Dear LIB readers: Should I forget this man or pay for the wedding?
From a female LIB reader
I have dated my fiance for 5years now. Whenever I ask him
about our marriage plans, he keeps telling me he doesn't have enough
money for the wedding. This guy earns 170k monthly while I earn
100k. I told him I have some cash I made from a supply, can't we use it
for the wedding? He said its okay by him. His mother called me from Benin
last week and said the son told him about our marriage arrangement, that
she has mapped out the wedding expenses. To my greatest surprise she
gave me an amount I can't really explain. I have 3milion on me while she
said everything will cost 4million both for the traditional and white
wedding. my wedding gown is not included, his suit is not included. Should I
forget this man and move on with my life or release all the money I have for the wedding? I am troubled at the moment. I am so confused. Please advise
Like seriously, dump his ass, his mum too is shameless, let it go, ,somethings are not just worth it, theres more to life than marriage, I won't decieve u, u can never br happy with that kind of man
This is the highest level of desperation, u mean u will single handed do the whole wedding rites? Girl u need help, cos u giving it a thought already is not normal. What a shame, even if all men are rotting away in hell will that make u to embark in such a crazy and stupid thing. Meanwhile that guy does not want to marry u and his mother is a very wicked woman. Gosh, indeed some women are shameless and a big disgrace to womanhood. IS HE THE ONLY MAN IN THE WORLD?
My dear don't be a desperado! Hw can you spend everything you have for a wedding!! Pls RUN!!!! His mother is even giving you an outrageous bill, that shows you the kind of family you're about entering.Quote me, u'll forever regret it if you go ahead. Be patient, your man will come. BTW, are you sure they are not planning to defraud you. Look b4 u leap.
PLEASE ,DUMP THIS MAN BEFORE YOU END MENTALLY SICK. HIS MOTHER WAS A PRETENDER ,WHO HAVE TOLD HER SON NOT TO MARRY YOU. IF YOU GIVE THEM THE MONEY ,THEY WILL ASK YOU FOR MORE MONEY.
PLEASE , LOVE IS NOT BLIND, DO NOT BE BLIND TO DANGER.
My dear, u know what u want...if u take care of d expenses for your marriage, be rest assured dt u'll be d one financing d "home".....my candid opinion is u shd stop pestering him for marriage nd continue saving for ur future nd at dsame time on d look out for a husband not a boy....or else this is just a tip of the iceberg.....a man is supposed to be d breadwinner for d home, urs is just to add butter...wise up babe,d guy is just playing wt ur head
The mother had the boldness to give you a list.....Mstchewwww they don't want you to marry him.......please move on with your life...if he likes u he will foot the cost of the marriage
I have never commented on Linda but am so dumb founded by your level of reasoning. For heavens sake what is it with you women....don't you get the message or you need a sooth sayer to spell it out...so now Na you De do the work of a man that is clearly unwilling abi...Na you De pay for your own wedding...now his shameless mother is writing you a bill and you are contemplating spending all that on a wedding. He ear s 170k...so many men I know have married their wives with far less...that about. Get it into your head. A man who genuinely loves you and want to spend the rest of his life with you do not need to be told, forced or cajoled into a wedding. He would willingly, sit with you to map out a strategy on how this goal will be accomplished with you supporting as well. You better take a step back and ask yourself does he want this as much as I thinm he does PR am you paying for someone elses wedding. Please take a step back, drop the number of years you have spent together, drop all sentiments and think with your brains...sheeesh...what's with all this desperation from you ladies...this is so terriblr
Hi Poster, Do not start wat u wud nt be able to tight. If u pay for d wedding, u will buy food and provisiions continually, u will pay all bills and the children's expense including their school fees, clothing, etc...and he wud send all his money to his mother...u are a lady, do not try to be the man, let him handle his responsibility....u can assist once in a while but please do not paddle his canoe...dese r indications f wat wil happen in da future...coz he wud neva change....are u really ready for dat?...Su...
My dear,it is so glaring dt he doesn't love u. Don't release ur hard earn labour to someone dt doesn't . What about his own money?what does he do with it afterall he's working .think
U dey crase 4 even. Askin dat question in d 1st place.like seriously r u dat desperate.u want 2 foot d whole bill 4 a wedding.u r just wasting ur time,he doesn't want to marry u.dey want to dupe u.
4get the fool... Find some1 that values you cz he clearly doesn't. When u pay for the wedding be ready to pay for everyfin that follows in the marriage
Take off dear as fast as u can. It will be foolish to spend all ur savings on ur wedding. The guy should bring most of money while u support him by a max of 20%. I bet that if u marry urself like u intend to, make sure u get ready 4 worse times ahead.
This is the height of avoiding responsibility. Besides, why is d guy's mum ur wedding estimator?
Hahaha! Jock of d year, u wan to pay his groom price abi? Abeg carry ur life do better tin, them wan use u take open office. His he d only man on earth? Mtcheeew
Isn't it obvious that they've seen a bank in you? If your fiance is shamelss, is the mother also shameless? Only a desperate person will do what you are about to do. The man is not ready to marry you. Simple
Firstly, I don't see why you need to pay that much for a wedding. it is a few days things and the most important thing is that you and your man loves each other. Just follow your heart but to be sincere, that wedding money na die oh. Remember keep some of the raining day.
Firstly, he earns than you do, and he can't make saving for what seems important to you two, that means after marriage no fiancial aid of such should you like expect. At least they can't put the burden and expensis on you and as I know, wedding plans involves the both families, friends and couple not just a one person thing to carry on. It seems wrong for the mother to have wanted the burden placed on you with his son not contributing of such and the man is not fair enough. If u can save that much, depriving yourself of some comfort just for the good of you two, he should lighten your burden not you carry it all on. Well, I can't say you should leave him or carry on with the wedding, you two have been together for quite long, you know what you want and ever desire. Its better now to adjust if change is meant to be than to roll in, endure and like over look it and live a life time regret or unhappy home. Peace!!!
The man plus his mum are sick. You will so regret your life if you marry him. Even if he now agrees to share the expenses do not marry him. Remove your mind from the 5 years cos you will hate every day of your marriage while it lasts.
Forget this guy!if u pay for the wedding you will end up paying for everything in marriage! This guy is not ready to settle down with you! Baba abeg shine your eyes,love is no longer blind o!all the 5 senses are very sensitive in love these days! Best of luck.
It all a set up....the guy is not ready for marriage...if u both are to marry,it has to be mutual. Pls dear dnt make that move,let him also contribute.
I see no reason why you should pay for †ђξ wedding,besides he was †ђξ one that asked U̶̲̥̅̊ for d relationship and not you asking him out..don't be so desperate girl,if at all he wants nd loves you den he shud make †ђξ move for a wedding plan,abi did U̶̲̥̅̊ engage urself?
I m sure he is not ready to marry but rather wants to connive with is mum to dupe u. I bet u if u send that money I feel the next thing u will hear is the son has traveled abroad. So pls be wise. And if u sponsor the marriage be ready to feed the family cos he will always feel u have money so he will not strive to make more
Paying for the wedding is a small thing....what happens after the wedding?...will u continue to carry the fam?... in my opinion its not worth it....if a man is comfortable allowing a woman pay for the wedding he might as well cut off his balls and hand it to her....#justsaying
If you are this distressed before marriage, you are heading to a big disappointment in this marriage. If both of you cannot sit down and plan about your future before you get married, it will never get better after marriage. If you do not appreciate his lack of understanding how you feel now, it is never going to get better. If his mother will continue to set his thought straight for him, he will never grow out of it. If you spend all your money on this wedding, you will regret it in the near future because he can only say it was your decision not his. My question is, have you prayed and ask God what he thinks. You have been with this man for five years, perhaps, letting him take advantage of you. You are a beautiful girl. God has someone for you who will appreciate you if this man is not ready to grow up and work with you concerning your future and what is important to you.
If u try it ,u will regret it as long as u live here on earth.That man will never value and respect you.one day he will spit it at you that you married urself.They are using u,wake up and move on with ur life.If u dnt knw wat to do with money,banks r everywhere fix it fool.Stop disgracing women,is it a do or die affair to marry?
Hmmmmmmmh.... Ur man sounds like slow poison. If u dare pay u will pay rent, bills, school fees, vacations, his mother's hospital bills. They will forever remind u that u were desparate enough to pay for ur wedding.
Wo, I pity your life. If ur fiancee's mother couldn't rein her son in to be the man and take his place b4 marriage, don't be suprised that they wud, in d nearest future, say dt u forced urself on him and paid 4 d weddin out of deperation. U need a man to whom u can be a helpmeet not the one u will have to cater for. If he earns more than you, why can't he foot the bill? Must u do a fairytale weddin? Let him plan the weddin with the little money he has cos after weddin, nobody will borrow u money o. Abo oro la nso fun omoluwabi ... Finish the rest
Hmmmmmmmh.... Ur man sounds like slow poison. If u dare pay u will pay rent, bills, school fees, vacations, his mother's hospital bills. They will forever remind u that u were desparate enough to pay for ur wedding.
The man plus his mum are sick. You will so regret your life if you marry him. Even if he now agrees to share the expenses do not marry him. Remove your mind from the 5 years cos you will hate every day of your marriage while it lasts.
Please do not relapse the money to them The guy and his mum are very unserious human beings. They are gold diggers! No matter how little he earns, he can afford to sponsor his own wedding @ 170k per month. It's all about planning and discipline.
No sweetie.... do NOT pay for the entire wedding. If you truly love him, Wait instead and see if his love for you will ginger him to be a man and contribute towards the wedding.
U'll be d most foolish woman on earth if u shuld release ur money, how can a man earning 170k per month tell u he can't finance his own wedding, dat is lack of seriousness. To talk of his mum arrangement, I think both d mother $ d son planned 2 maga u and end things up with u. U can't bear ur wedding expenses simply bcos ur guy is giving a flimsy excuse. U're d one making d effort, while he is less concerned. It may surprise u if u eventually end up in his house 2 come out straight 2 u dat u used ur money 2 force him into d marriage. Pls wake up from ur sleep and call it quit with d useless guy and his gold digger mum.
Na wa o u wan be mogu. His mother gave u d expenses 4d wedding wen u are suppose to be d1 giving the mother/family your expenses. Wake up girl & dump the lazy man & is family members
U dey crase 4 even. Askin dat question in d 1st place.like seriously r u dat desperate.u want 2 foot d whole bill 4 a wedding.u r just wasting ur time,he doesn't want to marry u.dey want to dupe u.
Why do u have to have a big wedding? Just go to d court house and have a small reception afterwards.. I swear people kill me with this big wedding stuff.. If u can't afford a big, why spend all ur life savings on one.. Shm
My dear don't bother. If he really wantS to marrY you he woulD have saved something from his monthly salary by now. 5 years is long enough to have saved at least 2million.
My dear run for your life and sanity. A man is supposed to marry a woman, and not the other way round. Once you pay for this, you'll continue to pay for everything else. Don't sell yourself cheap.
What kind of month inlaw will be ask is son wife to be for money for thee wedding it show they are not from good family, it groom family that supply d need for d wedding not other way round and agin my sister be sure of what u are about going in to because am not sure if u enter this wedding it will be ever if d month can ask for money!!!!! My dear be careful and pray about it thanks
Pls let him go,both him and d mother are nt serious, u re to support him, nt to take all d responsibilities if u do it,they we both use it against u.pls think well before u do the wrong thing
If he doesn't have money for your wedding now he probably wouldn't have money to pay for the kids school fees.Ladies allow a man only two choices,he can either stand up and be the man you want or sit his stupid ass down so you can see the man next in line!As for his mother,tell her to eat shit!!!!
I once dumped a guy I had dated for 3years because he proposed marriage. He didn't have it all but he was willing to get it all for me. I met another guy who was more comfortable than him so I thought I was better off. After using my body for 2years, I got faced with ur predicament & I went ahead to pay for my own wedding but here's what followed: "the marriage to him is joke". And all he ever seen me as since we got married is someone he did a favour. Bottomline"use your head"..you'll never stop paying him after this.
What is it with Nigerians and big weddings, if u no spend tru ur nose u no fit do wedding. Go to the registry n do a simply marriage. U rather save for rainy days..
if he really has no money and you love him that much, then marry him without a big wedding. find a registry. No reason to spend all your savings on a wedding. makes no sense.
Leave d guy fast. If he earns dat much nd cant pay 4 d weding den wen u marry do u tink a man dat dint spend money on weding wuld give u money 4 food nd clothing. Pls dnt make a mistake of ur life. Ur husband is to wed u not u weding him.
My honest advice, forget dis guy & move on. Yes,it may seem like you've wasted 5 yrs on him but it's better than a life time of misery with him cos girl, that is what you'll experience if you pay for the wedding. His mother will control ur home & u'll end up bearing d cost for everything in the house. On the flip side, if u truly love him, must you have a big wedding? Why not have a small traditional with family members & go to the registry? A million plus or less will finish that and you can save/invest the rest for your future. My dear, be smart & think wise so you do not jump into a miserable life in d name of "I wan marry". God will guide you. All d best.
Leave d guy fast. If he earns dat much nd cant pay 4 d weding den wen u marry do u tink a man dat dint spend money on weding wuld give u money 4 food nd clothing. Pls dnt make a mistake of ur life. Ur husband is to wed u not u weding him.
I know its hard but DO NOT MARRY this man. What type of woman will be comfortable enough to let her future daughter inlaw pay for the wedding. This marks more trouble to come in the future. They will never respect and use it to insult you the moment they can.
marriage is not a do or die affair. if after weighing all your options and you think the risk is worth taking, then go for it.... but not, grl, please move one with your life... remember, it's all about your happiness in the end
Abeg ooo,I dnt understand.who won marry?the guy wanna marry you or U̶̲̥̅̊ wanna marry him.pls, dnt let dem dupe u+ if he really want to wed U̶̲̥̅̊ he will work hard for the money if he cnt den move on.how can you leave such big money.you can actually use It on the house when you are married buh bko,let this guy arrange for the wedding not you.or d both of you can save for the wedding dnt even carry the whole wahala.I pray that the lord direct your thoughts and actions.
QUESTION.....MUST YOU DO A MASSIVE WEDDING JUST BECAUSE EVERYBODY ELSE IS? I HAD A VERY SMALL REGISTRY WEDDING TWO YEARS AGO AND A TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE IN MY FATHERS LIVING ROOM. ME AND MY HUSBAND INTEND TO RENEW OUR MARRIAGE VOWS AND HAVE A LARGE PARTY FOR OUR 10 YEARS ANNIVERSARY BY THE GRACE OF GOD. RIGHT NOW, WE INTEND TO INVEST OUR MONEY INTO BUYING A PROPERTY. IF WE HAD SPENT ALL OUR MONEY HAVING A LARGE WEDDING, WE WONT BE FINANCIALLY STABLE RIGHT NOW. SO THINK ABOUT IT VERY WELL. IF YOUR MAN IS A HARD WORKER, HE PROVIDES FOR YOU (I HOPE HE IS NOT STINGY, AND I HOPE YOU ARE NOT GREEDY) AND YOU FEEL THAT HE TRULY LOVES YOU WHOLEHEARTEDLY, THEN MY ADVICE IS TO DO A MINIMAL TRADITIONAL WEDDING AND SIMPLY DO GO TO REGISTRY. INVEST FOR MONEY AND SAVINGS FOR THE FUTURE, NOT ON A DAY`S PARTY.
OOOH, BEFORE I FORGET, YOU MENTIONED THAT HE EARNS 170K. YOU DONT NEED TO KNOW WHAT HE IS DOING WITH ALL HIS EARNING BUT MAKE SURE YOU ARE CERTAIN THAT HE IS NOT STINGY, A MAN NEEDS TO PROVIDE FOR HIS HOME. DONT FORCE YOURSELF INTO THE MARRIAGE BECAUSE AS MUCH AS MARRIAGE CAN BE A BLESSING, IT CAN ALSO BE A BONDAGE, SO BE 100% CERTAIN BEFORE YOU TAKE YOUR NEXT STEP.
Hehehehe I cant laff oh too much money + I must marry by force dey worry u just be ready after †ђǝ wedding to take care of †ђǝ home in all areas after all na U̶̲̥̅̊ marry †ђǝ man. meaning God created U̶̲̥̅̊ †☺ be †ђǝ woman of †ђǝ house buh willingly U̶̲̥̅̊ turn ursef †☺ husband bc U̶̲̥̅̊ wan marry by force I pity u
I can understand how you feel. Firstly, you need to calm down. From what I percieve, this guy isn't the type of guy to settle down with. Someone that can not take responsibilty for a wedding? How would he take responsibility when you start procreating and need to send your wards to school, cater for them etc? My darling, I don't think you've found a husband. Its not too late to start over, better late than never. Take care hun!
YOU MUST BE DESPERATE AND STUPID TO WANT TO PAY FOR A WEDDING. IF THE MAN IS NOT RESPONSIBLE TO TAKE CARE OF THAT WHAT DO YOU THINK WOULD HAPPEN WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED?
ALSO AFTER THE WEDDING YOU PEOPLE WOULD EAT STONES AND SLEEP ON THE FLOOR RIGHT? WHY LET THE STUPID BIG WEDDING CRAZE HIT YOU? GO TO THE COURT WITH A FEW FAMILY AND FRIENDS HAVE YOUR WEDDING AND A LITTLE RECEPTION. NEXT DAY LIFE GOES ON AND YOU HAVE YOUR MONEY TO INVEST IN OTHER THINGS.
Borrow usain bolt's legs and run and let ur legs b touchin d back of ur legs and don't look back!!! If u try it ehn........ Sango in collabo wit amadioha will fire u.mtcheeewwwww,I'm so pissed wit dis kind of question,na 2day dem born u?
In 2014...u must b an idiot...prolly u actin desperate dats y he agreed u shld use ur money...buh ma dear...u gonna regret it 4 d rest of ur life if u pay 4 d weddin...he earns 170k nd u earn 100k re u stupid!!!!...use ur head o
My dear be wise think wisely be u make mistake. He's the one that surpose to bring 80% of the money u can now contribute, he's not ready to marry u, he knows your desperate. Let him be the one want the marriage not u. If u marry him u keep on spending for the family do not use ur last kobo to marry ur man, it's doesn't work that way. Here is Nigeria our thinking is pure African.
D guy isn't ready yet dear, it tuks me yrs 2 mk up my mind 2 wed bcos of d cost, dnt pay 4 d weddin cos he's t ready, weddin is vry vry Xpensiv, he's a guy, he shud spnd more 4 ur weddin.....
Abeg, move on jare. Both the guy and his mother are wicked gold-diggers. With the kind of income u both earn, it would be sheer stupidity to spend up to 3million on ur wedding. Be wise, girl, don't ever give up ur savings any man, if u don't know what to use it for pls fix it in the bank.
U has a woman in africa u want to pay a mans bride price. Never try it cos the moment u pay for the wedding and after the wedding u will take care of all the house problems. Dnt try it. The man is not ready for u.
Just a question for you. Are you preparing for marriage or for a wedding? My dear, there's a day after the wedding and that day is called marriage. This guy may not be for you irrespective of whatever satisfaction you seem to be getting from him.
I really pity u. If he earns that amount & can't save to marry you, my dear I pity u, cos by the time you both are married you will shoulder the responsibility of taking care of the kids (when they come), himself & even his mother. Come to think of it, why should his mum even "map out the expenses" for you. You don turn "Headoffice" o! Mugu 2014, beg God for wisdom.
you must b high on some cheap drug to reason this way at this age n time. mother n son are obviously criminals. better run for your life n wait for a nice man dat is ready to marry u bcos that thief is obviously not ready for marriage....
pls this is waste of time.. u r not luved by Dis guy.. if u accept 2 go thru wit d marriage it won't go well. .just leave him and pray 2 God 2 give u ur own man cos he can't b d one
My dear, if this man is not ready to commit anything as regards the wedding, forget it. I repeat! Forget it! You are to be married and not the other way round. Fine, who says he should bear the burden alone? But let him show some seriousness and not fold his arms and watch you foot all d bills. Hello.... If you dare do this now,be ready to spoon feed him in the marriage. Please shine your eyes my sister. And pray for God's direction. Your husband will come. You don't have to struggle for it. ...z..
My dear u are not d man he should provide d money for the wedding den u can support him, if he is serious abt u he will do evryfin to make d wedding wrk out
My advice for yhu, is jex to forget about the wedding for sometimes.... Don't let this people turn you to something yhu will later regret, it is a plan work I think, what makes the inlaw to be calculating the expenses for you, I think that is your responsibility.... Best website for you to download undiluted Naija Music and Videos
Why? Don't do dat but even if you want to, release only 1M and let him bring d rest. Na dat same mouth dem go take abuse you say na you marry dier son instead if hgim marrying you.
My dear if truly you loves him and he loves too!! You can do dat f0r him.. Maybe his is the one catering for the family or he has an0ther budget his's currently pursuing.. S0 my dear d0nt give up G0d will surly reward you if u do that!!!! Guys ar scares des days o o o o hmmm!!!! Gudluck
Please forget that man cos he's not worth the stress.if a man loves u then he will ask u to marry him and do wat a man is surppose to do for a woman he love nt u paying for d man's hand in married and his mother is very wicked..plsss ur man is out there waiting for u.don't waste ur money please...
That's Evil of dz maN and U, are u dt desperate? I must get married syndrome abi ?Plsssssss, u even don't know whatsup payin ur own bride price so u understand d dangers of ur intended act plsss explain dz 2 ur family..take a bow & walkaway fast..
I smell a in ds whole drama buh I wld suggest u rather don't cash in2 ds stuff,play a mind game on dem nd watch dia response or more so free d relationship cos u can't make an un ready man ready.
Pls my dear sis, just forget him , run from him now and move on with your life. A real man ll soon come ur way. It is not compulsory to do elaborate wedding if he really love u & doesn't av enough money! Don't be surprised if he arranged wt his mum to collect your life saving & then jilt u. And if u pay for d wedding today, u ll continue to pay for evertin for d rest of ur marriage which ll eventually break down bcos by then ur eyers would av opened & u ll no longer be able to tolerate his wickedness anymore. If u don't know anytin better to do wt ur money, pls fix it in a bank till u know what to do wt it. As for d mother, she is a shame to both motherhood & womanhood! And I ppray that her female daughters will encounter worse in d hands of their mother in-laws, it doesn't matter if they are already married. A WORD is enough for d WISE.
Release your money, and it will be the last time you hear from them! Let's even assume they're serious about the wedding (which isn't true), why should it be your mother in law executing the preparation? If u're not too young to make the money, u shouldn't be too young to do the spending. A word is enough!!
If u finance d wedding be rest assured you will finance accomodatn, ante natal, delivery childcare n much more. If ur guy is ready for marriage but has no money, he shd be d one telling u to cut ur coat accordg to his material not collectg all ur savings for d ceremony. Be wise girl, dnt b too desperate to marry. My 2kobo
@ Poster..You need my advise? If yes then I suggest you drop this guy... YES DROP HIM OFF YOUR SHOULDER!!!!! You will be making the biggest mistake if you feel you want to pay for your tradition/white wedding without your guy contributing a penny. C'mon who does such things? FIRSTLY, if you pay for all the wedding expenses, that literally means you married him instead of the other way round... And believe me, that marriage will not last. If you have issues in the future, you can't stand your ground to defend any issues. He will tell you to your face "after all he never married you, you paid for your bride price therefore you married yourself" SECONDLY, he is not making any effort, what that means apparently is, it is either 1. He is not interested in you OR 2. He doesn't want to go on with the marriage... My dear @ Poster, you have to think with your HEAD not your HEART in this situation. Fine probably of your age, pressure fm friends and all that, you want to settle down but not with someone like him who is nonchallant and self-centred *forgive my use of words*. Don't allow yourself to be used. After reading these comments here on LIB, sit him down again and ask him for the last time, "does he want you as his wife, what plans does he have towards you.". Mind you this is 2014; this year seems to be running very fast, so you don't waste another year again hanging around him. If he happens to be a time waster. I wish you all the best as you emback on this journey..
Sorry to say this sweetie... ur very stupid, as pretty as u are u want to go and pay a man's bride price, that dude and his mum will make life miserable for u if u doubt me marry him... Run for ur life sweet, he doesn't deserve you one bit... yea it's hard to move on but u ve got to move on... Screw the idiot and he's senseless and selfish mother... Abeg, biko, please, ejo don't pay that dudes bride price o.... una dey hear me now o... Run for ur life my dear
sponsoring the wedding will make you look desperate. And if i know men well, they do know how to take advantage of desperate women. And also, seems to me his mum also wants to exploit your desperation as well. my advice, keep dating till he is ready for marriage. And if after a while he is still not ready and you cant take it anymore, please leave and move on with your life. Im sure you must be a pretty woman and im also sure you would find another man who would not only love you, but also put a ring on it.
My dear forget him cos when one is ready to settle down with u,he will be d one telling u wat his plans are & d kind of wedding he wants. Just let him be OK,even if u have to separate from him make sure u do it without quarrels. Urs will find u & things will go smoothly. Jaytee
Babes u well at all? Abeg bone dat man and him mama joor and move on wt ur life moreover, he's not ready too settle down seems u r forcing him to marry u. Foot d bill and see wht happeens to ur life after d marriage!
Truely if the guy loves you, he will sponsor the whole wedding bcus he earns more than you. He has made plans with his mum to dub you of your money. Ask from advise from your own family and move on with your life. Other mens are looking for who to marry also
I'm a man and i would say it is better you move on with your life...It is either he does not love you and he doesn't know how to tell you so his mother gave you 4 million naira bill so to chase you away or he is not ready for marriage..If he can't sponsor the wedding or bring 70-80% of the wedding bill then leave him and move on with your life.i assure you will meet better men that will sponsor the wedding and make positive impact in your life
Girl come wit ur 3m dont worry we won't spend up to 700k for d wedding ok Mumu girl u want to force urself on a guy who is not redi for u go use ur moni for good buz and wait on the Lord it is not who far bt how well dat well it is.
My dear gender mate, what's is really wrong wt u? It is obvious dz man is a time waster pls,don't dare it,if he values u he wudve suggested u guys share d bills rather he wants u 2 shoulder all d wahala haba nah & 4d mum I clap my hands 4her perhaps she don't ve daughters..
Heya,I feel 4 u dear,buh u av to let sum tinz go,u wudnt want to enta into dat marriage n kip being d breadwinner bet me..he will nt also b ready to take certain steps nd decisionz wiv u,pls move on..#datmaturelady#
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Are you the one marrying the man or it is the man marrying you? After the wedding is he going to change is name to your name or your are going to change your name to his name..my dear both the man and his mother are evil and they have devilish plans for you.. For God's sake 4 million naira for a wedding? some couples managing do wedding with inbteween 400k and 800k and here you're with bill of 4 million ..I know of a man that spent 650k on his wedding and it superb..if he can't sponsor the wedding then run for your dear life ..pls run
libers, the fact that she is asking for an opinion doesnt make her desperate. dear lady, pls be very careful. take ur time in deciding what to do. if weeding plans tear a couple apart, it is a sure sign that their bond as husband and wife will be weak. how wedding plans are handled is a clear reflection of what ur marriage will be like. if ur fiancee takes ur relationsip seriously, he would have planned out this wedding by now and shown more interest, even if he had to use ur money. i strongly advise that both of u communicate well, it seems to me that he wont take other serious matters seriously in future. would u like to be stuck with a man who isnt bothered about paying ur kids fees? pls think about the future implications of his current actions. and i advise u save ur money for someone and something more worthwhile. the ball is in ur court.
Be wise and leave the woman way of thinking in you and just forget about this man,, he is a fool and you will ever regret your life if you ever send that money away from your account, let him buy your wedding gown give you money to go and pay for hall, cake catering service and wedding gown, then you will use your own money to buy him suit, drinks and do the rest of things but in my words i will just advice you to forget the man my dear if really you exist
Runnnnnnnnnn,that guy doesn't love u,& he & his mum want to extort money from u.How sure are u that he really wants to marry u? How sure are u that he doesn't want to use ur money to marry another chick. Be wise,if he had marriage on mind,he would have started saving for long wit that kind of salary but now that u mentioned u have money they want to use ur desperation againt.Even if he marries u tomorrow & there is a problem he will want u to take responsibility bcos u forced him into marriage when he obviously told u he is not ready.If u give them the money then u sound desperate cos marriage is surpose to be a two way tin but when one person decides to shoulder everytin then it is surpose to be the man.He is the man & he should take responsibility.
Please forget him,if he truly love u then ur father should be the one writing d least of things for him to come marry u nt his wicked mother...u are nt in indian where girls pay bride price this is Nigeria Biko..u man is out there waiting for u go get him leave dis one he is nt for u befor u die befor ur time.
Benin pple!!! Wen will their men grow d**ks??? O bebe, nne biko run wen u can, he earns more but wants u to pay 4 a big wedding? Sounds like a joke to me. Even told his mum & she is shameless enof to call wit d bill, na wa oo
To me I don't think the guy want you at all. How can only you finance the such a big event. Now tell me, if you release all the morning, what will you depend on after the wedding? Be wise. Ok?
THE WRITER IS NOT TELLING THE TRUTH, NAH FOR LIB YOU WILL GET ADVICE FOR YOUR OWN MARRIAGE? AND YOU FAILED WITH THE MOTHER-IN-LAW BIT.THE TRUTH IS YOU ARE LOOKING FOR AN EXCUSE NOT TO MARRY HIM BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN SLEEPING AROUND, TRUST ME THAT IS THE REAL REASON YOU GUYS HAVE NOT MARRIED YET AND THAT IS WHY IT WOULD SEEM THE ISSUE OF MONEY IS THE PROBLEM.
It is not necessary to have a big wedding, why invest all your finances for people that may curse or bless u on your wedding day, Go to the court and have a wedding instead of breaking the bank. Life is the best teacher, never give up ur finances until u say I do. Now the mother has a list, dear talk to ur parents I am sure they will have a few things to say.
Well,if this story is true and you truly love each other, you can cut the wedding cost down to size with him contributing more, and while at that do not forget about life after the marriage ceremony. The thing is, if you really love him, you should work together to face, carry and solve any matters arising, responsibility can be alternating but with the man taking the lead, that is the way to lasting relationship, our parents who succeeded in this marriage venture will tell you same.
my friend, you should only take advise from a woman that is still in her husband house, don't go and be listening to broken home people o! the same goes for all the other ladies out there.
Don't do that as the guy and his mum has already planning to dupe you.he is the man so let him do the wedding expensis.you can only support with very small amount.fred
My younger sister was in similar position about 10yrs back, not with the mother-in-law part of the story. But the today the situation is different, they are living very happily with lovely kids.And the man that myself and the rest of family used to call a lazy guy is currently richer than all of us put together and we are enjoying one way or the other, not that we are doing well ourselves but that is the plain truth.
My younger sister was in similar position about 10yrs back, not not with the mother-in-law part of the stories. But the today the story is different, they are very living very happily with lovely kids.And the man that myself and the rest of family used to call a lazy guy is currently richer than all of us put together and we are enjoying one way or the other, not that we are doing well ourselves but that is the plain truth.
Y are u guys telling her to leave?u knw an adage says d weight of sand and stone are noting compared to the trouble stupidity can cause,like seriously am angry,which am your elder sis would av lay u dwn and floged the wedding and d man from ur head,I belive one day marriage ll be free.(Xsexie blingx)
Y are u guys telling her to leave?u knw an adage says d weight of sand and stone are noting compared to the trouble stupidity can cause,like seriously am angry,wish am your elder sis would av lay u dwn and floged the wedding and d man from ur head,I belive one day marriage ll be free.(Xsexie blingx)
@4.13pm God bless u a lot dear madam wedding why not ask ur guy to pay ur bride price then u guys can save towards d wedding together and must u invite ur whole village b4 u get married look if u pay for d wedding get ready to pay for every other thing when u get married to him and sori to say his mum is shamless bcos wit 1.5m u can have both wedding on d same day pple do it now and when ever u are ready rent a gown and not buying.
Aru! Abomination!! Why should a lady sponsor her wedding alone? Getting married is not that serious, my dear. You should support him financially, and not take up the burden alone. If he has not been able to save anything all these years despite the fact that he is working, then he probably isn't serious about marriage. Don't pose yourself as 'Desperate' abeg, apply wisdom. As for his Mom giving you bill...SMH. It is well with you, my dear
Don't do that as the guy and his mum has already planning to dupe you.he is the man so let him do the wedding expensis.you can only support with very small amount.fred
pls don't be a fool. forget him. how can his mother have the audacity to do that. she is suppose to be ashamed. why can't he foot the bill. if you let him start that way, u will be in that marriage filled with regret.
Please forget about him immediately. You have already wasted five years on him and it is better you leave him now so you can find somebody who deserves you while you are still young. First of all even if you feel comfortable bankrolling the wedding, you will be emasculating him and there is no man alive secure enough to take that. This will show when he starts ill treating you. He will need to assert himself and will also want to prove his manhood over and over again with women that can look up to him.Finally if his mother could hand you such a bill then the family is dysfunctional and have no scruples...run for your life. Claire
My humble advice is that you leave him immediately while you are still young and find someone who deserves you.To start with even if you are comfortable bringing out such money to bankroll the wedding single handed,you will be emasculating your man.There is no man alive secure enough to handle that. This will show when he starts ill treating you in order to assert himself and he will will definitely need to prove his manhood over and over with different women who look up to him. Finally if his mother could hand you such a bill then the family is dysfunctional and have no scruples. My dear run for your life. Claire
Orrrr you could have a court wedding and a traditional...if you must. Financial problems are the number one cause for marital problems. Also, if the fact that he cannot pay for the wedding could possibly cause you to leave him then...maybe it's not a real relationship?
Hi dear, I hope dor your sake this story is fabricated. I beg of you, do not marry this man. If he can open his mouth to say he has no money dor the wedding, then he should not involve his mum in the matter. A wedding should be a womans affair n not his moms'. 4milion! For a couple whoose monthly take home is 270k combined! Please its time to lick your wound n move on. I married a man who refused to take responsibility for our wedding even though he did not admit that at first. I paid for everything n he promised tonpay back. I never got my money back. But guess wat? It dis not earn me any respect from my man. He even accused of dating 'big' men in d end. Our marriage lasted 5 months. My only happiness is dat I left pregnant. I currently have a 3yr old pretty angel. Pls don't do it. If his mum is indecent enough to call a woman her son wants to marry n give her such outrageos bill for a wedding her son isnt paying for, run away from such family. They would nor respect you but label u desperate. Thank you.
AM SHOCKED AT THIS, THAT A MAN AND EVEN HIS MOTHER WOULD DO THIS TO A POOR GIRL , THIS IS D HEIGHT OF WICKEDNESS! MY GIRL HAVE U BEEN HYPNOTISED , U BETTER START PRAYING FOR DELIVERANCE AND RUN WITHOUT GLANCING BACK! FOR REAL ITS HIGH TIME WOMEN PLACED MORE VALUE AND RESPECT ON THEIRSELF! THIS IS MODERN DAY WOMEN ABUSE, GOD WILL PURNISH THEM, IT WILL NEVER BE WELL WITH THEM
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«Oldest ‹Older 1401 – 1600 of 1746 Newer› Newest»Like seriously, dump his ass, his mum too is shameless, let it go, ,somethings are not just worth it, theres more to life than marriage, I won't decieve u, u can never br happy with that kind of man
This is the highest level of desperation, u mean u will single handed do the whole wedding rites? Girl u need help, cos u giving it a thought already is not normal. What a shame, even if all men are rotting away in hell will that make u to embark in such a crazy and stupid thing. Meanwhile that guy does not want to marry u and his mother is a very wicked woman. Gosh, indeed some women are shameless and a big disgrace to womanhood. IS HE THE ONLY MAN IN THE WORLD?
My dear don't be a desperado! Hw can you spend everything you have for a wedding!! Pls RUN!!!! His mother is even giving you an outrageous bill, that shows you the kind of family you're about entering.Quote me, u'll forever regret it if you go ahead. Be patient, your man will come. BTW, are you sure they are not planning to defraud you. Look b4 u leap.
Men dis dayz aint worth the stress..
PLEASE ,DUMP THIS MAN BEFORE YOU END MENTALLY SICK. HIS MOTHER WAS A PRETENDER ,WHO HAVE TOLD HER SON NOT TO MARRY YOU.
IF YOU GIVE THEM THE MONEY ,THEY WILL ASK YOU FOR MORE MONEY.
PLEASE , LOVE IS NOT BLIND, DO NOT BE BLIND TO DANGER.
I would advice you not to pay, so dat Ʊ don't become the man of the house even after the wedding...
My dear, u know what u want...if u take care of d expenses for your marriage, be rest assured dt u'll be d one financing d "home".....my candid opinion is u shd stop pestering him for marriage nd continue saving for ur future nd at dsame time on d look out for a husband not a boy....or else this is just a tip of the iceberg.....a man is supposed to be d breadwinner for d home, urs is just to add butter...wise up babe,d guy is just playing wt ur head
The mother had the boldness to give you a list.....Mstchewwww they don't want you to marry him.......please move on with your life...if he likes u he will foot the cost of the marriage
u dont need a prophet to tell u to forgt dis guy.
I have never commented on Linda but am so dumb founded by your level of reasoning. For heavens sake what is it with you women....don't you get the message or you need a sooth sayer to spell it out...so now Na you De do the work of a man that is clearly unwilling abi...Na you De pay for your own wedding...now his shameless mother is writing you a bill and you are contemplating spending all that on a wedding. He ear s 170k...so many men I know have married their wives with far less...that about. Get it into your head. A man who genuinely loves you and want to spend the rest of his life with you do not need to be told, forced or cajoled into a wedding. He would willingly, sit with you to map out a strategy on how this goal will be accomplished with you supporting as well. You better take a step back and ask yourself does he want this as much as I thinm he does PR am you paying for someone elses wedding. Please take a step back, drop the number of years you have spent together, drop all sentiments and think with your brains...sheeesh...what's with all this desperation from you ladies...this is so terriblr
Hi Poster,
Do not start wat u wud nt be able to tight. If u pay for d wedding, u will buy food and provisiions continually, u will pay all bills and the children's expense including their school fees, clothing, etc...and he wud send all his money to his mother...u are a lady, do not try to be the man, let him handle his responsibility....u can assist once in a while but please do not paddle his canoe...dese r indications f wat wil happen in da future...coz he wud neva change....are u really ready for dat?...Su...
My dear. U ve entered one chance. Run for ur dear life. Mother and son wan dupe u. My dear the right man will come if u ve the right heart.
My dear,it is so glaring dt he doesn't love u. Don't release ur hard earn labour to someone dt doesn't . What about his own money?what does he do with it afterall he's working .think
U dey crase 4 even. Askin dat question in d 1st place.like seriously r u dat desperate.u want 2 foot d whole bill 4 a wedding.u r just wasting ur time,he doesn't want to marry u.dey want to dupe u.
Are you truly asking that question? Please ensure usain bolt has nothing on you. It's not just about answering more. Somebody o
4get the fool... Find some1 that values you cz he clearly doesn't. When u pay for the wedding be ready to pay for everyfin that follows in the marriage
Take off dear as fast as u can. It will be foolish to spend all ur savings on ur wedding. The guy should bring most of money while u support him by a max of 20%.
I bet that if u marry urself like u intend to, make sure u get ready 4 worse times ahead.
This is the height of avoiding responsibility.
Besides, why is d guy's mum ur wedding estimator?
Girl open ya eyez.
Hahaha! Jock of d year, u wan to pay his groom price abi? Abeg carry ur life do better tin, them wan use u take open office. His he d only man on earth? Mtcheeew
Isn't it obvious that they've seen a bank in you? If your fiance is shamelss, is the mother also shameless? Only a desperate person will do what you are about to do. The man is not ready to marry you. Simple
If you love him give it a try. Life is a risk. And haven dated him for 5 years is he worth it? Ask yourself.
Him and his mom wants to dupe u.... Runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn and don't look back.
Firstly, I don't see why you need to pay that much for a wedding. it is a few days things and the most important thing is that you and your man loves each other. Just follow your heart but to be sincere, that wedding money na die oh. Remember keep some of the raining day.
Move on baby!
Firstly, he earns than you do, and he can't make saving for what seems important to you two, that means after marriage no fiancial aid of such should you like expect. At least they can't put the burden and expensis on you and as I know, wedding plans involves the both families, friends and couple not just a one person thing to carry on. It seems wrong for the mother to have wanted the burden placed on you with his son not contributing of such and the man is not fair enough. If u can save that much, depriving yourself of some comfort just for the good of you two, he should lighten your burden not you carry it all on. Well, I can't say you should leave him or carry on with the wedding, you two have been together for quite long, you know what you want and ever desire. Its better now to adjust if change is meant to be than to roll in, endure and like over look it and live a life time regret or unhappy home. Peace!!!
The man plus his mum are sick. You will so regret your life if you marry him. Even if he now agrees to share the expenses do not marry him. Remove your mind from the 5 years cos you will hate every day of your marriage while it lasts.
Forget this guy!if u pay for the wedding you will end up paying for everything in marriage! This guy is not ready to settle down with you! Baba abeg shine your eyes,love is no longer blind o!all the 5 senses are very sensitive in love these days! Best of luck.
Swithrt,don't pay,d guy aint serious at alllll...run from such a termite
It all a set up....the guy is not ready for marriage...if u both are to marry,it has to be mutual. Pls dear dnt make that move,let him also contribute.
His mother sent u a list?!!! Better save ur money dear.
I see no reason why you should pay for †ђξ wedding,besides he was †ђξ one that asked U̶̲̥̅̊ for d relationship and not you asking him out..don't be so desperate girl,if at all he wants nd loves you den he shud make †ђξ move for a wedding plan,abi did U̶̲̥̅̊ engage urself?
I m sure he is not ready to marry but rather wants to connive with is mum to dupe u. I bet u if u send that money I feel the next thing u will hear is the son has traveled abroad. So pls be wise. And if u sponsor the marriage be ready to feed the family cos he will always feel u have money so he will not strive to make more
Paying for the wedding is a small thing....what happens after the wedding?...will u continue to carry the fam?... in my opinion its not worth it....if a man is comfortable allowing a woman pay for the wedding he might as well cut off his balls and hand it to her....#justsaying
If you are this distressed before marriage, you are heading to a big disappointment in this marriage. If both of you cannot sit down and plan about your future before you get married, it will never get better after marriage. If you do not appreciate his lack of understanding how you feel now, it is never going to get better. If his mother will continue to set his thought straight for him, he will never grow out of it. If you spend all your money on this wedding, you will regret it in the near future because he can only say it was your decision not his. My question is, have you prayed and ask God what he thinks. You have been with this man for five years, perhaps, letting him take advantage of you. You are a beautiful girl. God has someone for you who will appreciate you if this man is not ready to grow up and work with you concerning your future and what is important to you.
forget about d man an move on, a beta man wil com ur way.
If u try it ,u will regret it as long as u live here on earth.That man will never value and respect you.one day he will spit it at you that you married urself.They are using u,wake up and move on with ur life.If u dnt knw wat to do with money,banks r everywhere fix it fool.Stop disgracing women,is it a do or die affair to marry?
Hmmmmmmmh.... Ur man sounds like slow poison. If u dare pay u will pay rent, bills, school fees, vacations, his mother's hospital bills. They will forever remind u that u were desparate enough to pay for ur wedding.
Wo, I pity your life. If ur fiancee's mother couldn't rein her son in to be the man and take his place b4 marriage, don't be suprised that they wud, in d nearest future, say dt u forced urself on him and paid 4 d weddin out of deperation. U need a man to whom u can be a helpmeet not the one u will have to cater for. If he earns more than you, why can't he foot the bill? Must u do a fairytale weddin? Let him plan the weddin with the little money he has cos after weddin, nobody will borrow u money o. Abo oro la nso fun omoluwabi ... Finish the rest
Pls be wise girl friend, don`t spend all u hve & is u & ur husband dat is to plan ur wedding
Pls run. After wedding comes marriage. So dont start wat u cant finish my dear. If he's truly responsible he shld stand 2 his responsibilities.
Thot my mom in law was shameless. This woman here is WOW.
Hmmmmmmmh.... Ur man sounds like slow poison. If u dare pay u will pay rent, bills, school fees, vacations, his mother's hospital bills. They will forever remind u that u were desparate enough to pay for ur wedding.
Are u stupid?? What's he using he's money 4? U better don't make dat mistake
His mother sent u a list?!!! Better save ur money dear.
The man plus his mum are sick. You will so regret your life if you marry him. Even if he now agrees to share the expenses do not marry him. Remove your mind from the 5 years cos you will hate every day of your marriage while it lasts.
Please do not relapse the money to them The guy and his mum are very unserious human beings. They are gold diggers! No matter how little he earns, he can afford to sponsor his own wedding @ 170k per month. It's all about planning and discipline.
This man is seriously irresponsible.
His parents are a disgrace.
GO on with the wedding arrangement if he'll bear ur surname!
#sowrong..#ditchhim
My dear move on with your life,the bible says He who finds a wife finds a good tn*/ not She that finds a good husband,,, he knows wat he is doing
No sweetie.... do NOT pay for the entire wedding. If you truly love him, Wait instead and see if his love for you will ginger him to be a man and contribute towards the wedding.
Why can't he save more than that If you save 3mill out of your 100k ?...My dear, take to heels. Na Mama dey plan wedding abi you?
he is not ready, dont force him
He is not the right person for you. Don't through your money away my sister.
U'll be d most foolish woman on earth if u shuld release ur money, how can a man earning 170k per month tell u he can't finance his own wedding, dat is lack of seriousness. To talk of his mum arrangement, I think both d mother $ d son planned 2 maga u and end things up with u. U can't bear ur wedding expenses simply bcos ur guy is giving a flimsy excuse. U're d one making d effort, while he is less concerned. It may surprise u if u eventually end up in his house 2 come out straight 2 u dat u used ur money 2 force him into d marriage. Pls wake up from ur sleep and call it quit with d useless guy and his gold digger mum.
Na wa o u wan be mogu. His mother gave u d expenses 4d wedding wen u are suppose to be d1 giving the mother/family your expenses. Wake up girl & dump the lazy man & is family members
U dey crase 4 even. Askin dat question in d 1st place.like seriously r u dat desperate.u want 2 foot d whole bill 4 a wedding.u r just wasting ur time,he doesn't want to marry u.dey want to dupe u.
please just forget about the wedding because i dont seem why you paying for the wedding while his working... OK
Beta 4get abt it,d guy znt ready yet,he jxt wanna dupe u.
Why do u have to have a big wedding? Just go to d court house and have a small reception afterwards.. I swear people kill me with this big wedding stuff.. If u can't afford a big, why spend all ur life savings on one.. Shm
U better leave him or else u ll find urself in everlasting soup
My dear don't bother. If he really wantS to marrY you he woulD have saved something from his monthly salary by now. 5 years is long enough to have saved at least 2million.
My dear run for your life and sanity. A man is supposed to marry a woman, and not the other way round. Once you pay for this, you'll continue to pay for everything else. Don't sell yourself cheap.
lol! Pay naw
why should you pay for the entire wedding is stupid.you should forget about it my dear
Pls leave d guy&so move on.
plsssssss forget him n move on dear cos d hand writing is so clear on d wall meaning danger await u. run run run...
Did u listen to ursef,b4 asking 4 advise?
My friend don't be stupid! You had better keep your 3million and move on.
GOOD ADVISE....FORGET THE WEDDING BIKO
U better quit cos he is a yoker , he only like ur money .
What kind of month inlaw will be ask is son wife to be for money for thee wedding it show they are not from good family, it groom family that supply d need for d wedding not other way round and agin my sister be sure of what u are about going in to because am not sure if u enter this wedding it will be ever if d month can ask for money!!!!! My dear be careful and pray about it thanks
Pls let him go,both him and d mother are nt serious, u re to support him, nt to take all d responsibilities if u do it,they we both use it against u.pls think well before u do the wrong thing
If he doesn't have money for your wedding now he probably wouldn't have money to pay for the kids school fees.Ladies allow a man only two choices,he can either stand up and be the man you want or sit his stupid ass down so you can see the man next in line!As for his mother,tell her to eat shit!!!!
Is It by force u v seen d hand writing on d wall my dear run away.He earns more dan u n u still want marry man instead of man marry u
Re some galz xo dump, come on wake up my frnd, u sleeping
pls dnt b too desprate,d hand writing is clear engou.pls fall vitim oh.move on with ur life.WONFE GBA EH NI O
I once dumped a guy I had dated for 3years because he proposed marriage. He didn't have it all but he was willing to get it all for me. I met another guy who was more comfortable than him so I thought I was better off. After using my body for 2years, I got faced with ur predicament & I went ahead to pay for my own wedding but here's what followed: "the marriage to him is joke". And all he ever seen me as since we got married is someone he did a favour. Bottomline"use your head"..you'll never stop paying him after this.
Dump his stupid ass like it's hot and move on with your 3m and your life!five years na beans?
What is it with Nigerians and big weddings, if u no spend tru ur nose u no fit do wedding. Go to the registry n do a simply marriage. U rather save for rainy days..
if he really has no money and you love him that much, then marry him without a big wedding. find a registry. No reason to spend all your savings on a wedding. makes no sense.
Leave d guy fast. If he earns dat much nd cant pay 4 d weding den wen u marry do u tink a man dat dint spend money on weding wuld give u money 4 food nd clothing. Pls dnt make a mistake of ur life. Ur husband is to wed u not u weding him.
You are about to get duped !!!
How sure are you that the mum is really the mum, this setting looks like a fraud. Don't pay a dime.
My honest advice, forget dis guy & move on. Yes,it may seem like you've wasted 5 yrs on him but it's better than a life time of misery with him cos girl, that is what you'll experience if you pay for the wedding. His mother will control ur home & u'll end up bearing d cost for everything in the house. On the flip side, if u truly love him, must you have a big wedding? Why not have a small traditional with family members & go to the registry? A million plus or less will finish that and you can save/invest the rest for your future. My dear, be smart & think wise so you do not jump into a miserable life in d name of "I wan marry". God will guide you. All d best.
Leave d guy fast. If he earns dat much nd cant pay 4 d weding den wen u marry do u tink a man dat dint spend money on weding wuld give u money 4 food nd clothing. Pls dnt make a mistake of ur life. Ur husband is to wed u not u weding him.
I know its hard but DO NOT MARRY this man. What type of woman will be comfortable enough to let her future daughter inlaw pay for the wedding. This marks more trouble to come in the future. They will never respect and use it to insult you the moment they can.
IT is easier to leave now than later.
Dis story isn't true. No one is dis daft. Ofcuz u shuld dump him
marriage is not a do or die affair. if after weighing all your options and you think the risk is worth taking, then go for it.... but not, grl, please move one with your life... remember, it's all about your happiness in the end
Pls move on with ur life. Its nt worth it financin ur own marriage.
Abeg ooo,I dnt understand.who won marry?the guy wanna marry you or U̶̲̥̅̊ wanna marry him.pls, dnt let dem dupe u+ if he really want to wed U̶̲̥̅̊ he will work hard for the money if he cnt den move on.how can you leave such big money.you can actually use It on the house when you are married buh bko,let this guy arrange for the wedding not you.or d both of you can save for the wedding dnt even carry the whole wahala.I pray that the lord direct your thoughts and actions.
QUESTION.....MUST YOU DO A MASSIVE WEDDING JUST BECAUSE EVERYBODY ELSE IS? I HAD A VERY SMALL REGISTRY WEDDING TWO YEARS AGO AND A TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE IN MY FATHERS LIVING ROOM. ME AND MY HUSBAND INTEND TO RENEW OUR MARRIAGE VOWS AND HAVE A LARGE PARTY FOR OUR 10 YEARS ANNIVERSARY BY THE GRACE OF GOD.
RIGHT NOW, WE INTEND TO INVEST OUR MONEY INTO BUYING A PROPERTY. IF WE HAD SPENT ALL OUR MONEY HAVING A LARGE WEDDING, WE WONT BE FINANCIALLY STABLE RIGHT NOW.
SO THINK ABOUT IT VERY WELL. IF YOUR MAN IS A HARD WORKER, HE PROVIDES FOR YOU (I HOPE HE IS NOT STINGY, AND I HOPE YOU ARE NOT GREEDY) AND YOU FEEL THAT HE TRULY LOVES YOU WHOLEHEARTEDLY, THEN MY ADVICE IS TO DO A MINIMAL TRADITIONAL WEDDING AND SIMPLY DO GO TO REGISTRY. INVEST FOR MONEY AND SAVINGS FOR THE FUTURE, NOT ON A DAY`S PARTY.
OOOH, BEFORE I FORGET, YOU MENTIONED THAT HE EARNS 170K. YOU DONT NEED TO KNOW WHAT HE IS DOING WITH ALL HIS EARNING BUT MAKE SURE YOU ARE CERTAIN THAT HE IS NOT STINGY, A MAN NEEDS TO PROVIDE FOR HIS HOME. DONT FORCE YOURSELF INTO THE MARRIAGE BECAUSE AS MUCH AS MARRIAGE CAN BE A BLESSING, IT CAN ALSO BE A BONDAGE, SO BE 100% CERTAIN BEFORE YOU TAKE YOUR NEXT STEP.
Hehehehe I cant laff oh too much money + I must marry by force dey worry u just be ready after †ђǝ wedding to take care of †ђǝ home in all areas after all na U̶̲̥̅̊ marry †ђǝ man. meaning God created U̶̲̥̅̊ †☺ be †ђǝ woman of †ђǝ house buh willingly U̶̲̥̅̊ turn ursef †☺ husband bc U̶̲̥̅̊ wan marry by force I pity u
Forget him and move on.. he doesnt deserve ur love
I can understand how you feel. Firstly, you need to calm down. From what I percieve, this guy isn't the type of guy to settle down with. Someone that can not take responsibilty for a wedding? How would he take responsibility when you start procreating and need to send your wards to school, cater for them etc? My darling, I don't think you've found a husband. Its not too late to start over, better late than never. Take care hun!
YOU MUST BE DESPERATE AND STUPID TO WANT TO PAY FOR A WEDDING. IF THE MAN IS NOT RESPONSIBLE TO TAKE CARE OF THAT WHAT DO YOU THINK WOULD HAPPEN WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED?
ALSO AFTER THE WEDDING YOU PEOPLE WOULD EAT STONES AND SLEEP ON THE FLOOR RIGHT? WHY LET THE STUPID BIG WEDDING CRAZE HIT YOU? GO TO THE COURT WITH A FEW FAMILY AND FRIENDS HAVE YOUR WEDDING AND A LITTLE RECEPTION. NEXT DAY LIFE GOES ON AND YOU HAVE YOUR MONEY TO INVEST IN OTHER THINGS.
USE YOUR HEAD
Borrow usain bolt's legs and run and let ur legs b touchin d back of ur legs and don't look back!!! If u try it ehn........ Sango in collabo wit amadioha will fire u.mtcheeewwwww,I'm so pissed wit dis kind of question,na 2day dem born u?
Forget him and move on.. he doesnt deserve ur love
Your confusion is telling U to move on. Its a scam.
In 2014...u must b an idiot...prolly u actin desperate dats y he agreed u shld use ur money...buh ma dear...u gonna regret it 4 d rest of ur life if u pay 4 d weddin...he earns 170k nd u earn 100k re u stupid!!!!...use ur head o
After paying 4 d wedding,n trado, b ready 2 train ur kids ursef! U r suppos 2 assist nt do all d expenses!!
My dear be wise think wisely be u make mistake. He's the one that surpose to bring 80% of the money u can now contribute, he's not ready to marry u, he knows your desperate. Let him be the one want the marriage not u. If u marry him u keep on spending for the family do not use ur last kobo to marry ur man, it's doesn't work that way. Here is Nigeria our thinking is pure African.
Leave the guy. He is not a serious type. Real men don't do that, no Mather what. Serious guys are still available if care.
My dear I don't think u shlould if he truely loves you he will take care of the wedding . will tell you just keep on praying.
C stupid ? Go on wit d wedding silly geh mtchssss.
D guy isn't ready yet dear, it tuks me yrs 2 mk up my mind 2 wed bcos of d cost, dnt pay 4 d weddin cos he's t ready, weddin is vry vry Xpensiv, he's a guy, he shud spnd more 4 ur weddin.....
Abeg, move on jare. Both the guy and his mother are wicked gold-diggers. With the kind of income u both earn, it would be sheer stupidity to spend up to 3million on ur wedding.
Be wise, girl, don't ever give up ur savings any man, if u don't know what to use it for pls fix it in the bank.
Ewwwww,Miss no name, obviously u r learner. My short advice, Moveeee on with ur life.simply give another man a chance
U has a woman in africa u want to pay a mans bride price. Never try it cos the moment u pay for the wedding and after the wedding u will take care of all the house problems. Dnt try it. The man is not ready for u.
u r about to fall into a pit #fraudalert
Pls move on.
Just a question for you. Are you preparing for marriage or for a wedding? My dear, there's a day after the wedding and that day is called marriage. This guy may not be for you irrespective of whatever satisfaction you seem to be getting from him.
I really pity u. If he earns that amount & can't save to marry you, my dear I pity u, cos by the time you both are married you will shoulder the responsibility of taking care of the kids (when they come), himself & even his mother.
Come to think of it, why should his mum even "map out the expenses" for you. You don turn "Headoffice" o! Mugu 2014, beg God for wisdom.
Forget him or else U̶̲̥̅̊ will regret marrying such an irresponsible man!
Idoit man r u a small r large scale business no try am o!
you must b high on some cheap drug to reason this way at this age n time. mother n son are obviously criminals. better run for your life n wait for a nice man dat is ready to marry u bcos that thief is obviously not ready for marriage....
My dear I don't think its right for u to use all ur savings for a wedding O, pls think well b4 u art O.
Pls forget him Its simple.
pls this is waste of time.. u r not luved by Dis guy.. if u accept 2 go thru wit d marriage it won't go well. .just leave him and pray 2 God 2 give u ur own man cos he can't b d one
My dear, if this man is not ready to commit anything as regards the wedding, forget it. I repeat! Forget it! You are to be married and not the other way round. Fine, who says he should bear the burden alone? But let him show some seriousness and not fold his arms and watch you foot all d bills. Hello.... If you dare do this now,be ready to spoon feed him in the marriage. Please shine your eyes my sister. And pray for God's direction. Your husband will come. You don't have to struggle for it. ...z..
My dear u are not d man he should provide d money for the wedding den u can support him, if he is serious abt u he will do evryfin to make d wedding wrk out
My advice for yhu, is jex to forget about the wedding for sometimes.... Don't let this people turn you to something yhu will later regret, it is a plan work I think, what makes the inlaw to be calculating the expenses for you, I think that is your responsibility....
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4 million for wedding?...chineke!.. biko i cant shout....some one is gold digging nw... Le Hime...
Why? Don't do dat but even if you want to, release only 1M and let him bring d rest. Na dat same mouth dem go take abuse you say na you marry dier son instead if hgim marrying you.
My dear if truly you loves him and he loves too!! You can do dat f0r him.. Maybe his is the one catering for the family or he has an0ther budget his's currently pursuing.. S0 my dear d0nt give up G0d will surly reward you if u do that!!!! Guys ar scares des days o o o o hmmm!!!! Gudluck
Please forget that man cos he's not worth the stress.if a man loves u then he will ask u to marry him and do wat a man is surppose to do for a woman he love nt u paying for d man's hand in married and his mother is very wicked..plsss ur man is out there waiting for u.don't waste ur money please...
That's Evil of dz maN and U, are u dt desperate? I must get married syndrome abi ?Plsssssss, u even don't know whatsup payin ur own bride price so u understand d dangers of ur intended act plsss explain dz 2 ur family..take a bow & walkaway fast..
Why are you not posting my na wa fit you ooo
See am a guy my advice to u is to run for ur life do not start what u can not stop in life. NA u go marry him
Something sounds very wrong here, Why should he go Dutch on the wedding , let him pull his pants together or let go,
Madam abeg move on with ur life
The guy is very shameless how can he expect u to foot d bill for d wedding abeg move on!!! Sharply infact.
I smell a in ds whole drama buh I wld suggest u rather don't cash in2 ds stuff,play a mind game on dem nd watch dia response or more so free d relationship cos u can't make an un ready man ready.
Pls my dear sis, just forget him , run from him now and move on with your life. A real man ll soon come ur way. It is not compulsory to do elaborate wedding if he really love u & doesn't av enough money! Don't be surprised if he arranged wt his mum to collect your life saving & then jilt u. And if u pay for d wedding today, u ll continue to pay for evertin for d rest of ur marriage which ll eventually break down bcos by then ur eyers would av opened & u ll no longer be able to tolerate his wickedness anymore. If u don't know anytin better to do wt ur money, pls fix it in a bank till u know what to do wt it. As for d mother, she is a shame to both motherhood & womanhood! And I ppray that her female daughters will encounter worse in d hands of their mother in-laws, it doesn't matter if they are already married. A WORD is enough for d WISE.
U both have to contribute... N he is a douche.
Are u the one marrying him or he wants to marry u. How can the shameless mother inlaw is sending u the list.let dem go and die joor
Release your money, and it will be the last time you hear from them! Let's even assume they're serious about the wedding (which isn't true), why should it be your mother in law executing the preparation? If u're not too young to make the money, u shouldn't be too young to do the spending. A word is enough!!
If u finance d wedding be rest assured you will finance accomodatn, ante natal, delivery childcare n much more. If ur guy is ready for marriage but has no money, he shd be d one telling u to cut ur coat accordg to his material not collectg all ur savings for d ceremony. Be wise girl, dnt b too desperate to marry. My 2kobo
@ Poster..You need my advise? If yes then I suggest you drop this guy... YES DROP HIM OFF YOUR SHOULDER!!!!! You will be making the biggest mistake if you feel you want to pay for your tradition/white wedding without your guy contributing a penny. C'mon who does such things? FIRSTLY, if you pay for all the wedding expenses, that literally means you married him instead of the other way round... And believe me, that marriage will not last. If you have issues in the future, you can't stand your ground to defend any issues. He will tell you to your face "after all he never married you, you paid for your bride price therefore you married yourself" SECONDLY, he is not making any effort, what that means apparently is, it is either 1. He is not interested in you OR 2. He doesn't want to go on with the marriage... My dear @ Poster, you have to think with your HEAD not your HEART in this situation. Fine probably of your age, pressure fm friends and all that, you want to settle down but not with someone like him who is nonchallant and self-centred *forgive my use of words*. Don't allow yourself to be used. After reading these comments here on LIB, sit him down again and ask him for the last time, "does he want you as his wife, what plans does he have towards you.". Mind you this is 2014; this year seems to be running very fast, so you don't waste another year again hanging around him. If he happens to be a time waster. I wish you all the best as you emback on this journey..
Pls move on dear, dnt even luk back.
Sorry to say this sweetie... ur very stupid, as pretty as u are u want to go and pay a man's bride price, that dude and his mum will make life miserable for u if u doubt me marry him... Run for ur life sweet, he doesn't deserve you one bit... yea it's hard to move on but u ve got to move on... Screw the idiot and he's senseless and selfish mother... Abeg, biko, please, ejo don't pay that dudes bride price o.... una dey hear me now o... Run for ur life my dear
sponsoring the wedding will make you look desperate. And if i know men well, they do know how to take advantage of desperate women. And also, seems to me his mum also wants to exploit your desperation as well. my advice, keep dating till he is ready for marriage. And if after a while he is still not ready and you cant take it anymore, please leave and move on with your life. Im sure you must be a pretty woman and im also sure you would find another man who would not only love you, but also put a ring on it.
I beg u beta move on wit ur life. Free dat guy like terry j.
My dear forget him cos when one is ready to settle down with u,he will be d one telling u wat his plans are & d kind of wedding he wants. Just let him be OK,even if u have to separate from him make sure u do it without quarrels. Urs will find u & things will go smoothly.
Jaytee
My dear.... Move on..ur man is not ready for marriage. If you pay for the wedding.. U wil kip paying to keep him
Nne this guy isn't ready and obviously he isn't the right person for you. If he wants to marry you he would paid for the wedding.
Pls forget him, d man is not real and not even from a responsible parents.
Babes u well at all? Abeg bone dat man and him mama joor and move on wt ur life moreover, he's not ready too settle down seems u r forcing him to marry u. Foot d bill and see wht happeens to ur life after d marriage!
Ishi aki,r u dt desperate,isn't it obvious dt d guy n his mum wants to dupe u?abeg run for ur dear life.
Save ur money nd move on. D guy is nt ready 2 marry u.
Do u really need an advice? You're the biggest Fool on planet earth, shameless desperate girl.
Truely if the guy loves you, he will sponsor the whole wedding bcus he earns more than you. He has made plans with his mum to dub you of your money. Ask from advise from your own family and move on with your life. Other mens are looking for who to marry also
I'm a man and i would say it is better you move on with your life...It is either he does not love you and he doesn't know how to tell you so his mother gave you 4 million naira bill so to chase you away or he is not ready for marriage..If he can't sponsor the wedding or bring 70-80% of the wedding bill then leave him and move on with your life.i assure you will meet better men that will sponsor the wedding and make positive impact in your life
Pls dear,frget him and move on with ur life with ur life.he doesn't love you.
Pls forget him d man is not real and he doesn't even ve responsible parents.
Girl come wit ur 3m dont worry we won't spend up to 700k for d wedding ok Mumu girl u want to force urself on a guy who is not redi for u go use ur moni for good buz and wait on the Lord it is not who far bt how well dat well it is.
love is nt by foes he did nt love u pls 4get abt him but if he's ready 2 marry u he will take care d married stuff
My dear gender mate, what's is really wrong wt u? It is obvious dz man is a time waster pls,don't dare it,if he values u he wudve suggested u guys share d bills rather he wants u 2 shoulder all d wahala haba nah & 4d mum I clap my hands 4her perhaps she don't ve daughters..
Heya,I feel 4 u dear,buh u av to let sum tinz go,u wudnt want to enta into dat marriage n kip being d breadwinner bet me..he will nt also b ready to take certain steps nd decisionz wiv u,pls move on..#datmaturelady#
You can go on and pay for the wedding mumu girl. Can't u see this guy is not interested in marrying you. Rubish.
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Are you the one marrying the man or it is the man marrying you? After the wedding is he going to change is name to your name or your are going to change your name to his name..my dear both the man and his mother are evil and they have devilish plans for you.. For God's sake 4 million naira for a wedding? some couples managing do wedding with inbteween 400k and 800k and here you're with bill of 4 million ..I know of a man that spent 650k on his wedding and it superb..if he can't sponsor the wedding then run for your dear life ..pls run
libers, the fact that she is asking for an opinion doesnt make her desperate.
dear lady, pls be very careful. take ur time in deciding what to do. if weeding plans tear a couple apart, it is a sure sign that their bond as husband and wife will be weak. how wedding plans are handled is a clear reflection of what ur marriage will be like.
if ur fiancee takes ur relationsip seriously, he would have planned out this wedding by now and shown more interest, even if he had to use ur money.
i strongly advise that both of u communicate well, it seems to me that he wont take other serious matters seriously in future. would u like to be stuck with a man who isnt bothered about paying ur kids fees? pls think about the future implications of his current actions.
and i advise u save ur money for someone and something more worthwhile.
the ball is in ur court.
Be wise and leave the woman way of thinking in you and just forget about this man,, he is a fool and you will ever regret your life if you ever send that money away from your account, let him buy your wedding gown give you money to go and pay for hall, cake catering service and wedding gown, then you will use your own money to buy him suit, drinks and do the rest of things but in my words i will just advice you to forget the man my dear if really you exist
Runnnnnnnnnn,that guy doesn't love u,& he & his mum want to extort money from u.How sure are u that he really wants to marry u? How sure are u that he doesn't want to use ur money to marry another chick. Be wise,if he had marriage on mind,he would have started saving for long wit that kind of salary but now that u mentioned u have money they want to use ur desperation againt.Even if he marries u tomorrow & there is a problem he will want u to take responsibility bcos u forced him into marriage when he obviously told u he is not ready.If u give them the money then u sound desperate cos marriage is surpose to be a two way tin but when one person decides to shoulder everytin then it is surpose to be the man.He is the man & he should take responsibility.
Please forget him,if he truly love u then ur father should be the one writing d least of things for him to come marry u nt his wicked mother...u are nt in indian where girls pay bride price this is Nigeria Biko..u man is out there waiting for u go get him leave dis one he is nt for u befor u die befor ur time.
Imagine oooo nah u wan marry d guy abi nah d guy wan marry u,my dear u beta run 4 ur precious life...~ chidinma
I m nt sure he really wnts to marry u. Dis is a means to scare u away.
4get him pls
Imagine ooooo nah u wan marry d guy abi nah d guy wan marry u?my dear 4get abt d 5yrs courtship n run 4 ur precious life...~chidinma
I m nt sure he really wnts to marry u. Dis is a means to scare u away.
Husbands scarce..don't leave him
Benin pple!!! Wen will their men grow d**ks??? O bebe, nne biko run wen u can, he earns more but wants u to pay 4 a big wedding? Sounds like a joke to me. Even told his mum & she is shameless enof to call wit d bill, na wa oo
To me I don't think the guy want you at all. How can only you finance the such a big event. Now tell me, if you release all the morning, what will you depend on after the wedding? Be wise. Ok?
THE WRITER IS NOT TELLING THE TRUTH, NAH FOR LIB YOU WILL GET ADVICE FOR YOUR OWN MARRIAGE? AND YOU FAILED WITH THE MOTHER-IN-LAW BIT.THE TRUTH IS YOU ARE LOOKING FOR AN EXCUSE NOT TO MARRY HIM BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN SLEEPING AROUND, TRUST ME THAT IS THE REAL REASON YOU GUYS HAVE NOT MARRIED YET AND THAT IS WHY IT WOULD SEEM THE ISSUE OF MONEY IS THE PROBLEM.
ROSIE-MARIE
It is not necessary to have a big wedding, why invest all your finances for people that may curse or bless u on your wedding day, Go to the court and have a wedding instead of breaking the bank. Life is the best teacher, never give up ur finances until u say I do. Now the mother has a list, dear talk to ur parents I am sure they will have a few things to say.
lol....Are you paying for the groom's price too ??? My dear run for your Destiny !!!
Well,if this story is true and you truly love each other, you can cut the wedding cost down to size with him contributing more, and while at that do not forget about life after the marriage ceremony. The thing is, if you really love him, you should work together to face, carry and solve any matters arising, responsibility can be alternating but with the man taking the lead, that is the way to lasting relationship, our parents who succeeded in this marriage venture will tell you same.
lol....Are you paying for the Groom's price too ??My dear Run for your DESTINY Biko....Oduugo ?
my friend, you should only take advise from a woman that is still in her husband house, don't go and be listening to broken home people o! the same goes for all the other ladies out there.
Don't do that as the guy and his mum has already planning to dupe you.he is the man so let him do the wedding expensis.you can only support with very small amount.fred
My younger sister was in similar position about 10yrs back, not with the mother-in-law part of the story. But the today the situation is different, they are living very happily with lovely kids.And the man that myself and the rest of family used to call a lazy guy is currently richer than all of us put together and we are enjoying one way or the other, not that we are doing well ourselves but that is the plain truth.
My younger sister was in similar position about 10yrs back, not not with the mother-in-law part of the stories. But the today the story is different, they are very living very happily with lovely kids.And the man that myself and the rest of family used to call a lazy guy is currently richer than all of us put together and we are enjoying one way or the other, not that we are doing well ourselves but that is the plain truth.
Y are u guys telling her to leave?u knw an adage says d weight of sand and stone are noting compared to the trouble stupidity can cause,like seriously am angry,which am your elder sis would av lay u dwn and floged the wedding and d man from ur head,I belive one day marriage ll be free.(Xsexie blingx)
Why dont u also pay the bride price your self?? Desperado!!!
Y are u guys telling her to leave?u knw an adage says d weight of sand and stone are noting compared to the trouble stupidity can cause,like seriously am angry,wish am your elder sis would av lay u dwn and floged the wedding and d man from ur head,I belive one day marriage ll be free.(Xsexie blingx)
@4.13pm God bless u a lot dear madam wedding why not ask ur guy to pay ur bride price then u guys can save towards d wedding together and must u invite ur whole village b4 u get married look if u pay for d wedding get ready to pay for every other thing when u get married to him and sori to say his mum is shamless bcos wit 1.5m u can have both wedding on d same day pple do it now and when ever u are ready rent a gown and not buying.
Please ans please, run faaaaaaarrrr and move on with your life, this is a scam! A big crime!
Aru! Abomination!! Why should a lady sponsor her wedding alone? Getting married is not that serious, my dear. You should support him financially, and not take up the burden alone. If he has not been able to save anything all these years despite the fact that he is working, then he probably isn't serious about marriage. Don't pose yourself as 'Desperate' abeg, apply wisdom. As for his Mom giving you bill...SMH. It is well with you, my dear
Run my dear.the mother and the son waant to dupe you.don't try it.
Don't do that as the guy and his mum has already planning to dupe you.he is the man so let him do the wedding expensis.you can only support with very small amount.fred
Like seriously, anyways, don't run.
My dear fly if u can.
What a scam in the name of love.
pls don't be a fool. forget him. how can his mother have the audacity to do that. she is suppose to be ashamed. why can't he foot the bill. if you let him start that way, u will be in that marriage filled with regret.
Please forget about him immediately. You have already wasted five years on him and it is better you leave him now so you can find somebody who deserves you while you are still young. First of all even if you feel comfortable bankrolling the wedding, you will be emasculating him and there is no man alive secure enough to take that. This will show when he starts ill treating you. He will need to assert himself and will also want to prove his manhood over and over again with women that can look up to him.Finally if his mother could hand you such a bill then the family is dysfunctional and have no scruples...run for your life.
Claire
My humble advice is that you leave him immediately while you are still young and find someone who deserves you.To start with even if you are comfortable bringing out such money to bankroll the wedding single handed,you will be emasculating your man.There is no man alive secure enough to handle that. This will show when he starts ill treating you in order to assert himself and he will will definitely need to prove his manhood over and over with different women who look up to him. Finally if his mother could hand you such a bill then the family is dysfunctional and have no scruples. My dear run for your life.
Claire
Don't fucking pay.. d guy doesn't love U. PERIOD.
Don't fucking pay.. d guy doesn't love U. PERIOD.
My sister, na bride parents dey pay 4 wedding at oyimbo land oh. Pay as u earn.
This is total madness and unexpected of you, dear do not sale ur pride. If u do it u wouldn't earn any respect from him... FUCK U, if u do it....
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Orrrr you could have a court wedding and a traditional...if you must. Financial problems are the number one cause for marital problems. Also, if the fact that he cannot pay for the wedding could possibly cause you to leave him then...maybe it's not a real relationship?
That is how you will continue funding everything in your marriage. It happened to someone I know and she is still funding that family
Hi dear,
I hope dor your sake this story is fabricated. I beg of you, do not marry this man. If he can open his mouth to say he has no money dor the wedding, then he should not involve his mum in the matter.
A wedding should be a womans affair n not his moms'. 4milion! For a couple whoose monthly take home is 270k combined!
Please its time to lick your wound n move on.
I married a man who refused to take responsibility for our wedding even though he did not admit that at first. I paid for everything n he promised tonpay back. I never got my money back. But guess wat? It dis not earn me any respect from my man. He even accused of dating 'big' men in d end. Our marriage lasted 5 months. My only happiness is dat I left pregnant. I currently have a 3yr old pretty angel.
Pls don't do it. If his mum is indecent enough to call a woman her son wants to marry n give her such outrageos bill for a wedding her son isnt paying for, run away from such family.
They would nor respect you but label u desperate.
Thank you.
AM SHOCKED AT THIS, THAT A MAN AND EVEN HIS MOTHER WOULD DO THIS TO A POOR GIRL , THIS IS D HEIGHT OF WICKEDNESS! MY GIRL HAVE U BEEN HYPNOTISED , U BETTER START PRAYING FOR DELIVERANCE AND RUN WITHOUT GLANCING BACK! FOR REAL ITS HIGH TIME WOMEN PLACED MORE VALUE AND RESPECT ON THEIRSELF! THIS IS MODERN DAY WOMEN ABUSE, GOD WILL PURNISH THEM, IT WILL NEVER BE WELL WITH THEM
Exactly! He showred u signs but u no see. Nne run
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