My colleague does this and when I advised her to stop it, she took offense and stopped talking to me. She said we modern women have no respect any longer, that her mum called her father sir and told her it was the respectful thing to do. Whenever her husband calls her on the phone, she answers sir. Is that respect or fear?I think calling your husband sir is ridiculous! Your boss and an older person, definitely, but not your spouse.
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1 – 200 of 248 Newer› Newest»1st to comment,i dont think i proper,it looks more like fear
That's pure madness...if my hubby dey look for who to call am sir make en go hire Ekuke....for what?
Sir sounds very proper and shows sign of fear....
I feel women that call their spouse sir are just there to be wives, have children, and do house shores.....
IS HE YOUR BOSS?
hmmm linda I wonder d kind of wife u wil make. am loosing interest o.
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No! Sir is so absurd! Terms of endearment have a reason to be used between partners and sir is none among terms of endearment for a partner, kinda old school and pale!
soo... tells us how u call ur husband!
Linda lemme post comment o.
Ngwanu maka y?!?! That's just a show of either illetracy,archaism,zero self esteem, self belittlement,over sabi,stupidity or ALL OF THE ABOVE. Even if u wr bianca dat married ha fathers friend/age mate ojukwu, dnt u have other civilized and approprite ways 2 show respect? Asin wr is dt comin 4rm?! Pls pls pls I cnt deal *Straight face*
Na wen man Fu*k woman well d woman dey call her husband Sir, ....#justsaying
I disagree with you Linda. There's nothing ridiculous about it. Nothing wrong with it. However, it all depends on the people involved. No two couple/relationship are the same.
It's not bad if one feels comfortable with it. Your husband can be older than you and still be your boss at work. So what do you say about such?
Hahahahaha Rofl...realy funny..i dnt see anytin wrong in it sha o,afterall no two marriages re d same..if it works 4 a particular couple,why not? D most important is dat they live in peace and love..its beta to call ur husband Sir(if necesary)and live in peace dan to call him Honey and live in disharmony..as 4 me,i call my hubby Babe/Baby,and then answer him Sir wen he calls me in public..winks..
O lord, dis reminds me of a time wen as a 6-7 yr old child I answered my father as 'sir' when he called out to me, I was merely following what I heard other people (whom I later learned were his workers n younger colleagues)calling him, even though it wasn't the norm in our home...My dad was genuinely shocked and pained, and took the time to call me to sit me on his lap while explaining to me that he was 'daddy' and not 'sir' to me, and calling him daddy didn't mean disrespecting him.
It always feels odd (though understandable) when I hear some pple refer to the dads sef as sir, talk less of husband..... Mba biko! It just sounds so impersonal and cold, like love has run out the window!!!
If she wants, she can. Is it your mouth she's saying it with?
That is more than respect. I think is a sign of fear and lack of familiarity between her and her hubby.
loolz my dear u're looking for troubleoo,if its owk by her and her hubby who're u to disagree.What of ma mum dat calls ma dad papa Bona only when I do something wrong.
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Absolutely wrong,which kain respect b dt,ur attitude towards him determines if u respect him or not,marriage is meant to b love,carin,fun,seein d person as ur best friend,ur heaven,ur paradise n tru all d these feelin ur xpressions wil b my luv,daddy,hony,mine,nkem,my one and only,dearie,sweety pie I can go on and on,even in old days they express such luv by the word nkem,which one b sir,vry funny,n wht kind of respect goes by sir,why not call him papa ngozi......vry funny
Wetin be ur own in d matter,ppl can call their spouses whatever they so desire as long as they are both okay with it. Ok madam,what sense is there in calling a full grown man"baby". Im married n i call my hubby either by his name or say bros. Its just my way
What is ur own? This is individual differences.
I don't think is appropriate to call ur hubby SIR, its too official.
Sir bawo? Sir ko! Ma ni! That's what happens when you decide to marry ur father or grandfather's age-mate!
Oshisco!!My husband is 13years older than me&i once called him daddy *insert our child's name* in public to show *respect*..he begged me to call him "his name" or d "baby" I call him in private:-)
My dear, if that is what makes her man come home before 8pm every week day,please let her do it. For me, is not my kinda thing...perhaps her man loves her for that. You never can tell. Be careful on advices you offer friends,we all are cut from different clothes.
He is old enough to be her papa!!! What do you think the new wife of the elizade motors boss calls him?
ahhh, Linda, it is not ridiculous oooo. I LOVE MY HUSBAND TO PIECES and i sometimes address him as sir, pls no big deal about that no, i as well get anything i won.... i might sound cheap, but its working for me sha.. we dont have much but he cld still afford to giv me 100k, after a nice plate of poundo yam and EFO RIRO, I JUST SAID YES SIR ONJE YIN TI READY OOO
Personally I won't do that but I think its non of your business what anybody does in their marriage. What's important is that they are happy and it works for them. As long she isn't being abused she can call him majesty if she wants.
A friend of mine does it too, and me i don't understand again oh
is the complainant married?
i serzly doubt that she will be...i dont knw why shez using panadol for anoda person's headache
ladies of present age should learn to really respect there hubbys, i see notin bad in a wife answering sir to her hubby.
I am 33 and have a 55yr old suitor who is pestering me. I definitely won't be marrying him. I call him sir now. When I marry anyone we have to be on first name basis abeg. Your friend is either afraid of her husband or indebted to him. She is in bondage
Answering your husband "sir" when he calls you is even disrespectful. The right thing to answer is "my lord" as Sarah answered Abraham. So learn how to accord the deserving respect to your husband by answering respectfully.
hi Lynda, u ladies have turned our moral value upside down. if u can say sir to ur boss in the office, how much more ur hubby? as for me saying sir to your husband is not an act of fear but a way of crowning ur head. society shld nt over blow this issue. salvation is personal. do ur thing the way u like and i do mine. post my comment pls.
"Sir I am feeling horny tonite"...huh? Gross!!!
eke ibidun aunty adogbo awon daleru daleru shobo leyoke ma filomi da si , wetin be your own she can call him whatever dats her choice and her business for you to even bring it to linda sef you deserve for her to top speaking to you. aproko why are you swallowing another person's panadol .
In as much as i don't answer sir to my husband doesn't mean i should ask someone else not to.wat makes her marriage work is different from urs.dis one sef na aproko i go call u.u said she should only answer sir to an older person,isn't her husband older than her?leave her be biko.
Is not proper,caling ur husband sir means sumtin is goin on.
LINDA!!! A husband is usually an 'older person'. I call my husband Sir when I pick his calls, (jokingly tho). Call your husband whatever you are comfortable with: Sweetheart, Honey, Baby, Daddy, Sir, My Lord, Papa Bomboy, Igwe; whatever makes you feel comfy!
People with different beliefs and orientation.its been working for her,and the husband seems to not mind.if she addresses him otherwise,he'll think something has gone wrong.its her husband she can address him how ever she deems fit.
all these things about respect depends on individuals, respect does not come through calling 'sir' it comes by acts and deeds,
And Sarah called Abraham lord...but for this our 21st century,*scratching my head*thinking of the answer!
It has not get to the extent of keeping malice with you only because you say your mind tho it depends on how you say it anyway...And to the question, there's nothing wrong in it..It can't be "sir" all times, am sure as the conversation goes deep the likes of honey, dear, sweetie, would definitely comes in..
I know of a man that answer "Ma" to his wife though it sound awkward when i heard it but it's d way he choose to live his life and it's working for him and his family. And also another man that call his wife "omo girl"..It depends on individual..And answering "Sir" to her husband may not totally mean she's that respectful... Respect goes a long way than answering "Sir" everytime Let's choose whatever that works for us and stick with as my own advise.
hell no,its not proper to address your hubby as sir. hehehe linda well done,luv sha
Maybe she was his house maid before and now that they are married it's still difficult for her to call him by name. I don't see any other way I would call my husband sir.
hell no,its not proper to address your hubby as sir. hehehe linda well done,luv sha
It is the right thing to do. If women could answer some refraffs sir and most especially women that own drinking joint. Then why not do the same to the head of you family as dictated by GOD almighty himself.
Home Breaker, You can call your husband A goat for all I care... Pls leave dem happy people alone
Its not wrong. Ur husband is ur Lord
How can u respect ur boss at office, whose age is not upto ur spouse's age, u also give respect to ur senior colleagues,which is right, but u give no respect to ur Own husband & do u think your colleagues nd friends ll give him the respect? No way, u respect him because the bible says Wives submit to your Husbands,Respect is part of Submission, besides you respect Him,because he is the head, there is nothing wrong by answering your spouse with Sir, even by doing this,He appreciates you More. Thank you, Mama B.
Why do u wanna break ur colleagues' home? I'm sure u r not married & its this ur ego that's d obvious reason why not. Fear God o! Even though its razz & old school, if d guy wants it, biko call am sir o, or oga sef. Except u have another husband on reserve bench
Depends on how much money he have *in naija runs girl voice*
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Don't know why some people just can't mind their own business. Answer your husband whatever you want and allow her answer her hubby what she wants to. Its a free world and people should be free to do what's legal in it.
There is nothing wrong with that, I answer my hubby sir and it has not affectected our relationship, we have been married for 16yrs now and people around always confessed that he spoils me a lot. He is my best friend and we discussed about everything. So I see nothing wrong in answering ur hubby sir.
i think that lady should mind her business and not interfere in order people's marriage.For one, you dont know the dynamics and foundation of dat marriage, and yes, a lot of modern women have lost that respect, maybe because they are also breadwinners
It is very ok to answer your husband Sir, if that is one of the ways you can also show respect to him as a husband, fine. If you can answer Sir to your boss who is probably younger than you in age, how much more your husband. Some people separate romance from things like greeting, serving of food and other things, it is just African and that doesn't mean that the man look less on the woman or regard her less. I answer my husband, "yes baby!" even if am in front of my father inlaw but i can not ask someone else to serve my husband food. I owe him that duty as his wife; unless am not around and most times he knows his way around the kitchen.
Linda,(no reply) Linda (no reply) linddaaaaa lindaaaaa sir replies Linda. i hope this little demonstrative have answered your question it is not compulsory that a woman should answer the husband sir, but if she choose to there is nothing wrong with it.after all patience dey answer Jonathan sir
But did ur husband complained
Never 4get that women are caution to respect theirs husband and men to pet their wives, so u how it goes simultaneously
So if u like call this man left 4u cos what u called urs Dog is what it's answers to
Is d husband not an older person aswell? Dint say its ok to do d@ tho. Bt I tink its nt ridiculous. Its thr business, let no one put assunder.
You MUST call your husband Sir! It's the Law. It's the proper thing to do. If my wife calls me Sir, I will worship the ground she work on.
That the THGIR thing to do. When I go home today, I must ask my wife to call me SIR!
Well,as a well-cultured yoruba girl dt I am,am likely 2 call ma husband "sir" bt if he doesn't like it,I wld expressly stop..since d man is d head of d woman,she may jst do dt 2 show sm sign of respect...d bible sd sarah called abraham "my lord" jst as a sign of respect,notin more..wen childlessness hit dem,it ws sarah who decided d slave shld hv 1 for husban..it ws she who sent her away too...u see,dere r no hard and fast rules..just mutual understandin and love....husbands,love ur wives and wives respect ur husbands, so does d bible say again..lolz
I FEEL IT'S K.
If it is not gbeborun that is worrying this poster abi whoever sent the mail, what is her business what other women choose to call their husbands! She even went ahead to put mouth where e no consign her. She is lucky she didn't get slapped. Please every man/woman to their own. If you like call your husband bingo, that is you problem. Keep your mouth off other people's homes. I wish I knew who sent in this foolish mail #Vexed
Linda I so agree with you on this one. Sir ke? Bi ti bawo? He's your HUSBAND not ϔ☺ΰя̩̥̊ boss in d office. A pet name wldnt hurt and doesn't mean you disrespect him in any way.
whatever one decides to call her husband is up to her. Linda, i dnt think it is ridiculous as u see it. Marriage demands obligations from both partners to make it work for them. If a woman thinks calling her husband "sir" works for her, so be it.
Its funny and wierd, which one is sir again, abeg o dt doesnt work for me
Its not terrible to call your husband "sir" neither is it bad if you do not. In my opinion, knowing what works well for you two is most important so wahala no go dey.hmmm... Now I'm thinking, "sir" would be a very nice pet name o *smiling*
Ode woman.... Werrin concern u with however she chose to address her hussy? N̶̲̥̅̊α people lyk u dey carry dier amebo spoilt oda people marriage. If N̶̲̥̅̊α me b d woman self i won't just stop talking to you i will get u arrested (still thinking of d charge tho). If she's comfty with it, wht is ur business? Ur work no serious i guess
I think you call your husband whatever you feel comfortable calling your husband. Stop imposing what you feel is right on others. We are from different families and we are raised differently.
Call him papa too, no be only sir. Maybe she fit also call am Oga sir.
That you call your husband sir does not show respect as far as I am concerned.
There is no need pretending to be respectful, meanwhile you have finished someone spiritually.
There's nofin bad in answering one's hubby wit sir,My̶̲̥̅̊ mum is 65yrs old&still ansas My̶̲̥̅̊ dad wif sir,secondly except i want Τ̲̅ȍ answer My̶̲̥̅̊ fiancee,then i use a pet name bt if he calls ♍e face Τ̲̅ȍ face,i answer with sir.
How can a wife answer her husband "sir" wen she's nt in d battlefield wif him. Wat happened 2 swt names like "cherry", "honey" "baby". It is so ridiculous. She should better still call him by d name of her first child eg Papa Emeka
lol, i know of a friend who does dat too..i think it depends on the man, if the man likes it then fine why not. i think if the man does not like it he would ave told her. i think your friend is doing everything she can to stay in her marriage after all the man is the head of the family. so respect should be given.
Very very ridiculous. 4 wat na,is he my father,boss or older brother? God nor gree me..I'm nt is sister Oooo abeg!
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If the two people have decided that it's what is proper for their relationship, how can it be ridiculous to you?
It would be another story if you heard the husband was forcing the wife to do it.
U can call ur husband Sir, if he is way older than u! Just cos he is fucking u does not mean both of u r mates. But over here in Canada,u call everyone by their first name including d President of ur company. It annoys them when u call them Sir.
I call my hubby sir @times n @ times by his name. I think its a matter of personal choice. I kneel to greet my hubby good morning once I get up from bed then says words of blessings for the day on him, he draws me after to him n cuddles till its time to make breakfast. Before leaving for work I stand over him while he is sitting n pray for 2 - 5mins for God\'s favor upon him. I can tell you - it works. He is always coming home with good stories about his job. Like I said its a matter of choice
its not fear my sister, thats the way some people show respect... Besides, Sarah in the bible called her husband my lord.... its just that we they younger generation have lost all that and do things the way we like but it doesnt hurt at all to do it neither does it show u fear ur hubby
For Christ's sake, must I abandon my Closeup toothpaste, just because Colgate works well for your family?
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong wit calling ur husband sir! I mean,if u respect him, why can't u call him sir! If it is wat works for ur marriage,Please by all means do it!
Shebi Its HER husband she calls sir not yours so let her be abeg....mtchewww
Bible actually says women r to call d husband "lord" - wen my gf showed dis to me, I told her to be calln me "oh masta masta" (in a. Chinese accent). Errbody is diff, is all about understanding.
The wife / lady must be marrried to someone old enuf most of which d lady is an aristo nd hustled her way to marry the man. Be careful of old famIly frds, female frds, cousins, Helpers they help in snatching people's husbands so if u hav a frd like that it's probably she is married to an old man
Personally, I don't like the idea of my wife calling me sir.
Quite out of the question!I can neva address person wey dey poke me as sir even if u old pass metuselah
Different strokes for different folks, your culture and upbringing defines a whole lot.
My mum calls my dad Daddy and it has nothing to do with fear. And that doesn't mean I'll do the same, I won't call my husband sir or daddy cos those names dont go well with me.and That doesn't mean I'm not going to be a disrespectful wife of any sort, its not just my thing.
There are no hard and fast rules in marriage. It is whatever works for you. If "sir" is what is giving her a happy home i don't think anybody business to advice her otherwise. Nobody wrote a marriage constitution where this is how things are to be done. In marriage pls do what works for you. Shikena
Please what is your business with what she calls her husband? There is no wrong or right in how she chooses to address her husband as long as it is a term of endearment/respect. But she actually is right, women these days no longer have respect for their husbands...
yes ooo,i sometimes ooo, ki ni big deal, just one of the stategies to get what i want
I also think its silly to answer sir to your husband. Modern wife or not
Whatever works for your colleagues relationship is non of your flipping business. If she likes let her answer sir or yesir masser to her husband, it is nobody's flipping business. Neither her nor her hubby is complaining so stop overstepping your boundary!
This is prime example of how ppl plant seeds of discord in other people's relationship by attempting to give unsolicited advice...
Ahhh what happened to "hello dear, hello sweety" instead of sir.
different strokes for different folks. people were raised in different ways. I know some people that are so scared of their parents, it's amazing. they have like a principal-student relationship. the relationship I have with my parents is friendly. when my over 60 yr old dad calls me, he says what's up or kilonsele? I guess the way u are raised will have an effect on your marriage because you'll most likely do what u see ur parents do
if that`s what he wants "give it to him all day all night long" singing general pype`s song.
What is ur own business beta dnt go n scatter sme1's home let her call her husband wt she wants
ur saying "SIR" u havent heard "DADDY" . def for d older generation. u sef liv d woman alone marry ur own guy den call him wateva u lik .
Your not calling him Sir doesn't mean u don't respect him and ofcourse in a public gathering or in an important event u can call him Sir (dt depends on what position he holds,mayb he's a Chief), that way you giving him his respect. It shouldn't be done all the time.
That's wrong,yes he is d head of ur home but Ur calling him Sir all the time is just wrong, I don't even say Sir to my Dad all the time I call him daddy remindin him am his special girl.
What's wrong with "baby" "honey" "sugarflakes"
Yes sir, hit is like that, yeah right there sir, yes sir, yes sir oh yesss Sir. Thank-you Sir.
For real? It just doesn't sound right.
I did meet a young couple 9ja couple in Italy who called her hubby sir. But she was imported from the village to be his wife. He had been in Italy for a while & you would never guess he'd expect that from his missus. My bf & I found it uncomfortable to hear.
M̶̲̅γ̲̣̣ sister,SIR ȋ̝̊̅§ a very Ǧ☺☺ϑ sign ☺f̶̲̥̅̊ respect.Are U̶̲̥̅̊ not answering ųя male Boss SIR S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ why won't U̶̲̥̅̊ answer ųя (husband)HEAD SIR
Subject to My Oceanic view: It is Very proper to call ur husband SIR if he likes it... This is also a simple way of showing that u respect him as ur lord : Sarah is a good example calling Abraham my lord.... that is the love
Dats ur fucking problem....keep ur nose out of other people's relationships let Dem deal wit it how they see fit
What the hell is your own problem??? Why are you poking into another woman's marriage?? Telling her to stop doing what she enjoys doing/saying to her husband!! What the f**k is your problem?? What's your own?? Will you rather marry her?? All these stupid Naija women self, you tire me.
I think butting into other people's marital affairs is ridiculous! Who is this person to tell a married woman what to do with her husband?? Crap!! That's why people get into trouble!!
Mind your business honey. If that's what works for them then so be it!
i think it is ridiculous but i think it was equally ridiculous for the woman to "advise" her coworker. who begged her? mind your own and do what works for you...let her do what works for her... if she was complaining..enhen different story.
Pet names are preferrable...SIR! Is jst to absurd..soUnds mOre like He EmPloyed U as HIs wiFe..
Why is that anyone's problem? Some call their husby's daddy. If it works for your relationship and your mate doesnt mind, carry go. This lady should go mind her own husband. Alakoba oshi.
Lol if my wife calls me sir, I'll call her ma.
I tink is a choice you make ,just like some ladies call their husbands honey,sugar,daddy,swthat,my luv,etc dat makes every marriage unique in it own way.
Na over sabi housewife dey call her husband daddy....
Taah!! dats like fear abeg,i cant call my husband sir its ridiculous.African women and old Love,smh
The issue is respect and not what you call him. some can call their husbands sir and not have any respect whatsoever. But most times when you have genuine respect for him you will find that it will be hard foro you to call him by his name. So it doesnt have to be "Sir" some will call him "daddy" especially if they have kids together or people will come up with different names that show respect but are also peculiar to their personalities and relationship. But if you check it out most people that call their husband by name dont respect them.
I second d "ridiculous" part! Dat's just creepy, 2 me it shows dere's no ease in d marriage just rigidity!
TF!!!!! Is he ur boss?..... I fink its ridiculous too! Ruthiezz
LMAO! sIR KO SIR NI..I Mean it shows respect but doing it all d time..NO! is he a soldier? are u his slave? Wen yall r playing its okay, or wen u in Bed with him..callin him dat may turn him on..u know..lol! ;)
Well evry bdy has dere own way of expressing respct if dat wrks 4 her fyn but call him sir doesn't mean u respect a man, respect its an act not word of mouth. But if her husband lyks it pls she shldnt stop.but I'll rather call my husband pet name or call him a king infrnt of his peers, u ave to wrk it.
My mum called my dad sir, but that ws their generation. I don't nor do I have any intention of calling my husband sir! I'm a firm believer of not starting what I can't finish!
Answering a call 4rm ur husband with Sir is not really bad,bt little tins lik dat will promote fear nd not intimacy in ur union unless if u do it 2 pull his legs(fun),instead hello hun,or some oda pet name will b beta
I don't think it is necessary. But she raises a valid point, what does respect mean to today's "modern woman". Most married men observe that respect is not in their wives' dictionaries. There is a whole generation of entitled women knowing "how a man should treat a woman, what he should buy her for valentines, blah blah blah" but know nothing about respect. Telling a woman to be respectful to her husband these days is politically incorrect. "How can a modern woman deign to respect her husband when they are equals?" This concept of equality does not come to play in the roles the same women expect their husbands to play in the household. Let's face it, as much as woman talk about wanting equality, they want a real traditional man - workhorse that slaves at work to provide for the family (read www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2151842/Sorry-sisters--women-DO-want-men-providers.html#axzz2Kc3olDmF ).
This is an important conversation that should be had, it is not about addressing your husband as sir.
Which is better sir or my Lord like Sarah called her husband Abraham.its just a choice
My friend's wife does d same too...I guess it means their relationship is basically hubby/wife relationship not friends...it's more of fear than respect in my opinion...call me by my first or pet name...u can even say 'ode' sef e no mean as long as u r my wife n bestfriend
single people like you, linda ,should not give advice to married people. You have no experiene or job training!
I only call mine sir in mockery. Will never do it for real. Its just what I do to soothe his bruised ego when I get @ him.
Of course you shouldn't call your husband 'sir' (obviously - at least I would not) but on the other hand it's not your business how she chooses to live her life and you don't understand the dynamics in their relationship. I would actually say you were a little out of line for telling her she shouldn't. It's only when you believe a woman is being oppressed against her will that I think it may be appropriate to butt in.
why shouldn't she call me sir. I'm a traditional man. she will even kneel when 'serving' me water, food or any thing for that matter.Thanks.
How is it your business what she calls her husband? Call yours what you like
To my own understandng, calling ur husband sir means 2me dt u er scead of him, n dt implies him overriddng u... u shuldnt call ur spouse sir! it make no sense at all. i mean, its a luv fin dere shuldnt be such. it happend in d olden days but nt now mahn! wen everyfin has change
Each man to his own... Ma
Different strokes for different folks,if dts wat ur hubby wants nd if callin him 'sir'will bring peace to ur home then why won't any woman do that.
No need for sir.
But wetin cocern you? Amebo oshi....
Whatever the case, it was non of your business. Thats how we go around poke nosing into other people's affairs. She calls her husband sir, how does it affect you? Learn to mind your own business. Having said that, there is nothing wrong with saying sir. It is a thing of respect. I wouldn't do it but if another woman thinks she is showing respect to her husband by saying sir, so be it.
50 shades of Grey...Dom and Sub hehhe any way its what she learnt from her mum, my mum calls my dad my dear, and as a kid for a long time I taught his name was my dear, so its what works for her
Haba,wetin do am na,dats one tin women of now days dont know,being humble to ur husband doesnt make u a fool,rather it makes u d lord of his heart,makin him tink dat u dont know anytin,while u be gettin al his attention.Infact they is a sayin dat wen a wife knows hw to treat her man,people wld say dat she charmed him,cos she wld b gettin everytin she wants frm d man,so women learn to b humble to ur husbands.
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every marriage is unique. What works in one won't necessarily work in another. If it works, it's ok, if not don't do it.
If calling her husband "sir" works for them, then why not? If it doesn't, then no, it shouldn't be done. Nosing and giving your friend unsolicited advice on her marriage is wrong. And as for your friend, calling the man "sir" doesn't automatically mean there's respect. Respect is more than just "sir."
If people spent more time figuring out the uniqueness of their own marriages, and stopped trying to make all marriages identical, there will be less problems
Sir? Maka gini? Unto wetin? Wateva hapnd to 'sweetie' 'babes' 'dear' 'darling' and all the one billion affectionate terms of endearment? As for moi, 'babes' and 'obim' works just fine soo evrybdy shud dey dia lane. There are soo many ways to show ur husband u love and respect him and "Sir" my darling is definetely not one of them.
Sir????? Na waaaooo! STRANGE! Sounds toooo official n .......hw? NOT RIGHT AT ALL
Wat happen to my love , honey ,sweetie and so on. Pls tell her Sir is for boss or ur father in-law.
I can't imagin sayin sir even if he is. 10yrs older.
1.D relationship will not be romantic nd d man will want 2 take advantage of u saying sir
If it was in d old days o no prob but dis days lailai
I sip my ogbolo jeje
Personally i dont tink dere's anyting wrong in answering sir for your husband becos according to biblical injuction, d man is d head of d home and also d head of d woman just as Jesus is d head of d man. D word of God enjoins us women to submit and honour our husband in all tings.remember our mother called her husband abraham my lord.
The spouse get big problem for not stoping his wife from calling him sir
Wetin concern you? Tafia! Mind ya business
All depends on the way you present the meaning of sir...there is nothing wrong when a woman answers sir to her husband..it is sign of respect. Except you give present better way of answering a call from a man..if you suggest an answer like honey, love or another romantic answer..i will tell some ladies an not comfortable doing that mostly in public...Please we not only copy the western pattern that suit or culture and tradition and leave the white with their formal and nuclear life.
SIR? Will he call me MA? Sir ko Sir ni..
I think its just foolishness. Calling your husband sir..hiss.my parents were never in good terms most of their marriage and they never called each other by their first names. It was always "darling" even during shouting matches. hahahaha
i dont see it as an offence. I answer sir to my husband and i grew up seeing my mum do d same. In short am so use to it that even if i trieed to stop i couldnt. This does not mean i dont have a nickname for him ohh.
Pet names i understand but sir? It seems a bit strange to me though. Does she call him sir in bed too? I'd like to know. It just seems that the marriage while it may have a lot of respect, may however lack enough intimacy. But hey, I may be wrong. If it works for them that's all that
matters.
How about u mind your business?
Well I don't think it matters I call my hubby sir sometimes
Homebreaker!mind you business,nothing wrong in calling your hubby sir..it means men feel important
Hmmmm... what if the husband is older and also doubles as her boss? Anything anyone is gonna say on this issue will remain mere opinions as it never gonna change anything.
It's obvious you are not married. Wait till you get married, then address your husband the way it suit you two. There is no generic way to this. Her husband is not complaining, so a third party is not welcome.
I like the fact your colleague stopped talking to you cos she is avoiding you from giving her a piece of advise that can pollute a peaceful union.
Linda post my comment.
#Gbam. Leave her now, whatever rocks dir boat jare. Me I won't do that except my hubby tells me to though buh asides that,Never! Some xtians do it,use sir for dir husbands and even call them bro....
Well someone else can say its ridiculous to call ur hubby 'bsbby', because there is no how a full grown man is a baby. So therefore I suggest you really mind ur darn bizness and face ur own husband!
She probably thinks her husband is a "saviour" that took her out of "singleness". Abegi
calling ur hubby sir is not wise because he will end up seeing u as his younger sis or worker, the intimacy won't be der. For goodness sake u r not his maid, u will call him sir while his mistresses call sweety....who do u think he will see as a lover?
i seriously dnt see anytin wrong wit callin ur husband SIR. It all depend on d woman, i knw of a woman who calls her husband ''my lord'' som tims wen I get my boyfrnd angry and beg him he'll say pls dnt let dis repeat itself and I'll say ''yes sir'' dat doesn't mean i av no oda names for him. Trust me Linda it has absolutely notin to do wit fear. Pls tell whoever gave u dis info to mind her business.
Gerraway Papa Ajasco! Go and marry your mate. Mtcheww
A husband is usually older u say? Girl thia is 2013 and many ladies r hooking younger man. What will the older wife be called?
wetin concern u with her family? Na so dem dey spoil pple mariage. Everybdy get im own way e dey call her husband..
LOL I find it funny. Even friends whose hubbies are 15 yrs older than them dont call them sir. I guess its a personal thing. I call my husband Babe
My mom doesnt call my dad sir, and they've been married 38 yrs.
@Anon 4:32, who told you a husband is usually an older person. Abeg my husband and I are same age and married in our 20s, and I've friends in the same boat.
I guess it all depends on the couple, whatever works...
@Rosalyn and others...because your parents did, does not mean you should do so too...remember this is YOUR own marriage, not your parents. Thats the problem many make.
if he wants to be called sir, then by all means!
You always come off as trying too hard! Try to keep it simple sometimes. I'm just saying.
Sir 4 ma hubby ke-nah.......Ifemii,My Love,Baby.......all des brng mor intimacy nd dey mak d bond stronger.....makin dem lovers wich dey actuali r...nd nt oga nd his subordinatesss....!
*Tobi!*
Ladies, let's learn not to advice oda ladies especially on issues about relationship and marriage... Watever a lady sees in her marriage is her biz. Dnt act as an unsolicited counsellor pls whether ure right or wrong. Talking from experience
If calling your husband/spouse will keep or save your marriage you better call him.
....Meshy
The day I jokingly answered my fiance with sir he told me never to answer him that way again.
My Lord!!!!!! Awoooooooooooooooo........lol
U took d words out of my mouth,it depends on d person u re married to.
U don't sleep with ur boss, so ur example doesn't match d topic. M nt against it but it shldnt b all d time
Oya call ur husband My LorD naaaaaa chineke...na u go marry em, nor b me
My dear,u wld soon be 55 n b single. So kp staying dere n expecting a man of 33. So by d tym u re old,u wld look 4 a man 2 b calling UR MAJESTY.
Wat a lame!!!!!! Example
Drinkin joint? WDF
Mumu kp waiting till u re 55. Odesco
Home breaker? U twisted mehn!!!!
U re d one in bondage oh,old hag
Wat a stupid tin to say
So bcos u don't call ur husband Sir means u don't respect him? Wat a lame example cos u call ur boss Sir! Who takes care of d family d boss or d husband, who does she sleep with d boss or d husband?
Say somtin more meaninful
Dd she say she wants to break her colleagues hom? She's just expressin her opinion, stupid.
Pele o
Oh!!!!!!! Plsssssssssssss!
Stories dt touch
N cos u fuckin him doesn't mean u re his slave.
Wateva works 4 d couple dt§ their business n not 4 u to give stupid reasons why it should be
Oh masta masta! Lol awooooooooooooo! my belle
Thank you!!! Tell em
U av made me happy dis nyt. D pain I was avinh just dis appeared. God bless u 4 me.
Mr Anonymous, just bcos u don't call ur husband Sir doesn't mean u don't respect him.
That's sooo true
U really cracked me up
As a man... I authoritatively state everyone was born equal. Does a man show his respect by calling his wife 'ma'am' or 'maaa' ? let us stop this archival way of behaving and be respectful in our actions. It is this backward way of behaving and status divisions that fueled slave trade to humongous proportions . Please this woman if real needs counseling. I thank God that France just repealed a century long law that forbade women from wearing trousers just last week. How insane.... Please women should even speak up positively for themselves and I'm sure there are forward thinking men who would encourage them. My mum attended the traditional rites for my marriage a few years ago and I rmb her sister saying that women are not supposed to be present when such talks are going on and i was like 'what the hell!' This really has to stop . This is 2013
"Sir u must b a fool to expect me to bring dinner to ur office by this, Sir"
Does nt show respect?
No!
Calling ur hubby Sir doesn't prove anytin. Wateva works 4 d couple
That's sooo true
Mr Anonymous, just bcos u don't call ur husband Sir doesn't mean u don't respect him.
Ka bi Esi ohhhhh. No b only igwe. U made me happy.
Oh my! My aunt has always called my uncle nkem and I thought it was his name/never realized it was a term of endearment.O_O we learn every day.
It's probably a joke bw them. I do it sometimes. U r a gossip anyway. Go and face it own.
With all due respect, U r nuts. Sir!!
Anonymouus@8.01pm-GOD BLESS YOU!! Please need to mind their business.. its not ridic anything. Call am my lord, sir, whatever floats ur boat and works for you.
It's not wrong to call your husband "sir", depends on your beliefs and values...but personally, it's very impersonal, too formal for an institution such as marriage!
Why would you advise her to stop it? What's your own self?
Lol... Like in "èyin" or "é" like an illiterate Yoruba woman...am Yoruba but it CAN NEVER happen, I man I sleep with? Hell NO!
Sarah calls abraham "my lord" how much more Ȋ̝̊̅§ sir???? I wonder why a woman feels so GƠ̴̴͡.̮Ơ̴̴̴͡d to call her boss sir yet to her its absurd to address her husband as such....mind ur business and call ur husband whatever ur life... Whether noun or pronoun adjective or verb to call ur husband sir Ȋ̝̊̅§ legal and informally right and the expression of intention counts,it may begin with "hello sir,thank you honey,bye sir,yes sir,kα̲̅γ̲̣̣̥ daddy....
Sommie na nnewi
In this generation? Seriously who does that? Both the friend and her husband are very backward...Its a big NO for me and i find it really stupid
Pretty Girl
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