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Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Frank Edoho's opinion about single women

I don't know how many of you know him, but he's the presenter of 'Who wants to be a millionaire' Nigeria. He's also a radio personality, married to a TV personality, Katherine Edoho.

There had been a lot of talk in the media that their marriage is troubled. He recently granted a very candid interview, talking about the problems in his marriage. (Encomium Magazine, Monday, 29th 2007)

Read some of the things Frank had to say about single women, and tell me what you think.

Personally, I found it a little offensive and a little shallow. Well, some of you might understand where he's coming from...I just think he's getting it very wrong....

Read his interview and reach your own conclusions.

What's the cause of the problems in your marriage? Frank "I noticed that all my wife's friends are single girls. I told her that I prefer her having married women as her friends. You can always sit back and talk about your husbands and children. Single women only talk about their boyfriends, how they change this boyfriend to another. So I put my foot down, 'No more single girls'. She got annoyed and started making moves to leave the house. I'm telling it to all married women now, don't have a single girl as a friend. Instead of me tolerating her with single girls, we will divorce. I prefer her married friends gossiping about me than single girls praising me because they are single and they have a plan. I just hope that God gives her the insight to know that her single friends are trying to ruin her, so that they can move into my house, but that can never happen"

What do you wish for this marriage?
Frank "A happy marriage, but all these her single friends are influencing her and I'm still warning them. Stay the hell away from my family. I'm warning these single women and you guys are living witness"
This is his wife's reaction
Katherine Edoho "Anybody could be married someday. The fact that they are not married now does not make them bad. After all, the married ones were once single. Frank does not know tomorrow"
Well said Katherine!
Seriously, I don't know what to make of Frank...aren't his statements so shallow? What I find most puzzling is him saying he would rather divorce his wife than tolerate her single friends. What? Single women are aliens? An epidermic? Stupid people? No do-gooders?
And he also said all single women only talk about is how to change boyfriends...Seriously, is this guy for real?
Maybe I wouldn't have found it offensive if he had said his wife's single friends are bad influences...but saying all sinlge women are bad influences is just unacceptable to me.
Generalizing isn't cute. And asking all married women not to have single friends...seriously is this guy alright?
Maybe it's just me, but is there anyone out there who thinks he's being ridiculous or thinks he has a point?
Do other married men have similar views?

90 comments:

Anonymous said...

He's just a stupid,foolish insecure man.Everything he said was dumb>Where does one even start.I have many female friends from high school and uni.I'm married...some of them are also married and a lot of them are single.I've known them for a long time and they are good people.So if I was married to this buffoon he will tell me to stop talking to my single friends. He'a a goat.HE too should stop talking to his friends now.

Anonymous said...

vey shallow,childish n he needs to grow up.What a disgrace to men.As far as am concerned he lacks a Good IQ.Sometimes its not all about book oo sense too count cuz this one no get

Anonymous said...

Frank is 100% right. Once a woman is married, she should associate with married women, not singles. All you single girls go and get marriage. Stop gossiping. Even you Linda, is it not time you get married? What are u waiting for, gossiping around. I bet you, most of you that are up to 26 years are still f**king around with other women's husband, God will surely reward u.

What single women know is changing boy friend. Frank is a good man for crying out loud to his wife. I hope God opens the wife eyes to see how her friends are after frank.

Meadows j. said...

THIS SOUNDED LIKE A MAN WHO IS INSECURE AND PERHAPS INTO WOMEN HIMSELF. MOST OF MY FRIENDS ARE SINGLE AND WE STILL TALK ABOUT MEN AND CHILDREN. THEY EVEN LEARN MORE FROM MY RELATIONSHIP AND I LIKE TO HEAR ABOUT THEIR RELATIONSHIP AS IT REMINDED ME OF HOW I USED TO BE. FRANK IS IMATURE, AM NOT IMPRESSED.

shola pacheco said...

yap numero uno !!!!!!!!! i think franks comment is a bit to generalizing hope this word is right,if his wifeys friends are bad well, he can ask them to keep off for being bad influence to his wife obviously maybe madam don dey show bad traits for house ,well but saying single women are bad is very shallow,and as a single lady guys are not the only stuff we think abt.well if he would rather divorce his wife than tolerate her around single chicks then that a bit off the edge but so also in all fairness who knows wetin madam don dey do wey she no dey do b4, well i aint judging,frank should rem na single woman dey later turn wifey and just bcos these chicks aint married dont make them bad,abi is there more to it

BOBBY said...

This is horrible. Its horrible because he told the entire world that he had problems at home.
Which is a no-no for married folk. Your problems stay with your spouse and with God, and maybe a shrink.

Then he then goes off to say that he will rather divorce his wife.

I am sorry but if my own husband gave that type of interview, making me seem incompetent and what not...I WOULD LEAVE HIM QUICK FOR A WHITE BOY.

What rubbish!!!!!

Is this guy madd?

And his wife too was there answering and agreeing to do interview.

I clap for two of them.

And yes to answer your question Linda, a lot of married men think Single women are bad news for their married wives.

But let me tell you what it is, its is INSECURITY...

Simple and short...

Are the men afraid that the single girls would introduce their wives...to single men???

LOL!

Waffarian said...

This man is a fool. He should stop yarning dust jare! Classic case of looking for serious excuses. All these his yarns no hold water at all!

January said...

I was outraged and disappointed when I read your article regarding Frank Edoho's comment about single girls. Imagine the nerve, who the hell does he think he is? God's gift to women. Anyway, I don't blame him; after getting a juicy contract hosting "Who Wants to be a Millionaire"why won't he have the nerve. I'm very much single and I hang out with my married friends without their husbands raising eyebrows. I don't know what the world is coming to if evry married man out there feel that all we single ladies talk about is how to change one boyfriend for another. I mean we have more than sex and boyfriends going on in our lives. Great blog and congrats on your mag. I'll check it out.

Longsufferer said...

Linda, it is a lie..u made that up that interview... I cant believe that someone said that... personally, I think the major issue is not his wife's single girlfriends but his own girl friends....the guy must have several girlfriends hence his fear of single girls. maybe he has heard the airless single girls he dates and their friends talk about changing boyfriends, maybe they have swapped him for a 'richer, bigger married man'.
Statements like that just go to show how stupid and crude some people really are.....
He is the one that needs to stop chasing single girls and concentrate on his wife and stop picking fights........

Anonymous said...

THIS GUY IS A PANT, , I MEAN SERIOUSLY!!, OK HE IS MENTALLY UNSTABLE OR POSESSED OR DEMENTED, BUT THERE HAS TO BE A REASON FOR THIS STUPID TALK.

WAS HIS WIFE NOT A SINGLE WOMAN WHEN HE MET HER, ABI SHE WAS A MARRIED WOMAN...WHO EVEN WANTS HIS IGNORANT ASS ANYWAY...WELL AS HE SAID, SINGLE WOMEN TALK ABOUT CHANGING BOYFRIENDS AND AS HE MET HIS WIFE AS A SINGLE WOMAN, THE TIME HAS COME FOR HER TO CHANGE HIM SO WHY IS HE COMPLAINING?

IDIOT, PEOPLE DO AS IF BEING SINGLE IS A CURSE AND BEING MARRIED MAKES YOU SOME KIND OF GOD.

SERIOUSLY HE IS REALLY A BIG BUFFOOOOON, I CANT BELIEVE HE SAID THESE WORDS OUT LOUD FOR THE HEARING OF THE GENERAL POPULACE. IT IS BECAUSE HE HAS A ROVING EYE AND NO SELF CONTROL THAT HE WANTS TO GET RID OF HIS WIFE'S SINGLE FRIENDS COS MAYBE ONE DAY HE WILL POUNCE ON ONE OF THEM AND HE WONT BE ABLE TO HELP HIMSELF.

PLEASE O MR EDEHO OR WHATEVER YOUR NAME IS, JUST MAKE SURE AS SOON AS YOUR DAUGHTER IS BORN , YOU MARRY HER OFF, SO SHE WONT BE TELLING THE OTHER BABIES IN DAY CARE ABOUT CHANGING BOYFRIENDS.

MONKEY

Anonymous said...

HEAR HIM O!!!
i hated my husbands 'single' friends too...becos since they arnt married and they dont have a steady girlfriend...i consider them useless!...call me shallow but dig deep and ull find its true!..
i donot trust any single girl whatsoever!...nigeria is full of babes that they target ONLY married man..becos they feel they are more reliable and have money!...well i suppose frank has a point...his wife should admire him!!..if theres no fire thers no smoke...!!! he is a young goodlooking fine guy!...and he obviously love is ife!...my advice to her?....get rid of those 'single babes' (sorry Linda!)...but not evey babe is as decent as u....

enuff said...
MRS!

Anonymous said...

I would hope that a man of his type wld be more matured but his stupidity and ignorance cuts across as conspicuous as the morning sun. "instead of tolerating her with her single friends we will divorce." He is an example of "maturity is a thing of the mind" and common sense is not at all common.

In other news, i am happy for you Linda and your story is a source of encouragement to others. Thanks for sharing it.

Anonymous said...

there is something more going n in Frank and Katherine's marriage...the excuse about single girls is just a scratch on the surface.
btw,there is absolutely nothing wrong in having single girls as friends,you have different friends at stages of your life for different reasons.
maybe Frank is getting attracted to some of his wife's friends and he trying to cover his wondering eyes up...........

Anonymous said...

hi Linda!Responding to this issue,I think the guy is just Unsecure wth a capital U it shows all over him ,even if he might be right to a point,generalsing is not the best way to prove a point but he is really wrong bcos not all single girls are out there to destroy homes.

im a babe said...

this guy is obviously an asshole.
look at his ugly behind talkin abt the single gurls are tryin 2 get rid of his wife so they can get with him.
he obviously is one of those insecure morons who look 4 pple 2 blame their problems on.

i'm sorry. i know evry1 is entitled to their opinion but any1 who agrees with this guy is a greater idiot than he is.

linda how far na?
come do u have a facebook accnt or an email?

Anonymous said...

Hi Linda i'm a keen follower of ur blog,though i'v never posted any comment. I want to say i'm highly impressed by ur posts,its quite entertaining and also educative,you have some how find a way of balancing the two without losing focus on your messages.Keep it up girl.As regards the Frank's opinion about single ladies,although he appear a bit shallow by generalizing,but i can understand where he's coming from.Though i'm not yet married,but i think in a way he's right about what most single girls do ,"gossip about changing boy friends".Come to think of it ,birds of same feather flock together.So,what business has a married woman got with single ladies? She needs more mrs as friends than the miss,cos they 've got common situation and things to gossip about.

Anonymous said...

I am disappointed in Frank Edoho. Is he mad? Really i thought there were worse things that were ruining marriages, like in - laws, money, work stress etc. He is so shallow, you're right and a bit dumb in fact.

His marriage sounds like a joke. I really think they got married for a bet or a reality tv show. They're childish and should call it a day...... Unfortunately they have kids so they'd better try to get over these STUPID and MINOR issues.

Ayomide, London

Anonymous said...

what is these world coming to how can he make such a statement there is no harm in being single and is the fool saying he hasa guy does not have sing le friends i am guessing what he says single girls talk about is what dudes friends talk about like how to get the next girl in bed

kelechi said...

frank edoho... shallow excuse for a man. so one should alienate there friends when they marry???!!! chei female folks don suffer.

CATWALQ a.k.a LAGBA-JESS said...

Ladies and Gentlemen, may I present to you, a classic case of the stupidity that is rampant in some Nigerian men

NIke said...

Yay!!!! im first.Now let me go and read what gist linda has to give us today. I'm just too adddicted to this blog.

Gurl, u're too much!!!!

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Nike said...

In my own opinion, i think its wrong for frank to generalise that all single women are bad and all they do is talk about guys bla! bla! bla!. Though honestly, it is just a reflection of our society's (men) views on 'mature single women'.I think he has taken it too far but you never know, the ladies in question might actually have been making overtures to him which his wife isn't aware of.

For Kate, i don't want to believe she would be so stupid to jeopardise her marriage on such a basis cos she's got to eat the himble pie and see how she can reach a compromise with her husband. I don't want to believe she would want to forfeit her marriage in the name of keeping some 'friends'.Personally, i think that would be foolhardy.

Olu said...

na wa oo!
d man seems so cocky, dey want to move into d house??
he generalised and stereotyped single girls in a NOT SO NICE WAY...

Anonymous said...

stumbled on your blog accidentally today but I must confess I've found myself stuck on it keep up the good work.
Now to the more burning and pressing issue on my mind, I find it difficult or practically impossible to believe that someone in the person of Frank Edoho would express such a ludicrous, chauvinistic and out rightly barbaric opinion forgive me for the want of better words,threatening divorce on such a trivial issue now that's childish, am a man just so you know, its not like am one of those women emancipation activist may be he was in a state of stupor or under the influence (spiritual) if you get my drift, when he granted that interview you never can tell you know either that or this is one of the most theatrical gimmick of all time"don't lets put the duh in the dumb" is he for real? I too find myself asking the same question over and over again.
I have thoroughly enjoyed my time on your blog its been enlightening,educative and most of all fun filled,
Once again keep up the good work and be good.
Tara

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Linda Ikeji said...

@im a babe. dont have a facebook acct, but i have an email, its lindaikeji@gmail.com
To the anon that wants to know if i made this interview up...no way.they are all frank's words

Annengineer said...

Both of them need help...washing their dirty linen in public. this is totally disgusting reading this from a guy who is meant to have some brains! this is the dumbest thing I've heard in my lifetime and believe me, I've heard really dumb things like...."where in Nigeria is Africa". LOL

Lets just say their matrimonial problems is way beyond the single friends she keeps...its deep and they are on the wrongest part known to couples..they need help - supernatural help to survive plus some added brains too.

Anyone who respects his wife, would likewise respect her choice of friends and not threaten to divorce her if she keeps to her friends (which obviously she had when he met her and married her). He is fcuking making it sound like he is doing her a favor by marrying her and it has terms and conditions attached!

Anonymous said...

it is very disturbing to see that there are pple that think like frank....
I am married...my single friends are pple I have know for years.....some longer than my husband...so i should give them up because I am married???
interesting thank God for exposed and intelligent men...
for 'the married anons'- giving up ur single friends because u got married shows that u have serious identity issues....so when u were single and ur friend got married,they stopped talking to you abi and when u got married..they started talking to you again abi- is that friendship ...no...it is an association of bitter married women'all I can say is get a life and stop thinking single girls are after your husband's..even if some single girls chase ur husbands. cant the husband say no......
@ anon-5.40
i think when they say birds of the same feathers flock together ..they mean like minds..and not as per martial status.....now if he says that her single friends are the problem cos all they do is talk about men.then the problem stems from how he met her.
so to wrap up this rather long comment- I will rather be friends with the single girls I have know for ages than with some dark,diabolical married women...afterall dont married women sleep with drivers,lesson teachers,gardners,houseboys...abi that is better cos they are doing it as married women???food for thot...

Anonymous said...

frank is a total idiot and dumb head, always wondered why i didnt like the show... now i know, the presenter is so much less a man than a new born baby girl....

if you are insecure in your ways it is expected that you keep the thoughts to your self and not embarass your family by showing them how much money was wasted/invested in educating you and giving the best they could...

and the comment on the fact that all single girls should get married, most of them would love to but you guys are mostly assholes and so arent worth the time or day...(reply to comment from a other comments)

Back to frank, you say the gir;ls want to move in, move in to what? your small brain that cant even take the shoes collection of a somalia lady.....

frank, i think you need to check yourself, maybe you see in your wife and her friends wat you and your friends (singel or married) think about or do....

GET A LIFE....

Hopeful B! said...

its a real shame for married folks to wash their dirty linens in public. well instead of talking to tabloids Frank should go and put off the fire in his house.
Single girls! so he has no self control?

he should stop looking for excuses and trading blames and face issues.

Linda Ikeji said...

@anon 3:17...hope its ok for me to call u an asshole? That was very shallow.

Thoughts Aloud said...

Haha @Linda, great comeback.Anony 3:17, read and learn.\but on the real though, the man does have a point and at the same time he was quite wrong for generalising and airing his dirty laundry in public.It is true that not everyone means well but at the same time, not every one means bad.He and his wife need to dialogue, is what they should do.No need for this, it's not neccessary.

Nonesuch said...

I feel so sad for the 2 of them. They are just 'happy' that is why they are saying all that.The both should stop granting interviews all those reporters are after is selling their 'sleazy' papers.

In marriage there is ONLY one boss and he is the Husband( take it or leave it) if he is matured enough to accept you as equal and allows you to do you own thing and have a say in the affairs of the house, you are blessed. If however he is like Frank and his many brodas out there who dictates what you wear, who you talk to, if you work or stay at home or even beats up regularly too bad you made your choice. As you lay your bed you will lie on it.

Katherine should realise however hard it might be that her marriage is more important than a campaign for single girls and advocating that all married women were once single.( if that really is the cause of all the trouble).The vows she/he took take precedents over any single affilations she/he might have with her/his will be married someday single friends.

They both should think of the children also and wise up. There is more to the issue than single gals and they shd both be honest and sort it out in house not on the pages of the newspapers.

I wish them all the best.

PS:Single or Married isnt the issue but I believe once you are married you just need to be able to seperate the shaft from the wheat when it comes to friends.You need to secure your relationship with your man just like he needs to assure us that he in for the looong haul. Dont we all have insecurities. At least Frank is able to admit he has an issue with the single galfriends of his wife. What if he was fcking them. how can we be sure some of them dnt want a piece of the action? A wise woman builds her home.

kubi said...

here we go again!!! NIGEIANS!!! always ready to condem people!..i understand where Frank is coming from...its both ways...
ladies if ur husband is ALWAYS going out with dele, chike, and Haruna who are all SINGLE...goodlooking with good jobs...how will u feel?...how will u feel when u all go on a date with there own girlfriends who u cant keep up with because they change it regularly?..and u who has dropped like 2 kids and struggling with weight meets these girls whos only problem is how to buy the latest designer bag?...
ARE U SAYING U WONT FEEL INSECURE?..wake up folks and be truthful..
Frank is not stupid,nor dumb...he is a highly inteligent guy...not to talk about his goodlooks and goodjob...it wont cost him a single kobo if he decides to have an affair or even marry one of his wifes friend...our society wont condemm him...its the wife they will condemm....
not that i support that bit, but thats the reality...am sure her having single friends isnt the problem..becos for u to b married uve got to be single first!..but its the perpetual hanging around of these babes around her that would annoy him ...and v/versa so if he decides to give his wife a wake up call...she better read between the lines...otherwise she will be reading her divorce papers!...
tuff world aint it?

PS....i am married, very liberal..but realistic

Anonymous said...

Linda pls can u like update ur blog like every five seconds i and my friends are soooo addicted. Ur doing a really good job and its easily one of the best blogs around.
lots of love

Anonymous said...

I'm 34 and still single, i try as much as possible to stay away from my married friends.

Linda dear, some girls are not just descent, they can go any mile to get a man they desire married or single.

So Kathrine should choose between her friends or her marriage.

Frank Edoho some married women still go after married men also. Just ask God to give your wife good friends and friends that the devil won't sow evil in their hearts towards your family.

NIGERIA POLITRICKS said...

this guy is a dimwit and sure sounds insecure about himself. Who da hell says married folks can't have single friends...what do u call that? marriage discrimination. Twat!

Kpakpando said...

Single girls are only a problem to married men when the married men is fucking the single girl. So for Frank to have such a problem with singles girls, one has to wonder what's really the problem?

I have married friends, and though I don't spend as much time with them as I did when they were single, I've never once discouraged their marriage, if anything as a good friend when they complain about the man they married I remind them that the men left here aren't that awesome so they better make it work.
Besides Frank is stupid if he think all women discuss is men, as many things that are going on in the world right now, abeg men aren't even the top 10 things I discuss about!

Mr.Fineboy said...

LOL. Only in Nigeria. Dude actually gave an interview about something as dumb and trivial as him not liking the fact that she has single friends? Ridiculous.

Kpakpando said...

You know what, Frank words are indicative of an abusive man sha; by wanting control over his wife and attempting to isolate her from her friends, threatening to leave her if she doesn't conform to his whims... not saying he's abusive, but a counselor can tell you this is a sign of things to come if he doesn't get help. His words aren't just stupid, they're downright scary.

Additionally to the MRS anon, if you don't trust your friends then you have issues with trust in your own marriage and come across as insecure. Yes some single women are whores, but some married women are whores as well and will still go after your husband, so stay there and be watching single women like hawks okay. I'm sure its time well spent. As if two well known married naija celebrity women didn't part ways when one was allegedly sleeping with her architect's friend husband.
Besides were you born married? Weren't you single at one point? Did you chase married men when you were single? If not, then why do you assume all other single would? If you did chase married men, aren't you simply reaping what you sowed?

@ anon 3:17, maybe when you were single (assuming you're still not) you were hare brained and all you could manage to talk about was men, but with my friends (male, female, single, engaged married) trust and believe we have serious issues to talk about other than boyfriends or men for that matter.

Being married doesn't mean you're a good person with a clean heart, just like being single doesn't mean you can't give solid advice or support your friends in all their endeavors including marriage. Any man or woman threatened by single people needs to check themselves first, because more likely than not their insecurity stems from their past or present activities.

Anonymous said...

Maybe Frank went a little over board with his comment, but I think it came out of a man who has had it to his neck.Do you know what he is going through? I really think that a married woman should have as her prime advicers fellow married women. The same goes for the men. I have seen marriages suffer because the man hung out mostly with his unmarried friends and in the process got lurrred into extra marital affairs which they never planned to get into in the first place.
I hear Frank loves Katherine so much. She told us about the wrongs he did.Has she told us about the 5 million naira jeep he bought for her, and so many other things?
Katherine, abeg choose your friends if it will make your marriage a happy one.A wise woman builds her home.(Pro.14:1).

truth said...

Lol @ catwalq....
I think there's more to their dispute than this issue of single friends....or else they should have added this clause to their 'to death do us part' vows....in this case 'till single friends do us part'.

not so excited about really this. This should be private talk between Frank and wife.

Hope you are doing great Linda.

Anonymous said...

i am guessing all his friends are married if not he should stop talking to the single ones. He said all single women do is sit down and talk about how they change boyfriends, that is abig lie. Guys talk more about what girl they are ''caning''.
The wife is really trying cos this man is dumb. So the day the wife was getting married to him all her friend too shuld have gotten married so that they can all hang out as married women abi. B4 his own wife married was she not single and dint she probably have friends that were married, did their husbands tell them to stop talking to her cos she is single.
D koko of d matter is this man is foolish.

Deltabelle said...

It's a pity that he had to air such views about his wife in public.

But, I am not offended by his outburst, I don't think he made those statements to intentionally offend 'all' single women! He obviously must have had some sour instances with the kind of single friends his wife has; and perhaps this has made him insecure with her keeping single people as close friends.

I think what he ought to have been saying was for her to keep away from bad influences not single women; as there are also many married women out there who match the picture he just painted more than the single ones!

Abeg, you guyz should take it easy on the dude! Even I prefer my man to hang out with his married and committed friends, instead of the wholly single ones.....

Anonymous said...

@ anonnymous no 3 e be like say them don do ur husband strong thing. I think u are really foolish cos marriage is not about waking up and marrying someone. so all single women shuld go and get married, if u have enuf brothers to go round we mite just........ oops i will pass cos am sure ur brothers(s) must all b foolish like u and Frank.

Anonymous said...

I think the main issue is the fact that he's speaking about the problems in his marriage to a magazine, Ecomium,no less! Come on.

Anyway, Linda, have you heard anything about the alleged BBA scandal?
http://www.thefirstpost.co.uk/index.php?storyID=9400

This really is an affront to women everywhere, if the allegations are indeed true! Speak on it.

Anonymous said...

i think he is a bit shallow but he has a point to a certain extent. women ingeneral are envious creatures. im a woman so i know, may be one of her friends made a move on him and he may have other reasons for feeling that way

sTeLlAsGrOoVe said...

the problem with frank is his insatiable hunger to be a celebrity,he will even sacrifice his marriage to get there.
am not gonna throw words at him regarding this interview,his wife must hve put up an attitude that made him arrive at his myopic conclusion.
both of them need to go sit down n work out their problems.

Toni Payne said...

WOW.. good luck to his wife.. what beats me is why any woman would want to marry or stay married to a man like that.. Insecure men are the worst type of men to deal with.. Its always one drama or another with them

Anonymous said...

personally i think eer man has his own opinion,this is suppossed to be a decent means of airing our opinions,i m a babe and all rude anons and een u linda pls watch it i mean imagine fighting a mad man on the streets ,how will pple know the diff.?now to the main gist i think frank went oer board though he has his point but like linda said generalisin is nt cute,i saw cathy somewhere as early as8.30 am somewhere 9a[single girls house actually],and i told the person i was with that i m sure she has marital problems,frank must e seen some things that we dont c,i think it ll be unwise of kathy to gie up her marriage if really that is all there is to it,

Anonymous said...

forgot to add pls dont take anon 3 seriously he\she must be a clown

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Zahratique said...

Sorry but this guy is an idiot and thinks too highly of himself "..they want to move into my house..." What da hell?

How can he talk so openly about his wife like this? We have a problem, we solve it between ourselves, why involve da media?

A Kel called Wonder ...... said...

To be honest i dont think it has anything to do with married or not, i think it has to do with the kind of friends and if the wife is easily influenced. Maybe she has single friends that are leading her astray. Some married friends are worse cos they tell u the horrible ways to treat ur husband for even the smallest of things.

Chioma said...

To think i respected Frank!...ok, i still do, but what was the generalizing all about. When he and K.girl were dating, how would he have felt if she had come to him one day and said all her married friends didnt want to associate with her any more because she is "single"? He has a point, just that it is overly emphasized. By the way, how come alll this celebrities cant wash their linen in the privacy of their bathrooms?!!!

Anonymous said...

LINDA IF YOU LIKE UPLOAD MY COMMENTS.ALL I KNOW IS THAT I DOUBT THIS YOUR STORY.WHY DO YOU UPLOAD ONLY THOSE COMMENTS THAT AGREES WITH YOUR STORY.BE BALANCE MY DEAR.ALL I ASK FROM YOU IS PROVE THIS TO US,SIMPLE AND THEN THIS STORY CAN BE BALANCED AND WE ALL CONTRIBUTE FROM THERE.REMEMBER FRANK IS STILL SOMEONE'S HUSBAND AND A FATHER TO THEIR LOVELY KIDS.NOT A CASE WHERE YOU ALLOW SOME ANAL SPECIALISTS(KPAKPANDO) TO POUR ABUSES ON FRANK.ITS NOT FAIR.

NICE GUY said...

LETS BALANCE THIS STORY.CAN LINDA TELL US THE MAGAZINE THAT CARRIED OUT THE INTERVIEW?REDUCE THE INSULTS ON FRANK PLEASE,I BEG OF YOU ALL.

Justme said...

Na wa o, I find it hard to believe that he said such, he seems too level headed to say such. If he indeed say that, then its too bad because as a media person he should know not to put his business out there like that.

Anonymous said...

wow this is shockingly amazing.I ued to think these guys are great together.Well i don't it's cool for them to discuss their marriage in public.frank has got his own points though and i just wish they sort out this issue and enjoy thier marriage.However she should be mindful of the type of friends she moves with.I'm not saying she should snub friends she's known for ages all because she is married but when one gets married certain habbits should be reduced like hanging out with friends because marriage is really demanding.Also the fact that she is married doesn't mean she shouldn't enjoy social life Frank you dey hear so. All i'm driving at in essence is that moderation should be applied to everything one does.

Uzo said...

So its official then...Frank is a shallow dunce. Idiot...Is for real? I didnt care too much for him before but this is absolutely insane...

Uzo said...

And all these self righteous men that think that marriage is the defining moment in a woman's life...oh my goodness...Are they for real? I respect marriage and am a huge believer in the institution but to think that single women are infectious in some way is insulting. I wonder if a married guy has single friends - his boys, if wifey can mandate that they stay away as well?

FOOLISHNESS

Nyemoni said...

Wow, I would like to say this in the most constructive way possible.... I know how the tabloids can distort ones comments and make one look bad to the public...If this was the case, I have no comments...

Now if he essentially said what was stated, I am surprised to say the least. He and his wife should know better than to air their dirty linen in public! As for saying his wife should not make friends with single ladies..oh! the shame of it! What makes him think "married" ladies are better than single ladies? How myopic! So can he honestly claim that all his friends are "married"? "I seriously think that this is just a scratch on the surface...there's no smoke without fire and this is not the koko of the matter...

Nijawife said...

Sisters,dont lets deceive ourselves,thats the thinking of most nija married men.He is just blunt about it,men know what they do and will do anything to prevent what they do haunting them.The truth is most men cant stand our single girlfriends for whatever and just try to be nice to them.I love my friends whether single or married and try to manage the two or probably they are just jealous that we give so much attention to our friends!

Kpakpando said...

Anonymous said...

personally i think eer man has his own opinion,this is suppossed to be a decent means of airing our opinions,i m a babe and all rude anons and een u linda pls watch it i mean imagine fighting a mad man on the streets ,how will pple know the diff.?now to the main gist i think frank went oer board though he has his point but like linda said generalisin is nt cute,i saw cathy somewhere as early as8.30 am somewhere 9a[single girls house actually],and i told the person i was with that i m sure she has marital problems,frank must e seen some things that we dont c,i think it ll be unwise of kathy to gie up her marriage if really that is all there is to it,
November 2, 2007 12:06 AM

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Okay so any married woman seem out of her house at 8:30am must be having marital issues.
Walahi, I think someone don shepe for naija mehn.

vera said...

Linda are you sure that this guy is educated????
he talks like and uneducated illitrate good for nothing IDIOT!!!! It is ppl like him that make all these white ppl look at Nigerians like illitrares.He is just an insecure mugu.

Linda,
Pls take ur time dont rush and marry some idiot because some fools think its time to get married. Nigerian men and some women need serious wake up call.

@ 3rd anonymous .
Since when is it an obligation to get married??
marriage is by choice NOT a law. Maybe u fucked around with single men b4 u got married. but that dosent mean ery single woman does.

As for me when a husband starts deciding who my friends would be. That calls for divorce.

Vera Ikeji said...

I read all the 64 comments. Very interesting and funny. Lol. Had a nice time reading them all, especially the funny ones.Lol. U guys have said it all. Nothing more to add. I rest my case!

Anonymous said...

kpapando dt name has always sounded like kpsnduku to me[ask any yoruba round u what dt means]
i make decent comments on respectable blogs i dont set out to engage in any sort of war,i was also out at that time mind u and i m married tooso that a married woman is at someone s house at that time is not the point it was the way & mood i saw her in that tells me there must be something besidesif u re nt at work at that timeand not out to drop kids in schno married man will allow his wife to receie isitors at that time marriage aparteen when i was singlemy father would nt allow me to reciee any guest at that time and of course would not allow me to isit anyone at that timeim yoruba and there s sayin that 'owuro lojo'there re profitable things to be done in the morning

Anonymous said...

Im just getting hereooo,If that interview had been in another mag maybe I would ve believed it, but Encomium, what a laugh, I know them enough to know they distort stories. I know frank and he's not that shallow. That said, I think that he sounds like some of her friends may actually be making passes at him, She should open her eyes, who did she marry, Frank or her friends?

ifeoma said...

At the last anonymous I did read that interview frank granted to encomium. If he really did not say those things they allege that he said , then I would advise him to sue that paper for defamation and if indeed he said those things(I believe that he did)then he's very immature to tell the whole world about his wive's business. He embarresed them in that interview and even showed the whole world private text messages the wife sent him. what kind of a man does that. Frank should learn how to keep his private life out of public scrutiny

Anonymous said...

I am a woman so pls do not think its a man supporting Frank Edoho's view point. I want to ask a question that,'is there a slight possibly that Frank Edoho is crying for help? In those tears he is saying your friends are single, probably sexy and if i can avoid one or two temptations,I cant handle more? That if you had more of married friends am not likely to misbehave?

Sometimes do not listen to the message directly, listen to the under tone of the message.

THINK ABOUT IT!

Anonymous said...

These una insults too much now. Haba! Eh we hear say;
1) He shouldnt have aired his problems on air
2) his wifey shldnt have succumed
3) He is insecure
But hey air ur opinions and not insult him that way we can all maturedly have a discussion forum or a way forward. I believe the blog comments also serve as a store for case studies? Therfore referrals?

Easy people!!!

3RS said...

he sounds like he is hiding something...
so if my friends arnt married and i am, i shd stop associatn with them...things dnt wrk like dat now..haba...

Anonymous said...

C'est moi encore and I'm insisting that its unlikely that Frank said that, Encomium is not a credible magazine. Unfortunately. I happen to be a public figure myself and all sorts of crazy things have been carried by these softsell magazines.Once, I have seen a full page interview of me that I did not grant. I have thought of suing several times but never just come round to it, it would probably be too tasking. I also personally know this couple and for the first time in my feminist life, I am standing by the man.

Anonymous said...

Frank expressed himself. He is a grown man and has his reasons. If he feels more comfortable with his wife having married women instead of single women so be it. Its not an issue. Am sure he wants to secure his marriage and family.

Anonymous said...

For once, Generalization has an advantage. . . CONVENIENCE!!! You can't go about asking or profiling every single girl. . Haven't you people heard about small SAMPLES or MODELS used in Economics to depict the BIG picture?. . . Duh, that dude Frank might be wrong to you (every one has an opinion), but in this case, he is 70% correct.

Anonymous said...

I think there is more to this than meets the eye. How can anyone say single girls are a bad influence? Or... did any of these girls come onto him? or... did he come onto one of them and she rebuffed him? Has he seen some married women who put their friends'homes in serious hot water? I think he should take things easy, he can't hope to achieve a happy home going down this road.

Iyaeto said...

Who is this guy/ Who does he think he is? Wasn't is wife single before they got married or am I missing something?His wife knew her friends first before she met him. So wetin dey worry am. Are you sure he doesn't suffer from OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)?

Anonymous said...

he is just been stupid for real, like someone say, i don't know where to start from.
i beleive his wife's single friend must have caught him in a bad act or something, if not he won't generalise all single ladies like that.
secondly, how on earth did he know that married womwn cannot be a bad influence to his wife? we do watch nigeria movies even american's, i think he need to get his thinking right.
As a good christian or whatever his believe is you need to pray, as for God assistant into your marriage and also talk to your wife like a gentle man, women can be troublesome sometimes, but we're not mad, we do listen to advice too.

Anonymous said...

Frank is right. The wife should not have much in common with single girls right now. I have stayed where single girls discuss and its appaling sometimes, to say the least. Its about which guy is sleeping with who and who is snatching who's boyfriend and how they are dating some guy while tricking the other.

You all dont know what he is beginning to see in the wife and it hasnt occured to you that those single friends of the wife may have been making passes at him.
Bottomline, its terrible for a married man to imagine what his wife is discussing or hearing from her single girlfriends most especially if you have been opportuned to stay where they they converge to gossip.

Anonymous said...

i dont believe that frank said something like that anyway if that is true he might have seen something for crying out loud.the wife must listen to him because what an adult have seen while sitting down a child while standing up cannot see that.It depends on the kind of single ladies the wife has as a friend but frank that does not mean that all single ladies are bad.Please dont divorce ur wife because a lot of ladies are out there to see the down fall of ur family and the wife take correction because some ladies are trying to take ur position may GOD protect ur family frank say a bigger AMEN.

Anonymous said...

Frank and his wife possibly know why the issue of friendship is raising dust. The truth is between them and only between them they can decide to be or not to be. The better option is to be for better for worse.
The woman will surely halt all relationships if Frank allows her to see a proof of his wife's friends' advances which i think is the reason for his stand.
Snowboy

mama 7 said...

Frank Edoho has a point,i strongly agree,theres this saying''the married dont mingle with the single''it could be some of the woman come to visit Katherine wearing mini skirts and parting their legs probably not wearing undies,some wearing tranparent blouses with no bras and exposing their nipples,Frank comes out of his room seeing all this women lying carelessly in the sitting and the poor man is having erections and fantasies of course he is made of flesh and blood and he is good looking,he rather reacted that way than for him commiting adultery,the Bible says if ur right hand causes u to sin cut it off,i am a woman and im happily married i make friends with married women and talk marriage issues with them,but for the single girls i do not ignore them,please if u are not married go and get hooked and stop saying frank edoho is this and that,is it not nigeria where dating married men is a hobby,sneaking and hiding,thank God such is not rampant in the UK where i live,do u want to loose ur eyes if u try any rubbish.the book of Ephesians says ''there is time for everthing''she is not a spinster anymore married but Mrs Edoho.
thanks

osas (Toronto, Canada) said...

Being a single girl is not a crime, i mean every female have the choice to be single or married, so does it mean to be single is a crime, oh common wake up

Anonymous said...

Frank is right,Kathering "better wake up",am single but if a man should wake up one day and tell u that he does'nt want to see u hanging around with ur single friend,u should sit down and rethink why he made that decision,becos he is trying to protect his marriage.Its either the girls are after frank which he does'nt want to make it open to his wife, or he can not resist them.SO BE WISE AND PROTECT UR MARRIAGE BECOS MANY ARE TRYING TO COME IN EVEN PUSH U OUT OF THAT HOME SURPISELY THEY MAY BE UR SO CALLED PRECIOUS FRIENDS.

Anonymous said...

I just think we have to listen to Frank very well.He said that all her friends are single.I dont think there is anything wrong in a woman having single girls as friend but in a case where all her friends are single is worth noting. A single man can not effectively advise a married man, a man with one wife can not effectively advise a man with two.This is also applicable to women.Issues about marriage and family are more serious at time. let the wife be submissive to her husband. God hates divorce.

Anonymous said...

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH FRANK'S VIEW AND STAND.KATE SHOULD BE WISE ENOUGH TO TAKE HEED INSTEAD OF TRYING TO DUMP HER FAMILY.YOUR HUSBAND IS SUPPOSE TO BE YOUR BEST FRIEND AND YOU SHOULD CONSIDER HIS WELL BEING AS A PRIORITY.THE BOND OF MARRIAGE IS VERY STRONG.SO STRONG THAT U CHANGE YOUR NAME. YOU LET HIM INTO YOUR PRIVATE WORLD WHERE NO ONE ELSE IS ALLOWED.SO WHAT IS SO IMPORTANT ABOUT THIS SO CALLED FRIENDS THAT U CANT LET GO.HE IS NOT SAYING NO FRIENDS BUT MARRIED FRIENDS.I DONT GET IT! DO WE JUST HAVE FRIENDS FOR THE SAKE OF HAVING THEM OR FOR INFLUENCE.I WONDER THE VALUE SOMEONE WHO HAD NEVER BEING IN YOUR FIELD WILL ADD TO YOU.WHAT DO YOU DISCUSS WHEN YOU ARE WITH THEM THAT YOU WANT TO TRADE YOUR HOME 4?BABE, PAIR UP WITH PEOPLE OF LIKE SITUATIONS.U R A TV PERSONALITY FOR INSTANCE SHOULD UR MENTOR BE A SEASONED TEACHER OR BROADCASTER LIKE U?U MIGHT BE FRIENDS AS SINGLES BUT U R MARRIED MOVE ON.IS JUST LIKE BEING A MILLIONAIRE AND HOLDING FAST TO POVERTY.JUST LIKE U CANT BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND THAT DROPPED OUT OF SCHOOL.NOT COS U HATE HER BUT, U VE GONE SO FAR U CAN REASON TOGETHER.CALL THEM ONCE IN A WHILE BUT DONT BRING THEM SO CLOSE THAT IT STRAINS YOUR MARRIAGE.

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Anonymous said...

frank, i think ur idea of trying to seek for divorce is not the best, just becuase ur wife have single ladies as friends. I am a married woman but i have both married and single ladies as friends or come to think of it, frank don't u have single boys as ur friends? or don't u have sisters who are still single? so what are we talking about here,

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