HER!

Someone wants to say hi to y'all.

I couldn't come up with an appropriate title for this post...so we'll call it HER.

Check HER out.

I don't know what to say. Help me out! She's........?

D banj: MTV African artiste of the year 2007

Our own Dapo Oyebanjo, aka D Banj is MTV Europe Music Awards African Artist of the year.

What can I say? I'm mightily proud of him and very proud to be a Nigerian.

Nigerians know how to shine anywhere and everywhere.

Nigerians are usually the best in everything they do.

Nigerians are talented, creative, different and have a lot to offer the world.

Aren't you proud to be Nigerian?

Send your congratulations to a young man with immense talent. A young man who has brought joy to the lives of many people with his music. A young 27 year old, who is humble, friendly, giving and very hardworking. A young man who didn't listen to discouraging words and followed his dream.

Yesterday Thursday 1st November, 2007, he became MTV African Artist of the year. The second Nigerian to win it after Tuface.

Congrats to you D banj.

Big Brother Africa Scandal

I don't know how many of have heard about the scandal rocking Big Brother Africa 2. Here's what a Namibiam journalist, Natasha Uys wrote about it.

Thanks to the anon who brought this to my attention!

HOW IT WENT DOWN
After only 30 minutes, the housemates were so drunk that they could barely complete the fishing task.

As a post on the BBA Ultimate Fan Web blog said, it was like the blind leading the blind drunk.

The housemates were falling all over the place, stumbling into each other, holding each other, kissing ...

After a few more shots of booze all round, the day went from bad to worse as the crazy behaviour continued.

After a while the 'Big 5's' bodies just couldn't handle it any more and one after the other they started puking their guts out. Ofu and Tati were undoubtedly the two most out of it.

Don't know what was going through Richard's mind at the time but he seemed to think that two all-but passed-out women was a sexual invitation! Lying between the two women in the bedroom, Richard began to kiss and fondle and fiddle with Ofu, and this while his lover - Tati - was lying right next to him.

As Richard groped and abused Ofu, a dazed and confused Maureen walked in and out of the room - babbling, seemingly at a loss over what to do. She had tried to lead Richard out of the room, but he was running on rampant and eager to get back to the two women. At one point she got him to sit on the couch, at which stage he seemed to revel in sniffing his fingers.

As Maureen struggled with the situation, the paramedics were sent in and Richard was eventually locked in the diary room. This is also when Biggie decided to switch to the garden camera.

After the paramedics left, the housemates slept for a very long period. And when they finally surfaced, they tried to piece together the events of the afternoon. Tatiana and Ofunekka said they could not remember how they even got to the bedroom.

Although Richard seemed to remember bits and pieces, he certainly did not divulge the details.

But the man sure strutted around the house as though he owned all the women.

He was obviously cock-a-hoop, pronouncing loudly "I have seen the rivers and mountains of Big Brother", and then guffawing in a very self-satisfied way.

Not only did he seem very, very pleased with himself, but he boldly pronounced, almost shouted, that he had "changed strategy" and "I'm going to bump all the women in the BBA house" - not once, not twice, but a number of times.

He even shouted out a demand to Tati, in full hearing of Ofu and Maureen, that he wanted a BJ.

What Richard did to Ofunneka can only be described as morally reprehensible.
There are even those on BBA forums and other BBA threads charging that it is tantamount to rape, with many calling for the Tanzanian to be removed from the Big Brother house for what he did to his Nigerian housemate.

Abuse should not be tolerated in any way, shape or form, whether it is in the form of physical or emotional violence or a sexual affront.

Diehard Richard fans are trying to play down the incident, shifting the blame on to Ofunneka, claiming that that she "wanted it".

Hello people? That is like saying that women ask to be raped?! As one message on the SMS strip said, "When is someone going to teach Rich what NO and STOP IT means?" But don't be surprised if Richard fans try to paint him as a saint of sexual favours.

Any decent man would never take advantage of a woman in that situation.

Ofunneka was unaware of what was going on around her, unaware of what Richard was doing to her yet he continued to abuse her in the most vile manner.

Others are trying to blame Maureen. They say she should have hit Richard over the head with something. Well, imagine if she had knocked him out, and he had turned on her?!! When will this man be stopped? Viewers across Africa have already given his adulterous relationship with Tatiana the stamp of approval by not voting him out on numerous occasions.

Do they really approve of his abusive and chauvinistic behaviour? What message does this send out to men and women across Africa? That it's okay to cheat on your wife, to sexually cheat on live television, to intimately grope a passed-out woman?

The contest is due to reach a climax on November 11. But the $100,000 on offer to the winner may prove chump change compared to the settlement sought by Ofunneka and her lawyers once she escapes the Big Brother bubble and views footage of her very public humiliation. (According to First post)

Now if it's true that Richard really did those things to Ofunneka, then the issue needs to be addressed and Richard needs to know that there are some things you just don't do and if you do it, you should be ready to face the consequences. Fondling a woman who's passed out is not only wrong on every level, it's psychotic. Where do you get off thinking it's not only okay to publicly cheat on your wife, but also to humiliate another woman in the full glare of millions of Africans. What? Richard expects us to pat him on the back with approval or clap for him? Evicting him is not enough...he needs to face the music.

Who saw it? Who can give us more info on the scandal?

If he's guilty, what should be his punishment?

Frank Edoho's opinion about single women

I don't know how many of you know him, but he's the presenter of 'Who wants to be a millionaire' Nigeria. He's also a radio personality, married to a TV personality, Katherine Edoho.

There had been a lot of talk in the media that their marriage is troubled. He recently granted a very candid interview, talking about the problems in his marriage. (Encomium Magazine, Monday, 29th 2007)

Read some of the things Frank had to say about single women, and tell me what you think.

Personally, I found it a little offensive and a little shallow. Well, some of you might understand where he's coming from...I just think he's getting it very wrong....

Read his interview and reach your own conclusions.

What's the cause of the problems in your marriage? Frank "I noticed that all my wife's friends are single girls. I told her that I prefer her having married women as her friends. You can always sit back and talk about your husbands and children. Single women only talk about their boyfriends, how they change this boyfriend to another. So I put my foot down, 'No more single girls'. She got annoyed and started making moves to leave the house. I'm telling it to all married women now, don't have a single girl as a friend. Instead of me tolerating her with single girls, we will divorce. I prefer her married friends gossiping about me than single girls praising me because they are single and they have a plan. I just hope that God gives her the insight to know that her single friends are trying to ruin her, so that they can move into my house, but that can never happen"

What do you wish for this marriage?

Frank "A happy marriage, but all these her single friends are influencing her and I'm still warning them. Stay the hell away from my family. I'm warning these single women and you guys are living witness"

This is his wife's reaction

Katherine Edoho "Anybody could be married someday. The fact that they are not married now does not make them bad. After all, the married ones were once single. Frank does not know tomorrow"

Well said Katherine!

Seriously, I don't know what to make of Frank...aren't his statements so shallow? What I find most puzzling is him saying he would rather divorce his wife than tolerate her single friends. What? Single women are aliens? An epidermic? Stupid people? No do-gooders?

And he also said all single women only talk about is how to change boyfriends...Seriously, is this guy for real?

Maybe I wouldn't have found it offensive if he had said his wife's single friends are bad influences...but saying all sinlge women are bad influences is just unacceptable to me.

Generalizing isn't cute. And asking all married women not to have single friends...seriously is this guy alright?

Maybe it's just me, but is there anyone out there who thinks he's being ridiculous or thinks he has a point?

Do other married men have similar views?

Relationship question + Oluchi Onweagba Luca's interview

When I ask relationship questions, some people think it's about me? I understand why you would think it's about me...but it's not. I just come up with questions I feel a lot of people can relate to. Ok...maybe the last question is a little about me...lol. Sometimes we need closure and sometimes it's a little confusing! I don't know it all I guess!

Anyway, here's another question...and this has nothing to do with me o. I actually have a friend who says she's in love with two men...is that possible? Being in love with two people at the same time?

Oluchi's Interview

The super model who was recently in Nigeria, granted an interview to This day Style...excerpts...

You must have taken some time out to have Ugo, your lovely son. What was your experience like being a mother for the first time?
Oluchi "Yes, I did take some time from work and traveling, after the birth of Ugo. It’s been a good experience and I am happy about being a young mum. But I have to say it is so much work taking care of a baby. As a first time mum, I have to remind myself that it’s okay to leave my baby at home and go dancing without feeling guilty because I am still me!"



They say you feel an overbearing sense of love when you first set eyes on your baby and you forget the initial pain you went through during childbirth. Did you feel this way when Ugo was born?
"I have known no love like the love of bearing a child. No word in the dictionary could explain it. All I remember saying after the birth of son was, “Oh my goodness! He is so long and so white!” And everyone started laughing.

How long did you work before you finally took time out to have your baby?
"I worked till I was in my sixth month. But by my last trimester I had gained so much weight and even more weight after delivery. My mother was so shocked when she came visiting. She could not believe that in my lifetime, I could be that big."

Is there a high demand for pregnant models out there?
"Yes there is a huge demand for pregnant models out here. It's a baby boomer year. Everyone is having a child. They have to sell clothes and merchandise to pregnant mums and models are in demand."

You won the coveted L'Oreal contract a while back. Since then, have there been any major jobs like that for you?
"The L'Oreal contract was and is still one of the many 'IT'S for me in my career. It is still being run in many department stores in the states. In Nigeria, I am very happy to associate and be the spokesperson for Recare, makers of Nature Gentle Touch."

Many models over the years have branched into different ventures after a while on the catwalk. What field holds the most interest for you to follow after the catwalk?
I have always been an entrepreneur at heart. I do not really know what the future holds for me but one thing that I know is that there is so much that I want to contribute in my lifetime as my own definition of contribution. Right now I invest in real estate while I model and go to school. Who knows what else I would venture into? The truth is I am scared of myself and what I am capable of doing, so I have learnt to take it a day at a time.

Would you ever like to host a talk show in Nigeria or any other part of the world?
I have been approached to host 'Africa's Next Top Model'. It is yet to be implemented. I would love to be a part of it'

So long an interview...but I'll stop here. Isn't Oluchi's little one so cute?

Joe Adekwagh passes on

It was with great shock I read some days ago that actor, Joe Adekwagh is dead. He died on Thursday, 25th of Oct, 2007. He slumped while serving as a master of ceremonies at the 40 years on stage party of veteran actor, Lari Williams, at the Cinema hall 1 of the National Art Theatre. He breathed his last after attempts to revive him at a clinic in Surulere. The Benue State actor was only 44 years old and was married with two kids. May his soul rest in peace.

Meanwhile, does anyone have an answer to this question? If all the 22 players on the football pitch wear the same jersey number, what do you think would become of the game football? Any answers?

Relationship Question.

If someone broke your trust, how do you learn to trust them again?

Please share your thoughts.