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Friday, 5 May 2017

"You owe your parents absolutely nothing, it's not your obligation to take care of them neither is it their right" - Bisi Alimi

According to Nigerian gay right activist, Bisi Alimi, you do not owe your parents the responsibility of taking care of them when they are old except you are still living with them. In a post shared on Facebook, Bisi Alimi has claimed that
"The idea that it is the responsibility of the struggling young to take care of the struggling old is a myth sold to you by the corrupt politicians who have stolen the resources of your commonwealth."



He went on to remind Nigerians that they didn't beg their parents to have sex which led to procreation and as such, they should become their pension scheme.
I totally don't agree with this. Taking care of your parents is not just your responsibility, it is their right. I feel like God can even punish you for not taking care of them. You owe them that much!

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  1. It is not their right, yes but it is something that you do out of love and compassion and not compulsion. that is where the bisi missed it.
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    1. This mayter na simple one na ..
      Bisi, if them born u and ur husband well well, enter 9ja, then go oshodi and shout at the top of your voice say u be GAY!!and say make people no take care of their parents!!!
      ( NA Ur BODY GO TELL U)!
      IDIOT

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  2. I am currently suffering this and i do not know how to stop the blackmail each time i try to pull out. they are spendthrifts and i keep giving them money at my own expense. i am not against helping your parents but when it gets too much like mine it becomes exhausting. each time i see their call my heart skips three beats cos i know its one issue or the other. i need counsel..

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    1. Do ur best andd God will see ur heart,make sure u do not go against God to please dem, but as parents dey deserve ur attention in dat regard.

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    2. Im in this exact situation. I pay d school fees of my siblings infact i have nosavings. Its causing a problem in my marriage . My parents are spendthrifts and they are really terrible. I pay for everything although i dnt live with them. The emotional blackmail is too mych. They make me want to commit suicide. Its like im existing for them and i cant take it anymore.

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    3. calculate what will cover their rent, feeding and immediate needs. you are not responsible for the extravagant or out of normal expenses if you are not able. just make sure they have a roof and not hungry period

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    4. I think Ola Dee has given the most appropriate response to your post. It is not it duty to take care of their extravagance lifestyle. Even if u have the means to take care of their excesses, I don't think it is advisable.You don't have anything to do with High BP cos that's what their calls could cause. Whenever you can take care of their basic needs, do so and if u can't at that moment, then u can't, it won't kill them. Except in certain emergencies. Be wise!!!

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  3. Bisi may God forgive your lost soul. That's if you still believe in God and His powers.

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    1. The abroad where you live where the govt provides resources do you know how old people are suffering there? No family to take care of them thier children never visit, in thier old age they will be entering bus oR train. Or will use all thier small pension to hire care workers that malteeat them. Even if you say govt eats our money You cant compare uk to China where the old people are also taken care of by their children. Their economy is good and the old people are happy so pls shut up. It's not about govt resources. Its about family care and love

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    2. I work in project management in the NHS you don't want to know the problems the older generations are facingin Uk. Money does not stop them from being taken advantage of and duped. What they need is loving family care. It is the circle of life. You come helpless and leave helpless. Even in diapers at times. Who will love and take care of you in that ailing condition except family? Don't be silly pls.

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    3. Anon 14:42 You have spoken the truth

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  4. This is going way out of line. Not bcos ur out of Nigeria that u keep comparing the country to where u are now. Surprisingly, the western world are more into the responsibility thing more than Nigerians. He shod jst shut up and get pregnant for his partner pls period.

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  5. I can see clearly from your stupid write up that the gay your practice have completely destroy your sense of reasoning and your have forgotten the good moral your parents gives you.

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    1. No need to attack his sexual orientation you can disagree with his message without doing so.
      You as a so called heterosexual are you better than him?
      You lie, slander, steal and fornicate and you think you're better?
      We are all sinners in the eyes of God gay or straight, faithful partner or philanderer so don't judge lest you be judged

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  6. I agree wit u dear linda, bisi is nothing but a retard.

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  7. This bastard was disowned by his parents wen he went open as gay thats why this nonsense is coming out of his gutter mouth

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  8. I surely know you owe your gay partner Abi? Bastard...Oloshi. Shege

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  9. Based on whose perspective?? We all have our religious belief, is not not he says, is what individual believe, thou shall honour there father and mother, so that your days shall be long, the honour their means a lot!! It mean taking care of and all aview,
    What happens to you if you fail to do that, is what you done to them shall be done to thee

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    1. I guess he's not planning on having kids so he knows he will have no honor.

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  10. That is why you are already doomed. Oloshi

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  11. IDIOT GAY MAN

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  12. You talk like this when your brain works like your anus.

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  13. That is because you have nothing to offer!
    Get a life. You are not qualified to talk about parenting seeing that you are what you are. Sad man/woman

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    1. Omo ibanuje! I pity your mother. She must be so sad and wishing she never gave birth to you. You are such an embarrassment. O ma se o!!

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  14. Can you expect anything less than this from a cock sucking moron ? How can he take care of his parents when he will never have one of his own. Omo akukubi is better than radada omo. Your mother's labor pain is obviously in vain. SMH

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  15. Its obvious this bisi of a he goat is daft... Such people are not to be giving online audience.
    Where are his parents? I guess they are bowing their heads in so much sorrow watching him go down the path of distribution.
    For to think he answers a Yoruba name is a big shame.

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  16. Get the fuck out of here stupid story .....I don't think this dude have a parent.urgly ASS..

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  17. Get the fuck out of here stupid story .....I don't think this dude have a parent.urgly ASS..

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  18. U r a wise man. Deep words bcos they r true

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  19. well true BUT BECAUSE WE HAVE A CONSCIENCE, WE OWE THEM ALL WE CAN DO TO HELP AND TAKE CARE OF THEM!
    -D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

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    1. I totally agree with u. Conscience is d keyword in this matter. My parents my everything base on logistics

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  20. It's now confirm they have fucked bisi Alimi brains out,e be like say e never too tay Wen bisi go Jan because the oyibo culture jos dey shark ham no be small,Mr bisi no need telling us about you husband culture we know, and we are African we also have ours so don't get it mixed up.

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  21. this guy is not one us, we re Nigerians with cultural value. he should pocket his useless talk to himself.

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  22. I believe the time spent yarning dust should have gone into the research on the cure for ur HIV infection. Quite dumb of u..but then, i understand u, u will never have kids..you need a vagina to do that - something you clearly detest.

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  23. Em dey vex bcuz dem disown am.if na me b ur mama i for don poison u since no b today.

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  24. This man is the real definition of a wasted sperm.

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  25. Bisi, u are just tooooooooo lasy. U became gay so that ur fellow man will take care of U. upon dat u still have the guts to spew this balderdash. Grow up man. Get sense & stop being a 'bitch'. Be the man u are & stop depending on your 'white man', he has a family too and they form part of the equation. itiboribo!

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  26. Honestly, for the 1st time i am supporting this gay guy reasoning. He's right on this one

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    1. U think he's right because u want to escape your responsibility

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    2. U said his right supporter u will soon get old and ur own children will treat u the same way

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  27. Itz bad enough your gay, now you spitting this rubbish from your mouth hole. Devil is warming your part of hell fire.

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  28. This guy is already an ass hole...am sure his parents will so regret why they gave birth to him...so you are advising people not to take care of their parents who will get old and become children again? keep heaping judgement on your head...your days are indeed numbered cos you are a curse to your family and people around you.

    Linda you should use your discretion not to post this kind of rubbish...cos you are contributing to destruction of Gods world.

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  29. Well speaking from the gay point of view,i may be right,but certainly not otherwise, islamically it is their right,infact u must. I want to bliv its so in d bible too.

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  30. I think the guy is crazy. He has been failing in his responsibilities to his own parents and thinks that writing about it online justifies his crime. It is because his parents disapproves his lifestyle and so he abandons them. The Holy Book and one of the 10 commandments says... Honour your father and your mother so that your days may be long. This is the only commandment with a promise. And again,... provide for your parents in their old age... this is how you provide for your won future.

    We should do our best for our parents. I will not subscribe to going into debts or do something evil to fulfill their wimps.

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  31. Isi ezuru this guy oke nah....and some people will buy this mediocrity mind.

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  32. Of course we all know he's a retard. It"ll b foolhardy to take him seriously.

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  33. I am quite sure his parents must really be proud of him. By the way, he should keep this his philosophy to himself since his unfortunate choice won't even give him the opportunity to pass this on to his offspring...

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  34. When you read your bible,you will know is a command. For your days to be long

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  35. He has a point though. Nobody should be emotionally blackmailed with it,yet if they made you and did not throw you away to die of hunger you shouldn't watch them die of hunger if you have the resources to sustain them.

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  36. Bisi should stop potraying Gay folks in a bad light...he doesn't have to open his mouth to say rubbish all d time

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  37. Moguls don't talk that way

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  38. I need advice. My husband hates my parents and my parents hates him. My husband feels my parents should not be taken care of at our own expense except if urgent. My parents wants me to quit the marriage because of his attitude towards them even when I have a child for him. Im caught in between because my marriage is at stake and parents promised to disown me if I continue with the marriage. Pls libs need your advice.

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    1. Hate may seem a strong word to use here, but I think there's more to it than meets the eye.
      *Why doesn't your husband want you taking care of ur parents? We're u not taking care of them before u got married? During ur courtship, was ur husband showing same trait? Your parents threatening to disown you if u don't leave ur husband is taking the issue rather too far. Also, are you the only child of ur parents? So many questions, I agree, but the answer to your ordeal is hidden somewhere in them. I am going to suggest that u look for someone in the family that both parties respect, even if it has to be a religious head, to intervene.

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    2. You shouldn't leave your husband because your parents want you to.The same parents that will hate on you when you have no husband in the future.
      It's simple if he doesn't like to have you help your parents too much then be doing it without his knowledge.If you have siblings let them help you support your parents,you sounded like you have been emotionally blackmailed into thinking that helping your parents is you r absolute responsibility and you also sounded like your shoulder is drooping from it all.Exhale a bit! Get your older sibling to send them something for a change, don't stop helping them.They didn't let you die off and we shouldn't let them die off when we can help.

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  39. You are as stupid as being A GAY!! FOOL FOOL!!! Where r ur parent?????????????/

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  40. Demented, a mistake of a son. Your parents must be heart broken by now. CURSED CHILD. HONOR THY FATHER and THY MOTHER THAT YOUR DAYS MAY BE LONG.

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  41. Product of bad parenting.... What does he know... Go change your pampers

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  42. Obviously your parents aren't happy with how you turned out and you feel ignoring them should be applicable with everyone else... So if not you who may I ask... This is Nigeria, although we may not be the world power or have some sick twisted laws like the ones over there.. We value family... It's just your opinion though and this is mine...

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  43. Anyone following this one's advice is just looking for short cut to hell fire..

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  44. Anyone who listens or gives attention to dis 1 needs to have his or her head checked. Its his white husband that's giving him evil lectures behind the scene.

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  45. I saw this idiot in Raleigh this year.

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  46. Bisi it's our tradition here to take care of our parents. Care homes are not popular here cos of that. I understand u may be bitter towards ur parents for whatever reason u perceive but u do as u want and leave us to do as we want. Maybe the gay culture doesn't support it but that's ur cup of tea. My parents took care of their parents and I will damn well take care of them.

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  47. I agree wit dis fella d system is so fuck in naija but some idiotics persons will still insult dis dude cos of frustration in naija

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  48. He is just a big fool

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  49. If only this fag can stop getting all this publicity

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  50. A life without path

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  51. Biko, Linda you don't even pity us(your audience) when you give a platform to this twerp. Why should anyone in their right senses internalize any form of advise from this dude whose only contribution to humanity is his homosexuality. I'm not even calling into question his sexual preferences, I'm just not in support of any celebrity he intends to garner simply for being gay.

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  52. Your mum,anywhere she is will be regretting giving birth to you.cos she should have flush you out during her cycle period.you're a stupid and worthless idiot that should be stone to death.

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  53. The demon dat made you turn gay is not tormenting you.... even the Bible says Honor thy father and mother so dat ur days be long on earth.... take care Of dem cos they took care of you.... if that's the case the dem sending u to skool is nt a must nah... foolish faggot

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  54. God forbid I say I wont take care of my mum ( my dad passed away) after all she has done for me. I study abroad today because of this woman and I am the woman I am because of her and God forbid I dont appreciate that. If she asks for my head sef I will give her, she is growing old I must make sure she enjoys herself, giving birth to me alone the pain must have been horrible. The slap she will give me if i even say something like this ehn (lol, she says if i misbehave and she is 100 years old she will still slap me). because bisi is doing nonsense that is not approved that is why his mouth can run. God forbid I ever put my parents through what he put his parents through.God bless and nourish my mother and all parents out there that took care of their children. You are gems and irreplaceable dont let any foolish person tell you rubbish. I normally dont post on lindaikeji but this just pissed me off.

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  55. Na madness dey wori Bisi maggot Alimi. Hv better issues to waste my breath on.

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  56. Alimi is an attention seeker, so I don't give him (or is it her) much consideration. I am a father of two little kids, watching them grow and going thru different phases in their growth has made me to love and appreciate my parents more, even though they are both late. If you don't appreciate your parents when u are supposed to, don't expect same from your own children or grand children

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  57. Linda Ikeji, beware of Bisi Alimi & his disgusting life. Remember that it was Bisi Iyanda that ended the blossoming career of Funmi Iyanda;because she featured that buffoon. To be forewarned; Is to be forearmed.

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  58. How can any human write something like this? How can you not take care of your parents in their old age? True, you didn't beg them to have you, but they did, and they took care of you, sent you to school, and made you into the person you are today, and now that you have grown, you turn your back on them and leave them to their fate? No, that is the height of evil. No matter your economic status, for the fact that they saw you through you childhood, for the fact that they did not abandon you at some motherless babies home, you should be grateful. Yes, you shouldn't give your parents your entire salary with nothing left to cater for yourself, but at least something to help them get by. Most Christians pay tithe monthly to their churches, if you can pay tithe but cannot give back something to your parents every month, then you are wasting your time. Ask yourself if you were God, would you accept tithe from a person who has left their parents to starve? Every human owes it to their parents to cater for them in their old age as they are helpless, they did the same for you when you were young and helpless. No matter, your religion, status or creed, if you abandon your parents after all that they have done for you, then you are very selfish, and you are incurring a great curse upon yourself.

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  59. It is in the Bible, "You shall leave an inheritance for your Children's children, meaning you were meant to have inherited from your parents, build on that inheritance so you can allow your children and their own children enjoy their inheritance. So, it boils down to you as a person, your compassion and humanity. You now have to provide for your parents if they don't have but it is not compulsory or for you to kill yourself over. But the shame will be on you if you can't help your parents out.

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  60. He said and I quote "support them if you can". To add,go extra mile for them sometimes while you can as well not because its ur responsibility but well deserved and a way to repay their care, effort, love and kindness through the years.

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  61. Nigerians will never grow,we tend to be more emotional about life and everthing in general.she said the government has denied us all benefits and rights as citizens.leavin us as optional backup scheme like she said.in Europe when you get old the government takes care of you cause its included in your taxes either you like it or not,so you dont become bordens or problems for the societ or your children.its CALLED insurrance..mothers or fathers or children are both responsible for thierselvs.the goverment pays your bill as a child till you turn 25 year of age and you continue your life from there...i guess its not same economic plan and build up like ours..so before you misjudge her do well to be well informed.

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  62. I want to remain anonymous, no apologies or reason.......This bastard deserve to be lynched to death. Linda, for the sake of your young readers, please don't post such.....its sending the wrong message. (My own opinion). we Africans especially Nigerians love and cherish family especially parents. Almighty GOD stated it clearly in the bible. I don forget say the idiot no belive in GOD. That's why the bastard of a mother fucking ass hole go come here and open his dick sucking gay mouth and spit rubbish......I go inbox you my full name and address if the punk won locate me. I no dey hide or run , I gallant.......my mussels never fail me before and them no go fail me when I give am correct beat down!!! I don talk my own..am out

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