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Saturday 30 August 2014

Dear LIB readers: Should I cover my husband's sin?

from a female LIB reader
I have been married for 10+ years and thought I was happily married till some weeks ago. From the fourth year into my marriage my mom advised us to take on 2 female relatives. One was 22 and the other 13 at that time. In 2010, we noticed that the older of the girls had become so close to my husband to the point that anyone could easily conclude they were intimate. She became rude to me but got closer to my husband and he never saw anything wrong with her attitude. He would take her to school (UNILAG) and pick her up regularly. He would gladly buy the exact items for her and myself whenever he traveled. Several times he gave her large sums without my consent or knowledge but thankfully it all came out through her mom. Continue...

He blurted out once that she had STD and I was quite embarrassed that he would know that about her if nothing was going on. In the end we decided she couldn't go on living in my house and my mom came to take her away her even though my husband kicked against it furiously. The younger one stayed on and that is now my greatest undoing.

She grew up quickly and she is now 20 and in her second year in University. She recently sent her Dad (who lives in Lagos) a suicide message stating that she was going to kill herself if she is allowed to continue staying with us. Her dad has now called me to say he followed up with the suicide message and she confided in him that my husband disvirgined her at 15 and had continued to sleep with her till she put up some resistance late last year. She said he is also with her roommate and claimed to have seen a message from the girl to my husband implicating him. She also said that she had caught my husband and the older girl that left in 2010 in suspicious positions before the girl was sent away.

I have confronted him with all these and he is not giving tangible reasons to disbelieve the girl. Truth is I know he did these things because of other things the girl told me that I have since confirmed one of which is that he brought a stray girl (18 yrs) into our home under the guise that she was a distant cousin's daughter. It turned out he met her randomly and merely chatted her up.

My Pastors have intervened and told me all these are true but that "he is a man and will never openly admit it now". They are asking me to let go for the sake of my children and the marriage. I am however upset that he will get off this easily and the innocent girl will not get justice. Should I cover his sins and appeal to the girl's father who has indicated that he will do as I advise or should I insist that he is made to apologize to the girl? I keep thinking what if she is my own daughter!! I am at my wits end trying to figure out if I should act as a wife or a mother! Will a good wife cover her husband's sins???

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Anonymous said...

he should apologise to her. what he did was a devilish act which d girl will never forget. Men tho dey have no shame.God pls help me to get maried to a responsible nd God fearn man , who will be faithful to me till the end

Anonymous said...

Your husband: Should be jailed (for being a wicked dog)

You: Should be slapped for being so careless (how could you not know)

...biko wait till the DOG starts sleeping with your own children before repeating you hear? Mtscheeewww!!!

Anonymous said...

Which one is apologise to the girl? He raped her at age 15!! That man should be in jail. Mtscheeeeeew.

Anonymous said...

Linda I've been meaning to ask dis. Weneva u put up stories like these from LIB readers, the pics attached, re they real pics of the supposed LIB reader? For this particular post, if yes, then the young lady had just uncovered her husband's sins and yet asking us whether or not to.

APPLE said...

Madam you are a FOOL!!!! Dear Nigerian married women, please don't bring in relatives to live with you I am not married to a Nigerian but the few ladies i know in Nigeria that is what their husbands do. NIGERIAN MEN ARE DOGS!!! They can come back and insult me I DONT CARE! Once i post my comment i waka so all your insults will bounce back on you all. THEY ARE DIRTY DOGS! Madam, you were not observant. The ones that have money will rather spend on their girl friends, they will rather go and satisfy their girl friends while their wives are at home starving. 95 % of them are like that.

comfort said...

Nawah ooo ,dis one na jamb question ooo...just let ur pastor lead u with d words of God.

winniekoko said...

Kill him, he deserves to die......for the wages of sin is death....

Unknown said...

HmmMmmmm this one pass me o

suzzi said...

its your choice really. You may choose to leave or stay. But if you decide to stay, know he will do it again. If you do not bring in your nieces he'll do it outside. Fact is its really just your choice

Nkechi Nwabueze said...

May God give you the wisdom to handle the situation, this is quite disgusting but what can i say? its a man's world. Such a pain....

Jesus Reigns said...

Kill him slowly with cyanide. It works like magic,trust me. Apologise to d girl's folks and move on.

Anonymous said...

May God deliver married women from beasts in form of husbands. Men.......hmmm. Every woman should keep her eyes to the ground ooo. Expose the fool. Let the world know,ley his kids know.

Bh33J4Y said...

I pray God intervene and show you the way forward my sister cos this is a big wa o... powerofmapen@yahoo.com

"Only God knows"

tobby said...

I think u should just let go and forgive him cos of ur kids, but just ensure the girl no longer stays with u.

Anonymous said...

I WOULD ADVISE YOU TO GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE , AND PRETEND AS IF NOTHING HAPPEN. BECAUSE THIS PROBLEM IS NOT REALLY YOUR BUSINESS , IT WAS YOUR HUSBAND PALAVA AND GIRL , SO , JUST CLOSE YOUR EAR , AND LET THEM SORT THEMSELVES OUT , IF HE LIKE ,LET HIM APOLOGIZE , IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. I HAVE EXPERIENCED THIS KIND OF THING BEFORE , WHEN I CAUGHT MY AUNT NAKED WITH MY HUSBAND ON BED. I REFUSED TO DISTURB MY BRAIN OVER , THE SHAME OF MY AUNT, BECAUSE SHE WOULD BE THE ONE WHO WILL GET FRUSTRATED OVER WHAT SHE HAS DONE , AND THE SHAME WILL NOT ALLOW HER MIND TO REST , SHE WILL ALWAYS FEEL GILTY. SO IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME . I JUST GET ON WITH MY LIFE .

Anonymous said...

ANGELRAY SAYS
If u are not careful ur husband will sleep with ur daughter so if u like cover his sin, he's a he goat. Chikena.

Anonymous said...

fuck ur husband, like u stated what if that is ur daughter, remember if u don't speak up, ur children and all ur future generation will suffer. How can u sleep with a pedophile.

Anonymous said...

Why is our society like this? Why must we women be made to swallow every stupid,foolish,adulterous act our husbands commit and be told to stay cos of marriage and kids? But if it's a woman that dares sleep with one man even for once,that woman is doomed and is chased out of her matrimonial home. Nobody will advice the man to forgive and take her back as to save their marriage and kids. We women have our emotions too and feel hurt by all these. Our society only favour the man even in this 21st century and it's unfair. We all are humans. Now this poor woman is not even annoyed with her husband nor talking about her hurt feelings(ie even if she notices she was done bad), she's busy asking whether to protect her husband. Madam,your husband is a shameless he-goat that should be made to suffer the consequences of child molestation after all the girl was only 15 when he took away her innocence. Cover his sins my foot.

** Sexy Milf Queen **

Anonymous said...

My dear this your question tire me i no lie, that your husband slf nawa, me I no fit talk abeg .CHI.

Anonymous said...

i am a guy and i know all me cheat

but ur husbands cheating is of the devil, predatory and paedophilic in nature


expose his incorrigible ass

Anonymous said...

I am sorry 2 say:"u ve a dog as a husband" don't be surprised he can do dat 2 his own children.y not stay away 4 a while 4 safety reasons n pray he changes,mean yle don't cover up his evil act.#cute catty#

Unknown said...

Hmmm so sorry to have found your self in such predicament,your Husband clearly is a "DOG" in human form,if he want's to cheat that different but it is so wrong to have taken advantage of that lil girl and not only has he committed a criminal offense but he has committed a sin against God too, madam there re two remedies to this one report to the authorities and secondly file for a divorce,your husband is clearly a pedophile,degenerates and clearly has no ounce of respect for you,by the way why allow so many strangers in to your home all in the name of rendering assistance???

NennyD said...

My candid advise is that you should make him apologize because some how that girl is psychological traumatized. She even needs to consult with a good psychologist @d end of it all.

Anonymous said...

My dear, anything family is a hard and delicate issue. Only uou can decide what you want to do because if we tell you to expose your husband, you will be the one to leave with the consequences all your live. I know many people will say expose him but think about the aftermath when everything settles again. If I were in your shoes, I am not sure I will not expose him though, might probably leave with my kids if I can't take it any longer. Or better still call a family meeting and let him use his mouth to say whatever he has done. I am curious to know what other people think about this though. All the best whatever you decide... Mama Kay!

Unknown said...

What a dumb WOMAN. Its a shame you still calling the shameless man your husband.

Anonymous said...

"If you cannot do without cheating on your spouse,please stay unmarried and date as many girls/guys as you want".

Cheating alone is an insult to one's person but bringing the person you are cheating with to your home or doing it right under your wife's/husband's nose is the height of it,talk more of doing it with a relative. I can't deal. Shows the person lacks any form of respect for the spouse.

That man needs to be taught a lesson and you can do that by reporting him to the police or any human rights organisation. Such people don't care if its their daughters or family member,as long as the person is female they would sleep with the person.

Like you rightly asked,what if it was your daughter,would you be here asking these questions or you would have gone to report him by now? Please,help the girl get justice.

I know you might want to consider the fact that he his your husband but seriously you are better off without such a man but if you still decide to keep quite, know this that karma is just around the corner and it always gets whomever it seeks.

Stories like this make me wonder the breed of men we have and the same goes for the women.
###IamBeauty.

ovialekhe said...

expose him cos if u dont, ur daughters are next in line.Shameless he- goat

Anonymous said...

Do what is right not what is easy; Nigerian people need to really crack down on grown up ending up sleeping with under-age or family relatives i really feel sorry for that girl he slept with at 15

Anonymous said...

He is a predator. His behavior will continue and you will face years more of the same. As a matter of principle and for the sake of any girl children that you may have, please leave peacefully with your children. You have done nothing wrong and I commend you for not blaming the girls.

Unknown said...

Wahala dey. ######QUEENMAYA#######

Qwerty said...

Please , dont tell me this story is true :(

Anonymous said...

Go and learn from Anita Oyakhilome, african women be dieing in their marriages. Tueh

Anonymous said...

Na wa o dey there dey cover hm up hm go gv u STD na der ur eye go clear abi dem tie ur mouth?? Dats y it's advisable to get married to sm1 u truly knw abi u wer so despirate.........mthcwwwww


.......SUNNY X......

Anonymous said...

Our men need to be held more accountable for their actions, that is the main reason why the quality of manhood keeps on deteriorating in this society. You do not have to hide any sins, the news is already out - the girl has spoken up (thank God), her father, your pastors all are already aware. He probably did the same thing to the other girl, and it is certain, he will continue to same to more girls if he's not held to account. He will simply learn to hide it better.
I think your dilema is whether legal action should be taken against him and if so, should you testify?
I would advise you to speak to Aunt Landa. She's professionally trained and has seen a whole lot of similar cases in their thousands, many far worse than yours. Not only does she advocate for girls in these cases she's also a marriage counsellor and an ordained minister.
Please contact her on Facebook or call 080 9911 1919. It is well with you.
- AE

Anonymous said...

Cover ur husbands sins but remember karma is a bitch! One day some oda woman will cover d same sin her husband committed wit ur dota! Ask urslf , if those girls were ur dotas wat would u do?

Anonymous said...

Our men need to be held more accountable for their actions, that is the main reason why the quality of manhood keeps on deteriorating in this society. You do not have to hide any sins, the news is already out - the girl has spoken up (thank God), her father, your pastors all are already aware. He probably did the same thing to the other girl, and it is certain, he will continue to same to more girls if he's not held to account. He will simply learn to hide it better.
I think your dilema is whether legal action should be taken against him and if so, should you testify?
I would advise you to speak to Aunt Landa. She's professionally trained and has seen a whole lot of similar cases in their thousands, many far worse than yours. Not only does she advocate for girls in these cases she's also a marriage counsellor and an ordained minister.
Please contact her on Facebook or call 080 9911 1919. It is well with you.
- AE

Anonymous said...

it sinful to cover sin d least u can do is to forgive him afterwards

Lady kim kim said...

Wot a life for ur husband?it's ur choice to leave or not?bt as for me ooo,I will leave.it's too much drama only on him,ow can u b respected among ur families

Anonymous said...

Madam shut up and expose ur silly husband!

Jessica law said...

I will advice you not to cover up for him if u want to have inner peace and as a mother too. make him to Apologies to the girl and her father and always pray for him for a change his a pervert.

Anonymous said...

No dear u don't need 2 cover he sin becos u re nt his creator even dose his ur husband, ur husband is useless man

lillycrown said...

no comment for dis post since linda don go weekend flexing.lolz just kiding

Tracyomodon said...

pls dont cover any sins.your husband is a cradle robber and needs police involvement.Imagine if you were the mother of those girls or don't you have children. Pls ignore those pastors they are the ones causing confusion every where.

Amaka.u.l said...

Hmmm,abeg expose am...hm own too much joor.if he didn't face d crime dts means he ll never change

Mzfollowfollow said...

Please make him pay, for the sake of the girl.
You don't forget this things, it grows with you and sometimes affect ur life.
Before d girl will wake up one day and transfer d aggressions on you or your kids.



And please divorce his ass, he is a dog

Anonymous said...

My dear Fellow Mother,

Iam deeply sorry that you have gone through this. As challenging as they may seem, I want u to know that you are an amazing woman. May the Holy Spirit who has given u this level of tolerance thus far, order ur line of actions.
Should u forgive his atrocities- Yes. For God, ur sake, ur children and their future.
Should u cover up his deeds- No. For God, urself, ur children, (Nemesis) and for the sake of that girl whom he took advantage of. U must speak the truth as u know it for her father and get ur husband to Atone for his deeds. It will be very humiliating, it is very difficult for u and u will surely hurt but ask the Holy Spirit to go ahead of u. You will be remembered in my prayers.
If possible seek no opinion of friends, they may not be helpful.

Anonymous said...

Genesis 2:18 says "it's is not good for man to be alone, let us make him a helpmate. Some versions say "suitable companion". He is incomplete , he is helpless, he is disabled, he needs help. My dear sister, fellow mother, wife and Role Model....help him OUT. He has to disgracefully apologise to that girl and her family. U have to keep all "enemy withins" in d name of relatives away from ur family, u have to shine ur eyes and guard ur girls so much now that u know d stuff he is made. Marriage is a world of self rediscovery. Welcome to the club

Anonymous said...

You are igbo right? Igbo ppl can sell their soul becos of money. And they could collect such a fine and spend it. This is an 11 yr old child we are talking about here. Your hubby is a paedophile and should be in jail.

The same goes for the original poster. Don't cover his sins because someone will do the same to your daughter. What goes around come around. I don't know if you are woman or a door mat. All these was happening right under your nose and you honestly had no clue?

Anonymous said...

I feel bad for you. Hope you don't have a daughter? Because he will do the exact same thing to his own daughter too once she is mature enough. He is obviously sick. He needs help.

Anonymous said...

Best advice so far

Anonymous said...

The best thing is to allow the husbands bring relatives from his family,let me see if he will sleep with his brothers daughter. If he eventually does that. Thats his business. Can never just bring my own relatives to stay long in my matrimonial home

Anonymous said...

Thunder fire you there, make amadioha scatter the keypad wey you use type dt nonsense.......I find it absurd wen pple claim dt nature created men to be slutty and rapist..... Now you are also tryin to say dt d woman might be responsible for her husbnds douchery living?? If stupidty was a star, yours would be a "galaxy"!!!!#cheEzyjayne

Anonymous said...

Thunder fire you there, make amadioha scatter the keypad wey you use type dt nonsense.......I find it absurd wen pple claim dt nature created men to be slutty and rapist..... Now you are also tryin to say dt d woman might be responsible for her husbnds douchery living?? If stupidty was a star, yours would be a "galaxy"!!!!#cheEzyjayne

Anonymous said...

Nawa oh!!!!11yrs??haba Nigerian men make unaa fear God oh...#cheEzyjayne

Anonymous said...

ShuooOo everytyn under the skirt??? Hiv have been merciful to y'all then.......#cheEzyjayne

NaNcY DreW said...

Things are happening o
I av no words

Anonymous said...

If it was the wife dt cheated with a 13yr old boy, am not sure dt u wud still type ds sermon........ Buh is all gOod, even pedophiles knows a good verse in the scripture dt washes all dia sins and make it go away#cheEzyjayne

Anonymous said...

What? Under a spell? Get out of here jo!

Anonymous said...

Why is it the woman that might have offended someone? Did u even read the post? U people get on my nerves!!!

Anonymous said...

11 paragraphs was all it took for the pedopHile instinct in you to swim up ..... Never raise the issue before ur husband??like wht do u tink would ring her mind when she sees her prickerish hubby and the young gurl??? That's ryt! Women are not barbie dolls without feelings, there are conseQuences and reactions to every actions....#cheEzyjayne

Anonymous said...

So why shouldn't she divorce him? She can separate but not divorce ? What's the difference?

Anonymous said...

She is still asking these questns becox he hasn't brought hiv home...... #cheEZyjayne

Anonymous said...

Don't cover this evil man's sin! If you do, you are complicit. And surely there will be consequences for his action. When certain things start to go wrong, you will start wondering why. Please walk away unless he confesses, repents and seeks help for his problem!! Forgive him and always pray for his repentance, but don't stay under the same roof and pretend all is well when you are living with a dangerous pervert who is not even ready to repent. You also need to protect your kids. It's sad that pastors are not giving you the right advice. Pretending all is well will not help anyone.

Anonymous said...

A Nigerian guy wrote this?!? Wow I celebrate your wisdom and shred of humanity......#cheEzyjayne

Mena Peters Triflections said...

Nigerian women don suffer sha! You are putting up with all these! Incredible. Please is it love? Are you going to wait till you catch HIV till you zoom out? This is sickening.

Mena Peters Triflections said...

See how a human being with a functional brain is thinking. Smh #ignorance

jennietobbie said...

Are you high? There's an abused child in that house!!!!

Anonymous said...

Finally someone dt Dencia is smarter than... Your stupidty is sooo dense and irritating... How many Nigerian teenagers dt live with dia madams are outspoken?? Most of them literally worship dia madam and oga bcox of dia poor uneducated background.... 95percnt blame to the woman and non to the man, 95percent of the judges in Nigeria hv the type of ur brain and dt is why our legal system is soo fucked up..#cheEzyjayne

Anonymous said...

Thank you. Nigerians tire me.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm...Na now u want her to keep d marriage dat d useless man never kept frm day one abi....plz madam am also married wit a daughter nd I knw hw u feel just do some days fasting nd prayers asked God to take over d mata...but remember dat he who see evil nd keeps quiet has taken full part in d evil...as for ur hubby Hmmm he ll never change it takes only d grace of God ooo...

Anonymous said...

Pls who is this fool?

Anonymous said...

You people amaze me. This man is a pedophile, rapist, and divorce is not the solution. So the woman should stay in that marriage and look at that man with love? What about the kids? You think they respect their dad after finding out? NA wa for una!!! God forbid! This is a taboo and in better countries with laws, he would be thrown in jail. Not to mention the possibility of diseases he might have gotten from his despicable acts. Yuck!

Unknown said...

If that girl had committed suicide b4 u saw d text her dad talked about u wouldn't be asking this question. Save d girl ur hubby is not changing anytime soon even if he does u will forever live in torment if that girl kills herself. Wisdom is profitable 2 direct.

Anonymous said...

madam, u stood before God and man, nd swore an oath of for better for worst...till death do you part. this is d worst u were swearing to, so walkin out of ur marriage is not an option. take it to God in prayers and be both a mother nd a wife by protectin d child nd ensurin its neva gonna happen again. try puttin a leash on ur husband and watch and pray. with God on urside evrytin is gon be alriite.

Anonymous said...

How can u even ask us this! Wht ur husband did is horrible. He is a very bad man and u are even considering encouraging his crimes? He does not love or hv an ounce of respect for u. I feel sorry for u cos this is not a curse.pull out now or ur daughter is next!! U don't know how many curses are on ur husbands head don't let it run through ur kids. The rapist isn't even remorseful. Women why are u so desperate to stay in marriage n form to the world smh

Anonymous said...

When I read the part where you said your pastors have intervened by saying "he is a man and will never openly admit it now"... what came to my mind is the stories about COZA Pastor and Ese Walter. Till date, that pastor hasn't openly admitted or denied those allegations. It just goes to say so much about these pastors; many of them are scumbags. I am a Christian and a very obedient child of God. I have a church I go to but I have learnt to know God for myself. Many of us will do well by that.
No one can ask you to divorce your husband but for the sake of emphasis I will tell you same thing that a few people have already said here... HE IS COMING TO RAPE YOUR DAUGHTERS SOON, and that is if he hasn't started doing it already. The only sexual crave that will make grown man (married or not) go after a 15-year-old is a curse. Your husband is cursed! He has deep rooted evil battling with his life.

This is not about whether you should cover his sins or not, this is about how you want to live the rest of your life. If you want to help him, you have to help yourself first. Sending the girls out of your home isn't a solution because whether you admit it or not, there are possibly very many more girls out there that he is sleeping with. Hard to say but the only clear way to handle this is for you to move out of the house. That will send a clear message that you cannot tolerate this anymore. And if you are afraid that will mean the end of your marriage, then, yes! Good riddance.



Yetunde A.S.

LEEZ said...

Aww this is serious! #speechless! Pray for Wisdom to handle such issues! Please and please u don't have to cover him up! Say what's bothering you so everyone would know how to go about it. The lord is your strength.

LEEZ said...

#have

LEEZ said...

Well said my dear exactly!!

Anonymous said...

You are not well! Male chauvinist ! I hope he sleeps with his own daughters too, maybe that will spark up some intense emotion! If it were your child will you let it go? Why are you people so heartless and self centeted and use religious justification

Anonymous said...

This is the daftest comment I've heard this entire year!! She should wait until he impregnates her?! Give her STDs too?! Or give his wife HIV? Since he's already bringing strays he meets on the street home anyway. What of her children? Her daughters? Might he not rape them one day too since he seems to sleep with under aged girls that live under his roof. I don't understand Nigerian women sometimes, is it brainwashing or battery that makes them only think of "saving your marriage" and "praying for their husband" while the man is uncontrollably destroying every innocent life around him? Woman think with the common sense God gave you for once!!!

Anonymous said...

It is always the woman's fault, isn't it? So why are other people's children being the victims? Fuck off!!!

Anonymous said...

Did Christ also say men are allowed to rape under-aged girls left in their custody? Just answer that. You want the little girl to continue to suffer while the wife covers for him, right?

Anonymous said...

Anon 12:05pm, you want her to be worried about how having a convicted father would affect her children's social life. What about having a father who raped them from a tender age until they entered university and left the house? I bet you didn't consider that truamatic effect, huh? And also remember how the sins of the father could be begged on the children and children's children. How many more years do you reckon she could cover him up for? He already gave the first girl an STD, what if he finally brings home HIV or worse? And what if he passes it on to both wife and daughters since he doesn't seem to have boundaries. What future or family would she be protecting then? I just don't understand why some Nigerians are such enablers of evil. It's disgusting! #smh

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm, supporting child-abuse and asking it to be covered up because she might lose her marriage and children.... Is this the kind of trash-talk and brainwashing technique you guys use? What about the safety of her own daughters under the same roof? How can a man like that be anybody's pride talk less of his wife? The girl should be sent packing, the wide who didn't commit any offense or crime should take care of her from afar and you think that will soften her heart towards the man who defiled her? Really? No apology, no confession, no begging for forgiveness or closure? And the issue should never be brought up with the criminal/offender but just swept under the rug? Even though the man is obviously nonrepentant and would only continue with someone else or even his daughter once this dust settles. WOW! All I can say is WOW!!! Can't believe he's even quoting the bible sef... Geeez!

Anonymous said...

Gbammest!!

Anonymous said...

if you dont deal with him now. the worst will happen, and you wish you had spoken out sooner.

Anonymous said...

Some of you are just daft including the lady in question. Seriously people, she should cover his sins and save her marriage. What marriage? The one the husband doesn't respect. I don't even know how you stay married to a dog/pedophile/rapist and your idiotic pastor(God forgive me)says you should cover his sins. That's not God's definition of marriage.As a victim of sexual abuse by an uncle I'm irate at some of the comments here. The dog should be exposed because the poor girl's life will never be the same again. Not like apologizing will do anything but it can at least give her some closure.
If not that Nigeria is a fucked country where the man is never wrong, this dog should in jail.
My advise to you is to keep your daughters away from him because eventually it will be their turn.

Anonymous said...

I love you babe! Pple were just talking like fools since I've been reading this. I admire youwisdom!

Anonymous said...

Please stop this horrible mentality. Not ALL men are that way. There are exceptions. Maybe your experiences have made you think they are that way. heck, even I myself have been cheated on once but I am wise enough to know that there are men out there who know the definition of loyalty and breathe it. Seriously. Accepting it is just going to give them more reason to act stupid.

Anonymous said...

Some of u women need divine intervention. Yes by all means pray, but do not turn a blind eye to the pain that girl is going through.

Anonymous said...

She needed her pastor to tell her it was true??

Anonymous said...

If are financially independent den my advise is dis: excort him to jail if possible, steal watever of his savings or properties u can lay ur hands on while he is battling with rape charges pack ur kids to ur parents house while u do dis or better still blackmail him by threating u will announced he tried to molest one of ur daughters and u caught him redhanded people will believe u more since the gals issue is alrdy on ground den leave him for good I will distroy his life if it were me change my kids name tell dem dia dad travelled out never to return again stupid man.sleeping Ard it not wat I had issue with is sleeping with a minor without her consent he shud rot in jail




Unknown said...

This ur story sef! Whr wr u when all these things wr happening? Like, are u a business woman that is always on the road or something? U did nt tell us the part u played in all of this. What kind of wife wr u to ur husband?

My advice, think thoroughly on the part u played in all of this before making a decision. Second, if u are really innocent, ur husband cheated on u and goes after children. If he is not stopped now, the worst is yet to unfold. So use your head.

Nothing I no go hear.

Damochedxb said...

Wow, this has got to be the most foolish woman ever. How possible is it for your husband to just bring one random girl home and claim she's a distant cousin's daughter? You sound so foolish. If i was your husband i will do worst if i seen how foolish and blind u can be. You have failed as a wife and mother already as u dont have control over your home. Imagine the said 20yrs old girl was even rude to you and u just sat your fat butt and did nothing until you all agreed to send her away..Then your husband switched lanes to the younger girl all under your nose you blind woman. So what stupid question are u now asking? What do u want to expose? Is everything not already out in the open? What else is there to expose? And what will u gain after supposedly exposing him? Justice for the girl you say.. in the court of law? Abi in the family court? Ode oshi...

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Anonymous said...

His such a monkey n a silly twat his not ashamed of him self pls expose his yanch

Anonymous said...

Dont cover him up. Expose him by calling the older girl and the younger one. They might have lot to say about him. Call a family meeting and let him be there also. Sorry to say this, ur husband is a dog and heartless. I believe there are loads of his callous attitude that is not yet exposed. He must have been acting strict and put fear in those innocent girls. How old is ur daughter? Beware.!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

My husband! My husband! My husband!...this man must be a manipulator, a sycophant, stupid old fool and am very sure he must have hypnotized,manipulated n brainwashed those relatives of yours to succumb to his devilish act! He's got no conscious @all. I really feel your pain but u'v got your faults too am sure u must be some kind of busy working class wife n he took advantage of your absence frm home most times,if that's d case.Pls call a family meeting n get him to apologize to your families(those involved) after which u take your decision whether to stay or leave, but be wise weigh your options and consider d future of your daughter!

Anonymous said...

No one knows if there are good men still around dis days.. a man will cheat on his wife consistently and lie about it.. he should apologise. he is a monster and his dick should be chopped off.

Anonymous said...

hmmm God have mercy. men are useless o.. y get married when u cant keep your stray dick to yourself going around sleeping with small girls. God will punish dis man.

Anonymous said...

This is my first time of commenting on this blog but mehn, couldn't just hold it. Such fools as your hubby should have their heads cut off instantly by BH, sorry but it's sad and sickening when you abuse children. Haba, Diaris God o. U need to be weary and have a HIV test done asap.

Unknown said...

My dear pls expose him. For d sake of ur kids, such men can be serious beasts. Act like a mother cos he ain't a food husband nor father, cos if he actually tot 'wat if dis is my daughter, how will I feel' so if u have a daughter better take dem and run before it turns to a grievous incest. Take heart dear, the Lord is ur strength.

Anonymous said...

You're avast are bitch. I'm sure your father and son are like this maggot here.

Anonymous said...

I'm sure you won't say that if a woman was the one molesting young boys. You're a fucking pig

Unknown said...

The mistake many women do is to see their husband failings as his alone, when 40% of the man's failings is attributed to the woman. your helping your husband is not covering his sins alone but yours too. Remember, the day you said "yes i do", you both became one, be a wife and a mother to him now than ever, because more disgrace will push him into making more mistakes. Some who are advising otherwise right now, are not married, so they don't understand marriage union, you and your husband are one now. I won't use the word "cover him" but i will rather say help him in the way possible and pray too, save your husband, your marriage and your children. The hard truth is that "children of separated couples suffer more than the man and woman who are separated".

The Rere said...

Darling, Make him apologize to the girl because this are the kinds of injustice we are battling in our country. It starts from somewhere, act like a mother. The moment you gave birth to your own children, you became a mother over being a wife. You are the mother of your husband so u also need to take charge of your home and don't let the head of that girl swear for you.

Anonymous said...

You must have been under hypnosis while all these happened under your nose. I get the feeling, this so called husband broke your spirit a lot time ago and you are just docile & live in denial even in the face of glaring facts. I am not very surprised at most of the response from people asking you to save your useless "marriage" These people (esp. the women) are just looking for partners in sorrow. You mean to tell me you can actually open your legs again for a man you have found out to be a paedophile? just so you can answer married, abi!!. A lot of Nigerian women are full of noise but without self esteem. @ Henry Ifejika...." just apologise to the gals family, don't allow her come back to your home. Swallow it. And the only Bible qiotation you know is: The husband is the pride of the wife, you will lose your husband." Learn another bible quote: "Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church & gave his life for it"? Has any of you fulfilled it? you & people like you who commented on this matter are idiots. When it happens to your own daughter, i hope it will do for the man to just apologise to you, because that will solve your daughters life long truama. This rapist and child molester should be in jail, instead people in our back ass country are saving the sorry marriage. It's a good thing the girls father said he will take your advice. So, PLEASE ASK HIM TO COME AROUND WITH A MACHETTE AND CUT OFF THAT SORRY EXCUSE FOR A HUSBANDS HEAD, and save underaged girls and your daughters from future catastrophe. But, my guess is, like the rest of your like, who wont be human beings if they don't answer married, you will stay on in the misery until you develop a mental problem. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

Take him to Synagogue for deliverance, you will see there are legions of demons dwelling inside him. Better still cut off his dick.

Anonymous said...

Sins of the fathers will catch up wit ur children if u dnt do anyting abt it now.that hubby id urs is posses wit an evil spirit,so therefor,it should be flocked out by one of this churches that flock demons out.If only he was sorry,I wuld have said okay,bt d he goat is nt,meaning his going to do it again n again.He must pay.

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