Dear LIB readers: I can't stand my wife anymore; should I stay or go?
From a male LIB reader:
"I found out my wife of 11 years cheated on me with some guy. This was last year June. She confessed to me after I confronted her with the facts. I decided to forgive her and stay married to her because I have cheated on her in the past too and I didn't want to destroy our family because we have four small children together. The thing now is; I don't love her anymore. I can't stand her and can't even bare to touch her. When she talks to me I get so angry I feel like stabbing her in the eye but I've never laid hands on her. I don't talk to her much except when we want to talk about the kids. We live in the same house but as strangers. She's really tried to make it up but it's not working. I actually hate it when she's around me, and haven't touched her since I found out about the cheating
I thought my anger and disgust at her would fade with time but it's been 9 months and I still feel this way. Will this anger ever go away or should I just end things with her?
Ewu gambia, u cheated on her and she cheated too meaning u got served and squared. Ur disgusted and feel like stabbin her in the eyes wow wonder what gives u the right to tink like that. SMH for u real hard, how pathetic.
I can't even believe d woman stayed with u after she cheated on u? Can u imagine becos u r man its allowed for u to mess around and not for ur wife. Infact marriage in this country is so twisted! Its one issue or d other yet my parents wants me to get married by all means. Am so disppointed!
Abeg you are a hypocrite you cheated and now u cant stand her because she did the same thing learn to forgive that is such a double standard and it makes me sick
dis is y they say marriage is sacred once defined disaster and roth wil follow,pls both men and female should always learn how to be fathful in there marriage so that d spirit of God wil always abide in ur marriage i pray God gives us d grace to do so cos those two has brought roth upon themselves..
Bonario shut d hell up...back to d matter,If u are married nd u ve d urge to fuck sm1else(pardon my french)plz leave that marriage-am a lady and I knw a guy can cheat nd still be in love with u,but for a woman is different,when we cheat we start comparing d person we fucked to our spouse,*still can't understand why women who r miserable in dia marriages still stay*only in africa shaa.
Pls forgive her cz she forgave u and prob cheated on you bc u did same n wanted to get back at u. Try talk it out nd know why she cheated, maybe u stopped caring or u are busy having an affair outside ur home n den she wanted to be happy n loved n leaned on anoda man's shoulder. Work it out nd COMMUNICATE, Its d key! OFF POINT! Can someone tel me why Pete Edochie and Osuofia wz not honored or recognised at d AMVCA. They re one of d pioneers we have na! * Sad face
If u do me I do u.. God no go vex Step on d dance floor...God no go vex Touch me I touch u... God no go vex Enjoy the disgust... Ekwensu oku.(Hot devil) in case u don't understand igbo. *tongue out*
Marriage is till death, as a christian Divorce is wrong. I would say you should stay because of the children. It also say the only time you can leave each other is when one of you commits adultery. Since the both of you have done such act i would say, redo your marital vows. Its like starting afresh.
Na wa o,y din't she hate u wen u cheated on her,my guy let d old tings be past away,nd behold has now b cme new,jst 4 forgive nd 4get nd also pray harder
Guys think they are the only one who have the right to cheat...when you cheated she forgave you ..now that she cheated you wan massacre her...u better take a chill pill..mtsheww
Sori 2 say but dis man is a punk ass. U cheated on her. She 4gav ur cheating ass n stayed. Now she cheated on u. U found out, u don't wana 4giv her. Instead u've got a lot of hatred in u dat u feel like stabbin her. May God 4giv u 4 bin so wicked. Oma Baby.
Thank God there is something called judgement.you cheated and she forgave. Now because she did, u don't want to. I pray that if u leave her and meet someone else, magun will hit. Men when they are tired of a woman they look for excuses
when a woman cheats its unforgivable, but when its a man that broke the covenant, its forgivable...i think u guys should get all the help u can,.....marriage counsellor, religious leaders etc. maybe its the hurt you cant get over, but u still love her
I'll advice u 2 go & get d nigeria movie Mr&Mrs, D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇̊τ̲̣̣̥ will tell u D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇̊τ̲̣̣̥ divorce is not d solution,my guy be wise as serpent. Forgive & forget!
Guy,u wicked o.Anyways,pls just take a break from her before doing something stupid cos even if u don't love her,her kids do.If indeed u ever loved ur wife,u would want her back. Linda, biko,post my comment
Two snaps for you girl! Behind you combing my wig , can't flip mine cause it's short , get it! Any which way we are gone with the wind fabulous! Girls Take note if you cheated In the past nine months and you confessed , dust your suitcase and heels, don't let your case end up in pm news or iwe iroyin and ps Amanda you are not the first to comment. Cy
its suppose to be 'till death do you path' oga go and see a pastor for cancelling or a therapist and work things out. you have to start seeing her as the woman you fell in love with not the one who cheated on you.
I feel you bro but at the same time you have to let go of the shit she has done for the sake of your children and as time goes on you will get over it.I will advice you and you wife should have a good time together for like A week or more somewhere away from home and discuss this and i am sure you will find a place in you heart to 4give her.
Its easy 2 forgive bt hard 2 4get. Just take it easy d way u think. Try 2 4get what happened in d past. Work on ur mind,heart n bring out the Kind of love u showed her when u 1st saw her.
This man is selfish....thunder fire am....u cheated she didn't hate u, wen she cheated u hated her....u c how e dey pain? Nama like u, idiot........@scubaposh
So you cheated too? Get lost! Is she your servant who will just tolerate you without talking? If you leave her you will still cheat your new woman. So why not have a second honeymoon with your wife and forget about the past?
Linda pls gimme dis ungrateful Ass digits. WTF. Ure not even happy u av a family n a home. U cheatd on her , she forgave u (dats even if u told her abt it), yet u can't 4giv her too.. Wat if she did it out of d bitterness she felt wen she knew abt ur cheatn ways. Man ! Brace up n fix ur Family. Seperation is gonna b the worse thing dah wud happen 2 dose children. Or if u gonna seperate , tell her ur wrongs too and let d hatred n disgust be EVEN! Mscheeeew!
What the fuck are you talking about men? This is an opportunity. Kick the bitch out and get yourself another wife. And take the kids to hospital for paternity test, you don't know if that's the only time she has being screwing around. And while at it get yourself tested of HIV.
In one word .....SELFISH HE-GOAT!!!!!! My dear deal with it and stop being in considerate.she wasnt dumb or stupid to have forgiven u in ur own time nd she did not forgive u cause of your children she did it for love so you do same.It also means you havnt forgiven her and thats why u always feel that way cause your wounds havnt healed....Pray to God to give u the heart to forgive her and all this would be history.
when a woman cheats its unforgivable, but when its a man that broke the covenant, its forgivable...i think u guys should get all the help u can,.....marriage counsellor, religious leaders etc. maybe its the hurt you cant get over, but u still love her
I remember ten years ago I was in a hospital taking care of my mom who was down with high blood pressure becos of my dads brazen cheating. She wept becos she married a virgin and told me not to make that mistake but enjoy my life. Ha ha ha I took the advise and I am now married. He has cheated and so have I. All I do is keep it discreet. So many ladies do too coz no one wants to double over like mummy did!!!!!
Mmmm cases like these are more complex than LindaIkeji. Still read the advice on here, but please seek professional help.
#my2cents, life is too short to live regretting. You should tell her how you feel. See how she feels. If both of you want to work things out, great. If not, please go your separate ways. Your kids will be ok if you make a conscious effort to ensure they turn out fine.
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Men are so selfish. As d cheating dey sweet u no sabi say e dey sweet everybody too .taste how it hurts to know ur spouse cheats. U expect d wife to forgive and continue loving like all is well yet when d table turns u can't do same. .go fuck urself. Me I go give u otapiapia make u die b4 u stab me in the eye cos na my family go lose if anything happens to me .stupid man god punish ur type of men
The woman must be stupid to even admit..except u catch me ontop d pr..k I no go gree say na me..After all people do look alike. Na person wey resemble me u catch. .wat d fuck
What is the essence of marriage if two people can not stay faithful to each other? No wonder the bible justify divorce ONLY on the grounds of adultery.
Trust me this guy is just being real... He cheated and he fucked up... The lady cheated too... But a fact everyone must know is that when a man cheats on a woman, it's always very easy for woman to forgive than when a woman cheats on a guy... I bet u it takes a REAL MAN ready to live with the injury to make things work as before... U can abuse the guy ooo but he's just being real and the fact remains that if he continue to struggle with his injury, he may end up doing nasty things.
I stay in a small county in Texas and have some friends who work with the department of justice here.
They told me of a Yoruba guy in prison here who killed his wife he brought from Nigeria.
The man caught her cheating and moved to Dallas just to stay away from her, but the injury made him come back, from a place 2 hours apart, got the gun and pulled the trigger.
Trust me, if it were to be the lady who caught the man, she would have forgiven him and things will be normal...
I as a man honestly don't know why it's like that too but mehn...
The guy should either just try and stay or leave...
You must be a very selfish and wicked man. You shouldn't have even come up on this plat form to tell your stupid story. Are you not foolish? You cheated on her SEVERAL TIMES, she cheated on you ONCE. Have you stopped to think that while you were busy cheating she kind of found out and did same 'cos you did? She is not justified but then Mr. Man....YOU ARE VERY SELFISH.
its so funny how Naija men are now weak, a woman can cheat on them over and over and they will stay. If a woman cheat on you once she will do it over and over when she needs to, walk away. what make you so sure that in the last 9months u didn't touch her that she as not slept with someone else? move on
Ma dear u have cheated on her okay?so why finding it hard to forgive her?if u really really care for your kids nd family please work something out just take her to a places you guys enjoy and rekindle that love back again,give her a lifetime threat,you should also pray for God's intervention in ya family aswell cos with him all things are possible and please I beg you,don't lay your hands on her keep being the gentle guy u are okay?Peace
You dont have to end it, the exact thing happened btw my husband and i, and to crown it up,i was pregnanat with our first child, he never touched me from that moment he found out till 2 years later,i prayed , i tried my best to be the nicest wife in the world, but to God be the glory things are getting better now..Just be patient with her. i can tell you that my husband hated me more than you hate your wife now, but God still intervened. Mind you, he found out in 2009 after we got married that i cheated in 2007while we were still dating, at that time he was constantly cheating,so when he found out i also did once with someone else,he almost killed me, cos according to him no woman has ever cheated on him.just take it easy with your wife and seek God, he will definately restore the love you once shared.
Bros, I gat to be honest with u. For the sake of ur children u can stay for some couple of years since dey are still small and get a life after then. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured!
u better not touch a hair on that woman's body,am sure u don't want to know how many curses will follow you, if you can't stay get the hell out. men so full of themselves rubbish.
See part of the reason why we are loosing our values in Nigeria today is due to this thing called equality.Listen and listen good MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT EQUAL. Its the hard truth, if a man cheats you the wife you can punish him in your own way so that he can learn but when a woman cheats it is not the same. I just don't understand what the world is turning into. A man can marry 2 or more wives and will still be respected in the society but can a woman marry more than one husband. What the hell is wrong with all of you. I don't encourage men to cheat but when it happens woman deal with it. However when a woman cheats PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE it is not the same thing.
See part of the reason why we are loosing our values in Nigeria today is due to this thing called equality.Listen and listen good MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT EQUAL. Its the hard truth, if a man cheats you the wife you can punish him in your own way so that he can learn but when a woman cheats it is not the same. I just don't understand what the world is turning into. A man can marry 2 or more wives and will still be respected in the society but can a woman marry more than one husband. What the hell is wrong with all of you. I don't encourage men to cheat but when it happens woman deal with it. However when a woman cheats PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE it is not the same thing.
Fair is fair. U must grow up & be a man. Engage d help of d Holy Spirit to help u luv her truly not d joke u av bn used to. Remember, marriage is a 3fold cord with God at d base of it all & repent & turn a new leaf.
I would advise you walk away, because is a big crime for women to cheat when they're married, you can actually forgive her for the sake of heaven but don't just forget because she might do this again is in the blood already...in no way should a married woman with kids cheat on her husband. ***
It is very scary how it almost seems you guys are saying it is okay this woman cheated. A whole woman, opening her pussy for another man other than her hubby? when she is not an animal. We know men are closer to animals than women. A woman should n ever open her yansh for any other once she is married. Leave her jare before you end up hurting her and ending up in jail
You are such a SELF RIGHTEOUS BITCH!! y ou think it's okay for you to cheat and now your wife has followed your footstep and you are disgusted. i will suggest you end your marriage because she clearly doesnt deserve a prick like you. nonsense!!!
LEAVE NOW!!! YOUR RESENTMENT CAN MAKE YOU DO EVIL THINGS TO HER. YOU ARE DISGUSTED AND CANT STAND TO LOOK AT HER. PLEASE LEAVE HER EVEN IF IT IS FOR 3 TO 6 MONTHS. MAKE ARRANGMENTS TO SEE THE KIDS EVERY WEEKEND OR SOMETHING. PLEASE FOR YOUR SANITY MAKE YOU NO GET BLOOD OF PESIN FOR HAND O. GOD CAN RESTORE YOUR MARRIAGE BUT RIGHT NOW YOUR JUDGEMENT IS CLOUDED O
Oooops!!! I thought the LIB readers r suppose 2 be d guyz counsellors here...y the insult nau. Guy, pls put aside what has happened in the past n love your wife again just as God luv's you.
Who said she wasn't disgusted when you cheated but she say she couldn't stand you. It might have been the anger towards you for cheating that might have triggered her to doing the exact same thing. The issue was that she didn't handle how she was feeling well. Quitting your marriage makes you a loser and a failure. Consider your kids. You guys can work it out. You say you don't love her anymore then why did you marry her if you could easily fall out of love for her. You have been married for eleven years, there must be something that made you stay that long in marriage with her. Find the reason and do not let your silly mistakes cost you your marriage, your wife, your kids and everyone's happiness.
She's got some liver o! She confessed???? I wouldnt have confessed o, even if u Caught me in the act, i will still deny It unless u Bring rodo to put in my Vajayjay o. abeg handle and treat ur fuck Up! u learner! Cheater oshi! Oniranu! Onuku igala, ezi bida
i cant believe all these people saying its called karma. she is a woman for crying out loud. no wonder the rate of immorality and cheating is high in naija. when you average people think it is okay for a woman to ever cheat. men will always be men. they are created to act like uncontrollable idiots but a woman should not defile herself ever. i am too shocked by the comments here
This is the huge problem I have with the majority of men.... stupid double standards....I've found that most times they cant take what they dish out.. You admitted to cheating in past... May be even more than once.. only God knows how many times. She stayed with you and forgave you and I'm sure she wasn't 'disgusted' when you tried to touch her again... Not that it's any justification what she did too.. but it's annoying and irritating to me how you are reacting. Its so unfair... You can sleep around but you can't bear the thought of another man touching your wife right?? SMH!! Nonsense... All I have to say is, save her the torture of enduring your coldness and indifference by leaving especially since you're already feeling like stabbing her eye and all those violent emotions, I suggest you leave before you unintentionally act out on those emotions one day.. or you can always go for counseling if your relationship with her means anything... my 2 cents..
are people honestly telling him to stay? after he has advised he wants to hurt her. reality is men cannot stand to picture their meat being chased or eaten by another man like them. he will end up hurting this woman. he needs to leave and go and regroup/rethink/reevaluate and if he feels he cant live without her, then he can come back but for now they need to be seperated. Once the feelings of physically hurting a person comes to light, it is time to move away from that person
Lol @ the comments.....oga advice seeker, i hope you got the guidance u r looking for,hahaha... good for you. U cheated and she cheated back and now u hate her?o nwero onye dika gi!!!
The trust issue stated here is on a general note and I am not justifying men cheating pls, I am so sure its her broken trust that made her cheat on him too in the first place. This is a man having thoughts about stabbing her even when he has cheated too and for months he still can't put off his anger for her, he should keep on and kill her right? Let her go and I bet in due time without her around he would come to his senses and realise his act of double standards.
Stay der joorh!! Wey U̶̲̥̅̊ wan go?? Wen U̶̲̥̅̊ cheated she bin leave U̶̲̥̅̊??? U̶̲̥̅̊ guys too dy form "head" ƒό̲̣̣̣̥r̲̅ everythng...doz kids r too young †̥ suffer dis kinda situation...save U̶̲̥̅̊я̲̅ marriage & save d children!!!
Linda, please I need you to post this cos I need peoples opinion. There was a guy I was dating and after a while we lost contact. We just came across each other after 8 years. And he seriously wants me back into his life and if possible to take things to the next level and I also want him back. But the challenge is there is a girl in his life now, which I once called him and the girl picked the call and started insulting me that I should leave her guy alone. But the guy is asking me to give him time so he can put an end to the relationship with the girl. Should I continue with the guy?
I really do not understand all the bashing here. The question is not who cheated 1st or last, the man cannot stand his wife, plain and simple. How long before he actually picks up a knife and stabs her for real? The problem lies with us women, our men cheat and we just brush it aside, we nag and complain but never really express how hurt we are. If she forgave him and continued, good for her, but "he" as an individual cannot handle it. Unfortunately most men cannot, and that's the sad world we live in. I hope they try to get counselling, bring out all the issues to the table and address it, try to fall in love over again. I hope it works out for them but if it doesn't, its no use putting husband, wife and children through the emotional torture of an unhappy home
The guy said he's tried to forget and forgive for nine months but finding it difficult to do so as it doesn't seem to be working. If not for the kids I would have adviced him to leave, what's the point in being in a relationship where you are eternally unhappy. Meanwhile he didn't say she caught him or aware of his cheating, it's a different thing for you to know who's straffing your partner or being caught in the act
You might have gotten tired before reaching my comment, but i hope you take your time to read through and get what i have to say to you; people have commented here, some positive while some are really negative, please don't listen to the negative tongues, cause they honestly do not care about your family or know what you feel, every man will feel just the way you are feeling right now, its natural and God help us men, but please think this through, you know deep inside you have done the same to her, if possible take her on a vacation somewhere, and then take a bold step by telling her how you cheated on her as well, by doing this, there are two things involved, its either she forgives you or the marriage ends, (It won't end by the grace of God), share little secrets, cry together, tell her your pain and let her understand that its not been easy for you....May almighty God be with you and your family in Jesus name!
Nigger look for a way to forgive her. you did the same and to be honest you feeling like that is very hypocritical. you did the same and i'm sure she doesn't even know.....stay and look for a solution to overcome the problem.....perhaps try counseling
I wonder why Nigerians are generally abusive.Its a very disgraceful nation. Men and Women alike. Somebody comes for genuine advice, all you do is abuse..almost 300 people abusing...if the lady gets shot dead in a few hours (as we have seen recently), one of you will discover that your sister is the one in question.
@Jovi Uba Your comment and point is very pathetic...GOSH!!!!!!....pls say something else abeg...what archaic point is that abeg...thats rubbish..Cheating is not justified when done by any sex (either male or female) and thats why the bible permits divorce (when unbearable) on grounds of adultery although that is a second option as forgiveness is the first and ULTIMATE.. Back to U MR... This is called KARMA...KARMA is like a resturant and you get served with what ever you ordered for
Homie u need to drink bleach mixed with petrol...now u know how it feels to be cheated on...if u leave her, u a concentrated idiot....get over urself fool and find how to love her especially when she's putting in effort to make the marriage work...u dont want ur children raised in 2 separate homes either....
Look let go of her abeg and know how to file ur divorce papers appopriately, ladies ehn, the way they break pples hearts anyhow u cnt bilive it, they feel too big now a days. pls leave her, let her go meet the guys she was cheatin with, afterall if a guy cheats nothin is bad, we are in Africa and its allowd, but y wuld a girl cheat on me. Well sha. Pls file ur divorce letters well. Hi linda.. i miss u (lol )
YOU ARE VERY STUPID!!! YOU CANT STAND HER BECAUSE SHE CHEATED ON YOU? HOW DO YOU THINK SHE FEELS KNOWING THAT YOU CHEATED ON HER TOO? YOU THINK YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WITH FEELINGS? I FEEL LIKE STABBING YOU SEF. ***HISSES** MEN CAN BE SO ANNOYING
Your wife probably found out you cheated that why she was comfortable to cheat on you too. I guess now understand how she felt. So forgive yourself... Cause it not your wife you're actually mad at.
To put an end to this cheatin and no cheating of thing, l think wumen should start getting married to two - three different husbands as men do, maybe live in a separate house, visit the men when she wants and who she wants. answering Mrs. Blessing Williams, Mrs. Johnson Essien and Mrs. Amaka Chukwuemeka...in this way guys will not be complaining why their wives cheat.....the worst part of it all is, when these wumen cheat the stil love their husband and the guy the slept with.... is hard to let go, if u try e no get head, then decided one thing…. Afterall u cheated her b4 she went for her own meaning she has always want to cheat……it is a choice and not a habit.
Most of the people that get married these days aren't mature enough for the institution. Age doesn't mean maturity as most of us can obviously see these days but in the course of satisfying society at large we get married, mostly out of convenience.... There's an old saying, as you lay your bed so shall you lie
ofcourse u should stay....no one said marriage waz ever gonna be smoothe all d tym,bur remember dat it takes two to fight,since ur mature u guyz can work thing out aii...........nd make ur marriage a bed of ROSES its possible
Most of the people that get married these days aren't mature enough for the institution. Age doesn't mean maturity as most of us can obviously see these days but in the course of satisfying society at large we get married, mostly out of convenience.... There's an old saying, as you lay your bed so shall you lie
Most of the people that get married these days aren't mature enough for the institution. Age doesn't mean maturity as most of us can obviously see these days but in the course of satisfying society at large we get married, mostly out of convenience.... There's an old saying, as you lay your bed so shall you lie
ofcourse u should stay....no one said marriage waz ever gonna be smoothe all d tym,bur remember dat it takes two to fight,since ur mature u guyz can work thing out aii...........nd make ur marriage a bed of ROSES its possible
l cant believe all these people saying its called karma. she is a woman for crying out loud. no wonder the rate of immorality and cheating is high in naija. when you average people think it is okay for a woman to ever cheat. men will always be men. they are created to act like uncontrollable idiots but a woman should not defile herself ever. i am too shocked by the comments here
Hey l bet you most of this people supporting the woman for cheating and insulting the man are no other people, tribe than lgbo girls, marrying an lgbo girl is like marrying a hard core prositute. they alway have that spirit of cheat.....80% lgbo ladies are complete cheaters l can prove it to anybody.
Why do i feel as tho you have a flirty nature. Cud be your wife cheated due to your lack of affection towards her. For your information all women are the same. But it seems your looking for the wife who would get tired of you because of minor issues and probably leave you. If you doubt me, ask those who have been married three or four times. Marriage is not always a bed of roses.
Mr. You need Jesus in your marriage. Cheating is spiritually dangerous. Do you know whether the ladies you slept with are possessed ? Infidelity has a spiritual force. If you dont stop cheating now dont expect your wife to stop. Because you spiritually transferred it to her. And believe me this time you wil not catch her again until she retires. She will do it in a smarter way this time around. She has tasted and know how it is. So you hold the key to your marriage. Is either you invite Jesus and be completely faithful to your wife or expect more drama from her which you will end up not having any evidence. Dont even try going for another wife because even if she is a christian, there is no guarantte that you wouldnt be cheated again. Remember women are weaker sex and very emotional.
Mr. You need Jesus in your marriage. Cheating is spiritually dangerous. Do you know whether the ladies you slept with are possessed ? Infidelity has a spiritual force. If you dont stop cheating now dont expect your wife to stop. Because you spiritually transferred it to her. And believe me this time you wil not catch her again until she retires. She will do it in a smarter way this time around. She has tasted and know how it is. So you hold the key to your marriage. Is either you invite Jesus and be completely faithful to your wife or expect more drama from her which you will end up not having any evidence. Dont even try going for another wife because even if she is a christian, there is no guarantte that you wouldnt be cheated again. Remember women are weaker sex and very emotional.
Oga, the score na 1-1 now. Madam has equalised, reconcile and move on.
You will never remain sane if you leave her alone with 4 children.
Besides, adultery is not a sin against man but a sin against God. So why bother yourself? You both have sinned against God, ask Him for forgiveness, Shikena!!!!!
I really wonder how people get so personal about another person's personal life. Na wa for una oh! abi this one na joblessness? See as Una just dey paranoid. Una no dey do pass that one with una women?
This is the thing about men that I detest with a passion..u cheated on her and you can't forgive her for cheating on u, cos of that u want to let go of 11years just like that?? First off,u are very stupid fellow. Secondly,you can sort things out if you wish! Talk about your cheating escapades(both of u) and sincerely forgive each other and move on!whats eating u up is that both of have done this and no one is true to the other....Sort it out pal.
This guy is full of Shit! Is okay for you to cheat but not your wife, why? Because you got a dic****? If you are disgusted by her, how should she feel about you. You do me I do you God no go vest dumbass..If you no what is good for you, you better find the buried love you had for her and start working things out with her and continue loving her. There is no perfect home or marriage. May be you guys should take and week and travel alone without the kids. Better yet find one of those marriage retreat and attend. I have seen it work for couples. May God bless your home and help the two of you to keep your eyes on each other and your **things** inside your pants. Good luck
He who wears a shoe knows where it pinches.Oga,you are the only one that knows wat your problem really is,because from ur story,i dont think you have any problem..you must be selfish 4 refusing 2 4giv her and shamless 4 bringing dis kinda issue here.
PLEASE DONT WAKE UP THAT LOVE ANYMORE...ITS NOT WORTH IT. SHES JUST SHOWN YOU THAT YOU WASTED YOUR TIME GETTING MARRIED TO HER. FREE HER PLEASE SO YOU DONT GET HURT MORE THAN THIS.. ANY WOMAN WHO CHEATS ON HER MAN IS NOT WORTH STICKING TO FOR A DAY MORE.
PLEASE walk away before you do something drastic that you'll utterly regret! And it's been 9 months and you can't get over it, nor come to terms that YOU also cheated on her. Sort things out...You're hurting her with your unloving act.
Please be careful oooooooooooo the one you are writing like this dont kill someone's child o. Too much bitterness and sadness here. Why not give it a break to clear your head and see if you can still manage. Pray and speak to her and pray some more. If your'e still full of bitterness and cant bear then thats it i guess. Please forgive she forgave you too
Spare the details bro! There is nothing out there man! Please fund love in your wife once again and trust me you can make it work. Put in God's hands and pray about it. You have to forgive yourself and forgive her. Please man, for the sake of your kids too. Start by hugging her and praying together. God will bless you both with love again because he is a merciful God.
Ur an idiot Mr. MAN when u cheated u no send abi...now she do her own u fit hold ABI.... this is the stuff i hate about men ...u try to play hard ball on some 007 MOVES but ur stupid ASSES can't handle when it's done to u.... My advice is go FUCK URSELF stupid bastard....i hope she cheated on u with ur best friend or brother....bitch ass!!!!....
please before we have another pistorius on our hands leave the home for now....its not by force..you can arrange to see your kids every week or so....stay away and seek counselling till you clear your head enough to go back to her..God bless and Goodluck
As I say we men are the weaker sex. You cheated but can't forgive your wife for doing same, what goes around comes around. You can't bear the thought of another man mounting your wife, then don't cheat, treat her better. You're a punk!
Any woman that is telling a Man to forgive for cheating is just stupid. Men have Egos and once you shatter that it can never be repaired. This marriage is doomed and the guy should just dump that bitch and lets see if the guy she slept with will be with her. Men have been cheating since beginning of life. It is in their nature and any woman who does the same brings shame to her and her family.
SEE CHECK UR MENTAL FACULTY COS DERES A MIXUP WHICH IS OBVIOUS COS U RE A WORSE OFFENDER, JST GO CHECK D BIBLE ND KNW DT U VE NO RITE WTSOEVER 2 B DISGUSTED. BOTH OF U SHLD SORT URSELVES OUT IF NT 4 ANYTHING BT 4 D CHILDRENS' SAKE ND AS 4 U, ABEGH SHIFT GO 1 SIDE...MSTCHEWWW
Want to ask you women a question cause u all sound so bitter, when a guy cheats on you, did anybody force u to still continue in the relationship. I don't understand all this talk about u reap what u sow, if a guy cheats on you walk out of the relationship, simple. I cheat on partner and if she catches me then she should walk, but don't tell me because I do it then u can; bulls hit. I did not force you to stay when I cheated so don't call me wicked when I leave u for the same reason. Women claim to be independent but don't act like it when they get into relationships. Chief if it was me I would not stay for another day in the say house with her, not because I am a man but because cheating is wrong. If u can't stand it leave whether man or woman.
I can see alot of ashawo women and girls who are committing adultery in total support of this dirty woman, as a Bini man if ur wife commit adultery we don't forgive, if u forgive u will die. So let me start from that angle, any wife that cheat on a Benin man is trying to murder the husband spiritually, so if u are from Benin please tell her to pack out of your house, before u see untimely death, that I pray will not be ur portion. While I know many will not agree with me, please my brother are beg u, if u r Yoruba u can forgive her, because Yoruba people don't forbid adultery
Honestly plus Biblically, Men are permitted to cheat but not Women, the day I find out my woman is cheating on me, uhmm... that would be the last day she will see our kids, Allah, we are off to Thailand at a click never to come again…
bla bla bla.. Whether a million Oprah winfreh rises or a billion Hilary clintons, it would always be a man's world!!! So please ladies think twice b4 u do anything stupid be it vengance or not, cuz once its out dia d whole world would judge YOU!!!
Yes, cheating is bad but for crying out loud, he also cheated first!!! Dunno why men can't just get over their ego & forgive their women for cheating considering the fact that they are also forgiven after committing same act. *OMA*
pls stop all that talk of u can't marry a Nigeria woman or w r lossing our values, this things happened in the old days and it's even worst in oda countries,nobody is saying cheating on her husband is right, what to do next is what he is asking, if he can't stay let him get the hell out. these woman are angry Becos it has happened to them or someone close to them, men push and push women to do some nasty things, when she dose u call her all sorts. he deserves every insult coming his way. i know how a cheating man behaves he treats her like a worthless human being, she losses her self worth her courage her everything, only the grace of God helps her not to seek peace else where . all these men.....
Any woman that cheats is not normal at all, after how many kids self? 4? Uhmm, did our mom cheat on our dad even when they bring another woman home? Most of the comments here are western, try cheat on your husband in my village, Taaaaa… Na thunderbolts (MAAGU) / (Don't Climb) go b your end. It’s the Men World!! How many wivies your popsy marry way u want give yourself tension bros… Abeg
U shal a damned SELFISH,SELF CENTRED,EGOISTIC, FOOLISH BRUTE. She forgave ur misdemeanors nt once bt severally n nw she did it once n u r crying WOLF al over d place. Get a grip on urself. Learn to FORGIVE frm ur heart like she did n like how d bible thot us. Pray dat God wil forgv u cos u r d one dat made her fall by d way side bcos wen u sow ur wild oaths wit other women, u neva perform ur duties to ur wife n I'm sure she wld av made attempts wit u n u wld av gvn her stupid excuses n nt touch her so som1 else filled her nid. So adultery u nt sole rite neither is it 4 her. B a man n swallow ur PRIDE. May d Lord God hlp u
Don't leave her, what if she fabricated the story? Even if she did it, find a place in your heart to forgive her, give yourself some space, liv apart for a while but make urself a promise not to cheat. Then, look at the pictures you guys took when u were still very much in love, looks at de pics with her and and talk about those moments, talk about the crazy things u both did together. Try thinking about what u used to like about her, her beautiful features, am sure u still love her that's y u r feeling this massive anger towards her
My guy please back out now before you commit murder and you will be charged, if its not working anymore just let go. It's just so sad for a woman to cheat, I feel his pain....believe me the woman's reason for cheating is so irrelevant that is why the guy is finding it hard to forgive. He should just back out
You guys need a breather,take some time apart,cool off.Grow a pair,come to terms with your shortcomings and reconnect again.If not the marriage will go down the drain fast.Adultery is a serious issue in the sight of God,but he is a God of second chances.You lose if you walk out of the marriage.
unfuckenacceptable. a woman who defiles her married bed? look men are allowed to cheat point blank period but a woman should never ever stoop that low. what has naija becomes no wonder our young 16 yr olds can be marrying and fucken their great grand fathers and our young women will be having husbands and aristos at the same time. what rubbish is all this. so women are now equal to men and should belittle and degrade themselves all in the name of payback. naija is a filthy disgusting place. all morals are out the window
Go sort ursf & tk kia of u mess ursf!! Una don cheat una sef so y u com dey ova para Abeg lock up & stay put,nw nt 4u & ur wife bt 4d Sake of dos 'KIDS'
Austin UcheMarch 12, 2013 at 5:22 PM. Only an Igbo man will say something so foolish, no self pride. Why won't he say that when its ok for them to marry asewo as long as she's pretty
forgive her, u married for better or worse u cant just give up because of this. forgiveness is a hard road but starts with a simple decision. what she did was not good, but it shouldn't be the end of the marriage , after all u loved her b4 u knew what she did.
Well aren't you the biggest hypocrite? How come you can do it and forgive yourself but you can't forgive her? She should leave you self righteous "cheat".
U cheated she probably forgave u, she cheated now u want to pluck out her eyes? Thunder fire u there.....I will a lot more women will do this to there husbands so men will know how we feel when they cheat....what makes u think u are better than her? U think God created u to be a superior mortal? Capital NO..society has groomed u ple to think cheating is your birthright. Mei don't care how men,s brains r wired that makes them dogs but God has created you to have self control......if I see your wife I will give her an award for what I have not had the guts to do to my husband who has cheated on me repeatedly...this is not because I don't have male admires or toasters, I just have chosen not too but I have warned him not to push me too far.....it has taken me a lot of prayers and self control to forgive him and I have seen some remorse n his part.....so my friend I don't have any sympathy for you, just get over your selfish self and move on...if you can't too bad, there are other men in the world.....next time before you will go and unzip your pants for another woman you will know how it feels....
It's a shame when I hear of things like this in real life. I wish grandma or grandpa was there to talk peace into their marriage.
Marriage is not all rosy like we all have learnt. In fact, marriage is a trial of plenty errors. At the end, you find peace knowing that you two are not perfect but been working together towards a better self.
i WILL SAY DO NOT LEAVE BUT WORK WITH HER AND WORK TOGETHER. PRAYER WORKS
U must be crazy....so we shld feel sorry for u? If I see your wife I will give her a high five....now u will know how it feels to be cheated on...ewu....u men think because u cheat and we forgive you then we are fools and God has made us to be dumping ground and Ur doggy bullshit...pray she will be the one to pluck out your eyes first before u pluck her.....nonsense
I hate it when women come here and say you cheated she cheated its a draw? Bullshit. The pride of every man is his wife and once she is violated no matter if we cheat or not things never are the same.98 % of my married friends cheate or have cheated and the other 2 % I can't vouch or 100% . I have been tru this bullshit and if not for my lovely kids I'd be gone.As a man I love sex not really women (some men love women and sex )so I can totally distance myself from the women I sleep with 0 emotions involved.put a pillow over her face I will take it down if my specs.not many women I know are like that. And married women who cheat are usually emotionally attached. It's been 5 years since my wife cheated i have learnt to live with it but things will never ever be the same again.to me it's the ultimate sacrilege , but hang in there bro it can only get better.the feeling of betrayal will slowly ease and you may be able to find a comfort zone soon. Good luck bro. NB please disregard all this Ashawo women justifying shit.
Too many Asewo women in Niger this days. Na wa oh see them justifying rubbish.There is no difference between club girls and some of this bitches here. Kai Nigeria we hail thee.
Go make up with your wife o! Get over your anger and annoyance especially as you have also cheated on her in the past. Your wife must be good looking and alot still get a man to sleep with her. If you leave her cos you are angry, she'll get another man easily and you will just go commit suicide. For the sake of your 4 innocent children, try and work things out. May God strengthen you as you do so. Please act fast o! Cos not sleeping with your wife for 9months, you may be pushing her out into the arms of another man without knowing.
Once this is over, the both of you need to sit down and discuss what went wrong, why cheat? What led to both of you cheating and ensure you both rediscover yourselves again. You need to be completely open and honest with each other in the marriage.
Oloshi smh.. So you go screw around and she can't? Uselessness of the highest order.. Y'all Nigerian men need to get with the fuckn program! You go sleep with someone else, I'm doing it right back to you. Same goes for the women badgers and abusers
Oloshi smh.. So you go screw around and she can't? Uselessness of the highest order.. Y'all Nigerian men need to get with the fuckn program! You go sleep with someone else, I'm doing it right back to you. Same goes for the women badgers and abusers
Sounds like you have not forgave your wife. You are still enraged and your man ego has suffered. Your behavior is normal. That's how men respond to be cheated on even if they cheated. The thing is you are feeling violent towards your wife. You need to take care of this feelings before they become actions and your children become orphans. You need to figure out what is best for you and your happiness. Staying in a relationship in an unhealthy manner is not the best for your children by the way. Another thing, be careful not cheat again while you are resolving your feelings. The way you are feeling towards your wife might drive you into another woman's hand and you might regret it. You may need to sit your wife down and tell her how you feel towards her. You need to sit down and tell yourself what you need to feel better and share it with her. Be sure is doable and sensible. Be honest with yourself in this matter and you will get through it. Also, ask yourself if you want to work on the relationship and find love again with your wife. Your answer will tell you what you want to do.
All men God forgive you guys.. Oh so you cheated on her. And she cheat on you, you dey vex? you dey craze big time.. When you were starving her from sex and all the neglects you didn't know you were hurting her. Even the 9 months wey you never touch her, you are stilling cheating on her end of discussion!. that's what drove her to seek companion with a man friend or an ex bf of hers. Gather your "Blokos" together and make amends with the woman u fell in love with rubbish! The dog you know is better than the one you don't know.
U are a selfish mofo. People like u disgust me. Sheeeesh. You are very hypocritical to say the least. U cheated, she cheated. Get the eff over yourself. If u can't forgive her for the same sin you committed and then love her like u initially did, then God should never ever forgive ur sins and should never love you! Asshole.
All men God forgive you guys.. Oh so you cheated on her. And she cheat on you, you dey vex? you dey craze big time.. When you were starving her from sex and all the neglects you didn't know you were hurting her. Even the 9 months wey you never touch her, you are stilling cheating on her end of discussion!. that's what drove her to seek companion with a man friend or an ex bf of hers. Gather your "Blokos" together and make amends with the woman u fell in love with rubbish! The dog you know is better than the one you don't know.
Idiot, u are lucky u are not in my front I would have given you a dirty slap..I pray she plucks out your eyes before you do her.....now you know how it feels...next time u will use your brains before you carry dat your nonsense dick to another woman.....arrant nonsense
The funny thing abt men....when they cheat its okay and can be overlooked but when the woman cheats, it's an abomination and cannot be forgiven.... If I may ask, is she aware that u ever cheated as well? Ur marriage is still quite young, why not go for Counselling and try to make it all right....? If all is said and done and its still not working for u, then it wud be wise to seperate or get a divorce bcos I'm gradually seeing that this may turn out to become physical, this one you occasionally feel like stabbing her in the eye as u had earlier described.
I think part of the reason you feel bad is because you cheated too and you can't forgive yourself. Try forgiving yourself and it will be easier for you to forgive her or tell her you xheated too and talk about it. If you leave her, she is going to blame herself for the rest of her life and that will not be fair
You are pathetic. U cheated on her n she did same. You are finding it hard to live with her. U must be a stupid n selfish man. If u stab her u will not go free.
WEAR SOME BIG BOY PANTS AND GET OVER IT - U SHOULD EITHER LEAVE HER OR TRY TO WORK IT OUT. YOU CHEATED, SHE CHEATED, NOW ITS TIME TO RE-BUILD IF THAT'S WHAT YOU BOTH WANT. STOP BEING SUCH A SPOILED BRAT. I THINK ITS FUNNY WHEN GUYS CHEAT BUT CANT HANDLE IT WHEN THEIR WOMEN CHEAT, ARE THEY STONE? DON'T THEY DESERVE THE SAME RESPECT? STOP BEING SELFISH.
Men are generally more visual creatures than women which is why a man cannot get past his woman being with another guy. Women on the other hand especially in this part of the world are taught to expect their men to cheat and when the do, you are advised to focus on your kids.
I empathise with you my brother and would suggest you both go for counselling. It is important that you try every option possible before even considering calling it quits.
BRO, WHEN A MARRIED WOMAN START SLEEPING AROUND, SHE HAS PASSED THE STAGE OF 'NO RETURN'. SHE HAS TURNED HER SELF INTO A CESSPOOL WHERE ANY MAN CAN COME AND BE DEPOSITING SEMEN. THE BEST DECISION IS FOR U TO LEAVE. TAKE YOUR CHILDREN AWAY FROM HER SO THAT THEY WONT BE SEXUALLY ABUSED BY MEN THAT WILL BE DEPOSITING SEMEN INTO HER. DONT LISTEN TO ANY OTHER ADVICE. JUST LEAVE WITH YOUR CHILDREN. TRUST ME BRO. SHE HAS TASTED THE FORBIDDEN FRUIT AND HER EYES IS WIDE OPEN NOW. IF U STAY WITH HER, YOU WILL FOREVER REGRET IT. IF U ARE IN NIJJA, WOMEN ARE TORO-KOBO FOR 20 AS LONG AS U GET WHAT IT TAKES, AND U CAN GET ANOTHER ONE IN SECONDS. DONT EVER STAY WITH HER. LET HER GO AND SEE HOW GREEN THE OTHER SIDE IS. IF SHE COMES BACK TO BEG YOU[ SHE DEFINITELY WILL ], PLEASE IGNORE HER AND MOVE ON. THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS SEEN IT ALL AND KNOWS IT ALL. BRO, TAKE MY WORDS FOR THIS. THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO REASON FOR A MARRIED WOMAN TO SLEEP AROUND, EVEN IF SHE SAW HER HUSBAND HAVING SEX WITH ANOTHER WOMAN ON THEIR MATRIMONIAL BED. ANY MARRIED WOMAN WHO DECIDES TO BE SLEEPING AROUND SHOULD BE LEFT TO BE SLEEPING AROUND. STAYING WITH A 'SLEEPING-AROUND-WOMAN' GETS U NOTHING BUT AN EARLY DEATH. IF U WANT TO DIE EARLY, U CAN IGNORE MY ADVICE AND STAY WITH HER.
LESSON FOR ALL YOU WOMEN, THIS IS WHY YOU CHEAT AND KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT. WHAT TYPE OF YEYE GUILT WILL PUSH YOU TO CONFESS. SEE MEN WILL BE MEN, HYPOCRITES, HENCE WHY WOMEN MAKE LESS MONEY AND SOME COVER THEIR FACE IN TH NAME OF RELIGION. O AND IF YOU LEAVE HER THE NEXT WOMAN WILL BE SMARTER, THIS TIME THIS ONE WILL KEEP HER MOUTH SHUT
Oloriburuku, asi ere ma le le yi ke...... He shud oscar pistorius her abi, d same way (if u r a woman) ur husband ll do to u (and if u r a man) d same way ur daughter's husband ll do to her... Anu pama, onyiberibe, anuofia. A lotta MAD pple in d world
@anonymous 4:44 pm, may d combination of Sango, Ogun and Obatala strike u dead, he shud kill her ba?, useless fella, he cheats she cheats, she 4gave n nw he should kill her. #sango stike ur teeth and hand#
Mr man, forgive your wife... To wrongs never make a right
To all men that cheat on their wives: 90%of the time, your wives know about your escapades and 50% of them cheat on you with other men and you never know about it.... The attention you give those whores, someone else is giving your wife.. So if you men think you are smart, think twice!
i will advise you both see a marriage councillor. please you both need it, and afer that you can both go on vacation .i bet it will work moreover ask for the forgivenss of God. it just like starting all over again. till then .i also personaly apologise on her behalf.cuz it dishearting
sorry bro if ur wife cheated..at least she is still making it up to u...
but i wonder when u were cheating did you remember ur wife or how she would have felt..No!..u thought its a man's world I can do as I please...well here is a situation where u have to suck it up and forgive your wife..since u arent a saint..im hoping she knows u cheated cuz if she finds out u did too and u r giving her headache...wha a rude awakening you r in for..
why do to someone what u wont want someone to do to u...simply put..forgive her and ask God for the grace to rebuiild your relationship...remember your kids r very observant..and they r learning.
marriage isnt a bed of roses...there r thorns but with love, forgiveness and patience the roses will grow and choke the throns....time heals if u allow it to.
remember u cant be too mad at ur wife..u r just simply hurt that ..she played d same game u did....so u guys r equal..next move forgive and start afresh..
do u no d character of d next woman dat u wil end up wif if u leave her alone? dere is a saying dat goes dis way (D DEVIL U KNW IS BETA DAN D ANGEL U DU NT KNW) so my dr u beta relax ur mind n dnt let d devil push u 2 destroy wat u hv built 4 over 11yrs.
This guys is very crazy.....you feel so bad because she cheated and you once did the same thing. Abeg carry your cross and make up with your wife. You knew it was so painful to bear and u cheated first.....men are just so fake....nonsense....next story pls Linda
Mr Man pls go and rest because you are 100% guilty of the same crime. Let me put it to you that not touching her for 9months will only make it worst because when she feels horny, she will satisfy herself outside again and then you go roast....hahahahahahhahaahh.... This is good for you because you have felt the pain and will never cheat on your wife again.
There is nothing llike a woman is not allowed to cheat, it's we african's dat have dat mentality. Before God it's the same sin. Even if he never cheated on her she deserves to be forgiven, marriage its all about understanding. But seriously she must make sure it never ever happens again it shameful.
dear pls pray that God gives u d strength to forgive her. d devil is trying so hard to fight the marriage institution dat God has created, cos if d home is broken so will d society n d nation.believe me u will not find a beta wife out there.
You really have some guts to post this n the blog shaa oo! You are a hypocrite.... You hate your wife now ehhn? See his mouth..... Better go for counseling with your wife and if it doesn't work, divorce Abel... Pathetic human being!!!l
It is easy to forgive a man than a woman wen it comes to cheating in marriage,no man will ever be happy to see his wife sleepin with another man bcos men dnt have that kinda heart..women av sort mind and they can forgive easily...my advice to all married women that r doin that kinda stuff is to stop it....man will always be man.....dont get it wrong am not saying men should cheat in marriage
You need to disabuse ur mind of that tin that's says its ok for a man to cheat but for a woman its a complete Taboo! Just tell urself its a phase in ur marraige and u re capable of managing your own affairs....."these too shall pass"
WOMEN DONT CHEAT ON UR MEN!!!REMEMBER WHEN HE SENT YOU OUT OF THE HOUSE IT IS HARD FOR YOU TO START FROM THE BEGINNING,MEN CAN MARRY 2,3 WIVES BUT A WOMAN CANT MARRY 2 HUSBAND AT THE SAME TIME...I KNOW THE TRUTH IS BITTER BUT IT'S THE #FACT........LADIES CAN CHEAT WHEN THEY R SINGLE BUT ONCE U MARRY FORGET ABOUT THE CHEAT AND STAY WITH YOUR HUSBAND...THE PRIDE OF A WOMAN IS TO STAY WITH ONE MAN AND HAVE CHILDREN WITH HIM AND THEY LIVE HAPPY HOME,WHEN A WOMAN IS MOVING FROM ONE MAN TO ANOTHER THERE IS NO JOY IN THAT...MAN WILL ALWAYS BE MAN
PRAY PRAY PRAY: TAKE A BREAK, DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH ANYONE ELSE, STAY AWAY FROM EACH OTHER FOR A WHILE. DURING THAT TIME, PRAY, STUDY THE BIBLE, READ BOOKS, AND REFLECT ON LIFE GENERALLY. THEN GET BACK AND BALL YOUR WIFE. BY BALL I MEAN INTENSE LOVE MAKING.
PRAY PRAY PRAY: TAKE A BREAK, DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH ANYONE ELSE, STAY AWAY FROM EACH OTHER FOR A WHILE. DURING THAT TIME, PRAY, STUDY THE BIBLE, READ BOOKS, AND REFLECT ON LIFE GENERALLY. THEN GET BACK AND BALL YOUR WIFE. BY BALL I MEAN INTENSE LOVE MAKING.
EVEN WHEN OUR GIRLFRIEND CHEAT ON US WILL BREAK UP SHARPERLY NOT TO TALK OF MARRIAGE....POINT IS THAT WOMEN SHOULD NOT CHEAT IN MARRIAGE COS WILL MEN DONT HAVE THAT KINDA HEART.
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Ewu gambia, u cheated on her and she cheated too meaning u got served and squared. Ur disgusted and feel like stabbin her in the eyes wow wonder what gives u the right to tink like that. SMH for u real hard, how pathetic.
I can't even believe d woman stayed with u after she cheated on u? Can u imagine becos u r man its allowed for u to mess around and not for ur wife. Infact marriage in this country is so twisted! Its one issue or d other yet my parents wants me to get married by all means. Am so disppointed!
Abeg you are a hypocrite you cheated and now u cant stand her because she did the same thing learn to forgive that is such a double standard and it makes me sick
dis is y they say marriage is sacred once defined disaster and roth wil follow,pls both men and female should always learn how to be fathful in there marriage so that d spirit of God wil always abide in ur marriage i pray God gives us d grace to do so cos those two has brought roth upon themselves..
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Thank you,you just said my mind
Rolling on conkiri. LMMMAAOOO!
Bonario shut d hell up...back to d matter,If u are married nd u ve d urge to fuck sm1else(pardon my french)plz leave that marriage-am a lady and I knw a guy can cheat nd still be in love with u,but for a woman is different,when we cheat we start comparing d person we fucked to our spouse,*still can't understand why women who r miserable in dia marriages still stay*only in africa shaa.
Pls forgive her cz she forgave u and prob cheated on you bc u did same n wanted to get back at u. Try talk it out nd know why she cheated, maybe u stopped caring or u are busy having an affair outside ur home n den she wanted to be happy n loved n leaned on anoda man's shoulder. Work it out nd COMMUNICATE, Its d key! OFF POINT! Can someone tel me why Pete Edochie and Osuofia wz not honored or recognised at d AMVCA. They re one of d pioneers we have na! * Sad face
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If u do me I do u.. God no go vex
Step on d dance floor...God no go vex
Touch me I touch u... God no go vex
Enjoy the disgust... Ekwensu oku.(Hot devil) in case u don't understand igbo. *tongue out*
U've obviously not forgiven her...try to forgive her from d bottom of ur heart n everytin will fall in place.
Marriage is till death, as a christian Divorce is wrong. I would say you should stay because of the children. It also say the only time you can leave each other is when one of you commits adultery. Since the both of you have done such act i would say, redo your marital vows. Its like starting afresh.
watch Fireproof and try that out... but you cheated too, so why is it such a big deal for you to forgive???
You so funny it's stupid, cant stop laughing! Cy
Na wa o,y din't she hate u wen u cheated on her,my guy let d old tings be past away,nd behold has now b cme new,jst 4 forgive nd 4get nd also pray harder
Guys think they are the only one who have the right to cheat...when you cheated she forgave you ..now that she cheated you wan massacre her...u better take a chill pill..mtsheww
Sori 2 say but dis man is a punk ass. U cheated on her. She 4gav ur cheating ass n stayed. Now she cheated on u. U found out, u don't wana 4giv her. Instead u've got a lot of hatred in u dat u feel like stabbin her. May God 4giv u 4 bin so wicked. Oma Baby.
Thank God there is something called judgement.you cheated and she forgave. Now because she did, u don't want to. I pray that if u leave her and meet someone else, magun will hit. Men when they are tired of a woman they look for excuses
when a woman cheats its unforgivable, but when its a man that broke the covenant, its forgivable...i think u guys should get all the help u can,.....marriage counsellor, religious leaders etc. maybe its the hurt you cant get over, but u still love her
I'll advice u 2 go & get d nigeria movie Mr&Mrs, D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇̊τ̲̣̣̥ will tell u D̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇̊τ̲̣̣̥ divorce is not d solution,my guy be wise as serpent. Forgive & forget!
Guy,u wicked o.Anyways,pls just take a break from her before doing something stupid cos even if u don't love her,her kids do.If indeed u ever loved ur wife,u would want her back. Linda, biko,post my comment
Two snaps for you girl! Behind you combing my wig , can't flip mine cause it's short , get it! Any which way we are gone with the wind fabulous! Girls Take note if you cheated In the past nine months and you confessed , dust your suitcase and heels, don't let your case end up in pm news or iwe iroyin and ps Amanda you are not the first to comment. Cy
its suppose to be 'till death do you path' oga go and see a pastor for cancelling or a therapist and work things out. you have to start seeing her as the woman you fell in love with not the one who cheated on you.
I feel you bro but at the same time you have to let go of the shit she has done for the sake of your children and as time goes on you will get over it.I will advice you and you wife should have a good time together for like A week or more somewhere away from home and discuss this and i am sure you will find a place in you heart to 4give her.
hypocritical bastard... kill yourself goat!!!
Its easy 2 forgive bt hard 2 4get. Just take it easy d way u think. Try 2 4get what happened in d past. Work on ur mind,heart n bring out the Kind of love u showed her when u 1st saw her.
This man is selfish....thunder fire am....u cheated she didn't hate u, wen she cheated u hated her....u c how e dey pain? Nama like u, idiot........@scubaposh
reading this at the point when i was thinking of doing d same thing the wife did is scary!!..*plans aborted*
So you cheated too? Get lost! Is she your servant who will just tolerate you without talking? If you leave her you will still cheat your new woman. So why not have a second honeymoon with your wife and forget about the past?
hypocritical bastard... kill yourself goat!!!
Linda pls gimme dis ungrateful Ass digits. WTF. Ure not even happy u av a family n a home. U cheatd on her , she forgave u (dats even if u told her abt it), yet u can't 4giv her too.. Wat if she did it out of d bitterness she felt wen she knew abt ur cheatn ways. Man ! Brace up n fix ur Family. Seperation is gonna b the worse thing dah wud happen 2 dose children. Or if u gonna seperate , tell her ur wrongs too and let d hatred n disgust be EVEN! Mscheeeew!
What the fuck are you talking about men? This is an opportunity. Kick the bitch out and get yourself another wife. And take the kids to hospital for paternity test, you don't know if that's the only time she has being screwing around. And while at it get yourself tested of HIV.
In one word .....SELFISH HE-GOAT!!!!!!
My dear deal with it and stop being in considerate.she wasnt dumb or stupid to have forgiven u in ur own time nd she did not forgive u cause of your children she did it for love so you do same.It also means you havnt forgiven her and thats why u always feel that way cause your wounds havnt healed....Pray to God to give u the heart to forgive her and all this would be history.
JAY
when a woman cheats its unforgivable, but when its a man that broke the covenant, its forgivable...i think u guys should get all the help u can,.....marriage counsellor, religious leaders etc. maybe its the hurt you cant get over, but u still love her
Don't mind him selfish man, it's in their gene! You can dish it out but can't take it! #Take a ego pill sucker# Cindy
I remember ten years ago I was in a hospital taking care of my mom who was down with high blood pressure becos of my dads brazen cheating. She wept becos she married a virgin and told me not to make that mistake but enjoy my life. Ha ha ha I took the advise and I am now married. He has cheated and so have I. All I do is keep it discreet. So many ladies do too coz no one wants to double over like mummy did!!!!!
Só?bcos he cheated on her,Does dat mean she must do so too? Oh plssss,shes just a whore....
Mmmm cases like these are more complex than LindaIkeji. Still read the advice on here, but please seek professional help.
#my2cents, life is too short to live regretting. You should tell her how you feel. See how she feels. If both of you want to work things out, great. If not, please go your separate ways. Your kids will be ok if you make a conscious effort to ensure they turn out fine.
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Men are so selfish. As d cheating dey sweet u no sabi say e dey sweet everybody too .taste how it hurts to know ur spouse cheats. U expect d wife to forgive and continue loving like all is well yet when d table turns u can't do same. .go fuck urself. Me I go give u otapiapia make u die b4 u stab me in the eye cos na my family go lose if anything happens to me .stupid man god punish ur type of men
The woman must be stupid to even admit..except u catch me ontop d pr..k I no go gree say na me..After all people do look alike. Na person wey resemble me u catch. .wat d fuck
What is the essence of marriage if two people can not stay faithful to each other? No wonder the bible justify divorce ONLY on the grounds of adultery.
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Trust me this guy is just being real... He cheated and he fucked up... The lady cheated too... But a fact everyone must know is that when a man cheats on a woman, it's always very easy for woman to forgive than when a woman cheats on a guy... I bet u it takes a REAL MAN ready to live with the injury to make things work as before... U can abuse the guy ooo but he's just being real and the fact remains that if he continue to struggle with his injury, he may end up doing nasty things.
I stay in a small county in Texas and have some friends who work with the department of justice here.
They told me of a Yoruba guy in prison here who killed his wife he brought from Nigeria.
The man caught her cheating and moved to Dallas just to stay away from her, but the injury made him come back, from a place 2 hours apart, got the gun and pulled the trigger.
Trust me, if it were to be the lady who caught the man, she would have forgiven him and things will be normal...
I as a man honestly don't know why it's like that too but mehn...
The guy should either just try and stay or leave...
It's no harm mehn..
LMAO YOU ARE SUCH AN IDIOT!
WHEN YOU WERE CHEATING YOU DIDNT KNOW IT WOULD HURT YOU LIKE HELL IF SHE RECIPROCATED.
SELFISH! AND IT SERVES YOU DAMN RIGHT! YOU BETTER CHECK ALL YOUR KIDS DNA BECAUSE THEY MIGHT NOT BE YOURS
LMAOOOOO
You must be a very selfish and wicked man. You shouldn't have even come up on this plat form to tell your stupid story. Are you not foolish? You cheated on her SEVERAL TIMES, she cheated on you ONCE. Have you stopped to think that while you were busy cheating she kind of found out and did same 'cos you did? She is not justified but then Mr. Man....YOU ARE VERY SELFISH.
its so funny how Naija men are now weak, a woman can cheat on them over and over and they will stay. If a woman cheat on you once she will do it over and over when she needs to, walk away. what make you so sure that in the last 9months u didn't touch her that she as not slept with someone else? move on
Ma dear u have cheated on her okay?so why finding it hard to forgive her?if u really really care for your kids nd family please work something out just take her to a places you guys enjoy and rekindle that love back again,give her a lifetime threat,you should also pray for God's intervention in ya family aswell cos with him all things are possible and please I beg you,don't lay your hands on her keep being the gentle guy u are okay?Peace
CREAMIE
You have not touch her in 9months, so u think body be firewood. If you are staying u better start sleeping with your wife again or let her go
You dont have to end it, the exact thing happened btw my husband and i, and to crown it up,i was pregnanat with our first child, he never touched me from that moment he found out till 2 years later,i prayed , i tried my best to be the nicest wife in the world, but to God be the glory things are getting better now..Just be patient with her. i can tell you that my husband hated me more than you hate your wife now, but God still intervened. Mind you, he found out in 2009 after we got married that i cheated in 2007while we were still dating, at that time he was constantly cheating,so when he found out i also did once with someone else,he almost killed me, cos according to him no woman has ever cheated on him.just take it easy with your wife and seek God, he will definately restore the love you once shared.
Bros, I gat to be honest with u. For the sake of ur children u can stay for some couple of years since dey are still small and get a life after then. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured!
u better not touch a hair on that woman's body,am sure u don't want to know how many curses will follow you, if you can't stay get the hell out. men so full of themselves rubbish.
The reason she cheated on you is because you cheated on her. It's called karma
See part of the reason why we are loosing our values in Nigeria today is due to this thing called equality.Listen and listen good MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT EQUAL. Its the hard truth, if a man cheats you the wife you can punish him in your own way so that he can learn but when a woman cheats it is not the same.
I just don't understand what the world is turning into.
A man can marry 2 or more wives and will still be respected in the society but can a woman marry more than one husband. What the hell is wrong with all of you. I don't encourage men to cheat but when it happens woman deal with it. However when a woman cheats PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE it is not the same thing.
See part of the reason why we are loosing our values in Nigeria today is due to this thing called equality.Listen and listen good MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT EQUAL. Its the hard truth, if a man cheats you the wife you can punish him in your own way so that he can learn but when a woman cheats it is not the same.
I just don't understand what the world is turning into.
A man can marry 2 or more wives and will still be respected in the society but can a woman marry more than one husband. What the hell is wrong with all of you. I don't encourage men to cheat but when it happens woman deal with it. However when a woman cheats PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE it is not the same thing.
Fair is fair. U must grow up & be a man. Engage d help of d Holy Spirit to help u luv her truly not d joke u av bn used to. Remember, marriage is a 3fold cord with God at d base of it all & repent & turn a new leaf.
im nt saying what she did is right but so much for double standard........mschewwww
I would advise you walk away, because is a big crime for women to cheat when they're married, you can actually forgive her for the sake of heaven but don't just forget because she might do this again is in the blood already...in no way should a married woman with kids cheat on her husband. ***
It is very scary how it almost seems you guys are saying it is okay this woman cheated. A whole woman, opening her pussy for another man other than her hubby? when she is not an animal. We know men are closer to animals than women. A woman should n ever open her yansh for any other once she is married. Leave her jare before you end up hurting her and ending up in jail
You are such a SELF RIGHTEOUS BITCH!! y ou think it's okay for you to cheat and now your wife has followed your footstep and you are disgusted. i will suggest you end your marriage because she clearly doesnt deserve a prick like you. nonsense!!!
LEAVE NOW!!! YOUR RESENTMENT CAN MAKE YOU DO EVIL THINGS TO HER. YOU ARE DISGUSTED AND CANT STAND TO LOOK AT HER. PLEASE LEAVE HER EVEN IF IT IS FOR 3 TO 6 MONTHS. MAKE ARRANGMENTS TO SEE THE KIDS EVERY WEEKEND OR SOMETHING. PLEASE FOR YOUR SANITY MAKE YOU NO GET BLOOD OF PESIN FOR HAND O. GOD CAN RESTORE YOUR MARRIAGE BUT RIGHT NOW YOUR JUDGEMENT IS CLOUDED O
Oooops!!! I thought the LIB readers r suppose 2 be d guyz counsellors here...y the insult nau. Guy, pls put aside what has happened in the past n love your wife again just as God luv's you.
Who said she wasn't disgusted when you cheated but she say she couldn't stand you. It might have been the anger towards you for cheating that might have triggered her to doing the exact same thing. The issue was that she didn't handle how she was feeling well. Quitting your marriage makes you a loser and a failure. Consider your kids. You guys can work it out. You say you don't love her anymore then why did you marry her if you could easily fall out of love for her. You have been married for eleven years, there must be something that made you stay that long in marriage with her. Find the reason and do not let your silly mistakes cost you your marriage, your wife, your kids and everyone's happiness.
She's got some liver o! She confessed???? I wouldnt have confessed o, even if u Caught me in the act, i will still deny It unless u Bring rodo to put in my Vajayjay o. abeg handle and treat ur fuck Up! u learner! Cheater oshi! Oniranu! Onuku igala, ezi bida
i cant believe all these people saying its called karma. she is a woman for crying out loud. no wonder the rate of immorality and cheating is high in naija. when you average people think it is okay for a woman to ever cheat. men will always be men. they are created to act like uncontrollable idiots but a woman should not defile herself ever. i am too shocked by the comments here
This is the huge problem I have with the majority of men.... stupid double standards....I've found that most times they cant take what they dish out.. You admitted to cheating in past... May be even more than once.. only God knows how many times. She stayed with you and forgave you and I'm sure she wasn't 'disgusted' when you tried to touch her again... Not that it's any justification what she did too.. but it's annoying and irritating to me how you are reacting. Its so unfair... You can sleep around but you can't bear the thought of another man touching your wife right?? SMH!! Nonsense... All I have to say is, save her the torture of enduring your coldness and indifference by leaving especially since you're already feeling like stabbing her eye and all those violent emotions, I suggest you leave before you unintentionally act out on those emotions one day.. or you can always go for counseling if your relationship with her means anything... my 2 cents..
And forgive us our tresspasses, as we forgive those who tresspass against us..
This one is for you http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8c-pr3PE7Dg
U'll thank me later !
are people honestly telling him to stay? after he has advised he wants to hurt her. reality is men cannot stand to picture their meat being chased or eaten by another man like them. he will end up hurting this woman. he needs to leave and go and regroup/rethink/reevaluate and if he feels he cant live without her, then he can come back but for now they need to be seperated. Once the feelings of physically hurting a person comes to light, it is time to move away from that person
base on the comment on this post, i don't think i can ever marry a Nigerian girl, Jesus no morals. poverty is a bastard. bunch of cheating dogs
Jovi Uba. You and the writer should take a long walk off a short pier. Spewing nonsense.
Ejoor o! No advise this man to stay before he will stab the poor woman in the eye!
He'll try to find a way to justify that too. Shege kawai!
Lol @ the comments.....oga advice seeker, i hope you got the guidance u r looking for,hahaha... good for you. U cheated and she cheated back and now u hate her?o nwero onye dika gi!!!
forgive
forgive her
Your eyes are widely shut. Period!
The trust issue stated here is on a general note and I am not justifying men cheating pls, I am so sure its her broken trust that made her cheat on him too in the first place. This is a man having thoughts about stabbing her even when he has cheated too and for months he still can't put off his anger for her, he should keep on and kill her right? Let her go and I bet in due time without her around he would come to his senses and realise his act of double standards.
Stay der joorh!! Wey U̶̲̥̅̊ wan go?? Wen U̶̲̥̅̊ cheated she bin leave U̶̲̥̅̊??? U̶̲̥̅̊ guys too dy form "head" ƒό̲̣̣̣̥r̲̅ everythng...doz kids r too young †̥ suffer dis kinda situation...save U̶̲̥̅̊я̲̅ marriage & save d children!!!
Lol @ "reaap what u sow, were u thinking its only for tithes"
Linda, please I need you to post this cos I need peoples opinion.
There was a guy I was dating and after a while we lost contact. We just came across each other after 8 years. And he seriously wants me back into his life and if possible to take things to the next level and I also want him back.
But the challenge is there is a girl in his life now, which I once called him and the girl picked the call and started insulting me that I should leave her guy alone.
But the guy is asking me to give him time so he can put an end to the relationship with the girl.
Should I continue with the guy?
REPEAT- U cheated she cheated.... Now u are disgusted!!! Get over yourself
Please better just forgive her and move on nonsense. Men think they are above the law. Please settle down o jare.
I really do not understand all the bashing here. The question is not who cheated 1st or last, the man cannot stand his wife, plain and simple. How long before he actually picks up a knife and stabs her for real? The problem lies with us women, our men cheat and we just brush it aside, we nag and complain but never really express how hurt we are. If she forgave him and continued, good for her, but "he" as an individual cannot handle it. Unfortunately most men cannot, and that's the sad world we live in. I hope they try to get counselling, bring out all the issues to the table and address it, try to fall in love over again. I hope it works out for them but if it doesn't, its no use putting husband, wife and children through the emotional torture of an unhappy home
The guy said he's tried to forget and forgive for nine months but finding it difficult to do so as it doesn't seem to be working. If not for the kids I would have adviced him to leave, what's the point in being in a relationship where you are eternally unhappy. Meanwhile he didn't say she caught him or aware of his cheating, it's a different thing for you to know who's straffing your partner or being caught in the act
You might have gotten tired before reaching my comment, but i hope you take your time to read through and get what i have to say to you; people have commented here, some positive while some are really negative, please don't listen to the negative tongues, cause they honestly do not care about your family or know what you feel, every man will feel just the way you are feeling right now, its natural and God help us men, but please think this through, you know deep inside you have done the same to her, if possible take her on a vacation somewhere, and then take a bold step by telling her how you cheated on her as well, by doing this, there are two things involved, its either she forgives you or the marriage ends, (It won't end by the grace of God), share little secrets, cry together, tell her your pain and let her understand that its not been easy for you....May almighty God be with you and your family in Jesus name!
Nigger look for a way to forgive her. you did the same and to be honest you feeling like that is very hypocritical. you did the same and i'm sure she doesn't even know.....stay and look for a solution to overcome the problem.....perhaps try counseling
I wonder why Nigerians are generally abusive.Its a very disgraceful nation. Men and Women alike. Somebody comes for genuine advice, all you do is abuse..almost 300 people abusing...if the lady gets shot dead in a few hours (as we have seen recently), one of you will discover that your sister is the one in question.
Balu !!!!!!!! You both cheated ! You'll be acting like you the victim ,Nigga you is a pussy hoe ! Yoo get your shit together ! Weak Nigga !
@Jovi Uba
Your comment and point is very pathetic...GOSH!!!!!!....pls say something else abeg...what archaic point is that abeg...thats rubbish..Cheating is not justified when done by any sex (either male or female) and thats why the bible permits divorce (when unbearable) on grounds of adultery although that is a second option as forgiveness is the first and ULTIMATE..
Back to U MR...
This is called KARMA...KARMA is like a resturant and you get served with what ever you ordered for
JAY
Homie u need to drink bleach mixed with petrol...now u know how it feels to be cheated on...if u leave her, u a concentrated idiot....get over urself fool and find how to love her especially when she's putting in effort to make the marriage work...u dont want ur children raised in 2 separate homes either....
Look let go of her abeg and know how to file ur divorce papers appopriately, ladies ehn, the way they break pples hearts anyhow u cnt bilive it, they feel too big now a days. pls leave her, let her go meet the guys she was cheatin with, afterall if a guy cheats nothin is bad, we are in Africa and its allowd, but y wuld a girl cheat on me. Well sha. Pls file ur divorce letters well. Hi linda.. i miss u (lol
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YOU ARE VERY STUPID!!! YOU CANT STAND HER BECAUSE SHE CHEATED ON YOU? HOW DO YOU THINK SHE FEELS KNOWING THAT YOU CHEATED ON HER TOO? YOU THINK YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WITH FEELINGS? I FEEL LIKE STABBING YOU SEF. ***HISSES** MEN CAN BE SO ANNOYING
look at this idiot oh...u also cheated and u disgusted at her...pls go take a seat somewhere...nonsense
Your wife probably found out you cheated that why she was comfortable to cheat on you too. I guess now understand how she felt. So forgive yourself... Cause it not your wife you're actually mad at.
To put an end to this cheatin and no cheating of thing, l think wumen should start getting married to two - three different husbands as men do, maybe live in a separate house, visit the men when she wants and who she wants. answering Mrs. Blessing Williams, Mrs. Johnson Essien and Mrs. Amaka Chukwuemeka...in this way guys will not be complaining why their wives cheat.....the worst part of it all is, when these wumen cheat the stil love their husband and the guy the slept with.... is hard to let go, if u try e no get head, then decided one thing…. Afterall u cheated her b4 she went for her own meaning she has always want to cheat……it is a choice and not a habit.
Most of the people that get married these days aren't mature enough for the institution. Age doesn't mean maturity as most of us can obviously see these days but in the course of satisfying society at large we get married, mostly out of convenience.... There's an old saying, as you lay your bed so shall you lie
ofcourse u should stay....no one said marriage waz ever gonna be smoothe all d tym,bur remember dat it takes two to fight,since ur mature u guyz can work thing out aii...........nd make ur marriage a bed of ROSES its possible
Most of the people that get married these days aren't mature enough for the institution. Age doesn't mean maturity as most of us can obviously see these days but in the course of satisfying society at large we get married, mostly out of convenience.... There's an old saying, as you lay your bed so shall you lie
Most of the people that get married these days aren't mature enough for the institution. Age doesn't mean maturity as most of us can obviously see these days but in the course of satisfying society at large we get married, mostly out of convenience.... There's an old saying, as you lay your bed so shall you lie
ofcourse u should stay....no one said marriage waz ever gonna be smoothe all d tym,bur remember dat it takes two to fight,since ur mature u guyz can work thing out aii...........nd make ur marriage a bed of ROSES its possible
l cant believe all these people saying its called karma. she is a woman for crying out loud. no wonder the rate of immorality and cheating is high in naija. when you average people think it is okay for a woman to ever cheat. men will always be men. they are created to act like uncontrollable idiots but a woman should not defile herself ever. i am too shocked by the comments here
Hey l bet you most of this people supporting the woman for cheating and insulting the man are no other people, tribe than lgbo girls, marrying an lgbo girl is like marrying a hard core prositute. they alway have that spirit of cheat.....80% lgbo ladies are complete cheaters l can prove it to anybody.
you are a very big fool. you cheated and am sure you are still cheating. and you are talking about leaving her.fool.
Why do i feel as tho you have a flirty nature. Cud be your wife cheated due to your lack of affection towards her. For your information all women are the same. But it seems your looking for the wife who would get tired of you because of minor issues and probably leave you. If you doubt me, ask those who have been married three or four times. Marriage is not always a bed of roses.
And who said nigerian girls are bunch of cheating dogs? dint you just see he cheated first.
Mr. You need Jesus in your marriage. Cheating is spiritually dangerous. Do you know whether the ladies you slept with are possessed ? Infidelity has a spiritual force. If you dont stop cheating now dont expect your wife to stop. Because you spiritually transferred it to her. And believe me this time you wil not catch her again until she retires. She will do it in a smarter way this time around. She has tasted and know how it is. So you hold the key to your marriage. Is either you invite Jesus and be completely faithful to your wife or expect more drama from her which you will end up not having any evidence. Dont even try going for another wife because even if she is a christian, there is no guarantte that you wouldnt be cheated again. Remember women are weaker sex and very emotional.
Mr. You need Jesus in your marriage. Cheating is spiritually dangerous. Do you know whether the ladies you slept with are possessed ? Infidelity has a spiritual force. If you dont stop cheating now dont expect your wife to stop. Because you spiritually transferred it to her. And believe me this time you wil not catch her again until she retires. She will do it in a smarter way this time around. She has tasted and know how it is. So you hold the key to your marriage. Is either you invite Jesus and be completely faithful to your wife or expect more drama from her which you will end up not having any evidence. Dont even try going for another wife because even if she is a christian, there is no guarantte that you wouldnt be cheated again. Remember women are weaker sex and very emotional.
The simple truth is SHE never forgave you thats why she cheated also. My advise is both of you should decide what to do. Best of luck.
Oga, the score na 1-1 now. Madam has equalised, reconcile and move on.
You will never remain sane if you leave her alone with 4 children.
Besides, adultery is not a sin against man but a sin against God. So why bother yourself? You both have sinned against God, ask Him for forgiveness, Shikena!!!!!
I really wonder how people get so personal about another person's personal life. Na wa for una oh! abi this one na joblessness? See as Una just dey paranoid. Una no dey do pass that one with una women?
This is the thing about men that I detest with a passion..u cheated on her and you can't forgive her for cheating on u, cos of that u want to let go of 11years just like that?? First off,u are very stupid fellow. Secondly,you can sort things out if you wish! Talk about your cheating escapades(both of u) and sincerely forgive each other and move on!whats eating u up is that both of have done this and no one is true to the other....Sort it out pal.
This guy is full of Shit! Is okay for you to cheat but not your wife, why? Because you got a dic****? If you are disgusted by her, how should she feel about you. You do me I do you God no go vest dumbass..If you no what is good for you, you better find the buried love you had for her and start working things out with her and continue loving her. There is no perfect home or marriage. May be you guys should take and week and travel alone without the kids. Better yet find one of those marriage retreat and attend. I have seen it work for couples. May God bless your home and help the two of you to keep your eyes on each other and your **things** inside your pants. Good luck
He who wears a shoe knows where it pinches.Oga,you are the only one that knows wat your problem really is,because from ur story,i dont think you have any problem..you must be selfish 4 refusing 2 4giv her and shamless 4 bringing dis kinda issue here.
PLEASE DONT WAKE UP THAT LOVE ANYMORE...ITS NOT WORTH IT. SHES JUST SHOWN YOU THAT YOU WASTED YOUR TIME GETTING MARRIED TO HER. FREE HER PLEASE SO YOU DONT GET HURT MORE THAN THIS.. ANY WOMAN WHO CHEATS ON HER MAN IS NOT WORTH STICKING TO FOR A DAY MORE.
Go into serious prayer and fasting about this. I really believe this would resolve this.
PLEASE walk away before you do something drastic that you'll utterly regret! And it's been 9 months and you can't get over it, nor come to terms that YOU also cheated on her. Sort things out...You're hurting her with your unloving act.
Karma is a bitch mr man and you got exactly what you very very well deserved.
You ve not touched her in 9 months cos ure busy touching some1 else and am sure dis was exactly what u were doing that pushed her out.
TFY......Thunder fire you
Please be careful oooooooooooo the one you are writing like this dont kill someone's child o. Too much bitterness and sadness here. Why not give it a break to clear your head and see if you can still manage. Pray and speak to her and pray some more. If your'e still full of bitterness and cant bear then thats it i guess. Please forgive she forgave you too
FOOL FOOL FOOL!!!! since you cheated you should first of all divorce yourself before you leave her really hate men with a holier than thou attitude
Spare the details bro! There is nothing out there man! Please fund love in your wife once again and trust me you can make it work. Put in God's hands and pray about it. You have to forgive yourself and forgive her. Please man, for the sake of your kids too. Start by hugging her and praying together. God will bless you both with love again because he is a merciful God.
stupid dude.
Ur an idiot Mr. MAN when u cheated u no send abi...now she do her own u fit hold ABI....
this is the stuff i hate about men ...u try to play hard ball on some 007 MOVES but ur stupid ASSES can't handle when it's done to u....
My advice is go FUCK URSELF
stupid bastard....i hope she cheated on u with ur best friend or brother....bitch ass!!!!....
please before we have another pistorius on our hands leave the home for now....its not by force..you can arrange to see your kids every week or so....stay away and seek counselling till you clear your head enough to go back to her..God bless and Goodluck
2 ge 4...do me i do you
As I say we men are the weaker sex. You cheated but can't forgive your wife for doing same, what goes around comes around. You can't bear the thought of another man mounting your wife, then don't cheat, treat her better. You're a punk!
Hmmmmm
Any woman that is telling a Man to forgive for cheating is just stupid. Men have Egos and once you shatter that it can never be repaired. This marriage is doomed and the guy should just dump that bitch and lets see if the guy she slept with will be with her. Men have been cheating since beginning of life. It is in their nature and any woman who does the same brings shame to her and her family.
SEE CHECK UR MENTAL FACULTY COS DERES A MIXUP WHICH IS OBVIOUS COS U RE A WORSE OFFENDER, JST GO CHECK D BIBLE ND KNW DT U VE NO RITE WTSOEVER 2 B DISGUSTED. BOTH OF U SHLD SORT URSELVES OUT IF NT 4 ANYTHING BT 4 D CHILDRENS' SAKE ND AS 4 U, ABEGH SHIFT GO 1 SIDE...MSTCHEWWW
Dear Friend, Let the one who has no sin cast the first stone. Since she admitted and apologized, forgive and forget if you want to be happy.
If I caught my wife pants down under a man, I will still forgive her if she wants to be forgiven -provided she doesn't fall into it again.
Come to think of it, have you ever thought that your attitude towards her might have pushed her into adultery?
Want to ask you women a question cause u all sound so bitter, when a guy cheats on you, did anybody force u to still continue in the relationship. I don't understand all this talk about u reap what u sow, if a guy cheats on you walk out of the relationship, simple. I cheat on partner and if she catches me then she should walk, but don't tell me because I do it then u can; bulls hit. I did not force you to stay when I cheated so don't call me wicked when I leave u for the same reason. Women claim to be independent but don't act like it when they get into relationships. Chief if it was me I would not stay for another day in the say house with her, not because I am a man but because cheating is wrong. If u can't stand it leave whether man or woman.
I can see alot of ashawo women and girls who are committing adultery in total support of this dirty woman, as a Bini man if ur wife commit adultery we don't forgive, if u forgive u will die. So let me start from that angle, any wife that cheat on a Benin man is trying to murder the husband spiritually, so if u are from Benin please tell her to pack out of your house, before u see untimely death, that I pray will not be ur portion. While I know many will not agree with me, please my brother are beg u, if u r Yoruba u can forgive her, because Yoruba people don't forbid adultery
i beg leave her and get another wife and be happy how can a married woman dating another man
brother grow up>>>>> she is human u cheated in the past did she kill uuuu???????????aaahhh..na wa ooo
to eer is human to forgive is divine
Honestly plus Biblically, Men are permitted to cheat but not Women, the day I find out my woman is cheating on me, uhmm... that would be the last day she will see our kids, Allah, we are off to Thailand at a click never to come again…
bla bla bla.. Whether a million Oprah winfreh rises or a billion Hilary clintons, it would always be a man's world!!! So please ladies think twice b4 u do anything stupid be it vengance or not, cuz once its out dia d whole world would judge YOU!!!
Hope u ladies/ladies/guys are not saying a woman should go out and even the score for every suspicion of her husband
Hope u ladies/ladies/guys are not saying a woman should go out and even the score for every suspicion of her husband
Please O don't stab her in the eyes or anywhere for that matter.... If it's so hard for you to forgive just divorce her....
Ha Ha. Remember people that married prostitutes still demand utmost faithfulness from the wife.
Yes, cheating is bad but for crying out loud, he also cheated first!!!
Dunno why men can't just get over their ego & forgive their women for cheating considering the fact that they are also forgiven after committing same act.
*OMA*
pls stop all that talk of u can't marry a Nigeria woman or w r lossing our values, this things happened in the old days and it's even worst in oda countries,nobody is saying cheating on her husband is right, what to do next is what he is asking, if he can't stay let him get the hell out. these woman are angry Becos it has happened to them or someone close to them, men push and push women to do some nasty things, when she dose u call her all sorts. he deserves every insult coming his way. i know how a cheating man behaves he treats her like a worthless human being, she losses her self worth her courage her everything, only the grace of God helps her not to seek peace else where . all these men.....
Any woman that cheats is not normal at all, after how many kids self? 4? Uhmm, did our mom cheat on our dad even when they bring another woman home? Most of the comments here are western, try cheat on your husband in my village, Taaaaa… Na thunderbolts (MAAGU) / (Don't Climb) go b your end. It’s the Men World!! How many wivies your popsy marry way u want give yourself tension bros… Abeg
Serves you right...that's how she felt when you cheated on her. Suck it up and stop whining like a bitch about it.
U shal a damned SELFISH,SELF CENTRED,EGOISTIC, FOOLISH BRUTE. She forgave ur misdemeanors nt once bt severally n nw she did it once n u r crying WOLF al over d place. Get a grip on urself. Learn to FORGIVE frm ur heart like she did n like how d bible thot us. Pray dat God wil forgv u cos u r d one dat made her fall by d way side bcos wen u sow ur wild oaths wit other women, u neva perform ur duties to ur wife n I'm sure she wld av made attempts wit u n u wld av gvn her stupid excuses n nt touch her so som1 else filled her nid. So adultery u nt sole rite neither is it 4 her. B a man n swallow ur PRIDE. May d Lord God hlp u
Now u kno hw it feels....u beta pakurumo ur wife
u r very silly and selfish. u cheated ans she forgave you and now she disgusts you, if you leave i hope you feel the wrath of God Almighty
Don't leave her, what if she fabricated the story? Even if she did it, find a place in your heart to forgive her, give yourself some space, liv apart for a while but make urself a promise not to cheat. Then, look at the pictures you guys took when u were still very much in love, looks at de pics with her and and talk about those moments, talk about the crazy things u both did together. Try thinking about what u used to like about her, her beautiful features, am sure u still love her that's y u r feeling this massive anger towards her
My guy please back out now before you commit murder and you will be charged, if its not working anymore just let go. It's just so sad for a woman to cheat, I feel his pain....believe me the woman's reason for cheating is so irrelevant that is why the guy is finding it hard to forgive. He should just back out
You guys need a breather,take some time apart,cool off.Grow a pair,come to terms with your shortcomings and reconnect again.If not the marriage will go down the drain fast.Adultery is a serious issue in the sight of God,but he is a God of second chances.You lose if you walk out of the marriage.
unfuckenacceptable. a woman who defiles her married bed? look men are allowed to cheat point blank period but a woman should never ever stoop that low. what has naija becomes no wonder our young 16 yr olds can be marrying and fucken their great grand fathers and our young women will be having husbands and aristos at the same time. what rubbish is all this. so women are now equal to men and should belittle and degrade themselves all in the name of payback. naija is a filthy disgusting place. all morals are out the window
Go sort ursf & tk kia of u mess ursf!!
Una don cheat una sef so y u com dey ova para
Abeg lock up & stay put,nw nt 4u & ur wife bt 4d
Sake of dos 'KIDS'
Austin UcheMarch 12, 2013 at 5:22 PM. Only an Igbo man will say something so foolish, no self pride. Why won't he say that when its ok for them to marry asewo as long as she's pretty
Stupid idiot, u cheated and she also did. So wotz ur problem. U don see as e dey pain. U wan run. My friend remain there. Goat
forgive her, u married for better or worse u cant just give up because of this. forgiveness is a hard road but starts with a simple decision. what she did was not good, but it shouldn't be the end of the marriage , after all u loved her b4 u knew what she did.
Well aren't you the biggest hypocrite? How come you can do it and forgive yourself but you can't forgive her? She should leave you self righteous "cheat".
U cheated she probably forgave u, she cheated now u want to pluck out her eyes? Thunder fire u there.....I will a lot more women will do this to there husbands so men will know how we feel when they cheat....what makes u think u are better than her? U think God created u to be a superior mortal? Capital NO..society has groomed u ple to think cheating is your birthright. Mei don't care how men,s brains r wired that makes them dogs but God has created you to have self control......if I see your wife I will give her an award for what I have not had the guts to do to my husband who has cheated on me repeatedly...this is not because I don't have male admires or toasters, I just have chosen not too but I have warned him not to push me too far.....it has taken me a lot of prayers and self control to forgive him and I have seen some remorse n his part.....so my friend I don't have any sympathy for you, just get over your selfish self and move on...if you can't too bad, there are other men in the world.....next time before you will go and unzip your pants for another woman you will know how it feels....
It's a shame when I hear of things like this in real life. I wish grandma or grandpa was there to talk peace into their marriage.
Marriage is not all rosy like we all have learnt. In fact, marriage is a trial of plenty errors. At the end, you find peace knowing that you two are not perfect but been working together towards a better self.
i WILL SAY DO NOT LEAVE BUT WORK WITH HER AND WORK TOGETHER. PRAYER WORKS
U must be crazy....so we shld feel sorry for u? If I see your wife I will give her a high five....now u will know how it feels to be cheated on...ewu....u men think because u cheat and we forgive you then we are fools and God has made us to be dumping ground and Ur doggy bullshit...pray she will be the one to pluck out your eyes first before u pluck her.....nonsense
I hate it when women come here and say you cheated she cheated its a draw? Bullshit. The pride of every man is his wife and once she is violated no matter if we cheat or not things never are the same.98 % of my married friends cheate or have cheated and the other 2 % I can't vouch or 100% . I have been tru this bullshit and if not for my lovely kids I'd be gone.As a man I love sex not really women (some men love women and sex )so I can totally distance myself from the women I sleep with 0 emotions involved.put a pillow over her face I will take it down if my specs.not many women I know are like that. And married women who cheat are usually emotionally attached. It's been 5 years since my wife cheated i have learnt to live with it but things will never ever be the same again.to me it's the ultimate sacrilege , but hang in there bro it can only get better.the feeling of betrayal will slowly ease and you may be able to find a comfort zone soon. Good luck bro. NB please disregard all this Ashawo women justifying shit.
Too many Asewo women in Niger this days. Na wa oh see them justifying rubbish.There is no difference between club girls and some of this bitches here. Kai Nigeria we hail thee.
Go make up with your wife o! Get over your anger and annoyance especially as you have also cheated on her in the past. Your wife must be good looking and alot still get a man to sleep with her. If you leave her cos you are angry, she'll get another man easily and you will just go commit suicide. For the sake of your 4 innocent children, try and work things out. May God strengthen you as you do so. Please act fast o! Cos not sleeping with your wife for 9months, you may be pushing her out into the arms of another man without knowing.
Once this is over, the both of you need to sit down and discuss what went wrong, why cheat? What led to both of you cheating and ensure you both rediscover yourselves again. You need to be completely open and honest with each other in the marriage.
Oloshi smh.. So you go screw around and she can't? Uselessness of the highest order.. Y'all Nigerian men need to get with the fuckn program! You go sleep with someone else, I'm doing it right back to you. Same goes for the women badgers and abusers
Oloshi smh.. So you go screw around and she can't? Uselessness of the highest order.. Y'all Nigerian men need to get with the fuckn program! You go sleep with someone else, I'm doing it right back to you. Same goes for the women badgers and abusers
Sounds like you have not forgave your wife. You are still enraged and your man ego has suffered. Your behavior is normal. That's how men respond to be cheated on even if they cheated. The thing is you are feeling violent towards your wife. You need to take care of this feelings before they become actions and your children become orphans. You need to figure out what is best for you and your happiness. Staying in a relationship in an unhealthy manner is not the best for your children by the way. Another thing, be careful not cheat again while you are resolving your feelings. The way you are feeling towards your wife might drive you into another woman's hand and you might regret it. You may need to sit your wife down and tell her how you feel towards her. You need to sit down and tell yourself what you need to feel better and share it with her. Be sure is doable and sensible. Be honest with yourself in this matter and you will get through it. Also, ask yourself if you want to work on the relationship and find love again with your wife. Your answer will tell you what you want to do.
All men God forgive you guys.. Oh so you cheated on her. And she cheat on you, you dey vex? you dey craze big time.. When you were starving her from sex and all the neglects you didn't know you were hurting her. Even the 9 months wey you never touch her, you are stilling cheating on her end of discussion!. that's what drove her to seek companion with a man friend or an ex bf of hers. Gather your "Blokos" together and make amends with the woman u fell in love with rubbish! The dog you know is better than the one you don't know.
U are a selfish mofo. People like u disgust me. Sheeeesh.
You are very hypocritical to say the least. U cheated, she cheated. Get the eff over yourself. If u can't forgive her for the same sin you committed and then love her like u initially did, then God should never ever forgive ur sins and should never love you! Asshole.
All men God forgive you guys.. Oh so you cheated on her. And she cheat on you, you dey vex? you dey craze big time.. When you were starving her from sex and all the neglects you didn't know you were hurting her. Even the 9 months wey you never touch her, you are stilling cheating on her end of discussion!. that's what drove her to seek companion with a man friend or an ex bf of hers. Gather your "Blokos" together and make amends with the woman u fell in love with rubbish! The dog you know is better than the one you don't know.
Idiot, u are lucky u are not in my front I would have given you a dirty slap..I pray she plucks out your eyes before you do her.....now you know how it feels...next time u will use your brains before you carry dat your nonsense dick to another woman.....arrant nonsense
The funny thing abt men....when they cheat its okay and can be overlooked but when the woman cheats, it's an abomination and cannot be forgiven.... If I may ask, is she aware that u ever cheated as well? Ur marriage is still quite young, why not go for Counselling and try to make it all right....? If all is said and done and its still not working for u, then it wud be wise to seperate or get a divorce bcos I'm gradually seeing that this may turn out to become physical, this one you occasionally feel like stabbing her in the eye as u had earlier described.
I think part of the reason you feel bad is because you cheated too and you can't forgive yourself. Try forgiving yourself and it will be easier for you to forgive her or tell her you xheated too and talk about it. If you leave her, she is going to blame herself for the rest of her life and that will not be fair
Abi o well said.. Thumbs up!
Washing n setting,cheating is everywhere.Not only Nigerian lady cheats!so go and sit down!!
You are pathetic. U cheated on her n she did same. You are finding it hard to live with her. U must be a stupid n selfish man. If u stab her u will not go free.
WEAR SOME BIG BOY PANTS AND GET OVER IT - U SHOULD EITHER LEAVE HER OR TRY TO WORK IT OUT. YOU CHEATED, SHE CHEATED, NOW ITS TIME TO RE-BUILD IF THAT'S WHAT YOU BOTH WANT. STOP BEING SUCH A SPOILED BRAT. I THINK ITS FUNNY WHEN GUYS CHEAT BUT CANT HANDLE IT WHEN THEIR WOMEN CHEAT, ARE THEY STONE? DON'T THEY DESERVE THE SAME RESPECT? STOP BEING SELFISH.
Men are generally more visual creatures than women which is why a man cannot get past his woman being with another guy. Women on the other hand especially in this part of the world are taught to expect their men to cheat and when the do, you are advised to focus on your kids.
I empathise with you my brother and would suggest you both go for counselling. It is important that you try every option possible before even considering calling it quits.
BRO, WHEN A MARRIED WOMAN START SLEEPING AROUND, SHE HAS PASSED THE STAGE OF 'NO RETURN'. SHE HAS TURNED HER SELF INTO A CESSPOOL WHERE ANY MAN CAN COME AND BE DEPOSITING SEMEN. THE BEST DECISION IS FOR U TO LEAVE. TAKE YOUR CHILDREN AWAY FROM HER SO THAT THEY WONT BE SEXUALLY ABUSED BY MEN THAT WILL BE DEPOSITING SEMEN INTO HER. DONT LISTEN TO ANY OTHER ADVICE. JUST LEAVE WITH YOUR CHILDREN. TRUST ME BRO. SHE HAS TASTED THE FORBIDDEN FRUIT AND HER EYES IS WIDE OPEN NOW. IF U STAY WITH HER, YOU WILL FOREVER REGRET IT. IF U ARE IN NIJJA, WOMEN ARE TORO-KOBO FOR 20 AS LONG AS U GET WHAT IT TAKES, AND U CAN GET ANOTHER ONE IN SECONDS. DONT EVER STAY WITH HER. LET HER GO AND SEE HOW GREEN THE OTHER SIDE IS. IF SHE COMES BACK TO BEG YOU[ SHE DEFINITELY WILL ], PLEASE IGNORE HER AND MOVE ON.
THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS SEEN IT ALL AND KNOWS IT ALL. BRO, TAKE MY WORDS FOR THIS. THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO REASON FOR A MARRIED WOMAN TO SLEEP AROUND, EVEN IF SHE SAW HER HUSBAND HAVING SEX WITH ANOTHER WOMAN ON THEIR MATRIMONIAL BED. ANY MARRIED WOMAN WHO DECIDES TO BE SLEEPING AROUND SHOULD BE LEFT TO BE SLEEPING AROUND. STAYING WITH A 'SLEEPING-AROUND-WOMAN' GETS U NOTHING BUT AN EARLY DEATH. IF U WANT TO DIE EARLY, U CAN IGNORE MY ADVICE AND STAY WITH HER.
LESSON FOR ALL YOU WOMEN, THIS IS WHY YOU CHEAT AND KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT. WHAT TYPE OF YEYE GUILT WILL PUSH YOU TO CONFESS. SEE MEN WILL BE MEN, HYPOCRITES, HENCE WHY WOMEN MAKE LESS MONEY AND SOME COVER THEIR FACE IN TH NAME OF RELIGION. O AND IF YOU LEAVE HER THE NEXT WOMAN WILL BE SMARTER, THIS TIME THIS ONE WILL KEEP HER MOUTH SHUT
Oloriburuku, asi ere ma le le yi ke...... He shud oscar pistorius her abi, d same way (if u r a woman) ur husband ll do to u (and if u r a man) d same way ur daughter's husband ll do to her... Anu pama, onyiberibe, anuofia. A lotta MAD pple in d world
@anonymous 4:44 pm, may d combination of Sango, Ogun and Obatala strike u dead, he shud kill her ba?, useless fella, he cheats she cheats, she 4gave n nw he should kill her. #sango stike ur teeth and hand#
Mr man, forgive your wife... To wrongs never make a right
To all men that cheat on their wives: 90%of the time, your wives know about your escapades and 50% of them cheat on you with other men and you never know about it.... The attention you give those whores, someone else is giving your wife.. So if you men think you are smart, think twice!
Lol @ tithes.
i will advise you both see a marriage councillor. please you both need it, and afer that you can both go on vacation .i bet it will work moreover ask for the forgivenss of God. it just like starting all over again. till then .i also personaly apologise on her behalf.cuz it dishearting
lol..talk about double standards..
sorry bro if ur wife cheated..at least she is still making it up to u...
but i wonder when u were cheating did you remember ur wife or how she would have felt..No!..u thought its a man's world I can do as I please...well here is a situation where u have to suck it up and forgive your wife..since u arent a saint..im hoping she knows u cheated cuz if she finds out u did too and u r giving her headache...wha a rude awakening you r in for..
why do to someone what u wont want someone to do to u...simply put..forgive her and ask God for the grace to rebuiild your relationship...remember your kids r very observant..and they r learning.
marriage isnt a bed of roses...there r thorns but with love, forgiveness and patience the roses will grow and choke the throns....time heals if u allow it to.
remember u cant be too mad at ur wife..u r just simply hurt that ..she played d same game u did....so u guys r equal..next move forgive and start afresh..
do u no d character of d next woman dat u wil end up wif if u leave her alone? dere is a saying dat goes dis way (D DEVIL U KNW IS BETA DAN D ANGEL U DU NT KNW) so my dr u beta relax ur mind n dnt let d devil push u 2 destroy wat u hv built 4 over 11yrs.
This guys is very crazy.....you feel so bad because she cheated and you once did the same thing. Abeg carry your cross and make up with your wife. You knew it was so painful to bear and u cheated first.....men are just so fake....nonsense....next story pls Linda
Mr Man pls go and rest because you are 100% guilty of the same crime. Let me put it to you that not touching her for 9months will only make it worst because when she feels horny, she will satisfy herself outside again and then you go roast....hahahahahahhahaahh....
This is good for you because you have felt the pain and will never cheat on your wife again.
can u imagine d cat....u better snap out of it and deal wif it...let it go...
There is nothing llike a woman is not allowed to cheat, it's we african's dat have dat mentality. Before God it's the same sin. Even if he never cheated on her she deserves to be forgiven, marriage its all about understanding. But seriously she must make sure it never ever happens again it shameful.
dear pls pray that God gives u d strength to forgive her. d devil is trying so hard to fight the marriage institution dat God has created, cos if d home is broken so will d society n d nation.believe me u will not find a beta wife out there.
You're a LITTLE BITCH for a man.
You really have some guts to post this n the blog shaa oo! You are a hypocrite.... You hate your wife now ehhn? See his mouth..... Better go for counseling with your wife and if it doesn't work, divorce Abel... Pathetic human being!!!l
It is easy to forgive a man than a woman wen it comes to cheating in marriage,no man will ever be happy to see his wife sleepin with another man bcos men dnt have that kinda heart..women av sort mind and they can forgive easily...my advice to all married women that r doin that kinda stuff is to stop it....man will always be man.....dont get it wrong am not saying men should cheat in marriage
You cheated on her bro, now she made her own mistakes, forgive, forget and move on! THE GREMLIN HAS SPOKEN(what's good for the goose...)
You need to disabuse ur mind of that tin that's says its ok for a man to cheat but for a woman its a complete Taboo! Just tell urself its a phase in ur marraige and u re capable of managing your own affairs....."these too shall pass"
Forgiveness is paramount you have to learn how and more so when you cheated on er she forgave you so its now ur turn to forgive her God will help you.
WOMEN DONT CHEAT ON UR MEN!!!REMEMBER WHEN HE SENT YOU OUT OF THE HOUSE IT IS HARD FOR YOU TO START FROM THE BEGINNING,MEN CAN MARRY 2,3 WIVES BUT A WOMAN CANT MARRY 2 HUSBAND AT THE SAME TIME...I KNOW THE TRUTH IS BITTER BUT IT'S THE #FACT........LADIES CAN CHEAT WHEN THEY R SINGLE BUT ONCE U MARRY FORGET ABOUT THE CHEAT AND STAY WITH YOUR HUSBAND...THE PRIDE OF A WOMAN IS TO STAY WITH ONE MAN AND HAVE CHILDREN WITH HIM AND THEY LIVE HAPPY HOME,WHEN A WOMAN IS MOVING FROM ONE MAN TO ANOTHER THERE IS NO JOY IN THAT...MAN WILL ALWAYS BE MAN
PRAY PRAY PRAY: TAKE A BREAK, DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH ANYONE ELSE, STAY AWAY FROM EACH OTHER FOR A WHILE. DURING THAT TIME, PRAY, STUDY THE BIBLE, READ BOOKS, AND REFLECT ON LIFE GENERALLY. THEN GET BACK AND BALL YOUR WIFE. BY BALL I MEAN INTENSE LOVE MAKING.
TRUESTAR
PRAY PRAY PRAY: TAKE A BREAK, DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH ANYONE ELSE, STAY AWAY FROM EACH OTHER FOR A WHILE. DURING THAT TIME, PRAY, STUDY THE BIBLE, READ BOOKS, AND REFLECT ON LIFE GENERALLY. THEN GET BACK AND BALL YOUR WIFE. BY BALL I MEAN INTENSE LOVE MAKING.
TRUESTAR
EVEN WHEN OUR GIRLFRIEND CHEAT ON US WILL BREAK UP SHARPERLY NOT TO TALK OF MARRIAGE....POINT IS THAT WOMEN SHOULD NOT CHEAT IN MARRIAGE COS WILL MEN DONT HAVE THAT KINDA HEART.
What kind of English is this one speaking? For the sometime ko.
Btw, the comments on this blog are H.I.L.A.R I O.U S.
forgive her and pray about it. people make mistakes and am sure u can still have the best of marriage if u truly forgive her.
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