Letter To The Ladies Volume 5. (Because you're 30 and single doesn't mean you should throw in the Towel) - written by Flamboyant Psychologist Adejoro Olumofin
As a result of the pressure from friends, family and close associates, when some ladies reach age 30 and there are no visible suitors in sight, they develop some Personality Traits or Defense Mechanisms which may not be in their best interest because they conform to societal views and build a mindset that makes them see less of themselves like they think society does. They then believe there's little or no hope at all for them anymore and they are emotionally tired of making themselves available to potentials..
For example they stop going out totally, stop bothering
about their makeup or fashion acumen, they say things like " I'm too old
to do this, I'm too old to attend this function / event" or too old to
go to the club, looking down on every guy who may not be their
preference because they have achieved alot at their age and some guys
may not meet their standard or pay grade and all other excuses.
What they don't know is that by staying indoors and saying
i'm too old for this and that, or being overly picky, they lose out on
chances to network and socialise so how will they meet people or even
Mr. Right? If you're interested in settling down, no guy will break
into your house to court you.
From my first hand experience, i have some lady friends who
are 30 years old and above who still look smashing and stunning and
also give 21 year old Ladies a run for their money, they also have
loads of potentials and suitors.These ladies have not allowed the " 30
year Old syndrome" and societal pressure get to them, rather they are
living gracefully while trusting in God.
Ladies, If you don't see the good in yourself or your
potentials, no one will. Say no to the societal pressure and live life
rather than get broken.
You wont overcome this phase if you're emotionally broken.
You wont overcome this phase if you're emotionally broken.
Lets encourage our sisters and friends dealing with this
"Pressure" because society and its norms are not too friendly towards
them.
In my opinion 30 is the new 25 and age is just a number and
state of mind. The way you carry yourself emotionally, physically,
spiritually and Psychologically determine how a guy will treat you not
your age.
#DoktorMofin #Psychology #Volume5
Read more articles on Adejoro Olumofins instagram page : @joroolumofin
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ReplyDelete[Image][Image] Letter To The Ladies Volume 5.
ReplyDelete(Because you're 30 and single doesn't mean you
should throw in the Towel) - written by
Flamboyant Psychologist Adejoro Olumofin As a
result of the pressure from friends, family and
close associates, when some ladies reach age 30
and there are no visible suitors in sight, they
develop some Personality Traits or Defense
Mechanisms which may not be in their best
interest because they conform to societal views
and build a mindset that makes them see less of
themselves like they think society does. They then
believe there's little or no hope at all for them
anymore and they are emotionally tired of making
themselves available to potentials.. [Image] For
example they stop going out totally, stop
bothering about their makeup or fashion acumen,
they say things like " I'm too old to do this, I'm
too old to attend this function / event" or too old
to go to the club, looking down on every guy who
may not be their preference because they have
achieved alot at their age and some guys may not
meet their standard or pay grade and all other
excuses. What they don't know is that by staying
indoors and saying i'm too old for this and that,
or being overly picky, they lose out on chances to
network and socialise so how will they meet
people or even Mr. Right? If you're interested in
settling down, no guy will break into your house
to court you. From my first hand experience, i
have some lady friends who are 30 years old and
above who still look smashing and stunning and
also give 21 year old Ladies a run for their
money, they also have loads of potentials and
suitors.These ladies have not allowed the " 30
year Old syndrome" and societal pressure get to
them, rather they are living gracefully while
trusting in God.
Ladies, If you don't see the good in yourself or
your potentials, no one will. Say no to the societal
pressure and live life rather than get broken.
You wont overcome this phase if you're
emotionally broken.
Lets encourage our sisters and friends dealing
with this "Pressure" because society and its
norms are not too friendly towards them.
In my opinion 30 is the new 25 and age is just a
number and state of mind. The way you carry
yourself emotionally, physically, spiritually and
Psychologically determine how a guy will treat
you not your age.
#DoktorMofin #Psychology #Volume5
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ReplyDeleteBIG BROTHER SAYS SO
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ReplyDeleteI totally agree..
ReplyDeleteDats y I luv Linda... shes chopping life... God will bless all my single friends and sister with d bone of their bone... Amen!
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Nice!
ReplyDeleteok seen clearly
ReplyDeleteThis doesn't apply to all ladies above 30 o. Yeah, age is a number.
ReplyDeleteHmmm sorta deep
ReplyDelete@lwkmd_naija
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ReplyDeleteOn point, you shouldn't stop looking good cos you re 30, and also people should stop putting pressure on them to avoid desperation
ReplyDeletePreach!
ReplyDelete>>>>> well written Olu,. <<<<<
ReplyDelete9ic 1 jare bro tell dem
ReplyDeletena tru yan oh chai tnk God say i be man
ReplyDeleteWhile said bro
ReplyDeleteThank you... Quiet encouraging!
ReplyDeleteAttention seeker. Abeg take several sit back. All the ones them they preach since them no hear, na ur own them go hear.
ReplyDeleteIts nt dia fault.....pple nparents made it so....wonder if de expect dem to kneel b4 a guy and ask will umarry me? Low mentality bu ihe anyi na aya
ReplyDeletegud
ReplyDeleteAnd sometimes at age 30 they so much under pressure they make lots of mistake like falling for anything and any guy. ladies should learn not to make marriage a priority it will help them cope under societal pressures.
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Can't thank you enough Miss Linda! You are a blessing! 2015 will be a prosperous year for you..you shall be celebrated worldwide. Thanks a lot. Psalm 1:3. 3john 2. BishopDammy#
ReplyDeleteNice one.
ReplyDeleteMiss indomie says so.
kudos bro
ReplyDeleteThis is good bro keep it up.
ReplyDeleteAnd our ladies its up to u. While we guys don't look down on our self
Linda d heading of DAT article shud av been "Flamboyant phycologist writes to Linda Ikeji" winks
ReplyDelete#BuhariOsibajo42015 #itcanonlygetbetter
First of all y should marriage b d ultimate aspiration of women? Mtcheww
ReplyDeleteHmmm,keep encouraging them,but,it's not easy for them I must tell you.#NoLongYarnin
ReplyDeleteOya naw pick one of the 30's off the street, wenti u dey wait for to marry. Mtwwwwwww
ReplyDeleteGud one.Ladies wake up 30 or above should not lead u to despair.
ReplyDeleteNice, thumb up
ReplyDeleteThanx for ur word of encouragment
ReplyDeleteNice one
ReplyDeleteHmmmmnnn. Nice one. Cia_olamide12@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteLinda,Hope say u don hear.U beta do something fast
ReplyDeletehmmmm!!! SIngle Ladies above 30
ReplyDeleteI don't care to read the epistle now but he need heal his low self esteem of always wearing sun glasses even when there is no sunshine or indoor.
ReplyDeletetell dem all
ReplyDeleteWell composed, well written, well analysed, and well emphasised. Wish people will read these and understand it like it is not lash out @ the writer. Best article so far. »»»QU££NMA¥A»»»
ReplyDeleteLinda did I snatch your boyfriend? Why are you not approving my comments?
ReplyDelete30 is old?
ReplyDeleteWell said my brother.
ReplyDeleteSo true nigga,btw linda u chose well in ur giveawy,am nt licking urr ass. Bt u'rre a nice person,tnks on behalf of d receivers hope to win someday as I have never been lucky
ReplyDeletesome of dem go de put there self on tinkin asif dats d end of life n dem
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seen
ReplyDeleteHe's sure right
ReplyDeletekk correct
ReplyDeleteHe shld marry dem all na
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Linda i hope say yu dey collect ur money bcos the rate wey yu dey advertise this guy here dey fear me o..... Lolx.....
*GLO BRING 3G TO KONTAGORA*
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
I concur jor...
ReplyDeleteThey always justify dier introvacy wt being too old.
Nice word of encouragement. Ladies either pretty or beautiful don't be pressured and same apply for men
ReplyDeleteWell written
ReplyDeleteSame-old same-old.
ReplyDeleteLindiway he's a psychologist, he's a psychologist not different from those with office at Yaba left, adding flamboyant doesn't change the output.
~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA
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ReplyDeleteAnd what is this one saying?
Thank you 4 dis advice.
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ReplyDeleteAbeg wetin this one they yarn...commot for road jor aboki
ReplyDeleteTrue talk my brother.lol @ "no one will break into ur house to court u"
ReplyDeleteWord! Nigerians be obsessing over marriage and age. Wrong marriage can destroy lot of fins. People divorcing anyhow, God said it in d Bible that He hates divorce Malachi 2:16 (NLT). Children frm broken homes if care is nt taken re affected psychologically.
ReplyDeleteOn point
ReplyDeleteTrue talk tosinasisat@yahoo.co.uk
ReplyDeleteThis one is just advertising himself
ReplyDelete"living gracefully while trusting in God..... I love dat
ReplyDeleteI agree with you man, I had an experience recently myself. This lady just boxed up herself, she was just suspicious of everything. Even when I made honest compliments, she felt there was more to it. I moved on.
ReplyDeleteWell said.
ReplyDeleteCorrect my brother.
ReplyDeleteI DONT NEED TO READ IT SINCE ITS FOR 30 ND ABOVE
ReplyDeleteMy fellow colleague in behaviour therapy
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ReplyDeleteWell said bros, preach on
ReplyDeleteTrue talk. The first step to success is loving yourself. 30, 50 whatever d age, have fun and stop comparing υ̲̣̥r̲̅ lives with others.
ReplyDeleteNice article
ReplyDeleteCongrats Adejoro. I always knew you will be heard.
ReplyDeletethanks Adejoro, you spoke well
ReplyDeletewell said...Adejoro Olumofin
ReplyDeleteMr Suit
ReplyDeleteLovely Content
ReplyDeleteHe makes real sense
ReplyDeleteNa Prayer sure pass
ReplyDeleteWhy does everything have to be about wedding in Nigeria? Abeg
ReplyDeleteVery truthful n intelligent write up. Love that.
ReplyDeleteCorrect , I agree with him
ReplyDeleteRoger that!
ReplyDeleteTrue talk
ReplyDeletelinda hav u heard?stop dat excuse of am nt d makeup kinda person,cud remeber u said dat d last time u tuk ur siblings and dad 2 dubai,look gud even at home,well stil talkin 2 my self doh
ReplyDeleteA Lady should make herself seen.. This is very valid
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ReplyDeletepls tell them. pls women he is right, I've seen lots of women act like dat. u are above 30doesn't mean ur life is over. men are still there who would want to marry u. even if they don't, there is no crime against not being married. people will talk in all u do. because of the fear of beibg single, most women stay in violent marriages. where domestic violence is met out to them. pls women appreciate urselves cos God appreciates u.
ReplyDeleteLol.. This guy from Instagram.
ReplyDeleteLinda I won win money abeg.. I don comment oooo..
ReplyDeleteFor as long as you don't wear artificial eye lashes, have stretch marks, uneducated , I'm very okay with over 30 year Olds coz I don't want more than two kids. And yes, for as long as you are not an every day church goer as well
ReplyDeleteI WISH DERE WAS A LIKE BUTTON COS I LOVE DIS ARTICLE
ReplyDeleteTrue
ReplyDeleteWell done Adejoro
ReplyDeleteAunty Linda dis message is for u,plz be going out more often.hire more hands to help u wit ur job...And stop saying u re too old for some certain things
ReplyDeleteAuntylindagoddaughter
True talk Doc., life starts @ 30
ReplyDeleteTrue talk. The Lord is our strength.
ReplyDeleteE make sense small!
ReplyDeleteWho is this guy.
ReplyDeleteLinda im in love.
He has said it all.
Im not 30 but the pressures frm family and friends is alarming. Marriage is not a child's play coz if u rush in without looking, d next tin is to rush out.
Im living my life and trusting in God. All ladies should pls do d same.
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ReplyDeleteAm so in love with this man, he said it all....
To the Ladies, if ur approaching late twenties or early Thirties,,,,pls don't allow pressure from family, friends or societies to push u into desparate mood....
Or u start looking down on urself, its not worth it
No matter what, stiil rock in ur world, go out to nice places where u'd get to see nice guys, socialise with ppl αи∂ don't look down on urself
Inferiority complex is very bad, don't say ur now too old or fat or whatever....
Just believe in God, pray fervently αи∂ above all good character counts too.....
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ReplyDeleteAm so in love with this man, he said it all....
To the Ladies, if ur approaching late twenties or early Thirties,,,,pls don't allow pressure from family, friends or societies to push u into desparate mood....
Or u start looking down on urself, its not worth it
No matter what, stiil rock in ur world, go out to nice places where u'd get to see nice guys, socialise with ppl αи∂ don't look down on urself
Inferiority complex is very bad, don't say ur now too old or fat or whatever....
Just believe in God, pray fervently αи∂ above all good character counts too.....
Love u jare
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Love u jare
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Abeg what were these women doing that they ended up 30 and single..
ReplyDeleteEwwwwww
ReplyDeleteAm so in love with this man, he said it all....
To the Ladies, if ur approaching late twenties or early Thirties,,,,pls don't allow pressure from family, friends or societies to push u into desparate mood....
Or u start looking down on urself, its not worth it
No matter what, stiil rock in ur world, go out to nice places where u'd get to see nice guys, socialise with ppl αи∂ don't look down on urself
Inferiority complex is very bad, don't say ur now too old or fat or whatever....
Just believe in God, pray fervently αи∂ above all good character counts too.....
True talk.
ReplyDeleteYes dress how u want to be addressed and perceived but I want to know is if he is single biko linda help a lady out
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ReplyDeleteHis P
ReplyDeletegood read. Say no to societal/family pressure. Being married doesnt giarantee true happiness. THE LORD IS MY STRENGTH
ReplyDeleteU said it all.... thanks for encouraging a soul out there
ReplyDeleteWell said...
ReplyDeleteThis guy sha. Doin fyn boy no pimple wen pimples dey o *strollsaway*
ReplyDelete#chynell#
This fellow has now wasted 150,000 in total on these posts he sends to Linda.
ReplyDeleteThankfully we've all met people who actually know what they are talking about when it comes to human psycology.
Please Please face your Onod Politics and stop adding to the issues people have.
P.S: I am not 30, or close to 30, but i find this articul offensive.
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ReplyDeleteLmaooooo.. Cool Story
ReplyDeleteOn point. Some women once they are 30 and above the next level is.....am a born again Christian. She will join the choir, join youth fellowship, join this and that and her social life will become zero.
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Yemisi Z10 says so
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ReplyDeleteVery true.
ReplyDeleteFinally a good article..
ReplyDeleteLinda please stop promoting this impostor who calls himself a doctor. He read psychology and is NOT a Doctor. If people need advice let them visit a real doctor'a blog.
ReplyDeleteThanks alot.....
ReplyDeleteShooo.. How 30 year old woman go dey picky again.. Na Okada rider sure pass for u
ReplyDeleteSenior Joro.. Bmjs repping! I see you
ReplyDeleteNice read. Very apt
ReplyDeleteThis guy vain shaaaaa
ReplyDeleteoga ju
ReplyDeleteMy dr.....true talk,e no easy, many done die cuz of am,easier said dan done, i pray d lord empower us all to ovacome situations at hand
ReplyDeleteTrue 30 women and above think age 30 age is suicide. You can marry after 30 and be Happy
ReplyDeleteMr Doktor Mofin advice yourself na
ReplyDeleteWell said.
ReplyDeleteAge is just a number.
ReplyDeletedem don hear.
ReplyDeleteAshewo 2 kobo
ReplyDeleteODODO ORO..AKA..NEXT
ReplyDeleteWomen Affairs Adviser...lolz
ReplyDeleteSo true, Nice 1
ReplyDeleteGood advice
ReplyDeleteFresh Dude with Brains. Please Linda post more of this.
ReplyDeleteDead
ReplyDeleteI love the Snap back. Please Dr or is Psychologist. Letme have one please.
ReplyDeletejust what i need to read,thanks alot.
ReplyDeleteLmaoo!! Make guy break into your house toast you na. Oshiiiiii
ReplyDeletejust what i need to read,thanks alot.
ReplyDeletewell said. age is just a number ooooo
ReplyDeletemake sense... Dont know who ask him though
ReplyDeleteI am 29 and single, I am scared of hitting age 30 but after this article. I feel so confident. Nice read
ReplyDeletevalid point made! i hope the ladies in that age bracket read,learn and change.
ReplyDeleteHim try.
ReplyDeleteGbam
ReplyDeleteOh wow.. This guys articles on instagram make sense. Too many pictures sha.. Nigga chill
ReplyDeleteTrue talk, even at 24years ther is pressure from your faily .i mean like really?
ReplyDeleteNice one
ReplyDeleteMake we here word..
ReplyDeleteMy Joro my Instagram Crush. Winks
ReplyDeleteNice piece, I tink I agree wit him on dis one
ReplyDeletehe's saying the truth.
ReplyDeleteToo much Grammar.. We no say u go skol.. Shiooo
ReplyDeleteNicely Written
ReplyDeleteHappy for you Man. More Salt to your rice
ReplyDeleteNice piece man---thumbs-up
ReplyDeleteWord!
ReplyDeleteU ve said it all #DoktorMofin..wld like to read more from u soon....#Django
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ReplyDeleteThis Stereotype and Pressure is so real.. Competition is too much in Lagos abeg.
ReplyDeleteI have a question, is he married?
ReplyDeleteIt makes sense
ReplyDeleteWho is he?
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Niqquhz can show demselvex
Okay i think have had enough with this dude, If you want to cause a change do something active and stop writing letters to single men and women. Abi you don turn psychological journalist.
ReplyDeleteAmen!!!
ReplyDeleteOh boy... We need to be hearing these things instead of listening to ppl tell us we should be ashamed n then giving up on ourselves
ReplyDeleteUr so right
ReplyDeleteOk.... Respect! Nice one bruv
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