From a LIB reader
During my wild days in the university nine years ago I had a brief fling with a guy I met through a friend. We had sex a few times and saw each other for about a month before we lost touch.
Fast forward eight years later; my immediate younger sister introduced this same guy to me as her boyfriend. I was hoping they would break up so he wouldn't be an issue between my sister and I but that didn't happen. A year later, they are getting married. Their wedding is actually this Saturday December 15th. There's serious friction between the guy and I as we can't even look at each other or talk directly to each other. I've been avoiding him since he hooked up with my sister but now that they are about to be married, I'm stuck. Should I tell my sister what happened between us or leave things the way they are? Does she have a right to know? I'm confused. Pls help!!!
372 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 372 of 372just pretend it never happend and try as much as you can to jst act normal to the guy,cos if u do tel ur sister she will never be comfortable with you around her husband, trust me.
Probably if u ad told her earlier, dey might not get to Ds level.now that dey are about to tie d knot, I'd advice u to press ur mute button forever. Pretend it never happened. Don't let ur sister hate u,dent spoil her big day! N.B, stop being cheap, stop aving flings! What he didn't see in u, he definitely saw in ur younger sister! Food for thought
You ought to have told your sister before now but it's never too late. If u refuse to tell her now,sooner or later she will find out and you might end up losing ur sister's trust. Take the bold step now!!!
Be mature and talk with the guy. When you have talked with him you would know what to do.
Hmmm.1st of all wat tribe r u?u r @ fault here cos frm d day she introduced him 2u,u shld av told her.it wld then b her choice 2 knw if she shld go ahead or not.4 now get use 2 it,he's now ur sista's hubby.
well.....*sad thihs went that way, buuh its nt ur fault and dnt go thinking like u commitd a crime or an abominable act.it ha[ppens, thats life. shove it off. since u hav nofin wif him...felns o watsoeva, move on nd start relatin wif him like ur inlaw. i fink u shld jst let her knw so it doesnt seem like a secret or sumfin. u will be fine jor, its really nt a biggy!
you cant tell her now, you should have told her from the onset.Telling her now will break her down, just be careful around the guy too ''OLD FLAMES DONT DIE EASY''.
What reason would u have to tell her? He slept with u 8yrs ago,so????? Please zip up and allow ur sister enjoy her marriage if he's a great guy. Cause obviously, u aren't in love with him, u are just itching for his d*** happy married life to them.
If you open up it'll help you all, but keeping quiet will cause more damage.
1. If anyone is getting married tomorrow and her sister doesn't get along with her man, then its you.
2. i don't get the point of this question because if your sister is comes here. she will see this. hence, you have indirectly told her.
3. if you had any intentions of telling her and you really cared for her, you would have told her earlier.
4. Im sorry if this seems like im judging you... but....
Do so 2 clear ur consious
1. If anyone is getting married tomorrow and her sister doesn't get along with her man, then its you.
2. i don't get the point of this question because if your sister is comes here. she will see this. hence, you have indirectly told her.
3. if you had any intentions of telling her and you really cared for her, you would have told her earlier.
4. Im sorry if this seems like im judging you... but....
Tell her before things get worse.
Tell her before things get worse.
Yes she has d right to know, what kinda stupid ? Is dat
I think if you really love your sister you should spare her the pain of knowing, maybe you should try talking it out with the guy instead and keep it between you two, after all it was years ago and just a fling.
I think if you really love your sister you should spare her the pain of knowing, maybe you should try talking it out with the guy instead and keep it between you two, after all it was years ago and just a fling.
My dear leave your sister,her fiance & the past alone cos if you tell her you will only be seen as an enemy of progress. What happened is past & the guy has moved on with your sister,if you love her at all,let sleeping dogs lie. Whether you like it or not he is now your brother by law,just respect yourself & mind your business abeg!
You better tell your sister, if not, you both will end up sleeping with each other again, and that will be a big betray to your sis, it's better she knows now
I think u shld tell her cos if she finds out ltr she mit nt take it well nd it mit jst cause unnecessary problems ltr in future....so babe spill it
I think u should let her know......even if its in d past.......its better she hears it from u instead of someone else.....goodluck....
Getting married to ur sister does nt mean u ll be living with them, since u hav not told her about d guy b4, you don't need to tell her now in order not to cause emotional trauma for ur sister, let her enjoy her honey moon jawe, no spoil show now
and its December 14th you waited for before asking for advise. you are very wicked and may God have mercy on your vindictive soul. jealous bitch. when you are getting married i hope the guy will tell your husband to be about your 'wild' days a day before the wedding.
Linda ooooo !!! kai,u fit cook stories............Kong
Hello dear,this guy is definitely not your husband but your sister's.
Your wild days have caught up with u,after all you know what you did then was wrong as a matter of fact what the guy wanted then was what he had with you cos he wasn't ready for marriage .Almost all the married men in town have gone through this stage,and they eventually marry the lucky one ,unfortunately for you the lucky one here is your sister.Pls LET SLEEPING DOGS LIE.GO AND LOOK FOR YOUR OWN HUSBAND AND SPARE YOUR SELF AND YOUR SIS THE AGONY OF ..........
u dnt any say anytin then so y say somtin now. jst let them be!!!
Wat happened in Vegas shud stay in Vegas. Dats d past, dnt use ur reggae 2 spoil their blues. Just hope u've stopped 4nicatin
I as much dat nofin is goin on presently just 4get to tell n u get try n take off ur mind dat it
Pls dnt use ur reggae to spoil their blues. Mean yl hope u've stopped parting ur legs open lyk d red sea
Pls pls pls do not tell ur sister nd kindly go and look for ur own hubby nd remove ur mind frm ur sis own.do u want to spoil her happy home ni. U re not even suppose to think abt telling her at all
Pls pls pls do not tell ur sister nd kindly go and look for ur own hubby nd remove ur mind frm ur sis own.do u want to spoil her happy home ni. U re not even suppose to think abt telling her at all
is better for her to know,then she decides whether to go on with d relationship or nt. It is well
The relationship btw u and d chap was YOUR relationship. Keep it so until if per chance a reason pops up later down d years. He also could have told your sis but he chose not to. abegi don't complicate matters for them under the pretext of obligation to family that may truly be stemming from stomach acid on ur part.
i think you or the guy should have told your sister from the very beginging. if they were meant to be,she will forgive and move on. now its a very tight situation. you for your sisters sake have to tell her. cos there is no way it wont come out sometime in the future. u cant hide smoke. moreso, not that there was a fight between u guys, proximity ended your affair. they may still be some feelings somewhere waiting for a chance to come out. you can wait till after the marriage and talk to her and then as much as you can, stay off their home. wish you all the luck.
WHY DIDNT YOU TELL HER THE FIRST TIME SHE INTRODUCED HIM TO YOU NOW DEY ARE GETTING MARRIED YOU WANNA SPEAK BETTER SHUT YOUR TRAP JEALOUS B*ATCH.
My dear,I know it difficult,but I wish u had said it earlier.now is too late,the truth can either set you free or put you in a whole different kind of prison.even if u say it now,believe me,your sister would still go ahead with the marriage and would forever resent you for trying to break her marriage up.since he has decided to act like both of u have been intimate,please act the same way too.you'd be fine with time
Shut the fuck up! Why did u wait so long? Since u ddnt say it the very first day, pls zip ya lips n forever remain silent.
Apparently if you tell your sister she will never feel comfortable. Its best you find time to see the guy in question and you both should talk it out and clear the air, put him behind you, except you still wanna keep fucking him, i don't see any reason why he should bother you. Talk about it with the guy and i guess you both will feel more comfortable around each other.
I personally feel she has the right to know because any ways if you don't tell her now, somehow she would find out in the future. Simple. "Hi sis, your boyfriend and i dated a very long time ago and it's passed now". She should understand its been a very long time ago.
shut ur beak
It's better to let sleeping dogs lie!u neva said it before why now?
the damage has been done already since u didnt tell ur sister the first time u knew abt their relationship.if u tell her now, u would be the devil of the house, if u dont and she finally gets to know, u wud still be the devil of the house. frankly speaking u could get a trust worthy elderly person in ur family (not ur parents)to talk to ur sister abt it.wat ever comes out of it, u bear it .but generations like ours ,tins like this dont reli matter. GOOD LUCK
Hey! Nine years ago? Why can't u face the guy? Is not like u ended on a sad note; u lost contact. Don't tell your sister as long as you're not going to start afresh with the guy. Let the past stay were it is. Take your mind off it and move on.
Y will u want to tell ur sister abt a guy u went out with 9yrs ago.love is found in all kinds of places so ur sis has found her own so nor go spoil am for am with ur bad belle.
This is a really tough on, what I will just say is "let sleeping dogs lay" .This happened 9 years ago, lots would have happen between that time, the guy could have changed his behaviour,everybody has a past.Although I know its not that easy seeing the guy getting married to your blood sister,"that's a bullet throgh the heart"...if you really wanted to tell her, you could have told her before getting this close to the wedding date., there are some things you need to think of if you want to tell her,.- what if you told her and your husband got to know the guy had sex with you back in school,
-what if you told her and your sister got pissed and told the entire family..THINK ABOUT THIS
Why didnt you tell her at the time you were introduced?
It's too late.
It's a real sorry case.
Well what you don't know won't kill you. she should not bother telling her sister cuz it'll remain in her head forever. She should just talk to the guy an d tell them to act like nothing ever happened and forget the past.......
hmmmmm, this wan na tory oo, anyway i think you should let things be, then if ur sister eventually know, tell her nine years is long for u to forget someone, similar thing has happen to me but i did not tell, so some lies are necessary, cus her big day is coming u will not want to ruin it will u? omosexy,,,,,
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha *it's a jonsing world*
one month and you gave up the cookie and now you want to destroy your sister's happiness probably because your life is depressing???
-_- seriously see a therapist...
You should have told her from the start and leave the rest to her to decide. If u were hoping they'll break up, you didn't have her interest at heart. I don't know the motive behind your wanting to tell her now.
My dear i have read your story and i discovered a lot of gaps.
My Analysis:
1. At the time of the introduction(i mean when your sister introduced you to him) what stopped you from saying that you knew dis guy a long time ago or even after?
2. i hope you've not been seeing him secretly all this time?
3. one year past and now december 15th tomorrow and you are still thinking of telling her. haba my sister
i wont't say much but since you have waited this long, you can still wait till after the marriage at least a month then you can tell her but in front of the guy so there won't be any reason for denial. but you must make it known to them that you dont't mean any harm only that you feel that she should know about the FLING. To crown it all wish them the best of the marriage and if possible pray with them before you leave. God appreaciates your confession mostly than any human being.
Erhm.. D she needs 2 knw. Bur, d huz shd av tld her nah!
My dear i have read your story and i discovered a lot of gaps.
My Analysis:
1. At the time of the introduction(i mean when your sister introduced you to him) what stopped you from saying that you knew dis guy a long time ago or even after?
2. i hope you've not been seeing him secretly all this time?
3. one year past and now december 15th tomorrow and you are still thinking of telling her. haba my sister
i wont't say much but since you have waited this long, you can still wait till after the marriage at least a month then you can tell her but in front of the guy so there won't be any reason for denial. but you must make it known to them that you dont't mean any harm only that you feel that she should know about the FLING. To crown it all wish them the best of the marriage and if possible pray with them before you leave. God appreaciates your confession mostly than any human being.
You made a mistake not to have tell ur sister immediately the guy was introduced to you, but all the same it is never too late. Do your sister a favour, do not tell her before her wedding day. Avoid her matrimonial home for some months after. Confide in somebody you know that cannot use it against you, and I believe this, is GOD.
Call your sister one on one and tell her the details so that your mind can be at peace, then make sure you take it as a past tense. Afterall, the guy may have ended up with someone else than your sister. So take it as a lesson of life that this world is so small and we are bound to meet anywhere again. Everyone of us have our pasts, and most of us did not end up with our first love. Pray fervently to
GOD, I'm sure your own is on the way. NOTE: THIS MAN COULD BE YOUR SISTER'S GOD CHOSEN HUSBAND WHO WILL GIVE HER THE JOY ANYONE DESIRES, SO PLEASE LET THEM BE AND LET MATURITY AND UNDERSTANDING GUIDE BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR BROTHER IN LAW IF YOU ARE NOT REALLY PROMISCUOUS.
My dear please DON'T.... zero ur mind that nothing happened and try to talk to d guy cos if u do tell ur sis they will break up and u don't want ur sis to point fingers at u..please move on and blank ur mind that u ever met him..there's a saying that says what u don't know won't kill u..pleaseeeee let them be and don't spill..God help u..
my dear just leave tins d way dey are oh. afterall ur sis is not a virgin either or is she? e don happen be say e don happen, so just let sleeping dogs lie. and i tink u shud try and talk with d guy to clear d tension cos u both are stuck with each other 4 life as inlaws.
Hi dear, u should ve told her before d wedding but now is meaningless. U still ve other option of telling her dat will be after after there wedding, u can just say u dnt want there break up dat y u didnt tell her. NB: Dont be visiting dem too much cos it can cos comotion. Takia n b careful
You shudav told her early enuf naauu!!! Sinz d guy cnt luk @ you dat mins hz ashamed of hmslf, tel ur sista, if nt she may nt forgiv U̶̲̥̅̊ easily if she finds out n d future, nd tell her b4 he tells her...shz ur sister blood is thicker. #Okbye#
Tell her
Abeeeeeeeg! if you waited this long then you are just being malicious, you should have told her right from the get go girl! don't be a wet blanket. chew the bullet and swallow it. try to get over the guy and cross the bridge of the past into the present. the question for you is, does he treat her right? and can you forgive yourself for not telling her or telling her just a day to her wedding (weigh the pros and cons of it) if you can forgive youself and don't have feelings for the guy then don't tell. that's just my opinion sha. for what is life really? but to live and let live.
Abeg leave you sister alone ooooo, let her enjoy her marriage without fear dt u will come after her man since two of u had it going b4.
Dont spoil her moment. Forget what must have transpire between you and your younger sis intending husband.
In my own opinion i tink u shld let a sleeping dog lie, dis tin happened ova 8yrs ago Sσ i dont c any point in bringing it especially a dαγ 2 dia wedding. Jst move on αnd let uя sista enjoy her marital bliss pls
Not important as it's in the past but you should still tell her. It's in the past so no point hiding it.
I think u should let ur sister know cos that will also help u check any sort of extreme intimacy between u and the guy.......*myopinion*
I rily fink u sud plss tell ha so dat ur mind ca b @rest...
Both of you are not meant to be. So dont tell your sis.
I rily fink u sud plss tell ha so dat ur mind ca b @rest...
Y did u wait dis long? No point telling her now cos it too late
i rili dont see anything wrong wif her being hooked up wif him.....i guess u should av told her earlier before now..buh since the wedding is close by..give it time..tell her yrs afta...or jst ex it for life..
Her knowledge of it won't make any difference,trust me.d desperation of pple to settle down these days is alarming
Lowkey
Hmm...this is a serious one...Well I suggest u call both of them and hit the nail on the head. Love forgives nd forgets, she might forget it happened nd as for you the lady, try as much not 2 visit dem always, coz old feelings might pop up....Lord is ur strenght
Please don't tell your sis
U rily tink u sud tell ha b4 d weddn...
Yu should have tod earlier....if not shut up and put up with it. A day before her wedding. Abel it is in the past Jane.
she has the right to know. And its a pity that if the guy really loved your sister, he should have done the telling. The sooner the better. Try also to convience ur sister to go on with the marriage if he truely loved the guy. U can also tell d guy to talk to ur sister himself. Make sure u dnt v any feeling for the guy or wish to take him away from ur sister
U re right
one word okafo's law....u pp shall do it again better own up now before the whole thing blows up in ur face....shaaa
pls tell her now.
U dnt need 2 tell her,cos its ur own lost
if i were u, just go and tell her right now.
just keep shut , u had enough time to tell please dont break what God has joined together
am sure ur sis has read this, d same skul, weddn date...wow u tink dis is d best wayy. she already knos darlin.
dnt know why some people come here to judge,criticise nd belittle people....re u ny better?..if u dnt av nythin constructive to sayy..pls zip it. abi na by force....
to d main issue...i think u shud tuk to ur sister for peace of mind..dis happened nine years ago..its nt ur fault..shit happens..its nt easy but its d rite thin to do. better nw than wait til shes married nd she then finds out..
IT IS TOO LATE, so please shut up for life cos if you tell her, even a year later she will feel you will come after her hubby someday. lesson for everyone me inclusive the weight of sex is more on lady than a guy. There is no free sex. The guy will always feel a champion.
Someone asked for your advise and all most of you did was to blame and insult her. Let him who is without sin cast the first stone. My advise to you is to let it go. You had opportunity of telling your sister when she introduced the guy to you but you didn't for reason best known to you. I think your sister's happiness should mean a lot to you and if you dont want to make her sad, please dont tell her. Just pretend nothing happened and dont be paying them visits all the time so that old fling won't be rekindled again. Take care of you hun.
This LADY IS CLAERLY JEALOUS THAT HER SIS IS GETTING MARRIED........if im the one i would want to know!!....TELLL HER....IT MIGHT BE LATE BUT NOW OR NEVER!!.........the fact you or the guy didnt tell her shws that you guys are selfish............................all f you saying she shouldnt talk....what if the girl and her hubby quarrel in future, then he would start comparing her to her sister??......or her sis wuld become his fuckbuddy since she done it before??....sigh
For crying out loud, they only dated for a MONTH!!!! Tell her later but both of you didnt even have time to get to know eachother, you should both be ashamed of yourselves and forget your nonsense fling. It wasnt like you had a relationship with him because that would be a different case, it was sex for a MONTH!!
trust me its better to keep your mouth shut, you would more damage than good
Be matured, get yourself a gud guy & forget about the past & face the future. Do not tell anyone but try talking to him & feel free to avoid suspisions Kkkkk!!!
ok! after reading through all the comments, i have concluded that most people are on the same page with my opinion which i made earlier.
10:54am, she should open her mouth and tell her sis that she was #just fucking him# for a month? younger sis for that matter! how do you want the sister to look at her? my dear we all have stuffs we've done that we are not proud of. having a fling, #just fuck and go# is not something a lady should be proud of. she was'nt in a relationship with this dude. it was just sex. i dont't think she will be proud of that act and freely tell her younger sis bout it. she is guilty that she has laid the dude before and yea,she made another mistake by not telling the sis on time.
where are we now????
babes, i have adviced u earlier. scroll up to read it.
linda, you not dey sleep?
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TROUBLE! Is what you got yourself into! LOL
depending on the way u pple separated,it was a fling which i dont know who fling who but i advice u let sleeping dog lie,ur sis should hear it from her husby not from you,that my opinion,throw my word but no me.
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You were a fling. This story isnt complete cos u avnt said if u r married now. If not, n u cant deal wit d guy, then u r still not straight. Let sleeping dogs lie n leave ur sister alone. Operating word being alone. Dont go to their house she don marry!
Obviously, u'v not said it all or there's somethin u'r still hiding... If not, I see no reason why u shouldnt have told your sister...!
Go and watch Genevieve Nnaji's "Guilty Pleasures" and learn. Ode Oshi. Oponu Ayerada. Some things are better left unsaid. Since you didn't say anything earlier just STFU and stay away from the guy. The 1st law of Mazi Obodo 1 says "Once debe, forever debe".
So many secrets are unspoken. You guys should act mature and don't destroy your sister's future.
This right here is the reason why there are so many failed marriages in society today.
To the sister,I say this: You should have spoken up earlier.The acceptance of a truth however difficult is primarily a function of time,and the appropriate time would have been when you knew that they were dating.She is your sister after all..Na wah for family values oh!Where did those go?
To the Groom to be : While I understand that the past is the past,one that involves the sister of your wife-to-be cannot be kept in the same cupboard as your other indiscretions.Will i want to get married to a man,knowing that he had slept with my sister NO matter how many years ago it was?The answer is NO,i don't think so. so you mr. man,should have told your fiancee the truth from the get go.Now,it doesn't matter who does the telling because obviously she's going to feel very stupid.It would seem as though you and here sister have been taking her for a ride.Marriage is supposed to be to the person whom you can share every and anything with.Nothing should be too embarrassing to talk about between two people who are genuinely in love.Haba!When this story breaks,I really wish you all the luck in the world in dealing with it.
And to you madam wife to be : This isn't a skeleton you asked to be brought out of the cupboard.Except you are a virgin...you also have a past.Consider,hard as it will be, the affair with your sister as one of his many indescretions.But the choice of continuing this relationship should be that which gives you peace.
All the best people,all the best!
The past chasing the future.
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its too late! why didnt u talk earlier!just shut up and let them be...
My dear, let me honestly advise you here, from the day you knew about their relationship was the day you should have called your sister 2 order and tell her about ur past with the bloke. The truth is,THERE IS NOFFIN HIDDEN UNDER THE SUN forever, so brace urself cos if you listen to the advise of not telling her and she eventually gets to know, trust me, it won't be easy 4 you both at that point. So in my opinion, she has the right to know.
yourmistake is now hurting you,i wish u have told yoursis earlier is either she leaves d guy or continue the relationship but now is too late cause anything u say now can be use against you.
am i the only one that feels this poster is obviously jealous and wants to ruin her sister's hapiness? i mean why now..when the wedding is a few hours away.. y dint u tell her all this while? were you hoping he would leave her and come back to you? jeez...u better keep ur past to yourself and let that girl enjoy her wedding day. pray for your own man, he will surely come.
For ur mind
U shd tell her. Its important she knows before the wedding cos it'll be really bad if she discovers after the wedding. When there are no more secrets, u breathe freely. It doesnt mean she'll leave him becos of dat..Nuff said!
U SHUD TELL UR SISTER,IF ITS NOT SO LATE BUT I HOPE UR REASONS FOR WANTING TO TELLHER IS NOT HURTFUL(DAT IS TO SAY U VE EATEN AND DUMPED WAT SHE IS GOING FOR)
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Ur wild days've left u unmarried and now ur younger sister's getting married b4 u,u wan pour san sand 4 her garri.My friend will u keep ur trap shut n ur legs closed.
let sleeping dog lye.
dont destroy ur sis wedding
I guess you should have mentioned it earlier... But you didn't, if you would mention it at all, the time is not now, maybe many many years from now.
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The guy has already told your sister and your sister is waiting to know if you r gonna keep it from her. Better tell her and not just free your mind but build the sisterly confidence u let down>
your sister: hey (whatever ur name is) meet by b.f (whatever his name is)
You: huh! u again! with my sister..hope u are treating her well this time around..
Your sister: u know him before now
You: yes i do..we dated, but that was years ago n am well over him now..take care of her o
.....and it's over, n ur worries are over..buh u had to go n stretch it n now u are asking us for advice..
well sis, u just made things harder for yourself becos u'll have to tell her..it won't be easy now but u MUST and SHOULD.
what if someone that knew u both dated should walk back into ur lives and spills d beans?,it's best she hears it from you than any other person, cos trust us humans, we know how ta twist things n make 'em juicy to listen to not minding d damage done..
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Never commented on a blog before. But I understand whature going through n we shouldn't reign insults on her cos it can happen to any one of us. I know ure really in a tough situation. I think you should discuss it with the guy 1st n both of you should decide what to do.
All of u critizing her are very stupid.are u beta than?if she isn't remorseful den she wunt b seeking 4 advice.every1 has a past he/she isn't proud of nd dis is hers.shit happens alright?
Makes no sense. It shouldn't even call for public comments. It was just a fling. Forget the guy jhoor
tell her now bcos if u dont she might find out later on,and if u dont tell her ur conscience will b judging u,put urself in her shoes wat if it is u,wat will u do wen u find out
I think you should tell her, but maybe you should check with the guy first. The thing is this: since it's all in the past now it would seem like the obvious thing to say nothing, but if it ever came out / she heard it from someone else it will be even worse. She'll probably think 'if it wasn't a big deal, why did neither of you tell me'? and then she'll start to wonder what else you guys may be hiding from her. That's the way I feel about it anyway. Put yourself in her shoes. What would you think if it somehow came from someone else? Nigeria is a small country O and people like to talk
Plez tel ur sisita. Inomin ok baby?
Oh girl zip ur mouth oh...u should have told her when she introduced him to you as her man....
But na wa sha....u wicked all along u kept shut but some females are just shady. I once had a friend that slept with a dude in school but never dated then her sister went out with him. I asked her if she told her sister and she said NO. I should have known her skanky ass was EVIL then cos now we grew apart.....
My advise is discuss this with her man and decide to forget that shit cos its crazy ur mind dey bite u now; cos they are getting married.
But from the looks of things are u married self? Cos if u were u for don talk since or it won't bother you this much cos u have moved on...
Ur that kinda of person Bitch that enjoys the words of "Misery loves Company"...even if u tell ur sister I pray she makes the best judgement because u are just an EVIL BITCH!
if she loves the dude what difference does the info really make?
Hi, there is ₪☺ need saying anything Τ̣̣̥�̳ her. Let by gone be by gone.but,b carefull with D̶̲̥̅̊ guy, cos,men are men. Άŋϑ girls are girls. Anything can happen. Άŋϑ if it happens, ₪☺ u are d 1 who let it happen.S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡, play safe.
my opinion, is that you tell her, the earlier the better, cos if she should found out later she might think you guys are still together.
What an idiot! So what makes u think her younger sister never 'opened her legs' too? And are u saying that ppl who do so don't get married? Or don't some virgins stay unmarried till later in life? Please park well with ur stupidity
u b ril mumu,doin al nyt here frm 1am to 3am just so u can make 1st comments wen pipl r slipin. Jobless cone headed mumu.
u b ril mumu,doin al nyt here frm 1am to 3am just so u can make 1st comments wen pipl r slipin. Jobless cone headed mumu.
hmmmm...how long can she live with the secret?I suggest she talk now before the wedding.
Hmmm...how long is she going to live with that secret?
isuggest she talk to her sis.
Failed relationships on both sides. He should have told her & you should have at least told your sister ages ago.
u dont need to. it will make ur sister to feel bad, if u had had a child 4 him dats when it matters but since nothing let it die. unless u dont want anything good 4 ur sister.
Well, I had a similar experience and my cousin slept with my husband before I met him, she didn't tell me but I noticed she was very cold about the whole wedding thing and on that day she didn't attend my wedding. Later she told someone that my husband chased her for years but she refused I was so surprised and when I confronted him, he just said they had a one night thing. I was angry she didn't tell me but that's past, I've been married for 10years now n have no regret. Life must go on. Leave your sister alone n move on.
The BIG question is " Why hasn't the GROOM-to-be told HIS BRIDE?????
and what exactly is your motive for keeping it for so long and the sudden urge to want to "do right"?
WHO THE THE MUMU THAT SAYS LINDA'S BACKGROUND IS CHILDISH?
IT IS CALLED ADVERTISING MY DEAR.
ODE.....
You should tell her, for if she finds out herself it would really be heartbreaking especially coming from a SISTER. If they are truly meant for each other nothing will stop them from staying together, but if you dont tell her, YOU will keep hurting.Should anything go wrong subsequently, you will hate yourself for it.
The guy will one day use it against you or it will come out one day and you would wish you had done something than nothing. It was before your sister knew him. So you didnt say anything at first, but make it right now. if she's willing to go ahead, then that is her own problem. But get your part done.
Do you want this guy?, if not, forget the past;it shouldn't interfere.
tell her and be free. Its Just a coincidence
Hope u r not being unnecessarily jealous if not, y keeping mute. Her till today.I also pity ur sister cos d guy cannot be trusted. He should hv bin honest enough to hv told her this from d start. Anyways, don't tell till after their wedding and honeymoon. It may be hard but u hv to tell her cos u can't keep it forever. Make sure u disclose this whenever she is in good mood. Best of luck
You have waited too long. Wedding is tomorrow, what's the point now? Let them be, worse have happened in the world. Wish her all the best in her marriage, and move to another part of the country where you will have little contact with them.
You will be demonize by your sister and your relatives if you were to confess NOW. If you are unmarried yourself, it will be seen as a sign of jealousy. The worse case scenario woud be that you confess and they still follow through with their marriage, leaving you in the dust. Keep mum and spare yourself a battle, and needless humiliation.
LET SLEEPING DOG LIES , WHAT U DONT KNOW DOES NO PAIN YOU . IMMEDIATELY YOU TELL YOUR SISTER SHE IS GOING TO BE SUSPICIOUS OF YOUR EVERY MOVE.
Yours was in the past. Since you dint say it then, dont say it now and keep away from their relationship...
On dat day when d pastor asks that famous question, kindly lift up urge hand n say yea u think u have a reason why 2of em can't b joined, u can tell it to the whole church n ask for forgiveness. Capiche?
she should open her mouth and tell her sis that she was #just fucking him# for a month? younger sis for that matter! how do you want the sister to look at her? my dear we all have stuffs we've done that we are not proud of. having a fling, #just fuck and go# is not something a lady should be proud of. she was'nt in a relationship with this dude. it was just sex. i dont't think she will be proud of that act and freely tell her younger sis bout it. she is guilty that she has laid the dude before and yea,she made another mistake by not telling the sis on time.
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u see, young people r alws advised to zip up but dey wont hear, see one of d dangers. See how u v lost ur peace n same goes 4 d guy. who wants to even pretend Nufin happened.
Well say it out,(such she wants to marry cant b trusted even) n see if u can ease d shame n guilt.
A broken engagement is better than broken marriage
I'm afraid, this gal will be sleeping with the sis husband. Old fire will be rekindled whenever they meet. The loser will be the innocent sister.
you HAD to but nt anymore cos its 2late. So pin tight n try 2 associate freely wit d guy
abeg., make we hear word joor.. the first day u cant open your mouth n tell your sister watsup with this guy..as soon as the guy left u should have told her right there n then..and it's now their getting married your mouth is itching you abi? really how old are u? Sisters don't hook up with leftovers it makes life awkward..
No point saying anytin now, She should have said something way earlier.
She is your sister for christ sake, always let things out like this in the 1st place, just talk to the guy like your friend that is all, dont reopen old wounds because if you tell your sister, you are going to cause a lot of trauma for her,how will she take it?Consider her husband your ex-fling as well.
my question is? what if the sister ends up knowing.either of them should have said something earlier.if i were in her shoes would have told my sis the first day, she brings him home, secondly if i were to be the sister, i would feel very bad,sad,gutted if i get to find out later no matter how long.
Siddon there dey speak English, afi childish. Linda don hammer again u dey here speak grammar. Ok o.
U shud have let her knw earlier, y leave it to the last moment and den come crawling to us for opinions?
So what\'s thε̲̣̣̣̥ hidding game all about?
Now that\'s u have γ̲̣̣̥☺U̶̲̥̅̊r foto & thε̲̣̣̣̥ Message been pass accross ...she already & probaly thε̲̣̣̣̥ guy has already told him before u
Its just a matter of time before u go to bad again with that guy!! Bcos u guys did not break up and u guys still fill somthin for each other
Hello dear, pls let it go, wat do u want to happen? Break ur sis happinesss or find urself another guy. Afterall its just a fling
It is already late. Die with the secret. Stop spreading for fun. Go and marry! If u r still flaunting those big ass and tits around the guy, he will still f**k da hole. Change your lifestyle.
That was a hook-up, in the past, you both drifted apart so no hard feelings. The sister came up and he's putting a ring on her finger. Get over yourself.
You made a massive mistake, you should have instantly called your sister to one side the very day she introduced you to the guy. Now they are so close and getting married you want to speak? So that you break their wedding or what exactly do you intend to achieve? Your sister needs to know but you will have to break it to her in a way that is not malicious. Just sit her down and explain it to her ASAP and say I just want you to know and say I didn't want to break up your relationship that was why I didn't say anything then. Also once you've told her you can ask her to call the guy and repeat what you told your sister in front of both of them. Forgive the guy if he apologises and let go and move on. Forget about the past, God will give you your own husband.
Lmao!!!
First ke? When I'm almost done reading through the comments. The likes of you really amuse me!
Don't mind her! Olojukokoro!!
Haa are u d guy in question u sound so upset o_O
I foresee this babe cutting show with this guy in the near future........once straffed always straffed. I will only advise ur junior sister to declare u a terrorist or persona non gratta in her matrimonial home.
you for talk am since. ashewo tinz (as linda will say)
let bygone be bygone even if u still luv him it is very late so go and find ur own and settle down such is life.
And you women talk say man dey devious and dishonest.
See am now.
Even sisters for that matter.
Ebe like say bobo don marry two in one.
Yes u should say something...as soon as the Preacher says "if anyone knows any reason why these two shouldn't be joined in marriage, say now or forever hold your peace" that is your moment...take it!.. Linda will be there to capture that moment, we need some drama in our church marriages Mehn!!!!....lmao
You should have told your sister from the beginning,it would have made things a lot better..... some months after the wedding, you and the guy should tell your sister about the fling and that the coast is clear between you and the guy (that is if it is o) and i hope your sister will be matured enough to take it cos it aint easy.
You should have told your sister from the beginning,it would have made things a lot better..... some months after the wedding, you and the guy should tell your sister about the fling and that the coast is clear between you and the guy (that is if it is o) and i hope your sister will be matured enough to take it cos it aint easy.
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