2.
WHY DID IT TAKE SO LONG TO ISSUE A STATEMENT?
I.
We kept quiet out of respect
for the memory of the deceased.
II.
We kept quiet out of shock.
III.
We kept quiet out of
consideration for the feelings of our daughter whose grief was compounded by
the fact that she was taken into custody by the Police.
IV.
We kept quiet out of the belief
that the marriage produced two children (out of three confinements) who are
still infants, and who deserve a better memory of a father they will grow up
without knowing.
V.
We also kept quiet out of the
belief that we should not issue any statements in order not to prejudice Police
investigations into the matter in any way.
3.
WHO IS MRS. BUSAYO OLAFARE (NEE TAIWO)?
Busayo is the first child of
the family, she is thirty-one years old, has three siblings - an immediate younger
brother and a pair of twins one male and the other female. She is a double graduate
of Accountancy of the Yaba College of Technology and the University of Lagos.
She holds a Higher National Diploma and Bachelors Degree respectively of the
two top higher institutions in Lagos. She works in one of the top financial
institutions in Lagos. Raised in a solid Christian home, her passion for God is
not in question, and as said earlier, she has two children, who are infants, a
male and female, with her late husband.
4.
WAS SEUN’S FAMILY IMMEDIATELY INFORMED OF HIS SUICIDE?
On getting to the late
Seun and Busayo’s residence, we asked if his family had been informed, and the neighbours
confirmed that Seun’s family had been informed of his death. Specifically, we
were told that his father had been informed but that he said he did not believe
them, and that they couldn’t be talking about his son. Right there in our
presence, his father was called again severally without any positive response
from him. Whilst we appreciate that shock could have made him act strangely - he
was obviously in a state of denial - it
is certainly not true that he was not informed of Seun’s death! He was informed
immediately it happened!
5.
WAS SEUN’S CORPSE REALLY TAKEN TO THE MORGUE WITHOUT HIS FAMILY’S
“CONSENT”?
The neighbours who helped to rush him to
the hospital were the ones who took his body from the hospital where he died to
the mortuary at Gbagada General Hospital, which was the sensible thing to do. It
is a fact that he did not die in the house; that was why he was rushed to the
hospital in the first place. The neighbours were with the corpse in the
mortuary premises all this while; the body was in the vehicle that took it
there and had not yet been deposited in the morgue.
Back in the house, Busayo and members of
our family waited for Seun’s family who did not show up, to the extent that the
neighbours who were with his body started fretting and calling for members of
the family to come to the mortuary to take possession of his body. Their
landlord came back from the mortuary, and being an old man needed to rest and
take his drugs, he did all this in the house, and still held on to the death
certificate without which the body cannot be accepted in the mortuary. We
waited and waited but no one from his family showed up. As time wore on,
ambient temperature was rising and everyone started worrying that the body by
now ought to have been deposited in the morgue, still not one of his family
members had shown up.
Finally, we all moved to the mortuary
where we were told that there was no longer space for the body. Their
neighbours naturally were no longer prepared to go further and insisted that
the body be transferred to another vehicle. One of Seun’s friends offered his
car and we all made our way to the Mainland Hospital Yaba. Even here we waited
for members of his family to show up. The body was not brought down from the
car though we were not comfortable with the rising temperature. Finally, we
heard that members of his family were on the way, and when they arrived, they saw
the body which was still in the car that took it to the mortuary. After the
protocols for admitting the body was completed, one of Seun’s siblings,
Babalola, signed the papers to admit his corpse to the morgue. Seun’s father and a host of his family
members and friends were present in or around the morgue!
6.
DID BUSAYO TRY TO RUN AWAY?
Nothing
could be more ridiculous than suggesting that she tried to run away! After
leaving the mortuary, knowing that suicide is reportable, she was accompanied
by her uncle, siblings and other members of her family to voluntarily report
the incident at the Oworonsoki Police Station. We made it clear to the Police
that we were taking her to our family house, the address and phone numbers were
supplied.
It
was AFTER reporting at the Police Station that we went back to the house to
pick her clothes and some of the things needed by her infant children. This is
because she and her children had nothing else except what they were wearing. Being
bereaved in such a sudden and tragic manner, it was inconceivable to leave her
alone in their rented apartment, with two infants, (one barely a year old and
the other just over two years old). Considering the emotional trauma she was
going through, it was more convenient to take her away to her family house.
Objective members of the public should ask themselves whether it would make
sense to leave her alone in her state of mind.
As
we write, Busayo is in her third week in Police custody instead of mourning her
husband; her two infant children who have lost their father are now being
denied of motherly comfort and love.
Where
would Busayo have run to? She has a career job and two infant children. Her maternal
and paternal family houses are both located in Somolu, and it was one of these
addresses that was given to the Police at Oworonsoki. Suggesting that she would
run away is suggesting that her whole family, her uncles and aunts and their
families who live in that house would run away.
CONCLUSION
1.
The family stands by Busayo’s
story and we have no reasons whatsoever to doubt her.
2.
Busayo did not attempt to
escape and will not under any circumstances do so as there is no reason to do
so.
3.
We are waiting for the Police to
conclude their investigations as quickly as possible.
4.
We will take any and all steps necessary
to protect her rights and interests, and those of her infant children.
5.
We thank everyone who has stood
by us and Busayo all this while and we know that by the Grace of God, this
storm will blow over. This is a dark period in our daughter’s life; we know it
will be morning yet.
6.
We pray for the repose of
Seun’s soul and plead with almighty God to forgive him his sins and grant him eternal
grace.
7.
It is well with his soul, it is
well with us all!
The
Taiwo Family
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69 comments:
Touching
May his soul rest!
Too long fa!
This end time, I mean time with no end. Engr Emy.
PARENTAL ADVISORY!!!
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I stand to be corrected, are they suppose to detain her for more than 48 hours...
That number 6 though---------- It is usually better for the family members of the woman to come and stay with her in her house. Instead of taking her away, they should have stayed with her---- her sisters, cousins, aunts, friends, brothers even . Then later, they can take her to their house. Na so I think o.
Hmmmmmm, is well
Where else would the Family stand? On whose side? Tell me? Unfortunately,dead body cannot come and narrate what went down...don't take advantage of social media and blogs in everything...let investigations b complete and face d consequences of d outcome either good or bad...I'm sick of people trying to defend a woman sometimes when some of them r devils
It is well
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a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Only in africa... May his soul RIP....
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Good lord;
these sad marriage tales are really scaring;
but why has she not been granted bail..
by now d forensic reports should be out 2 ascertain d true cause of death...
They shud let the dead soul to rest in peace.
I totally feel for dis widow. Nigerias backwardness is indeed appalling. D wife should be set free pending d autopsy investigation n if den proven she's responsible she should be arrested. It's totally unfair to detain her dis long if she's actually innocent
Africans and their mentality, is autopsy not there if they are convinced about their sons death? Na wa o
Errmmm... Owk toh
Now,this is more like it.Its really sad especially in Africa,a man dies and his family immediately blames the wife.The society also blames the wife.even fellow wives,blame the wife.
Its well.
Kpele God will see her through, joy comes in thy morning.
Is it possible to narrate how Busayo's husband died ? Is it possible to Let the public know all efforts Busayo made to let both families know that their son / husband had attempted sucide ?
I as a woman sympathize with her and all what she is going through , but what efforts did she make , even when I try my husband's number and I don't get him , I start calling his brother or whoever am close to .
Even if you have issues with his family , sometimes you need to play the fool in this climes .
Do member of the family of the late man not know the truth of course they know , were they not aware of his financial situation of course they were , did they assist of course they did not .
They are just punishing his wife , for past beef , attitude and her perceived arrogance .
But finally they should remember he has kids and this kids are being punished for their mother's sin . Leave the matter to God , I pray he fights for you .
It's a sad case.
So sad
What do we believe now
NIGERIANS for ever in denial. ANYONE CAN COMMIT SUICIDE. His father should stop putting this woman through this double pain unless he has reasonable grounds and sufficient evidence to show she killed him. Ignorance
Hmmmmmmm,this only happens if the wife is not fully welcomed in her husband faimly.too bad
O ga, dis is so pathetic, police shd investigate d matter n b fast abt it
O ga, dis is so pathetic, police shd investigate d matter n b fast abt it
They sud leave the poor lady alone.
My sincere condolences to the Taiwo and Olafare families. I think the Taiwo family erred by asking that their daughter should pack a few things and follow them home with her children immediately after her husband's death. The right thing should have been that a few of her family members should have come to stay with her in her marital home to mourn her husband appropriately. If it was the other way round, the Taiwo family would have felt agrieved too. We must be careful not to do to others what we will not have them do to us. The ages of her children is irrelevant. She should have stayed in her marital home!!!! However, this case is just the typical scenario in Africa, where if a man dies, it's the wife that killed him. This perception is so so so wrong. There is no marriage without problems either from couples or in laws as the case maybe. It is obvious that the two families did not get along. However, I think Busayo Olafare is being punished unjustly and it's unfair. Kindly let her go home to mourn her husband and take care of her children. May the soul of the dead rest in peace. Amen.
My sincere condolences to the Taiwo and Olafare families. I think the Taiwo family erred by asking that their daughter should pack a few things and follow them home with her children immediately after her husband's death. The right thing should have been that a few of her family members should have come to stay with her in her marital home to mourn her husband appropriately. If it was the other way round, the Taiwo family would have felt agrieved too. We must be careful not to do to others what we will not have them do to us. The ages of her children is irrelevant. She should have stayed in her marital home!!!! However, this case is just the typical scenario in Africa, where if a man dies, it's the wife that killed him. This perception is so so so wrong. There is no marriage without problems either from couples or in laws as the case maybe. It is obvious that the two families did not get along. However, I think Busayo Olafare is being punished unjustly and it's unfair. Kindly let her go home to mourn her husband and take care of her children. May the soul of the dead rest in peace. Amen.
It is particularly more saddening, knowing that this country has laws, yet pple just choose when and which of the laws to obey. How will imprisoning a poor widow bring back to life the soul of a man who deliberately ended his own life? Gullible way of thinking of nigerians! And dis are d pple seeking change!
This is so sad, I wonder why African women are always made a scape goat after the deaths of their husbands.... Is it now a crime to be a woman?
LIES,ALL I READ HERE IS ALL LIES.. GOODBYE SIR!
Hmmm. Dere is always to sides of a coin. May his soul rest in peace.
Waiting patiently for police investigation.
God, where is the truth.
may his soul Rest in Peace.the truth is hidden somewhere
Na wa oooo
Poor Widow detained without charge. The rule of Law seems not to be equally applied to all Nigerians.
I understand Busayo works with a financial institution,the husband was eminently qualified pharmacist- did she try to bail him out using her own values and advantage?. Off course i really dont subscribe to the idea that money troubles lead to suicide and many people including his fellow church absolutely agree with this.There possible was a homicide for some hidden reasons.
For Busayo to try packing out of their matrimonial home so quickly after the death of her husband was a terrible wickedness or oversight. There is no other way to understand such insensitive unafrican action. That was never a way to mourn the loss of a husband unless you have something to hide.Of course the police are not fools and they obviously will find out the truth.
Get an education!
I think maybe they took her home with them because of the manner in which the husband died, a lot of people are superstitious and may not want to be around where an unnatural death took place, many families hardly trust their son's wife even though their son may be a devil,they will still see him as an angel, sometimes it isn't good to go report your partner to your family or even discuss your marital woes because even if you later make up they will still hold grudges against your partner.
If she hadn't married this guy,she may be blaming God but now she may be regretting ever getting married. May Godvindicate her and may God be with her family because it is very painful to experience such.
I think maybe they took her home with them because of the manner in which the husband died, a lot of people are superstitious and may not want to be around where an unnatural death took place, many families hardly trust their son's wife even though their son may be a devil,they will still see him as an angel, sometimes it isn't good to go report your partner to your family or even discuss your marital woes because even if you later make up they will still hold grudges against your partner.
If she hadn't married this guy,she may be blaming God but now she may be regretting ever getting married. May Godvindicate her and may God be with her family because it is very painful to experience such.
pls kindly inform ngos abt this matter shikena!
You can imagine the memory of staying in the house she shared with her husband.. It won't be easy for her considering the circumstanced under which he died.
God knows the truth
It s a pity that a woman with so young children is being made to go thru such hell after loosing a husband! Its obvious this man s family never like d wife(may God help us women). D only part dt confuses me is dt there s not enough reason given to substantiate ds man sucide. He was a pharmacist for crying out loud. His future isnt so bleak as to commit sucide over some debts. He seem to come from an average family and d wife has a job too! So sucide for,,,,,,,or how much is d money he was said to have owed? Pharmacist aint ppl with such a bleak future as to commit sucide over a few millions. Unless he is depressed.#Linda's pal#
You don't ve to explain urself why it took long to issue a statement u don't owe no one any explanation no ur rite,it's a choose
RIP
it is wrong for the Police to have detained her more than 48 hours without charging her to court. This, is, however, not uncommon in homicide cases in Nigeria. It is a lingering problem in Nigerian legal world.
I think there are some questions to be answered. How can she be parking out of her matrimonial home (immmediately after her husband's death) without the consent of her husband family? Are her family members not africans? Where is it done that you mourn a husband in the wife's family house? Is there nobody in the husband's family that she is close to or likes her? Why not call that person? In any event, why did she not wait for her husband's family to arrive before moving out (if at all)? How about the husband's close friends (not neighbours)? How about their pastors or church elders? Were those not also picking their calls?
I think she has some questions to answer. The police should do thier work very well and if nothing is found, she should be released.
I agree with you. I pray such evil will not befall us. Amen.
Geez! So what's really happening, who is telling the truth??? God help her. Linda take note!
The Busayo I know will not even hurt a rat not to talk of her husband whom for the past three yrs I knew her and. Her husband never had quarrel now fight @ any time. Come to think of it, Y will Busayo kill her husband? Is it for his wealth, which Seun didn't have, or for what? I am a colleague to Busayo and I know her well and I believe her part of the story
All is well
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I share same view with you.That is the right thing to do.Taking her away was very very wrong
It's a pity! RIP mr seun.
She works in a leading Financial Institution and her husband committed suicide beacuse of loan ?
Really ?
Some intelligent thoughts over here.
Eyah, may his soul rest in piece
I don't expect the family not to take side but my question is after knowing the man drank poison why did the wife not rush him to the hospital b4 their neighbors had to intervene? Why take him straight to the morgue after poisoning without an autopsy? And why not stay at your home even if you want to have your families around? Well I guess the guilty are afraid.
i have never been so moved to tears reading this kind of brief. pls the should let her go. if she is guilty, time will tell. may the soul of the dead rest in peace amen
i dont why people comment without using there brain..wats the brain for is it not to tink and make decisions..if you cant make a a good words from your brain..then you are totally useless..y would u people blame her for going to her family place..someones husband committed suicide and all yu pple could think of is y she went to family house...how can she cope with the embarrassement..do u tink at that moment she would be able to tink straight expecially wen shes traumatized..is it not glaring that the family members of the husband are not loving at all..and y would you detain a wudow for more than 48hrs without evidences..these country those not have a greater enemy than we ourselves..we judge,badmouth,kill,lie and cause confusion ourselves..the elderly ones criticizes our generations and the coming one..but they have forgotten they raised us..How can the beautiful ones be born wen the ugly ones r not dead...becareful the way u judge people coz it can happen to anyone..bt may such storm neva befall us and our family includind the widow..
i dont why people comment without using there brain..wats the brain for is it not to tink and make decisions..if you cant make a a good words from your brain..then you are totally useless..y would u people blame her for going to her family place..someones husband committed suicide and all yu pple could think of is y she went to family house...how can she cope with the embarrassement..do u tink at that moment she would be able to tink straight expecially wen shes traumatized..is it not glaring that the family members of the husband are not loving at all..and y would you detain a wudow for more than 48hrs without evidences..these country those not have a greater enemy than we ourselves..we judge,badmouth,kill,lie and cause confusion ourselves..the elderly ones criticizes our generations and the coming one..but they have forgotten they raised us..How can the beautiful ones be born wen the ugly ones r not dead...becareful the way u judge people coz it can happen to anyone..bt may such storm neva befall us and our family includind the widow..
i dont why people comment without using there brain..wats the brain for is it not to tink and make decisions..if you cant make a a good words from your brain..then you are totally useless..y would u people blame her for going to her family place..someones husband committed suicide and all yu pple could think of is y she went to family house...how can she cope with the embarrassement..do u tink at that moment she would be able to tink straight expecially wen shes traumatized..is it not glaring that the family members of the husband are not loving at all..and y would you detain a wudow for more than 48hrs without evidences..these country those not have a greater enemy than we ourselves..we judge,badmouth,kill,lie and cause confusion ourselves..the elderly ones criticizes our generations and the coming one..but they have forgotten they raised us..How can the beautiful ones be born wen the ugly ones r not dead...becareful the way u judge people coz it can happen to anyone..bt may such storm neva befall us and our family includind the widow..
I know the said Late Paul Olafare and Busayo Olafare. Paul Olafare was an easy-going gentleman, he was my teacher in the Sunday school teachings. He can never attempt to end his own and so also Busayo is a cool and down earth woman. I do not believe she killed her husband, for what reason? At this juncture, only God knows the truth. Rest on bro!
Do u read and understand the story at all.
U very right my dear. Ppl are quick to judge and conclude without thinking . if this happened to me I will do same as the woman cos I can't stay in that environment with my kids.
If I didn't read the story why would I comment..you should be asking your self if you understand the story..cmon life is unfair so why should you blame her..can smeone just gve me a point to a reason why she's responsible for her husband death..tink..
I am afraid busayo hand was not clean, when her husband had issue with loan, and texting her about committing suicide which of the husband family did she tell. At least one out of all the family of her husband should know their son is having issue. I am sorry i dont buy her story.
Lets wait for the test result
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