Husband of LIB reader who said he remarried without divorcing her, writes in

The estranged/ex-husband of LIB reader who says he remarried recently without divorcing her (read here), has written in to tell his own side of the story. Read below...

I am the husband that purportedly remarried without proper divorce in this story. The story is largely fictional – created in the head and imagination of a violent and abusive woman who sees herself as scorned. Below for the facts:

1. I got married to Margaret-Mary Agorua in 8th July 1995. In November of year 2000, we migrated to California, USA

2. Margaret turned out to be a violent wife. She attacked me severally and I have marks on my body to prove it.

3.            In February of 2011, Margaret attacked and wounded me so brutally with a knife. There was blood (my blood) all over our house. That was the tipping point.  I called in the American police and they whisked her off, first to police detention and then later to court.

4.            She was found guilty of “SPOUSAL BATTERY and DOMESTIC VIOLENCE” by the Long Beach Superior Court, California, and whisked off to jail.

5.            Because I refused to testify against her (out of pity for the mother of my children), her sentence was reduced to 6 months of “Community Service”; 1 year of Psychological Re-Training, and 4 days in jail. So yes, Margaret is an ex-con.

6.            Despite this, I decided to keep the relationship going and try to fix things. I do not come from a broken home. In fact I come from the exact opposite – Dad is 87, mom is 82, and I have never seen them argue. So the example I had was one of a happy home. I never contemplated divorce.

7.            Her violent behavior did not stop however – leading me to finally separate from her in June of 2004. I left our home in Philadelphia and moved to Lacey, Washington State – where I stayed till I got a job to work for the US government in Africa.

8.            I moved to Abuja in May 2005. In December 2011, Margaret arrived unannounced in Abuja (I had already travelled for the Christmas). She forcibly entered my home, by breaking through the glass window and uprooting the metal burglary proof from the walls. Immediately I heard I called in the Police again but she had quickly escaped. There is still a warrant out for her arrest by the way.

9.            I immediately asked dad that divorce proceedings begin. Dad being indisposed due to old age, asked his good friend, Sir Francis Akpamgbo to lead the team from my village to go and do the traditional divorce.

10.          On the 27th of December, Sir Francis Akpamgbo, leading some of my other family members arrived in Oguta and performed the traditional divorce. The team was received by Margaret’s father’s younger brother (George), Margaret’s mother, and some other relatives. Margaret’s belongings were symbolically returned in the form of 6 suitcases. Therefore, traditional divorce, completed.

11.          I also filed for legal divorce on the grounds that we had been separated and lived apart for 7 years. On the 31st day of 2014, the High Court of Abia State granted me official divorce.

12.          So, we are traditionally and legally divorced.

To the other lies:

A.            I have NEVER been arrested in any form or guise by the EFCC. The EFCC is there to provide the records to confirm this.

B.            My parents attended both the traditional wedding and the church wedding. I am forwarding pictures

C.            I have not done any court wedding in Abuja or anywhere else.

My general comments:

Again, it is a pity that I have to put such family matters in the public domain. If it was only me that was attacked, I probably would not have responded. That is how I have always behaved in the face of Margaret’s provocations and attacks in the past – ignore her.

But this is slightly different. My new wife is joined in this. Her family and friends joined – all, people that had nothing to do with the situation. It is my duty to protect my wife. And that I will do.