Dear LIB readers: How do I return my engagement ring?
From a female LIB reader
Just four months after I started dating this guy (we began dating in November 2013) he proposed to me on valentine's day in front of his friends and his two sisters during a mutual friend's val birthday party. I couldn't believe he proposed so fast and I honestly wasn't expecting it. But because he proposed in front of all those people including his family I couldn't say no and embarrass him so I accepted his ring. But I have no intention of marrying this man. Not only am I seeing someone else, he's just not my type but please do not ask me why I'm dating him. I have my reasons. It's been two months since we got engaged and I've been looking for ways to return the ring. How do I go about it? Please if you have no reasonable thing to say, keep your opinion to yourself. Only mature responses please
Ha! Na WA o! See post, seeking for advice with a very rude and harsh tone, as if its your birth rite or as if you are paying for it, anyway, You can return it through DHL
People with stories they bring up on LIB this days..he be like say people wey dey Yaba left self don dey read LIB..cant imagine this phrase#Not only am I seeing someone else, he's just not my type but please do not ask me why I'm dating him. I have my reasons### why is the reason not sticking you to him??Ladies lifestyle tho SMH.some people need a psychologist.
Return his ring to him the way and manner he proposed to you, in yhe presence of his friends and sisters. Btw linda don't you watch match? Copa del Rey final is going on.Cheers
The only reasonable thing to say here is u r truly a silly, evil one. He is not your type so what r u doing with him? Sigh! Abeg Linda bring better matter come
Babe I need to tell you something, I have being trying so hard to tell you but couldn't. But the weight of this is killing me. *remove the ring and place it on the table. Babe I don't think we should get married, it's me not you. I don't think I want to get married at the moment or if I am the marrying kind. I am sorry, the only reason I said yes was so not to embarrass you. Who would expect an engagement after 2 months?! I hope you can forgive me, cos I am sorry from the bottom of my heart. *stand up and walk away. #make sure you do it in a public place.
Your actions are not REASONABLE or MATURED. Why and where in the heavens are you expecting reasonable and matured answers from? Abeg take several seats jare!
It seems you don't love the guy or you are not ready to get marry now...but you like to be around him...since he has propose and you don't want to get marry soon...I will advice you kindly wait for the right time he will mess up...just make use of that opportunity to give the ring back to him...please don't break his heart coz he I think he cherish you.Goodluck
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See as in they pain u reach :) That's the same thing u do when u date that girl jst 4 the mean time with no intention of marrying her. Ah bt nw its being dne 2 a man n she's an automatic witch----C21
See as in they pain u reach :) That's the same thing u do when u date that girl jst 4 the mean time with no intention of marrying her. Ah bt nw its being dne 2 a man n she's an automatic witch----C21
Ha ha ha ha ha ha..........this is really funny, you know what, just get missing for 1 year......by your return he could be married to someone else...loool
just call him privately and tell him your mind in time and l will advise you to end the relationship in time so that you will be able to allow another person in your life before it will be too late.
You are very wicked....it is girls like u dat guys should punish well...how will u date a guy wen u know marry him and for dat matter u r dating someone else..wat stupid reasons do u have? And im sure he gives u money and pays ur bills yet u dont evn want to be wit him....I just pity him sha...buh imagine if he did it to u.
U shldnt hav accepted at first. U culd hav jst said. Lemme tink abt it. Buh now d deed has ben don. Talk it out wit him. Tell him dat he proposed too early n u nid more tym
You already know what you want for yourself and he doesn't fit into that. Marriage outweighs any sentiment,coz this is a serious business. Don't because of the people gathered there the day he proposed to you or the way he would feel enter what you will regret tomorrow. The earlier you return his ring to him the better,you may avoid telling him you are seeing someone else. But women sha,why double date?
Do what makes you happy dear. You're not going to live with family and friends to continue impressing them if you marry him. Nothing is worth sentencing yourself to eternal aa loveless ever after. There's never a right time to handle emotional matters. Tell the poor chap the truth and drop this burden imposed on you, by you.
Well its ur life n no1 wld run it fr u. Sit him down and talk to him. Explain why you can't marry him. Be truthful nd confident. Bt chaii wen we single gurls are looking fr 1 man to love u av 2 lucky u. Good luck
Well, just tell him you think you need to revaluate the whold marriage thing as you r not ready yet and you dot want the relationship to be a commites one for now. Shikena..be straigthforward and to the point.
Invite him to a date and explain to him what you feel and how to think it can not work out and return the ring to him. Or stylishly let him know you are cheating on him by leaving your phone carelessly or allowing him to see an evidence. He will vex and leave you. Or start a fight you know will be hard to end and don't let him beg you.
Just tell him u can't and make him understand. Your happiness counts most.
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You should have returned the ring after he proposed, maybe not in front of his friends and family but you should have done it the same day, instead of keeping it for this long cos you have given him hope. I had a similar experience sometime ago, was engaged by a friend in front of his friends. I was shocked, wasn't happy about it but I took the ring so as not to embarrass him. Immediately we got into the car, I gave him the ring back, he refused and asked me to think about it. I made it clear to him that I am keeping the ring but that doesn't mean I had accepted the proposal. I eventually returned the ring after some months cos in my heart I wasn't sure he is the one and I don't regret that decision I took. To cut the story short, return the ring to him now if you are convinced in your heart that he is not the one. You are already wasting time as it is. But pray about it. While you pray about it, let him know now how you really feel about everything.
Tell us why u are dating him when he is not your type this will enables reasonable advice. If u can't tell us then u are not looking for useful advice. You got yourself into it so get yourself out of it.
Some guys desereve most thgs women do to them, barely 3months ur proposing.... Just xplain to him in a public place and gv him back his ring jo, before he pays for wedding venue.
You should have returned the ring after he proposed, maybe not in front of his friends and family but you should have done it the same day, instead of keeping it for this long cos you have given him hope. I had a similar experience sometime ago, was engaged by a friend in front of his friends. I was shocked, wasn't happy about it but I took the ring so as not to embarrass him. Immediately we got into the car, I gave him the ring back, he refused and asked me to think about it. I made it clear to him that I am keeping the ring but that doesn't mean I had accepted the proposal. I eventually returned the ring after some months cos in my heart I wasn't sure he is the one and I don't regret that decision I took. To cut the story short, return the ring to him now if you are convinced in your heart that he is not the one. You are already wasting time as it is. But try and pray about it. While you pray about it, let him know how you really feel about everything.
U must be very silly! Such arrogance. Nonsense! Since you have your personal reasons for dating him, still have your reasons for returning his ring too. Why come here to seek for public opinion, like sey we follow you de chop the guy. And see the manner in which you are even asking for advice abi wetin. You come to the public to ask for advice with such impudence. Return the ring and get stoned with it. Iberibe wu oria. You want to eat your cake and have it too. For your mind abi?
Is simple, go to him and be honest about ur intentions... Like, i dont think this marriage will work out, at first he will be frusterated but thats not ur business anymore atlist yu made knwn ur intention in a respectable manner..... . . . ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
First of all.. U r silly and selfish..if u don't have intention of marrying him..collecting the ring is sign of committing urself..and if s1 proposes to u in front of d world and u felt u said yes cuz u wanted to save him frm d embarrassment what happened to d past few months..U r evil and wicked.. U out to ruin his life bitch.. Always communicate so he can move on and not invest in u..smh what a question.. Girls like u shld actually take a kingsize seat in hell...
U just av to look for a way and return it. Meet, av an open heart and mind sincere talk with him. Let him know u can't marry him. He deserves the truth. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. Marriage shld neva be out of pity!
Shut up you stupid bitch, you got into a relationship with a guy you don't love and leading him on. Go ahead and break his heart the earlier d beta,jst send him an SMS and return d ring thru a friend or else he could beat d hell out of you. Ur reason for dating would definitely be for money.
My dear, it better 2 hv 100 broken relationships than 2 hv a broken home. Pray n if ur convinced u dnt need hm, return d ring........ U ll appreciate it later
Madam, if u want to be polite, just tell him u guys have only just met n u'd like to take it slow, then give him d ring in the process. And please leave d man so dat he can find som1 else who is ready 2 build a life with him. All ds girls sef *rolling my eyes*
I really have no advice to offer but I seriously wonder at some guys. Please before you propose to a girl publicily, find out somehow if she has any intention to marry you!! Not all babes are desperate for the ring..
have u ever for once considered the emotional trauma he's gonna pass through when u break the news to him abt not wanting to marry him mehn!ladies are very wicked if it was the man who was cheating on u ,hell would have broke loose so i guess all u have to do is be sincere to him tell him that there some certain tinx he does that u dont like and it would be a big problem when u guys get married so u've cum to the conclusion that u should break the engagement cuz u dont feel the spark u felt for him anymore bt i warn it might end in a painful way
there is no easy way to go abt it. jst meet wit him privately n explain tins to him. but you are mean. y date him in d first place n brk his hrt? its ladies lyk u dat mke men treat oda serious ladies badly.
Wat u did was nt reasonable so u shldnt xpec reasonable responses. Well, how 2 return d engagement handcuff shldnt b a problm, jst go nd drop it under d sea, high voltage tranformer or third mainland bridge nd he wil go nd pick it there, shikena. Foooooooooooooooool
idiat! !!!!!! when you were accepting d ring from a guy u have no wish, u displayed d highest level of immaturity, now ur looking for reasonable answers, my friend go n baff cold water!!! Mtscheeeew! !!!!!!!
And who are you to tell us what is reasonable and what is not? You ask for advice and still use your dirty fingers to say our advice is unreasonable? You dey mad ni? Anyway why are you dating him? How dare you ask us a question and say we should not ask you our own back? Yeye dey smell. Even in your confusion you sound so entitled. You cannot even ask for advice humbly. Carry your cross abeg. P.s: I hope after you return the ring the other guy dumps you. Rude malu.
Ur a thief,u'v just been spending d guys money.Oleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Omoale!Now u wana return his ring cos he's taking d whole thing to another level!
I wanna believe u ar matured...then, act like u are. Call him or text him dat u need to talk... Afta seeing him one on one, drop d bombshell...just only d two of u and choose a place where u can easily walk away...e.g. A park, around d churchh premises, u know what I mean. I know it's painful but diz is what u gat to do b4 it's too late...he'll b planning wedding soon I tell u.
Oh pulease!!! U sound so condescending like u are doing us a favour by bringing your story here. If u don't want nasty comments then don't bring such silly idiota stories to our attention biko. Setting urself up for yabis and warning us not to, oriegbale ode tun fapo,mschewww
You women cannot play with our feelings like this.I understand that he was a bit too forward but you never know. We don't plan for great things to happen, they just happen. I think you should give it some time. You don't know what you have until it's gone. He might be the first and the last guy. Opportunity comes but once.
Don't boder yourself too much ,simple I think I don't want this engagement ,when he ask why simple I can't say just don't feel cool with it.
Honestly if you turn the situation around men don't feel anything to end a relationship . The always look for a safe landing by acting up. So no acting up straight to the point and move on dear.
My dear, I feel you, ppl too express their opinions over-freely on this blog,. . .anyway, as to your question, i have no tips jst if u r serious abt calling it off, do so quickly than dragging it out. . .its a cold solution, but, there is no easy way out or you would have said no when he was proposing.
Stupid u! Thats how unreasonable u are at ur age, to have been sleeping with a man u never dreamt of settling down with.Listen,after he proposed to u d night in d precense of his friends and family,y didnt u tell him d next day that u cant marry him,since u needed not to embarass dat very day. Instead,u continued sleeping with him,swallowing his money and after two months u opened that ur mouth to say u dont know how to tell him. U are just wicked,ur selfish interest will injUre u! How can u take him this far and want to leave hurt.... And there u r talking about being reasonable,when u r one bit not! Tell am now,make e kill u mtchewwwwwwww nonesense!
Lol..c inbsult wey dis gal insult us ontop say she de find advice lol anywy go to yaba market n seLl d ring tel gim u misplaced it, dat was wat I did wen I was in a similar situatn lik u n married som1else
First thing first, you shouldn't have accepted hos proposal when you knew you weren't or were sure of what type of relationship you would want to have with him. And secondly, I think you should seek the face of God concerning this issue before taking a decision, I mean fast and pray about it.
The truth is 10,000 people who would comment here would give you 10,000 different advice and you do not need that right now, so go down on your knees and talk to your creation for direction and wisdom.
Since you won't tell the whole story, I'd advise you invite him for, maybe, lunch at your place if you live alone; you wouldn't want to embarass him in public... and let him know how you feel about the engagement/marrying him. Afterwards, I'm pretty sure he'll ask for his ring back.. It's a bold step alright but the earlier the better.
My dear, why date a guy u have no feelings for? Pls return d ring as soon as possible to avoid story that touch d heart, invite him on a date in an open place tell him that u cant go on with d relationship, that u are not ready for marriage yet.
The kind of silly questions som ppl present here gvs me running stomach atimes. What's so difficult in hangin out wt him in a quiet place, mayb a church in a cool evenin nd explain thns to him as calmly as u can? Simply tell him dt u re yet to kno urselves well nd u feel he should gv u more time cos mrg is for a life time, hence it shouldn't b rushed. Then quietly give the ring back to him, packaged in a small white envelop. Its no a biggie. But b very careful. Pray bf u do dt, else u might loose ur right partner probably bc u re waitin for somone dt might nevr propose
Thats what happens when ppl are by all means trying their possible best to ditch their culture and carry another man's tradition on his head. Mstcheew. KEEPING UP WITH THE LIBERS!
Sincerely I don't beliv a girl can date a guy she has no feelns 4,but if I may ask y did u accept d ring wen u knw 2 well dat u can't marry him and dat u don't even love him,don't u know dat rejectn an offer 4rm d initial stage is beta dan breakn ones hrt,any ways may God help u both.ebony
My dear, I have been engaged 4 like a year plus now. I feel like I don't love him and I want to leave,bt den I realise I want him so bad. Long and short I totally understand what you are going through. Talk to him b4 he starts making serious plans.
Just return it to him,tell him why you accepted and why you're rejecting now.I hope he handles it well.But if he is a good man,marry him before marriage bcom prayer point for you.
First and foremost I must say that you are very stupid and I have no remorse for saying that. Why did you date him in the first place? Are you a gold digger? Please sit down yourself and find a way to return the ring back to the innocent guy. After now when boys start dumping girls,y'all will be saying all guys are the same. Biko who told you to test them all?
You must be a proud n rude thing. Imagine u saying we shouldn't ask n what if we ask? U will beat us abi se a wa la koba e ni Ashewo? If say u sabi solve issues like this, u wouldn't have brought ur problem to disturb us..... Rubbish, Mchewwww.
You must be a proud n rude thing. Imagine u saying we shouldn't ask n what if we ask? U will beat us abi se a wa la koba e ni Ashewo? If say u sabi solve issues like this, u wouldn't have brought ur problem to disturb us..... Rubbish, Mchewwww.
Ode! Speaking of mature responses, since u said u have ur reasons for dating him u obviously don't need LIBERs telling u what to do. Just take him out to the beach and throw d ring into the sea while he's watching. mumu... Thank me later
Ashawo girl hw is he not ur type I'm sure u were milking his money and loving someone else..I pray he kills u wen u try to return the ring..I hate cheats
Only reasonable n mature comments abi? Get a life n get over urself while @ it. U weren't reasonable n mature enuff 2 know dat datin som1 dat is not ur type is childish shey? Na d guy money u de date? Nonsense. Linda betta post fa
It is ethically right if u dump him when u fill like as far as it makes u happy. It is also legally right becuse he proposed in duress. Justice implies the distribution of happiness on the bases of merit, if u deside to return the ring because based on ur standrd he does not fit ur criteria of merit, then u have done Justice to urself and to him. So fill free to return the ring when u so desire. Benois.
U should have donw this, D night of d proposing...ask him why he had to do that, perhaps know if U re ready, and maybe told him he was rushing but U didnt!....if U go Now, it will b like U ve cheating and so wanna dump him for another man, that can make obessed people commit murder.. U(God forbid) or ur main man(God forbid)...i dont knw ur religion, i think U should for God's mercy first, his grace, protection and guidance then..go through your family..let them tell him someone has been there before Now, see nne, let ur family summon him, either ur aunt and sibling or mum n dad..but be sure U nat making any mistake...thats what i think U should do, Thank U.
U should have done this, D night of d proposing...ask him why he had to do that, perhaps know if U re ready, and maybe told him he was rushing but U didnt!....if U go Now, it will b like U ve cheating and so wanna dump him for another man, that can make obessed people commit murder.. U(God forbid) or ur main man(God forbid)...i dont knw ur religion, i think U should for God's mercy first, his grace, protection and guidance then..go through your family..let them tell him someone has been there before Now, see nne, let ur family summon him, either ur aunt and sibling or mum n dad..but be sure U nat making any mistake...thats what i think U should do, Thank U.
Confront him and explain the reason the marriage wouldn't work since only u knows it. But next time, don't bite what you don't want to eat. It might cost your life out lust... no be love oh..
Its girls like you that give other girls bad names and make guys treat nice well meaning girls horribly! Idiot. You can't eat your cake and have it and I hope the other guy who uve been dating proposes...I hope so. Greedy two timing B***h!!!
If you have nothing reasonable to say, keep you opinion to yourself.....? What a line from someone who needs help. Yea u had ur reason for dating him wen u had no plan of staying with him. Now that's what Steve Harvey calls the sport fish kinda woman. I can't judge you but I can assure you other libers are coming for u with grenades bcos u started but dint end well. *smh* u can return the ring or swallow it. God will give that guy someone better.
Abroken relationship is better than a brOken marrage so cal him aside and let him knw how yoi fel abut the relastionship pls. Don't look dnw on good luck
Its beta u call him, sit him and down and make him understand that u dont want to marry him, tell him d truth now atleast he can still forgive u and move ahead, as for the ring, if its gold, give him back but if its pure DIAMOND inbox me, let me tell u what to do with it.goodluck.
Marriage is not by force or pity, if u dont like him for marriage pls tell him and give him back the ring, and stop eating his money cos u are there cos u are seeing free cash. just dont kill his time, call him, meet somewhere and tell him that u dont think it will work out cos u have checked it front and back. goodluck.
Do it in private, at home. Make a nice dinner and be ready to tell him the truth about why you're dating him while 'seeing' another person and why you said 'yes' when you didn't mean it.
Also be ready to explain to him why both of you are not compatible. Let him not feel as if he's the one at fault here. Or he has a problem.
Honestly, I may understand the fact that you did it out of pity, but then seeing someone else behind the dude's back...that's pretty low don't you think?
one thing I always noticed about this advice of a thing is that when someone is asking for a daft advise its when it always end with.......tnz like only matured mind, keep ur advice to ursef etc. What a daft question. You dating him for a reason outside marriage and nw you want advice? Dat one na talk? Nonsense
1st of all d cartoon pix best suit dis post. I dnt knw wot to advice u on now purfffffff oh dear it jst hit me best fin to do is kill d guy n evryone in dat part d nite he proposed n kill ursef case closed, trust me it ll wrk, gudluk in ur mission, luv ya.
Mumu y did u collect d ring wen u knw in ur hrt dat u won't marry him. N u ar dia xpecting reasonable comment 4 ur stupid act..Na ur type dem dey give Federal beating cos ur mouth 2 sharp!
Dear Female LIB Reader, this is easy. Go over to his house, tell him the truth, drop the ring and ask for his forgiveness. I'm sure he will understand. However, you too should understand when the man you are planning to marry kicks your ass few days to your wedding. No long thing.
HOW TO RETURN AN ENGAGEMENT RING: Step 1. Simply return it. Step 2. Return it Step 3. See step 1 & 2
You agreed to date him You deceived him You've been pretending in a relationship for your selfish gains. I bet nobody had a gun to your head when you made that voluntary decision. He wouldn't have gone that far if you hadn't pulled up false feelings. You're simply Evil! Tomorrow, when your likes get jilted, you'll open that hole called a mouth to say "All guys are the same", whereas you were busy fucking & playing two guys. I even hope the other guy finds out Finally from your script, you don't even sound remorseful. Now I'm reacting to your last sentence you Jezebel - Rancid obdurate whorish maniac. Clean your shit or take it to HINTS!!!
After deceiving this Innocent Man, you will then fall into the Hand of a Man that will Teach you a Life-time Hard Lesson!......then you will start saying things like: "Men"! "Men are wicked"! "Men are all the-same"! "Men this, Men That" forgetting that there's a word called KARMA.
Stupid Bitchy She-goat, just go to his house when he's alone and tell him you're not interested again, then drop his Ring for him.
olosi after u don chop the guy money finish, na now u come know say hin no be your type. ashawo ten kobo... poor guy next time hin sef go shine hin eye.
Greed!!! That is your problem. Its either he loaded in the bank or loaded in bed! That is why you're dating him. how do you explain the ring if you mistakenly wear it infront of your "main man" better be careful
Dear LIB ring returnee...frm they way u ended ur submission,it does nt only show ur stupid,but also hrtless..frm my reasonin u must be a runs babe. Anyway I doubt if uve nt sold the ring to aboki alrdy..but if u'v nt,return it and stay away frm him...and "look for ur type" oloshi..u will end up in a wardrobe and vomit money in future..bet me #Money Stops Nonsense# aka *msn* says so.
Sorry o... But your just a STANDARD BASTARD for this. Imagine, saying u have ur reason for seeing anoda person. Bitch u is a HOE! Olosho oshi... Saying he aint ur type, Bitch no 1 is ur type... FOH
Point blank, be blunt to him, tell him the truth the way it is. In trying to be nice and not break it off you're becoming less interested in him and leading him on.
I can only imagine the war going on in your heart right now. There is really no easy way to do it. Either way his heart will be broken. Just go ahead and tell him the honest truth. That you only said yes in order not to embarrass him but honesty you do not think you can marry him. He at least deserves to know that. Good luck girl
You ask for matured response yet your act isn't matured. Anyways wasting time wil only compound the damages. Save him the stress of wasting his time on you, by doing it fast. His right girl might be around the corner. Clear for road for the right chic.
It's obvious you are dating him for money. You are a prostitute! You deserve a good slap that will make your mind go blank the day you return the ring. Bad woman!
Why bring your matter here? Soliciting for reasonable response when you are not a reasonable person. Go and solve your problem elsewhere. You are a disgrace to yourself. You FUCK for money. Shame on you. I feel sorry for the man that will end up marrying you. Get out of here!
U shudnt hav dated him if u knew u weren't gonna spend d rest of ur life wit him. U surely dated him for ur own selfish reasons, well u are on ur own in dis matter, if u return d ring and he decides to kill u or pour acid on u, then goodluck, cos I'm so sure the outcome won't be palatable. #JustSaying
The obvious, tell him exactly how you feel, explain the circumstances behind your acceptance. My reason is simply because you don't need to lead him on. Don't give him a soft landing either!
Idiot, that's what you should be called. Someone is not your type and you are dating him. Oh sorry, I forgot there are too many I-never-chop girls out there nowadays! You are not ready to say why you are dating him in the first place and you are asking for people's opinion!!
You are the unreasonable selfish fellow here who obviously thinks the world revolves around her. Why date someone you dont care about, if not for selfish reasons. I pray your mischief finds you out.
Y lead him on wen u knw he's nott ur type? U go everywhere wit him n his sisters n friends knw u already? Wot do u rily wnt frm him? Nw u wanna give hiim d ring bck cos he's not ur type? U dnt even deserve him, he deserves smone beta. U stupid whore
Wat attitude! u dnt need hlp coz if u do,u won't b rude.ur fuckin nd takin his moni datz d reason ur wif em,rubbish slut.u beta stay wif em cos u dnt kw ur real husband.u cnt marry em bt u cn fuck em,fool.
First of all you are really daft for saying if people dont have an opinion they should not talk that is what i call oniranu somebody
secondly you are daft again for taking his ring and not having the intention of marrying him asin how silly is that smdh. you really need to get your silly act together and let this man go swiftly and stop wasting his precious mschewwwwwww x 10 onirau somebody.
Dis days men are becoming so violent. Wat if in d process of returning d ring and he murders u???it may not b at dat moment. It may b in a month or two or anytime or even pour u acid. Or hot water. Babe I'm seriously scared for u. Just b careful sha.
NIGERIANS CAN BE VERY JUDGMENTAL....WHATEVER REASONS SHE'S DATING THE GUY FOR DOESN'T REALLY MATTER..ATLEAST SHE KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS. IF A GUY PROPOSES,IT'S SOME KIND OF TRADITION TO SAY YES! MOST TIMES GUYS NEED TO MAKE SURE THE LADY IS ON THE SAME LEVEL BEFORE TAKING THAT STEP. PLEASE LET HIM KNOW WHAT'S UP BEFORE THINGS GET OUT OF HAND.. HE PROBABLY KNOWS THE CHICK DOESN'T LIKE HIM AND HE'S TRYING TO TIE HER DOWN WITH MARRIAGE...SOME MEN SAH.
Lol the way the 'babe' even said 'he is not my type' as if he has an affliction. You really need to sort your problems yourself because you've come to the wrong place.
Also pray that Karma does not serve you a nice cold dish.
So who's ur type of man??? Abeg mke we hear nobody gave u ring,,u jus wish...dreamer hs nt ur type of guy,,ok ur type of guy Is Rkelly,but u re eatin his moni???u see ur life????
Sweetie, please apologise and return it. Just tell him you are sorry and you can't do it so as not to make both of you unhappy. i have been faced with an issue like yours. the guy proposed to tie me down before NYSC and i didn't like it. i gave him back the ring the same day and i have no regrets. your problem now is that you have kept it for too long. kindly do the needful.
You have your reason for dating him, then go fuck yourself rubbish #bright bravo#
ReplyDeleteHa! Na WA o! See post, seeking for advice with a very rude and harsh tone, as if its your birth rite or as if you are paying for it, anyway, You can return it through DHL
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My thoughts precisely. Mtchew!
DeleteLol. Babes sha.. I suggest u simply return the ring d same way he proposed, in d presence of his sisters and friends noni
DeleteSimply own up & tell him.
ReplyDeleteSteal his money,if the ring is golddd,sell it.he will definately break the relationship
DeleteIts best u let him no on tym b4 its late. A heart has already bin broken. Feel 4 him
DeletePeople with stories they bring up on LIB this days..he be like say people wey dey Yaba left self don dey read LIB..cant imagine this phrase#Not only am I seeing someone else, he's just not my type but please do not ask me why I'm dating him. I have my reasons### why is the reason not sticking you to him??Ladies lifestyle tho SMH.some people need a psychologist.
ReplyDeleteCan you just imagine? Smh
DeleteAnyone who need my nude picture hit mai name
ReplyDeleteCheap whore
DeleteReturn his ring to him the way and manner he proposed to you, in yhe presence of his friends and sisters.
ReplyDeleteBtw linda don't you watch match? Copa del Rey final is going on.Cheers
Hahaha . You this cute G, u won't stop surprising me.so you know about copa del rey?
DeleteCute G said exact wht I'd hv told the poster.
DeleteThe reason for ur dating him shld make u marry him too...lol
Cute G.... well said
DeleteMehn I love u Cute G. You are just well grounded.Woow @ Copa del rey. Lol
DeleteI feel you dear! Carry your cross cos u should have used your head before collecting the ring. Be careful cos the guy might take it so far. Bye!!!
ReplyDeleteNne plsss kneel dwn in front of his frnds n sisters n give him Τ̲̅ђe ring back I guess he will be ambarass n collect Τ̲̅ђe ring back..GBAM
ReplyDeleteDia's no point returnin d ring.Just fix a date when u both cud c and let him knw dat u can't marry him statin ur rizins 2 him.Dat's all.
ReplyDeleteThe only reasonable thing to say here is u r truly a silly, evil one. He is not your type so what r u doing with him? Sigh! Abeg Linda bring better matter come
ReplyDeleteBabe I need to tell you something, I have being trying so hard to tell you but couldn't. But the weight of this is killing me. *remove the ring and place it on the table. Babe I don't think we should get married, it's me not you. I don't think I want to get married at the moment or if I am the marrying kind. I am sorry, the only reason I said yes was so not to embarrass you. Who would expect an engagement after 2 months?! I hope you can forgive me, cos I am sorry from the bottom of my heart. *stand up and walk away. #make sure you do it in a public place.
ReplyDeletePublic place oooooo or u chop slap!!!
Delete@peacefullyahead!!%
U're very stupid, u obviously don't need any advice...see dis one o, giving conditions
ReplyDeleteYour actions are not REASONABLE or MATURED. Why and where in the heavens are you expecting reasonable and matured answers from? Abeg take several seats jare!
ReplyDeleteStupid poster, u want mature response yet u behave like an animals .nonsense
ReplyDeleteIt seems you don't love the guy or you are not ready to get marry now...but you like to be around him...since he has propose and you don't want to get marry soon...I will advice you kindly wait for the right time he will mess up...just make use of that opportunity to give the ring back to him...please don't break his heart coz he I think he cherish you.Goodluck
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Well! My Mama used to tell me; don't start what can't finish. Be bold and return the ring
ReplyDeleteI m sure you are dating the Poor guy because of Money ...Only God will Judge you .....you this Witch
ReplyDeleteSee as in they pain u reach :) That's the same thing u do when u date that girl jst 4 the mean time with no intention of marrying her. Ah bt nw its being dne 2 a man n she's an automatic witch----C21
DeleteSee as in they pain u reach :) That's the same thing u do when u date that girl jst 4 the mean time with no intention of marrying her. Ah bt nw its being dne 2 a man n she's an automatic witch----C21
DeleteΔeα̲̅я̲̅, you are not suppose to allow people to force you into taking back words you never said which you wil spend †ђξ rest of уᵒᵘʳ life regretting!
ReplyDeleteHe's ain'τ уᵒᵘʳ type neither are you his, then why taking †ђξ ring @ first?!
Just call his attention I pray he understands #gracias!
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Just Return It Just The Same Way You Accepted It... Take Him Out And Let Him Know Your Not Into Him... Oloshi!!
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Ha ha ha ha ha ha..........this is really funny, you know what, just get missing for 1 year......by your return he could be married to someone else...loool
ReplyDeleteJust Return It Just The Same Way You Accepted It... Take Him Out And Let Him Know Your Not Into Him... Oloshi!! Awon Smellos
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Think twice. I quess he does not have cash. But dear think twice. Money is not everything. And only u can follow ur heart
ReplyDeleteSince you can't tell us why you're dating this man, I guess our opinion isn't that important aswell..... Ode!
ReplyDeleteBe bold enough and tell him that you really don't want to marry him! Remember your happiness is at stake!
ReplyDelete# pen nine#
Complicated....you should not av received it in d first place.....cos it will still turn out to b an embarrassment wen u return it.
ReplyDeletejust call him privately and tell him your mind in time and l will advise you to end the relationship in time so that you will be able to allow another person in your life before it will be too late.
ReplyDeleteu b fool , u r dating him becos of his money ..ashawo like you
ReplyDeleteUr datin her 4 sex. Wickd boy like u. Hw u tke no say na money. It fit b job opprtunity....hehehe. *kiddin* bt stil true
Deletelolzzz i like you already.... the whole caveat in your request for advice. very funny.
ReplyDeletei am sure hes seen it on LIB now, a friend has... so no worries hun. try not to date 2 ppl at the same time next time dear
ReplyDeleteYou are very wicked....it is girls like u dat guys should punish well...how will u date a guy wen u know marry him and for dat matter u r dating someone else..wat stupid reasons do u have? And im sure he gives u money and pays ur bills yet u dont evn want to be wit him....I just pity him sha...buh imagine if he did it to u.
ReplyDeleteGuys have been punishing good girls since the beginning of time. We need no imaginations
DeleteU shldnt hav accepted at first. U culd hav jst said. Lemme tink abt it. Buh now d deed has ben don. Talk it out wit him. Tell him dat he proposed too early n u nid more tym
ReplyDeleteYou already know what you want for yourself and he doesn't fit into that.
ReplyDeleteMarriage outweighs any sentiment,coz this is a serious business. Don't because of the people gathered there the day he proposed to you or the way he would feel enter what you will regret tomorrow.
The earlier you return his ring to him the better,you may avoid telling him you are seeing someone else.
But women sha,why double date?
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310
Bona bona pls when men give their answer on why they double date come back and find out our own answer
DeleteLol don't ask us biko ask yourself
ReplyDeletePlease give me the ring
ReplyDeleteDo what makes you happy dear. You're not going to live with family and friends to continue impressing them if you marry him. Nothing is worth sentencing yourself to eternal aa loveless ever after. There's never a right time to handle emotional matters. Tell the poor chap the truth and drop this burden imposed on you, by you.
ReplyDeleteWell its ur life n no1 wld run it fr u. Sit him down and talk to him. Explain why you can't marry him. Be truthful nd confident. Bt chaii wen we single gurls are looking fr 1 man to love u av 2 lucky u. Good luck
ReplyDeleteYou'll be d next victim if u continue looking for man to love**
DeleteWell, just tell him you think you need to revaluate the whold marriage thing as you r not ready yet and you dot want the relationship to be a commites one for now. Shikena..be straigthforward and to the point.
ReplyDeleteInvite him to a date and explain to him what you feel and how to think it can not work out and return the ring to him.
ReplyDeleteOr stylishly let him know you are cheating on him by leaving your phone carelessly or allowing him to see an evidence. He will vex and leave you. Or start a fight you know will be hard to end and don't let him beg you.
All sorts....
ReplyDeleteAll sorts....
ReplyDeleteYou have "your reasons" for dating a guy you do not have plans of marrying. You are dating someone else. Yet you want matured responses.
ReplyDeleteYou are a HOE.
Just tell him u can't and make him understand. Your happiness counts most.
ReplyDeleteA big shout out to my one and only sister Mrs Chiamaka Iheji-Umeh who added a year today 16/4/2014. Happy birthday dear and always wishing u all the best
Sit him down and talk to him... he will be angry, devastated obviously but hope he understands...
ReplyDeleteYou should have returned the ring after he proposed, maybe not in front of his friends and family but you should have done it the same day, instead of keeping it for this long cos you have given him hope. I had a similar experience sometime ago, was engaged by a friend in front of his friends. I was shocked, wasn't happy about it but I took the ring so as not to embarrass him. Immediately we got into the car, I gave him the ring back, he refused and asked me to think about it. I made it clear to him that I am keeping the ring but that doesn't mean I had accepted the proposal. I eventually returned the ring after some months cos in my heart I wasn't sure he is the one and I don't regret that decision I took.
ReplyDeleteTo cut the story short, return the ring to him now if you are convinced in your heart that he is not the one. You are already wasting time as it is. But pray about it. While you pray about it, let him know now how you really feel about everything.
Tell us why u are dating him when he is not your type this will enables reasonable advice. If u can't tell us then u are not looking for useful advice. You got yourself into it so get yourself out of it.
ReplyDeleteSome guys desereve most thgs women do to them, barely 3months ur proposing.... Just xplain to him in a public place and gv him back his ring jo, before he pays for wedding venue.
ReplyDeleteYou should have returned the ring after he proposed, maybe not in front of his friends and family but you should have done it the same day, instead of keeping it for this long cos you have given him hope. I had a similar experience sometime ago, was engaged by a friend in front of his friends. I was shocked, wasn't happy about it but I took the ring so as not to embarrass him. Immediately we got into the car, I gave him the ring back, he refused and asked me to think about it. I made it clear to him that I am keeping the ring but that doesn't mean I had accepted the proposal. I eventually returned the ring after some months cos in my heart I wasn't sure he is the one and I don't regret that decision I took.
ReplyDeleteTo cut the story short, return the ring to him now if you are convinced in your heart that he is not the one. You are already wasting time as it is. But try and pray about it. While you pray about it, let him know how you really feel about everything.
This is the case of "wetin you no wan chop, no smell am".
ReplyDeleteThat's my response from being mature n reasonable.
U must be very silly! Such arrogance. Nonsense! Since you have your personal reasons for dating him, still have your reasons for returning his ring too. Why come here to seek for public opinion, like sey we follow you de chop the guy. And see the manner in which you are even asking for advice abi wetin. You come to the public to ask for advice with such impudence. Return the ring and get stoned with it. Iberibe wu oria. You want to eat your cake and have it too. For your mind abi?
ReplyDeleteBest response ever!!!
DeleteIs simple, go to him and be honest about ur intentions... Like, i dont think this marriage will work out, at first he will be frusterated but thats not ur business anymore atlist yu made knwn ur intention in a respectable manner.....
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First of all.. U r silly and selfish..if u don't have intention of marrying him..collecting the ring is sign of committing urself..and if s1 proposes to u in front of d world and u felt u said yes cuz u wanted to save him frm d embarrassment what happened to d past few months..U r evil and wicked.. U out to ruin his life bitch.. Always communicate so he can move on and not invest in u..smh what a question.. Girls like u shld actually take a kingsize seat in hell...
ReplyDeleteU just av to look for a way and return it. Meet, av an open heart and mind sincere talk with him. Let him know u can't marry him. He deserves the truth. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. Marriage shld neva be out of pity!
ReplyDeleteShut up you stupid bitch, you got into a relationship with a guy you don't love and leading him on. Go ahead and break his heart the earlier d beta,jst send him an SMS and return d ring thru a friend or else he could beat d hell out of you. Ur reason for dating would definitely be for money.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, it better 2 hv 100 broken relationships than 2 hv a broken home. Pray n if ur convinced u dnt need hm, return d ring........ U ll appreciate it later
ReplyDeleteMa dear jos be open n tell him that u can't marry him Mayb u ppl r 2 diff ppl n frm d way ur seeing tins it won't work out for u both.
ReplyDeleteU are looking for "mature" response and you came to LIB?....(Just let that sink in for a moment)
ReplyDeleteMadam, if u want to be polite, just tell him u guys have only just met n u'd like to take it slow, then give him d ring in the process. And please leave d man so dat he can find som1 else who is ready 2 build a life with him. All ds girls sef *rolling my eyes*
ReplyDeleteI want to remain anonymous
ReplyDeleteI want to remain anonymous
ReplyDeleteSo. Upon the fact that ur asking for our opinion, ur still having an attitude? You must be very stupid... abeg commot jor...
ReplyDeleteSeriously! I could cut through the attitude with a carving knife and am so shocked that some people are actually giving her advice. Such impudence!
DeleteI really have no advice to offer but I seriously wonder at some guys. Please before you propose to a girl publicily, find out somehow if she has any intention to marry you!! Not all babes are desperate for the ring..
ReplyDeleteBring the ring , i will help u return it
ReplyDeletePray for GODs intervention bcos u can't decide on ur own
ReplyDeletehave u ever for once considered the emotional trauma he's gonna pass through when u break the news to him abt not wanting to marry him mehn!ladies are very wicked if it was the man who was cheating on u ,hell would have broke loose so i guess all u have to do is be sincere to him tell him that there some certain tinx he does that u dont like and it would be a big problem when u guys get married so u've cum to the conclusion that u should break the engagement cuz u dont feel the spark u felt for him anymore bt i warn it might end in a painful way
ReplyDelete#milito da great#
there is no easy way to go abt it. jst meet wit him privately n explain tins to him. but you are mean. y date him in d first place n brk his hrt? its ladies lyk u dat mke men treat oda serious ladies badly.
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ReplyDeleteWat u did was nt reasonable so u shldnt xpec reasonable responses. Well, how 2 return d engagement handcuff shldnt b a problm, jst go nd drop it under d sea, high voltage tranformer or third mainland bridge nd he wil go nd pick it there, shikena. Foooooooooooooooool
ReplyDeleteA brokn relationship is better than abrokn marriage cal him aside and have mutua tukl and let him understand how u fel pls don't look down on him
ReplyDeleteU came to LIB to look for "matured responses"? U don miss road.
ReplyDeleteidiat! !!!!!! when you were accepting d ring from a guy u have no wish, u displayed d highest level of immaturity, now ur looking for reasonable answers, my friend go n baff cold water!!! Mtscheeeew! !!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteAnd who are you to tell us what is reasonable and what is not? You ask for advice and still use your dirty fingers to say our advice is unreasonable? You dey mad ni? Anyway why are you dating him? How dare you ask us a question and say we should not ask you our own back? Yeye dey smell. Even in your confusion you sound so entitled. You cannot even ask for advice humbly. Carry your cross abeg.
ReplyDeleteP.s: I hope after you return the ring the other guy dumps you. Rude malu.
Seriously! Some people lack simple courtesy .
DeleteI ve noting to say,but I do ve a sound hissssssSsssssssss
ReplyDeleteUr a thief,u'v just been spending d guys money.Oleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Omoale!Now u wana return his ring cos he's taking d whole thing to another level!
ReplyDeleteI wanna believe u ar matured...then, act like u are. Call him or text him dat u need to talk... Afta seeing him one on one, drop d bombshell...just only d two of u and choose a place where u can easily walk away...e.g. A park, around d churchh premises, u know what I mean. I know it's painful but diz is what u gat to do b4 it's too late...he'll b planning wedding soon I tell u.
ReplyDeleteLibers will so finish u,watch and see
ReplyDeleteI don't have any idea.
ReplyDeleteOh pulease!!! U sound so condescending like u are doing us a favour by bringing your story here. If u don't want nasty comments then don't bring such silly idiota stories to our attention biko. Setting urself up for yabis and warning us not to, oriegbale ode tun fapo,mschewww
ReplyDeleteBabe I understand u exactly. Just let him knw, simple. Luk 4 a quiet time alone wit himnd tell him.
ReplyDeleteYou women cannot play with our feelings like this.I understand that he was a bit too forward but you never know. We don't plan for great things to happen, they just happen. I think you should give it some time. You don't know what you have until it's gone. He might be the first and the last guy. Opportunity comes but once.
ReplyDeleteJust be frank wit him,tell him u accepted d ring cos u never wanted to put him to shame,be bold enough to be truthful
ReplyDeleteDon't boder yourself too much ,simple I think I don't want this engagement ,when he ask why simple I can't say just don't feel cool with it.
ReplyDeleteHonestly if you turn the situation around men don't feel anything to end a relationship . The always look for a safe landing by acting up. So no acting up straight to the point and move on dear.
My dear ur happiness matters to u a lot dan d happiness of him n his family. Choose wisely.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I feel you, ppl too express their opinions over-freely on this blog,. . .anyway, as to your question, i have no tips jst if u r serious abt calling it off, do so quickly than dragging it out. . .its a cold solution, but, there is no easy way out or you would have said no when he was proposing.
ReplyDeleteStupid u! Thats how unreasonable u are at ur age, to have been sleeping with a man u never dreamt of settling down with.Listen,after he proposed to u d night in d precense of his friends and family,y didnt u tell him d next day that u cant marry him,since u needed not to embarass dat very day. Instead,u continued sleeping with him,swallowing his money and after two months u opened that ur mouth to say u dont know how to tell him. U are just wicked,ur selfish interest will injUre u! How can u take him this far and want to leave hurt.... And there u r talking about being reasonable,when u r one bit not! Tell am now,make e kill u mtchewwwwwwww nonesense!
ReplyDeleteLol..c inbsult wey dis gal insult us ontop say she de find advice lol anywy go to yaba market n seLl d ring tel gim u misplaced it, dat was wat I did wen I was in a similar situatn lik u n married som1else
ReplyDeleteFirst thing first, you shouldn't have accepted hos proposal when you knew you weren't or were sure of what type of relationship you would want to have with him. And secondly, I think you should seek the face of God concerning this issue before taking a decision, I mean fast and pray about it.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is 10,000 people who would comment here would give you 10,000 different advice and you do not need that right now, so go down on your knees and talk to your creation for direction and wisdom.
Good luck!!!
If you really dint want to marry him, you would have given him the ring that same day. please visit my fashion blog, www.meemjay.com
ReplyDeleteSince you won't tell the whole story, I'd advise you invite him for, maybe, lunch at your place if you live alone; you wouldn't want to embarass him in public... and let him know how you feel about the engagement/marrying him.
ReplyDeleteAfterwards, I'm pretty sure he'll ask for his ring back.. It's a bold step alright but the earlier the better.
Goodnight y'all!
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My dear, why date a guy u have no feelings for? Pls return d ring as soon as possible to avoid story that touch d heart, invite him on a date in an open place tell him that u cant go on with d relationship, that u are not ready for marriage yet.
ReplyDeleteHere's a thought...
ReplyDelete- extravagantly paste a link to this post on his Facebook Wall...
- or reticently via SMS
Because if this is real, he'll find this post eventually,u'd be the bad guy, and it'll get messy.
The kind of silly questions som ppl present here gvs me running stomach atimes. What's so difficult in hangin out wt him in a quiet place, mayb a church in a cool evenin nd explain thns to him as calmly as u can? Simply tell him dt u re yet to kno urselves well nd u feel he should gv u more time cos mrg is for a life time, hence it shouldn't b rushed. Then quietly give the ring back to him, packaged in a small white envelop. Its no a biggie. But b very careful. Pray bf u do dt, else u might loose ur right partner probably bc u re waitin for somone dt might nevr propose
ReplyDeleteA mature comment? Ok dear...just do is all a favor and DIE! B***h!!
ReplyDeleteThats what happens when ppl are by all means trying their possible best to ditch their culture and carry another man's tradition on his head. Mstcheew. KEEPING UP WITH THE LIBERS!
ReplyDeleteDear!!!! I have a feeling you will be given the insult of your life today... I just feel it... Hahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahahahaa
ReplyDeleteYou're dating him for money ba ? ;) ode.
ReplyDeletefirst all ur very foolish for dating 2 guys at the same tym
ReplyDeleteSincerely I don't beliv a girl can date a guy she has no feelns 4,but if I may ask y did u accept d ring wen u knw 2 well dat u can't marry him and dat u don't even love him,don't u know dat rejectn an offer 4rm d initial stage is beta dan breakn ones hrt,any ways may God help u both.ebony
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I have been engaged 4 like a year plus now. I feel like I don't love him and I want to leave,bt den I realise I want him so bad. Long and short I totally understand what you are going through. Talk to him b4 he starts making serious plans.
ReplyDeleteJust explain 2him y u can maRry him and give him back his ring. But I am feeling for him.
ReplyDeleteJust return it to him,tell him why you accepted and why you're rejecting now.I hope he handles it well.But if he is a good man,marry him before marriage bcom prayer point for you.
ReplyDeleteFirst and foremost I must say that you are very stupid and I have no remorse for saying that. Why did you date him in the first place? Are you a gold digger? Please sit down yourself and find a way to return the ring back to the innocent guy. After now when boys start dumping girls,y'all will be saying all guys are the same. Biko who told you to test them all?
ReplyDeleteYou must be a proud n rude thing. Imagine u saying we shouldn't ask n what if we ask? U will beat us abi se a wa la koba e ni Ashewo? If say u sabi solve issues like this, u wouldn't have brought ur problem to disturb us..... Rubbish, Mchewwww.
ReplyDeleteYou must be a proud n rude thing. Imagine u saying we shouldn't ask n what if we ask? U will beat us abi se a wa la koba e ni Ashewo? If say u sabi solve issues like this, u wouldn't have brought ur problem to disturb us..... Rubbish, Mchewwww.
ReplyDeleteTell him you won't marry him, drop the ring and take a long walk. Don't waste his time. Better now than later.
ReplyDeleteOde! Speaking of mature responses, since u said u have ur reasons for dating him u obviously don't need LIBERs telling u what to do. Just take him out to the beach and throw d ring into the sea while he's watching. mumu... Thank me later
ReplyDeleteMake him catch u with d oda guy
ReplyDeleteProblem solved.
Or, are u scared d oda guy will know?
Den sorry na ur name.
You must marry o, y can't u tell us ur reason, cos u know is cos u r chopping his money madly, better marry n continue chopping money. Oloshi!!!
ReplyDeleteAshawo girl hw is he not ur type I'm sure u were milking his money and loving someone else..I pray he kills u wen u try to return the ring..I hate cheats
ReplyDeleteWow babe,you've got altitude, go figure it out yourself cos trust me pip go yab u anyway.
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Only reasonable n mature comments abi? Get a life n get over urself while @ it. U weren't reasonable n mature enuff 2 know dat datin som1 dat is not ur type is childish shey? Na d guy money u de date? Nonsense. Linda betta post fa
ReplyDeleteIt is ethically right if u dump him when u fill like as far as it makes u happy. It is also legally right becuse he proposed in duress. Justice implies the distribution of happiness on the bases of merit, if u deside to return the ring because based on ur standrd he does not fit ur criteria of merit, then u have done Justice to urself and to him. So fill free to return the ring when u so desire. Benois.
ReplyDeleteU should have donw this, D night of d proposing...ask him why he had to do that, perhaps know if U re ready, and maybe told him he was rushing but U didnt!....if U go Now, it will b like U ve cheating and so wanna dump him for another man, that can make obessed people commit murder.. U(God forbid) or ur main man(God forbid)...i dont knw ur religion, i think U should for God's mercy first, his grace, protection and guidance then..go through your family..let them tell him someone has been there before Now, see nne, let ur family summon him, either ur aunt and sibling or mum n dad..but be sure U nat making any mistake...thats what i think U should do, Thank U.
ReplyDeleteU should have done this, D night of d proposing...ask him why he had to do that, perhaps know if U re ready, and maybe told him he was rushing but U didnt!....if U go Now, it will b like U ve cheating and so wanna dump him for another man, that can make obessed people commit murder.. U(God forbid) or ur main man(God forbid)...i dont knw ur religion, i think U should for God's mercy first, his grace, protection and guidance then..go through your family..let them tell him someone has been there before Now, see nne, let ur family summon him, either ur aunt and sibling or mum n dad..but be sure U nat making any mistake...thats what i think U should do, Thank U.
ReplyDeleteConfront him and explain the reason the marriage wouldn't work since only u knows it. But next time, don't bite what you don't want to eat. It might cost your life out lust... no be love oh..
ReplyDeleteIts girls like you that give other girls bad names and make guys treat nice well meaning girls horribly! Idiot. You can't eat your cake and have it and I hope the other guy who uve been dating proposes...I hope so. Greedy two timing B***h!!!
ReplyDeleteIf you have nothing reasonable to say, keep you opinion to yourself.....? What a line from someone who needs help. Yea u had ur reason for dating him wen u had no plan of staying with him. Now that's what Steve Harvey calls the sport fish kinda woman. I can't judge you but I can assure you other libers are coming for u with grenades bcos u started but dint end well. *smh* u can return the ring or swallow it. God will give that guy someone better.
ReplyDeleteAbroken relationship is better than a brOken marrage so cal him aside and let him knw how yoi fel abut the relastionship pls. Don't look dnw on good luck
ReplyDeleteIts beta u call him, sit him and down and make him understand that u dont want to marry him, tell him d truth now atleast he can still forgive u and move ahead, as for the ring, if its gold, give him back but if its pure DIAMOND inbox me, let me tell u what to do with it.goodluck.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is not by force or pity, if u dont like him for marriage pls tell him and give him back the ring, and stop eating his money cos u are there cos u are seeing free cash. just dont kill his time, call him, meet somewhere and tell him that u dont think it will work out cos u have checked it front and back. goodluck.
ReplyDeleteDo it in private, at home. Make a nice dinner and be ready to tell him the truth about why you're dating him while 'seeing' another person and why you said 'yes' when you didn't mean it.
ReplyDeleteAlso be ready to explain to him why both of you are not compatible. Let him not feel as if he's the one at fault here. Or he has a problem.
Honestly, I may understand the fact that you did it out of pity, but then seeing someone else behind the dude's back...that's pretty low don't you think?
For that last comment iwu anu npama,tell him you are not ready for marriage or better still you're not interested otan
ReplyDeleteU need to pray about it first,don't be in a rush to returned bk the ring dear everything Happen for a porposed.
ReplyDeleteone thing I always noticed about this advice of a thing is that when someone is asking for a daft advise its when it always end with.......tnz like only matured mind, keep ur advice to ursef etc. What a daft question. You dating him for a reason outside marriage and nw you want advice? Dat one na talk? Nonsense
ReplyDelete1st of all d cartoon pix best suit dis post. I dnt knw wot to advice u on now purfffffff oh dear it jst hit me best fin to do is kill d guy n evryone in dat part d nite he proposed n kill ursef case closed, trust me it ll wrk, gudluk in ur mission, luv ya.
ReplyDeleteMumu y did u collect d ring wen u knw in ur hrt dat u won't marry him. N u ar dia xpecting reasonable comment 4 ur stupid act..Na ur type dem dey give Federal beating cos ur mouth 2 sharp!
ReplyDeleteIf you have your bloody reason for dating him why ask us? You are an ass for real
ReplyDeleteWe just have to know why you are dating him before i can give you a solution.
ReplyDeleteDear Female LIB Reader, this is easy. Go over to his house, tell him the truth, drop the ring and ask for his forgiveness. I'm sure he will understand. However, you too should understand when the man you are planning to marry kicks your ass few days to your wedding. No long thing.
ReplyDeleteHOW TO RETURN AN ENGAGEMENT RING:
ReplyDeleteStep 1. Simply return it.
Step 2. Return it
Step 3. See step 1 & 2
You agreed to date him
You deceived him
You've been pretending in a relationship for your selfish gains.
I bet nobody had a gun to your head when you made that voluntary decision.
He wouldn't have gone that far if you hadn't pulled up false feelings.
You're simply Evil!
Tomorrow, when your likes get jilted, you'll open that hole called a mouth to say "All guys are the same", whereas you were busy fucking & playing two guys. I even hope the other guy finds out
Finally from your script, you don't even sound remorseful.
Now I'm reacting to your last sentence you Jezebel - Rancid obdurate whorish maniac. Clean your shit or take it to HINTS!!!
Ciao
Only mature responses? Re-read your post and see if it is mature, Miss I-have-my-reasons.
ReplyDeleteSome people. ..
After deceiving this Innocent Man, you will then fall into the Hand of a Man that will Teach you a Life-time Hard Lesson!......then you will start saying things like: "Men"! "Men are wicked"! "Men are all the-same"! "Men this, Men That" forgetting that there's a word called KARMA.
ReplyDeleteStupid Bitchy She-goat, just go to his house when he's alone and tell him you're not interested again, then drop his Ring for him.
U r an Idiot!!!
ReplyDeleteolosi after u don chop the guy money finish, na now u come know say hin no be your type. ashawo ten kobo... poor guy next time hin sef go shine hin eye.
ReplyDeleteGreed!!!
ReplyDeleteThat is your problem. Its either he loaded in the bank or loaded in bed! That is why you're dating him. how do you explain the ring if you mistakenly wear it infront of your "main man"
better be careful
Tell the giy the truth abt hw u feel and follow your heart. The earlier the better
ReplyDeleteCall him, arrange a meeting. Somewhere private. TELL HIM THE WHOLE THING. Give him back his ring and stay away from men who are not your type
ReplyDeleteDear LIB ring returnee...frm they way u ended ur submission,it does nt only show ur stupid,but also hrtless..frm my reasonin u must be a runs babe. Anyway I doubt if uve nt sold the ring to aboki alrdy..but if u'v nt,return it and stay away frm him...and "look for ur type" oloshi..u will end up in a wardrobe and vomit money in future..bet me #Money Stops Nonsense# aka *msn* says so.
DeleteSimply walk up to him and tell him in a polite mannet .
ReplyDeleteSorry o... But your just a STANDARD BASTARD for this. Imagine, saying u have ur reason for seeing anoda person. Bitch u is a HOE! Olosho oshi... Saying he aint ur type, Bitch no 1 is ur type... FOH
ReplyDeletePoint blank, be blunt to him, tell him the truth the way it is. In trying to be nice and not break it off you're becoming less interested in him and leading him on.
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ReplyDeleteI can only imagine the war going on in your heart right now. There is really no easy way to do it. Either way his heart will be broken. Just go ahead and tell him the honest truth. That you only said yes in order not to embarrass him but honesty you do not think you can marry him. He at least deserves to know that. Good luck girl
ReplyDeleteYou ask for matured response yet your act isn't matured. Anyways wasting time wil only compound the damages. Save him the stress of wasting his time on you, by doing it fast. His right girl might be around the corner. Clear for road for the right chic.
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious you are dating him for money. You are a prostitute! You deserve a good slap that will make your mind go blank the day you return the ring. Bad woman!
ReplyDeleteUr mouth sef na Razor. Lol
ReplyDeleteU re not ready 4 advice...Al dat glitters is not gold...Uwa mebi. Nkmama
ReplyDeleteAnofia asewo, yeah return his ring n all his money u HV been collecting
ReplyDeleteWhy bring your matter here? Soliciting for reasonable response when you are not a reasonable person. Go and solve your problem elsewhere. You are a disgrace to yourself. You FUCK for money. Shame on you. I feel sorry for the man that will end up marrying you. Get out of here!
ReplyDeleteHow do i return my engagement ring? Hw did u collect it?
ReplyDeleteYou can commit suicide. Oloshi, olojukokoro.
ReplyDeleteU shudnt hav dated him if u knew u weren't gonna spend d rest of ur life wit him. U surely dated him for ur own selfish reasons, well u are on ur own in dis matter, if u return d ring and he decides to kill u or pour acid on u, then goodluck, cos I'm so sure the outcome won't be palatable. #JustSaying
ReplyDeletePick a day and do it
ReplyDeleteU pissed me up wen u said do not ask y am datin him. Oloshi in Olamide's voice.
ReplyDeleteThe obvious, tell him exactly how you feel, explain the circumstances behind your acceptance. My reason is simply because you don't need to lead him on. Don't give him a soft landing either!
ReplyDeleteSimpu...
ReplyDeleteSara plus gave you the best answer ole oshi
ReplyDeleteIdiot, that's what you should be called. Someone is not your type and you are dating him. Oh sorry, I forgot there are too many I-never-chop girls out there nowadays! You are not ready to say why you are dating him in the first place and you are asking for people's opinion!!
ReplyDeleteYou are the unreasonable selfish fellow here who obviously thinks the world revolves around her. Why date someone you dont care about, if not for selfish reasons. I pray your mischief finds you out.
ReplyDeleteYou can talk it out with him maturely n return his ring,your happiness should be ur piority.But pls u have to apply diplomacy*geraldopino
ReplyDeletePls return d ring 2 him now dat u are not married 2 him pls.....
ReplyDeleteY lead him on wen u knw he's nott ur type? U go everywhere wit him n his sisters n friends knw u already? Wot do u rily wnt frm him? Nw u wanna give hiim d ring bck cos he's not ur type? U dnt even deserve him, he deserves smone beta. U stupid whore
ReplyDeleteWat attitude! u dnt need hlp coz if u do,u won't b rude.ur fuckin nd takin his moni datz d reason ur wif em,rubbish slut.u beta stay wif em cos u dnt kw ur real husband.u cnt marry em bt u cn fuck em,fool.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all you are really daft for saying if people dont have an opinion they should not talk that is what i call oniranu somebody
ReplyDeletesecondly you are daft again for taking his ring and not having the intention of marrying him asin how silly is that smdh. you really need to get your silly act together and let this man go swiftly and stop wasting his precious mschewwwwwww x 10 onirau somebody.
GIRL, INVITE HIM TO AN EATERY AND EASE HIM INTO IT. YOU TWO-TIMING MEN? I HOPE YOUR YEARLY PAP SMEAR IS READ RIGHT. HUH!
ReplyDeleteYou're a selfish bitch! Fucking two men! You will surely get what you deserve.
ReplyDeleteYou are a bucket of shit! That's all I have to tell you.
ReplyDeleteoh mature comments please you idiot dating 2 people are you beautiful "i have my reasons" give the poor guy his ring back oh sob
ReplyDeleteSelfishness and greed will kill you.
ReplyDeleteDis days men are becoming so violent. Wat if in d process of returning d ring and he murders u???it may not b at dat moment. It may b in a month or two or anytime or even pour u acid. Or hot water. Babe I'm seriously scared for u. Just b careful sha.
ReplyDeleteI wonder what ur reasons are
ReplyDeleteNIGERIANS CAN BE VERY JUDGMENTAL....WHATEVER REASONS SHE'S DATING THE GUY FOR DOESN'T REALLY MATTER..ATLEAST SHE KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS. IF A GUY PROPOSES,IT'S SOME KIND OF TRADITION TO SAY YES! MOST TIMES GUYS NEED TO MAKE SURE THE LADY IS ON THE SAME LEVEL BEFORE TAKING THAT STEP. PLEASE LET HIM KNOW WHAT'S UP BEFORE THINGS GET OUT OF HAND.. HE PROBABLY KNOWS THE CHICK DOESN'T LIKE HIM AND HE'S TRYING TO TIE HER DOWN WITH MARRIAGE...SOME MEN SAH.
ReplyDeleteU have ur reasons? Why d hell are u now bugging us? Idiot! Ashewo kobo kobo. Mscheew
ReplyDeleteDouble dating bitch. Its ur funeral. deal with it.
ReplyDeleteLol the way the 'babe' even said 'he is not my type' as if he has an affliction. You really need to sort your problems yourself because you've come to the wrong place.
ReplyDeleteAlso pray that Karma does not serve you a nice cold dish.
Call him and explain things to him. If he is a matured man, he will understand.
ReplyDeleteSo who's ur type of man??? Abeg mke we hear nobody gave u ring,,u jus wish...dreamer hs nt ur type of guy,,ok ur type of guy Is Rkelly,but u re eatin his moni???u see ur life????
ReplyDeleteI HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS... I DONT KNOW WHERE TO START... WHO INSPIRED THE USE OF MUPPETS? LINDA OR THE GIRL? I KNOW SOMEONE HAS DADDY ISSUES
ReplyDeleteYou are confused...
ReplyDelete#ben carson#
Sweetie, please apologise and return it. Just tell him you are sorry and you can't do it so as not to make both of you unhappy. i have been faced with an issue like yours. the guy proposed to tie me down before NYSC and i didn't like it. i gave him back the ring the same day and i have no regrets. your problem now is that you have kept it for too long. kindly do the needful.
ReplyDeleteD way u even ended ur write up, speaks volume about you.... saucy,
ReplyDeletearrogant thing.....
* sort ur self out*