Dear LIB readers: my husband constantly talks to his ex-girlfriend
From a female LIB reader
I need to see what people think about this, so I know if I'm
just going crazy or my fears are valid. We've been married for about a
year. Before marriage he only mentioned her to me in passing, as one of
his ex girlfriends, however, ever since we got married, I've come to
know her in great detail as he talks about her frequently and with great
delight each time. Apparently they dated for almost 2 years and lived
together the whole time. From his stories about her, I learnt that she
helped him a lot during the time of his life when things were rough.
However the only reason he's given me why he didn't marry her is cos
she's not Nigerian and he thought that might cause him problems in future.
He talks to her everyday. He calls her when he leaves for work, also
when he's at work. He calls her occasionally when he's home with me n he
usually tells me when he wants to call her n he places it on speaker.
They exchange text messages thru watsapp all the time. I complained to
him severally about the frequency of the contact cos I'm very
uncomfortable with it. He keeps telling me there's nothing between them and
the contact will die off eventually. At some point he started clearing
their chats. I noticed and confronted him n he lied about it initially, n
later admitted that it was cos d chats were bothering me too much n he
didn't want me unhappy. I've tried to ignore it. But I keep lapsing into
unhappiness. He seems to value their friendship more than whatever I
have to say about it. I'm sorry this is so long. Sometimes I feel like
the only reason he married he instead of her is cos I'm also nigerian.
Please I need advice on what to do about this. Should I just keep trying
to ignore them n hope it goes away? Or should I do something?
I know how annoying it is. The more u fight it, the.more he will find ways to hide it from you and then the makes it exciting for him. On the other hand, I don't expect u to just accept it. Talk to him and tell him you have had enough and if he doesn't stop, start keeping in touch with an ex openly also. Maybe a taste of his own medicine will make him see more clearly.
There is nothing you would do, stop che king your man,s phone become even if u find him se. Chatting g her will you now pack your things and go home? It's of no use! As a matter tell him to stop telling you wen he wants to call her he should desist from I forming u anything about her past future and present focus ur energy on your marriage when he calls and you know she is d one you sef pick your phone and that time and. All a friend take your mind off it else you will end up having hpb for nothing I tire jor
you've voiced your distaste for his actions severally yet he has not budged. at least be thankful that he is not hiding it from you because you may have felt worse. Nevertheless, think about the fact that he's with you and not with her. you've won in that aspect. Also, occupy yourself with things that will distract you and then act like you don't care about it any more. i'm sure he'll get suspicious and hopefully stop.
Most importantly, pray like it's up to God to change him. Pray without ceasing and watch what God will do.
Where is she? If she is outside the country, it will fizzle out soon but if she is near I see a problem soon. What your hubby is doing is not healthy for your marriage.
Lol Lindiway this pic you used for this post is so funny. Dear you need to be worried, you need to be genuinely worried. You must get to stop him, before it graduates to him cheating on you with her.
You should improve on yourself.Pamper him with luv and work on your weaknesses.Something about you may be putting him off that makes him run back to his ex.Try that one first before confronting him
when he gave you the reason on why he didn't marry her, were you already married? if not then you deserve it. why would you enjoy another woman's sweat just because she is not Nigerian. if you were already married then your husband is so selfish and he's trying to take the guilt away by talking to his ex because if he loved his ex that much, he wouldn't care where she comes from especially after what she's done for him...
My u don't still hv any concrete evidence so jst be patient ok so dat u don't go nd spoil something jst show him more love nd sometimes remaind him of calling her nd dat will make him love u more nd when he loves u more, his love for her will reduce naturally but when u start showing him sadness, u re pushing him to her. Remember she is ur husband 2nd options if u push him away
With d way things are,he feel more comfortable wit her,dan wit u,I wonder wat he wants frm her again,he still luv her a lot,if u really like ur marriage,sit him dwn again n tell him hw u feel abt it,and let him knw ur stand#hmm#
With d way things are,he feel more comfortable wit her,dan wit u,I wonder wat he wants frm her again,he still luv her a lot,if u really like ur marriage,sit him dwn again n tell him hw u feel abt it,and let him knw ur stand#hmm#
He loves and respects you which is why he is open about the calls. But he loves her more which is why he isn't ready to give her up. Try to get to know her, ask your husband to introduce both of you then use that to draw a mark on your territory before this blows out of hand.
girl, sit your man down look him in the eye and ask him what he wants from her and why he feels the need to constantly talk to her even when he knows it makes you unhappy. ask him if he still loves her and wishes he married her, of course he may lie but the look in his eyes will tell you all u need to know. if it keeps happening then chances are he may eventually leave u for her if you keep complaining. marriage is not by force, if he keeps doing it, you have to walk away or both of you should go see a counselor and talk about things properly. If it has to get to the point where you have to call the lady and talk to her in a polite and controlled manner, then please do it. goodluck and talk to God too.
Hmmm, this is serious though am not married buh from my sphincter experience I will say u made a mistake by letting him know u r bothered, u should av bn friends with her then u make her sit in ur shoes to really understand what he endure having an ex chat n get that friendly with ur spouse, and if she's as sensitive as i think she woke realize there is nothing left to discuss after when u tot me not fit as am not nigerian buh as it stands just be patient and prayerful God will help you get thru it, just be calm
Hmmmmm. He's probably not over this lady. Αи∂ I wouldn't advice u stay in a marriage where another woman is been talked about everytime. Call him to order, tell him u don't really like such! That ur not comfortable with it. An average Nigerian man/woman will tell u to pray for him, listen dear, there's nothing to pray about here. Talk to him, communication is the key......make him understand ur not comfortable with this αи∂ if it continues then u'd knw he's probably obsessed with this lady αи∂ find ur way out.....
Αи∂ meanwhile watch ur attitude, if a man continues to talk about another woman when ur with him, that means ur attitude towards him isn't good. Try αи∂ amend ur ways....u knw him more than anybody...am not saying u shld change who u are cos of him, nope.....buh just cut ur excesses, wish u best
Hmmmmm. He's probably not over this lady. Αи∂ I wouldn't advice u stay in a marriage where another woman is been talked about everytime. Call him to order, tell him u don't really like such! That ur not comfortable with it. An average Nigerian man/woman will tell u to pray for him, listen dear, there's nothing to pray about here. Talk to him, communication is the key......make him understand ur not comfortable with this αи∂ if it continues then u'd knw he's probably obsessed with this lady αи∂ find ur way out.....
Αи∂ meanwhile watch ur attitude, if a man continues to talk about another woman when ur with him, that means ur attitude towards him isn't good. Try αи∂ amend ur ways....u knw him more than anybody...am not saying u shld change who u are cos of him, nope.....buh just cut ur excesses, wish u best
it will not go away! Its a very dangerous situation. The question is does the other lady knows hes married now? u didnt mention that. Anyways, seek help where you can get. Most ppl that will comment on here have no marital experience and might confuse u, those who does dont usually comment (no disrespect).... seek help where u can truly get one. Its a very dangerous situation.
If I were you I will stop giving my self head ache ooo. As long as he is not disrespecting you and he is performing his duties then let him be pls. He will eventually wake up some day. Pele I feel your pain.
dont be silent. he is suppose to be ur best friend, confidant. what is he telling her 24/7 that he cant tell you? address the issue. they shouldn't make you a fool out of thier supposed "friendship"
D best way to keep marriage is to respect ur partner for who, and wht he or she is mostly associations b kept mostly d good one's.
I wil advice dat u should b secured in ur marriage if u want it to last mostly avoid b unnecessary jealous, and trying to dictate to ur hubby abt who or wht to keep to chat wit or talk to.
U can only advice him, and d rest leave for God to change him inside out bcos u r not his God. So quit trying to b God in his life.
Though I wil advice men to quit distractions dat wil degenerate their families or else they wil pay for it wit losing d necessary family unity dat is suppose to co-exist in d family.
Hubby b wise, and manage ur home affairs well, and learn to listen to ur wife whenever she advice u while women don't try to play b God to ur hubby.
D best way to keep marriage is to respect ur partner for who, and wht he or she is mostly associations b kept mostly d good one's.
I wil advice dat u should b secured in ur marriage if u want it to last mostly avoid b unnecessary jealous, and trying to dictate to ur hubby abt who or wht to keep to chat wit or talk to.
U can only advice him, and d rest leave for God to change him inside out bcos u r not his God. So quit trying to b God in his life.
Though I wil advice men to quit distractions dat wil degenerate their families or else they wil pay for it wit losing d necessary family unity dat is suppose to co-exist in d family.
Hubby b wise, and manage ur home affairs well, and learn to listen to ur wife whenever she advice u while women don't try to play b God to ur hubby.
MADAM u have nting to do I you won't do anything,,, its obvious that he loved his X...just give him a little break and don't pester him so long he is nt seeing the lady....and push him to the edge
hmmmm. I can understand ur feelings. it's not easy but I will advice you to be patient and be fervent in prayer to God to win ur hubby's heart to ur side and u also check ur self. maybe there are some tins u do that makes him to remember her. please don't take any negative advise that can cause you your marriage. Also I want you to know that ur hubby loves u.
Wetin dey worry you nah... You don get the guy, better start working on how him eye no go dey look outside again. Period
Whether she be Nigerian or Somalian, it doesn't matter he is married to you now and start working on your marriage and doing things that make you both happy. In time, when he is constantly thinking about you, she will fade away.
My dear, its really a hard nut to crack. There's nothing you can do about it. I believe is something that will fizzle out with time. Just be a good wife and never even think of leaving your husband. Ignore that and stop checking his phone to know about them any more, just ignore them and if you have good friends, also chart with them. Be a good wife and be prayerful ok.
Reach out to her with diplomacy. Tell her how much their friendship is hurting you without being rude or combative to her. Use your head. If she tells him and they keep on as they are then that man does not love you and the woman is just waging war.
there is probably noting you can do because he is obviously still in love with her and they were friends, i think it is unfair that he married you knowing he still loved her. what you can do is keep talking to him, and probably make friends with the girl too, that way you can talk to her nicely to cease constant communication with your husband. goodluck all the same
Well as a woman I understand your fears, but that is a person who played a huge role in his life... Fighting him or insisting he doesn't communicate with her will only cause trouble between you both. Embrace their friendship.and try to be friends with her too!!
I sense fowl play... Are you sure your husband she not married to her ?? And come to Nigeria and married you??? I also guess maybe she's still sending money to him.
This is I see is very common with men. And no man will have his wife keep an ex around. I for one left all my friends who were guys in the past jbecause it is the right thing to do. I have almost the same issue as the writer of this post and my husband says it is nothing, she is just my ex and will always be in my life.And he refused to let her go or she letting him go cos they are just friends. Infact he talks to her more than he talks to me cos as he said "she does not have a man yet" so he is just trying to be a friendfor her.well for me all I did after I found out was just clear the air and then let it go. But one thing is for sure, a man will loose His way but always find home later. But my case for the ex girl friend is that "when she does get married, a lady or ex or what ever will be on her husband's case as she was on mine, and the heart ache she caused me she will receive as well, and even more. So dear poster for me she is only causing her self because what goes around comes around.
This is what happens when you rush into marriage,u don't know a guy or his past,he give u ring and you take,u don't know his history of other women,any way...the truth is that the other lady will always be in the picture until he gets tired,men are just sick
Sit him down and make him know how uncomfortable his association with his ex makes u. Its unacceptable. U are the WIFE now and should come first, and more importantly, must be respected. If he won't stop, talk to someone he really respects to talk to him. I prays he reasons with u.
Hmmmm.....Na from shaking of hands, hug go enter o. He needs 2 cut off mehnnn. He is a married man now, whether dey dated 4 donkey's yrs ain't important here, he chose u & so he shld be responsible cuz dat closeness is rather too much. His closest friend should be u. Plz keep talking 2 him about it & tell him our unhappy it makes u feel. HE SHOULD CUT OFF AS SOON A POSSIBLE!!!
My dear, I advice you to act fast cuz this is just the genesis. His ex should be his ex. He should leave that life in the past as it is history. He is try a make you feel comfy with his relationship with his ex which is wrong on every basis. Tell him to delete her number n delete her out of u guys life. That is if he still wants a fruitful marriage. It's too too early. How sure are you he is not meeting her cus the truth is, old sexual feelings are liable to be rekindled. Please act immediately.
My dear, I advice you to act fast cuz this is just the genesis. His ex should be his ex. He should leave that life in the past as it is history. He is try a make you feel comfy with his relationship with his ex which is wrong on every basis. Tell him to delete her number n delete her out of u guys life. That is if he still wants a fruitful marriage. It's too too early. How sure are you he is not meeting her cus the truth is, old sexual feelings are liable to be rekindled. Please act immediately.
U need to share all these with him. U married him alrdy rmbr? Tho no one is irreplaceable but then.. il advice u tell him how u feel. Tell some1 to share this link with him. Pele. It is well.
He is not telling u d truth,he is making money from her and didn't tell her he is married. Tell him u want to be friends wt her. Watch him for another year if he didn't stop u should divorce him
What can u do though? Just pray and focus on ur own interests & friends as well. Dont let ur life revolve around him & his calls.Its suffocating & a turn off.
What u want to do is turn him on. And im not talking sexually, but emotionally. You shld listen to rori raye. Trust me, expert on this stuff.
Lemme ask this real quick... he knows u feel uncomfortable with him talking to the ex yet he calls her and puts it on speaker so y'all can what?... discuss the weather? U're the wife! If he won't listen to u then... seems he's still in love with her. sure u weren't a rebound? Oh well... u're married now,obviously ignoring isn't working for u,get to doing something!
Try to find out what is so special about this girl,make her your friend to know who is she...stop fighting with you husband,come close so that you will know when the friendship is out of hand...In any promise land there is a giant.
Try to find out what is so special about this girl,make her your friend to know who is she...stop fighting with you husband,come close so that you will know when the friendship is out of hand...In any promise land there is a giant.
My dear just ignore him look for one of ur cousins,load his phone tell him to constantly call and whatsap u,give ur cousins all d attention and make sure he is always there wen u make d call,I bet u he will get jealous and will want to know who d person is.tell him is just an old time friend u bumped into.it is bcos u pay too much attention to him,by d time he sees ur non challant attitude he wud stop himself.cos I know its painful #Amaka
Try to find out what is so special about this girl,make her your friend to know who is she...stop fighting with you husband,come close so that you will know when the friendship is out of hand...In any promise land there is a giant.
Try to find out what is so special about this girl,make her your friend to know who is she...stop fighting with you husband,come close so that you will know when the friendship is out of hand...In any promise land there is a giant.
My dear just ignore him look for one of ur cousins,load his phone tell him to constantly call and whatsap u,give ur cousins all d attention and make sure he is always there wen u make d call,I bet u he will get jealous and will want to know who d person is.tell him is just an old time friend u bumped into.it is bcos u pay too much attention to him,by d time he sees ur non challant attitude he wud stop himself.cos I know its painful #Amaka
My sister go on ur knees and pray,I also experience d same thing,but after praying and casting out the likeness in d spirit realm,d relationship died a natural death.
Try to find out what is so special about this girl,make her your friend to know who is she...stop fighting with you husband,come close so that you will know when the friendship is out of hand...In any promise land there is a giant.
Your husband will eventually start sleeping with her. He tasting on how far he can go. So far you haven't told him to cut off the contact. Try this, start talking to your ex too if you have one and can find one. See how he feels about that. Under no circumstances should you be ok with your man calling another woman in front of you.
It is expected dt wen 1 is married u shld try 2 do away wit wateva relationship u had wit ur ex 2 avoid crisis in d marriage.My dear put it in prayer nd I bliv God will do it,make sure u don't fight him nd stop nagging.
Maybe he can't stop chatting with her because she once helped him, i don't think it's easy to forget such people Keep talking to him Maybe he might hear you
It takes grace of God to change a man's heart because he still love the lady.just try to know what the lady usually do to him when they live together for years.and see how you too can be of help and also show him love. you dont need to fight your man even give him surprise visit in the office and also call him when he is in d office working.
pls do nt b quite，tak action，jst act it 2，by kipin in touch 2 wit an EX，bt here u cn use ur cousin bro u get，nd see hw he wil reacts，am married myself，cos dear dey may b datin，dnt ignore ooo，b4 it gets too late 2 stop dem
Madam, are you fat? If you are, work towards reducing your weight. Dress clean and sexy always.Be a good wife and don't nag. Also pray for her that she get her own husband soon. I am sorry. Your husband is still in love with this girl. But everything will end once she get married. Thank you.
Your husband is still in love with his Ex. Simple! If they eventually meet, he's so falling into temptation of cheating on u with her. Don't know what to say as a solution tho.
I THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE LET HIM KNOW HOW HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HE'S EX MAKE'S YOU FEEL. START BY LETING HIM KNOW YOU TRUST HIM AND YOU KNOW HE LOVES AND CHERISH YOU, HOWEVER YOU ARE NOT CONFORTABLE WITH THE RELATIONSHIP HE'S MAINTAINING WITH HE'S EX. TELL HIM YOU WILL BE GRATEFULL IF PUT A STOP TO ALL FORMS OF COMMUNICATION WITH HER.
well, the truth is that most of us men do not marry d lady we were really best friends with or luvd for one uncontrollable reason or the other and yet stil want to keep in touch with them when we are married mostly due to the fact that we re freer wt them and they even understand us more than our wives.Al this being said, it is wrong cos we wdnt take it likely if our wives do same.
Don't ignore. Ask him how he would feel if you constantly talk to another man on the phone or exchange messages all the time. He must learn to respect your feelings and invest that time in building a better relationship with you.
Urs is better, atleast he's open about it. Mine caused a racket about a particular akwaibom girl he met on facebook,abused n condemned her all to make me biliv he cut ties with her, but goes back n apologize, they still talk n sleep with each other till today, he thinks I don't know..hehehehehehee..congrats on ur wedding charity, Globela is onto you too. Hahahahaa funny thing is I'm cool with them fucking.
Exactly what I went thru with my boyfrnd. He said because his gf is a lesbian I have nothing to worry about. The stupid babe even called to tell me to relax that they are brother and sister. This story is exactly mine cos they can't keep talking to each other yet they claim I'm childish for being against their relationship. He said because the girl helped him at a point in his life that it's difficult to let go. My dear, this is something you would have noticed before marriage cos trust me he still has feelings for her and like the guy I was dating the girl will always have him wrapped around her fingers.. Too bad . If it was just a relationship I would have asked you to run for dear life cos that babe will always be number one and eventually you'll become a nag.
Tel him to put himself in ur shoes and see if he likes it. you talkin to ur ex-boyfriend. If he is stil misbehavin then feign calin somone everytime as an ex bf too n let him knw somhw. if he gets angry then he is supose to gt d msg.
My dear my story is similar to my own,but d difference is we both are Nigeria . my dear confront your husband,make sure he knows your pain,let him understand how u felt,let him know if he was in ur shoes....I guess that will work,but to me I went and extra length,even there is how i convert his whatapp message to my mail . I see all of them... my dear jst let him knw ur pain,and also let him knw what d gal will be calling him at his back upon his married
just ignore them for now and pray about it.there is nothing God can not do cos if you bother him too much about it,he will get irritated about your presence..prayer is the key..
Start chatting/talking with one of your exes too and put him on speaker. Chat and talk with him constantly like he does....see how he feels.Chances are he probably won't like it and then you can make your point.
Shikena, that's how I will handle if I am unable to get my point across verbally. Put his behind to the test as well.
Nigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
Nigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
Nigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
Nigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
Nigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
Nigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
Nigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
Nigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
My dear I feel your pain. My hubby keeps going back to his exes since we got married. Truth is you have to look for what makes you happy and occupy your self with it.
The same thing happened to me. my fiance then, now husband, constantly talks about this ex of his non stop. i didnt take any offence cos he swore they were just friends and they understood the boundaries. When she sent him stuff from one continent to another, he told me and i thanked her on facebook cos i thought they were jus friends. Less than a week after my wedding, i was fiddling with his phone when i decided to read the so called friends conversation and to be honest i havent being the same since then. Unknown to me, he flew her to come see him in the US and they spent 2 weeks together and there were lots of things that happened that i cant write.
My dear, shine ur eyes. No 2 exes can EVER be just friends. u can take this to the bank. put ur foot down and curb this madness before it spirals out of control. All the best.
Men, men, men!! Eh. All these people packing relics of past relationships into their marriages. Do they really know what it is? Do they realise the what exactly marriage is? Why do we keep leaving the devil a wide window with which to scale into our homes? Lady, please tell Oga, that Emperor said that, if he has left all others and found you worthy, then exclusivity is yours!!!! No callings (maybe occassionally), no unneeded visits, nothing of such. I am also worried that something is making you unhappy and he's not worried. Your wife is unhappy and you have not found a way to address the issue and you come and be talking I love and its brothers!!
Madam i will ask you to put your feet down and ask him to please disconnect the relationship. You need to be selfish here. If there is no valid reason why he is talking to her, then he should stop!
first of all, stop going through your husbands fone, cos one day you would find that thing you are looking for and you wont be happy doing so, since they r now best buds, become her frd too, it would be hard, but it might take away some of the pain of bin on the outsyd, nd try chatting with your husband sometimes, not the boring chats about leaking pipes at home, flirty, sexy chats, add some spice.
My dear take heart this is the kind of men we have now, my case is a bit different from urs, my husband cheated on me and I found out, the promised to stop and I think he did, the fact is that he has gone back to seeing her, but right now I don't give a damn about him and the Rose girl, I just want to be happy, and if soon we'll be having two cheats because I'll have to teach him how to value a loyal wife
Start chatting/talking with one of your exes too and put him on speaker. Chat and talk with him constantly like he does....see how he feels.Chances are he probably won't like it and then you can make your point.
Shikena, that's how I will handle if I am unable to get my point across verbally. Put his behind to the test as well.
Pretend like someone else is calling you .. have your girlfriend call u every minute and second u r with him . And trust me he will stop what he is doing .. and make sure u store the name as Nkem. .. (my Own) and also stop checking his phone ..keep yourself busy ... my 2 scents
Dear Reader, I have an Ex that I helped a lot when he was down and out. As a matter of fact I can't say if I should call him an ex because we were really casually dating around the time my husband came into my life and I chose my husband over him for the very reasons your husband chose you. He was going through a really rough time, lost his job, lost friends, lost his dad, was drowning in debt and was almost homeless... Ideally, had he been in a better place and not a foreigner I would probably have chosen him. Nonetheless, I appreciated who he is in the inside and chose my husband while supporting and advising him while he was going through rough time. He is definitely more mature about certain issues and open because of what he has been through. He is dating and I am married. We do not talk everyday but he often happens to randomly call those days when I am really down or quarreling with my hubby. My husbands hates that I talk to him but I do anyway because sometimes you need someone who is going to tell you what it is how it is without judging you. He is in a relationship now that he is nurturing to be alter bound so I don't feel like he is still holding a candle for me. I have tried to introduce him to my husband so that he can have peace of mind but he wouldn't hear it. He mentionned me to his girl and she became suspicious too so he never call me when she is around and she has no clue of the part i have played in the growth of their relationship and him in mine. We laugh about it but we still talk. I am keeping my friend but i do it openly so that my husband does not feel like I am doing anything behind his back. He has never witnessed any ambiguous talks or flirting but he just thinks that all men are predators and that I am being naive ( probably because he is a cheater himself). For me , i am just proud to see how this guy has suffered and overcome and I admire his journey. It actually inspire me and has taught me a lot. My advise to you would be for you to try to know the girl. Not that you should hang out with her everyday, but get to know her a little bit so that you will better judge whether they have moved past romance mode, or are on unfinished business mode. Asking your husband to cut ties with someone he perceives as harmless and whom he feels indebted to may make him resent you and push them into secrecy or even open his eyes to feelings he is unaware of.
My dear, open your eyes. What kind of friendship is that? The girl in question is a fool. They are still sleeping with each other. Ask him how he will feel if you do that with your ex boyfriend or some guy you used to talk with. That Bitch needs to back off.
My dear do something about it or else you will be left alone in your own world. Don't drag things with him and pray till he realises bt if it keeps going on the same way, my dear u are with the wrong man
Sweetheart you can't be unhappy and worried in a marriage that just started....., you are meant to be at this early stage in your marriage. I think if u ain't happy then there is no point being stuck in that marriage #Jules
As him no gree naa, u shuld take d fone wen he's not with it, engage d lady in a chat n politely tell her u r his wife n u dnt feel comfortable with d relationship dey hav goin n if she sef no gree den u go know say water wan pass garri!
Madness is in his brain, teach him a lesson he will never forget. If u know u can't get over your ex,why marry another. You can't be married to me and be calling ur ex, you wan die????
If he truly loves u he will stop d relationship simply because it's making you uncomfortable. If u are there when he is talking to her ask to speak to her. Get her number. Keep ur friends close but enemy closer.if she has bad intentions it will show. Besides he will become uncomfortable. He still has feelings for her so he may need to decide who he wants. Be ready to leave him if u discover they still have something or choose to manage it and be unhappy for the rest of your married life
u don enter one chance. The minute the ex allows him back into her life she will become his mistress(if shes not already) and eventually his 2nd wife ,then maybe they will kick u out.How would u allow ur husband call his ex in front of u? severally? are u a learner? uv given them room for many things so tie that ur wrapper tight.
He is still very much inlove with her and prefers her to u. The girl a man calls from work and after work(during stressful hours) is a girl after his heart.
sorry sha, if u never born begin use style look for solace elsewhere. As in begin find man weyn go love u proper because there is nothing like being with a man who is deeply in love with u and thats what that ex is in ur husbands case.
Look for a friend/ sister and play the same game with him so he would know what it feels like, u would lie that the person is ur ex and you are the only that know she is a frnd/sister and make sure you giggle and laugh while chatting... or you say he is ur ex that later told you he was gay incase u chat about girly things
Exes are exes for a reason. They belong in d past especially when ur married, no matter what that ex did or didn't do for u. There are higher chances of getting involve with an ex again than with a stranger. So girl act and fast. I'll suggest u gave him an ultimatum, but talk and plead with him first and tell him how it's affecting u as a woman& wife though he as a man won't understand. If all that doesn't work, well girl pray that U Hv an ex that would be willing to reconnect back with u and give Ur hubby a taste of his own medicine. Simples.
was and still in love with her. You have to play smart, loving, stop nagging about it and focus on your loving self and kids, (if you have one)never seek for his notice . Pray it works for you. Many end up marrying for the wrong reasons.
There's little or nothing u can do abt it...put ur jealousy aside and keep ursef busy with being a good wife...cuz if u keep up like this I pray u don't even end up pushing him away with ur own hands. Why don't u try to work on ur communication wit him cuz obviously he sure enjoys her company to urs. @ this point try and be his friend and not a nagging wife. And don't forget to always pray. Shikina
My sister, e is not ur husband. Apparently he is very much in love with her, wat dey do tgeda is wat hapns in normal relationships. Pls lv bfor its too late for u to find sm1 wu is truly ur own. #*karlishah*
my dearrr my DH did the same. Icomplained and then prayed and the rship died a natural death. pls stop complaining and ask God to kill and destroy wateva that is the attraction between them and u will be glad u did
Babe just ignore so u dont develop high blood pressure. its obvious he loves her deeply. only time and wisdom will solve the matter. just try not to poke too much. i dont even know what to advise u but just stay out of trouble.
call the woman to curse her out. U better shout for the whole friends and family to know whats happening. If you can disgrace your hubby, disgrace him so that foolish ex girlfriend can go.or are there some benefits he is seeing with her that makes him still talk to her?if she is proving hard to go.... There are things that if you do for her, when next she hears married men, she will run. Even ur hubby would be scared of mentioning girl name in front of you😅.
Really serious! Proximity is the backbone of every relationship, and communication is the strong bond to sustain every relationship. The more you commune with someone, the stronger is the bond that binds the hearts. If your man communes more with his ex than you, the truth is that he is gradually transferring his affection for you to his ex-GF, and will soon begin to find fault with you in every aspects. Do not fight him yourself because it will back-fire on you; get someone you know he respects (may be from friends or relations) to talk to him, and remember too that the heart of a king is in God's hand. Pray fervently for God to touch his heart for you.
Pray about it, lin readers cant really help.
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Pray about it, lin readers cant really help.
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Your husband is still in love with his ex....
ReplyDeleteit sucks but you should ignore them or you
should do something....its all your choice.
There is nothing you can do about this. Just remain the good wife that you are (that is if you are) then keep praying for change. Dazzall
ReplyDeleteLindaobserve
Lol take hat dear
ReplyDeleteMaybe he never really got over her. Give him time
ReplyDeleteI know how annoying it is. The more u fight it, the.more he will find ways to hide it from you and then the makes it exciting for him. On the other hand, I don't expect u to just accept it. Talk to him and tell him you have had enough and if he doesn't stop, start keeping in touch with an ex openly also. Maybe a taste of his own medicine will make him see more clearly.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing you would do, stop che king your man,s phone become even if u find him se. Chatting g her will you now pack your things and go home? It's of no use! As a matter tell him to stop telling you wen he wants to call her he should desist from I forming u anything about her past future and present focus ur energy on your marriage when he calls and you know she is d one you sef pick your phone and that time and. All a friend take your mind off it else you will end up having hpb for nothing I tire jor
ReplyDeleteyou've voiced your distaste for his actions severally yet he has not budged. at least be thankful that he is not hiding it from you because you may have felt worse. Nevertheless, think about the fact that he's with you and not with her. you've won in that aspect. Also, occupy yourself with things that will distract you and then act like you don't care about it any more. i'm sure he'll get suspicious and hopefully stop.
ReplyDeleteMost importantly, pray like it's up to God to change him. Pray without ceasing and watch what God will do.
I wish you luck in your marriage.
U jt pray n hope!!!!!
ReplyDeleteNma na wa oh..!! Odiwka very risky!
ReplyDeletePele
ReplyDeleteIf he has respect 4ur feelings he won't mess around wth hs ex...cos he wuld b mad if hs wife is engaged in d act
ReplyDeleteWhere is she? If she is outside the country, it will fizzle out soon but if she is near I see a problem soon. What your hubby is doing is not healthy for your marriage.
ReplyDeleteMy dear he is still very much in love wit her nd ur jt d substitute leave let him fulfill his conscience u ll b fine.
ReplyDeletekill him!
ReplyDeleteLol Lindiway this pic you used for this post is so funny.
ReplyDeleteDear you need to be worried, you need to be genuinely worried.
You must get to stop him, before it graduates to him cheating on you with her.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA
You should improve on yourself.Pamper him with luv and work on your weaknesses.Something about you may be putting him off that makes him run back to his ex.Try that one first before confronting him
ReplyDeleteTalk to your own ex since he wouldn't stop.
ReplyDeleteMen tell you he is not marrying someone cause she isn't Nigerian and you probably smiled and felt special.
ReplyDeletewhen he gave you the reason on why he didn't marry her, were you already married? if not then you deserve it. why would you enjoy another woman's sweat just because she is not Nigerian. if you were already married then your husband is so selfish and he's trying to take the guilt away by talking to his ex because if he loved his ex that much, he wouldn't care where she comes from especially after what she's done for him...
ReplyDeleteare you looking for a sugar mummy or daddy please call this line 09050085168 please be mature
ReplyDeleteMy u don't still hv any concrete evidence so jst be patient ok so dat u don't go nd spoil something jst show him more love nd sometimes remaind him of calling her nd dat will make him love u more nd when he loves u more, his love for her will reduce naturally but when u start showing him sadness, u re pushing him to her. Remember she is ur husband 2nd options if u push him away
ReplyDeleteAre you the only Nigerian girl? If you are tired you walk out. Mumu
ReplyDeleteSuch disrespect! Anyway tnk God i'm not you. Dts all I can say.
ReplyDeleteHe's very much in love with her. God help u madam.
ReplyDeleteOoo
ReplyDeleteWith d way things are,he feel more comfortable wit her,dan wit u,I wonder wat he wants frm her again,he still luv her a lot,if u really like ur marriage,sit him dwn again n tell him hw u feel abt it,and let him knw ur stand#hmm#
ReplyDeleteWith d way things are,he feel more comfortable wit her,dan wit u,I wonder wat he wants frm her again,he still luv her a lot,if u really like ur marriage,sit him dwn again n tell him hw u feel abt it,and let him knw ur stand#hmm#
ReplyDeletelet him understand how u feel, make it a bit of warning.
ReplyDeleteHe loves and respects you which is why he is open about the calls. But he loves her more which is why he isn't ready to give her up. Try to get to know her, ask your husband to introduce both of you then use that to draw a mark on your territory before this blows out of hand.
ReplyDeletegirl, sit your man down look him in the eye and ask him what he wants from her and why he feels the need to constantly talk to her even when he knows it makes you unhappy. ask him if he still loves her and wishes he married her, of course he may lie but the look in his eyes will tell you all u need to know. if it keeps happening then chances are he may eventually leave u for her if you keep complaining. marriage is not by force, if he keeps doing it, you have to walk away or both of you should go see a counselor and talk about things properly. If it has to get to the point where you have to call the lady and talk to her in a polite and controlled manner, then please do it. goodluck and talk to God too.
ReplyDeleteWhat is the thing you want to do? to know what advice i'm going to give.
ReplyDeleteDo something
ReplyDeleteHmmm, this is serious though am not married buh from my sphincter experience I will say u made a mistake by letting him know u r bothered, u should av bn friends with her then u make her sit in ur shoes to really understand what he endure having an ex chat n get that friendly with ur spouse, and if she's as sensitive as i think she woke realize there is nothing left to discuss after when u tot me not fit as am not nigerian buh as it stands just be patient and prayerful God will help you get thru it, just be calm
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm. He's probably not over this lady. Αи∂ I wouldn't advice u stay in a marriage where another woman is been talked about everytime. Call him to order, tell him u don't really like such! That ur not comfortable with it. An average Nigerian man/woman will tell u to pray for him, listen dear, there's nothing to pray about here. Talk to him, communication is the key......make him understand ur not comfortable with this αи∂ if it continues then u'd knw he's probably obsessed with this lady αи∂ find ur way out.....
ReplyDeleteΑи∂ meanwhile watch ur attitude, if a man continues to talk about another woman when ur with him, that means ur attitude towards him isn't good. Try αи∂ amend ur ways....u knw him more than anybody...am not saying u shld change who u are cos of him, nope.....buh just cut ur excesses, wish u best
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ReplyDeleteHmmmmm. He's probably not over this lady. Αи∂ I wouldn't advice u stay in a marriage where another woman is been talked about everytime. Call him to order, tell him u don't really like such! That ur not comfortable with it. An average Nigerian man/woman will tell u to pray for him, listen dear, there's nothing to pray about here. Talk to him, communication is the key......make him understand ur not comfortable with this αи∂ if it continues then u'd knw he's probably obsessed with this lady αи∂ find ur way out.....
ReplyDeleteΑи∂ meanwhile watch ur attitude, if a man continues to talk about another woman when ur with him, that means ur attitude towards him isn't good. Try αи∂ amend ur ways....u knw him more than anybody...am not saying u shld change who u are cos of him, nope.....buh just cut ur excesses, wish u best
#ITwillONLYgetBETTER
#itMUSTendINpraise
it will not go away! Its a very dangerous situation. The question is does the other lady knows hes married now? u didnt mention that. Anyways, seek help where you can get. Most ppl that will comment on here have no marital experience and might confuse u, those who does dont usually comment (no disrespect).... seek help where u can truly get one. Its a very dangerous situation.
ReplyDeleteYou can't do anything about it, leave them alone
ReplyDeleteIf I were you I will stop giving my self head ache ooo. As long as he is not disrespecting you and he is performing his duties then let him be pls. He will eventually wake up some day. Pele I feel your pain.
ReplyDeleteNne, you have every course to worry. God lead you through on dis. Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteNne, you have every course to worry. God lead you through on dis. Linda take note!
ReplyDeletedont be silent. he is suppose to be ur best friend, confidant. what is he telling her 24/7 that he cant tell you? address the issue. they shouldn't make you a fool out of thier supposed "friendship"
ReplyDeleteD best way to keep marriage is to respect ur partner for who, and wht he or she is mostly associations b kept mostly d good one's.
ReplyDeleteI wil advice dat u should b secured in ur marriage if u want it to last mostly avoid b unnecessary jealous, and trying to dictate to ur hubby abt who or wht to keep to chat wit or talk to.
U can only advice him, and d rest leave for God to change him inside out bcos u r not his God. So quit trying to b God in his life.
Though I wil advice men to quit distractions dat wil degenerate their families or else they wil pay for it wit losing d necessary family unity dat is suppose to co-exist in d family.
Hubby b wise, and manage ur home affairs well, and learn to listen to ur wife whenever she advice u while women don't try to play b God to ur hubby.
A word is enough 4d wise!
D best way to keep marriage is to respect ur partner for who, and wht he or she is mostly associations b kept mostly d good one's.
ReplyDeleteI wil advice dat u should b secured in ur marriage if u want it to last mostly avoid b unnecessary jealous, and trying to dictate to ur hubby abt who or wht to keep to chat wit or talk to.
U can only advice him, and d rest leave for God to change him inside out bcos u r not his God. So quit trying to b God in his life.
Though I wil advice men to quit distractions dat wil degenerate their families or else they wil pay for it wit losing d necessary family unity dat is suppose to co-exist in d family.
Hubby b wise, and manage ur home affairs well, and learn to listen to ur wife whenever she advice u while women don't try to play b God to ur hubby.
A word is enough 4d wise!
MADAM u have nting to do I you won't do anything,,, its obvious that he loved his X...just give him a little break and don't pester him so long he is nt seeing the lady....and push him to the edge
ReplyDeletehmmmm. I can understand ur feelings. it's not easy but I will advice you to be patient and be fervent in prayer to God to win ur hubby's heart to ur side and u also check ur self. maybe there are some tins u do that makes him to remember her. please don't take any negative advise that can cause you your marriage. Also I want you to know that ur hubby loves u.
ReplyDeleteStuuuuupid man
ReplyDeleteignore them or do something
ReplyDeletejust pray dat God should put confusion in their midst. For the word of God said dat what God has joined together let no man put asunder
ReplyDeleteWetin dey worry you nah... You don get the guy, better start working on how him eye no go dey look outside again. Period
ReplyDeleteWhether she be Nigerian or Somalian, it doesn't matter he is married to you now and start working on your marriage and doing things that make you both happy. In time, when he is constantly thinking about you, she will fade away.
Wow
ReplyDeleteI'm not in the position to gv u any form of advice.
ReplyDeleteOLD FIREWOOD DE QUICK CATCH FIR....BE WARNED,....TOMJERRYSWIT
ReplyDeleteLol do something now
ReplyDeleteIf Your Husband Man FEARS GOD.....then there's not cause for alarm!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, its really a hard nut to crack. There's nothing you can do about it. I believe is something that will fizzle out with time. Just be a good wife and never even think of leaving your husband. Ignore that and stop checking his phone to know about them any more, just ignore them and if you have good friends, also chart with them. Be a good wife and be prayerful ok.
ReplyDeleteReach out to her with diplomacy. Tell her how much their friendship is hurting you without being rude or combative to her. Use your head.
ReplyDeleteIf she tells him and they keep on as they are then that man does not love you and the woman is just waging war.
get her N0 and talk to her
ReplyDeletethere is probably noting you can do because he is obviously still in love with her and they were friends, i think it is unfair that he married you knowing he still loved her. what you can do is keep talking to him, and probably make friends with the girl too, that way you can talk to her nicely to cease constant communication with your husband. goodluck all the same
ReplyDeleteJust pray dat your husband will knw dat he is a marry man
ReplyDeleteyep. the only reason he married you is because you are Nigerian Honey.. he loves d ex.. sorry
ReplyDeleteWell as a woman I understand your fears, but that is a person who played a huge role in his life... Fighting him or insisting he doesn't communicate with her will only cause trouble between you both. Embrace their friendship.and try to be friends with her too!!
ReplyDeleteIgnore them n put it in prayer
ReplyDeleteIgnore them n put it in prayer
ReplyDeleteI sense fowl play... Are you sure your husband she not married to her ?? And come to Nigeria and married you??? I also guess maybe she's still sending money to him.
ReplyDeleteUna women get time eh.
ReplyDeleteThis is I see is very common with men. And no man will have his wife keep an ex around. I for one left all my friends who were guys in the past jbecause it is the right thing to do. I have almost the same issue as the writer of this post and my husband says it is nothing, she is just my ex and will always be in my life.And he refused to let her go or she letting him go cos they are just friends. Infact he talks to her more than he talks to me cos as he said "she does not have a man yet" so he is just trying to be a friendfor her.well for me all I did after I found out was just clear the air and then let it go. But one thing is for sure, a man will loose His way but always find home later. But my case for the ex girl friend is that "when she does get married, a lady or ex or what ever will be on her husband's case as she was on mine, and the heart ache she caused me she will receive as well, and even more. So dear poster for me she is only causing her self because what goes around comes around.
ReplyDeleteCall ur ex nahhh are u a learner?
ReplyDeleteI'm sry 2 say he's a cheater, & all dat u'v mention re der characteristics.
ReplyDelete*Singing* Tell him straight up darling "Is it me or your ex-girlfriend,Make a choice,baby boy make a choice"
ReplyDeleteNow, that's watsup
ReplyDeleteThis is what happens when you rush into marriage,u don't know a guy or his past,he give u ring and you take,u don't know his history of other women,any way...the truth is that the other lady will always be in the picture until he gets tired,men are just sick
ReplyDeleteSit him down and make him know how uncomfortable his association with his ex makes u. Its unacceptable. U are the WIFE now and should come first, and more importantly, must be respected. If he won't stop, talk to someone he really respects to talk to him. I prays he reasons with u.
ReplyDelete#TeamBlessed#
can of complicated,take action,be resolute but not violent
ReplyDeleteWhy worry yourself since you guys are married? high BP go kill you ooooohh
ReplyDeleteHmmmm.....Na from shaking of hands, hug go enter o. He needs 2 cut off mehnnn. He is a married man now, whether dey dated 4 donkey's yrs ain't important here, he chose u & so he shld be responsible cuz dat closeness is rather too much. His closest friend should be u. Plz keep talking 2 him about it & tell him our unhappy it makes u feel.
ReplyDeleteHE SHOULD CUT OFF AS SOON A POSSIBLE!!!
Serious! U have to act.
ReplyDeleteREPORT THE ISSUE TO HIS UMUNNA.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I advice you to act fast cuz this is just the genesis. His ex should be his ex. He should leave that life in the past as it is history. He is try a make you feel comfy with his relationship with his ex which is wrong on every basis. Tell him to delete her number n delete her out of u guys life. That is if he still wants a fruitful marriage. It's too too early. How sure are
ReplyDeleteyou he is not meeting her cus the truth is, old sexual feelings are liable to be rekindled. Please act immediately.
My dear, I advice you to act fast cuz this is just the genesis. His ex should be his ex. He should leave that life in the past as it is history. He is try a make you feel comfy with his relationship with his ex which is wrong on every basis. Tell him to delete her number n delete her out of u guys life. That is if he still wants a fruitful marriage. It's too too early. How sure are
ReplyDeleteyou he is not meeting her cus the truth is, old sexual feelings are liable to be rekindled. Please act immediately.
Let it be.
ReplyDeleteSit him down and talk sense into his head. you need to let him know how bad your feeling.
ReplyDeletedont use ur hand n scatter ur marriage just ignore dem do ur duty as a married woman n always commit it to God hand
ReplyDeleteU need to share all these with him. U married him alrdy rmbr? Tho no one is irreplaceable but then.. il advice u tell him how u feel. Tell some1 to share this link with him. Pele. It is well.
ReplyDeleteHe is not telling u d truth,he is making money from her and didn't tell her he is married. Tell him u want to be friends wt her. Watch him for another year if he didn't stop u should divorce him
ReplyDeleteMay being the money he used to marry u, he got it from her, please been mature an let it be.lol
ReplyDeleteWhat can u do though? Just pray and focus on ur own interests & friends as well. Dont let ur life revolve around him & his calls.Its suffocating & a turn off.
ReplyDeleteWhat u want to do is turn him on. And im not talking sexually, but emotionally. You shld listen to rori raye. Trust me, expert on this stuff.
He seriously has issues and alot of time on his hands
ReplyDeleteType ds thing for google u go see better answer
ReplyDeleteMy sis, go and drop a mssg to his mum or family member dat he respect a lot. How long will dis inconvniencies last? Do somtin b4 somtin do u okay!
ReplyDeleteNonsense... Better stop it
ReplyDeleteSorry dear, but the other "her" is your hubby's soulmate.
ReplyDeleteLemme ask this real quick... he knows u feel uncomfortable with him talking to the ex yet he calls her and puts it on speaker so y'all can what?... discuss the weather? U're the wife! If he won't listen to u then... seems he's still in love with her. sure u weren't a rebound? Oh well... u're married now,obviously ignoring isn't working for u,get to doing something!
ReplyDeleteAs your husband told his ex girlfrnd that he is married? If yes then let them be with time, he would "use his tonque to count his teeth".
ReplyDeleteTry to find out what is so special about this girl,make her your friend to know who is she...stop fighting with you husband,come close so that you will know when the friendship is out of hand...In any promise land there is a giant.
ReplyDeleteTry to find out what is so special about this girl,make her your friend to know who is she...stop fighting with you husband,come close so that you will know when the friendship is out of hand...In any promise land there is a giant.
ReplyDeleteMy dear just ignore him look for one of ur cousins,load his phone tell him to constantly call and whatsap u,give ur cousins all d attention and make sure he is always there wen u make d call,I bet u he will get jealous and will want to know who d person is.tell him is just an old time friend u bumped into.it is bcos u pay too much attention to him,by d time he sees ur non challant attitude he wud stop himself.cos I know its painful #Amaka
ReplyDeleteTry to find out what is so special about this girl,make her your friend to know who is she...stop fighting with you husband,come close so that you will know when the friendship is out of hand...In any promise land there is a giant.
ReplyDeleteTry to find out what is so special about this girl,make her your friend to know who is she...stop fighting with you husband,come close so that you will know when the friendship is out of hand...In any promise land there is a giant.
ReplyDeleteMy dear just ignore him look for one of ur cousins,load his phone tell him to constantly call and whatsap u,give ur cousins all d attention and make sure he is always there wen u make d call,I bet u he will get jealous and will want to know who d person is.tell him is just an old time friend u bumped into.it is bcos u pay too much attention to him,by d time he sees ur non challant attitude he wud stop himself.cos I know its painful #Amaka
ReplyDeleteMy sister go on ur knees and pray,I also experience d same thing,but after praying and casting out the likeness in d spirit realm,d relationship died a natural death.
ReplyDeleteTry to find out what is so special about this girl,make her your friend to know who is she...stop fighting with you husband,come close so that you will know when the friendship is out of hand...In any promise land there is a giant.
ReplyDeletePray just pray
ReplyDeleteMak her ur frnd...
ReplyDeleteStop going to his fone
ReplyDeleteLet sleeping dogs lay.
ReplyDeleteHe wifed u rite?
Your husband will eventually start sleeping with her. He tasting on how far he can go. So far you haven't told him to cut off the contact. Try this, start talking to your ex too if you have one and can find one. See how he feels about that. Under no circumstances should you be ok with your man calling another woman in front of you.
ReplyDeleteNever give up. Keep telling him how uncomfortable and angry it makes you. I believe if he actually wants to make you happy, he will stop
ReplyDeleteYour husband is obviously still into his ex, he might not be cheating in u wit her now but will eventually if this continues...
ReplyDeleteMaybe they r just friends,but still be careful and most importantly talk to God
ReplyDeleteIt is expected dt wen 1 is married u shld try 2 do away wit wateva relationship u had wit ur ex 2 avoid crisis in d marriage.My dear put it in prayer nd I bliv God will do it,make sure u don't fight him nd stop nagging.
ReplyDeleteMaybe he can't stop chatting with her because she once helped him, i don't think it's easy to forget such people
ReplyDeleteKeep talking to him Maybe he might hear you
Just give it more time don't be too in a hurry things might eventually turn around.
ReplyDeleteJust give it more time don't be too in a hurry things might eventually turn around.
ReplyDeleteIt wont just go away, do SOMETHING. He still got butterflies for her.
ReplyDeleteYour husband is in love with her and is still ducking her.
ReplyDeleteIt takes grace of God to change a man's heart because he still love the lady.just try to know what the lady usually do to him when they live together for years.and see how you too can be of help and also show him love. you dont need to fight your man even give him surprise visit in the office and also call him when he is in d office working.
ReplyDeletepls do nt b quite，tak action，jst act it 2，by kipin in touch 2 wit an EX，bt here u cn use ur cousin bro u get，nd see hw he wil reacts，am married myself，cos dear dey may b datin，dnt ignore ooo，b4 it gets too late 2 stop dem
ReplyDeleteMadam, are you fat? If you are, work towards reducing your weight.
ReplyDeleteDress clean and sexy always.Be a good wife and don't nag.
Also pray for her that she get her own husband soon.
I am sorry. Your husband is still in love with this girl. But everything will end once she get married. Thank you.
She is still a very vital part of his romantic inclination. Therapy for him fast!!!!!!!!!!! Your fears are genuine and super valid.
ReplyDeleteIf your husband constantly talks to his ex-girlfriend doesn't mean that he has any intimate relationship with her.... relationship tips
ReplyDeleteYour husband is still in love with his Ex. Simple! If they eventually meet, he's so falling into temptation of cheating on u with her. Don't know what to say as a solution tho.
ReplyDeleteI THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE LET HIM KNOW HOW HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HE'S EX MAKE'S YOU FEEL. START BY LETING HIM KNOW YOU TRUST HIM AND YOU KNOW HE LOVES AND CHERISH YOU, HOWEVER YOU ARE NOT CONFORTABLE WITH THE RELATIONSHIP HE'S MAINTAINING WITH HE'S EX. TELL HIM YOU WILL BE GRATEFULL IF PUT A STOP TO ALL FORMS OF COMMUNICATION WITH HER.
ReplyDeletewell, the truth is that most of us men do not marry d lady we were really best friends with or luvd for one uncontrollable reason or the other and yet stil want to keep in touch with them when we are married mostly due to the fact that we re freer wt them and they even understand us more than our wives.Al this being said, it is wrong cos we wdnt take it likely if our wives do same.
ReplyDeleteDon't ignore. Ask him how he would feel if you constantly talk to another man on the phone or exchange messages all the time. He must learn to respect your feelings and invest that time in building a better relationship with you.
ReplyDeleteUrs is better, atleast he's open about it. Mine caused a racket about a particular akwaibom girl he met on facebook,abused n condemned her all to make me biliv he cut ties with her, but goes back n apologize, they still talk n sleep with each other till today, he thinks I don't know..hehehehehehee..congrats on ur wedding charity, Globela is onto you too. Hahahahaa funny thing is I'm cool with them fucking.
ReplyDeleteExactly what I went thru with my boyfrnd. He said because his gf is a lesbian I have nothing to worry about. The stupid babe even called to tell me to relax that they are brother and sister. This story is exactly mine cos they can't keep talking to each other yet they claim I'm childish for being against their relationship. He said because the girl helped him at a point in his life that it's difficult to let go. My dear, this is something you would have noticed before marriage cos trust me he still has feelings for her and like the guy I was dating the girl will always have him wrapped around her fingers.. Too bad . If it was just a relationship I would have asked you to run for dear life cos that babe will always be number one and eventually you'll become a nag.
ReplyDeleteTel him to put himself in ur shoes and see if he likes it. you talkin to ur ex-boyfriend. If he is stil misbehavin then feign calin somone everytime as an ex bf too n let him knw somhw. if he gets angry then he is supose to gt d msg.
ReplyDeleteMy dear my story is similar to my own,but d difference is we both are Nigeria . my dear confront your husband,make sure he knows your pain,let him understand how u felt,let him know if he was in ur shoes....I guess that will work,but to me I went and extra length,even there is how i convert his whatapp message to my mail . I see all of them... my dear jst let him knw ur pain,and also let him knw what d gal will be calling him at his back upon his married
ReplyDeletejust ignore them for now and pray about it.there is nothing God can not do cos if you bother him too much about it,he will get irritated about your presence..prayer is the key..
ReplyDeletebabe my candid advice get your own friend you will see the moron will stop
ReplyDeleteStart chatting/talking with one of your exes too and put him on speaker. Chat and talk with him constantly like he does....see how he feels.Chances are he probably won't like it and then you can make your point.
ReplyDeleteShikena, that's how I will handle if I am unable to get my point across verbally. Put his behind to the test as well.
Nigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
ReplyDeleteNigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
ReplyDeleteNigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
ReplyDeleteNigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
ReplyDeleteNigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
ReplyDeleteNigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
ReplyDeleteNah wah o...my dear I knw how u feel bou one thing I will say to u is to be diplomatic with such issues ok...al d best
ReplyDeleteNigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
ReplyDeleteNigeria or no Nigeria stop him that nonsense his now a married man what kind of useless supid act is that before you no it he will start sleeping with her again. Please be wise
ReplyDeleteY don't u talk 2 ur hubby,in a soft manner/calm way nd tell him d way u feel/ wat he is doing to u hurts u.
ReplyDeleteLinda's P.A. /event planner
My dear I feel your pain. My hubby keeps going back to his exes since we got married.
ReplyDeleteTruth is you have to look for what makes you happy and occupy your self with it.
Heck no. Cut the cancer off. Stop him doing it before you will be talking another story.
ReplyDeleteThe same thing happened to me. my fiance then, now husband, constantly talks about this ex of his non stop. i didnt take any offence cos he swore they were just friends and they understood the boundaries. When she sent him stuff from one continent to another, he told me and i thanked her on facebook cos i thought they were jus friends. Less than a week after my wedding, i was fiddling with his phone when i decided to read the so called friends conversation and to be honest i havent being the same since then. Unknown to me, he flew her to come see him in the US and they spent 2 weeks together and there were lots of things that happened that i cant write.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, shine ur eyes. No 2 exes can EVER be just friends. u can take this to the bank. put ur foot down and curb this madness before it spirals out of control. All the best.
He is feeling pity for her and as long as she is still single he will continue. Either you find a boyfriend for her or make her your best friend
ReplyDeleteAhhhhh! Am speechless cos I cnt even xplain my feelns right now
ReplyDeleteMen, men, men!! Eh. All these people packing relics of past relationships into their marriages. Do they really know what it is? Do they realise the what exactly marriage is? Why do we keep leaving the devil a wide window with which to scale into our homes? Lady, please tell Oga, that Emperor said that, if he has left all others and found you worthy, then exclusivity is yours!!!! No callings (maybe occassionally), no unneeded visits, nothing of such. I am also worried that something is making you unhappy and he's not worried. Your wife is unhappy and you have not found a way to address the issue and you come and be talking I love and its brothers!!
ReplyDeleteMadam i will ask you to put your feet down and ask him to please disconnect the relationship. You need to be selfish here. If there is no valid reason why he is talking to her, then he should stop!
My two pence!
first of all, stop going through your husbands fone, cos one day you would find that thing you are looking for and you wont be happy doing so, since they r now best buds, become her frd too, it would be hard, but it might take away some of the pain of bin on the outsyd, nd try chatting with your husband sometimes, not the boring chats about leaking pipes at home, flirty, sexy chats, add some spice.
ReplyDeleteSerious issue, keep praying 2 God abt it n am sure he wl change 4 better soonest
ReplyDeleteSerious issue, keep praying 2 God abt it n am sure he wl change 4 better soonest
ReplyDeleteMy dear take heart this is the kind of men we have now, my case is a bit different from urs, my husband cheated on me and I found out, the promised to stop and I think he did, the fact is that he has gone back to seeing her, but right now I don't give a damn about him and the Rose girl, I just want to be happy, and if soon we'll be having two cheats because I'll have to teach him how to value a loyal wife
ReplyDeleteStart chatting/talking with one of your exes too and put him on speaker. Chat and talk with him constantly like he does....see how he feels.Chances are he probably won't like it and then you can make your point.
ReplyDeleteShikena, that's how I will handle if I am unable to get my point across verbally. Put his behind to the test as well.
Pray for her to get married and get busy, then she won't have time to chat with your hubby.
ReplyDeletePretend like someone else is calling you .. have your girlfriend call u every minute and second u r with him . And trust me he will stop what he is doing .. and make sure u store the name as Nkem. .. (my Own) and also stop checking his phone ..keep yourself busy ... my 2 scents
ReplyDeleteMadam I'm sorry to say but your sweet heart is about getting a second wife
ReplyDeleteDear Reader,
ReplyDeleteI have an Ex that I helped a lot when he was down and out. As a matter of fact I can't say if I should call him an ex because we were really casually dating around the time my husband came into my life and I chose my husband over him for the very reasons your husband chose you. He was going through a really rough time, lost his job, lost friends, lost his dad, was drowning in debt and was almost homeless... Ideally, had he been in a better place and not a foreigner I would probably have chosen him. Nonetheless, I appreciated who he is in the inside and chose my husband while supporting and advising him while he was going through rough time. He is definitely more mature about certain issues and open because of what he has been through. He is dating and I am married. We do not talk everyday but he often happens to randomly call those days when I am really down or quarreling with my hubby. My husbands hates that I talk to him but I do anyway because sometimes you need someone who is going to tell you what it is how it is without judging you.
He is in a relationship now that he is nurturing to be alter bound so I don't feel like he is still holding a candle for me. I have tried to introduce him to my husband so that he can have peace of mind but he wouldn't hear it. He mentionned me to his girl and she became suspicious too so he never call me when she is around and she has no clue of the part i have played in the growth of their relationship and him in mine. We laugh about it but we still talk. I am keeping my friend but i do it openly so that my husband does not feel like I am doing anything behind his back. He has never witnessed any ambiguous talks or flirting but he just thinks that all men are predators and that I am being naive ( probably because he is a cheater himself). For me , i am just proud to see how this guy has suffered and overcome and I admire his journey. It actually inspire me and has taught me a lot.
My advise to you would be for you to try to know the girl. Not that you should hang out with her everyday, but get to know her a little bit so that you will better judge whether they have moved past romance mode, or are on unfinished business mode. Asking your husband to cut ties with someone he perceives as harmless and whom he feels indebted to may make him resent you and push them into secrecy or even open his eyes to feelings he is unaware of.
Just watch....don't do anyfin,if she had assisted him a longtime,he is just being grateful by keeping her as a friend.dnt complicate ur marriage!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, open your eyes. What kind of friendship is that? The girl in question is a fool. They are still sleeping with each other. Ask him how he will feel if you do that with your ex boyfriend or some guy you used to talk with. That Bitch needs to back off.
ReplyDeleteMy dear am not telling you 2 wait and be looking at them but find out if there is more 2 it. I mean sex
ReplyDeleteDo sometin biko, make u no dey dere for water soap enter ur eye.
ReplyDeleteMy dear do something about it or else you will be left alone in your own world. Don't drag things with him and pray till he realises bt if it keeps going on the same way, my dear u are with the wrong man
ReplyDeleteI suggest u talk 2 God abt dis 4 he always help his children. #stayhappy#
ReplyDeleteWill only read comments cos im actually into something like this.
ReplyDeleteHummmmm. Trouble in paradise
ReplyDeleteUr husband my dear girl is still in love with his ex and is not a good
ReplyDeletethey still fucking each other..
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm!eleyi gidi gan ooo!They still lovers,anything can happen.Tell him to make a choice between you and her!
ReplyDeleteSweetheart you can't be unhappy and worried in a marriage that just started....., you are meant to be at this early stage in your marriage. I think if u ain't happy then there is no point being stuck in that marriage #Jules
ReplyDeletedo somtin dont just keep silence cou u ar not helping him and urself
ReplyDeleteAs him no gree naa, u shuld take d fone wen he's not with it, engage d lady in a chat n politely tell her u r his wife n u dnt feel comfortable with d relationship dey hav goin n if she sef no gree den u go know say water wan pass garri!
ReplyDeleteMadness is in his brain, teach him a lesson he will never forget. If u know u can't get over your ex,why marry another. You can't be married to me and be calling ur ex, you wan die????
ReplyDeleteIf he truly loves u he will stop d relationship simply because it's making you uncomfortable. If u are there when he is talking to her ask to speak to her. Get her number. Keep ur friends close but enemy closer.if she has bad intentions it will show. Besides he will become uncomfortable. He still has feelings for her so he may need to decide who he wants. Be ready to leave him if u discover they still have something or choose to manage it and be unhappy for the rest of your married life
ReplyDeleteu don enter one chance. The minute the ex allows him back into her life she will become his mistress(if shes not already) and eventually his 2nd wife ,then maybe they will kick u out.How would u allow ur husband call his ex in front of u? severally? are u a learner? uv given them room for many things so tie that ur wrapper tight.
ReplyDeleteHe is still very much inlove with her and prefers her to u. The girl a man calls from work and after work(during stressful hours) is a girl after his heart.
sorry sha, if u never born begin use style look for solace elsewhere. As in begin find man weyn go love u proper because there is nothing like being with a man who is deeply in love with u and thats what that ex is in ur husbands case.
see ya!
do somtin dont just keep silence cou u ar not helping him and urself
ReplyDeleteLook for a friend/ sister and play the same game with him so he would know what it feels like, u would lie that the person is ur ex and you are the only that know she is a frnd/sister and make sure you giggle and laugh while chatting... or you say he is ur ex that later told you he was gay incase u chat about girly things
ReplyDeleteBut all these men sha
ReplyDeleteExes are exes for a reason. They belong in d past especially when ur married, no matter what that ex did or didn't do for u. There are higher chances of getting involve with an ex again than with a stranger. So girl act and fast. I'll suggest u gave him an ultimatum, but talk and plead with him first and tell him how it's affecting u as a woman& wife though he as a man won't understand. If all that doesn't work, well girl pray that U Hv an ex that would be willing to reconnect back with u and give Ur hubby a taste of his own medicine. Simples.
ReplyDeletewas and still in love with her. You have to play smart, loving, stop nagging about it and focus on your loving self and kids, (if you have one)never seek for his notice . Pray it works for you.
ReplyDeleteMany end up marrying for the wrong reasons.
There's little or nothing u can do abt it...put ur jealousy aside and keep ursef busy with being a good wife...cuz if u keep up like this I pray u don't even end up pushing him away with ur own hands. Why don't u try to work on ur communication wit him cuz obviously he sure enjoys her company to urs. @ this point try and be his friend and not a nagging wife. And don't forget to always pray. Shikina
ReplyDeleteMy sister, e is not ur husband. Apparently he is very much in love with her, wat dey do tgeda is wat hapns in normal relationships. Pls lv bfor its too late for u to find sm1 wu is truly ur own.
ReplyDelete#*karlishah*
my dearrr my DH did the same. Icomplained and then prayed and the rship died a natural death. pls stop complaining and ask God to kill and destroy wateva that is the attraction between them and u will be glad u did
ReplyDeleteBabe just ignore so u dont develop high blood pressure. its obvious he loves her deeply. only time and wisdom will solve the matter. just try not to poke too much. i dont even know what to advise u but just stay out of trouble.
ReplyDeleteDo something
ReplyDeletepray pray pray
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ReplyDeleteIgnore them....d feelins wil fade away someday.
Just pray.
ReplyDeleteTo me i think dey still av feelings for each oda. try nd talk some senses to him in a way he wil unstnd.
ReplyDeleteShine ur eyez babe... I'm sure there's something.
ReplyDeletecall the woman to curse her out. U better shout for the whole friends and family to know whats happening. If you can disgrace your hubby, disgrace him so that foolish ex girlfriend can go.or are there some benefits he is seeing with her that makes him still talk to her?if she is proving hard to go.... There are things that if you do for her, when next she hears married men, she will run. Even ur hubby would be scared of mentioning girl name in front of you😅.
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious u r second choice; dude didn't marry his wife. U r not his wife.
ReplyDeleteWell you have to call your husband and talk to him about everything and ask him what he want in is life?
ReplyDeleteHmmm...I dnt think you should ignore it sha, dats hw it starts. Married men and women over to you guys.
ReplyDeleteWell you have to call your husband and talk to him about everything and ask him what he want in is life?
ReplyDeleteYour husband needs to respect your marriage even if he keeps in touch with his ex it shouldn't be so frequent. It's ridiculous
ReplyDeleteReally serious! Proximity is the backbone of every relationship, and communication is the strong bond to sustain every relationship. The more you commune with someone, the stronger is the bond that binds the hearts. If your man communes more with his ex than you, the truth is that he is gradually transferring his affection for you to his ex-GF, and will soon begin to find fault with you in every aspects. Do not fight him yourself because it will back-fire on you; get someone you know he respects (may be from friends or relations) to talk to him, and remember too that the heart of a king is in God's hand. Pray fervently for God to touch his heart for you.
ReplyDeleteHello. Testing. Testing!!!
ReplyDeleteThis is one of the reasons why I don't date some one with excess baggage.
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