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'If a relationship is not going to work, you somehow know' - Leke Alder writes powerful letter to Jil (women)

If you're single and on a cross road, then you need to read these tweets by author and public speaker Leke Alder...it could help you understand a bit of how you're feeling if you're stuck in this situation



 Please read from bottom up...

at 5/14/2016 10:17:00 am

72 comments:

  1. Unknown14 May 2016 at 10:18

    You're right Leke

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    1. Unknown14 May 2016 at 12:41

      He could av passed same msg with jst a few tweets.. What's with d Nollywood style of elongating stories... Smh

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    2. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 12:48

      Oyerinde. This is why you are foolish and your foolishness is now in the public domain. Leke Alder has a relationship Tweet session every Saturday 9am directed at women called Letters 2 Jil and 6pm called Letters to Jack directed at men. He has been consistent for almost 5 years now. Usually 1-60 tweets. You insult what you don't understand thereby displaying your arrant stupidity. Few tweets you lazy reading ass!

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    3. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 13:16

      Valid point.
      LWKM. Laugh at Nigeria's funniest pictures here

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    4. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 13:54

      His tweets reminds me of Tiwa Savage. If it's no longer working, please walk out of the relationship. Dont wait until he kills u and claims insanity

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    5. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 13:55

      Oyerinde you are so right. I kept jumping the tweets 6 at a time to see if there is anything different up there. Lost me at 40.

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    6. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 15:11

      Just because she didn't know does make her stupid. Many of us don't know and Linda never explained this.

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    7. Psalmuelle aka Samstone.14 May 2016 at 16:19

      Wonderful tweets.

      #LIB ADDICT#

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    8. Unknown14 May 2016 at 17:15

      I lik ur rply

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  2. NaijaDeltaBabe14 May 2016 at 10:23

    He's correct


    ...merited happiness

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  3. Unknown14 May 2016 at 10:31

    Seen...true tho, don't ignore the signs.

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  4. Unknown14 May 2016 at 10:39

    I'll read later....

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  5. Unknown14 May 2016 at 10:40

    Well said

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  6. click here to read more news update @praizeblog14 May 2016 at 10:41

    Wow....nice one

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  7. Chizzy Liz14 May 2016 at 10:46

    ***************************hia ***********bfr u finish one line u don forget d other !!!!!!!!!! Abeg muna limme onye mara aka di ya mma ofinye n'isi !!!!!!!!

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  8. Chizzy Liz14 May 2016 at 10:47

    ***************************hia ***********bfr u finish one line u don forget d other !!!!!!!!!! Abeg muna limme onye mara aka di ya mma ofinye n'isi !!!!!!!!

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    1. KWEEN14 May 2016 at 19:31

      Only those of you with half baked brains will forget.

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  9. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 10:52

    Who will dash me a bag of rice or half ohhhhhh ????????? Economy is too hard. angeliekity@gmail.com linda no give away anymore?

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  10. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 10:53

    Like he knows ,lots of us out there . Praying for what we should ask God to take away from us ....#he was talking to me#

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  11. Unknown14 May 2016 at 11:03

    Hmm
    -D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

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  12. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 11:09

    Hmmmm! My granny once told us how some ladies get married during her time. No courtship! Just two different families coming together and they get married, have kids, no divorce! But today, there is courtship yet some still divorce! Technology has a hand in it!

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    1. Unknown14 May 2016 at 14:07

      Lol at technology has q hand.

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    2. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 15:09

      Most of those couples endured the marriage because it was a shame on d family if they divorced. But some still left.In those times,there were still people who married for love. Right now as much many people get divorced,much more remain married.
      Marriage is mot about status and people portraying to d world a beautiful home. It is about sticking out 4 each other,praying together and deciding to build a home despite what happens out there. Media and technology affects as much as u allow it to. If someone decides to model her life after kim Kardashian or JLO...what they see is what they get.
      People get married for reasons that show up later.

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    3. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 15:25

      How many of those women did more with their time on earth than cook, clean, have children and serve a man? There's divorce today because we are stuck in between the past which says a woman is a man's property and the future which wants a woman to be a person in her own right. The future of course will always defeat the past so we will divorce a man who is stifling our capacity to live.

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    4. gentle14 May 2016 at 17:06

      Women in her time tolerated hell just to remain married. Plus men were more responsible.

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    5. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 17:43

      You get sense gentle.

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  13. Unknown14 May 2016 at 11:12

    a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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    Their is men disturbing every women everyday but rich guys are rare but ladies dont want to deal with that, that is why many broking hearts are every where...
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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    1. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 15:17

      I married a man who earns less than me and from a less privileged home although he is a graduate with a government job. Now his complex is acting up and he makes me serve him like a dog. Not worth it.

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  14. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 11:13

    This is the situation I've been in for the past 4 years. Leke Alder seems to know me.... Hmmm.I stopped living in denial 2 months back bu trying to move on. Not easy but I think I have peace now.

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    1. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 12:39

      The earlier you do the better . One thing is certain if it's not your ,it's not yours . Engage yourself with activities outside him n come next two month you are over it .

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    2. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 12:40

      4years ,you should have 2kids by now and close up . Bet he will still keep you another 4years of indecision . Indesicion is a decision fyi

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    3. Unknown14 May 2016 at 20:13

      life is too short to put on hold for one jerk out there that is probably enjoying himself,
      Good thing u dust ur self up and move on with ur life, “lean from this”

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  15. Unknown14 May 2016 at 11:15

    Too much biko

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  16. Unknown14 May 2016 at 11:24

    Good one LEKE! If I happen to be a woman in my next life (Which is not possible sha) I would heed to these cool advises.

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  17. Unknown14 May 2016 at 11:30

    So true!

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  18. Citiindex14 May 2016 at 11:31

    This is quite thoughtful. It's helpful.

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  19. Bonita Bislam14 May 2016 at 11:32

    He may still luv u.He probably does.He probably doesn't know what he wants.He probably still thinks about u all of the time .But that isn't what matters.What matters is what he's doing about it, and what he's doing about it is nothing.And if he's doing nothing, you most certainly shouldn't do anything. You need someone who goes out of their way to make it obvious that they want you in their life...#SayNoToTimeWasters

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  20. Unknown14 May 2016 at 11:44

    Kinda much

    No wonder the thing is hard!

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  21. BONARIO NNAGS14 May 2016 at 11:48

    He raised some salient points, but the fact still remains there is no formula for a successful marriage/relationship.
    How would you identify the one that will click, when they all come looking like sent from heaven in the beginning.


    . ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

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    1. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 12:42

      That's why you will remain confused cos you aren't a saint either .

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    2. Anonymous15 May 2016 at 11:08

      Bonari nags, of course you can identify one! God reveals certain things in different ways. most times we tend to ignore them and forge ahead. when this issues finally manifest we would only have our self to blame and consumed by our thoughts "and I saw it, only if I knew then"

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  22. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 11:53

    He is soooo damn right...

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  23. OMIDAN ABBY14 May 2016 at 11:55

    Omg!
    Can there b something more true to read than this?
    Wow!
    I keep saying hmm hmm till d end..
    *sigh
    No 60 tho..powerful! Can't b more true!
    Saving this up..
    Thank u Leke Adler!

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  24. Unknown14 May 2016 at 11:55

    Ok thanks for sharing

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  25. Unknown14 May 2016 at 12:11

    E long o! Linda take note!

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  26. nigelcoop14 May 2016 at 12:18

    They are all in your head. Just go with the flow and stop imagining things!

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  27. Unknown14 May 2016 at 12:19

    Okay.


    #FINEST

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  28. KingD14 May 2016 at 12:31

    ☆☆☆☆☆☆
    •••••••well said!!!•••••
    But still some of the things she mentioned are fantasy driven...
    Reality is that you sometimes need to push and fight for your relationship because nothing good comes EASY
    And when the good things finally arrive,the wicked society we live in would anything within their power to destroy it...
    So take it from KingD. ....You need to Sometimes FIGHT FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP





    #IMPERFECTME#

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    1. KWEEN14 May 2016 at 19:35

      Yes sometimes you need to fight for your relationship. But he's just saying that some aren't worth it. So fighting is a waste of time.

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  29. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 12:32

    na this kain thing linda like - consolation. please stop all this your bad belle. stop destroying marriages and promoting big-headed singleness. not everyone can be a flirt or olosho. promote our single ladies to marry biko.

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    1. Anonymous15 May 2016 at 13:13

      Is ur consign? Live and let Linda Live. Don't be a bitter soul...and babe don't hate on her success. I know say na woman go hate like this.

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  30. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 12:36

    Everyone will come out in the social media to give relationship advise. what they failed to reliaze is that someone created this institution. Every company that produces any form on Machineries, cars gadgets etc always attach a Manual. God created this institution and gave us a Manuel - BIBLE. How many people have ever consulted this CREATOR or the manual - BIBLE when faced with relationship challenges ..... I believe none. LOVE NEVER FAILS ... For this to be written in the bible inspired by GOD who know more than anybody or councilor combined said Love never fails .... if you misplace love to infatuation or whatever... then there is a problem.

    DO NOT FOLLOW YOUR HEART.

    Bible never wrote anything positive about the heart. check out Jeremiah 17:19 says "The heart is more deceitful than all else And is desperately sick; Who can understand it? Mark 7:21;22 says "For from within the hearts of men come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery,greed, wickedness, deceit, debauchery, envy, slander, arrogance, and foolishness" Gen 8:21 says "I will never again curse the ground on account of man, for the intent of man's heart is evil from his youth; and I will never again destroy every living thing, as I have done" I can go on and on.

    who ever said you should follow your heart, is deceiving you. JUST FOLLOW THE MANUAL AND EVERY ADVISE WRITTEN ON IT

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    1. Anonymous15 May 2016 at 13:16

      I concur. If your heart is inclined to the word of God. Please go ahead and follow it otherwise you may still end up in the mouth of a lion.
      B.

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    2. Anonymous15 May 2016 at 20:33

      The mind is the origin of all things! This whole issue is very technical in such that there are many sides to its positive and negative position. Discretion and discernment should be supreme

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  31. Joy14 May 2016 at 13:05

    In my own case their wasn't any signs his going to be this monster,the abuse started after my second child was born,in should have pack my bags and leave but I stayed because people your pastor and family says oh it must be spiritual attack and he keeps begging you he doesn't know what was wrong with him he was never called to order anyway I stayed in this horror movie of a marriage had two more kids and nothing changes until it snap that the guy will kill me and I had to abscond with the kids.

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  32. Joy14 May 2016 at 13:06

    In my own case their wasn't any signs his going to be this monster,the abuse started after my second child was born,in should have pack my bags and leave but I stayed because people your pastor and family says oh it must be spiritual attack and he keeps begging you he doesn't know what was wrong with him he was never called to order anyway I stayed in this horror movie of a marriage had two more kids and nothing changes until it snap that the guy will kill me and I had to abscond with the kids.

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  33. Unknown14 May 2016 at 13:19

    U are so so right. This is what makes relationships so painful. Somebody pursuing a personal agenda somewhere to the detriment of the relationship.

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  34. Unknown14 May 2016 at 13:21

    This is all crap coming from wannabe celebs and made for confused single ladies. Ask yourself, where is our culture? Why do the Asians have very successful marriages and stable societies when most of the wives never met their would be husbands before marriage? We always try to half-heartedly imitate western societies. Mind you, you may think being single without kids is fashion now that you are young, I promise you'll regret this at old age. I live and work in a western society and know what I'm talking about. Until we embrace our culture wholly, there will still be lots of single unhappy ladies out there. CRAP!!!!

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  35. Unknown14 May 2016 at 13:47

    He's very correct

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  36. Unknown14 May 2016 at 13:56

    Ok ooo

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  37. kokomaster14 May 2016 at 13:58

    SO TRUE...

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  38. Apple Berry 14 May 2016 at 14:13

    So true. I can completely relate. The heart knows it all. Has saved me from a lot of headache

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  40. Femiluv14 May 2016 at 17:06

    Very important. I can relate to a lot of this.

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  41. C114 May 2016 at 17:53

    Brother I tell u, mk dem next am

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  42. Eddy Ogbunambala 14 May 2016 at 18:19

    Eziokwu ka ina ekwu

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  43. Anonymous14 May 2016 at 18:41

    @ Bonario is saint not sent olodo

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  44. Unknown14 May 2016 at 18:46

    I LOVE THIS MAN....HMMM....WOW...GOD, THIS GUY'S WORDS MAKE ME REALISE THAT THERE PEOPLE WHO STRUGGLE TO LOOK OR APPEAR INTELLIGENT, BUT THERE ARE OTHER'S LIKE LEKE ALDER WHO UNDERSTAND LIFE.

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  45. Unknown14 May 2016 at 20:30

    It is educating,encouraging, inspiring. I have learnt so many things. God bless the writer.

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  46. Omalicha15 May 2016 at 04:15

    Hmmmmmm

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  47. Unknown16 May 2016 at 15:13

    Wow! Tnk you Mr Leke

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