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Saturday 25 July 2015

Woman adopts best friend's four kids after death


Laura Ruffino met her best friend, Liz Diamond, in the fifth grade. As adults, they both had children 2 girls for Ruffino and four girls for Diamond -- and kept their tight bond, Ruffino told ABC News.
But in August 2014, Diamond, a single mom from Orchard Park, New York, was diagnosed with brain cancer, Ruffino said. She died just months later.
"When we got in the car, she asked me, if anything ever happened, if I'd take her daughters. And I said, 'Of course,'" Ruffino said. "It wasn't even a thought."
 
Ruffino is now seeking custody of Diamond's daughters, who are living with her. But Diamond's ex-husband, Elyson Pagayonan, appeared in court to contest the Ruffinos' permanent custody of his children according to Leonard Berkowitz, a lawyer for the Ruffinos.
 
Pagayonan has not filed papers for custody of his children, according to the lawyer.
 
Laura Ruffino said that one morning in December, Diamond wasn't feeling well and called Ruffino to take her to the cancer center.
 
"It's like your whole world comes to a halt," said Ruffino, from Buffalo, New York. "That day, her MRI was not good," Ruffino said.
 
When Diamond asked her to take care of her children, according to Ruffino, she obliged.
"I would always want someone to do that for me. Her kids and I were so close anyway, because she was my best friend. I wanted to give her peace," Ruffino said. "I can't even imagine what she had to be going through."
Ruffino said it was a slow transition for Diamond's girls, ages 5, 7, 8 and 12 -- to move in with the Ruffinos.
"As Liz got sicker, she and the girls would stay with us for periods of time," Ruffino said.
In April 2015, Diamond passed away.
 
Ruffino said she'd describe her best friend as "love."
 
"She was non-judgmental. Liz was my person," she said. "That person that you could be anyone in front of, would never judge you. Which I think is so rare in life to find."
 
Ruffino's husband, Rico, said "The girls are doing awesome." "They're all going through a difficult situation" but "they're doing really, really well, considering."
 
"They're great kids," he said, adding that, "They're my kids now."
 
And Laura Ruffino said the girls, including her 12- and 13-year-old daughters, are "all best friends" and "already sisters."
"They fight, they share clothes, all those things," Laura Ruffino said.
 
Efforts to reach Pagayonan were unsuccessful and messages left with his lawyer were not returned.
"They’re living with the family they know," Berkowitz told ABC News of the children. "It would be inhuman for them to be ripped from the only parents they now know."
 
Pagayonan and Diamond divorced about four years ago, according to Berkowitz.
Patricia Kaminski, Diamond's aunt from the San Francisco area, said her family fully supports the adoption. Her brother did not immediately respond to a request for comment.
 
“I think it’s remarkably generous for Laura and her husband to do that," Kaminski said. "I know Elizabeth’s family is very happy with that family. The rest of the family believe it’s an excellent outcome for the children


ABC News

45 comments:

  1. Woaw dats so cool. Best friend ever

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  2. Woman with golden heart.. GOD bless u

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  3. Uhn! That's nice#singingavemaria

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    1. Awwwww, very thoughtful of her. God bless her. Linda take note!

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    2. Awwwww, very thoughtful of her. God bless her. Linda take note!

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  4. Wow....so nice

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  5. ayah!! C 2ru luv may her soul rest in peace

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  6. Awwwwn that's so touching....

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  7. That's what humans should do for each other.

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  8. That is what i call friendship.

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  9. This is makes me emotional. As long as she treats them right. The father that wasn't in the pix in the first place shld tk a chill pill and fight for visitation rights not custody. Which them all luck and God bless the woman with a heart of gold

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  10. Hmmm, she should be allowed to care for the children, such a painful exit

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  11. a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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    This is lovely though no doubt....
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  12. That's so sweet.
    Not many people can fulfil such promise.

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  13. I love people who do things selflessly. God will reward you Ruffino

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  14. This is kindness beyond Friendship. They were the closest of sisters. You don't see that these days.

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  15. Really nice of her

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  16. Now this is what I call a best friend

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  17. Now that's what humanity is all about...God bless her

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  18. Very thoughtful of her. May God bless her and keep the children

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  19. This is what you call true friend not the useless ones that I have that are always jealous over nothing. God bless this lady, if she is a born again christian then her place is so secure in heaven.

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    1. Hahaha its very difficult to find a true friend. Lyk me am not lucky at all I dnt like frnds that do competition or back bite or gossip is not healthy for any relationship

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  20. Dats d kinda friendship DAT I'm looking 4...d kinds DAT last forever

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  21. God! What a world! RIP to her. May God bless d lovely bestie n also give her strength to take care of d kids

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  22. Aww so touching....kind hearted woman..God bless her always

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  23. She is got a pure heart.. so touching

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  24. I want to be that kind of friend to someone. Will keep saying no good friends we have to check ourself very well it has to start from you.

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  25. May God reward you and may the soul of your friend rest in peace

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  26. She's got a great heart! God bless her....

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