Dear LIB readers: Should I forget this man or pay for the wedding?
From a female LIB reader
I have dated my fiance for 5years now. Whenever I ask him
about our marriage plans, he keeps telling me he doesn't have enough
money for the wedding. This guy earns 170k monthly while I earn
100k. I told him I have some cash I made from a supply, can't we use it
for the wedding? He said its okay by him. His mother called me from Benin
last week and said the son told him about our marriage arrangement, that
she has mapped out the wedding expenses. To my greatest surprise she
gave me an amount I can't really explain. I have 3milion on me while she
said everything will cost 4million both for the traditional and white
wedding. my wedding gown is not included, his suit is not included. Should I
forget this man and move on with my life or release all the money I have for the wedding? I am troubled at the moment. I am so confused. Please advise
The man is stingy and probably bcos he doesn't love u enough..how are you sure he take care of ur needs in future if you release all your savings?...move on with ur life my dear..
I really want to tell you d truth ad Nothing bt d truth, he is nt for u.if u go ahead ad spend that money believe me u will regret it. I am a guy so I can tell when itz real.bt this one I dnt think itz real u will keep paying even after d wedding.Regg
bullshit! my dear,earn ur respect as a lady n move on.dts his duties n nt urs,dnt make him feel like ure "miss desperado"cz he wil never respect u in dt union/marriage,probably makin u feel dt u coerced /forced d marriage.dts nt ur place as a lady my dear.walk away asper craig david.
U can't entirely pay for d wedding, u both are to come together and make d wedding happen, trust me if u start like dis, even wen u get into d marriage u ll keep taking responsibility for almost everything. Hes the man, let him take charge, if he's not ready to, my dear talk a walk!!!
Na wa oooo.whch kind shameless people b dis?*his family n himself*u sef u b ode ooo.na u go use ur money marry man nee?na so matrimony hungry u rish?nna na wa o.me sef i neeed husband o.buh i dnt v mny sha.
If a man loves you he will do whatever he can to be with you. He does not even want to give you a wedding but cannot say it out. I am sure there are other clear signs that shows he does not not want to marry you but you refuse to acknowledge them. I cannot tell you what to do but my guess is you already know... good luck.
Forget him, he's nt ready to marry you. Y wil u spend 3million naira for your weddin? Is ur father a politician? If u end up with that guy, u wil b d one payin d bills alone and he's mum will add her own bills too. Imagine the old woman makin ur weddin plans for 4millions, how much is her soon earnin? Add her son's allowee per anum, is not even enof to make up the 4mill. Wake up my dear.
Run for your life pls, dis is clearly not right. Family of gold diggers. Haba his earnings is more than urs nah n he can't sponsor his own wedding? This is serious.
Won fe gba e ni ooo,u better dont accept that,he z suppose to do most of the spendings,if u are even going to spend it will b lesser than his...BE WISE
Pls my dear, run as fast as ur leg can carry u. Nothing that I will not hear ds days,wat wit women providing money for weddings.it is unheard of, atleast u can contribute to it not financing it all. Na so men scarce reach, na wa o.I knw it will be hard but leave him. An advice I wil also give to my sis
U be mumu....me i be correct guy, forget that guy, na 1 million we go use do our own wedding....buzz me.
Seriously, d guy is not saying i have xxx naira, let me contribute it to the wedding and you just want to go ahead and foot the whole thing.
R u d one going to rent house, school fees, etc.
Its not by force to marry oh, even if age is catching up with you. Its just as if you are basically paying the guy to marry you. Who is paying bride price, u or him
pls my dear forget him except u are ready to continue running the family because his going to put all the bills on u forget the number of years u have spent with u can do better look forward pls I no is hard to do
Think twice my dear. By the time u use 4M for wedding that is just a day, how do u survive d rest of your marriage. If the man loves u enough, he should sort 4 money to do the right thing and not d other way round. If u don't watch your steps @ this stage, b ready to take responsibilties for d rest of your life in dat marriage. Well, follow your heart pls
Are you maad??pay for th wedding...afta wedding u'll start feeding ur self nxt tin u knw u'll start paying ur kids school fees.....and why is his mother involved?my sister run for your life...my mum is having this same prob....my dad is rich but wont pay for a single thing...my sister help urself nd protect your future kids,i don talk my own ooo
Family of bronze diggers....run run run...are u still there? But seriously nothing good will come out of it at the end and I feel this is just an act to push you out, if they don't ve cash can't they hide their shameless faces and cut their coat according to their available material? My dear run o run..
Girl I'm so sorry to say this but you're trying to make a very big mistake. He earns more than you and yet he can't contribute to your marriage? Is that how desperate you are?
Na wa for his mother,so she also expects u to pay for ur wedding,what about her son?is she going to contribute too?my dear,I don't tink u shld marry dis man.maybe he has told his mum u re his MAGA.a woman can contribute a little but to expect u to pay for everytin??haaa,waka now.com ooooooo.
My dear, You cant pay for your own wedding; where is the dignity? If he can't save to have you as his wife then he is not worth spending a lifetime with. If you make the mistake of paying; you will discover that you will end up being the head of the home. You will pay for rent, school fees, feeding etc. Trust me, that is what I am suffering now. I didn't pay for my wedding but I was always quick to offer financial assistance, we have been married for 7 years and now my husband sees it as my responsibility to cater for the home without no iota of shame. Don't be deceived-don't think you cant find someone better; you shall and you will.
My dear sister pls know that wateva u start with is what you're going to continue doing even after marriage its quite different if he was not employed and you decide to assist but In your case he works and clearly doesn't spend hismoney(salay) on you so ask yourself if you're ready to take that responsibility.if you are then your mother in-law has no right to cost your wedding expenses ,politely find a way to tell her you can handle it.may God guide you
Are you still asking if you should leave him or not? Isn't it obvious that he doesn't love you and don't want you as a wife? My dear couple plan wedding together in terms of expenses but this one na to chase you o, forget him and move on with your life, he's definitely not the right man for you. My opinion though.
My dear... Move on, this guy n his family wnt to eat ur money..... First it will b th wedding, then thrughout marriage it will b th same thing...nd th mother in law knowing full well Tht her son won't contribute is busy giving u a list of what to buy..... Mtchewww.. Ur guy n his mama no serious at all
Na wa oo...do we still av dis kind of pple on earth?...my dear pls don't, only if u will be d husband nd he will be d wife..#lobatan#..........@dahmie4christ
Why don't u guys do a court wedding and reception wit close frnds and use d 3million for something more important,if u use all d money after d wedding wat next
My dear, I will advise u live that guy, moni is not an issue wen it comes to wedding, u can hv a small gathering of just ur immdiate family den in future wen he gets the type of moni he is hoping for, he can throw an anniversry party for u. I tink d guy n his mother is up to somtin, be wise girlfrend.
Did u want to marry urself 2 d man or u want d man 2 marry u? He z earnin a lot of money ad hs 3mnth salary can solve all d traditional ad white weddin ad he still hv balance. Infact d man ad their mother r thief they want u 2 send d one u hv 2 their account ad they 'll send u away. So my dear dt man is nt ur husband. And again pray 2 God 4 intervension.
Thou should nt marry such a yeye man wit such a greedy mother...wat rubbish! Who does dat kind of thing?4m! Wat den ll dey contribute? So na u go buy everything includin their clothes,pay ur own bride price,even cook d mama meeting pple food...my dear go use ur mony do beta thing 4 urslf...if u start ur life dis way,u re signing in 4 trouble
Why would his mum send u a budget breakdown? If he really is serious u guys should have a small wedding now and a bigger party when u av money.do not put all ur savings for a one day party.
i'm a guy bt i'll advice u mov on n hope 4 a better man than 1 who is too cowardly to tell u he is not ready for marriage n trust me wen i say u wil end up being the bread winner
There is fire on the mountain, na benin people u wan try??evn old women there u no dey safe 4 dia hand she planed wt her son to bankrupt u.u can't force a man to marry u simple
My dear LIBer, this guy doesn't love you and he's equally very stingy. Please leave him, you'll find someone who deserves you and who considers you worthy enough to spend his money to keep you.
i have been following this blog for a while now but this is my first time of commentin on this blog. seriously today's LIB dear reader question is outrageous. how can u pay for your own wedding? why then is he a man? is he the 1 marryin u or are u d 1 marryin him?
My darling, i am so sorry, but are you drunk? or did you recently smoke magic mushrooms? please run for your life, if you spend your 3M on the wedding after the wedding nko? abeg ditch him as fast as you can, nothing wrong with helping with the wedding but paying for the whole wedding? this guy and his family are users and opportunists. RUN
how can a family, who cant pay to marry a girl be planning a marriage for 4M? i am so pissed , im officially taking panadol for your headache
Aunty Linda gud evenin,I missed reading ur blog cos of sch n I will b starting my exam tomao,bk to the subject,has our custom of marriage now turned to the Indians?when d woman takes care of d marriage rites?my sister move on n don't use all ur live saving on a man n maybe on d long run u will b d one to sponsor his junior brother's marriage.be wise and be warned.
My dear LIBer, this guy doesn't love you and he's equally very stingy. Please leave him, you'll find someone who deserves you and who considers you worthy enough to spend his money to keep you.
hmmm, this get as e be, check very well my dear if this guy has a hidden agenda, if him and his family cannot contribute any part to your wedding,then i think u shd move on with ur life. i dont think its right for you to empty all your savings for the wedding. God forbid but tomorrow if anying happens in the marriage, him and his pple will quickly remind you that their son did not marry you, u were the one who married him, be careful and shine ur eyes, tell him dt if he is willing to move the relashionship to the next level, that you will move on with ur life,,, simple. don't sound desperate to foot the bills of ur wedding. just my own piece of advise for u
a guy that truly wants u will go extra mile to keep u.d guy and his mum ar useless bcos even if u sponsor d wedding,wat assurance do u av that u wont b d one mentainin d marriage. b wise dear and think twice
why the heck would you offer to pay for the wedding with all your hard earned money? Are you so desperate to get married? The wedding day is not the end of it you know...what if you need money for other important things. Are you sure this guy can't sense your desperation hence his procrastinating? Young woman, where is your family? you must have people who can advise you properly. you must NEVER start a marriage on the wrong foundation. Even his mum has given you the bill!! wow!! utter nonsense!! in other words, you will pay his 'groom price'!! I pray God grants you the wisdom and understanding to deal with this situation. wait on God with all your heart and mind...the one that is destined for you will come at the appointed time.
Dont be a fool,move to the next level. Infact you are and the wedding are not his priority and besides you must be foolish to invest your life savings on one memory event
Why would she give you a bill of over 4million or any amount atall?Are you marrying her son or he is the one marrying you?...Are you begging to marry to him?Please seek your parents advice on this issue,cos you are not suppose to be the one paying for your own wedding.
My dear, just walk away!!! If he luvs u that much he will do wateva it takes 2 marry u..if u sponsor it,its goina b d begining of ur downfall nd unhappiness.. Yea, its 5years,it won't b easy but u just gas thinka ur happiness 1st..plus, dnt b surprised 2 hear he's already got plans 2 marry anotha gurl nd his so kald mother knows bout it..walk away as fast as possible dear!!!.#assysayso#
Mumu of africa...go ahead to fund d wedding, u beta run cos d guy is a gold digger nd he planned it wit his mom to ruin ur life...do u tink is all about d wedding?
Pls move on with ur life, he and his family want to suck U dry, he doesn't love U don't worry God will give U a good life partiner that will cherish U.
I'm married to a Benin man and his mum didn't call me up to make any demands. Why are you trying to play the man in the relationship? if he doesn't have the money, you have 2 options: you wait until he does and support with what you have or you waka. Nor be only from Benin you receive call from.
Madam pls runnnnnnn ooooo 4 ur life, this is nt a matter of love n age.live dat guy Bcos if u marry him u ill never find happiness 4 de rest of ur life, n u ill face nothing less dan worse night mare, a woman is nt suppose to pay her pride price with her money,
Its like you don't really know what to use your money for...who is marrying who? Both your man and his mum are shameless for them to even be comfortable with you sponsoring the wedding..I feel really sorry for you for wasting 5years of your life with such a looser...move on babes, that guy won't marry you unless you're ready to' pay for your own dowry
Honey pls I beg u in d name of God run 4 ur dear life now u still have d time, u will never enjoy ur marriage wit dat guy. Benin people are like dat all dey want is ur moni, I was born n bread in benin city. As am talkin to u nw my big sis is in dat kind of soap. Pls dnt try it. if u want to hear more dis is my 08034747122
guess they want to open office on your head. imagine your would be mother in-law proposing 4Million for a wedding the son is not ready to contribute a kobo. Dont know why ladies are so gullible. He earns higher than you and even if you should contribute for the wedding it should be a 70:30 thing with 70% coming from the man. If you go ahead and give them all your money he might as well wake up one morning and tell you stories and you will loose either way. please allow him make the move yours is just to support, if he is not ready to make the commitment pls move on there are better days ahead.
guess they want to open office on your head. imagine your would be mother in-law proposing 4Million for a wedding the son is not ready to contribute a kobo. Dont know why ladies are so gullible. He earns higher than you and even if you should contribute for the wedding it should be a 70:30 thing with 70% coming from the man. If you go ahead and give them all your money he might as well wake up one morning and tell you stories and you will loose either way. please allow him make the move yours is just to support, if he is not ready to make the commitment pls move on there are better days ahead.
Some people are still very stupid sha. Come on, this is year 2014. OK, you know what? Pay for the wedding with all your savings, you hear? If the guy loves you, he will borrow money to marry you.
If u love him in hard times pay for the wedding, don't forget that some women are like step up stones for their husband's, u neva know tmoro, that the man is currently down now doesn't mean he can't rise tmoro or else he is a lazy chap, n besides I guess ur hubby have siblings uncles n auntie so its not only your money dat will enter there so if u really love him as ur husband pay him, tmoro might be beta
I cnt believe u can actually consider payin for d wedding are dis dumb or u r just desperate,if u pay for d wedding u will end up paying for everytin in ur marriage cnt u see dis man doesn't c u as his wife?he earns more dan u nd can actually agree to to paying. Its a sign he doesn't want his mum gave u dat amonut to scare u away bt u r there still consdering my dear wait for a man who wil b happy to ve u as his wife nd take care of d bills like a real should
Child, it seems you're the one with the issues. Why does your wedding have to be so expensive? Go to court get married officially. Put whatever you have dedicated for the wedding into a separate account from both you and him and when the weddings expenses matches what you have in the savings account, then plan a wedding party for friends and family to attend. Btw, if he is making more than you, what is he using his money for? Maybe marriage shouldn't be high on your priority list with this man, if he can't save up money. Marriage might not only be the financial fight you might have, baby food fight and baby tuition fight will come up too. Im not saying fashy or whatever you call it, but something is not right somewhere.
My dear, are you that desperate to be married that you'll pay for the wedding even when your man earns more than you do? You better think twice so you don't end up regreting. And what's with your mother-in-law? I think you should just forget this man and move on with your life. If you marry him, I guarantee you'll be the one paying the household expenses and later, your chidren's fees. (BTW, what's he doing with what he earns?) If you really really feel he's the one you want, then you guys should just have a 'small' affair (but which he MUST contribute something towards). Above all, pray really hard before you say I DO!
Thank you for bringing this up here cos i am very sute that there are people who are suffering same in their relationships today and who don't have that courage to speak out. I will advice that you quit the relationship. The fact is that this man is not really interested but he can't come out straight to tell u. I am a man and i won't want to get married to my woman leaving the chunk of expenses for her to bear. I do not know if you have done the traditional marriage or not. If u bring money out to foot the bill for ur trad too, it will mean that you are marrying yourself and traditionally, that's not healthy. Try to consult with ur family tooo cos it sounds like you don't carry them along in this.... Wish u the best of luck. GBU
In as much as I hate to say dis "u r a desperate lady and he wants to make a learner out of u " Do Not Pay, I Repeat, Do Not Pay. A word is enuf 4 d wise. His mother is a heartless woman, I bliv she's in on his plans.
Please and please have mercy on the kids and don't bring them to suffer!
I think, you guys should spend the "free time" you have working out a financial plan that will fund the expenses that come with kids (business ideas, savings plans etc).
Once the kids come in, you'll hardly have time to wipe your own ass in the first few years. And oh yeah, the bills roll in quickly.
babe abeg forget this man, he doesn't luv u. mind u, they are rying to fraud u. is his mother suppose to plan ur weeding for. babe move on with ur life and forget u.
Please,am begging you in God's name..No matter how hard it is for you,Leave dis man..don't be scared about finding another person..cause I know you definitely would by God's grace..Some men 50k and deyve long married dere women not to talk of him who has 170k /mnth dats over 2millon my sister..Jst leave him asap..If you don't knw how to tell him,act it.I wonder what's wrong with some men that have the opportunity for hardworking women as wives sha..
ah ah, den won kill you ni, or na by force den de marry ni, obviously u need to be very careful, there is nothing bad in helping ur guy but ur case different oooo, am nt sure it ll work out smothly. Please sleep with one EYE. ODC
My dear... Am speechless, dt dude is greedy! don't make dt mistake of paying for d wedding, if he loves u, he will find a way cos if u pay for d wedding ceremony... u will continue to play his role in d house i.e paying d bills... pls keep ur money, u made a mistake making him know u can afford d wedding expenses.. but please don't make a mistake of paying for everything .. pls!
Idiot gal, if u dnt knw wat to do with ur 3mil, pls gv it to motherless babies. Otondo! Dat man has anoda woman n d mother knows it, dey just want to extort u. Capital MUMU.
My dear, just walk away!!! If he luvs u that much he will do wateva it takes 2 marry u..if u sponsor it,its goina b d begining of ur downfall nd unhappiness.. Yea, its 5years,it won't b easy but u just gas thinka ur happiness 1st..plus, dnt b surprised 2 hear he's already got plans 2 marry anotha gurl nd his so kald mother knows bout it..walk away as fast as possible dear!!!.#assysayso#
My dear what is wrong with u. U never big pass who them dey tell "don't be stupid". He is not paying the bills and they are telling u 4 million,and u mumu dey even think the matter. How old are u sef. Will u gather ur two left legs and take a walk. Him mama too no get shame
My dear, just walk away!!! If he luvs u that much he will do wateva it takes 2 marry u..if u sponsor it,its goina b d begining of ur downfall nd unhappiness.. Yea, its 5years,it won't b easy but u just gas thinka ur happiness 1st..plus, dnt b surprised 2 hear he's already got plans 2 marry anotha gurl nd his so kald mother knows bout it..walk away as fast as possible dear!!!.#assysayso#
Nnem biko move on with your life he doesn't value you one bit...the feel like they are doing uu a favour by marrying yu..even if yu are supporting with your finance it should be a joint thing and not just you...biko life is too short to live it for people o!
Throughout the marriage be prepared to foot the bills, rent, school fees for the kids, hospital bills, sending money to his mom. U cannot complain cos u proposed to him n married him. He will still treat u shabbily cos u forced him into marriage. After 5 years, u shd know both he n his mom have plans for your 3m. Maybe they want to relocate abroad. www.drnsmusings.wordpress.com
desperado culdwn o is a man duty to marry a woman & nt d orda way rwn if he cnt afford a weddng ring devenatly he wnt afford to take k of a house as a man buh if marring him wif ur morney as a woman will make u happi y nt my opinion tho #THAT AKWA IBOM BOY
Honestly my dear 4get dat guy cos u can't pay 4 all d xpenses 4 d wedding but only assist him as a patner and is not like he's nt working so wat could be d reason 4 nt paying 4 d wedding xpenses,and d mother dnt hv 2 plan ur wedding pls
First of all, are you the one going to marry him! While don't you let him marry you so that you can be happy, its seems u're despirate going by your action,funny have never see where the wife sponsor wedding before,pls be patience till u guys married. What you need to do now go back to God alter and pray very well. God bless you.visit MHM Holy spirit cathedral Aguda-Ogba for counselling every Tuesday. God bless you. #TeamThinkForMe
plz, dnt Eva try it else u ll regret it 4 d rest of ur life 2geda. u will continue 2 carter 4 d household as he doesn't av enuff moni ll always be his national anthem.
Hallos............Please do yourself a favour and forget him. It will be heart breaking but trust me, you are better off. You will always resent him if you pay for your own wedding. If a man loves you enough, he will find a way. Secondly, value yourself enough to cost something. Whatever a man gets for ''FREE'', he will never appreciate it. Thirdly, NEVER, EVER.....tell a man you are not married to, what your savings are!. Love with your head and not your heart.
Leave the shameless idiot!!!! It is a very obvious that he is not a serious person at all nor is his family. Getting married or rather, having a wedding does not mean spending all the money in the world especially when the money is not even there. On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with a bride-to-be assisting the groom-to-be; but that is the word "assisting". In this case, your so called fiance is leaving the whole wedding expenses for you to bear and even his shameless mother knowing you are the one footing the bill is also adding stupid expenses to it. This guy never planned to get married to you so the earlier you walk away, the better for you because, if you go through with it, you would only be setting yourself up for the rest of your days with him. I can bet you that if you do get married to him, you would be supporting him for as long as the marriage lasts.
Why should the mother be giving you expenses? Are they both fraudsters? If it's her son's money will she call such a large amount? Is it a society wedding? BIG THIEVES!!! The guy has a wife somewhere and he is building a house there.
Ehn! don't try it... babe be wise. Please forget him, I know its not easy, but the sooner you leave the better, if you pay for the wedding, get ready to pay all the bills for the rest of your marital life!
She is very greedy. She knows you're paying for the wedding yet she is giving you a bill even her son cannot afford. Please leave that family. They don't like you. A real man will never let his bride pay for the wedding. If he can't afford it, he'll have a small one instead. But since they are both determined to have an expensive wedding even if they don't have money, then they're just trying to rip you off. My dear just leave him and be patient, your Mr Right will soon come.
Nne please move on with your life,they are acting like they are doing yu a favour by marrying yu...even if yu wanna use ur money it should be contribution biko...No be by force
Please dont go on with it. if he is not ready yet cos of financial reasons, u guys shld sit and plan it out but plz dont bring d bulk of the money for a wedding. its his responsibility.
A man WĘ°áµ’ can't sacrifice Fáµ’Ęł U̶̲̥̅̊ ČŠ̝̊̅§ nt worth sacrificing Fáµ’Ęł! Depends on ur age though bt if U̶̲̥̅̊ feel age ČŠ̝̊̅§ nt on ur side, mi dear check d nxt available dude cos to me ur fiance aint serioz one bit! But d paramount fhn ČŠ̝̊̅§ let ur head guide U̶̲̥̅̊ nd nt ur hrt! Weight judges, do wats it ČŠ̝̊̅§ right nd wt will make U̶̲̥̅̊ happy! As Fáµ’Ęł his mum, I dnt fnk she wishes U̶̲̥̅̊ well.Fáµ’Ęł wt her son won't finance? Best of luck sha..... *mhz V*
Hmmm,there is nothing i will not hear.Mama has amount ready for u.na waoh.dey plan am.My sister abey run oh.must u marry now?abeg invest ur money.ur husband will come.That man and his mother want to dupe u.RUN..Rae
Hw can U be d one to sponsor for d wedding,abeg leave dat man,he don't wan2 mari U!d fact is dat he dnt really love U,bcos if he does,he won't give U dat kind of excuse,2,he's d one dat told d mum 2 tel U d Amount it wil cost,b wise,so U won't cry in future,dis man is fake,he dnt wan2 marry U,take it or U leave it,pray,to God he wil give U Ur own right hubby,
Pls forget this guy and move on, ur real husband will come. Trust me this is a very clear sign of what will happen when you marry this man. End the relationship , open ur heart and good husband will come.
I have never commented on the blog before, but seeing this post, I felt the need to say something.
I understand how you feel, dating a man for 5 years and it seems the only thing stopping you from getting married to him is money to fund the wedding. You have some kiney which can fund the wedding, do why not use it, right?
It is not as easy as the above analogy suggests. When you begin your marriage by funding your wedding, you have already set a tone for you marriage as the breadwinner. This man you are dating earns more than you. Where are his savings? Did he not lay down plans on how to fund us own wedding?
His mother calculated the cost of both traditional and white wedding and told you it is 4 million. Is she your wedding planner? Does she intend to cater for any part of the ceremonies? she is also aware that you intend to fund it yourself. Did she not have any objections! Which mother in law to be will fold her hands and watch you singlehandledly sponsor her son's wedding?? Haba there is something called shame.
It also makes you look desperate. Any man how cannot fund his wedding to a great degree has no business getting married. Will you pay fr your maternity as well? Soon you will pay the house rent. If he has nit invested his money into something very important like land or housing for long term income, then you need to question his sense of responsibility.
You should sit him down and have a heart to heart talk. Postpone your wedding till he s financially capable, if not, pllease move on. There are more financial responsibilities after the wedding. And the issue does seem deeper than money, I sense a passivity on his part, which is not a good sign. A man hi is serious and wants to marry, does all he can to make it happen. He is the one who finds a wife and finds a good thing, not the other way round, he is the one who needs a helpmate.
Why can't the wedding be a low profile one. Kindly plan your wedding. People who earn 17,000 Naira a month still get married without breaking the bank and perhaps, a man that loves you would love the idea of settling down with you and would achieve that regardless of his earnings to make that a reality.
To be very sincerely with u,money for the marriage is not his problem.is just that maybe he probably doesnt see u as his wife to be anymore.it takes nothin to get a wedding done with his salarym
Marriage 2 a man who dosn't see d importance is no marriage. Wat wud such a man b spending his salary on if he can't afford a marriage @ d level of his salary? If u push tru,he wud bcom a liability nd u'll keep on spending on him cos u contracted d marriage. Just look b4 u leap ma dear.
My dear forget about the stupid man, he doesn't love you as you think, he wants u to pay for the whole wedding expenses..?his own wedding? Is he mad.? Who does that, please my own little advice is to forget about him and move on with your life, his an Irresponsible man..
Girl all they want is just your money, and for his mum to give you such a list shows they don't want you in that family so you talking about marriage to that guy means disturbing youself so pleas move on with your life save your money for important things God will give you an understanding and loving man
Shameless man. So he's willing to sit back 4 u to foot d bill. My dear just know he will sit back when u guys marry. If u must marry him, he shld bring half of d money. Also meet up wit his mother n see how to cut cost. Idiot man, smh 4 him.
How can you pay for your wedding? This is the beginning of the end of this marriage. The man is dodging his responsibility. How can the man's mother send you a bill for the wedding and you want to pay for it? You are like the innocent lamb being sent to the slaughterhouse. Do NOT bring out the money (N3 million ) for the wedding. When the wedding is over and the money spent, what will you do? The wedding is just a small part of the marriage.
Any man that would allow a woman to bring out that kind of money for a marriage is NOT a man but a mama's boy. Please open your eyes well well o.
people will give the advice its a matter of you ready to go by it. but by the way don't start what you can't finish. from wedding you feed the family. think ahead not now.
My dear forget about the stupid man, he doesn't love you as you think, he wants u to pay for the whole wedding expenses..?his own wedding? Is he mad.? Who does that, please my own little advice is to forget about him and move on with your life, his an Irresponsible man..
Bitch please....... Run d opposite direction! U wanna spend 4mil u don't av on a guy who's least concerned wit taking u 2 d church! Sounds lyk a sad plot 4 "Lord of Rings" a.k.a "the one dat neva got made" Ditch his sorry ass & his ostentatious mum's sorry behind.... Wat's d point of avin a lavish wedding & av no security blanket 2 fall back on afta wedding!! Dat's just dumb shud u go thru wit it! #TracySaysSo #JustmaHumbleOpinion
people will give the advice its a matter of you ready to go by it. but by the way don't start what you can't finish. from wedding you feed the family. think ahead not now.
My dear,isn't it obvious that this people are bunch of ill lucks? How can the mother of the supposed groom be the one to give you the estimated cost? Pls run. And the perfect idea of the race is scooby doo. Flee!
people will give the advice its a matter of you ready to go by it. but by the way don't start what you can't finish. from wedding you feed the family. think ahead not now.
My dear,isn't it obvious that this people are bunch of ill lucks? How can the mother of the supposed groom be the one to give you the estimated cost? Pls run. And the perfect idea of the race is scooby doo. Flee!
people will give the advice its a matter of you ready to go by it. but by the way don't start what you can't finish. from wedding you feed the family. think ahead not now.
Move on wit ur life dear.....he doesn't need u is ur money,he need..if u stay nw wit money once u stop giving...he will hate u...der ar better men out der for u dear.forget abt him
people will give the advice its a matter of you ready to go by it. but by the way don't start what you can't finish. from wedding you feed the family. think ahead not now.
Save your money, I think its unwise to use all your hard earned savings for a wedding ceremony. If you don't have the money and both of you are so in love then go and do a court wedding and call it a day. You can always have a little party for family and friends. P.s if you pay for the wedding its not a good move, almost feels desperate. If he really wants to marry you he should be put down some resources aswell. Be wise!
The crop of useless men out there today is really alarming n scary!! A real man will not ask his woman to foot their wedding bills. These bastards these days aint got no shame nor qualms about spending a chicks money. This dude & his family don't give a damn bout u, its clear he's not gon settle down wit u as he prolly has sumone he intends to marry. Smh at d mother, will she allow her own daughter do so in d name of love? Babes wake up & smell the coffee, run as fast as you can as these peeps dint care about u. Life does not end or begin by marriage,use ur grey matter n either invest your money in sumtin worthwhile or leave it in your account. Dude will term u a liability after u pay d wedding expenses wen u become broke! Marriage is not do or die.#nuffsaid
Come and marry me! I dnt even want expensive wedding lol, its sad wht goes on in relatnshp nw adays, Go and pray to God first b4 anytin. and the troubles continues with girls and marriage.
babe I go advice u make u leave the man. if u dare pay for it, u will suffer in that marriage. they will use it against u later. leave the guy and the family.
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«Oldest ‹Older 801 – 1000 of 1746 Newer› Newest»dont ever drop dat kind of money, who is marrying who? so, you are now the husband abi..
The man is stingy and probably bcos he doesn't love u enough..how are you sure he take care of ur needs in future if you release all your savings?...move on with ur life my dear..
Babe, nobdy has d right to plan your wedding. If d mother hv mapped out d wedding expenses, let her pay for it. SIMple! Tessy
Chuckles *shrugs* linda wots wrng wii my fellow libers na?hian?abeg no comment o.
I really want to tell you d truth ad Nothing bt d truth, he is nt for u.if u go ahead ad spend that money believe me u will regret it. I am a guy so I can tell when itz real.bt this one I dnt think itz real u will keep paying even after d wedding.Regg
Don't you dare! Its obvious they are using you!
Wait o! Abeg i don't understand. his mother called to give cost of the wedding. How can she call to give you cost of the wedding? As in, I'm still confused. Are you also paying your bride price? HEHEHEHE!!!! Wonders will indeed never end. I can understand if you and your fiancé have an agreement to spend your money on the wedding (which by the way has its own implications) but for his mum to call and give you cost *bbm confused smiley* so the whole world knows you are paying for your wedding na. My dear, read the writing on the wall.
bullshit! my dear,earn ur respect as a lady n move on.dts his duties n nt urs,dnt make him feel like ure "miss desperado"cz he wil never respect u in dt union/marriage,probably makin u feel dt u coerced /forced d marriage.dts nt ur place as a lady my dear.walk away asper craig david.
U can't entirely pay for d wedding, u both are to come together and make d wedding happen, trust me if u start like dis, even wen u get into d marriage u ll keep taking responsibility for almost everything. Hes the man, let him take charge, if he's not ready to, my dear talk a walk!!!
Re u a learner, or an indian wia d ladies pay d dowry?
Ode nie
U beta leave dat man kia kia dey jst want 2 use u ni mk haste yl d sunshine a word is enough 4d wise
Forget the man, if hes not ready to pay for the wedding. Tht means be ready to shoulder more responsibilities after the wedding.
Lol...I stopped reading at "His mother called from Benin"..! Lol...est!! My dear, You're about to board one chance... Hold your ears and RUN
Na wa oooo.whch kind shameless people b dis?*his family n himself*u sef u b ode ooo.na u go use ur money marry man nee?na so matrimony hungry u rish?nna na wa o.me sef i neeed husband o.buh i dnt v mny sha.
See pls my dear jst forget abt dis guy honestly why shld Ă» be paying for everything pls go find ur husband that man is not urs nd not serious @ all
If a man loves you he will do whatever he can to be with you. He does not even want to give you a wedding but cannot say it out. I am sure there are other clear signs that shows he does not not want to marry you but you refuse to acknowledge them. I cannot tell you what to do but my guess is you already know... good luck.
Hahahaha! Babe u don enter one chance! RUN
Abeg which kind wedding be that, so after wedding you'll go hunger strike funny enough wedding attires not even included, biko move on with ur life.
Forget him, he's nt ready to marry you. Y wil u spend 3million naira for your weddin? Is ur father a politician? If u end up with that guy, u wil b d one payin d bills alone and he's mum will add her own bills too. Imagine the old woman makin ur weddin plans for 4millions, how much is her soon earnin? Add her son's allowee per anum, is not even enof to make up the 4mill. Wake up my dear.
Run for your life pls, dis is clearly not right. Family of gold diggers. Haba his earnings is more than urs nah n he can't sponsor his own wedding? This is serious.
Sisterly advice, pls pls n pls do not go ahead wiv d wedding. Dump his sorry ass cos he's so not husband material
Won fe gba e ni ooo,u better dont accept that,he z suppose to do most of the spendings,if u are even going to spend it will b lesser than his...BE WISE
Pls my dear, run as fast as ur leg can carry u. Nothing that I will not hear ds days,wat wit women providing money for weddings.it is unheard of, atleast u can contribute to it not financing it all. Na so men scarce reach, na wa o.I knw it will be hard but leave him. An advice I wil also give to my sis
U be mumu....me i be correct guy, forget that guy, na 1 million we go use do our own wedding....buzz me.
Seriously, d guy is not saying i have xxx naira, let me contribute it to the wedding and you just want to go ahead and foot the whole thing.
R u d one going to rent house, school fees, etc.
Its not by force to marry oh, even if age is catching up with you. Its just as if you are basically paying the guy to marry you. Who is paying bride price, u or him
pls my dear forget him except u are ready to continue running the family because his going to put all the bills on u forget the number of years u have spent with u can do better look forward pls I no is hard to do
Heeeereeeern!!!
Think twice my dear. By the time u use 4M for wedding that is just a day, how do u survive d rest of your marriage. If the man loves u enough, he should sort 4 money to do the right thing and not d other way round. If u don't watch your steps @ this stage, b ready to take responsibilties for d rest of your life in dat marriage. Well, follow your heart pls
Are you maad??pay for th wedding...afta wedding u'll start feeding ur self nxt tin u knw u'll start paying ur kids school fees.....and why is his mother involved?my sister run for your life...my mum is having this same prob....my dad is rich but wont pay for a single thing...my sister help urself nd protect your future kids,i don talk my own ooo
Family of bronze diggers....run run run...are u still there? But seriously nothing good will come out of it at the end and I feel this is just an act to push you out, if they don't ve cash can't they hide their shameless faces and cut their coat according to their available material? My dear run o run..
pray to God, He will lead you
Linda post comments na!!! I hv bn comin around 2 check joor...
Lie Lie story. I jst dey pass o
ur so dumb!!!
after marriage now,he'll start sharing expenses with you..
Girl I'm so sorry to say this but you're trying to make a very big mistake. He earns more than you and yet he can't contribute to your marriage? Is that how desperate you are?
Na wa for his mother,so she also expects u to pay for ur wedding,what about her son?is she going to contribute too?my dear,I don't tink u shld marry dis man.maybe he has told his mum u re his MAGA.a woman can contribute a little but to expect u to pay for everytin??haaa,waka now.com ooooooo.
My dear, You cant pay for your own wedding; where is the dignity? If he can't save to have you as his wife then he is not worth spending a lifetime with. If you make the mistake of paying; you will discover that you will end up being the head of the home. You will pay for rent, school fees, feeding etc.
Trust me, that is what I am suffering now. I didn't pay for my wedding but I was always quick to offer financial assistance, we have been married for 7 years and now my husband sees it as my
responsibility to cater for the home without no iota of shame.
Don't be deceived-don't think you cant find someone better; you shall and you will.
My dear sister pls know that wateva u start with is what you're going to continue doing even after marriage its quite different if he was not employed and you decide to assist but In your case he works and clearly doesn't spend hismoney(salay) on you so ask yourself if you're ready to take that responsibility.if you are then your mother in-law has no right to cost your wedding expenses ,politely find a way to tell her you can handle it.may God guide you
Pls move on with ur life? Y should u b d 1 2 foot d bills wen he earns almost twice ur ur salary. Pls dnt let them scam u jare!
pray to GOD.He will lead you
Are you still asking if you should leave him or not? Isn't it obvious that he doesn't love you and don't want you as a wife? My dear couple plan wedding together in terms of expenses but this one na to chase you o, forget him and move on with your life, he's definitely not the right man for you. My opinion though.
MUMU
My dear... Move on, this guy n his family wnt to eat ur money..... First it will b th wedding, then thrughout marriage it will b th same thing...nd th mother in law knowing full well Tht her son won't contribute is busy giving u a list of what to buy..... Mtchewww.. Ur guy n his mama no serious at all
Yes o, no comment. But this is very very risky....odikwa egwu oooo. Please shine your eyes o!
him mama no get shame…..
she even support her yeye pikin
better run
highest, do a small wedding
Na wa oo...do we still av dis kind of pple on earth?...my dear pls don't, only if u will be d husband nd he will be d wife..#lobatan#..........@dahmie4christ
Why don't u guys do a court wedding and reception wit close frnds and use d 3million for something more important,if u use all d money after d wedding wat next
My dear, I will advise u live that guy, moni is not an issue wen it comes to wedding, u can hv a small gathering of just ur immdiate family den in future wen he gets the type of moni he is hoping for, he can throw an anniversry party for u. I tink d guy n his mother is up to somtin, be wise girlfrend.
Did u want to marry urself 2 d man or u want d man 2 marry u? He z earnin a lot of money ad hs 3mnth salary can solve all d traditional ad white weddin ad he still hv balance. Infact d man ad their mother r thief they want u 2 send d one u hv 2 their account ad they 'll send u away. So my dear dt man is nt ur husband. And again pray 2 God 4 intervension.
Thou should nt marry such a yeye man wit such a greedy mother...wat rubbish! Who does dat kind of thing?4m! Wat den ll dey contribute? So na u go buy everything includin their clothes,pay ur own bride price,even cook d mama meeting pple food...my dear go use ur mony do beta thing 4 urslf...if u start ur life dis way,u re signing in 4 trouble
Why would his mum send u a budget breakdown? If he really is serious u guys should have a small wedding now and a bigger party when u av money.do not put all ur savings for a one day party.
Ermmmn please move on ASAP! You r certainly not what he wants. I'm sorry buh it's the honest truth!!!!
i'm a guy bt i'll advice u mov on n hope 4 a better man than 1 who is too cowardly to tell u he is not ready for marriage n trust me wen i say u wil end up being the bread winner
There is fire on the mountain, na benin people u wan try??evn old women there u no dey safe 4 dia hand she planed wt her son to bankrupt u.u can't force a man to marry u simple
Run 4 ur deir life b4 its late
My dear LIBer, this guy doesn't love you and he's equally very stingy. Please leave him, you'll find someone who deserves you and who considers you worthy enough to spend his money to keep you.
i have been following this blog for a while now but this is my first time of commentin on this blog. seriously today's LIB dear reader question is outrageous. how can u pay for your own wedding? why then is he a man? is he the 1 marryin u or are u d 1 marryin him?
Pls forget him, he want to suck u dry just move on with ur life God will give u a good life partiner that will cherish u
I sense trouble dont pay gal
My darling, i am so sorry, but are you drunk? or did you recently smoke magic mushrooms? please run for your life, if you spend your 3M on the wedding after the wedding nko? abeg ditch him as fast as you can, nothing wrong with helping with the wedding but paying for the whole wedding? this guy and his family are users and opportunists. RUN
how can a family, who cant pay to marry a girl be planning a marriage for 4M? i am so pissed , im officially taking panadol for your headache
Aunty Linda gud evenin,I missed reading ur blog cos of sch n I will b starting my exam tomao,bk to the subject,has our custom of marriage now turned to the Indians?when d woman takes care of d marriage rites?my sister move on n don't use all ur live saving on a man n maybe on d long run u will b d one to sponsor his junior brother's marriage.be wise and be warned.
Sweetest
My dear LIBer, this guy doesn't love you and he's equally very stingy. Please leave him, you'll find someone who deserves you and who considers you worthy enough to spend his money to keep you.
hmmm, this get as e be, check very well my dear if this guy has a hidden agenda, if him and his family cannot contribute any part to your wedding,then i think u shd move on with ur life. i dont think its right for you to empty all your savings for the wedding. God forbid but tomorrow if anying happens in the marriage, him and his pple will quickly remind you that their son did not marry you, u were the one who married him, be careful and shine ur eyes, tell him dt if he is willing to move the relashionship to the next level, that you will move on with ur life,,, simple. don't sound desperate to foot the bills of ur wedding. just my own piece of advise for u
Please live that guy and move on. he only want to milk u dry and live u Leta.
If dis story is tru, my question dre4 is: y on earth wil u do dat? Pls uz ur hed if u hav 1.
Pls move on with your life, Ur so called fiance shud finance his romance nd if nt back out.
Rmb, dnt start wat u can't finish. D same u will feed d family n train d children, hope u knw dt ? Be wise!
Run for ur dear life!!!! Infact if u needto borrow my legs to join to urs I will gladly give u. He is a gold digger and has a shameless mother!!
please, a candid advice .... back out or else you would be using your money to buy a life long problem & regret packed life. move on
a guy that truly wants u will go extra mile to keep u.d guy and his mum ar useless bcos even if u sponsor d wedding,wat assurance do u av that u wont b d one mentainin d marriage. b wise dear and think twice
4 get the guy and his mom
Another tales from moonlight part2. Abeg Who has Nokia charger small pin ???
why the heck would you offer to pay for the wedding with all your hard earned money? Are you so desperate to get married? The wedding day is not the end of it you know...what if you need money for other important things.
Are you sure this guy can't sense your desperation hence his procrastinating?
Young woman, where is your family? you must have people who can advise you properly.
you must NEVER start a marriage on the wrong foundation.
Even his mum has given you the bill!! wow!! utter nonsense!! in other words, you will pay his 'groom price'!!
I pray God grants you the wisdom and understanding to deal with this situation. wait on God with all your heart and mind...the one that is destined for you will come at the appointed time.
This sounds shity!!.
Lol Linda where do you get these stories from? Lol.
Do read the hand writing on the wall. He don't love you. Pls move on with your life invest ur money in something worthwhile.
Vicky
Dont be a fool,move to the next level. Infact you are and the wedding are not his priority and besides you must be foolish to invest your life savings on one memory event
My dear dont ever try it o, ruuuuuun as fast as your legs can carry you. I am still suffering from the same mistake so shine your eyes.
Why would she give you a bill of over 4million or any amount atall?Are you marrying her son or he is the one marrying you?...Are you begging to marry to him?Please seek your parents advice on this issue,cos you are not suppose to be the one paying for your own wedding.
My dear, just walk away!!! If he luvs u that much he will do wateva it takes 2 marry u..if u sponsor it,its goina b d begining of ur downfall nd unhappiness.. Yea, its 5years,it won't b easy but u just gas thinka ur happiness 1st..plus, dnt b surprised 2 hear he's already got plans 2 marry anotha gurl nd his so kald mother knows bout it..walk away as fast as possible dear!!!.#assysayso#
My dear, if he insists u pay for the wedding expenses I advice u move on with your life. No one expends all his life savings
Mumu of africa...go ahead to fund d wedding, u beta run cos d guy is a gold digger nd he planned it wit his mom to ruin ur life...do u tink is all about d wedding?
Pls move on with ur life, he and his family want to suck U dry, he doesn't love U don't worry God will give U a good life partiner that will cherish U.
I'm married to a Benin man and his mum didn't call me up to make any demands. Why are you trying to play the man in the relationship? if he doesn't have the money, you have 2 options: you wait until he does and support with what you have or you waka. Nor be only from Benin you receive call from.
Madam pls runnnnnnn ooooo 4 ur life, this is nt a matter of love n age.live dat guy Bcos if u marry him u ill never find happiness 4 de rest of ur life, n u ill face nothing less dan worse night mare, a woman is nt suppose to pay her pride price with her money,
Pls forget him, he want to suck u dry just move on with ur life God will give u a good life partiner that will cherish u
Sweetheart,remember banky W is single. save your money and let this idiot Go
Its like you don't really know what to use your money for...who is marrying who? Both your man and his mum are shameless for them to even be comfortable with you sponsoring the wedding..I feel really sorry for you for wasting 5years of your life with such a looser...move on babes, that guy won't marry you unless you're ready to' pay for your own dowry
PRETTY GIRL
Wen u pay 4 d wedding jus knw dt u wil continue paying 4 everytn.leave d guy and find ursef anoda,he nt d ryt 1 u plssssssss
For 5 years pls my dear don't pay for anything.
Honey pls I beg u in d name of God run 4 ur dear life now u still have d time, u will never enjoy ur marriage wit dat guy. Benin people are like dat all dey want is ur moni, I was born n bread in benin city. As am talkin to u nw my big sis is in dat kind of soap. Pls dnt try it. if u want to hear more dis is my 08034747122
Better dont ohhh....wake up and smell d coffee dey r tryna xploit u...even if u marry him u will pay d bills till u die...open ur eyes! forget love
My sister run. Wit his 170k he no fit contribute yet his moda submitted expense. Nwanne m Abeg take off
Plz run 4 ur peace coz dis shoz u ar d 1 2 fend 4 d family afta d wedin
guess they want to open office on your head. imagine your would be mother in-law proposing 4Million for a wedding the son is not ready to contribute a kobo. Dont know why ladies are so gullible. He earns higher than you and even if you should contribute for the wedding it should be a 70:30 thing with 70% coming from the man. If you go ahead and give them all your money he might as well wake up one morning and tell you stories and you will loose either way. please allow him make the move yours is just to support, if he is not ready to make the commitment pls move on there are better days ahead.
Ur fiancee is not a serious man,if u pay for d wedding den get ready to take care of him nd ur children for d rest of ur life.pls leave d idiot.
guess they want to open office on your head. imagine your would be mother in-law proposing 4Million for a wedding the son is not ready to contribute a kobo. Dont know why ladies are so gullible. He earns higher than you and even if you should contribute for the wedding it should be a 70:30 thing with 70% coming from the man. If you go ahead and give them all your money he might as well wake up one morning and tell you stories and you will loose either way. please allow him make the move yours is just to support, if he is not ready to make the commitment pls move on there are better days ahead.
Some people are still very stupid sha. Come on, this is year 2014. OK, you know what? Pay for the wedding with all your savings, you hear?
If the guy loves you, he will borrow money to marry you.
If u love him in hard times pay for the wedding, don't forget that some women are like step up stones for their husband's, u neva know tmoro, that the man is currently down now doesn't mean he can't rise tmoro or else he is a lazy chap, n besides I guess ur hubby have siblings uncles n auntie so its not only your money dat will enter there so if u really love him as ur husband pay him, tmoro might be beta
Pliz dont give out ur money. B patient till he makes more or move on jare! Stop being desperate! If u cough out all ur 3million, wot next....
I cnt believe u can actually consider payin for d wedding are dis dumb or u r just desperate,if u pay for d wedding u will end up paying for everytin in ur marriage cnt u see dis man doesn't c u as his wife?he earns more dan u nd can actually agree to to paying. Its a sign he doesn't want his mum gave u dat amonut to scare u away bt u r there still consdering my dear wait for a man who wil b happy to ve u as his wife nd take care of d bills like a real should
My dear,dat is 419 family,pls run as fast as possible.
If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. That is the lesson, and that lesson alone will save you a lot of grief. -Oprah.
Child, it seems you're the one with the issues. Why does your wedding have to be so expensive? Go to court get married officially. Put whatever you have dedicated for the wedding into a separate account from both you and him and when the weddings expenses matches what you have in the savings account, then plan a wedding party for friends and family to attend. Btw, if he is making more than you, what is he using his money for? Maybe marriage shouldn't be high on your priority list with this man, if he can't save up money. Marriage might not only be the financial fight you might have, baby food fight and baby tuition fight will come up too. Im not saying fashy or whatever you call it, but something is not right somewhere.
He might be building mansion for u and he maybe testing u so pay it if u love him I guess all his money has been channelled into d project
Forget abt d guy, becos u r nt d one to bring d money for d wedding
My dear, are you that desperate to be married that you'll pay for the wedding even when your man earns more than you do? You better think twice so you don't end up regreting. And what's with your mother-in-law? I think you should just forget this man and move on with your life. If you marry him, I guarantee you'll be the one paying the household expenses and later, your chidren's fees. (BTW, what's he doing with what he earns?) If you really really feel he's the one you want, then you guys should just have a 'small' affair (but which he MUST contribute something towards). Above all, pray really hard before you say I DO!
Thank you for bringing this up here cos i am very sute that there are people who are suffering same in their relationships today and who don't have that courage to speak out.
I will advice that you quit the relationship. The fact is that this man is not really interested but he can't come out straight to tell u. I am a man and i won't want to get married to my woman leaving the chunk of expenses for her to bear. I do not know if you have done the traditional marriage or not. If u bring money out to foot the bill for ur trad too, it will mean that you are marrying yourself and traditionally, that's not healthy. Try to consult with ur family tooo cos it sounds like you don't carry them along in this....
Wish u the best of luck. GBU
My dearest sister, pls. Don't b a fool! The guy in question isn't serious! Let him shoulder d expenses when eva he is ready! BE WISE!
In as much as I hate to say dis "u r a desperate lady and he wants to make a learner out of u " Do Not Pay, I Repeat, Do Not Pay. A word is enuf 4 d wise. His mother is a heartless woman, I bliv she's in on his plans.
I'm assuming you're in rush to have kids:
Please and please have mercy on the kids and don't bring them to suffer!
I think, you guys should spend the "free time" you have working out a financial plan that will fund the expenses that come with kids (business ideas, savings plans etc).
Once the kids come in, you'll hardly have time to wipe your own ass in the first few years. And oh yeah, the bills roll in quickly.
babe abeg forget this man, he doesn't luv u. mind u, they are rying to fraud u. is his mother suppose to plan ur weeding for. babe move on with ur life and forget u.
Please,am begging you in God's name..No matter how hard it is for you,Leave dis man..don't be scared about finding another person..cause I know you definitely would by God's grace..Some men 50k and deyve long married dere women not to talk of him who has 170k /mnth dats over 2millon my sister..Jst leave him asap..If you don't knw how to tell him,act it.I wonder what's wrong with some men that have the opportunity for hardworking women as wives sha..
ah ah, den won kill you ni, or na by force den de marry ni, obviously u need to be very careful, there is nothing bad in helping ur guy but ur case different oooo, am nt sure it ll work out smothly. Please sleep with one EYE. ODC
Sweetheart,remember banky W is single. save your money and let this idiot Go
My dear... Am speechless, dt dude is greedy! don't make dt mistake of paying for d wedding, if he loves u, he will find a way cos if u pay for d wedding ceremony... u will continue to play his role in d house i.e paying d bills... pls keep ur money, u made a mistake making him know u can afford d wedding expenses.. but please don't make a mistake of paying for everything .. pls!
Hmmmm I can only suport my man for our wedding but not to pay the whole wedding bills.
Idiot gal, if u dnt knw wat to do with ur 3mil, pls gv it to motherless babies. Otondo! Dat man has anoda woman n d mother knows it, dey just want to extort u. Capital MUMU.
My dear, just walk away!!! If he luvs u that much he will do wateva it takes 2 marry u..if u sponsor it,its goina b d begining of ur downfall nd unhappiness.. Yea, its 5years,it won't b easy but u just gas thinka ur happiness 1st..plus, dnt b surprised 2 hear he's already got plans 2 marry anotha gurl nd his so kald mother knows bout it..walk away as fast as possible dear!!!.#assysayso#
Pls dear,leave d guy $ move on wit ur life
My dear what is wrong with u. U never big pass who them dey tell "don't be stupid". He is not paying the bills and they are telling u 4 million,and u mumu dey even think the matter. How old are u sef. Will u gather ur two left legs and take a walk. Him mama too no get shame
My dear, just walk away!!! If he luvs u that much he will do wateva it takes 2 marry u..if u sponsor it,its goina b d begining of ur downfall nd unhappiness.. Yea, its 5years,it won't b easy but u just gas thinka ur happiness 1st..plus, dnt b surprised 2 hear he's already got plans 2 marry anotha gurl nd his so kald mother knows bout it..walk away as fast as possible dear!!!.#assysayso#
Run for ur life!!!!!!!
Girl nawa for u ooh ,u earn 100k and he earns 170k yet he cnt do anytin .pls are u sure he dnt wnt to dupe u be careful dt man is nt urs
Nnem biko move on with your life he doesn't value you one bit...the feel like they are doing uu a favour by marrying yu..even if yu are supporting with your finance it should be a joint thing and not just you...biko life is too short to live it for people o!
My dear sis,it written clear dat dey dnt want u,pls leave d guy abeg n move,God will give u a man dat will wed u,n not d other way,gbam!
Please run for ur life
foget about him joor wat kind of a man his he
No wait 4 me to tell u, go and read ur Bible and knw more about wat it says 4 issues such as Urs?
Throughout the marriage be prepared to foot the bills, rent, school fees for the kids, hospital bills, sending money to his mom. U cannot complain cos u proposed to him n married him. He will still treat u shabbily cos u forced him into marriage. After 5 years, u shd know both he n his mom have plans for your 3m. Maybe they want to relocate abroad. www.drnsmusings.wordpress.com
desperado culdwn o is a man duty to marry a woman & nt d orda way rwn if he cnt afford a weddng ring devenatly he wnt afford to take k of a house as a man buh if marring him wif ur morney as a woman will make u happi y nt my opinion tho #THAT AKWA IBOM BOY
LEAVE.......
Please run cos with wot am seeing here,it is a plan work btw both of them
Pls move on.what kind of mother inlaw is that.they will drain u after the wedding
Hmmm ds 1 don pass be careful...oo cos dat guy n d mom doesn't wnt u in their lives. So u had better save ur money n heart 2geda 2 avoid heartbreak.
Honestly my dear 4get dat guy cos u can't pay 4 all d xpenses 4 d wedding but only assist him as a patner and is not like he's nt working so wat could be d reason 4 nt paying 4 d wedding xpenses,and d mother dnt hv 2 plan ur wedding pls
U better wise up how on earth will u buy everything for d wedding. It means u beg to marry nd watever comes out of d wedding u bear it. Lady be wise
Never! He must be a player
First of all, are you the one going to marry him! While don't you let him marry you so that you can be happy, its seems u're despirate going by your action,funny have never see where the wife sponsor wedding before,pls be patience till u guys married. What you need to do now go back to God alter and pray very well. God bless you.visit MHM Holy spirit cathedral Aguda-Ogba for counselling every Tuesday. God bless you.
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plz, dnt Eva try it else u ll regret it 4 d rest of ur life 2geda. u will continue 2 carter 4 d household as he doesn't av enuff moni ll always be his national anthem.
Hallos............Please do yourself a favour and forget him. It will be heart breaking but trust me, you are better off. You will always resent him if you pay for your own wedding. If a man loves you enough, he will find a way. Secondly, value yourself enough to cost something. Whatever a man gets for ''FREE'', he will never appreciate it. Thirdly, NEVER, EVER.....tell a man you are not married to, what your savings are!. Love with your head and not your heart.
Leave the shameless idiot!!!! It is a very obvious that he is not a serious person at all nor is his family. Getting married or rather, having a wedding does not mean spending all the money in the world especially when the money is not even there. On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with a bride-to-be assisting the groom-to-be; but that is the word "assisting". In this case, your so called fiance is leaving the whole wedding expenses for you to bear and even his shameless mother knowing you are the one footing the bill is also adding stupid expenses to it. This guy never planned to get married to you so the earlier you walk away, the better for you because, if you go through with it, you would only be setting yourself up for the rest of your days with him. I can bet you that if you do get married to him, you would be supporting him for as long as the marriage lasts.
Why should the mother be giving you expenses? Are they both fraudsters? If it's her son's money will she call such a large amount? Is it a society wedding? BIG THIEVES!!! The guy has a wife somewhere and he is building a house there.
Ehn! don't try it... babe be wise. Please forget him, I know its not easy, but the sooner you leave the better, if you pay for the wedding, get ready to pay all the bills for the rest of your marital life!
Ask youself this question;"should i spend 3m on a wedding or investments"? #Foodforthought. i think u know the answer.
She is very greedy. She knows you're paying for the wedding yet she is giving you a bill even her son cannot afford. Please leave that family. They don't like you. A real man will never let his bride pay for the wedding. If he can't afford it, he'll have a small one instead. But since they are both determined to have an expensive wedding even if they don't have money, then they're just trying to rip you off. My dear just leave him and be patient, your Mr Right will soon come.
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE........
Nne please move on with your life,they are acting like they are doing yu a favour by marrying yu...even if yu wanna use ur money it should be contribution biko...No be by force
Ur mumu no get part 2 if u release all ur money 4 him.if he luvs u, he wud pay all expenses or even ask u to support him if he deos nt ave enough.
My dear. Forget him or else, he will be a pest on you for life. So not worth it
Forget him
Please dont go on with it. if he is not ready yet cos of financial reasons, u guys shld sit and plan it out but plz dont bring d bulk of the money for a wedding. its his responsibility.
A man WĘ°áµ’ can't sacrifice Fáµ’Ęł U̶̲̥̅̊ ČŠ̝̊̅§ nt worth sacrificing Fáµ’Ęł! Depends on ur age though bt if U̶̲̥̅̊ feel age ČŠ̝̊̅§ nt on ur side, mi dear check d nxt available dude cos to me ur fiance aint serioz one bit! But d paramount fhn ČŠ̝̊̅§ let ur head guide U̶̲̥̅̊ nd nt ur hrt! Weight judges, do wats it ČŠ̝̊̅§ right nd wt will make U̶̲̥̅̊ happy! As Fáµ’Ęł his mum, I dnt fnk she wishes U̶̲̥̅̊ well.Fáµ’Ęł wt her son won't finance? Best of luck sha..... *mhz V*
Hmmm,there is nothing i will not hear.Mama has amount ready for u.na waoh.dey plan am.My sister abey run oh.must u marry now?abeg invest ur money.ur husband will come.That man and his mother want to dupe u.RUN..Rae
Please if u want to release the money, come and release it into my life. My dear dat guy&his mother be 419.
Hw can U be d one to sponsor for d wedding,abeg leave dat man,he don't wan2 mari U!d fact is dat he dnt really love U,bcos if he does,he won't give U dat kind of excuse,2,he's d one dat told d mum 2 tel U d Amount it wil cost,b wise,so U won't cry in future,dis man is fake,he dnt wan2 marry U,take it or U leave it,pray,to God he wil give U Ur own right hubby,
Pls forget this guy and move on, ur real husband will come. Trust me this is a very clear sign of what will happen when you marry this man. End the relationship , open ur heart and good husband will come.
Just two words have got for you,MOVE ON.
I have never commented on the blog before, but seeing this post, I felt the need to say something.
I understand how you feel, dating a man for 5 years and it seems the only thing stopping you from getting married to him is money to fund the wedding. You have some kiney which can fund the wedding, do why not use it, right?
It is not as easy as the above analogy suggests. When you begin your marriage by funding your wedding, you have already set a tone for you marriage as the breadwinner. This man you are dating earns more than you. Where are his savings? Did he not lay down plans on how to fund us own wedding?
His mother calculated the cost of both traditional and white wedding and told you it is 4 million. Is she your wedding planner? Does she intend to cater for any part of the ceremonies? she is also aware that you intend to fund it yourself. Did she not have any objections! Which mother in law to be will fold her hands and watch you singlehandledly sponsor her son's wedding?? Haba there is something called shame.
It also makes you look desperate.
Any man how cannot fund his wedding to a great degree has no business getting married. Will you pay fr your maternity as well? Soon you will pay the house rent. If he has nit invested his money into something very important like land or housing for long term income, then you need to question his sense of responsibility.
You should sit him down and have a heart to heart talk. Postpone your wedding till he s financially capable, if not, pllease move on. There are more financial responsibilities after the wedding.
And the issue does seem deeper than money, I sense a passivity on his part, which is not a good sign. A man hi is serious and wants to marry, does all he can to make it happen. He is the one who finds a wife and finds a good thing, not the other way round, he is the one who needs a helpmate.
Why can't the wedding be a low profile one. Kindly plan your wedding. People who earn 17,000 Naira a month still get married without breaking the bank and perhaps, a man that loves you would love the idea of settling down with you and would achieve that regardless of his earnings to make that a reality.
U be big fool oh poster!so u want to use ur money and marry a man??hian!
To be very sincerely with u,money for the marriage is not his problem.is just that maybe he probably doesnt see u as his wife to be anymore.it takes nothin to get a wedding done with his salarym
Marriage 2 a man who dosn't see d importance is no marriage. Wat wud such a man b spending his salary on if he can't afford a marriage @ d level of his salary? If u push tru,he wud bcom a liability nd u'll keep on spending on him cos u contracted d marriage. Just look b4 u leap ma dear.
My dear forget about the stupid man, he doesn't love you as you think, he wants u to pay for the whole wedding expenses..?his own wedding? Is he mad.? Who does that, please my own little advice is to forget about him and move on with your life, his an Irresponsible man..
Find your way out,he's not serious
forget the mofo
It's obvious dear. Move on. He is not worth u
Girl all they want is just your money, and for his mum to give you such a list shows they don't want you in that family so you talking about marriage to that guy means disturbing youself so pleas move on with your life save your money for important things God will give you an understanding and loving man
Shameless man. So he's willing to sit back 4 u to foot d bill. My dear just know he will sit back when u guys marry. If u must marry him, he shld bring half of d money. Also meet up wit his mother n see how to cut cost. Idiot man, smh 4 him.
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Pls dear be careful because marriage is for better for worse blcos u are nt meant to marry urself.
How can you pay for your wedding? This is the beginning of the end of this marriage. The man is dodging his responsibility. How can the man's mother send you a bill for the wedding and you want to pay for it? You are like the innocent lamb being sent to the slaughterhouse. Do NOT bring out the money (N3 million ) for the wedding. When the wedding is over and the money spent, what will you do? The wedding is just a small part of the marriage.
Any man that would allow a woman to bring out that kind of money for a marriage is NOT a man but a mama's boy. Please open your eyes well well o.
Mumu run. Away
Please if u want to release the money, come and release it into my life. My dear dat guy&his mother be 419.
Why should his mum plan your wedding. Your own mum nko. Nne anya sa, make dem no gboju u for noon.
people will give the advice its a matter of you ready to go by it. but by the way don't start what you can't finish. from wedding you feed the family. think ahead not now.
My dear forget about the stupid man, he doesn't love you as you think, he wants u to pay for the whole wedding expenses..?his own wedding? Is he mad.? Who does that, please my own little advice is to forget about him and move on with your life, his an Irresponsible man..
Bitch please....... Run d opposite direction! U wanna spend 4mil u don't av on a guy who's least concerned wit taking u 2 d church! Sounds lyk a sad plot 4 "Lord of Rings" a.k.a "the one dat neva got made" Ditch his sorry ass & his ostentatious mum's sorry behind.... Wat's d point of avin a lavish wedding & av no security blanket 2 fall back on afta wedding!! Dat's just dumb shud u go thru wit it!
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people will give the advice its a matter of you ready to go by it. but by the way don't start what you can't finish. from wedding you feed the family. think ahead not now.
My dear,isn't it obvious that this people are bunch of ill lucks? How can the mother of the supposed groom be the one to give you the estimated cost? Pls run. And the perfect idea of the race is scooby doo. Flee!
people will give the advice its a matter of you ready to go by it. but by the way don't start what you can't finish. from wedding you feed the family. think ahead not now.
4million naira...my dear wisdom is profitablr to direct....find ur level oooo
My dear,isn't it obvious that this people are bunch of ill lucks? How can the mother of the supposed groom be the one to give you the estimated cost? Pls run. And the perfect idea of the race is scooby doo. Flee!
people will give the advice its a matter of you ready to go by it. but by the way don't start what you can't finish. from wedding you feed the family. think ahead not now.
Move on wit ur life dear.....he doesn't need u is ur money,he need..if u stay nw wit money once u stop giving...he will hate u...der ar better men out der for u dear.forget abt him
people will give the advice its a matter of you ready to go by it. but by the way don't start what you can't finish. from wedding you feed the family. think ahead not now.
Scammer...better run
My dear, dats d devil calling you, it's time for you to take a bow.
Save your money, I think its unwise to use all your hard earned savings for a wedding ceremony. If you don't have the money and both of you are so in love then go and do a court wedding and call it a day. You can always have a little party for family and friends. P.s if you pay for the wedding its not a good move, almost feels desperate. If he really wants to marry you he should be put down some resources aswell. Be wise!
The crop of useless men out there today is really alarming n scary!! A real man will not ask his woman to foot their wedding bills. These bastards these days aint got no shame nor qualms about spending a chicks money. This dude & his family don't give a damn bout u, its clear he's not gon settle down wit u as he prolly has sumone he intends to marry. Smh at d mother, will she allow her own daughter do so in d name of love? Babes wake up & smell the coffee, run as fast as you can as these peeps dint care about u. Life does not end or begin by marriage,use ur grey matter n either invest your money in sumtin worthwhile or leave it in your account. Dude will term u a liability after u pay d wedding expenses wen u become broke! Marriage is not do or die.#nuffsaid
Mark my words aunty you will regret getting married to this guy,why do u want to spend so much on the wedding when you dnt hv the money,ur mother in law want to take ur advantage you must pray for Gods wisdom,abroad where I lv marriage is cheap,with 500k you can arrange for 250 guest and use the rest money to better your life,ur fiancée hv hidden agenda that's wat am seeing.
my dear forget him that is wayo they want to play you
Mark my words aunty you will regret getting married to this guy,why do u want to spend so much on the wedding when you dnt hv the money,ur mother in law want to take ur advantage you must pray for Gods wisdom,abroad where I lv marriage is cheap,with 500k you can arrange for 250 guest and use the rest money to better your life,ur fiancée hv hidden agenda that's wat am seeing.
Don't try it, cos if u do u are sleeping on a bicycle
forget d guy, he doesnt love you.
my dear forget him they want to play you wayo because ur in a rush for a wedding
Come and marry me! I dnt even want expensive wedding lol, its sad wht goes on in relatnshp nw adays, Go and pray to God first b4 anytin. and the troubles continues with girls and marriage.
babe I go advice u make u leave the man. if u dare pay for it, u will suffer in that marriage. they will use it against u later. leave the guy and the family.
Plssss 4get dat stupid marriage n get on with ur life ur rite man will com, do u wnt 2 marry ursef?
U have money oooo pls cone and pay for my msc I ll pay u when I grad... pls
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