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Wednesday 6 January 2016

‎"He started beating me 4 days after paying my dowry" woman says as she asks court to dissolve her marriage

29 year old Perpetual Ezenwa, has asked the customary court in Igando Lagos State to dissolve her four months old marriage to Charles Ezenwa, claiming the man started beating her less than 4 days after paying her dowry. Perpetual said she married Charles after dating him for less than 2 months and now seeks divorce over what the she tagged domestic violence.



She said, "we married after courting for less than 2 months. Before I married him, I've started noticing his behaviors but when I told my father he said I should not leave him that he would change after our marriage.

"I believed he said that because they are from the same village in Imo and being the first daughter of my parents, they want me to marry on time. But, he kept becoming worse and I've decided to leave after 4 months of our marriage. 4 days after the payment of my dowry and our traditional marriage, he started beating me on flimsy excuses. He beats me with turning sticks in one of those days all because I received a text message from a friend and the message only reads "good day madam, how's your weekend ". This was what Charles saw that day and he nearly killed me. Come to think of it, this same man that was beating me is having an affairs with a fiancée of one of our neighbors. He did was caught on one of those days and I got to know about it. I told my father of all the happenstance but he would only say I should endure it. When I couldn't bear it again, I've moved to my parent's house and I've asked Charles to come and get his dowry back according to our tradition so that I can marry another man but, he has refused to collect it saying he would allow me to suffer because he knew I can't marry another man unless he collect the dowry and that I would grow old in my father's house."
She now wants the court to force him to collect back his dowry. Charles was not in court to say his side of the story,  so the Court's president, Adegboyega Omilola who sat over the case sent a court order to him and the case was adjourned till February 8, 2016.

168 comments:

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    1. Na wa ooo desperate father don put him pickin for wahala... Make she relax, she go marry.


      (Linda d Kim K's fan)

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    2. No comment yet...til I read d oda side of the story 4rm er hubby too....#leave trash for d LAwMa##

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    3. Well, let's hear from the man too. But if all she narrated was the truth then he so wicked and callous.

      LIB Celebrity

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    4. Very good.. U deserve better



      #Bye

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    5. Stories that touch...... That man must be a monster







      Also Check Vabadon's Blog

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    6. Hmmlllll.....to bad....wife beater

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    7. Why are some men so stupid? Y beat a lady?

      #LIB ADDICT#

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    1. I suspect the Father of the Victim must hv collected monetary items 4rm this guy, for him not to have advised the daughter otherwise. Buh on a serious note, I thought we ve gotten passed this Era of parents deciding who we should marry. Is the girl naive or wat? Nothing was said about her Mother

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    2. I suspect the Father of the Victim must hv collected monetary items 4rm this guy, for him not to have advised the daughter otherwise. Buh on a serious note, I thought we ve gotten passed this Era of parents deciding who we should marry. Is the girl naive or wat? Nothing was said about her Mother, is she still alive or separated 4rm the the Man. Better be alive and divorced than to be dead all in the name of marriage.

      Linda I hv arrived, post my comment..

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    1. Dats why for AJ CITY we deyfriend our shima reach 7yrs before we think of introduction


      AJ MAIN BOY...

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    2. Lol@ Don Jazzy's Driver.
      Omo your strategy tight mehn.


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  4. Choi... Nawa oo






    Enugu's second shoe designer

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  5. Thank God she's speaking up at least.


    ...merited happiness

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  6. People don't change after marriage

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  7. he should be lock up cos his a useless man

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  8. Chai Observed, am in love with Linda Ikeji for real and would wish to meet her in person.

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  9. She should just run away. Run for your life.

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  10. LINDAIKEJIFAN SAID.....Too early ooo...Men sef,,,Those that got married are seeking for divorce..those are yet to marry are going to diff churches for husband.....Nawa oooo

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  11. LINDAIKEJIFAN SAID.....Too early ooo...Men sef,,,Those that got married are seeking for divorce..those are yet to marry are going to diff churches for husband.....Nawa oooo

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  12. Wise decision sister, your life shouldn't be at risk just ços of my marriage.



























    #GLORY2GLORY#

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  13. This is serious o, where is the love he claims to have for the lady?

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  14. So your dad is the comptroller general of your marriage decisions that affect your life....... OK. Imagine tradition self. U can't marry another man till one akamu man takes back dowry. No wahala. Dey wait. Don't get on with ur life.

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  15. Wise decision sister, your life shouldn't be at risk just ços of my marriage.



























    #GLORY2GLORY#

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  16. There is more to this story" ka iche na mmadu bu ewu?

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  17. I don't know why some men lyk hitting their spouse,my dear better leave now b4 he kills you.

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  18. Hmmmmmm nawa ooo dis indomie generation.....

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  19. Awww...too bad! it's better she opts out of it o before we go hear stories that touch

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  20. He should take his dowry back biko.....and free the woman**

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  21. Enter your comment...marriage indeed!

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  22. Nobody shd hav cajoled u into marrying him in d first place, since u notice d change in his behaviour.2months is too short a courship sef.may God see u thru.

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  23. what sort of nonsense is this abeg leave e dey craz

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  24. the guy must have a been a fighter or warrior before. what the hell is wrong with man of nowadays na. It is very stupid for a guy to lay hands on woman. we know their mouth is very sharp and abusive sometimes, but dwell with them wit wisdom.. moreover their are many ways of punishing woman apart from beating. don't ask me

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  25. Ogun kill am der!
    If I hear say I return bride price after beating me with omorogun..
    Mtcheeeew *court get time.
    Afi de house old.

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  26. Wat happens wen u want 2 b a Mrs by all means, any way thank God u still ve some sense in u by moving out.

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  27. Lol some guys are funny. Why did you now marry her na since na only beating you wan dey supply

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  28. No man changes after marriage....ladies be warned. hmmmm

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  29. No man changes after marriage....ladies be warned. hmmmm

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  30. Not all that glitters is gold..God help us all.

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  31. Nne biko run for your life o! Linda take note!

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  32. Better get ou of that marriage before he ends up killing you. That's my take oo. It's well with your soul.

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  33. Our society his d cause of all dis they will not just like u be. some people re not marriage material #Isalrite

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    1. You be Yoruba ni? You sound like Dem.. *Our society his d cause*.. Abeg, our society "is", not his. Take note!

      Linda I hv arrived, post my comment.

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  34. You married him after two months and you saw the signs before marrying him, thank your stars you are alive to say the story and fight to get you freedom. Anumpama!!!!!!!

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  35. This is what happens when girls in this century allow marital pressure to dictate whom thet marrt.The court wasn't there when you & your dad agreed to marry this serial beater in less than 2 months of knowing him & now you want the court to help you? Bollocks! The guy beats you coz the first time he raises his voice @ you, tries to beat you but let's his hand gangs or throws object @ you but missed, you taught him that it was okay to do that.

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  36. these abusive husbands self...mtchew

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  37. Lol..... Run for your life my dear..

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  38. what GOD has joined together let no man put assunder..this divorce of a thing don't work...why marry him when you barely know him...u just knew him for just 2 months and then u rushed into marriage.
    .....as for i don't believe in divorce whether he gets his dowry back or not he would still be your husband.



    #XENO-FABIAN

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  39. what GOD has joined together let no man put assunder..this divorce of a thing don't work...why marry him when you barely know him...u just knew him for just 2 months and then u rushed into marriage.
    .....as for me i don't believe in divorce whether he gets his dowry back or not he would still be your husband.



    #XENO-FABIAN

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    1. Women sef, I wonder if its desperation. How can u marry someone u dated for less than two months? Thank God the beating reset her brain and she received sense to walk away!

      #SayNoToDomesticViolence!

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    2. Fabian your stupid ass will let your sister be under a man who uses her as a punching bag on Flamezy flamezy occasions just because he paid for diary! Diary ni Marriage ko. So she should stay under someone that might end her life one day? Smh

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    3. @Joy,its Flimsy. There's nothing like "flamezy" biko. Haba! What's with all these gbagaun, una no do Enugu language for school?

      Linda I hv arrived, post my comment.

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  40. Waytin tradition and custom go cause uhmmm ; my dear if he no collect am biko send am to hin acct lobaTan!!!

















    *Dew*

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  41. Seriously ladies do fuck up sometimes, how can u date someone for just less than 2 months and assume he is the love of your life. Somebody you, it is not all about wearing gown and suite na, it is somebody you want to spend your eternal life with. Guy learn respect ladies so that your way can be smooth, love them, though they are annoying sometimes but that does not suppose to lead to fight, that's why the bible says, dwell with them with wisdom.


    Divorce is a sin oo, so they should settle the issue amicably.

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  42. Run for ur life Woman. Hez very far frm being a HUSBAND MATERIAL

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  43. I don't know what is wrong with men and domestic violence. shantel5050@yahoo.com

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  44. Good decision.. Before it's too late Let's go Linda

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  45. May God protect us 4rm violent 2gedanes..

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  46. It is hard for a man that cheats or beats u to change after marriage. If he doesn't change wen u ppl are courting then don't expect change after marriage. It is only God dat can change him. Less dan 2 months is too short to date and marry a man. Some parents are the cause of wat is happening in their children's marriage. How can u tell ur daughter to manage in the name of u want her to marry on time.

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  47. 'bride price' you mean not "dowry" please. Stop the misuse of the word. "Dowry" is different from "bride price"

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  48. How can u marry a guy u dated for 2weeks and not expect him to beat you,sha you'll be a member of the divorcée cartel soon and my brother wont marry you, cuz "anyi cho tear lubber"

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  49. Useless man, wife beater. My dear run for ur life ooo

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  50. That's wa hpns when u rush into marriage
    -D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

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  51. It's better to be in long courtship before marriage, to avoid problem,

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    1. Long or short courtship....once u see smthn u cnt tolerate....run!! #no b mata of long courtship#

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  52. You married a man you dated for two months and you didnt think he would have any dark sides. OYO

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    1. Sorry o, na ur cross carry am alone #sneh

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  53. Dissolve my the marriage abeg,its too early for this shits.

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  54. Please divorce his sorry ass.. Some men unleash the evil in them shortly after saying "i do"... Weak men!!!

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    1. Not true!! Women ALWAYS see d signs...just choose to ignore nd "endure'...till dey kill dem!

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  55. You must be from another world.how on earth does a woman court for less than 2 months and get married?you are all to blameblame out of ignorance and no patient. Probably getting old after using d right guys that would have loved and married you do shakara.you are reaping what you sow

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    1. Olagoke,how can you say such a nasty thing?? Why such conclusion?'reaping what you sow?'do you know the shit some persons face in marriage?

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    2. Olagoke,how can you say such a nasty thing?? Why such conclusion?'reaping what you sow?'do you know the shit some persons face in marriage?

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  56. And u didn't run since then u let him marry u

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  57. nd u didn't run since then u let him marry u

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  58. nd u didn't run since then u let him marry u

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  61. nd u didn't run since then u let him marry u

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  63. hmm... in aproko's voice, End time divorce

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  64. Wicked man, marriage should be enjoyed,not endured biko...

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  65. You married him bcos of money ... Now it is clear that he really doesn't even have the money as you expected... Anyways.. Say No to women Battery..!

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  66. Guess she didnt have time to understudy him....desperate women..see the aftermath....loving my Linda joor and singlehood

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    1. Understudy kwa?? If u dnt hv what to say, dnt comment!

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  67. Y didn't ur dad beat up ur mum and c if she wil endure my dear forget dat fatherly advice and running jt borrow Linda leg mk u run faster

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  68. Fabian Eze, from one man to another, the day you lay your hands on a woman is the day you divorced that woman. There is never an excuse.

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  69. Respect is the secret to long lasting friendship |like I always say,if a container is change without the content been change all reamine the same!

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  70. Ur decision is good,hes a beast
    hes not matured enough to marry..

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  71. Abeg wat God has joined 2geda let my comment not put assunder xo I reserve my comment



    My view not urs!!!!

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  72. My dear u dnt need court sef to giv him bk his dowry , just go to any welfare group u knw & drop d dowry there,dey will contact him den ur automatically a free woman.?simple

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  73. The man hv something on mind so sad

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  74. Good decision girl. Act fast before he kills you

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  75. Anyman dat beat up his wife is an animal. Wise decision dear

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  76. Haaa! It's good as u running for ur life biko

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  77. That's not laudable oooo...men
    #sips orijin#

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  78. Woman u never talk true, you better go back to your husband... Bcos ur husband do so u won do??? He no beat u well

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  79. u made a very wise decision at this early stage of the doomed marriage, that guy is not real. and he must take back his doomed dowry to allow u move on....

    --my thoughts not urs--




    BLOODY BANDIT

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  80. 2 months is too early to say yes to a man nah... is good to leave now , bcos if a child is involved. . Is going to be a different story

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  81. Dat's wat u get wen u married someone u dated in less dan 2months.

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  82. Some women eh...beat am back !!!!

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  83. If wat u say is true then he must b a monster, pls show him A little bit of beast attitude

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  84. But wah kind of behaviour is that

    Anyways let hear his side of the issue

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  85. She's such a brave girl, i comend her for speaking up. May God grant her happiness and peace

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  86. Animal!!! Pls divorce him asap...he's a weakling, Linda pls edit these articles cux they are little blunders

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  87. Nigerian film. Kind of drama. Dear ladies get to know your husband to be better before rushing to marry him that's if u don't like your man beating u I know some do and enjoy it silently. 2months is too small.

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  88. WTF is he high? Yes he is.that's d highest form of disrespect to a woman

    Linda jot

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  89. Choi,what a nightmare this guy have been to u...
    Good BOLD step,God is with you dear

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  90. I don't even believe that people change , I think they just evolve.. This is certainly a marriage from hell. Get out lady, while you still can. Your life first...

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  91. Two months u jumped in and now u jumping out U better take it easy.

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  92. Nna nawa o ciara Udeh,inukwa ihe nkahu#Morintana#

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  93. End time marriage Indeed. Abeg send his rubbish bride price to his people jare.

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  94. You see why I have refused to get married# Linda Ikeja in the making

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  95. I have always said it...men who beat women just because they can, are weakling period.

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  96. You should've looked before leaping...desperation to be called Mrs results in this...2month? Not enough for courtship.

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  97. This Charles no dey try,Linda abeg look carefully before marrying any idiot, if possible call me to see the person carefully..... lolz

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  98. Most of u Guys here are big fools..... can't u see that this woman is inlove with another man?
    She never wanted the marriage she did it to please her dad.

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  99. Most of u Guys here are big fools..... can't u see that this woman is inlove with another man?
    She never wanted the marriage she did it to please her dad.

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  100. How can u marry a man u dated for just two months? U think marriage is beans? Thank God ur eyes do open

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  101. How can u marry a man u dated for just two months? U think marriage is beans? Thank God ur eyes do open

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  102. 4dayz after payin dowry dat bad

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  103. Everyone wants to marry by all means even when it's evident that ur lover is violent. And u decide to go and change him later, when ur mission ro change him fail u start bothering us with ur story. Marriage is not for babies.

    @Lindaikeji No. I FAN

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  104. To #XENO-FABIAN your an idiot!
    God didn't join them so why not divorce! The man did the wrong thing end of story, and obviously the poor girl is a little stupid she can not even write in English correctly.
    She should go and marry anyone he wants and dowry is outdated no one cares.
    -MY VIEW-

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  105. Sorry o u better run now for ur life

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  106. Who said men don't change after marriage. They do. They can become worse than whatever you thought they were. Linda featured a big wedding last year. The husband nearly killed his first wife on the honeymoon or wedding night sef. Runaway and please don't go back no matter what.

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  107. Lol....There is nothing like change after marriage cuz it is still the same person and same blood,The lady should have make the decision on her own instead of asking a father that won't stay with her in the husband's house. Anyway sorry to her oooooo make she enter dry fasting the husband will come for the dowry.

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  108. There is more to marriage than wat is seen,look b4 U leap if u av a sec.chance

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  109. How fathers sell their daughter all in the name of marriage or early marriage. The last should wire the dowry to his account if he refused to collect it in person gbam!

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  110. She sure deserves it pls...is it that she never got to knw him better b4 they got married or what?

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  111. look before you reap...angelmakiz@yahoo.com

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