I am a 20 year old woman living in the UK and also studying here. My parents have been at war since I can remember and I have to rely on my siblings to take care of me, I am reluctant to ask them though as everyone works hard and times are difficult.
I have had my fair share of horrible boyfriends in the past few years, I have dated so many stingy men that would not give me a penny but I am usually not bothered about this as I don't date men because of their money. I have although since decided to remain single and just have the usual one night stand because I am tired of the constant heartbreak and pain. Until recently.
I recently got introduced to a married man and the
initial plan was to have him spend on me, I didn't want to but as I was
about to be kicked out of my flat for lack of payments I did what I had
to. I wasn't going to go any further with him but he turned out to be
really nice. I tried to cut contact with him but unfortunately he
had fallen head over heels in love with me. If he doesn't see me or hear
from me in an hour he becomes frantic and agitated. He tells all his
friends here in the Uk about me, takes me to their houses and introduces
me as his girlfriend.
This is a man with a wife and 4 beautiful children
whom I happen to know very well through him introducing me to them. He
keeps saying he would make me his second wife which of course I don't
believe and always has sex with me unprotected despite my refusal.
Also he has not given me any more money since he paid my rent for the
owed 2 months, any time I ask him he gives one excuse or the other, even
paying for my cab to wherever is too much to ask of him. I desperately
want to get out of it but now I think I might be pregnant for him.
I'm so confused about the next step, I'm scared if I
tell him I'm pregnant he'll disappear but I also can't take care of a
child on my own as I have not even graduated from university. I've
thought about going to tell his wife but I'll just be labelled a home
wrecker and loaded with all the blame. Please what do I do?
381 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 381 of 381Congrats girl,though not good enough but what can we do,the knife has cut the child's finger and you threw away the knife .Hasn't the knife done caused a havoc.
Girl have your baby ,conclude your school to get a good job and start your life afresh with God with guidance by God.
All the best.
Congratulations!
At least when u are 35,ur child will be 15years...perfect!
U went there for the cash and lost focus and fell in love,the result is a beautiful baby.
#lesson of the day:even while stealing,remain focused.
I walk away.#
ok where do i start from...you say you dint have money and you felt sleeping with a married man was the best way to make it...not only did you sleep with him, you couldn't even protect yourself and to make matters worse, he wasn't even giving you the money you thought you would get from him and you were still sleeping with him UNPROTECTED and now you think you are pregnant, you aint even sure!!!! chai! may God help you.
You never see anything! You said what you are-home wrecker. Thank God you actually knew he's married with kids and not ashamed of saying you know his wife and kids. Karma is a bitch! Your education will have to be on hold, that's what you signed for idiot! So wetin you want make we do? Ode!
This is what you should do, 1. leave the man. 2. Have the child cos i can't advice otherwise. 3. Differ your admission and Go get yourself a job. 4.I think you also need to get a life, cos from your statement you sound grossly incoherent.
At age 20, you've had several boyfriends....and am wondering when you started dating.
Na only you dey live for UK..I must give you garri chop not milk...Look I was kicked out of my brother's house too..I went to look for hotel job to do my dear don't be lazy and get you ass outta the house, go to gumtree.com , look for hot jobs do them , pay your rent , manage yourself, go to ASDA , TECSO , SAINSBURY , buy from there , if you live in south east , go to woolwich , Peckham buy cheap African food woman and stop looking for some UK dude to take care of you.I schooled and worked like the money will finish in the market , I have a friend it happened to her , 1 month after she gave birth she started working, she was breast feeding a 4 month baby and she was still working despite the fact that Her Parents were rich...WAKE UP WOMAN... look for Jobs @ WESTFEILD STRATFORD, SHEPHERD BUSH Can you imagine what stupid excuses, go and work oh...Am a dude , I never slept with anyone in the UK and am not gay , keep yourself zip up , have pride , face your studies..can you imagine ? Someone wey don marry wey never choip or pay hin mortgage na him you dey have unprotected sex with if not that you want to clinch on him to get papers or what? You wan collect benefit? Remember the LAWS have change you better go to JOBPLUS ...JOB CENTER...Anyways ME I don do my time for UK , am in Nija hussling wake up...Linky Linky ..Abeg tell am oh!
Mistake have been done.abortion is out of it.do u marry him as second wife,my answer is capital NO
Awwwww it could happen 2 any1 U know,sometimes we do crazy stuffs for love.Am not goina judge U 1 bit cos it could b me.God will help U out of d situation
Wen s.williams said young girls should stop putting dem selves in some difficult situations, u guyz insulted her. Smh
You are a fool 4 getting pregnant 4 a married man. U obviiously wanna b a second wife.
first post yaaay................Please you need to get your head out of the clouds 1st step
1st post yaaaay..............get your head out of the clouds young lady
Talk about all kinds of stupid...Ask God for forgiveness and end that dead end relationship ASAP!
first post yaaay................Please you need to get your head out of the clouds 1st step
Deliver the baby and give up the baby for adoption. learn the lesson and move on. tell the man and yes, he will run away but you live in the UK so the system will make him fend for the baby. it will be hard on you but you have to pay for your actions whether good or bad. The most important thing is to learn from it and you become a better person not a bitter person. all the best.
YOU ARE A CAPITAL FOOL! get rid of the bastard u are carrying and close your legs to married men!
U are an idiot. Well d only thing to do z kill ursef whore
Wrongest blog to write your misreable story,na beta abuse you go collect I believe linda ppl. At 20 you have all dis stories to tell,my dear better borrow youself small sense. Aunty linda if u like dnt post dis comment too,afteral na ur way.
Why would you have sex with a married man...to the extent of being pregnant for him...this is a HELL! NO....well my advice is d@ u call to him urslf nd pray before u do so.tml
Ashawo....tule tule omo.
Clap for ur self for opening ur legs wide apart for a married man. go n give thanksgiving also for being a home breaker. ur punishment is to ur 10th generation.
Your def in som srz trouble,r u upset cos ur preggers or cos d man has stoped giving u moni? Lady u dated a married man wit 4 kids, slpt wit him witout protection, wat where u excpecting???
you are just a fool..Gerrout jeree..
Na wa o
Going to tell his wife what? So that what can happen?
You sound daft, are you pregnant or not? If you are, you know what to do but I'm going to spell it out for you. Get rid of the pregnancy.
You are a stupid girl and I can see it will be easy for men to take advantage of you. Face your studies, find dignified ways of making money, close your legs or use protection if you must open them. Otherwise, it might be HIV next time.
First of all, make sure u r preggers and if u r, tell him first and then remove it coz it's your fault for dating a married man in the first place. Act fast
sorry g dt my adivce for is to keep it
fOOL........
You are in big shit my dear but whatever you do DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE.
Tell him sha and next time if you must date a married man make sure he's loaded. Btw don't they have child support laws over there?
Are you a learner? You are sleeping with a married man for FREE gosh you are just a dumbass.
u ppl ar very funny. u were fully involvd in sex all tru and was fully `enjoyin` urself waitin for wen it gets bad so u can rush to LIB and ask `men and brethren wat can i do`. My ansa lyke Peter told dem, beliv in GOD and be again.
My dear young lady, it is obvious you are looking for love and acceptance, but in the wrong places. Finish ur school & u will have ur pick of any man u want. Now get a job, and pay ur bills. If you are pregnant tell ur family for moral support (especially ur mum) tell the man if he can pay child support otherwise give the baby up for adoption.more importantly,get tested for HIV if negative, stay away from further risk and plan for ur future. If are a citizen u might get social security but wharever u do, don't depend on any man; fend for yourself!!!!!!!!!
If u r not sure of ur Self with him don't keep d pregnancy except u want to ve a white man baby.focus on ur Education,understanding d time is what makes u a commander n u need a lion's heart to get into ur cannaan!thanks
Kill yourself,bitch
That's what to do.
2 rid the world of one more dumb n unstable being
Thanks for your corporation
Prayers sometimes can open doors of understanding... But in times like this you need to decide what you and you a parent that advise in whatever decisions you make.
WELCOME TO THE HARSH REALITY - LEARNER¿¡
Oh dear!!!!
When I saw the title of the story, I felt for you, because I know how african married men in the UK go around without their ring and most of them dont even look married because they work-out a lot and eat well. I have come across them a million times over. But the ultimate thing is to cut off once you realise their marital status. I met one a couple of months back and I had to leave him. It was hard, because he had all the qualities I wanted in a man and he was understanding, spent lavishly on me and incredibly mature. But I had to do what I had to do.
So sweetheart, I dont mean to judge, but I must say: You did not do well!!!!!
To begin with, a married man can never be in love with you, especially if he is Nigerian, if he was White, there might be a possibility. (He only used you to gain the sexual pleasures, which he might not be gaining from his wife, because he is tired of her body, but that does not mean he does not love her, he chose her out of all other women to share his life with). I guess from his recent behaviour, you now know.
You should have left him when you got the rent (which I dont support) but, I believe it was quite important to you, but you got too addicted.
Why did you allow him to sleep with you without using a condom? common its free in the UK, quality ones for that matter. If you dont like the feel of condoms, you should have used contraceptives (they are free too).
So dear, if you are pregnant, tell him about it, its his child, there are not two ways about it.
You are stupid period! You've had Your share of "stingy boyfriends" child! You're 20!!!!!!! WT..? Talking about "One night stands" and dating "married men". You're too dumb to do a pregnancy test so "You think You might be pregnant" and You're stupid whoring behind has the guts to "want to tell he's wife" You're a plain IDAAT!
Pray to God to come to your aid. Also, I'm sure the UK government can help if you tell them u're a single mother.
Abeg just read your story all over again!
are you seriously asking for advise?
Ika ni e! (you are wicked)
you should bury your head in shame.
We are almost in th same shoes except that am not pregnant yet but in your case can't you just lie about you being ill,get some money & abort the baby...(
Sweetheart you are very stupid. (I'm really sorry).. am i the only who runs away wrn i gt introduced to married men?? Why because karma or payback is a fat bitch! I dont want to gt married and lose my husband to some chic in future.
Bk to ur story.. again are that dumb and gullible? 1st of all (please dont go down low).. you've had ur fair share of boys.. yet u keeping bk
2) you dnt date them for money. Ok wat do u date them fr? Sex.. cnt u close ur legs? Companionship? Jesus sent us the Holy ghost to be our comforter.. why cnt u tell him ur problems?
3.. he introduced u to his frnds.. so wat? He may nt b real. Na today shit dey smell.
4) na evn ds one dey pain me pass.. he sleeps with ur damn ass without protection.. and u nor talk? You lay dwn dre like mugu! Now ur pregnant or so u think.. and u bring it to us here.. where we there wen he was doing throwing u up and down.. flinging u left,right and center.
Girl! Do a test to be sure first. Dnt go to his family evn wen its positive that ur silly ass is pregnant! DO NOT ABORT THAT BABY! Next time you will face ur books instead of love/boys and sex
Jst kill urself
First O̶̷̩̥̊͡Ƒ al,Ʊ wher vry wrong sleepn wt a married man I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ d first place let alone goin unprotectd.deir re S̶̲̥̅Ơ͡ many jobs Ʊ cld hv bn doin deir as deir re more chances O̶̷̩̥̊͡Ƒ getn work uk is nt naija Ʊ knw.Evn if Ȋ̝̊̅†̥ means workn I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ a restauarnt n βε̲̣ goin to sch as wel bt deir is no nid apportionin blames nw. Ʊ hv to go to test n confirm Ȋ̝̊̅†̥ n if its positive den Ʊ hv to tel d man.also get urself a job no matter wat n give birth to dat child.abortion is nt an option at al,its risky,Ʊ cld die frm Ȋ̝̊̅†̥,God may neva forgive Ʊ if Ʊ kil dt innocent child. If Ʊ cnt tk care O̶̷̩̥̊͡Ƒ d child wen its born.Ʊ cn kip Ȋ̝̊̅†̥ wt child welfare.....n Ʊ cn cme bck ƒσя dt child wen ųя able to stand on ųя own.also, Ʊ cn tk a bold step n tel ųя siblings d̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ wil help n d̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ wldnt wan deir own sis I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ dt kind O̶̷̩̥̊͡Ƒ sitution. Den face ųя studies graduate n start a more decent work. Also pray to God ƒσя assistnce cos Ȋ̝̊̅†̥ won't βε̲̣ easy.
Times are hard, I really Understand your Situation. But U should understand men before Opening your legs. Getting Pregnant for a Married man Is not Good. Y̶̲̥̅̊o̶̲̥̅̊и̣̣̣̣̥ should have protected yourself at least. Men are wicked oh
jst lyk dreams u ave nt bin d first bt let hym knw dn find out hys actions
GET A VIBRATOR AND STAY OFF THE OPPOSITE SEX
Focus on your studies/life/career and self sustainability for now. If you end up a liability and always need a man to take care of you then you'll be worse than useless.
If prostitution or one of it's forms is your idea of sustaining yourself, then you're on the right path.
Times are hard, I really Understand your Situation. But U should understand men before Opening your legs. Getting Pregnant for a Married man Is not Good. Y̶̲̥̅̊o̶̲̥̅̊и̣̣̣̣̥ should have protected yourself at least. Men are wicked oh
you are a bastard
Mayb u should open up ζŏ him.
I will advice u call ur man, sit him down nd talk 2 him like a father. Calling the wife is not d best option, he should b d one to talk 2 his wife not u.... Aunty linda post my comment o.
You are a greedy and foolish girl! You stay in the uk right! What happend to working your ass off shit jobs! If I recall you say you also wanna call the man's wife.... You must be a very wicked person! First of all' turn the tables around n ask yourself one question' if you are the man's wife what would you do! I honestly don't understand why girls of today are so unbearably stupid! My dear! Am sure you know he would bang the life out of your pussy till the rent he paid is complete! Can't stop laughing at a silly n naive 20yrs old girl ! Hmmmmmm!! U better come back to Niga n take care of the belly!! U know how abortion dey go for UK now
Go and abort it! U dey ask again?
You are a big fool i dont pity you..
Waiting for the comments. Dis one pass me
All the times ur leg was opened u didn't realize u could get pregnant. Anyways it has happened, you would have to face the consequences so be prepared to be a mother has u ve no choice than to take care of the baby
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My dear tnk God u know he has kids and den he stopped taking care of u its very clear he won't be needing dat baby so u go flush d child may God forgive us but I don't really tnk u hv beta option now.
Abortion it is.
Don't wanna be harsh, buh u are already on d verge of being a home wrecker.
congratulations. take it u are one of d so called runz girls aka prostitutes. first of all u brand ur ex boyfriends as stingy but yet u dont date them for money and ur introduced to a married man with 4 kids n u go ahead with it. do u guyz have no self dignity @ all. u lot are just irritating. deal with ur mess bitch. glorified HOE. dat is what u are
My dear,our story seems to be very similar But i think mine is worse.Am from a poor home in Nigeria,my mother is very hardworking,she struggled to raise money for me to come to Uk.Hmmm here i am struggling all alone,house rent,phone bill,gas bill,electricity,school fees,transportation and so on all by myself with a per time job.SAD isn't?The married guy am dating is very greedy,even i asked him for something He get really upset. don't know what to do
Jus go nd die,husband snatcher!!!shameless gal sleeping with a married man!!!.nemesis has finally catch up on you
Your Head no correct. Se you like prick well well? Oya continue to dey fuck na! You are so unbelievable. What happened to contraceptives? They free in the UK at any sexual health clinic or at your gp. Also you date a married man with aewife at home and 4 kids? At age 20 and he keeps going in and out of your honey pot without even looking after you (na yoruba men way be dat for London) even your student visa will fetch you a 20hrs job at least but you choose to give your puss to a father of 4 for free (you are a learner) You have 2 options 1: keep the baby and suffer correct suffer but your child will be worth it in the end. 2: See your gp and make an appointment to get it terminated. If you do, run far from that man cos if his wife hears, you know how it is. You in some deep shit girl. You will age instantly by another 20 years.
Babes una get mind, u know the wife and kids, u have really gone far with him. U alone can answer your question.
By the time you stay another 5 years in UK and you no learn, you go done get like 20 belle. (Baby mama things). Men in England are full of shit. Sorry girl but the decision is yours.
may God protect all our little girls from these predators and bless them with contentment and closed legs, virtue, wisdom and self-respect. u are not a baby, u have laid ur bed, now, enjoy the lie.
Well, it has happened and there is nothing u can do about it other than confront him or if u can't, go to one of his friends u claimed he introduce u †Φ.
Carry your cross alone just like Jesus Christ did. Thank God you are old enough,every adult has the right to make a decision and must deal with the outcome of it.
When you were fcuking and moaning non if us heard,even when you were cuming you enjoyed it alone. All the sweet words on the phone and texts you did alone without telling us.
Why come asking daddy for advise on what you never wanted him to know?
Plz u r very stupid...carry ur dirty cross, did u tell us when u started ur r/s? There is a curse for every woman that sleeps with a married man n vis a vis incase you don't know.You just dished out the food you made...
You are an idiot! Go and get a life u slut! Home wrecker oshi!
'I THINK I MIGHT BE PREGNANT' U'RE NOT EVEN SURE. U COMFORTABLY FUCKED A MARRIED MAN TILL HE GOT U PREGNANT. WHAT EXACTLY DO U WANT FROM US NOW? HOPE U GET THE HELP U NEED. I'M OUT.
I guess you are a Nigerian, and my advice is this, Nigerians in London/UK are generally very very stingy. That's my advice. I hope I've been helpful enough.
Hello Confused lady, I might be preggy does not really mean anything to me, act like an intelligent gurl, get a PT, then we can talk. But whatever the outcome, pls don't wreck another Woman,s home n marriage. Omooba says so
U are a very stupid and shameless girl. No dignity in u! I rily av noting to say to u. U need spiritual cleansing and infact God's forgiveness! SHAME!
No use procastinating or worrying over what u don't know yet. Confirm if u r pregnant, if u are tell him. If he refuses, then u gotta woman up and prepare to be a single parent. And he might step up to his l, u never know
You are just plain stupid. At your age you already have long list of 'ex-es'. You say you don't date men for their money so why are you complaining about him not giving you money or paying for Your cab?
You say you wanted to break it off but he was too in love with you, you must be a fool or you think everyone else is stupid.
Sister abort the baby and move on. Next time be wise.
Young lady ur realy in a whole lot of trouble,r u upset cos ur preggers? or becos d man isn't giving u moni anymore? U slept wit a man without a condom,wat did u expect? For som1 dat lives in d uk, u sound realy naïve. #linda pls post my comment#
NNe He always has sex with me unprotected despite my refusal.
Abeg na rape? You can't say no?? Ha na wa o
Feel sorry for u tho, bt the thing is any gurl sleeping wit a married to me is a NO,cus u will b paid in full when d time comes..... Pls dance to ur tune
Why so cheap??? Tofiakwa
Honestly I don't know....
Ode
Swthrt, I can only imagine ur situation, I can also remember being "20" and confused. My advise to u are these 1. Having a baby is a no no. Tell d bastard to give u money for aborrion. Dnt figit wen u say it. And make sure u get d money, even if it means creating a scene. 2. And who d hell told u married men have money to spend on lil girls. Dat is one big lie dat has turned so many young girls into prostitutes today. Dey av to think about school fees, rent, beer,etc b4 thinking of ur needs. If sex is d probs, dey can easily get it 4rm their wife, who will be very happy to give it to dem. 3. Get a job, whatever kinda job dat can feed u & change ur undies @ least.even if its sweeping d streets. There is dignity in labour. 4. Turn to God, memeorise and recite Joshua 1 vs 8 if u are a christian. 5. Trust no one but urself & love urself more dan any other breathing humanbeing. If boys break ur hrt, pls stay without a boy/manfriend. Its not a must to av some1 in ur life. I wish u all d best.
abort the baby bitch
Hmmm..quit a partetic situation...however, your inconsistency negates your moral standards..pls, don't geet rid of the pregnancy...tell the man..4hould he refused you..then like its said some mestake you just have to live with...guess that becomes your portion...I pray the heavenly father help sort you out
its very easy to get a free abortion in the uk - why are you so confused
Lol! Is she for real?
Mumu ni e ,at ur age ,u no get brain ....
Hmmm, you need God in ur life not all these trash and mess coming from you. I pray God to save the life of the innocent baby u r carrying, because u can do anything now to get rid of him/her.
U re a fool for sleepin wit him without protection btw u don't ve to be scared since u said he can't do without seein u or hearin frm u.guess d news ll berra ur relatinship wit him home wrecker oshi!
LIB readers de vex o!! Lmao.. "U r an idiot" "a very stupid geh" "home wrecker" etc... Hahahahaaaaa so funny....... But chill fess, how many of una r sinless? Hmmmm
Smh....trust me dearie, no need worrying ur pregnant head abt coming to tell me...i know you very very well(or u tot i didnt get wind of ur stupid liason with hubby dear?lol!)my advice to u?go get urself tested for HIV cos i doubt if u didnt also pick that up from the useless bastard cos yes,i did. I dont even have the time to go chasing after all his numerous acts(whom fyi,all his so-called friends also know off),i only regret getting married to such a despicable man; i pray fervently for my children even after this divorce pulls thru cos ur dear married man hasnt heard the last of this issue of infecting me. i wish u all d very best.
What to say! Hmmmmm, well u have 2 options, abort d child or kip it and be ready to take kia of it all by urself cos dis man no go drop money oooo!
U all shd stp putin blaims on her.she's here 4 an advice nt 4 u guys shd be callin her all kinds of names....who among u dat r ladies dat hvnt dated a married man n who among u can hit ya chest n say u've nvr been preg b4 neither once,twice etc.....if u cnt advice her den u keep ur dirty mouth shut and as 4 u men,4 God sake keep your gun inbtw ya legs 4 ya wife.respect ur wives n stp cheatin bcus u might giv ya wife HIV bcus it is said dat is married men dat hv d highest num dat got HiV....be warned....sexy dee
You are very mad.if you are in are shoe will do an abortion.think like a human being.
there is madness on this wall look @ Anonymous 4:17 PM advicing to have an abortion and preaching joshua 1 vs 8. are u dizzy. we need to get real
Annon 4:55pm you are stupid. I am a lady and i have never dated a married man nor be stupid enough to get pregnant out of wedlock. Girl is a retard. Anyways wifey has said it all, girl you also got HIV as a bonus! All the best.
first of all he's obv not going to leave his wife for you.. if u feel you cant look afta a child there are various options open to you especially in the UK..you've got adoption or abortion... please contact your GP talk to them about it and trust me you'll be able to work something out. Whatever you choose though make sure you're able to live with the choice you make.
if you really pregnant and you cant have the child, abortions are free in the UK provided u are registered with the NHS and legal until you are 24 weeks... go on google and do some research you'll find something either on abortions or adoptions.. and as for the guy you can do so much better.. good luck
All u throw insults at her n callm names, she's realized she made a mistake and needs ur help nt judgemts...and to the girl it has happend, so u need to tell ur family and get ready for more insults and despair, tho frm ur family diz time.
@ anchor..sorry, how is it possible to be in a relationship without sex?
Hey, hey!!! She asked for advice not insults. How does your insults make her life better? Its like kicking.a person who is already flat on her face.
Where about are you in UK? I can hook you up with a rich man.....
So far you ain't ugly.
O my God! This girl is so STUPID! Your life don pafuka!
BIG FOOL
Oh girl did u just come to uk, u havent heard ofoto london boy style. The moment u tell him her will discharge, u decide to keep the baby ur on ur own, u tell his wife she and her vampireworld friends will dealer wit u. Trust mě in have been here fóra almost 20 years and its just the regular style here you were just fuck for him and her wont give u a penny. He will move on to the next victim
Abegy, come Abuja ur type plenty!!!!
You're a greedy moron. Simple as that.
You're a greedy moron. Simple as that.
hi linda please if this story is true i would like you to send the following instructions
1. please dont abort the baby there are people out there who might never have children (like me) besides it will never change the fact of what happened
2. i have included a list of links were she would get help and counselling, accommodation and support.
http://www.lifecharity.org.uk/home/?fn=
http://homeless.org.uk/women#.UcXi0vbF1F8
3. visit gumtree for cheap accommodation
4. speak to your school counsellor they will be very helpful
please do these things and ignore negative comments that could lead to an even more agonising situation.
take care from a concerned friend
My Parents are separated, i currently live abroad, i am student,i took me a year to find a menial job... before i found a job i had to sleep with a couple of married men to pay my tuition fee and rent.... i got pregnant once, i had exams at the same time, i was ashamed of myself, my topmost secret, but i had to abort the pregnancy cos i wasn't emotionally and financially ready for a baby. Now God has blessed with a very good job within Oil and Gas in the UK... I recommend you abort the pregnancy.... pray and trust in God to send you your destiny helper,people that can help u without exploiting your body...i would pray for you. God's favour and protection would never depart from you. please do not sleep with Married men again for any reason... in the end....its not worth it...take care of you.
marie claire provides free abortion. ask your GP for referral.
I will advice u tell him to knw his respons/reaction.Wot eva he says will determine ur action. But must tell ur parents cos to me,abortion is not an option. Are u tired of fake hairs? Why not grab high quality,money-back guarantee hairs. Just ping and they 're all yours! Pin: 2906ADBB
It cant be denied that this girl is by all means at fault, but please people dont judge. If you havent lived ALONE in the UK, you wont understand what loneliness can do.
If you have lived ALONE in the UK, then you would agree with me saying that you would mind how you tell people to mind their business. An old lady lay dead in her flat in Edinburgh, for five years and no one knew
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1197314/Woman-85-lay-dead-flat-years-noticed-missing.html
Girl, your sucking up to a married man sounds annoying, especially after you got the rent you were looking for. But I am attributing it to loneliness.
Come on girl, he is married, no matter how lonely you were. Dont you have any morals? Did your Mother not teach you any? If it was that bad you would have used sex toys.
Anyways, the deed has been done. Abortion seems like the fastest way out, but remember it is a sin and what is wrong is wrong, no matter the circumstance. You have no excuse, because you willingly engaged in unprotected sex without taking the necessary precautions. If you know how a dick feels, then you are not a child, no matter your age.
May God be with you......
Eddie, U̶̲̥̅̊ ar a Beast!
U must b very wicked for suggesting she shud go tell his wife even if it might wreck his home as a second option.may ur home be wrecked by a 20year old bitch too..m
Ahahahaaaa real comic relief....h
Nd part of the things u r not proud of dat u hav done is wreck another womans home abi....dnt woRry karma will get back at u.. a
I will advice u tell him to knw his respons/reaction.Wot eva he says will determine ur action. But must tell ur parents cos to me,abortion is not an option. Are u tired of fake hairs? Why not grab high quality,money-back guarantee hairs. Just ping and they 're all yours! Pin: 2906ADBB
Ahahahaaaa real comic relief....h
U must b very wicked for suggesting she shud go tell his wife even if it might wreck his home as a second option.may ur home be wrecked by a 20year old bitch too..m
First of all, I am concerned about the health of the LIBer. Check yourself for HIV and Hep. HOw can you at the age of 20 talk about "I have had my own fair share of horrible relationships?" Really? You are supposed to have started fucking at no earlier than 20, not having an unwanted preggy for a sleazy married man looking for where to lay cootie life-ending maggoty eggs. If youve had a couple of sexual relationships by this age, you could not have had a good relationship in any of them. You were never mature enough to have one and you have been molested as a child and should seek counseling. There is no way that you would have known what to expect or do in relationships below the age of brain maturity. This is very sad. I am Nigerian and fiercely beautiful. I am a mulattress and hotly sought after as you know Naija men crave yellow paw paw. HOWEVER, I opened my legs for the first time when I was 20. Since that time till now (age = 42), I have only had 3 men in my life. I love sex and would have it everyday if I could but honey, not at the expense of my HEALTH and SELF Worth. See a psychiatrist and a doc, please. You are not the first woman to receive offers from many men. Hold ya pussy before it starts leaking smelly fluid aka cervical cancer. Get a grip girl!
Must u alwayz fuck... Srzly, u r just a bitch... Stop blaming ur parents and d hardship for ur misfortune.... I kno gals who r very broke in UNN (wher I gradtd from) and dey r not yet dead... U r a HOE.... Oshi bitch lyk dis.... Gerrout abeg.... Go an fuck more
If u kill yrself God go ask u, if u kill d pikin, He go still ask u =double punishment. Am talking to d girl dat doesn't date men bcos of money , yet a married man pays for yr flat, instead of u to look for a job to support yrself and face yr studies, no, na for sugar daddy to dey sleep wit u without condom . If he is hiv positive, u don't know. Even some of us wey dey naija still dey try. Upon d hardship here, our head still correct. So u mean say u fit bold go tell yr sugar daddy wife say u fuck her husband so tey u come get belle? Wat of if he pour hot water or acid for yr face or d belle? fear no dey catch u, abi? Come if u love yrself , you better keep d baby and keep quiet and pray for forgiveness. Go find work for the places wey dis broda mention so dat u fit save money wait d pikin . 9months notice is enough notice. byeeeeeeee
Well I won't judge u tho u were wrong. Give birth 4d man, be a single mom.
~D great anonymous!
I am sure the girl is a catholic. that must be why she is averse to the usage of condoms.Pope come see wetin you cause o.
i dont even understand people
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Since you asked for an advise, here it goes, you have sinned by committing adultery,so the first thing to do is, seek the face of our heavenly father and he forgives our sins. Since you said that you are broke and can't take care of yourself, their is no need to punish the child, so check the adoption agency in UK or even USA and go through that route, please and please do not abort, that is another sin and I know people that are looking for a child. Forget the route of second wife or still dating the married guy. Focus more on God, so that all your hurts and disappointment can be forgiven by you. Forgive yourself and let the past be past. Focus on your studies and trive to achieve the best. Do not depend on any man, the best advise given to me by my father. You have to work harder now, since their is no route that is easy, look for jobs, partime, fulltime, under the table(by cleaning houses for people), just work and work until u get results. Seek yeah first the kingdom of God and eveything shall be added unto you. It works. Take care and God bless you.
Shut up! All u calling her a home wrecker. Did she tie d man? Is he not d one on her case? Na today married man begin chase small small girls? Mscheew! As if u ppl ddnt follow married men in yr time.
My dear, I won't sit here and condemn u. I know he seemed like d only option to ur accommodation prob. U r young, u made a mistake and u r confused. If u hv a child for Dt man, u will suffer. I think he is taking advantage of u and u r too young to realize it. My advice, abort that baby, move on and get a job to help urself for broke times so u don't make such wrong decisions anymore. Please, cut off ur relationship with that man. Pele.
Thank you for this comment. Leave all these judgemental ppl blaming d poor girl. Rubbish!
Pls how?
Choi! See English ooh
U guys should keep on insulting the girl and acting like u have never made mistakes. Some of u have gone this path b4 even with ur bf u had. Unprotected sex n it might have been u in her shoes being pregy at 20 without proper support.
My dear , weigh the safest option and never go this path again. Also look un2 God for help.
Pls no more insults on her Cus she already had a bad childhood.
You mentioned he introduced you to his wife and four kids and yet you went ahead to have unprotected sex with him. You definitely created the problem with your own hands so "fight to a better end".
You choose to be with a married man so deal with it. Are this story even real sometime? Because I can't believe Linda will waste a page of dis BS when some country are dealing with state of emergency and we hve Nigerians in that city
It Ȋ̝̊̅§ obvious the man was after your waist.
Wait a minute, @ age 20 u can not even count how many men have slept with you? That means you be ashawo. Am sure if you finds a solution †̥ this one №w, you are still going for the man's grandfather. Giving you an advise Ȋ̝̊̅§ just wasting of time.
Not anymore , things are tough in the UK now . Access to welfare is very difficult and if you even get it is no where near enough .
My dear, Please ABORTION is and will neve be the best option. There are loads of women out there is looking for the fruit of the womb. You don't know what might happen tomo. So when next time you wish to offer advice please don't notadvice for abortion rather you should should condone it. Someone out there would love and cherish the baby. The best option will be to give it up for adoption esp in the UK where the govt can help too. Thank you
I have you see this. First off, is to realise that you made a terrible mistake and make a firm decision never to do this again. Secondly, tell the guy, if he's not interested or if you feel you still won't be able to take 'proper' care of thr child with his help then please give the child up for adoption. There are lots of loving families that would loving families out there and even some that would allow you keep in touch...
My dear, you are young. Youth (for most people) means naivete. If you HONESTLY wanted nothing to do with this married man, you shouldn't have picked up his calls.
He could have given you more than a pregnancy. STDs and HIV come to mind.
Anyway, now that you are pregnant, you have three choices: abortion, adoption, or being a single parent. Abortion frees you from parental responsibility but many women bear emotional scars for life. As for adoption, not all women are strong enough to give their baby up after giving birth. There is a strong emotional attachment that develops during the nine months of pregnancy and you may find that you want to keep the baby. As a single parent myself, I can honestly tell you that raising a child alone is incredibly difficult. You will definitely struggle financially.
Whichever your decision, you have to consider the pros and cons. Do NOT rely on the words of the man you got pregnant for!!! He may not be there once the child is born. Make this decision with the understanding that YOU will bear all the consequences.
Finally, there are British agencies and programs that can provide support for your ultimate decision. Look into those. Take all the support you need to make your future better and brighter.
***Lush
My dear, you are young. Youth (for most people) means naivete. If you HONESTLY wanted nothing to do with this married man, you shouldn't have picked up his calls.
He could have given you more than a pregnancy. STDs and HIV come to mind.
Anyway, now that you are pregnant, you have three choices: abortion, adoption, or being a single parent. Abortion frees you from parental responsibility but many women bear emotional scars for life. As for adoption, not all women are strong enough to give their baby up after giving birth. There is a strong emotional attachment that develops during the nine months of pregnancy and you may find that you want to keep the baby. As a single parent myself, I can honestly tell you that raising a child alone is incredibly difficult. You will definitely struggle financially.
Whichever your decision, you have to consider the pros and cons. Do NOT rely on the words of the man you got pregnant for!!! He may not be there once the child is born. Make this decision with the understanding that YOU will bear all the consequences.
Finally, there are British agencies and programs that can provide support for your ultimate decision. Look into those. Take all the support you need to make your future better and brighter.
***Lush
this is really disturbing & to be candid it's gonna be another rough time but in all you got to mention it to him! he is responsible let it be. if he backs off it's a burden u got to bear, after all there r foster homes....
I sincerely wish u the best.
Abortion is free in the uk? Wow
Loool which one is olorikun? Igbo girl dont ruin yoruba language for us o.
Ahn ahn!!! How many times must u post your comment?
Shut up bitch!!! Be sympathetic dumbass!
Ode! Olodo!!!
Youre a stupid idiot! Be sympathetic!
Kia? Olodo!
Loool. Olodo! Stop panicking
Youre a maga!
Pregnancy not pregnant. Olodo!
Please if you don't know what to say, just keep quiet. Abortion should never be an option. It is murder and evil because a life has been killed. She may also never be able to give birth in life and will leave with mental trauma and regrets for the rest of her life. If she should take him to an orphanage or motherless baby home or a church.
Finally some sense! Nigerians are so damn judgemental, people ask for advice and not insults... tell him,or confide in someone u know will understand, maybe one of ur siblings
Which one will God prefer? Killing the baby? Hummmmm,na wa oh.
But some pple dey crase for here ooh...kaiii.Linda,i think it's bcos they knw u dont slap pple,reason y they put trash on ur table...wen she dey straf unprotected,we dey there? Make she use her head carry am. Annie sayz so!
I think the scariest bit of advice here was the " even if you have unprotected sex with a married man, use a contraceptive and antibiotics after".
ANTIBIOTICS SHALL NOT PROTECT YOU AGAINST HIV!
There are scarier things than pregnancy people- HIV, HERPES for example!
But I digress, take it to The Lord in prayer, it'll be rough but you need to be strong for the child to come. If you feel your strength is not enough, go to God, ask for direction. He loves you even more than you love yourself, definitely a whole lot more than the married "lover".
So I took my time (& of course many hours) to analyse this case, you were wrong I'm sure u knew tht even yle ur affair wz on its most pleasurable state, but the deed's been done so can we now stop with these judgements and put up solutions for her,if God judged us all, who'd b left on earth? her case is here simply bcs she needs help. (Thanks anonymous 6:22pm)
1stly, its simply ur decision to make so do tht bt consider thns like can u handle being a single mom? Can u nw stp doin wrong and start living right 4d sake of ur unborn child @least? Pls DON'T CONSIDER SUICIDE, its never an option some pps have it worse than u do.
2ndly, ud tell the man abt ur decision, its urs not his, if he supports, fine! If nt der'd b a way after all ure in a devpd country so health issues are easier sorted but please, DON'T INVOLVE THE MAN's FAMILY, they hd nthn 2do wt it all, smtyms u call men pigs bt its d ladies too who let them do thns so its simply a 2-way deal.
3rdly, seek counselling, it'd help a long way.
4thly, sort out ur emotional issues pls, ure young, u cud fnd love smday bt u sure need some STABILITY for that to happen right.
Also, go for health checks, STI's, confirm ur preg too; then u shd alwys use protection for ur pleasure, pls darling its 4ur safety! Remember its ur life @stake, men hav sweet tongues, its rly tempting bt no matter hw wet u are, darling shut dt door if he aint gt protectn its free in England and for those in Nig, its affordable so save ur life now!
Finally, we all wish u well. Get a job, rent a rm if u cnt maintain that wch ure in presently and be happy, draw closer to God, he's alwys happy to embrace us if we sincerely seek him. Be happy dear.
Oh and Anon 8:37pm, pls oh d pope referred 2 married ppl and no condoms (tho I'm against d decision bt if he approved it, won't u still judge the church?) And it simply hz nthn 2do wt her case.
~D great anonymous!
Though I don't like dropping comments here, I felt compelled to do so as a way of helping someone in need or other people facing similar issue.
First and foremost, you made a big mistake by dating a married man with 4 kids. What were you thinking? 4 kids in the UK is too much problem already for the guy. It is obvious he was just trying to relieve himself of the stress by hanging with you.
At 20, you should be more concerned about how you will build a lucrative career. Sleeping around expecting men to pay your bill happens better in naija. In the UK it is a different ball game. I am telling you from experience because I am a guy and I lived in the UK for 5years before reloxating to United States.
Here is my suggestion for you...
1. Pray hard that you are not pregnant. Make sure you buy a pregnancy confirmation kit. Most stores sell it.
2. If you're really pregnant and its less than 3 months, find a way of getting rid of it and ask God for forgiveness.
The option of telling the guy is stupid because he will simply become invisible afterwards. London guys are very useless.
The option of telling the wife will put you in big trouble. First the wife will make sure the guy's life is miserable after divorcing him. The guy will never forgive you.
The option of keeping the child and collecting handout from UK govt is what you don't even need. It may help you out temporarily but it will kill all your dreams. Except you have parents in Naija that you can ship the child to after birth. Even that is not a good option because you will become after 1 by 21years. By the time you are ready to settle down, you will be facing the problem of finding a man that will love you and your child together.
I think you best option is what I listed here.
Goodluck.
Bigkconcept
Can't comment cos I may probably sound harsh. Reason - a 20yr old is trying to wreck MY marriage!!!!!
These London girls are wild oh,at 20 I was still a virgin nd got married.now am 23 nd still ve frnds dat are virgins also.I run wen a man approaches Me at dat age, My advise is for u to stand on d road nd get hit by a car, dt ends it. Result of a broken home
SAD!
NOT ONLY FOR THE GIRL BUT TO ALL THESE LOOSED-UP UN-MARRIED NIGERIAN GIRLS HAVE THAT HAVE KILLED A LIFE ALL IN THE NAME OF 'ABORTION'
Q1.HOW DO YOU SLEEP AT NIGHT AFTER TAKING A LIFE?
Q2. IF YOU KNOW YOU'RE NOT READY FOR A BABY WHY WON'T YOU KEEP YOUR 'BORE-HOLE SIZED, LOOSE, OVER-USED AND ABUSED' PUSSY SHUT?abi your leg can't close
FOH...i spit on your shameful faces
WHEN A MARRIED MAN WITH KIDS BOLDLY INTRODUCES U TO HIS FRIENDS, YOU SHOULD KNOW THAT IT AIN'T RIGHT... TOO BAD! THE SOLE PURPOSE IS SEX NOT LOVE. YOU SHOULDA KNOWN THAT.
Foremost, thank God this has happened cos in all situations we should give thanks as I believe this might have served as a deterrent to some greater mis-steps . However, you need to : 1. Let him be aware of the outcome of your indiscretions (both guilty though) so as to gauge his reactions. 2. Go for a D$C ASAP and don't be fooled for a second to keep it else you will regret it even more as that child(that is if they are not twins,triplets or more ) will always remind of how some men can be useless and some ladies can be foolish. 3. Pray for forgiveness and God's guidance to live right and never to make such a mistake again. No One is Perfect and it is our Imperfections that make us Unique in our own ways and as well make us HUMAN else we would have been all Omnipotent!!!
No one on this page is righteous enough to judge you, so ignore all the names you have been called.
1. Leave that man, he is married.
2. Please do not abort that life, that's murder. There are homes in London that take in young pregnant women.
3. After having the baby, you can either keep it give it up for adoption.
4. Pick up your life, finish school.
5. Most important all - Seek Jesus, give your life to Him, and He will sort you out.
I really dont know why people come here for advise. People here dont have brains and are quick to point accusing fingers. Girl go to your pastor. He will advise you.
Please find a solution to this problem and keep the man's wife out of this matter before u will start what u can't finish ,when u jumped lnto her hubby did u let her know of it ,so keep her out and face who committed the crime along side with u for a possible solution.after this learn ur lesson and never turn ur eye on married men or think of distorying people's home.this sound as a warning. L Linda don't negelect my comment pls.
Please find a solution to this problem and keep the man's wife out of this matter before u will start what u can't finish ,when u jumped lnto her hubby did u let her know of it ,so keep her out and face who committed the crime along side with u for a possible solution.after this learn ur lesson and never turn ur eye on married men or think of distorying people's home.this sound as a warning. L Linda don't negelect my comment pls.
C yong GIrl you 've done a very big mistaKe ! ANd you re to learn From this. My advise to is(1) to stop being naive (2) go to GOd for forgiveness (3)seek God 's help And direction(4) go to that unfaithful man tell him about the pregnancy not for him to marry you but to make him rip what he has sown in you by fire by force (5) get to know that you re not to be broke forever ,that gold have undergo so many process before it will be admired as a gold c it took God 7day to create heaven and earth and every thing inside it not that He cannot do it a day but just show people liKe you that things of this life Has to gradual process(6) get some thing doing work ok ! May God see through.
My dear, you say ur in the UK right? Why don't you keep the child, continue with your education and try to apply for a stay there since your child will be born there and you will need to stay with your child till he/ she is 18. But apart from that, tell the man and his wife that your pregnant and you don't want anything from them apart from financial upkeep for the baby. As a woman, she should understand and be able to help you.
Most importantly, pray to God and ask for forgiveness as he is faithful and just to forgive you of all iniquities. And please love, change your ways... ur too young to be sleeping around and getting pregnant. You have your whole life ahead of you.
MOST IMPORTANTLY, Abortion is not an option as your conscience will continually hunt you and it is a sin to God as well... Please!!!
Wish you all the best anyway.
She's a bitch nd a whore,,,,can i sleep now,,unneccesary fings mtchewwww,,
My dear just be sure first before u conclude nd if ur md it's still at d very early stage something can still be done nd after dat u shd get ursef a job nd stop depending on men for money ur in the uk am sure there job opportunities nd always rem to pray to God for directions in life thank God ur speaking out now.....all d best baby
He has already ran away! and you were paying back the 2 months rent he covered for you. Keep showing how cheap you are. Did he rape you to get you pregnant? NO, you knew what you did and the consequences of ur actions. You should have asked us when you were broke what to do; not when you have done everything already
Bin a long tym somebody made sense lyk dis. Bless u.
Na so O!
Abeg LIBers, you folks are too mean, too Judgemntal, too abrasive , haba! Take it easy on this girl. Are you all not sinners? Dont condemn her youre not God. Shes already in a bad fix. Learn to offer your words of candid positive advise and leave this hating thats has now become second nature to you all.You all are depressing, Ive never seen. Yound Lady, It is well ok. Lock yourself up and pray to God for forgivenss and seek the face of God for direction on the way forward. He did not come for these righteous ones on LIB. He came for you the Sinner. JESUS!
You don't fool us. You know exactly what you are doing and you have it all worked out.
You just posted this story to see who is as smart as you.
In this game you are head and shoulders above those who comment here. Its obvious you are reading their comments and just having a good laugh.
YOU MUST BE OLD ENOUGH AND CLEVER TO UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU NEED TO DO . FIRST YOUR SEXES MUST BE SAFE, HOW CAN YOU OPEN YOUR LEGS FOR MONEY WITHOUT KNOWLEDGE OF PREGNANT PREVENTIVE MEASURES OF DRUGS.
MU ADVICE TO YOU IS THIS NEITHER THE MAN WISH TO MARRY YOU OR NOT . YOU MUST KEEP YOUR BABY. YES YOU CAN CONTINUE YOUR STUDIES AFTER ONE OR TWO YEAR BUT YOU MUST KEEP THAT BABY OK. DO NOT EVER TELL THE WIFE YOUR HAVING AFFAIRS WITH HER HUSBAND . YOU MIGHT GET KILLED.
JUST TELL THE MAN AND MORE FORWARD. BUT YOU MUST STOP SCHOOLING FOR NOW AND FACE YOUR BABY , THAT BABY MAY BE YOU FUTURE IN LONDON. GOD BLESS HONEY. bE WISE NOW AND NEVER FORGET HONESTY.
ABORT
youngwoman il advice you get rid of that pregnancy God4gv me but you will live wt d pain,shame n regret all ur life.ur too young for that kinda responsibility sef.hw will u b able to tkcr of the child?n u dnt v a job n dn ur still in skl comon excp if u wana gv d baby up for adoption but the truth is that guy jus used you too satisfy hs sexual desires cs he only paid ur bill once n neva gv u money afta then?if he dd he wld v bein takncr of u.get rid of him n d pregnancy then ask God for forgvness n put ur life back on track and ul b fyn by Gods grace.
She has made some mistakes and she knows dat. What she needs now is advice n love not condemnation
Dear, tell him that you are pregnant. When you do so tell him that you will have an abortion but he will need to pay for it. Pray!
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