Hi Linda, I need advice from your blog readers. And no, my story is not made up. It’s for real, actually very real. I am a top executive of a very successful conglomerate my father founded. I resumed the job early this year when I returned from the U.K after completing my MBA.
As a result of my job, I usually find myself frequenting places I ordinarily wouldn’t want to- Ikoyi club, society weddings, conferences, etc. I’m a geek for the most part, and something of a recluse. I’d rather stay in my house at the end of day and watch series of ‘Family Guy’ or ‘Spartacus’, ‘House’ or any of my other favorite series. When I became Deputy CEO of the company, I realized that I had to start hanging out at these places to build a social circle, mostly for business reasons. I am not a very sociable person, but with the help of my more outgoing cousins, I’ve been able to build a pretty decent network of Lagos ‘big boys’ between January when I returned and now.
During a conference in Lagos this year, I was approached by a young lady banker. She was working in the Marketing department at one of these newly-renamed banks- one of the banks that AMCON acquired and recapitalized. She’s pretty young- about 7 years my junior. I’m 28; this lady is about 21. You know how young these graduates are these days.
Anyway, she walked up to me and started persuading me to consider opening up a bank account with her bank and told me all the benefits of the account, etc. She looked so innocent and desperate, and practically begged me for an opportunity to see me again so that she could convince me. I ended up giving her my complimentary card. I usually don’t just give out my card like that, but I did.
Three days later, when I was hanging out with my new-found friends and my cousins at a bar at one of the Hotels on the Island during the early evening, this girl called me and reminded me who she was. She said she really needed me to open an account, and that she was eager to convince me on why I needed to open an account. My friends noticed I was talking to a girl on the phone. You know how guys are; they teased me and asked me to just play around with her and invite her for drinks.
I asked her to come over to the Hotel, and surprisingly, she said she would be there in 20 minutes. The branch she worked in is on the Island, so she apparently took a Bike and came to meet us. This was about 6pm. The girl came, and my friends all saw her. They smiled and talked among themselves in hush tones, and I talked briefly with her for like 5 minutes and told her I would make a decision on banking with her or not. She was desperate from what I could see, and she was eager to get my account.
When she left, my friends all laughed mischievously and told me in plain terms that I had to fuck the girl. They went on talking about how all these bank marketers all get fucked by different men before getting deposits, and insisted that I must not be any different. Now, I’m not a virgin; I’ve had my own fair share of sex in the past, but I’ve never been one to take advantage of a girl. I knew she was desperate as she had a target to meet up to, or something of the sort. But when you’re a guy hanging out with guys, it’s pretty difficult to be the odd one out. All my friends made me promise that I’d sleep with the girl. I promised; I didn’t want to look like some geek. And I’m really trying to feel among these guys.
To cut a long story short, two days later, when I was in my office, this girl called me and tried persuading me to bank with her. As she was talking to me on phone, I asked her jokingly: “What are you willing to do in order for me to open an account with you?”
She hesitated and then she told me: “Anything you want sir.”
Gbam! That was my cue. I asked her to meet me at one hotel for drinks later that evening. I asked my PA to book a room for me at the Hotel. She came to meet me. We had drinks, we chatted. She told me that her bosses had ordered her to deliver N10million to the bank that month, and that so far, she hadn’t gotten anything. Her job was on the line, and she had only just started working there 3 weeks before. I asked her to follow me to the room. She did. I slept with her.
Surprisingly, it turns out she was doing it for the first time. She was actually a Virgin. The bed sheet was stained with her blood and all that stuff, and I was just amazed. I thought being a marketer and all, that she would have been sampled many times. But no, she was a virgin. When we finished, she was shy of looking at me in the eye. We didn’t talk much. I gave her money for a Taxi, and gave her the name of the Finance director of the subsidiary I am in charge of. I asked her to meet him the following day to open up a corporate account. I instructed the guy to open up an account worth a few hundreds of millions- probably enough to meet her target for the next 2 years if there if such a thing in commercial banking circles. I don’t know how these banks work.
Anyway, she called me and thanked me profusely for saving her job. My friends now know I have slept with her, and I have solidified my place among them as a ‘bad’ guy.
The issue is this: I haven’t been able to stop thinking about her. It’s been like six weeks now. I haven’t called her since then, even though she keeps sending me text messages asking after my wellbeing and thanking me for banking with her. She deals directly with my Finance guy so we don’t talk money ever. But I think about her every day. I think I actually have feelings for her, and the idea that I was her first makes me feel like she should belong to me. I’ve never been a Lady’s first. I’m actually going crazy with thoughts about this girl.
Am I crazy? Should I call her up and ask her out? How would that feel? How would she react? Also, considering that my friends all see her as the bank ‘whore’ would it be a good idea to still ask her out? It could kill me rep among them. I’m not looking for sex from her; I’m looking for something real, something intimate. I want something that’d last- probably forever.
I’ve never felt this way about any other lady in a really really long time. What should I do?
Please advise.
S
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«Oldest ‹Older 401 – 600 of 807 Newer› Newest»i just think u are fascinated by the fact that she was a virgin and u are her first.its not love. i met my husband and after dating for a while he naturally wanted to sleep with me. i refused bc i was still a virgin and wanted to marry b4 anything. he agreed and waited until we eventually married and it was blissful. things went well for a while but he gradually changed and it just keeps getting worse . today looking back i just think he was fascinated by the fact that i was a virgin even though i was a hot and happening chic outside and he conquered me.also he thinks he doesn't have to bother about me cheating and bla bla. but the love and all the beautiful things ended too fast so i just think he loved d virginity stuff more than my person. i am a born again christian but i don't think people should let their husbands be their first. it makes no sense to me anymore. am sorry and may God forgive me but won't encourage my daughter to do that. Guy, do something else. get an experienced chic that you will love genuinely not a girl u disvirgined and want to conquer.
its wat u wnt dat matters not wt ur frnds tink.. if u wnt tis girl call her up bt u must first get to knw her beta cos if she cn give up her virginity to keep her job, wat more cn she do.....
Call back and invite her out. Offer her a job with your Company please. SO she does not have to sell her body to every man she meets. And believe when me when i say she is hooked on you. Seeing as you are her first. Be kind enough to offer her your friendship and then see where it goes from there. Virgins are a RARITY man so follow your heart.
Hmmn, it's a world of know about but i must tell you the honest truth "GO FOR HER". you have your own humble life to live
ok so there are 2 things here
1) she just got the job so she is new so there is a high chance that after you she had to sleep with some other men to open more accouts
2) but to hell with no 1, lol CALLLL HEEER! so u can stop her from doing that..and u can hook her.
u sef y are u looking for advice..will ur frends live ur life for u..look for her.get somone and something real and intimate.!!! all the best.
p.s u really sound like a big baby
Follow ur heart man!..what are you? 28 or 18? I believe making a decision as to whether to date dis girl or not shouldn't be a problem,maybe just maybe,this post of urs should have come up before the deed was done.
Love this story, absolutely romantic.Pls, go ahead and call her up, try to know the kind of girl she is if truly indeed you can spend the rest of your life with her.If you see yourself with her in a perfect picture then go for it man.
ok so there are 2 things here
1) she just got the job so she is new so there is a high chance that after you she had to sleep with some other men to open more accouts
2) but to hell with no 1, lol CALLLL HEEER! so u can stop her from doing that..and u can hook her.
u sef y are u looking for advice..will ur frends live ur life for u..look for her.get somone and something real and intimate.!!! all the best.
p.s u really sound like a big baby
My brother, you will loose a good thing here, if you loose her besides you don't need anyone, not even readers on Linda's blog to tell you that. you will never be happy if you go with someone else get to know her better and do not sleep with her for a bit. you guys should just hang out and be friends... it will come naturally. You are a good man cause you have a good heart.
I don't know if what u feel is affection or a guilty conscience. Either way I am glad u have one ( conscience). What I would advice is that u should not jump to anything because I would not trust someone who says they would do anything for whatever. But please be kind to her and just because your new friend are PRICKS is not an excuse to join them in degrading people who are less fortunate than you.
Please follow your heart, your heart will never deceive you.
Best of Luck
Marry her and then take her out of the bank. If she gave you her virginity just cos of an account, then i'm sure she'd be willing to do much more for other men once her target is increased again.
She did what she did cos of her job,,,she Ȋ̝̊̅§ young so plz help her so she won't become A̷̷̴̐͠ bank whore'...(naa waa 4 dis bank jobs mtchewwwwww)
For what its worth
1st call her and apologize..as a girl i'd remember my first time its consoling to know he's not a douche!
have you ever thought just like ur friends she was nugged by hers 'sleeping for accounts is the norm?'
its her 1st job for all you know she just wants to grow-up and impress people!
She has feelings for you..i mean your a rich kid!lol maybe dating her will work until maybe she sees you're not that a great guy..a whole lotta maybes but nonetheless,
an apology will do more good than harm for both of you likewise..
you unnecessarily caused an unwarranted emotional attachment clinched to your soul, but settling in marriage with her is a whole lot more sacrifice compared to the damage u have caused her and the saving of hundreds of million because of her. my advice to you is to bring up business interaction between yourself minding the fact that romantic issues have to be silent for NOW so you could know her background, if a 21 years old virgin is so desperate to loose her GOD given treasure because of a mere determinant monetary mandate. moreover you should be careful so you don't fall into a snare. nevertheless if all your conclusion stands truly convincing, therefore you have to keep your VIRGIN. USE YOUR HEAD AND NOT YOUR HEART.....
I lack words for u my friend!
Ur conscience is seriously beating u up!but I dnt think u took advantage of her,she gave herslf to u.she is an adult nd knows wt she wnts,I'm sure she's one of those female young bankers dat wnt to desperately climb der way to d top sharp sharp!a so cald gud gurl won't climb up wit u to ur room nd gve up her virginity jst like dat!SHE WAS SHY KEH!mcheeeeew!who knows hw many acnts she must hve had by nw!MBOK drink brandy nd move on!dis is NOT LUV bt PITY
Wondering why you should allow your friends to lead you astray. Why didn't you just hang out and play with her for a while without taking advantage of her? You could have stopped as soon as you discovered that she was about exchanging her innocence for her job. Starting a relationship with her depends on how you see her (not how your friends). Do you really love her or do you feel indebted to her because you took her innocence? would you feel same way if she wasn't a virgin? does she love you? would she be this desperate to engage in this again with someone else for same purpose? Note that these stupid bank directors give them monthly targets. So what happens in future? Sort out these issues and take a decision including taking her out of the marketing jobs.
I really don't support her. Some ladies and men are becoming too desperate for 'meeting targets' these days so much that they forget their self worth. Some directors take advantage of them. The female take advantage of the male and vice versa! A very pretty married woman in one of the top banks in Nigeria slept with a mallam at the Airport for the same target and the stupid mallam refused to use condom! The poor woman resigned after a while when she couldn't live with the pain in her heart. May the Lord have mercy.
Uhmmm! So many things ignite your feelings for another, and in your own case, it's deflowering a lady, a professional at that, without a conscience just to feel among.
I am no saint, though, I've had my fair share of spreading my wild oats but I think I know better. The deed is done but I think the first of what to do is to sincerely apologise and find a way to build some friendship bearing in mind the end from the beginning. It's no fault of hers, too, guess it happens to us all-'we all get screwed....' one way or the other.
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My guy, there r a whole lot of advise to choose from!fink well n take ur pick out of it. bruv its ur life! dnt let someone else spread those legs if wat u say you feel is true! And lets us know wat up. NEXT!!!
you don't have a mind of your own because if you do you wont be talking about your friends in this matter.
For this girl to keeper virginity through out her university days means she is not that bad.
you did a wrong thing by sleeping with her just to help her out but its ok.
please you need to help that girl out so she will not continue to sleep around just to meet target. you can get her another job pls the feeling you are having for her might be beyond dating her. just help her and get a descent job for her. forget your friends.
wow what a beautiful and composed write up..no gimmicking and i like the fact that u were very consistent and straight forward..pls go for her,get to know her..then take her off d dirty job and find her a decent job.if u at the end of d day think her worthy of u,make a woman out of her..good luck mate.
guy u be mumu o,no sane girl will give up her virginity to save any silly job or money
what if the gal slept with your during her menstral period and only cleaned up to come and see you. hence the blood on the sheets
she could be a lucky girl with a firm p*****
guy dont enter one chance o, u are in lagos now.
a girl who slept with you for money will sleep with other men for money.
even if she was a virgin true true , its not like she loves u or something she slept with ur rich ass for money
guy move on, better for you to marry a girl who isn't a virgin than a lie lie virgin
* linda please post my comment thanks*
Helo,ist ov ol,I ve 2 condemn ur action.y shud u sleep wit a girl bcos ov peer pressure??..guys! Y is it dat most guys can't hold dier ground wen it comes 2 receivin bad advice 4rm frends??..nywyz,d ugly deed hs bin don olredy. I jst want 2 tel u dat since u feel 'sometin' 4 d girl,I don't c any reason y u shudnt approach her!...as long its nt 2 take advantage ov her! Lov can b found n diff places even n funy situations.4rm d way u narrated ur story,u don't seem 2 b a bad guy!..bt, pls,do away wit ur crazy frends!! & olso,confes ur sins 2 God & repent.who knws,she mite b ur God given wife!...pls approach her.tell her. D reason u did wot u did.mor importantli,tel her y u want 2 get 2 knw her beta!..iv she accepts u,fine.iv not,lern ur lesson & stop sleepn around!..4 ur sake,I pray she does,& I pray u ar a gud man.rememba,nt ol marketers re prostitutes!..even dough I hate wot she did.its beta 2 lose ur job dan ur dignity! *oh Lord,pls let dis 2 b joined 2geda maritally!*..*winks*
She might have been a virgin, but she's a scheming virgin. She gave it up so easily cos she knew you would feel the way u are currently feeling; and consequently go after her.
She has remained in touch with you so that her memory remains with you and then you invite her out again....it is when you guys hang out again that she will begin her scheme into 'girlfriend' status.
It's cute tho, i like her spirit.
DAZZLING SAYS.....
I SERIOUSLY THINK YOU NEED HELP, U NEED TO SEE A PSYCHOLOGIST, 1. U ARE A PEOPLE PLEASER,U DONT KNOW WHAT U WANT, WHY ARE U ASKING US. RANDY IMBECILE, U WANT TELL US SAY U BE BIG BOY,UR PAPA GET MONEY ANIMAL, FOOL ARE U SURE THE GAL WILL WANT U SEF. IF I WERE HER I WILL DAMN U, RUBBISH. OBTAINING BY TRICK.
Bros, its wrong that she slept with you for deposit,and it being her first time, it might eventually haunt her later, but you have the power to help her, so she wouldnt continue down the line of sleeping with men for money,call her, date her if she will, and let your friends know your true feelings about her, they should respect your feelings. bottomline. CALL HER AND ASK HER OUT,, TAKE IT STEP BY STEP, am a guy and i know how it feels to be a girl's first.
Omo baba olowo!!That is what i would call you.You know what count it a privileged to be her life saver for that target(thou u did it in a wrong manner),trust me if you dint do it God would have sent some1 else.
Give her a call,sit her down v a chat with her,offer her a better job(which i know you have the capacity to)you would have impacted a life positively,save her from other rapist like you out there.you have done something neither you(not minding u boosting to your friends)nor her are proud of.Try out a relationship with her, even if it eventually doesn't work out(thou i feel it would)you would be @lst free from guilt,you have a blood covenant with her already and trust me such SOUL-TIE are not easily broken(it hunts pple like 4ever).
U be fool 4 sleepin wit her in d 1st place, and u be big fool 4 lettin her go after knwin wht u now knw abt her. U can be her savin grace by encouragin her not 2 repeat d same thin wit anoda guy. Let he d@ has ears hear wht d spirit is tellin d church. #obarune
My dear go for her.
A lady only gives her V to a man she likes (job or no job/money or no money) she must have felt something for you from the begining but might not be able to express her self due to her upbrining or social values. i belt its not bcos of the money she slept with you. there is diff more to it so please find out so that you dont miss out. I have been in the banking sector for over 11yrs and i can tell you that not all marketers are wayward. some will date you bcos they like you but you will see it from a diff persective.
Kindly call her
I think you should follow your heart but you really need to know her first and secondly she needs to quit the marketing job too. Tell your friends about her and your feelings for her. All the best
You are an asshole, homo pervert
The nigerian mentality is actually f*cked up! What you did isn't cool at all. Took advantage of the poor girl.
I hope someone does the same to your future daughter.
i dont usually comment on stories like this, but I'll make urs an exception. well, first, get her a better job. get her off that freaking marketing bank bull shit, so that she wont have to open for someone else, then, start by being friends with her, see if the feelings are still there and its not just ur guilty conscience thas making u feel so. fuck ur friends, dont give two fucks about whatever they think. from there, see how it goes!!!
Na wa ooo, all iv been reading is virgin dis virgin dat,4crying out loud, she's 21 bot 26 being a virgin sudnt b a shock,but for a virgin to b able to give it up to a guy she met jst twice, without even a proper date or introduction it only means that she was already thinkn bout giving it up since but no oppournity...C'mon he ddnt force her neither d he rape her...so pls lemme hear word. Secondly, my cute guy I thnk u sud call her, it won't hurt @ all, try to hangout with her some more and who knwz she might b d 1 or not but u will neva knw until u try. And about ur frnds...if truly u control d kinda money u do, y sud a bunch of immature frnds dictate to u what u can or can't do?...u either leave that circle or remain a follow follow frnd, very soon now u'll drink acid cos ur frnds says its a cool drink...Efe
First u hv 2 acknowledge dat u re an idiot 4 playing such a game wit ur frnds all in d name of fun or big boy nd jst so u kw she wil never go out wit u.
Boy O BOY,No good girl will loose her virginity for money or job. please let it go is all fake love,it could be a setup from your friend open your eye.
anonymous sep11 2012 12.27 and12.28 you are the best.
Pls call her back and make something real with her if you have conscience. GBAM!
stop decieving yourself. love does not exist in any relationship.
what exist are benefits: sex and money.
tap that arse while you can you earned it.
have fun:)
Pls call her back and make something real with her if you have conscience. GBAM!
Dear LIB reader, plssss if ur sure ur feelings are for real and u dnt want to play with her,den go ahead and call her bt if ur intentions are not pure,plllllllllllllssssssssssssssssssssss let her be!
awww!u def hv to call ha dearb she deserves it and just xplain to ur friends nau its nt lyk dey wuld kill u
Seems there are some young men with genuine hearts out there. That you are remorseful says a lot about you..call her apologise to her and proceed with friendship and see where it leads. She might have succumbed to you because she had some feelings for you. Afterall, you were not the first person she had approached! Be upfront, it will go along way. Best of luck
i hope my wife is the UK is reading this. she is unbeliveably naive about how lagos can transform a gentleman(which i presume this guy is) to one with fast eroding morals. I say free the babe. If she fucked u once for money, she will do it again elsewhere. FACT.
Come on guy, U have what it take to take care of her... where asking? why looking back, to see a girl like that means a whole lot more... look u should know that ur friend will always talk... take her out of that stupid bank. if u think u really like her, don't put her into the hands of those bad guys out there just having sex with these bankers... am 33yrs base in Malaysia, I broke up with my girl bcos she sleep with all that open account with her and really she is nice but she needs to keep up and do her thing... i wish had the opportunity like u do, so my guy, don't even think twice ok.. go for her... u can start by knowing her on a personal note, don't tell ur friends at first. when u re certainly then tell them and make a life for her.. is a GOLD..... Refine her and u will be happy u did
Follow your heart!By the way did U know that U had made a blood covenant with her already becos blood was involved in the process. Let your friends know that her case is different. Period.
Start from taking her out of the 'marketing/bank'circle. Then work on you guys if you are truly interested.
LMAO! 27 year old giving in to peer pressure? Agbaya oshi. I don't think she's a bad person. She's just 21, prolly one private uni grad who's still malleable and needs to grow up. Musta listened to some yeye peeps who made it seem alright for her to do anything to meet her target. Anyways, you should call her up, (and save her from herself PLS) However, you need to finish what you started by giving your friends the full gist so you can save face. I prolly hate guys who kiss and tell more than anyone in this world, but ur case is peculiar as if you don't it could potentially ruin the good thing you two might have. Lay it bare for ur guys, and follow ur heart. And after this, abeg learn your lesson and grow a spine, You can't have peeps pushing you to do stuff at 27, haba. Agbaya oshi (couldnt resist saying that again. LOL) For peeos sayin he shld just bone the guys, trust me it won't be funny if they start datin or get married, and peeps are snickering behind their backs that she's a ho. So he berra get that part dealt with to avoid anything that could cause issues as per his wife's reputation.
Ciao
Everyone makes mistakes, since you made yours by sleeping with her, all because she needed your help(smh), and she made her's by sleeping with you cause she felt it was her only way out(nawa), I sincerely suggest you follow your heart and put a call through to her,you never can tell. I also suggest you help her get another/better job, so she doesn't kill herself to move a company not owned by her forward. Hope it works out for both of you. Good luck!
JUST MARRY HER ALREADY NERD AND STOP ASKING QUESTIONS LIKE THIS WHEN YOU KNOW UR SOLUTION. MARRY HER ASAP!!!....or wait and get her another job or else the system will pressure her to meet a higher demand and she might give in to sexual demands as a means to deliver to her target. talk to her to know the kinda mind she has if she is ready to follow ur plans.its very obvious u love her since ur a nerd...dont be me...i lost this kinda oppurtunity and am stil single till today with all the money....not very happy/proud of it tho....do what you have to do asap. J
Well I think you should go for her. I mean she's obviously attracted to you for her constant text messages asking about your well being and all. You should definitely get to know her better, don't ignore her messages. Call her start having a friend based relationship and then see how it goes in the long run. xx
She must be in love with you to let you be her first. Its not easy finding a 21 year old virgin these days. Please date her and get to know her. You certainly were not the first person she had to approach for an account? Why didn't she sleep with the other guys? Let your friends know she's not the kind of girl you all thought. They shouldn't live your life for you.
BTW, not all female bankers are morally bankrupt. Its hard but if you have good marketing skills, you don't need to sleep around to get accounts. After all, most of my bank's target bursters are guys who didn't have to sleep around to get good accounts
She slept with you because she was pressured to meet target. Whats the assurance she will not do the same with another target. Am also a geek too and spend most time with my computer, In my opinion you have feelings for her because you slept with her as a virgin. My advice keep to your policy of "I usually don’t just give out my card like that." Been sociable in Nigeria will land you to more troubles.
Hello there, my advice to u is that u shld ask her out and tell her tell her the truth that she was just a plan. i bet she will forgive u, cos u saved her job. tell her hw u feel now. then as for your frnds tell them off, that u feel different about the gal and that things change. less i 4get u and ur frnds are real assholes. But take my advice.
i don't think its love you are feeling.
you feel very guilty and you feel you owe her something.
if you try to start a relationship with her, she would always have this subtle resentment for you.
call her, apologize to her, make sure you sound sincere and let her go. simple.
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My answer goes in form of a question,dis girl was able to loose her innocence to u,so as to get u deposit 10million with her bank,what if tomorrow anoda man gives her a better offer than d one u gave earlier,don't u think the tendency is there for her to cheat on u,since ur first meeting wasn't based on sincerety of purpose.~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310.
Hmmm!Some people can be very very funny,first you never asked for our candid advice b4 sleeping with the innocent Omoge knowing fully well that Linda's blog is full of wise counselors,you even took the highest risk of investing several hundred millions without seeking out for our advice as u just did now.So after intimidating the innocent poor girl with d size of your wallet if possible even injured her with the size of your thing she being a virgin.Now you are confused and needs advice,listen to me by bro,are you in love with her or her virginity/innocence,and for your betterment ask yourself too if she's in love with you or your bank account.As she will definitely meet other bigger boyz,since she is that cheap and such an easy prey.Okwudili Olisa.
i think u did a heartless thing by sleepin with ha when u can help ha,bt f u think u are telling ursef d truth dat u are really nluv with ha den go amend ur wrongdoing. but if u are going 2 tke more advatege of ha, jux knw u are bringing more judghement 2 ursef.
Honestly this sound so crazy and also cool same time. for me a virgin is not an ideal girl to get married to. she just tasted it once, plenty chances have it that even the chap get fixed with her, the woman in her will drive her someday to wanting to do it with another man as shes just a novice and first timer. wisdom thing now.
As old as you are, you buckled under pressure from your friends. The truth is, your conscience is what's getting to you. Meet her and ask for forgiveness as you've done a wicked thing.
i find it hard to believe this story is true. do you know what it is to just give up your sef like that abeg make i see road pass joor make my morning no spoil.
Swallow your pride, tell ur friends the truth and pls I beg you CALL THAT GIRL BEFORE SOMEBODY ELSE DOES
one word rubbish
If u like her call her up..who cares what your friends think?you only live once!!!
Anonymous @ 12. 26am.....May God bless you and enrich your brains the more. i could not have put it better.
Pls, try to make sure she didn't fake the virginity stuff cos sex for virgins during a first time is usually painful and I can't read from your story so find that out and more over taking advantage of her was not really nice of you though no one is perfect at least.Please, don't ever use anyone due to peer pressure again.
if she has done it once she would do it again!!!
what makes you think that she would stop ehh if her boss comes up with another target and you can't help her to meet the target then what??? would she not carry on to the next rich guy that comes along. mehn THINK again and you are also very stupid for sleeping with her for a bet with your silly friends GROW UP mehn as am disappionted that someone that went to the uk for masters can be this foolish don't you know that AIDS and HIV are real??? common use that your useless brain next time.
linda hope you are having a nice day....
Call her joor!!...Regardless of everything, its obvious you have a good heart and "BELIEVE ME" you may never be that lucky again, especially with girls of these days and a banker at that...So for the sake of the good few who are still out there and before she gets lost in this evil world in the name of chasing some bank target...please act right and pick up the damn phone...!!
Dude! If ure not careful, dose your lagos big boys would run and ruin your life..... They wud approve a girl dat wud be buyin tanties for u for lunch.....
Its bad enuf wot u did. Ask her out nd if she agrees, plssssss for fuck sake! Don't sleep with her till u settle.
Linda happy birthday in adavance. And 4 d guy u hav to be sure if it is nt pity u feel 4 her. Cos I feel dat is wat it is,nt luv. Linda plsssssss I beg u post my comment
Mumu question
Hello
You are quite on the 'good guy' part aren't you?
In my opinion, i think if you really like the lady as you say, you should go after her. Your friends may be a tad disappointed in you but that should bother you less than if you missed this opportunity.
On the other hand, how sure are you that this lady would be willing to go out with you? what? the fact that you have proven yourself to be one of the guys who take advantage of females? because of your wealth? How? How do you even let your friends influence you into doing something so sad? Like aren't you old enough to know right from wrong? aren't you smarter than this? Honestly, if i were to be this lady, (which of course i can never be), your sight alone would disgust the fuck out of me. I hope you feel guilty.
Guys think u need to give in to peer pressure to be a confam bahdt guy..but the real bad guy that girl REALLY do admire are guys who stand to be different..I admire u for admitting the fact that it was peer pressure and feeling bad for it..but remember ure friends can only push u to do things against ure will BUT can NEVER shield u from the consequences of ure actions...everybody learn from this and BE WISE!!
Hmmm...if she could loose her virginity 2 u without hesitating just 2 save her job,she can as well agree 2 date u so the money can keep coming.she aint stupid u knw?? Think about it,she gave it up jst 2 save her job without having feelings 4 u,I wonder what else she is capable of doing.#be wise#
Oga don't allow ur friends to control u, bc if u don't take time they will lead u into trouble one day, always do what is wright ok, for that girl just go for her ok. And let ur friends know this that u just told us, but don't allow them to deceive u bc they must ask u some silly questions to convince u not to go for her, like how are u sure that she is not going to do it with another person bc definitely she must be given another target from her bank, don't listen to them just follow ur heart, since u are doing well in ur business stop her that bank job once u settle down with her, and set up a business for her, it will even give her the chance to take care of ur children very well. I pray that u will do it this way, I promise u, u will never regret it.
Ask her out, nd if she agrees, abeg, find another job for her where she wudnt need a bigger maga than u to meet her target.
Which kine story be this na.linda I tire for sum question ur libers dey ask.dis one is just like askin weda to eat rice or garri
What kind of story is that? Its wack and dont believe it. Linda i think people are sending you fake stories jorrr. Hisssss!!
Make your friends know U were her first and besides in life FOLLOW YOUR MIND AND NOT YOUR FRIENDS cos when U are in deep sh*t you sort it out yourself and not your friends
1 fin I want u 2 knw is fwnds can be funny in d sense dat most of dem don't do wat dey brag abt. So if u considering wat dey'll eva say I fink u nt livin ur life. Its nt a mst u av 2 do wat dey say.if u lied abt u avin sex wif her dey wldnt av knwn + erryfin works 2geda 4 gud u also wldnt av knwn she was a v.jst go get her fast b4 she gonna get wild and fink any1 dat wants 2 help her mst av sex wif her 1st. Make her knw dat u did a very bad fin 2 her and u regret ur act and tell her erryfin u feel don't be shy and proud. U sayin wat u feel makes d burden more easier 2 bear. Jst talk and don't keep quiet and am sure u didn't tell ur fwnds she was a V cos if dey re reasonable dey'll tell u nt 2 let go.jst make moves ooooo b4 she Moves on and 4gets abt u
d world we r is really something we can not understand. Humans can do anything to get what they want. U dude is looking at here is that she is a virgin, not minding that she is still young, their r girl that r still virgin no matter how old they r. All u should be concern here is the mind of this said girl that can give her virginity for money, she can do more. She is still young n still have more to exhibit in life. She ll still do it to continue in the job. For u d guy in question, u r not a good guy, u took d advice of ur friends b4 u do such a thing, they ll lead u astray someday. U could not interpret d dream of the girl without taking advantage of her... sorry ladies we have seen terrible things in dis journey of life. A lot ladies would have still been virgin if not for some circumstances that befall us. If u feel u have feelings for her call her, make her better and be a nice form now on. Cheers!
Wait let get things straight here, do u have feelings for her because she is a virgin? becos if u eventually have her to yourself will you be able to trust her bcos of her past with u?see am a virgin too, do guys really want to be with a girl because she is a virgin?
. Destiny calls to those who listen to their heart,for you can never be true to yourself until you do what feels right.
Well 4 me, u sud properbly call her, u r a man n u didnt come 2 dis world wiv ur cousins n frnds u av 2 make up ur Own mind n its ur decision not ur frnds. I guess shes a good girl but, Life pushed her around so she had 2 take dat drastic decision 2 sleep whic must b precious 2 her. So pls b a man n stand tall! CALL HER!!
I think you should marry her and take her out of the banking system, and care less about what your friends would say. Follow your heart!!!!!!!!
LIPS SAYS...
Anonymous 12.00am, have u heard off people who have myopic brains... well you are 1. Dude, all banks are not whores, yeah we all know there are bad eggs but don't judge the pack cos 1 is bad. Tell your friends the truth about that night (not that you owe them an explanation tho) Follow your heart not their tongue.. If you feel you need to be with her, plsssssss go ahead not many people get to find love with the kind of world we live in now... Wish you the very best & please go after HER!
P.S... Linda post it as it is written o!
Mr Dauda (aka NACKSON)
let the lady go. In the first case, you didn't realise, while you took advantage of her desperation,that she probably had a descent boy friend, who decided not to deflower her all these years before you showed up. You don't know if she still values her relationship, in-fact you know nothing about her. The truth is the feeling you have is not love, it is POWER. You just discovered that if you have money, in Nigeria, you can take advantage of the vulnerable; this is what has been happening in Nigeria from the beginning of time, so don't try to be self righteous.
All you want is another piece of the pie, until you get tired and then go for another pie. Let her go and promise your self not not to take advantage of another woman again!
On the other hand, if you choose to be very stupid, you will go after her, she will date you- you might even decide to marry her. Then later on in life, after a loveless marriage, you will realise you never loved her, and she only wanted financial security.
On the other hand, she might even never forget, and in time, gradually make your life a living hell. YES she is a matured adult, but if given a choice of not losing her job, she would have gone against her principle by allowing person she never knew sleep with her. Welcome to the world of CASANOVAS, I really hope you wouldn't graduate to start sleeping with married women.
Finally, You claim to be 28, and yet you behave like a child who doesn't have a mind of his own. you claim to be a DMD, but I reckon you can't even make good corporate decisions your self; instead you value the opinions of you friends more than even your conviction or principle. You are giving me the impression that if told to rape a woman by your pears, you would do it without asking to save face- please have a mind of your own, and don't use this forum to air your disgustingly dirty laundry.
im sorry but if she was that quick to sleep with you to get a deposit, trust me she will sleep with the next person when she has another target to meet, u just have guilty conscience forgive yourself and move on. ps u need to stop letting your friends rule you. there is nothing wrong with being a geek. simple
ok, first of all, fuck ur friends, they're childishly stupid and for u to actually try to feel among them then so are u, ifg ur friends want u to be a bad guy, then be better be a big boy, and if they call her the bank whore, u know different, u know, u were her first, and she's not a whore, u made the mistake of listening to ur friends in the first place
if this girl starts sleeping around for deposits to the bank, then it's all your fault cause u had the chance and you didnt show her any better, you didnt show her that she could keep her job without sleeping with you, so if she becomes a whore, it's your fault dude
My big brother, am sharing tears when i red your ,for what an innocent girls gos through to make a living. well, may God forgive her for breaking her virginity in d name of work but for u, God will also forgive u for taking advantage of her due to the influence of bad friends. before ur friends destroyed ur precious gold, tell dem who the girl are and not what they think. Finally, this is ur gold u must never loos. so what do u do? invite her now and never have sex with her again but tell her ur intention immediately because she loves u too. Am on my knees marry her please. God bless u. for more advice and prayer, mail me at. joeplus4christ@yahoo.com.
choooooooooooooooooi see comments????????????am laughing hard here.......never commented on this blog b4 but mehn......u lots crack me up!
ONOME says.....
Awwwwww.I love romantic stories.#sigh#
That being said,you are my definition of a user and a dog,with all due respect.Too bad the woman in question had to do a trade by barter.Really sad and unfortunate about that.You do not strike me as a "good person".You saw a desperate naive young girl who needed to secure her job and you took advantage of that need.Where's your mom?She must be really proud of the son she raised.
All the best.Forgive my harsh words.I simply detest anyone that preys on the weak.I can not get my head around the fact that you needed to satisfy your friends in order to" feel among".That makes you a prepubescent child.As for the girl in question,u no try sha.Good luck to u both.Call her if u want to.
stop letting your "friends" determine your every move, call her. keep it on the down low till it becomes serious or not
Its men like you who ruin the lives of girls. Men like You Mr Man. As old as you are? you still get peer pressured by your mates? As old and wealthy as you are, you cant make decisions with you 'Deputy CEO'd' brain? Please allow the innocent girl. Allow her go please, drown yourself in guilt. Ensure your friends pick out a girlfriend for you okay? because if they don't, you will end up lonely without friends and you wouldn't be seen as a Lagos big boy anymore. Okay? and that will lead to you becoming poor right? right! you don't want that do you? And also, randomly walk into banks, who knows? you may find another marketer who in a bid to reach their monthly target would be willing to sell off their most treasured asset. That way, you can brag to your group of 'Big Boys'. You would like that wouldn't you? As geek as you claim, your 28 year old brain cant tell you wrong from right. Men like you disgust me.
she gave you her virginity, please talk to her and marry her if she agrees, then one more thing since you have a business of your own stop her from banking work and give her a position in your company then tell her the truth and why you slept with her, she will forever be grateful to you. Our Banking sector have become something else, imagine forcing somebody to loose her virginity because of target
you seem like a really good guy, if you really have to keep your friends..keep them but dont let them dictate wah you do with yor life brov'...if you feel strongly about her, you should call her up!
well in my opinion, real men raise good families..you seem like onE!..you know the right thing..DO IT!
Hmmmmnnnnn!! Mr S,
Is she the first virgin you are sleeping with? Why cant u get over a one night stand? If you are sure you like her and want more, whats stopping you from contacting her? Pride?
as for your friends, I am not a guy but you must not do what your friends say, or care what they think. You must learn to be your own man. grow up!
Call her up and ask her out. Discuss all things, she might be the one and you would have saved her from alot of pain in future. You are the first that got there, let it be the last, nurture her and advice her. If she is the one marry her in time and take her off that nasty bank job. Please I am begging you.
Story sounds similar to mine. Ended up marrying her. called the bluff of my friends. Funny thing is<i have never regretted it.
This ideaa that bankers sleep wif pple to meet their targets is just wrong.
My advise is call her explain exactly what happened and hw wrong u were and ask her out like a lady and treat her as such and take very gd care of her u might end of marrying her and her working in the same company and nt for any bank.
But u nd to tell ur guys that u didn't sleep wif her cos u like her so they cld accord her her self respect.
Dear S,
After reading this post, I couldn’t do anything for a good 10-15 mins, except cry, think and just stare.
I actually started reading the post with a keen interest. I was with you up until the second paragraph; I was even smiling that here’s someone who feels just as I feel in some social situations. I have been a victim of needing to hang out with folks, just cos I have felt it necessary as part of my career. I sit there listening to conversations, 95% of which I really couldn’t care less about. I don’t smoke, I don’t drink and I despise foul language/mundane talk… yet all these are characteristics of these environments. I would quite frankly be at home watching TV or curled in bed with a novel.
And I have been to conferences where I haven’t known people and most definitely felt like the odd one out. So I could see where you were coming from.
But by the time I got to Paragraphs 5 and 6, I started thinking “hang on a minute! What’s with all these allusions to friends and their remarks?!” See, Dear S… I know you are asking LIBers what to do in your situation with this girl. But quite frankly, you have a bigger issue to resolve before wondering what to do with this girl.
And that issue you have to solve first is yourself. You have to go figure out what you want out of yourself as a person. Are you going to be someone who is strong enough to be whom they are, or someone who is going to constantly seek approval from others? For how long in your life would you listen to others? For how long would you live your life to please others? Have you ever thought why others are the ones convincing you, why are you not the one convincing them?
From what I have read, you have a lot of work to do on yourself. If you leave society or friends or ‘big boys’, as you call them, to mould you, you would end up being just that – a confused mould of a person. Nothing more. Tell yourself you want to be YOU. No need to please others. Anyone who looks at you and cannot accept you as you are, thinking you are not worthy enough to fit in is equally not worthy enough to be in your life.
Now this girl’s case was particularly touching to me. The young girl was just trying to sustain her job at all costs. Who knows what financial burdens she is carrying? She was trying to do whatever she could to keep herself employed in this tough economic climate, and unfortunately fell into the trap of wolves. It’s a shame your friends told you all marketers are the same. It’s a shame you believed it.
Moreover, did you not have any inkling along the way that she was a virgin? I refuse to believe you could not have pulled away any earlier.
Now, regarding the advice ur seeking from LIBers, the answer lies in what I said earlier – YOU NEED TO SORT YOURSELF OUT FIRST. Because you have already, once again, started considering the opinions of your friends and what they would think if you end up with her. What have your friends got to do with YOU and WHO YOU ARE? People respect you more when they know that you can take independent decisions and stand for something you believe in. If they cannot respect that, let them take a back seat.
I am not going to tell you whether or not to call/text/ping/Skype/IM the girl. All I will say is go and find and define whom you are. When you do, the solution to what you should do would be glaring you right in the face.
~1luv
This is my 1st comment ever on LIB...Guy, its good and brave to put yourself on the spot when you did something that bad. Don't be in a hurry to call the girl or start anything with her. Take some time out and think very well. For all we know, it may be your conscience playing a fast one on you. If you go back to that girl, date her and break up with her....hmmmm you have made an enemy cos she will hate you for life. So take some time to make the best decision. I wish you luck.
Be quick with ur decision b4 her target is increased to 1 billion, and she gets desperate again. As for ur friends forget them and follow ur heart
I don't believe that this guy really cares for the girl. I think he is looking for cheap publicity on the internet and Linda gave it to him.
He feels guilty for sleeping with an alleged virgin. The girl was not a virgin at all. I have watched a bank sales girl confess in church after dumping her job. She was told to take off her clothes so that Voodoo marks could by made on her for men to find her super attractive etc. She just could not do it and lost her job.
How does this guy know that the blood he saw on the bedsheets was not fake. It could be the latest method used to win customers. Some men fall for anyrhing. The bank managers would have sampled her before sending her on such ASHEWO errands. If he wants to marry a Prostitue, good luck to him. Publish my comment because the truth is bitter.
U want d truth?call her,change her Job, study her,be sincere to her,tell her to be sincere to you also,watch her character and correct her wen need be and also pray She might be ur missing rip.
Note:Ur friend u must give dem Leg Over or else they will destroy you.I hve been there.they all enemies in disguise,they are only close to you bcos of d money God forbid u hve problem nw ahhh nah (SOKOTO)meaning say e too far and u are on ur own."WHat So Ever U Want Go for It"
Call her innit! Although it doesn't make you much of a man for sleeping with a vulnerable girl just because you want to belong! It might be your guilty conscience that's worrying you. If it is love, then I suggest you explain to your friends....(not that such friends would even understand where you are coming from). Besides, if the girl still calls you after taking advantage of her, she probably can't stop thinking about you...(what, with you being her first and all).
-Chichi
Change your friends..... FAST.
Just keep being you no matter what it takes to run an organization. Can we meet? David Anozie, CEO of Urbanet corporate communication..
I made this kind of mistakle when I was serving at ABU, Zaria some years ago and it hurts me. A lady desparetly needed to pass her exam.
so bank jobs have become ashawo job!!! Issokay!!
All those bank managers making ppl daughters do this....someone would do it to your daughters 1 day!!! nonsense
well if dt is ur pics u luk great *wink* pls go after her, she worth it oh!!!!4get dt ur unserious mischievous friends or whteva.....and let me advice u dnt be influence by bad friends be a MAN of ur own word ok.
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Disappointing!! You need to be flogged, I don't want to use nice words on you because you don't deserve them with this act. A simple help, you took advantage of her. Its more disappointing to note that you are 28! OMG!! you cant even control your thoughts, people influence you this much? So what happens to the Company you are leading? Well I wont dwell on what has happened already, you should learn from this experience and move on with your life. The Girl deserves an Apology from you, what if she's your sister and someone did that to her? If a Lady is desperate, its your responsibility set the right path for her. You would've given her that money without it hurting a Fly. She was poor and desperate, there were several options you could have taken to help the poor girl, you might have employed her to save her job which was her major problem. I trust the Banks, new business year, new targets, so what gonna happen next? you've set a bad precedence for her. If she can't get you to sleep with her for extra deposits, she will look for someone else. You would've written your name in Gold, by changing the poor girls thought at that instant of gushing emotions. She cant be your Wife! Forget it, being a Virgin doesn't mean she will make a good wife for you,It goes beyond that. If she wasn't a Virgin would you have the same thoughts? My believe is that the Selfish tendency that lead you to sleep with her, is still driving you crazy and that's why you now want her because she was a Virgin. Let the poor girl be, Apologize to her, learn to control yourself and restrain yourselves from wrong influences. You lead a group of people and much is expected from you, if you continue this way you might not go far, I understand your age, but don't take advantage of people because they are in need.
Oga please i need a job ooo.....help a sister out. tnx.
if ur story is true as u said, then d u dont need anyone to tell u dat mayb ur true source of happiness,follow ur heart bro
I dont want to condemn you as an asshole, but I would condemn the act. We both know what you did was bad. What you feel now is a guilty conscience certainly. If at this age you still live for what your friends will say, then I must say guy that you are still imature. You only should bear responsibility for your actions. You took advantage of somebody, almost a decade your junior. So you cannot help somebody again. Common, men are men now. Your friends wanted you to start with her first, then they will follow suit and take türns! I dont think a few men out there in your position would want that kind of person as his wife because you have so cheapened her. Let me ask you, if she did that to you, what makes you think she would not do that for a Dangote, or an Adenuga out there. Even if you change jobs for her. What you need to do is to apologise to her and pray to God if she is your chosen one. But who am l to advise you, cos after this you would still go Ahead and adhere to tips from your friends. And as for ladies that sleep around for favours, well you cant sleep your way into heaven - remember that!
CALL HER NOW NOW!!!
Please... Jowo... Biko... yi hakuri.... dakun....
i just hope ure not attached to her cuz you are her first. sometimes... it does not really mean ure meant for each other... and under the circumstance... you guys myt really not be for each other.
But how do u know that, u have to call her up, get to know her....and then find out if u guys are compatible.... and pray about it too! :)
But really, if ur concern is what ur friends would say, then ure not a man.
U dont become a "solid man" by trying to prove to ur friends! that's something young men of these days need to know.
If you're a man... you're a man! you dont need to prove it to anybody.
and the number of girls uve had sex with does not certify ur being a man!
So guys... sorry MEN... take note!
long story! just call her!
You are such a jerk and she is very foolish to lose her Virginity because of her Job. hisssss!
Well well, as far as I know, you have ruined a part of her. But! you can make amends, seeing the story is true or not, these things happen and some of us readers do it or have been a party to it. The truth is the purpose of contact is impact, so if you have made a mistake, which you have now, go to her, just both of you, tell her how you feel, apologise and ask her to honestly forgive you. When God wants to bless you, He brings a woman your way and when the devil wants to destroy you, he brings a woman your way. Be a man that you are, if you're going to cry about it, pls do, but men! damn! make her feel special again. What are you waiting for?
for every good thing that happens there must be a SACRIFICE....the good thing is the girl, *catch em young* if you can take her into your life, you might be saving her of so many wrongs she is about to undergo dew to the constrain of her job, well because you are her first man does not guarantee her being a good girl but then your feelings for her can change a whole lot, please hear the voice of your heart, and then the sacrifice are Ur friends, let them know who she is and what you want, face them all..and go after her. @verified_juli
She shldnt av done dat cos dat shows aw she wl cont wv customers to meet her target.. Pls grab her b'4 she messes up her life..
Nice, I think you should talk to her more often and get to know her well before you rush into something serious with her. Because the fear here is, hope she doesn't sleep with others to meet up targets in the future.
I don't know how to deal with this, but I think she would have done it with anyone. It just happened to be You.
Who knows?.?... Follow your mind and see how it goes.
my dear, let look at constructive reasoning here:
True you are her first and feel very strongly that "she belongs to you". But does she "really" belong to you 'cos you are here First and very naturally she wouldnt ever forget the first Man in her Life. But, then again she met you at a Hotel room and decided to sleep with you on the basis that you would be depositing a Lump sum of Money to Save Her job for the main time. She knew exactly what she was doing when she decided to do that knowing you were going to fund that much. Woman are inteligent creatures i tell you. She has read you and known that you are not a "Player". She does not regret what she did and both of you were conscious of you each other. so if you still want to let your feeling run Riot simply on the basis that you helped one in "need" then go right ahead. but on 2nd thoughts she decided to Come to your hotel room sleep with you just because she Had a Target to meet. if its decent enough reason for you to go right ahead then all well and good. I strongly recommend that you don't let yourself be Used which is exactly what she Did. That is not fair.
So if she didn't turn out a virgin will u have feelings 4 her? So we should ignore the fact that you were mean to her and using your stupid friends as excuse to feel sorry for you abi? Anyways most love stories don't start on a good note so you can call her and ask her out if its genuine this time. Agbaya falling for peer pressure @ 28. Y won't guys mind there business and stop poisoning the good ones?
dis is so touching but are u sure shes 21?cos ladies lie alot abt there age especially those girls wt small stature they lk reducing there age alot,cos i wonder when she graduated done her youth service and got a job,wel bck to buisness am so hapy dis girl has really change d impression u guys use to hv abt we marketers pls go for her and dnt mind what ur friends might say infact tel them d truth cos girls lk her are very hard to find in dis country,pls mary her and u can stil stp her frm working wt d bank and mk her who u wnt her to be,but if u mary her mk sure u are carful wt her hanging wt u around ur friends cos they might go and try sleep wt her too just to test what u ate and might also succeed cos d girl is too young to manage her brain very well,and if shes really 21 that means u wil also work as her director, boss,boyfriend and elder brother cos shes nt that mature yet to overcome big circumstances,pls i wil love to meet u too my bnk need people lk u and my caban is also going down too,love ur kind heart,pls if u can bnk wt us let me send linda my detals to gv u i work wt diamond,thanks.
1 word Idiot. u r.
but seriously call her and stop trying to please your friends
Love story indeed.how sure are you she is a virgin or she was expecting her period or just finished her period?which is the cause of the blood stains on the sheet.Was it painful for her as a first timer? Why would she give in to you easily cos of 10million.Please be careful.She might just be pretending.Am sure she knew what was entailed in the job before she picked up the offer.#my thots#
Which kind thing be this?Y u dey waste time?Go commot dat girl from dat godforsaken job n marry her n let her work side by side with u in yr coy.delay is dangerous make someone no go dabaru yr bounty butty,forget yr socall friends.VIRGIN!it‘s RARE
So some people still believe the pictures on a particular story relate to it.
Where are you people from sef?
Fool
Trust you! Trust you! For what na?
I think u shld call her, also u need to 'man up' and stop falling for peer pressure. Its forgivable now cos u are young urself but u really need to learn to hang out wit friends but still be ur own person. Lastly, if indeed d girl was a virgin, she must feel horrible right now and maybe u can make her feel better by offering a hand of friendship
well for starters,yes i would love to have you for myself ...well coz u know, u r rich n i can cook n...hehe but since u have refused to find me and fall in love with me,as much as i'd love to say it serves u right,i won't coz u seem like a nice guy.life is all about risks.u feel guilty coz u feel you owe her.she obviously had her reasons for letting it go..trust me a girl gets tired of it at some point.pity doesn't necessarily mean you are in love but if you rily want her please go for her if it will help ur conscience and if she turns out to be d girl of your dreams(wich i hope she doesnt so i can marry you!lol)good for u!your friends cant share ur feelings with you.do what makes you happy,be yourself k.they will have to learn to deal with it sooner or later.even if u tell them u disvirgined her, they will still choose to believe what they want.goodluck k.n be careful.
This sounds like a 'Pretty Woman' story. Before anyone on this blog starts judging anyone, Thank God you are not in her shoes. Do you know the bukata she has, while I will never sell my body for anything, trust me for some people it is the situation they find themselves. To the guy in need of advice, why do you care what your friends think. Secondly, feelings like that don't come very often, follow your heart you were her first. She probably feels the same way but is to shy cos she doesn't want to anger you. Better be fast before someone else tampers with 'your property'. I will love to know the follow up of this story. #uber cute#
oga i think you should study her first.Since you want someting serious to her there z more than just virginity.If she z cool then marry her
Its not rocket science
Ask her out and tell her the truth after like 2 or three dates.And tell ur friends u like her.
and biko u r 28 stop letting friends influence ur actions and decisions in life.U r not a child for Christsake!!!!
Chairman, stop dulling, my advise is that call her and apologies for what you did before and ask her any other thing you wish. at least, your apology will make her feel comfortable with you.
Seriously? You run a big company and you don't know what to do in this small matter. I hope you don't run down the company. Your father should demote you so you can learn more through the ropes
guy u need to be a MAN to start with...make decisions for urself...bcus even d forever thing u dey talk sef requires u to b a decision maker if nt u will find ur gud for nothing fwends telling u wen to make love to ur wife n wen not to...u r thinking of her for the wrong reasons i tell u...i will advice u get to know her with an OPEN mind, that way, u will get to knw her for reasons that matter nt for being a first timer. IJ
Oh boy quickly go after her before sme1else. Do oooo. And Ʊ can marry her let her leave d job . In d next few month nao Ʊ won't ßε̲̣̣̣̥ able †✽ count d number of men dat has lured her †✽ bed pls act fast
she. ll remeba Ʊ for d rest of her life .
errrmm, well i think you should call her. don't jump into conclusions. she may or may not be ur soul mate.my reason for saying this is simple. you're feeling the way you are right now because she was a virgin. That fact is not enough to determine whether she is ur soul mate or not. start on a fresh leaf with her and get to know her before consolidating on your feelings. please don't rush in and out. you seem like a good guy. don't let your feelings becloud your sense of judgement. cheers bruv. Henry Esq.
i wil advice u try her again wt some strange faces she dnt knw cos girls dis days i heard fake virginity just to tie guys down and mk them fall for them pls use other big friends u knw to try if she wil fall for them and knw if another blood will cm out of her or nt, u did nt even tel us if she was tight or was it only blood u saw cos d 1st day had sex i did nt got disvirgine that day infact d road refuse to open for hours and my boyfriend got tired and left til d nextday was when d ting now open and he entered, blood came out i cryed and screem out of pains that d neigbors wanted to cm,i could nt get up or walk properly for lk 2days,so dear blood is nt only a sign for virgnity there'r other tings involve, b4 u meet girls who use what i heard to make them selfes look lk one,and for d fact that u hv nt slept wt a virgine b4 u might nt knw diffrenciate pls becareful girls are smarter than u tink, goodluck.
Nollywood movie to badt. Beta call d girl b4 she does anoda millionaire *kidding*.bt seriouly, dude,call her.
There is always a bad side of every good thing. Bro, go for your heart.
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I have to comment on this one.. The things that happen in the Nigerian banking industry saddens me. We really need to stop stereotyping female bankers.
I think you should call her up regardless of what anybody says. Trust me,she's a keeper.
Well, before you make any decision be sure you are man enough to stick with it. its sad that most of the decisions you have successfully made are the ones you have been pressured to. At 28 you should be able to stand on your own, thats what makes you a man and that is the only time you are capable of taking on a woman. Till then, you do not need a gf, neither do you need a wife.
I beleieve you owe the poor gal a lot.. In a long run, the gal wouldnt have planned doing it but because of the mere fact that she has to deliver her target made her succumb to it.. Please call her and mind you, your friends are not the owner of your life.. So if you feel led to date her, please don't go against your heart. Thanks.
Well i would say you should ask God to forgive you bcos you took advantage to her instead of helping her out.people of now a days are always in for these stuff.Well listen to me and listen well good,That girl is yours and go for her,people asking you not to have anything to do with her actually did worst things in their life and do not judge her,follow ur heart and don't mind any one that tell u she not good for you,you can make her better and get a better job for her. God will also forgive u if u forget wht happened and go for her.God bless you.
from Tanzania,that z da story i admire everday.pliz brother,call her for outing and explain everything to her,express ur feelings and let it go.no one knows tomorrow,may be may became your last choice.
This is a funny story... bros u would have known she is V when u tried to enter... and this sound more like ur conscience is pricking u rather u having true affections for the girl.
call her and get to know her before u decide anything, u might end up being good friends... which is not a bad thing
As per ur friends and ur social circle, they dont have to know till u get to know her properly
Well i would say you should ask God to forgive you bcos you took advantage to her instead of helping her out.people of now a days are always in for these stuff.Well listen to me and listen well good,That girl is yours and go for her,people asking you not to have anything to do with her actually did worst things in their life and do not judge her,follow ur heart and don't mind any one that tell u she not good for you,you can make her better and get a better job for her. God will also forgive u if u forget wht happened and go for her.God bless you.
The way pple fink ehn,ure very stupid and dumb for the post hw wld u say some fink like dis! Linda I tot u dnt post stupid comments like dis ehn?
pls becareful u dnt wnt to marry d wrong virgine do u?just use ur friends to set her up wt big money and see if she wil open her legs again and if she does u dnt wnt to marry a whore do u?but if she dnt go ahead and marry her and fuck ur friends cos u hv ur life to live but becareful nt to mary a flirt, as for how to get bck to her believe me she wil rush u and welcm u bck wt her whole hrt and wild legs open cos she fancy u alot thats y she keep calling even after getting what she wnts,even after u refer her to ur worker for further transactions,besides no girl that dnt fancy a big boy, keep up wt ur goodhrt.
Stupid dude...you are not in love with her...you just want to fuck her more. Men r stupid like that. When u r ready to dump her I'm sure you will use the act that she sold her virginity for 10 million nair against her
You sound like a good guy who's being influenced by bad friends. Most Naija guys will sleep with her and delete her phone no right after that so they dont help her with the deposit. Thank God you helped keep her job.
My advice, call her up. She just might be the one for you....Love is found in strange places.
To the odes saying that's his wife...on what basis pls? Cos she was a virgin! Lmo...Nigerians are stupid
Go grab ur wife before its too late
Its okay to have feelings for her, I guess u re just overwhelmed by opening a door for the first tym, u should go for her n give her a better job, one she doesn't av to open her legs to get customers. Gracelyne
You better get her before someone else do.
Yes pls do tell ur friends d truth abt her at least to save her reputation. And I can tell u she is probably still thinking abt u. Pls go for her o! U deflowered her and she wouldn't have just given it to u if she didn't feel sometin for you. Please I beg of u.
Amazing! So there are actually Nigerians who think it is wrong to take advantage of a woman? How nice! How come it is the norm then in most offices(like mine)for instance for women to sleep their way to the top? No need to give me dat crap about it is d woman's fault. My bosses have been running around like headless chickens for two years, dreaming up new ways everyday to frustrate me coz I wldnt give it up to them. Is dat not taking advantage too? someone should pls tell them to get a grip.
Dude. Seriously. You seem like a decent guy and enough people are going to blast you. There are lots of people in Lagos (female btw) who are happy to watch family guy and chill. You should follow up on the girl cos frankly I am pretty certain what you did has harmed her emotionally and you seem man enough to admit when you may be wrong. Whatever happens in the long run with her...I don't think rushing into anything serious is wise. Just because of the history you two already have. Find out if you actually like her. Good luck.
Exactly!!
To hell with what ur senseless friends think.
Follow ur heart
Yes o!
Hurry up before someone else samples her incase she probably needed someone like u to pave way for other men!
Be fast! Call her now!!!!!!
chia linda is d guy on d pics d owner of mail if yes then am jelous what a cute guy his very harmsom,i really envy d banker girl he is inlove wt bt pls dudu becareful cos any girl can fake virginity,blood whatsoever to hv a cute rich guy lk u.
Yes pls do tell ur friends d truth abt her at least to save her reputation. And I can tell u she is probably still thinking abt u. Pls go for her o! U deflowered her and she wouldn't have just given it to u if she didn't feel sometin for you. Please I beg of u.
BLONDE!!! That's not his picture!
Hi, this is my first time posting a comment.
Its obvious you care deeply about the girl and you feel and because it was out of character for you to do so. I would advise you to think deeply before you call her and figure out what exactly is stopping you from pursuing her. I don't believe its all about saving face with your so called friends cos U really don't know what they are doing or who they intend to be with and moreover every woman or man has a past they are not proud of. Unfortunately Nigeria has become what it is. but I want you to ask urself one question, will you be able to trust her knowing what she did to save her job because this is where doubt really starts, every time she says she has a target or deadline or meeting with potential client what will go through your mind cos U definitely cannot open so many accounts with her nor recommend everyone you know to her. So think long and hard about that as I personally feel that's the only issue you may have later on. friends will come and go and from your conversation, I think Ur only friends with them out of circumstance not cos U want to. if U eventually get with her, make sure U wipe the slate clean n never refer back to the past as its quite easy to bring this up when having heated arguments. let what happened be a thing between you both and just start a new chapter in your lives. I wish you the very best of luck. Also make sure U pray about it.
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i agree with 12.17 (vigilant citizen) and 12.27pm..my dear it is not virginity that determines whether a girl is gud or bad..coming to think of it if she was a dat decent she would not hav given it up so easily she would hav maybe pleaded more wit u and informed you dat she was a virgin ..so my dear if that is ur criteria for decency ..you don enter 1 chance be that.....my 5 cents
bull shit bull shit bull shit Linda stop publishing this kind of rubbish its crappy of course we know these craps are just made up
In life listen to ppl but don't ignore ur own voice.. It only shows ur friends have the power over you...
I don't like the fact that she agreed to sleep with you but all the same she was desperate to keep her job.. Since u have feelings for her hurry up n ask her out if possible get her a job in ur firm so she doesn't have to go around looking for other ppl to help her meet target.. If she could do anything for u then she can do anything for anyone else..
Don't Dull... Go after your heart..
First Of All, You have to admit your mistake by allowing your friends give the call in things pertaining to your life and well being. And in going into an innocent girl whom circumstances has pressured so much that she had lost her self will and control.
The Did is done but You must now come to leave your friends and their thoughts out of this. If your heart is towards her and not your body and you want her for real and forever then you have to make it up with her by showing her your sincerity.
It should be an act of True love and not out of sympathy and you must also make peace with GOD cause apart from all you really screwed up Big Time before GOD.
Tell her how u feel,simple!
i dont think the girl slept with him bcos of her target. she probably had feelings for him, and was also tired of being a virgin. mind u, being a virgin deosnt make u a good girl, I think you should start by being her friend, and find out if she would havee slept with you if she wasnt under durex from the office. you know relatnships start in diff ways.
I'm sorry but this guy is both weak minded and obviously incredulously self centered. You took someone's virginity(and self respect) because you wanted to look cool in front of your friends and now you want a medal because you might actually like her?
I think you and your friend-devoted penis should accept that you don't deserve her...or anyone for that matter if you can't make decisions based on your own morality and not your "bad guy" factor
this is nt a tym to criticise. i think u shld be frnds with her first. hangout together to be sure dat u rilly ve feelings for her n not becuz u took away her virginity/innocence. pple dont forget dat dis babe is young. for her to ve kept herself till nw means dat she had plans to keep herself but b4 someone can just give it up she must ve seeked counsel frm pple close to her n maybe she needed to keep d job so bad to survive. so dont judge her. as for d guy, i am sure u did nt tell ur guys dat she was a virgin. even if u ve to b in dis circle of pple, dont take their word for it. be a man. u can let dem kno u make decisions on ur own n jst laugh n drink wit dem but neva let dem pressurize or talk u into doing things u neva would do if left to u. rilly, apologise to her first cuz im sure it was nt easy for her. be frnds n who knos she might jst like u.
I understand that u have this feeling towards her. But one question. How would u tell others when they ask "How did u meet ur wife"? If she can sleep with u 4 money, she can do that with anybody. I understand that she is desperate but I have a cousin who left a job under a similar condition. By the way, why is she that desperate, does she have to feed her family? Not that that would justify her action. You are not blameless and I am sure u know that. Choose ur friends wisely, u can't chuck everything up to peer pressure, how wuld u raise ur kids to resist peer pressure if u can't at this age?
Pls call her don't mind ur frnds she deserves it
I read you story and whilst reading, i really hoped you didn't go along with your friend's suggestion but you did! I hurt for the girl who went this far to keep a job. Your guilty/love feelings doesn't absolve you of what you did! What would happen if the guilty feelings stop? Would she remain the love of your life or some girl you took advantage of cos she was in dire need? Re-evaluate yourself dude! What you did was wrong and if there is anything she needs from you now, its an apology and as for those your friends, i have no comment! If you were so desperate to please them then, i don't think you would be man enough to stand up for this girl when the taunting and labelling starts! #mytwocents#
hmmmmmmmm..........if you love her,to hell with your friends.
What makes u fink she won't do d same wif ur friends or any oda rich cat just to get d acct?
I can only think of 3 reasons why she slept with u. 1. Desperation to meet her bank imposed target wc somehow threatened her job cos job is hard to come by these days. 2. The fact that she had a fore knowledge about ur ability to assist her thru a probable background check. It is also possible that one of ur friends might her set her up for u. 3. You are a handsome guy who she may not resist even if the primary issue was not involved.
On what to do, call her and get her employed in one of ur fada's coys odawise there is no guarantee that she will not sleep with anoda dude of your like or the bank manager if another situation like this arises. Don't 4get that her target would've moved up to above the level u assisted her with, so she is under constant pressure, the faster u move her away from the system corrupted banking environment the leaner the chance that she will sleep with anoda man for similar reason. Lastly, note that issue of marriage is a different kettle of fish, the mere fact that she was a virgin wen u met her does not guarantee good behaviour upon marriage.
IF I WERE YOU, SHE IS MY WIFE.
MR, i am glad u came out to say dis. honestly, its better you find her and make her yours NOW NOW NOW!!!!!! cos anoda guy will soon get her ooooo. virgins are had to come by.
God will save us from this so called corporate institution who cash in on the moral decadence in the society to cunningly engage young girls in corporate prostitution.Someone blamed it on the econonic situation in the country,i will say YES and on the other hand i will say NO,a virtuos woman is one who will protect her dignity even in the face of harsh economic crunch.Most of the girls even like this kind of work because it fetch them money and connection after realising their targets,tney now see it as a normal way to work,go to the island and u will fetch ur eyes some good views of corporate prostitues.As for this lady i dont wanna judge her,but i dont think that is an honourable thing to do to save your job,before we were born people have been working,and after us people will still be working,so working for some companies does not guarantee ur future,especially banks,if u are going to be sack u will be sack ,there is no two way to it.
d truth is dat u r just a lucky 1st customer.
so if ur friend say jump into fire u will jump abi ? bros u need Jesus in your life.
may God help u {sincere prayer} can i get an amen. pls pray and ask God for forgiveness and guidance and u can never go wrong. B-)
so if ur friend say jump into fire u will jump abi ? bros u need Jesus in your life.
may God help u {sincere prayer} can i get an amen. pls pray and ask God for forgiveness and guidance and u can never go wrong. B-)
If my comment does actually count, I think you should call her and meet up. Discuss the past and see if there's a future. You also need to pray, choose your friends and influence them not the other way around.
Why I no be CEO of comapny :(
This story surely has the awwww factor, I suggest you call her and tell her your feelings but she sure needs to have another job sorted for her or she might be pressured again to sign up another deal.
so if ur friend say jump into fire u will jump abi ? bros u need Jesus in your life.
may God help u {sincere prayer} can i get an amen. pls pray and ask God for forgiveness and guidance and u can never go wrong. B-)
i dont understand what people are saying that this is a cute story....The Man is a disgusting fellow that should be jailed, He took advantage of the girl (and now he's in love...pleeeeease) . What is the difference between what he did and 'payment for Sex'. He is a disgusting fellow and should drop the facade of painting himself as a holy loverboy. And people are saying the story is cute, the man is exactly what is wrong with the banking industry and such men should be arrested. The girl is 20-something, extreme naivete, shes probably struggling with life's demands and now she has subliminally made herself a prostitute....THIS STORY IS SICK...and man you better grow up and stop hanging with those IDIOTS you call friends, they would lead you to the end of your life. All in all, God is a merciful God, ask him for forgiveness and direction.....but you still make me SICK!!!
Awww...how romantic. This story reads just like a Mills&Boon novel...
As terrible as it is that the girl had to sleep with you and lose her virginity to secure a deposit and meet her target, I can't help asking, if she was willing to sleep with you on the first try, is it possible that she would sleep with other men to secure deposits too? I think that once you cross a certain moral line, it becomes "easier" to keep crossing the line. However, I may be wrong and for the girl's sake I hope I am wrong.
Young MAN, be a MAN, if you think you like the girl, ask her out and explore the possibility of a relationship. In today's world it's really rare to find a young girl leave uni and not have lost her virginity, so it shows that she does have something special. Sad though that her moral resolve crumbled in the shark infested corporate world of bank marketing. FORGET about what every other person thinks.
wow this is deep
Ohh why did i read fifty shades of Grey before reading your story...
Oh well, I would trust any girl who gives up her virginity for money. But you can try. It's your heart.
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