From a male LIB reader
I just thought sending you this mail could
attract responsible responses to my confused state. I
am married with three kids, a boy and two daughters. My first daughter
is 2+ and have been exhibiting some strange behaviours that is baffling
me.
Recently,
about a month ago I observed that she comes close to me although all my
children are close to me, but this kind of closeness is such that she
holds my head with her hands and tries to kiss me on several ocassions.
I
try to convince myself that it is a normal hormonal changes going on
within her, but I am not convinced yet. Does anyone have a daughter of
that age group, and does she behave similarly, can someone advice me on
this? Thanks
386 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 386 of 386When next she kiss you,throw her away... If d girl loves her mum now,you will start complaining...
Who is around her? U need to check that someone is not doing same or worse to her. Kids that age do what is done to them. 2 year olds don't go thru hormonal changes. It's time for a talk!!!!!
Hnmmm all I can say is since shez only 2+ as u said I dnt think theres anything alarming about this. Shez just bn a child and I dnt think she has such ideas in her head yet. Mister u need to just clear your head and have an open mind. Shez ur child and shez just acting like one.
It may not be what u re thinking...just take much time 2 study her and monitor her vry well.
I think its certain romantic scenes from the movies you expose her to that she's trying to practise out on you
There's absolutely nothing wrong with your kid. I have a 2 year old who does the same to me. Although I have to admit I taught her to 'kiss mummy'. So when she's sad she comes to kiss me. That being said your daughter learnt it from you or your wife. If you let her watch adult TV( not porn but films with adults who kiss and cuddle) she'll think its normal human behaviour to kiss other people. Just tell her no kiss daddy on his forehead or simply say No. No kiss daddy ok. She'll stop soon. There is no need to let ur thoughts run wild.
Two plus keep...you are so funny. They are always cuddly and want to be loved. Except there is something different from what you are saying.
Man,are you okay? It's your mind that is twisted. Just ensure u don't end up molesting the poor little innocent girl. Ah ah! If u feel uncomfortable, then teach her boundaries. Just 2 years, come on.
Probably she has seen u doin same to ur wife.
Your daughter has probably watched a movie or been exposed to something she wasn't supposed to be exposed to. do keep an eye on her and its only a phase that will definitely pass . you must correct her and nothing is wrong with your child kissing you either. she's only a child
GET A GRIP MAN, SHE IS JUST BEING A CHILD THOUGH SOME ARE MORE CUDDLY THAN OTHERS BUT UNLESS YOUR DAUGHTER HAVE BEEN EXPOSED TO LOVEMAKING PROBABLY FORM YOU AND WIFY, KIDS TEND TO IMITATE THEIR PARENTS. YOUR BABY TRYING TO KISS YOU FULL MOUTHED IS NOT BAD UNLESS YOU ARE NOT SPILLING THE WHOLE THING.BE CAREFUL MAN,YOUR WIFE WILL BE DISGUSTED BY YOUR UGLY ASSUMPTION, DON'T MAKE A MOUNTAIN OUT OF A MOLEHILL.
Its called the oedipal complex a term coined by Freud, http://www.britannica.com/EBchecked/topic/425423/oedipal-stage, and is usually part of the usual psycho-social development of a child (3-5). Don't worry your daughter is not going to have any serious hormonal changes for years to come,lol. I suggest you enjoy all the attention now, before she becomes a teenager and starts blaming you for everything,lol
Ur having a corrupt mind towards that Lil angel.
Does she see you do that to her mum? That might be the most likely explanation. The second is much worse, someone else is doing that to her or she watches some other people do that. In either case you need to do your investigation and talk to her mum about it. In addition,at 2yrs you should start to teach her the difference between good touch vs bad touch (i.e appropriate gestures e.g kissing is only for mummy and daddy because they are adults and love each other). Don't take things lightly there are many parenting books to teach you how to handle this (Google it).Good luck!
I don't think it's something you should be worried about. I don't have a daughter in that age group but I learnt about it in psychology it's called OEDIPUS COMPLEX and it's normal in little kids you can read about it on the Internet.
dude, someone is playing some funny games with ur daughter or shes watching d wrond TV.
Oga its ok,correct her and don't let others like some freaky Neighbors or Uncles take advantage of her Innocence.
She will out grow it with time,but control what u and Madam do in front of Her,Kid's now and days are not as dumb as we think,they are smarter than their Age,some times words that comes out OF my Kids mouth,i sometimes ask their Mum is everything OK with our kids .LOL - FIB FRANK WIZ
Its just a normal psychological phase kids her age pass through. At dis phase d male kids get attracted to dia mym yl d girls exhibit same to their dad. Its known as d oedipus complex. So shelf ur worries,it will soon wear out. Ur daughta is just fine. Judith ibeh
U r a mumu
U and ur wife should not kiss in ur kids' presence, she obviously doesn't know what she's doing.
u r a big idiot, dats all I hv to say
Daughters are generally drawn to their dads while boys gravitate to their mums but in both cases the parent remains the parent so must maintain the boundary where filial love ends as children are innocent and ignorant. So for instance while its ok to give pecks on cheeks or sealed lips its totally inappropriate to wet-kiss your own child whether toddler or adult, period.
Children don't forget what they see easily. Maybe u n ur wife do kiss each other "goodbye", "love u" in her presence or she has stepped in on u making out with her mum... All u need to do is let her know that kind of kissing is meant 4 married couples n adults,do it in a gentle manner too n also tell ur wife to lecture her too. All d best.
Please investigate along with the mum, to confirm if someone is doing that to her in secret. Is she in school? She is too young to know stuff like that, I feel it's been done to/in front of her. Be sure your maid doesn't take her to visit boys/bring boys home/doesn't have a boyfriend... Sadly so many people are twisted now and we have many pedophiles also let her mum inspect her down there...equally, teach her that NO ONE BESIDES MUMMY should touch/wash her down there..
You have nothing to worry about. Girls are generally daddy's girls. My son who just turned three also at around 2+ started holding my head and would kiss me all over my face several times a day. I believe at that age that is their way of showing u how much they love you. My older son went through that phase as well. Just enjoy the innocent affection from your little girl, she will outgrow it soon enough.
most likely hormonal, but children learn from what they see, it might be what she see between you and ur wife, or on the TV, worst case either from both an adult in the house
That's amazing! enjoy it while it lasts. When she's a teenager, you'd really miss the good ol' days. If you are concerned about anything, she's not too young to talk to. Just enjoy her while you can... Blessings. Mrs. Akinfesoye
May be she has seen people do dat and wanted 2 try it, it might be just daughters love 4 her dad, my 7months old girl likes kissing her dad and I, sometimes she tries 2 touch d hair on her dad's chest with her mouth, any which way just be monitoring her closely 2 make sure there's nothing behind wat she is doing
May be she has seen people do dat and wanted 2 try it, it might be just daughters love 4 her dad, my 7months old girl likes kissing her dad and I, sometimes she tries 2 touch d hair on her dad's chest with her mouth, any which way just be monitoring her closely 2 make sure there's nothing behind wat she is doing
It's not strange. My 2y/old daughter does the same thing and it's cos she sees her mom & I do that all the time that's why. Children copy what they see that's why you have to be careful never to hit or abuse her mom because she's watching closely.
Girls are usually close to their dad's. So I take it that ur baby gal is feeln that attachment. I don't think it's any thing to be worried about,she's less than 3,what could she possibly want from her dad?love and probably chocolates, lol.i had a little who would allow females carry her except males,and we nicknamed her "lover girl",she was a few months old den oh.so dnt worry,ur gal jst loves u.
No biggie. My second daughter is 2+ and she does that too. She doesn't sleep until either of her hands is on my breast. If not that, she always wanted to touch my bear skin before can sleep off. But I noticed something, her wanting to kiss me or mostly peck my cheek is due to all the telemundo soapies that I watch with her. Now I don't allow her watch it with me anymore and she's beginning to stop it. Don't worry, it's just a phase, it will pass.
Naija men and stupid thinking. Your baby is kissing you affectionately and you are worried. She is showing you LOVE, haba do you guys not know how to love??
You just described the behavior of a normal 2-year old daddy's girl who loves her father pretty much. I am guessing that your wife spends more time with her than you do. So when you are around, she is all over you because she has missed you all the while. However, if you seriously second guess an innocent toddler's affection for her father, then I think you should seek some psychiatric consult just to make sure there are no elements of pedophiia caged somewhere within your mind. Also search online for "developmental milestones of a 2-yer old" to confirm what I just said. Best of luck.
Sure it is normal ojare. My 6mths old son pulls M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ head down 4 a kiss
Its called being a daddy's girl...rolling my eyes at you.
Hmm my brother, yours is good. As i am typing this Text, my Daughter cannot sleep unless she sucks my Lips. My wife stopped breast feeding her 6 Months ago. Since then, she has taken to my Lips to find rest and sleep
Your daughter is perfectly okay. My 2+ old daughter does dsame,especially wen she is excited abt something. I don't think der is a cause for alarm huh.
Bby luvs daddy
At that age...you need to check the school your daughter is.I have seen scenario where it was done to a child in the school by the teacher, being a baby decides to make same move with the mum at home.when the mum ask he said his teacher normally ask them to play a game.so the kissing and touching was part of the game.
maybe she has autism
it's normal.. she would stop it before u know it.
She z only doing what she saw mummy do, cos at dat stage learning n trying out things mayb eminent. Just saying. Ogunaomi@gmail.com
she is just showing you affection i live in the uk and over here that is very normal behaviour and besides children repeat what they see so maybe she has seen this display of affection between you and your wife or on tv plz take your mind out of the gutta shes just a little girl who loves her father
Too much of nigerian movies or u nd ur wife kisses in her presence tinking she's a kid nd won't knw wat u guys are doin bt kids of nowadays are very sharp,dey grab tins easily d way u cnt even imagine both d good nd d bad bt most especially d bad
It's probably nothing sir. Her behavior is familiar. Fear not.
Do take this opportunity, however, to ensure none of your children are exposed to any form of sexual abuse.
OMG!!!!! which hormonal changes in a 2+ year old. Your daughter is being abused. Pure and simple. Those are the signs. There is a male member of your family or a friend that is abusing her. The poor thing is confused and thinks it is normal so she is doing to you what that man is doing to her. Remove any male interaction from her life that you or her mother is not there i.e. do NOT allow her to be alone with any man unless either you or her mother is present. By male it could be driver, houseboy, a family friend or a male relative. 2+ is not too young to be abused. You will be shocked by the sick things that go on in today's world. Stop the abuse now and her mind will re-adjust to normal. The other thing could be that you and your wife are having sex in her presence, but for you to be asking this question, I doubt it. Lots of children see their parents kiss to show affection, so I don't think that could be it. Husbands and wives kissing to show affection is different from kissing that is sex driven, so it is most likely abuse. Look around you, there is a monster in your midst. Save your child now
Abuse. She is demonstrating behavior she has seen or has received. Check ya maids and handlers and others in the house.
Hello poster, it is natural especially if you should are very affectionate with her mom. Soon, she will be to fight for your attention. For a little girl, her dad is her first love and hero. Nothing to worry about. Visit www.madamsabi.wordpress.com for interesting and impactful stories of real people.
She learn from her parent I didn't see anything wrong wit dt my daughter is two yrs she does d same thing.
Investigate well, I'm sure ud find out its either ur wife or ur neighbour that is teaching her that. My advice fee is N15,000
Investigate well, I'm sure ud find out its either ur wife or ur neighbour that is teaching her that. My advice fee is N15,000
Yep its normal. She is expressing her fondness for you. Maybe mummy is too busy with baby so she's got to hang out with daddy more. Pls don't read too much into it otherwise the devil will come in.
Please try googling "Electra complex" I believe that is your case. You will find it helpful.
I don't know
BORN TO SHINE!!!!
Definitely electra complex...very normal behavior
its normal been that she has developed a bonding with u...wont last though soo enjoy it
Embrace with purity
jenniferanthonella@yahoo.com
First daughter, not first child.
bb
Awwww Bianca English hard u? He said first daughter haba not first bornand so if d first na d girl no b how igbo pple give birth without spacing wetin b d advice there when it is their custom.
It's indeed a terrible world we live in when parents become uncomfortable with acts of affection from their 2 yr old child. Oga it's simple, shez probably seen it on TV or watched a someone do it. Nigerian parents biko it is ok to show affection to ur children! Kisses, hugs n telling them how much you love them makes them feel special!
This man needs help walahi,maybe your into kids and you dont realise it.biko get help before you start sexually abusing your daughter.also let her mom examine her genitals and her whole body for any sign of molestation.
Your so on point. He needs help
hahahha, my daughter does that to her dad and I, shes 2+ as well, she definitely saw it on tv, she will want to force my head,it was peck at first and she holds you to say "i love you",that she learnt from her frnds cos she is in US,so its normal but for the mouth to mouth kiss, try to stop it, turn ur cheek to her,let her know thats the most she can do.lol..my own concern is even her doin it to outsiders.mind her movies too
hahahha, my daughter does that to her dad and I, shes 2+ as well, she definitely saw it on tv, she will want to force my head,it was peck at first and she holds you to say "i love you",that she learnt from her frnds cos she is in US,so its normal but for the mouth to mouth kiss, try to stop it, turn ur cheek to her,let her know thats the most she can do.lol..my own concern is even her doin it to outsiders.mind her movies too
Right. I suggest you enjoy it too. Time would come when you can hardly get her to talk to you in a day. I understand your fear. No she's not a pervert. Too innocent to be.
First daughter not first born.
Google Electra complex shikena! LIB u too talk hian! Any simple matter chon chon chon! Bunch of ignorant pple!
For u @ Bianca Bruno no word for ur stupidity. I hv a 2yr old too she does dat hugs n kisses. She is trying to get ur attention may she feels left out
my 10months old son rubs my boobs when ever he wants to sleep n also sucks his finger on my boobs lol.n its a nice feeling by d way
This post man *clasps face*
For u to think otherwise is something u have to worry about. She is still young and innocent. As her dad, you are her first love. So enjoy this stage Cos u might not get it again.
In psychology it is known as the Oedipus/Electra Complex. The child literally falls in love with the parent of the opposite sex. It is considered a "normal" part of childhood development, but it's important to note that it can lead to "abnormal" personality in adult it. In essence, the behavior is normal, but the parents interpretation and reaction to the behavior is what leads to abnormality. Your daughter is 2 years old, she does not think the way adults do. Often times we interpret adolescent behavior as adults. She is in love with you from an emotional standpoint and a physical one. Some children with this complex can actually become violent toward the other parent. Plainly put, it's not what your daughter has seen, it's just her biology. All you can do is tell her appropriate ways to show her affection, and explain to her that the kind of love that she has for you is the kind you have for her mother. Then, tell her that the kind you have for her is much more special, and you show that love with hugs (this redirects the inappropriate behavior into something that is socially acceptable).
She is not a bad child, but the behavior is inappropriate. Children eventually out grow it. It's also very important for you to understand that the relationship between father and daughter is very special. The way you interact with your daughter often determines the way she will interact with the opposite sex when she gets older. Everyone knows someone with "daddy issues" and this is where it starts. Show your daughter that the kind of love you have for her is different from the kind you have for her mother.
Eden O, MD
It has nothing to do with what your daughter has seen others do. She is only expressing her personal feelings. Often times, as Nigerians we attribute psychological problems to spiritual or observational problems. She is not possessed, and she is not being abused. Her behavior is not sexual, it is emotional. Sometimes education makes all the difference.
The old lady in your street that everyone calls a witch is probably suffering from psychosis. Most of the "mad" people roaming the streets are schizophrenic. It makes me skringe when I hear (educated) people say things are spiritual problems. So the fact that laziness is the reason why someone is unsuccessful is less likely than the idea that their dead grandmother is the cause of their problems?
We all have to be better, and we have to do better!
Eden O, MD
Please shut up about family planning. He's raising his kids together.
Maybe someone is sexually abusing her or she's watching adult content shows on TV? I think you should ask her where she learned it from, then go from there.
it is basic psychology called electra complex. she just in a phallic stage. it will die out soon. have no fear.
He said first daughter not first born FYI
caution her if u dont like it.. patoswife@gmail.com
Na normal Thing jor bt e b like say na u no normal bro. Hw cn u hv 3 kids nd d first is 2+??? Haba nw, una b fowl?
if she no kiss u go say she nor love u....now she's kissing nd ur coming on here to complain...human beings r actually insatiable....boo ur daughter just adores u...#DAS-ALL
Chai no news today ooo
My broda am nt a parent yet but dat child must hv been seeing tins like dat tru tv or evn tru d parents or sm 1 in dat house does it 2 her so tell d mom 2 be watchful and make sure any tin lyk dat dosnt happen in her presence children hears dey learn and @ dt age she already kws wt romance means ehisarthur@yahoo.com
He said his first daughter is 2+, not his first child.
Your daughter is fine and normal. You have to know that baby girls are usually closer to or prefer being closer to dad than mom. And baby boys around d same age prefer being closer to mom than dad. So your good. I will advice you to buy or get books on infants and read about children growing up and stages they go through. I will really help you. I'm speaking from in speaking from experience. Thanks
Your daughter is doing what she sees people do, probably u and her mum or movies cos they learn so fast. She is practising it out of her innocence believing it's normal. If u aren't comfortable with that, u can lovingly divert her lips to your cheek.
He didn't say d first but d first daughter.....
Hello LIB male.
Read up on Freudian Theory of Sexuality in Children, it might help.
Erica
Exactly! I think she picked it up from somewhere, if it's too awkward for you, watch the materials she is exposed to. Kids at this age learn fast
U fool! He said 1st daughter... obviously the 1st child is the boy...
THIS IS VERY NORMAL ,HAVE MINE ALSO SHE WAS ACTING THAT WAY ,BUT NOW IS IS SEVEN YEARS OLD SOMETIMES SHE KISS ME OR SOMETIME NOT
but IN PREVIOUS SH USED TO KISS my chic ,my head my head ,and i was so very happy with that
It is very normal. my lil nephew is like that too. you show dem love by hugging nd kissing them, they do the same. they wont do it to their teachers cos their teachers dont kiss them. its just that age and its her way of show love to u nothing more.
Hello, please just ask her questions to be sure, no adults is abusing her and teaching her such. There are lots of adults that abuse children these days and you do not want to just ignore it like that. I also advice you get her a kiddies video that teaches and protects them from abuse.(there is one done by Praise Fowowe)contact him on twitter to know how to get them.
I don't have kids yet but i think its an innocent act. Try and monitor wt ur kids watch, who they play with and even what u and their mum do in their presence.
@ Bianca BRUNO, he said first daughter....not necessarily means first child.
actually, we all no that a new born baby, their brain is always void, that accumulate what ever they see, maybe she has seen u and ur wife playing, or seen someone in ur house doing it, or someone is doing it 2 her. so just watch her closely and discover where she is learning such act from.
I suggest you watch what you do around her. Are you fond of kissing her mum in her presence? She could be imitating you. I have a daughter who is 1 year and four months old yet she smiles and laffs knowingly anytime my hubby and I hug in her presence so we had to stop it. Also, mind what she watches on tv some of those cartoons are best suited for adults. The children we are having these days are more aware of the things happening around them than us in those days. All the best!
Hello Mr,
You don't have to fret. I advice you get on Baby Centre and you will be notified of any change in your ward's behaviour. My son is 2+ and my hubby and I get a full load of unusual affection esp kisses. Enjoy it while it lasts.
You really have to handle this with utmost care and love.It may have been that she is acting out of love for you,or maybe trying to kiss you the way mum kisses you or she is being abused by an "uncle",either in school or at home who does it to her.Mean while your wife has a big role to play here,get her involved.She should observe her daughter closely.Get to know the uncles at home and in school,the friends she plays with in school and at home, and the kind of movies she sees at home too.Then,you know she should bring her closer,and try asking her some questions to really know where she learnt it .
young Man you need prayers yourself not the innocent little girl, see where your mind is going Oloshi BABA, leave the little alone jo.. she just like you and is fun of her DADY.. yeye Dady.
Girls are closer to their dads
its a stage of her life, its called PHILIA in psychology. common among the girl child.
This is why enlightenment is key... you need to meet a psychologist.. according to Freud, a popular psychologist; children tend to exhibit these sort of behaviour at this age .... email me and I could give you a contact to reach bluntendsandsharpedges@gmail.com
Olodo oshi...1st daughter not first child....
Linda, pls let this get to him. There's sth c0alled the electra complex in psychoanalysis, some children exhibit it more than others. In fact, if she's a strong 'electra', she'll begin 2 hate her mother soon for being close to you. Fact is, there's nothing wrong w her. Your role is 2 gently, gradually but firmly show her that ur wife is the only person u can have that sort of relationship with. Still, u have 2 be careful and calculated in this; the girlchild is delicate, u need 2 remain her first love and build her confidence for her. No biggie, trust me.
I have a daughter who is 3+ and began about the same time to exhibit such characters. I have also observed that she has other "matured" expressions and language which is a copy and paste from cartoons of these days.
My advice is to watch watch she watches on TV 'cause what use to be adult expressions have now been shown to kids in the form of "innocent" but sublimal TV messages.
These days myself or my wife must watch TV with her or frequently review her programmes.
In our days we grew up in jet age, today they are groing up with >speed of light. Beware!
omg! are you serious???? it's not a issue for a 2yr old to kiss her dad!?
im actually surprised that this is even a question! does he not kiss his young daughter anyway!!!!???? and if not, why not????
Read well ode! He said his first daughter
exactly! why is he uncomfortable with his 2yr old daughter showing affection?????
or maybe! just maybe, she wnats to show affection to her dad.
what is wrong in that!????
Nigerians and their lack of affection! KMT
This is called Oedipal complex in the phallic stage of psychosexual development. It is normal at this stage for a girl child to be attach to her father and a male child to his mother.
You.ve only pecked your little girl once????
WOWOWOWOWOWWWW
OMG it's not that deep!!!!!!
there is nothing wrong with a little girl showing her dad some love
well according to the commenters....fathers dont kiss their little girls in Nigeria. How bloody strange
Although this behaviour could be considered normal for a child her age; who mimics what she sees on telly or her surrounds you should also ask her if anyone has or tried to do such acts with her. There could be a threat of sexual abuse. Other commenters please observe your child's behavior most times these could be tell tale signs of sexual abuse or inappropriate closeness between an adult (or child) and your own child.
he should pray that his 2 yr old daughter stops kissing him.
I've officially given up on Nigerians. Or should I ay NIgerians in Nigeria. you guys are fucking demented!!!!!
Anonymous 9.19 was straight on point!
Watch the people you leave your daughter with maybe neighbors,helps, uncles or whatever.
Ask your daughter questions and you might be shocked @ what you might hear.
To be candid parents need to be very careful especially at times like this.
The kind of things that happen....
strange?
no! there is something strange with you!!!!
why the fuck should he stop his daughter from kissing him????
THE GIRL ISNT DOING ANYTHING WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hello Daddy, don't worry its normal. i have a 3 yrs old daughter that tells me every minute "mummy i love u" and she kisses me. That's how children express their tender side. Just watch what she is xposed to in terms on movies and all so as not to begin to replicate it. And also let her know u cannot kiss anyone else xcept mummy and daddy.
What is wrong with his 2 yr old daughter kissing him in that manner????
pedophile things!!!!!! while think such of a little girl? Every morning i drop my son at school,i give him a kiss and this makes him so happy ,....when i don't do that he doesn't smile or wave goodbye to me.. So i should start questioning his character right?
ITS NORMAL. MY DAUGHTER DOSE IT TO ME. I DONT THINK OF ANYTHING COS SHE IS JUST LIKE A MALE TO ME. SHE IS MY BLOOD
Its 2 things. 1. Its normal and she is just expressing what she sees on TV or what adults around do 2. There are some individuals portraying this on a regular note either to her or around her. Please check where and who she stays with during the day, if she attends school please go to the school and check with the her teacher if this character has been noted. This character is actually common amongst toddlers that have been abused.
I think you shouldn't take it too seriously, but monitor the things she sees especially on TV.
I think you shouldn't take it too seriously, but monitor the things she sees especially on TV.
My dear it is normal... They do what ppl do to them. It is just a sign of her innocence pls dnt discourage her by scolding her. Just pretend it is ok and kiss her back on the forehead.
Dear Concerned Dad, I am also a mum and i have two girls. Firstly, i have noticed that my last girl is really close to her dad and i try not to get worried. She holds him close, make him cuddle her to sleep eventhough i also do that also. Dont worry about it but at the same time. take some time to answer these few questions and make corrections were you figure any loop holes.
1. Do you have adults at home?
2. Do they bring in their boyfriends or girlfriends into your house?
3. Do you screen what they watch?
4. Do you kiss your wife whille they are around?
5. In churches or anywhere do you allow male strangers to kiss them in the mouth?
6. Do you kiss them in the mouth too?
and few other thngs you may suspect.
And finally, please take time to pray with them and rebuke any act that you considers negative in their lives and God will prove Himself Mighty in their lives.
It iw well with you IJN.
you have to be observant, hope someone has not been playfully doing that to her and she sees it as a normal play...open your eyes and observe abeg......
you have to be observant, hope someone has not been playfully doing that to her and she sees it as a normal play...open your eyes and observe abeg......
Dear Concerned Dad, I am also a mum and i have two girls. Firstly, i have noticed that my last girl is really close to her dad and i try not to get worried. She holds him close, make him cuddle her to sleep eventhough i also do that also. Dont worry about it but at the same time. take some time to answer these few questions and make corrections were you figure any loop holes.
1. Do you have adults at home?
2. Do they bring in their boyfriends or girlfriends into your house?
3. Do you screen what they watch?
4. Do you kiss your wife whille they are around?
5. In churches or anywhere do you allow male strangers to kiss them in the mouth?
6. Do you kiss them in the mouth too?
and few other thngs you may suspect.
And finally, please take time to pray with them and rebuke any act that you considers negative in their lives and God will prove Himself Mighty in their lives.
It iw well with you IJN.
Ur a pervert to tink odawise @ dat..mayb u hv previously molested little girls..sicko!
she's innocent of ur thought, she only express wht she see pple doing, this is just a sigh that she loves u. on daily bases i kiss my children and they also kiss me back.
I think it's normal since she gets kisses from her mum and relatives evry time dey carry her. My niece does that too. She's just doing what pple does to her.
Hormones @ 2? i don't think so. if it fell off then discourage her. she will grow out of it
1. Monitor the tv programmes she's allowed to watch, especially when you and mrs are away 2. Find out out if the nanny/help is bringing men to the house while you're away 3. Correct it by telling her to kiss your cheeks. Return the favor when she does. This is to re-inforce the preferable pattern of behaviour. Tell her lip kissing is for mummy and daddy only, and you wrote a special exam b4 you cld kiss mummy like that.
3 kids n d 1st daughter z 2+,maybe d boy z d 1st....itk like u
She's probably acting her age. It'll all fizzle out with tym
although its normal for kids @this age, then again, u can playfully ask her who taught her how to do that. she will tell u. also be mindful of what she watches on tv.
She is ok. But watch wat she sees on TV or her play group . I have a 2+ also and she is wonderful she comes home from school with new behaviors n stories to tell but it goes away with time as other things take up her attention . I tell u she will definitely do as she sees. Good luck though
She is only acting out what she has seen either in movies or from parents.......
i wouldnt say you should be concerned but ask her where she got the behaviour from
Read about oedipus/electra complex. A child's first love is her father. Girls between ages 2and 6 see their fathers as their best friends, confidant and what have you. So your daughter's behaviour is quite ok. It is proven by psychology. She is not alone, every girl child has the tendency to do that. Pls don't get a wrong signal about it.
Normal hugging thingss
I think it's normal cos my nephew does dat to me nd my siblings,it's jst a way of showing he/she cares nd loves yhu.....no big deal although u have to watch d kind of movies u watch when ur kids are around yhu cos they are young and pick up these things without knowing....u also have to be mindful of who watches them when yhu nd mummy are nt around nd also tel her to kiss only daddy and mommy nt anyone else.
jeez i cant believe this man is being abused for trying to be a cautious and concerned father..he stated she started this new behaviour a month ago, every parent should be aware of changes in their children #nigeriansneedtolearn
This jst a concern nd caring dad looking out for his daughter.....anyway I think it's normal for kids her age to show signs of love with kisses....cos my nephew does dat to me nd my siblings on daily basis bt when it's getting out of hand,yhu also try ur bst to caution her nd call her to order so she doesn't go outside nd do same to a stranger.
She has been watching a lot of telemundo soaps, lol.
Read well he said his first daughter is two and not first child
Dear writer,
ignore her. She is just being herself. U ve not seen anything. My daughter, less than two years raise my skirt up to see what is in there. Wants to go under her fathers boxer to see what is bigger than her. When I am naked, she hits my Ass and run laughing. Now, she is a twin and her twin brother does none of these.
Meanwhile, we don't have any other boy ard if not I would have said someone is abusing her. She does very funny things that if there was someone else with us, there would have been trouble. I and my Nanny will jokingly say we cast every Ashawo demon from your head. She is too inquisitive. Oh! She called her father honey! And laugh abt it. She will tell you hug! And hugs you and laugh, kisses you and laugh but her twin brother if you even ask him to kiss you, he will ignore you. Oh!! They ve not started schooling to say she is picking these up from school. Meanwhile she is so shy among strangers and won't allow you to come near her if she don't know you but her brother is social to a fault. In same vein, she is caring, giving and very motherly in her age, she wants to Cary baby. She is the first yo recognize the presence of a baby ard. Loves her pet dog and tours. My guy, free yourself. Good created us women differently.
CHILDREN MIMIC EVERYTHING AT THIS AGE..SHE MUST HAVE SEEN THIS ON TV, OR U AND UR SPOUSE? THE WORST CASE SCENARIO IS MAYBE A HOUSEHELP DOING THIS WITH HER...IF U DONT LIKE THE LOOK OF IT ...DONT ALLOW SHOWS WITH PPL MAKING OUT
This guy has serious mind issues. You need to cleanse your mind oh. Why linking dirty stuff to an innocent 2yr old's kisses. Wonders will never end.
I don't mean to insult you but are you for real???? Yoru daughter is showing all the signs of someone who isbeing sexually abused and you are bewildered? where do you live? On a tree? Wake up sharply! sit her down and ask her persistently and wisely who kisses her the way she wants to kiss you or who touches her in places she shoudlnt be touched. Do it quick before you loose the little girl you have and are left with a woman in a small girl's body!
First daughter is 2+ not the 1st child .read well
Trust its just normal...i don't have kids but i have a god daughter and she does that all the time..i guess it's her way of showing you she loves you so very much
exactly! he is the on behaving strange
Ahhh yes dear. "She will do it jealously " my 3yr ol daughter is like worse off sef, caresses, kisses prefers her dad n male visitors. , caught her touchn her clit while sucking her fingers. Thing is the house maid been doing that to her long before I figured it took me about 8 months to unlearn d habit n teach her her body parts n no go areas. I was worried ohh n really scared! My son who is 8 does almost same thing but I teach them. Go through the process but not into the process if you aroused by her caresses n kisses go see a shrink u maybe closeted pervert!
I think the problem is you. naturally, female children feel protected by their dad's love which will, in turn, reduce as they grow older and such affection will now be transferred on their boyfrds. For even thinking otherwise of a child of 2yrs it means one should be careful around you that is, if that girl is not ur daughter, u can possibly abuse her sexually!
First daughter, not first child.
My brother there's no casuse for alarm, your daughter is just reacting to some activities around her maybe thing she's has being seeing on the TV or someone kissing in her present, that could be you and your wife it is very normal because even my own 3years old boy does that sometime ago to me and his mum what we did was that when ever he wants to kiss we give him our cheeks or forehead to kiss and we made him understand you don't kiss mouth to mouth and now he we never kiss you mouth to mouth even if you want to kiss him he gives you his cheeks.try not to kiss her mouth to mouth and don't you ever do any mistake of trying to avoid her kissing you mouth to mouth, you just stylishly avoid it or else she might feel otherwise. All the best.
lmaoooo, Nigerians and the stupid thinking, she's in a stage of her life called the electra complex. she gets more attached to the father and sees the mom as a competitor. so its normal sir
I have a 2 year old daughter who is doing the same thing. Every day she comes back from daycare, she holds my head looks me in eye and tells me she missed while planting kisses all over my face and it goes on and on. Please don't read any meaning into it unless there are other reasons to feel otherwise .
I think what the kid is doing is normal.
and is there something you're not telling us? see, if you feel sexually arose whenever your daughter does that to you, then you're the one who has problem.
check yourself!
You are the one who needs help! Not the innocent lil girl! you better de pray oooooooo!
i guess shes just showing she loves you. if you feel otherwise ,then pray for her. it's kind of normal in the western world. children show their love by kissing you
Hope no man is doing that to her? Watch her well please, i feel it is not normal.
It is a normal behaviour for children between the ages of 3-6 years old. It called the PHALLIC stage in child development. You can google "Phallic stage" and read more about child development. It will help u a whole lot. Here it goes....
The phallic stage is the third stage of psychosexual development, spanning the ages of three to six years, wherein the infant’s libido (desire) centers upon his or her genitalia as the erogenous zone. When children become aware of their bodies, the bodies of other children, and the bodies of their parents, they gratify physical curiosity by undressing and exploring each other and their genitals, the center of the phallic stage, in course of which they learn the physical differences between “male” and “female”, and the gender differences between “boy” and “girl”, experiences which alter the psychologic dynamics of the parent and child relationship. The phallic stage is the third of five Freudian psychosexual development stages: (i) the oral, (ii) the anal, (iii) the phallic, (iv)the latent, and (v) the genital.
Sumone actually said pray for her.............ontop wetin na.....smh......she is jst a child, read no extra meaning to it, oda dan she loves bein affectionate to her dad. U beta enjoy d love u r gettin now, when she gets older u will not even smell a hug.
My daughter does that with her dad and I all the time. She's just showing you affection, relax.
Do you have kids at all?
its a normal reaction from kids, am a mother of two bois , and the baby who is 2+ wanna kiss u all the time, its called adoration and bonding ITs nothing to worry about
See this man oooo! I used to dance for my dad as a big chubby 7year old! Biko this is totally normal. Watch how she will soon not have your time in a year or two. Kiss ke! Abegi!!!
This a pretty normal behavior for kids at this age because this is when they will do everything they see (imitation).
HOWEVER, you might want to pay close attention to who is hanging around your baby girl, especially the male characters. Child molesters have no age limit. If you suspect anything, have her mommy check down below to make sure everything is what they should be.
As a mom, the prevalency of child molestation in our society now is what keeps me from putting my kids in babysitter, etc. I keep a close watch on who is around my kids.
Someone has been doing that to your daughter thats y, maybe she has been or is being molested, i know a little boy (3yrs) that used to do that, appearently the house help use to touch the boy and do stuffs with him when his parents were not home,
Check/ secrectly watch the people you leave ur child with, they have done or are doing something wrong to that little girl,
Would have said TV, but for her to copy TV, that means she must have watched it alot, like a whole lot, but i doubt that, someone may be doing something to her and she feels it's normal.
Go and save your child o!!!
Don't let them damage her
Haba na wa for this father o, for a 2yrs old girl. ..pls nxt
It's normal...
Hw did pervert enter here nw? Hes sharing something troubling nd u r here calling him names.say wat u hv to say nd shut it
People are so shallow minded, hes jst a scared dad trying to figure out if his little baby is alright nd some fools jst speak witout thinking.
If you have a maid ranging 4rm age 8-12... then dnt be surprised. It's all coming 4rm the maid. The child is extremely young and learns even the least. Avoid horror and romance movies in the child's presence also.
The little girl obviously loves and adores you. It is sooooo normal. I am a woman with 2 sons and my younger son is my boyfriend. He dotes on me. Gives pecks and hugs....that's his way of saying "I love you mommy". As a matter of fact if he doesn't do any of those, i reach out to him to know he is alright.
It has to do with the child's developmental psychology. At that age, she'll definitely be attracted to a male figure in the house but the phase passes by as she grows. You are lucky she's not attracted to your wife...lol.
Most reasonable answer here... she has probably seen U n ur wife kiss so to her it doesn't really mean much... just be careful wat U do in front of ur kids
Lol. Hormonal changes at age 2+ ?
Obviously, she sees you kissing her Mom or watches it on TV. Which ever way, you need to be cautious. It is what they see that they do and at their tender age, their brain grasps so much.
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