Dear LIB readers: my husband bought me a dildo to compliment his non-performance
From a female LIB reader
I got married six months ago to the man of my dreams. He is everything a woman wants in a man except that he is small 'down there'. Of course I knew he was small before I married him but I didn't give it too much attention as it was always complimented with his long stay. I started noticing that he doesn't go beyond 5 minutes during our honeymoon and that continued until I started drawing his attention to it. It went beyond drawing his attention to crying. Last weekend, he opened up to me that he was taking drugs to meet up but that the drugs are now affecting him so he had to stop. I felt betrayed and bitter. Had I known... anyway, he returned that evening and handed me a gift bag, I wondered how a gift would compliment his non performance only to realize the content. Lo and behold, it was a dildo! I became utterly resigned before he went on his knees and asked me to compliment him using the dildo. I am really confused. I don't know what to do or who to
talk to. My communication with him has never been the same since then and we've not made love.
Please help me share this for advice.
Ashawo. You know the answer already. You want big eggplant abi. Most guys with big eggplant know they have it and share it to all women. You have a good man. Do you think its easy for a naija man to buy you dildo? Abeg use it. Get creative in the bedroom, let down your guard. Teach him oral sex and your spots and let him use the dildo on you even. you will be shocked- Newyorker
All these super stories wey una dey siddon compose, come carry dey use disturb Lindiway and LIB readers. Wetin una dey expect sef??? You knew before marrying him so why complain now??? Linda take note!
All these super stories wey una dey siddon compose, come carry dey use disturb Lindiway and LIB readers. Wetin una dey expect sef??? You knew before marrying him so why complain now??? Linda take note!
Wow that's something, if only u gave serious thought before marrying him. I feel for you o. Just go with it, I am sure in time the drugs will start working. No matter what,dont cheat.
First of all he fucked up by using drugs.. Secondly, he shud reduce d intake of sugary tins.. He shud do more of native (herbal medicine) or origin bitters. Small down der does'nt mean he won't b able 2 perform well.
My dear.. Take him to men's clinic. Maybe it's a self esteem thing, which may have started when you drew his attn to it. And toss tht Dildo into the bin, or better still break it to bits.
Darling, if that is the only problem you have in your marriage, then you have no problem. The man has been humble enough to admit his shortcomings (no pun intended) and is willing to work with you. That man is a very rare Nigerian man; please cherish and work with him. Sex is not the beginning and end of happiness. Just imagine if you were very wide down or always dry down there or frigid - will you expect him to give up on you?
clarity needed pls, did u mean 5 secs or 5 min? Cos 5 min is a long time! And there is no point crying "wolf" now, you noticed the defect before marriage and decided to go on with! Grow up and stop being selfish!! The man was even trying to satisfy you by taking drugs. The most important thing here is, does he produce enough semen to impregnate you? If so, grab the dildo girl.
Hmmmm huge case, please don't hate him cause the moment u start thinking too much about it, ur feelings will depreciate and once that happens, you will start hating him &my dear if u end up in that realm, you are so going to have a big problem. Remember say na marriage and nt courtship. Start accepting the fact that he's got the biggest stuff down there and please do accept any measures introduced by him to satisfy you since he loves you so much and treats you with respect believe me that's something you can't get elsewhere no matter how hard u try. Am sure people also got married to men with small package' u might even be surprise to know that his size is bigger than some peeps too. And always remember the solid quote of marriage "for better for worst ". Your issue at hand now was also included. God Bless you ma'
He can be placed on a therapy that will increase the amount of blood supply to the penile muscles which in turn increases his organ during corpulation. It has little or no side effect, that is for size. As for duration, he should start by delaying ejaculation
Don't be inconsiderate, madam. What do you want him to do? Kill himself? You knew he had a small instrument before marriage and you went ahead. Don't you know those performance enhancing medications have side effects? Do you want to kill your husband?
And he's so sweet. Bought you, his wife, a dildo! He's thinking of your pleasure too. Few Nigerian men would do that!
Don't punish him. Both of you should use this gift to spice up your sex. Let him use it to pleasure you. He will even get more turned on seeing your pleasure. Who knows? It may achieve more than he intended. And you get long lasting sex, and keep your wonderful hubby.
He is small down there because your vagina has been overstretched beyond its elastic limit, stress/strain. Remain small make dem use am do phsyics practical.
He can be placed on a therapy that will increase the amount of blood supply to the penile muscles which in turn increases his organ during corpulation. It has little or no side effect, that is for size. As for duration, he should start by delaying ejaculation, reading sex knowledgeable books and watching practical videos. He can also attend sex school and see a councillor. My dear sex, is one of the true essence of marriage. You have to be patient with him. May God see u through
Madam there's nothing u can do since u are already married to him. To me using a dildo is better than cheating ur husband. There is nothing u can do as it stands now. I blame him for not reviewing his weakness earlier. Please forgive him if u truly love him. Don't look at d dildo as a compliment but take it as fun.
Mtscheeew! Abeg gerarahere mehn. You're both married, so what do you want us to advice you to do now? And you knew about this before you both got married.
you knew about his small dick n married him, now u r complaining..mtchew u never see anitin sef,i hope u dnt eventually cheat cuz from ur story u will someday
So what do you want to do??? Advice yourself madam Bcs I think he did well by getting you that dildo...so use it well,or do u wanna leave your marriage or go out with another guy? I know that if you were in his shoes he is likely to cheat with another woman...
My dear, u can't have it all, besides u hv signed an everlasting vow with him. Just pray to hv children to compliment d joy n pls I beg u to try as much as possible to share in his pains.
Well, dats no big deal. Its obvious he's doin all he can to make u hapi. U guys shuld make luv usin d dildo, its part of d 'bedroom experience' n den pray for God's intervention
To be honest wt u, Im sure it wasnt easy for him to decide on getting that dildo for but he did to improve ur sex life and to make you happy. I believe there no crime with using a dildo especially in this situation. If ur uncomfortable using it on urself, he should use it on u whenever ur having sex to complement the deficit.
This is my candid advice. You knew it that it was small down there before you married him. Permit me to say that you will have to endure to the end because divorce is not an opinion. Sometimes medications affect these types of men. Why not try herbal medicine, pray to God for intervention (nothing is impossible with God) or see a medical practitioner if required. But he owes you apologies for not telling you he was on some medications for this issue. Just forgive him, help him find a solution and move forward. There are many people with this condition out there.
Pls jst take it easy is a matter of time, give him some time and always pray about it. Pls let him tell you the truth about it. Sex is one of the ingredients of marriage. Follow it up. I wish u all the best of life.
U see life, she didn't ask d right questions, luv stroked by d alpha male built.... dere is more beneath d veil. Anyways sha, he got u a good toy for life...
This is evil coming from d man! If u where my sista, na divorce cos u bare already a widow living. The beauty of marriage has been robbed you off! Nwendidi The gods are not to blame Gab2shoessaysso
I honestly don't see what the big deal is. When ladies snatch a man with marriage, they'll now start putting out his inadequacies out. Very unfair. The one crying, get a life ho
Your husband needs to get involve in natural penis enlargement. He needs to buy a hydromax penis pump for thick penis and he also needs to buy the length master or the Phallosan or Size genetics penis extender for length. I went from small to huge within 2 years of constant penis exercises and diet. Google those words and thank me later.
What is this one blabbing? I am sure you are still single and have never been in a relationship because you don't know the power and need for sex in marriage.if you don't know what to say shut up,you must not comment.
What's causing all dis libido issues with married men lately? My dear, God ll help U in ur marriage. Under 6months only n dis is happening, chai. Kpele nne
I hope my comment is posted n I hope it matters too....Anyways dear,this matter shud've been addressed b4 marriage. First things first,throw that toy away,speak to him n find ways to work things out n improve ur sexual relations. Read articles on this subject too. My husband is small down there too but we enjoy each other by trying certain positions to make his D penetrate properly n as for the short time,u try to change positions and styles while he's at it so he can last longer in bed as in since u know he's gonna be done in 5,try to make d foreplay longer too.
Throw wish toy away?her husband has a good sense of humor, better manage God's gift to u and compliment it with the dildo,than looking for problem where there is non,....sex is not food,atleast he loves and cares for u and even respects up opinion,to even go to buy u dildo,.. or u think it's every man that has that time?(most will shut u up,and start monitoring up movement and even calling u sex addict,..so be wise,u ve got a good man there, don't take him for granted
Since you knew before marrying him then you should accept the gift and complement him. Don't just do it where he is. Guess it's better than cheating. God help you with that
He's your husband now dear and ders no turning back. It's obvious he loves u and he understands your need for satisfaction in bed. I'll advice u use it with him....make sure he's involved. Don't starve him also. Don't let sex be the reason u won't enjoy your marriage. God bless u
Please my dear, don't make use of that if truly you care and love your husband, because once you started using it, u won't have feelings for your husband and u will live to regret it, u better change his diet and be prayerful, God will perfect him for YOU okay
Marriage is for better for worst. True love is accepting your liver strength and weaknesses. Also pray, the God who create small can make it big and make it last longer for your sake. To pray, you know you have to believe in Jesus as your Lord and savoiur to get answered prayers.
As a fellow woman, i understand the importance of sex in marriage. First let me tell you this, you married the man you love, so ignore all negative thoughts this realization will bring because there is no going back. Look at the bright side of things. Your husband is amazing. He cares about you and wants you to have a very satisfactory sex life. Trust me, some men really won't care. He is even open to toys and all. Learn how to use them to bring life and total enjoyment to the bedroom and your sex life. Remember, you will enjoy this better because he is in this too. You can buy as much as you want and he will help you use it. Read about them and open your mind.
Please, do not abandon the needs of your husband too because you can get addicted, that's why it is important to enjoy this together. Spicing up this part of your marriage together. Keep it private. Whatever you do, please keep this private.
You are married. No going back. Enjoy the ride......Together.
Dear poster, take this advice and cherish it,cos it's the best. Sex is important, in fact highly important but making ur young marriage work is the ultimate. Tell ur hubby to use it on you when you are both in the mood and then when you are satisfied,he can now make love to you thereby balancing the equation. Goodluck.
Marriages hardly last now a days all because of one thing. It is not built on God. People would have sex themselves uncountable time b4 marriage. And the expect God blessing is not easy. Let's all repent so that God can bless our marriage. My dad say 'don't eat your tomorrow today, ( because you can't eat your cake and have it) best of luck though, and may God forgive us.
True, I was touched he went down on his knees to ask you to use the dildo, do u have any idea how much pain he is feeling from not being able to satisfy u, for him to result to buying you a toy, he must love u dearly, dear he is more worried about it than you are, this has crushed his pride as a man, you have no idea how he must be feeling inside. They are medical solutions to this sort of problem, so both of you should see a doctor. N Pls make love to your man, toy shouldn't replace him. Talk to him.
Chai! ndo. he should better go see a herbalist or a doctor or whatever... either way, "solidarity forverrr"..lol it has to work o. dildo ke? u be lesbian? ah
Tell your husband to stop taking sugar, he should take more of banana, vegetables and fruits, it will help revitalise his performance. He should also stop been anxious when ever he wants to make love to you, that way he can stay up to an hour or more without using viagra. Viagra is not the solution to not lasting long.
So so sad dear..... BT I think u love him not his d**k or sex.....wat is important is if he can impregnate you.... then u are gud to go.... Remember wat d bible says dat love coverth all thing....
I think he did d right thing, accept n make use of d dildo, u can hv him use it on u wen making love fr a longer n more satisfying pleasure. I'm sure he will do anything to make up
There is nothing wrong in you expressing yourself,communication is very key in marriage. for me i will accept it and get use to it,that's one of the tins u encounter in marriage,it comes with diff challenges,its a container,it comes with good and bad markets which you will have to accept. or u want to opt out? Aw bout u meet a man with a long dick and but cannot take kia of u and still abuse you physically but you get satisfied with sex,my dear u cannot ave it all in marriage. been sexually satisfied is also key.As per your communication level now i advise you both seat and talk about it.
Its really sad to see people pass through this issues in marriage. I advise you seek the services of a therapist and also go down on your knees and pray to God. Meanwhile, you can finds helpful tips online that will help. God bless you and see you through.
Tell your husband to eat solid food like unripe plantain, eba and also stop the intake of sugar. Sugar kills performance. If your pussy is also too big, try and do something about it. No one enjoys too big a pussy, even guys with big dick don't like too large a pussy.
Men.mine own bought it to use with different girls he takes to hotel to satisfy is sexual needs.saw one in his car and he ordered another.that is what women see in marriage,
You should be happy that he accepted his problem, I will advise you to allow him use the dildo on you and you will get the satisfaction you want. Enjoy your marriage and stop complaining.
Women!women!!women!!! how many times i call u?Let your man sample you wella before going to marriage,this is 2015 not 1942,see what one of your sister is facing now
Sex is food in marriage oh, when you are a single lady,you have options of going to different guys to unburden ur emotional and sexual stress but marriage closes such options, so the man must be up and doing. If it's not more than food,why then do married men and women cheat?
Madam, I think your husband loves you and he really wants you to get the desired satisfaction. Imagine if your last option was to get a Dildo and you couldn't because you don't know how your husband will feel. But you now have it from him, so appreciate him. And enjoy your marriage.
well if u love him u gotta stay with him. Fuck urself with the dildo, u ain't got no choice hoe... u also forgot to mention he's very rich that's why u married him.. thots be complaining these days.. smh
You are a stupid woman to bring your marital issues to this blog for total strangers to discuss.Your husband am sure, would never expose you to the public like this if you had issues you deal with. The people who would advise you on this blog have issues of their own if not worse.
I wonder how hurt your husband would feel when he sees this post(i am assuming you guys are a normal couple).I have no words for you but to let you know you have failed as a wife.
Anon 2:14 pm, thank u... Please madam tell ur husband to be exercising himself every morning by running, also tell him to be taking fruit mostly orange, also beer wit ur husband madam.
Ur comment is nothing but bullshit. Who are you to tell her that she failed? Would you rather she discusses the issue with his parent or siblings? This forum is faceless and I am sure there are other people in this dilemma that will learn from it. It's because of self righteous people like u that people faced with challenges would rather commit suicide or become depressed than open up and be helped.
Nnena you area fucking retard no brain you urslf are a failure as a Woman wat if she doesn't have people t ask??did she mention anyone's name nnena the foolish fool
Hmmmm, this is sad especially as he lied to you all along. Well, all I can say is that marriage isn't all about sex even though it's the most important ingredient. Forgive him but don't leave him. You have him in you wings and he can never fly away. Love him and bring out the best in him. Trust God to heal him and you will be amazed. Best of luck
if you really love him just acccept him the way he is afterall u knew he was small down there before u agreed to marry him. use the dildo to compliment his non performance and life goes on
Stop being naive, couples do supplement their love life with sex toys. Variety is the spice of life. You said he lasted 5 mins when in action. That is a long time just wondering why u r complaining.
U complain her found a solution, why don't you just make use of the solution the right way and enjoy him thru the dildo... and if u want sperm he can pour it in!!
Dis is a very touching. I won't advice u to leave ur hubby bcos of his small manhood bc u knw already b4 accepting his proposal. U hv to accept him de way he is cos is nt his fault. And don't worsen d issuing by complaing to pple or friends cos they will not profer solution. So far he is not impotent. Beta luv and care for ur man biko. *My opinion*
Dear poster,sex in marriage is not what you can manage....girls please take note! We act so desperate to marry and tend to forget one of the most important thing in marriage.....SEX. Its hard to manage sex in marriage. You cant compliment it! Am so sorry you find yourself in this situation,something can be done. He should visit a good fertility clinic,they deal with issues like this! And please pray to God for His Grace,this issue can destroy marriage!
Sorry, he is your cross, carry it. U can help by praying to God to give him natural ability to stay long instead of 5 minutes. As a Christian I don't think u should use d dildo. Please be a bit patient with Ur husband it will improve. I assure u it will. I'm talking from experience. Peace.
Sorry, he is your cross, carry it. U can help by praying to God to give him natural ability to stay long instead of 5 minutes. As a Christian I don't think u should use d dildo. Please be a bit patient with Ur husband it will improve. I assure u it will. I'm talking from experience. Peace.
inasmuch as we know sex and love are two different things,they both affect each other simultaneously..this affects him more than it affects you bt he has accepted it thatway,he never planed to be dis way, so i say meet him halfway,accept it & make him use it on you..you never can tell the joy you both may derive from that..its more abt working together we all are never perfect..
Madam this is serious issue,first u need to endure secondly check ur man .does ur husband drinks bear? If yes what brand,alchol weaking manwood .if he can Do without it tel him to take 33,of agbo
Leaving him is out of thevquestion. Remember that "till death do us part" line? Yup, that one. You'll just have to endure and engage in a lot of foreplay before the act so u are so close by the time he is ready. Using drugs for an extended period can be very harmful cos of the chemical content. Why don't you try supplements which are natural with no chemical content. Hit me on 0909 -1682 -800 if u decide to go that route.
These are some of the things that makes marriage scary. Everything is about sex sex sex and sex, ah!. Please people should look for alternatives forms of happiness. Everything is not marriage abeg. Even if you want to raise children, have you not seen children who grow up to despise their old parents after all the sufferings the parents endured to provide for them. PLEASE LETS STOP GETTING MARRIED. THE WAHALA TOO MUCH. EVERYBODY SHOULD JUST FIND HIS OR HER LEVEL. IMAGINE YOUR WIFE OR HUSBAND BECOMING UNFAITHFUL BECAUSE OF THE ALMIGHTY "SEX". ABEG!!! E DON DO.
You were too wide and deep yet he married you instead of looking for a tighter pushy yet you complain. My dear wide toto, we didn't leave our wives or complain when their vaginas became slack due to child birth.
hello dear, first of all i sympathize with you- with all the things that are going through your mind and how you must feel at the moment. Be strong, there is a way out. i read your story twice and very careful so as to get both sides-even if the story is one sided- and to really understand.these are your major points(if i am not mistaken): 1. he is small(down there) 2. he does not last up to 5 mins(which you noticed during the honeymoon) 3. he bought a dildo to compensate for his inability.
Having a small penis has been medically and physically proven to make no difference in love making he's inability to last for up to 5 min needs to be looked at carefully, thank God he stopped the enhancement drugs. the two of you needs the counsel of a qualified personnel to sensitize you two on this because it might be a health problem looking at his last action simply states that he truly loves you,he still wants you in his life, he wants the relationship to work. its not easy but try to love and support him, he was born with whatever he has down there and seek professional help now because its clear you also want your relationship to work. lovemaking is very important in a marriage , so is communication. communicate with each other to find out the issues n deal with it. may God be with you both and keep your union blissful
Divorce is never an option especially if u are a christian. i do not believe that just that should lead to divorce. Peradventure any one is advising that, please do not heed to it. Until we understand that sexual pleasure is not the sole purpose of marriage, we might not ever be satisfied. Yes that is only a part of it but not the sole purpose. Every marriage must be purpose driven. Using a dildo will be masturbating so please pray well and seek counselling from marriage counselors and from those in the medical field too. God have mercy. Do not put up an attitude towards him because of this please. He too must be embarrassed by the situation so nagging or not communicating effectively could just be making things worse.... Hope this gets posted.
He knew you had a wide vagina yet he married you. Instead of being grateful, you complain. Even if you had married a man with a big dick, after three kids, he would become inadequate for you. Do your keggel instead of blaming your slack pushy on him.
He knew you had a wide vagina yet he married you. Instead of being grateful, you complain. Even if you had married a man with a big dick, after three kids, he would become inadequate for you. Do your keggel instead of blaming your slack pussy on him.
I THINK SOME WOMEN HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH SEXUAL SATISFACTION. THEIR REAL PROBLEM IS ENVY. AS LONG AS YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH CONTENTMENT, THERE WILL ALWAYS BE AN EXCUSE TO HATE WHAT YOU HAVE. NO MATTER THE MAN YOU ARE GIVEN, ONE DAY YOU WILL ALWAYS MEET ANOTHER MAN WHO IS FINER AND YOU BEGIN TO ENVY THE WOMAN WHO GOT THAT ONE. YOU NOW RETURN HOME WITH ALL KINDS OF MOOD SWINGS AND YOUR POOR HUSBAND WILL NOT KNOW THE REAL PROBLEM BEHIND YOUR MOODS.
I THINK SOME WOMEN HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH SEXUAL SATISFACTION. THEIR REAL PROBLEM IS ENVY. AS LONG AS YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH CONTENTMENT, THERE WILL ALWAYS BE AN EXCUSE TO HATE WHAT YOU HAVE. NO MATTER THE MAN YOU ARE GIVEN, ONE DAY YOU WILL ALWAYS MEET ANOTHER MAN WHO IS FINER AND YOU BEGIN TO ENVY THE WOMAN WHO GOT THAT ONE. YOU NOW RETURN HOME WITH ALL KINDS OF MOOD SWINGS AND YOUR POOR HUSBAND WILL NOT KNOW THE REAL PROBLEM BEHIND YOUR MOODS.
Anxiety is d reason he doesn't last in you. Please u guys can work it out, a lot of foreplay before thinking of penetration. Also try and be happy and psychologically satisfied with your man. I have a friend whose husband is quite big down there but she doesn't see it, as in the guy doesn't touch her, he shares it outside. At least your man loves u enough to care.
I THINK SOME WOMEN HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH SEXUAL SATISFACTION. THEIR REAL PROBLEM IS ENVY. AS LONG AS YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH CONTENTMENT, THERE WILL ALWAYS BE AN EXCUSE TO HATE WHAT YOU HAVE. NO MATTER THE MAN YOU ARE GIVEN, ONE DAY YOU WILL ALWAYS MEET ANOTHER MAN WHO IS FINER AND YOU BEGIN TO ENVY THE WOMAN WHO GOT THAT ONE. YOU NOW RETURN HOME WITH ALL KINDS OF MOOD SWINGS AND YOUR POOR HUSBAND WILL NOT KNOW THE REAL PROBLEM BEHIND YOUR MOODS.
my dear sister ,please just take it easy for him most of all this guys now that is they major problem now but what you need to do both of you should visit a doctor for you to have children ,and a marriage counselling God will help your home
Think about it this way, if ur husband had married a virgin, she wouldn't have complained cos she wouldn't know d difference. So please bear with him and make the most of what you have, he seems like a nice guy. With time you will get used to him, and the memories of d difference you've experienced will gradually disappear. No matter what you do, don't try another, even in form of a dildo, it won't help. It will only make u look for a different size
You really need to stick by him now. Buying you a dildo shows he understands what you are going through, now you must help him get through his issue, afterall you are the one who'll reap the benefits. Lots of resource online, read and find a solution. When there is a will there is a way.
Woman! It's all ur 4th, if only ur husband met u a virgin, u would not having been complaining about d size of his penis. Am sure u've slept with so many men, for u to be complaining about his manhood. Carry ur cross. Take rope n sew dat shit u call p***y
Well, he loves you and wouldn't want you to have sex outside your home that's why he bought the dildo but you misunderstood him bcos he felt you are matured enough to know what he's going through and bear with him when it last cos na so developed world dey do, some funny men will tell you to have sex outdoors to satisfy your urge instead of them making you to suffer cos of them.
The problem here is not small penis but poor erection most likely high sugar rate but there are many ways to combat weak erection; herbal remedies will improve blood flow to the penis to help erections become hard. Herbs may also improve penis control, size, and girth. Other ways to battle weak erections are through disciplined techniques used to strengthen the penis and improve ejaculation control.
At the moment, neglecting him will make him be suicidal cos an impotent man thinks as if he's a dead man living. Kindly get close to him, assist him in looking for solutions by checking his level of sugar rate before going to ER, don't get angry with him cos he can't perform just be mature and tell him you don't like sex toys that when you eventually get use to them it will expose you more to adulterous life. It happens to many homes and sex is not everything. Tell am make e dey drink honey mixed with grated carrot and boiled egg daily for two months or make e go South Africa a lot of erection remedies dey their pharmacy's cos South African men like too much sugar and beer/alcohol so erection na their biggest problem.
Yeah 5 is along time..it only follows your mind set to enjoy sex in marriage... Pressure from you could affect his libido and sex urge won't come forth anylonger..I once experienced that from my wife..not until we gave it a break. Your man can regain his sex stride if u give him the desired confidence to do so.. God bless your marriage
from a married woman love him as he loves u good men are hard to find. use d dildo together...would probably be the best sex of ur life. be open to toys and do it together. will strengthen yalls relationship. and he'll know u love him.its for better or worse
You don't have any other choice than to manage. You just got married 6 months ago and you are already complaining. My husband doesn't last too long either but I enjoy him because he has a very nice size and I love him, he turns me on. Sometimes it's sensitivity and the sweetness that makes them cum fast, some days you both should alternate with the use of a condom to reduce sensitivity. He should also change his diet, exercise and see a doctor. If possible support and go with him. Let sex not be the reason for you to ruin your marriage
I really don't blame him that much he must have thought about it a lot so that was the only option that came to his mind to avoid u cheat on him,forgive him and look for a solution with him.commit ur marriage into the hands of God and finally goodluck
Your husband loves you deeply. Don't hurt his ego by acting weird around him because of his seeming lack of sex staying power. Talk to him about how hurt you feel about him not telling you before hand of his staying power issues. After he has apologized, work as a team to figure out how you both can make your sex world rock despite the limitations. Seek professional help as well...very important. Remember, you must not make him feel inferior as regards this.
Well! The best advice for u my lady is to help him enlarge.. when u start having children it's going to be worse becos of how loose u are gonna get down there.. so biko help him get bigger! Don't sit down n wait for God to enlarge it for u.. face reality, magic don't just happen.. try the safest way to make him bigger..thank u
Hey Poster.. Hmmmnnn I am not married but I wanna advise you. I want you to be happy cos I feel you have a man who cares about your feelings. I sincerely hope you read this. First of all, do not use a dildo. Tell your husband to destroy it but do this in love. Don't make him feel incompetent as he already is cos this can also make him anxious which can later affect his performance. I will say speak to God first cos He answers prayers. Secondly, pls go for medical help, try and search for natural solutions online but do not let him use drugs for this, they have adverse effects. There are several things to do in the bedroom, that is why you have your hands, your lips, your tongue, pls use these things. He might be small but he has erection right? Dats fantastic. Ensure you guys focus more on foreplay and the touching....kissing.. such that you are almost reaching or even already climaxed before he penetrates. You can definitely make this work dear. Avoid talking to people cos they will advise you wrongly.. Please focus on how to make it work. TA ta
He should take Viagra and do the work wella !!!!! Lol
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ReplyDeleteI think the dildo is not the best option.
ReplyDeleteMaybe visit the doctor together and ask for help.
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ReplyDeleteMy Advice? Use It!!! a stitch in time,saves nine...
ReplyDeleteYou paid no much concern then abt the size, so why complained now, remember is for better for worse abi hw dem take talk am again
ReplyDeleteSize doesn't matter, usage does... Trust me.
ReplyDeleteAshawo. You know the answer already. You want big eggplant abi. Most guys with big eggplant know they have it and share it to all women. You have a good man. Do you think its easy for a naija man to buy you dildo? Abeg use it. Get creative in the bedroom, let down your guard. Teach him oral sex and your spots and let him use the dildo on you even. you will be shocked- Newyorker
ReplyDeleteSerious matter
ReplyDeleteNonsense! !!!!.....you lucky sey e no give you cucumber wey cheap instead of dildo, afterall you like it big
ReplyDeleteNonsense! !!!!.....you lucky sey e no give you cucumber wey cheap instead of dildo, afterall you like it big
ReplyDeleteNonsense! !!!!.....you lucky sey e no give you cucumber wey cheap instead of dildo, afterall you like it big
ReplyDeleteAhh dis issue got me speechless oh sorry madam
ReplyDeleteAll these super stories wey una dey siddon compose, come carry dey use disturb Lindiway and LIB readers. Wetin una dey expect sef??? You knew before marrying him so why complain now??? Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteYou could hire me for home service...... We will discus the pay when we see....... Jor oh
ReplyDeleteAll these super stories wey una dey siddon compose, come carry dey use disturb Lindiway and LIB readers. Wetin una dey expect sef??? You knew before marrying him so why complain now??? Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteWow that's something, if only u gave serious thought before marrying him. I feel for you o. Just go with it, I am sure in time the drugs will start working. No matter what,dont cheat.
ReplyDeleteAh the man no get prick nii?u no date am before you marry am?if u no date am file for divorce sharp!
ReplyDeleteHmmmm!
ReplyDeleteckjacob.blogspot.com for fiction stories
You gotta accept ur fate . God be with u
ReplyDeleteFirst of all he fucked up by using drugs.. Secondly, he shud reduce d intake of sugary tins.. He shud do more of native (herbal medicine) or origin bitters. Small down der does'nt mean he won't b able 2 perform well.
ReplyDeleteNawa o this serious
ReplyDeleteNawa o this serious
ReplyDeletePlz he should go for treatment
ReplyDeleteAuntylindagoddaughter
My dear.. Take him to men's clinic.
ReplyDeleteMaybe it's a self esteem thing, which may have started when you drew his attn to it.
And toss tht Dildo into the bin, or better still break it to bits.
Darling, if that is the only problem you have in your marriage, then you have no problem. The man has been humble enough to admit his shortcomings (no pun intended) and is willing to work with you. That man is a very rare Nigerian man; please cherish and work with him. Sex is not the beginning and end of happiness. Just imagine if you were very wide down or always dry down there or frigid - will you expect him to give up on you?
ReplyDeleteclarity needed pls, did u mean 5 secs or 5 min? Cos 5 min is a long time! And there is no point crying "wolf" now, you noticed the defect before marriage and decided to go on with! Grow up and stop being selfish!! The man was even trying to satisfy you by taking drugs. The most important thing here is, does he produce enough semen to impregnate you? If so, grab the dildo girl.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm huge case, please don't hate him cause the moment u start thinking too much about it, ur feelings will depreciate and once that happens, you will start hating him &my dear if u end up in that realm, you are so going to have a big problem. Remember say na marriage and nt courtship. Start accepting the fact that he's got the biggest stuff down there and please do accept any measures introduced by him to satisfy you since he loves you so much and treats you with respect believe me that's something you can't get elsewhere no matter how hard u try. Am sure people also got married to men with small package' u might even be surprise to know that his size is bigger than some peeps too. And always remember the solid quote of marriage "for better for worst ". Your issue at hand now was also included. God Bless you ma'
ReplyDeleteBoth of u should see a doctor and counsellor.
ReplyDeleteHe can be placed on a therapy that will increase the amount of blood supply to the penile muscles which in turn increases his organ during corpulation. It has little or no side effect, that is for size. As for duration, he should start by delaying ejaculation
ReplyDeleteYour husband is kind-hearted....accept it with all pleasure and stop complaining....you knew b4 now so bear it , hon.
ReplyDeleteDon't be inconsiderate, madam. What do you want him to do? Kill himself? You knew he had a small instrument before marriage and you went ahead. Don't you know those performance enhancing medications have side effects? Do you want to kill your husband?
ReplyDeleteAnd he's so sweet. Bought you, his wife, a dildo! He's thinking of your pleasure too. Few Nigerian men would do that!
Don't punish him. Both of you should use this gift to spice up your sex. Let him use it to pleasure you. He will even get more turned on seeing your pleasure. Who knows? It may achieve more than he intended. And you get long lasting sex, and keep your wonderful hubby.
From a married Nigerian woman.
My Gf calls me " odogu " in English it means strong. She says am to complete. Engr Emy
ReplyDeleteHe is small down there because your vagina has been overstretched beyond its elastic limit, stress/strain. Remain small make dem use am do phsyics practical.
ReplyDeleteCheat on him with me...
ReplyDeleteFor-better-for-worst, you have a glimpse of idea before you went on to marry him. You must bear it.
ReplyDeleteWHAT HAVE YOU BEEN LOOKING AND IT SEEMS THAT THERE IS NO HOP... CLICK
He can be placed on a therapy that will increase the amount of blood supply to the penile muscles which in turn increases his organ during corpulation. It has little or no side effect, that is for size. As for duration, he should start by delaying ejaculation, reading sex knowledgeable books and watching practical videos. He can also attend sex school and see a councillor. My dear sex, is one of the true essence of marriage. You have to be patient with him. May God see u through
ReplyDeleteHmm.
ReplyDeleteMadam there's nothing u can do since u are already married to him. To me using a dildo is better than cheating ur husband. There is nothing u can do as it stands now. I blame him for not reviewing his weakness earlier. Please forgive him if u truly love him. Don't look at d dildo as a compliment but take it as fun.
ReplyDeleteLike seriously?hmmm
ReplyDeleteTalk to Jesus. Yes its betrayal of a sort but let's focus on way forward.
ReplyDeleteMtscheeew! Abeg gerarahere mehn.
ReplyDeleteYou're both married, so what do you want us to advice you to do now?
And you knew about this before you both got married.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA
This is the worst place to ask for advice. All they'll do is just abuse u
ReplyDeleteyou knew about his small dick n married him, now u r complaining..mtchew u never see anitin sef,i hope u dnt eventually cheat cuz from ur story u will someday
ReplyDeleteThink you need to explore other ways he can satisfy you without the small dude down there. You both have to make this work without a dildo.
ReplyDeleteSo what do you want to do??? Advice yourself madam Bcs I think he did well by getting you that dildo...so use it well,or do u wanna leave your marriage or go out with another guy? I know that if you were in his shoes he is likely to cheat with another woman...
ReplyDeleteMy dear, u can't have it all, besides u hv signed an everlasting vow with him. Just pray to hv children to compliment d joy n pls I beg u to try as much as possible to share in his pains.
ReplyDeleteWell, dats no big deal. Its obvious he's doin all he can to make u hapi. U guys shuld make luv usin d dildo, its part of d 'bedroom experience' n den pray for God's intervention
ReplyDeleteTo be honest wt u, Im sure it wasnt easy for him to decide on getting that dildo for but he did to improve ur sex life and to make you happy. I believe there no crime with using a dildo especially in this situation. If ur uncomfortable using it on urself, he should use it on u whenever ur having sex to complement the deficit.
ReplyDeleteChai..!!...see gobe.....Me no get advise oo
ReplyDeleteRather than using dildo, She had better get serviced outside with real dick.
ReplyDeleteRather than using dildo, She had better get serviced outside with real dick.
ReplyDeleteWow! Enjoy! It is good for you fool!
ReplyDeleteAccept it in good faith
ReplyDeleteWell her tried, he didn't hide it or try to be proud about it. But what if your husband reads LIB, you know how betrayed he would feel?!
ReplyDeleteAccept it
ReplyDeleteThis is my candid advice. You knew it that it was small down there before you married him. Permit me to say that you will have to endure to the end because divorce is not an opinion. Sometimes medications affect these types of men. Why not try herbal medicine, pray to God for intervention (nothing is impossible with God) or see a medical practitioner if required. But he owes you apologies for not telling you he was on some medications for this issue. Just forgive him, help him find a solution and move forward. There are many people with this condition out there.
ReplyDeleteDis is pretty hard but since he admits he's got a problem, u ve to be his strongest support system n live him more dan eva
DeleteSo u want 3 hrs man. Na Indian film. This is definitely an idle house wife
DeletePls jst take it easy is a matter of time,
Deletegive him some time and always pray about it. Pls let him tell you the truth about it. Sex is one of the ingredients of marriage. Follow it up. I wish u all the best of life.
i am crying deep down........just manage am
ReplyDeleteU see life, she didn't ask d right questions, luv stroked by d alpha male built.... dere is more beneath d veil. Anyways sha, he got u a good toy for life...
DeleteThis is evil coming from d man! If u where my sista, na divorce cos u bare already a widow living. The beauty of marriage has been robbed you off! Nwendidi
The gods are not to blame
Gab2shoessaysso
I honestly don't see what the big deal is. When ladies snatch a man with marriage, they'll now start putting out his inadequacies out. Very unfair.
DeleteThe one crying, get a life ho
Your husband needs to get involve in natural penis enlargement. He needs to buy a hydromax penis pump for thick penis and he also needs to buy the length master or the Phallosan or Size genetics penis extender for length. I went from small to huge within 2 years of constant penis exercises and diet. Google those words and thank me later.
ReplyDeleteDude nothing like penis enlargement. Its all scam.
DeleteMust u have sex all the time. U people can do with Romance. Dnt allow your Marriage to collapse because of Sex
ReplyDeleteGud talk. Sex is important but not everything. Explore various ways of getting satisfied. There's more to marriage than sex
DeletePlease divorce him. There are lots of single ladies that are waiting to replace u.
DeleteWhat is this one blabbing? I am sure you are still single and have never been in a relationship because you don't know the power and need for sex in marriage.if you don't know what to say shut up,you must not comment.
Deleteyou are married to him so you will have to face it like that after all is not food
ReplyDeleteMy dear, carry your cross. It's unfortunate but most men lie to get you to marry them. Unfortunately yours is sex.
ReplyDeleteNawaoo, hmm, am just speechless
ReplyDeleteWhat's causing all dis libido issues with married men lately? My dear, God ll help U in ur marriage. Under 6months only n dis is happening, chai. Kpele nne
ReplyDeleteUbanagum
Na 3rd mainland bridge traffic and unstable economy cause am. Make una bear with us
DeleteSolution to healthy sex life is simple. Good diet and regular exercise.
DeleteI hope my comment is posted n I hope it matters too....Anyways dear,this matter shud've been addressed b4 marriage. First things first,throw that toy away,speak to him n find ways to work things out n improve ur sexual relations. Read articles on this subject too. My husband is small down there too but we enjoy each other by trying certain positions to make his D penetrate properly n as for the short time,u try to change positions and styles while he's at it so he can last longer in bed as in since u know he's gonna be done in 5,try to make d foreplay longer too.
ReplyDeleteThrow wish toy away?her husband has a good sense of humor, better manage God's gift to u and compliment it with the dildo,than looking for problem where there is non,....sex is not food,atleast he loves and cares for u and even respects up opinion,to even go to buy u dildo,.. or u think it's every man that has that time?(most will shut u up,and start monitoring up movement and even calling u sex addict,..so be wise,u ve got a good man there, don't take him for granted
DeleteYou are not married to a dilido so your husband must be very confused... And pls don't use it... See a doctor
ReplyDeleteOKORO UPGRADED**
funny GOD help u
ReplyDeleteSince you knew before marrying him then you should accept the gift and complement him. Don't just do it where he is. Guess it's better than cheating. God help you with that
ReplyDeleteYou might have to stick with him o, since he is perfect otherwise! The devil you know and all that. Just be gentle with him and his feelings.
ReplyDeletefunny GOD help u
ReplyDeleteHe's your husband now dear and ders no turning back. It's obvious he loves u and he understands your need for satisfaction in bed. I'll advice u use it with him....make sure he's involved. Don't starve him also. Don't let sex be the reason u won't enjoy your marriage. God bless u
DeleteJust as you said you knew his size before you married him, either you tell him to help u use the dildo during your lovemaking or u divorce him
ReplyDeleteJust as you said you knew his size before you married him, either you tell him to help u use the dildo during your lovemaking or u divorce him
ReplyDeleteDo you mind being my girl friend? I'll be doing the job for him
ReplyDeleteHAHAHA COME LET ME TAKE YOU TO ONE BABA..HE WILL STAY 4HURS THAT TIME NAH U GO CRY.
ReplyDeleteLol.. I'm having a good day of laughter.
DeleteHmmmmmm this is a serious issue my sister you need to gi for couples tarapy!!!JC
ReplyDeleteYou love sex too much
ReplyDeleteIt's lik ur high abi???love sex ko love basketball ni 4 a man to buy dildo 4 his wife..it means he is error! Maybe u guys shld see a therapist
DeleteOde, ho, why were dildos made?
DeleteYou love sex too much
ReplyDeleteOK OO
ReplyDeleteNa wah o.
ReplyDeletePlease my dear, don't make use of that if truly you care and love your husband, because once you started using it, u won't have feelings for your husband and u will live to regret it, u better change his diet and be prayerful, God will perfect him for YOU okay
ReplyDeleteNice comment!not d fools on dis blog!!!
DeleteLie
DeleteWill prayer make it grow? She needs a solution
DeletePele oo. It's well
ReplyDeleteMARRIAGE IS FOR BETTER OR WORSE, ENDURE!
ReplyDeleteSome endurance can drive u mental.. u mean suffer!
DeleteJust 6 months and it is this bad! i wonder how far this journey will go
ReplyDeleteCan I just say that if the roles were reversed most people would insult the man. Poster accept your husband. If you're a sex goddess teach him well.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is for better for worst. True love is accepting your liver strength and weaknesses. Also pray, the God who create small can make it big and make it last longer for your sake. To pray, you know you have to believe in Jesus as your Lord and savoiur to get answered prayers.
ReplyDeletePls come an meet me go give u all wat u want. Linda pls take note. Osama say so
ReplyDeleteDear girl,
ReplyDeleteAs a fellow woman, i understand the importance of sex in marriage. First let me tell you this, you married the man you love, so ignore all negative thoughts this realization will bring because there is no going back. Look at the bright side of things. Your husband is amazing. He cares about you and wants you to have a very satisfactory sex life. Trust me, some men really won't care. He is even open to toys and all. Learn how to use them to bring life and total enjoyment to the bedroom and your sex life. Remember, you will enjoy this better because he is in this too. You can buy as much as you want and he will help you use it. Read about them and open your mind.
Please, do not abandon the needs of your husband too because you can get addicted, that's why it is important to enjoy this together. Spicing up this part of your marriage together. Keep it private. Whatever you do, please keep this private.
You are married. No going back. Enjoy the ride......Together.
Crystal
Very nice comment
DeleteDear poster, take this advice and cherish it,cos it's the best. Sex is important, in fact highly important but making ur young marriage work is the ultimate. Tell ur hubby to use it on you when you are both in the mood and then when you are satisfied,he can now make love to you thereby balancing the equation. Goodluck.
DeleteCool advice. Also, he needs to seek medical attention cos ED is deadly.
DeleteMarriages hardly last now a days all because of one thing. It is not built on God. People would have sex themselves uncountable time b4 marriage. And the expect God blessing is not easy. Let's all repent so that God can bless our marriage. My dad say 'don't eat your tomorrow today, ( because you can't eat your cake and have it) best of luck though, and may God forgive us.
DeleteThere are still a few reasonable people on did blog. Kudos and God bless
DeleteVery good advice!
DeleteTrue, I was touched he went down on his knees to ask you to use the dildo, do u have any idea how much pain he is feeling from not being able to satisfy u, for him to result to buying you a toy, he must love u dearly, dear he is more worried about it than you are, this has crushed his pride as a man, you have no idea how he must be feeling inside. They are medical solutions to this sort of problem, so both of you should see a doctor. N Pls make love to your man, toy shouldn't replace him. Talk to him.
DeleteHmmm ask him to be involved. Meaning he should be the one to use it on you
ReplyDeleteBest comment
DeleteWow. This one pass me
ReplyDeletemARRIAGE IS FOR BETTER OR WORSE! ENDURE!
ReplyDeleteChai! ndo. he should better go see a herbalist or a doctor or whatever... either way, "solidarity forverrr"..lol it has to work o. dildo ke? u be lesbian? ah
ReplyDeleteTell your husband to stop taking sugar, he should take more of banana, vegetables and fruits, it will help revitalise his performance. He should also stop been anxious when ever he wants to make love to you, that way he can stay up to an hour or more without using viagra. Viagra is not the solution to not lasting long.
ReplyDeleteSo so sad dear..... BT I think u love him not his d**k or sex.....wat is important is if he can impregnate you.... then u are gud to go.... Remember wat d bible says dat love coverth all thing....
ReplyDeleteWould love to help your husband. Reach out to me
ReplyDeleteI think he did d right thing, accept n make use of d dildo, u can hv him use it on u wen making love fr a longer n more satisfying pleasure. I'm sure he will do anything to make up
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong in you expressing yourself,communication is very key in marriage.
ReplyDeletefor me i will accept it and get use to it,that's one of the tins u encounter in marriage,it comes with diff challenges,its a container,it comes with good and bad markets which you will have to accept.
or u want to opt out?
Aw bout u meet a man with a long dick and but cannot take kia of u and still abuse you physically but you get satisfied with sex,my dear u cannot ave it all in marriage.
been sexually satisfied is also key.As per your communication level now i advise you both seat and talk about it.
Its really sad to see people pass through this issues in marriage. I advise you seek the services of a therapist and also go down on your knees and pray to God. Meanwhile, you can finds helpful tips online that will help. God bless you and see you through.
ReplyDeleteTell your husband to eat solid food like unripe plantain, eba and also stop the intake of sugar. Sugar kills performance. If your pussy is also too big, try and do something about it. No one enjoys too big a pussy, even guys with big dick don't like too large a pussy.
ReplyDeleteAt least he made an effort, some will ignore that you have need.
ReplyDeleteMen.mine own bought it to use with different girls he takes to hotel to satisfy is sexual needs.saw one in his car and he ordered another.that is what women see in marriage,
ReplyDeleteDE THNGS OUR MEN DO..IF IT WAS A WOMAN NOW HE WUD VE SOO BLAME HER FOR NOT BEING HONEST....TOMJERRYSWIT
ReplyDeleteYou should be happy that he accepted his problem, I will advise you to allow him use the dildo on you and you will get the satisfaction you want. Enjoy your marriage and stop complaining.
ReplyDeleteU just have to bear with him dear.. marriage is sometimes not a bed of roses. Whatever u see in it, u just have to accept and move on..
ReplyDeleteBe content or pack out let me enter cos my eye is red...I'm not smiling. Globela B.
ReplyDeleteBe content or pack out let me enter cos my eye is red...I'm not smiling. Globela B.
ReplyDeleteIt must be TESTED and TRUSTED before i say 'YES I DO'. I wonder how u wan take born child. visit ur gateman for more info.
ReplyDeleteLol. Anon 1:59 pm, u re a garb..
DeleteWomen!women!!women!!! how many times i call u?Let your man sample you wella before going to marriage,this is 2015 not 1942,see what one of your sister is facing now
ReplyDeleteLwkmd!god no's d best 4 us
DeleteLmao!!!!!!!
DeleteUse am na, y you dey complain. shuo
ReplyDeleteI wonder why some people can't even think beyond sex, biko Pls sister is not food if your man can give you kids with it, then why wry yourself
ReplyDeleteSex is food in marriage ooo mt anonymous
DeleteSex is food in marriage oh, when you are a single lady,you have options of going to different guys to unburden ur emotional and sexual stress but marriage closes such options, so the man must be up and doing. If it's not more than food,why then do married men and women cheat?
DeleteLol what a fake comment... everyone needs sexual satisfaction and if u don't get it.. it can drive u crazy
DeleteCome on,give hubby a break! Accept d dildo and kip a side bf
ReplyDeleteOdikwa Risky!
ReplyDeleteMadam, I think your husband loves you and he really wants you to get the desired satisfaction. Imagine if your last option was to get a Dildo and you couldn't because you don't know how your husband will feel. But you now have it from him, so appreciate him. And enjoy your marriage.
ReplyDeleteMy dear i agree with you.
DeleteYou sound so matured, God bless you for this comment
Deletewell if u love him u gotta stay with him. Fuck urself with the dildo, u ain't got no choice hoe... u also forgot to mention he's very rich that's why u married him.. thots be complaining these days.. smh
ReplyDeleteYou are a stupid woman to bring your marital issues to this blog for total strangers to discuss.Your husband am sure, would never expose you to the public like this if you had issues you deal with. The people who would advise you on this blog have issues of their own if not worse.
ReplyDeleteI wonder how hurt your husband would feel when he sees this post(i am assuming you guys are a normal couple).I have no words for you but to let you know you have failed as a wife.
Cheers
Anon 2:14 pm, thank u... Please madam tell ur husband to be exercising himself every morning by running, also tell him to be taking fruit mostly orange, also beer wit ur husband madam.
DeleteUr comment is nothing but bullshit. Who are you to tell her that she failed? Would you rather she discusses the issue with his parent or siblings? This forum is faceless and I am sure there are other people in this dilemma that will learn from it. It's because of self righteous people like u that people faced with challenges would rather commit suicide or become depressed than open up and be helped.
DeleteNnena you area fucking retard no brain you urslf are a failure as a Woman wat if she doesn't have people t ask??did she mention anyone's name nnena the foolish fool
Deletecomplicated issue I think you guys should meet a doctor for test and possible treatment
ReplyDeleteHmmmm, this is sad especially as he lied to you all along. Well, all I can say is that marriage isn't all about sex even though it's the most important ingredient. Forgive him but don't leave him. You have him in you wings and he can never fly away. Love him and bring out the best in him. Trust God to heal him and you will be amazed. Best of luck
ReplyDeleteif you really love him just acccept him the way he is afterall u knew he was small down there before u agreed to marry him. use the dildo to compliment his non performance and life goes on
ReplyDeleteStop being naive, couples do supplement their love life with sex toys. Variety is the spice of life. You said he lasted 5 mins when in action. That is a long time just wondering why u r complaining.
ReplyDeleteU complain her found a solution, why don't you just make use of the solution the right way and enjoy him thru the dildo... and if u want sperm he can pour it in!!
ReplyDeleteDis is a very touching. I won't advice u to leave ur hubby bcos of his small manhood bc u knw already b4 accepting his proposal. U hv to accept him de way he is cos is nt his fault. And don't worsen d issuing by complaing to pple or friends cos they will not profer solution. So far he is not impotent. Beta luv and care for ur man biko. *My opinion*
ReplyDeleteDear poster,sex in marriage is not what you can manage....girls please take note! We act so desperate to marry and tend to forget one of the most important thing in marriage.....SEX. Its hard to manage sex in marriage. You cant compliment it!
ReplyDeleteAm so sorry you find yourself in this situation,something can be done. He should visit a good fertility clinic,they deal with issues like this!
And please pray to God for His Grace,this issue can destroy marriage!
Sorry, he is your cross, carry it. U can help by praying to God to give him natural ability to stay long instead of 5 minutes. As a Christian I don't think u should use d dildo. Please be a bit patient with Ur husband it will improve. I assure u it will. I'm talking from experience. Peace.
ReplyDeleteSorry, he is your cross, carry it. U can help by praying to God to give him natural ability to stay long instead of 5 minutes. As a Christian I don't think u should use d dildo. Please be a bit patient with Ur husband it will improve. I assure u it will. I'm talking from experience. Peace.
ReplyDeleteinasmuch as we know sex and love are two different things,they both affect each other simultaneously..this affects him more than it affects you bt he has accepted it thatway,he never planed to be dis way, so i say meet him halfway,accept it & make him use it on you..you never can tell the joy you both may derive from that..its more abt working together we all are never perfect..
ReplyDeleteMadam this is serious issue,first u need to endure secondly check ur man .does ur husband drinks bear? If yes what brand,alchol weaking manwood .if he can Do without it tel him to take 33,of agbo
ReplyDeleteLeaving him is out of thevquestion. Remember that "till death do us part" line? Yup, that one. You'll just have to endure and engage in a lot of foreplay before the act so u are so close by the time he is ready. Using drugs for an extended period can be very harmful cos of the chemical content. Why don't you try supplements which are natural with no chemical content. Hit me on 0909 -1682 -800 if u decide to go that route.
ReplyDeleteHmmm serious matter, Daris God sha
ReplyDeleteThese are some of the things that makes marriage scary. Everything is about sex sex sex and sex, ah!. Please people should look for alternatives forms of happiness. Everything is not marriage abeg. Even if you want to raise children, have you not seen children who grow up to despise their old parents after all the sufferings the parents endured to provide for them. PLEASE LETS STOP GETTING MARRIED. THE WAHALA TOO MUCH. EVERYBODY SHOULD JUST FIND HIS OR HER LEVEL. IMAGINE YOUR WIFE OR HUSBAND BECOMING UNFAITHFUL BECAUSE OF THE ALMIGHTY "SEX". ABEG!!! E DON DO.
ReplyDeleteYou were too wide and deep yet he married you instead of looking for a tighter pushy yet you complain.
ReplyDeleteMy dear wide toto, we didn't leave our wives or complain when their vaginas became slack due to child birth.
hello dear, first of all i sympathize with you- with all the things that are going through your mind and how you must feel at the moment. Be strong, there is a way out.
ReplyDeletei read your story twice and very careful so as to get both sides-even if the story is one sided- and to really understand.these are your major points(if i am not mistaken):
1. he is small(down there)
2. he does not last up to 5 mins(which you noticed during the honeymoon)
3. he bought a dildo to compensate for his inability.
Having a small penis has been medically and physically proven to make no difference in love making
he's inability to last for up to 5 min needs to be looked at carefully, thank God he stopped the enhancement drugs. the two of you needs the counsel of a qualified personnel to sensitize you two on this because it might be a health problem
looking at his last action simply states that he truly loves you,he still wants you in his life, he wants the relationship to work.
its not easy but try to love and support him, he was born with whatever he has down there and seek professional help now because its clear you also want your relationship to work. lovemaking is very important in a marriage , so is communication. communicate with each other to find out the issues n deal with it.
may God be with you both and keep your union blissful
Divorce is never an option especially if u are a christian. i do not believe that just that should lead to divorce. Peradventure any one is advising that, please do not heed to it. Until we understand that sexual pleasure is not the sole purpose of marriage, we might not ever be satisfied. Yes that is only a part of it but not the sole purpose. Every marriage must be purpose driven. Using a dildo will be masturbating so please pray well and seek counselling from marriage counselors and from those in the medical field too. God have mercy. Do not put up an attitude towards him because of this please. He too must be embarrassed by the situation so nagging or not communicating effectively could just be making things worse....
ReplyDeleteHope this gets posted.
He knew you had a wide vagina yet he married you. Instead of being grateful, you complain.
ReplyDeleteEven if you had married a man with a big dick, after three kids, he would become inadequate for you. Do your keggel instead of blaming your slack pushy on him.
He knew you had a wide vagina yet he married you. Instead of being grateful, you complain.
ReplyDeleteEven if you had married a man with a big dick, after three kids, he would become inadequate for you. Do your keggel instead of blaming your slack pussy on him.
since he dont stay long. then after he must have been tired, tell him to use the toy for u
ReplyDeleteLinda be faking stories to pull people to your blog
ReplyDeleteI THINK SOME WOMEN HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH SEXUAL SATISFACTION. THEIR REAL PROBLEM IS ENVY. AS LONG AS YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH CONTENTMENT, THERE WILL ALWAYS BE AN EXCUSE TO HATE WHAT YOU HAVE. NO MATTER THE MAN YOU ARE GIVEN, ONE DAY YOU WILL ALWAYS MEET ANOTHER MAN WHO IS FINER AND YOU BEGIN TO ENVY THE WOMAN WHO GOT THAT ONE. YOU NOW RETURN HOME WITH ALL KINDS OF MOOD SWINGS AND YOUR POOR HUSBAND WILL NOT KNOW THE REAL PROBLEM BEHIND YOUR MOODS.
ReplyDeleteI THINK SOME WOMEN HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH SEXUAL SATISFACTION. THEIR REAL PROBLEM IS ENVY. AS LONG AS YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH CONTENTMENT, THERE WILL ALWAYS BE AN EXCUSE TO HATE WHAT YOU HAVE. NO MATTER THE MAN YOU ARE GIVEN, ONE DAY YOU WILL ALWAYS MEET ANOTHER MAN WHO IS FINER AND YOU BEGIN TO ENVY THE WOMAN WHO GOT THAT ONE. YOU NOW RETURN HOME WITH ALL KINDS OF MOOD SWINGS AND YOUR POOR HUSBAND WILL NOT KNOW THE REAL PROBLEM BEHIND YOUR MOODS.
ReplyDeleteAnxiety is d reason he doesn't last in you. Please u guys can work it out, a lot of foreplay before thinking of penetration. Also try and be happy and psychologically satisfied with your man. I have a friend whose husband is quite big down there but she doesn't see it, as in the guy doesn't touch her, he shares it outside. At least your man loves u enough to care.
ReplyDeleteI THINK SOME WOMEN HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH SEXUAL SATISFACTION. THEIR REAL PROBLEM IS ENVY. AS LONG AS YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH CONTENTMENT, THERE WILL ALWAYS BE AN EXCUSE TO HATE WHAT YOU HAVE. NO MATTER THE MAN YOU ARE GIVEN, ONE DAY YOU WILL ALWAYS MEET ANOTHER MAN WHO IS FINER AND YOU BEGIN TO ENVY THE WOMAN WHO GOT THAT ONE. YOU NOW RETURN HOME WITH ALL KINDS OF MOOD SWINGS AND YOUR POOR HUSBAND WILL NOT KNOW THE REAL PROBLEM BEHIND YOUR MOODS.
ReplyDeletemy dear sister ,please just take it easy for him
ReplyDeletemost of all this guys now that is they major problem now
but what you need to do both of you should visit a doctor
for you to have children ,and a marriage counselling
God will help your home
You are just a joke of a wife... Washing your dirty linen out there.... All the best being promiscuous in your search for bigger sized-one.
ReplyDeleteYou are just a joke of a wife... Washing your dirty linen out there.... All the best being promiscuous in your search for bigger sized-one.
ReplyDeleteThink about it this way, if ur husband had married a virgin, she wouldn't have complained cos she wouldn't know d difference. So please bear with him and make the most of what you have, he seems like a nice guy. With time you will get used to him, and the memories of d difference you've experienced will gradually disappear. No matter what you do, don't try another, even in form of a dildo, it won't help. It will only make u look for a different size
ReplyDeleteYou really need to stick by him now. Buying you a dildo shows he understands what you are going through, now you must help him get through his issue, afterall you are the one who'll reap the benefits. Lots of resource online, read and find a solution. When there is a will there is a way.
ReplyDeleteWow!!!
ReplyDeleteWoman! It's all ur 4th, if only ur husband met u a virgin, u would not having been complaining about d size of his penis. Am sure u've slept with so many men, for u to be complaining about his manhood. Carry ur cross. Take rope n sew dat shit u call p***y
ReplyDeleteEverything must not be made public.Ppl should learn how to keep their marriage from public.Pls,see a specialist.
ReplyDeletethis is serious issue, madam
ReplyDeleteWHAT HAVE YOU BEEN LOOKING AND IT SEEMS THAT THERE IS NO HOP... CLICK
Well, he loves you and wouldn't want you to have sex outside your home that's why he bought the dildo but you misunderstood him bcos he felt you are matured enough to know what he's going through and bear with him when it last cos na so developed world dey do, some funny men will tell you to have sex outdoors to satisfy your urge instead of them making you to suffer cos of them.
ReplyDeleteThe problem here is not small penis but poor erection most likely high sugar rate but there are many ways to combat weak erection; herbal remedies will improve blood flow to the penis to help erections become hard. Herbs may also improve penis control, size, and girth. Other ways to battle weak erections are through disciplined techniques used to strengthen the penis and improve ejaculation control.
At the moment, neglecting him will make him be suicidal cos an impotent man thinks as if he's a dead man living. Kindly get close to him, assist him in looking for solutions by checking his level of sugar rate before going to ER, don't get angry with him cos he can't perform just be mature and tell him you don't like sex toys that when you eventually get use to them it will expose you more to adulterous life. It happens to many homes and sex is not everything. Tell am make e dey drink honey mixed with grated carrot and boiled egg daily for two months or make e go South Africa a lot of erection remedies dey their pharmacy's cos South African men like too much sugar and beer/alcohol so erection na their biggest problem.
Yeah 5 is along time..it only follows your mind set to enjoy sex in marriage...
ReplyDeletePressure from you could affect his libido and sex urge won't come forth anylonger..I once experienced that from my wife..not until we gave it a break.
Your man can regain his sex stride if u give him the desired confidence to do so..
God bless your marriage
from a married woman
ReplyDeletelove him as he loves u
good men are hard to find. use d dildo together...would probably be the best sex of ur life.
be open to toys and do it together.
will strengthen yalls relationship.
and he'll know u love him.its for better or worse
You don't have any other choice than to manage. You just got married 6 months ago and you are already complaining. My husband doesn't last too long either but I enjoy him because he has a very nice size and I love him, he turns me on. Sometimes it's sensitivity and the sweetness that makes them cum fast, some days you both should alternate with the use of a condom to reduce sensitivity. He should also change his diet, exercise and see a doctor. If possible support and go with him. Let sex not be the reason for you to ruin your marriage
ReplyDeleteI really don't blame him that much he must have thought about it a lot so that was the only option that came to his mind to avoid u cheat on him,forgive him and look for a solution with him.commit ur marriage into the hands of God and finally goodluck
ReplyDeleteYour husband loves you deeply. Don't hurt his ego by acting weird around him because of his seeming lack of sex staying power. Talk to him about how hurt you feel about him not telling you before hand of his staying power issues. After he has apologized, work as a team to figure out how you both can make your sex world rock despite the limitations. Seek professional help as well...very important. Remember, you must not make him feel inferior as regards this.
ReplyDeleteGbam. Best comment.
ReplyDeleteWell! The best advice for u my lady is to help him enlarge.. when u start having children it's going to be worse becos of how loose u are gonna get down there.. so biko help him get bigger! Don't sit down n wait for God to enlarge it for u.. face reality, magic don't just happen.. try the safest way to make him bigger..thank u
ReplyDeleteIf d d**k is too big people will complain;average size they still keep mourning. God would always give us wht is best for us !
ReplyDeleteHey Poster.. Hmmmnnn I am not married but I wanna advise you. I want you to be happy cos I feel you have a man who cares about your feelings. I sincerely hope you read this. First of all, do not use a dildo. Tell your husband to destroy it but do this in love. Don't make him feel incompetent as he already is cos this can also make him anxious which can later affect his performance. I will say speak to God first cos He answers prayers. Secondly, pls go for medical help, try and search for natural solutions online but do not let him use drugs for this, they have adverse effects. There are several things to do in the bedroom, that is why you have your hands, your lips, your tongue, pls use these things. He might be small but he has erection right? Dats fantastic. Ensure you guys focus more on foreplay and the touching....kissing.. such that you are almost reaching or even already climaxed before he penetrates. You can definitely make this work dear. Avoid talking to people cos they will advise you wrongly.. Please focus on how to make it work. TA ta
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