Is it right for a husband to give his wife a specific time she must return home every time she goes out? For instance, a husband tells his wife no matter where goes, she must return home at a certain time or there will be problems. Is it right for a man to do that? And should women tolerate that?
183 comments:
What is wrong with that?
If it's out of mutual respect to each other and the marriage, then sure why not. You set my curfew and I set yours too. There should be a punishment for whoever violates it...
Hop my husband answers ds question lol@ him hehehehehe.*evilgrin*
Women are not suppose to be treated like slaves or maids. A woman u call a wife Should be respected and as such shouldn't be caged. Free them and they will be free with u.
If no b work she go o..tan as for mi e dey vry rit to tell wen ur wife go enter house..
C.E.O
Its not right, she shld be left to her conscience and responsibility as a mother and wife to caution her whenever she s out.
first of all this question screams trust issues. secondly which responsible married woman will not know the right time to be home to her husband and family.
do not think it is right for any reason.............joycifidon@gmail.com
Yes is right, if there is anything that happen beyond the limit time she sud let the husband know about it! Too much freedom has its own cost!
it is not right for any reason joycifidon@gmail.com
Its nt gud,is gonna generate probs, she is a wife nd a kid dat shld be given a specific time to be home.
Yes it is right, wen the woman does not realize dat she is a married woman, and married woman should not keep late nite out! D man is d head of a home.but wen correctin his wife, he should not command, he should correct wit love cause she is not a slave to be put under restrictions of any kind!
Mamafunkky@gmail.com
curfew?
It is not right. #GBAM!
CoolDiva speaks!
My dear, my own told me 10pm knowing fully well that my job closes at 9:15 pm and it takes about 1 hr to drive home and even longer when I am taking the bus. Even if I get home at 10:01 pm. I will be locked out of the house. But you expect me to pay the bills. Hmmm God dey
I hail any woman that can tolerate that coz me i can't,what is he?my father?
Linda na woman way be say if she comot she no dey come back quick, nothing is wrong with that.
It is only right when the wife tolerates it.
What's that one naa..its simply lack of trust
I am a man an i say that nobody should give anybody a curfew, that being said women (and men) should not take liberties as avenues to frustrate their spouses. If you know it makes your significant other uncomfortable and it isn't absolutely necessary to be out that late don't wait for anyone to get a rise. Just go home. and if it is make sure you explain with tangible reasons...If your man/woman is reasonable, they'd listen. If not then you married him(if you did), Deal with it! LOL!
No is not right bt depending on d type of woman u v
Dats trash. . Is she a bby. . Deirs natin we wnt hear. . Bt wait oo lindami it depends on what you mean by that cos a married woman wiv kids is nt meant to be out past 8pm or else she has reasons for dat
It's xo totally right...it's for her own safety.
No problem as far the man will keep to the same time
its allowed..na your property
I don't think its right for a man to put his wife under curfew except if she's flirting around with other men. Since they are both adults she has the right to enjoy her freedom the same way he is enjoying his. But as a responsible woman she is suppose to be home early to cook for her family & do other domestic chores.
Yes he is right, because he is d head of d home,
Yes he is right, because he is d head of d home,
To answer your question, I will rephrase it. Is it okay for a woman to nag a man for coming home late or staying out overnight? Whatever ur answer is to that, apply it here.
It shouldn't be a curfew but both of u can agree on time everyone should be home. I know a family that has standing rule that everyone must be home by 9 p.m latest which is reasonable for ur own safety
In my opinion, I don't think it's right for a man to complain. Any responsible woman should be aware of what time she is expected to be home, especially when kids are involved, but I know there are times that a woman might be forced to stay out past a reasonable hour due to circumstances beyond her control or even to spend time with friends for one good reason or the other. I have been married for 14yrs and my husband comes home late almost every day. Initially, I used to complain a lot but now I am so used to it. There are times I want to spend some time with friends I haven't seen in a while or maybe I attend an event and I want to stay out a bit late. I expect him to understand. He does it to me so why should he complain when I do it?
I think is kinda right but must be a bit flexible esp when de outting patterns to work,. But if is for leisure,. I'm cool with it, in so far as de cut of time is reasonable!
nope.. patoswife@gmail.com
Not right, but a woman must not keep late nights.
Nope its nt..jacdubby@yahoo.com
i believe there should be a mutual agreement on when they both should be home. secondly it depends on the nature of their job...if the wife is a nurse or the man a soldier..or their is holdup abeg in marriage nobody should dictate for anybody its all about communication,understanding and commitment. Shalom!
Well, its not a must for the woman to tolerate that if she has a plan B. Left for the man ...OYO
And is a woman suppose 2 stay out late? I'm out ***CATCH ME IF U CAN***
The man is the head of the house therefore he must impose his authority. If he does not impose his authority the house will not be stable. The curfew should not be strict since things can come up whenever the woman goes out www.firstclassexclusive.blogspot.com
IT AINT ND CAN NEVA BE RIGHT.
UNLESS D LADY IN QUESTN CUMS BAK HME LATE HOURS OF D DAY WIT NO GOOD REASON ND THERE SHUD BE NO REASON ACTUALLY WHY A LADY SHUD BE OUT AFTA 8PM EVERYDAY
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Moye B.
If there is an understanding between both parties.....vice versa
Why are You married if u intend to stay out late for any reason at all without letting your husband know . There has to be a Good reason why plus I don't believe any man will outrightly give a curfew but normal reasoning should prevail in this.
I guess something might have prompted such.
Maybe for security reasons, like boko haram and kidnapping.
It takes a lovely husband to give his wife curfew, for her safety. And it takes a decent and respectful wife to obey the order for her own good. Lol
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA
It's totaly wrong! She's ur wife not ur kid sista..but the wife should use her discretion and try to be home on time but wen she can't she should always let her husband know!!
Depending on the condition on ground , every woman should know when to be home and when not to be found in the street. I don't think a woman will wait for anybody to tell her what decent hours mean. If she has young kid(s) and still outside visiting friends after 6PM then she needs to be placed on diet.
When he is not mad. Why would a man give me curfew? Even though I won't cme hme late,I wld go clubbn wen I feel like. Cos I only live once nd I deserve to be happy. So ild do wateva mks me happy. Its in Africa generally dat men tink once dey marry a woman,he owns her life.
His man of the house and may have his reasons for that. That's not bad and shouldn't cause any problems if the woman wants to be submissive.
When i am not your baby?, When it is a marriage and not a prison? The marriage won't work i beg!
It's not proper if the man want peace to reign in the house.
No is not right but as a wife she shld know the right time to be home @ least to set good examples for the kids.
a sweet wifey material that is either working a 9-5 job should atleast keep her hubby updated if shes running late back home but i dont think a jobless housewife shoudl be outside her matrimonial home by 8pm latest....ww.datsall....lol...all seeet and horney nyphomaniacs based in ikeja ...shoot me an email if u stay in mainland @ deida12345@yahoo.com...xoxo
Well if its like this..dear do come early - I don't see d problem bt if its d other way round? Two reasond 1- she's doing something and u don't trust her or 2 - d hussy is just too jealous or he's just maltreating her....
The question is what is the reason behind the curfew
The question is what is the reason behind the curfew
a house wife should have no excuse staying outside her home more than 7pm
As long as she gives him a curfew too. What is good for the goose is good for the gander.
Abi he no trust d wife
I dont think a curfew is necessary, she should know what time to be home without it being spelt out for her
It doesn't sound right to mandate ur wife as to what time she must return home except in cases of promiscuity.
Some women actually need it
Some women actually need it
firstly, is it right for a woman to go out and come back home any time she likes??? It is right for the husband to give/tell when she should be home latest. Aint nothing wrong with that Lindiway!!!
It is only right if the husband is some god and can control uncertainties of life like heavy traffic,rainfall,etc.
firstly, is it right for a woman to go out and come back home any time she likes??? It is right for the husband to give/tell when she should be home latest. Aint nothing wrong with that lindway!!! AbdulDang
It's is wrong. Your wife is your partner, not your child or property. It's is disrespectful and condescending.
It's wrong. Your wife is your partner, not your child or property. It is disrespectful and condescending.
d truth is we women dont like bin order around.btin a relationship or marriage you learn to respect each and deal wit tins my piont is anyone of them dats brings up the idea should as well b ready to aspect ur own rule whn u bin givein one.bt we r ladies we should b able to knw wht time to go hum.nd dont let time bring issues.nd d men should also learn hw to go abt it..
knw matter wht communicataion,undastanding,matters alot.
Nop is nt rite ,if he gives me a curfew,he to must abide by dt tym,if nt his wastin my time. Besides we ar both matured,nt is wrong kabishhhh#bebo
Hell no...
does he own the road to determine how bad traffic will be.
Please some men need to get the fuck off those high horses their riding....if my hubby tries that he is OYO.....
No woman should push her husband to the point of being given a curfew. Secondly a wife belongs to her husband (biblical) so if he wants his wife home at a certain time then she should respect that. Finally husbands don't try and control everything your wife does, trust her and give her some space
There's absolutely nothing wrong with it except the husband turns abusive about it...but a man(husband) has the right to curtail his wife and monitor her movement esp if she's on the wild side..
P.s: Pls can we breathe from this gender equality thing, I'm female and no matter how much we want to belive we are equals, signs from all over shows otherwise..this is how the Almighty has made it, why are we trying to make it the other way..but doesn't mean men should treat us like jerks, we deserve to be respected as well. God made us different for a reason, let's appreciate it...there's nothing like being a woman, that's a real blessing right there.
Its only a man that doesn't trust his wife that will give her a curfew...riwo11@yahoo.com
Curfew for what. That is disrespectful. . If one of them is out... they shld send a text saying I will b bak later than ussual... bt a man cannot giv his wife a curfew. . She is not a child
Totally wrong.
Its very correct for d husband to give his wife a particular time to return else they will be problems because married many women of this days have unprintable characters..imagine me seeing my best friends mom in a hotel with a guy his age I ve kept my silence to avoid trouble.
You and who, he must have curfew too
The curfew will be times two. Rubbish.
Linda, go and marry, then if your husband tells you to be home at a certain time, disobey him and tell us what happens after that.
Hmmmmm!!! It's not good, but every married woman shld know when to be home exp both reached a compromised. LINDA post my comment ifeomatundeasolo@gmail.com
The questions you ask here sef! Well if you can set a curfew for your kids, isn't right that you too be home at a specific time? I don't know if it is right or if women should tolerate it, but you can judge Paul's life by studying Peter? People have different lives and rules apply accordingly.
What unmarried fools like you will cause in people's marriage is gonna be excessive. I guess in your world it's okay for a mother to come home by say 2am or even 11pm?
A woman that spends time out so much, her husband needs to place a curfew shouldn't even be married.
Yes
Why shld my hubby tell me wen to go out or cm in well he can't
datz wrong so far the woman is not doing anytin bad
He might be right DEPENDING ON WHO HE IS,D NATURE OF HIS JOB BASED ON SECURITY REASONS.
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THE NEIGHBOURHOOD YOU LIVE IN.I believe that a woman that is old enough to bear the title WIFE knows the right thing to do and how to do it,which involves knowing how late you stay out."BUT" if the man took it upon himself to draw a deadline when none of the above is present,hmm,bros you don jam pillar for my side !
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Hell no.It is definitely not right. My man knows not to try that shit. I cant even let MY FEMALE people in my life men treat them that way. THAT'S BEING GENDER BIAS.
Linda.How far will this your feminism take you?What do you mean by curfew?my wife comes home 12 am and l should not ask her where she is coming from?just know that as a popular blogger many people,especially women are influenced by your opinion.l don't wish you evil but if you take this extreme feminism to your marriage,you may experience marital crises. gender equality or not, a man is the head of the home and there cant be two captains in one ship .Don't let your success get into your head
Andy
If you have my cousin ijeoma as a cousin eh,it will not only be right it will be perfect to give her a curfew
*Straightface*
If you have my cousin Ijeoma as a wife eh,it will not only be right it will be righteous to give to her a curfew.
*Straightface*
No problem as long as the curfew applies for both of them.... if it's just the wife, then it makes no sense
He will beat her up very soon especially if they live in lagos...
Is not possibly,dnt buy d idea,a ideal woman wuld knw d ryt tym 2 b in d ouse. Wen she's out,as 4 me my hubby can't tell me dose shit...its intolerable linda...##CherryC##..
Pls no woman shld tolorate that abeg!
Gbam! It is so allowed. It is bad for her image.
It depends on the type of Woman. Some women forget that they are married. They might go out in the Morning and return home 11pm...so a man can give that type of woman COFEE...LOL
Is right. And women should tolerate that bcos they re the head of the family
It ain't right..a man that does that doesn't trust his wife
Ohh no! Its so wrong. Like she is his daughter or sis. Expect if they v issues and she is avoiding him, even @ that, they sort out not curfew.
Linda these men will come here and call you Feminist o. You don't know some Naija men do not think their wives are adults, you are a slave to them. It is only a sensible man that knows his wife will come home at a reasonable time and if she returns late...there is a good reason. All these village touts will come here and say "yes now".
I don't think a man should give his wife a specific time to return home...as a wife common sense is there for you to apply...
When the man suspects infidelity in the woman, I think it is right.....
XDON D DON
It's not right and it's stupid. Some men are just tooo controlling and over possessive. Men should stop treating their women like kids.
It's not right and it's stupid. Some men are just tooo controlling and over possessive. Men should stop treating their women like kids.
Under normal circumstances, no.
A woman should submit to her husband at all times....
Yes ke... In this time and age of insecurity in the country, i wont want my better half to be outside after dark without me knowing where she is.
Under normal circumstances, no.
Naaa...I tink d man shudnt place a curfew nd d woman should use her discretion
it is the men WHO NEED THAT CURFEW
Hell no. Women should not tolerate that. Make sure he understands that right from your courtship days so u don't end up regretting.
It is wrong
Shut up! Ewu.
A WOMAN is not a child. Stupid African Men y'all make me sick.
How will be know when must men are not even home early enough to know when their wives are back. Shio!
when she is not a prisoner
Habaa, the man has every right to do so, after all he has paid her dowry which implies he has every right over her. The man can even go further to place her on house arrest. Person property na anyhow he fit do am, no be so?
Habaa, the man has every right to do so, after all he has paid her dowry which implies he has every right over her. The man can even go further to place her on house arrest. Person property na anyhow he fit do am, no be so?
Habaa, the man has every right to do so, after all he has paid her dowry which implies he has every right over her. The man can even go further to place her on house arrest. Person property na anyhow he fit do am, no be so?
Habaa, the man has every right to do so, after all he has paid her dowry which implies he has every right over her. The man can even go further to place her on house arrest. Person property na anyhow he fit do am, no be so?
Habaa, the man has every right to do so, after all he has paid her dowry which implies he has every right over her. The man can even go further to place her on house arrest. Person property na anyhow he fit do am, no be so?
u no men dey like being in control,so its not bad cos as a married woman u r suppose to have limit.for me its not bad.
The woman should know when she's meant to be home! No decent woman wud go out till wen her hubby expects her home before she knows she shld be home. There shouldn't be curfew in the first place cos the woman should know when she's to be home! Simple
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I'd like to see the man would
even dare try mentioning the word.
& those mentions of 6pm -8pm too
funny to even get mad.
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Slave mind-set. I'm sorry for you. Women are not slaves, so saying "too much freedom has it's own cost" is pretty daft. The woman should be able to come in and go out as she pleases in her own home. By the time one gets married, I would expect a woman to be matured and responsible enough to know where not to go and what time it is advisable to be home- depending on wether she has kids yet or if the husband will be at home too( bcos some husbands go out all night & expect the wife to be at home just waiting & bored out of her head). If a man marries a woman who isn't mentally matured enough/doesn't know her right from wrong in this aspect, then the man should be questioned and asked why he married her in the first place. Some men just marry in the hope of enforcing rules on women after marriage to change them, and this is wrong; the same way it is wrong for women to marry men with the hopes of changing them. If you marry a matured, responsible woman to start with, you won't need to be enslaving them or enforcing foreign rules on them. If you both want to build your family in a certain way and decide as a general/unified family rule, you both must be home by a certain time; then it should be a joint decision/agreement. And if one is running late etc; as mutual respect for one another goes, you should let the other partner know etc. PS to men: your wife is not your slave or house girl, if she's old enough to marry you then she's old enough to be treated with dignity and as an adult...... Just Saying
Doro idiot...ur type no dey get husband.
If husband& wife give each other curfews then yes.if not, u r a learner
As long as she also gives him curfews and he doesn't see it as ridiculous. For the life on me, I have no idea why dome people think women are children that can be told what to do just because she's married. Marriage is a partnership, an equal one not a daddy and daughter scenario.
Have I ever locked you out before? Stop making me look bad haba.
You can as well relocate to your father's house
Because you are not trust worthy
Thank you my brother
You're so disgusting
Anon 7:24pm-Andy, I can already see you're a man with unstable self esteem to start with. Your ego already feels dented despite the fact that linda never even said anything feminist. All she did was ask a question and I'm sure different people would have various views on it. Why did you have to take it personal? She never said a wife should come in at 12am and not be questioned o. And as we can all see, some men are against the idea while some women are actually supportive of the idea. Just give your opinion and reasons and leave beefing aside abeg. Small question like this and your ego is already affected. Geez!! #rollseyes
Um it depends in what you mean by "curfew". I think it's a good idea for a couple to agree on an appropriate time for everyone (husband, wife, children) to be home. But as for setting your wife on a curfew meant for only her, and possibly punishing her for violating (cus what's a curfew without a punishment to enforce it) ? That's pretty crazy if you ask me.
You better not get married since you own your life; so you don't create problems for someone else.
Its cool, as long as it applies to him too. But if not, he had beta kip his tongue btw his teeth
It is right especially if the woman is fond of staying out long and care less about her home. For the safety of the marriage, curfew must be in place ooooooooo.
MTN ....Everywhere u go
See ur mouth like property! How much did u pay as dowry for u to order her around? Hiss
My tot exactly depends on d life style and attitude of d woman if she's a societa persons dat likes 2 stay out late attends all d events like mrs Toke den she shud av a curfew 2 help guide her
Serzly??? Marriage no b all bread and butter o choi
Wat do I knw?oau pls open sch na
Is Richard obinna your cousin? Lol!
Aunty you can like to remain single, that way no man can stop you from clubbing since you only live once.my 2 cents
Yes. Makes me feel protected like he really does care
There's nothing wrong in it!
jenniferanthonella@yahoo.com
Very true dear. My husband and I, decided that whatever we do or where ever we go, we would try to be home by 10pm. Though we've broken that rule sometimes, due to some circumstances beyond our control, but we try as much as we can to control it....it's for our own safety and peace of mind.
But then I think it should be an agreement by both parties, and not a command by the husband to the wife, she isn't a slave.
Anon 9:02 you are stupid beyond the word itself.fool!!! Did the African men say they want you. You make them sick too Idiot. The man only gave Linda advice based on his experience you are here talking rubbish. Its women like you that spoil other women with your senselessness, did he even talk about the curfew issue.I hope you're married and I hope your husband let's you stay out till 4:00 am.idiot like you.biko get out
You're mad to ask that kind of question. Am I a house girl?
Anon 8:11 pm, when the woman suspects infidelity on the man's part, does she give him a curfew too? Nonesense! You think a curfew will stop a cheat?
Idiot!
biko married women are not babies y should a curfew be given to them?
Yes, that's where they will be claiming the bible, but they won't quote the remainder of the chapter that says the husband should love and cherish his wife as his own body just as Christ loves the church. So if you as a man don't give yourself a curfew, why would you give your wife when the same bible said to cherish your wife like you would cherish your own body? Bible never said men should enslave their wives, men just decided to focus on one portion of the scriptures to serve their own selfish interests. #onetrackminded
Linda we know ur type & for ur info, there is notting wrong with that.
Not curfew....
discipline, but not in a hard or harsh way. women should lean to respect orders.. so goes for men.
if i discipline myself not to eat other foods outside for instance, why would she be unusually late?
abah... descipline
Every responsible woman knows when to be are home but if the husband started remain her the woman we see it as that her man is monitoring her so allow her to be she knows when to come back
if you know that my not eating at home calls for suspicion, then, your not getting home as the usual time raises a question or alert
Women de vex oooooo. Hahhhhhaaaaahhhaawaaaaa
for peace to reign, the woman should succumb.
I mean even the question sounds wrong...why da fuck should a man give his wife curfew? As his daughter or what? MSHEEEEEEEEEWW! As a wife, you should know exactly what time is awkward to return home, so you don't need nobody telling you that or giving you curfew for that matter...that also shows high level of distrust from the husband#I can't abeg
And does this curfew apply to him too? If not he needs to take a seat and suck a dick while at it
NONSENSE!!!!!!!!!!!! if such law should exist< den it should be applicable to both husband and wife.
No one should be enslaved in marriage.
after all, is not only at night dat people can flirt, both afternun and morning, can be used to run things. so y d bond?
Going out biko <><><><>
NONSENSE!!!!!!!!!!!! if such law should exist< den it should be applicable to both husband and wife.
No one should be enslaved in marriage.
after all, is not only at night dat people can flirt, both afternun and morning, can be used to run things. so y d bond?
Going out biko <><><><>
leaving ur woman to her conscience .... hummmm how many people get conscience again 4 dis present evolving world? ur wife is ur investment and ur treasure in ur vineyard... hold am strong ooh
Yes, it is right. 7pm. For me the man 9pm or I call
Yes, it is right. 7pm. For me the man 9pm or I call
Traffic not holdup(yoruba english).
you have to be submissive to your husband in ALL things. Girls, marry your friend, it just makes it easy!
Dino Melaye d second idiot......
I don't think it's cool. As a woman, u ought to know when u are supposed to be home for your family. Aside from that, every lateness should be based on understanding.
Naturally it is not right but at times when things re getting out of hand, that might as well be necessary too!***NA LOOK I DEY LOOK***
nowadays wife's is now going clubbing with their friend's.one faithful day,one guy that was drunk in the club sexually harass her.she could not tell her husband,and he got to know later.then she was given a curfew.he the husband right?
Curfew.......hello???? i am married and will not tolerate such nonsense coming from my husbands mouth. is he my father? or federal government? To the next topic biko. Crap!
I support it if the woman is getting uncontrollable.
Its very wrong 2 do dat ehisarthur@yahoo.com
With what is happening these days not only should the man set the time the women should be at home, he should set one for himself. Not forgetting that if they have children, they need the two of them. Once it is dark, 8pm a woman should be at home and the man also.
Well said
I see married women in night clubs "hanging out" as they call it. Now that's not bad, every Friday ??? That's bad! Learnt some of them pay the bills in the home front and as such should be free...freedom to do what? Run around like headless chickens...such women needs CURFEW... You don't see responsible women running around in the night, NIGHT ooo leaving children as young as 2 to nannies, ahhhh that's wickedness, you need Emergency Rule sef..kpalaga...
i think it all depends on their understanding and how they both are to each other
Are you an idiot or something.. She must be be staying late out before there could be a curfew...
Haa... I miss's the good old years
He can only set curfew when the woman stays out late unnecessarily. Every responsible married woman does not need her husband to set curfew b4 she knows that she should return home early enough. But if she comes back late bcuz of work, i guess the hubby will understand.
Great
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