Dear LIB readers: Is it wise to organize a birthday party for my man of 5 years?
From a female LIB reader
My boyfriend of 5 years is about clocking 35 and I was thinking of throwing him a surprise birthday party with all the trappings befitting a king that he is to me but my sisters will not hear of it. They say they agree that he loves me and all that but until a man puts a ring on my finger, he is still a stranger and should not be given such a treatment such as a surprise party. I am not happy with their position and I am kind of worried if they are right and I am wrong? Please your candid opinion please.
You're just misbehaving cos of good dick or good money. Get a hold of yourself bitch. buy him cake and perfume or shirts or a really nice tie or expensive Jean. Best wishes
I stand with your sisters oh, no go do bad market for yourself. Why show him to the world as your man when he hasn't shown you as his woman by putting a ring on it. What if he didn't end up marrying you ? What explanation will you give to the one that will end up as your husband. Abeg fash the yeye party tin.
Babe if he has done dsame for u and u know he is worth it then go ahead and do it, but if he has never thrown a surprise bday P for u, my advice is use ur money for charity.
And linda didn't make a comment on this kinda stupid question, but if it a guy now, she'll be quick to say "how does guys think sef" poster u really stupid for asking DAT question.... Do u tk gifts from him too? Don't take anymore till he puts a ring in it....expensive rubbish
They are f*cking wrong! Sorry to say your sisters are everything that is wrong with the Nigerian woman. So it will be okay for a 'stranger' boyfriend to throw you a surprise birthday bash but has to give you a ring for you to do likewise? Chai!!!! It is a relationship oh not an orphanage!!!!
į disagree with them 5 yrs is so much tym for him not to be a strange who know maybe the party might trigger sometin n u can't rule out the fact that he loves u
That family advised seem to be the best for you,......if you asked me to advise you truly.He is your boy friend not your husband be aware of taste and go or fixed deposit without interest and the principal amt.
They are right. Obviously you can't see that you are being trapped by marital stagnation.
No serious man will date a woman for 5 years at 30. He is just using you to pass time so please open your eyes and treat the relationship like what it is.
Unless you still wanna throw a surprise party for him despite knowing you guys are 99% going to break up in the future and he'll quickly get married to a girl he'll meet months after.
First of all, am smelling Double Standards here. Your sister wouldn't let you throw a surprise birthday party for your boyfriend, but would they also object if this man decides to throw a birthday party for you? It's always about you ladies, isn't it? And am sure this niggi has thrown you good birthday party befitting a queen that you are in the past. Your Sisters should go to hell, abeg! Show your man some love if you may.
well... if you think he deserves it, why not? you never can tell, it may be the turning point for the guy to propose... my dear,life itself is a risk... so, just do it!
If you should start throwing him surprise parties now that he ain't your " lawful own man" I wonder what you would do when he finally becomes one. My dear, being nice to him in other important ways is good enough for now ok. For now, just save the best for the last....LOL
Kind of true, I will have to take ur sisters side. What is he waiting for? He is abt clocking 35 after 5yrs of dating and he is yet to ask for ur hand in marriage? Dear just move on pls. Dave now Daniel Craig
Why has he not put a ring on ur finger?? Is it becos of finance? or he just has not seen any reason why he should put a ring? definetely he is of age....... Ask urself this questns...answer dem...den U will get a better ansa to ur questn of throwing him a party
My dear sister, i agree with your sisters!!! You are not suppose to be throwing a party for your 35 year old man, you are suppose to be throwing a wedding! Better save your money. When/if you become his wife, throw him a crazy ass over the top, bank-account draining party because that is when he is your king. Right now, he's just another nigga you dating which you may not even end up marrying!
Bae are u a foolish woman? After five years no ring hahahahahahahaha and u wanna throw him a parry...what exactly will u be celebrating? his birthday or ur stupidity...abeg save ur small change
A 35 year old man hasn't married you yet? You've dated him for 5 years, what's going on? I support your sisters. Buy him a valuable gift and show him love, that's enough. Don't over reach yourself.
Love can indeed be blind and stupid. The only party you should be sharing the cost for and not even paying for at this stage of your relationship with your 35 year old bf is a wedding and not his birthday. Get a grip gurl. Uyee Bante
That family advised seem to be the best for you,......if you asked me to advise you truly.He is your boy friend not your husband be aware of taste and go or fixed deposit without interest and the principal amt.
U must be very stupid @ poster, did I hear u say bf of 5yrs who is 35yrs and he is not talking marriage the man definitely has a family somewhere, better wake up from your slumber
I am a liberal to the core. Maybe because am a man, if you ask me, I think you should go ahead if that is what ur heart truly d desire. Every relationship must not end in marriage.
Do wentin? Don't try that rubbish, he should be the one throwing suprise parties for you! Don't ever commit more than a man is... it's a principle, if you abuse it, it will surely abuse you. five years no ring, yet you want to throw him a party. Nonsense!
Your sisters are very correct. After 5years, ur boyfriend has not hinted proposal...what you should be considering is the status of your relationship,how to take it to the next level,or if he is even ready to do so. I think you should save your money first please.Its not worth it. Until you are his wife,you can't be pulling that kind of stunt.please, i say this from woman to woman.
There's nothing wrong with you celebrating your man's birthday with a party of a few of his and your close friends. However the part I don't agree with is "party with all the trappings befitting a king that he is to me"...sounds like you're seeing and treating this guy like he's your husband already, when in fact he's not and hasn't made that kind of commitment to you after 5 long years of dating. Also sounds like you're trying to win him over with this grand display of your love and affection---babe, it wont work.Thus I'd say Keep the size and scale of the party small, as befitting a boyfriend girlfriend relationship and save lavish king-like celebrations for your future husband. Moreover, find out where this relationship is going, pronto, like yesterday, and if your bf isn't ready to propose marriage anytime soon you need to move on.5 years is not beans.
you can go ahead if u want to, he is your boyfriend right, you love him and also loves u back. go ahead and do it, always pray God grants u ur heart desire consigning ur relationship wit him. he might have a surprice for u to dat day.
There's nothing wrong with you celebrating your man's birthday with a party of a few of his and your close friends. However the part I don't agree with is "party with all the trappings befitting a king that he is to me"...sounds like you're seeing and treating this guy like he's your husband already, when in fact he's not and hasn't made that kind of commitment to you after 5 long years of dating. Also sounds like you're trying to win him over with this grand display of your love and affection---babe, it wont work.Thus I'd say Keep the size and scale of the party small, as befitting a boyfriend girlfriend relationship and save lavish king-like celebrations for your future husband. Moreover, find out where this relationship is going, pronto, like yesterday, and if your bf isn't ready to propose marriage anytime soon you need to move on.5 years is not beans.
Do you know if he will turn it into engagement party for you?! See sister, 5 years is a long time. Don't start giving the impression that you don't care. At 35, he'll be willing to settle down any minute now. All na sense o. No miss am.
My dear sister plssss listen to ur sisters for he is indeed a stranger,five yrs is enof time for him to decide.Abi una wan clock ten before givin u d ring.Be smart.
Please your sisters are damn right...you might not even mean much to him the way he means to you. For five years now, he has not proposed..a guy of 35yrs and you want to throw him a bash. Think twice o..dnt make someone your piority when you are just an option.
You should follow your heart. Even if it eventually doesn't work out between you, he makes you happy now. 5yrs is a long time and by now, you should definitely know where you are headed even if he's yet to propose so I get where your sisters are coming from, though.
Girl plan that party for your man! What are your sisters talking about?! Just because a man has not engaged you doesn't mean you shouldn't let them know how special they are to you. Nawa oh! That is how another girl will come along and show him how much of a king he is to her and he will choose to marry her and tell you it is because he saw how much she appreciated and loved him but he wasn't sure about you because you never showed it. Then your sisters will turn around blaming you and say it is all your fault, that you should have loved and fought to keep him happy. Don't worry about your sisters, don't worry about society. DO YOU GIRL! and Invite me when you do it!! :)
Dis is a serious issue o, u can jst gt him a cake n gift or better still follow ur heart. If u r 100% confused dat he loves u den go ahead wt it bt b sure he's d type dat appreciate surprise o
Dis is a serious issue o, u can jst gt him a cake n gift or better still follow ur heart. If u r 100% confused dat he loves u den go ahead wt it bt b sure he's d type dat appreciate surprise o
Your sisters are right!!!!!!!!! Plain and Simple! 5 years of dating, no ring, you sef think with the brain that God gave you, not with the one clouded with love!
Point of correction he is no longer a boy na.@35 plz address him as manfrien.back to d question. Plz use d moni to organize a surprise wedding instead. .
In my opinion I totally think you should throw a party for your boyfriend. Nothing wrong with it at all. The fact that he hasn't put a ring on it doesn't make him any less the great guy he is to you. He deserves that token. Besides it's your relationship not theirs. My two cents though
Point of correction he is no longer a boy na.@35 plz address him as manfrien.back to d question. Plz use d moni to organize a surprise wedding instead. .
That alone can make him take a positive decision about marrying you without further delay. On the other hand, u may decide to do for God's sake ,whatever will be will be, if he is yours.
Wattttt 5yrs that nigger better put a ring on it, all dese rubbish time wasters so at 35yrs bros no know weda him wan settle down or not he dey wait till him clock 60
Wattttt 5yrs that nigger better put a ring on it, all dese rubbish time wasters so at 35yrs bros no know weda him wan settle down or not he dey wait till him clock 60
if u can afford it; l don`t see d big deal about it even if u are not married 2 him BUT; bear in mind that its like a charity thing so expect no returns.....
Pls, don't throw him any party, he is 35 and hs dated u 4 five yrs, there is somthing wrong nd u r not looking in dat direction. Unless u want 2 be his girl friend 4 life
Do whatever makes you happy. Life is all about taking risks. You might throw it and he might break up with you or vice versa, what you'll have to remember though iS to always be content with your decisions and to stand by them. Good or bad. And also that you loved him at that point
Indeed you need to follow your heart's desire and celebrate him , after five years of sucking you , I pray it does not taste bitter and all the flavours gone. Don't come crying here anytime soon oooh as he might see you as too independent, financially strong and over used .
I agree with them totally.Even the one that puts a ring on your finger self,some of them are ingrates no matter what you do.They never appreciate.Safe your money my dear to spend on your kids.
I believe that if you love him and the relationship is defined, you can go ahead. He will appreciate you alot.Be positive and go ahead but approach with caution.
you have dated a guy for 5 years and he has not proposed to you and you are here planning on how to organize a party for him, are you a learner, you have not even asked yourself what you are to him, for all i care you could be his side chick, if you have ears, you better listen to your sisters and get some sense, otherwise don't come here crying to us how he broke your heart after 5 years and married someone else, we don't want stories that touch. those surprise things are the worthy things you can do for your hubby and not boyfriend, these guys ain't loyal anymore
It's your decision to make, don't let what your sisters have said to dictate what you do to make you man happy. However, I think it will be wise you also define your relationship with your boyfriend...5years relationship is a lot...You need a sense of direction, so that you don't feel utterly disappointed at the end.
Well, your sis is right cos until a man put a ring on your finger, he will definately remain a stranger.. Men don't deserve such a nice treatment..Be wise!!!
You didn't mention how old u are, anyway at 35 he should be married with kids Pls don't throw him any surprise party except if u plan to engage yourself during the party. Take care
Follow ur heart bae. Ur sisters won't be there for u when the going goes tough. If u can afford the party go on with it but make it simple no too much drama if he is really the one.
I honestly think you should follow your heart. Last 2 months, my friend planned a little surprise birthday party for her boyfriend and guess what, at the end of the night he proposed to her right in front of every one.. They have been dating for about 2years and some months though.
i read a story once, i think on bellanaija, about a woman who threw a surprise birthday party for her boyfriend and ended up being surprised herself when he got down on one knee at the event. so it was a win-win for both her and her boyfriend. you know your man best. if you love him and think he deserves it, then of course do what is in your mind, without expecting much. pray about it also and let God guide you.
Honestly western mentalities is the one destroying a lot of girls future and thats why lot of girls are single with no boyfriend nor husband. A man will always do things at his convenient wish, you dont force marriage on man, he will run. I will like to ask the poster if her sisters has been married? Mumu girl, dey there dey listen to your useless sister who doesnt even have what you had.
Do not throw any party for him. He's going to be 35 and you guys have been dating for 5 yrs? What's stopping him from getting married if I may ask? And you are there thinking of throwing a party?
If it's any consolation to you, you can organise a b/day dinner in a fancy restaurant and invite a couple of friends. Your sisters are wise. Listen to them.
Lol. U r his ATM. As u have such money to lavish for a 35 years old man birthday, why can't give it him to buy rings and put it in ur hand.. It is well with u ooooo
abeg throw party. i dated my man of 5 years gave him a surprise party and we still got engaged later. Nigerian women sometimes have a backward mentality. Marriage is not the sole reason for dating, sometimes you are not even supposed to marry some people you date, some people are just supposed to be your friend. When women act this desperate for marriage, do not appreciate their man and use him, men can be perceptive too. That is why when some marry you they feel they have done you a favour and start mistreating you. All along they could tell you were so desperate for marraige. Love him and appreciate him. If he marries you great you have shown you are worth marrying. If he does not marry you, it does not reduce you. Somebody else will see you and marry haba. Women take control of yourselves. You are something on your own. marriage is not the only reason for your existence stop this backward mentality!!!! Every woman will eventually marry stop this desperation!!!!
posters pls be aware of situations before talking. Everybodys relationship is not the same, there are people who dated for 1 year and married, people who dated for longer, didnt marry and married someone else instead. some also dated for 7 years married and were unhappy, others happy. if the relationship drags on it can be for many reasons, 1, no money, 2, the man has responsibilities he may be catering for i.e putting younger ones through school, 3, the age difference might be much the girl may be too young, 4, distance relationship -illegal stay in another country, visa issues etc. 5, parents not giving consent and many more. Please do not judge so harshly, do not be quick to blame men and don't be so desperate for marriage you make wrong decisions. i dated my fiance for 6 years i was 19 he was 27, in between our relationship we had many factors above. I could have been desperate and left him but I knew were our relationship stood and we always discussed our future. Now im happy to be marrying him when i am mature, happy, have finished school and have a good job were i can contribute to our household and have grown with him. All fingers are not equal. xx
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ReplyDeleteFf ur sisters advice my dear....hez onli worth such surprise birthday wen u sure hez urs. But till den a lil somtin will do
DeleteIf he has been spending on u pls my dear don't hesitate. Lindaobserve
ReplyDeleteDeres Notin wrong wit it so long as u feel fulfilled doin it
ReplyDeleteGbamm girls wuld never learn anyways I prefer referring to you as a girl than a woman
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing wrong jur,except u don't love him that much.
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DeleteYou're just misbehaving cos of good dick or good money. Get a hold of yourself bitch. buy him cake and perfume or shirts or a really nice tie or expensive Jean.
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Sister, until a man puts a ring on your finger, he is still a stranger. Anyway, wateva rocks ur boat.
ReplyDeleteDon't throw any party for him...ur sisters are right...5yrs of relationship.hmmmmmm
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ReplyDeleteFollow Ur mind dear... dey shouldn't dictate for U... Ur sisters sound unmarried... hop dey re?
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You are an animal be deceving yourself. Idiot. 5yrs and you are still on it. I feel like slapping you right now because you are under a spell.
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I stand with your sisters oh, no go do bad market for yourself. Why show him to the world as your man when he hasn't shown you as his woman by putting a ring on it. What if he didn't end up marrying you ? What explanation will you give to the one that will end up as your husband.
ReplyDeleteAbeg fash the yeye party tin.
There is nothing bad about the idea..
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Babe if he has done dsame for u and u know he is worth it then go ahead and do it, but if he has never thrown a surprise bday P for u, my advice is use ur money for charity.
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And linda didn't make a comment on this kinda stupid question, but if it a guy now, she'll be quick to say "how does guys think sef" poster u really stupid for asking DAT question.... Do u tk gifts from him too? Don't take anymore till he puts a ring in it....expensive rubbish
Your type ehn, it's your wife and children I pity most. I wonder the kind of woman that brought you up
DeleteThey are f*cking wrong! Sorry to say your sisters are everything that is wrong with the Nigerian woman. So it will be okay for a 'stranger' boyfriend to throw you a surprise birthday bash but has to give you a ring for you to do likewise? Chai!!!! It is a relationship oh not an orphanage!!!!
ReplyDeleteį disagree with them 5 yrs is so much tym for him not to be a strange who know maybe the party might trigger sometin n u can't rule out the fact that he loves u
ReplyDeleteU both have screwed enuf!.. 5yrs???
ReplyDeletePls get married...
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Give him a small get together, nothing fancy or expensive
ReplyDeleteThat family advised seem to be the best for you,......if you asked me to advise you truly.He is your boy friend not your husband be aware of taste and go or fixed deposit without interest and the principal amt.
ReplyDeleteThey are right. Obviously you can't see that you are being trapped by marital stagnation.
ReplyDeleteNo serious man will date a woman for 5 years at 30. He is just using you to pass time so please open your eyes and treat the relationship like what it is.
Unless you still wanna throw a surprise party for him despite knowing you guys are 99% going to break up in the future and he'll quickly get married to a girl he'll meet months after.
Seriously wats d wait for??? 5gini???
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, am smelling Double Standards here. Your sister wouldn't let you throw a surprise birthday party for your boyfriend, but would they also object if this man decides to throw a birthday party for you? It's always about you ladies, isn't it? And am sure this niggi has thrown you good birthday party befitting a queen that you are in the past. Your Sisters should go to hell, abeg! Show your man some love if you may.
ReplyDeletehe aint married to you yet.... slow down
ReplyDeleteplease do what u hv to do for ur love is all about sacrifices and trust ok dont mind you sisters ok
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Is this you linda???you have to be open so we can really help
ReplyDeleteIt is nt a bad idea...u neva can tell he will propose to u on his bd or afta seein so much effort uv done to make him happy
ReplyDeletewell... if you think he deserves it, why not? you never can tell, it may be the turning point for the guy to propose... my dear,life itself is a risk... so, just do it!
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ReplyDeleteHope he will not end up getting another girl to replace u frm the party#sorisoriooooo
ReplyDeleteU be real mugu , grow up and sure u are jobless
ReplyDeleteThere's absolutely nothing wrong in throwing ur man a surprise ! Providing he will marry u!
ReplyDeleteAbeg you are not wrong, its a sign that you love him so much
ReplyDeleteIf you should start throwing him surprise parties now that he ain't your " lawful own man" I wonder what you would do when he finally becomes one. My dear, being nice to him in other important ways is good enough for now ok. For now, just save the best for the last....LOL
ReplyDeleteAbeg follow ur sisters opinions..na tru talk. He is 35 wetin him dry wait for....
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ReplyDeleteLet him stop waitin if he love u dat much let hlm propose giv ur life to Christ okay.
DeleteKind of true, I will have to take ur sisters side. What is he waiting for? He is abt clocking 35 after 5yrs of dating and he is yet to ask for ur hand in marriage? Dear just move on pls. Dave now Daniel Craig
ReplyDeleteDnt waste ur money.. U should be d suprisee n not d surpriser Lol
ReplyDeleteYou may choose to surprise him on his birthday, not bad but to throw him a party? Nne think again o! Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteHi. Nothing bad in doing that, but it determine the strength of the relationship, the goal of the relationship tells haw far he we go......
ReplyDeleteIts advices like that that will keep you from getting married
ReplyDelete5years and nothing serious btw you two?
ReplyDeleteAnyway, do what's best for you.
Nothing wrong wth a surprise birthday party... But u need to be worried that he hasn't put a ring on it yet
ReplyDeleteMa dear do it,at d end of the day it would be remembered that u did something special for him )
ReplyDeleteWhy has he not put a ring on ur finger?? Is it becos of finance? or he just has not seen any reason why he should put a ring? definetely he is of age....... Ask urself this questns...answer dem...den U will get a better ansa to ur questn of throwing him a party
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Dat man ain't got love for u darling..5 freaking yrs??? Common..
ReplyDeleteGo ahead and dwit babe. Yo not a trap queen, go make home happy. Kiss kiss...
ReplyDeleteMy dear sister, i agree with your sisters!!! You are not suppose to be throwing a party for your 35 year old man, you are suppose to be throwing a wedding! Better save your money. When/if you become his wife, throw him a crazy ass over the top, bank-account draining party because that is when he is your king. Right now, he's just another nigga you dating which you may not even end up marrying!
ReplyDeleteUr boyfriend is 35 how old re you?, #THAT AKWA IBOM BOY #
ReplyDeleteBae are u a foolish woman? After five years no ring hahahahahahahaha and u wanna throw him a parry...what exactly will u be celebrating? his birthday or ur stupidity...abeg save ur small change
ReplyDeleteA 35 year old man hasn't married you yet? You've dated him for 5 years, what's going on? I support your sisters. Buy him a valuable gift and show him love, that's enough. Don't over reach yourself.
ReplyDeleteJust follow ur heart
ReplyDeleteLove can indeed be blind and stupid. The only party you should be sharing the cost for and not even paying for at this stage of your relationship with your 35 year old bf is a wedding and not his birthday. Get a grip gurl. Uyee Bante
ReplyDeleteThat family advised seem to be the best for you,......if you asked me to advise you truly.He is your boy friend not your husband be aware of taste and go or fixed deposit without interest and the principal amt.
ReplyDeleteU must be very stupid @ poster, did I hear u say bf of 5yrs who is 35yrs and he is not talking marriage the man definitely has a family somewhere, better wake up from your slumber
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ReplyDeleteDo not bother throwing him a birthday party. He has to earn it by taking that step of commitment.
ReplyDeleteBabe go ahead and do it....
ReplyDeleteExcept u don't love him
haba, nothing wrong here, dont listen to them
ReplyDeleteI am a liberal to the core. Maybe because am a man, if you ask me, I think you should go ahead if that is what ur heart truly d desire. Every relationship must not end in marriage.
ReplyDeleteDo wentin? Don't try that rubbish, he should be the one throwing suprise parties for you! Don't ever commit more than a man is... it's a principle, if you abuse it, it will surely abuse you. five years no ring, yet you want to throw him a party. Nonsense!
ReplyDeleteYour sisters are very correct. After 5years, ur boyfriend has not hinted proposal...what you should be considering is the status of your relationship,how to take it to the next level,or if he is even ready to do so. I think you should save your money first please.Its not worth it. Until you are his wife,you can't be pulling that kind of stunt.please, i say this from woman to woman.
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing wrong with you celebrating your man's birthday with a party of a few of his and your close friends. However the part I don't agree with is "party with all the trappings befitting a king that he is to me"...sounds like you're seeing and treating this guy like he's your husband already, when in fact he's not and hasn't made that kind of commitment to you after 5 long years of dating. Also sounds like you're trying to win him over with this grand display of your love and affection---babe, it wont work.Thus I'd say Keep the size and scale of the party small, as befitting a boyfriend girlfriend relationship and save lavish king-like celebrations for your future husband. Moreover, find out where this relationship is going, pronto, like yesterday, and if your bf isn't ready to propose marriage anytime soon you need to move on.5 years is not beans.
ReplyDeleteyou can go ahead if u want to, he is your boyfriend right, you love him and also loves u back. go ahead and do it, always pray God grants u ur heart desire consigning ur relationship wit him. he might have a surprice for u to dat day.
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DeleteThere's nothing wrong with you celebrating your man's birthday with a party of a few of his and your close friends. However the part I don't agree with is "party with all the trappings befitting a king that he is to me"...sounds like you're seeing and treating this guy like he's your husband already, when in fact he's not and hasn't made that kind of commitment to you after 5 long years of dating. Also sounds like you're trying to win him over with this grand display of your love and affection---babe, it wont work.Thus I'd say Keep the size and scale of the party small, as befitting a boyfriend girlfriend relationship and save lavish king-like celebrations for your future husband. Moreover, find out where this relationship is going, pronto, like yesterday, and if your bf isn't ready to propose marriage anytime soon you need to move on.5 years is not beans.
ReplyDeleteDo you know if he will turn it into engagement party for you?! See sister, 5 years is a long time. Don't start giving the impression that you don't care. At 35, he'll be willing to settle down any minute now. All na sense o. No miss am.
ReplyDeleteThrow the hell out of that party. E fit turn to engagement parry.
ReplyDeleteIf you so love him and you have the finance why not..
ReplyDeleteNoting wrong With that..
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Yes dear dey right, I will never do DAT even if we have dated for 100 year, hell no, he Is still a stranger, so ur sister's are really right
ReplyDeleteIf it's right for a man to throw his girlfriend a surprise party, why should it be wrong for a girlfriend to throw her boyfriend one? #jstsaying
ReplyDeleteMy dear sister plssss listen to ur sisters for he is indeed a stranger,five yrs is enof time for him to decide.Abi una wan clock ten before givin u d ring.Be smart.
ReplyDeletePlease your sisters are damn right...you might not even mean much to him the way he means to you. For five years now, he has not proposed..a guy of 35yrs and you want to throw him a bash. Think twice o..dnt make someone your piority when you are just an option.
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DeleteIf he is your husband sure y not. If Na boyfriend organize a sendoff instead.
ReplyDeleteAbeg dash me some money naa. Ahuru mu na iwu onye Onyi nye. Papa umuaka @ 35, what's he waiting for? Or use the money buy engagement ring.
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Follow ur hear dear!
ReplyDeleteYou should follow your heart. Even if it eventually doesn't work out between you, he makes you happy now. 5yrs is a long time and by now, you should definitely know where you are headed even if he's yet to propose so I get where your sisters are coming from, though.
ReplyDeleteGirl plan that party for your man! What are your sisters talking about?! Just because a man has not engaged you doesn't mean you shouldn't let them know how special they are to you. Nawa oh! That is how another girl will come along and show him how much of a king he is to her and he will choose to marry her and tell you it is because he saw how much she appreciated and loved him but he wasn't sure about you because you never showed it. Then your sisters will turn around blaming you and say it is all your fault, that you should have loved and fought to keep him happy. Don't worry about your sisters, don't worry about society. DO YOU GIRL! and Invite me when you do it!! :)
ReplyDeleteDon't do it
ReplyDeleteDis is a serious issue o, u can jst gt him a cake n gift or better still follow ur heart. If u r 100% confused dat he loves u den go ahead wt it bt b sure he's d type dat appreciate surprise o
ReplyDeleteDis is a serious issue o, u can jst gt him a cake n gift or better still follow ur heart. If u r 100% confused dat he loves u den go ahead wt it bt b sure he's d type dat appreciate surprise o
ReplyDeleteFollow ur heart
ReplyDeleteYour sisters will make you boyfriendless and therefore husbandless
ReplyDelete3words. Don't do it!!!!
ReplyDeleteYour sisters are right!!!!!!!!! Plain and Simple! 5 years of dating, no ring, you sef think with the brain that God gave you, not with the one clouded with love!
ReplyDeleteSo what if they're right!!!Are u enjoying him as a boy friend? is he a good boy friend/person? If yes then throw the damn party! TF!!! ugh!
ReplyDeletePoint of correction he is no longer a boy na.@35 plz address him as manfrien.back to d question. Plz use d moni to organize a surprise wedding instead. .
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion I totally think you should throw a party for your boyfriend. Nothing wrong with it at all. The fact that he hasn't put a ring on it doesn't make him any less the great guy he is to you. He deserves that token. Besides it's your relationship not theirs. My two cents though
ReplyDeleteIt's alright....do as you wish for love
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That could attract him put a ring 2 u, so don't mind ur siblings! Follow ur heart #JustSaying oo
ReplyDeleteHmmm, is it not ur mates that buy car for their boyfriend? Your sisters should not attached u to their own past failures
ReplyDeletePoint of correction he is no longer a boy na.@35 plz address him as manfrien.back to d question. Plz use d moni to organize a surprise wedding instead. .
ReplyDeletemy dear you are a special kind of fool
ReplyDeleteThat alone can make him take a positive decision about marrying you without further delay.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, u may decide to do for God's sake ,whatever will be will be, if he is yours.
Wattttt 5yrs that nigger better put a ring on it, all dese rubbish time wasters so at 35yrs bros no know weda him wan settle down or not he dey wait till him clock 60
ReplyDeleteWattttt 5yrs that nigger better put a ring on it, all dese rubbish time wasters so at 35yrs bros no know weda him wan settle down or not he dey wait till him clock 60
ReplyDeleteThey are wrong, it's not until a man marry you that you treat him special.
ReplyDeleteMschew......u can take him out,guess dat wil do.
ReplyDeleteif u can afford it; l don`t see d big deal about it even if u are not married 2 him
ReplyDeleteBUT; bear in mind that its like a charity thing so expect no returns.....
Mumu.
ReplyDeleteThey are right, mumu, 35 yrs no ring for ur hand
ReplyDeletePls, don't throw him any party, he is 35 and hs dated u 4 five yrs, there is somthing wrong nd u r not looking in dat direction. Unless u want 2 be his girl friend 4 life
ReplyDeleteDo whatever makes you happy. Life is all about taking risks. You might throw it and he might break up with you or vice versa, what you'll have to remember though iS to always be content with your decisions and to stand by them. Good or bad. And also that you loved him at that point
ReplyDeleteGood idea
ReplyDeleteIndeed you need to follow your heart's desire and celebrate him , after five years of sucking you , I pray it does not taste bitter and all the flavours gone.
ReplyDeleteDon't come crying here anytime soon oooh as he might see you as too independent, financially strong and over used .
I agree with them totally.Even the one that puts a ring on your finger self,some of them are ingrates no matter what you do.They never appreciate.Safe your money my dear to spend on your kids.
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They have a point. You can do something small and still pray he make a move for the ring.
ReplyDeleteNa u get d money wey u wan waste.*slimmie*
ReplyDeleteI believe that if you love him and the relationship is defined, you can go ahead. He will appreciate you alot.Be positive and go ahead but approach with caution.
ReplyDeleteBabe give it a trial...but don't make it too elaborate,leading you to spending all your money
ReplyDeleteyou have dated a guy for 5 years and he has not proposed to you and you are here planning on how to organize a party for him, are you a learner, you have not even asked yourself what you are to him, for all i care you could be his side chick, if you have ears, you better listen to your sisters and get some sense, otherwise don't come here crying to us how he broke your heart after 5 years and married someone else, we don't want stories that touch. those surprise things are the worthy things you can do for your hubby and not boyfriend, these guys ain't loyal anymore
ReplyDeleteR u for real? organize a surprise b.day party for a boyfrend? In 2015?Girl, wake up pls, he's not ur husband....
ReplyDeleteMumu overload.
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Mama matta...
u are throwing him a party as his what? pls i need that money if u don't have anything reasonable to do with it.
ReplyDeleteFor now he shud b d one throwing u a surprise party.. Dis is Africa n ur sisters r right
ReplyDeleteIt's your decision to make, don't let what your sisters have said to dictate what you do to make you man happy. However, I think it will be wise you also define your relationship with your boyfriend...5years relationship is a lot...You need a sense of direction, so that you don't feel utterly disappointed at the end.
ReplyDeletePlease listen to your wife, truly a man is a stranger until he marries. You can give just a get-together stuff, but not a big party.
ReplyDeleteWell, your sis is right cos until a man put a ring on your finger, he will definately remain a stranger.. Men don't deserve such a nice treatment..Be wise!!!
ReplyDeleteI think your sisters r right. 5yrs is a long time! What's he waiting for anyway?
ReplyDeleteI don't know how dis is done
ReplyDeleteYou didn't mention how old u are, anyway at 35 he should be married with kids Pls don't throw him any surprise party except if u plan to engage yourself during the party. Take care
ReplyDeleteGirl, don't do it! Simple.
DeleteYes oh,ur sisters re rite.kip ur moni til he puts a ring on ur finger.if ure lookin 4 somtn wonderful 2 do 4 him,get him a valuable gift
ReplyDeleteU are a grown ass women, do watever u want to do
ReplyDeleteDo wats is on your mnd, yu knw him more dan yu family do. In ur conclusion, yu sounding nt trusting him.
ReplyDeleteFollow ur heart bae. Ur sisters won't be there for u when the going goes tough. If u can afford the party go on with it but make it simple no too much drama if he is really the one.
ReplyDeleteI honestly think you should follow your heart. Last 2 months, my friend planned a little surprise birthday party for her boyfriend and guess what, at the end of the night he proposed to her right in front of every one.. They have been dating for about 2years and some months though.
ReplyDeletei read a story once, i think on bellanaija, about a woman who threw a surprise birthday party for her boyfriend and ended up being surprised herself when he got down on one knee at the event. so it was a win-win for both her and her boyfriend. you know your man best. if you love him and think he deserves it, then of course do what is in your mind, without expecting much. pray about it also and let God guide you.
ReplyDeleteHonestly western mentalities is the one destroying a lot of girls future and thats why lot of girls are single with no boyfriend nor husband. A man will always do things at his convenient wish, you dont force marriage on man, he will run. I will like to ask the poster if her sisters has been married? Mumu girl, dey there dey listen to your useless sister who doesnt even have what you had.
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong with that oooo, but trust me, with our African stupid mentality, EVERYTHING is wrong with it.
ReplyDeleteTHE REAL QUESTION IS....AFTER 5 YEARS OF RELATIONSHIP....WHY HASNT HER PROPOSED TO YOU YET? IS HE JUST FAAACKING YOU FOR FREE??????
ReplyDeleteTHAT IS THE QUESTION YOU SHOULD BE WORRIED ABOUT, NOT WASTING YOUR OWN MONEY ON A POTENTIAL BOYFRIEND MATERIAL.
IF HE DOES NOT FIND YOU WORTHY TO MAKE YOU HIS WIFEY-FOR-LIFEY........GIRL, YOU BETTER SPEND ON HIM WISLY UNTIL TO MEET MR HUSBAND MATERIAL.
My dear, do as u wish. He must not put a ring before u show him love. It's not all about d ring... Ask the married men, they know better.
ReplyDeleteWait until he puts a ring on it.
ReplyDeleteDo not throw any party for him. He's going to be 35 and you guys have been dating for 5 yrs?
ReplyDeleteWhat's stopping him from getting married if I may ask? And you are there thinking of throwing a party?
If it's any consolation to you, you can organise a b/day dinner in a fancy restaurant and invite a couple of friends.
Your sisters are wise. Listen to them.
After 5 yrs he never marry u, u still dey won organize bday? Soon na send off party u go organize for him, when he leave u marry another.
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Lol. U r his ATM. As u have such money to lavish for a 35 years old man birthday, why can't give it him to buy rings and put it in ur hand..
ReplyDeleteIt is well with u ooooo
Royal Pristhood, pls where are u! Do as ur heart desires LADY.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your sister, wait for him to marry you. Once you are married, you cant throw party everyday for him.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your sister, wait for him to marry you. Once you are married, you cant throw party everyday for him.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your sister, wait for him to marry you. Once you are married, you cant throw party everyday for him.
ReplyDeleteabeg throw party. i dated my man of 5 years gave him a surprise party and we still got engaged later.
ReplyDeleteNigerian women sometimes have a backward mentality. Marriage is not the sole reason for dating, sometimes you are not even supposed to marry some people you date, some people are just supposed to be your friend. When women act this desperate for marriage, do not appreciate their man and use him, men can be perceptive too. That is why when some marry you they feel they have done you a favour and start mistreating you. All along they could tell you were so desperate for marraige. Love him and appreciate him. If he marries you great you have shown you are worth marrying. If he does not marry you, it does not reduce you. Somebody else will see you and marry haba. Women take control of yourselves. You are something on your own. marriage is not the only reason for your existence stop this backward mentality!!!! Every woman will eventually marry stop this desperation!!!!
posters pls be aware of situations before talking. Everybodys relationship is not the same,
ReplyDeletethere are people who dated for 1 year and married, people who dated for longer, didnt marry and married someone else instead. some also dated for 7 years married and were unhappy, others happy.
if the relationship drags on it can be for many reasons, 1, no money, 2, the man has responsibilities he may be catering for i.e putting younger ones through school, 3, the age difference might be much the girl may be too young, 4, distance relationship -illegal stay in another country, visa issues etc. 5, parents not giving consent and many more. Please do not judge so harshly, do not be quick to blame men and don't be so desperate for marriage you make wrong decisions. i dated my fiance for 6 years i was 19 he was 27, in between our relationship we had many factors above. I could have been desperate and left him but I knew were our relationship stood and we always discussed our future. Now im happy to be marrying him when i am mature, happy, have finished school and have a good job were i can contribute to our household and have grown with him. All fingers are not equal. xx