We have been married for 10 years and have 3 kids. I trained her for her last 3 years in the university before we got married. I did all the spending for our marriage ceremony and gave her a Job also in the banking industry before she lost her job 3 years later during the melt down in the banking sector. She now working with a service provider company with a salary a little above =N=102,000.00 monthly.I provide all that is needed to run the family without asking her for a penny till 9 months ago after I did a job with a government agency which my payment was delayed for 9 months. Before the delay of my payment, I take the responsibly of her parents up keep.
Within the stressful nine months for me, I told her we needed to put heads together for the up keep of the family. For the 1st time in our marriage, we both contributed for the house rent and also made her pay for the children school fees totaling =N= 162,000.00. All these didn’t go down well with her.
With time she started disrespecting me and even talks any how to me, she wakes up in the morning not greeting me, goes out not informing me and she constantly refusing sex. We are always having quarrels here & there and I had slapped her on two occasions out of extreme annoyance. Later I begged for forgiveness for slapping her.
I had sat her down on many occasions to talk; her issue is that she feels I’m not doing enough to provide for the house again and also not doing enough to get my payments. She told me if need be, let me borrow. She doesn’t like the fact that she is brings money. So she puts all kind of attitudes towards me. She kept telling her friends and family negative things about me. Her parents stop calling me because I no longer have to give them but the speck with her daily and never asked how I’m doing. I know these because I sit close to her when they call. They ask only about the kids. But it’s well.
When she is back from work daily, she start chatting with friends, she doesn’t talk to me, she deletes her chats on her phone immediately and when she is about going to bed, she offs her underwear drop it in the launder basket and go to bed. On a close watch, I found out that her underwear is freshly always wet anytime after the chats.
Her attitude towards sex has been nothing to write home about, this has also caused several quarrels at night, I practically have to beg her for sex and still no result. This terrible situation has caused me to masturbate on several occasions even before her in bed.
My patience over her sex state is expiring and I am at the brinks of searching for a mistress or more accommodating lady. She claims she does not find me attracted again. This is really affecting, I see myself getting close to another marriage. I will not want to inform her parents before taken this step. I want to believe she married because I was able. Now I have just been paid my outstanding money by government a week ago but she does not know.
What do I do please
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 400 of 487 Newer› Newest»Please go get a new wife. Though the new one will also behave like the current one. Money is the compass of many women, they only gravitate towards where it is. Put your will together, take care of your children in it. She is already sleeping with someone else.
One sided, and unless we hear your wife's side. I am sorry, I can't help you.
I have seen too much about married couples not to rush and judge anyone.
Hope you are not the controlling type, checking to see her wet pants speaks volume oga. It is well.
Run for you life my brother
Whao! Thank God you have been paid. Don't disclose it to her yet but start taking care of the basic needs of the family and see how she reacts to it.
Neva re-marry,, born-again formers will encourage u to put it in prayer,, dats fine,, but I will tell u dat Frm d day of john d baptist till nw dia is violence nd d violent taketh it by force....Hve her money to take care of ur kids nd flex ur life well bcus u hve suffered enough.. u destiny is in ur hands now...
My brother, your situation is pathetic. As much as I really don't believe in divorce and wouldn't advice that, be wise and always keep what I term " vex money". For rainy days. Your wife shouldn't know this. It was a trying time odained by God for you to know the kind of woman you married. In her case .....It's obviously " for better for us" and not " for better for worse".
My fellow man let me tell you a simple truth, your wife doesn't love you, she loves your money and know that she is keeping extra marital relationship. Women are pretenders my advice is this, don't let her know thatgovt have paid you, and stop asking her for sex any longer,don't have another lady so that you will not go contrary to commandment of God. do your normal thing, greet her every morning, don't let her help you in bills again, the most important put this into the hand of God because He is the creator of marriage and i want you to understand that marriage is a mystery, you can never understand the reason for her behaviour now but later. And understand that this is tempting time for you don't let temptation win you, she might equally be testing you, show her that you're a real man, but don't think of divorce because is not the intention of God for marriage, remember what you promise God during your wedding for better for worse, just know that this is your worst moment so be strong this Time my fellow man because the world is not the bed of roses. The new wife you're trying to marry might even be the worst, so be wise. Thanks Tochukwu from Awka.
RUN! RUN! RUN! She marries your MONEY and not YOU!
You are HONEY as long as you have MONEY
And you are MONKEY when their is NO MONEY.
RUN! RUN!! RUN!!!
guess wat?JT CONTINUE TO PUT UP WIT HERE AND DONT LET HER KNOW YOUR FINANCIAL STATUS THIS PERIOD,I BET U SHE IS GOING TO RUIN HERSELF SOON AND U WILL JT CAPITALISE ON IT BECAUSE WAT SHE HAS BEEN HIDING WILL DISTROY HER
Kick that woman out of your house, she's not a wife, get custody of your kids. If you don't do it now, she would kill you soon.
she was definitely the wrong choice from the start... my advice is that u try nd make her understand u better
Your wife is a gold digger, she married you just because of your money, my advise for you is to divorce her and find another woman. period
My dear dat woman luvs u only wen ure made imagine ur wife doing all this becos ure not financially stable smone dat shud even be here for u d most pls make sure u think twice before u take any decision meanwhile tell her u've been paid any see her reaction and I think u shud talk to her abt it.
Come up wit A test man,..letz c how she r eacts wen u wv a mistress
Tell her that if she didn't allow you to have sex with her that you will go out and look for mistress.
My brother, congratulations for seeing the other side of your wife before putting your whole life and accomplishments in her care. As much as I wouldn't support your marrying someone else, I'll advice you still keep the information of your payment to yourself and taje care of only the basic things expected of a husband at home. Stop all those payments to your in laws and leave your wife to take care of her needs by herself from her salary. She has shown she cannot plan and stick by you at difficult moments and as such, never let any stupid love blind your eyes when she discovers you now have your payment and suddenly becomes nice and respectful so as to have a share of it.
my brother,that woman is not the right woman for you as a wife.she has practically shown you that she did not marry you out of love but out of what she can gain from you.don't waste your time and money on such gold digger again.look for true love which guarantees lasting joyful happy relationship.I wish u d best.
shock her ass with a divorce. theres a reason for. that now you kno the true attitude of your wife, divorce her..no need to make the same mistake twice. if divorce is too extreme, find your self a hotter mistress..doesnt mean you should spend all the money on the mistress. invest more on your kids...and aswell ignore her parents
U know what to do already!! But their r two sides to a story!! If she can't be their for u wen u needed her! U married the wrong woman honey!
shock her ass with a divorce. theres a reason for. that now you kno the true attitude of your wife, divorce her..no need to make the same mistake twice. if divorce is too extreme, find your self a hotter mistress..doesnt mean you should spend all the money on the mistress. invest more on your kids...and aswell ignore her parents
She only loves you because of your money, a woman that cannot stand by her Husband in his down time is not fit to be by your side.....Guy find your way She's fuckin* someone else already.
Chase d idiot out and use the money u have to set up ur self, ungrateful bastard.
U married a wrong woman that is just the gospel truth
I think her upbringing plays a major role in her attitude. This is evident in her parents not check-mating her for bad behaviour, she is only caring when things are rosy. Its sad but she belongs to the "olorunsogo" group of girls rather than "surulere". So my advice is that you should DUMP her, even if its for a while. This might make her come to her senses especially since a woman is expected to regard marriage as a "school" of some sort.
pls, sort things out with her, the grass is not greener on the other side. is only one out of thousands women respects their husband when there is no money. pls don't look for a mistress. try and take up your responsibilities and see things normalize.
Nawa ooo. Some women sef. I earn less than 200k and I've been practically taking care of the home for 3years plus since marriage, paying school fees of about 140k every term, and my mother had to borrow money to help us with house rent. I would even go to the extent to giving my family money/gifts "from him" just to keep his dignity as a man.
My husband is really struggling, and we're waiting on GOD for the manifestation of His Word in our family.
My husband does in the very few times that he has, but that's it. I get frustrated some times and act irrational, but to me, my family and everyone else, he's the head of my home and no1 dare disrespect him... even my mother that had to secretly come to our aid.
You probably were a gold mine for this lady from the onset ( a way out for her and her parents out of poverty), and since you've lost that title, she has no reason to pretend that she loves you.
You have married her for better or worse, so you should stay with her, but you should stop extending your hand to her parents. She should sort them with her own income. You on the other hand should take up your responsibilities immediately in the home and ignore her till she comes begging.
Bros settle with ur wife. Adultery ll cost you a lot pls. Your wife is a proper idot thou
Ubanagum
Chai God of Abraham,Isaac,Jacob,Joseph.The God of Elijah and Elisha,the God of shedrack,Meshach and Abednego.The God that answereth by fire please help this man because this woman is about to finish him up.This is what happens when you marry a woman that loves your money and not you.Uncle mi abeg invite her parents over and all of you should talk about it ,then if they don't reason with you and scold their daughter then you know they are not good parents.God will give you the wisdom to handle this through Christ Jesus Amen.As a Christian once you're in no going out.
Please that woman does not love you. She is with you cos of the benefit, don't inform her about the payment and start doing things financially without her support, when she comes back to act like she is sorry, refer to a good pastor for counseling and serious deliverance, she is obviously already cheating on you. If i were in your shoes, I divorce her sorry ass, cos if things go south again for you, she will come up with same attitude.
Kick that ungrateful bi*** and her ungrateful family to the curb! Wanksters
Bros, you don't have a wife......pray to God for directions
Show her shege.
Taking another wife won't help u cos u wldnt know if she too wants u for ur money(which will lead to d third wife) women are like that most times all we need @time is a good slap(not physical)to bring us back to our good self
Umm..I used to have(or still have partially) d same issue..Marriage is an "Advanced Institution where u are forever a student without graduating"! Most marriages are like this especially when d hubby runs out of cash for some time.Even though d wife is trying to push you 'outside',but relax first..Go for marriage deliverance & counselling with her and if she doesn't go with u,go alone! But she shd remember that " woe be unto a person that makes his fellow man to commit sins'! She will suffer it if she's not prepared to turn a new leaf and u CAN only divorce her if she's caught pants down kissing/sexing another man! DON'T tell her abt your paid contract money yet! Meanwhile, wish ya 'goodluck' dude by being prayerful!
marriage is supposed to b for better, for worse na.. U can separate from her for sometime but getting a mistress is a no no
My opinion tho
Fair weather people everywhere. It's in times of difficulty, that is when you know a woman who truly loves you.
Linda kindly request the man's contact and pay then a visit, you will be surprised the impact (positive one) you will make in resolving them.
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That's women for you,look for someone it happens to me too,when I finished with my wife she knew that this world wasn't for her only,don't beat her or slap her again is not good no matter what,call me I will give you a clue what to do with the same time be happy man again,expecting your call 09052235209 my name is frank Moses,keep it calm.
dude I had to comment men... because this is what most successful young men are scared of... people showing love because you could afford their material gains once the cash stop flowing the love stop flowing... its some real bad shit for you man because you are married and have three kids with this woman.
from your write up bro I deduce you are a gentleman but today if you happen to read my comment I want you to man-up.
Never you tell her you have been paid.
Never you give money to her parents again even if they found out somehow you are box-up again.
If you choose to continuing staying married to her, then you will call her and sit her down both of you have to bring half the money required to run the family monthly. I mean half/half like a G bro I would do it.
Pay your children school fees yourself because they are you children but if I were you we would divide the pay 50/50. Because it is going to be a plain talk.
Never you eat her food again oh dear nothing breaks a woman's heart more than when they know a man intentionally doesn't eat her food.
Again I have to blame you too bro, because no matter how coded a girl is you should have spotted some funny character while you were dating. I am speaking from experience.
in as much as I hate to say this but you have to look for sex outside, because it is the low of the low to masturbate in your wife's presence not for fun but because she refused you sex ugh bro you messed up big time. masturbating before her because she rejected you means other women don't find you attractive and you can't get sex else where that's some big shit.
She chats, deletes her chats, went her undies before she goes to bed fucking Christ which lady punishes her husband that way? she has a way of satisfying her sexual urges... she is wicked i mean very wicked. Man-up and show her you are the man but do not hit her again or even slap her its a show of weakness.
Your story is saddening and you sound like a nice guy. Sorry man... never beg this lady you called a wife, never hit her again, good you have some cash now, live the live of a married bachelor.
Here is the trick even after she apologies accept her apology and stick to the rules. all expenses in the house is 50/50 tell her that. and if she asks you why even after her apology tell her its because she is working and she is earning you also want her to support you after all you are one big family. Never return to the formal default else you shall remain a fool forever.
Never give her parents a penny of your money again, their daughter is earning they should ask from her after she had contributed her monthly stipend to the family up keep. after that don't bother or ask how she spends the balance of her salary. if she wants to chat away and went her undies on whatsapp or BBM its her business.
When she ask you to assist her with he family, you tell her you have family too that you are taking care of your own family with your money after you have contributed your monthly shit.
Sorry bro, but your experience is saddening. BE THE MAN.
dude I had to comment men... because this is what most successful young men are scared of... people showing love because you could afford their material gains once the cash stop flowing the love stop flowing... its some real bad shit for you man because you are married and have three kids with this woman.
from your write up bro I deduce you are a gentleman but today if you happen to read my comment I want you to man-up.
Never you tell her you have been paid.
Never you give money to her parents again even if they found out somehow you are box-up again.
If you choose to continuing staying married to her, then you will call her and sit her down both of you have to bring half the money required to run the family monthly. I mean half/half like a G bro I would do it.
Pay your children school fees yourself because they are you children but if I were you we would divide the pay 50/50. Because it is going to be a plain talk.
Never you eat her food again oh dear nothing breaks a woman's heart more than when they know a man intentionally doesn't eat her food.
Again I have to blame you too bro, because no matter how coded a girl is you should have spotted some funny character while you were dating. I am speaking from experience.
in as much as I hate to say this but you have to look for sex outside, because it is the low of the low to masturbate in your wife's presence not for fun but because she refused you sex ugh bro you messed up big time. masturbating before her because she rejected you means other women don't find you attractive and you can't get sex else where that's some big shit.
She chats, deletes her chats, went her undies before she goes to bed fucking Christ which lady punishes her husband that way? she has a way of satisfying her sexual urges... she is wicked i mean very wicked. Man-up and show her you are the man but do not hit her again or even slap her its a show of weakness.
Your story is saddening and you sound like a nice guy. Sorry man... never beg this lady you called a wife, never hit her again, good you have some cash now, live the live of a married bachelor.
Here is the trick even after she apologies accept her apology and stick to the rules. all expenses in the house is 50/50 tell her that. and if she asks you why even after her apology tell her its because she is working and she is earning you also want her to support you after all you are one big family. Never return to the formal default else you shall remain a fool forever.
Never give her parents a penny of your money again, their daughter is earning they should ask from her after she had contributed her monthly stipend to the family up keep. after that don't bother or ask how she spends the balance of her salary. if she wants to chat away and went her undies on whatsapp or BBM its her business.
When she ask you to assist her with he family, you tell her you have family too that you are taking care of your own family with your money after you have contributed your monthly shit.
Sorry bro, but your experience is saddening. BE THE MAN.
U really do have time on ur hands oh to notice all these.. is sex everything in a marriage??
Counseling for both of you.Make it work.
Enter your comment...sorry to say but u married a bad wife
I suppose marriage is "for better for worse" but she has debunked that saying to "for better for stay, for worse for go". She just been influenced by negative advice from bad friends esp the unmarried one or those that wants are out of marriage in other to step in. Pls accept ur wife back but henceforth the domestic/family responsibility should be shared. You take 70% while she takes 30%. Not because u cant afford it but to curb the kind of expeerience u went tru. If it was like this earlier, u wouldnt have experienced such cos she must've been used to it.
I suppose marriage is "for better for worse" but she has debunked that saying to "for better for stay, for worse for go". She just been influenced by negative advice from bad friends esp the unmarried one or those that wants are out of marriage in other to step in. Pls accept ur wife back but henceforth the domestic/family responsibility should be shared. You take 70% while she takes 30%. Not because u cant afford it but to curb the kind of expeerience u went tru. If it was like this earlier, u wouldnt have experienced such cos she must've been used to it.
She is having an affair. If your wife was ever a sexual being, then she probably still is. I wonder where she is getting her sexual needs met if she is not intimate with you. I know it is painful to consider this possibility, however, it is a real possibility and I think you have a right to know. - See more at:
Bro, I feel ur pain but the truth must be told.. Your wife married u bcos u were financially okay that's the fact...lots of sucking money bitches everywhere....The sex issue is the problem its obvious of course everyone needs sex especially in marriages...u shouldn't be masturbating when u have a wifey thats too bad..
My candid advice- find another mistress and make ur wife so jealous, watch her reaction, if she feels jealous then she still cares about u, if she doesn't carry on with the mistress and send ur wife packing..#shikenah #notime
Pls go ahead and take new wife,de lady is very wicked and stupid.
Women will alway be women. Finance in my opinion governs the stability of a marriage. It takes a really understanding woman to deal with finance deficit. However, I will advice u stay with your wife because of your children. Mothers alway win the impact ratio on child behaviour and misconceptions that may arise towards you. In the long run, rebuild your relationship and tell her everything things you noticed whether true or not. It up to her to deny or agree or rant at your perception. But the truth is that you have conveyed your message about her behaviours in the past especially your assumed sexual fantasies. If she doesn't come back, it's your duty to make her to. Just like you wooed her to marry you. However, persistence is key. Forget re-marrying, it won't help. I have a deep experience on that. I know she will one day agree to love you as you have loved her only if you both open ur minds to solving the problem. If you think about getting a sexual mama, it has a long term effect of addiction which may destroy you marriage and pose a negative image of you towards your children. Your wife is your wife until a divorce. I don't support "divorce".
before u take that step, (1) would u want ur children grow in a broken home? (2) would u be a man of many wives? (3) if your children grow up, they will ask what is the last thing you did to keep your marriage? Please, for the last time, two of you should try and seek counsel from your parents, older brothers or sisters, men and women with both good marrital testimonies and spiritual insights.know this God hate divorce. do every thing to keep ur home with wisdom and love. May God help u. Amen
Although unlikely, there is the possibility that she is Lele. If your wife was never a sexual being with you, then it may be that she prefers women. Depending on how she was raised, being gay may not have been an option for her. I know many people who get married to the opposite sex in order to overcome their homosexuality. Unfortunately, that does not work, and both parties end up suffering. - See more at:
My brother that's how women are oh, once you can't do your duties they loose respect for you. Just manage like that and don't hit her, it isn't right. Learn to control your anger. Women this days are just like that
Women can be so eggoccentric ...
She is still your wife no matter what. Getting a mistress won't help u,instead it will destroy your marriage. You have come a long way with her, think about ur kids,don't let them have a broken home. Her chats doesn't necessarily means she is cheating on u, she might only be doing that to get u jealous or keep herself busy until she falls asleep. She was also der when things were rough, she got tired of fending 4 the family!that is her mistake. Pls I advice you sit her down and talk things with her, things might work out fine between u guys. NEVER give up she is your wife, for better and for worse. Getting a mistress is a sin. Think about your kids.
Thank God that ur brief misfortune exposed who she really is including ur in-laws. She's a good woman coz u said she was helping out until she couldn't bear it anymore.
Most women wud do exactly what she did so don't even think of getting another one she could b worse.just be wiser
Divorce her ass now
She was nvr ur wife
Damolia.DEW
Try threaten her dat u wl marry anoda woman if she continues wit her attitude n see her reaction. U shud talk to her parents as well bt dnt even think of anoda woman cos u dnt know what u wl meet wit her too. Remember d sayin "d devil u know is better than d angel u dnt know. Goodluck bro.
Try threaten her dat u wl marry anoda woman if she continues wit her attitude n see her reaction. U shud talk to her parents as well bt dnt even think of anoda woman cos u dnt know what u wl meet wit her too. Remember d sayin "d devil u know is better than d angel u dnt know. Goodluck bro.
Don let her know u have been paid call her into dialogue, and probably the past events made u loose ur swag and groove get it back and get her jealous. Biulding up ur financial base for the sake of ur kids and offer every responsible help every husband can offer his wife. Remember if things fail it starts from the head n u r d head. Get ur groove back get her jealous and u definately have ur woman flying back into ur arms. And lastly stop impressing ur wife financially when u spoil them don't expect her to expect less afterwards
Oga...dont dare tell her or else she can poison you..It hard this days to see a woman who is willing to respect her man come rain come shine....I respect my mother so much because her kind is hard to get...
I can't wait to read people's comment on this post for this is the exact situation I was going through before the sudden change by my spouse. Why do women behave this way?
Thunder fire her
Patience. U need a great deal of it. And pray to God for guidance.
My brother forget her
She obviously married you for what you could provide. The first issue u want to resolve is getting laid, right? So tell her you have been paid so you can have sex because its obvious you dont want to cheat if not u would have stepped out. Have sex anytime you want now because she would obviously be giving it since money controls it.Don't go back to your old ways, be a man especially sending her folks money.make sure you both keep contributing to the house needs and finally forgive her but be on your guard.save and invest for days like when govt.delays payment.
My brother snub her
Need to hear ur wife side abeg cos dat two slaps ur claiming hmmm
I wonder why so many women re like dis?dis is d time dat her husband needed her most.She married him for money not love.Enter your comment...
Hmmmmmmmm am really short of words.........
She is not a good woman, she is not your friend, she may be your wife and my not know how to deal with fanicial crisis, and need to be taught, or she might just be a bad, a woman that is not your rib, can't be you back bone
Tell u have been paid now, u spoilt her from the onset so what do I expect.By not allowing her to contribute from the begginin was a mistake.Tell her u have been paid but that from henceforth both of u will contribute money for upkeep.let her bring in no matter how small
I don't want to assume she is cheating on you, because it is very possible for a woman with 3 kids to go months without having sex, especially when she is not emotionally connected with you.
I think she is not matured enough to know what it takes to be in a marriage. Probably because you have been taking care of her since university and she has never had to bear serious responsibility.
If I find myself in your shoes, I will leave her without letting her know I've been paid. She will most likely tell you to take the children with you because she cannot bear that extra responsibility.
Study her to see if she learns any lesson from being on her own and take her back if she retraces her steps. But if she flies away from there... Well, let her go and move on.
My friend you now know who your woman really is. You are husband in need, not indeed. Pretend and keep your money. Take care of the kids. Support the house. Manage your sex life. Get cancelling for both of you. Good luck
dnt complain again buh start sleeping outside, she will later come back to her senses, afta u've noticed shez back to her senses then u brkup wif her
Give her all the money....ode!! "What do I do please" abi. U can never be a yoruba boi.
Dump her. She is NOT your wife!
Hmmm..... Such is life. Don't tell her abt the money you received just continue wat u usually do before the government delayed ur money BUT this time around dnt carry all d expanses alone make sure she contributes even though its just little bcos she is only in d marriage cos of d money u were pumping into it. God will lead you right.
Seriously I dunno what to tell you
My Broda only God will help you.U didn't see this coming.Even with ur money then, u should have insisted she contributed from hers long ago, U use ur hand to draw this on ur sef.It is already too late, if u had know this earlier the marriage wouldn't have worked... the bitter truth is you married a gold digger.
Thank you.
Come and marry me, you need a new wife.*winks*
Thank God for the restoration Sir! On a lighter mode-someone once joked that "a woman's money is HER Money and her husband's money is OUR money! For the sake of your children, do not even consider marrying another wife.Please take up your responsibilities in the home as before, get closer to God and 'siddon look' (this might be tough,but another wife isn't God's will for you. This delay in payment happened so you can know your partner very well)! May God strengthen you at this time
pls ooooo, update us with what happens after d payment etc, if need be create a blog, this is a cool story.... naija directors should pay for the rights of this story to make a movie
but on a serious note, update us,
plus, she doesnt really love u, she married u for ur finances, and bcos u were an assest financially, she on d other hand was a liability.
well this is judging from ur side of d story....
but if ur side is true, then its sad o, and u will have to stay bcos of d kids, just bcos of d kids
finally, if na me, i will let her know i have been paid, i will hustle more and get more paid and do to her exactly what she has bn doing to me
i wld refuse her sex, if i need it i would go out and when im done i will come back home, giving her hints but no evidence
i will let her see condoms
my responsibility will only be to my kids and
i will subtly tell her that shes not attractive to me again, if she wants to leave she can!
but thats d evil side of me
the right thing to do is to go to couples therapy and have some serious counselling, remember its for better for worst, u r already married, and for the sake of ur kids u have to try to make this work and its possible!
Nigga sly the bitch she doesn't deserve you bruh!!!
She married u for money only loves you for money, she is cheating, keeep your money, start making back up plans, as far as she is always chatting, then that is a sign she is cheating. Have caught many married women who cheats, it is all in the chatting
But try and get another business to b giving you daily income, government jobs can ruin u
She married u for money only loves you for money, she is cheating, keeep your money, start making back up plans, as far as she is always chatting, then that is a sign she is cheating. Have caught many married women who cheats, it is all in the chatting
But try and get another business to b giving you daily income, government jobs can ruin u
4give her because of your children
I wil advice u dnt end ur marriage just sit her down and talk to her. but if she is not in luv with u maybe then u can think of what to do and please think of ur beautiful kids. Don't tell her abt the money until u talked with her and get her responses.
her papa house gats see am small for sure..... Oga erugodi ulo nna ya first before anything else.
Yu don't need to marry again just have side chicks cheat on her wella and keep pretending don't give her ungrateful family anything again ignore her n never ask for sex again she is wicked n ungrateful and married you for the money take care of the kids
Sorry, men tinks girls d met innocent are truly good, she started controlling small money now welcome to ur real wife,anyway dt girl does't knw God,am sure she's nt brought up wit d fear of God, becos she shuld knw dt d bible said women honor ur husband nt only wen d going is good, but in hard time too, dn't worry bro, God will restore u he's jst showing u dis to retrace ur steps, #witchwoman#
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do not tell her yet. tell her you can't continue with the marriage if she continues to deprive u of sex and doesn't change her ways. tell her u need a divorce. if she apologize, after then can u tell her about the money
Very touching story but please don't get married to someone else. Stuck your home with enough and pay her half of the money 4 the school fee with the promise to balance her when you eventually get the rest. Invest in other things so that you don't rely just on one source of income. Don't let her know much about u. Getting married to another woman will amount to more trouble
May God's wisdom guide you
Very touching story but please don't get married to someone else. Stuck your home with enough and pay her half of the money 4 the school fee with the promise to balance her when you eventually get the rest. Invest in other things so that you don't rely just on one source of income. Don't let her know much about u. Getting married to another woman will amount to more trouble
May God's wisdom guide you
Hmm
just call and talk to her again don't tell her about the money yet , but if there are bill to be paid ,pay them and let her wonder.dont get a mistress and also dnt get a new wif co it will take a toll on your kids and be sure she is not seeing anyone on the side.. watch her attitude if it changes cos she thinks you now have money ,make her submissive again.ask her to go for a test to be sure and her parents ignore them for now. wish you luck. and be sure to pray for your family too. cos you are a good man. people like you are hard to come by.
Don't know wat advice to give. I'll read comments later.
Just pretend dat u have not been paid but u were able to get some money somewhere else to pay ur bills and run the house..... so dat u can see if her attitude will change a little and from there make ur decision but wat ever u decide make sure u think about ur innocent kids........ Becos ur decision may like affect them
I like this question, this is truely a life story this is what people experience on a daily basic women are like that they only want the man to provide meanwhile they will claim that they are equal to men. Let me advise you and be sincere that woman is not your wife she was never your wife she married you because you where able. If you can let her go let her go and pray that God give you your own. When you are finding your next better half please pretend to be a poor man who ever accept you for who you are even if she is not beatiful. A word is enough for the wise..
My friend, pls I'm begging you in the name of God, END that MARRIAGE pls, it's so painful and unfair. That lady doesn't deserve to be called a wife, that's my positive advice...
Please leave her o!!!! find another woman to marry since all she wants is your money. I hate women like this. hmmmm
When money dey friends go dey
but when money no dey friends go go,
she was never there to give you joy so she will never be there any time
she finish that ur money again,,wise up,,,
very soon she will send her life storry to stella
When money dey friends go dey
but when money no dey friends go go,
she was never there to give you joy so she will never be there any time
she finish that ur money again,,wise up,,,
very soon she will send her life storry to stella
Make her to feel sorry for wat she did.. as for her parents... they stop caring for u without even words of encouragement or prayer for ur family.. i will advise u. Run from the whole family.. they re not worth it.. but make ur wife pay for how she maltreated u. But dont spend dat money on any lady o. Think abt ur kids n ur future
I think what u shld do is clear from your write-up..... You can stay with such a lady... Divorce her and find peace with a loyal and non shallow lady... Had that same issue Buh I nipped it in the in d bud during our courtship era..... People who dnt understand will say d man is a wicked man....
Make her to feel sorry for wat she did.. as for her parents... they stop caring for u without even words of encouragement or prayer for ur family.. i will advise u. Run from the whole family.. they re not worth it.. but make ur wife pay for how she maltreated u. But dont spend dat money on any lady o. Think abt ur kids n ur future
Leave d bastard am sure shs igbo and stop training ppl to school marry her and send her to school.
It is better you. Don't inform her about the money
Just keep playing along,and see her attitude for the next couple of months
If she doesn't change,you can file a divorce if she agrees,but don't let her push you. Into having an extra marital affair...it's such a pity
Ahan thats not even fair all dis foolish families evil inlaws and demonic ladies. Mtcheeew marry sm1 else and have a wife dts d greatest lesson for sm1 who is actin dt way cos her husband is just low on finaces for a while.
Ahan thats not even fair all dis foolish families evil inlaws and demonic ladies. Mtcheeew marry sm1 else and have a wife dts d greatest lesson for sm1 who is actin dt way cos her husband is just low on finaces for a while.
Talk 2 her parents Mr
my guy dump that ungrateful whore and stop asking stupid questions... denying sex is as dangerous as cheating, protect your integrity and get rid of her before straying outside; the marriage is damaged
The devil you know they say is better than the angel you don't know. Don't marry another devil that will send you to an early grace. Continue to discharge your responsibility as a bread winner,face your family, since the breeze has blown and you have seen the fowl romp. Just forget sex with her, one day she'll be exposed if she is cheating.
Give her a test by putting the present situation in a story and let her be the judge.using your old time friend as an example
Dont tell her. get you self a side chic. multiple side chics if you have to . enjoy yourself. she isn't worth it. you can divorce or just keep her there to take care of your kids and clean your house. get sex outside and keep her as a house girl. she talks anyhow to you, give her another dirty slap and treat her like she is the help. sooner or later she will come back to her senses. If she ever comes back to her senses , try not to have sex with her , both of you get tested first. then you can take it from there.
Is she from anambra??
Let her be go ahead and have side chick and let her know u have been paid to see her reaction then keep doing your right as the man but no Fuck her again and don't give any fucking money to her family again
Its smart you have not informed her about the payment. From all indications ...she's not a "for better for worse type of wife" she prolly married you for those things you could do. At this point you have to do what's smart and best for you. And obviously, she's getting the sex elsewhere. Probably cheating on you. You will be surprised at the way she would fuck you the night you tell her the payment has been made. All d best in finding a new wife. #LindaPostMyComment
This is serious. Look for someone she respects preferably a clergy to talk to both of you and to a large extent be more open to her cos like you said, she doesn't believe u're doing enough to bring in money
So sorry to say she is a fair weather friend.Now that you have money use your brain but I have not heard her own part.
My Brother, I strongly advice you live that woman because she is not a good wife. A good wife will stand by you either in good or bad times. Tell her your mind and let her be.
So sorry to say she is a fair weather friend.Now that you have money use your brain but I have not heard her own part.
LIB'S oya...ur comments pls. Cnt wait to laugh.
Now you're paid, Go back to the foolish you.....
Mmmmmm...how I wish my husband will beg me for sex like this. Mine is the other way round, I keep begging for sex and at a time I wanted to rape my husband, but he's stronger than me and pushed me away that I had to slap him out of annoyance. I keep masturbating every now and then. My Brother, just keep praying, it's a passing and learning process. E no easy.
Konji na bastard....she is ur wife Rape her if she refuse....there is no case or better still marry a second wife shikenan
Marriage is for Better for Worse, so Carry your cross and continue the journey till the end of the covenant "Death do us part" you swore when the grass was green.
Shut up n stop complaining...I hate married men dat complain n brag about wat dey do for der wife n ha family...mtchew....isnt she ur wife
#spritual
Dump Her and Marry Someone Else
Run away keep her far she is not a good wife money 4hand beg. 4ground kind of wife since she can not cope when things are hard is it now dat there money she will stay broda 4get dat kind of woman nowadays dey are every our mothers of old did not live wt our dad's like dis yet dey luv n respect our fadas no mata wat before u marry her waz she like. Dis?
Hmmm dats bad o,just try to forgive her pls
She already a Hoe. Sad though.
Good you didnt let her know you've been paid.
Next step....KEEP AN AFFAIR OUTSIDE!!, return home late, hang out as much as you can, enjoy your life but please foot the house and kids bills only...no more extended family bills and hers.
Help her stay aloof in the house, love your kids take them out shopping, provide for them, do their home work just play a very good daddy but for her, make the house un-liveable for her. Just a small whimper she shows her true colour, she wants you dead so becareful!
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Bro..i feel ur pain...its one of d test of marriage n life..now u kno beta...pay ur rent..ur kids upkeep...feeding money...get a side chick to ease tension...no marriag pls cos dat wil unstabl ur life...enjoy ur own life...make future plans for ur kids n self...wify wil take care of herself n parents...dnt get mad or angry...its just life...over time she will mend her ways
Most women are like that. Ones money stops flowing in and they start to assist their spouses in little ways, they will begin to show attitudes.
My brother, just keep keeping on for the sake of your kids. I won't advise you to break up because it would affect your kids emotionally. Try as much as possible to save for the rainy days so u will never depend on her no matter the circumstances. Just be strong, I know it's not easy. I have lots of friends who have been there, so I know how it is.
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Communication goes along way in marriage.You probably didn't carry her along well enough when you had your financial crisis. Forgive her wrong doing n dare not think of another marriage, you will destroy your home. Do what's right, pay any outstanding Bill n if you still have enough return the money she contributed when you were broke. Situation will automatically turn around. All the best.
Enter your comment... Just put her in your prayers she would change then check if she is servicing another man. Dont tell her about your payment keep it to yourself. It is well
This is why some men end up cheating. Just be a wise man. Ur wife have shown u her true colour
Enter your comment...
divorce her and get somebody younger and prettier to sleep with. Pls make sure she is jealous by buying d oda one gifts and alot of sexual satisfaction, then, she will be like... it's devil's work.
Keep masturbating swthrt
Pls don't leave her cause of ur kids but pretend also 2 ve extra marital affairs let her get hold of ur chat or sumfin den wen ever she complaints tell her 2 invite her pple ova talk tins 2ru wif dem nd let dem knw der mistakes also nd hers den let her knw u have received ur money since make sure she Begs well and make sure she is Sorri b4 4giving her
Doesn't tell her, God jst revealed to u d real person u married, ignore her N try to catch ur fun elsewhere ignore her completely for months. Bitter truth is ur wife doesn't love you one bit.. deal with dat...
Sorry man u don't have a wife what u have is a pay as u go partner. Pretend u have not being paid investigate her on whom she is cheating on them sack her and pls don't forget to take ur kids.
Dear poster, I will advise I the way people always advice women. Sorry. Take heart. Be patient and pray enh. There is nothing God cannot change. Put ur trust in God. It is well. Go to mountain of Fire, try and make money, endure. Once again sorry.
Now I feel like crying,why do the good men get the wrong women and vice versa?
When I am praying everyday for a gud and supportive husband.
I think u should sit both ur families down n tel them the situations on ground,let her say what she wants then if she choose to lev u geting or taking another woman won't seems like u cheated on her.
So sorry about this.
#Hajia Mufliat
It is very clear that your wife is having an affair outside your marriage. You need to keep your business transactions far away from her knowledge. She married you because you could provide for her and her parents. Make her irrelevant as far as sex is concerned. Yes! Do not ask for it from her any longer. In no time she will be the one begging you for it!
Forgive her and move on please even though it seems women and money shares similar traits but for the sake of your kids.
Divorce her ungrateful ass
Still pretend like u still don't hv money nd ask her wat is her plan with u for d future?
Guy first of all u fuckup for slapping her, and secondly y do u allow her to contributed for your house expendeture, so u made a mistake. The only solution is to pray for your payment or try to get a job and start afresh. Money control d world.
She is a gold digger,inform her parent about her change of attitude to see if they will talk sense into her and don't inform them abt the payment for now,and even if she later change from her bad attitude,the both of you will start taking part in the house responsibility.
Dont tell her.
Bros bounce biko
Don't talk, just quietly start carrying out your responsibilities. Paying fees, etc. Ignore all her questions. Eat out. Ignore her completely for 2 weeks. Am tempted to say marry another, but don't. After letting her see that you are back and can do without her, please forgive her....for better for worse
Don't tell her about the payment, resume your responsibility as the head of the Family she may think that you borrowed the money as she advised. The true is that she married you for what you have not who you are. After all the wedding vows says for better or worse, watch her for sometime, she resume loving you once she is aware of the payments. It is unfortunate that she forgot all you have done to her and her family. If what you said Is true, she is an ingrate. But you can work out!
Don't tell her u ave gotten ur money. sha pretend to still be lacking. Ping me for more advice....2BA0D867 so we talk betteR
Divorce her immediately my brother!
Just pray.
Don't even inform her because she doesn't love anymore because you were going through hard times. Some ladies are just too stupid sha
Honestly Bro
You can't seek meaningful advice here.
The truth is this: you are the one wearing the shoe, you know where it hurts and how much discomforting it is.
You should know when to wear a socks or totally let go off the shoe.
I wish you the best.
It is so sad to see some men go tru all this and see some women wanting a husband like dis,i pray ur wife changes her ways because God almighty sees d heart she is pushed ur mind gradually and now she feels like d boss,sorry to say her mum is not doing her any good that is bad parenting, u will surely pick up dear calm down is just a cross road don't make any rash decisions yet:trust God and please don't ever hit her again she might us that as an excuse,a real man don't hit d woman he loves and for ur wife I pray she turns a new way because not all that glitters is gold,and if any man is deceiving her I pity her ooo ::
Just take your kids get a new apartment and bounce brah... does this sound like real love to you? This is just less than a year and she's already havingredients freaky sex chats, ok look if you think am joking keep on the act just for a lil bit more and she go the answer men calls for your front, in about another 9 months she would bring a dude to your house and tell you to go watch tv in the living room but no time for that acting shit, just bounce dude.. bitches ain't loyal son
Just take your kids get a new apartment and bounce brah... does this sound like real love to you? This is just less than a year and she's already havingredients freaky sex chats, ok look if you think am joking keep on the act just for a lil bit more and she go the answer men calls for your front, in about another 9 months she would bring a dude to your house and tell you to go watch tv in the living room but no time for that acting shit, just bounce dude.. bitches ain't loyal son
Just take your kids get a new apartment and bounce brah... does this sound like real love to you? This is just less than a year and she's already havingredients freaky sex chats, ok look if you think am joking keep on the act just for a lil bit more and she go the answer men calls for your front, in about another 9 months she would bring a dude to your house and tell you to go watch tv in the living room but no time for that acting shit, just bounce dude.. bitches ain't loyal son
Use condom with ur girlfriends!
Use condom with ur girlfriends!
Do everything to make your marriage work. Please don't make money the deciding factor here please!
Young man, we only heard one side of the story, so we cannot judge fairly. However,all I can simply suggest is for you to remain happy in addition to the following.
1. Divert your attention on your kids.
2. Resume your role in paying fully for everything.
3. Remain prayerful.
4. Invest you money wisely.
5. Sit tight and God will show you the way.
Women don't play with money. Their true identity comes out when things suddenly change for u financial. Dont let her know you have the money yet bcos more terrible behaviours are coming soon. Go get it outside but be careful. All of them are the same both old and young. Ignore her! Focus on your kids bcos they are your source of joy.
Maybe she's seeing someone else
End the marriage!
leave the witch and come and marry my sister.... you seem like a nice man
It is normal her to act up as she is caring for the family, it is wrong that she is depriving you of sex and disrespecting her, have you ever thought of the slaps you gave her as part of the reason she is currently unattracted to you? I believe you should tell her about the payment and don't get a mistress,you will only ruin the family.
It is normal for her to act up, as she is caring for the family, it is wrong that she is depriving you of sex and disrespecting you, have you ever thought of the slaps you gave her as part of the reason she is currently unattracted to you? I believe you should tell her about the payment and don't get a mistress,you will only ruin the family.
Fair whether woman!! Can u Just imagine" ur own Husband, am speechless, do whatever that makes u Happy, life is too short to leave in misery.
Do not tell her about the payment.try to talk to her parent n bring her back to her senses first.
Abeg how much were you paid?i can love you
bros marry another wife. Women are never loyal even after three kids. Just a nine months financial problem and she forget everything you did for her. Don't let her know you have been paid. If your denied you sex that is a permission to seek for it somewhere.
Dude, run away now before you lose ur sanity..your wife is obviously having an affair, divorce her right now , at least I Do not see the mention of children, divorce her and keep ur sanity before you turn to someone you won't recognize again..do not lose u r trust in women, they are a lot of good women out there, and you will find one
Divorce the woman. She is a fool.
She is not in love with you...she only love your money.
as I am reading this story I am already boiling inside. if it requires calling me pls call let's put hands together and pack her loads out of ya house. it's very clear love doesn't exist in that marriage. QED.
my wife can't try such and that's why I love her.
Return the house rent but don't return the school fees after all she have to contribute to her kids life which education is the most important one.Just behave as if you have not been paid and talk to her again abt her behavior but if she refuse to change let her be and do whatever you like as much as i hate men cheating on their wife,i think your wife need to learn her lesson d hard way from what u said all i can see is an ungrateful wife and not useful in laws
I was at the police station to see the DPO; at the counter I met a constable reading the Bible, precisely Genesis. I was impressed and I asked him, who killed Abel - Adam's son? He looked at me with dismay and said 'ask sgt Ken, he is incharge of murder cases'
I was at the police station to see the DPO; at the counter I met a constable reading the Bible, precisely Genesis. I was impressed and I asked him, who killed Abel - Adam's son? He looked at me with dismay and said 'ask sgt Ken, he is incharge of murder cases'
My brother,women can be terrible. I have a similar experience with an Inlaw.the funny thing about their own case is that they are both serious church people and read bible every minute. So Thiers is baffling everyone.
Ask God for guidiance cos nobody can interfere with your marriage.
Enter your comment..work harder
God will give u the grace to carry on
Lool. What a selfish woman. Threaten her with a divorce and let's see if she will change.
Don't let her know, continue to pretend untill u get her red handed chetting on u, then u knw wht to do
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Well, you need a lot of patients and u need to be prayerful getting married to some else or getting a mistress right now might not bring solution to ur marriage it will only satisfy ur sexual urge. Look unto God for help, I'm sure he will direct you.
It's not easy to be submissive when the man can't pick bills , I thin women who differ have to make a conscious effort! She didn't do well starving you but please forgive her but you should find a way to teach her some lesson! N Pls forgive her family, u don't know what she's told them! 10 years is a long time , so work it out! Best wishes bro
No man will remarry a woman wt already 3 kids. They will fuck her round and drop her
My dear she's a bad woman, n one of d things dat can send a man to an early grave is marrying a bad woman.
Fact is, with all u ve bin tru in her hand, I doubt if u will ever be completely happy wif her...reason being ACCUMULATED GRIEVIANCES.
She has no conscience..evil is d word.
U see her life now? D money is here now. Men no who u marry oo
Jesus fix it
You have the right and support to go outside. What ever it result to, you have our support. She will regret her action soon
It is well
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