Dear LIB readers: Should I forget this man or pay for the wedding?
From a female LIB reader
I have dated my fiance for 5years now. Whenever I ask him
about our marriage plans, he keeps telling me he doesn't have enough
money for the wedding. This guy earns 170k monthly while I earn
100k. I told him I have some cash I made from a supply, can't we use it
for the wedding? He said its okay by him. His mother called me from Benin
last week and said the son told him about our marriage arrangement, that
she has mapped out the wedding expenses. To my greatest surprise she
gave me an amount I can't really explain. I have 3milion on me while she
said everything will cost 4million both for the traditional and white
wedding. my wedding gown is not included, his suit is not included. Should I
forget this man and move on with my life or release all the money I have for the wedding? I am troubled at the moment. I am so confused. Please advise
does he want a wedding also? if yes he should support you financially. you want him thats why you want to get wed. if he wants you as well get in involve financially also.. drop 2million.. keep 1million for the unexpected.... scarlifar
Like seriously is it compulsory to have an elaborate wedding u had better cut ur coat according to ur size abi una wan de drink garri after ur wedding.
With all due respect, to even mention it, ure the biggest mumu of a lifetiime.WHO is marrying WHO??pls run as fast as you can.i don't believe this.tinz r really happening in this country. The guy don *see* you finish.
does he want a wedding also? if yes he should support you financially. you want him thats why you want to get wed. if he wants you as well get in involve financially also.. drop 2million.. keep 1million for the unexpected.... scarlifar
Lili u go begin dey add der names oo. So we go believe say na real pple gt d's kind ish n u ain't makn em up. 4reals? U dey pay 4 d weddn cos we dey America? My dear move on wt ur life! Which kind men dey d's world sef? Craze pple! #kkkbye
forget the guy if he is not ready. I bet you, there is no going to be happiness in the marriage if you sponsor the wedding alone. Move on if he is not ready.
Use ur money for wedding&continue to pay the bills for ever,u'l pay ur children's skol fees&upkeep of the house,pls dnt make that mistake,pple dat earn less than 170k,plan their weddings themselves,he will always tell u,u were desperate
Definitely no no, don't pay for the wedding- if the guy is not ready nor willing to marry after five years, then move on!!!! Clearly, you are not wife material as far as he is concerned!
You should not invest all you have into a marriage ceremony that will be over before you know it. You can always get married in a smaller way. The payments should be a joint effort. You both earn money
Pls forget abt him and move on with your life. He is might to wed you not you wedding him. What nonsense, the mother giving u bill for the son's wedding. Better read the hand writing on the wall.
Sweetie please move on!how wil u pay for d wedding? 5yrs is noting compared to what u will face if u pay for wedding am sure bride price is on u abi?Desperation is not good dear move on!!!!
What arrant madness the man and his mother have no shame, dnt build the foundation of your marriage as the sole provider because before you know it u will be the one paying house rent, children school fees and even buying petrol in his car abeg my dear run
Forget the man n move on biko!5yrs?wt 170k,he shld ve done sth by now.re u desperate?biko kip ur money.wat nonsense?he is not even saying let him bring half.mtschewwww!ladies biko shine ur eyes o.y will u be a ring holder 4 5yrs?I won't be surprised if he leaves u for else person sef.men are scum...n ds is coming from a guy....kip ur money n leave ur options open.enuf wt the fiancee tn.5yrs is enuf!!!
I'm worried about U... It's obvious these people don't want you in their family and they are doing these things to tell U off. There was a reason our culture held that men pay for the marriage,so he'd value u for what u are worth. If u then "marry urself",he'd hold u at no high esteem at all... Please review ur marriage to him and pray seriously about it...
Dis is serz. Y wud u b d 1 2 sponsor d weddin. Y r u so desperate in marryin dis man. Pls don't jst releasin all ur money on d weddin cos u wil regret it. Jst 4get about him n move forward with ur life. Abeg
If des story is real! Den lemme laugh in latin first ooo,my dear U mst be a bigger fool to evn plan using all ur savings for dt marriage,for dt woman ur called Ur bf moda u shuld undastnd sef dt u re not needed if not why ll a woman as old as she is to call U and tell U such rubbish. My shine Ur eye well well ooo.u beta wake up now b4 its too late for U,dere is nothing bad adding ur little money in d wedding expenses but not carrying d whole expenses on ur head. Be wise.
My babe pls i beg u...... if you know your boyfriend is serious, pls wait for him to make enough, you both need to sit down amd talk about how you can both save money towards the wedding. Him especially.
he is not serious.he must have been showing you the signs that he is not ready for marriage but u ignored it.whatever you condole single it will be worse when u get married .so the earlier u count your loss the better.Its not about the money but the attitude of ur "fiancee"
Egbami ke? Like seriously,some pple don't need to be told wot to do before asking...Pls,ma dear..why are u confused? D hand writing is written BOLDLY on d wall...Why do u wanna get ursf in dis mess...uv seen it coming nw already..his mother is trying to boost her son's bank account buh instead lavish urs,Use ur head gal..Sit ur man down and try to slug it out wv him dat u can neva use ur own personal money to finance d whole wedding..But if he is not seeing it frm ur own angle..Beta walk away in other to avoid story dat touches after d wedding..sometimes it's nt al abt d wedding itself buh al abt being married happily...
You sound so desperate. Tell ur parents abt ur intentions and see if ur mum won't land u a slap. See d kinda family u wanna end up in, ppl without shame. 4million, when there son doesn't even av a kobo for his own wedn. Pls babes, marriage is a serious commitment, u can't rush into it jst cos ur friends are, wait, the right man will find u, bt 1st let go of that lazy man and his greedy mum. I rest my case.
I do not object to a lady contributing to her wedding but this is a No-NO, being the sole sponsor and mother-in-law is dictating how it will go? your man should be able to contribute some percentage and both of you can decide what you want. your mother-in-law of course can share her ideas but I do not agree these ideas should be forced down your throat. It is an issue that can be resolved. Do not leave your man, except you have other reasons. Abi, is he a mama's boy?
This Story Is Made Up!! Well its obvious your eager to settle down because Age is no longer on your side or for reasons best known to you.. Suit Yourself!! You Know Better.. You Can Only Assist a Man for Wedding And Not Pay For The Wedding!! Be Wise!!
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Dis is ridiculous and completely outrageous, ow can you allow ur mother inlaw to give you bill for your own marriage abi aree you the one going to ask for her son's marriage. Allow the man to work the money his gonna use to mrry you, therez dignity in d@ if not 2mw he'd use d@ against u. If he ends d@ much and can't save for his wedding in 5yrs then his not ready. Who knws if he didn't conive wit his mother to do w@ shez doing. For me I tink you should leave d@ man and move on with his life.
U pple think Libers are daft yea? U post stupid stories dat are not real and expect pple 2 post their comments. It is ur mother in law that wuld make wedding estimations 4 u? Dumb ass.
Has the Baddest nigga on this blog I will just wait to reads comments. But babe you re crazy ooh na by force to marry why do gals act lyk dis na. Sir Aplachino went via nokia3310
If his shameless mother wants a 4 million naira wedding, then she should get her son to fork out 2.5 million. If you can't pay for your own wedding as a man, then something is wrong. I am not saying that you shouldn't help, but 4 million? Seriously and her son earns more?!! Sister fleee!! That man does not want to marry you.
God punish the mother and the son!!oh girl move on with ur life and stop being desperate..Tomorrow he will turn u into an Atm machine and if u don't give money to him he turns u to his punching bag#Aru#
He too earns as u do,he is a man pls n pls don't try it.its his responsibility,hold on to him or better still look 4 another man.Once you start dis dats how it will be forever
This man is a gold digger and he is not truly interested in you. You are wasting your time with him. Are you hearing yourself? How can you be the only,one paying for your wedding? You are not marrying yourself and Such is a Man's responsibility. His mother has no business calling you to tell you to pay for her son. This is a dead end my dear. If you know what is good, leave him. This man is not good for you and certainly does not love you. No man who is decent will talk you into paying for your own wedding. It is not done.
PLEASE FORGET THAT MAN AND MOVE ON. WHAT SORT OF RUBBISH IS THIS. THATS NOT A MAN. WHO ON EARTH WILL GIVE A WOMAN SUCH A RESPONSIBILITY. IT IS ALIEN TO OUR AFRICAN CULTURE.
Wow so he doesnt have anything to contribute at all...that cant be right,so he expects you to sponsor the whole wedding oga oo.I'll advice you not to spend all your life savings on a wedding biko,if he cant spare anything from his own pocket then pls forget this man he is not ready for marriage.BCos when the time comes he will say you are the one that forced the wedding/marriage down his throat plus if he is not ready to help you with the wedding issue what makes you think he will support you when you go broke from all the expenses of this so called wedding.
4get abt him and move on. He earns more than u. Y do u want 2 b d 1 covering all expenses 4 d wedding? R u dat desperate 2 get married? Afta weddin xpenses, house rent will cum up. Children's school fees as well. Will u b able 2 handle it?
u sound desperate to get married so he will definitely take advantage of that...he told u to go ahead with using your money to do that? well, he doesnt even care as u can tell.. I think u should forget him..and his mother is so inconsiderate too..wait till u get married then u will see
U should. Know better! Ur man is not only very stingy, he is callous and doesn't love u one bit! A man who lov es a woman is ready to do anything positive to keep for live ! Baby move on with ur life before u take a step u will regret for live!
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My dear move on with ur life, marriage is not by force! How u go dey pay for ur wedding & na ur supposed mother in law go even dey calculate d cost wen her son is not dropping anything? Forget d guy & enjoy ur money or else u keep on paying for everything in the marriage.
Mogbe! Oginni! Pay for wetin? Abeg no even try am...there are other productive things u can spend ur money on...if u don't marry him now,u will remain single forever ba? If he and his mother were humane enough,they would know you don't deserve the rubbish they just brought to ur table to finance...U can assist him in doing it buh not u being d sole-sponsor...And if dey insist..abeg drop the ewu and delete him like badt rubbish...There is someone for everyone
Egbami ke? Like seriously,some pple don't need to be told wot to do before asking...Pls,ma dear..why are u confused? D hand writing is written BOLDLY on d wall...Why do u wanna get ursf in dis mess...uv seen it coming nw already..his mother is trying to boost her son's bank account buh instead lavish urs,Use ur head gal..Sit ur man down and try to slug it out wv him dat u can neva use ur own personal money to finance d whole wedding..But if he is not seeing it frm ur own angle..Beta walk away in other to avoid story dat touches after d wedding..sometimes it's nt al abt d wedding itself buh al abt being married happily...
Hmmm u must be d biggest fool to enter into dat kind of train,can u jst hear urself d way it sound,he even earn more than u do monthly and he has never for once think it wise to hav a save for his future partner,to rap it all his mother has d face to go ahead and made a surplus expences bcos they think u are d daughter of central bank,let me tell u dis,if u release dat money be ready to face the rejection and maltreatment u will get in due time wen u fail to do same in d furture,haba
Babe,just forget this guy.This is just a ploy by him to discourage you.and I suspect his mom is his cohort.When I got married about 5years ago,my mother inlaw and I sat down to work out the expenses and not the other way round.this is alien to our culture as africans.
Any man that can not bring money to marry you is not serious . Also any self respecting mother of a Man should be sending the bills to her son. These people are users. Do not be desperate. The man you will eventually man will not take 5 years to make up his mind ! run as fast as you can. You should be supporting this man not being the sole financier of your own wedding. If he marries you be ready to pay rent , house keeping and school fees while he uses his money for God knows what. They no thet tell person 2 times.
don't try it oo. How can your to be mother inlaw treat you this way. Then worst/any will happen during the marriage and pepper eye go finish you badly. Just forget this marriage for now oo my dear sister cos when a man is ready to settle nothing stops him
Don't be a learner my frnd, though u re desperate on settling down & dey know u re so dey wanna act on dat. Dem wan job u so, use ur brain my dear. Move on he's a beast, he doesn't love u, just let him go. Bimbo
Common leave dat bastard jor, send dat stupid woman's numb lemme insult her life. Is he d only man on earth dat u av 2 waste all ur savings, na woman dey do marriage abi na india u dey. If I silaappp u enh u'll wake up 4rm ur slumber
Use your hands to close your mouth. No Benin woman will stoop that low to ask money from her sons GF for wedding. Apart from that your earn 100k and yet you have 3m in your account claiming to be funds you made from supply. You must be a thief. Above all, You are a Big Liar and i don't have any advise to give you. Benin people are not wasteful and i don't see what you she intend to do with that must amount.
Communicate yourself to him properly & in a very clear & simple way with your fiance. Be honest. He should be honest as well. if you like, write down the points you need to address & break them down, so that you dont appear to be all over the place. be specific because unfortunately, men dont have the sense to understand conversations if they said indirectly/ vaguely.
If all is well...i think you should be upfront about how long you're willing to wait & stick to it. don't compromise what will make you happy. if you take yourself seriously, your man will do the same. you can't plan a wedding without your partner. It isnt only about you. you are getting to married to him & not yourself. if you go on with the solo wedding plans be prepared to be in that marriage by yourself.
You cannot force an adult to do what he isnt ready for. do your part & let him do his part.. but be smart. there's only so much you can do. don't put so much stress on yourself.
Hehehe. .Wharisdis bikonu? See what desperation is making a gal do.Babe..did they write mumu on your forehead? Can't you see that these people want to just use you. .I mean it's ok if both of you contribute. ..buh I don't support the idea of you footing the bills alone abeg...Linda if you like don't post my comment as usual. ..goat! !!
No female, woman or girl of any nationality has ever been raised to be the best woman she can be to grow up and find a broke man who can't SUPPORT her period. Only very few women have been brainwashed to think they need nothing from their man. Most of all their wedding expenses. You can teach your daugther to be be her man's surrogate mama and use her life savings to get her desperate ass a husband. Me, I WANT MY DAUGHTER'S MAN TO GIVE HER THE WORLD. Simple enough answer for you? Idiot!
Pls pls pls run for ur dear life b4 u end up wishing u were out of a marriage u hurriedly went into. Use ur money to better urself. U dont beg a man to maRry u or even totally pay for ur own wedding...tufiakwa
Nope, don't put all your eggs in one basket. How abt a low key wedding? Must you run into debt all in the name of wedding? From what you quoted both of you are making you should not use more than 1.5 million on your wedding. Book an open field instead of a big hall!
Abeg pay for d wedding oo...infact don't even spend ur 3million naira alone..u can even get a loan from ur place of work to finance it aswell...and afta d whole drama...come here again to start disturbing us for another advice on what to do to ur broke-ass....
My dear you don't have to be confused,you are just about to be a bank account to that family.......you will spend on them for eternity since all you want from their son is a wedding. If he really wanted to marry you,he would have made the plans......I know you also have your family,find a way to help your siblings and not making wedding plans out of desperation.
If I were you I would focus more on the marriage than on the wedding. These are mere accoutrements that will last a day or two, except you're the one seeking an extravagant wedding; which might explain your fiance's lack of interest in the financial aspect of this venture. Discuss with your partner and cut your coat according to size.
It depends on what u hv noticed abt d guy,if he is a greedy man,U beta run. It isn't right dat u single handedly finance d wedding and he is working,something is wrong somewhere.
Don't U DARE to marry him!!! Dats if d wedding holds at all. Both ur bf & his Mum has mapped out a plan to defraud u in broad day light! My dear lady, pls RUN away from dat guy as fast & as far as ur Legs can carry u. Also confide in ur own parent d same way he has confided in his mum, den u'll c how tinz play out.
Please leave the man...run for your life. It's very obvious they don't want you but they just don't want to break your heart. This is a perfect way of them showing they do not want you.
Leave this man, He's not your husband. If a man doesn't spend on you, he'll have no value for u or the marriage. He'll have nothing to lose by walking out on you when its convenient for him. Don't rush, God has someone special for you, he's around the corner.
i think you should forget him if you both cant contribute equally or he contributes alone. its obvious he doesnt love you and even after the marriage he will start misbehaving. A man who loves you will be the one gathering his last kobo just to put you in the house. Its not even advisable to allow a man you are dating know your financial status until you have tested his love. There are many fake people out there looking for people to rip off and live on.His mother is a sorry story so by the time you spend all that money you will have nothing and how do you know he wont marry someone else. Test his love for you before you decide to marry.
i think you should forget him if you both cant contribute equally or he contributes alone. its obvious he doesnt love you and even after the marriage he will start misbehaving. A man who loves you will be the one gathering his last kobo just to put you in the house. Its not even advisable to allow a man you are dating know your financial status until you have tested his love. There are many fake people out there looking for people to rip off and live on.His mother is a sorry story so by the time you spend all that money you will have nothing and how do you know he wont marry someone else. Test his love for you before you decide to marry.
Lmfaooooo RUN! with Ur feet touching your head....they are not serious....the main issue is getting married,there is no place where it's written that one must have an extravagant wedding,the mother must be silly and Ur fiance is not a man...leave him IMO.
My dear sister, I don't think it's a nice thing for you to pay for your wedding cost . It seems to me you want to take his role and he's going to take you for granted later . The ball is in your court . Ask God for direction.
That guy and his mother are gold diggers and I advice u leave him.it's just as if u want 2 marry urself.he doesn't want 2 marry u period! If u pay 4 d wedding expenses,u will regret later dear!
Pls, u ppl should stop all these stories that make men feel liks d world is in their pockets. U re walking into a loveless marriage wide-eyed. Get ready to pay for all u need in ur home while married to him. My dear, I kno 5 yrs is a lot of tim but pls, walk away if he's nt willing to contribute. Pray to God nd he wl bless u wt d right man. Besides, 3 million is too much. Write ur own list
Re u buying d whole family or just 4 weeding dat u will spend such amount?secondly y should u be d one to spend on his wedding,if he can't face his responsibility as a man,I advice u forget him and forge ahead,he has plans for anoda woman not u.
You want to use ALL your money for wedding without him dropping anything, and he earns more than you do? Are you the one marrying him? It is even more shameful that HIS mother is sending you a list for the wedding. What is this world turning into? Can't the two of you have a wedding you can afford? He is not ready, better move o and look for another man that is ready to be a MAN.
If ur still askn 4advise ur a big mumu..cnt u c d handwritin on d wall..if d guy rili wnts 2marry u he wudnt wait 5yrs n countin..stop wastin ur tym wt him
My dear pls n pls leave this dude alone..WTF is wrong with naija babes n marriage...must weddings be elaborate... The mother of the boy sorry to say she is a very wicked n heartless mother... Pls leave the dude alone...after all the bible says **and adam took eve **nt the other way round..
My love pls don't enter such home biko plssssss oh why should u be d one to pay for everything when ur man earns 170k ahah bebe hope u are not blind sha pls move on oh because dat man is not ready to marry you.............
So he earns more than you and you could save 3million? Why can't he save? And what woman instigate and pay for her wedding alone? My dear, if he wants to marry you, he'll find a way to make it happen!!!! Go and save ur money and don't be stupid!!!
I feel this ppl wants to make money off you. The mum shud be considerate na. He can bring 70% and u bring 30%, or share the bill somehow but don't accept more than 50 sha. Except he doesn't want to marry u.
My sister don't even try it,wen u use ur money to marry that man he will use it 2 insult u even day,meanwhile he is earns more dan u do I didn't say don't spport d wedding with any money but don't do it all alone,if not after everything ur in big trouble.
First, I feel u guys combined income is enough to start a family but the biggest surprise is why his Mother wants a big wedding or doesn't she have an Idea of how much her son earns? I feel you shldnt give up ur whole savings for a wedding, give 1million and manage whatever can come from that.... SAVE YOUR MONEY, Men cannot be trusted!!! PS: I'm a man commenting
Mumu go borrow 1million add to ur 3million giv ur Moda inlaw to be as she's a wedding planner. U jst wake up & post nonsense & begin to ask 4 advice,nor advice ur slf,wait ooo.
my simple advice, forget him. if he rily loves u he wil b so eager to tie the knot. the fact that he is dragging his feets means he has probably fallen out of love wit u, my sister read the handwriting on the wall
Linda why na mumu mumu pple u just dey talk of today...if she no well make she go yaba left abeg..arrant nonsense. Why is he a Man...if he is not ready make him piante. Lokmak
If this guy has been wrkin since the time u started dating. This guy has made bout 10million! He shud b able 2 bring something @least,if he's serious he would av brought up an idea of of u both sharing the cost even though I believe he has to bring more! Meehhhn! Gal! U can bring some money 4d marriage but not all o! I don't advice u to face errthang alone!
Forget him? Hell no! Go ahead and pay for him to be married to you and tomorrow come and post on LIB that he doesn't pick up any expenses at home. If he can't afford the wedding, don't wed!
I am a man, and I will be very blunt here. Any man that cannot afford a wedding should remain single until he is ready. My girlfriend of many years made the same offer, but I declined. She left. Life went on,and now I'm very ready cos I can afford to single handedly sponsor my wedding. Why have we,the men thrown away shame? When did we actually lose it? Would such a man have the temerity to question you afterwards? After all we know that he that pays the Piper dictates the tone. Who would head that home? Drop the shameless brother! What is the essence of marriage when things are not done the way they should be done? You don't deserve such a family. I'm disappointed in the mum as well. My dear sister-Libers, run away from any man that shamelessly takes money from you. It should be the other way round.
His mother has got no business with the wedding plan,it has to be between you and your husband. Girl,think they re trying to extort you and its better for you to walk out of it before things get worst...
Dont even think about marrying the stingy bastard and his family! The shameless mother is even given you a price! If a guy does not feel the cost of marrying from his own pocket then he got you on the cheap and will never value you. And trust me he has taken u for granted and that has family will bleed you dry!
am not sure that guy want to marry u, but keep in mind dat after u spent ur money he ur marriage might have problem after one month. pls dont ever pay for ur wedding is his job to do so while u can support him how u can but not with all ur money u guys must feed after wedding.
Lady, the so called fiance and mother are both shameless, the guy is obviously not ready and not showing commitment as expected. You need to be wise and if you are bent on getting married it should be to someone who really loves you. The Wedding lasts for a day but marriage is a lifetime contract, after the wedding, how many of your capital projects as a family will you bear same way. pray about this, good luck.
Do not make the biggest mistake of your life. Run faster than your legs can carry you. Are you going to pay your own bride price? Darling, buy yourself a car. You've worked for it and deserve it. Don't buy a husband. He'll never appreciate you the way he should.
Oh my God whyare we women so gullible. What is wrong wiv the world. Its people like u that make it seem as If marriage is a bad thing! Its not a curse but u can never be happy in that marriage. Your husband even earns more than you yet he cannot save for wedding? There is no way u wouldn't have seen the signs from the onset that ur bf is a stingy goat. See d mother calling u to and given u estimate.... The world is really coming to an end! My dear if u use that money to do wedding, God will punish u! Am so angry! What kind of nonsense is that! Why would u even tell him u have money! Are u so desperate! You must be very stupid...... Abeg linda no dey post this kain nonsense again! Just spoilt my mood. This suegbe will come out later when d man begin dey fuck up say she spent all her savings on him or that she suffered for him! Rubbish! Abeg u people should stop making marriage seem like a bad thing! Especially when its ur fault that u chose the wrong man!
Leave d dude and his worthless mother. So in other words u are marrying yourslfe bah? Pls after 5yrs and a guy dose not no what he wants walk away.cos if u marry dis guy get ready to bear all d responsibilities of dmarriage @ this rate
Pls dont pay 4 d wedding o bcus it just like u ar paying 4 ur bride price..if d guy earns mur dan u den he shuld able to pay 4 wedding,beg him nd ask hm dat does he rily want to marry u or sum1 else...
Wat is wrong wth women and all dis desperate move. Why will u even consider paying 4 d wedding. Is he marrying u or u re marrying him. O gal u dey crazy better forget d man
Heheheh do u knw I laughed at u. It seem u culd bearly account for some percentage of u. Pls look fot it in anoda man.nd not dis one. Dia day u dnt need such a huge amount to marry. It suld be clear to u dat dey dont want u. If u can provide 500k it ok. But beyond dat u 're on ur own. Pls van I ask u something? Is it his family giving his hand to u or urs to their son. Wat wil ur family collect ? Nd who did u want to spend dat money for? Is it those dat wil stil insult u ? Has court gone on recession? How much does ikoyi registery need to join u? Think mumu think. Sorry to insult u.
Ma dear,dis guy obviously not ready for marriage,u d one pushing it nd e will def reminds u dat later on...men ain't worth d stress iswear..will advise u move on wiv ur life abeg..
U forced a comment out of me. You r abt to be scammed, if u think that woman that called u is not a scammer. U must be a learner. U berra keep ur money.
CAPITAL YES MY DEAR BE WISER THAN YOUR ENEMIES THIS GUY AND THE MOM WANT TO USE YOU AND DUMP YOU HABA GO BACK TO YOUR DROWING BOAD FAST FOR 3 DAYS U WILL SEE THERE HIDDEN AGENDA WILL BE EXPOSED PLEASE PLEASE TAKE MY ADVICE AND BE WARNED.THE GUY IS NOT SERIOUS.
No story... Pack ur load n leave immediately, it's so obvious na.u go pay sch fees n dont be desperate,i almost fell a victim, thank. God my fiance lives n appreciate me,right with him in d states now,planning our engagement, abeg wait for God's time, i am grateful to God for answering my prayers. ....glory be to God...forever grateful
Re u 4 real? U re only suppose 2 assist him if he doesn't hve d moni like he claims nt pay 4 everytin N d mum has d effrontery 2 send u list,pls who wil b d husband den wen u pay 4 d list? Let me tel u something,u beta b ready 2 start paying 4 everything wen u eventually get married cos he wil keep on telling u he doesn't hve moni,aw can he b earning more dan u N he's telling u he dos nt hve moni,nt dat d moni he has is nt enuf bt no moni @ al,sis pls move on abeg,he's nt serious,if he rili want 2 marry u den he wil luk 4 moni + d wedding doesn't hve 2 b big,he can cut down d budget if he rili want 2.
Firstly,u knw wat u're about 2 do is wrong hence d confusion,hw can u b so desperate 2 get married dat u're even considering paying 4 ur own wedding?babe!!!dis guy doesn't wanna marry u if he really does he will go nd hustle 4 moni 2 marry u.I'm not saying u shuld leave him o,but biko don't pay 4 ur own wedding its jst wrong #my opinion
U r going 2 make a mistake in ur life jt walk away 4rm d reationship dat guy nd d family don't luv u one bit..if at d end u give dem all ur savings d marriage don't hold wat wil u do nd a again my dear it shld b d man paying ur bride price nt u paying ur own bride price u c only help ur hubby in some area..so my dear jt wait 4 God's time ur own hubby wil cme 4 get d yrs u v dated dis guy nd don't mind if pple laugh at u becos u r d onme wearing d shoe
My dear u hv to discuss with ur man. First y must his mum be d one ton plan for the wedding pls my dear think twice pls. Don't just start what u cannot finish. Does it man does not have anything at all. More u can only support pls dear think think
You are a fool. Use ur brain abeg. Can't u see dis boi nd his mother re tryin 2 exploit u. Dey don't want 2 marry u ooo. Can't u see d handwritin on d wall. Are u dat desperate 4 a husband. Na wa ooo wetin pesin no go hear.
Am also surprised you're asking this dumb question..where in. Africa does a lady make marriage plans when the supposed husband is working and earning even higher than the supposed wife? Are u that desperate? Better wake up and realize that this is broad day fraud..even the mum had the gut to map out expenses..infact I don't believe this story..#hisses#vexed#
Why would u sponsor d wedding? It only shows ur desperation to get married. If the guy really wants u, he would ve saved up 4 a wedding. My dear, put love aside so u can reason clearly. This man might even say u dragged him into marriage in future. Let me share my experience u. I caught my boyfriend with another girl when she was telling him she was pregnant barely 2months 2 our wedding. Bcos I was inlove, I made excuses 4 him in my heart n neva told soul. 6months into our marriage during a fight, he mocked me by saying he was glad I say him wit d other girl. That it ws to show me dt he was had lots of choices. Asking me Y I didn't leave @ d time if not dt I was desperate to get married. According 2 him, he married me out of pity. All d love I feel is now gone but am stock in d marriage. If this ur man is not eager 2 marry u n also make financial commitment 2 that course, my sister make u run. Afterall, a broken engagement is better than a broken marrige. Learn from my xperience dear
U r going 2 make a mistake in ur life jt walk away 4rm d reationship dat guy nd d family don't luv u one bit..if at d end u give dem all ur savings d marriage don't hold wat wil u do nd a again my dear it shld b d man paying ur bride price nt u paying ur own bride price u c only help ur hubby in some area..so my dear jt wait 4 God's time ur own hubby wil cme 4 get d yrs u v dated dis guy nd don't mind if pple laugh at u becos u r d onme wearing d shoe
This girl is mad o,why would u even think of releasing all the money u have for a wedding,,,,,d guy is a working class,so he isn't gonna contribute atall?which kain useless talk be dis?he's working,u r working too,so in d wedding plans,he doesn't want to contribute,,ok now,na u wan marry am abi????kai...pls open ur eyes abeg...the problem is that,u've shown him too much dat u have money.dats why...he should contribute a larger sum of money for d wedding,then u can add yours...shikena!!
For my village na man dey marry woman no be the other way round. That guy is a fraud sweet girl, you better run for your life cause he will dupe u and dump u. 1st to comment linda!!!!!!
Pls, let me reconfirmed this before I make any comments. Are you a lady or a guy sent this in? I only know men to be the one in charege of planning and sponsoring a wedding, the woman supports with what she has. Again, his mother gave you the wedding bill? That's ridiculous, kinda sounds like a schemed-scam, but babe be wise, you know these peeps better than LIBers, if it's okay by you, pay, if not, be wise....So help you God!
This is desperation at its peak. Kick off the mofo away from ur life. Trust me u will regret this marriage if u marry d loser. Use d money to invest in another biz n watch it grow. A better man who would appreciate a hard working woman will come along by God's grace. Dat guy does not love u. Run for ur life n happiness.
lady don't act desperate lyk u want dis weddin' so bad,just kip clam n u wee get a gud result @ d end of d day.......if u use all ur lyf savings 4 ur weddin' n d weddin' turns out 2 b shii,who wld u turn 2?just pray 2 GOD 2 take control.....GOD b wit u(n me.....amen)
Pls dear poster gal leave dis gold digger of a man. He doesn't want 2 marry u ooo. Stop forcing ursef on him. Dust ur slippers nd RUN away 4rm dis parastic man. Wen una marry shey na u go dey put food 4 table, pay d children skul fees. Abeg young lady wisen up. A word is enof 4 d wise
My dear dnt try it oh hw cn u pay 4 d wedding dey ar just talkin advantage of ur desperation....dnt b surprise wen u giv dem d moni it will enter voice mail no wedding..... Sum bini pple always act dt way
I sorry 4 u...once an alhaji bringi bringi always a bringer beta run as fast as ur legs can carry u my dear...it's not worth it.
I promise u if u start ur marriage being d provider, u would always b d money machine, it's obvious ur fiance nd his mum have no ounce of shame in them.
Dnt do dat, God will giv u a man who is willing to borrow fr ur sake to show u dat ur loved, ur current fiancee. N his mum r up to smetin dnt giv them the chance to ruin u. Kip ur money or else u will regret ur marriage n u will not earn any respect frm him n his family, they will treat u bad cos ur desperate.
does he want a wedding also? if yes he should support you financially. you want him thats why you want to get wed. if he wants you as well get in involve financially also.. drop 2million.. keep 1million for the unexpected.... scarlifar
ReplyDeleteRelease all your money for the wedding. All for love.. ..lol
ReplyDeleteI bu ewu? Are u a goat?, until u are sucked dry u ll not run 4 ur life
ReplyDeleteLike seriously is it compulsory to have an elaborate wedding u had better cut ur coat according to ur size abi una wan de drink garri after ur wedding.
ReplyDeleteWith all due respect, to even mention it, ure the biggest mumu of a lifetiime.WHO is marrying WHO??pls run as fast as you can.i don't believe this.tinz r really happening in this country. The guy don *see* you finish.
ReplyDeletedoes he want a wedding also? if yes he should support you financially. you want him thats why you want to get wed. if he wants you as well get in involve financially also.. drop 2million.. keep 1million for the unexpected.... scarlifar
ReplyDeleteNne, find were run dey, start to dey run.
ReplyDeleteAre u crazy to even be asking this typ of question.
Lili u go begin dey add der names oo. So we go believe say na real pple gt d's kind ish n u ain't makn em up. 4reals? U dey pay 4 d weddn cos we dey America? My dear move on wt ur life! Which kind men dey d's world sef? Craze pple! #kkkbye
ReplyDeleteforget the guy if he is not ready. I bet you, there is no going to be happiness in the marriage if you sponsor the wedding alone. Move on if he is not ready.
ReplyDeleteUse ur money for wedding&continue to pay the bills for ever,u'l pay ur children's skol fees&upkeep of the house,pls dnt make that mistake,pple dat earn less than 170k,plan their weddings themselves,he will always tell u,u were desperate
ReplyDeletePlease my dear, dump him! He doesn't love you enough and is obviously not ready to settle down.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely no no, don't pay for the wedding- if the guy is not ready nor willing to marry after five years, then move on!!!! Clearly, you are not wife material as far as he is concerned!
ReplyDeleteNa wa o. They sent you list of 4 million. Please advise yourself and run.
ReplyDeleteYou should not invest all you have into a marriage ceremony that will be over before you know it. You can always get married in a smaller way. The payments should be a joint effort. You both earn money
ReplyDeletePls forget abt him and move on with your life. He is might to wed you not you wedding him. What nonsense, the mother giving u bill for the son's wedding. Better read the hand writing on the wall.
ReplyDeleteSweetie please move on!how wil u pay for d wedding? 5yrs is noting compared to what u will face if u pay for wedding am sure bride price is on u abi?Desperation is not good dear move on!!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat arrant madness the man and his mother have no shame, dnt build the foundation of your marriage as the sole provider because before you know it u will be the one paying house rent, children school fees and even buying petrol in his car abeg my dear run
ReplyDeleteForget the man n move on biko!5yrs?wt 170k,he shld ve done sth by now.re u desperate?biko kip ur money.wat nonsense?he is not even saying let him bring half.mtschewwww!ladies biko shine ur eyes o.y will u be a ring holder 4 5yrs?I won't be surprised if he leaves u for else person sef.men are scum...n ds is coming from a guy....kip ur money n leave ur options open.enuf wt the fiancee tn.5yrs is enuf!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm worried about U... It's obvious these people don't want you in their family and they are doing these things to tell U off. There was a reason our culture held that men pay for the marriage,so he'd value u for what u are worth. If u then "marry urself",he'd hold u at no high esteem at all... Please review ur marriage to him and pray seriously about it...
ReplyDeleteDis is serz. Y wud u b d 1 2 sponsor d weddin. Y r u so desperate in marryin dis man. Pls don't jst releasin all ur money on d weddin cos u wil regret it. Jst 4get about him n move forward with ur life. Abeg
ReplyDeleteu dnt ve to do dat... it our culture we r not frm india
ReplyDeleteso he sud at least start sometin n u will assist him.
If des story is real! Den lemme laugh in latin first ooo,my dear U mst be a bigger fool to evn plan using all ur savings for dt marriage,for dt woman ur called Ur bf moda u shuld undastnd sef dt u re not needed if not why ll a woman as old as she is to call U and tell U such rubbish. My shine Ur eye well well ooo.u beta wake up now b4 its too late for U,dere is nothing bad adding ur little money in d wedding expenses but not carrying d whole expenses on ur head. Be wise.
ReplyDeleteWhen he is ready you will know, dont be anxious or desperate.
ReplyDeleteWow. That is really wicked of him. Are you sure he is the right man for you.
ReplyDeleteWhy don't you ask him to do the wedding anyhow he can afford it or give him 1.5m while he contributes the remaining 2.5m
I haven't heard his side of the story so my opinion is not conclusive.
My babe pls i beg u...... if you know your boyfriend is serious, pls wait for him to make enough, you both need to sit down amd talk about how you can both save money towards the wedding. Him especially.
ReplyDeletekw dat u r not an indian lady. he makes d move den u support him
ReplyDeletehe is not serious.he must have been showing you the signs that he is not ready for marriage but u ignored it.whatever you condole single it will be worse when u get married .so the earlier u count your loss the better.Its not about the money but the attitude of ur "fiancee"
ReplyDeleteMy dear, it's very wrong to a woman to sponsor a wedin, besides why is the mum givin you d weddin estimate? Somtin is not right
ReplyDeleteForget him sharp
ReplyDeleteDear, pls jst 4get abt him cos he doesn't want 2 mary u, it's hard 2 believe bt dat is d truth
ReplyDeleteu dnt ve to do dat... it our culture we r not frm india
ReplyDeleteso he sud at least start sometin n u will assist him.
Egbami ke? Like seriously,some pple don't need to be told wot to do before asking...Pls,ma dear..why are u confused? D hand writing is written BOLDLY on d wall...Why do u wanna get ursf in dis mess...uv seen it coming nw already..his mother is trying to boost her son's bank account buh instead lavish urs,Use ur head gal..Sit ur man down and try to slug it out wv him dat u can neva use ur own personal money to finance d whole wedding..But if he is not seeing it frm ur own angle..Beta walk away in other to avoid story dat touches after d wedding..sometimes it's nt al abt d wedding itself buh al abt being married happily...
ReplyDeletePlease run as fast and as far as you can. Going by your story, this may be the beginning of you taking care of all family bills.
ReplyDeleteYou sound so desperate. Tell ur parents abt ur intentions and see if ur mum won't land u a slap. See d kinda family u wanna end up in, ppl without shame. 4million, when there son doesn't even av a kobo for his own wedn. Pls babes, marriage is a serious commitment, u can't rush into it jst cos ur friends are, wait, the right man will find u, bt 1st let go of that lazy man and his greedy mum. I rest my case.
ReplyDeleteI do not object to a lady contributing to her wedding but this is a No-NO, being the sole sponsor and mother-in-law is dictating how it will go? your man should be able to contribute some percentage and both of you can decide what you want. your mother-in-law of course can share her ideas but I do not agree these ideas should be forced down your throat. It is an issue that can be resolved. Do not leave your man, except you have other reasons. Abi, is he a mama's boy?
ReplyDeletePlease run as fast and as far as you can. Going by your story, this may be the beginning of you taking care of all family bills.
ReplyDeleteThe man s not serious just 4get him
ReplyDeleteThis Story Is Made Up!! Well its obvious your eager to settle down because Age is no longer on your side or for reasons best known to you.. Suit Yourself!! You Know Better.. You Can Only Assist a Man for Wedding And Not Pay For The Wedding!! Be Wise!!
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You're being scammed. Forget about him.
ReplyDeleteplease let go. u dont actually marry the person you love...u love the person u marry #mymotto. choose wisely
ReplyDeleteDis is ridiculous and completely outrageous, ow can you allow ur mother inlaw to give you bill for your own marriage abi aree you the one going to ask for her son's marriage. Allow the man to work the money his gonna use to mrry you, therez dignity in d@ if not 2mw he'd use d@ against u. If he ends d@ much and can't save for his wedding in 5yrs then his not ready. Who knws if he didn't conive wit his mother to do w@ shez doing. For me I tink you should leave d@ man and move on with his life.
ReplyDeleteI think you should leave.
ReplyDeleteI know how hard it will be for u at this junction of ur life but my dear leave this family... They will defraud u of ur cash...
ReplyDeleteAll dese stories u post @ tyms sha. No further comment.
ReplyDeleteDont marry him.u ar more valuable than dat. Free urself.u ar nt meant 2 spend ur money u can only assist.if d guy is truly ready.mony will cum out
ReplyDeleteU pple think Libers are daft yea? U post stupid stories dat are not real and expect pple 2 post their comments. It is ur mother in law that wuld make wedding estimations 4 u? Dumb ass.
ReplyDeleteDont pay for the wedding you o! waka pass jor are you that desperate???? Arh! forget the man..
ReplyDeletePls try no such thing,he shld be one dat will cater 4 d wedding den u support him. Don't be desperate abt marriage girls
ReplyDeleteHas the Baddest nigga on this blog I will just wait to reads comments. But babe you re crazy ooh na by force to marry why do gals act lyk dis na. Sir Aplachino went via nokia3310
ReplyDeleteAll dese stories u post @ tyms sha. No further comment.
ReplyDeleteIf his shameless mother wants a 4 million naira wedding, then she should get her son to fork out 2.5 million. If you can't pay for your own wedding as a man, then something is wrong. I am not saying that you shouldn't help, but 4 million? Seriously and her son earns more?!! Sister fleee!! That man does not want to marry you.
ReplyDeleteGod punish the mother and the son!!oh girl move on with ur life and stop being desperate..Tomorrow he will turn u into an Atm machine and if u don't give money to him he turns u to his punching bag#Aru#
ReplyDeleteU have money sha o, incase u don't know what to do with it, let me help u keep it.. Pay 4 marriage ko; 4 million ni
ReplyDeleteHe too earns as u do,he is a man pls n pls don't try it.its his responsibility,hold on to him or better still look 4 another man.Once you start dis dats how it will be forever
ReplyDeleteThis man is a gold digger and he is not truly interested in you. You are wasting your time with him. Are you hearing yourself? How can you be the only,one paying for your wedding? You are not marrying yourself and Such is a Man's responsibility. His mother has no business calling you to tell you to pay for her son. This is a dead end my dear. If you know what is good, leave him. This man is not good for you and certainly does not love you. No man who is decent will talk you into paying for your own wedding. It is not done.
ReplyDeletePls forget the guy, do not pay for that wedding.
ReplyDeletePLEASE FORGET THAT MAN AND MOVE ON. WHAT SORT OF RUBBISH IS THIS. THATS NOT A MAN. WHO ON EARTH WILL GIVE A WOMAN SUCH A RESPONSIBILITY. IT IS ALIEN TO OUR AFRICAN CULTURE.
ReplyDeleteWow so he doesnt have anything to contribute at all...that cant be right,so he expects you to sponsor the whole wedding oga oo.I'll advice you not to spend all your life savings on a wedding biko,if he cant spare anything from his own pocket then pls forget this man he is not ready for marriage.BCos when the time comes he will say you are the one that forced the wedding/marriage down his throat plus if he is not ready to help you with the wedding issue what makes you think he will support you when you go broke from all the expenses of this so called wedding.
ReplyDelete4get abt him and move on. He earns more than u. Y do u want 2 b d 1 covering all expenses 4 d wedding? R u dat desperate 2 get married? Afta weddin xpenses, house rent will cum up. Children's school fees as well. Will u b able 2 handle it?
ReplyDeleteu sound desperate to get married so he will definitely take advantage of that...he told u to go ahead with using your money to do that? well, he doesnt even care as u can tell..
ReplyDeleteI think u should forget him..and his mother is so inconsiderate too..wait till u get married then u will see
Forget that family.infact run for ur own good.
ReplyDeleteThey're not meant for u
Sistah!!!!! Start as you mean to go along. KPAKAM!!!
ReplyDeleteU should. Know better! Ur man is not only very stingy, he is callous and doesn't love u one bit! A man who lov es a woman is ready to do anything positive to keep for live ! Baby move on with ur life before u take a step u will regret for live!
ReplyDeleteDon't be stupid, D̶̲̥̅̊ªτ̅ shows γφυ want †ђξ marriage more than him. If he truly want †ђξ wedding, let him finance Ãήϑ γφυ add †̥ it. Save your money Fø̲̣̣я̅ something reasonable.
ReplyDeleteMy dear move on with ur life, marriage is not by force! How u go dey pay for ur wedding & na ur supposed mother in law go even dey calculate d cost wen her son is not dropping anything? Forget d guy & enjoy ur money or else u keep on paying for everything in the marriage.
ReplyDeletelinda is this story for real.
ReplyDeleteMogbe! Oginni! Pay for wetin? Abeg no even try am...there are other productive things u can spend ur money on...if u don't marry him now,u will remain single forever ba? If he and his mother were humane enough,they would know you don't deserve the rubbish they just brought to ur table to finance...U can assist him in doing it buh not u being d sole-sponsor...And if dey insist..abeg drop the ewu and delete him like badt rubbish...There is someone for everyone
ReplyDeleteEgbami ke? Like seriously,some pple don't need to be told wot to do before asking...Pls,ma dear..why are u confused? D hand writing is written BOLDLY on d wall...Why do u wanna get ursf in dis mess...uv seen it coming nw already..his mother is trying to boost her son's bank account buh instead lavish urs,Use ur head gal..Sit ur man down and try to slug it out wv him dat u can neva use ur own personal money to finance d whole wedding..But if he is not seeing it frm ur own angle..Beta walk away in other to avoid story dat touches after d wedding..sometimes it's nt al abt d wedding itself buh al abt being married happily...
ReplyDeleteHmmm u must be d biggest fool to enter into dat kind of train,can u jst hear urself d way it sound,he even earn more than u do monthly and he has never for once think it wise to hav a save for his future partner,to rap it all his mother has d face to go ahead and made a surplus expences bcos they think u are d daughter of central bank,let me tell u dis,if u release dat money be ready to face the rejection and maltreatment u will get in due time wen u fail to do same in d furture,haba
ReplyDeleteBabe,just forget this guy.This is just a ploy by him to discourage you.and I suspect his mom is his cohort.When I got married about 5years ago,my mother inlaw and I sat down to work out the expenses and not the other way round.this is alien to our culture as africans.
ReplyDeleteAny man that can not bring money to marry you is not serious . Also any self respecting mother of a Man should be sending the bills to her son. These people are users. Do not be desperate. The man you will eventually man will not take 5 years to make up his mind ! run as fast as you can. You should be supporting this man not being the sole financier of your own wedding. If he marries you be ready to pay rent , house keeping and school fees while he uses his money for God knows what. They no thet tell person 2 times.
ReplyDeletedon't try it oo. How can your to be mother inlaw treat you this way. Then worst/any will happen during the marriage and pepper eye go finish you badly. Just forget this marriage for now oo my dear sister cos when a man is ready to settle nothing stops him
ReplyDeleteI have a feeling only U can answer this question.
ReplyDeleteI will advice you not to drop your money.
ReplyDeleteDon't be a learner my frnd, though u re desperate on settling down & dey know u re so dey wanna act on dat. Dem wan job u so, use ur brain my dear. Move on he's a beast, he doesn't love u, just let him go. Bimbo
ReplyDeleteCommon leave dat bastard jor, send dat stupid woman's numb lemme insult her life. Is he d only man on earth dat u av 2 waste all ur savings, na woman dey do marriage abi na india u dey. If I silaappp u enh u'll wake up 4rm ur slumber
ReplyDeleteUse your hands to close your mouth. No Benin woman will stoop that low to ask money from her sons GF for wedding. Apart from that your earn 100k and yet you have 3m in your account claiming to be funds you made from supply. You must be a thief. Above all, You are a Big Liar and i don't have any advise to give you. Benin people are not wasteful and i don't see what you she intend to do with that must amount.
ReplyDeletePls my dear,forget him and move on..use dat 3million and start something useful for yourself while working too..the guy is a buffon
ReplyDeleteCommunicate yourself to him properly & in a very clear & simple way with your fiance. Be honest. He should be honest as well. if you like, write down the points you need to address & break them down, so that you dont appear to be all over the place. be specific because unfortunately, men dont have the sense to understand conversations if they said indirectly/ vaguely.
ReplyDeleteIf all is well...i think you should be upfront about how long you're willing to wait & stick to it. don't compromise what will make you happy. if you take yourself seriously, your man will do the same. you can't plan a wedding without your partner. It isnt only about you. you are getting to married to him & not yourself. if you go on with the solo wedding plans be prepared to be in that marriage by yourself.
You cannot force an adult to do what he isnt ready for. do your part & let him do his part.. but be smart. there's only so much you can do. don't put so much stress on yourself.
Hehehe. .Wharisdis bikonu? See what desperation is making a gal do.Babe..did they write mumu on your forehead? Can't you see that these people want to just use you. .I mean it's ok if both of you contribute. ..buh I don't support the idea of you footing the bills alone abeg...Linda if you like don't post my comment as usual. ..goat! !!
ReplyDeleteNo female, woman or girl of any nationality has ever been raised to be the best woman she can be to grow up and find a broke man who can't SUPPORT her period. Only very few women have been brainwashed to think they need nothing from their man. Most of all their wedding expenses. You can teach your daugther to be be her man's surrogate mama and use her life savings to get her desperate ass a husband. Me, I WANT MY DAUGHTER'S MAN TO GIVE HER THE WORLD. Simple enough answer for you? Idiot!
ReplyDeletePls pls pls run for ur dear life b4 u end up wishing u were out of a marriage u hurriedly went into. Use ur money to better urself. U dont beg a man to maRry u or even totally pay for ur own wedding...tufiakwa
ReplyDeleteNope, don't put all your eggs in one basket. How abt a low key wedding? Must you run into debt all in the name of wedding? From what you quoted both of you are making you should not use more than 1.5 million on your wedding. Book an open field instead of a big hall!
ReplyDeleteLeave him and move on with your life.
ReplyDeleteAbeg pay for d wedding oo...infact don't even spend ur 3million naira alone..u can even get a loan from ur place of work to finance it aswell...and afta d whole drama...come here again to start disturbing us for another advice on what to do to ur broke-ass....
ReplyDeleteMy dear you don't have to be confused,you are just about to be a bank account to that family.......you will spend on them for eternity since all you want from their son is a wedding. If he really wanted to marry you,he would have made the plans......I know you also have your family,find a way to help your siblings and not making wedding plans out of desperation.
ReplyDeleteMrs Emeka Madu
If I were you I would focus more on the marriage than on the wedding. These are mere accoutrements that will last a day or two, except you're the one seeking an extravagant wedding; which might explain your fiance's lack of interest in the financial aspect of this venture. Discuss with your partner and cut your coat according to size.
ReplyDeleteU̶̲̥̅̊ better walk out.
ReplyDeleteIt depends on what u hv noticed abt d guy,if he is a greedy man,U beta run. It isn't right dat u single handedly finance d wedding and he is working,something is wrong somewhere.
ReplyDeleteDon't U DARE to marry him!!! Dats if d wedding holds at all. Both ur bf & his Mum has mapped out a plan to defraud u in broad day light!
ReplyDeleteMy dear lady, pls RUN away from dat guy as fast & as far as ur Legs can carry u.
Also confide in ur own parent d same way he has confided in his mum, den u'll c how tinz play out.
Please leave the man...run for your life. It's very obvious they don't want you but they just don't want to break your heart. This is a perfect way of them showing they do not want you.
ReplyDeleteLeave this man, He's not your husband. If a man doesn't spend on you, he'll have no value for u or the marriage. He'll have nothing to lose by walking out on you when its convenient for him. Don't rush, God has someone special for you, he's around the corner.
ReplyDeletei think you should forget him if you both cant contribute equally or he contributes alone.
ReplyDeleteits obvious he doesnt love you and even after the marriage he will start misbehaving. A man who loves you will be the one gathering his last kobo just to put you in the house. Its not even advisable to allow a man you are dating know your financial status until you have tested his love. There are many fake people out there looking for people to rip off and live on.His mother is a sorry story so by the time you spend all that money you will have nothing and how do you know he wont marry someone else. Test his love for you before you decide to marry.
i think you should forget him if you both cant contribute equally or he contributes alone.
ReplyDeleteits obvious he doesnt love you and even after the marriage he will start misbehaving. A man who loves you will be the one gathering his last kobo just to put you in the house. Its not even advisable to allow a man you are dating know your financial status until you have tested his love. There are many fake people out there looking for people to rip off and live on.His mother is a sorry story so by the time you spend all that money you will have nothing and how do you know he wont marry someone else. Test his love for you before you decide to marry.
Lmfaooooo RUN! with Ur feet touching your head....they are not serious....the main issue is getting married,there is no place where it's written that one must have an extravagant wedding,the mother must be silly and Ur fiance is not a man...leave him IMO.
ReplyDeleteY is d man acting iresponsibly?
ReplyDeleteWaka my sister u will me a man that will truly luv u.
ReplyDeleteMy dear sister, I don't think it's a nice thing for you to pay for your wedding cost . It seems to me you want to take his role and he's going to take you for granted later . The ball is in your court . Ask God for direction.
ReplyDeleteThat guy and his mother are gold diggers and I advice u leave him.it's just as if u want 2 marry urself.he doesn't want 2 marry u period! If u pay 4 d wedding expenses,u will regret later dear!
ReplyDeletePls, u ppl should stop all these stories that make men feel liks d world is in their pockets. U re walking into a loveless marriage wide-eyed. Get ready to pay for all u need in ur home while married to him. My dear, I kno 5 yrs is a lot of tim but pls, walk away if he's nt willing to contribute. Pray to God nd he wl bless u wt d right man. Besides, 3 million is too much. Write ur own list
ReplyDeleteRe u buying d whole family or just 4 weeding dat u will spend such amount?secondly y should u be d one to spend on his wedding,if he can't face his responsibility as a man,I advice u forget him and forge ahead,he has plans for anoda woman not u.
ReplyDeleteYou want to use ALL your money for wedding without him dropping anything, and he earns more than you do? Are you the one marrying him?
ReplyDeleteIt is even more shameful that HIS mother is sending you a list for the wedding.
What is this world turning into? Can't the two of you have a wedding you can afford?
He is not ready, better move o and look for another man that is ready to be a MAN.
just follow your mind dear because sometimes advice might be wrong
ReplyDeleteU be complete ode, na u wan marry man abi man dey marry woman ni.... Desperatn is a bastard ooo,c wetin e wan cos u.... Abegyyy move on O jaree.....
ReplyDeleteMy dear,u jst mentioned only one issue out of tens of thousand issues. I dont see reason why u should leave if dere are no oda issues
ReplyDeletelet him go
ReplyDeleteNa wa o!let the elders advice
ReplyDeleteMy dear, d truth might be difficult but its obvious they dnt want u,,,so leave d time waster alone.
ReplyDeleteIf ur still askn 4advise ur a big mumu..cnt u c d handwritin on d wall..if d guy rili wnts 2marry u he wudnt wait 5yrs n countin..stop wastin ur tym wt him
ReplyDeleteMy dear sister, have you prayed? Only God can answer that question correctly.
ReplyDeleteOmo dis one na cerioux GOBE, my dear run nd never luk bck. Can u imagine
ReplyDeleteMy dear pls n pls leave this dude alone..WTF is wrong with naija babes n marriage...must weddings be elaborate... The mother of the boy sorry to say she is a very wicked n heartless mother... Pls leave the dude alone...after all the bible says **and adam took eve **nt the other way round..
ReplyDeletePlease forget this MAN; he is a 419 not a HUSBAND for you.
ReplyDeleteR u a mumu?hw can u pay for weddin dat is fake d mum herself is a 419 ur fiance 4110
ReplyDeleteMy dear that so called man dnt love because if he does u shouldn't be the one talking about marriage.find someone who loves u.
ReplyDeleteMy love pls don't enter such home biko plssssss oh why should u be d one to pay for everything when ur man earns 170k ahah bebe hope u are not blind sha pls move on oh because dat man is not ready to marry you.............
ReplyDeletewhy waste money on marriage that wont last. The guy is not ready and he's unwilling. Simple ...#NewsBlist
ReplyDeleteSo he earns more than you and you could save 3million? Why can't he save? And what woman instigate and pay for her wedding alone? My dear, if he wants to marry you, he'll find a way to make it happen!!!! Go and save ur money and don't be stupid!!!
ReplyDeleteYou both make 270k per month a plan a wedding of 3-4m. Please all of you should get your heads checked.
ReplyDeleteDespirado oshi! Pay d moni nau
ReplyDeleteU r a fool for considering sponsoring the wedding in the first place, r u tht desperate.. such marrige would hardly stand the test of tym..
ReplyDeleteBtw u can't spend all the money you have on a wedding....and then live 'from hand to mouth' after the wedding. I believe you should be wise..
ReplyDeleteI feel this ppl wants to make money off you. The mum shud be considerate na. He can bring 70% and u bring 30%, or share the bill somehow but don't accept more than 50 sha. Except he doesn't want to marry u.
ReplyDeleteRun for ur pretty life
ReplyDeleteHis mother called you and gave you a list? Please dump his sorry ass ASAP!
ReplyDeleteMy sister don't even try it,wen u use ur money to marry that man he will use it 2 insult u even day,meanwhile he is earns more dan u do I didn't say don't spport d wedding with any money but don't do it all alone,if not after everything ur in big trouble.
ReplyDeleteSee wetin desperation 1 doo... nd isn't his mother ashamed his son fiancée wana solely sponsor dier wedding? Silly !!got no advice 4 uu...
ReplyDeleteFirst, I feel u guys combined income is enough to start a family but the biggest surprise is why his Mother wants a big wedding or doesn't she have an Idea of how much her son earns? I feel you shldnt give up ur whole savings for a wedding, give 1million and manage whatever can come from that.... SAVE YOUR MONEY, Men cannot be trusted!!! PS: I'm a man commenting
ReplyDeleteMumu go borrow 1million add to ur 3million giv ur Moda inlaw to be as she's a wedding planner. U jst wake up & post nonsense & begin to ask 4 advice,nor advice ur slf,wait ooo.
ReplyDeleteU should leave him immediately
ReplyDeletePls don't pay 4 years of unhappiness; you'll sure regret this.
ReplyDeletemy simple advice, forget him. if he rily loves u he wil b so eager to tie the knot. the fact that he is dragging his feets means he has probably fallen out of love wit u, my sister read the handwriting on the wall
ReplyDeleteDumbass so after wedding u wld be broke. Start living with ur moda in law . If she wants a 4 million naria wedding let dem pa y 4 it
ReplyDeleteM0VE 0N N0W!
ReplyDeleteLinda why na mumu mumu pple u just dey talk of today...if she no well make she go yaba left abeg..arrant nonsense. Why is he a Man...if he is not ready make him piante. Lokmak
ReplyDeleteIf u start paying now,be ready to continue after the wedding
ReplyDeleteMy dear leave the man and run as fast as ur legs could carry u
ReplyDeleteIf u start paying now,be ready to continue after the wedding
ReplyDeleteMy dear, dnt fund d wedding. If he wants 2 marry u, he ll do wt hs fellow guys r doin, y task u 2 fund d wedding?
ReplyDeleteGirl is either u r foolish I don't even believe this story. Sound too dumb to be true. Pls Linda ur stories are sounding likes jokes this days
ReplyDeleteIf this guy has been wrkin since the time u started dating. This guy has made bout 10million! He shud b able 2 bring something @least,if he's serious he would av brought up an idea of of u both sharing the cost even though I believe he has to bring more! Meehhhn! Gal! U can bring some money 4d marriage but not all o! I don't advice u to face errthang alone!
ReplyDeleteHw will u sponsor ur own weddin, babe u beta run , he shud b able 2 tak care of it, evn if u wana add nytn it shudnt be 3m........
ReplyDeleteDis is nt funny,I pity u if u shld giv her d moni u ar on ur own.......d guy does nt luv u.......Boya u shld park well.
ReplyDeleteForget him? Hell no! Go ahead and pay for him to be married to you and tomorrow come and post on LIB that he doesn't pick up any expenses at home. If he can't afford the wedding, don't wed!
ReplyDeleteLinda you most think ur readers and follwers are mumu abi
ReplyDeleteI am a man, and I will be very blunt here. Any man that cannot afford a wedding should remain single until he is ready. My girlfriend of many years made the same offer, but I declined. She left. Life went on,and now I'm very ready cos I can afford to single handedly sponsor my wedding. Why have we,the men thrown away shame? When did we actually lose it? Would such a man have the temerity to question you afterwards? After all we know that he that pays the Piper dictates the tone. Who would head that home? Drop the shameless brother! What is the essence of marriage when things are not done the way they should be done? You don't deserve such a family. I'm disappointed in the mum as well. My dear sister-Libers, run away from any man that shamelessly takes money from you. It should be the other way round.
ReplyDeleteIf you pay now, then you will keep paying the bills throughout the marriage. If the man is responsible, then he would contribute to his wedding.
ReplyDeleteIts quite clear, he doesn't want to spend heavily on u, babes abeg speak to ur legs, if a man loves u, u won't av to tell him to wed u, he'll beg u to
ReplyDeleteThat will be the biggest mistake you'll ever make! The least he can do is support you and contribute at least half! Don't do it, you'll regret it.
ReplyDeleteDnt make the mistake of dropping the money
ReplyDeleteHis mother has got no business with the wedding plan,it has to be between you and your husband. Girl,think they re trying to extort you and its better for you to walk out of it before things get worst...
ReplyDeletePlease leave him and walk away, if he truly loves u he would spend for the wedding.
ReplyDeleteU better free the nigga, seems like he is not ready for commitment
ReplyDeletePretty Lady who hates sex
Dnt make the mistake of dropping the money
ReplyDeleteyour boyfriend is a jackass ...babe plsssss walk
ReplyDeleteDont even think about marrying the stingy bastard and his family! The shameless mother is even given you a price! If a guy does not feel the cost of marrying from his own pocket then he got you on the cheap and will never value you. And trust me he has taken u for granted and that has family will bleed you dry!
ReplyDeleteam not sure that guy want to marry u, but keep in mind dat after u spent ur money he ur marriage might have problem after one month. pls dont ever pay for ur wedding is his job to do so while u can support him how u can but not with all ur money u guys must feed after wedding.
ReplyDeleteLady, the so called fiance and mother are both shameless, the guy is obviously not ready and not showing commitment as expected.
ReplyDeleteYou need to be wise and if you are bent on getting married it should be to someone who really loves you. The Wedding lasts for a day but marriage is a lifetime contract, after the wedding, how many of your capital projects as a family will you bear same way.
pray about this, good luck.
Do not make the biggest mistake of your life. Run faster than your legs can carry you. Are you going to pay your own bride price? Darling, buy yourself a car. You've worked for it and deserve it. Don't buy a husband. He'll never appreciate you the way he should.
ReplyDeleteOh my God whyare we women so gullible. What is wrong wiv the world. Its people like u that make it seem as If marriage is a bad thing! Its not a curse but u can never be happy in that marriage. Your husband even earns more than you yet he cannot save for wedding? There is no way u wouldn't have seen the signs from the onset that ur bf is a stingy goat. See d mother calling u to and given u estimate.... The world is really coming to an end! My dear if u use that money to do wedding, God will punish u! Am so angry! What kind of nonsense is that! Why would u even tell him u have money! Are u so desperate! You must be very stupid...... Abeg linda no dey post this kain nonsense again! Just spoilt my mood. This suegbe will come out later when d man begin dey fuck up say she spent all her savings on him or that she suffered for him! Rubbish! Abeg u people should stop making marriage seem like a bad thing! Especially when its ur fault that u chose the wrong man!
ReplyDeleteLeave d dude and his worthless mother. So in other words u are marrying yourslfe bah? Pls after 5yrs and a guy dose not no what he wants walk away.cos if u marry dis guy get ready to bear all d responsibilities of dmarriage @ this rate
ReplyDeletePls dont pay 4 d wedding o bcus it just like u ar paying 4 ur bride price..if d guy earns mur dan u den he shuld able to pay 4 wedding,beg him nd ask hm dat does he rily want to marry u or sum1 else...
ReplyDeleteWat is wrong wth women and all dis desperate move. Why will u even consider paying 4 d wedding. Is he marrying u or u re marrying him. O gal u dey crazy better forget d man
ReplyDeleteWow....
ReplyDeleteAsk yourself how things are done in your culture. Then reevaluate your relationship.
Pls 4get him and move on...happy
ReplyDelete4get abt him , he will run with d money
ReplyDeleteHeheheh do u knw I laughed at u. It seem u culd bearly account for some percentage of u. Pls look fot it in anoda man.nd not dis one. Dia day u dnt need such a huge amount to marry. It suld be clear to u dat dey dont want u. If u can provide 500k it ok. But beyond dat u 're on ur own. Pls van I ask u something? Is it his family giving his hand to u or urs to their son. Wat wil ur family collect ? Nd who did u want to spend dat money for? Is it those dat wil stil insult u ? Has court gone on recession? How much does ikoyi registery need to join u? Think mumu think. Sorry to insult u.
ReplyDeleteContact me at imoh_akpabio@yahoo.com I will carry the expenses. U seem like a nice girl
ReplyDeleteMa dear,dis guy obviously not ready for marriage,u d one pushing it nd e will def reminds u dat later on...men ain't worth d stress iswear..will advise u move on wiv ur life abeg..
ReplyDeleteMy dear, that guy doesn't want to marry you and he has made plans with his mother to get rid of you. Dump him and never look back. Be wise!
ReplyDeleteU forced a comment out of me. You r abt to be scammed, if u think that woman that called u is not a scammer. U must be a learner. U berra keep ur money.
ReplyDeleteCAPITAL YES MY DEAR BE WISER THAN YOUR ENEMIES THIS GUY AND THE MOM WANT TO USE YOU AND DUMP YOU HABA GO BACK TO YOUR DROWING BOAD FAST FOR 3 DAYS U WILL SEE THERE HIDDEN AGENDA WILL BE EXPOSED PLEASE PLEASE TAKE MY ADVICE AND BE WARNED.THE GUY IS NOT SERIOUS.
ReplyDeleteDearest plzzzz run for ur life oooo
ReplyDeleteNo story... Pack ur load n leave immediately, it's so obvious na.u go pay sch fees n dont be desperate,i almost fell a victim, thank. God my fiance lives n appreciate me,right with him in d states now,planning our engagement, abeg wait for God's time, i am grateful to God for answering my prayers. ....glory be to God...forever grateful
ReplyDeleteRe u 4 real? U re only suppose 2 assist him if he doesn't hve d moni like he claims nt pay 4 everytin N d mum has d effrontery 2 send u list,pls who wil b d husband den wen u pay 4 d list? Let me tel u something,u beta b ready 2 start paying 4 everything wen u eventually get married cos he wil keep on telling u he doesn't hve moni,aw can he b earning more dan u N he's telling u he dos nt hve moni,nt dat d moni he has is nt enuf bt no moni @ al,sis pls move on abeg,he's nt serious,if he rili want 2 marry u den he wil luk 4 moni + d wedding doesn't hve 2 b big,he can cut down d budget if he rili want 2.
ReplyDeleteFirstly,u knw wat u're about 2 do is wrong hence d confusion,hw can u b so desperate 2 get married dat u're even considering paying 4 ur own wedding?babe!!!dis guy doesn't wanna marry u if he really does he will go nd hustle 4 moni 2 marry u.I'm not saying u shuld leave him o,but biko don't pay 4 ur own wedding its jst wrong #my opinion
ReplyDeleteU r going 2 make a mistake in ur life jt walk away 4rm d reationship dat guy nd d family don't luv u one bit..if at d end u give dem all ur savings d marriage don't hold wat wil u do nd a again my dear it shld b d man paying ur bride price nt u paying ur own bride price u c only help ur hubby in some area..so my dear jt wait 4 God's time ur own hubby wil cme 4 get d yrs u v dated dis guy nd don't mind if pple laugh at u becos u r d onme wearing d shoe
ReplyDeleteIts very obvious they don't want u babe
ReplyDeleteMy dear u hv to discuss with ur man. First y must his mum be d one ton plan for the wedding pls my dear think twice pls. Don't just start what u cannot finish. Does it man does not have anything at all. More u can only support pls dear think think
ReplyDeleteYou are a fool. Use ur brain abeg. Can't u see dis boi nd his mother re tryin 2 exploit u. Dey don't want 2 marry u ooo. Can't u see d handwritin on d wall. Are u dat desperate 4 a husband. Na wa ooo wetin pesin no go hear.
ReplyDeleteAm also surprised you're asking this dumb question..where in. Africa does a lady make marriage plans when the supposed husband is working and earning even higher than the supposed wife? Are u that desperate? Better wake up and realize that this is broad day fraud..even the mum had the gut to map out expenses..infact I don't believe this story..#hisses#vexed#
ReplyDeleteWhy would u sponsor d wedding? It only shows ur desperation to get married. If the guy really wants u, he would ve saved up 4 a wedding. My dear, put love aside so u can reason clearly. This man might even say u dragged him into marriage in future. Let me share my experience u. I caught my boyfriend with another girl when she was telling him she was pregnant barely 2months 2 our wedding. Bcos I was inlove, I made excuses 4 him in my heart n neva told soul. 6months into our marriage during a fight, he mocked me by saying he was glad I say him wit d other girl. That it ws to show me dt he was had lots of choices. Asking me Y I didn't leave @ d time if not dt I was desperate to get married. According 2 him, he married me out of pity. All d love I feel is now gone but am stock in d marriage. If this ur man is not eager 2 marry u n also make financial commitment 2 that course, my sister make u run. Afterall, a broken engagement is better than a broken marrige. Learn from my xperience dear
ReplyDeleteIf you are desperate yes...... If you are mot desperate..drop him lits hot...rubbish.
ReplyDeleteMy dear Sister, have you prayed? Only God can answer this question correctly.
ReplyDeleteIf you are desperate yes...... If you are mot desperate..drop him lits hot...rubbish.
ReplyDeletePlease look for another man
ReplyDeletemy dear please move on with your life.....
ReplyDeleteU r going 2 make a mistake in ur life jt walk away 4rm d reationship dat guy nd d family don't luv u one bit..if at d end u give dem all ur savings d marriage don't hold wat wil u do nd a again my dear it shld b d man paying ur bride price nt u paying ur own bride price u c only help ur hubby in some area..so my dear jt wait 4 God's time ur own hubby wil cme 4 get d yrs u v dated dis guy nd don't mind if pple laugh at u becos u r d onme wearing d shoe
ReplyDeleteThis girl is mad o,why would u even think of releasing all the money u have for a wedding,,,,,d guy is a working class,so he isn't gonna contribute atall?which kain useless talk be dis?he's working,u r working too,so in d wedding plans,he doesn't want to contribute,,ok now,na u wan marry am abi????kai...pls open ur eyes abeg...the problem is that,u've shown him too much dat u have money.dats why...he should contribute a larger sum of money for d wedding,then u can add yours...shikena!!
ReplyDeleteFor my village na man dey marry woman no be the other way round. That guy is a fraud sweet girl, you better run for your life cause he will dupe u and dump u. 1st to comment linda!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMove on Dear or u'll be left wif nothing after your wedding..This people are ready to suck you dry!!
ReplyDeletePls, let me reconfirmed this before I make any comments. Are you a lady or a guy sent this in? I only know men to be the one in charege of planning and sponsoring a wedding, the woman supports with what she has.
ReplyDeleteAgain, his mother gave you the wedding bill? That's ridiculous, kinda sounds like a schemed-scam, but babe be wise, you know these peeps better than LIBers, if it's okay by you, pay, if not, be wise....So help you God!
This is desperation at its peak. Kick off the mofo away from ur life. Trust me u will regret this marriage if u marry d loser. Use d money to invest in another biz n watch it grow. A better man who would appreciate a hard working woman will come along by God's grace. Dat guy does not love u. Run for ur life n happiness.
ReplyDeletelady don't act desperate lyk u want dis weddin' so bad,just kip clam n u wee get a gud result @ d end of d day.......if u use all ur lyf savings 4 ur weddin' n d weddin' turns out 2 b shii,who wld u turn 2?just pray 2 GOD 2 take control.....GOD b wit u(n me.....amen)
ReplyDeletePls dear poster gal leave dis gold digger of a man. He doesn't want 2 marry u ooo. Stop forcing ursef on him. Dust ur slippers nd RUN away 4rm dis parastic man. Wen una marry shey na u go dey put food 4 table, pay d children skul fees. Abeg young lady wisen up. A word is enof 4 d wise
ReplyDeleteGo and marry in a court and use the money to start a family
ReplyDeleteMy dear dnt try it oh hw cn u pay 4 d wedding dey ar just talkin advantage of ur desperation....dnt b surprise wen u giv dem d moni it will enter voice mail no wedding..... Sum bini pple always act dt way
ReplyDeleteI sorry 4 u...once an alhaji bringi bringi always a bringer beta run as fast as ur legs can carry u my dear...it's not worth it.
ReplyDeleteI promise u if u start ur marriage being d provider, u would always b d money machine, it's obvious ur fiance nd his mum have no ounce of shame in them.
Dnt do dat, God will giv u a man who is willing to borrow fr ur sake to show u dat ur loved, ur current fiancee. N his mum r up to smetin dnt giv them the chance to ruin u. Kip ur money or else u will regret ur marriage n u will not earn any respect frm him n his family, they will treat u bad cos ur desperate.
ReplyDeleteLeave him fast. #didi
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