Dear LIB readers: My girl is in an abusive relationship. What should I do?
From a male LIB reader
I am a 25 year old university drop
out. Since I dropped out of school 2 years ago I've been without a job
until I found one a year ago working in a fast food restaurant that also
have a VIP bar which is my department. Eight months ago the fast-food
hired a new supervisor. A smart and intelligent lady. After she settled
into the company she started to come closer trying to get my attention
and all. Being that am broke and really saving up to go finish my
studies I paid no attention to her, focusing on my job and family. But
then I fell ill and this lady showed me so much care that I fell
helplessly in love with her. Four months ago we got some thing going, that
was when I realized that she was going through a messy break up. But her
ex won't let her be. Always harassing her. That was when I went to her
friends and they told me that since they started dating, the guy always
beat her up and that they've warned her to leave but any time she does
he comes to beg with his sister. My question now is that should I allow
this guy kill her or should I do something because the girl is even hiding it
from her own family. Should I tell her family what's going on or mind my
own business and move on. But it will be sad to have to read about her
death on this blog. Please I need advise. Ps. The first 50 comments shud be
insult free then after that uu guys can knock urself out cus I
personally enjoy the insult part. thanks a bunch.
What you are doing, is what an Akata over here will call 'messing with my shorty ' and which would definitely earn you a bullet to the head. Be careful!
Just help her.. Stand up for her, and do your best cause she showed you love when you were down.. Now's time to help even if you don't have romantic feelings for her..
Buhaahahahahaha! Dis guy na kolo oh! @ d insult part! I like dat... She needs help but if she cnt help her self by saying no anytime he cums to beg den let her be naa. Shuuuu! Na by force? She go hear wen she land mortuary. And u finish ur education and leave woman.
Its sad to see people say walk away becos agirl is in an abusive relationship. Thatgirl needs help. She might feel trapped cos she is afriad. Be when there is some one there to re assure herhe has D̶̲̥̅̊ strenght to leave. Tell her family she might hate Ʊ Ƒσя it but it might be D̶̲̥̅̊ only way to help herm besides most of these guuys who Я abusive Я usually cowards...pls stick with her and help her.
Since you love her, then what ever affects her affects you, so whatever you can do to stop the beating, you have to do it, if its telling her family, then that will be wise
Are u kidding me? Wat kind of nonsensical question is that? Should i let the guy kill her? If she were ur daughter will u let the guy kill her? She is someones daughter. If u dont act on it, u are as much to blame as the guy. Anyways back to d matter #BringBackOurGirls
The last part of your story left me wondering how serious you are. You need to help yourself before helping another person. At her age she ought to know what's good for her,staying with a guy that constantly abuse her. And you never made mention you love her,so try define your relationship with her,at least that would afford her a good reason of leaving the abusive guy for good.
I fell helplessly in love with her. I. Not she fell hopelessly in love with me. This nigga is in the friend zone. Get yourself out first before you her.
Durrr. Olodos wanting to correct bonario. He meant the guy didn't open up to the girl. He only typed it here without letting the girl know how he feels which makes it easier for her to leave her present boo.
Lol @the first 50 comments should be insult free..lol. Go and tell her parents, i don't want you to put yourself in harms way since the guy is violent . Good luck.
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Personally I would say mind ur biz but you have feelings for her. I believe love is expressive and not passive so show that you care by reporting to any of these human rights activist groups around. For the life of me I don't know why people love to stay in abusive relationships. Let wisdom guide you.
You the only one dt cn help her out guy... first makin a police complain nd talkin sense to d girls head shioooo pesin dey always beat u nd u dey go back....... eehen cn i insult u now??? Mumu boi u wan leave her bfre abi ode oshi lmao.....
Loooollllll at the insult part. Anyway you should probably leave her to sort herself out, I assume she's an adult. If she cannot find the guts to extricate herself from that relationship, then she probably wants to die there and gettin yourself involved will cause you nothing but pain.
My dear,focus on finishing ur studies. Am a lady and av bin abused b4 by a man n I dint need angels n humans to tell mi to flee.only her can tell herself the truth.. u don't need a woman at dis stage in ur life.
Don't think letting her waste her life with d other dude is d best thing to do coz an abuser will remain one unless stopped. That been said get her family involved since she doesn't want them to know means they re pple she respects n will listen to, also involve d police n get that dude arrested. On ur own part if u really luv her now is d time u need to make her understand she deserve more than she's getting n that relationships/luv doesn't include abuse..... SWEET ANONYMOUS.
first to help her, you have to let her know she is being abused, because most abused women have lost touch of what true love is. If you love her, let her know you do, and you would help her stop her ex. you have to inform her parents too so they can get the police involved. if you are stronger than the guy,you have good friends who are strong and can defend you, the you can approach him like a man and tell him to stop beating her and end the relationship.
Nna, I didn't even read ur comment finish, but the first two sentences I read made me go check ur profile, and really you have got a face for your intellect. I like you and given the chance I can fall in love with you (hope say u never marry oo). Let's make history on LIB.
Michael John anyaehie, ten thousand hugs for this your comment! you're the only sensible commenter so far! I can't believe people are saying she's a grownup etc. victims of domestic a year don't rationalise things the way others do. Plus I'm pretty sure that are other forms of abuse going on there too, including emotional abuse. The girl needs to be shown love, encouragement and a way out, not abandonment..... Just Me
You go fear 'toasting' now... Lol! But dude, you made sense. The girl needs help, support and love, not abandonment. Ten thousand likes! Linda, post this one o! ...... Just Me
Lol. You are just a clown. You should probably involve her family as this is serious. People are going real bonkers this days so there's no telling what this guy is capable of doing. You should be careful yourself.
Don't say anything to her family oh, she is the one that is meant to make the decision, if she wants to leave or keep the relationship, she should know what she wants cuz she is old enough. So pls don't go to her family oh.
Ojai says"hahahahhahahaha u r just funny with ur last statements. U have to try and save her my dear since she was ther for u when u were ill. U tell her parents, let her be free from that beast. He is not even married to her and he wants to kill her. Do the best u can, and concentrate on ur job so u can go bk to school. Thank u
a lot of girls hide dis..i knw a girl dis happened to and she kept on hiding it.I found out and adviced her countless times..But,then.. when they settle, they made mockery of me, and I get riddicled. Until, d dude stripped her naked..I mean "totally naked".. on his street.."and threw her out. Then, she realized how stupid she's been all these years..Truth be told, dont get involved...d girl is comfortable been a punchin bag and she wldnt change dats ow she enjoys her relationship..its no business of urs..go ahead with ur plans dude..free the PUNCHIN BAG..so u dnt get PUNCHED too..
Most people would abuse you for this advice. But truth be told...your words are as true as can be! If there's a way he can involve her family without revealing his identitty, I'll advice that. Cos they will only make a mockery of him when they settle, until d guy kills her!
lol at you personally enjoy the insult part. Anyways, she needs to leave the abusive relationship ooo. tell her friends to inform her parents i think they can get her out of it sharply than you can do. you dont want to end up with the 2nd hand girl with a lot of dent on the body so as to avoid the visit to Dr9020 abi na wetin coma call am. abi u wan go ladipo??? lolzzz
LMAO! Dis guy tho! Honestly I feel u shd tell her family. Domestic violence is not acceptable in any form! D geh sef so Becoz he will come wit his sisters she too will go back! Dem suppose flog d geh 6 strokes in d sun! #BringBackOurGirls
Women beaters! .....As a guy i still can't comprehend that shiii......The concept of how a full blooded man can derive pleasure from beating up a defenseless woman eludes me......
From your story she might not be so willing to leave that relationship yet....Funny enough most women who are abused end up going back to the guy who abuses them..........thier mentality becomes so twisted that if the love doesn't come with pain then it's not real....
Try talk to her some more along with her family members and you just might succeed.
Lol.. Funny dude. Ok back to the matter, i think yu did a great job in finding out the truth and the gal in question is a big fool for taking back the guy after inflicting such pains on her..... Just let her knw yu nw knw the truth and give her an untimatum that she either leave the guy or yu will leave her... . . >>>BringBackOurGirls<<< . . ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
She knows I know the truth and I even comfronted the guy. Am 6ft4 so he luked like a rat to me felt like crushing him under my feet. I've given her countless ultimatume but she keeps telling me "dis tins take time". Am tired of waiting dats y I reached out. Anyways tnks.
Actually is good to fight for those who cant fight but the question is does the gurl understands you are fighting for her? but then be careful so that they don't use you as their bone of settlement.
I DNT TINK U SHLD LEAVE HER....A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED....MAYB U SHLD TELL HER FAMILY ND TRY SHEILDIN HER...(I DNT MIN TAKE HER INTO UR HOUSE ND ALL)BUT..JST DO UR POSSIBLE BEST CUZ SINCERELY,U DNT KNW WHERE U GURLS MITE END UP....JST DO UR BST!
Lmao. ..you are a clown sha, you this guy. Anyway, please let her family know what she's going through, she might hate you for it but will definitely thank you later for it...cuz trust me, you'll hate yourself if anything happens to her and you did nothing to help out. Dear ladies, please any guy that hits you once is a beast and will definitely keep doing it. If he's quick to anger and even threatens to hit you, that's enough proof, if you no get legs..abeg borrow legs and ruuuuuyuun
My candid advice for you is to go with her friends to her parent and tell them and also help her get a counsellor. So do ƴoüя̲̅ best to help her and leave the rest
Guy contact me and 4 other LIB guys that have big chest... Let's go teach dat guy a lesson *breaks bottle n chews it, spits out scorpion* u dey hear me so?
First, I think you should talk to her and know what she really wants. Cos I don't understand why she shouldn't cut off the guy completely, except you haven't heard the whole story. Secondly, Ladies are very good with cutting off guys they don't feel comfortable with. That she's finding that difficult to do make me feel she still loves the Woman beater. You need to ascertain this, so you don't fall in love with a lady who is still in love with a woman beater. Or she might just be seeing you to cool off from the series of beatings. It's very important you know what she wants, then you will know how to help
Wow. Dis wt most ladies paz thru n it wil shock u dt mani of dm luv it dt way n wen u try 2 hlp out u den turn 2 an enemy. 1st I nid ask u ix dt sinz u guyz r gud 2geda as frnds n she nv told u abt it. Y shud ha frnds tel u wt she pazin thru? Dis minz dt she ix hapi abt wt she pazin thru. Bt if u fil u rily wnt 2 hlp ha out y nt sit ha down n throw few ?s abt ha relatnshp lyf mayb she myt tel u. Dnt try 2 gt in2 sumtin dt u nt involvd in.
Hi dear, you have to help her out, women hu go tru abuse find it very difficult to tell som1 and they also find it difficult to leave this guys cos they will always come begging. Her family may not solve the issue but you have to contd talking to her and supporting her or rather drag her to see a psychologist. i have seen this happen several times and most of this women get stuck, some of them do not even knw they are being abused cos this men are very manipulative and make this women believe its always their fault that he abuses her. There is also psychological abuse where the man puts u down and insults u all the time.
you are loosing your focus already. but by the way, just let her understand the fact that, living that dude won't stop another person from loving and caring for her. pls tell her not to b scared of being SINGLE... is just gonna be for a while, not forever....CHIKENA Ty
While trying to protect her, i think you should also be strategical about it by thinking about your own safety too. I wont advise you to come out openly and inform the family because if the abuser (i.e the boy friend) finds out you were the one that reported him to her family or the girl might even relay the informtion to the guy that you were the one that informed her family during their lovy lovy period (DONT TRUST ANY HUMAN), the guy might kill you ooo. If i were you, i won't even inform the girl that i will contact her family. I will just send a continuous anonymous text message to the family members (probably using a Bulk SMS not using your personal line so that you cant be traced). I believe the family will act on it. CV
I'll advice you †̥ define Ɣ☺ΰr relationship with her first, and then ask her Ɣ☺ΰr stand in her life before ˚°ºU̶̲̥̅̊º°˚ take any action. Secondly, I think ˚°ºU̶̲̥̅̊º°˚ should get her family †̥ know abt d issue... Thirdly, guy I feel going back †̥ school should be paramount and forget babes with their palava. Gudluck
she shud handle it bt if u tink she cant since she has nt bn able to do so ever since. den maybe u just av to involve her family. before she ends up bad
Tell her family, tell the sister that comes to beg and f*cking check your girl's head! Even if god comes to beg, must she go back to an abusive relationship? Do the right by her and tell her people to avoid stories that touch.
My dear, i think you should talk to the girl to stand up for her self, she should tell her family her self. Don't go and put your self into the situation. her ex-boyfriend is violent and could pick a fight with you. i believe your priority now is ur education and not picking a fight. besides they could make up and get back together tomorrow, and then you'd look like the bad guy.
I fink u shuld b d one dat should b beaten nd floged mayb by gettin u beaten, sence cn b beaten into dat ur head... U fink if u go nd bcum d babes nelson mandela nd u end up nt finishin skul mehn u will nt evn b found 100 steps frm d pyramid.... Ma nigga dnt go funny
PC is back ooooo#dancing.d guy even crossed ma mind dis mrn....she has to handle d situatn b4 u do anytin for her bt sum ladies lyks to b pushed,I suggest u ask her if she wants u to get involved first cos for a woman to kip dat from her family
This is a case of mental illness in which the patient are both parties. the guy is mentally ill for raising his hand on the lady and the lady for letting him in to do it over and over again. if you really care about her report the case to someone who can take action. Abi the thing wey the guy dey give am for night xxxx too sweet lol
1st of all u sound like a gold digger or a male gigolo to me but my advice to u is that if u love the woman and the woman love u pls go for her but if anyfin happens to u bros my hand no ndey there lol
U must surrender ursef to her family n tell dem all u knw abt d case, cos since d've been seeing u around her, if her ex does something dangerous to her u might be held responsible. So pls report it nw b4 it will be too late
So this lady in question is cheating on him with you? And she goes back n forth with u guys? No wonder d man wan kill her! She better make up her mind who she wanna be with...before u dey fall hopelessly in love with her!!
Dear poster, I love yo sense of humour. .lol @ insults. Please help this lady out of this anyway you know how. Yoy could tell her family as well. She cares for u so she deserves some carrying treatment from yo side as well. I love you
U try bt dis story wunt even sell in a Hollywood movie. If u cnt tel,den talk 2 ha friends u already know 2 tel ha family....U ll b a loser @d end tho,cos she ll stick 2d guy...u need Richesofsolomon
But why do girls "enjoy" abusive relationships? I think an awareness needs to be initiated because I believe some of them can't even differentiate or identify what an abusive relationship is. #thisisreallysad#
i dont see dat as luv let her free herself from him b4 smtin will happen to her, dia are smart nd cute guys outside dia dat are ready to show her real luv
Well, I dnt think u should get involved. Jst advice her and let her know where it could end, also remind her u love her and will be there for her den let her make d decisions herself. Trust me, even if you tell her fam, it won't mak.a difference. She's d only person who can advice herself. It happened to my friend and I tried to get involved and got the beating of my life from d bf. Lol and at d end of d day, d girl stil went back to the guy. She later quit d rshp on her own.
People think love is about feelings, emotions, butterflies in the stomach n fireflies in the eyes....well that's just a little part of it. True love is wen u can remove emotions n find out u still care so much. This is why u see men that say they fell out of love cos all d emotions go after a couple of years in marriage. In actual fact they never fell out of love. Mr, i dont think u lve this lady as u stated o....if u do no one will teach u to do smthn
first, Focus more on completing your studies, 2, fightin for a girl you belly known for few months might not be too good for you as a guy, What if you lose your life in the process of fightin for her what is your gain of workin or hustling? Just be yourself and concerntrat more on th reason why u have to drop out of school for 2 years @ oga sir
BE CAREFUL! If you dropped out of school with no one to help you out, you shouldn't add to your problems, focus on your plans to go back to school. Let her parents know and advise them to deal with it discreetly. Guys like that can be very dangerous, dont get so involved.Life has no duplicate.
If you already have a family as stated,this is extra marital affair which is not in your best interest given your circumstances or are you referring to your parents and siblings? Whatever, be focussed on how to finish school. Its most important. The lady can always find a better man when she rises far ahead of you. Meanwhile advise her to get in touch with a human rights NGO or Women's organisations like Women Arise etc. They will help her, no doubt.Let your parents be aware of what you are up to. Abusive men are up to no good 24/7.Avoid direct involvement.
remember what you joined that restuarant for - you did not join it to start doing REFEREE life. Small things like this can make you lose your focal point, leave that lady alone and her wahala FOCUS on what you're doing, walk away - people are killing each other over plates of rice and selling babies you think it won't be easy for that FOOLISH MAN to do injustice to you, you be pikin that one knows what she's doing staying with a man like that- let her friends try to save her keep walking
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ReplyDeleteWhat you are doing, is what an Akata over here will call 'messing with my shorty ' and which would definitely earn you a bullet to the head. Be careful!
DeleteJust help her.. Stand up for her, and do your best cause she showed you love when you were down.. Now's time to help even if you don't have romantic feelings for her..
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Buhaahahahahaha! Dis guy na kolo oh! @ d insult part! I like dat... She needs help but if she cnt help her self by saying no anytime he cums to beg den let her be naa. Shuuuu! Na by force? She go hear wen she land mortuary. And u finish ur education and leave woman.
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Its sad to see people say walk away becos agirl is in an abusive relationship. Thatgirl needs help. She might feel trapped cos she is afriad. Be when there is some one there to re assure herhe has D̶̲̥̅̊ strenght to leave. Tell her family she might hate Ʊ Ƒσя it but it might be D̶̲̥̅̊ only way to help herm besides most of these guuys who Я abusive Я usually cowards...pls stick with her and help her.
DeleteSince you love her, then what ever affects her affects you, so whatever you can do to stop the beating, you have to do it, if its telling her family, then that will be wise
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Are u kidding me? Wat kind of nonsensical question is that? Should i let the guy kill her? If she were ur daughter will u let the guy kill her? She is someones daughter. If u dont act on it, u are as much to blame as the guy. Anyways back to d matter #BringBackOurGirls
ReplyDeleteu hav to help her cos she hav also been of help to u if u dnt definitely anoda wil
ReplyDeleteThe last part of your story left me wondering how serious you are.
ReplyDeleteYou need to help yourself before helping another person.
At her age she ought to know what's good for her,staying with a guy that constantly abuse her.
And you never made mention you love her,so try define your relationship with her,at least that would afford her a good reason of leaving the abusive guy for good.
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DeleteAre u kidding me?? Did u not read the part where he said "I fell helplessly in love" and i just quoted him.
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I fell helplessly in love with her. I. Not she fell hopelessly in love with me. This nigga is in the friend zone. Get yourself out first before you her.
DeleteDurrr. Olodos wanting to correct bonario. He meant the guy didn't open up to the girl. He only typed it here without letting the girl know how he feels which makes it easier for her to leave her present boo.
DeleteLol @the first 50 comments should be insult free..lol. Go and tell her parents, i don't want you to put yourself in harms way since the guy is violent . Good luck.
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ReplyDeletePersonally I would say mind ur biz but you have feelings for her. I believe love is expressive and not passive so show that you care by reporting to any of these human rights activist groups around. For the life of me I don't know why people love to stay in abusive relationships. Let wisdom guide you.
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ReplyDeleteTell the girl's family. Do something. Make sure she can smell the flowers now. Dnt allow her get killed. Give the family an anonymous call or smtn.
ReplyDeleteI think you should inform her family because if anything happends to her you are going to blame yourself for not doing anything about it. All the best
ReplyDeleteLet her family no about it so that they can get the guy arrested.
ReplyDeleteYou the only one dt cn help her out guy... first makin a police complain nd talkin sense to d girls head shioooo pesin dey always beat u nd u dey go back....... eehen cn i insult u now??? Mumu boi u wan leave her bfre abi ode oshi lmao.....
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ReplyDeleteLoooollllll at the insult part. Anyway you should probably leave her to sort herself out, I assume she's an adult. If she cannot find the guts to extricate herself from that relationship, then she probably wants to die there and gettin yourself involved will cause you nothing but pain.
ReplyDeleteMy dear,focus on finishing ur studies. Am a lady and av bin abused b4 by a man n I dint need angels n humans to tell mi to flee.only her can tell herself the truth.. u don't need a woman at dis stage in ur life.
ReplyDeleteDon't think letting her waste her life with d other dude is d best thing to do coz an abuser will remain one unless stopped. That been said get her family involved since she doesn't want them to know means they re pple she respects n will listen to, also involve d police n get that dude arrested. On ur own part if u really luv her now is d time u need to make her understand she deserve more than she's getting n that relationships/luv doesn't include abuse..... SWEET ANONYMOUS.
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Deletefirst to help her, you have to let her know she is being abused, because most abused women have lost touch of what true love is. If you love her, let her know you do, and you would help her stop her ex. you have to inform her parents too so they can get the police involved. if you are stronger than the guy,you have good friends who are strong and can defend you, the you can approach him like a man and tell him to stop beating her and end the relationship.
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DeleteMichael John anyaehie, ten thousand hugs for this your comment! you're the only sensible commenter so far! I can't believe people are saying she's a grownup etc. victims of domestic a year don't rationalise things the way others do. Plus I'm pretty sure that are other forms of abuse going on there too, including emotional abuse. The girl needs to be shown love, encouragement and a way out, not abandonment..... Just Me
DeleteYou go fear 'toasting' now... Lol! But dude, you made sense. The girl needs help, support and love, not abandonment. Ten thousand likes! Linda, post this one o! ...... Just Me
DeleteLol. You are just a clown. You should probably involve her family as this is serious. People are going real bonkers this days so there's no telling what this guy is capable of doing. You should be careful yourself.
ReplyDeleteDon't say anything to her family oh, she is the one that is meant to make the decision, if she wants to leave or keep the relationship, she should know what she wants cuz she is old enough. So pls don't go to her family oh.
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ReplyDeleteDis is ridiculous!!!
ReplyDeleteOjai says"hahahahhahahaha u r just funny with ur last statements. U have to try and save her my dear since she was ther for u when u were ill. U tell her parents, let her be free from that beast. He is not even married to her and he wants to kill her. Do the best u can, and concentrate on ur job so u can go bk to school. Thank u
ReplyDeletea lot of girls hide dis..i knw a girl dis happened to and she kept on hiding it.I found out and adviced her countless times..But,then.. when they settle, they made mockery of me, and I get riddicled. Until, d dude stripped her naked..I mean "totally naked".. on his street.."and threw her out. Then, she realized how stupid she's been all these years..Truth be told, dont get involved...d girl is comfortable been a punchin bag and she wldnt change dats ow she enjoys her relationship..its no business of urs..go ahead with ur plans dude..free the PUNCHIN BAG..so u dnt get PUNCHED too..
ReplyDeleteMost people would abuse you for this advice. But truth be told...your words are as true as can be! If there's a way he can involve her family without revealing his identitty, I'll advice that. Cos they will only make a mockery of him when they settle, until d guy kills her!
Deletelol at you personally enjoy the insult part. Anyways, she needs to leave the abusive relationship ooo. tell her friends to inform her parents i think they can get her out of it sharply than you can do. you dont want to end up with the 2nd hand girl with a lot of dent on the body so as to avoid the visit to Dr9020 abi na wetin coma call am. abi u wan go ladipo??? lolzzz
ReplyDeleteYou want advice and your saying sheet go fuck yourself #bright bravo#
ReplyDeleteMore like #dead bravo#
DeleteHmm..nawa oo..u hv no sense of humor #wontwanttoknowyoureallife
DeleteDis is ridiculous!!!
ReplyDeleteAsk her if she wants to be happy or she wants to be dragged in the pool of her own blood. Please save a soul brother.
ReplyDeleteCoolDiva speaks!
Hahahahaha! Insult free enough for you?
ReplyDeletePls just mind ur business, I believe d gal is big enof 2 knw wat she wants 4 herself
ReplyDeleteLMAO! Dis guy tho! Honestly I feel u shd tell her family. Domestic violence is not acceptable in any form! D geh sef so Becoz he will come wit his sisters she too will go back! Dem suppose flog d geh 6 strokes in d sun! #BringBackOurGirls
ReplyDeleteWomen beaters! .....As a guy i still can't comprehend that shiii......The concept of how a full blooded man can derive pleasure from beating up a defenseless woman eludes me......
ReplyDeleteFrom your story she might not be so willing to leave that relationship yet....Funny enough most women who are abused end up going back to the guy who abuses them..........thier mentality becomes so twisted that if the love doesn't come with pain then it's not real....
Try talk to her some more along with her family members and you just might succeed.
On 2 The Next!
My advice....wait till the guy kills her, then help announce her death on this blog. Olodo.
ReplyDelete@CHUKWUDIKE_ #connerFOXmyAlterEgo
Second hand boyfriend*in ectera's voice*
ReplyDeleteLol.. Funny dude. Ok back to the matter, i think yu did a great job in finding out the truth and the gal in question is a big fool for taking back the guy after inflicting such pains on her..... Just let her knw yu nw knw the truth and give her an untimatum that she either leave the guy or yu will leave her...
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Everyone is tired of correcting your English.. Hahahaha..# Untimatum#..
DeleteShe knows I know the truth and I even comfronted the guy. Am 6ft4 so he luked like a rat to me felt like crushing him under my feet. I've given her countless ultimatume but she keeps telling me "dis tins take time". Am tired of waiting dats y I reached out. Anyways tnks.
DeleteSend me her number let me advce her
ReplyDeleteActually is good to fight for those who cant fight but the question is does the gurl understands you are fighting for her? but then be careful so that they don't use you as their bone of settlement.
ReplyDeleteI DNT TINK U SHLD LEAVE HER....A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED....MAYB U SHLD TELL HER FAMILY ND TRY SHEILDIN HER...(I DNT MIN TAKE HER INTO UR HOUSE ND ALL)BUT..JST DO UR POSSIBLE BEST CUZ SINCERELY,U DNT KNW WHERE U GURLS MITE END UP....JST DO UR BST!
ReplyDeleteLmao. ..you are a clown sha, you this guy. Anyway, please let her family know what she's going through, she might hate you for it but will definitely thank you later for it...cuz trust me, you'll hate yourself if anything happens to her and you did nothing to help out. Dear ladies, please any guy that hits you once is a beast and will definitely keep doing it. If he's quick to anger and even threatens to hit you, that's enough proof, if you no get legs..abeg borrow legs and ruuuuuyuun
ReplyDeleteget involved buh you have to be careful
ReplyDeletelinda...post mai comment o!..IS DIS HW U TRIT BLOGGERS?
ReplyDeleteIf u truly love her u have to do something.
ReplyDeleteMy candid advice for you is to go with her friends to her parent and tell them and also help her get a counsellor. So do ƴoüя̲̅ best to help her and leave the rest
ReplyDeleteMy dear save the life of the girl and report to her parents
ReplyDeleteGuy contact me and 4 other LIB guys that have big chest... Let's go teach dat guy a lesson *breaks bottle n chews it, spits out scorpion* u dey hear me so?
ReplyDeleteI don't know why some women love abusive relationship, South African ladies keep saying that "He loves me, that is why he is beating me".
ReplyDeleteEran iya ni elomi
First, I think you should talk to her and know what she really wants. Cos I don't understand why she shouldn't cut off the guy completely, except you haven't heard the whole story.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, Ladies are very good with cutting off guys they don't feel comfortable with. That she's finding that difficult to do make me feel she still loves the Woman beater. You need to ascertain this, so you don't fall in love with a lady who is still in love with a woman beater.
Or she might just be seeing you to cool off from the series of beatings.
It's very important you know what she wants, then you will know how to help
Have you ever wondered which hurts the most: saying something and wishing you had not, or saying nothing, and wishing you had?
ReplyDeleteDude get involve, arrange for the guy to be beaten into submission and he should sign an agreement that he wil stay away from the babe
Wow. Dis wt most ladies paz thru n it wil shock u dt mani of dm luv it dt way n wen u try 2 hlp out u den turn 2 an enemy. 1st I nid ask u ix dt sinz u guyz r gud 2geda as frnds n she nv told u abt it. Y shud ha frnds tel u wt she pazin thru? Dis minz dt she ix hapi abt wt she pazin thru. Bt if u fil u rily wnt 2 hlp ha out y nt sit ha down n throw few ?s abt ha relatnshp lyf mayb she myt tel u. Dnt try 2 gt in2 sumtin dt u nt involvd in.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart go face ur wrk and finish ur studies Pls stay off b4 dat guy will com 4 u.
ReplyDeleteHaha! @ #AmericaWillKnow
ReplyDeleteHi dear, you have to help her out, women hu go tru abuse find it very difficult to tell som1 and they also find it difficult to leave this guys cos they will always come begging. Her family may not solve the issue but you have to contd talking to her and supporting her or rather drag her to see a psychologist. i have seen this happen several times and most of this women get stuck, some of them do not even knw they are being abused cos this men are very manipulative and make this women believe its always their fault that he abuses her. There is also psychological abuse where the man puts u down and insults u all the time.
ReplyDeleteyou are loosing your focus already. but by the way, just let her understand the fact that, living that dude won't stop another person from loving and caring for her.
ReplyDeletepls tell her not to b scared of being SINGLE... is just gonna be for a while, not forever....CHIKENA
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Help her. some people don't have the will power to do right. Its obvious she ιƨ vulnerable to her abuser.
ReplyDeleteWhile trying to protect her, i think you should also be strategical about it by thinking about your own safety too. I wont advise you to come out openly and inform the family because if the abuser (i.e the boy friend) finds out you were the one that reported him to her family or the girl might even relay the informtion to the guy that you were the one that informed her family during their lovy lovy period (DONT TRUST ANY HUMAN), the guy might kill you ooo. If i were you, i won't even inform the girl that i will contact her family. I will just send a continuous anonymous text message to the family members (probably using a Bulk SMS not using your personal line so that you cant be traced). I believe the family will act on it. CV
ReplyDeleteI'll advice you †̥ define Ɣ☺ΰr relationship with her first, and then ask her Ɣ☺ΰr stand in her life before ˚°ºU̶̲̥̅̊º°˚ take any action. Secondly, I think ˚°ºU̶̲̥̅̊º°˚ should get her family †̥ know abt d issue... Thirdly, guy I feel going back †̥ school should be paramount and forget babes with their palava. Gudluck
ReplyDeleteshe shud handle it bt if u tink she cant since she has nt bn able to do so ever since. den maybe u just av to involve her family. before she ends up bad
ReplyDeleteTell her family, tell the sister that comes to beg and f*cking check your girl's head! Even if god comes to beg, must she go back to an abusive relationship? Do the right by her and tell her people to avoid stories that touch.
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Hmmm same old sh*t
ReplyDeleteMy dear, i think you should talk to the girl to stand up for her self, she should tell her family her self. Don't go and put your self into the situation. her ex-boyfriend is violent and could pick a fight with you. i believe your priority now is ur education and not picking a fight. besides they could make up and get back together tomorrow, and then you'd look like the bad guy.
ReplyDeleteI fink u shuld b d one dat should b beaten nd floged mayb by gettin u beaten, sence cn b beaten into dat ur head... U fink if u go nd bcum d babes nelson mandela nd u end up nt finishin skul mehn u will nt evn b found 100 steps frm d pyramid.... Ma nigga dnt go funny
ReplyDelete...Prince charming is HOME ms u loads xoxoxo.... FEJIK
ReplyDeletePC is back ooooo#dancing.d guy even crossed ma mind dis mrn....she has to handle d situatn b4 u do anytin for her bt sum ladies lyks to b pushed,I suggest u ask her if she wants u to get involved first cos for a woman to kip dat from her family
ReplyDeleteThis is a case of mental illness in which the patient are both parties.
ReplyDeletethe guy is mentally ill for raising his hand on the lady and the lady for letting him in to do it over and over again.
if you really care about her report the case to someone who can take action.
Abi the thing wey the guy dey give am for night xxxx too sweet lol
Help her
ReplyDeleteInvolve d family if its serious cos u wil blame urself if smtin drastic happens to her
ReplyDeleteare you lesbians? i dont get what you mean
ReplyDelete1st of all u sound like a gold digger or a male gigolo to me but my advice to u is that if u love the woman and the woman love u pls go for her but if anyfin happens to u bros my hand no ndey there lol
ReplyDeleteThere is no need for a lot of talk on this. Just walk away. finito, no long story.
ReplyDeleteU must surrender ursef to her family n tell dem all u knw abt d case, cos since d've been seeing u around her, if her ex does something dangerous to her u might be held responsible. So pls report it nw b4 it will be too late
ReplyDeleteSo this lady in question is cheating on him with you? And she goes back n forth with u guys? No wonder d man wan kill her! She better make up her mind who she wanna be with...before u dey fall hopelessly in love with her!!
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I love yo sense of humour. .lol @ insults. Please help this lady out of this anyway you know how. Yoy could tell her family as well. She cares for u so she deserves some carrying treatment from yo side as well.
ReplyDeleteI love you
Let d guy b reported to d police na.. Harrasment is a punishable offence
ReplyDeleteif you love her youl try and help her out of it...every woman deserves a man who loves and respect her.
ReplyDeleteASK GOOGLE!!!
ReplyDeleteit is well o
ReplyDeleteShe has to help herself, my darl. Let her opt out, and stay away from you....cos if the guy finds out, u migght also be in trouble.
ReplyDeletegive her time to sort out her life, and afetrwards, u guys can sort urself out.
u can be a friend from a distance.
U try bt dis story wunt even sell in a Hollywood movie. If u cnt tel,den talk 2 ha friends u already know 2 tel ha family....U ll b a loser @d end tho,cos she ll stick 2d guy...u need Richesofsolomon
ReplyDeleteBut why do girls "enjoy" abusive relationships? I think an awareness needs to be initiated because I believe some of them can't even differentiate or identify what an abusive relationship is. #thisisreallysad#
ReplyDeleteHelp her please by telling her parents
ReplyDeletei dont see dat as luv let her free herself from him b4 smtin will happen to her, dia are smart nd cute guys outside dia dat are ready to show her real luv
ReplyDeleteWell, I dnt think u should get involved. Jst advice her and let her know where it could end, also remind her u love her and will be there for her den let her make d decisions herself. Trust me, even if you tell her fam, it won't mak.a difference. She's d only person who can advice herself. It happened to my friend and I tried to get involved and got the beating of my life from d bf. Lol and at d end of d day, d girl stil went back to the guy. She later quit d rshp on her own.
ReplyDeleteSince u say u wudnt want to hear of her death, then do smthing abt it besides d right thing 2do is 2do smthing abt it
ReplyDeletePeople think love is about feelings, emotions, butterflies in the stomach n fireflies in the eyes....well that's just a little part of it. True love is wen u can remove emotions n find out u still care so much. This is why u see men that say they fell out of love cos all d emotions go after a couple of years in marriage. In actual fact they never fell out of love. Mr, i dont think u lve this lady as u stated o....if u do no one will teach u to do smthn
ReplyDeletefirst, Focus more on completing your studies, 2, fightin for a girl you belly known for few months might not be too good for you as a guy, What if you lose your life in the process of fightin for her what is your gain of workin or hustling? Just be yourself and concerntrat more on th reason why u have to drop out of school for 2 years @ oga sir
ReplyDeleteBE CAREFUL! If you dropped out of school with no one to help you out, you shouldn't add to your problems, focus on your plans to go back to school.
ReplyDeleteLet her parents know and advise them to deal with it discreetly. Guys like that can be very dangerous, dont get so involved.Life has no duplicate.
If you already have a family as stated,this is extra marital affair which is not in your best interest given your circumstances or are you referring to your parents and siblings?
ReplyDeleteWhatever, be focussed on how to finish school. Its most important. The lady can always find a better man when she rises far ahead of you.
Meanwhile advise her to get in touch with a human rights NGO or Women's organisations like Women Arise etc. They will help her, no doubt.Let your parents be aware of what you are up to. Abusive men are up to no good 24/7.Avoid direct involvement.
create a hashtag on twitter with #bringbackourwife..
ReplyDeleteremember what you joined that restuarant for - you did not join it to start doing REFEREE life. Small things like this can make you lose your focal point, leave that lady alone and her wahala FOCUS on what you're doing, walk away - people are killing each other over plates of rice and selling babies you think it won't be easy for that FOOLISH MAN to do injustice to you, you be pikin that one knows what she's doing staying with a man like that- let her friends try to save her keep walking
ReplyDeleteGuy watch this movie title American Last Virgin you will see the answer to your problem
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