt even wake!
Lol steve sef
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds
A sex that was not consensual is not nice! period. Boyfriend or not it unfair to the other party. @DON MARTIN just negodu shit Ina ako hia! ibu ezigbo Bingo
Silly you talking of consent from someone passed out?
The only kind of consent would have been when awake to discuss with agreement that either partner can "have" d other when passed out but how then can you ever trust what they'll "do" to you esp. with men who tend to take advantage of women in sex matters.
Always thinking all a woman is, is Just4Sex.
She is his girlfriend..!!!!!
Thought he is her bf and they are sex partners
I don't see anything wrong with his advice. A rapist will deny doing such. But he told you, I personal also experience such being drunk on the process my Bf had sex with me. He told you to clean up but mine the clean me up himself.
So dear do what your heart tells you
A sex that was not consensual is not nice! period. Boyfriend or not its unfair to the other party. @DON MARTIN just negodu shit Ina ako hia! ibu ezigbo Bingo
Na dem sabi
Most ppl affirming what Steve said are capable of drugging a woman to sleep with them#fucktards#disgusting#selfish#rapist#this is sooooooo wrong!
Welll 4 me ntn wrong wit it mehn I hv done it servally time wit mygf ......fuck oyibos
If she thinks it is rape, then let her report to the police.
Sex without her consent is rape. This is how the guy can kill her when she is asleep. This is an unhealthy relationship. Log on to www.wigradio.com this Saturday by 4pm as we talk about unhealthy relationships.
U guys ca try that in Africa. Try this in a civilised world and you get done. wife, girlfriend, flatmate it don't matter. The law is clear 'Inability to give consent means no consent' buyer beware
Na dem sabi. Linda observe!
Alright.
Kinda in a crossroad here
Rapist. FYI not all guys are like You! Take note...
I am not surprised that people see nothing wrong in his comments. It's just so appalling to say the least. Taking advantage of anyone is not a good thing to do. Just because you consented once does not make it ok when the person is drunk and unaware of the situation. SMH
Notin wrong frm ma perspective sha.
Enugu's second shoe designer
Na u knw pass. Keep shut. He had sex wit his babe, babe dat he has bin sleeping with since. Abegy mk u go lick soap.
Shut up
Well..
OKORO UPGRADED
I kno ryt, i see ntn wrong, yal lv tgeda, so wat, he even told her, abeg
#*karlishah*
Nothing is wrong with his statEment.
@Cheryl Gbam!!! well said
Are u serious? So free that you wont feel?
Stevie is damn right d fans shud die now
@DON MARTIN Ijikwe anya gi ka iselu nsii kporonku?
nothing wrong with his advice.pple shud just chill abeg biko
hmmm well their r some cases like dat u have every right to call it rape u also can choose to call it practical theory blac blac blac!!!! it entirely ur choice his advice is his opinion u are not force to go with it NB his only human
Shut up
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