Dear LIB readers, Is it wise to marry a man with 4 sisters who are divorcees, single mothers and financially dependent on him?
From a female LIB reader
My mother is paranoid about me getting married to a man who has four sisters who are divorced, single mothers and financially dependent on him. One currently lives in his house with her daughter. The others don't live with him but they are all on monthly allowance. He is also taking care of all their children. And it's not like he's Dangote. If his phone rings 10 times, 8 times will be from his sisters. Though they are not hostile towards me yet, I hate the fact that they rely on him for everything. What happens when we start having children? And I hate how he worries and focuses on them so much. They are all adults, two of them in their late 30s. My mum thinks his sisters will pose a great threat to our marriage once my fiance's finances start to focus on me and our children. My fiance has however assured me that there will be no problem and he will handle all our affairs well. What am I about to get into? I'm apprehensive
Hmmm,my sis I no go lie,talk frm experience listen 2 ur mum if u want 2 live long,cos u re going in2 a house of commotion wit lot of wahala,dnt u knw wen an adult sees smtin very clkose,even wen a child climbs d mountain he caneva see anytin,proverb)...dnt rush urself..
Actually u r insecure not apprehensive for dis is d best word 4u. He has already assured u dat everytin wil b well handle.
So wht ur problem or u also want to b liability to him dat is if u r jobless lik d sister's. Change is d only constant tin in life. So expect changes after u guys r married.
Ur attention, and focus should b ur immediate family, and not b disturbed wit d sister's. Pls learn to b secured, and u wouldn't hav to b apprehensive again.
From realistic point of view,I suggest you don't marry him.The wahala from those sisters are as tough as they come.But from love point of view,go on and marry him.After all he luvs u . But seriously,don't marry him Save yourself from heartache and sadness
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said.. . Shey yu don watch tubo(animation)?? If not go find am watch bcos as that snail dey tear speed like that, naso yu go take run leave that man..... . . ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
E be like say dat family is cursed o!..all sisters divorcees? And can't fend for themselves at 30? Mbanu! Poster use ya head wisely before you dive into a pit u can't come out from
U should be 'very apprehensive' self (dats if such a word exist) a grown man who can't seem to tell his grown ass sisters to get d fuck up and get sumtin doing to take care of dir kids will be a man dat @ d end of d day his sisters will dictate wot and how he runs his home...so my dear d sonner u let him go d better for u now..coz trust me when I say u will so regret d marriage in d long run
Nne, that will be a very dangerous den to enter, you will enjoy that marriage for only one week i fear.
Please tell him to settle his sisters first, some should go back to their husband houses, those that cannot go should be extablish to be independent. If not, if he shifts his attention to u, you are in a very loooooong thing.
Nne, that will be a very dangerous den to enter, you will enjoy that marriage for only one week i fear.
Please tell him to settle his sisters first, some should go back to their husband houses, those that cannot go should be extablish to be independent. If not, if he shifts his attention to u, you are in a very loooooong thing.
it is better to run out now. that issue can be a great monster in future and a big threat to your happiness. a man with strong family ties will always have divided attention. and once you marry him and start to complain you will become the enemy, who came to spoil the peace! trust me you dont want that wahala! remember the Bible says a man must leave his (mother and father, sisters and brothers) and cleave to his wife and the two will be one.
U never even enter u don. De show d kind wife wey u go be...they are his sisters 4 christ's sake and have u born and he didn't take care of ur kids?dang! Tufia ufodu umu nwanyi, eziokwu Ikwesi ka apia gi ka na onu! Mumu
My dear your mother is right there is bound to be problems in future from his sisters because his attention will be diverted to u pls take but time and look for someone else who doesn't come with all this baggage
My dear I will advise you not to cos when d problem arise non of us will b there 2 sort things out...I smile trouble 4r sisters cos as soon as baby start coming ur hussy will look less on them than u will become bad wife 2 their brother my own options.
Dis is a vry serious matter o, his sis won't allow u enjoy ur man nt to talk of ur marriage, dey might nt b doing 1 kind to u now bt dey wl surely do it later wen dey c dat der bro has divert all his attention on u. Free d man n pray 2 God 4 a better husband
You are walking into a tricky situation! They could end up being no threat or the reverse. Whatever, as long as you are aware of the pros and cons and your man loves you and understands that when he marries you, you become his primary concern, then I say WTH!!
Is not wise ... you better don't marry him... He might have the willpower to manage everything but you don't know what those sister's of his will go start doing spiritually and other stuff.
This world is wicked, if you can handle it then go but if you are not the quarrelsome type then you are definitely putting your hands into fire with your eyes open.
Even if you can handle them, you will get tired later in the future. Nigerian marriage, family is not something one should take lightly.
At lease you can see what is happening to Adebayo... they've made him talk and now his going on crazy leaves that may lead to something drastic.... May God help him.
It's not advisable atall...he's sisters will b jealous of u wen ur husband spend for u...and they will always fight u or support their brother wenever u have an issue
It's not advisable atall...he's sisters will b jealous of u wen ur husband spend for u...and they will always fight u or support their brother wenever u have an issue
My first advise to you is to RUN!Having said that however,what were you looking at.His sisters didn't appear from the blues so truth is,you shouldn't even have taken the relationship as far as talking marriage.my advise still remains the same though.
Hmmmm complicated! If he's rich them no problem but if he's struggling, Nne run! Issues magnify to X100 in marriage. I can tell you that for free and external influences contribute to squabbles in marriage.
My sister, i will advise you to run for your life. If you desire a happy and fulfilling married life, do not go into that marriage. It is easy for him to tell you that the presence of his sisters and care for their family will not affect your marriage, but i tell you, the same man will be the one to tell you that he can't leave his sisters and parent bcos of you....SHINE YOUR EYES WELLA. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. All the best!
My sister, i will advise you to run for your life. If you desire a happy and fulfilling married life, do not go into that marriage. It is easy for him to tell you that the presence of his sisters and care for their family will not affect your marriage, but i tell you, the same man will be the one to tell you that he can't leave his sisters and parent bcos of you....SHINE YOUR EYES WELLA. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. All the best!
Speaking from experience, mine is jst 1 sister in law dat is not married bt has 2 daughters @ home nd yet dere family hates me so much cos dey dnt get much from my husband like dey used to. Upon say I get 3 kids yet dey still wnt him to be focused on dem dan his own new family. So my sister rrrrruuunnnnn 4 ur dear life cos hatred ll b ur name.
danger!!! the truth about marriage is that love is never enough.it has to be based on wisdom and understanding. women naturally are prone to jealousy.and its a team of women against you. you will automatically become a rival once they begin to compete with you over money. casala will break and these women are his blood and family they have more power over him than u know. pray!! talk more and make sure he sets rules. goodluck!!
Don't go into it u will put urself in serious danger,u mum has already told u wat is right. 4 divorced sistes na serious gobe dere is a curse in dere family. If u can run more than Usain bolt pls run run run.
from all logical point of view......i suggest u run like kilode.. from a non logical point of view...your fear can only be solved by your fiance.. Is he man enough to draw the line when faced with family issues... if you honestly thick he can make his decisions and stand by it.. then go ahead girl and get MARRIED..
let him as in set them free now before he marry you becos after marriage his 80% of attention must be on you and kids and that is where the hatred starts from. YOU NO DEY READ ADEBAYORS LIFE
Don't try it my dear. In fact run away. Your mum is soo right. sister in law palaver is something else o. You have a good mother, listen to her.Even if he's the best guy, just run. Speaking from experience
I really think u should nt go for this......b4 u will b digging ur grave n burying urself....becos dose sis of his will nt stop interfering n if their monthly allowance drops u r dia target.....pls go with ur mum's advice
There is a marital spell in that family so pls be careful until they break this spell,ur marriage with the guy may suffer the same attack.dont go ahead pls until it is settled spiritually.
Hian,my dear dust ur legs and slippers and do what,run for ur life my dear,cos u will be frustrated by d time they start dealing with u...na d money wey I get I borrow u so o...
My dear sis hmmmm I beg u in d name ov jah don't involve urself in dis mess cos dis a totally mess @ d long run!mark my world b'cos wen d tym comes he's sis wil start complainin @bt dem been neglected nd not been care 4 lyk b4 so think very well my dear!
OYO for you. Seems there's a divorce spirit in their family. Pray he doesn't divorce you. But if you were my sister, I would advise you not to marry him
Hmmm dis is a serious issue.My dad has dat same problm and we his children are really suffering. including my mum. Pls my dear now u hv seen it early enough do as ur mum said don't Eva try getting in2 dat marriage becos u will regret it for d rest of ur life. Wen u need help even his sisters will not remember the past. Am a living testimony to my mum's mistake.
When you are working yourself and you can support the family very sure you won't have problems with your sis in law and am sure if they see u as a working class person they MIGHT think of being up and doing too all the best aanyways
He seems to be very hardworking to take care of 4 women.wow!..methinks adding one more and a couple of kids won't make much difference to his hardworking nature..besides,my focus would be;can he provide for himself and children??'cos there is always the possibility of a man being dependent on his wife,which isn't your case.if yes,babe,you can take care of yourself can't you?..I mean your not an invalid are you?#wink...I think his priority would change when he has his family..How does he treat you now?..does he loves you and show it? Can you live with him?..does he respect you?..if yes,I won't worry too much..xxx
No big deal,walk out.Seen similar situation,dey made d wife go gaga,frustrated her marriage.They are cool wid u now bcos u ain't a financial threat yet,start having ur kids knwing full well ur hubby will certainly shift attention frm dem,u r in for a mess.
If he has money to b spending on dem monthly,y don't he establish dem in different businesses so dey can stop depending on him?onless dat is don,iam sorry girlfriend,U r about to enter into a big fire.oh yes!
Mydear don't marry in dat kind family bcos it most be a problem in ur marriage in years to come. Bcos if there brother is not sportng dam d ll not marry n divorce. 3 of dam. Dat family is a family of divorcee u better now b4 is 2late
please do not go into that marriage until you have ensured that he has set up businesses for all his sisters. Abeg they may not be hostile today, but tomorrow they may or may not envy your successful marriage. Just do not go into this marriage with these situation. #MyOwn2Bits
IF you love him, his kindness towards his family won't be a problem. The ones he can do, encourage him or instead opt out rather than breed hatred and destruction in the family.
Don't do it!!!!' Don't marry him please !!!!!! Whatever you do, Don't marry him!!!! You will never have peace, you will soon become like them o! A divorced, single mum !!!! This is from personal experience o!!!!!
Please do not, all the signs are obviously there for you to not get involved in it and you have to take your mums advice, if you do not back out now, you will regret it later because his sisters and their needs and also that of their children will always come first before you and yours. Be wise.
Please don't imagine d unimaginable. I've 3 words for u, run, run and run. It's d stubborn fly that follows d corpse to d grave. Heed my advice. Run! Don't imagine u'll change anything, run. I've d same problem. Run! Text Fortune to 33020.
Omo Babe dis 1 hard ooo,men generally change after marriage,wot he is tellin u dtwldnt be a prob now,wld be tmrw,he beta stops it now b4 marriage unless his sis wld bounce on u tmrw
U beta run now that u have ur legs. U dont know d gravity of what u r about to get into, u can ask Adebayor, he will lecture u well. Family over-dependence can lead to so many marital problems that could cause death/suicide
My dear, don't be in a hurry to get into that. Tell him you cannot cope with that. I have seen similar thing though not as bad as that. It is not an easy situation. Even if you are working and making money, they will think their brother makes everything. And if you act as an independent woman and take care of your kids and other things in the family, your husband will see it as an opportunity to support them more than his home. They will kill you with pressure. Please look else where. They must all be terrible to have failed marriages. You will see another guy from a better home.
Run for your life lol or run with your hubby and if u advice dem now,it wil be like cos he married you lol so u want to stop all their livelihood meanwhile dey are forgetting your fiancée got a life too,he won't be able to cope,he has to set them up instead of feeding them at least dey can depend on demselves and ask for little stuffs wen it's beyond dem
This is annoying so his four sisters are divorced and his mom is financially dependent on him so what? Were you there when she gave birth to him? This is nonsense you know..is he complaining? Is it your money? Did he say he will not give you money? Think about it cos obviously it is about the money and apparently you are not a wife material. Guy better wise up
Madam, follow your heart. Do what you think is best for you in your mind. U know the man more than anyone else. Some people who will advise you are not as wise as you. Don't follow your mother or anyone 's advice which you don't like. I am telling you from experience. My junior brother that I senior with eight years married b4 me. I have not seen any girl that I want to marry. So my parents helped me to find one girl. When the girl came to visit me b4 the wedding, I noticed that the girl is very rude. I told my parents and said that l can't go ahead with the marriage. They said forgive her, she will change with time. But now my wife's behavior is even worse. I wish I had followed my instinct not to marry her. Lesson :you are your own best advicer
My sister please don't marry him that way.Let Him do the needful first by settling them all out of his life and make them independent. But the fact that they are divorcees is still a disturbing factor cause they are still attached to him and will want to influence his decisions. This must affect your marriage.so its better not to enter except you have the grace to endure such.
Don't you dare!! I dentical story of my father and mom. My father had three sisters who never married, had children and we're all dependent on him; all of my ten cousins. He sent all of them to school and some even stayed with us etc. When my dad eventually married my mom and had to focus on me and my siblings as we were growing up. One of the sisters but very jealous. She even asked my dad why he was sending me to the U.S. and not her daughter. My sister, remove your slippers and run!! Don't look back.
U had beta run!!!!!!!! His sisters wld definately be threats to u sooner dan u think & fry ur ass like chinchin once he stopped focusing on dem afta getting married to u...
hello, if you love your Man, then you know you have to love his family. if you both love each other get I sure with God everything will be fine No one will be able to make this decision for you. You stil have to make up your mind. Follow your heart and if your man means the world to you then you know what to do. Think Postive. Your mum may be right.
My sister ran as far as you can, talking from experience , mine are not single mother nor divorcees but they still rely on my husband . It hasnt been easy , now the table is turned ,his business has been down laterly and we are on the receiving end as help is not coming from any of them. Think and shine your eyes
My dear my sincere advice for you is to run while you still can don't marry a man that even one if his relative depends on talk more four when the time comes there will be so much to deal with trust me am talking from experience
Being financially dependent may not be a big issue,the bigger. Issue is their influence and presence in the family.Ofcourse they must all have issues and couldn't keep a marriage so that should be a big call for worry cos dey will neva want to see you in a happy marriage.
You are about to get into trouble my dear. do not be in a rush to get marrried yet. You need to discuss wirh your fiancee about settling them financially and do it in a very diplomatic way. Tell him they need to be independent God forbid sometin happens to him or his finances. As for the sis stil living with him, suggest to him in a romantic way that he should get them a small apartment so you both can be free to do whatever you like.#wink mischeviously. That would appeal to his sexual side which men dont toy with.that way he wont think you are trying to drive away his family. You realy need to be prayerful that the lord should set them up financially and maritally so you can have rest of mind cos if you get married in this situation,you"l both start frustrated and he will side with his sisters cos blood is thicker than water. I can go oon and on but bottom line, take your time,pray and be diplomatic.
hmmmmn! dear... I would advice you pray about it first, it's only God dat knows the end from the beginning, u need revelations before making dat decision.
Don't marry him your mum told u the truth Hmm unless u want Gbege from them cos when u drop ur own child now u ll be hated for no reasons n then wahala go begin
put your self in those his sisters shoes why do u ladies always want to divide a family ? he told u it will be fine if u dont think so quit the relationship. But dont divide his family
dont you work ? you dont have to depend on his funds u can even help him out . if his family are happy then u will be happy. but dont divide them cos u will be in soup later. go in that way or quit the relationship
if a man takes care of his sisters that way it should make u smile cos he will take care of u too. But why do u women have issues with mother inlaws , sister inlaws and all? but yours are well funded with ur money ?
Ask your pastor
ReplyDeleteUnless he is the likes of dangote or davido...
ReplyDeleteplease don't. That's hell fire
ReplyDeleteFake story. 4 divorcees, and all dependent on one man?spare me..
ReplyDeleteIf you don't marry him someone else will..The question is can you handle it?
ReplyDeleteAlso taking care of all their kids? Who sent this trash? Go to d hospital for help.
ReplyDeleteMy advise is RUN without looking back!
ReplyDeleteHmmm,my sis I no go lie,talk frm experience listen 2 ur mum if u want 2 live long,cos u re going in2 a house of commotion wit lot of wahala,dnt u knw wen an adult sees smtin very clkose,even wen a child climbs d mountain he caneva see anytin,proverb)...dnt rush urself..
ReplyDeleteChai.....don't even know what to say!!...guess I'll just wait for Reasonable Comments!! #God Help You o1
ReplyDeleteNo go area. Ur mum has spoken CORRECTLY!
ReplyDeletenO GO AREA
ReplyDeleteTo be frank......u will suffer oooo....
ReplyDeleteAPATA___________________ROCK OF AGES
My dear,RUN!!!!!!I have too many closely related stories to share.None of them good.Please find love elsewhere.
ReplyDeleteIts your choice,think wisely!
ReplyDeleteCan't advice u not to marry him, but if u want u must be strong....ur Mom ain't far frm d truth
ReplyDeleteActually u r insecure not apprehensive for dis is d best word 4u. He has already assured u dat everytin wil b well handle.
ReplyDeleteSo wht ur problem or u also want to b liability to him dat is if u r jobless lik d sister's. Change is d only constant tin in life. So expect changes after u guys r married.
Ur attention, and focus should b ur immediate family, and not b disturbed wit d sister's. Pls learn to b secured, and u wouldn't hav to b apprehensive again.
Ewooooo. Biko Nwanne, shine your eyes. As for me I no go fit do am o!!!!!e get as e be
ReplyDeleteRun run run and dont look back. Don't even let any kind of love stop you. You will regret it big time
ReplyDeleteHuh! Four of them? & they r not independent? Marry him if u r ready to pray fervently to break the curse. It's a curse, no two ways about it.
ReplyDeletePls run for ur dear life cos dey will frustrate u n ur marriage#linda'sgal
ReplyDeleteThis is a serious one.......Talk to God about it
ReplyDeleteMoye says so via BB Passport...Courtesy LIB......
remove ur heels and RUN as in far far away
ReplyDeleteIt's so unwise. You better cut the relationship now. Love will fly out of the window when you start getting frustrated.
ReplyDeleteSa kno say na u b d fifth wife...dey gonna treat u lik a rival n dts not gonna b nice rara.if u fink u can live wiv dt,carry go
ReplyDeleteIt it not wise... Full stop!
ReplyDeleteU should tink of d future b4 u jump in2 a big mistake...He feels he can handle it now but with time it would become a major issue in ur marriage
ReplyDeleteFor me its a No if u can't accept him giving help to them after marriage. Bks I promise u it won't change.
ReplyDeleteFrom realistic point of view,I suggest you don't marry him.The wahala from those sisters are as tough as they come.But from love point of view,go on and marry him.After all he luvs u .
ReplyDeleteBut seriously,don't marry him
Save yourself from heartache and sadness
Hmmmm, Dis question pass my level
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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Shey yu don watch tubo(animation)?? If not go find am watch bcos as that snail dey tear speed like that, naso yu go take run leave that man.....
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ReplyDeleteE be like say dat family is cursed o!..all sisters divorcees? And can't fend for themselves at 30? Mbanu! Poster use ya head wisely before you dive into a pit u can't come out from
ReplyDeleteTalk to him abt it
ReplyDeleteTough one
ReplyDeleteThose his sisters will change one day when the money isn't coming in as fast n big as it use to be.
If he can help dem get a job or start a biz, good for all of u. Its not healthy at all
My dear how are u not sure ur fiancee did not use his sisters destiny to enrich himself. Please go into deep prayers o. I smell a rat.
ReplyDeleteForget the guy! U might run into rivalry if u don't forget him
ReplyDeleteNOT WISE AT ALL. RUN MY DEAR.
ReplyDeleteTHEY WILL FIND A WAY TO BLAME YOU FOR ALL THEIR LIFES PROBLEM AND MAKE YOU PAY AS WELL.
U should be 'very apprehensive' self (dats if such a word exist) a grown man who can't seem to tell his grown ass sisters to get d fuck up and get sumtin doing to take care of dir kids will be a man dat @ d end of d day his sisters will dictate wot and how he runs his home...so my dear d sonner u let him go d better for u now..coz trust me when I say u will so regret d marriage in d long run
ReplyDeleteDo u really need an advice. It's written on the wall
ReplyDeleteNne, that will be a very dangerous den to enter, you will enjoy that marriage for only one week i fear.
ReplyDeletePlease tell him to settle his sisters first, some should go back to their husband houses, those that cannot go should be extablish to be independent.
If not, if he shifts his attention to u, you are in a very loooooong thing.
Chai Nne which kind luck u get?
Nne, that will be a very dangerous den to enter, you will enjoy that marriage for only one week i fear.
ReplyDeletePlease tell him to settle his sisters first, some should go back to their husband houses, those that cannot go should be extablish to be independent.
If not, if he shifts his attention to u, you are in a very loooooong thing.
Chai Nne which kind luck u get?
run dear...its easier said than done.
ReplyDeleteThis is complicated, if you can cope with it you stay, but if you can't then go, it's not easy.
ReplyDeleteit is better to run out now. that issue can be a great monster in future and a big threat to your happiness. a man with strong family ties will always have divided attention. and once you marry him and start to complain you will become the enemy, who came to spoil the peace! trust me you dont want that wahala! remember the Bible says a man must leave his (mother and father, sisters and brothers) and cleave to his wife and the two will be one.
ReplyDeleteRun or else you are in for a real fight, i mean family fight.
ReplyDeletePls don't marry him and start regretting in future.
ReplyDeleteU never even enter u don. De show d kind wife wey u go be...they are his sisters 4 christ's sake and have u born and he didn't take care of ur kids?dang! Tufia ufodu umu nwanyi, eziokwu Ikwesi ka apia gi ka na onu! Mumu
ReplyDeleteMy dear your mother is right there is bound to be problems in future from his sisters because his attention will be diverted to u pls take but time and look for someone else who doesn't come with all this baggage
ReplyDeletePlease run the opposite way.
ReplyDeleteMy dear I will advise you not to cos when d problem arise non of us will b there 2 sort things out...I smile trouble 4r sisters cos as soon as baby start coming ur hussy will look less on them than u will become bad wife 2 their brother my own options.
ReplyDeleteMa dear sis,d early u run d berra 4u Oo,bks dia z danger ahead,big danger oooooo
ReplyDeletePls don't marry him and start regretting in future.
ReplyDeleteDis is a vry serious matter o, his sis won't allow u enjoy ur man nt to talk of ur marriage, dey might nt b doing 1 kind to u now bt dey wl surely do it later wen dey c dat der bro has divert all his attention on u. Free d man n pray 2 God 4 a better husband
ReplyDeleteNa wahala u wan marry oOo,no be d man
ReplyDeleteYou are walking into a tricky situation! They could end up being no threat or the reverse. Whatever, as long as you are aware of the pros and cons and your man loves you and understands that when he marries you, you become his primary concern, then I say WTH!!
ReplyDeleteIf he can take care of his sisters and their children,then he is husband material,therefore marry him!
ReplyDeleteRun Run Run!
ReplyDeleteNo, don't go dere
ReplyDeleteTo be frank dear your fears are founded n u hv genuine reason to be apprehensive. Just go to God in prayers is my advice.
ReplyDeleteI pity u.cos wat an old man sees sitting a child can even he climbs d highest trees
ReplyDeleteIs not wise ... you better don't marry him... He might have the willpower to manage everything but you don't know what those sister's of his will go start doing spiritually and other stuff.
ReplyDeleteThis world is wicked, if you can handle it then go but if you are not the quarrelsome type then you are definitely putting your hands into fire with your eyes open.
Even if you can handle them, you will get tired later in the future.
Nigerian marriage, family is not something one should take lightly.
At lease you can see what is happening to Adebayo... they've made him talk and now his going on crazy leaves that may lead to something drastic.... May God help him.
Be wise.
It's not advisable atall...he's sisters will b jealous of u wen ur husband spend for u...and they will always fight u or support their brother wenever u have an issue
ReplyDeleteIt's not advisable atall...he's sisters will b jealous of u wen ur husband spend for u...and they will always fight u or support their brother wenever u have an issue
ReplyDeletelisten to your mother.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmmm, dis is a difficult situation my dear
ReplyDeletePut on your running shoes dear writer .
ReplyDeleteExtended family ish....if he's buoyant enough
ReplyDeletethen you've absolutely nothing to worry
bout but if he's not then u have everything
to worry bout.
My first advise to you is to RUN!Having said that however,what were you looking at.His sisters didn't appear from the blues so truth is,you shouldn't even have taken the relationship as far as talking marriage.my advise still remains the same though.
ReplyDeleteRUN.
U abt to get into hot pepper soup and fire, my sister run. Peediva said...
ReplyDeleteHmmmm complicated! If he's rich them no problem but if he's struggling, Nne run! Issues magnify to X100 in marriage. I can tell you that for free and external influences contribute to squabbles in marriage.
ReplyDeleteMy sister, i will advise you to run for your life. If you desire a happy and fulfilling married life, do not go into that marriage. It is easy for him to tell you that the presence of his sisters and care for their family will not affect your marriage, but i tell you, the same man will be the one to tell you that he can't leave his sisters and parent bcos of you....SHINE YOUR EYES WELLA. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. All the best!
ReplyDeleteRun bitch run! Sounds like my dad n his four sisters.....
ReplyDeleteMy sister, i will advise you to run for your life. If you desire a happy and fulfilling married life, do not go into that marriage. It is easy for him to tell you that the presence of his sisters and care for their family will not affect your marriage, but i tell you, the same man will be the one to tell you that he can't leave his sisters and parent bcos of you....SHINE YOUR EYES WELLA. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. All the best!
ReplyDeleteSpeaking from experience, mine is jst 1 sister in law dat is not married bt has 2 daughters @ home nd yet dere family hates me so much cos dey dnt get much from my husband like dey used to. Upon say I get 3 kids yet dey still wnt him to be focused on dem dan his own new family. So my sister rrrrruuunnnnn 4 ur dear life cos hatred ll b ur name.
ReplyDeleteRun as fast as you can now, what's ahead of you isn't something you can handle. A word is enough for the wise.
ReplyDeletedanger!!! the truth about marriage is that love is never enough.it has to be based on wisdom and understanding. women naturally are prone to jealousy.and its a team of women against you. you will automatically become a rival once they begin to compete with you over money. casala will break and these women are his blood and family they have more power over him than u know. pray!! talk more and make sure he sets rules. goodluck!!
ReplyDeleteRUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
ReplyDeleteDon't go into it u will put urself in serious danger,u mum has already told u wat is right. 4 divorced sistes na serious gobe dere is a curse in dere family. If u can run more than Usain bolt pls run run run.
ReplyDeleteAsk God in prayer
ReplyDeleteRunnnnnn for your lifeeeeee
ReplyDeleteRun!!! Hatred will start when you guys are married and money reduces or stops for them.
ReplyDeleteI know those runs.
Pray to God for direction
ReplyDeleteEeyah is all i can say, there's no way he is gonna abandon his sisters
ReplyDeleteTrust me I've been in that department and it doesn't end well my dad was also like dat they fought my mum with everything
ReplyDeleteRUN!!!!!!!!!!! If not na die you dey ooooo, but if u decide to enter with ur eyes wide closed or open I wish u happy marriage life #B.O.B
ReplyDeletemy dear run for ur life....
ReplyDeletefrom all logical point of view......i suggest u run like kilode..
ReplyDeletefrom a non logical point of view...your fear can only be solved by your fiance.. Is he man enough to draw the line when faced with family issues...
if you honestly thick he can make his decisions and stand by it.. then go ahead girl and get MARRIED..
What are you about to get into?
ReplyDeleteIt is not in your interest to enter that situation and you know it but the final decision is yours.
my dear run for ur life...
ReplyDeleteWhat are you about to get into?
ReplyDeleteIt is not in your interest to enter that situation and you know it but the final decision is yours.
Listen to your mother now or be ready to write Linda another letter in d next five years
ReplyDeletemy dear run for your life.....
ReplyDeleteListen to your mum my dear, you will surely regret it in the long run
ReplyDeletemy dear run for ur life....
ReplyDeletemy dear run out now that u have the chance. its never gonna change. my sister lives in a similar situtation. close to 10 yrs now
ReplyDeletemy dear run for your life....
ReplyDeleteNne if you love him go ahead, but you have to fasten your seat belts.
ReplyDeleteNo is not, unless u will have to divorce him and start a new generation of single women in ur own parents house. Engr Emy
ReplyDeletePray about it. I would b so scared, that I would run. But if u run get ready to b back in our single market like his single sisters😝
ReplyDeletelet him as in set them free now before he marry you becos after marriage his 80% of attention must be on you and kids and that is where the hatred starts from. YOU NO DEY READ ADEBAYORS LIFE
ReplyDeleteIt's a bad luck already,how will four sisters be divorced from 1 family!!!pls be wise in ur decision
ReplyDeleteAnd still stand there d ask question? If u like, don't run u here? Abi u r naturally attracted to witchcraft?
ReplyDeleteMy dear run biko! They will later change towards u...
ReplyDeleteWhat do you want as answer?
ReplyDeleteMy dear Abeg fleeeeeeee
ReplyDeleteNne I tink ur mom might b right but d most imporant tin is hw serious is ur relationship wit christ?HE alone can solve dis for u my tot
ReplyDeletehell no
ReplyDeleteDon't try it my dear. In fact run away. Your mum is soo right. sister in law palaver is something else o. You have a good mother, listen to her.Even if he's the best guy, just run. Speaking from experience
ReplyDeleteI really think u should nt go for this......b4 u will b digging ur grave n burying urself....becos dose sis of his will nt stop interfering n if their monthly allowance drops u r dia target.....pls go with ur mum's advice
ReplyDeleteThey are his blood and there is nofin u can do to change that, if u really love him marry him, and pray to God to keep providing.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm....seriously don't think it's a good idea, hid to ur mother's advice, but at the same time pray and ask for clarity from God .
ReplyDeleteThere is a marital spell in that family so pls be careful until they break this spell,ur marriage with the guy may suffer the same attack.dont go ahead pls until it is settled spiritually.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm....seriously don't think it's a good idea, hid to ur mother's advice, but at the same time pray and ask for clarity from God .
ReplyDeleteBabe na cobweb dey ur brain abeg free that guy ur mama is a wise woman, Cuz na suffa dey wait u for yonder if u marry that Father Christmas of a man
ReplyDeleteBabe na cobweb dey ur brain abeg free that guy ur mama is a wise woman, Cuz na suffa dey wait u for yonder if u marry that Father Christmas of a man
ReplyDeleteGf you mother is overly right. A word is enough for the wise. Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteBabe na cobweb dey ur brain abeg free that guy ur mama is a wise woman, Cuz na suffa dey wait u for yonder if u marry that Father Christmas of a man
ReplyDeleteGf you mother is overly right. A word is enough for the wise. Linda take note!
ReplyDeleteHian,my dear dust ur legs and slippers and do what,run for ur life my dear,cos u will be frustrated by d time they start dealing with u...na d money wey I get I borrow u so o...
ReplyDeleteFlee. Lindaobserve
ReplyDeleteNo, it's not wise but marrying him is solely your decision to make
ReplyDeleteMy dear sis hmmmm I beg u in d name ov jah don't involve urself in dis mess cos dis a totally mess @ d long run!mark my world b'cos wen d tym comes he's sis wil start complainin @bt dem been neglected nd not been care 4 lyk b4 so think very well my dear!
ReplyDeleteOYO for you. Seems there's a divorce spirit in their family. Pray he doesn't divorce you. But if you were my sister, I would advise you not to marry him
ReplyDeleteI don't see any issue here, if u don't try u will never knw. So don't speculate.
ReplyDeletePlz run listen to ur mum ooo.
ReplyDeleteLib freak
Run sista run!
ReplyDeleteHmmm dis is a serious issue.My dad has dat same problm and we his children are really suffering. including my mum. Pls my dear now u hv seen it early enough do as ur mum said don't Eva try getting in2 dat marriage becos u will regret it for d rest of ur life. Wen u need help even his sisters will not remember the past. Am a living testimony to my mum's mistake.
ReplyDeleteYou are not yet ready to marry. Give another lady just a chance to come in. Grow up girl! Must ur mum tell u wht 2 do?
ReplyDeletebabe u are on your own o
ReplyDeleteas for me that's a no no and a no go marriage
Nimelda said so......
YOU BETTER RUN NOW WHILST YOU STILL CAN
ReplyDeleteBUT IF YOU DONT WANT TO
MAKE SURE YOU PRY ABOUT IT AND GET A 100% ASSURANCE ANSWER FROM GOD BEFORE YOU PROCEED. DONT GO AND FALL INTO THE WRONG HANDS OOOO
When you are working yourself and you can support the family very sure you won't have problems with your sis in law and am sure if they see u as a working class person they MIGHT think of being up and doing too all the best aanyways
ReplyDeleteTalk to your man about it if you're not going to be comfortable with it.
ReplyDeleteSister forget love ooh, Don't try it.
ReplyDeleteHe seems to be very hardworking to take care of 4 women.wow!..methinks adding one more and a couple of kids won't make much difference to his hardworking nature..besides,my focus would be;can he provide for himself and children??'cos there is always the possibility of a man being dependent on his wife,which isn't your case.if yes,babe,you can take care of yourself can't you?..I mean your not an invalid are you?#wink...I think his priority would change when he has his family..How does he treat you now?..does he loves you and show it? Can you live with him?..does he respect you?..if yes,I won't worry too much..xxx
ReplyDeleteHell no.. it's like entering into devil's den
ReplyDeleteBack now that you still can..
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No big deal,walk out.Seen similar situation,dey made d wife go gaga,frustrated her marriage.They are cool wid u now bcos u ain't a financial threat yet,start having ur kids knwing full well ur hubby will certainly shift attention frm dem,u r in for a mess.
ReplyDeleteHUMBLE EVE
If he has money to b spending on dem monthly,y don't he establish dem in different businesses so dey can stop depending on him?onless dat is don,iam sorry girlfriend,U r about to enter into a big fire.oh yes!
ReplyDeleteMy dear......Pls run for ya dear life
ReplyDeleteThat's a no no girl... The sistas are always going to be interfering in your marriage.
ReplyDeleteMydear don't marry in dat kind family bcos it most be a problem in ur marriage in years to come. Bcos if there brother is not sportng dam d ll not marry n divorce. 3 of dam. Dat family is a family of divorcee u better now b4 is 2late
ReplyDeleteEva heard d word GOBE?
ReplyDeleteplease do not go into that marriage until you have ensured that he has set up businesses for all his sisters. Abeg they may not be hostile today, but tomorrow they may or may not envy your successful marriage. Just do not go into this marriage with these situation. #MyOwn2Bits
ReplyDeleteYou re about to get into hell
ReplyDeleteIF you love him, his kindness towards his family won't be a problem. The ones he can do, encourage him or instead opt out rather than breed hatred and destruction in the family.
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ReplyDeleteRun lady, RUN!!!!
ReplyDeleteMy dear run and don't look back
ReplyDeleteHmmm,wow I am shocked that a woman above 30 depends on her brother, I don't know what to say but the situation is not ok at all so my dear be wise
ReplyDeleteif he has the money to take care of them, there is nothing wrong with that.
ReplyDeleteDon't do it!!!!'
ReplyDeleteDon't marry him please !!!!!!
Whatever you do, Don't marry him!!!!
You will never have peace, you will soon become like them o! A divorced, single mum !!!!
This is from personal experience o!!!!!
Dearie I will advice you to quietly walk away
ReplyDeleteYour bizness...your decision
ReplyDeleteFor me,im looking at this issue from the spiritual angle,ur fiancee shld go for deliverance.,else he divorces u
ReplyDeletePlease do not, all the signs are obviously there for you to not get involved in it and you have to take your mums advice, if you do not back out now, you will regret it later because his sisters and their needs and also that of their children will always come first before you and yours. Be wise.
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For me,im looking at this issue from the spiritual angle,ur fiancee shld go for deliverance.,else he divorces u
ReplyDeletePlease don't imagine d unimaginable. I've 3 words for u, run, run and run. It's d stubborn fly that follows d corpse to d grave. Heed my advice. Run! Don't imagine u'll change anything, run. I've d same problem. Run! Text Fortune to 33020.
ReplyDeleteIf u were a good christian u'd let God take control . They are divorcees isn't anyone's business .Turn to ur God not LIB
ReplyDeleteOmo Babe dis 1 hard ooo,men generally change after marriage,wot he is tellin u dtwldnt be a prob now,wld be tmrw,he beta stops it now b4 marriage unless his sis wld bounce on u tmrw
ReplyDeleteU beta run now that u have ur legs. U dont know d gravity of what u r about to get into, u can ask Adebayor, he will lecture u well. Family over-dependence can lead to so many marital problems that could cause death/suicide
ReplyDeleteMy dear, don't be in a hurry to get into that. Tell him you cannot cope with that. I have seen similar thing though not as bad as that. It is not an easy situation. Even if you are working and making money, they will think their brother makes everything. And if you act as an independent woman and take care of your kids and other things in the family, your husband will see it as an opportunity to support them more than his home. They will kill you with pressure. Please look else where. They must all be terrible to have failed marriages. You will see another guy from a better home.
ReplyDeleteRun for your life lol or run with your hubby and if u advice dem now,it wil be like cos he married you lol so u want to stop all their livelihood meanwhile dey are forgetting your fiancée got a life too,he won't be able to cope,he has to set them up instead of feeding them at least dey can depend on demselves and ask for little stuffs wen it's beyond dem
ReplyDeleteyou have to think ahead and get out of that relationship fast. bcos wen they pounce on u , the love u think u feel now will turn to hate.
ReplyDeleteThis is annoying so his four sisters are divorced and his mom is financially dependent on him so what? Were you there when she gave birth to him? This is nonsense you know..is he complaining? Is it your money? Did he say he will not give you money? Think about it cos obviously it is about the money and apparently you are not a wife material. Guy better wise up
ReplyDeleteMadam, follow your heart. Do what you think is best for you in your mind. U know the man more than anyone else. Some people who will advise you are not as wise as you. Don't follow your mother or anyone 's advice which you don't like.
ReplyDeleteI am telling you from experience. My junior brother that I senior with eight years married b4 me. I have not seen any girl that I want to marry. So my parents helped me to find one girl. When the girl came to visit me b4 the wedding, I noticed that the girl is very rude. I told my parents and said that l can't go ahead with the marriage. They said forgive her, she will change with time. But now my wife's behavior is even worse. I wish I had followed my instinct not to marry her. Lesson :you are your own best advicer
Worry dear vos am in kinda similar situation women and their wahala don't forget that is it when he marries u everything will change
ReplyDeleteGod Forbid! Will nt even do it 4 all d money in d world bcos u will never have control of ur home alwayz trying 2 impress sis inlaws nd mother inlaw
ReplyDeleteMy sister please don't marry him that way.Let Him do the needful first by settling them all out of his life and make them independent. But the fact that they are divorcees is still a disturbing factor cause they are still attached to him and will want to influence his decisions. This must affect your marriage.so its better not to enter except you have the grace to endure such.
ReplyDeleteIf he assured u,then be assured. U cannot have it 100% in marriage.Things might change totally in ur FAVOUR after marriage.
ReplyDeleteIf he assured u,then be assured. U cannot have it 100% in marriage.Things might change totally in ur FAVOUR after marriage.
ReplyDeleteGirl run fast if not na kung fu Hustle you dey
ReplyDeleteDon't you dare!! I dentical story of my father and mom. My father had three sisters who never married, had children and we're all dependent on him; all of my ten cousins. He sent all of them to school and some even stayed with us etc. When my dad eventually married my mom and had to focus on me and my siblings as we were growing up. One of the sisters but very jealous. She even asked my dad why he was sending me to the U.S. and not her daughter. My sister, remove your slippers and run!! Don't look back.
ReplyDeleteThis is where I say ' Run Bitch Run' very bad omen
ReplyDeletePLEASE DON'T DECEIVE YOURSELF. IT WILL GET WORST WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED.
ReplyDeleteIf your are my daughter i will say NO. Don't marry him.
ReplyDeleteRUN!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteTrust me marrying him will cause you a lot of heart ache. Listen to your mum.
u wanna knw the truth? BAD IDEA girlfriend, u jst don't want to get ur head dug in that mess...
ReplyDeleteu wanna knw the truth? BAD IDEA girlfriend, u jst don't want to get ur head dug in that mess...
ReplyDeletepls my dear sister pray think and dont make mistake.but good to follow mum adverse who have experience in marriage
ReplyDeleteU had beta run!!!!!!!! His sisters wld definately be threats to u sooner dan u think & fry ur ass like chinchin once he stopped focusing on dem afta getting married to u...
ReplyDeletehello, if you love your Man, then you know you have to love his family. if you both love each other get I sure with God everything will be fine No one will be able to make this decision for you. You stil have to make up your mind. Follow your heart and if your man means the world to you then you know what to do. Think Postive. Your mum may be right.
ReplyDeleteMy sister ran as far as you can, talking from experience , mine are not single mother nor divorcees but they still rely on my husband . It hasnt been easy , now the table is turned ,his business has been down laterly and we are on the receiving end as help is not coming from any of them. Think and shine your eyes
ReplyDeleteAbeg no go do
ReplyDeleteMy dear my sincere advice for you is to run while you still can don't marry a man that even one if his relative depends on talk more four when the time comes there will be so much to deal with trust me am talking from experience
ReplyDeleteOgirl,run for ur life,unless u are an agu nwanyi like me.
ReplyDeleteBeing financially dependent may not be a big issue,the bigger. Issue is their influence and presence in the family.Ofcourse they must all have issues and couldn't keep a marriage so that should be a big call for worry cos dey will neva want to see you in a happy marriage.
ReplyDeleteI will advise you not to marry this man (even if it is in a dream)!!!
ReplyDeleteMy friend is going through hell now as she made the mistake you are about to make.
Please my sister, do not do it, heed to your mother's advise and God will provide a good man for you when the time comes.
You are about to get into trouble my dear. do not be in a rush to get marrried yet. You need to discuss wirh your fiancee about settling them financially and do it in a very diplomatic way. Tell him they need to be independent God forbid sometin happens to him or his finances. As for the sis stil living with him, suggest to him in a romantic way that he should get them a small apartment so you both can be free to do whatever you like.#wink mischeviously. That would appeal to his sexual side which men dont toy with.that way he wont think you are trying to drive away his family. You realy need to be prayerful that the lord should set them up financially and maritally so you can have rest of mind cos if you get married in this situation,you"l both start frustrated and he will side with his sisters cos blood is thicker than water. I can go oon and on but bottom line, take your time,pray and be diplomatic.
ReplyDeleteBabe forget the promise n run for ur life of nt hmmmm ur body go show u oo. Tiii
ReplyDeleteif marriage no hungry u go seat don. its not a do or die affair
ReplyDeletehmmmmn! dear... I would advice you pray about it first, it's only God dat knows the end from the beginning, u need revelations before making dat decision.
ReplyDeleteDon't marry him your mum told u the truth Hmm unless u want Gbege from them cos when u drop ur own child now u ll be hated for no reasons n then wahala go begin
ReplyDeletethe most important thing is that you have spoken about it to him and if he says everything will be ok then trust him
ReplyDeleteRun run run.
ReplyDeleteput your self in those his sisters shoes why do u ladies always want to divide a family ? he told u it will be fine if u dont think so quit the relationship. But dont divide his family
ReplyDeletedont you work ? you dont have to depend on his funds u can even help him out . if his family are happy then u will be happy. but dont divide them cos u will be in soup later. go in that way or quit the relationship
ReplyDeleteMy dear,run for ur life
ReplyDeleteit not good enough yeah. but hey they are his sisters so dont divide them if u cant stay in just quit now.
ReplyDeleteif a man takes care of his sisters that way it should make u smile cos he will take care of u too. But why do u women have issues with mother inlaws , sister inlaws and all? but yours are well funded with ur money ?
ReplyDeleteMy dear,run for ur life,u can borrow usein bolt's legs to help u run faster,to avoid stories dat touch in future
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