Dear LIB readers: Should I forget this man or pay for the wedding?
From a female LIB reader
I have dated my fiance for 5years now. Whenever I ask him
about our marriage plans, he keeps telling me he doesn't have enough
money for the wedding. This guy earns 170k monthly while I earn
100k. I told him I have some cash I made from a supply, can't we use it
for the wedding? He said its okay by him. His mother called me from Benin
last week and said the son told him about our marriage arrangement, that
she has mapped out the wedding expenses. To my greatest surprise she
gave me an amount I can't really explain. I have 3milion on me while she
said everything will cost 4million both for the traditional and white
wedding. my wedding gown is not included, his suit is not included. Should I
forget this man and move on with my life or release all the money I have for the wedding? I am troubled at the moment. I am so confused. Please advise
My family sponsored 100% of my wedding. For almost 5 years aftr I paid rent bills tire sotay his parents started demanding financial help for his siblings
Don't drop dat money, I am not sure d guy want d wedding yet & there is no award 4 d most expensive wedding. I think u should half d money & save d rest for your children & even after wedding something goes wrong you ve something to fall back to. Watch your step, his mother not be planning your wedding for you.
Pls dnt.bcos as it seems d guy nd d mum has a plan, U̶̲̥̅̊ will nt b d one to marry urself wit ur own money,such marriage will nt last cos he will b tinking U̶̲̥̅̊ are too desperate to get married so anytin he does to U̶̲̥̅̊ after on his ok by him,d best U̶̲̥̅̊ can D̶̲̥̅̊ǿ is to assist him wit d wedding,
You people that are throwing curses at her my dear it is her choice. Do you think it is easily to get men to marry these days. Talk less the rich ones. My dear use your head. Look at the long run nd nt the short run. There is nothing wrong in helping each other to build. Talk to him about his financial status nd plans especially after the wedding before dropping anything. Don't drop everything you have. U cud giv max. 2m. Nd cut ur expenses
i don't think there's anything wrong with a woman sponsoring her own wedding at least her part of the wedding but if the man does not even make any effort to contribute or help then that's BS!!!.... FYI do not give the money to your mother in-law she trying girl...
3 million is more than enough to have a wedding...big shame on them for adding to the cost when they cannot even provide anything to help..and shame on your man too for being weak!!! yuck!
Leave Him Very Fast, He Have Planned the Whole Tin With His Mother, They Dont Like You. There Are Many Good And Trusted Men Out There Searching. Dont Pay, it is even above The Law.
This is ridiculous!It's not all relationship that lead to marriage, you guys are not met to be husband and wife Let him go.you don't force a man to marry you.its not right.Your husband will come.
soo u never hear about Divorce after weeding. dnt be surprise wen ur so-called husband will seak for divorce after just few months of the d wedding nd by den you will be an empty woman
babe, if u choose to pay that bill, u will be the biggest fool of the century...sweet heart, abeg flee, commot ur shoe, place it on your head and flee!!!
babe, if u choose to pay that bill, u will be the biggest fool of the century...sweet heart, abeg flee, commot ur shoe, place it on your head and flee!!!
soo u never hear about Divorce after weeding. dnt be surprise wen ur so-called husband will seak for divorce after just few months of the d wedding nd by den you will be an empty woman
Please leave him oooo. As soon as you come out of this relationship, a better and more deserving man would come and you would wonder why you have been wasting your time all these years. Keep your money for something better biko.
I swear they will invest your money on land property... Remove ur shoe from ur legs n start to run till he can see u no More..!that guy is not interested..he needs the money more than U shikeNa
My dear, guys have massive egos. Sponsoring that wedding can become the beginning of your problems. Men have been taught that they are supposed to be the providers, so when a woman starts to do their job their egos will make them lash out at you, and everything you do will become a problem (even so much as giving him warm water to drink instead of cold water). i am speaking from experience. The wedding does not have to be a big one, both of you can chip in, pay for stuff piece meal every month, until the wedding day. Do not use that money for the wedding, instead use it for an investment that can improve both your lives after the wedding.The ceremony is not the important part of a wedding, it the marriage (i.e. the life after) You have to show wisdom from the onset
Now dont make me angry!!!! If You must help out, you should do that with about40% of the total budget while he brings in the remaining 60% if not make everybody go siddon! Thank God for men like my hussy...hmmm
My dear sisi, why pay for the wedding - what does he do with his money? If you do this, you have bondage yourself and you will never be happy in life. Better look for run if you have not done that. #nest.
My dear, if you want to remain happy in life & after "your" wedding then do yourself a favor and save that money for your future instead. Some men are so unbelievable these days. He probably doesn't want to be married. What happened to a small trad, court registry and church blessing? Many years later you both can afford the type of wedding you want if you put that money to good use NOW!. Yeah, you've spent 5yrs with each other don't be afraid to close the curtains dear. Finance is a huge part of marriage.
I tire oo! Plus that mother will/may use it to insult you later in future. You are not desperate sweetie, 5yrs yes but you have more years ahead of you to live a happy and purposeful life. Don't be ashamed, same way you shared with Linda, talk to Your mother
Som peeps can dey ask funny question. Who suppose giv who list? D guy mama sef na winch!!! Babe if u get any iota of common sense, run as if d devil is chasing u! Y u go dey relationship for 5yrs wen d guy dey collect 170K, una b twins?
pls my sister...you are a beautiful woman...every guys dream...u hv a job also...pls nd pls leave the guy...he is a very stupid person...he wants to use u to play maga..pls oo...dir r oda responsible, rich, handsome guys out dir...u can come nd marry my brova sef...lol
A piece of advice to young women and ladies :-). Don't let your partner know how much you have! Forget the selfish part, it will benefit you both more later in life to bring your "emergency funds" out when in dire situations. I work in a financial institution and KNOW what I'm on about.
Are u sure both son n mum are not in with a mugu? Besides are u marrying urself? If u pay for d wedding and it manages to pull off still (Which i doubt) u'll pay for everything else afterwards n this can be frustrating. Wise up girl true love will find you n take care of itself including the great challenges! Wish you God's wisdom.
i hope you read my comment. This man and his mum does not wamt you,That is the reason why she planned a 4million naira wedding for you and her son knowing fully well that you are the one who offered to pay,this is just a plot to frustrate you so you can back out. My dear men dont say No ,they give u signs and this is one.
I wonder why the rush for wedding will make ladies of nowadays so desperate as to footing the wedding bill. Where is the pride of the man. You had better get to you senses and do what you are supposed to do. I guess u have not told your parents what u plan doin
Edo guys shaa...very lazy set that like their women to do everything. Anyways, BASED ON THIS STORY(we all know there are two sides 2 a coin)I advice u save ur money huni, there r loads of fish in d sea. That guy doesn't see you worth spending money on, reason y he's not ready 2 contribute.
Edo guys shaa...very lazy set that like their women to do everything. Anyways, BASED ON THIS STORY(we all know there are two sides 2 a coin)I advice u save ur money huni, there r loads of fish in d sea. That guy doesn't see you worth spending money on, reason y he's not ready 2 contribute.
Yes U re vry right,he dosnt even love U if a guy earnin 170k can't sponsor his weddin ,even if nt all but atleast he sud b d one to lead in terms of dat
my dear r u under a curse, run 4 ur life cos both ur bf n his mother are shameless n u'll be d person to pay for your children's schl fees in d future.....hmmm except there's something you are not saying.
C me c local trouble,na u go pay d groom price abi? Na charm dem do u? Wetin d guy get wey oda men no get? Abeg comot slippers tear race joh. 4million, dey mama sef dey craze?
I think the parent and the boy want to swindle her. She should move on abeg. The fact that the 4 million doesnt even include gown and suit speaks volume. It means they do not plan to have a wedding. They either just want a feast for the whole of benin kingdom or they plan on running away with the money. Please kindly advice this girl to run linda. We are still in Africa. A very successful wedding can still happen with just a Million Naira or less and the couple will live happily ever after. Linda,please give the girl my number or something. I wanna talk to her head. There are a million gals who would marry her just coz she even has a job at hand and she wont be a liability to them. Linda please send this message to her personally. I feel bad that its going to happen if nobody cautions her. She should not put sentiments in this. Any man that allows a woman to pay all the bills for their wedding is not fit to be called a man. Infact the bible says that such men are worst than infidels......abeg Linda ,help me beg this gal stop and think,DROP THE IDILOT MAN ,STOP PICKING HIS CALL<change ur house,ur number and run away from him for life. The only time you should see him is when you are married to another man. RUN!
Babe pls run as fast as u can,u re going to have a miserable marriage with him. I know someone who earns 40k in a month and was still able to wed my friend last year after almost 2yrs of marriag. Let alone an idiot that earns above that month and for 5yrs. And I'm sorry to say that ur mother in law is shameless
I'm really worried about you dear... Plz forget this guy. You were with him for 5 years and he never proposed and now he wants you to pay for the wedding. He's a scumbag and his mother is mean. I think they don't want you in their lives. Honey, its time to let go.
I've never heard of a woman heading wedding plans or making arrangements or making all the decisions. That thing you want to marry is not a man, and his mother should not contact you directly or even be doing your biddings. Run AWAY while you still can, you'll definitely find someone responsible enough to take you as a wife.
My dear.plz I undstand you r so much in luv wit this guy.bt I want u 2 knw that this guy is nt ur husband.run 4 ur dear life bcos if by 2mrw u refuse 2 bring out money 4 their up keep its going 2 b fire 4 fire.tradition demands that a man will marry a wife not d oda way round.nt u marring ur husband or urself.u may find it difficult 2 say good bye, bt I knw u can do it.m I wsnt able 2 leave my relationship of 5yrs 2 bcos I ws so much in luv bt then, I had mk up my mind nd tk a walk.make up mind.he doesnt wnt 2 marry u
My dear.plz I undstand you r so much in luv wit this guy.bt I want u 2 knw that this guy is nt ur husband.run 4 ur dear life bcos if by 2mrw u refuse 2 bring out money 4 their up keep its going 2 b fire 4 fire.tradition demands that a man will marry a wife not d oda way round.nt u marring ur husband or urself.u may find it difficult 2 say good bye, bt I knw u can do it.m I wsnt able 2 leave my relationship of 5yrs 2 bcos I ws so much in luv bt then, I had mk up my mind nd tk a walk.make up mind.he doesnt wnt 2 marry u
why would u be confused at all? first of what does the joker do with his own money, why would his mum be the one to give u the bill (except obviously u are the one marrying him) and finally why that much on a wedding going by how much you both earn, your salaries put together wouldn't even amount to that in a year! see what this party madness and competition has cause in 9ja
Is this a joke or something? like seriously? pay for what shit? my own wedding? if a man doesnt want to marry you, why marry him? can two walk together except they agree? or u just wanna bear "married"?
What happened to your life? pls go get it back, dear.
please forget this joker.he will mess you up in life. if he is askig for support then its understandable but to sponsor the whole expenses of the wedding is madness. are you that desperate to marry him and he cannot handle simple wedding expenses. please open your eyes and move on. No hard feeling
the guy is a fool and his family is gonna use you and dry you up. they will all depend on you for the rest days of your life. when you are done, they will ask him to go and marry another wife cos it is you that married him. please dump his silly ass and move on please.
Are you buying husband or what? Is he the only man on earth that you have to go penury before you can have him? Tell you what u need to run for your there life ur guy is a thief and unserious fellow who want to reap wtout sowing.
Some relationship definition has more value to some marriage definition, The wedding certificate doesn't guarantee you happiness, try to cut it to your size, he may blame you later and even call you names like ''Desperate'', if he want you as you do want him , he won't push his responsible on you alone ,. My name is R@lph , this my first comment on this blog, I love you Linda, I wish we can go on date but I know you are too busy, but if God wish, it will be.
What baffles me is her statement " his suit is not included" you want to buy his suit tooooooooooo haba woman!!!!!!! There is no later Comer in marriage, pls take your time.
Even a blind person can see that this guy does not want to marry you. When a man wants a woman, he will do what ever it takes to make her his wife. Sorry to say but he does not value you. By even asking him and begging him to get married, you have sold your self short. If a man cannot bring up and initiate marriage plans after 5 years, you need to leave him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your know in your heart that,this guy does not want you and does not want to marry you and even if you drop the fund, no wedding still..shine your heart and leave that hopeless dude alone
My dear, i understand you love this man and want to settle down with him. But trust me you are about to make the biggest mistake of your life, for starters your family should prepare the list of expenses not the other way round,with the way you are going it looks like you are the one asking for the man's hand in marriage, he doesn't even want to meet you half way. please dear, be patient and pray for your true husband and invest your money in something that will fetch profits. Be wise.
he is not ready for marriage so dont force him.(2)no mother of descent upbringing and who has self respect will call her daughter in law and be giving her price of the wedding plans.3)he is the one to wed u and pay half or more of the money for the wedding.4)for your own good call off the wedding plans and start a new life.if u start feeding him now u will continue for the rest of your life and don't be shocked they want to use your money to marry someone else for him.even the bible stipulates that the man is the head and the provider.find someone else and dont act desperate.
lmao.... linda o. what will i not hear. i believe the man is marrying his wife. afterall u are leaving your home to move in with him. if he cannot finance the wedding then what is the point. lets me frank no woman should sit on her butt waiting for her husband to provide everything for her. u are suppose to contribute to your wedding. but u do not pay for ur own wedding. ur man is the leader let him lead. from ur tale i can tell that u are the one who loves him more and he just manages u... young lady shine ur eyes o. the marriages that work are the ones whereby the man loves the woman more. cause men are not steady at all.. even my father tells me to marry a man who loves me more than i do. what does ur mother teach u.... u just make me laugh. u would use ur whole savings to carry yourself from frypan to fire. hmmmm. do whatever pleases u. but dont come here and complain because u are the one begging the man to marry u not the man begging u. and well since u are the beggar if he gives u 5 naira pls pls and pls be content with it.... dont come up here thinking u demand 100 naira since u belittled urself. may my daughters never be this stupid... such rubbish
My gal, Don't be silly. Use ur head. The family obviously have no shame; they can afford to give u a list worth N3M. If u give them the money,3 things are certain: 1. U are stupid and stink of desperacy. 2. U will not be happy as u have bought the ‘institution of marriage’ which the Lord meant for u to get freely. 3. U will have married a man with no true sense of value for himself, much less u. By all means when the planning is in unison support him as a wife/partner, take some expenses to urself whilst he takes the rest/bulk. Better run for ur dear life from this family of suckers, as the money will definitely be used to marry a woman who has more sense than u, whilst u are left hanging.
Hehehe....another clear case of "One chance"....As u dey pay for the wedding...pls get ready to also pay for the antenatal care expenses, raising ur kids, their school fees, una house rent, fueling the gen, etc! Arrant Nonesense! After 5yrs, and with 70k higher than ur pay, he's still singing this old song, my dear, don't just walk away....FLY AWAY from that leech! Hian!
This still boils down to the question i've always been asking, which is "Must every woman gets married?" To beginning with:if you marry that guy, you are getting married in to a shameless family and just be prepared to foot the bill of all expenses that may emerge from that family after the wedding (that is aside their proposed 4million). you will be paying for factually everything until you're tired of this expenses and opt out.
Remember you're the potential bride whose potential husband's family is suppose to bring wedding things to ( please dont get me wrong, i am not saying that you shouldnt support you husband) not the other way round.
However, why would you spend 3million on a wedding let-alone of the 4million they are requesting for? #justaskingnoni#. i got married February 1st and the total amount we spent on our wedding was not up to 1million (i know you and some other people will say is because we didnt have the money, which is not true).
Hubby and I didnt inform any of our family members of our Registry because we dont need our parents' consent to get married and all we spend on that was just N5000. it was after the registry that we informed the the parents of our intentions and we told them we were not going to spend much on the church marriage (anybody that wishes to "over-do" should bring money out of his/her pocket #gbam#)
So my dear sister, shine your eyes so that you will make the greatest mistake of your life. If the guy does have enough money, you guyz should make do with only court marriage.
I also think why men are running from getting married now-a-days is because of the overzealousness of we ladies which i think we should look into.
Some ladies are ready to spend their husband's life savings on "a day" event and be starving after wedding....... Please lets watch that
forget him jo, if he's earning more than you and he cant chip in for the wedding. when you eventually get married, he wont chip in for anything, plus i dont think he loves you if he want you to pay for the wedding even though he earns mor than you!
Pls don't start what you can finish. marriage is until death do you apart, so think before you enter. you want to pay you bride price and the same time wed yourself. i can only advice you to assist when he is ready but if he is not pls wait for Mr. right. don't rush in and rush out; Gods time is the best.shalom
We are Africans. Our culture dictates that the man should pay for his bride. Not only is it cultural but it is also biblical. He doesn't want you. Some men see the woman they want to marry and they run to the alter with their last just to make that woman their wife. If you pay for this marriage you will regret it believe me. Pray you open your eyes . Best wishes
loooooool sister it is painful but pls dump hi like yesterday's gabbage before he says you forced him to marry you when iots time to pay for the kids fees and other matters arise,he will expect you to pay,and slap his mum and tell her she should b ashamed of raising such broke son
This has got to be the most stupid post ive read here!!! Linda please stop posting everything naaa.. what kinda dull lady is this??? pay for the whole wedding not like your fam is rich sef, your BLOODY savings!!! na wa oo!! wonders shall never end..HIAN!!you can as well buy him a wedding gift and pay for your honeymoon after it..Ewu Portugal..
if u fund the wedding God no go 4get u, run for ur dear life, if he truly loves u, the eagerness will be there ,it obvious the dude doesn't deserve u. invest Ur money in more profitable business. 4million ke? nah heaven unah wan wed nii?
My dear, this sounds just exactly like what my friend went through some six years ago,hope its not the same guy.The Guy and his mum are both con artists,the mum also lives in benin.They nearly milked my friend dry before she soji herself.My advice RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN
You are a fool for accepting to sponsor the wedding and you would be a bigger fool if you bring out the cash. Then you would be the biggest fool after the wedding. And we leaves you to marry another after killing you then you would be the worst fool ever.
they guy and his mum want arrange you. its a plan work..why should the mum send to you the cost of the wedding, would she allow that to happen to her daughter? scam!!!
Are u d one marrying d man or what? How could u even think of lavishing ur hard earn money on man only to impress him and his mother. If u don't know where to spend ur money spend it on your family. You have disclosed to a man ur total money can u do same to your family. Ladies, please allow men to make the move first.
Pay for wetin??? No try am oh!!! My mum even had to comment saying you should not even think of doing that. He's not a serious person neither is he ready to get married or be a man. So when you guys get married, it means you'll be the one to cater for your family be that......No try am oh!! Is it desperation that's making u do it or you're scared you won't find another man to love you....Do not make a mistake you'll forever regret
dont ever pay for ur wedding, else u are digging ur own grave, guys who earn less sponsor every bit of their wedding and still take care of their family after. he really doesn't want to marry you, if he seriously love u, he wouldn't be saying all that trash and i have a feeling he has conived with the mother, knowing fully well that you are bent on making a fool of yourself, so they hiked the expenses to scare you away. Pls run for ur dear life.
Hmm, wonderful but come to think of it is it his family that are to present the list or your family, babe the guy really wana eat u even financially. Sorry! but u are really in the wrong hand.
Heyyy! First or all, from a personal point of view, you shouldn't dear giving up all your savings! Leave Him!!!!
Then i would like you to check out. www.heatherllindsey.com Just go through all the topics and find the ones that apply to you. Please try and read it. There is a write up titled "why he won't marry you" and another titled "where is my ring". Just mentioning a few i read that i think would really help your story.
Is not advisable to embark on such wedding, what has he been doing with his salary that he can't save from it for wedding, and if u use ur money for d wedding, he will put house responsibilities on u, of which if u oblige he will tell u after all u are d one who want have matrimonial home. Pls think twice b4u embark on it. Don't do by fire by force wedding. He shld be d one marrying u not u.
Anyways I hope this babe gets to read this, CLOSE UR LEGS AND FLEE coz that nigga ain't got no respect for you no more. If he was trying to get another girl's number he is looking for something new and tired of the old. His beating confirmed this coz if he wanted what your giving so bad he will put up with whatever to get it but babe he is tired!!! So don't wait till ur fighting for your life to realise this! It ain't gonna get better so GO!!!
U dont fear God. Other wise u wunt waste ur parents effort to nuture u...n end up footin d bill o wedding of a man who earns more dan u. Tufiakwa..... am nt an ibo girl either... secondly....are u a learner? Dat dude ain't into u .... he is screwing someone else. Otherwise he will b eager to wed thee. Bad news. U shall grow old n embittered at d end cos one day u shal see his mothers approved girl. Its a pity hes using u to kip body and soul. 5 yearsssss. What the F**k...... leave him now.... go out...dress well...attract d right ppl...n favour will smile on u. U dnt knw u av d positive energy to create ur world . Do nt let any man or inlaw despise ur youth. Think about it.
Make una just go registry jare and do gest 2gerra, you dont need the whole world to come, afterall, they will still judge, so best thing, do small wedding, jeje
"He should support financially"... its suppose to be the other way round... your dad should give him the list. Then you will just help him buy your wedding dress shikena...in fact with this you should quit the relationship he's no good for you.
DONT MIND ALL THOSE TELLING U TO RUN AWAY, MOST OF THEM ARE ALL JEALOUS OF YOU. GO AHEAD AND PAY FOR THE WEDDING. IF UR SAVINGS IS ENOUGH, SELL UR PROPERTY OR UR PARENTS'. U MAY EVEN NEED TO GET A BANK LOAN IF THAT WLD NOT STILL BE ENOUGH. DONT LEAVE UR MAN COS IT IS DIFFICULT TO GET A "REALMAN" LIKE UR GUY. SOME "STUPID MEN" WLD HAVE WANTED TO PAY FOR THEIR WEDDING BUT A "WISE GUY" WLD ALLOW THE WOMAN TO PAY. HE IS THE "MAN". GO AHEAD AND MARRY HIM, NA MUMU DEY WORRY U AND UR ENTIRE FAMILY. NONSENSE
you are walking into scam,the boy has probably told his mother what to tell you,its like you are desperate,its not all about the ceremony its about marrying you!of which he can do in a little way,perhaps your family are the one to carry out the TM/WEDDING PLAN not your hobby to be mother,open your eyes or call me for more advice 08037451838
bt she is in love, lets understand her point of view. uhhmmmmm!!!! who ever u re BE WISE. DO YOU PAY THE BILLS WHEN YOU GO ON DATES OR DO U PAY HIS BILLS FOR HIM?
E BE LIKE SAY DEY DON GO WASH UR HEAD INSIDE RIVER. PLS GO AHEAD IF U CAN'T THINK STRAIGHT AND SEE THAT U DESERVE BETTER. OR THE BITTER TRUTH HE HAS SOMEONE ELSE IN MIND. MUMU LIKE U.
I will not insult u becuz loves makes us consider the most ridiculous things. Now . By this simple act from this guy ur dating and his mother have shown that they are selfish and wicked and if given the opportunity will drain u for life. Secondly, where is the humility? O gal, advise your self and move on . A sincere guy will draw u closer and try to see how u both can combine n put heads together than giving you the whole bill. Keep all ur moni biko. If its N 5 he has to do d wedding. U can add 1 naira. A man who really wants to marry u even if e no get work, will do all he can to make it happen because he loves u. Wickedness my dear ! Run.
Man was created to lead and woman to support. If the Mum is not ashamed of telling you such, then smell rat. Maybe your man knows the cost is high is reason for not showing interest. 1. Your own money isn't to lead, in the 4m, your husband should drop 2.5m while you support with 0.5m, reduce Bill to 3m. 2. Ensure your own money at least 1m - 1.5m to your own family preparation. 3. If with all, you notice your man is lean(pocket), drop some little change for you both wears. Never lead with your money as it makes them feel you want it more. Should they insist, please run.
Young Lady Please flee d dude his not committed at all after paying for the wedding you will be the one to manage the upkeep for the family. MARK MY WORDS.
pls run for ur life oooooo, they are planning somthing evil for u. y wud u be d one to bring money for the wedding. dont be so despirate to marry dat ponzo.let him be , u will find someone dat loves you. d wedding na 4million? if una wed finish e go enta guiness of record. mtcheew rubbisb. my dear run for ur life ooooo. evil man nd mum
dnt try such a huge mistake,walk out of d relationship and u would get a better man dat would propose 2 u and he would take u 2 d alter.d man has sumbody else where dat he wants 2 get married 2,wen u leave him he would get married 2 sumbody else after sum few month of seperation.d mother is nt a gud mother 2 all.
who is marrying who?why is his mother the 1 to give you the wedding budget,is the guy an ibecile?seriously u can go ahead sponsor the weddin and marry both him and his mother all in da name of love incase u re ova desperate n spend da rest of ur pitful life in misery!!!!EDO love for dat mata!!!!!
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The man does not want to marry her. She needs to leave asap
Ur comments r always so annoying. Jakes ko jakes ni
Don't drop dat money, I am not sure d guy want d wedding yet & there is no award 4 d most expensive wedding. I think u should half d money & save d rest for your children & even after wedding something goes wrong you ve something to fall back to. Watch your step, his mother not be planning your wedding for you.
Pls dnt.bcos as it seems d guy nd d mum has a plan, U̶̲̥̅̊ will nt b d one to marry urself wit ur own money,such marriage will nt last cos he will b tinking U̶̲̥̅̊ are too desperate to get married so anytin he does to U̶̲̥̅̊ after on his ok by him,d best U̶̲̥̅̊ can D̶̲̥̅̊ǿ is to assist him wit d wedding,
You people that are throwing curses at her my dear it is her choice. Do you think it is easily to get men to marry these days. Talk less the rich ones. My dear use your head. Look at the long run nd nt the short run. There is nothing wrong in helping each other to build. Talk to him about his financial status nd plans especially after the wedding before dropping anything. Don't drop everything you have. U cud giv max. 2m. Nd cut ur expenses
i don't think there's anything wrong with a woman sponsoring her own wedding at least her part of the wedding but if the man does not even make any effort to contribute or help then that's BS!!!.... FYI do not give the money to your mother in-law she trying girl...
3 million is more than enough to have a wedding...big shame on them for adding to the cost when they cannot even provide anything to help..and shame on your man too for being weak!!! yuck!
Please just leave the guy, with the mother request, it show how much d guy loves u...HE DOESN'T LOVE U!!!!
Leave Him Very Fast, He Have Planned the Whole Tin With His Mother, They Dont Like You. There Are Many Good And Trusted Men Out There Searching. Dont Pay, it is even above The Law.
U sound like u're d dude she's talking about!
This is ridiculous!It's not all relationship that lead to marriage, you guys are not met to be husband and wife Let him go.you don't force a man to marry you.its not right.Your husband will come.
u must be so desperate to do that
let go of the man pls
THERE IS A MAN GOD PREPARE FOR YOU,NOT HIM
JEEZ
Babe. Leave this guy!!!!!! Dont even wait to find out why. u will regret it in the future. Its a promise. Please pack ur things and run for your life
soo u never hear about Divorce after weeding. dnt be surprise wen ur so-called husband will seak for divorce after just few months of the d wedding nd by den you will be an empty woman
Lol
babe, if u choose to pay that bill, u will be the biggest fool of the century...sweet heart, abeg flee, commot ur shoe, place it on your head and flee!!!
babe, if u choose to pay that bill, u will be the biggest fool of the century...sweet heart, abeg flee, commot ur shoe, place it on your head and flee!!!
soo u never hear about Divorce after weeding. dnt be surprise wen ur so-called husband will seak for divorce after just few months of the d wedding nd by den you will be an empty woman
Totally agree with you...
babe take a walk! WTF is wrong with your thought process??!
Please leave him oooo. As soon as you come out of this relationship, a better and more deserving man would come and you would wonder why you have been wasting your time all these years. Keep your money for something better biko.
I swear they will invest your money on land property... Remove ur shoe from ur legs n start to run till he can see u no More..!that guy is not interested..he needs the money more than U shikeNa
My dear, guys have massive egos. Sponsoring that wedding can become the beginning of your problems. Men have been taught that they are supposed to be the providers, so when a woman starts to do their job their egos will make them lash out at you, and everything you do will become a problem (even so much as giving him warm water to drink instead of cold water). i am speaking from experience. The wedding does not have to be a big one, both of you can chip in, pay for stuff piece meal every month, until the wedding day. Do not use that money for the wedding, instead use it for an investment that can improve both your lives after the wedding.The ceremony is not the important part of a wedding, it the marriage (i.e. the life after) You have to show wisdom from the onset
Now dont make me angry!!!! If You must help out, you should do that with about40% of the total budget while he brings in the remaining 60% if not make everybody go siddon! Thank God for men like my hussy...hmmm
If you stay there and fund the wedding, you will fund everything else in your lives. He is an irresponsible guy from an irresponsible home
My dear sisi, why pay for the wedding - what does he do with his money? If you do this, you have bondage yourself and you will never be happy in life. Better look for run if you have not done that. #nest.
My dear, if you want to remain happy in life & after "your" wedding then do yourself a favor and save that money for your future instead. Some men are so unbelievable these days. He probably doesn't want to be married. What happened to a small trad, court registry and church blessing? Many years later you both can afford the type of wedding you want if you put that money to good use NOW!. Yeah, you've spent 5yrs with each other don't be afraid to close the curtains dear. Finance is a huge part of marriage.
I tire oo! Plus that mother will/may use it to insult you later in future. You are not desperate sweetie, 5yrs yes but you have more years ahead of you to live a happy and purposeful life. Don't be ashamed, same way you shared with Linda, talk to Your mother
Som peeps can dey ask funny question. Who suppose giv who list? D guy mama sef na winch!!! Babe if u get any iota of common sense, run as if d devil is chasing u! Y u go dey relationship for 5yrs wen d guy dey collect 170K, una b twins?
pls my sister...you are a beautiful woman...every guys dream...u hv a job also...pls nd pls leave the guy...he is a very stupid person...he wants to use u to play maga..pls oo...dir r oda responsible, rich, handsome guys out dir...u can come nd marry my brova sef...lol
A piece of advice to young women and ladies :-). Don't let your partner know how much you have! Forget the selfish part, it will benefit you both more later in life to bring your "emergency funds" out when in dire situations. I work in a financial institution and KNOW what I'm on about.
Did you delete my comment Linda? Not here!
pls cut the expenses and do it low key.let him also contribute .don't allow them suck u dry.
Are u sure both son n mum are not in with a mugu? Besides are u marrying urself? If u pay for d wedding and it manages to pull off still (Which i doubt) u'll pay for everything else afterwards n this can be frustrating. Wise up girl true love will find you n take care of itself including the great challenges! Wish you God's wisdom.
i hope you read my comment. This man and his mum does not wamt you,That is the reason why she planned a 4million naira wedding for you and her son knowing fully well that you are the one who offered to pay,this is just a plot to frustrate you so you can back out. My dear men dont say No ,they give u signs and this is one.
I wonder why the rush for wedding will make ladies of nowadays so desperate as to footing the wedding bill. Where is the pride of the man. You had better get to you senses and do what you are supposed to do. I guess u have not told your parents what u plan doin
Edo guys shaa...very lazy set that like their women to do everything. Anyways, BASED ON THIS STORY(we all know there are two sides 2 a coin)I advice u save ur money huni, there r loads of fish in d sea. That guy doesn't see you worth spending money on, reason y he's not ready 2 contribute.
Edo guys shaa...very lazy set that like their women to do everything. Anyways, BASED ON THIS STORY(we all know there are two sides 2 a coin)I advice u save ur money huni, there r loads of fish in d sea. That guy doesn't see you worth spending money on, reason y he's not ready 2 contribute.
Yes U re vry right,he dosnt even love U if a guy earnin 170k can't sponsor his weddin ,even if nt all but atleast he sud b d one to lead in terms of dat
its a scam run
Please move on!
my dear r u under a curse, run 4 ur life cos both ur bf n his mother are shameless n u'll be d person to pay for your children's schl fees in d future.....hmmm except there's something you are not saying.
C me c local trouble,na u go pay d groom price abi? Na charm dem do u? Wetin d guy get wey oda men no get? Abeg comot slippers tear race joh. 4million, dey mama sef dey craze?
Someone that has sense! Thank you
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Someone that has sense! Thank you
I think the parent and the boy want to swindle her. She should move on abeg. The fact that the 4 million doesnt even include gown and suit speaks volume. It means they do not plan to have a wedding. They either just want a feast for the whole of benin kingdom or they plan on running away with the money. Please kindly advice this girl to run linda. We are still in Africa. A very successful wedding can still happen with just a Million Naira or less and the couple will live happily ever after. Linda,please give the girl my number or something. I wanna talk to her head. There are a million gals who would marry her just coz she even has a job at hand and she wont be a liability to them. Linda please send this message to her personally. I feel bad that its going to happen if nobody cautions her. She should not put sentiments in this. Any man that allows a woman to pay all the bills for their wedding is not fit to be called a man. Infact the bible says that such men are worst than infidels......abeg Linda ,help me beg this gal stop and think,DROP THE IDILOT MAN ,STOP PICKING HIS CALL<change ur house,ur number and run away from him for life. The only time you should see him is when you are married to another man. RUN!
Babe pls run as fast as u can,u re going to have a miserable marriage with him. I know someone who earns 40k in a month and was still able to wed my friend last year after almost 2yrs of marriag. Let alone an idiot that earns above that month and for 5yrs. And I'm sorry to say that ur mother in law is shameless
Naso
Didn't u hear her say she got d money frm some supplies she made...mugu
Use ur head jor. Me, I just dey pass.
I'm really worried about you dear... Plz forget this guy. You were with him for 5 years and he never proposed and now he wants you to pay for the wedding. He's a scumbag and his mother is mean. I think they don't want you in their lives. Honey, its time to let go.
They want to dupe you. Run for your dear life. A word is enough for the wise.
I've never heard of a woman heading wedding plans or making arrangements or making all the decisions. That thing you want to marry is not a man, and his mother should not contact you directly or even be doing your biddings. Run AWAY while you still can, you'll definitely find someone responsible enough to take you as a wife.
Am sure you are advance in age that is why you are desperate to marry...it is left for you.
My dear.plz I undstand you r so much in luv wit this guy.bt I want u 2 knw that this guy is nt ur husband.run 4 ur dear life bcos if by 2mrw u refuse 2 bring out money 4 their up keep its going 2 b fire 4 fire.tradition demands that a man will marry a wife not d oda way round.nt u marring ur husband or urself.u may find it difficult 2 say good bye, bt I knw u can do it.m I wsnt able 2 leave my relationship of 5yrs 2 bcos I ws so much in luv bt then, I had mk up my mind nd tk a walk.make up mind.he doesnt wnt 2 marry u
Leave him and marry me. lol.
My dear.plz I undstand you r so much in luv wit this guy.bt I want u 2 knw that this guy is nt ur husband.run 4 ur dear life bcos if by 2mrw u refuse 2 bring out money 4 their up keep its going 2 b fire 4 fire.tradition demands that a man will marry a wife not d oda way round.nt u marring ur husband or urself.u may find it difficult 2 say good bye, bt I knw u can do it.m I wsnt able 2 leave my relationship of 5yrs 2 bcos I ws so much in luv bt then, I had mk up my mind nd tk a walk.make up mind.he doesnt wnt 2 marry u
why would u be confused at all? first of what does the joker do with his own money, why would his mum be the one to give u the bill (except obviously u are the one marrying him) and finally why that much on a wedding going by how much you both earn, your salaries put together wouldn't even amount to that in a year! see what this party madness and competition has cause in 9ja
Buy yourself a Porsche ride and drive as far as possible from him because he will catch up with you on your feet... WISE UP BABE!
run away how will ur mother inlaw 2 be propose dat kind of wedding plan my advice they are after ur money not u
Gbamest!!
Is this a joke or something? like seriously? pay for what shit? my own wedding? if a man doesnt want to marry you, why marry him? can two walk together except they agree? or u just wanna bear "married"?
What happened to your life? pls go get it back, dear.
please forget this joker.he will mess you up in life. if he is askig for support then its understandable but to sponsor the whole expenses of the wedding is madness. are you that desperate to marry him and he cannot handle simple wedding expenses. please open your eyes and move on. No hard feeling
the guy is a fool and his family is gonna use you and dry you up. they will all depend on you for the rest days of your life. when you are done, they will ask him to go and marry another wife cos it is you that married him. please dump his silly ass and move on please.
na wa oooo. mumu stil full this country sha.
I'm so pissed at dis question i cnt even advice U...Re u well? is it jazz dey re using on U? 4million wat?????
Are you buying husband or what? Is he the only man on earth that you have to go penury before you can have him? Tell you what u need to run for your there life ur guy is a thief and unserious fellow who want to reap wtout sowing.
Some relationship definition has more value to some marriage definition, The wedding certificate doesn't guarantee you happiness, try to cut it to your size, he may blame you later and even call you names like ''Desperate'', if he want you as you do want him , he won't push his responsible on you alone ,. My name is R@lph , this my first comment on this blog, I love you Linda, I wish we can go on date but I know you are too busy, but if God wish, it will be.
What baffles me is her statement " his suit is not included" you want to buy his suit tooooooooooo haba woman!!!!!!! There is no later Comer in marriage, pls take your time.
Even a blind person can see that this guy does not want to marry you. When a man wants a woman, he will do what ever it takes to make her his wife. Sorry to say but he does not value you. By even asking him and begging him to get married, you have sold your self short. If a man cannot bring up and initiate marriage plans after 5 years, you need to leave him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your know in your heart that,this guy does not want you and does not want to marry you and even if you drop the fund, no wedding still..shine your heart and leave that hopeless dude alone
My dear, i understand you love this man and want to settle down with him. But trust me you are about to make the biggest mistake of your life, for starters your family should prepare the list of expenses not the other way round,with the way you are going it looks like you are the one asking for the man's hand in marriage, he doesn't even want to meet you half way. please dear, be patient and pray for your true husband and invest your money in something that will fetch profits. Be wise.
he is not ready for marriage so dont force him.(2)no mother of descent upbringing and who has self respect will call her daughter in law and be giving her price of the wedding plans.3)he is the one to wed u and pay half or more of the money for the wedding.4)for your own good call off the wedding plans and start a new life.if u start feeding him now u will continue for the rest of your life and don't be shocked they want to use your money to marry someone else for him.even the bible stipulates that the man is the head and the provider.find someone else and dont act desperate.
a man marries a woman n not the other way round,its ok to contribute buh not ok taking responsiblity...
Pls 4get dat man my dear
lmao.... linda o. what will i not hear. i believe the man is marrying his wife. afterall u are leaving your home to move in with him. if he cannot finance the wedding then what is the point. lets me frank no woman should sit on her butt waiting for her husband to provide everything for her. u are suppose to contribute to your wedding. but u do not pay for ur own wedding. ur man is the leader let him lead. from ur tale i can tell that u are the one who loves him more and he just manages u... young lady shine ur eyes o. the marriages that work are the ones whereby the man loves the woman more. cause men are not steady at all.. even my father tells me to marry a man who loves me more than i do. what does ur mother teach u.... u just make me laugh. u would use ur whole savings to carry yourself from frypan to fire. hmmmm. do whatever pleases u. but dont come here and complain because u are the one begging the man to marry u not the man begging u. and well since u are the beggar if he gives u 5 naira pls pls and pls be content with it.... dont come up here thinking u demand 100 naira since u belittled urself. may my daughters never be this stupid... such rubbish
My gal,
Don't be silly. Use ur head. The family obviously have no shame; they can afford to give u a list worth N3M.
If u give them the money,3 things are certain:
1. U are stupid and stink of desperacy.
2. U will not be happy as u have bought the ‘institution of marriage’ which the Lord meant for u to get freely.
3. U will have married a man with no true sense of value for himself, much less u.
By all means when the planning is in unison support him as a wife/partner, take some expenses to urself whilst he takes the rest/bulk.
Better run for ur dear life from this family of suckers, as the money will definitely be used to marry a woman who has more sense than u, whilst u are left hanging.
Hehehe....another clear case of "One chance"....As u dey pay for the wedding...pls get ready to also pay for the antenatal care expenses, raising ur kids, their school fees, una house rent, fueling the gen, etc! Arrant Nonesense! After 5yrs, and with 70k higher than ur pay, he's still singing this old song, my dear, don't just walk away....FLY AWAY from that leech! Hian!
This still boils down to the question i've always been asking, which is "Must every woman gets married?"
To beginning with:if you marry that guy, you are getting married in to a shameless family and just be prepared to foot the bill of all expenses that may emerge from that family after the wedding (that is aside their proposed 4million). you will be paying for factually everything until you're tired of this expenses and opt out.
Remember you're the potential bride whose potential husband's family is suppose to bring wedding things to ( please dont get me wrong, i am not saying that you shouldnt support you husband) not the other way round.
However, why would you spend 3million on a wedding let-alone of the 4million they are requesting for? #justaskingnoni#. i got married February 1st and the total amount we spent on our wedding was not up to 1million (i know you and some other people will say is because we didnt have the money, which is not true).
Hubby and I didnt inform any of our family members of our Registry because we dont need our parents' consent to get married and all we spend on that was just N5000. it was after the registry that we informed the the parents of our intentions and we told them we were not going to spend much on the church marriage (anybody that wishes to "over-do" should bring money out of his/her pocket #gbam#)
So my dear sister, shine your eyes so that you will make the greatest mistake of your life. If the guy does have enough money, you guyz should make do with only court marriage.
I also think why men are running from getting married now-a-days is because of the overzealousness of we ladies which i think we should look into.
Some ladies are ready to spend their husband's life savings on "a day" event and be starving after wedding....... Please lets watch that
forget him jo, if he's earning more than you and he cant chip in for the wedding. when you eventually get married, he wont chip in for anything, plus i dont think he loves you if he want you to pay for the wedding even though he earns mor than you!
The man is not serious, he is not ready to marry you. Think abt it and act wisely.
I believe u never see you husband lady.
I am writing this down before I read others, my dear read my lips: RUN FOR YA LIFE.
Pls don't start what you can finish. marriage is until death do you apart, so think before you enter. you want to pay you bride price and the same time wed yourself. i can only advice you to assist when he is ready but if he is not pls wait for Mr. right. don't rush in and rush out; Gods time is the best.shalom
I believe u never see you husband lady.
Better run for your life oh.dey dere dey do love.
Babe run as fast as ur legs can carry. Ur guy and his mum are definitly upto something.....God will give u a better person
We are Africans. Our culture dictates that the man should pay for his bride. Not only is it cultural but it is also biblical. He doesn't want you. Some men see the woman they want to marry and they run to the alter with their last just to make that woman their wife. If you pay for this marriage you will regret it believe me. Pray you open your eyes . Best wishes
loooooool sister it is painful but pls dump hi like yesterday's gabbage before he says you forced him to marry you when iots time to pay for the kids fees and other matters arise,he will expect you to pay,and slap his mum and tell her she should b ashamed of raising such broke son
My experience,in my own case,i earn more than my hubby.i paid for everything except my bride price and till date iam still d provider.RUN.
My experience,in my own case,i earn more than my hubby.i paid for everything except my bride price and till date iam still d provider.RUN.
like NEVER EVER. Run dear. Trust me you will continue to pay the bills even after the wedding.
my dear run until dis guy and d mother cannot found you. HE DONT WANT YOU FOR A WIFE IT IS THE SIMPLE TRUTH.
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This has got to be the most stupid post ive read here!!! Linda please stop posting everything naaa.. what kinda dull lady is this??? pay for the whole wedding not like your fam is rich sef, your BLOODY savings!!! na wa oo!! wonders shall never end..HIAN!!you can as well buy him a wedding gift and pay for your honeymoon after it..Ewu Portugal..
to hell with him uu hear..ow can uu be funding ur wedding with a man?
he should support also,
if u fund the wedding God no go 4get u, run for ur dear life, if he truly loves u, the eagerness will be there ,it obvious the dude doesn't deserve u. invest Ur money in more profitable business. 4million ke? nah heaven unah wan wed nii?
My dear, this sounds just exactly like what my friend went through some six years ago,hope its not the same guy.The Guy and his mum are both con artists,the mum also lives in benin.They nearly milked my friend dry before she soji herself.My advice RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN
You are a fool for accepting to sponsor the wedding and you would be a bigger fool if you bring out the cash. Then you would be the biggest fool after the wedding. And we leaves you to marry another after killing you then you would be the worst fool ever.
Linda, I don't believe this story. Please stop publishing all these cock and bull stories.This sounds so childish and unreal.
Don't post my comment if you like
they guy and his mum want arrange you. its a plan work..why should the mum send to you the cost of the wedding, would she allow that to happen to her daughter? scam!!!
Are u d one marrying d man or what? How could u even think of lavishing ur hard earn money on man only to impress him and his mother. If u don't know where to spend ur money spend it on your family. You have disclosed to a man ur total money can u do same to your family. Ladies, please allow men to make the move first.
seriously i go like see the list for the wedding
PLS FORGET THAT MAN OOOO
PLS FORGET THAT MAN OOOO BECOS IF PAY FOR EVERYTHING NOW, UR WILL BE THE ONE TAKING CARE OF THE FAMILY
PLS FORGET THAT MAN OOOO
Pay for wetin??? No try am oh!!! My mum even had to comment saying you should not even think of doing that. He's not a serious person neither is he ready to get married or be a man. So when you guys get married, it means you'll be the one to cater for your family be that......No try am oh!! Is it desperation that's making u do it or you're scared you won't find another man to love you....Do not make a mistake you'll forever regret
dont ever pay for ur wedding, else u are digging ur own grave, guys who earn less sponsor every bit of their wedding and still take care of their family after. he really doesn't want to marry you, if he seriously love u, he wouldn't be saying all that trash and i have a feeling he has conived with the mother, knowing fully well that you are bent on making a fool of yourself, so they hiked the expenses to scare you away. Pls run for ur dear life.
please kindly leave him
Pls with 500k am OK for the wedding with Love. See your pastor fast.Charles
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Hmm, wonderful but come to think of it is it his family that are to present the list or your family, babe the guy really wana eat u even financially. Sorry! but u are really in the wrong hand.
U so dumb to ask dis question, how will u survive after the wedding night??
YOU MUST BE DESPERATE FOR MARRIAGE!!! DONT B A MAGA!!!
Heyyy!
First or all, from a personal point of view, you shouldn't dear giving up all your savings! Leave Him!!!!
Then i would like you to check out. www.heatherllindsey.com
Just go through all the topics and find the ones that apply to you. Please try and read it. There is a write up titled "why he won't marry you" and another titled "where is my ring". Just mentioning a few i read that i think would really help your story.
I hope this helps..x
Don't even think about it just forget the guy he his not a serious human being.
Is not advisable to embark on such wedding, what has he been doing with his salary that he can't save from it for wedding, and if u use ur money for d wedding, he will put house responsibilities on u, of which if u oblige he will tell u after all u are d one who want have matrimonial home. Pls think twice b4u embark on it. Don't do by fire by force wedding. He shld be d one marrying u not u.
I dont know if you can go through all the comments but my dear, a man that wants to marry you want to...
My colleague dated a guy for less than 4months and they are engaged to be married...
He is shameless, so is his mother...
Keep your money.. move on and leave the man
Anyways I hope this babe gets to read this, CLOSE UR LEGS AND FLEE coz that nigga ain't got no respect for you no more. If he was trying to get another girl's number he is looking for something new and tired of the old. His beating confirmed this coz if he wanted what your giving so bad he will put up with whatever to get it but babe he is tired!!! So don't wait till ur fighting for your life to realise this! It ain't gonna get better so GO!!!
u are truly a goat why should u be d one payin 4 everything abi u came to dis world to be a mumu
Leave hi fasttttt, keep your number for private advices
Leave hi fasttttt, keep your number for private advices
U dont fear God. Other wise u wunt waste ur parents effort to nuture u...n end up footin d bill o wedding of a man who earns more dan u. Tufiakwa..... am nt an ibo girl either... secondly....are u a learner? Dat dude ain't into u .... he is screwing someone else. Otherwise he will b eager to wed thee. Bad news. U shall grow old n embittered at d end cos one day u shal see his mothers approved girl. Its a pity hes using u to kip body and soul. 5 yearsssss. What the F**k...... leave him now.... go out...dress well...attract d right ppl...n favour will smile on u. U dnt knw u av d positive energy to create ur world . Do nt let any man or inlaw despise ur youth. Think about it.
MOVVVEEEEEEEEEEEEE ONNNN!!!!!!!!!
The greatest mistake u can make is marrying a man who cannot financially provide
Make una just go registry jare and do gest 2gerra, you dont need the whole world to come, afterall, they will still judge, so best thing, do small wedding, jeje
"He should support financially"... its suppose to be the other way round... your dad should give him the list. Then you will just help him buy your wedding dress shikena...in fact with this you should quit the relationship he's no good for you.
DONT MIND ALL THOSE TELLING U TO RUN AWAY, MOST OF THEM ARE ALL JEALOUS OF YOU. GO AHEAD AND PAY FOR THE WEDDING. IF UR SAVINGS IS ENOUGH, SELL UR PROPERTY OR UR PARENTS'. U MAY EVEN NEED TO GET A BANK LOAN IF THAT WLD NOT STILL BE ENOUGH.
DONT LEAVE UR MAN COS IT IS DIFFICULT TO GET A "REALMAN" LIKE UR GUY. SOME "STUPID MEN" WLD HAVE WANTED TO PAY FOR THEIR WEDDING BUT A "WISE GUY" WLD ALLOW THE WOMAN TO PAY. HE IS THE "MAN".
GO AHEAD AND MARRY HIM, NA MUMU DEY WORRY U AND UR ENTIRE FAMILY. NONSENSE
PEOPLE STILL DEY USE "THEIRSELF" FOR GRAMMAR? I BOW FOR ANONYMOUS 3:22AM
you are walking into scam,the boy has probably told his mother what to tell you,its like you are desperate,its not all about the ceremony its about marrying you!of which he can do in a little way,perhaps your family are the one to carry out the TM/WEDDING PLAN not your hobby to be mother,open your eyes or call me for more advice 08037451838
@Plenty Money SHUT UP, IT HAPPENS. BENIN KO, BENIN NI.......
bt she is in love, lets understand her point of view. uhhmmmmm!!!! who ever u re BE WISE. DO YOU PAY THE BILLS WHEN YOU GO ON DATES OR DO U PAY HIS BILLS FOR HIM?
E BE LIKE SAY DEY DON GO WASH UR HEAD INSIDE RIVER. PLS GO AHEAD IF U CAN'T THINK STRAIGHT AND SEE THAT U DESERVE BETTER. OR THE BITTER TRUTH HE HAS SOMEONE ELSE IN MIND. MUMU LIKE U.
I will not insult u becuz loves makes us consider the most ridiculous things. Now . By this simple act from this guy ur dating and his mother have shown that they are selfish and wicked and if given the opportunity will drain u for life. Secondly, where is the humility? O gal, advise your self and move on . A sincere guy will draw u closer and try to see how u both can combine n put heads together than giving you the whole bill. Keep all ur moni biko. If its N 5 he has to do d wedding. U can add 1 naira. A man who really wants to marry u even if e no get work, will do all he can to make it happen because he loves u. Wickedness my dear ! Run.
Man was created to lead and woman to support. If the Mum is not ashamed of telling you such, then smell rat. Maybe your man knows the cost is high is reason for not showing interest.
1. Your own money isn't to lead, in the 4m, your husband should drop 2.5m while you support with 0.5m, reduce Bill to 3m.
2. Ensure your own money at least 1m - 1.5m to your own family preparation.
3. If with all, you notice your man is lean(pocket), drop some little change for you both wears.
Never lead with your money as it makes them feel you want it more. Should they insist, please run.
That's all.
Run for ur dear life God will provide ur own heart desire for u
Young Lady Please flee d dude his not committed at all after paying for the wedding you will be the one to manage the upkeep for the family. MARK MY WORDS.
then forget about the marriage
40million,u wan go dubai do the wedding? Nonsense...my forget the guy
pls run for ur life oooooo, they are planning somthing evil for u. y wud u be d one to bring money for the wedding. dont be so despirate to marry dat ponzo.let him be , u will find someone dat loves you. d wedding na 4million? if una wed finish e go enta guiness of record. mtcheew rubbisb. my dear run for ur life ooooo. evil man nd mum
dnt try such a huge mistake,walk out of d relationship and u would get a better man dat would propose 2 u and he would take u 2 d alter.d man has sumbody else where dat he wants 2 get married 2,wen u leave him he would get married 2 sumbody else after sum few month of seperation.d mother is nt a gud mother 2 all.
Are you okay? Like seriously? Sometimes I wonder if these stories are real
sickening!Are u so desperate? You're are actually going to pay for your wedding? Jezzzz
who is marrying who?why is his mother the 1 to give you the wedding budget,is the guy an ibecile?seriously u can go ahead sponsor the weddin and marry both him and his mother all in da name of love incase u re ova desperate n spend da rest of ur pitful life in misery!!!!EDO love for dat mata!!!!!
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