I got a mail from a lady who desperately needs your help. From her explanation, she broke up with a guy last August and he's getting married to someone else this Saturday - exactly two days from today. She wrote that she's been going out of her mind since she heard about the up-coming wedding and does not know how she will survive this Saturday.
'He was my all and we broke up and now he is marrying another. I've been going out of mind since last month and as the day draws closer, my situation gets worse. Short of committing suicide, I don't know what else to do. My heart is not strong enough for this. How do I survive his wedding day? Please help'
Poor girl!
Any advice please?
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Most people dont expect their ex's to get over them very quickly... but the truth is that he is your ex and it is somebody that would marry him, you are also somebody's ex and it is somebody that would marry you.
I would say that you and him were not supposed to be, and you would find your own match.
I would advice you to just wish him luck and you would get over it that way.
Don't go. Its that simple. Why put yourself through such heartache. So u guys broke up, his loss, get up n move on. Moreover, I think attending an ex's wedding is not allowed, if he invited u call him n wish him a happy married life n inform him u're not gonna be a guest at d wedding. There's always light at d end of d tunnel, push through d pain. I hope u make a wise decision.
You broke up in August last year and you're still pining for him? That's weak.Yes he was your everything but you are not to him.. he doesn't care about you and certainly isn't sparing you any thought at the moment and never did.I'm being harsh for a reason.Please please just snap out of this madness anyhow you can.. cause no guy is worth the stress..
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oh Gush...this is very sad. I certainly know how you feel...first of all God will not put you through something he knows you cannot overcome and everything happens for a reason. Yes I know it is very sad but think about it in a positive way, God may have closed this door for him to open up a better one for you. She may have thought this was her all but God does not think so...It is not worth killing your self over a man...there are 10,000 and 1 good men out there you would find one eventually it may not be today, it may not be tomorrow, it may not be next year...but you would find one. This saturday i suggest you do things exciting to get your mind off it...go bowling, hang out with friends or family, watch movies, read a book, amusement park..just do something dear. Just dont kill yourself over it...he probably even did you a favor sef so you can meet ur prince charming!
he obviously wasn't the right person for you. Suicide ke? no man (who left you for another woman) is worth ur life. i'll tell u what to do on saturday. wake up bright and early and be off to a nice spa. get a massage, facial, the whole works and see how fab u really are. then it's off to the motherless babies home to make ur own little contribution and see that there's really more to live for in this life than Mr. Right. That's what my single friend did on her 34th birthday. Don't worry you'll meet someone else who'll love you for who you really are. (she did)
Well, killing her self won't stop the wedding from happening so all she can do is keep busy between now and Sunday.
Go out and be occupied. Plan a full weekend out with family or friends so that she is not sitting in one spot wallowing in sadness.
Good luck
I think you should be in a good position to advice her considering what you went through with Dan Foster!
lady..get a grip of yourself...try to remember the last time you fell and sustained a bad injury...what happened? it hurt as hell am sure...but it healed with time, didnt it..there is nothing..absolutely nothing on the face of eath time doesnt heal...even widows get over the death of their husbands, children the death of their parents and vice versa, divorcees and what have you..
No man is worth committing suicide...least deserving one that couldnt see what he had in you...
It might be unbearable today..but tomorrow you will smile again.
Nothing in life is a do or die affair..
If he was yours he would never have left..
As per sat..dont go near the wedding site..you can cry buckets if it makes you feel better but as you cry just tell yourself that what does not kill you will only make you stronger..
and i promise you that this time next year..if you see this blog post..you will feel like slapping yourself
so dust yourself up cuz this too shall pass..it always does
You sure you are not the one that was dating someone who was already engaged?
You keep breathing and take it a day at a time. Keep your self busy with things that interest you, plan a party, take up a new hobby, throw yourself into work but keep breathing and take it a day at a time. On Saturday, go to the wedding with a girl friend that makes you laugh. Keep a smile on at the wedding and act like your life is picture prefect. Stay and hour or two at the wedding reception, may hi to the couple then leave.
I have been there; I’m married with a lovely daughter but attending the wedding of the ‘one that got away” was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through. But you would do it with you head held high and no one would know how difficult it was. And very soon you would meet your own prince charming and live happily………
(it's pretty long! sorry!!)
I don't understand why she should be going out of her mind. Frankly if he's marrying someone else that means he was not the one for you. The one for you will love and cherish you, he will not want to hurt you. I would say good riddance and celebrate his departure. On that day I will wear my best outfit and rejoice. I don't know about you but I do not want to be in a relationship with someone who does not love me and definitely not a marriage. You have your life ahead of you why are you troubling yourself for someone else who is obviously not even thinking of you? He does not deserve you so I say good riddance to bad rubbish! I know your day will come and you must prepare for it, you are delaying with negative thoughts towards other people. Set your mind at ease and rejoice remember REJOICE!
i believe "if u think long and hard abt an issue u will always come up with a solution". i really sympathize wit ds lady.let me c if i can help ds girl. there are 2 options and i will be very frank
1) bone d guy.after all he was d one who sent u 2 hell wen he broke up with u. HE DOES NOT CARE HOW U FEEL. if u kill urself the wedding will still go on.u can do it. it will only take time.wish them luck 2geda or u can even wish them evil if it makes u feel beta. just pls try not 2 send dis dude nymore. he neva meant well for u.
2)payin evil with evil can make u feel beta. if u no wot i mean. ever head of "not sleepin but stayin awake 2 plan ur revenge"?
option 2 is the advice i really want to give u bcos dude deserves all d hate u can dish out . but honey i'm sure u and i no it will not make u feel beta in d end. so my dear pls for the love of GOD go with option 1. its the sensible thing to do n its wot i wud do if i were in ur shoes. i no ur hurting but time eventually heals all wounds.
Poor girl really. I was in your shoes almost a year ago (we weren't broken up yet, his bride to be was in a different country and the whole thing was hidden the whole time, I was informed of my ex beau's nuptials a few mths to the wedding).
To be honest, there is not much that anyone else can do for you. I am grateful to God for my friend who did not give me the whole "he is an idiot, he is missing out on the best thing that could happen to him talk" she looked me in the eyes, held my shoulders (I know...very cliche) and said "you have to muster up the strength to get through this, it was not meant for the both of you to be (evidently he is marrying someone else), stop the dramatics (cause it is not the end of the world) and use this opportunity to LET HIM GO and get on with your life". I wanted to wring her neck, but by God...that was as real as it got for me. I stopped crying and knew that my dramatics, tears and suicidal thoughts would not stop the wedding. You have too much to live for, it hurts now but you will be alright if you just let yourself start letting him go. YOU WILL BE OK....I PROMISE. If you have to cry yourself to sleep the night before, do it...but don't be talking about you are thinking suicidal thoughts, before you do anything drastic, ask Whomever you believe in to give you the strength to get through and you will get through. Sorry if this was kind of harsh, it was what I needed to hear almost a year ago today and I hope it helps you. I wish you all the best in these coming days. Like I said, You will be just fine.
so sad.....
i have been there before.the worst thing was that he called me on his wedding day and said "you cant erase from my world"
nuttin dey happen.....you will survive it.
please don't fight the tears.cry it out and just get determined in your heart dat he is not good enough for you.
the lord is your strength
Wait, why did she break up with the guy?
Is she one of those ladies who break up, while secretly hoping that the guy will come back on his knees - and they can start all over again?
If she had genuine reasons for breaking up, then she aint got no reason to be way out of her mind... These things happen... She can only marry one person, abi?
Know the strength of the feeling can do some crazy things to you - but you should go back and hold strong the reasons why she broke up with him (if she initiated the break-up), and wait for her own wedding day...
To God be the glory, iyawo waa ni...
Hello dear,
You have to be strong bcos there is someone for everyone.He has obviously made up his mind, so no going back. If u kill urself bcos of a man, hundreds of men will walk pass ur grave. I had a similar exp. but now i'm married. There is a prince out there for u. Be patient and u will find him andbe his queen.
guess what? if u kill yourself the guy will still be alive with his new wife enjoying life! The proximity is the issue.....leave town,even if it means travelling to our neighbouring country Ghana for the weekend of the wedding just leave town.The good Lord will connect you to the bone of your bone,don't lose hope,it is well
commit suicide!!!!! that way he would call off the wedding and marry ur ghost. Are u kidding me!
1) Dont go for the wedding
2) He invited u to the wedding to either piss u off or show u that he's moved on
Don't put yourself tru hurt. Let me tell u something if he is goin to marry another, then clearly he is not urs.
Your real soulmate is out there, you just don't know it, spend time with your friends and family trust me u'd feel better.
Two of my ex's sent me their wedding Ivs(The clowns)and all i could do was feel sorry for the brides.
Think about why u broke up with him, for ur own good yeah (Abi na u cheat on am) watever even if na u cheat on am either way u r not meant for eachother.
You don hear me!!!!!! well except u wanna go for the wedding and pull off the Nigerian film scene(LWKMD)
Linda.....what happened between u and dan foster? I never hear this gist before oooooo!
Okay i have googled and I found the interview with punch, of course u had to be miserable omfgosh waht were u thinking!!! eeewwwwww.
Oh please
Tell her to get over it
Mine was in 2000.We broke up because he was not "READY".
Two months later he married the wide nosed tart he had been working with in his new firm.All the while iw as beating myself up that we were not spending time together,he was getting his groove on with the girl.
Weekend of the marriage.I bought the first ticket to London to "save face".I almost died,my mum came to join me as nobody could leave me on my own.
I come from a polygamous home,so you can imagine the "shame"--as EVERYBODY WAS TALKING.
In fact i thought i could never marry sef as i thought to myself say na who go wan marry me?
I WAS THAT LOW IN THE SELF ESTEEM DEPARTMENT.
This is someone i was with from the age of 16.My first EVERYTHING.
Anyway to cut a long story short,i knocked sense into myself that wetin?HIS LOSS NOT MINE...I picked myself up in a BIG WAY....and i moved on.
Last year at the age of 33,i got married,and a week after i got married my ex's divorce was finalised from the "love of his life".
For whatever reason,he could never stop comparing her to me,was constantly cheating on her,and then wahala go burst,hence violence...this bastard while in his matrimonial home had called me crying thousands of time asking if i would take him back if he got rid of that "ugly girl"--the mother of his kids o.
I love my husband sha...he told me to pretend that i would take him back and make the ex leave his wife,and then shove my wedding invite in his face,the way he did to me years ago...BUT I NO WICKED REACH MY DARLING HUSBAND LOL.
Today,my husband and i are expecting our first daughter,we are doing so well,and i know i made the best choice of my life.
Yet this time ten years ago,i wanted to kill myself over a useless spineless piece of shit.
The ex is now a divorcee with 4 kids....
tufiakwa..and not doing THAT fantastic...
My dear,even if it might not look it...most times this things happen,it is for a reason.
Just clean yourself up,force yourself to feel better,go out,meet people,mingle,date,enjoy yourself,before you know it,someone unexpected would come your way.
Forget him,he just was not meant to be yours.
pls do committ sucide...hiss..as if that will solve anything!!!Yes it hurts but there is nothing you can do about it!!absolutely nothing,You will only cry and feel bad and wih time you will get over it
Thank you oh, my fellow woman who wrote the last post. I am really happy you were able to shake it off on your own not crying on the shoulders of the world like one spoilt thing.
This lady disappoint me becos she is making herself out to be emotionally weak and this helps SOME chauvinistic men to pride themselves on being able to weild power over women.
This lady, abeg fellow people, is she saying she no sabi wetin she go do? It is either you shake it off kia kia or take revenge(no kill him O!!!!!!!!!!!!!)revenge like keeping him and every reminder at arm's length or erease am comot from memory, put up extra guard if you date again, play very hard to get, vandalise his property after 6 months when he won't suspect it is you etc.
Excuse me, what do you want somebody that lost their beloved to death to do?
U better stop crying and take cue from Ramota at Oshodi garage who would have landed the other lady for Igbobi by now!!!!!!!! Of course, not everybody is raz and uncouth like Ramota of Oshodi.
There are more serious problems that people should send to Linda to blog not the one where one reader is seeking unnecessary attention but I will add my two cents sha so that I will not be perceived as a heartless person by attention seekers.
Firstly, how can the lady still be whining over the guy till now? If you broke it off yourself, then shake body and carry on with life as maybe you felt it was the right decision at that time.
If the guy suddenly breaks it off and leaves you in a rut, don't waste time on him, make sure he has not got you into any trouble and fleeing, check your bank account, possession etc.Then refer to the examples of revenge I stated above.
PLEASE MY DEAR A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE. DO NOT LET THIS DRAG YOU DOWN OR MAKE YOU STUCK, YOU ARE BETTER THAN THIS.
EXUSCEZ MOI, U DEY CRAZE? WHY ARE YOU ABOUT TO GET HYPERTENSION BECOS OF THIS?
FIRSTLY, DID HE INVITE YOU, IF HE DID WHY CANT U TEAR UP HIS IV AND SEND IT TO HIM IN SHREDS? THEN TEXT OR CALL HIM AND GIVE HIM A VERY STERN WARNING NEVER TO INSULT YOU AGAIN OR THAT HIS YEYE WEDDING THAT HE IS RUBBING IN UR FACE GO SCATTER!!!!!!
I REALLY DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE CONCEPT OF PEOPLE INVITING OR ATTENDING AN EX'S WEDDING? THIS PERSON NA HISTORY AND SO SHALL IT BE.
IF HE DID NOT INVITE YOU BUT YOU ARE JUST FEELING LOW FROM ALL THE MEMORIES, MY GAL PLEASE GO AND DO SOME EXCITING THINGS THAT WILL HELP YOU GET THROUGH THE DAY AS PEOPLE HAVE MADE SUGGESTIONS FOR YOU ON LINDA'S BLOG.
THEN, WHEN HIS THOUGHTS KEEP COMING BACK, CONTINUALLY REJECT THEM. MAYBE TAKE ONE DAY OFF WORK ASAP,LOCK URSELF UP IN A BATHROOM, HAVE A GOOD CRY DURING WHICH YOU LET YOUR ANGER OUT,DON'T BOTTLE IT UP, DONT LET ANYONE CONSOLE YOU DURING THAT CRYING SESSION AND TELL YOURSELF "THAT IS IT, NO MAN NO CRY", STAND UP, CLEAN YOUR FACE, LOOK NICE AND JUST TAKE A STROLL.
I AM SURE YOU WILL GET TOASTERS THAT DAY WHICH WILL BE UPLIFTING BUT ONE VOICE WILL SAY "THEY ARE ALL THE SAME" BUT AT LEAST YOU CAN POLITELY DECLINE AND I AM SURE YOU ARE GENTLY ON THE ROAD TO RECOVERY.
DON'T WORRY MY DEAR, YOU WILL BE ALRIGHT.
@anon 6.33p - What a heartwarming story. Your hubby does have a good sense of humor. There is definitely a light of the end of the darkest tunnel. This girl needs stories like this to know that she is not alone and she will come out of this bad experience stronger and hopefully wiser.
No man is worth committing suicide. No, not one.
This has said it all
1) Dont go for the wedding
2) He invited u to the wedding to either piss u off or show u that he's moved on
Don't put yourself tru hurt. Let me tell u something if he is goin to marry another, then clearly he is not urs.
Your real soulmate is out there, you just don't know it, spend time with your friends and family trust me u'd feel better.
Two of my ex's sent me their wedding Ivs(The clowns)and all i could do was feel sorry for the brides.
Think about why u broke up with him, for ur own good yeah (Abi na u cheat on am) watever even if na u cheat on am either way u r not meant for eachother.
You don hear me!!!!!! well except u wanna go for the wedding and pull off the Nigerian film scene(LWKMD)
Girl you need to pull yourself together.
Your miracle and husband is just a day away - Don't be afraid, or scared or hurt JUST BELIEVE. Let go and let GOD.
There are always 3 sides to every story - yours, his and the truth.
I was in a similar situation, was even engaged to the guy who left me to marry someone else and insulted me/my family and my character..and i still thought i loved him with all his many flaws.
I cried rivers..but it didn't change the situation. I turned to God, and asked him for the strength to forgive and let go, and i focused on my family, career, friends. Its easier said than done, but a biblical verse that stuck in my head the minute it all ended was 1 Samuel 16 verse 7
"Don't judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn't make decisions the way you do. People judge by outward appearance but the Lord looks at a person's thoughts and intentions"
Sweetie he wasn't for you. God is getting you and your man ready, he is on his way. Have faith and stay strong, and prepare yourself to receive His blessing.
my darling.. It's only those that have not gone thru it that would not understand. My ex boyfriend was my world, we were officially engaged, ring, parents and all... Then he breaks up with me and marries someone else 3 months later, she was carrying his baby..
I can tell u, YOU WILL SURVIVE! I spent the day screaming in my room, my sister was crying cos she couldn't pacify me.. But with time, the pain wore off and I healed.
Cry if u must but look forward to a time when u will feel no more pain. I can assure u, u will heal.. I remember how impossible that thought seemed then.
One piece of advice though, it's much easier if outsiders don't know how badly it hurts.. this is the time to look ur best. It worked for me.. Remember the saying ' laugh and the world laughs with u, cry and the world laughs at u'
I wish u all the happiness in the world and also a man that would make u thank God ur ex is marrying someone else.
Be strong darling, it has happened to a lot of us and sadly, will still happen to many more.
Linda, I admire and respect u.. And I love ur blog. honestly I didn't like u before cos of the dan foster incident (twas about the same time my ex left me, and he left me for a friend of yours..) but now, I really like u. No one is perfect and u never act like u are, which is one of the reasons I respect u.
my darling.. It's only those that have not gone thru it that would not understand. My ex boyfriend was my world, we were officially engaged, ring, parents and all... Then he breaks up with me and marries someone else 3 months later, she was carrying his baby..
I can tell u, YOU WILL SURVIVE! I spent the day screaming in my room, my sister was crying cos she couldn't pacify me.. But with time, the pain wore off and I healed.
Cry if u must but look forward to a time when u will feel no more pain. I can assure u, u will heal.. I remember how impossible that thought seemed then.
One piece of advice though, it's much easier if outsiders don't know how badly it hurts.. this is the time to look ur best. It worked for me.. Remember the saying ' laugh and the world laughs with u, cry and the world laughs at u'
I wish u all the happiness in the world and also a man that would make u thank God ur ex is marrying someone else.
Be strong darling, it has happened to a lot of us and sadly, will still happen to many more.
Linda, I admire and respect u.. And I love ur blog. honestly I didn't like u before cos of the dan foster incident (twas about the same time my ex left me, and he left me for a friend of yours..) but now, I really like u. No one is perfect and u never act like u are, which is one of the reasons I respect u.
my darling.. It's only those that have not gone thru it that would not understand. My ex boyfriend was my world, we were officially engaged, ring, parents and all... Then he breaks up with me and marries someone else 3 months later, she was carrying his baby..
I can tell u, YOU WILL SURVIVE! I spent the day screaming in my room, my sister was crying cos she couldn't pacify me.. But with time, the pain wore off and I healed.
Cry if u must but look forward to a time when u will feel no more pain. I can assure u, u will heal.. I remember how impossible that thought seemed then.
One piece of advice though, it's much easier if outsiders don't know how badly it hurts.. this is the time to look ur best. It worked for me.. Remember the saying ' laugh and the world laughs with u, cry and the world laughs at u'
I wish u all the happiness in the world and also a man that would make u thank God ur ex is marrying someone else.
Be strong darling, it has happened to a lot of us and sadly, will still happen to many more.
Linda, I admire and respect u.. And I love ur blog. honestly I didn't like u before cos of the dan foster incident (twas about the same time my ex left me, and he left me for a friend of yours..) but now, I really like u. No one is perfect and u never act like u are, which is one of the reasons I respect u.
you win some, you lose some. That's the way the cookie crumbles, you will get over it!
Girl!! I know EXACTLY how you feel & trust me you WILL get over him..same thing happened to me, my childhood love did worse to me..he left me for a girl that came from England that he had met over that summer & before I could say jack robinson..they were getting married.
(this was after repeatedly telling me that he was confused, he needed time to process things & kept lying that nothing was going on with the girl) & then he even invited me to the wedding..what saved me was that I was already in the States & so I cried my eyeballs out on the wedding day & I did think of suicide..
I remember praying & begging God for mercy & help & I believe God did help me becus that was over 6yrs now & I hear how miserable he is & even after all that, he still tries to keep in touch with me & tells everyone that he should have married me!! well his loss & now I look back & I thank God things didnt work out becus I met someone waaay better, I also actually feel sorry for him & pity him..
Anyways I digress..lol..but you WILL get over him..cry, pray, forgive & surround yourself with people who love you & in time you'll laugh again & love again..trust me
Apparently, every other girl on this blog has a similar story to tell. So, there must be a lot of underhanded jilting going on, abi?
Pls, can you chics start your own blogs and regale us in detail? Or, better still - send to Linda so I don't have to visit each of your blogs separately.
For our current subject: cry all you want - tears are good for the soul - and nothing you do will take the thought away anyways (skip that spa advice above); then, chin up and continue with the rest of your life. You'll have a good story to tell your kids.
Notin' do u. (As you'll find out sooner than later.)
Sweetheart. I agree with you 100% everyone else who has commented is talking ribbish. Kill youself o jare! Let me tell you how to do it. You can simply take a knife and stab yourself in the stomach very hard or you can look for a gun to shoot youself in the brains...too hard to find you say? OK, here's a better idea. You may get a combnation of pills and overdose on them. Or you may jump into the road in front of a fast moving car. When you get there, say hello to satan. That's where you'll most def go...straight to hell!!! If you don't like the end point, then BRACE YOURSELF AND GET A MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE!!!!
What rubbish? You want to kill yourself? If I knew you, I'd slap some sense into that thick skull of yours. All because of a guy? I do hope he's as good as they come....was it the sex? Or was it too much money? Or was it the way he made your toes curl when he kissed you? SNAP out of it!! There's better men out there...
Kisses...
me.
I'm sure there was love somewhere.. Dats why yu feel dat way. The thing is we never really do move on.
He's found companionship & happiness, make sure u find same and work hard to assure urself on a regular basis dat u aint missin nothing. Tk kia.
Suicide????
For Man?
How???
There are plenty more out there....(although we can't seem to find the all together ones easily these days)
You are allowed to grieve him, but girl.....into the next year?
I am so sure.....it's a HUGE blessing in disguise.
I hope you will be able to share what God is saving you from in the near future
Either that, or Share with us who you end up with. You never know what life has planned.
Wetin dey worry dis pickins of nowadays sef? He's getting married to someone else, so? Get a grip and move on. He obviously wasn't meant for you. He was probably seeing the babe while you guys were dating. You don't even know the circumstances surrounding his getting married on Saturday; and you feel suicidal? Be my guest baby...your quenching your life would not change anything and would definitely not stop him from going on with his wedding. Life goes on with or without you sugar. Na wetin sef?!!? My adrenaline just dey rise for this your silly case. Did he invite you for the wedding? Must you attend the wedding? If you must, and if I were you, I dey go borrow one wicked looking fine ass hunk...I go tell am wetin dey so dat e go dey flow with me. My dressing would be to kill and I'd arrive at the reception...I repeat at the RECEPTION 30 minutes to closing time with my hunk...I no go overdo am o! I go just pose mhen with one baaaad shade (like Riri's)...sit down for one strategic point and dey gist casually with my hunk for say 5 to 10 minutes...then I go waka commot with my borrow pose. No joling mhen...na wetin! haabaaa!!!
please please please do not attend this wedding even if you have been invited. The best thing is for a friend to be there for you. It is going to be a very difficult and painful day but you will get through it. I was in the same soup a few years ago and for weeks was going out of my mind deciding whether to go or not. My ex and I attended the same church and he was marrying someone in the same church. Sometimes I felt that if I went everyone will be looking at me to guage my reactions. at other times I felt if i did not go I will become an object of pity.
On the day of the wedding two friends were with me the whole day and physically restrained me when I tried to get dressed and go to the wedding. I am really grateful to them because I might have broken down at the wedding.
All things work together for good for those who trust God. I met The man of my dreams later on and we are happily married. I feel your pain. Hope this helps.
killing yourself? no chance....my policy, a broken heart is better than a life time of hell, he aint meant for you honey and ur ex getting married less than a year he broke up with u....hmmm speaks volumes? do I smell cheating? oh well maybe, maybe not.
stay strong girl, remember the ocean is full of fishes, better and bigger ones.only a foolish person would think of committing suicide over a man.its not worth the trouble girl.
wish him all the best and keep moving with urs,attending his wedding aint necessary...uncalled for and a waste of time.
cheer up, live goes on
i must be missing something- why does this lady want to kill herself over a boyfriend she broke up with a year ago? she needs to get a grip and the sooner the better too. go and get a life lady because if you kill yourself, this guy wouldn't care less
she has to get on with life... I just buried my boyfriend.... its hard but life must continue...
King's kid
omo.. this is serious o... please please please DO NOT KILL YOURSELF OVER THIS GUY... he does not deserve ur life.. and please remember ur family.. the shame that u killed urself cos of boy.. nah mehn
and why the hell are u going for the wedding? please stay at home.. watch movies, cry if u have to.. but take it from me, with time... the pain will go.. please all of you that are saying that why hasnt she gotten over the guy.. some people it takes longer than others..
don't rush take ur time to get over him and genuinely forgive him, and in this time draw closer to God, trust me he will heal you.. (this is experience talking)
You will find the right one in time, hold on to the testimonies of the previous comments and i dare say this.. THANK GOD u didnt marry the wrong person.. a failed relationship is better than a failed marriage.. the man that will come u will thank God this one left you sef. just learn from this and pls try to go on!
I survived. Thank you guys.
B
Girl, kill urself ke??? Over someone that made it known that he doesn't give a fuck about YOU! I was in a similar situation not long agao. My own was that I dated this dude for over 8 months only to find out two weeks ago that he married wIth kids and his wife was coming to town. I cried all nite, but by HIS strength. I was able to overcome the SHOCK. IT IS WELL!!!!!!You will get over it like we all did...trust me!!! *cyber hug*
You better survive! Mcheeeeewww!
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My ex whom I was together with for 6 years will be married this month. He is muslim and i am christian. I always knew i was not going to be the bride in the end but we tried to break down the barriers which in the end ceased to fall. We broke up mid 2009 but continued to see each other each month and talk up until he admitted he was not only engaged but marrying the following month, he told me this in Dec followed with the old "I didnt have the heart to tell you line", and that theres still something there for me. I felt a p'd that he kept me the whole entire time whilst courting and sharing dreams of the future with his soon to be bride and how stupid dumb am I? In a few days he will be married and despite congratulating him and wishing both he and his wife the best for their special day, I feel my heart hurts but why? I shouldnt care, i am his ex. We havent seen each other again since he told me about the wedding, mutual choice, but we have txt'd only briefly however. I know had i concreted the ex factor in at the time of the breakup i'd not be on this page typing away tonight, but i feel its hard to talk with anyone about this as i'd look at myself as a dummy for thinking he still loved me the whole time. He wanted to invite me but i declined even without hesitating, how mean for his wife, his fam and FOR ME! I gave him 3 babies in the years we were together so i am blessed as much as they are. I will be at work the day of his wedding so i will be busy, but i feel he wants to talk with me - I just pray he doesnt decided to pick up and dial on the day, if this is the case, i will not answer the call, it is not my day. I will cry inside but life will be ok because i know i will move forward and be fine, iam strong. As one door closes a new one always opens. Blessings to all
I love your candid and true advice. Godbless your marriage
Hello I am Joy ,I am out here to spreed this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex lover back.I was going crazy when my love left me for another girl last month, But when i meet a friend that introduce me to Dr Sango the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to Dr Sango about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact Dr Sango at the following email address sangospelltemple@gmail.com
After being in relationship with Harry for Five years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. but one day I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in love spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: druguelspellhome1@gmail.com you can email him or called him on +2347056683626 if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: druguelspellhome@yahoo.com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS.
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