Dear Linda, in response to the blog post with this title' Dear LIB readers: is this normal? (See it HERE) which you posted on Friday, please post this...it might help someone...thanks sis!
My name is Dayo. I’m a typical Nigerian guy and I cherish my Fridays a lot; I get to hang out with the sickest guys every Friday night and secondly, It’s another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get confused sometimes on whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it twisted; I love her pieces. It just gets complicated; like I wish we never got married…marriage has turned her into something that doesn’t amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited lady I dated for five years.
A lot of people say its unethical for married guys to be found in a club, but I wish everyone won’t be too quick to judge and understand that people look for fun to run away from their problems; they just want to breathe, like me.
I forgot to say that I work in Guarantee Trust Bank along Lekki, I love my job and my job loves me, maybe its because I’m the senior banking officer. Lol. This particular morning, a lady breezed into my office. My heart raced faster because I had not sighted anything this beautiful in a long while. She wasn’t the typical slender Barbie, in fact, she was a bit chubby but her smile, cuteness and…I was tripped.
“Hi Good morning! Your ATM has swallowed my card!” She laughed, unlike a typical customer that would ram you.
I just tried to form Boss laughter…
“Good morning, You know what? I’d personally make sure they get it out for you, but not today. Can you wait till Monday?” I smiled
“GTB shaaa! OK, can I just drop my number so you could call me up or just text when its ready so I don’t come twice? Please? My name is Nancy” She blinked her eyes in a funny way.
“Sure” I smiled
We exchanged numbers. What a lucky Friday!
So it was 10:00pm and I headed to the club…as usual my friends were chilling for me. My wife had called a couple of times, I just ignored it. She knows I’m never home Friday nights.
“Look at you!” I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the ATM lady-Nancy.
“Wow, look at you too!” I was surprised to see her but I was happy I didn’t have to wait till Monday to see her again.
“Happy Friday!” She screamed because of the noise, “Wanna dance?”
I didn’t even have the chance to answer, she already pulled me to dance floor. I really suck at dancing but she helped me; she was a great dancer! I had fun! At some point we decided to go to a private area and we talked, ranging from work, business to personal life. I tried to hide my ring as much as possible, I certainly didn’t want this to end now.
“You are a really wonderful lady. You are so interesting…any guy would want to be with you all day” I said.
“I wasn’t always like this but I have learned the hard way that life is just too short to be sad” she sang
Then her phone rang…
“Hey baby! Yeah I’m at the private lounge, I’d like you to meet someone…alright boo” she talked excitedly as usual.
I was in shock until this tall handsome man walks up to her and kisses her.
“You were late. Meet Dayo; I met him this morning, he’s helping with your ATM I told you got swallowed and Dayo this is my B to the O-O,” she laughed “Meet my husband Kolade, we only come here to dance every
fortnight Friday; away from work, stress and kids.”
“Wow, a pleasure” I managed to shake him
Then she stood now excitedly holding her husband’s arms.
“Why don’t we invite Dayo for Mimi’s 16th birthday tomorrow?” Her husband said
They have kids too? How long have they been married and they look like a couple just dating!
“Silly me, please come for my second daughter’s 16th tomorrow. It would be an honor” She brought out an I.V from her purse.
I began to feel so ashamed of myself…this was another guy like me, getting it right with one woman.
I collected the I.V and promised to be there.
“See you tomorrow! Have you had something to eat Kolade?” she talked and dragged her husband along.
They left and I kept staring at the thin air like I had seen a ghost.
They come just to dance together every fortnight Fridays? Why didn’t I think of that! Temi loves to dance…she also likes long walks, she loves to talk…she loves jazz music, there’s this vivid picture I have
of me putting her hand on my chest when we danced at a jazz club on our first year anniversary…I found myself typing all the things I knew Temi loved to do on my I pad and I realized I had denied her of all…I
had made her the old woman she acts.
What the hell was I doing here! I didn’t even tell my friends goodbye, I walked out of the club into my Jaguar. Temi’s call came through and I picked at first ring.
“Temi?” My heart raced
“I know you are not coming home…”
“I am, stay up so we can gist. Been a while” I decided to do everything on that list and to even add many more for the rest of my lifetime with her.
“Are you alright?” She was shocked I suppose
“And I’d like us to go for a birthday party tomorrow. I want you to
meet this amazing couple”
“You sound different Dayo”
“Maybe I’m different”
“Don’t say it! don’t say it! when you come we will gist very well” she laughed
She laughed!!! In just that laughter that I hadn’t heard in a while, she sounded like the lady I married six years ago…
174 comments:
Intriguing story.
Is a pity u need a counsellor on this one linda self na u dey writ this myth or na people dey send u am confused-omo-iwo says so..via bb. Bold.5
YIMU
mtcheew.... read it on fcbk already. it didn't happen to whoever sent it to you
so inspiring.... God Bless your marriage.
Awwwwwwwwwwww
Aaaaaaw...i hope my hubby reads dis! maybe he'll finally get it! *deepsigh*
OMG! I sincerely touched by this story! If only men wud try to be openminded, more marriages will last forever! God give us wives d grace
oups, runing from your problem only complicate issue, staying and solving ur problems show a lot of maturity.
No matter how difficult a lady might look or sound there alway a soft sport if u wish to be her man, found dat sport and live a happy life with ur family.
Tears rolling down my eyes...tears of joy, of course.
awww...sweet!
Got dis BC too
The story isn't complete
Cool story!he writes well tho...n wats with all d braggn??hian!!!better go n get serz wt ur marriage.I wonder y guys go to the club n stay n stay n stay n spend money???I wld rather stay @ home,buy enuf junk food n light drinks n watch a lot of cool movies...typical friday nyt for me...TONI
awww...this is so sweet!
Hmmmm n d story haff finished just like dat? okay o buh i get d msg n i hope othhers do too.
Nice......
*Yawns* Wash, wash , and more washing
Wow!! What a lovely story... Fiction or non-fiction!
Sigh! Although I know this is just some fictional piece (rolls eyes! @Linda) the message totally reflects marriage today!
A man marries a woman and forgets all they did when they first dated ...of course that's enough to turn any woman into a nagging grumpy B**ch!!
am dat kinda gal who will club wit her husband if he wants to and do d crazy stuffs and still be dating him in marriage.... nice
IMO...it's nice wen couples jst find tym 4 demselves away 4rm all d world, av a date nyt. Sumtyms it's d lil thns d@ matter...bt Dayo u'r nt nice! Calling ur wife a nag n sayn she's boring, n y d show off! We did nt nid 2 knw u drive a jaguar or work in Gtb!
Awwwwnnn!!1so ka---yut!!!! I love it! I love it!
Lol ....read it on facebook last week doh
Nigerian women can nagggggg eh
Beautiful story. I'm moved.
Hmmmmmmmmmm..am crying
Linda this your blog is turning to superstory or is it nollywood in its entirety?
this inspiring......Good lesson for couples
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okay, i dont get! interestin story, yeah! but wats the moral? go clubbin wit my husband every friday nite? seriously??? its okay to ave fun and not become a dry couple but i really dont see the point here, wat happens when the kids start comin and he leaves you alone with the cryin baby and goes clubbin? abeg abeg! wen u kno ur married, ur married, stop leavin like u are single, ave fun like matured married couples and the respect and love u ave for each other will keep growing, i seriously dont think clubbin every friday nite helps any relationship! there are healthier ways to maintain a relationship...
This one na story story
SILLY U ...IT MUST NOT HAPPEN TO SOMEONE FOR LINDA TO HELP PEOPLE HEAL THEIR RELATIONSHIPS.THERE MORE TO THIS BLOGG THAT SOME OF YOU MAKE IT TO BE.LINDA KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK.AM GOING TO USE THIS STORY FOR MY COUPLES CLASS .
U see...dere's nothing beta dan making a problem u have right..so many tyms Men make dis mistakes,thinking d problem is the woman,buh its in ur place to actually make it right,dats y u are d Man..M so happy he came bk to his senses..Gold bless any man who makes his wife happy.there's nuffin as sweet as a happy woman in marriage
The dude is the king of tacky storytellers. Thinking he seemlessly dropped his position at work and the type of car he drives. Believe me I have a six figure job in Atlanta (see I did the same thing and it's still tacky) so it def not jealous of this idiot
'm sure ur fat from d junk food!!
I doubt if it actaually happened 4 real,2 me its as if am reading a love novel!..lesson 2 learn 4rm it,is dat women shld plss kill d nagging spirit in dem!..I wish 2 marry a lady dat posses dsame humorous attitude lyk me!..Papee skataa scata no mata!!
whether its a fact or fiction.the message has been passed across.
Men pls stop leaving your wives at home like house rats and take them out.Bring back the fun in ur marriages.
A woman wont wake up one day and metamorphose into an angry nagging woman..enough said
Lovely
Shey na "the senior banking officer" dey write things like "I was tripped" et al...???.... O ga ooo!!! And we blame the "youth" for their display of ignorance... Anyways, na poorly written fiction...
Hian , fiction jare but cool tho
ONOME says.............
hmmmmmm.I dont know whether to believe this story or not o but I am so loving it.woooohooooo
Eyaaa sorry bros, u coursed it becos u don't take her along with u again like be4, next time u're going take her along with u may be once or twice a month dat should do the magic of nagging at least she's not like dat be4
Sounds lyk a novel 2me! Mills and boons..
Deczy
LLOOOOOL
MY GOSH, NIGERIANS LOVE STORIES...THE SOONER WE REALIZE THAT WE ARE IN A REAL WORLD, AND THAT THERE ARE FEW EXCEPTIONS (AMONGST WHICH I HAPPEN TO BE ONE OF THEM)
THE BETTER!!!!!
LIFE IS BASED ON PRINCIPLES MEHN AND NOT ON ILLUSIONS AND FALLACY ABEG.
CUTE STORY...BUT PLEASE NOTE THE WORD 'STORY'..THINGS I READ IN ORDER TO SMILE AND JUST FEEL LESS STRESSED FROM THIS WORK IM DOING ATM
Linda,I watch dis film 2 days ago for africamagic
Linda,d way Ndi Igbo on facebook lifts ur stories(abi na u dey lift their own)is really funny o.
Most stories here,I get to read them on ndi igbo and they change the person's name,of course.
In this case,they left it as dayo but in others,they change it to one fictitious name like jane Chichi or John Chukwu.
Abi Linda,u dey do part time 4 ndi igbo?
i looooveeeeee ds:)
July 30, 2012 12:16 PM you are the type of man who would make your wifey grow old by force asin you are hear saying it is not a true story and who cares ehhh it is the point that it is making that you should learn from.....
Sounds like a boring 9ja movie..Nice story tho.. Written and edited by linda Ikeji..lolZ
Linda Linda.....cool story on a monday morning nt bad sha
i hope dis will help many couple, cos i'm married nd my marrige has brought out my worst character, at times i dont even bliv it's me doing all dis things. I nag, get angry at little tins, i find it very difficult 2 control my temper..... I dnt knw wat 2 do anymore, i always pray 4 my marriage bt when i feel tins r getting better then my husband will do sometn worse. I jst pray for God's grace nd pls readers always remember me in ur prayers.
Nice story.
*Weeping*
dat was touching
Ladies should stop making their husbands the center of their lives and expecting all your happiness to come from him.... That's what turns you into a nag..
Remember that girl he fell in love with? That laughing, fun loving adventurous girl? You were that girl before you knew him! You can still be that girl, just focus a percentage of your time on what makes you happy instead of what he does to make you unhappy.
By the time your happiness starts shining through, he will be the one begging for your time.
Wow......Dating your husband!!!! This is the most touching story.
Like reallyyy! This story is hogwash...senior banking officer in GTB? Drives a Jaguar? Something definitely don't add up
Some married men need to go back 2 their first love in their marriage nd do those things they were doing then. I'm of d opinion that no woman is too hard to live with if u take ur time as d man to find out d secret.
I read it too on fbk mins after I came here n saw it,hehehe,dah person is just a liar
I luv ur way TONI,I watch movies with my husband and Children weekends too,it won't get u fat,is called Bonding tym*smiles*
now, this a good one.., yea!
Toyota yaris don turn jaguar overnight. Its alright...*now blowing whistle*
Linda,live story jo..Am a confirm Club freak,I club from Wednessday to Saturday every week,i can tell you categorically that,its no good for a responsible woman to club.Thats the fact.You can take ur wife,fiance for outing,beaches,eateries,hollidaying,cinema,whatever,but the issue of clubing is nothing to write home about.Can you tell you parent that you met your hubby in a night club?So forget all this story you are posting here.I ve already read it on facebook.So its just a write up,and not a reality.
I think u guys are not facing the fact here. We need to advise ourselves(ladies) about being approachable.the man complained about his wife's attitude though shouldn't be enough reason for him to leave home when he supposed to stay with the family but still, it shouldn't be over emphasized. Let's keep our homes! GOOD ATTITUDE IS KEY!
Linda, you suppose go work for M&B..
All these stories sha, you sabi propagate fake gist oh.
BB says: this is a good story .forget about the guys jagur or where he works.couples should always try to keep their marriage alive,that's where dating in marriage comes from.
This would have been really inspiring if it were true..bullocks!!!!!
i knw d story is old n aint so real, but pple, pls stop dissin linda n get d msg. OK
A MAN (DOCTOR) WRITING; ISN'T THIS THE SHORTEST CUT TO INFIDELITY. QUESTIONS; IS IT ONLY "MARRIED COUPLE" THAT COME TO NITE CLUBS? ARE THERE NOT GIRLS "SCANTLY CLAD GIRLS" THAT COME THERE TO SEDUCE MEN NO MATTER THEIR COLORATION (MARRIED OR NOT). LOOK, EVEN SATAN COMES TO NIGHT CLUBS TO WRECK HOMES. AND IN THE MIDST OF PLENTY ALCOHOL (YES EVEN THE TEETOTALER WILL BEGIN TO GUZZLE BEER LIKE FISH. REMEMBER FOLKS THAT ALCOHOL IS AN APHRODISIAC -IE ENHANCES SEXUAL DESIRE BUT NOT PERFORMANCE)AND SCANTLY CLAD CHICKS, TELL ME THE NEXT THING. SEEEEEEEEXXXXXXXXXXX; YES! solution; WHY DON'T THE COUPLE GO TO THE BEACH, AMUSEMENT PARKS, DECENT LODGINGS, GOSPEL MEETINGS, ETC AND ENRICH BOTH THEIR SOUL, MIND AND BODY. MET A LOT OF FOLKS IN THE CLINICS WHO TOLD ME HOW THE DO IT (SEX) IN THE CAR SEAT, BONNET, TOILET ETC AFTER CLUBBING. AND WORSE STILL, THE STUFF (HIV, SYPHILIS ETC) IS PASSED TO THE UNSUSPECTING SPOUSE (OR SPOUSE TO BE.)LIFE IS TOO SHORT BUT ETERNITY IS TOO LONG; A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE
Toyota yaris or jaguar, Gtb or houseboy, the issue here is the moral of the story...beautiful write, the truth is that we tend to always forget y we ever married a person or even started dating sef....
WETIN THE TORI TELLER FOR DO IF THE LADY'S HUSBAND NO SHOW UP? SEX OF COURSE. AND WHATEVER NYAMA NYAMA (AIDS, DEMONS) WEY THE LADY CARRY, HE FOR BUY AM FREE TO GIVE IM WIFE. MTCHEW! NOBI DEVIL DE TELL GUYS MAKE THEM COME DINE SO? OLD BOY, MAKE UNA TEAR RACE O; CLUB NA THE ROAD TO SURE HELL!
this kept me quite for some time to think. real touching story and leason to learn.
better late than never.
Noted!
James 1:12-15
12 Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
13 When tempted, no one should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; 14 but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. 15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.
NIV
Nice story. people especially men should learn from it even if it is fiction or not and stop criticizing Linda.
Cynthia
AND WETIN YOU WAN MAKE WE LEARN? TO DE GO CLUB DE FUCK ASHAWOS ABI? THAT MAN WE WRITE THE TORI DON DO AM MANY TIMES. ASK AM.Ps 119:9-10
9 How can a young man keep his way pure?
By keeping it according to Thy word.
10 With all my heart I have sought Thee;
Do not let me wander from Thy commandments.
NASB
But when you go with your spouse, any sex in the car, toilet, etc will be with the person you're meant to be doing it with.... That's the point.
awwwwwwwww, is'nt thi
at that just sweeeeeeet???..
U leave d main point n pick on d example, moral is just to do what makes u n ur spouse happy... life's too short to create rules dat will diminish d happiness of ur home.
Ok. IPad & jaguar to prove he's a SBO in Gtb? Like seriously, he's such a dumb man. Who cares if you jumped into your jaguar? Just get the hell on & go make it up to your wife.
Small boy husband.
awwwwwwwww, is'nt that just sweeeeeeet???..
This is a lovely fiction written by Lowla Dee. U can check her website: http://www.lowladee.com/?p=4644
Though it's fictional...the lesson is clear for all
Dayo,
I am a married chic as well and you were about to get on my bad santa list but for the good ending. Thanks for sharing this story although you should not have given TMI. Next time I am in Lagos, I will go to your GTB branch and ask for the dude with the Jaguar. Unless all of una get Jaguar. Now I am curoious to see who you are - not get close or talk to you, hehe. That was your chance encounter with God before you derailed. As weird as that might seem, he is the restorer who is omnipresent. He is in the clubs, on the streets, wherever. That night, the lady would not have had a difficult time bedding you if that is what she wanted. But God used her to open your mind first, then he showed you what you were missing. If someone had come to you point blank and said dude, why not bring iyawo to jazz club, you would have replied "impossicant".
Glad to hear you are on the way to an exciting future.
www.marriedwomansproblems.blogspot.com
Storrrrry ! :D
BTW, I just wish my husband would agree to dance with me when we go to events, or allow me hold his hands like I used to, or pay me compliments, or call me boo like he used to,or not come up with the response "no" when I call his name to ask him a question or tell him a story about work, or not tell me about how he is going to work tomorrow when I want to do something spontaneous with him on Sunday night. He is not any fun anymore. I am still as HOT as ever. I still get stares and passes from singles who think I am 28 instead of 42. My husband just seems to be in early senesence!
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dats so sweet. i wanna get married now!
First of all, this is obviously a work of fiction.
That being said, I think its a nice piece and I'm amazed @ how many people are focusing on the mundane and irrelevant parts of the story (the car, money, lifestyle, etc) and are totally missing the moral therein!
For those that can't get past the irrelevant, lemme spell it out for u:
All this guy is tryna say is that rather than focus on the negative things about ur significant other, try to improve ur relationship by focusing on creating quality time together. It might be going clubbing together (as in the story) or it might be other stuff like going swimming, eating at a fancy restuarant once a week or once a month or however regularly it suits u. It may even be the 2 of u going go-carting every other weekend! Whatever it is, sha create time to HAVE FUN TOGETHER!
And for those who say a responsible woman should not go clubbing, I say ur in great need of enlightenment. What exaclty does it mean to be responsible? If u pay ur bills, provide for ur kids, pay ur tax, live a good and healthy life, does the fact that ur like to dance to loud music make you irresponsible??Anyways, that's a topic for another day.
I've always enjoyed clubbing tho admittedly I dont club as much as i used to. My wife on the other hand is a home body. However every once in a while she gets all "sexied" up and we hit the club for a night of dancing and drinking and laughing and then we go home and have mind blowing sex! I also sit at home and watch desperate housewives and jerseylicious and do the dishes with her some times cos I know that's what she loves.
Sure we have our fair share of fights, but after all's said and done, I couldn't ask for a more wonderful woman!
The point is, we take the time to play, to have fun the way that suits us! This is what has made us so close...
This is the moral of this story and its a damned good one!
Waitin 4 season 2
nice write up..got me smiling all thru
Senior banking officer, in GTB, driving a jaguar??? The joke is on you, Linda
Wish I could re-post...wish all guys could pick something from this.
Linda the message is very clear and it will heal a lot of broken homes.
SO INSPIRING!...
What I take from this is, put every effort into your marriage! Don't let it die or become monotonous and boring!
TEN Commandments of Waiting- www.princessofzion.wordpress.com/2012/07/30/10-commandments-of-waiting
And jaguar is how much? Mtchew
LOl, this is a script for a movie and not reality. GTB bank manager Ko?
Mumu, clubbing is just used here as an analogy! Read between the lines! There are many other things that you can do and enjoy as a couple. The key is to do things u both enjoy together. Shebi he told her to stay up so that they can gist. He did not tell her to come and meet him in the club. Find ways to have fun with your man!!
clubbing with ur husband, every friday night, for the past 16years? super story!!! nxt story plz
The gorgeous Lindo, Lindo, can you add my blog to your blog List Pleeeeaaassse. He is a lucky man and should thank the lady for saving his marriage. Wives townhall connection.
Cool story bro...
I got this as a BC lastweek, touching.
And the writer never said to go clubbing every weekend. Did you not read where he made a note of all the favorite things his wife likes to do? In a bid to comment you just write rubbish!
I can now see why our country will never move forward, when leaders of tomorrow cannot read simple story, take the positive side of it to better their relationship or marriage. All i see are people criticizing the story and being negative.And u are all cussing Patient Jonathan, when u r all in the same category. As for me I will show this to my husband, my brothers, uncles, father, male cousins and every male i know to read this piece very educating.
that's what most marriages need to survive.make ur wife/husband to be like that woman/man that catches ur fancy.
Our population makes us unique in Africa. We have lots of talents in Nigeria. Good story writers to suit any situation.
Na tru yimu oh.... Shioor
I'm convinced the story is redirecting our mind to the essence of marriage. Women shld not be relegated to the background. Couples shld always remember those things in them that made their spouses see them as the best, and try as much as possible to maintain them. Those are the marriage spices.
I'm convinced the story is redirecting our mind to the essence of marriage. Women shld not be relegated to the background. Couples shld always remember those things in them that made their spouses see them as the best, and try as much as possible to maintain them. Those are the marriage spices.
I'm convinced the story is redirecting our mind to the essence of marriage. Women shld not be relegated to the background. Couples shld always remember those things in them that made their spouses see them as the best, and try as much as possible to maintain them. Those are the marriage spices.
Cock and bull...sounds like a novel
Linda this is a fictional story. I read it on the blog where the writer originally posted it. If i find the link i'll send it to you. It's a good story but it is pure fiction!
I met my hubby in a rocking night club. true story. we are both decent, respectable, professional people who love music and love to dance. for those going on about "will you tell your mum you met your wife at a nightclub?" Are you serious? Some people need to get a life. The "story" in any case is a work of fiction, but it just goes to show how SHALLOW the majority of readers of this blog are. SMH! This is why our nation is not progressing. BACKWARD, SHALLOW people who can never see the forest for the trees (i doubt many will even understand this metaphor!) KMT!
The essence of this article is not whether it happened or not, it is a wake up call to mostly Nigerian men who think that their wives are just there at homme waiting for them to come back home from their escapades.
The article is therapuetical, makes a lot of sense and it sure dose happen everyday here in Nigeria. learn how to be friends and partners with your wives and the marriage life will be good to you. You are married and not buried for crying out loud.
That shit you are looking for out there are all the same just different face on it. I know cos I've been married for 25 yrs and loving it. By the way, am a guy.
It's a good story and could be true (except for the jaguar and the fact that the chick has a 16 year old daughter already. But it's FICTION. Here's the link to the original story: http://www.lowladee.com/?p=4644
we shud try nd get d point dt d writer is trying to portray... it mustn't be to take ur wife to a club or anythn.. jst try nd carry her along, all those things u do together bfor marriage shud also continue after marriage so u dnt turn her to a nagging nd boring wife...*BE WISE*
what a story line?, i felt it even if was fiction or true life gist. Self realisation is a bigger motor to tomorrow's happiness.
what a story line?, i felt it even if was fiction or true life gist. Self realisation is a bigger motor to tomorrow's happiness.
*spot
I saw this on facebook yestaday.
dis one na mills and boon!!!!!!!!
I am not surprised @ the naysayers who come to LIB to spew thrash from the inner recess of their negative minds. When you read a story don't just look @ it on the surface; even Jesus christ used parables to get his message accross. If the stories in the parables are not inspiring, I am not sure we would feel great when we do good. In other words, learn from the story and make some personal changes to spice up your relationship instead of apportioning blames. Go see a movie, workout together, go to the market for groceries, buy a computer game( I want to try this one), do something positive and fun with ur spouse, so that when the hard times come( they def will), you will always rememeber how much you guys love each other and how much fun you have 2geda, and perhaps you won't worry much about the small things. May we find the one that's meant for us in Jesus name. My boys's are finding love and getting married, I am praying for mine; pray for yours. Love is a beautiful thing!!
Great story,fiction or fact,doesnt really matter but the lesson does.Dont turn your wife to a boring,old woman who will definetely nag.Do those things you did while you were dating,whatever you do,make sure you are both having fun cos life is too short to live it out with an unhappy spouse.
Linda, no so u be? Is this truth or fiction?
@eeeao
Sooooo if i wanted to track this guy down na...e no hard oh.
Anonymous with the six figure job in Atlanta...Are u single?
Learn how to use punctuation marks!
People are beginning to form their own stories. Rubbish! Nancy ko Nancy Ni!
Nice one... Inspiring too.
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Incomplete bt its a 'WOW' from me
Lola A, stop taking the story literally and parochially. The message is simple, if your spouse likes something, try involving yourself in it (and vice versa) just for that 'togetherness' feeling. My woman isn't a football fan but I tell you we hav matching ChelseaFC outfits. #Share the fun whenever you can#
kai...it goes to show how people are often quick to blame others for their problems.........
very lovely fiction.
the writer has a future ahead of him in the literary world.
I feel ur pain
Mote than spot.
Complicates
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Nice piece bro...truth be told, you addressed the point
WHEN COUPLES BEGIN TO CLUB TOGETHER; A TIME WILL COME WHEN ONE WILL NOT BE AVAILABLE. THE DEVIL WILL ARRANGE FOR THE OTHER TO "DO IT" IN THE CAR AND TOILETS WITH STARK STRANGERS. THE MULTIPLICATION OF UNFAITHFULNESS AND TRANSFER OF DISEASES AND DEMONS STARTS! WHY DINE WITH THE DEVIL AT ALL? ARE THERE NO OTHER THINGS THAT THE COUPLE ENJOY DOING TOGETHER SAVE TO BE "NOCTURNAL BEINGS"?
aww nice story.. sounds fiction though, would be nice if it were true..:-)
.......and it's only make believe.
it's a good story to learn a lot from to mend broken marriages.
See ur head like Nag. *sighs*
Wow! This is an interesting story...glad the man in question took a cue from there. I do hope others would also take a cue and make time to have fun/adventure with their partner. Thanks for sharing....
Jaguar sha!!!
Good story but puuuuuleaase
And wat is wrong with bin nocturnal beings? Don't be blinded by that ur Naija dats as dangerous as Afghanistan when night falls. Go to developed countries and see why night life is beautiful. And what's with the Demon's ish, pls ur too young to be close minded.
Awwwwww am in tears@bum bum.dis story is so touching sounds a bit lik my life story,so similar to wat is happening to me @d mo! I just wish my boo will understand how Oda ppl appreciate det wife outside and for him to do dsame.pls guys appreciate wat u ave life is too short. U MIT seems happy now but seriously wen u start regretting it MIT justbe too late ooo.i tell u and lik I always stay and u know dat one mans beat is anode mans poison plus person wey get head no get cap and person wey get cap no get head.pls start appreciatin wat u ave,wake urself up u dontnid Ida ppl to wake u up common man.luv u still xoxo,hope I don't get tired and run away one day wit d way am feeling ooo.i just pray so........pls pastry luv and appreciate Wify more...tnx my dear.
Awwwwww am in tears@bum bum.dis story is so touching sounds a bit lik my life story,so similar to wat is happening to me @d mo! I just wish my boo will understand how Oda ppl appreciate det wife outside and for him to do dsame.pls guys appreciate wat u ave life is too short. U MIT seems happy now but seriously wen u start regretting it MIT justbe too late ooo.i tell u and lik I always stay and u know dat one mans beat is anode mans poison plus person wey get head no get cap and person wey get cap no get head.pls start appreciatin wat u ave,wake urself up u dontnid Ida ppl to wake u up common man.luv u still xoxo,hope I don't get tired and run away one day wit d way am feeling ooo.i just pray so........pls pastry luv and appreciate Wify more...tnx my dear.
I did not want to blame or condemned anybody supporting clubbing or whatever.As 4 me i support and do encourage any man to take care of his wife,but if u re really the night crawler or the frequent clubing type,U ll understand what it meant clubing most expectially for ladies,No gain(talking frm experienced).To cap it all,stick with ur man and let him knw what you want.Dont hide ur feelings.
My brother don't mind this lame people here talking about taking a wife to club,that's rubbish. You already mentioned places that one can take their wives to not clubs. To show your woman that you love her is not by taking her to clubs. If you really club as a guy I bet you won't try it so make we Leave all these noise here
Forget that thing jor loosed couple can get tangled while together in club. A man can still exchange numbers in clubs and a bad woman can do it neatly so abstain from clubbing most times and follow what Doctor just said. Stop justifying your bad acts
interesting!
Why r peole so negative tho, whether u read it on fb or some1 fowarded to your bb doesnt change the moral or heart of the story and no one is saying go clubbing with ur husband.
he says "i have made her the old woman she acts..." interpretation?...whether ur a man or woman, before blaming ur wife of naggin or ur husband of keeping late nights make sure ur not the one that turned them into what they have become. Shikena.
Linda nwaanyi oma, daalu so, the story has given me alot to think about. God bless you.
-Me
Riveting tale bro! *Sips Kunu*
Nigerians and their sanctimonious attitude??? I don't even get it. Personally, I don't go clubbing because it is usually rough but then I DO NOT judge people who go clubbing. My not going doesn't make me a saint. Pick the lessons and move the fuck on! The message is very very clear. Let us stop this our holier than thou attitude when many of us even have skeletons in our cupboards! Sigh
I wonder the last time I read a story of what a woman needs to do to make her husband or boyfriend become happy again! Crap! I am sick of this rubbish of 'the man not doing something right' and as such the relationship goes sour! Rubbish! We all are at fault for bad relationships! Man love your wife, woman respect your husband! If we all obeyed, we would not have any need for the fictitious story above!!!!!
WOW! I see more that the problem with Nigeria is not just the government BUT THE PEOPLE AND THE WAY THEY THINK! Haba! Does one have to do Literature in english b4 understanding the concept of underlying meanings in stories??? Why won't we remain backward in EVERYTHING? I feel so so sad.
But that said, this story has made me realise what's wrong in my marriage and what I need to do. Tnx Dayo (or whoever you are) :)
wow, linda thanks for posting this story, i really learnt something today, being married doesnt necessarily mean to be bored, make your marriage fun, by being friends, lovers and all you used to be when you where dating.you dont need to necessarily plan to do all the fun stuffs when youre married, start now!!!!!!! thanks a bunch.
This looks more dn a fairy tale to me, d writer shld consider writing as a secondary career, I mean a hot Nija mum wt a 16-yr old, c'mon we'll nt dt stupid ok.
Linda who are all these idiots that make silly comments like lilspicer and morzook biobaku? why can't people read,don't make comment if u don't ve anything to say and move on. If the story doesn't sound true there is a lesson to learn from it period.
wat a touchin story.
Erm...why do i feel like i just read a story yanked right out of a 1999 edition of Hints Magazine??
Linda, this exact story has been circulating on BB for months now. I'm 100% sure it's not an original response to the letter you posted a few days back. One of your readers sent you something she\he came across on social media.
A man writing from the States;That doctor that commented (IN UPPERCASE) there is talking reality; real sense. DON'T THE COUPLE HAVE OTHER PASTIMES? CHECK THE STATISTICS OF "MURDERS, drunken driving AND BRAWLS AFTER CLUBBING" even here in the States. Is that what a decent couple (and their kids)want to expose themselves to? Why can't folks be more proactive in good deeds? There are a thousand and one games that couples can go together for Christ's sake! Can guys who have clubbed before educate these folks that are hailing this story on the things that are obtainable in clubs. My good friend will always remember how his life got blown away by drugs from clubbing. Thank God that he is saved in Christ now.
OLODO RABATA OJU EJA L'OMO JE...OLODO MAN! YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE UNTIL ITS GONE...MMMAA(GOAT BLEATING) LMAO!
*BS* looooooong hisss go n start writing script for nollywood movies *oshi* in everything u said now did u offer solution to the woman with a REAL life problem? Ur bz boring us with cock n bull stories *rolls eyes*
okk lemme just clear the air, first of all this story was not written by the bros that sent it and it is not a real life story it is a fiction written by lowladee on http://www.lowladee.com/?p=4644 ,com the title is friday and forever. whoever gave linda just copied the story and pasted it here as a lie
Now to the story it is very inspiring and i think it has passed its message to those that need it. its not saying u necessarily go clubbing with ur husband or wife but just create time for fun and enjoy yourselves.
doctored gist... interesting though... but doctored...SMH
Wao, am not married though, but i rily fell in love with that love piece.
awwwwwwwww, seriously married couples shud learn from this. i pray 4 an understanding marriage.
I think there's something most people are leaving here...why is everybody concentrating on the man??? women have their role to play..you like doing something why cant u make suggestions to ur hubby and talk to him about it??? is he a magician??how do u expect him to knw what u are thots are if u dont voice them??? WOMEN SPEAK UP!!! BE QUIET AND LOOSE YOUR HOME AND HAPPINESS!!!
wowwwww..........dz s it
it obvious d guys nt a believer......wat will a married man be doin in a club?...unless dat wuz thier regular tin on friday nites
This is a lovely fiction written by Lowla Dee. U can check her website: http://www.lowladee.com/?p=4644
Nice story written by Lowla Dee. Why do people just copy stuffs without saying it didn't happen to them. mchew
Some peeps here! acting as if they will never get married or even fall in love! Soon u will experience it!! N u will definitely look like a fool wen the love knock u down!!..nice story brov!
Whether the story is true or false the fact remains that for a marriage to work it takes 2! Marriage changes people that's not news but how far would you let that affect you?
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