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Dear LIB readers: As a married woman, must my husband be my next of kin?

From a female LIB reader
My husband and I have been married for over a year now and I am about to put some of my money into a new business which requires I fill a form stating who my next of kin is. It's a lot of money and am skeptical about how these men can be. We are yet to have kids if not I would have put my child's name. I am thinking of putting in my brother's name but am still thinking if it's right. Must I put in my husband's name?
at 2/03/2015 08:57:00 pm

360 comments:

  1. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:00

    Yes na

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  2. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:00

    NO! Don't put your husbands name. If sumtin happens to you another woman wud move in n enjoy ur money.

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  3. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:00

    why not if you trust him.. it has nothing to do with love

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  4. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:00

    Yes, put it in your husbands name, cos u will expect him to do same.... both of u are one unless u have other plans






    Heaven on Earth

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  5. AbokiDaWarriBoy3 February 2015 at 21:01

    Biko don't trust we men o, we can be very disappointing most tyms just like u women too...lol think twice $ use ur head!

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  6. AbokiDaWarriBoy3 February 2015 at 21:01

    Biko don't trust we men o, we can be very disappointing most tyms just like u women too...lol think twice $ use ur head!

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  7. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:01

    U must not put your husbands name...its nt a must....But if U trust him enough...den go ahead...if not .....use someone U re sure of...But U suppose trust ur husband sha











    Moye says so via BB Passport...Courtesy LIB.....

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  8. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:01

    Yes you are right to put your brother's name or even sister,even you can put your dad or mum's name,but remember your husband will do same and when he goes back to God you will understand the meaning of not making you his next of kin kids or no kids,trusting a man should be a pre-marital question.

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  9. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:01

    U can put ur husbands name but if u don't trust him put ur family name who u trust

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  10. cynthia3 February 2015 at 21:02

    Don't put your husband name.instead put your mother's name or someone in your family.when you have a child rhenium you could replace it with the name of your child.

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  11. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:02

    If u ask me who will I ask, just use u head ok

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  12. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:02

    Well, he does not necessarily has to be your next of kin.
    Next of kin is considered someone trustworthy to be contacted in case of emergencies. Could be your family too.

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  13. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:03

    If u ask me who will I ask, just use ur head ok

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  14. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:03

    You are skeptical? Nawaoo.. You both are one. You have to trust your husband



    #GodblessNigeria

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  15. Steady3 February 2015 at 21:03

    Put your late grandpa as the next of kin then idiot

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  16. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:03

    Yes! Selfish woman and yes am a woman, stop giving us bad name.

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  17. Doyeen Aliyu3 February 2015 at 21:03

    You don't av to.

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  18. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:04

    Depending in his love for u

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  19. cutestlove3 February 2015 at 21:04

    There's nothing wrong your husband is your next of kin.....but is advisable u use your child as ur next of kin.

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  20. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:04

    Nope, you don't have to put your husband as your next of kin. Let your spirit guide you. It seems sha that you don't trust your husband. Anyway you can always change it later.

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  21. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:04

    Fuck u. Berra put Dude's name on that paper. If Men are Pennin their wives as next of kin, why won't the women do same or is it that u just married him 4 marriage sake.

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  22. jbankzE3 February 2015 at 21:04

    Anyfin moni dnt put ur husband's name oooo..... D man go jst kill u n vanish wif ur moni.use ur family member n u need nt tell ur hubby who ur nxt of kin is.... #okbye

    ~@iamjbankz SA to President Jonathan 2015~

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  23. Noble Women3 February 2015 at 21:05

    Please seek the counsel of a lawyer and also a banker to find out implications. Although I heard being next of kin doesn't usually mean you can handle the wealth ooh, from experience.

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  24. BONARIO NNAGS3 February 2015 at 21:05

    Some women sha, chineke napu ekwensu Ike ya Nye unu.
    If you're doubtful of your husband,why then are you there?
    Goes to show you even value the money more than him.
    You can use the chief priest of your village as next of kin.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

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  25. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:05

    Nope... Put it in your mother's name

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  26. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:05

    Divorce ur hubby ASAP cos it's obvious you guys were not meant to be together. Thank the business deal because it just put into perspective how low you think of him.

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  27. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:05

    "Sceptical about how these men can be?"
    You sure you're legally married to him?
    In my opinion, I think we should go back to the drawing board to see where we're getting it wrong with this beautiful institution, MARRIAGE.

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  28. Brown sugar3 February 2015 at 21:06

    No ... Your mother or sister but u have to change it once your have a child! Men can't be trusted.

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  29. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:06

    It's not a must your husband be, but I believe it's the best cos u two are now one according to the vow u both made; just believe God for your own child as a year is not too much. My opinion.

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  30. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:06

    See what your problem is. Smh but if it's the man tht refused to put u as his next of kin the whole family go hear am...when u went to the alter with him u both became one.

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  31. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:07

    You are a daft, retarded woman, with no sense. You got married to answer someone's surname yet he is not your next of kin. Incan guess what tribe you arw from, the ones that think money is everything and can sell their own mother in attempting to get rich. Rubbish slut.

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  32. dami3 February 2015 at 21:07

    Its not a must u put his name but he won't b too api he's not your next of kin. I think u should follow your heart

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  33. win3 February 2015 at 21:07

    Whoo, that's a very hard decision you got there. It would have been easier if you have a child. but all the same , you have to put into consconsideration the type of relationship you have with cos some men can be funny at times.

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  34. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:07

    Before nko...if u don't trust him why marry him. Think how u will feel if he does same to u

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  35. JAY3 February 2015 at 21:07

    I wonder how people get married these days, how can you marry a man you have no trust for? Judging from your write up you obviously don't trust your husband i just wonder how people confirm their mr right or miss right these days, cos if your husband is your mr right you will not have a second thought in making him your next of kin...i think you need to revaluate yourself and know if you're married to your mr right, hence the marriage is still young.

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  36. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:08

    U knw it's nt a must, bt sounds gud! Hweva, i trust u knw best!

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  37. obietrezy3 February 2015 at 21:08

    Question for orunmila... Jor oh

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  38. JAY3 February 2015 at 21:08

    I wonder how people get married these days, how can you marry a man you have no trust for? Judging from your write up you obviously don't trust your husband i just wonder how people confirm their mr right or miss right these days, cos if your husband is your mr right you will not have a second thought in making him your next of kin...i think you need to revaluate yourself and know if you're married to your mr right, hence the marriage is still young.

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  39. HAWTTALKWITHTOSAN3 February 2015 at 21:08

    Urm? Well isn't he? Pray tell!

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  40. Cute G3 February 2015 at 21:09

    You shd love him with all your heart before walking down the Isle with him. Unless your love for him has dwindled. Yes of course and if you are not secured, use one of your siblings

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  41. Davido's driver3 February 2015 at 21:10

    Dont be greedy abi u de plan to divorce am?

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  42. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:10

    Are you sure you are married or relationship....? because you and your husband are suppose to be one.....even when you have children.

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  43. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:10

    Lol big Question?

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  44. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:11

    Abeg put your brother

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  45. Zeeze3 February 2015 at 21:11

    If you have to think about it, put your brothers name.

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  46. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:11

    I wonder why one shuld be askn such question! Dis brings me 2 the question, "do u even trust ur spouse? And on wat bases did u marry ur husband? I beliv ur husband shuld be ur closest confidant. Hw on earth will u marry a man dat u can't even use as ur nxt of kin? Well if u dnt trust ur husband wif tins lyk dat den u'll neva hav a smooth marriage.

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  47. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:12

    if your husband is starting a new business too and you've been married for a year and you have no children should he put you as next of kin?..............hmmm

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  48. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:12

    U should know the kind of man u married, if you cant trust him, then don't put him as ur next of kin

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  49. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:12

    No dear you dont have to. Go with your bro if you trust him. How about your mom? Change to your kids as soon as you have them. Good luck.

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  50. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:12

    Why marry your husband if you don't trust him?

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  51. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:12

    At the end of the day this is all about TRUST!! Do you trust him? If yes, why not...you are now one ! If you believe in the bible. If you don't trust him , why did you marry him? That's a question you need to ask yourself now, this issue of trust is a game changer for marriages, well , for mine it was, and where did it end? Divorce court.

    Also, if your husband is really a trustworthy person, and then finds out you on the other hand do not trust him, it could change his view on YOU and your marriage as a whole,this might start putting some ideas( bad) in his head.

    At the end of the day, it's your money, your decision, however your decision has to be one that won't affect your new family ( husband and yourself) with or without children. Lot of partners think putting things in their children's name is the safest option, now see it from this view, if something happens to you, God forbid ( the nigerian in me has to say this) ... If it does, and your children are still under age, legally the other partner is then in charge,
    I.e he/she can act on your behalf and swindle the funds back to himself, without going too legal and into too many details here, I know it can be done ( as a legal person).

    Therefore, make a WISE decision madam,

    God bless.

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  52. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:12

    Pls use your brother's name.
    These days, husbands aint loyal.

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  53. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:12

    It's very okay for you to put it in your brother's name. I'd never make the mistake of putting it my husband's name.

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  54. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:13

    Madam I advise you use either of ur parents as your next of kin. Leave your hubby out of it mbok.

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  55. Peejay3 February 2015 at 21:13

    Tricky one...find out if there's an option of two kins i.e a primary and secondary beneficiary. This way, you can put them both. I'm married by the way.

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  56. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:13

    This is the problem with marriages theses days. Couples thinking as individuals and give good reasons for being 'selfish'. If you think of your (nuclear) family as a unit, so shall it be. If you're married and still think your husband as another person ("you know how these men can be"), so shall you continue to see and treat him. When he notices, he'll give a counter reaction and you guys will grow apart. Invest emotionally, financially, spiritually, physically and more in your marriage.

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  57. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:13

    Anybody can be your next of kin, you don't have to put your husbands name, but don't get upset if he doesn't put yours as his next of kin as well.

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  58. Jaf3 February 2015 at 21:13

    That's absolutely fine as long as you won't mind his brother being his next of kin...

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  59. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:14

    U have to put ur husband's name since you don't have a child yet.

    It will be too rude to put ur brother's name.

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  60. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:15

    My dear I understand your worries, and we ladies have a way of reasoning alike. I think it's better u give him every benefit of doubt afterall marriage is for better for worse. U swore to love him for richer for poorer. But in future u suspect any foul play, u can always notify the company so as to change ur next of kin without his knowledge, they will give u a form to fill. Lack of trust can ruin ur marriage so be wise. do not give him the impression u don't trust him, but don't be a mugu or a victim. Just be careful and wise. Wish u well

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  61. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:15

    Why did you marry him if you can't vouch for him...??

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  62. shollymama3 February 2015 at 21:15

    Dnt try it, men are very wicked telling u dis outta experience not all of em thou! Dnt try it ma dear

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  63. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:15

    Please Linda tell her to use my name. Am trustworthy o

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  64. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:16

    Love is trust. Put ur hubby, he deserves it more than ur brother




    Jonrisa...

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  65. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:16

    It depends on the level of trust, I suggest you put your mother's name.

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  66. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:16

    for d main tyme u can...if u have kids afterwards..just change it

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  67. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:16

    But u will want him to put your name as next of kin wen filling office documents fool

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  68. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:17

    why not? if ur husband can't be ur next of kin because of deceptive act, it means there is problem along the line or from the initial stage of relationship. the different between ur husband and brother is just blood-relationship, if u dont trust ur husband whom will u trust? do u think ur brother cannot deceive u too?

    mjabdulk@gmail.com

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  69. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:17

    Put my name pls, or better still put d money in my account GTB 0010156218

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  70. SWILL MARTIN3 February 2015 at 21:18

    No try am oooo,put ur parents name 4 nau except ur brotha is trust wrthy u cud also put his name,husband ko wey go fit troway u @ anytym.

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  71. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:18

    You are on a long thing o! God will lead you through. Linda take note!

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  72. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:18

    If you can't put his name, why are you still in his house. Divorce him already, since you don't trust him with your money not to talk of your life.
    Marriage is not meant for everybody. If you don't trust him, opt out with immediate effect and automatic alacrity. Arrant nonsense!!

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  73. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:19

    ar u sure u love him?

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  74. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:19

    Waiting for others comment.

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  75. obinnakels3 February 2015 at 21:20

    Your Husband is your own family, your brother is your mother and father family

    So you should put your husbands name morover you can decide to change the nest of Kin if he crosses the Line

    But i think your NestOfKin should be ur husband seems u aint got Kids

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  76. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:21

    it is obvious you and your husband dont love each other

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  77. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:21

    Biko...your brother for now. Then you change to your husband later

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  78. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:21

    No u mustn't. Men are not worth it my dear. Pls put ur sister's name or u bro's name. Blood is thicker than any other thing trust me.

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  79. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:21

    If you you are already unsure of your husband after just over of marriage then pls use your brother and let us hear word. If it were ur husband that used his sister as his next of kin how would you feel or what will you say?

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  80. jessica egolo3 February 2015 at 21:21

    Noo it's not a must

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  81. Mz Lolo...3 February 2015 at 21:22

    On a normal day, ur hubby shld b ur frnd, brother, father etc but u sound like u have doubts abwt him. Cos ur next of kin should b ur closest relative. If ur hubby doesn't fit in dat position, then don't put his name...

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  82. African Icon3 February 2015 at 21:22

    Isn't your brother married? Why not put your papa or mama? So you do not trust him yet you married him? Well, I don't blame you sha some men can't be trusted.
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  83. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:22

    How would you feel if your husband use his brother/ sister as his next of kin? If you can answer truthfully, feel free to use your brother as your next of kin.

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  84. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:22

    I would rather put my kid sister or mother( not always) , I am married less than a year too but I can't put my hubby or brother's name, they are not to be trusted one bit. I am talking from experience, don't try it.

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  85. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:22

    You dont trust your husband.why did you marry him?

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  86. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:23

    No you mustn't, please put ur brothers name, blood is thicker than water.

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  87. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:23

    don't think of trying it ooooo...

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  88. NK3 February 2015 at 21:23

    Better use ur brother's name. A stitch in time saves nine.

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  89. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:25

    Yes, u guys are married

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  90. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:25

    wat ever works for u swt hrt.

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  91. Chudi3 February 2015 at 21:25

    I think if you trust your husband and you think he too can use you as his next of kin if he acquires a property or in business, then there is no qualms in using him as your next of kin except it seems he can't do thesame favour. it is all about how well you trust your husband and how you both see yourselves and your future together.

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  92. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:25

    You wont be asking this question if you and your husband are in love with each other.I hope you was not forced to marry him.

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  93. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:25

    4 beta 4 worst is y yu married him. So y complain. Yu dnt even ave trust in yu husband and yu married him. Na wa oooooo

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  94. REAL. PIKIN3 February 2015 at 21:27

    Hmmm my dear put Ur brother ooooo

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  95. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:27

    Wen u took marital vow,was dia a tym de priest said & u 2 wil become one and no longer 2 but 1. Weda u re afraid of ur partner,u just hv 2 do de right tin dt wil please God. Ur reward is in heaven and not on earth. Hw can u use ur brother as ur nxt of kin? Nawa oooo. Tins re happening nowadays ooo. #oneandonlynwa@gmail.com#

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  96. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:27

    Too many unhappy homes.I know buhari will soon promise nigerians that he will ban unhappiness in every home if elected.

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  97. prettiyz3 February 2015 at 21:28

    No its not,u r entitled to use anyone u like,am sure he won't even use u

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  98. Malaysiame3 February 2015 at 21:28

    My God are u for real??? U don't have siblings??? Which husband name??? Better put ur sisters name or brother...biko

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  99. African Icon3 February 2015 at 21:28

    Isn't your brother married? Why not put your papa or mama? So you do not trust him yet you married him? Well, I don't blame you sha some men can't be trusted.
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  100. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:29

    Not a must biko, brother is ok, but come on love should be blind. He is your love and partner.

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  101. Alorlondon3 February 2015 at 21:30

    You ladies never cease to amaze and amuse me. One you start earning that's when you start to expect and plan for the worst. What if your husbands come up with such nasty attitudes from the unset? How will you feel? If you think you're about to have more money than him and your brother will be your next of kin, if in the long run he becomes better off will you expect him to use him as his next of kin? Your state of mind need to be changed for the better my dear

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  102. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:31

    If your husband put his brother name on the form,you would have been happy?

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  103. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:31

    For you to be in doubt then its obvious there are trust issues.

    If that is the case,then please don't.

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  104. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:31

    Use ur brother's name plz

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  105. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:31

    If u ve a child for him, u can make him ur next of kin. When u child is up to 18yrs u make him/ her ur next of kin.if no child don't make him.if u are legally married u can still make him ur next of kin with trust

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  106. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:31

    Nooooo put Ur brother name,, ode like u, why not stay in Ur father house and marry Ur damn brother, women whit their fishie thinking SMH.#THAT AKWA IBOM BOY#

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  107. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:32

    For u to v asked such a question spells lack of Trust in ur marriage! To me ur husband is a better option cause some brothers are really unworthy when it comes to money xcept u trust him more than ur man!

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  108. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:32

    Yes bc u are building ur world around ur new home nt ur fathers home.

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  109. Innocent Chukwuma3 February 2015 at 21:32

    Weird, was it not for better for worse till death do u part? Are you not meant to be one now? If he can't be ur next of kin who will? Na wah o.

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  110. Osafele Fredrick3 February 2015 at 21:32

    He cannot be you next of kin

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  111. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:32

    Hmmmmmm question 4 d married once, buh if u ask me, I will say it depends on how ur marriage is treating u.

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  112. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:32

    Abeg put ur grand mother name.

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  113. African Icon3 February 2015 at 21:32

    Isn't your brother married? Why not put your papa or mama? So you do not trust him yet you married him? Well, I don't blame you sha some men can't be trusted.
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  114. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:33

    U don't have too....
    because God forbid anything happens to you these men marry up another bitch within a wink of an eye...
    If u trust your mother you can put her, then after you and your hubby have kids you can always change it to the Kids name.

    Omo i no trust these men....

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  115. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:34

    No.

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  116. Space Geek3 February 2015 at 21:34

    Are you high? What is the point of getting married if you ask such questions? the question is your marriage real?

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  117. Skipper253 February 2015 at 21:34

    It most not necessarily be ur husbands name...Your brother is ok for now. .

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  118. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:35

    Wetin em wan kin for there wen u gat ur immediate family? Take time oh! Na love be dis? To some extent jare!!!! Wake up n receive ma hot slap gurl...

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  119. Juleslouis3 February 2015 at 21:36

    You musn't. In a scenerio like this, i'd prefer my brother's name of a very close sibling. But i won't tell him or her.

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  120. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:36

    U shud trust ur husby enof 2 make him ur next of kin

    Pamscrib.blogspot.com

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  121. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:36

    Hmmmm...put my name naa,mtshwwww,put ur hubby's name jor,u married him for better or worse,if u didn't trust him enuf with ur moni,y did u trust him enuf to swear always nd forever @ d alter...#well u might be 1 of those who believe in divorce...

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  122. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:38

    Hmmmm...put my name naa,mtshwwww,put ur hubby's name jor,u married him for better or worse,if u didn't trust him enuf with ur moni,y did u trust him enuf to swear always nd forever @ d alter...#well u might be 1 of those who believe in divorce...

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  123. bede kennedy3 February 2015 at 21:38

    that yur business or u want to put my name? 1+1 =?

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  124. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:39

    Yes or ur child if u have one

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  125. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:39

    Ur honestly very stupid u don't trust a man enough to just be ur next of kin yet u married him if I were ur house dis would be the end of ur marriage imagine how he would feel reading dis

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  126. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:39

    Not a must dear
    NO TANK U,I D RATHER B SELFMADE

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  127. chioma3 February 2015 at 21:41

    Are u sure dat u are truly married

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  128. Onyx's Girlfriend (he isn't gay pls)3 February 2015 at 21:41

    Its not a must. #happytuesday

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  129. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:41

    No ooo

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  130. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:42

    Use ur child if non us ur family. Hmm

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  131. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:43

    Put your brothers name please.

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  132. xquisite3 February 2015 at 21:43

    Wow! Sensitive issue. I will advise you put your family member's name though

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  133. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:43

    Nope, you must not....

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  134. Ike Ani3 February 2015 at 21:43

    Its a personal choice but not must. www.ikeani.blogspot.com

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  135. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:45

    Is he having any questionable behaviour?if he is not,u cn put his name without telling him,den change it wen a child comes

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  136. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:47

    I can't even afford to make my hubby my next of kin.....but my kids is acceptable.....



    ••••••••QUEENMAYA••••••••

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  137. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:47

    idiot go ask ur fada.

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  138. luvlyn3 February 2015 at 21:47

    Is better u put ur brother or sister's name

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  139. knowurway.com3 February 2015 at 21:48

    What is wrong with Nigeria woman nowadays? Or u don't love him? Or he doesn't love u as his wife? His ur husband for cryingoutloud and u have to use him as ur nest of kin period, hmmm. Vote for #change# don't let people deceive people party, deceive u.They are coming again! Shine ur eyes well, OJB, called them hawks that surround GEJ, Its has been proven that we are not moving forward. For past 6 years now, all what they do is to recycle themselves, and continuity embezzlement of Nigerian money, people deceive people party, that is their mentality, my people the rain may fall, the sun may shine, but doesn't disturb the snail to get to its destination. No matter what people deceive people say, about GMB, u nd I'll overcome them! Nigerians! Wake-up! the time has come my people lives matter. PDP party and corruption insecurity darkness no electricity bad government must go. Dear Nigerian's pls forget tribalism especially we the youths, we need change in our country Nigeria, pls lets vote right nd make Nigeria a better place for u nd I,ur children/unborn children nd the next generation. We re tired of CORRUPTION, GREED, ND INSECURITY, etc. That has eaten so deep into our past nd present leaders, the unfair treatment to the masses especially,the rich getting richer while the poor are getting poorer. Its so sad. May God continue to be with us Amen. Vote for #change# vote Buhari and Osinbajo. For president next month 14th.

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  140. @sugarcassie3 February 2015 at 21:49

    Hmmmmn! You should know the kind of man you are married to! The safest would have been to put your brother but it's gonna cause discord btw u and ur hubby,and he won't be happy if he ever gets to know.

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  141. Yusuph3 February 2015 at 21:50

    Well according to me you understand ur spouse well before saying u will spend the rest of your life with him so y not ( people change feeling fade)

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  142. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:50

    only u can tell who u can trust wit ur money. as for me, I know my sister can lay her life for me so she is my beneficiary in every thing I owe.

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  143. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:51

    U and ur hubi are one....so y tink twice....plz use ur Hubi as next of kin

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  144. ENNY3 February 2015 at 21:52

    I am very sure you would want him to put your own name as his next of kin.

    He's your husband for goodness sake! If you are this insecure and not really sure you trust him- why did you marry him then?

    To answer your question, you can use anyone you feel comfortable with as your next of kin, but remember, you made a vow with your husband on your wedding day and this is one of the numerous ways of honouring that vow.

    Be wise!

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  145. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:52

    put your brother name or your sister name okay

    obinna.chuks2k3@gmail.com

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  146. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:52

    If you can answer the question, 'must he put u as his next of kin?'... Then, there goea your answer.

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  147. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:52

    http://incomebite.com/?user=10024 please lovely people kindly help me click on this link. Thank you.

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  148. Jay3 February 2015 at 21:53

    It all depends on d knd of relationship u have with ur husband dear.am getting a feeling dat u don't trust ur husband,but I hope dats not d case.its ur money so at d end of d day,its ur decision.

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  149. Ima3 February 2015 at 21:53

    Madam, Put your husband's name o, its too early in your marriage 4 dat kind of mistrust. Besides, if he puts his own sister's name in his documents instead of u, all hell will let loose! We women sef! *side eye*

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  150. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:54

    Not compulsory cos u obviously have trust issues

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  151. Chop Chop3 February 2015 at 21:55

    Nope. .. you can designate your choice.

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  152. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:55

    Don't put your husband name instead of your brother's name

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  153. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:56

    To avoid stories that touch.....put your brother and husbands names until you have a child. You can then change it for them to serve as trustees till he/she is of age.

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  154. cynthia3 February 2015 at 21:56

    Write your mother's name or someone in your family.when you have a child you could replace the name with your childs

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  155. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:57

    Goat, go and ask u mother, take ur personal problem to her.

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  156. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:57

    You can put my name for now, till you make up your mind.

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  157. Unknown3 February 2015 at 21:57

    Your brother is still better than your husband to be the next of kin

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  158. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 21:58

    no you must not, as long as you won't mind if he doesn't put you as his!!

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  159. Dani3 February 2015 at 21:59

    No it must not be your husband dear

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  160. bunmi3 February 2015 at 21:59

    you shouldn't have married him

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  161. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:00

    Dear mrs lib reader pls u married him,if u did nt trust him u won't marry now.buh still yet I would say u should put ur brothers name.cuz ur marriage is still new and truly truly some men can be funny at times yea.

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  162. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:00

    Yes you have to

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  163. AIRBAG1003 February 2015 at 22:01

    Olodo wife why do u have kids huh?

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  164. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 22:01

    Y marry him if u couldnt trust him. Maybe its not yet time to d dat business yet.

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  165. AIRBAG1003 February 2015 at 22:02

    Olodo wife why do u have kids huh? First concentrate on having kids ok

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  166. Blog It With Olivia3 February 2015 at 22:03

    There's nothing wrong in using ur husbands name now...remember when u took an oath @ d altar, u guys became one...so ur property is ur husband's property too

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  167. Blog It With Olivia3 February 2015 at 22:03

    There's nothing wrong in using ur husbands name now...remember when u took an oath @ d altar, u guys became one...so ur property is ur husband's property too

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  168. ary3 February 2015 at 22:03

    Put your parents' names that way if you have kids they can be taken care of. Your brother would kids of his own and that might be risky.

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  169. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:03

    You can use your mum but trust me your hubby won't find it funny when he finds out

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  170. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:05

    You can use your mum but trust me your hubby won't find it funny when he finds out,because if he uses another person other than you,there will be war in the house

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  171. Bicester Village3 February 2015 at 22:05

    Then you shouldn't have married him in the first place if you can't trust him with money..

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  172. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:05

    You can use your mum but trust me your hubby won't find it funny when he finds out,because if he uses another person other than you,there will be war in the house.s.imoh@yahoo.com

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  173. Mrs Tem3 February 2015 at 22:05

    I'm married too and my husband rarely picks calls with unkown numbers so anywhere imm to fill in forms requiring either emergency contacts or next of kin, I just put my mum's details instead. As your case involves money and sounds llike you don't trust your husband 100% pls fill in whoever you feel most comfortable with. Mind you, your brother can disappoint you also.

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  174. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:05

    You can use your mum but trust me your hubby won't find it funny when he finds out,because if he uses another person other than you,there will be war in the house.s.imoh@yahoo.com

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  175. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 22:05

    If you don't trust the man ure married to enough, then you shouldn't be married to him. Should you care to know; After several years of being married, Marriage is a 100% risky investment we DECIDE to make.

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  176. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:06

    Put ur hubby name..because u guys are now one..one plus one= one...u have to trust hubby .

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  177. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 22:07

    I never put my ex hubby as my next of kin. Always my sibling. As we didn't have kids and he was lazy, unambitious and gold diggerish i didn't see why he should benefit from my sweat if I die.

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  178. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 22:08

    No u must not. Put ur parents until u both have kids.

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  179. bluemagic3 February 2015 at 22:08

    Yes u must...both of u are one alrdy
    Hp u wnt feel bad if u ain't hs nxt of kin..

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  180. CELEB3 February 2015 at 22:10

    Trust

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  181. Mamie.3 February 2015 at 22:10

    If you don't Trust your husband with your money then you don't Trust him with your life. Why did you say YES to him they time he came? #Mamie.

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  182. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 22:11

    Talk to your husband bout it, and ask yourself in a multimillion deal would he put your name?

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  183. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 22:12

    Who is your husband next of kin? Are you not his next of kin, put his name. You can always change it when you have kids.

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  184. JP3 February 2015 at 22:12

    Except you are yet to have children for him, or you feel he is married to you for the wrong reasons, otherwise yes. Your immediate family after marriage is your husband and children, they will always be with you as you sail through life. There was a case of a lady putting her brother as her next of kin, unfortunately she passed on unexpectedly and her brother and extended family sent her husband and children out of the house she built as she was financially more stable.

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  185. Nnodim3 February 2015 at 22:12

    Yes, your husband should always be your next of kin if you are married under the Marriage Act. In fact any Will or similar declaration previously made is automatically nullified by subsequent marriages under the Act.

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  186. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:12

    Did he use your name as his next of kin?if yes,u do thesame cos both of u are 1

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  187. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 22:13

    Put your sister, not your brother or husband! men are all the same #shady!!!

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  188. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 22:13

    Why did you get married to a man you don't trust in the first place. What's this world turning into!

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  189. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:14

    No no no

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  190. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 22:15

    if i cant be your next of kin, then i cant be your husband.its either we are one or you remain single.

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  191. Lewis3 February 2015 at 22:16

    Why not forget about sentiment. He's ur husband until you have your children.

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  192. Anonymous3 February 2015 at 22:16

    For now yes but change as soon as u have a child. Good luck

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  193. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:17

    Put ur mum name if u can't put ur husband den

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  194. Tilda3 February 2015 at 22:18

    Since u dont trust d man u married...then use someone else

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  195. Aijay sweet3 February 2015 at 22:19

    u r on your own o!





    aijayswty@gmail.com

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  196. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:19

    NO PLS PUT ME AS YOUR NEXT OF KIN


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    I WILL RATHER BE SELF MADE

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  197. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:20

    Yes put ur husbands name. Unless you have no trust for whom u got married to.

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  198. Aijay sweet3 February 2015 at 22:20

    u r on your own o

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  199. Aymii3 February 2015 at 22:21

    And Your husband is thinking he married a wife????
    You are no wife!
    Shame on you!



    On 2 the Next!

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  200. Unknown3 February 2015 at 22:22

    Its not a MUST but if u want 2den fyn.I don't tink ur bro is a gud idea ! Xcept his a lil bro.

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