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Wednesday 13 May 2015

A letter to Onyx Godwin (Effeminacy & Masculinity) by LIB reader

A LIB reader Mayowa Aboah (pictured above) writes an open letter to Onyx Godwin. Read below...
This letter is not to support Onyx or mock him in anyway but to let LIBers and the general public face the fact that some people were born this way and more are still coming. Effeminacy in men and masculinity in women is something we encounter regularly in our society. We see them in buses, on the road side, churches, mosques, television, schools. etc. They are everyhwhere, you can't escape it. Effeminacy in men and masculinity in women are no doubt associated with homosexuality which i think its normal for people to think so.
But it should also be noted that certainly not all homosexual people give evidence of these characteristics. Some just got luckier than some, so dont be too quick to judge. Have you ever asked yourself why anybody would choose to be effeminate in a world that makes life miserable for effeminate people? Think about it. These people are not mad.

They were born the normal way just like you and i, They have blood running through their viens.So why mock them? The real manhood or womanhood is not measured in superficial things like the way we pronounce words, how we throw a ball, or how we cross our legs and i guess that was why Onyx was able to get the job he was interviewed for. God created us to be social creatures.

As Christians ,Muslims & Others, we should be above being advocates of societal stereotypes of "real men" and "real women". we should appreciate the wonderful diversity that God has created in us. It's not their fault they were created that way so why not just accept them and let the world rest. I know of Influencial people in Politics and in the Entertainment industry who are effeminate, blooming in their careers and touching lives.

Isn't that the essence of life? So why the headache. Is it untill they start commiting sucide? Lets rise above hate. Its not like we are staying on earth forever. We will all die and all these things wont matter again. Let me stop here because LIBers dont like reading long stories. Lol.

Onyx, live your life biko. Mayowa Aboah .

290 comments:

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Davido's driver said...

U dont say

Davido's driver said...

You nailed it but hope this isn't intended for attention? Lindaobserve

Davido's driver said...

Onyx is the black bruce jeaner

Miss B said...

Nice one..#StopTheHate

gidi babe said...

Well said Muyiwa,i totally agree with you. God bless you.

Unknown said...

God bless u son.....I love u already 4 dis letter. Dnt mind haters in here, almost all of 'em are dying of envy. Very envious of onyx. I've said b4 and I'll say again! Onyx you'll be great in life. I love you and con't bin you.

Abeni said...

Nice post.

Anonymous said...

Mayowa I believe u r not 1 ooo, because I use to have a crush on u, biko dnt break my heart wit all dis u r writing

STERN said...

Brilliant article. #teamfreeonyx

Unknown said...

Go Onyx! Go Onyx! Haters bilko Go nd hug Transformer..

APPLE said...

Hmmm..Well said. I get it now, just like Oby Ezekwesili is masculine Onyx is feminine.

samni said...

Una hear make una leave Onyx alone o, I cant wait to see people's comments. Lol

Unknown said...

Yaaaaaaay!! Thank you! I love intellectual and objective people! LIBers take note! Lol! Thanks mayowa

APPLE said...

Onyx please live your life. Onyx i will love to see your girl friend. :)

Unknown said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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Gud write up man...
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

beautiful said...

U go fear na. On top Onyx matter

Unknown said...

God bless you o, haters can like to go and die. Leave Onyx alone, he's happy with his life, are you?????

Unknown said...

Hehehehehe.....dis bobo don dy trend ooo

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

He made some point here, whatever makes you happy do it, only God can judge.

Effiezy said...

Well said.

Unknown said...

So to all the critics out there, please leave Onyx alone

kace said...

Nice one mayowa

Unknown said...

Well spoken Mayowa,thumbs up.

Onyx's Girlfriend (he isn't gay pls) said...

Mtsheeeeeeew. Next plsss

Anonymous said...

Well said my dear.

Uche said...

I think it's really nice of you to stand up for people like that, not all masculine female are lesbians and not all males with female characteristics are gays. Thank u.

Unknown said...

True words!


OKORO UPGRADED**

Unknown said...

AnOda irrelevant person trying to form relevance... We knw all this....

Unknown said...

Seriously people should learn to let others live their life in peace

Unknown said...

Diz guy fine oooo, abeg send me ur contact.

Anonymous said...

Nice one Mayowa

Unknown said...

Gbam

Anonymous said...

GOD BLESS YOU REAL GOOD For this piece

blazetitov@yahoo.com said...

Nice one bro..

www.glowyshoes.com said...

Oooo...this one is hard...biko everybody live your life.

www.glowyshoe.blogspot.com

Do the walking and let your shoes do the talking
www.hawtshoes.co.uk

Anonymous said...

No justification!!! Your a man behave like a man!!! Period!!!

Grace n Truth said...

Let the effeminate man find the masculine woman. Being an effeminate man is no reason to indulge in the depravity of homosexuality. Same way that being a masculine woman is no reason to indulge in the depravity of homosexuality. By design man is made for woman in the biological, physiological functions of the sex organs. So there is nothing natural about homosexuality and effeminacy is no reason to engage in homosexuality. You have said that there are effeminate men and masculine women. That means there are masculine female partners for effeminate men. So don't make the jump from discussions effeminacy to justifying homosexuality. It doesn't fly. Period. God made man and woman for each other as far as sex and marriage go. And that is by design. Period. It will always take an egg (woman) and sperm ( man) to make new life.

Alfred Adelaja said...

What a nice piece but most lib readers won't still agree with you because they are bigots. They never want to learn something new always sticking with their old believes

Unknown said...

I don't get it please, what is he trying to say about onyx?

Juliebabe said...

I hope you will be able to swallow all the insults coming ya way, i will cross my leg while reading other peoples comment.

His Oil Majesty said...

What kind of rubbish post is this. There was no need for this, he's feminine doesn't mean his pictures have to be suggestive,you have only succeeded in letting Nigerians know you are gay and seeking an approval from him onyx to consider you a partner. I pity for you, you guys think Jonathan's stance on gays and lesbians was tough. Wait till buhari gets in and he might as well decree a tougher sentence for you faggots!

Anonymous said...

OK

I am Coonett

Anonymous said...

Mayowa... are you gay????????

Anonymous said...

Check out Gay Life of an Anonymous Writer

It's an awesome blog. One of my favorite line is from a post titled " Is that Guy Gay? This is how to know.

It said.

Not all feminine men are gay and not masculine men are straight. If you cant tell the difference, don't bother asking.

Unknown said...

Gud 1

Unknown said...

Oh my..................May God bless you for this story.

And yes, we don't like reading long stories.

Unknown said...

Gud 1

Unknown said...

Fantastic response

Unknown said...

Fantastic response

Unknown said...

Nice 1

knowurway.com said...

Guy get out of this blog you fagot called Mayowa, and Onyx, linda stop posting all this useless post, why are you promoting Gay on your blog?

Unknown said...

@Mayowa Aboah, God bless u abundantly for dis open letter, and I hope it get 2d necessary quarters.

Let me use dis opportunity to make dis clarification which are@no time do I support d act guy, and Onyx has never said openly dat he is guy moreso there is difference btw d act, and d personalilty involve. I may b against d act but not against d personality involved bcos am not d one dat created d person, and don't hav d right to either judge or criticise let alone condemned d person.

I wil strongly suggest, and say dat much as I condemned d act of gay, and all dat but d personality involved should never b judged or condemned thereof but sincere prayers, and wishes for inside out change b made for d person so that they can b differences in d person life. It's only God dat can truly change d life of any human being's.

I notice we r very good@hating, judging, criticising, and condemning people@will. D gospel truth is, d measure wil dish out to people r d same measure dat life dish out to us. Pls b caution wit d words u dish out bcos wht goes around comes around.

ONYX, u r blessed beyond measure, and may God bring dat needed joy, and happiness in ur life. God has divinely created u for a purpose in life, and do not define ur life by d names people calls u but only by d name's dat d true living God calls u.

Precious fellow LIB readers there is GREAT DIFFERENCES btw being a guy, and effeminate. ONYX is not a guy, and u guys should stop calling him d name dat he is not, and just as he said he is simply effeminate.

God bless u all, and stay blessed alwaz. One love to Linda, ONYX, my fellow top commentator's, and all fellow LIB readers. Love u all.

Unknown said...

Abeg what's all this sh*t self? Who notice oxnix and he palaver? Abeg Linda next jhor!

Nky said...

onyx has finally gotten the publicity he wished for...

Unknown said...

True talk Mayowa, let LIBers shuld stop ven dis impression about of Onyx bin a gay. He wasn't the one that created himself d@ way. He was born dat way. We ve lots of them on the roads. I see them almost everyday. Pls let's stop this criticism and allow them live their lives biko.



Cutevivylaura@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Linda oginidi??????? Dont u hv gist for us today?. Biko i have had enough of onyx already! If u Dont have gist, i have oooooo, in my area wv bn having light non stop for the past 3days . Hurray
!!!!

Unknown said...

True talk Mayowa, let LIBers shuld stop ven dis impression about of Onyx bin a gay. He wasn't the one that created himself d@ way. He was born dat way. We ve lots of them on the roads. I see them almost everyday. Pls let's stop this criticism and allow them live their lives biko.



Cutevivylaura@gmail.com

Unknown said...

Woooooooow! Dis is about the only sensible piece I have read from a LIBer. Kudos Mayowa. Onyx carry go jare, nothing do you. Linda take note!

Unknown said...

Woooooooow! Dis is about the only sensible piece I have read from a LIBer. Kudos Mayowa. Onyx carry go jare, nothing do you. Linda take note!

Idyllic Prince said...

Mayowa Aboah encouraging bad thing...
~Idyllic has spoken-

Unknown said...

True talk Mayowa, let LIBers shuld stop ven dis impression about of Onyx bin a gay. He wasn't the one that created himself d@ way. He was born dat way. We ve lots of them on the roads. I see them almost everyday. Pls let's stop this criticism and allow them live their lives biko.



Cutevivylaura@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Attention seeker....cool tho

Unknown said...

Nice

DADDYSWIFE said...

Tell them!!.#indbanjvoice.onyix dnt mimd o jareh.bunch of hypo hypo
#nothankyoui'llratherbeselfmade

Anonymous said...

Hi Mayowa, you are fine. Ashy lips tho. Small lip bam will help.

Unknown said...

Effeminacy and Masculinity do exist, bro. We ain't saying it doesn't.... but if u say its inborn..... then that's false. Its a learned habit - deviation from the normal. It can be unlearned.

If you are a man/woman, and you see yourself deviating to the other road, call yourself back jare. You weren't created that way. Nay! Consciously UNLEARN those acts!Stop forming to be what you are not. Stay the man/or woman you were created to be!


For From the beginning of the World, it was not so. He (God) made them male and female, and to the male, God gave a FEMALE!, Not a MALE or a "SHE-MALE"!!!

Thank you.

And Godwin, you look like a man, not a woman, and a handsome man at that. See yourself as one. Treat yourself as one.

Forget all these big big oyinbo they are bringing up now. You are a man!

Unknown said...

True talk Mayowa, let LIBers shuld stop ven dis impression about of Onyx bin a gay. He wasn't the one that created himself d@ way. He was born dat way. We ve lots of them on the roads. I see them almost everyday. Pls let's stop this criticism and allow them live their lives biko.



Cutevivylaura@gmail.com

Unknown said...

Yoruba boi.. continue.. Linda take note#

Unknown said...

Yoruba boi.. continue.. Linda take note#

Unknown said...

True talk Mayowa, let LIBers shuld stop ven dis impression about of Onyx bin a gay. He wasn't the one that created himself d@ way. He was born dat way. We ve lots of them on the roads. I see them almost everyday. Pls let's stop this criticism and allow them live their lives biko.



Cutevivylaura@gmail.com

Unknown said...

Yoruba boi.. continue.. Linda take note#

Unknown said...

True talk Mayowa, let LIBers shuld stop ven dis impression about of Onyx bin a gay. He wasn't the one that created himself d@ way. He was born dat way. We ve lots of them on the roads. I see them almost everyday. Pls let's stop this criticism and allow them live their lives biko.



Cutevivylaura@gmail.com

Unknown said...

True talk Mayowa, let LIBers shuld stop ven dis impression about of Onyx bin a gay. He wasn't the one that created himself d@ way. He was born dat way. We ve lots of them on the roads. I see them almost everyday. Pls let's stop this criticism and allow them live their lives biko.



Cutevivylaura@gmail.com

Unknown said...

Well said. I believe the way Onyx was attacked on LIB was because of the way he drops I'll comments on others. For me oooo, I follow call am "Lizard" at d sight of his pix, I was like " damn. So this is d guy that insults Kim, and other celebs Linda posts " lol.

TO ONYX GODWIN.

Well, nobody blames you for ur nature. Live ur life d way u want to, u ddnt create ursef and know that whatever gets to the social media, u can't control the outcome. Exampl: your pictures.

Anonymous said...

I dont think people hve issues with onyx being effeminate.they have issues with him shoving it down their throat,he shuld jst live his life.wanting constant approval fron everyone is d greatest form of a complex,an inferior one at dat.i knw nt all effeminate people are gay,for some its based on environment factors i.e a guy being surrounded by alot of women frm birth say sisters or aunts.

Anonymous said...

BS. If you are disordered, go seek medical or spiritual solution. This includes homosexuals, pedophiles, maniacs, etc. Don't just follow the crowd of modern misfits, for the sake of your soul. If Adolf Hitler had sought treatment, the world would have been saved the trauma of the 2nd world war!

Anonymous said...

Onyx gay partner has finally surface,,gay supporting his follow gay partner

Austine ihechukwu said...

Everybody don dey form writer na, nna nwokem ga nodu odu if u dnt knw wot 2 write, there are better and more important issues 2 write on rather that pening this toddlers write up here, cnt u jst write on national issues since u wan become writer

Unknown said...

Smile'

mgtss.blogspot.com said...

Great Mayowa! I totally agree with you. I think people should be 'freed' to live their lives... i say do whatever brings you happiness so long as it does not actively detract from another's!

#Ihaveacrushonmyself said...

my dear mayowa just one comment for you'YOU WENT TO SCHOOL" well written.

#Karma said...

This would be the first time I will take time to comment on Linda's blog even though I have followed for years.

As much as I commend this writer, I do think that the Onyx should try and stay away from media attention if it makes him uncomfortable. There is no need to make himself a nuisance and not expect some sort of reaction. Concentrate on your studies or whatever it is you do. Having female mannerism is no excuse for your conduct so far and Linda should know better than to encourage you for her own ends. #except there's a purpose to all this that is yet to be disclosed. I wish him every happiness.

Unknown said...

Mayowa, u couldn't v said it better. Tanx. Onyx, shine bright like diamond.

Unknown said...

Wait o, is Onyx really a gay???

Anonymous said...

SMH...buh I'm sure u knw dat aside being 'effeminate' or gay,Onyx is also rude,mannerless, senseless nd all(whic establishes d fact that he's not rili a 'gud' boy),the way he comments,nd comes 4 libers says it all...either u like it or not,our society frowns again being gay(evn if u ppl wish to 'englishised' it and call it 'effemiWAtEVA') fine,u may find urself acting or reasoning dat way but it is just civil and moral demands you correct it,wearing tattered jean,posing awkwardly nd seeking useless attention isn't right,no matter aw u choose to defend urself...youths of this days tends to be affected by diff tinz;internet,peer pressure,'civilisation' our rotten society and all.This is is dia4 a great lesson for new parents,this is wat our generation has degenerated to,watch,train nd always pray 4 ur kids...God help us all. ONYX,im sure u choose dis path cos of ur looks (I've seen a similar case) coupled wit d fact dat u lack normal upbringing(which would av been a guiding tool 4 u),its not too late to change u knw?pls stop al dis nd concentrate on being a better person,u can develop a career in modelling or sth worthwhile,pls I beg u,Nigerians doesn't av so muc patience,nd remember linda has already made u popular,evn I can recognise u aniwia I see u..be wise pls!!! #LindaPostMyCommentPls

Anonymous said...

Cool.... This is d truth.

Unknown said...

Tank God u knw libers dnt like readin long stories. I grab ur point and am sure odas did.

Anonymous said...

We understand, your f*cking onyx ass...fool!

4nkylization said...

Mtcheewwww, wat re u blabbing? Is anyone posing a threat to his life? Everybody wants to b noticed on LIB. U had better gone to b known for somtin better. Welldone.

Damilola said...

Must there be a reply? It adds unnecessary significance to the matter on ground

Anonymous said...

I don't know this guy or onyx from anywhere but I love you two already.. Just a word for you onyx, live your life, don't care about the opinion of anybody. We all came to this world alone, and alone we shall all leave.

Unknown said...

Thanks bros it is really good to hear a sensible man talk onyx love u to fullest and be proud of who u r ,

Anonymous said...

thank youn my brother some of them dont think before they Judge is it till you hear they commited sucide that you will come to LIB and say Eyah. Hypocrites
Onyx walk tall and Enjoy your life my Brother!

Debbie Chelsea said...

So true dude.....I just. Dnt understand why people keep insulting him....Onyx live ur life n 4get wat people will say

Aunty gwegzzz.... said...

Well said!

blizy me said...

boy u re cute, call me mayb

Unknown said...

I second that.. nice write up

Victor said...

Ehen...okay i shall write my open letter..lmao..live and let live oooooooooooo

Unknown said...

Yeeeeeeyyyyyy! Nice write up mayowa! You really mad a good point there! Haba libers like reading length write up at list everyone must all.

Anonymous said...

Now pple re using onyx to seek attention? Not kul @ all.

Unknown said...

Onyx you're beautiful the way u're cos you're
Born that way.....let no one bully or abuse you.
Fuck haters......they're no GOD!!!

KWEEN said...

A thousand likes for this write up.

Unchained said...

Your last name says it all Aboah k3k3.

Anonymous said...

Pls go and open ur asshole for onyx and stop making noise here at list that would encourage him in some ways. Bastards

Unknown said...

Nice one from Mayowa

mel20 said...

Who una helpp!!

Anonymous said...

seconded. hear! hear!

Unknown said...

Menh! This guy Is super cute with brain,check out the sexy lips,WOW WOW WOW

Anonymous said...

nice thoughts...infact am in love

Anonymous said...

Chei dis guy fine o, I love u dear

Unknown said...

Ok o, noted

Unknown said...

Ok o, noted

MY TURN said...

Nice Letter... NOT ALL EFFEMINATE MEN OR MASCULINE WOMEN ARE GAY...

Anonymous said...

Ub fool o

mel20 said...

Am sure if he were to be leaving in seria nor Gambia, he would change the way he poses and clothings,or did God choose his wardrobe for him, or told him to snap irritating pictures, I mean he doesn't even look like a woman so stop promoting stupidity and let the kid get a life!

Thatigbobabe(Lilyflower) said...

Linda,expect my own letter soonest

Unknown said...

Nice write up

Unknown said...

Congrats onyx, you have found yourself a lover.wishing you more dick in your ass! Nonsense!!

Amy Amy said...

Nice one bros

Anonymous said...

I love you for this Mayowa! I don't comment on this blog but I just need to tell you that I appreciate this. Nigerians should learn to let go of gender binary. Nothing kills a nation more than ignorant.

Anonymous said...

What sh*t is this guy talking? When God created us, he created male and female. MALE AND FEMALE man. He created us in his own perfect image. Dont come here and talk trash. Go read your bible. We are beautifully and wonderfully made and anything outside the bible is our own handiwork. God did not create a male looking like a female vice versa.

Unknown said...

That's kind of you.

Unknown said...

lol @ LIBers dont like reading long stories.....#True!!..... #Don't be quick to judge! #We aren't staying on earth forever...... Nice write up Mayowa!!

Anonymous said...

I don see u, Good Person! I go invite u cum my church as motivational speaker. #Dancing tu Zeez Atewo!!

Anonymous said...

Nothing is wrong with being effeminate or masculine just carry on your normal life. Don't tell us long story about it and stop showing us pics of your curvy body. That's weird.

Anonymous said...

Well said Mayowa Aboah.......God bless U

Unknown said...

Hian!

Unknown said...

"this letter is not to support or mock onyx" Looks like you're supporting him tho..

Chi chi said...

I have always admire how bravery of Onyx. Am actually a fan😘

Ade said...

Well said sir.

"Onyx live ur life."

Unknown said...

Hahaha
i see why dis all happening in d first place
awaiting onyx's reply

Unknown said...

Nawa o, everyone is writing letter,n linda is publishing letter.

Etsako Pearl said...

Smh....O Lord,plz av mercy on dis generation.Amen!

Anonymous said...

Like seriously! Linda u belong to this group. Sponsorers,enablers,empowerers/empoweress, what the heck! Piece of shit!

Unknown said...

I support u my bro,dey shuld let dis guy be,haters plis let onyx b...

Unknown said...

We'll all die and these things won't matter
Onyx shebi U don hear?
Make we hear word O jare

Anonymous said...

Anothe wannabe...like this shit made any extra sense huh?

Kinkysoul said...

Nice one Mayowa Aboah (y)

Gold precious said...

Please enough of all this bulls hit of being born gay,with effeminate or masculinity. ..people are born deaf, blind , disabled not fay etc. That is a life's choice and the choices YOU made. I don't care how anybody chooses to live his or her life,what annoys me are the weak excuses being given....I will respect you more if you come out and say it's your choice. Your excuses show how weak you are to the ashes life throws at you. I was masculine growing up as a result of my environment buy I grew up and DECIDED to change...be more feminine. The watch word being DECIDED EQUALS CHOICES . So you all chose it own it and be proud of your choices and stop blaming nature or begging for acceptance cos to me that only shows you are ashamed of your choice.

Unknown said...

Lwkmm. Onyx don bcom celeebrity for dis place o. Nice letter sha

Unknown said...

Well said.

SMURF said...

Abeg, everyone don turn writer today oh!!!

Anonymous said...

Is onyx gay? Pls answer us

CHERRY said...

Bla bla bla!

Anonymous said...

Mstcheeeeeew! I even thought the write up would be sensible. Dear writer, are you telling us to embrace homosexuality with open arms? Hell no!

April.

azia said...

onyx darling....you know haters gon hate...just stay true to urseff.....**

BADASS ANONYMOUS DUDE said...

BLOCK OF BULLSHIT!!!(YOU EVEN HAD TO WRITE A "LOVE LETTER"...#CLOSETHOMOBITCHASSBITCH)

Unknown said...

I love u for this Mayowa

Unknown said...

Shutup man!

uchenna said...

Anuofia!team member,u will soon die of hiv!

Unknown said...

Well said.. Let's all stop the hate

Anonymous said...

Mr mayowa and your point is ???? Attention seeker with pointless article. why include your picture ??? Guess you wanted people to see that you are a fine boy ? Anyway we have seen your fine face, now will you run along.

Anonymous said...

well written and i agree with you. infact i envy effeminacy in men and masculinity in women. why? because they posses special traits that you and i lack!

#letthemleave

iamsegun...... fasegz@gmail.com

jbankzE said...

Onyx weda u xplain to dis stupid Nigerians or not,they will nva change so wats d point.... Live ur life n dnt let pple's hate get to u...

Unknown said...

True Talk

Unknown said...

Owk


Lib freak

Anonymous said...

good work mayowa. God bless you

Unknown said...

Imma just sit back and watch the darm comments roll in.

Sportsman said...

i dey look noni

via http://talk9ja.com

Anonymous said...

Attention seekers

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this write up.

I have often wondered if we ever pause to think how terribly wicked it is to discriminate for whatever reason...

Leave Onyx, effeminates and gays alone. They have done no one no wrong. Personally they are amongst the most compasssionate human beings I have come across...probably because of the persucution they daily face.

Anonymous said...

Absolutely agree

Dreezy the quidnunc said...

True bro

KINGING said...

100% gospel truth! Well said!

amaka said...

Well said. Thanks for the info.

Mamapapa said...

Somebody committed suicide ( at home) and left a note when we were in secondary school because of this issue. That week, the school was somber. I don't know whether it will be possible for Onyx to try not to wear crop tops, at least. Or is it that I don't understand that aspect?

Anonymous said...

Mayowa u go born gay.

Unknown said...

Please this topic is getting so disgusting by the day.. I really don't know what moral lesson I need to learn from this. I think onyx or whatever his name is should keep his effeminacy alone to himself, we don't need to know it.

Unknown said...

Please this topic is getting so disgusting by the day.. I really don't know what moral lesson I need to learn from this. I think onyx or whatever his name is should keep his effeminacy alone to himself, we don't need to know it.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for this article.

I have often wondered if we pause to think how terribly wicked it is to discriminate for any reason whatsoever.

Please let's leave Onyx, Effeminates, and Gays alone. They are some of the most compassionate human beings I ever came across - probably due to the unending tribulation they face.

Unknown said...

I have seen several post on this blog about Onyx, but after reading the last one and going through the comments, I felt the urge to write this.

First of all, one thing that caught my attention in your article was when you said, "This three set of people shaped who I am today".

No matter how you want to make yourself believe that, I will like you to know that you have the choice of defining yourself and letting people define you. I believe you've heard the saying, "Never allow people's opinion define who you're". No matter what you wrote in that article, who you're today is your choice and making...believe me, the society doesn't know who you are, they only have their opinion and it's none of their business.

Those people that mocked you in the interview room, believe me, it didn't take them more than a day to forget they met someone like you, you might have lived in a certain area where you have been mocked and criticized, the moment u pack and move from that area, my dear, you have been forgotten, nobody remembers you and nobody talks about you, you said you grew up being strong and bold, but sincerely in this aspect, you gave in to your weakness and that's because you made it your weakness in the first place.

Back in junior secondary school, there was this guy in my class that behaves like a girl,he talks like a girl and walks like a girl, I came to know that he didn't just start it, it was natural, his fellow boys mocked him, I too once told him he behaves like a girl,but all those things didn't make him think he is less a boy, till today I know him and he is still himself living his life.

Sorry to say this, but trying to say they shaped who you are is just an excuse to evade the choices you made, it's just like someone who is gay saying he became gay because he was sexually abused by a gay, truth is; it's just an excuse because he had the choice to live right no matter what trauma he experienced and the choice to become like his predator, because we all know what is right and what is wrong.

I know of a man who was sexually abused at a tender age by an uncle he liked so much, he lived with that ugly experience without his parents or anyone knowing about it, but today he is a well respected man of God, I witnessed his testimony and I was shocked.

My point: Nobody shaped you, who you are is your choice with clear evidence, you might be behaving like a girl but seriously, looking at your pictures, you don't look like a girl starting with your face, you are just a slim guy who refuse to maintain his 'boyish' looks.
Drop the crazily torn tight trousers, dress better, dress like a man and see if the same people who mocked you as an effeminate won't ask "What is wrong with him today?" Like you weren't meant to be dressing like a man.

I hope you get my points and learn from them, its not too late to change who you are.

Unknown said...

I so much love this

Anonymous said...

Mayowa u r so learned n right too.... #faithekele #comlag05set

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this,I fully support this write up.I read lib comments on onyx article and it broke my heart that people are still bullying him and some even threatening to kill him and yet we say we are christians,nigerians can't stand that people are different and to onyx live your life the way you want it and be happy and be also be a good person that is all that matters!and to all lib hypocrites ask yourselves this question 'what will jesus do?

Anonymous said...

I dedicate lady gaga's born this way to you onyx,you were brave to speak up and don't let the bullies win live your life and be happy.

Anonymous said...

Awwwwwww that was really nice and thoughtful.
Live and let live guys. As long as he's not hurting anyone.

Btw Linda, you have to surely reward this onyx guy. He's been giving you news lately (putting himself out there on your blog) . Directing traffic n increasing comments.

Dear Onyx, you are brave, keep doing you. God bless you for living your truth without fear.

Suwa said...

I de wait for una comments o!

Anonymous said...

Nice...
I was effeminate as a kid and I just absolutely hated myself. I've outgrown it now thankfully! I can imagine how Onyx feels sometimes...
Hang in there Bro. .you gonna be alright.

Anonymous said...

enof of this ONYX who is trying to force himself on people with silly pictures that looks irritating. Has to reevaluate his mind abegi

Anonymous said...

Mayowa, I couldn't agree more...on point. Oshe

Kelechi

Anonymous said...

But Mayowa, you are fine sha o. Chai!

Admire said...

U must b his partner

Subomi said...

well written. Sensible and understandable

Anonymous said...

True talk

Anonymous said...

Nice one

Unknown said...

Mtcheeew! Why are you making a mountain out of this mole hill?

Spontaneous. said...

Clap for yourself

Femiluv said...

Love this. Absolutely correct.

Anonymous said...

I love you mayowa. You are indeed a wise man

Tendency oby said...

Onyx take note but I dnt support homesexually

Anonymous said...

Nice one

Anonymous said...

shut the fuck up

me,masef and eyes!!! said...

Am in no way against the way God created Onyx Godwin...what am totally against is the fact that he keeps dressing and posing like a woman. Except he is been compelled by God to dress and pose that way if not I would only say he is been ADDRESSED the way he DRESS and POSE in pixs....
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*ah mk her cum first den ah folo de lead*

Anonymous said...

Shut d fuck up bitch!

Unknown said...

So ooo, u don dey eye onyx abi...Partner in gender

Jobellaine skin care and cosmetics said...

Well said. No one has right to discriminate against another.

Mzz_Mary said...

Kk

Anonymous said...

I commend you bruh. I agree with you. People need to live and let live. Y hate another being for who they are. Who are we to judge the nect person?

Anonymous said...

thanks Mayowa, that was a beautiful, eye opening and educative piece. God bless your kind heart.

Anonymous said...

Mayowa i get your point but Onxxy is gay...masculinr or femine...have i made myself clear fool

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