Dear LIB readers
I dated this nincompoop for four years and in that four years, I had five abortions for him. The last abortion was particularly traumatic. We broke up four years ago and within a year he was married to someone else. He has two kids with his wife who is a co-worker he cheated on me with. I moved on with my life and fortunately met a great guy in 2012. I married him in early 2013 and a year later I haven't gotten pregnant yet. I went to see a doctor in December last year and after carrying out tests he asked me if I'd ever had an abortion. I initially lied but owned up after I realized how serious it was. The doctor said that I may have destroyed part of my womb but will keep treating me and I should be hopeful. I know that my ex and his wife are expecting their third child and this makes me very angry. I may never be able to have children and the cause of all this is living a fulfilling life. Short of having him killed, I don't know what else to do. The anger I feel inside is immense and I'm gradually losing my sanity. I wrote an email to my ex and copied his wife explaining what was going on with me, and they both ignored me. How do I forgive this man and myself? There's nothing I want more than to be a mum. I'm going out of my mind and I am so bitter. Can anyone help.
Meanwhile, (this is Linda writing now) I will be MIA for at least 16 hours. I'm going to the US and won't be able to blog for a bit as I fly. As soon as I land, I will continue blogging. Thanks guys and God bless every one of you...
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 400 of 503 Newer› Newest»mtchewwww stories dat touch.feel no single pity for u.5 abortions?wat were u thinking.paddle ur canoe jare.
plz leave ur ex's family alone.He must nt marry u.And U caused ur predicaments.It hurts me a lot when a matured lady cnt kno when she s ovulatn nd u ddnt tak correctn on d previous abortions,totaln it to 5. jst be prayn to God t heal u.chim
plz leave ur ex's family alone.He must nt marry u.And U caused ur predicaments.It hurts me a lot when a matured lady cnt kno when she s ovulatn nd u ddnt tak correctn on d previous abortions,totaln it to 5. jst be prayn to God t heal u.chim
Dear Poster, you said you dated a nincompoop? Sweetie, who really deserves that name?
There is no need to rehash what you might or might not have done to yourself with the series of abortions you had.
All that I will tell you is that you should seek forgiveness from God and just look up to him to give you your heart's desires.
Some women never did abortions and are unable to have kids and some did even more than you but will get pregnant with one touch so really, its up to God...He gives to whom He wills.
Be blessed
What a sad story,well my advice is that,try to forgv ur slf nd also forgv ur ex,cos if u don't forgv,God can't hlp u.it is wen u forgv that God can restore u nd mk u pregant,nd I blv thr is nothing God can not do,so trust in God for a miracle,but u must for ur slf nd ur ex that is d only way u can get ur healing nd miracle frm God.
this is so painful.linda safe flight
You better be yourself and pray to God for forgiveness. The guy and his wife have moved on and mind you, you never tell us what transpired between you guys. Pls, my dear go for your medicals and pray for God's mercy, if possible try and advice young girls on implications of premarital sex and abortion. I pray God will heal you and you will promise God to evangelize on implications of premarital sex and abortion to the world. Don't be depressed pray that God will bless you for the sake of your husband.
You better be yourself and pray to God for forgiveness. The guy and his wife have moved on and mind you, you never tell us what transpired between you guys. Pls, my dear go for your medicals and pray for God's mercy, if possible try and advice young girls on implications of premarital sex and abortion. I pray God will heal you and you will promise God to evangelize on implications of premarital sex and abortion to the world. Don't be depressed pray that God will bless you for the sake of your husband.
You have to move on.Pls forgive him sometimes unforgiveness can make you not to conceive, pray that God should help you forgive and forget, forget the guy and his wife, u will see God in action. Let Go and let God take control
Wt a story,killing d man won't make u av children!ma prayer for u is dt d treatment u goin for in d USA comes out successful!urve learnt ur lessons#Giveyourlifetochrist
Lady you dont need to go to that extend just go to the LORD confess your sin, repent and accept JESUS as your personal saviour, then you can go to Redeem camp on 1st Friday of every month meet your GOD and everything will be over, am assuring you that you will be fruitful IJN.
You are the ninny for doing all those abortions for a man, any man!!! You agreed to it so you have equal blame in the matter, if you had stood your ground and kept those five kids God gave you, you may have gotten married to that guy ages ago and i wouldn't have had to waste my time reading this
Dear poster,if you have believe everything is possible onto God hands. There is still going to be a way out on this issue just relax. mail me @ tm.tmoney@yahoo.com
Poster, this is your own afowofa so deal with it
you had the option of not aborting those babies but you chose to
now that he is happily married with kids, u want to revenge cos you can't bear your own child
am sure if u had bore your own kids, this SOS mail will not come up
Keep trusting God, He is the only solution to your problem
Please dont allow hatred get the best of you. God is your best and only options i have seen persons with out womb or Fallopian tube have children by the mercies of God your case will not be different. however do not give the devil the opportunity of using anger to harm anyone. channel that energy to prayers.
P.S: young ladies take a lesson or two from this story
Its really painful my dear, but u don't hv 2 do him anything d mistake has been don alraedy, so I advice u go on ur knee and ask GOD forgiveness, I pray u will be a wonderful mum soon.
best tell your husbands to avoid further stories that touch
LINDA! PLEASE REPORT ON WHAT IS HAPPENING IN BENUE STATE. FULANI/ BOKO HARAM HAS BEEN KILLING PEOPLE LIKE CRAZY.
safe trip Dear..who says hard-work doesn't pay Huh?
as for u madam serial killer! u can not eat ur cake and have it.....that's karma...the first day u did the first one with the guy's knowledge was the day u lost him..i pity the innocent and unfortunate guy that got married to u....u just have to keep hoping and praying...the Lord is ur muscle...leave him and his happy home alone.its ur choice.
Ahhh Linda. Wetin they wan bring for us now. Surely you cannot come back empty handed
aaaw this is sooo sad, men and girl what were you thinking your situation reminds me of the movie Reloaded Stef and Van .well just keep on pray that a miracle happens . 4years & 5 abortions like seriously who does that .
Try to see if you can use him for money rituals ....bad as e bad, nahh him bad pass
This is quite unfortunate. Have you asked God for forgiveness? If you havnt please do NOW. When God forgives you as I am sure HE will, you have no cause for alarm because HE is Able, More than Able to give you atleast a child. You must also forgive yourself and your ex then LET GO! I'm praying for you.
Meanwhile, Linda don't forget me when you go to 'paradise'. Safe flight!
Feel free to use him for money rituals if possible....bad as e bad nahh him bad pass
i suggest u keep praying hoping you will get pregnant sum day.try forgive urself too as well as ur ex and drop the anger part too.God is merciful and he will surely help u.
The wife is your colleague nah....poison her. Straight face
She wan tell us say she dey travel. Me na abroad I dey live o. We done hear aunty Linda.
You can't totally blame the guy for all the abortions you had with him, you are just as responsible too. Why would you date a guy for 4 years and keep having abortions for him without commitment, he clearly never intended to marry you
u have to forgive urself first then the man and seek God's face and give ur life to Jesus blcos if u kill the man u loss all first ur freedom, ur great husband,the baby u wnt to hav, ur family etc u have to pray hard now blcos that man will recieve his own punishment in due time bt dont all it to come from u. if u must pls hav sex pls wear cap or go for family planning without telling ur man to avoid all dis abortion tin untill u ar ready to take responsibilities involved in taking care of a child! I rest my case!
Kip on having faith gurl, bcos i call him d gr8t surgeon(God) nd i knw he wil give ∂ατ̲̅ which u desire ☀̤̣̈̇f him. Mean while safe trip linda
Eeyaah..d mistake has bin made already and its normal for u to feel dat way but trust me it's pointless dwelling in the past just move on and pray to God, talk to ur husband, it's a huge step but its the best tin and God will c u tru..gud luck
madam,u go barren till u die...I pray. Very heartless somebody...u didn't even have four abortions according to the years u dated d guy...Olorun lo ma ba ti e je.
That was an avoidable mistake u made, all d same it has happened, so dear just 4get abt d past nd work on ur present..Leave d bitterness nd 4get ur ex. Tune to heaven, pray always, go 4 ur medical check ups nd take ur medications as well and eat well. Most importantly communicate more with ur present hubby nd both of u will intimately agree on how to solve d problem..since u really want children, u can adopt one 4 a start and still wait on God to heal ur womb. He that created d womb can heal an injured one..make sure u also train ur kids in a way dt dey won't make d mistake u made..it is still possible as far as u have recognised dt u did wrong, confess ur past deeds, forgive d person who aided it and have a clear conscience while talking to God.. Pls dis is a lesson to fellow ladies..let's be wise in relationships cos we tend to suffer d after effects more...Linda safe flight, d Lord is with U..hijackers,terrosists or whatever are d causes of plane disappearances will not see u.
Help you kill him? Sure! Where does he live?
Pls leave ur ex and his wife. pple need to learn to take responsibility for their actions! He asked u to abort and ur carried ur big empty head too and went like zombie! When will girls realise dat once ur bf asks u to abort for him, he will NEVER marry u! Now it's btw u and God! So pray like u've never prayed! God bless u!
wat can I say, you brought it upon urself, its only the man you are married too that I pity.though u never can tell wat has done to other girls too before he married you.....
wat can I say, you brought it upon urself, its only the man you are married too that I pity.though u never can tell wat has done to other girls too before he married you.....
This reminds me of an adage that says "You can't eat your cake and have it" but I was told the correct saying is "You can't have your cake and eat it". Which is correct pls?
BTW, I don't get what u want us to do for you. Give you advice or u just want to share ur story with us?
PRAY!!!
Stupid bitch......tho I feel sorry for u shaa. E b like say condom dey expensive for ur side. Dnt worry dear...God will see u thru.
I dated a Nincompoop too for 4years and had about 8 abortions for him。Today I＇m married with 4 kids and I even had to do a surgical procedure to stop having more children（tubal ligation）。
Waoooo lindodo of life,chopping moni.bring enof goodies for me ur love ok.safe trip
I think you are the nincompoop! Aborting pregnancies 5 times when you have no single child! I wonder how anyone could behave this way. You should have known if he was committed, he wouldn't request you to abort 5 whole times.
Fell so sorry for you, meanwhile, Doctors are not God, go on your kneels and beg God for forgiveness, embark on Prayer and Fasting and see the Glory of God working miraculous in your life. Remember, our God is a Merciful God, there's nothing impossible for him to do, only if you believe and have faith in Him..
@ Linda, safe flight..
I don't know what to say to you,cos ladies like you piss me off.
Why the hell would you have 5 abortions for a guy,are you a MORON,dont you know the implications of one abortion alone? You should have dumped his sorry ass after the 1st one,cos that was an indication that he wasn't really interested in you.That been said,my advice to you is to get rid of all the bitterness and anger you feel towards the guy,his punishment awaits him ,make no mistake about that.
You are forgiving him,not because he deserves it but for you to move on and be able to conceive.You also need to embrace God at this point in your life,ask him sincerely for forgiveness and be willing to fast and pray continuously until God answers your prayer,be patient cos he will answer you.Also talk to your pastor or Priest about it,they will be able to recommend prayer points for you.
As for you young ladies out there,please learn from this,any guy who is serious about you,will never tell you to abort his baby.Best still try to prevent pregnancy by telling the guy to wait till you are married before sex or compel him to use a condom to avoid unwanted pregnancy.
pls let d guy b,he neva tied u 2 commit d abortn on u.pray 2 God 2 heal ur womb.
Enjoyment madam.com! #Roselle#
You need to ask God for forgiveness and plead for mercy. I am not one to judge but I need to speak the truth. How could you have put yourself in the position to gey pregnant 5 times and then abort the children thereafter. The first time could have been a mistake but subsequent times you knew what you were doing. Ur ex is really a bad guy. After all the abortions, he shenked you. Do not despair, at this point, it's God you need to run to. Once you are sincerely repentant, he will forgive you. Also, u need to forgive yout ex cus forgiving him profits you more than him. You need to release him so you can heal
Your ex as well needs to seek God cus the fact that he has kids does not change the fact that he sinned. GOD will bless you with children cus He is merciful but I beg of you do not move away from Him again else you will face the consequences
What a wicked world duo, dis is d reason why I hate relationship.
Mallam labaran Musa.
Pls, don't blame the stupid man.You didn't use protection or birth control. The 1st didn't teach you a lesson. You still threw caution to the wind the 2nd, 3rd, 4th and 5th time. Keep praying for a miracle. Nothing is impossible with GOD. Just pray and believe.
Woah ma day is boring alredy
linda bai bai, safe journey and buy biscuit come also don't forget to greet Obama for me. Enjoy ur money
Safe trip Miss Linda.
Mrs L.P Smith
I am sooo angry!! How come he gets to have kids!! I feel your pain..this is so unfair..keep trying honey, I'll remember u in my prayers
Wish you save trip Dear will miss it for some hrs before you land sha all the best.
My dear,you're the nicompoo! #dazall!
You are the worst nincompoop. Mtcheeeew.
Quite sad. Just forgive ur ex and leave him be. God is d only one dat can help u now. U need 2 pray nd ask God for mercy. He gives children and he will give u urs bt not with ur malicious and unforgiving heart.
Safe trip Linda bt seriously, ur blog is too big 4 u 2 manage alone. U gatta let smone do d bloggin wen u r indisposed..my opinion tho
Condoms? Pull out?.Postinor 2? But no it's the man's fault. Imbecile
Safe trip linda... U jst hv 2 let go of d past now, guess u enjoyed it wen u did d 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th... N d 5th... Jst dnt blame ur X cos. @ dat moment, dat was wot u wanted too otherwise u wudnt av... Let go of ur anger, den ask God 4 Mercy for terminating d lives of those children.. There is nothing he cant do, His is God of impossibilties, jst seek him deligently n pls n attach hatred or anger of d past.. N He will show His Supremacy.. Keep trying.
Quite a pity about the Odd and Sad situation you find yourself. I assume you should know by now that Murder will not solve the Problem so don't loose your mind and attempt to kill your ex.
First, try to forgive yourself, then Tell your Husband about the whole situation(If you lied to your Hubby earlier that you've never had an abortion in the Past, it makes it even more complex) and ask for his support and understanding. Since your womb was not completely destroyed, seek for medical attention from Gnaecologist. If you Guys are "Having" enough, you can try the "Save a Life Foundation", GRA, Portharcourt. They will analyze your situation and send you to experts in India if need be.
Believe me, your situation is not as complex as it appears, you will still conceive and be a Happy Mum.
dear, notin shuld make u abort 4 d luv u hav 4 a guy cos u'r d one affected here not d guy. u c de alwayz know wat de do cos after all said n done de'l mary som1 else. but dnt let ur anger get out of hand cos it myt lead u astray jst find a way of dealin wt ur problem medically since ur wumb is still dere.
My dear, leave ur ex and his wife alone, the mistake has already been made, so no turning back...Go see ur pastor wife ur hubby so he can join u guys in prayers and also ask God for 4giveness, Our God is a merciful God and I believe 1 day he will hear ur prayers only if u have faith in him...Cheer up dear, other persons have been in worse situation, so be strong. #big hug.... @Linda safe fly #kiss
dumb ho. see ur life...when u ladies see responsible men you will be fumbling...now u want advice after dating a loser thats now married to a loser and having loser kids....
I can't begin to know how exactly you feel but I urge you to continue to have hope. God will not condemn you as he's a God of mercy and he will surely show you understanding as you struggle to forgive your former partner and [ex]coworker.
Please have faith and we'll be praying for you for God to bless you with the fruit of your womb. It will be well, God bless you dear.
I can't begin to know how exactly you feel but I urge you to continue to have hope. God will not condemn you as he's a God of mercy and he will surely show you understanding as you struggle to forgive your former partner and [ex]coworker.
Please have faith and we'll be praying for you for God to bless you with the fruit of your womb. It will be well, God bless you dear.
I had to comment on this occasion.
My heart goes out to you and I will continue to pray for you as I have done this morning.
Here's what I would say to myself or a female dear to me:
Firstly, do you believe in God? Do you profess any faith? If you do, cry unto The Lord. Confess your sins; no justification, no excuses. Just truly confess and mean it and you will receive the abounding peace and grace of God. If you haven't already done so, you should also open up to your husband. Hopefully he is the great guy that you say he is, and he will stand by you.
Second, pray without ceasing. There is absolutely nothing that God cannot do. Pray, pray, pray. Join a prayer group. Ask your mum, sisters, friends to pray with you. Use online resources. Whatever medium works for you, just pray.
Third, stop the hating. Your ex and his family owe you nothing. Release all that negative energy and focus on you, your God and your husband.
Fourth, get some hard facts about your physical state and well being so you know what exactly you are dealing with. When you have this info, you can decide on the next steps.
Finally dear, it is very early days. We (women) put ourselves under so much pressure to have children. You've only been married a year. Some people have waited 5, 10, 20 years!
Please trust in God, he is faithful.
Xoxo
Do have a safe trip lindy,luv ya no 4get 2 buy me smethg oooo
Do have a safe trip lindy,luv ya no 4get 2 buy me smethg oooo
Oh! Safe journey linda, have a safe flight and God bless you. #much love#
U av to deal wit it on ur own responsibity, u dnt av to seek 4 pple's help while ur life is in danger....cos 4 u to have abortion four times in ur deadly life without seeking 4 advice...she goat
its well..d Lord has forgiven you.and shall be called Mum.
hmmm...some men are just Not reliable.
did he force you at gun point to have these abortions?? or you were playing lover girl??? you might have serious scar tissue in your womb which affects fertility..sorry for all you have been through jus pray sha
My dear u need to seriously go on ur knees and ask God for forgivness he is a faithful God I am sure he will forgive u,secondly forget about ur ex and his wife cos they will only make mockery of u,thirdly focus on God and belief him for ur miracle u don,t need the anger cos u will make things worse for urself what is done is done.lastly,to all single ladies delay sex until marriage and if u most have sex be responsible and protect urselfs cos in the end the ladies suffer more BE WISE
Have a safe fly sweet linda.buy somthing come oooo........lolz.....as you.....I pray God will forgive ur sins nd bless yo wit kids soon!!!
Safe trip boo...
Have a safe trip linda & don't forget to bring back goodies fr us o.
As for d lady seeking advise,when u were carrying out d abortions,did u consult us? Yu were killing innoent kids who didn't ask to be born,not one but five,now u are seeking advise. Lady,haven't yu heard of condom or contraceptives? If d first was a mistake,u shudnt have been very stupid to have four more. Just deal with it cus yu are barren,that's God punishing yu fr killing 5 innocent children.
My dear it's a waste of time begin bitter. U did this to urself so stop blaming any 1 4 ur miss fortune. I keep telling young ladies never to commit suicide abortion or any other crazy thing in d name of love. Even if he married u & u don't bear children 4 him he will still move on so y waste ur tomorrow 4 what u think is love 4 today. SOLUTION : stop communicating wit ur x focus on ur marriage & ur God. Do every medical test or solution available & back it up with sincere prayers. Then wait patiently 4 God to do his work. I wish u success.
Your story is touching, but a year is too short to conclude, you need to call on God and be patient. As for your ex, you need to for get abt him and face your husband.
Poster, why not embrace christ Instead on hating on ur ex nd his family. ?
Journey mercies Linda. As for dis lady, I really empathise with u, but don't u think ur anger is a bit misplaced? I can't remember u sayin he forced u to do those abortions @gun point, it takes two you know???. I wld hv thot that after the first one u wld hv learnt ur lesson, but u jst kept going under d knife. As for writing 2d man and his wife I don't know wat u expect from them honestly, even if d man apologises it wldnt change d situation ure in now. My candid advice is 4u 2focus on the word of God, so u can forgive him and urself and get ur healing. Forgiveness is not for the person who has hurt u, its for u, so u can have peace and move on. #nuffsaid# God wld see u through dear.
Forgive urself and forgive him that is your past, fix ur eyes on God ask for mercy, God is the greatest physical. I believe our God is a God of second chance.
I've been through something similar..but i must tell you God can do the impossible.im a mother of children today..STOP stalking your ex and his wife he didn't put a gun to your head to do abortion it was YOUR choice ..what if they show this email to your husband that will be the end of your marriage..be wise and meet a fertility doctor to start treatment and also Give you life to Christ ,,,seek christain counsellor and forgive yourself
I love Linda Ikeji ('»•«'). Too real n always shows gratitude #myfinerolemodel
U just v to forgive and forget. We all make mistakes. If u really need d miracle, u v to let go and concentrate on ur life and marriage. Be calm and expectant. There is hope for u. Lindodo, v a safe trip. Bring chocolat 4 moi.
My dear there Is hope..buh for there to be a miracle u v to forgive the man and let go..though it might be hard, nevertheless, u have to forgive him..your children will come soooooooooon.
Really undastand ur pain but dear u av to forgive dem and pray God forgives u nd give u a child dats all. As 4 u Linda nttin more Dan safe trip.
Hmm. thts why it's advisable to live a dignified life especially, women, cos u'd never know what tomorrow holds. As it is already done, now you have to seek the face of God, go for prayerline at SCOAN and if you're genuinely repentant of your sins and truly believe that there's nothing that is impossible for God, the Almighty God will fix whatever has been messed up in your body.
Weew! Love you Linda! Save Journey
Its a pity.I know people who had several abortions and still married and had kids.so if you are truly repentant,God will forgive you and perform a miracle in your life.ask the Lord Jesus into your life,forget your past,and expect a divine visitation.also forgive your ex,it may be hard to,but Gods word says you should so do it.forgive him,forget him.you have made your mistakes,let God heal you.
As for other young ladies out there,pls be careful about those you call your boyfriends,practice abstenance and you'll be happy n free!
I pity ur circumstance, but I tink dis wil stand as a lesson to evryoda girl out thr. Dnt b foold by wat u cal love, dnt get caried away by empty promises... I can see dat u ar goin thru a vry dificult time nw, jst turn fully to God nd let him see u thru it all... And Linda, I wish u d safest of all junies, may ur plane not vanish/disappear like dat malaysian plane o (Amen)
I don't normally comment but I must do so on this one b/cos I am a victim too. The difference b/w yours and mine is that I haven't moved on and he hasn't. He travelled and when he settles down and comes back, we will be getting married. I have decided 2 wait for this guy even with disapproval from my people( he had gone 2 see them but didn't pay my brideprice bc my mum objected to d idea of me staying in nig. And him abroad) bc of ds similar issue so dat whatever comes out of d marriage we will bear it 2geda knowing it was our fault. Back 2 ur story dear, u need 2 forgive urself first, don't bring ur ex into ur mindset ever bc it will hurt u d more.Forget him,dat is life sweetie. Then look for someone dat u TRUST to tell ds to,an elder preferably, after d scolding dat will follow, d person will guide u on wat 2 do. Tell ur mom if she is stil alive,make sure u talk 2 someone close to u, dat load is 2much 2 carry alone. I won't advise u to tell ur hubby nw bc dt might mean d end of ur union if he is not d understanding type Also talk to God in prayer.there is notin he cannot do. All d best dear and may God 4giv us and grant u ur hrt desires. Amen
There's nothing u can do nw 2 him dan 4 u 2 pray 4 urself.no need to start getting angry wit him,its a mistake u made so own up to it n find solutions to ur problem. May God help u...... Apinex
Girls don't open ur legs for a guy who is not legally married to u, he isn't gonna marry u. Well, ask God for forgiveness, He will hv mercy on ur womb
Safe journey Linda, well u r d ninconpoop, jus keep praying ders notin to difficult 4 God n pls 4giv ur ex so God can 4giv u and hv mercy on u
Safe trip Linda.... Apinex
Erm--- Linda abeg buy me baby things in d Us while coming,safe trip.@chizzy
Some things we ladies do are not worth it. God will heal ur womb,i Don't knw y we choose to learn the hard way. I can never n will never go under the knife for any man sha,love gbakwa oku.lindy way safe trip.
There's nothing u can do nw 2 him dan 4 u 2 pray 4 urself.no need to start getting angry wit him,its a mistake u made so own up to it n find solutions to ur problem. May God help u...... Apinex
Safe Trip Aunty Linda........God be with u Always.
Ivf is the only way out my dear. I suffered the same predicament as u did and had to go in for ivf. It was a harsh decision but I now have a healthy baby boy that I never should have asked for anything short of. So while in America, ensure u go to a gynecologist, have all the test done and then go to a fertility clinic within the area you will be residing. Wish u the best.
I think in my opinion that you have yourself to blame cos you must have know that there's a great chance that this would happen but still went ahead and this is not to mean you are totally to blame cos the idiot too absolutely knew wat he was doing with you... I wish you luck ooo and most importantly prayer is the key.
(In other news)
Safe journey Linda
Lol...i think say u dey talk say na ur story
Lolz useless woman,I hope your husband finds out and divorce you.....murderer
Safe lindodo
Get a gun, kill the man and his pregnant wife. Just spare the two kids. If u get caught ,u go to jail, but if u re smart enough, u won't be caught. If u re hardened, u won't live with any guilt but if u re not, u will live with guilt for the rest of ur life. But note! U won't conceive with bitterness in ur heart. If want a miracle, u must let go! U re the one drinking poison and hoping it will kill them.
Amen ooo! God bless me. My dear don't lose hope yet, keep praying there nothing impossible for God to do.
Blessing
I understand your pain, sooo much for youthful relationshp...the young shall grow..All I can say to you,heal yourself-the best revenge is to get better and to have a happy home...A man that never cared abt your feelings when he was dating you certainly won't start caring now that he isn't,so forget expecting apology/sympathetic text msg from him...It takes two or three people to commit an abortion,you chose to be involved in it for five times... You made your decision hunnie everytime you sticked around and you did that without a gun to your head....Stay strong!!!! @ Linda,am addicted to your style of blogging... You treat your readers with respect, safe flight girl- #cheezyjayne!!
Safe journey Linda. As for d lady she should remove negative thought from her mind. Confess to ur hubby. Pray to God for forgiveness. Hv faith u will be pregnant soon. Forget ur ex.. to all d ladies pls am pleading now. Use condom if u r not ready to hv kids. Abortion is very bad n sinful. May God forgive us all. Amen
you are a fool
I have come to learn that it is important to have boundaries in any relationship.Don`t just do anything( some obscene sexual activities included) your partner asks you to all the time.That makes you a doormat and the other person looses all respect and value for you.Countless stories such as this abound,of people laying down their life for others in return for nothing but wasted years,finances,opportunities et al.You need to forgive the guy and yourself first and then move on with pride.YOU will need mountain moving faith to overcome this.It happened to my friend.
yea babe go kill d idiot ...
and spend d rest of ur life in prison......u betta move closer to God join d children department nd let dem pray for u
Meanwhile(now talking to linda) madam chop d life of ur head oo u deserve am paaaa sha buy chocolate come back o
yea babe go kill d idiot ...
and spend d rest of ur life in prison......u betta move closer to God join d children department nd let dem pray for u
Meanwhile(now talking to linda) madam chop d life of ur head oo u deserve am paaaa sha buy chocolate come back o
Dear poster, forgive ur ex, forgive urself, ask God to forgive u. Seek His Face(God) He doesn't count our sins. He will give u ur own children!!! This is the time to move closer to God and never leave Him forever.
My prayers are with you and I believe God will have mercy on you. You shouldn't have copied his wife; its none of her business besides the decisions you took to abort the babies were not and you could have seen contraceptives. All the same, forgive him else you won't get healed. Move on and believe God for a miracle; with God, all things are possible.
You are absolutely razz linda, adding your comment to this story
I think u should leave ur ex out of ur marital issues. u could talk to your hubby about adoption
Lady seek the face of the LORD, confess ur sins, repent and accept JESUS as ur saviour,attend Holy ghost nite on 1st Friday of every month at Redeesm camp, ur life will be redeemed
Hmmmmmmm its ur cross carry it kkk u ve made a big mistakE of ur lif
Hmmmmm Pele.. I can not imagine your pain , Only God can help u ... My advice would be to stop contacting them , u would only be a laughing stock , he's moved on .. So just count ur losses and move on . This should serve as a lesson to all ladies , we r responsible for all our actions , at the end of the day , he didn't force u , u chose to, yes painful that u r suffering the consequence of ur actions and he's in the winning side , but oh well , move on , comit urself to God , he's the impossibility specialist and he will do it . Study his word and build ur faith up . God bless u
one can only attempt to imagine how you must feel, but you have more faults than he does, cos you are the woman, you determine how your sex life goes for goodness sake. if youre dating a guy for 2years and he isnt talking abt marriage, you have all reasons to leave. but the damage is already done. seeing that the guy is busy living his life, and you think its perfect, dont be fooled, he isnt having a filled time i assure you, or not for long. theres the law of retribution. just wait and see. ask GOD for forgiveness, forgive yourself first and him, then try of get rid of the bitterness you feel. Pray that all may be restored to you and concentrate of moving on.
Hey Anonymous...the person is asking for help not for you to turn her story to #foodforthought
hmmmm linda what ar u going to US to do? To visit ur bf or what?
god help her
Dear girl, you will live with and hold on to as much anger as you possible can until you learn to take responsibility for a good part of what is happening to you.. I recommend watching this movie the four colored girls
I feel ur pain ma dear,jos ask God for 4giveness n have faith therez Notin God cannot do even @ d dying minute hez still able ohk.jos have faith its well
i just pity the innocent man dat just caged himself with u in the name of marriage .to even think u still remained with a man after the 1st abortion makes u the biggest fool of the century now u've damaged urself and wants me to feel remorse for u aasiii! Dats ur punishment for being fucked and doing abortion ode .lindodo safe landing gonna miss ya for the few hrs
#milito da great#
Move on with ur life and pray that God heals.
Hmmmm, just be hopeful, pls dnt do anytin funny cos dis myt land u̶̲̥̅̊ in big trouble, wil miss u̶̲̥̅̊ linda, av fun
Yes brother, even one abortion can lead to barren it isn't advisable for abortion when you are not ready use a condom.
My dear, I truly understand your pain.... However, children are a gift from God and with God, ALL things are possible.
I'll share a few scriptures with you- Gen 1:28- Be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth.
Gen 5: 1- 4 at 4- ... And he begat SONS and DAUGHTERS.
Ex 23:25-26: There shall nothing cast their young nor be barren in thy land: the number of thy days I will fulfill. - You can neither suffer a miscarriage nor be barren.
As cliche and as trite as it sounds, simply believe what God has said to you and it shall manifest itself in your life regardless of the length of time your faith is tested.
The key to accessing God's promises to you is to believe:
Luke 1:45- And blessed is she that believed: for there shall be a performance of those things which were told her from the Lord.
Therefore, do you believe?
Will you believe?
Your fruitfulness is not dependent on your anatomy nor does it have any bearing with the Dr's diagnosis rather it has everything to do with light from heaven, so, tell me, will you believe?
It is hard, but, sincerely and repentantly make your peace with God and cry out to him.
Do not bother about your ex but carry this cross before God.
It is and will surely be well with you.
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Have a safe trip Linda. I've just listened to your "punked call" by Ciana- lol.
I have to say, you sound a lot different from the way you write, lol, but, true to your amebo nature, I was slightly surprised you hung on so long on a call that even I would have sensed had something amiss- perhaps you hung on in expectancy, yes?
Hoping, perhaps, that some juicy gist may drop off her tongue, no?
Lol.
My dear, I understand your case but short if forgiving him and facing your God there's nothing else you can do. I know u blame him but at the end of the day you also made the choice to abort, you could have had the baby and stood your ground. If you let this anger continue to stir within you it can only get worse. It will push u until u do something terrible. Even taking his life will not help and speaking to his family won't either. It isn't his wife's bus, she doesn't know u or care.
And that is the normal story you hear cause of sex before marriage. sexual immorality is a sin before GOD. Romans 12:1. your bodies should be the temple of God!!!!!!
5 abortions? na wa oooo be careful girls.
one can only attempt to imagine how you must feel. my candid advise to you- Pray and ask God for forgiveness, forgive yourself then forgive him. then get rid of the bitterness you habour, it wont do you any good. Pray feverehntly and hope that all will be restored to you and concentrate on moving on. If in the end you cannot give birth, save up and get a surrogate or adopt!
My advise to my fellow ladies- Please dont hold unto a hopeless relationship. you know yourself when you are in one you must try to tell your self the truth at all times, you owe yourself that! if you know what you want from a relationship and you dont see the signals, let go! you cannot change a man, dont attempt to because you are not the HolySpirit for crying out loud.
Lindodo gbaski babe, am coming to join u soon.
Fellow babes, no man is worth having an abortion for ooh, dey wil eventually leave u and go marry someone else..ndi Isi ara!
I'm sorry love but YOU'RE the nincompoop. You've made your decisions so live with them. If sense didn't enter you after the first abortion then you're definitely reckless.
Gbam!!!
And, I just totally loved you!
I liked what Ciana did, it endeared you more to me- and I'm sure it did to your fans.
Lol- be more spontaneous like that biko.
Wow! U r d first to comment. I'm so happy for u o. To d post, babe I also dated a guy for 2yrs and I aborted twice for him. I'm getting married nxt month and I pray GOD blesses with d fruit of d womb. I really regret having d abortion. I'm happy GOD has forgiven me. Abortion is a really terrible thn to do. So my dear, forgive d guy and pray GOD answers ur prayers too. Leave his family alone
You have no right to be angry with your ex. He didnt force you to the abortion cininc 5 times. You took those decisions. You made the choice.
You don't need his apology. You need to take responsibility for this mess you are in and find a solution.
Get a surrogate and use IVF. Talk to your spouse and sister.She may be willing to carry your child for you. It's not the end of the world.
Ask God forgiveness and find other ways you and your partner can have children. Its not the end of the world. There's no need to kill or hate your ex.
My dear sis! I usually not comment but I feel the need to help a sis wit a little advice. Firstly, FORGIVE! This is becos u need to heal so u can have a relax and free atmosphere to conceive. It's for ur own good as he has moved on.
Secondly, PRAYER! Ask the almighty for forgiveness and so the blood of those children shed will stop crying for vengeance again u.
Thirdly, what is ur Dr treating if he is not sure of wether u have actually destroyed any part of ur womb? Pls look for a better hospital that has good equipment to see through u. Before he complicates matters for u.
Finally, I had a similar situation but now am blessed wit 2 kids , a 4 yr old boy and a 5 weeks old girl. But then I have been married for 8 yrs. committed over 6 abortions. Am happy now cos it's only merciful God that hear pple like us. So go to God ans settle ur case First. He is more offended wit up than u are wit ur ex!!
Keep visiting your doctor and keep praying cos pray will work miracles. But I can't help but blame you, 5 abortions?!!! After the 2nd one you shoulda left his a**!!! 5?!!!! 5?!!!!
Forgive your Ex, and ask for forgiveness from God. The truth is they owe you no apologises, esp. The wife, I see no reason going to cause trouble in their home.
Thank you dear! Abortion is your resposibility and your choice. I'm also a woman like you and am not sorry for you.young girls you need to have a mind of your own. 100% anti abortion
Pray for God's forgiveness n mercy
U mean her "head" instead of d "heart"
I aborted twice at the age of 18, I'm 29 now and still living single and in guilt. May God forgive us and have mercy on us. I feel your pain!
If d guy marry them he is great, if he didnt marry them he is a nicompop, an ideot, a fool, and d ladies call d guy all sought of names, maybe u should know u r a bigger nicompop for dating a nicompop n aborting for him
D nacks go don sweet b dat o!!5 times my dear...u went 1,2 to 5..and now he's a nicompoop?...u shld set ur head and heart straight all dose years and nt cm and start ranting now dt he's supposedly happy!U wrote to him and his wife..haba!pls wat did u expect dem to do??All hope is not lost 4 u,jst kip prayn and believing bcos even d doc's treatment can't guarantee u conception and safe delivery.
I am the lord that healeth thee...call me and i shall give u children. 08096969853 all ur worries has been heard....U are bless with children.. Prophet Pato
Y go dey MIA for 16hrs
Dat 2 long mehn.. just kidding
Have fun!!
Just forget your ex and his wife, focus on your family and be hopeful...All the best!
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Why you should feel anger towards the man I don't know. Did he force you to get the abortions? Not once sef 5 times!!! You made your bed babe now lie in it.
U mean her "head" instead of d "heart"
Hey girl. You haven't told us your faults. You probably preferred skin to skin cos it brought you more joy...Or maybe the guy dumped you cos he thought you f..ked too much. Well, don't accept one Doctor's opinion. Have another Doctor check you comprehensively. I believe you are still young and with proper treatment, your womb and organs would still heal or regenerate to allow a pregnancy. On the other hand, please have your husband checked for blank bullets.....it may not be your fault totally. I wish you good luck and God's Mercy nevertheless!
Praying for for u, so ur plain don't go missing. Save landing
Part of maturity is accepting your decisions. Accept that infertility could be a consequence of your actions. What about adoption? Parenting is loving an innocent child. It's not just birthing a baby. Open your mind to all the possibilities that are available to you.
Safe travels, Linda!
@Opelicious: Seriously,U̶̲̥̅̊ have spoken well,being a lady for that matter αηδ A̶̲̥̅♏ sure most ladies won't reason with these talks.Five abortions consecutively for one man is d most stupid αηδ disgusting act,§ø appalling! Who is to be blamed,a lady or a guy?.. ℓ̊ guess d ladies of course! A lady shd NOT be too carried away while she have sex wt her BF,it is foolishness on her part not to know what she wants αηδ d inability to wake up to reality.Men don't have anything to lose physically/psychologically unlike d ladies..EXcept for d sins both commited....Unmarried girls shd just use their "brains" αηδ limit their HUNGER for "natural big cock" that wears no boot/shoe 'nodding' its unreliable head of sweetness that makes a lady or girl to be carried away,all in d name of utmost pleasure αηδ gbogbo orgasms toh badd!!
Confess your sins to God and ask him for mercy. His mercy will grant your heart desire. If I may ask,have you told your husband? Please do! Satan can hold on to this to hold you down and accuse you of been unfaithful to your hubby . I see God helping you
Your SURE miracle lies in your forgiving him. Forgive him before asking God for forgiveness. Jesus said, if you dont forgive men God will not forgive u. Mat 6:14&15. Also forgive your self and dont feel terrible afterward. To feel terrible about a sin you commited and keep nursing it after asking God for forgiveness is to say you holier than God who forgave u. Do this and stand on good ground to nurse ur own child from God
five abortions for one man ... babe u try gan, and u still had the stomach to write him an his wife ... thats just plain stupidity. All u have now is God and u should stick to him..... Ladies think with ur head if a man loves u no matter what he will never suggest u have an abortion
I hope single girls will learn from your mistake.
Pls pray hard and believe in d mercy and miracle of God. Miracle do happen. Doctor has said his own but has God said his own? Please girls this is a lesson for u all. Please be mature in handling love. Most girls are too young to understand what love is all about. So they end up doing stupid things because they think is love. How can u have an abortion for a guy even once and u think u r doing it for love or the boy supported u because he loves I. Rubbish. Girls wake up and mothers too. This girls are most time 25 years old and in our modern world now, girls even ladies don't have common sense and they don't use their initiative
First give your life to christ, serve him with all your heart, not because of the children u hope to get from him, but because u accept the gift of salvation. The blessings of children will definately follow afterwards, God is a very merciful father. Just repent and be saved, it's never too late...
Yes act like a lady, think like a man
Let go and move on
Ask God for forgiveness and then His creative miracle
Which second time!??
Well, u hav commited it and u can't reverse it.but there is only a way out.which is accepting Jesus Christ into your life as ur lord and personal seviour. he still love u even with all u have done, he is still interested in making ur life and future beautiful.Why not take a bold step to him,he never condem u. Just accept him as ur lord and personal seviour and ur past is cancelled forever Say this prayers after me from the dept of ur heart,Lord jesus have mercy on me,im a sinner,forgive me my sin,wash me with the blood u shad for me on the cross,i receive u into my life as my lord and personal saviour.i believe u died for me,i believe my sins are forgiven and i believe im save. thank u for saving my soul IJN,Amen. call me if u dnt mind.08038604733 Evgt kingsley.Note;only Jesus can help u and he will help u.God bless u.
Its a painful situation and its easy to call her stupid and all other names. But a lot of the guys here have had their futures saved by the selfless services of these women who agree to terminate these pregnancies just so we can bother ourselves with either our blossoming careers or school. I am no saint, done it a few times in the past and im happy that the exes who did that are all married mothers now. Please all she needs is love, show her that, don't kill her with your innuendoes. You will have kids, hold on to whatever you believe in.
Even though the guy is a piece of shit, blame yourself for your predicament girl!!! You chose to abort, 5 TIMES!! You're a loser, typical story of thirsty chicks doing all they can to hang on to a LOSER of a man. It's your fault, live with it. The last advice is for you to pray fervently to ask God for forgiveness for killing all those other babies and ask him for a new beginning. I'm sure he will listen
I do not blame the guy at all... Its you i blame for taking it that far... Common 5 Abortion and you still think he was going to marry you... Even if it was me, that relationship would never lead to marriage because i already know that you might not even have kids again. Everything is your fault... And you also thinking writing a letter to your ex will solve the issue... It aint gonna solve anything. All you simply need to do right now is to pray and expect a miracle... The only person i pity is your husband who doesnt know that he bought the wrong market... even if am your friend and you tell me this, i will disfriend you instantly cos it means that you can even poison someone and have no guilt about it... Its your cross and not anyones... All i can say is that just turn your head back to God and expect a miracle
My dear, forget about the ex, people will judge you but you shouldn't worry about that because only God can judge. Pray to God to forgive you, He is merciful and mighty to save and with Him everything is possible.
Sowie U av to face †ђξ pain alone. Blaming U for those years won't help now. But stil, U did wrong then. Back to †ђξ now. U av to first, let go ☀f †ђξ anger u av for Ūя̲̅ ex nd is wife. Ask God for forgiveness nd stick to Ūя̲̅ doctor. Talk to God in prayers nd thanksgiving. Ūя̲̅ miracle mite just be closer than U tink. Safe trip Linda. Buy M̲̅e̲̅ Chocolate. ZB
Ope,true@above.however its more the men that want the skin to skin spewing all degrees of jargons from if you love me,you would allow to baby I can't cum if I'm not feeling you.
Her letter was probably just to hurt him thru his wife,hoping the wife would have some compassion.some of us her wise even when in love but trust me,the average Nigerian girl loses herself when she's in love.my daughter is being taught to love,honour,respect and all that crap but I do not hide the ways of men and their actions from her.
I am not surprised to see many hypocrites condemning you lady,but I love the bible so much cos its our standard for living. And Jesus answered and said unto them, 'let him who is without sin be the first to cast a stone... and when He looked up He said, woman where are your tormentors? And she said, 'they are gone Lord. And He answered and said unto her, NEITHER DO I CONDEMN YOU! GO AND SIN NO MORE! Your first solution is to avoid further sin by being angry with anyone! Run as fast as your legs can carry you to the Cross of Jesus! There is still room for even the worst of sinners there! The blood of Jesus washes brighter than snow and in Him there is wholeness for He said, 'I will make all things new! Marry your bible and believe the words you read! The doctor and the drugs are just channels, Jesus is the healer of the broken, mender of the spoiled, builder of the destroyed! Why not hand over all these in genuine repentance to Him and see him give you beauty for these ashes! Shalom
Safe trip Linda. Cant wait to have u back
Safe trip Linda, cant wait to have you back
@alloy,I pray you never have to face it.yes she's bearing her cross and God will lift it for her.its a lesson to women cos you men ARE wicked and without conscience.
mark my word, you'll have a child before the last day of 2015 if and only if you ABSOLUTELY forgive your ex,..waiting for your testimony!..good luck dear
KARMA IS A BITCH LYK BIAAAACCCHHH WAT DID U EXPECT ..LEAVE THE MAN AND HIS FAMILY ALONE OOOO!
this is a plight for many ladies. to be honest i have had more abortions than you. i deeply regret it and feel so lucky when i got pregnant within days of getting married. i know people who had just 1 and that was the end. i also know a friend who never had an abortion and doesnt have a child after 4 years of marriage. all is fate.
if you are the rich type or can afford it, come over to the UK or go to the developed country to get medical assistance. they are trying very much now.
ignore everyone judging you here and the hypocrites as well. Move closer to God and pray about it. whether you want to tell your husband or not depends on u and how you think your husband will handle it.
please know in your mind and be prepared to face some challenges in your marriage because of this. NO mother in law will hear this and allow his son to continue in hope of being childless.
leave your ex and his family alone, have you thought about the fact that they can forward that message to your husband whom you havent told? thats an evidence against you for life
i wont put my name here. i just want you to know i feel for you
Forgiveness, atonement, pray, moving forward, knw ur ovulation period, see obgyn, fuck ya man well well. ivf not bad. U go born twins or triplets
What are you hating him for? Is he the one who asked you to be a bigger nincompoop and not use protection? So you were stupid enough to get pregnant the first time, you are definitely a dunce and mentally challenged to have gotten pregnant three more times after that
May God forgive you and allow you to have children. Lesson to all ladies, you cannot use pregnancy to trap a man into marrying you- that's so 1990s
Now he's married to another woman with three kids and you are hating? You should be hating yourself for being stupid. Ode oshi
I'm a woman just like you. It doesn't take much to use what God gave you between your ears. It's called a brain and meant to be utilised appropriately
Nigerians and hypocrisy! Falling pregnant then just shows you are very fertile. You could have brought the kids to this world and you wouldn't have been able to take care of them. Different reasons for people having abortion. The fact that your ex now has his own kids and you are yet to have doesn't me you can't and won't have your own kids. Stay stead fast and trust in God and believe that nothing is impossible in life.
A lot of doctors abroad will tell you not to worry. As long as you continue to have natural and steady monthly flows and you are ovulating which you can check by having the progesterone Day 21 test, FSH and LH test done and they come out fine, then there should be no cause for alarm. Sometimes, the man might be the problem but we live in a society where people believe where there is no child in a marriage then, the woman should always be blamed. 40% of the time, the problem is with the man. Has your partner done a sperm count test?
Knowledge they say is power. Don't just be treating yourself, the two of you should get help. My own piece of advice
Its well, all you need do is forgive and turn to GOD. Visit Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministries for prayers.
And what concerns me? When you are doing that 'thing', did ever think of consulting me or Linda?. Now you are in dilemna because you have eaten your cake and you want to have it back. #Smello
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it's so sad. But what i will advise you do is to get closer to God. The bible says if any man be in christ, he is a new creature. The bible further says seek ye first the kingdom of God and EVERY other thing shall be added to u....Kneel before him , confess your sins and become a new you entirely. Old things will pass away and Ever thing will become new. God still works miracle.Even in the midst of our in perfection, his mercies endures forever
'Once bitten, twice shy' , it's not beaten. Lol
Did he rape u? U were the 1 that opened ur kini more than 5 times & allowed him without condom. Plus u have murdered 5 children aka u boh are murderers. For u to get help from God, u need to change this ur attitude. U need serious repentance. Chai! Abortion 5 times! God help these poor guys that marry all these worn out babes o. Na real wa
Lindi baby....safest trip....May your plane not be lost. Land well, and have fun. Do buy me a gift;a wrist waatch or handbag. Thanchu darl.
We've all made silly mistakes and decisions, sometimes they come back to hunt us in different ways. Life goes on babe, what's the point contacting your ex? Not like he's going to fix anything or make life better for u. Cast ur gaze on God and plead for his mercy. No stone is too big or difficult for God to turn.
am so sorry ma dear,,this things happen...kindly have a heart to heart discussion wit your hubby,pray ernestly to God for forgiveness.forgive yourself too..forget the other guy..focus on the medication too since the doc promise to help...and linda pls i need oyoyo wen u comin back,,,no fall ma hand,safe trip dear
Premarital Sex?........Flee. I havent seen the benefits yet.
how can u do 5 abortions. u keep killing those kids now u need dem. too late to cry. just go to church n ask God for forgiveness
You had 5 abortions in 4 years and he's the nimcompoop? Also..lemme get this straight..you actually emailed a married ex and CC'd his wife? What exactly was this email supposed to achieve short of causing discord in his home. After you had the 1st, 2nd and 3rd abortions for him..u couldn't get on the pill or something? You had to keep letting him release inside you..maybe thinking that it would nourish your skin..now u blame him for mistakes you both made. Madam, you actually sound like a pretty stupid woman to me, Infact I'm sure of it. But your present predicament calls for a lot of prayer and treatment. There is nothing God cannot do. Bitterness and hate will solve nothing. There are specialists who specialize in this sort of stuff. Wish you all the best..sincerely
It's not the end of the world
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awww honey well i'm sure by now u know u made a stupid mistake. pray dat God nd ur murdered Children will forgive u. #walksaway. Lindodo pls just get me nyc size 10 dresses nd size 11 shoes. Safe trip by d way.
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